She Magazine—Sept '15

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DIRECTOR’S CHAIR About 13 years ago, I made a trip to the doctor to have an EKG done, because I was concerned that I might be inadvertently following in the footsteps of my father, who had suddenly died of a heart attack. I was right around the same age he was when he had his first heart attack, and his sudden death with the second one, over a decade later, made me a bit paranoid.

At the doctor’s office, I remember being concerned that my [then] wife would be worried if I brought her into the room with me for the exam. When you are going in for heart related tests, the last thing you want to do is have the added stress of worry about your beloved being worried about you. So, instead, I chose to bring my mother into the room and asked my wife to wait in the lobby.

When the doctor came in, I introduced my mom and told him that my wife of three years was in the lobby. He looked at me, clearly puzzled. The next thing I knew, I was educating this doctor about domestic partnership and explaining that even though our marriage wasn’t considered legal, it was my firm belief that, with as much as I paid for our ceremony and reception, I had legitimately bought and paid for the words “married” and “wife.”

Once that was clear, we moved on to the question and answer period of the exam, where he went down a list of standard questions including the date of my last period, if I was pregnant, how much I smoke, etc. After what seemed like a list of about 40-plus questions, he stopped suddenly, took a quick breath and just looked at me.

Thirty seconds of staring and crickets later, I said, “What?”

He looked at me. He looked at my mom. He looked at me. He looked at my mom and looked at me again, seemingly stuck.

“What?” I asked again Slowly, he held up the questionnaire, so that only I could see it, and pointed with his pen to the question, “How often do you have sex?”

Realizing this was a question that he believed was not appropriate to ask me in front of my mother, I laughed quietly and said, “I told you, Doc, I’m married.” And without even a split second of hesitation he replied, “Ah, okay. Once a month.”

It was at that point that he and I both realized that, regardless of sexuality, some issues truly are universal.

See you next month!

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in this issue

september 2015 / volume 17 / issue 8

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16 features 14 U.S. LGBT Shoppers Make More Trips, Spend More Than Average According to a recent Nielsen report, LGBT households spent an average of $4,135 at retail stores in 2014—7% more than non-LGBT households.

16 HILARY DUFF “I don’t need to be no. 1. I need to just do things that fulfill me and make me happy and hopefully connect with people at a certain level.”

20 JUST 4 FUN “This emotion runs through Danny and the entire community of young gays, lesbians and drag queens who populate the Stonewall Inn and erupts in a storm of anger...”

27 TOMBOYS WIN! The two-year-old company won a check for $10,000 against two other start-ups in a shark tank-like contest. TomboyX also will receive a $20,000 brand positioning package from BRANDING FOR THE PEOPLE.

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Right Here Right Now from Jordin Sparks, is her third studio album marks the first release with Louder Than Life/Red Associated Labels. “Silhouette” showcases Sparks’ smooth, R&B sound to perfection, while the single “It Ain’t You” tells off guys who just aren’t worth the time. This song, in a slightly different version, debuted on Sparks’ VEMO channel in late 2014. Sparks has come a long way from her teenage years. There’s more than a spark of passion in Right Here Right Now.

Available now from Wolfe Video is Of Girls and Horses, which follows rebellious teen Alex who is sent to a German horse farm. Once there, she gradually falls in love with both the horses, and with Nina, the riding instructor who tries to help Alex find maturity and calm. In comes Kathy, a young equestrian. From prolific lesbian filmmaker Monika Treut comes this gentle, passionate and riveting drama about finding your own way of life. With Ceci Chuh, Vanida Karun, Alissa Wilms.

Oh, Ryan Murphy. When you’re not making us weep over Glee or binge watch American Horror Story, you’re creating Scream Queens (Fox, Sept. 22, 8 pm), a horror-comedy anthology series starring Lea Michele, Emma Roberts, and Jamie Lee Curtis. Centered on a series of murders at a sorority house, Scream Queens promises the same clever, pop-culture mashups and addictive plotlines as AHS, only with the added bonus of a weekly murder. With Abigail Breslin.

Ivy Levan’s No Good drops on Sept. 18. “The Dame Says,” “27 Club,” and “No Good” were the precursors to the rest of this fantastic album, which features Sting on “Killing You.” The powerful, passionate, sometimes playful music on No Good only contributes to the body of work on her 2013 EP Introducing the Dame, which made waves in the music community. Her dark smoky sound channels a strong, generations-past swagger that makes No Good something very good indeed.

About Ray opens Sept. 18 and follows Ray (previously known as Ramona), a teenager who is coming to grips with really being a boy inside. As Ray begins to pursue his true male identity, family and friends struggle to accept who he really is. Susan Sarandon as Ray’s lesbian grandmother struggles the most with the transition, while Naomi Watts as Ray’s mother worries for his safety. The performances are stellar and the script is real; we need more groundbreaking films like this.

Blindspot, NBC’s new action-conspiracy drama (Sept. 21, 8 pm), stars Jaimie Alexander as the mysterious tattooed Jane Doe found naked in Times Square. Sullivan Stapleton is the FBI agent trying to help her recover her lost identity. The catch? The FBI learns that each one of her many tattoos contains a clue to a crime, and one of those fresh tattoos is Kurt Weller’s name. Since Jane has many, tattoos, it should keep the FBI busy for at least one full season.

