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I don’t have a lot of pet peeves, but the ones I have, I don’t tolerate very well. My number one pet peeve is when someone does a load of laundry and doesn’t move it into the dryer with an hour or so. You know, I pay a lot of money for the exact triple-threat of laundry detergent, fabric softener and dryer sheets that will make my clothes, towels and sheets smell a certain way. So, nothing is more annoying than having all of that wasted because clothes sat in the washer long enough to get that funky, icky moldy smell, except for the utter wastefulness of having to wash that load again. My green friends will completely agree with me about the ridiculocity of all that extra water and energy that is wasted, simply because someone didn’t focus on finishing what they started. But know this, wasteful or not, if it’s been in that washer long enough for that stank to set in, it’s not getting anywhere near me or the baby, until it’s been rewashed. You see? I told you I can get a little b*tchy about these things. Here’s another thing that sets me off: Infomercials. Being a bit of a night owl, I can’t help but notice that, as I am surfing through the guide in search of some scripted, crimefighting acronym show to help me fall asleep, virtually every other channel has some sort of infomercial airing. It’s almost as if all the network geniuses believe that if you are up at 3:00am, then you must have adult acne, wrinkles and fine lines around your eyes, hair loss on your head, excess unwanted hair everywhere else, a muffin top that requires some type of overly complicated apparatus or set of DVDs, or the desire to simplify and perfect the food you prepare or the way you clean your floor. Okay fine, so I have all those things, but that’s not the point! I’m not awake at three in the morning surfing channels to find out how E and F list celebrities get rid of fine lines and facial hair. And I don’t care how many meals I burn or nails I break or muscles that ache from using the products I already own, I am not going to jump up and grab my phone to “act now” because supplies are limited or I can get a second identical item free is I call within the next 26 minutes. It’s not gonna happen— even if there is a lifetime, money-back guarantee (less shipping and handling). Besides those two things, uncovered food in the fridge, repetition, mixing condiments or people who drive with their cellphone on their ear or text/Twitter/Facebook while driving, I’m pretty easy-going. Oh, and mimes. But there are some things I absolutely adore! I love laughter and monkeys and Bluetooth earpieces that allow you to talk hands-free while you are driving or look crazy in the supermarket. I love fresh smelling laundry, drag queens who nail their lip-sync , scripted crime-fighting acronym shows and saying, “Duckbill platypus.” And, I love this month’s issue of She. Our annual Holiday issue is filled to the brim with ways to make this season bright. And, if you act now, we’ll throw in a special bonus gift of our exclusive interview with megasuperstar, Christina Aguilera. No broken nails, achy backs or burnt grilled cheese sandwiches here! Just 40 pages, donned in gay apparel, for you to enjoy. Happy Holidays, my friends. See you next month.
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december 2012 / VOLUME 14 / ISSUE 11
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16 STRESS FREE HOLIDAYS Eight tips to follow for a stress free season
20 CHRISTINA AGUILERA
Exclusive interview with Christina as she presents her more recent CD, Lotus.
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Come onboard as we travel to the gayest place in the country, Provincetown!
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Great gifts for everyone on your list and all types of budgets.
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with tina sordellini
On December 21, Cirque du Soleil brings their world to your city! From the big top to the big screen, visionary filmmaker James Cameron and director Andrew Adamson invite you on an all new 3D adventure: Cirque du Soleil Worlds Away. A young couple who is separated must journey through the astonishing and dreamlike worlds of Cirque du Soleil to find each other, as audiences experience the immersive 3D technology that will allow them to leap, soar, swim, and dance with the performers.
Synth pop princess, Casey Desmond, has released her new full-length album, Déjà Vu on. Following her stint on NBC’s The Voice, her newest project breaks new ground while remaining true to her love of 80’s pop icons on 12 danceable electro-pop tracks. Déjà Vu showcases her impressive collection of vintage synthesizers and keyboards to seamlessly merge her love of today’s electro dance music with the classic sounds of the analog pop hits of the past, creating a one of a kind sound that is Casey Desmond.
In the comedy flick, Parental Guidance, opening December 28, Artie and Diane agree to look after their three grandkids when their type-A helicopter parents need to leave town for work. Problems arise when the kids’ 21st-century behaviors collide with Artie and Diane’s old-school methods. This is one of those movies that’s sure to have you roaring in the aisle. Stars Billy Crystal, Bette Midler, and Marisa Tomei.
DJ Joe Gauthreaux provides seven exclusive remixes and productions on this year’s Official White Party CD, benefiting Care Resource and the longest running HIV/AIDS fundraiser. Number 1 artists featured include Anastacia, Tony Moran, Frenchie Davis, Abigail, Inaya Day, plus new remixes of megahits “Someone Like You,” “Wide Awake,” “Let Me Love You,” “We Are Young,” “Sometimes” and “Show Me Love.” So show your love with this great dance CD!
Just in time for the New Year comes the new film version of the classic, Les Misérables. In 19thcentury France, Jean Valjean, who for decades has been hunted by the ruthless policeman Javert after he breaks parole, agrees to care for factory worker Fantine’s daughter, Cosette. The fateful decision changes their lives forever. Opens December 28. Stars Hugh Jackman, Russell Crowe, Anne Hathaway and Helena Bonham Carter.
Vanderpump Rules follows the passionate, volatile and hot-and-bothered-staff at Lisa Vanderpump’s West Hollywood mainstay SUR. Lisa balances her motherly instincts and shrewd business sense to keep control over this wild group of employees as they pursue their dreams and each other while working at her “Sexy, Unique Restaurant.” Get ready, it’s coming our way January 7 on Bravo
DON’T MISS IT: Rizzoli and Isles Season 3 final episodes. Only a few more left until the Season Finale on December 25. Stars sexies Angie Harmon and Sasha Alexander. Airs Tuesdays at 9pm on TNT.
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cirque blanc, the women’s white party week signature event, hosted by lauren russell
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in the news Obama nominates openly lesbian Hispanic judge to federal bench
UCLA School of Law Launches LL.M. Specialization in Law & Sexuality
President Barack Obama nominated Judge Nitza I. Quiñones Alejandro, who currently serves on the Philadelphia County Court of Common Pleas, for a federal judgeship with the U.S. District Court for the Eastern District of Pennsylvania. If confirmed by the U.S. Senate, Quiñones would become the first openly gay Hispanic woman to serve on the federal bench. Quiñones previously worked as a staff attorney for the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs from 1979 to 1991, and she served as an attorney advisor for the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services from 1977 to 1979. She began her legal career as a staff attorney for Community Legal Services, Inc. in Philadelphia. Quiñones received her law degree from the University of Puerto Rico School of Law in 1975 and her bachelor’s in business administration from the University of Puerto Rico in 1972 according to a biography provided by the White House. President Obama has also nominated openly gay Miami-Dade Circuit Court Judge William Thomas. Judge Thomas has been nominated to serve on the U.S. District Court for the Southern District of Florida.
