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I have a Facebook friend who, on an almost nightly basis, posts a random question about things like love, dating, family, life in general and such. I always enjoy her questions and more than that, I enjoy reading some of the answers she gets. Sometimes it’s advice, or just insightful or just plain real or funny. With over 2000 friends/followers from across the country, it is a very eclectic mix of people, so it’s no wonder that the answers seem to be equally different. I’m sitting here now, having a bit of a chuckle, over tonight’s exchange. Here is the question she posted, verbatim: If you could interview God—asking only one question—what would you ask? I can’t tell you how many people replied with questions about themselves like, “Am I gonna make it through those pearly gates?” or “Can I be an angel?” or my personal favorite, “Am I living in accordance with your Word?” I say that one was my personal favorites because my first thought was, “If you really were living in accordance with what the Bible says, I don’t think you would really have to ask ‘cuz you could just use it like a checklist.” But hey, that’s just my opinion. I guess the part that really made me laugh was, when faced with the opportunity to interview God—in whatever form one believes—and ask one question, 80% of the people who responded, while doing their best to portray themselves as being truly pious, submitted a 100% selfish question. Now come on, that’s funny. I don’t talk about God very often because I genuinely believe that my relationship with God—in whatever form I believe—doesn’t need to be touted to be genuine. But I can tell you this: If I had the chance to interview God and ask one question, I would know way better than to ask something so purely selfish. I mean, besides the fact that it’s GOD and I would hope to score a few bonus points for using the brain I was given, it certainly wouldn’t be an interview that would appeal to the masses if I went for the all-too-popular-in-the-posts question, “Am I going to heaven?” That’s for sure. Anyway, back here on Earth, October is both LGBT History Month and Breast Cancer Awareness Month. This gives us an opportunity to both look honor our past and protect our future. There is a plethora of resources out there to learn more about those who have helped paved the way for the life we, as gay people, have in 2014. Honoring them helps us to remember to continue their work, in our own ways, for those who will come after us. Equally abundant are the resources out there to learn more about breast cancer. Information about self-exams, low-cost or free mammograms, prevention, treatments and more are all easy to find. The technology and methods today are so much further advanced than they were even two years ago. It’s so important to do everything you can to ensure that, if it does happen, it’s caught as soon as possible. So please, score a few bonus life points for using the brain you were given to protect the life you were given as well. If you haven’t already done so this year, go and get a mammogram. Meanwhile, if I ever do have the opportunity to interview God, have a complete meltdown and use up my one and only question asking something selfish like, “Am I going to heaven?” I promise not to make it the cover story. See you next month.
Tina Sordellini Managing Executive Editor
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october 2014 / VOLUME 16 / ISSUE 9
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16 MARY LAMBERT “I really just write from my point of view and I’ve gone through the sh*tter, but I’ve come out on the other side.”
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18 WHITE PARTY
Care Resource/White Party celebrates its 30th Anniversary at the Perez Art Museum of Miami.
22 RAINBOW SURVIVOR’S NETWORK
”It is not a support group that requires attending a specific meeting at a certain time in a specific location.”
27 YOUR GUIDE TO THE FORT LAUDERDALE GAY & LESBIAN FILM FESTIVAL 27 EUROGAMES 2015 To take place in Stockholm, Sweden.
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with Marissa Cohen
In Tru Love, Tru (Shauna MacDonald), a 30-something bed hopper, finds herself falling for the elegant and charming 60year-old Alice (Kate Trotter). As their relationship deepens, Alice’s daughter Suzanne can’t help but worry that her mother is on a one-way path to heartbreak at the hands of Tru. But has Tru found true love? With Christine Horne. Available digitally on October 7 and DVD November 4.
From executive producers Will Ferrell, Adam McKay, and Anne Heche (yes, Ellen’s kooky ex) comes Bad Judge (NBC, Thursdays, 9 pm). Kate Walsh (Gray’s Anatomy, Private Practice) stars as Rebecca Wright, a wild child who is also one of L.A.’s toughest criminal court judges. She’s outspoken and strong, but her private life is anything but innocent. With Tone Bell, Ryan Hansen. Tune in on October 2.