NOT TO BE MISSED: After 15 seasons, the case is finally closed for CSI, but the landmark series ends with a finale movie (CBS, Sept. 27, 8 pm). Original stars Marg Helgenberger and William Peterson return for the two hour movie finale, while Ted Danson will move over to the spinoff series, CSI: Cyber. she 10 09.15

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in the news U.S. LGBT Shoppers Make More Trips, Spend More Than Average

CURTAIN TO RISE ON MiFo LGBT FILM FESTIVAL, October 9 – 18/Ft. Lauderdale

What’s the next big thing? It’s a question retailers, manufacturers and marketers ponder incessantly so they can be at the forefront of growth with the latest innovations, media and consumer groups. And when it comes to looking for trendsetters in these areas, they would be wise to take note of American lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) households.

Not only do LGBT households make 10% more shopping trips in a year than the average U.S. household, recent Nielsen research has found that they buy more at checkout. In aggregate, LGBT households spent an average of $4,135 at retail stores in 2014—7% more than non-LGBT households.

Where are LGBT Consumers Shopping?

LGBT consumers are spending more at specialty retailers than the average U.S. consumer, with bookstores leading the pack. In fact, they were 72% more likely to have purchased something from a bookstore in 2014. And what’s more, LGBT shoppers who visited a bookstore made twice as many trips as non-LGBT consumers. But LGBT consumers aren’t just bookworms. For example, liquor and convenience stores are high-ranking outlets.

Not all specialty stores are on LGBT consumer’s radar, however. There are some retail outlets they’re less likely to shop at, such as toy stores.

What are LGBT Consumers Buying?

But understanding shopping behavior hinges on knowing more than just where consumers shop. For example, LGBT households are 32% more likely to shop at pet stores, but they also outspend the general public when they make their trips. Notably, households in this consumer group spent an average of $126 on pet care products and $255 on pet food last year, 36% and 20% more than the average household, respectively.

The LGBT community is a significant contributor to the U.S. economy, and savvy retailers should plan their shelf space accordingly. For additional insights visit nielsen.com

The newly named MiFo LGBT Film Festival kicks off its Fort Lauderdale edition October 9, 2015 with two weekends of dramas, comedies and documentaries that touch upon various aspects of LGBT life.

The 2015 MiFo Festival in Fort Lauderdale will take place on Friday, October 9 through Sunday, October 11; and on Thursday, October 15 through Sunday, October 18. Screenings will be held at the Classic Gateway Theatre, 1820 East Sunrise Boulevard; Cinema Paradiso, 503 SE 6th Street; and Opening Night at the NSU Art Museum Fort Lauderdale.

There is meaning and momentum behind the new moniker. “MiFo” joins together the Miami and Fort Lauderdale LGBT film festivals under one umbrella and one brand name, to solidify South Florida’s leadership position in LGBT film and media. The Miami Festival recently celebrated its 17th year with record attendance, while Fort Lauderdale enters its 7th solid year with an unprecedented 45 films.

GREATER FORT LAUDERDALE TO WELCOME SOUTHERN COMFORT TRANSGENDER CONFERENCE Greater Fort Lauderdale will welcome the 25th Annual Southern Comfort Conference to its sunny shores this year, a first-time honor for Florida. The destination will host the conference, one of the largest gatherings of the transgender community in the world, for the next three years. The four-day conference, held at the Bonaventure Resort & Spa from September 29 through October 3, 2015, anticipates 1,000 attendees including partners, spouses, family members and trans individuals. In addition to attending seminars, workshops and networking events, participants will cruise, golf, dance, and enjoy gourmet food, nightlife and entertainment throughout Broward County. Broward County native, LGBTQ rights activist and teen trans role model Jazz Jennings will deliver the keynote speech during this year’s conference. southerncomfortconference.org

To foster this progressive environment and rebranding effort, MiFo has appointed Victor M. Gimenez as its new Executive Director. “Victor brings together business expertise, film knowledge and activism at this consequential time,” said Mark Gilbert, MiFo Board Chair. “He will continue moving MiFo forward as one major South Florida brand.”

“Both Miami and Fort Lauderdale festivals have earned widespread acclaim individually,” said Gimenez. “Together under one brand we will continue to grow exponentially, thanks to their combined size and the benefits of combined marketing efforts.”

Look for updates at MiFofilm.com or Facebook at /mifofilmfest.

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SAVE NAMES MIAMI LGBTQ ACTIVIST ELIZABETh REGALAdO AS FIRST WOMAN TO ChAIR BOARd OF dIRECTORS SAVE recently announced that Elizabeth ‘Liz’ Regalado has assumed the chairmanship of the organization’s Board of Directors. She is the first woman in SAVE’s two decades of history to chair the organization’s leadership.

In response to the appointment, Liz expressed how proud she is to have celebrated many great hard fought victories during her 11-year tenure on the Board, but looked to challenges ahead.

“We have much work to do in order to achieve full equality in the workplace and beyond, not just for LGBTQ Floridians, but also for women, minorities, and the disadvantaged, which count among their ranks a disproportionate number of LGBTQ people in need of help,” she said.

Regalado brings to the helm of SAVE a background in social services administration. In her most recent position as Assistant Executive Director of the Miami-Dade County Homeless Trust, Liz’s role was to assist the Trust by managing the processes of planning, funding, assessing, engaging and placing individuals and families experiencing homelessness into housing and services.

Liz has served in various other capacities within county government, including but not limited to, the design and implementation

of the Social Services Master Plan; the Census 2000 Outreach Campaign; oversight of programs providing a variety of housing and services to those living with HIV/AIDS, substance use and abuse, and behavioral health disorders, survivors of domestic abuse and violence, and hurricane recovery. In 2014, Regalado retired after thirty-seven years of service to Miami Dade County’s most vulnerable and marginalized residents.