UCLA School of Law has launched an LL.M. specialization in law and sexuality—the first program of its kind in the nation. The new specialty will provide rigorous training to emerging lawyers and scholars working in the field of sexual orientation and gender identity law, while enhancing the breadth and depth of legal scholarship related to LGBT issues. “Similar courses and education programs on law and sexuality remain rare in many regions of the country and world,” says Lara Stemple, director of graduate studies at UCLA School of Law. “As law and policy on LGBT issues continue to unfold in our courts and legislatures, this program will provide young lawyers with the tools they need to engage in this dynamic and rapidly changing area of the law.” Already a leader in the field, UCLA Law’s LL.M. in Law and Sexuality will build on the prior work of its faculty and internationallyrecognized Williams Institute, a think tank at the law school dedicated to sexual orientation and gender identity law and public policy. The program will include coursework on comparative and/or international law, focused on sexuality issues, including a course on Law and Sexuality and a Sexual Orientation Workshop. Students will also have the opportunity to take classes offered by faculty members and scholars associated with the Williams Institute, as well as participate in a range of Williams Institute activities, such as its speaker series and annual conference. The program, which is open to both U.S. and foreign-trained lawyers who have a J.D. or equivalent law degree, is now accepting applications. www.law.ucla.edu
Couples from across Illinois Urge Passage of Marriage Fairness Law On November 28th, plaintiff couples in Darby v. Orr and Lazaro v. Orr, the lawsuits brought by Lambda Legal and the ACLU of Illinois seeking the freedom to marry for same-sex couples in Illinois, met with legislators to urge them to vote in favor of a bill ending the ban on marriage for same-sex couples in Illinois. “We want our lawmakers to know how important this is to our family,” said Anne Dickey, plaintiff in Darby v. Orr. “Every day, our child feels different from his friends because Laura and I aren’t allowed to get married. Whether it is through the courts or the legislature, we need the freedom to marry.” On May 30, 2012, Lambda Legal and the ACLU of Illinois each filed lawsuits representing a total of 25 same-sex couples from across the state of Illinois seeking the freedom to marry. Two days later, the Illinois Attorney General’s office filed papers agreeing that barring same-sex couples from marriage is unconstitutional. The Cook County Clerk and States Attorney also agree that the marriage ban is unconstitutional. In February 2012, State Representatives Greg Harris, Deborah Mell, and Kelly Cassidy filed HB 5710, the Religious Freedom and Marriage Fairness Act in the Illinois General Assembly, which provides that all laws of Illinois applicable to marriage apply equally to marriages of same-sex and different-sex couples. The bill, House Bill 5710, The Religious Freedom and Marriage Fairness Act, could be voted on by the Illinois General Assembly in January 2013.
what she said about... “When anyone is persecuted anywhere and that includes when LGBT people are persecuted, we’re kept from fully participating in their societies...They suffer, but so do we. We are diminished because our commitment to the human rights of all people has to be a continuing obligation and mission of everyone who serves in the government of the United States.” —Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton at the State Department to observe the 20th anniversary of the department’s LGBT affinity group, Gays & Lesbians in Foreign Affairs Agencies
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Miami-Dade Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce to Host their annual holigay toy drive Don we now our gay apparel” and get to the LGBT Visitor Center for the 3rd annual “HoliGay Celebration & Toy Drive,” Thursday, December 13, from 6 p.m. to 9 p.m. Admission is free with the donation of an unwrapped toy which will then be distributed to local families in need through the Miami Beach Police Department’s Children’s Holiday Relief Fund. “Last year’s toy drive was an overwhelming success thanks to the generous outpouring of donations from the LGBT community and our allies,” said Steve Adkins, president of the MDGLCC. “We’re really looking forward to turning the LGBT Visitor Center into Santa’s workshop again this year.” Speaking of Santa, the jolly old elf himself will be making a special guest appearance at the event which will also feature special surprises and Sobe Jewelry selling a special edition Pride ring with proceeds benefiting the LGBT Visitor Center. Complimentary cocktails and a great food buffet will be served against the backdrop of DJ Sayho playing holiday and contemporary favorites. The HoliGay Celebration & Toy Drive is sponsored by the Miami-Dade Gay & Lesbian
Chamber of Commerce (MDGLCC), the MDGLCC Foundation, Inc., 42 Below vodka and BeachWitch. To RSVP for the HoliGay Celebration & Toy Drive, email karen@gogaymiami. com, or call (305) 397-8914. The LGBT Visitor Center is located at 1130 Washington Avenue, First Floor North, Miami Beach.
broward county Organizations Join Forces this Holiday Season for Community Toy Drive The Pride Center, in conjunction with Women With Pride, SAGE and Women in Network, is sponsoring the 7th Annual Judy Shepherd Toy Drive for the children at Thurgood Marshall Elementary School. Toy donations will directly impact underprivileged children, some with disabilities and other special needs, currently attending the school. Toys are collected around the area at participating drop locations throughout Oakland Park, Ft. Lauderdale and Wilton Manors from now until December 16th. “Our partners and friends around the community continue to respond to the enormous needs of many local families by hosting drop-boxes, donating toys and money, and helping to create a memorable holiday season for children in Wilton Manors,” said Ronni B. Dowd, Chair of the Toy Drive Committee. Drop boxes can be found at: The Pride Center, FastPrintz, Eco-Friendly Automotive, New Moon Bar, Bank United, Best Buy in Da-
vie, Best Buy on Federal Hwy., Best Buy on 17st CSWY, We Got The Beats, Starbucks in Wilton Manors, Rosie’s Bar & Grill, Sidelines, Grateful Palate, Mojo’s Barbershop, Nuts About Yogurt, Gelato Station, Wells Fargo, and Sidelines. According to Donna Woessner, Coordinator of Women With Pride, “The toys we collect from this drive will be sorted according to grade level and distributed right before the holidays. We hope they will help make the holidays brighter for the children at Thurgood Marshall!” The Toy Drive is named after Judy Shepherd, a local community activist who started the Toy Drive in 2005. Judy Shepherd passed away earlier this year, but her legacy of community philanthropy continues through this toy drive and the annual school supply drive she also created. For more information visit pridecenterflorida.org or call 954.463.9005.
