Spring Issue 2013

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Features Featured Weddings 36

Mackenzie & Abdul

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Chrissa & Michael

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Ahri & Kohri

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Autumm & Phillip

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Chenelle & Dennis

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Photographer: Damon Tucci Photography

Photographer: Lukas & Suzy VanDyke Photography

Photographer: Allen Taylor Photography

Photographer: Damon Tucci Photography

Photographer: Edward Underwood Photography

Shiku & stephen

Photographer: Jesse Giles Photography

Engaged 12

Christa & Brent

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Tai & Marcus

In every issue

Love Note

Style me Chic

Happy Medium Planning 3

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Photographer: Alea Lovely fine art Photography

Photographer: Art Photo Soul Photography

Photography by: Damon Tucci Photography

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Departments 22

Big Day Beauty

The eyes Have it 23 What Women Want

vintage accessories

Details

23 Be Inspired...

29 Have your Cake and eat it too Photo by: Allen Taylor Photography

Fashion 34

Shades best dresses of the season

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From His Heart

Chilvary is for women, too...

63 What Men Want

Vintage Accessories 65

Finance Your money, My Money, OUR Money

Travel

Destination Cannes 66

Features 16 Vintage Textile Pixie

Photo by: Edward underwood photography

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Contributors Enitan Bereola, II Bka (Bereolaesque) Is a two-time bestselling author, speaker, etiquette impresario, producer, Beverly Hill’s relationship advice columnist, Soul Train columnist and Essence Magazine relationship advice contributor, his voice reaches millions. The author was recently chosen as one of BLACK ENTERPRISE Magazine’s Young and Bold Business Leaders. The Bereolaesque brand has flourished into the worlds of fashion, art, music and film.

Enitan has taken the old concept of manners and made it new and sexy! He penned “BEREOLAESQUE: The Contemporary Gentleman & Etiquette book for the Urban Sophisticate,” and in a short moment has garnered the interest of celebrities and pop-culture alike.

His market extends internationally to The U.K., Japan, France, Australia and Nigeria.

Bereola is renowned by gentlemen current and past alike. He has spent the vast majority of his life traveling and researching etiquette and applying it in society. His next anticipated body of work is a ladies’ etiquette book from a gentleman’s perspective.

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Verinia Galloway (Fashion Editor) Graduating Magna Cum Laude from AIU with a BA in Fashion Design and Marketing, Verinia is a wife, mother,and lover of all things fashion. The owner of Beautistic LLC, a Fashion/Marketing and Beauty Consulting Firm, she keeps her finger on the pulse of what’s trending in today’s fashion business.

In addition to being a business owner she is the Fashion Editor for Shades Wedding Magazine and sits on the board of the Makeva Harold Foundation, a charity based out of West Palm Beach, FL that strives to gives better opportunities to the less fortunate. Family, successful business ventures and opportunities to give back,Verinia believes she can have it all! Check out her insights on everything fashion in Street Fashions and Accessories on shadesmag.net.

Founder and Editorial Director Lakeisha Griffin Executive Editor Lisa Church Fashion Editor Verinia Galloway Beauty Editor

Kobe Ellis

Contributing Writers Nicole Ronczyk Shankie Williams Contributing Photographer Damon Tucci Photography Special Contributors Enitan Bereola, II

Kobe Ellis (Beauty Editor) In 2003, in effort to support her two young sons as a single mother, Kobe Ellis conceived the business idea to share her unique technique for applying Eyelash Extensions with the Jacksonville, Florida community while completing her college education at the University of North Florida.

She named the company Eyes By Kobe.

Since its inception, the company has continued to flourish and Miss Ellis has herself become internationally known as an Eyelash Extension and Brow Shaping Guru in the beauty industry. Kobe is now an international speaker and has amounted a rather discerning clientele. Kobe has since opened a EBK Beauty LifeSTYLE Salon & Demi Spa which is noted for its array of “Look Great, Feel Great” services focusing on Lash Extensions, Brow Sculpting (Threading & Waxing), High Quality hair sales, Hair Replacements and Expert Hair Extension techniques.