In addition to her record of service to the County, Regalado has served on SAVE’s Board of Directors, most recently in the role of Secretary, for the last eleven years. SAVE looks forward to implementing her vision for the organization over the coming election cycle and the months ahead.

“The change in leadership will start a new era here at SAVE,” said SAVE Executive Director Tony Lima. “Liz’s plans for her tenure as Chair of SAVE’s Board of Directors are nothing short of visionary, and I couldn’t be more optimistic for the future of equality for our local LGBTQ community.”

Congratulations Liz!

MAKING ELEMENTARY SCHOOLS MORE LGBTQ INCLUSIVE THIS SCHOOL YEAR While children across the country are going back to school, HRC Foundation’s Welcoming Schools works year round to make school more LGBT-friendly. Welcoming Schools is an LGBT-inclusive approach to addressing family diversity, gender stereotyping and bullying in K-5 schools. The program provides tools, lessons and resources for administrators, educators and parents/guardians to fully engage the entire school community. Welcoming Schools aims to stop bias and bullying and to create a positive school climate where all students are welcomed and respected.

Additionally, the program has trainers and consultants located throughout the United States that work to determine appropriate first steps for every community. WELCOMINGSChOOLS.ORG

WhAT TO dO, WhERE TO GO DINE OUT LAUDERDALE

Sept. 1 - Oct. 12 various restaurants sunny.org/restaurants MIAMI SPICE

through Sept. 30 various restaurants ilovemiamispice.com TAMpA INTERNATIONAL GL FILM FESTIVAL 26 LAUNCh pARTy

Sept. 12 • 7pm - 9:30pm Salvador Dalí Museum • 1 Dali Blvd.

St. Petersburg, FL • tiglff.com ZEBRA COALITION GALA, SUppORTING LGBT & hOMELESS yOUTh

Sept 12 • 7pm - 11pm Rosen Shingle Creek, 9939 Universal Blvd.

Orlando, FL • zebrayouth.org

AMAZING RACE ORLANdO

Sept 12 • 10am The Hammered Lamb 1235 N Orange Avenue, Orlando glbcc.org ART OF WINE & FOOd SERIES: WINE dOWN UNdER

Sept 17 • 6pm - 8pm Nova Southeastern Museum One East Las Olas Boulevard Fort Lauderdale, FL 33301 nsuartmuseum.org CELEBRATING CELIA!

September 19 • 8pm Knight Concert Hall • Downtown Miami arshtcenter.org 3Rd ANNUAL pINK FLAMINGO AWARdS

September 24 • 7pm – 10pm

Miami Beach Convention Center 1901 Convention Center Drive, Miami Beach gogaymiami.com SOFITEL MIAMI 1ST ANNUAL LGBT BRIdAL ShOWCASE

September 27 • 1pm – 4pm 5800 Blue Lagoon Drive Miami, FL 33126 sofitelmiamiweddings.com CELEBRATE ORGULLO CARNAVAL Oct 3 • 12pm – 8pm Museum Park • 1075 Biscayne Blvd., Miami celebrateorgullo.com ThE 4Th ANNUAL BLACK ANd WhITE GALA Oct 4 • 7pm - 11pm Orlando Museum of Art 2416 North Mills Ave • thecenterorlando.org

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on the cover

by chris azzopardi / photos by ben cope

“I don’t need to be no. 1. i need to just do things that fulfill me and make me happy and hopefully connect with people at a certain level.”

“I’m like the dorky kid on the bus who’s like, ‘Hiiii.’”

Wait a minute. Is that you, Lizzie McGuire? Maybe? No. It’s Hilary Duff, razzing on her cold-ridden, congested-sounding self as she does a nasally nerd impression. And though Duff is known to millennials (and their moms) for originating the dorky Disney icon in 2001—which, she admits during our interview, has been “torturous”—the 27-year-old is ready to move on. Actually, she’s been ready. It’s the rest of the world that just can’t seem to let Lizzie go.

During an insightful and surprisingly candid conversation, Duff spoke about her career as a whole just hours following June 26’s landmark Supreme Court ruling, which granted full marriage rights to LGBT Americans. The child star-turned-music maker also talked about her latest album, Breathe In. Breathe Out., eight years in the making; the long break she took to find her true self; and not knowing how to be a “totally normal girl who doesn’t give a f*ck.”

You’re a longtime ally of the LGBT community and you also have many gay friends, so you must have been thrilled about the Supreme Court ruling on marriage equality. What does that momentous moment mean to you?

Oh my gosh. I’m so excited. What a big day. It’s a huge step toward equality. Everyone should be able to be who they are, love who they want and marry who they want. It’s 2015; for us to still have judgment about people being gay is ridiculous, so I can’t believe it’s taken this long.

It’s definitely a big day in history and I’m just so excited.

Considering you’re not feeling well, you probably won’t be celebrating just yet.

Actually, I do have a party happening at my house tonight for my assistant / best friend.

We just worked through her birthday during album release week and I feel so bad, so we’re finally celebrating at my house tonight. But we’ll be celebrating [marriage equality] as well, I’m sure. It definitely deserves a big toast. Do you have a partner?

I don’t have a partner, no. Is being on Tinder key to finding “the one”? Perhaps you can give me some dating advice. What are Hilary Duff’s tips for finding a husband?

(Laughs) Obviously, I haven’t been so lucky.

No—I don’t know. I would not, uh—I would not

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Get social with hilary hilaryduff.com @hilaryduff /hilaryduff

go with me on Tinder. I don’t know! God. Geez.

Maybe the right thing will be in the air tonight.

Lately you’ve been a Tinder enthusiast; have you experienced Grindr?