TO DO WHERE TO GO WHAT
W. Palm Beach Annual GreenMarket Every Saturday through April 2013 101 South Flagler Drive • West Palm Beach wpb.org/greenmarket HOLIDAY FANTASY OF LIGHTS Through January 5 • 6PM - 10PM Tradewinds Park 3600 W. Sample Rd. • Coconut Creek, FL $10 per car Mon-Wed $13 per car Thurs-Sun / $35 buses 954.623.6556 • holidaylightsdrivethru.com GARDEN OF LIGHTS Dec 7 - 22 • 5Pm - 7PM 3750 S Flamingo Road • Davie, FL 954-473-2955 • Admission: $5 flamingogardens.org Gay & lesbian lawyers luncheon Dec 12 • 11:30AM The Restaurant • 2004 Biscayne Blvd., Miami RSVP requested to rsvp@gaybizmiami.com or 305-673-4440 annual holiday drag show Dec 13 • 7PM Benefiting The Center Parliament House • Orlando, FL thecenterorlando.org MIAMI CITY BALLET - GEORGE BALANCHINE’S THE NUTCRACKER Dec 14 - 16 • time varies • $20 - $74 Broward Center for the Performing Arts 201 SW 5th Ave • Fort Lauderdale, FL 954.462.0222 native lager tasting Dec 15 • 6PM - 8PM Beach Betty’s • 625 E. Dania Beach Blvd. SEMINOLE HARD ROCK WINTERFEST BOAT PARADE Dec 15 • 6PM 954.767.0686 • winterfestparade.com 25TH ANNUAL LAS OLAS ART FAIR Jan 5 - 6 • 10AM -- 5PM Las Olas Blvd. • Downtown Ft Lauderdale 561.746.6615 • artfestival.com Free and open to the public whoopi goldberg Jan 11 • 8PM West Palm Beach • kravis.org 561.746.6615 • artfestival.com
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feature
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8 TIPS TO
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It’s the beginning of the holiday season and with the holidays comes stress. Each year we feel a mix of joy and anxiety when we approach the days before Thanksgiving. The holidays can bring stress starting in November and go straight through until the New Year. We experience a combination of stressors related to financial costs of the holidays, family coming to stay and the conflicts it may bring, and the stress of trying to have the perfect meal and holiday all together. If you’re one of those people who feel the pressure of the holidays, here are eight tips to help feel balanced, happy and stress free: 1. rememBer What the holidays are really aBout .
Spending quality time with family, friends and loved ones. It’s about giving love and joy to others. Watch your expectation; make sure they are realistic. We try for perfection during the holidays and we tend to forget what the holidays are really about. Remind yourself that the holidays are about being close to your loved ones while everything else come second. 2. take care of you.
During the busy holiday season we forget about ourselves. We worry so much about setting a nice table; buying and cooking the food; decorating the house; buying the presents; etc., we forget to take a time out and spend some quiet time alone. Yes it’s the season of giving to others, but make sure to put yourself on your priority list and put yourself high up on the list. If we aren’t feeling mentally, physically and emotional healthy, how we will be able to have a good holiday? The more time you put aside for you, the healthier and happier you will feel this holiday season. 3. seasonal disorder.
This is just another issue that can affect people during this stressful time. If you know that the cold weather and shorter days affects you and causes you to have negative moods, then do some preventive work. Talk to your doctor about options, seek counseling before the change of weather and holidays start, set up a support system to help when you’re feeling SHE - 16 - 12/12
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down, invest in light boxes and plan a vacation to a warm destination (this will give you something to look forward to). 4. Start early.
Before the holiday season is in full swing, start making your things-to-do lists, start your holiday shopping early this way when the holidays approach you’re not scrambling for presents. Buy wrapping paper, holidays cards, etc. Wrap your gifts as you buy them. Be proactive. Having a lot done ahead of time is a huge stress relief and then you will enjoy going out for any last minute things knowing that the bulk of it is complete. 5. Ask for help.
There is no reason why you have to do everything on your own. Delegate this holiday season. Ask each person who is coming to prepare a dish or a dessert. Make your holidays not about the cooking but more about the socializing. If everyone brings a dish this will make your shopping and cooking much easier. Don’t feel guilty about it. Each year have everyone make it a point to help each other so everyone can enjoy the holidays. This can also be a great way to clean up after the holidays. Delegate the clean up from the dishes to vacuuming the house. If everyone chips in, it won’t be so bad.
things that make us the happiest: good relationships with family and friends, a partner we can share our life with and a full schedule of social activities that involve lots of smiling and laughing. 8. Watch the signs.
Listen to your body. If you are noticing any of the following signs then it’s time to make changes: • Change in sleeping habits • Change in eating habits • Feeling irritable, moody and unhappy • Exhaustion and fatigue • Panic attack symptoms like dizziness, heavy chest, heart racing, headache, feeling nauseous, hot and cold flashes • Physical signs such as headaches, stomachaches, joint pain and low immune system (catching frequent colds and illnesses). These symptoms are all warning signs of too much stress and anxiety in our life. This is a sign to slow down and take a time out.
6. Be up front financially.
Tell family and friends what you can and can’t do early on. If you know this will be a tough financial holiday season, then recommend other options such as: buying for the kids only, a grab bag, the charity option (everyone gives to a charity - whatever they can afford) instead of a gift, play a fun game like Yankee Swap where everyone buys one gift (set a value for it), or learn from our children - homemade gifts! 7. Gratitude.