For more information contact (954) 558-6249 Info@shadesmag.net sales@shadesmag.net www.shadesmag.net

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Photography by: David Watkins Photography * Decor: Ala Flowers & Exquisite Affaires Remembered

Publishers Note

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eing married means more than just wearing a diamond ring and having a beautiful wedding. Remember there is life after the wedding! Before you say “YES” you need to make sure this is the person YOU want to spend the rest of your life with. Now I am very aware of the tribulations that can occur that can shake up a marriage down the road. Sometimes situations can cause people to change then you must do what’s best for you. But I’m not talking about those situations, take Kim Kardashian for instance. She had doubts before she walked down the aisle but she went ahead with it because “She didn’t want to disappoint anyone”. What about because I can’t party like I used to or s/he has gained weight. Now I’m not trying to steer anyone from getting married. I love weddings and everything they represent. Just be certain that you marry for LOVE and not for fashion. Everyday won’t be fun but with love you can weather the storm together. In the vows it says“To have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health” to me this is the most important part.

So when he gets on one knee and asks you to marry him and you say yes, your journey begins. It’s a beautiful thing to find Love but once you find it hold on to it. While you’re dancing the night away at your reception with all your family and friends, glance across the room and find your husband/wife and whisper, “I will love you from this day forward!”

Congratulations on your Big Day!

Spring is time to renew, reflect, and rejuvinate. Over the course of time we all

have fallen into “ruts” whether it’s in your workout, professional life, or relationship. As Spring flowers begin to bloom, take a queue from nature and break away from the monotony of life. A great way to keep your relationship fresh is to keep YOURSELF fresh. A part of what attracted you to each other is that you were interesting individuals. You had your own interests, friends, and outlooks on life.

It is perfectly healthy for couples to have their own passions. It allows them to get excited about sharing one another. There is nothing more beautiful than seeing the one you love with a sparkle in their eye while catching you up on the days events. When is the last time that you nurtured your spirit? When is the last time you learned a new (non-work related) skill? When is the last time you purchased a piece of great lingerie? It’s time!

While it is Spring, this is Shades Wedding Magazine’s “Vintage Issue”. Vintage, used as an adjective means : Characterized by Excellence, maturity, and enduring appeal; Classic. That is what type of wedding and marriage inspiration we pray that you receive from this issue. It is important that you look and feel your best so that you can give your best. Isn’t the love of your life worth that? We think so!

Be Inspired May the Lord make your love increase and overflow for each other and for everyone else, just as ours does for you.

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Engaged!

Christa & Brent

Photographer: Alea Lovely Fine Art Photographer Wedding Date: May 4, 2013

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Engaged!

Tai & Marcus

Photographer: ArtPhotoSoul Photographers

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One-on-One with

Vintage Textile Pixie

By: Verinia Galloway

Hailing from Michigan, Rebecca spent most of her life in metro Detroit. Raised by her mother who was a lifelong seamstress, Rebecca’s job experience ranges from retail to music to healthcare to academia and she’s even a ordained clergy! While working as an adjunct, and attempting to finish her finish her Ph.D. in Theology and Ethics, her mother passed away. Her mother left a legacy of hundreds of sewing patterns and thousands of yards of fabric plus some nice costume jewelry. Thus the birth of Vintage Textile Pixie! This multifaceted talent not only sews, crochet, and knits, she also find time to spin her own yarn. Refurbishing everything from old sewing machines to her Edwardian home Rebecca is all about Loving, Living, and Redeeming. I got the chance to speak with her about her passion. Here’s what she had to say.

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SWM: What is your definition of Vintage?

VTP: I’m not ready to call anything after about 1979 vintage. The 1980s were not my favorite era (I’ve never recovered from all of the mauve), and it’s difficult to call vintage that which you’re still using – like when my mechanic told me it would take an extra day to get the part for my 1994 Tracer wagon because he now had to pull from vintage stock. That was freaky!

SWM: That’s funny. I can totally agree with you.

The vintage items that you do sell how do you go about selecting them?

VTP: When I first opened my shop on Etsy, I tried to replicate the same range of items that my sister and I had had in our bricks and mortar antique booth in order to test the Etsy waters. But primarily due to issues surrounding shipping, I realized quickly that I needed to narrow my focus. Obviously, I want my items to sell, so I’m always looking at my shop stats and looking for trends – not that I’ll follow them – but I’m aware of them because the bottom line is this: I like to stock my shop with things that are appealing to my customers as well as to me. In general, those items tend to be from the first half of the 20th century. Above that, if I had to break it down into keywords, I’d say that I look for items that are beautiful, useful, and fun. When you think of the Vintage Textile Pixie, you should think of lovely items that make you smile.