Well, I haven’t physically actually experienced it, like I don’t have it on my phone or anything, but it’s basically the same thing as Tinder, right? I know because my makeup artist, who’s one of my best friends, has used Grindr a lot and he’s told me all about it. I get to hear all the stories.

And what are those stories?

(Laughs) I mean, I don’t wanna put him on blast. You know what’s crazy is, I feel like you guys hook up a lot more freely. I don’t know if that’s just me because I’m a little more cautious, I guess. I don’t know what it’s like to be a totally normal girl who doesn’t give a f*ck about anything.

Because of your celebrity status?

I think so, yeah. And also, I’m a mom and I’ve always been a relationship girl. I’m always surprised when he’s like, “Yeah, I was just in France and I met a dude on Grindr and went over to his house,” and like, they got it done.

I’m so fascinated by it.

Are you still on Tinder?

I’m not still using it. It was really fun for me for a minute; I wanted to experience something totally normal and also shock people.

No one thought I was really on it—and I was really on it! So I integrated that into my video (for “Sparks”) and showed a side of me that’s really real, really normal. I strive for normalcy in my life every day.

Do your gay friends ever set you up?

Not so much. We go out a lot together, but honestly, when I go out I’m not on the prowl.

I just wanna go out and have a good time and a lot of times I feel like having someone I don’t know around would interfere with that. I only have a certain amount of time to enjoy myself.

What’s a good night for you?

Being with four or five really good friends that all know each other, so we all have a lot in common. Laughing a lot, having a few drinks and maybe dancing a little bit. Having a good meal.

A lot of times we go to the Hollywood Bowl— that’s always a good time for me. There’s something about that place that’s magic. will you be touring for this record?

It’s been too long.

Yes, I will tour. It took me so long to make my record because it wasn’t where it needed to be. When I started making the record, I wasn’t like, “I have to get it out at this time”; I was like, “It’s gotta be right—after seven years, why be in a rush now?”

Halfway through the process of making my record I signed onto the show Younger (on TV Land) and that was really good for me because I think it helped get me out of—you know when you just need to shake it up? I was terrified. My son had just started school and obviously I was going through a separation and I was like, “I can’t just up and continue work,” and then I was like, “Actually, I can and I’m going to.” This is a great project and I love New York. It was really good for me.

I put a pause on the record and then came back to it after Christmas; it was a great thing for me. It helped turn the record into a proper direction. So, now, Younger got picked up for a second season. I’ll shoot from September until December and then I’ll tour after Christmas.

Oh my gosh. I would be so accepting. I just had a long conversation with one of my adult friends who has grown children who are about to go off to college, and he’s like, “I haven’t really had this conversation yet,” and I’m like, “You better do it now because if a kid doesn’t feel accepted by his family, and they’re getting ready to move into a new town, it will just create a divide. He’ll go find his life and you won’t be a part of that. He’ll go find where he is accepted.”

A world tour?

I think it’ll be a world tour. I don’t know if I can set it up like how I used to for five months at a time. Obviously, my child is my number one priority, but I think I can do a month at a time and then come back and then go back out for a month. And it’ll have to be a world tour because some of my biggest markets are in South America and Australia and Asia, so we’ll see. No promises, but that’s what I want to happen.

Your 3-year-old son, Luca, is so cute, by the way. If he were to come out to you one day, what would you tell him?

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Ah, it could almost make me cry. I feel like... that must be such a lonely place if you don’t feel accepted by your family. I can’t imagine. So, 100 percent, I feel like I would notice all the signs and be the first one to bring it up if I had to. I would want him to wholeheartedly be himself and know that that was accepted by me.

What advice do you have for youth who want to pursue showbiz?

Honestly, I don’t know. It’s a really hard road, to be honest. To make a transition from that is… I feel like even more so now than it was, your youth is totally taken away. You see these girls dressing like they’re 20 when they’re 14. With Instagram and all this—it’s a youth-sucker. Being 14 in 2015 is intense. I don’t know what I would’ve been like if I had all those outlets to pay attention to and all that babble sh*t. It’s kind of scary. It scares me raising my kid.

The industry is very fickle, and you just do what you can and know that all this stuff doesn’t mean anything. I mean, obviously, appreciate the opportunities and work hard, but there’s so much more to life. This industry is a tough one to crack, but then I look at someone like Miley, and as crazy as people might think the whole thing is, I commend her.

She’s so wholeheartedly being herself and is unapologetic about that and she’s doing a great job.

but that’s one thing that has really tied us together and why I’ve kept fans for such a long time who have really followed my career and stuck by me and grown up with me.

In what regard was being Lizzie McGuire “torturous”?

I don’t think during the filming it was torturous. I loved it during the filming. I just didn’t know what a success the show was gonna be, and after that—four years, five years after that—and I was still Lizzie McGuire to people and that was super annoying. Now it’s not. I don’t care now. I’m grateful for it.

What would Lizzie be like now as an adult?

She’d be pretty rad. She would have stayed in school a little bit longer, and I feel like she’d be a sous chef or working at an archi-tectural firm trying to make her way up but still f*cking up at all times. (Laughs) I feel like she’d be cool—she wasn’t always a nerd! She was just, like, a nice girl. I feel like she’d still be that same way, but I think she would be getting drunk and doing normal things that everybody does.

Is getting drunk a normal thing you do?

Yeah, on occasion, of course.

You gotta let your hair down every once in a while.

After Lizzie McGuire, was it hard to make the next move? Is it still hard to make the next move?

By just being herself, she’s become an idol for the queer community. She loves who she loves unapologetically, and that’s a huge statement, don’t you think?