This is the time of year that we should spend more time counting our blessings, remembering what we have instead of worrying about what we don’t. Instead of “Keeping up with the Jones’s,” take a minute to appreciate the abundance of love, health, family and friends. Teach your kids about abundance. They should know that the most important things in life are the
For more information on Diane Lang or her new book: Creating Balance & Finding Happiness, please visit her website: www.dlcounseling.com
She TALK The Holiday Season is a time that is filled with joy, love, family and friends. It is also one of the most stressful times of the year and for some can be overwhelming. So, we asked some of our readers to tell us what they do to deal with this seasonal stress or the holiday blues. We got some responses that were useful and funny... Chris S: Kick those blues by not sitting
around alone. There are parties, community events, late night shopping and plenty of other ways to get yourself around other people. Of course, there will be some people there that make you want to poke their eye out with a shrimp fork, but you might just have a little fun in the meantime. Ally E: Do what you can—not what you may feel pressured to do. Ericka A: Find something that is your own thing—not the kids, not the partner— your thing. When the pressure hits, do that thing like you’ll never get another chance to do it again! I go running and it frees me! Crystal W: Margaritas! Cheryl M: Find an old friend from your high school days that will roll you a big fat spleef, then take a hit or two every time you start to feel stressed or overwhelmed. Okay, it’s not all that productive, but it will sure make the Doritos taste good. Denise S: S.E.X. Tay D: I find that baking is a great way to relieve stress. Linda N: If its stress, go with the flow, and remember you are not alone. If it’s the blues, get out of the house and into a movie theater. Denise G: I just promise myself that if I make it through Thanksgiving and Christmas without killing someone or having a total meltdown that I will reward myself with a huge blowout on New Year’s Eve! T’Kia L: Remember, no matter how bad you may think you have it, there are people out there who have it much worse than you. Head over to a soup kitchen or someplace where you can volunteer your time to help others over the Holidays. It will help you remember what the season is really all about.
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full house at bang during women’s white party week at score nightclub on lincoln road n miami beach. photos by analia martinez & stephen lang / view more photos at www.shemag.com
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from the cover
It’s been a while since you danced in a club or sang along with “Genie in a Bottle” and “Dirty” at the top of lungs, but Christina Aguilera is back, baby, and her recently released, 17-track new CD, Lotus, will have you shakin’ your stuff once again! Having sold more than 30 million albums
worldwide, Christina has been in the studio, for the past year, working on her highly-anticipated, fifth studio album, which also features collaboration with Aguilera’s The Voice co-star, CeeLo Green, on the song “Make The World Move.” We spoke to Christina a couple of days before her
appearance on the American Music Awards— where she performed a medley from her new album—about motherhood, our community and of course, Lotus. Your new album, and the title track are so unique and catchy, and when you
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listen to the words it speaks of rising up from the pain and broken pieces to create a new beginning. Can you relate to that with this new release?
All the music I write and create stems from personal experience and that is what I draw from. This album represents a rebirth for me. I’m coming from a rough few years. I think anyone that has been through setbacks can relate. Has being a mom changed the way you approach your decisions on projects and career moves?
Absolutely, and that was one of the reasons to take off Season 4 of the show. Having a child changes your ability to just pick up and go on tour for months on end. To me, it is vital that I am the last person Max sees before bed and the first person he sees when he wakes up. Now, that can’t happen every day as any mom knows, but I try my best to be there. It’s important to me not to let the years slip away. They grow up so fast! I loved that you made Chelsea Handler wear one of your outfits during your interview on Chelsea Lately! You take so much heat for your sense of fashion; does that make any difference to you?
I have never been one to shy away from taking chances, and, as a performer, it’s important to me. I can’t be held back by what people may say or think. I adore Chelsea and she looked hot in those booty shorts. Your fan base is so vast, but our LGBT community really connects with you. I can remember when “Beautiful” came out and it became sort of an anthem for us. What kind of impact does that have on you?
I cannot express in words how much the LGBT community means to me. On my darkest day their support lifts me up. I feel honored that some of my songs become anthems for them as well. Gay men flock to you like a moth to a flame. Your music is thumping through gay dance clubs everywhere and lesbians are dying their hair pink and red. Did you ever think you’d be influencing our community like this?
I always felt a connection to those that were more misunderstood. I feel like the community really gets me. They inspire me as well. You’ve been a part of the entertainment industry now since 1992. How different is it today from when you started out?
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...On my darkest day their support lifts me up. I feel honored that some of my songs become anthems for them as well.”
What do you see happening in terms of what audiences are looking for?
So much has changed from what is mainstream these days. I don’t think I will ever fully understand it, but you have to learn to evolve and adapt. Do you ever go back to your earlier work to, as one of your new songs says, “embrace the woman” and entertainer you have become?
Yes. I draw on my earlier work as a building block and a stepping stone to the woman I have become. You need the past to lift you up and remind you of your roots. On The Voice you get to see young, new talent on a regular basis. What does it stir up in you, seeing all those up and comers trying to break into the music scene?
It is so amazing to be a part of someone else’s journey and to know that perhaps one token of advice has helped them become something greater than they were the day before. We’re all well-acquainted with Beverly McClellan, who you worked with during Season One. Do you maintain any contact with your team members and are there any that you continue to work with?
Absolutely. I speak to Bev and I am so proud of the album she put out. I also just spoke to Chris Mann and was actually on his album he released last month. They know that even after they leave the show they will have a fan in me.
You and Adam Levine have this great playful rivalry on the show. What is it like working with him? Does that rivalry continue when the cameras are off?
Adam and I love each other in a very brothersister way. We are both artists and thus emotional, but deep down we only have respect and love for each other. what’s happening in today’s society, right now, that you would consider a turn off or that you want to see change?
I am really disturbed by the bullying of kids. I feel that needs to change. Growing up can be so hard with changes and hormones! The least we can do is be kind to each other. Moving on to your new CD, I have to say, my favorite is “Red Hot Kinda Love.” I am in love with this song! Is there a story behind this song for you?
“Red Hot Kinda Love” is a great track with an old school vibe and beat. It felt very free and carefree to me. Also enjoyed “Army of Me,” “Blank Page” and “Just A Fool.” Which are your favorite songs from this album and why?
I never choose favorites as each track means something different to me. I loved working with Blake on “Just a Fool” and reteaming with Sia on “Blank Page.” You’ve been working on your new album for a year now. Tell us about what Lotus means to you. Does it reflect your private life?
Every album is important to me. If not, why bother making them? They each reflect a part of my life and something personal to me. Can we expect another Spanish album sometime soon?
Absolutely. It is something I have been wanting to do for some time. Tis’ the season! So, what are the holidays like for Christina and Max?
Very festive and very cozy. I love the holidays and all that surround them!