VTP: The initial sorting is no problem. But after that, it can tedious and a strain on my eyes especially if looking for flaws in jewelry. My LED lit loupe goes wherever I do. Since I tend to stock jewelry up through the 1960s, the original owners are now pretty much all deceased. This means finding new items second or third hand. The more hands, [on each piece] the more potential for damage.

SWM: Finally I always close with a question about where the business owner sees themselves and their business in the future. So do you see this as just a hobby or do you see yourself growing Vintage Textile Pixie?

VTP: Although there is much about my shop that is enjoyable enough to become a hobby (almost!), this very much is my business. It’s what helps pay the bills. With antiques and vintage items, there is an inherent obstacle to growing the business: the uniqueness of the products. Thus, each item has to have its own set of photos and description, which means dealing in vintage is quite labor intensive. Most of my colleagues obtain assistance from family members – an option I’m working on!

SWM: Are any of your pieces “vintage inspired” or are they authentic?

VTP: [That’s a] great question and harder to answer than you might think due to the need to repair items. Let me give you an example: I find a 1960s bead necklace in pieces. I bring it home, clean it, and find that some of the beads are missing and half of the findings are broken. I add some beads of the same type and era but use some newer findings for the fasteners. Is it still a 1960s necklace? Is it still vintage? These are questions that each seller has to answer for him or herself… Nonetheless, in my shop, you’ll find that the overwhelming majority of my items have minimal alterations done to them (everything is cleaned, and jewelry is always sanitized) – so yes, authentic.

SWM: Once you find the right pieces how hard is it to actually sort through them?

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You can find her at etsy.com/shop/Revvie1 and on facebook under Vintage Textile Pixie

Cool Cat clutch worn by designer Cortnie

Style me Chic

Inspirational looks for the bride who wants to add a little of the past to her big day. Whether you are a traditional bride, a bride wanting a little elegance, or you are want something more daring, you can easily bring these looks to life. Here are some examples 18 Shades Wedding Magazine | Fallfrom 2012 all three categories.

Style me Chic

Traditional Ninaveve's Fancy Faux Pearl Chandelier Earrings $39.99 emitations.com

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Badgley Mischka Women's Ginnie Peep-Toe Pump $129.99+ amazon.com

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Elegance

Astoria Bridal Comb $298.00 queensandbowl.com

Badgley Mischka Women's Salsa Pump $87.08+ amazon.com

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Romona Keveza Style E1304 romonakeveza.com

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Trend Spotter

Lulu Frost’s 100 Year Necklace $1,925 charmandchain.com.

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Qupid Women's Ankle Strap Platform Stilettos, Black Faux Suede $39.99 amazon.com

Big Day Beauty

The Eyes Have it...

By: Kobe Ellis

Photo by: Beautybycolor.com

Your big day is approaching and and you’ve round up every fashion magazine on the shelves, have scoured the net for trends, pictures, and references, looking for the ‘perfect’ look that will have your wedding guests tearing and your honey beaming.

What have you come up with?

Well, According to some beauty blogs and beauty freelancer writers, the buzz for the latest and greatest beauty trend for 2013 is all about wearing eyelash extensions. Wearing false or fake eyelashes is not new but the latest technique of individually applied eyelashes that last for weeks is catching on big! Celebrities, artists, models, business women, college women, and housewives are all sporting the flirty lashes.

The technique should be done by anesthetician or trained cosmetologist. If you decide to give the new look a chance then make sure you do your homework and choose the proper specialist. It is best to make sure you choose the right person to handle your eyelash extensions or you will lose out on the true experience and look of having properly applied extensions. Done right and the look is fabulous.

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Choose the wrong salon or person to do your extensions and you may see a difference but the possibility of what you could have looked like is missed. Worst case scenario and you could get a clumped mess. You should leave the experience with lashes that look natural, full, thick and fabulous. You should also be properly educated on how to care for your new eyelash extensions. They can last the lifespan of a real eyelash, which is 4-6 weeks, if cared for properly.