It is hard. Instead of me trying to calculate how to do it and how to be successful at it—a lot of people chose different ways than I did, like Lindsay Lohan and the Olsen twins and even Miley Cyrus—I just chose to bow out for a minute.

Yeah, I do. And she’s wickedly talented, so there’s that. As much as people wanna hate on her for wearing this or doing that or whatever it is people hate on her for, I think she gets the last laugh. At the end of the day, her talent backs it all up. I don’t always relate to everything that she’s doing, but I love that she’s unapologetically herself.

Why bow out?

Your show, Younger, revolves around a single mom who realizes the effect age has on starting a new career. But how about maintaining a career, because you started young? You’ve been in this business for more than half your life. From your own experience, what is it like to maintain relevancy in an ever-changing business like show business?

Yeah, gosh. There is no secret code that works, as lovely as that would be. I think I have a few things working in my favor. As tor-turous as it has been at some points in my life to be Lizzie McGuire, I think that when that show came out, it was such a part of who I was, I didn’t feel like I was playing a part. The writers all knew me so well and were writing things that were happening in my life and things that I would say, and I was dressing exactly like I wanted. It was so me.

For whatever reason, that show grabbed people at a time in their life when they really needed her or related to her, so obviously I think I got a lot of fans from that who followed me into my music career. I’ve always been a very open and reachable person for them to relate to,

I really needed it personally.

I grew up in the spotlight and on tour and with everyone just knowing me and knowing me a certain way. At some point I was like, “I don’t even know if I’m that person anymore, and I don’t even have the time to figure that out.”

I was just making records and touring and making movies, and then doing it all over again. I basically did a cycle of that four times, and by the end of it, I was like, “I’m done. I don’t enjoy this anymore. I’m not who I wanna be.”

So, I just took a break. Everyone thought I was just absolutely nuts because I was really successful and making a lot of money. And it was scary, because there was no guarantee that my career was still gonna be there. I think, personally, it was very healthy, and I’m proud of where I am now. My new record being top 5 on Billboard after working on it for eight years—I’m proud of that. I don’t need to be No. 1. I need to just do things that fulfill me and make me happy and hopefully connect with people at a certain level.

Desperation is a dangerous road, isn’t it?

Yeah. And having a child, too, puts a lot into perspective. I’m definitely grateful to still have a spot, and I wanna be an actress too and do a show. I can’t be where I used to be. I just have to be who I am now and be grateful for that. It’s good. I’m happy.

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To commemorate 2015 as a year of awakening, The Peace Store in Key West, Florida has released a unique “LOVE WINS” t-shirt design, drawing from the online viral response to the U.S. Supreme Court’s ruling on marriage equality. With a portion of proceeds dedicated to Luci’s Fund for unsheltered animals and lost pets, the “LOVE WINS” slogan is right for all segments of society who view individual liberties, the right to love, and a dedication to peace something worth shouting about. For more information on the new “LOVE WINS” active wear, visit thepeacestore.net In perhaps the queerest album ever recorded, the awardwinning Lea DeLaria croons the hits of David Bowie on House of David: delaria + bowie = jazz. From “Young Americans” to “Space Oddity,” our very own Orange is the New Black’s Big Boo swaggers her way through Bowie’s gender-bending best.

It’s guaranteed to make any inmate of Litchfield want to experience “Modern Love.” (See what we did there?) DeLaria + Bowie = delicious. Out now.

STONEWALL is a drama about a fictional young man caught up during the 1969 Stonewall riots. Danny Winters (Jeremy Irvine) is forced to leave behind friends and loved ones when he is kicked out of his parent’s home and flees to New York. Alone in Greenwich Village, homeless and destitute, he befriends a group of street kids who soon introduce him to the local watering hole The Stonewall Inn; however, this shady, mafia-run club is far from a safe-haven. As Danny and his friends experience discrimination, endure atrocities and are repeatedly harassed by the police, we see a rage begin to build. This emotion runs through Danny and the entire community of young gays, lesbians and drag queens who populate the Stonewall Inn and erupts in a storm of anger. With the toss of a single brick, a riot ensues and a crusade for equality is born. In theaters on Sept. 25.

Talk about an amazing team-up! Free2Luv, Lambda Literary, New Millennium Writings, and actress Thea Gill are coming together to host an amazing essay competition to celebrate the historic SCOTUS ruling! The Love Wins Essay Contest winner will be chosen by Guest Judge and Free2Luv Celebrity Ambassador Thea Gill, actress, singer and LGBTQ activist, best known for her starring role in the landmark Showtime television series Queer as Folk. Ms. Gill will choose the top winner from selected finalists, and the winner will be announced on October 11th — National Coming Out Day, receive $1,000 and publication in the NMW anthology and on their website.

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SHE GIRL

cynthia // miami, fl // virgo

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Relationship Status: Single Dream Girl: One with kind eyes, constructive hands, passionate lips and an ambitious soul.

Dream Job: Stem Cell Researcher by day, poet by night.

My occupation: Office manager and surgical assistant Turn-ons: Confidence reinforced by intelligence Turn-offs: A woman who doesn’t read or cannot hold a conversation.

Sensitive Body Part: My neck.

My Best Quality: My open-mindedness. I will never judge someone. my mother thinks i: Can achieve anything I set my mind to.

Secret Fetish: Swords I have a weakness for: Penetrating eyes and a coy smile.

I like to wear: As little as possible.

If you could have one super power, what would it be and why?: To fly, because I cannot think of any greater gratification than to be able to manifest my freedom in the physical world.

What breakfast cereal best describes you?