For upcoming appearances and latest info, visit christinaaguilera.com The Voice will be auditioning next year in: Chicago, IL - January 12th-13th / Atlanta, GA - January 19th-20th / Los Angeles, CA - February 2nd-3rd & New York, NY - February 16th17th. For more visit nbcthevoice.com
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SHE GIRL
photos by boi4life.com / more photos at www.shemag.com
sun sign: Cancer and single My occupation: Bartender Dream girl: Open-minded and adventurous, yet responsible
and sweet Dream job: Singer my PET: Chihuahua named Roxy My mother thinks I: am an angel Turn-ons: Pretty smile Turn-offs: Ugly feet Sensitive Body Part: My neck Best quality: Being a great mom have a weakness for: Children my secret fetish: Looking at a girl with beautiful legs and nice buns while she walks around my bed wearing stilettos I like to wear: Sexy panties with nothing else on If you could have one super power, what would it be?: Mindreading, I like to know what people are thinking Your house is on fire, besides a loved one, what is the inanimate object you’d grab?: Family photos and
memoirs The last book I read was: Elvis and Me If my life were made into a movie, my part will be played by: Jennifer Anniston My greatest accomplishment: My son The cartoon character I am most like: Rainbow Bright The weirdest thing I ever ate was: Whole squid my favorite flower: Lily My favorite quote: “Life is not measured by the number of
breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.” My favorite TV show: Parenting, The Voice and The New
Amylia,Orlando, FL
Normal The last movie I went to see was: New Moon 2 Celebrity’s butt I would most like to squeeze: Jennifer
Lopez The strangest place I’ve ever been naked: Haunted
Hospital What breakfast cereal best describes you?: Banana Nut
Crunch My most memorable date: Falling asleep by a lake with black swans after a beautiful dinner and wine The last thing I listened to on my Ipod was: Sarah McLaughlin I just won a million dollars. The FIRST thing I am going to buy is: Beach House for my son and me I first kissed a girl at the age of: 15 If I could have one wish granted, I would wish: The whole world to be free My coming out was: Never an issue for me If you were to become an activist in the LGBT community, which organization would you choose: PGLAF i think the lgbt community needs: Rights for LGBT families and marriage
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travel
Sometimes vacation settings are thrilling, seductive and exotic. Others are calming, idyllic havens for relaxation. Some places feel like home – they remind you of your true self. But it’s rare to find all these qualities in one place, which is why Provincetown, Massachusetts has become a mecca for women who seek destinations that reflect their own sense of being and personality. Long known for its accepting lifestyle, P-Town celebrates the uniqueness of individual spirit and beauty. With the bounding blue Atlantic Ocean and Cape Cod National Seashore embracing its borders, and a long tradition of encouraging free expression as the pilgrims’ first destination in America, Provincetown has earned its reputation as one of the most beloved LGBT vacation spots in the world. Here you can feel new beginnings at the end of the road, a metaphor for why so many return annually for renewal and friendship. Provincetown has the largest percentage of LGBT residents and visitors of any town in America. An eco-cultural wonder with spectacular shorelines, wildlife, beaches, bike paths and sand dunes, P-Town also offers fine dining, authentic local cuisine, shopping, art treasures and a chance to experience the unique and sometimes bizarre in America’s oldest taverns and show rooms. P-Town constantly wins accolades for welcoming the LGBT community. GayCities and PlanetOut have named it the Best Gay Resort Town. Lavender Magazine called it the “Best Summer Vacation Destination” and the Travel Industry Association of America named it a Top Five Gay Destination. If sunbathing on the shore appeals to you, be sure to put Herring Cove or Race Point at the top of your list. They are among the most popular beaches in the world for gays and lesbians. If camping is your adventure, come early before a glorious sunset to pre-arrange clam and lobster bakes in a sandy spot for a romantic picnic or an evening beach party. P-Town has a diverse calendar full of special dates tailored toward women of all ages and interests, including:
•“Single Women’s Weekend” during the third weekend in May (SingleWomensWeekend.Com). Singles can meet, interact and have fun getting to know each other. • Memorial Day Weekend (ProvincetownforWomen.com) brings thousands of women together to jumpstart the summer season with parties, shopping, dancing, barbeques and boating. • Women of Color Weekend (WomenOfColorWeekend.com) takes place the first weekend in June, with special performances, meet-ups and wine tastings. • Girl Splash (girl-spash.com) features well-known entertainers and other star-studded events during the third week of July. • Women’s Week (womensweekprovincetown.com) starts on Columbus Day, bringing together the best performers and comics in lesbian culture today. And if you can’t make it to one of these special events, there’s an afternoon Tea Dance that packs in crowds daily. Nightlife along Commercial Street provides visitors with numerous options to enjoy music, lesbian comedians, drag shows, unique cocktails, meeting new friends from around the world and singing along with a performer who has been at the Keys for more than 50 years. Since same-sex couple marriage was legalized in Massachusetts in 2004, the town has served as the perfect setting for exchanging vows. A common sight is a bike caddy with two brides waving to applauding street crowds as cans clank away. Provincetown is truly like nowhere else and it is the sweet spot for a perfect getaway with diversity as surround sound. Come see why so many have been seduced by its charm and fallen in love in so many ways…and so many times. For more information visit ptowntourism.com
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For the bookworm on your list, check out this design from Carolyn Forsman. Along with a panel stating “I read banned books,” the panels on this elastic bracelet are miniature covers of actual books banned in the U.S., seven in all. Also available in Peace, Frida Kahlo and more. >> Under $30 | carolynforsman.com
The iClooly Phone Handset fits virtually all cell phones, and allows you to watch the screen while talking, texting, or grabbing a last-minute gift online. A slip-proof stand secures your phone vertically or horizontally, while a hole in the bottom lets you plug-in and power up while you use it. It’s the ideal accessory for video chat . Available in black or white. >> Under $50 | amazon.com
ToyRing puts classic ToyWatch styling—vibrant Plasteramic bands, Swarovski crystals, and a 3-hand quartz watch movemen—on your fingers. Each ring watch comes with three interchangeable bands (nestled in a super cool hidden compartment of the box) fitting ring sizes 5.5, 8 and 9.5. It is water resistant. >> $115 | toywatchusa.com
Foodies and cheese lovers will adore the
Roaring Brook Dairy Mozzarella Cheesemaking Kit. Easy to use, includes everything you need but the milk. Makes up to 4 pounds of Mozzarella, comes with rennet, citric acid, cheese salt, gloves, thermometer, and illustrated easy to follow instructions. >> Under $20 | roaringbrookdairy.com