Think of the time it can save not having to put on coats of mascara or daily applying eyelash strips. You wake up 24/7 with a full set of flirty, beautiful eyelashes framing your eyes.

Now we need to discuss the next part of your eyes that can never be ignored – the eyebrows. If the eyebrows are not sculpted correctly or worse completely ignored, then it doesn’t matter how thick and flirty your eyelashes look. Consider your eyes the beautiful artwork by the Master, the eyelashes the “mat frame” to set the artwork perfectly and the eyebrows the “frame” itself. To show off the perfect piece of art you have to have the mat and frame and the same is true of your eyes.

It is important that your eyebrows are perfectly arched.

They should begin and end at a precise point according to the shape of your eye. If the eyebrow is too arched, too long, too high, too short or too dark then the effect can leave someone looking shocked, intrigued, or comical due to the expression the eyebrows portray. However, the perfect eyebrow can make a woman look glamorous, beautiful and even more youthful ....leaving no dry eye in the building!

Ladies

What Women Want!

Women of the 60’s always wore jewelry that was bold enough to stand alone and elegant enough to compliment other pieces.

Nothing does this like a Cocktail Ring. These rings are guaranteed to get you noticed!

1960s CoRal anD DiamonD CoCkTail Ring contact dealer for price 1stdibs.com

1960s VinTagE moD 14k golD DiamonD angEl Skin CoRal CoCkTail Ring $325.00 Etsy.com

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BlaCk DiamonD VinTagE CoCkTail Ring $76.00 perfectdetails.com

Details

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Cakes

Have your cake and eat it too!

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Fashion

Shades best dresses of the Season We’ve loosely organized our favorites,from some of the top wedding designers in the counntry. Choosing your dress should not be stressful, create a binder of designs that inspire you so that when you start shopping for your dress the sales accociate will have an idea of the type of styles you like. Never settle when choosing one of the most important pieces of appearal you will probaly purchase in your life make sure it’s perfect for YOU! HAPPY PLANNING!

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Monique Lhuillier

Monique Lhuillier

Kenneth Pool

Monique Lhuillier

Kenneth Pool

Monique Lhuillier

Amsale

Vera Wang

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Carolina Herrera

Carolina Herrera

Amsale

Amsale

Vera Wang

Vera Wang

Carolina Herrera

Carolina Herrera

Mackenzie & Abdul Atlantic Beach FL * March 3rd

Photography by Damon Tucci Photography One Ocean Resort Hotel & Spa

Vendor Recipe Venue: One Ocean Resort Hotel & Spa www.oneoceanresort.com

Event Planner: Style House Weddings & Events www.stylehouseweddings.com

Photography: Damon Tucci www.damontucci.com

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Carissa & Michael Altadena, CA * May 27th

Photography by Lukas and Suzy VanDyke Photography Altadena Town and Country Club

Mike and I met at a mutual friend's birthday party in March 2010 when he asked me about the tattoo on my wrist, and we immediately hit it off. We went out to dinner the next weekend and then spent every weekend together after that, laughing and just enjoying each other. In July 2011, Mike asked me to be his wife while in Santa Barbara for my birthday weekend!

Mike and I both share a love for Disneyland, so spending a few hours in the park each month is one of our favorite dates. I knew I wanted to incorporate small bits of Disney detail in our wedding, so I decided to have each reception table labeled with a couple from a famous Disney movie. I also made Mickey Mouse heads using styrofoam balls and black paint to place in each floral centerpiece. There is something so timeless and classic about Disney, I felt it was the perfect touch to our fairytale day!

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Vendor Recipe Venue: Altadena Town & Country Club www.altaclub.com

Event Planner: Pickerill Creative www.pickerillcreative.com

Photography: Lukas & Suzy VanDyke www.lukasandsuzy.com

Bridal Gown: David’s Bridal www.davidsbridal.com

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Ahri & Kohri Temecula, CA * July 3rd

Photography by Allen Taylor Photography Ponte Family Estate Winery

This wasn’t the first time we have had the pleasure of visiting Ponte Winery and we hope it isn’t our last. This beautiful venue is surrounded by 300 acres of vineyards and lush gardens.