Fruit Loops If my life were made into a movie, my part will be played by: Michelle Rodriguez most memorable date: Sneaking into different luxurious hotels on the beach at night with a guitar pretending to be hotel guests and randomly playing and singing around the pool deck or bars while strangers would gather and sing along. Later we grabbed a bottle of wine and went skinny dipping in the ocean while admiring the stars.

The cartoon character I am most like: Dexter from Dexter’s Laboratory The strangest place I’ve ever been naked: The roof of Vizcaya French Fries, French Vanilla, French Toast or French Manicure? French Kiss My greatest accomplishment: My independence I first kissed a girl at the age of: 20 my favorite quote: “A great artists is always before her time or behind it.”

The weirdest thing I ever ate was: Things while vacationing in Thailand that I will never, ever know what they were.

My favorite TV show: Californication If I could have one wish granted, I would wish: That profit maximization at the expense of all else becomes a thing of the past. When we learn to prioritize morality over personal interests, compassion and love will spread like wildfire.

My favorite flower: Wildflowers I just won a million dollars. The first thing I am going to buy is: A yacht to travel the world.

My coming out was: Accidental but to my surprise, very well received with unconditional love from my family.

I think the LGBT community needs: More creative selfexpression, more soul. The boldness of individuality alone can birth a revolution. she 22 09.15

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noticias Alertan sobre posible recrudecimiento de violencia homofóbica en Puerto Rico El activista de derechos humanos Pedro Julio Serrano alertó sobre un posible recrudecimiento de la violencia homofóbica tras reportarse a finales de Agosto en Puerto Rico el tercer asesinato de un joven abiertamente homosexual en un período de un mes.

Serrano urgió a las autoridades a no descartar el ángulo del crimen de odio en las investigaciones que conducen entorno a las muertes de tres jóvenes reportadas en Hato Rey, Mayagüez y Santa Isabel. El crimen más reciente se reportó, frente a un colmado en la intersección de las calles Dr. Rafael López Sicardó y Riaza, en Hato Rey, donde un enmascarado le disparó a un joven en circunstancias que investigan las autoridades.

Según Serrano, la víctima, que fue identificada como Edwin Giovanni Vázquez Feliciano, de 26 años y residente en Bayamón, es abiertamente gay y no debe descartarse como parte de la pesquisa el ángulo del crimen de odio.

“Con el asesinato de Edwin Giovanni Vázquez Feliciano, ya son tres los hombres abiertamente gays que han muerto en un mes. Esto crea un estado de alerta en la comunidad LGBT ante un posible recrudecimiento de la violencia homofóbica. Históricamente, hemos visto que cuando se adelantan los derechos para las personas LGBTI, aumentan los crímenes de odio”, expresó Serrano.

De su lado, la comandante Jazmín Pérez, directora del Cuerpo de Investigación Criminal (CIC) del área de San Juan, aseguró que se lleva a cabo una pesquisa a fondo del caso, pero aclaró que en esta etapa inicial de la pesquisa, no se ha establecido el motivo del asesinato.

Agregó que en el lugar de los hechos, no hubo cooperación de la ciudadanía. En la escena se recuperaron seis casquillos de calibre .45 como evidencia.

Mientras, el portavoz de Puerto Rico Para Tod@s hizo un llamado a las autoridades, para que investiguen adecuadamente estos casos.

Uruguay hará primer censo de su población trans en 2016 El Ministerio de Desarrollo Social (Mides) pretende contabilizar el próximo año el número de personas transexuales que vive en Uruguay, con vistas a formular políticas públicas específicas para esa población.

La Unión Trans del Uruguay (Utru) ha estimado la población transexual del país en torno a 3.000 personas, pero desde el Mides se considera que es “imposible” calcularla, ya que el último censo demográfico, de 2011, no incluyó esa variable.

Desde el Mides se está analizando la metodología para generar el primer censo de las personas trans y la idea es concretar el trabajo de campo entre marzo y mayo de 2016.

Se insiste en que no se puede establecer el numero exacto pero desde setiembre de 2012 hasta mayo de este año, 872 transexuales accedieron al programa de transferencia monetaria del Mides destinado a personas en situación de vulnerabilidad económica a nivel nacional, lo que podría marcar de alguna manera un indicativo.

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se realizo el II Encuentro Nacional “Todos las familias con todos los derechos” en argentina El pasado 15 y 16 de agosto, se llevó a cabo el II Encuentro Nacional de Familias LGBT con hijos e hijas que reunió familias con dos mamás, dos papás e identidades trans de todo el país.

En el evento se habló acerca de los obstáculos, desafíos y propuestas para alcanzar una plena inclusión en ámbitos educativos, laborales, de salud y sociales en general.

El evento tuvo como sede el Colegio Nacional de Buenos Aires, y su principal objetivo fue el empoderar y visibilizar a las familias LGBT y a promover su reconocimiento social y legal en ámbitos registrales y de identidad, educativos, culturales, de salud, laborales/ sindicales y de la comunicación, entre otros aspectos.

Durante el encuentro, las familias debatieron temáticas como Educación, Salud, Cultura y Diversidad familiar. Además, distintos referentes expondrán sobre el nuevo paradigma jurídico, el acceso a la salud sin discriminación, identidad y derechos humanos.

En paralelo, se desarrollaron espacios de encuentro y recreación para niños y niñas con juegos, talleres y espectáculos. El encuentro es organizado por 100% Diversidad y Derechos y en su primera edición (noviembre de 2013) reunió a más de un centenar de familias que se organizaron en una Red Nacional a favor de la valoración social de la diversidad familiar.

De todos modos ya en un período parecido, entre 2012 y 2014, casi 350 transexuales solicitaron cambiar sus documentos, de acuerdo con la Comisión de Identidad, Género y Diversidad del Registro Civil en Montevideo, al amparo de una ley aprobada en 2009.