This time of year, everyone is busy hosting parties, wrapping mountains of gifts, and dodging exes with mistletoe. Take care of the desserts with Ch’up Cake, reinvented cupcakes by Sugar Plum Chocolates. Replacing traditional cake with indulgent Belgian milk chocolate, available in Trail Mix, S’mores, Cookies ‘n Cream and Banana Caramel and more, these are sure to be a hit with anyone! >> $6.50 each or $26 for variety pack | sugar-plum.com SHE - 26 21 - 12/12
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Designed to fit a standard wine bottle, simply insert Corkcicle into the bottle’s opening, in place of the cork, and sit and relax as you enjoy your wine at the perfect temperature. Corkcicle is a great idea for a hostess gift as well as something fun for your family and friends. Available in standard cork or cool colors. >> Under $25 | corkcicle.com Looking for the perfect gift for your someone special? An exciting interpretation of Elsa Peretti’s famous heart design, Tiffany & Co. presents The Full Heart Ring. In sterling silver with a round .05 carat brilliant diamond it’s sure to let her know how you really feel. Also available in solid design with no diamond. You can also include the Tiffany Era mini square Love pendant in sterling silver. >> Ring $200-$675 Pendant $175 | tiffany.com
JumpFromPaper is a playful, cartoon-like and innovative line of designer bags and satchels. The bold outlines, bright and vibrant colors will be sure to turn heads and be the talk of the town. Are they real? Yes they’re real. Although slim in appearance, each JumpFromPaper bag has a roomy interior to accommodate an iPad/tablet, book, magazines, and your everyday accessories. A zipper bottom expands the bag for extra room. >> Under $100 | jumpfrompaper.us
Voted Best Tech Toy of the 2012 International Toy Fair, the iBuku Pet turns an iPhone or iPod touch into an interactive toy for kids. Made from a cushy, kid-safe, nontoxic, Phthalate-Free and AZO Dye Free material. The iBuku Pets doll is also washable and easy-to-clean. For additional battery power, iBuku Pets will offer an optional integrated battery back up (sold separately). The free iBuku Apps can be downloaded on iTunes. >> $25 | ibukupets.com SHE - 27 - 12/12
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Butch or femme, we all need a place for our jewelry. The Jacks rings holder, an old school game piece is just an out-of-thejewelry-box idea. Iconic zinc figure with gleaming chrome finish stacks multiple rings on six legs. It measures 2.75”W x 2.5”D x 2.5”H. >> $7.95 | www.cb2.com
Personalize your take-out sushi order for a stay-at-home date with this 2-piece black clothspin chopstick and dunk sushi porcelain plate set (2 black 9” chopsticks, two 7” sq. sushi plates). Reusable acrylic and stainless steel wire clothespin chopsticks, diswasher-safe. There are more shaped plates available if you choose to make it a larger set. Have fun! >> $23.80 | ships free | cb2.com
Make delicious homemade ice cream anywhere in just 20 minutes with the Ice Cream Ball. Fill the bottom of this lightweight ball with ice and rock salt, add ice cream ingredients to the top and just shake. This makes a great gift for kids as well as adults. It is available in green & blue. >> $29.95 | llbean.com
This item is perfect for the sporty girl (or guy) who religiously exercises, at home or gym. Get fit wire-free! The Microfleece Audio Headband Tooks features modular speakers that are hidden within the inner layers of the hat but easily removed for washing. >> $19.99 & $14.99 without headphones tookshats.com
Accesorize like a rock star! Black Woven All Over Guitar, 100% woven polyester fringed scarf >> $14.00 | rockshop.hardrock.com
This is what I call a two-birds-with-one-stone gift. Please someone and support LGBT Equality at the same time! The HRC Military Bag measures 10” x 8”, it is made out of durable canvas, adjustable shoulder strap, buckle closure and the embroidered HRC equal sign. Visit them online as you can get this year’s HRC ornament and other items. >> $19.00 | hrc.org
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The Triple Quick Pop Maker let’s you concoct your own ice pops with the juice or yogurt and mix-ins of your choosing. When it’s time for some frozen fun, simply pour your favorite items into the machine and you’ll be cooling down with your own creations in as little as seven minutes. When you’re done, this compact design stores easily in your freezer. >> Under $50 | bedbathandbeyond.com
For the science-minded, consider the heat sensitive ceramic Thermal Battery Mug. It’s designed to look completely black until you pour in liquid over 96.8°F. Then, by the magic of science, a battery icon appears, charging up and down with green power bars to match the level of your liquid. >> Under $30 | fab.com
Give the gift of creative control with LampIn-A-Box. It allows recipients to design their own lampshade by simply uploading their desired image to the Lamp-In-A-Box website or by choosing one of many of the site’s graphics. All shades are made of eco-friendly 100% biodegradable plastic with a variety of base styles available as well. >> From $27 | lampinabox.com
What better way to feed the soul and spirit than Deepak Chopra’s 21-day Meditation Challenge CDs. 1- 21 Day Meditation Challenge Free to Love 4-CD set: Enjoy the complete collection of acclaimed guided meditations from Deepak Chopra and other Chopra Center master teachers as they share the secrets of enlightened relationships, healthier self-esteem, and living a more joyful life. Each guided meditation is set to gentle, harmonious music with longer time in the stillness. 2- 21 Day Meditation Challenge Mind Body Odyssey 4-CD set: . This progressive three-week set explores the connections between body, mind and spirit and will get you into the best mind-body shape of your life. Awaken your unlimited, creative potential and discover greater happiness and peace of mind. 3- Creating Abundace: Mantras and Music CD. >> $29.99 - $59.99 | store.chopra.com
Sandalwood Wrist Mala & Open The Heart Chakra. >> $8.50 store.chopra.com SHE - 29 - 12/12
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noticias ILGA LAC repudia asesinato lesbofobico en Ecuador ILGA-LAC, la región latinoamericana y caribeña de la Asociación Internacional de Lesbianas, Gays, Bisexuales, Trans e Intersex, que nuclea a 247 organizaciones LGTBI de la Región, expresó su condena por el crimen de la activista lesbiana Karina Torres. Karina fue asesinada el pasado 2 de Noviembre en Azogues, Provincia de Cañar, Ecuador. Era una reconocida activista lésbica del Colectivo “Cuenca Inclusiva”, quien había desarrollado procesos de unión y reivindicación de los derechos LGBT en la Ciudad de Cuenca. Organizaciones ecuatorianas como Silueta X, también han denunciado otros casos de crímenes de odio como el reciente asesinato a
una mujer lesbiana en similares condiciones y los reiterados ataques a la comunidad trans reportados a lo largo de este 2012. ILGA-LAC también hace un llamado a las autoridades ecuatorianas para que desarrollen programas de políticas públicas contra la discriminación a la Comunidad LGTBI. Instamos al Gobierno de la República del Ecuador a poner en plena vigencia el Art. 81 de la Constitución Nacional de 2008 que obliga a establecer “Procedimientos especiales y expeditos para el juzgamiento y sanción de los delitos de violencia intrafamiliar, sexual, crímenes de odio y los que se cometan contra niñas, niños, adolescentes, jóvenes, personas
con discapacidad, adultas mayores y personas que, por sus particularidades, requieren una mayor protección”. ILGA-LAC está atenta a contribuir con las organizaciones locales venezolanas y de América Latina y el Caribe para apoyar todas las acciones políticas necesarias para que estos hechos no se repitan nunca más en la región.