It is tranquil and romantic, a perfect backdrop for Kohei and Anri’s perfect wedding. Did I say PERFECT? YES! This wedding was PERFECT in every way – from the most ‘kawaii’ (Cute in Japanese) bride to the handsome groom, not to mention the great-looking bridal party and guests! This is one gorgeous wedding!

Wanting to give the wedding a special touch, many of the details for the wedding where put together personally by Anri and Kohei. It worked. From the rings, to her own nails, and the trail mix for guests for the ride home after all it was all over.Even the seating charts were special and unique. Each table represented a place where Koehi and Anri had been to on trips together. Adorned with a photograph of them at that place to seemingly point everyone in the right direction. Also, Anri’s mother not only took lessons to learn how to make it for her daughter’s special day, but also had to be certified and pursued a license so that it could be served at the wedding. A touching gift made with lots of love that even featured their pets.

We have not seen a more energetic and great wedding party than these fun people. It was not possible to stop laughing, smiling, and talking taking their photographs. The guys had custom made Nike sneakers with their initials and wedding date embroidered right on them and the girls were simply gorgeous. We adored and loved capturing Kohei and Anri’s wedding. A passionate couple, along with wonderful friends and family you will have trouble finding anywhere else.

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Vendor Recipe Venue: Ponte Family Estate Winery www.pontewinery.com

Photography: Allen Taylor Photography allentaylorphotography.com

Florist: angeluck Florist www.angeluck.com

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Vendor Recipe Venue: Rosen Shingle Creek www.rosenshinglecreek.com

Photography: Damon Tucci Photography www.damontucci.com

Planner: Weddings Unique www.weddingsunique.com

Lighting: Kaleidoscope Event Lighting www.keventlighting.com

Event Rentals: kirby rentals www.kirbytent.com

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Autumm & Philip Orlando, FL * September 23rd

Photography by Damon Tucci Photography Rosen Shingle Creek

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Chenelle & Dennis Alexandria, VA * October 5th

Photography by Edward Underwood photography The Carlyle Club

Vendor Recipe Ceremony and Reception Site: The Carlyle Club www.thecarlyleclub.com

Photographer: edward underwood photography www.edwardunderwood.com

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Latoya & Kenneth Orlando, FL * December 1st

Photography by Jesse Giles Photography The Rosen Centre

Vendor Recipe Venue: The Rosen Centre www.rosenshinglecreek.com

Photography: Jesse Giles Photography www.jessegilesphotography.com

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From his Heart

Chilvary is for Ladies, Too...

Written by: Enitan Bereola, II If I were to read this title in front of a room full of feminists, I might get more boos than a polygamist.

•When it’s cold and your man offers you his jacket, offer him your scarf…or a hug to keep him warm.

Chivalry is a term often debated and sometimes hated with a meaning no one seems to agree upon, kind of like the N-word. Historically, chivalry originated between the 11th and 15th centuries as a knight’s moral code to protect those who couldn’t protect themselves (children, elders and widows). The definition has since dropped its original intent and simply means the respect and honor of women. However, some view chivalry as an insult to women. When you look at its original definition coupled with its current meaning, it can seem that it’s indeed suggesting women are helpless and dependent on men. And that’s where the problem lies. Chivalry was originally intended for babies and kids, old people, and women whose husbands had died. During this time period, husbands were the sole providers for their families and if they perished, assistance was needed. People are mixing one part of an old definition with another part of the current one. We know women are capable of the same survival skills as men. Chivalry isn’t about male dominance.

•If your man has been an amazing partner, take him out on a date and attempt to pay.

There is something deep-rooted about the state of men and women today.

Only pain would allow us to disrespect and hate the very thing we want.

In the 21stcentury, chivalry should just mean honoring the opposite sex. In relationships, chivalry shows a mutual respect for your partner. In everyday life, chivalry strengthens male/females relations. Whether or not you believe in gender roles, they shouldn’t shape social norms around courteous behaviors. Holding doors open in 2012 is more about courtesy and less about helping the defenseless. Courteous behavior isn’t limited to men.

Chivalry is for ladies, too.

Here are six easy ways a lady can be chivalrous: •After we open your car door and let you in, lean over and push the driver’s side door open. It’s a literal thank you, a reciprocating gesture that shows equal respect.