Asimismo para la primera diputada trans de Uruguay, la abogada Michelle Suárez (arriba), hay mucho más que 3.000 personas transexuales en el país, pero igualmente opina que está de acuerdo en la necesidad de promover un censo específico.

Una vez conocidos los datos y con todo el material resultante, sse podrá comenzar a tejer estrategias de inserción laboral para este colectivo, actualmente destinado en su gran mayoría a ejercer la prostitución.

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CON verónica espinal

La Buena

Comunicación, o falta de ella...

Dicen que la palabra, o la acción de hablar, tiene mucha fuerza.

Dicen que cuando uno dice algo, positivo o negativo, y lo tiramos al universo le estamos dando fuerza. Igualmente cuando estamos planeando algo y queremos que se realice, hay quienes prefieren mantenerlo bajo secreto de confesión para no mal lograr la posibilidad de realización.

Hay quienes creen en el mal de ojo o quienes creen en la envidia o mala energía de las demás personas hacia lo que tengas entre manos. ¿Y sabes qué? Es muy posible que esas palabras sean correctas.

Definitivamente la comunicación es un arte, manejada acertadamente por algunos y torpemente por otros. La comunicación es necesaria a diario y en toda situación a la que nos enfrentamos.

La falta de ella muchas veces nos pone en situaciones difíciles o en aprietos. La falta de comunicación, como por ejemplo: en una relación de pareja, de amistad, familiar, laboral o del tipo que sea definitivamente edifica una gran barrera difícil de evadir.

Reconozco que hay relaciones en mi vida en las que la buena comunicación o conversación no es del todo como debiera ser, al menos en los que se refiere a mi vida de pareja. Específicamente puede ser el caso con mis padres. Estoy segura que podrás identificarte con esta parte porque es tu situación o la de alguien que conoces. Por varias razones no he podido atreverme a hablar claramente de mi relación de pareja con mi mamá porque pienso que no está lista para escuchar o digerir lo que tengo que decirle, y eso que Ella misma en ocasiones ha preguntado. Mi orientación sexual es algo que no puedo conversar abiertamente porque existen barreras que se quedaron en blanco y negro por razones de cultura, de educación y tradición. Por varias razones, he preferido no mejorar esas vías de comunicación con mis padres que, como consecuencia, dejan una parte de mi en el aire ante sus ojos. ¿De qué forma podré mejorarlo? Tomando el riesgo una vez me sienta cómoda para hacerlo.

Hace unos días me entere que una amiga de la infancia había terminado, o mejor dicho había sido abandonada por su marido. ¿La razón? Según mi amiga, el marido era muy tímido y nunca habían podido superar la comunicación (o falta de ella) dentro de la relación.

Aunque estoy segura que la comunicación entre una pareja es una base muy importante (incluso un peldaño más que las relaciones intimas) porque a través de ella logramos negociar, ceder o llegar a acuerdos con la pareja— no estoy tan segura de creer que esta razón sea tan grave como para terminar la relación, sobre todo cuando hay 3 hijos menores de por medio.

Cuando estamos consiente que la buena comunicación no es parte de nuestro interior, cultura o cualidades, debemos hacer todo lo posible para poder sobrepasar esa barrera. Yo siempre me consideré una persona tímida, más bien de pocas palabras, aunque no por eso antipática. A través del tiempo he tenido que aprender a abrirme más, a desarrollar más temas de plática con desconocidos (cuando quiero), y a hablar de ciertos temas con mi pareja que quizás antes no podía. Como todo, sí podemos aprender a tener mejores formas de comunicación. Sí he aprendido a armarme de valor y decir ciertas cosas que antes tal vez no podía, incluso por vergüenza.

Aprendí a sentarme y desglosar algunos temas que anteriormente me parecían incómodos conversar. Acepto que aun hay muchas vías en el camino a la buena comunicación que no transito con facilidad, ¡más que todo por terquedad! La diferencia es que ahora sí sé reconocer esos momentos.

Hoy en día hay tantos métodos de ayuda personal que podemos auto-recetarnos para mejorar nuestra forma de comunicación, con los demás y con esas personas que son importantes, que no hay más excusas, siempre y cuando así lo deseemos. Tan sólo hay que buscar para encontrar. Busca un libro, entra a Internet o a tu teléfono celular para buscar formas de mejorar la comunicación con la pareja; qué hacer y qué no. Yo haré lo mismo. ¡Suerte!

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By marissa cohen

George by Alex Gino In this thoughtful, groundbreaking children’s book, author Alex Gino puts the reader directly into the life and mind of George, a very special fourth grader who knows that he is really a girl named Melissa. When his school puts on a production of Charlotte’s Web, George knows that she is meant to play the title role. With the help of her best friend, George is able to be true to herself. George’s catch phrase is “Be Who You Are,” and George will show readers of all ages how to do just that. Simply put, George is a jewel, a welcome edition to the growing genre of transgender literature for children and young adults.

Golddigger by Hilary McCollum Award-winning Irish playwright Hilary McCollum’s debut follows Frances Moriarty, who fled a famine-ravaged Ireland to forge a new identity in America. Frances takes up life as, Frank, a shoeshine boy in New York. When she hears word of the California gold rush, she, decides to chase her fortune, hoping to leave poverty and bad memories behind. Fans of Sarah Waters will love the rich description and tight pace of Golddigger, but McCollum’s carefully constructed 19th century world is the real gold of the book. Fantastic.