Comunidad gay de Colombia protesto con un “Besatón”
Transexual es elegida concejal en Cuba
El martes 27 de noviembre se llevó a cabo, a partir de las 11 de la mañana, al frente del Capitolio Nacional, una ‘besatón’ en compañía de la comunidad LGBTI, para apoyar el proyecto de ley que busca regular la figura del matrimonio entre parejas del mismo sexo, así como expresar el rechazo frente a las declaraciones hechas por el senador Roberto Gerlein quien dijo a mediados de Noviembre, en un debate sobre el matrimonio gay en el Congreso, que “el sexo entre gays es excremental”, es “sexo estéril, unión estéril y un compartir estéril es algo que no compartimos los conservadores”. El comentario fue repudiado por el Ministerio del Interior. Por su parte, el senador Armando Benedetti dijo que las declaraciones de Gerlein muestran la “rabia y la homofobia que existen en la sociedad colombiana hacia una parte de nuestra población”. El besatón reunió a más de 150 personas en la Plaza de Bolívar, quienes utiliza-
EFE—Le llaman Adela, pero su nombre oficial es José Agustín Hernández. Se declara transexual y vive como mujer en un pueblo del centro de Cuba donde ha sido elegido delegado municipal (concejal), su “mayor victoria” contra todos los “repudios” que dice haber sufrido en sus 48 años.
ron el beso como herramienta de protesta. En Colombia, las parejas homosexuales pueden registrar ante un notario las llamadas “uniones de hecho” o “uniones civiles”, pero sin que ello constituya un “matrimonio” y se disfruten todos los derechos, como el de adoptar. Ya las parejas del mismo sexo, por decisión de la Corte Constitucional desde 2007, pueden heredar, afiliarse al sistema de salud y de pensiones. Aunque no hay cifras oficiales, grupos no gubernamentales como Colombia Diversa, que defiende los derechos de la comunidad LGBT, calcula que al menos entre 8 y 10 por ciento de la población del país de unos 46 millones de personas, sería gay y al menos 300 mil colombianos viven formando parejas del mismo sexo.
En la segunda vuelta de los comicios locales celebrados en Noviembre en Caibarién, un pueblo de la provincia central de Villa Clara, Hernández ganó por 100 puntos de ventaja el puesto de delegado a las Asambleas Municipales del Poder Popular, un caso “inédito” para una transexual de la isla, según algunos activistas cubanos. “Mis dos oponentes eran funcionarios de esa Asamblea y yo soy de la calle, un homosexual abierto que siente como mujer desde que nació y se inyecta hormonas femeninas hace tres años”, dijo Hernández, quien trabaja como técnico de electrocardiogramas en un hospital. Por el momento, Hernández confía en que “la sociedad cubana está más avanzada” y agradece en ese sentido al trabajo del Centro Nacional de Educación Sexual (Cenesex).
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Me sorprendió ver como este año muchas casas fueron decoradas con motivo de Navidad, incluso antes de haber pasado el Día de Acción de Gracias. Algunas tiendas en los centro comerciales tenían ya decoraciones navideñas a principios de Noviembre. ¿Será que estamos deseosos de un pequeño descanso, de dejar las tensiones diarias y con ello las preocupaciones? Seguramente es así. Llegó la época Navideña. Llego la hora de sacar el árbol, las luces y las decoraciones del garaje; llegó la hora de hacer el presupuesto para los regalos; en fin, llegó la hora del festejo para algunos y de la depresión para otros. Gracias a Dios ya pasaron las ansias de las elecciones, ya pasó la fiebre del Power Ball pero todavía, algunas, tenemos en mente el peso de las famosas predicciones Mayas para este próximo 21 de Diciembre. Aunque respeto y gusto mucho de la ciencia que estudia lo sobrenatural, cada mañana cuando despierto y veo el amanecer, me resulta tan difícil la posibilidad de una alinación astral que traiga consigo más desastres naturales. Mientras termina uno y empieza el otro año, al menos hablando del punto personal, en algún momento nos llenamos de nostalgia o hacemos un recuento de lo vivido. Encontramos experiencias buenas y malas. Muchas veces reprochamos las situaciones por las que pasamos, ya sea emocional o quizás financiera. Y es que resulta muy fácil ahogarnos en un vaso de agua, ¿verdad? Muchas
por veronica espinal
veces preferimos ver el vaso vacío a medias que lleno a medias. Hace un par de días me entretuve viendo la repetición del programa de televisión, Extreme Makeover: Home Edition. Por si nunca lo has visto, el programa básicamente escoge familias necesitadas para ayudarles en todo sentido: Casa nueva, carro, dinero y muchas emociones positivas. Son familias donde la madre o el padre han fallecido, o algunos de los padres está deshabilitado, o tienen un hijo/a deshabilitado y no tienen los recursos para sobrevivir. En fin, las situaciones críticas que cualquier cadena de TV busca para mantenernos pegados a la pantalla. Este episodio no era para menos. Mientras veía el programa y las situaciones por las que esta familia pasaba, me preguntaba ¿con que derecho me atrevo a reprochar por tener días malos o situaciones desagradables y dejo de lado lo afortunada que soy de tener lo que tengo? ¿Con que derecho nos atrevemos a ser tan dependientes de lo material cuando en nuestros países Latinos hay niños que buscan comida en los basureros de la ciudad para poder medio-comer? La verdad es que muchas veces somos malagradecidas con la vida y con lo que nos ha permitido lograr. Todas tenemos días de perros, donde todo lo vemos de la manera más negativamente posible. Días de perros. Aunque difícil, la idea es lograr sacar esa negatividad y cada día, cada mañana dar gracias
a Dios—o a la fuerza mayor que prefieras— por el solo hecho de poder abrir los ojos a un nuevo día; dar gracias por tener un techo donde llegar, una cama donde dormir, etc. Quizás deberíamos ser tan agradecidas como los perros que se contentan con tan solo escuchar la voz de su amo. Quizás deberíamos recordar, por más difícil que sea, que cuando se nos cierra una puerta, se nos abren dos. Se acerca el fin de uno y el comienzo del Nuevo Año. La idea es aprender de los errores y evitar los futuros malos momentos. La idea es apreciar a quien tenemos a nuestro alrededor y dejar de lado a aquellos que no aportan a nuestro crecimiento personal. La idea es no reprochar y ver el lado amable de cada situación. No es algo fácil—¡vaya sí lo sé!— pero seremos mejores personas en la lucha por lograrlo. Este año mientras hagas tus compras navideñas, asegúrate de comprar uno o varios regalos para donarlo a aquellos niños que no tienen posibilidades. Llama a tu GLCC (Gay & Lesbian Community Center) local.¡Hazlo! No tienes idea de la enorme satisfacción que sentirás. Si tenemos la opción a diario de hacer borrón y cuenta nueva ante los malos momentos y errores, entonces, ¿de qué quejarnos? Mira a tu alrededor y piensa que siempre, siempre, hay quienes están en peor situación que la tuya, siempre. ¡Feliz Navidad y un mejor Año 2013!