•If you’re on the driver’s side and we pump your gas, wait until we walk around to the passenger’s side of the car before you start the en62 Magazine | Fall gine so theShades exhaustWedding fumes don’t get all over us.2012

•If he cooked the meal, do the dishes.

•If a stranger is struggling for the door, prop it open.

Chivalry is a lifestyle that says, ‘I understand your value and acknowledge your worth.’ Chivalry isn’t for applause, but when someone displays an honorable gesture toward another, a signal of appreciation is warranted.

Though it’s not required, a simple “thank you” is common practice. If you believe the golden rule is to treat others like you want to be treated, you can take it a step further by reciprocating with an equally kind action.

Gentlemen, this is for you: You can’t just put meat in the oven without heating the oven up first. Chivalry is foreplay. It’s dumb to demand intimacy but disrespect your wife. Treat your wife like a lady at all times. Love her, respect her and honor her. Be the man you want your son to be and the gentleman you want your daughter to date. Treat women like you’d want men to treat your mother.

Ladies, this is for you: There are many things expected of us as men and we work hard to provide. Though gratitude is vintage, we’re not looking for praise. Just don’t underestimate the value of a thank you or reciprocated gesture. Galatians 6:7 says “…A (wo)man reaps what (s)he sows.” So if you expect chivalry, then be chivalrous. Be the woman you want your daughter to be and the lady you want your son to date.

You don’t have to agree. As long as the conversation is created and the people are talking, my job here is done.

Pleasantries.

– Enitan Bereola, II

Gentelmen

What Men want...

The 60’s is known for men looking dapper. Cufflinks are the ultimate accessory for the men of this era. Here are a few cufflinks that capture the essence of this timeless period.

1960's VinTagE Tamla moToWn CuFFlink $33.00 Etsy.com

WoRking VinTagE lighTER CuFFlinkS $90.00 shop.coolmaterial.com

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Finance

By: Nicole Ronczyk

Your Money, My Money, OUR Money

The pastor asked, “Miss Frugal do you take Mr. Extravagant to have and to hold” and “Do you Mr. Saver take Miss Big-spender for richer or poorer”, and you both emphatically said yes. Now what? These vows were not limited to the chapel. In a marriage, there is no “my money” and “your money” or “my debts” and “your debts.” When you become married you are becoming one flesh, one family, and one budget. Unwillingness to join assets and bank accounts after marriage is perhaps a danger signal that unresolved trust issues could still be lingering or developing in the relationship.

The first year of marriage will be a learning experience for all on every front. By all means use wisdom and have important conversations such as finance prior to the official union. Husband and wife may not agree on basic money management principles so it can certainly pose as an issue. A great way to alleviate a good deal of stress is to make budgeting decisions together, hold each other accountable for meeting their financial goals, and devise timeline for a regular ‘financial check-up’ of sorts. This check up should review your collective decreasing debt and your retirement savings. As a couple it would behoove you to come to an agreement on the amount of money that can be spent without first checking with each other. The specific amount will depend on the budget category and the couple’s particular circumstances. Many couples have decided to keep another account for such expenditures, however be certain that this is not a “stash” account. Financial infedelity is a sure way to wreak havoc on your relationship.

Creating a budget (and sticking to it) is a crucial component in becoming financially secure. When creating the budget please note that they are not devised to manipulate or control. Budgets are all about goal setting for your future! When creating a budget use wisdom and delegate the primary book-keeper. Even though one person primarily handles balancing the checkbook, both should be fully trained and able to do it. There is nothing wrong with the wife handling the finances in the family if she is the better administrator, but God still holds the husband accountable for the ultimate decisions. Both spouses should be involved in paying the monthly bills. Doing so will keep both fully aware of their financial status. “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10) A bond of uncompromising devotion creates a healthy atmosphere for togetherness: praying, courting and even managing money.

Just as it takes two to make a marriage successful, it takes two to establish a clear line of communication in financial planning.

Share what is important to each of you. Whether you are saving for home ownership, retirement, or vacations. Budgeting can make these dreams a reality. Seek assistance from a financial planner if necessary. Your marriage is too precious and valuable to lose over money.