Sweet by Nene Adams Fresh off her 2015 Goldie win for The Consequence of Murder, Nene Adams’ latest is a fun and charming mix of genres: a fast paced romantic-suspense-comedy. Confectioner Ruby has made a life and a career from her love of candy, but when she gets an interview at a five-star island resort, she wonders if this could change her career forever. However, then her best friend goes missing. Ruby finds herself attracted to two women as the investigation continues: both the investigating detective and the resident manager of the hotel. Sweet is definitely a sweet and clever bonbon of a book. facebook

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At one time, calling a woman a tomboy might have been an insult, but an LGBT-certified business embraced it and ended up taking home the top prize in the National Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce’s Biz Pitch Competition.

TomboyX, a Seattle-based start-up clothing company, creates underwear, t-shirts and other items that help self-proclaimed tomboys express who they are.

The fashion line appeals to all women who have never been comfortable in traditional feminine clothes and didn’t want to dress like men.

The two-year-old company won a check for $10,000 against two other start-ups in a shark tank-like contest. TomboyX also will receive a $20,000 brand positioning package from BRANDING FOR THE PEOPLE. The competition took place during the NGLCC’s 2015 International Business & Leadership Conference held in Fort Lauderdale mid-August. The judges were: CNN’s Richard Quest; NGLCC co-founder and CEO Chance Mitchell; and globally-renowned venture capital and business advisor Shereen Shermak.

“We thank NGLCC for giving us this boost that will really accelerate our growth plans, as well as supporting our up-coming road tour. Even before we won, we felt like winners because of the new business contacts we met at the NGLCC conference. The majority of our investors are women, and we are a woman and lesbian owned and operated business. NGLCC is exactly what our underwear is for our customers—a perfect fit,” says Fran Dunaway, CEO and founder.

The NGLCC conference is the largest LGBT business development event in the world and brought together more than 800 LGBT and allied entrepreneurs, business owners, corporate representatives and LGBT chamber leaders from across the country and around the globe. Attendees took part in three days of symposia, panel discussions, and build strong relationships with corporate champions and one another. tomboyx.com

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AQUARIUS JAN 21 - FEB 19 The planets are supporting revamping your finances and paying close attention to what your bottom line actually is. Your health will also benefit from a little fine-tuning. You need to commit to a diet and exercise program. Be realistic about what is not only possible, but doable as well. Ask for help from your significant others to achieve success.

leo July 23 - aug 22 Your focus is on improving your current situation in your finances and your close personal relationships.

Harsh planetary influences of the past few years are shifting, providing opportunities to make positive changes to improve the quality of your life, including your cash flow. Now is the time to clean house from the emotional debris of the past, and to use your resources better.

pisces feb 20 - mar 20 The planets are providing you with many wonderful opportunities to meet new, influential people who will help you further your career aspirations. Pay attention to your everyday life, as well as to all of the important people in your world. Consider their needs, wants and opinions. Compromise when necessary. You are entering into a very productive business cycle, so be ready.

virgo aug 23 - sept 23 The planets are empowering you to face unresolved issues from the past, and to get serious about commitments you make at this time. You’ve got plenty of ideas for the new best thing, be it project or person.

You’ve also plenty of energy to take your ideas from the realm of thought into the realm of action. Be patient with yourself and others, as you contemplate who you want to be now.

aries mar 21 - apr 20 You’ve been working harder. Now it’s time for you to start working smarter and start improving how you do you your everyday life. You have the energy and the skills. Now all you need is a new, improved vision of your future. Take this time to review what works and what doesn’t, what brings joy and quality of life, or what detracts from it. Make a new plan.

libra sept 24 - oct 23 You’ll have plenty of opportunities to go out and play, but only after you finish the tasks at hand. One of the most important ones is finding ways to take much needed down time, free of stresses and lists, and ‘have-to’s.’ Use the retrograde to reorganize and rest, as well as to revisit, revise and reframe.

You have to be ready to rock and roll.

taurus apr 21 - may 21 The planets have finally shifted, lifting the heavy load you’ve been carrying for the past few years and throwing open the door to many wonderful opportunities to improve the quality of your life. Remember, an opportunity really isn’t anything, unless you decide to take it. So, carpe diem, seize the day, but be realistic about cash flow. Find ways to enjoy life within your means.

scorpio oct 24 - nov 22 The planets are giving you mixed messages, as on the one hand there are many opportunities, both professionally and personally, that you are really excited about. On the other hand, there is a real need for quality time with yourself. Issues and people from the past demand attention and resolution, but first there needs to be reflection on revised goals.

gemini may 22 - june 21 Your focus should be on making improvements to ensure that past negative actions and reactions are not repeated. You have the opportunity to make a difference in the quality of your life moving forward now that restrictive energies have shifted. The retrograde will bring the past into the present. Some issues will demand attention and clarity in order to move forward.

sagittarius nov 23 - dec 21 You’re about to enter a whole new phase of your life. It will allow you to be creative about improving everything in your life, including your home, yourself and your career options. Restrictive energy has been lifted and you’re now free to get up and go. Be anything and anybody you decide to be, even a student. Share ideas and redefine your goals.

cancer June 22 - july 22 The planets promise kinder, gentler attitudes from the significant others in your life, meaning less stress for you. However, if you do not change your focus from ‘them’ to you, you will miss the opportunity the Universe is giving you to reinvent yourself. You know better than anyone else what you need to improve.

Just do it!

capricorn dec 22 - jan 20 You’ve been working harder than ever and the good news is that your perseverance is about to pay off big time. Be sure you enter into all personal or business agreements before the 17th. Use this time to get your message out to as many people as you can, keeping in mind the retrograde.

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