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Born This Way by Paul Vitagliano Born This Way: Growing Up Gay, based on the groundbreaking and popular blog of the same name, is the perfect holiday gift for the pop culture lover in your life. At once a declaration of self-acceptance and a charming picture book of tots who grew up to be LGBT or Q, Born This Way is heart warming and adorable. The photos date from the 1940s to present day, a powerful and timeless reminder that we should never stop celebrating the child within.
Around Ybor City in Tampa, FL • December ‘11
Yours For the Asking by Kenna White This sweet and gentle holiday romance by Lambda Literary Award Winner Kenna White tells the story of two lesbian sisters: sensible Lauren runs her own bed-and-breakfast while her vibrant younger sister Kelly has a habit of stealing Lauren’s girlfriends. When the sisters fall for the same woman, Lauren must decide if she’s going to let history repeat itself.
Trevor by James Lecesne Trevor is based on the 1994 Academy Award winning Live Action Short of the same name and is the brainchild of author and Trevor Project co-founder James Lecesne. Lecesne, who originally presented the skit that would become Trevor as part of his Drama Desk award winning one-man show, Word of Mouth, gives us a short and compelling novella of “love, loss, and Lady Gaga” that is rich with wit and humor. Trevor, a charming and exuberant thirteen-year-old boy, plans Lady Gaga-inspired Halloween costumes. On the other hand, he struggles with issues of self-acceptance as his peers bully him and his parents misunderstand him. Trevor is moving, funny, and brave – the perfect book for anyone who has dared to be different – and thrived.
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scopes AQUARIUS JAN 21 - FEB 19
leo July 23 - aug 22
You’ve been all work and little to no play lately. That’s about to change as you’re transformed into the social, party animal you really are. You’re the center of attention wherever you go. Your gift of gab will have everyone convinced to follow wherever you lead, so make sure you know where you’re going. Take the time to recharge your energy. Make changes to assure success.
The Universe is gifting you with a very beneficial energy boost, just in time to enjoy all the invitations to come out and play with all your near and dear. Your life feels like you’re on fast forward; zooming here and there, enjoying romantic-comedy-adventures. Just remember to recharge your batteries once in a awhile. It’s important to keep your good mood even if those around you tip out of control.
pisces feb 20 - mar 20 You’re busy burning the candle at both ends as you try to take care of business and take advantage of all the party invitations coming your way. Don’t get overwhelmed with all you have to do and don’t get too emotional about what you won’t be able to do. Turn every social occasion into a networking opportunity. Share your goals with those who are in a position to help you achieve them.
virgo aug 23 - sept 23
aries mar 21 - apr 20
libra sept 24 - oct 23
You’re full of imaginative ideas and enthusiasm about how you can move your agenda forward, while still being mindful of the wants and needs of your significant others. Enjoy socializing; just make sure you take some much needed time for yourself to reenergize and to make decisions for your future.
You’re optimistic, impulsive and more than ready to party. Stalled energies suddenly leap forward so be ready to hit the floor running. Your energy is contagious and everyone wants some of it, so be sure to recharge every now and again. If tensions arise, or if there are sudden disruptions to your plans, just rise above it. Don’t allow anything spoil your time.
taurus apr 21 - may 21
scorpio oct 24 - nov 22
The energies this month are very optimistic, however you’ll still need to be practical about your finances. Do your due diligence before you commit your resources. You’ll have plenty of energy to do what you both need to do as well as what you really want to do, like enjoying the seasonal socializing. Don’t pass up any opportunity to network yourself, your ideas, and your skills and services.
Your focus is still on your job and your finances. You’re committed to fulfilling your obligations, however, you’re also looking forward to attending all the holiday parties. You can combine business with pleasure by using each gathering to network yourself, your ideas, as well as your skills and services. Avoid engaging in debates or power struggles. Don’t let circumstances try your patience or ruin your good mood.
gemini may 22 - june 21
sagittarius nov 23 - dec 21
You’re looking forward to all the festivities of the season, especially reconnecting with those who have mattered to you in your life. Your energy and your happy optimism are contagious and everyone wants to come along to wherever you’re going. Just make sure you pace yourself as you eat, drink and make merry. Find simple solutions. Don’t engage in power struggles.
Your self-confidence is high and your can-do attitude will help you reinvent yourself into the new, improved version of you. You’ll be able to manifest your fondest hopes and dreams into actual reality with your determination to successfully achieve the goals you’ve set for yourself. Have patience and keep the faith as you put your best foot forward. Show the world how incredible you really are.
cancer June 22 - july 22
capricorn dec 22 - jan 20
Your spirits are high and it has more to do with all the parties and sharing the good times than with the amount of spirits you’re imbibing. Family and friends mean everything to you. Giving and receiving presents is nice, too, but don’t go crazy showing your love with your credit cards. You have the gift of renewed faith and optimism and it’s contagious, infecting everyone you meet with happiness and hope.
You may wish there were two of you now—one to handle your financial and work responsibilities and another to party with your friends and family. Issues and people from the past will give you the opportunity to reclaim your power. Make appropriate changes in order to ensure your future success and happiness. Take some much need alone time to sort through conflicting needs, wants and emotions.
You are torn between your obligations at home, your responsibilities at work and your own needs. You’ll need to budget your time, energy and finances in order to truly get the most out of the season. Give more of yourself but don’t go crazy with the plastic. Santa may gift you with more financial opportunities so be ready to open the door when opportunity knocks.
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