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Travel

Destination...

By: Nicole Ronczyk This issue is our “Vintage” Issue so it was befitting to select Cannes, France for our Honeymoon destination! Located in the French Riviera, Cannes is considered to be one of the most captivating social hubs of Europe. When those in the glamour and/or entertainment industry hear the word vintage they think of old Hollywood glam. Cannes, a beautiful city best known for the Cannes Film Festival, is certainly a destination that exemplifies luxe and glamour.

This quaint locale is renowned for the plethora of designer shops such as Jean Paul Gaultier, Dior, Chanel, and Gucci that line the world famous Promenade de la Croisette. It truly is a shopper’s paradise! From the Rolls-Royce dealership to the haute-couture boutiques; it is hard to fathom that this enchanted city was one a small fishing village! The Promenade de la Croisette extends along the shore of the Mediterranean Sea, boasting with mobile cafes, yachts, restaurants and perhaps a celebrity or two on holiday or in town for the festival. Once you have had your fill of shopping and people watching, head on over to the Carlton Casino Club which is also located in the same area. The Carlton Casino Club, has been characterized by some patrons as having a “James Bond feel” as jackets are required for men to enter.

Once you have had your fill of the glamorous life you can explore the rest of what Cannes has to offer. For decades Cannes has maintained a sense of exclusivity while still being suitable to all budgets. One beautiful attraction is the Jardin Alexandre III. It is a magnificent park overflowing with huge blossums at every turn. How romantic! For true nature lovers, be sure to visit the surrounding islands of Saint Margarite or Lerins where you will be able to trek through lush forest of Allepo Pine and eucalyptus! Be sure to visit the local shops there that specialize in organic products. They’ll make awesome ‘Thank you’ gifts or serve as a reminder upon use to take a deep breath every once and a while and remember your special trip alone with your sweetheart.

As you take this time to celebrate your love, be sure to enjoy a glass of vintage produced at a monastery located in the heart of Lerins Island. Wine lovers will be pleased to know that a recent planting of Pinot Noir has produced a very aberrant vintage. Due to it’s limited production it is sold on reservations.

As a visitor you’ll have an opportunity to sample it! Between the shopping, people watching, and enjoying the great outdoors, you’re sure to work up an appetite! Sumptious smells and tastes greet you at every turn. While we can not account for everyones unique pallate and tastes, we will say that if you travel to Rue Saint Antoine you’ll be satiated because there are over 30 restaurants to choose from. Decisions decesions!!

Boasting with breathtaking views, delicious cuisine, and a nightlife that would give Las Vegas a run for it’s money. This magnificent city certainly lives up to it’s motto, “Life is a Festiyou packed yet? Magazine | Fall 2012 66val”!

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Wedding Timeline 12 months ahead

• Select the date for your wedding

• Consult with your fiance & all parents to

determine the financial support available to you

& set a budget

• Determine with your fiance the type of

wedding you want (Formal, informal, Small, Large)

• Determine the number of guest you will have

• Select and reserve Ceremony site

• Select an officiant for the ceremony

• Select & reserve Reception site

10-12 months ahead

• Arrange for families to meet (if they haven’t already)

• Begin shopping for gown & Accessories

• Order Gown

• Start preparing the guest list

• Choose wedding party attendants

• Select and order wedding attendants wedding attire

• Research review & select your photographer

• Research review & select your videographer

• Send save the date cards

• Get your engagement photo taken 8-10 months ahead

• Select & reserve the caterer

• Select & reserve the decorator

• Select & reserve the florist

• Select & reserve the party rental equipment

• Determine wedding cake design; select & re

serve a baker or bakery

• Select & reserve musician for ceremony

• Select & reserve music/entertainment for the reception

• Select & reserve transportation for the wedding party

• Plan the details of the reception

• Begin shopping for wedding rings

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6-8 months ahead

• Order invitations, announcements, informal

Stationary & thank you notes

• Register for wedding gifts at one to three stores

• Reserve accommodations for out-of-town guests

• Reserve transportation for out-of-town guests

to travel to/from the ceremony & reception

• Finalize honeymoon plans with fiance

(Finalize arrangements, check passports/visas) 4-6 months ahead

• Select & order men’s formal wear

• Reserve accommodations for wedding night

• Select stylist or salon for bridal party hair, nails

& make-up

• Meet with florist to plan details

• Select & purchase wedding guest favors

• Select and Hire calligrapher if needed

• Begin dance lessons with fiance

• Find & reserve your rehearsal dinner location

• Finalize guest list 2-4 months ahead

• Confirm delivery dates for bridal gown &

bridesmaids’ dresses

• Meet with caterer to discuss menu

• Meet with officiant to discuss ceremony

• Select ceremony music, reading & vows

• Schedule ceremony rehearsal & notify partici pants

• Buy & Wrap gifts for wedding party

• Address wedding invitations

• Buy wedding accessories & order engraving 1-2 months ahead

• Schedule final fitting for your gown

• Remind bridesmaids to schedule final fittings

• Get your marriage license

• Mail invitations

• Prepare printed program for ceremony

• Start seating plan and place cards for reception

• Plan pre-wedding luncheon for bridesmaids

• Confirm ceremony & reception details

• Assign wedding day task to friends

• Confirm request lists with photographer, musi

cians/DJ & Videographer

• Purchase wedding Accessories (guest book &

pen, toasting glasses, unity candle, cake knife &

server, and flower/ring bearer accessories)

• Pick up wedding rings & check engraving

• Record gifts received & write thank you notes promptly

• Schedule prewedding manicure/pedicure,

massage & Spa treatments 2-4 weeks ahead

•Arrange for cleaning & preservation of wedding

gown after wedding

•Arrange for bridal bouquet preservation after wedding

•Confirm honeymoon arrangements

•Confirm arrangements for attire & accessories of

all Wedding party members

•Assist Fiance with writing toasts for rehearsal din

ner & wedding reception

•Follow up with guests who didn’t respond to the

invite & finish seating chart/place cards

•Confirm final guest count to caterer & reception facility 1 week ahead

• Make final contact with baker, caterer, florist, mu

sician DJ, Photographer, Videographer

• Make final preparations for honeymoon

• Confirm wedding-day assignments with family & friends

• Confirm time/location for rehearsal dinner

& Wedding with wedding party participants

• Confirm pick-up times/locations with

transportation Providers

• Put fees due on the wedding day in envelopes

• Host bridesmaids luncheon Day of the wedding

• Rings & marriage license

• Bride’s wedding attire

• Grooms wedding Attire

• Ring Bearer pillow/flower girl basket

• Wedding programs

• Cake knife & server, toasting flutes

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• Guest book & pen • Unity candle • Pay officiant & vendors • Assign person to collect/transport gifts

After the wedding

• Return rental attire

• Have wedding gown cleaned & preserved

• Have bridal bouquet preserved

• Freeze the top layer of your cake to enjoy on

your One-year anniversary

• Record gifts received & write thank you notes

promptly within 2 months

• Develop photos from disposable cameras Notes:

B rid a l N o o k

Photographers Glessner Photography (North Carolina) 336-891-0808 www.glessnerphotography.com Kesha Lambert Photography (New York) 914-407-4116 www.keshalambert.com Lasting Memories Photography (New York) 917-603-7581 www.lasting-memories.us Rennard Photography (Washington) 206-304-8604 www.rennardphotography.com Civic Photos(Texas) 409-599-9683 weddings.civicphotos.com Michael Anthony Photography (California) 310-906-6210 www.michaelanthonyphotography.com 69 Shades Wedding Magazine | Fall 2012

AJ Shorter Photography (Miami) 310-906-6210 www.ajshorter.com Lucia Belle Photography (Virginia) 804-405-7613 www.jessicamaida.com Event Planner Malasia Weddings and Events 305-303-5110 Esquisite Affaires Remembered 305-396-2732 www.exquisiteaffaires.com Invitations Kerry’s Papery (954) 547-3165 www.kerryspapery.com

Bridal Shops Zayas Bridal 305-887-1380 www.zayasbridals.net J. Del Olmo 305-448-3599 www.jdelolmobridal.com Zayas Fashions 305-823-1433 www.zayasfashions.com Fashion Durga-Kali 646-580-1353 www.durga-kali.com Makeup Artist Krystal Taylor 601-383-0388 krystaltaylormua.com

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