Annie Lennox returns with her sixth studio album, Nostalgia, and this collection of moody, gorgeous covers is sure to please. Featuring Lennox’s favorite songs from her youth, Nostalgia is a reimagining of jazz standards, such as Gershwin’s “Summertime,” Billie Holiday’s “God Bless the Child,” and the first single from the album which played on the BBC to rave reviews, Screamin’ Jay Hawkins’ “I Put a Spell on You.” Available on October 27.
The eclectic singer/songwriter and instrumentalist Rachel Sage’s new album Blue Roses is a wonderful meditation on love and quirky destiny. Sage has shared the stage with Ani Difranco, Sarah Mclachlan and Colin Hay, and even won Grand Prize in the John Lennon Songwriting Contest. Her music has been featured on the Fame soundtrack, the current season of Lifetime’s Dance Moms and on MTV and HBO. Available on November 4.
In the highly anticipated Amazon comedy Transparent, a Los Angeles family deals with a shocking revelation—that father Mort (Jeffrey Tambor) is transgender. Gaby Hoffman and Judith Light also star in this moving and hilarious dark comedy from Jill Soloway. After a pilot web episode aired in February of 2014, Transparent was picked up by Amazon Studios. Available on Amazon Streaming.
In Heterosexual Jill, “All American” Jill (Jen McPherson) tries to prove that her exlesbian conversion has been successful by finding her ex, Jamie. Against her better judgment, Jamie agrees to date Jill in order to “cure” her. Will Jill realize that she deserves to be loved? Or will she put herself on the “straight and narrow” and deny who she is? With Michelle Ehlen. On DVD October 28.
NOT TO BE MISSED: The ten-episode web series True Trans with Laura Jane Grace follows the lead singer of the punk band Against Me! who publically came out as a transgender woman in 2012 during the height of her career. On October 10, the first four episodes will be available on the AOL Originals home page in celebration of National Coming Out Day. SHE - 10 - 10/14
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aqua foundation for women presented aqua affair, as they celebrated their 10th anniversary at the gale south beach hotel in miami beach. congratulations, ladies! photos by melissa donaldson / view more photos at www.shemag.com
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in the news GLAAD & Hrc FOUNDATION UNVEIL GROUNDBREAKING RESOURCE TO CHALLENGE ‘GOD VS. GAY’ IN MAINSTREAM MEDIA GLAAD and HRC unveiled on Sept 29th “In Focus: Faith, LGBT People, & the Midterm Elections,” a groundbreaking resource guide that empowers journalists to challenge anti-LGBT talking heads who mask bias as a ‘tenet of faith’. “It’s time the media gets it right,” said GLAAD President & CEO Sarah Kate Ellis. “More and more churches, faith leaders, and religious Americans are speaking out in support of equality, but their voices remain missing in mainstream media. It’s time to close the gap on misrepresentation and challenge the tired idea that equality is not a religious value.”
“It’s long past time that anti-LGBT activists who claim to be people of faith had to answer a few simple questions about what the Bible and other holy books actually say,” said HRC President Chad Griffin. “I grew up in a Southern Baptist congregation, going to church Sunday morning, Sunday night and, if my Mom got her way, Wednesday night too. The message I learned sitting in those church pews was that we are all God’s children, and you’ve got to love your neighbor as yourself.” In 2012, GLAAD released “GLAAD’s Missing Voices: A study of religious voices in mainstream media reports about LGBT equality.” The report found that three out of four religious messages came from spokespeople whose religions have formal policies or culture opposing LGBT equality, despite the fact that acceptance of LGBT people is growing across faith traditions. Additionally, mainstream media outlets use far fewer religious sources from Mainline Protestant, Jewish, or other denominations whose messages were predominantly positive and accepting of LGBT people. Far too often, outlets frame stories as “God vs. Gay,” inaccurately representing the current climate of acceptance across faith communities today. The newly released guide seeks to correct these disparities in reporting. Visit www.glaad.org/faith and www.hrc.org/religion for resources. The resource guide is viewable at www.glaad.org/vote.
national coming out day
saturday oct. 11th
NCOD was founded in 1988 by Robert Eichberg, a psycholo-
gist from New Mexico and founder of the personal growth workshop, The Experience, and Jean O’Leary, an openly gay political leader from Los Angeles and then head of the National Gay Rights Advocates. The date of October 11 was chosen because it was the anniversary of the 1987 National March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights. 2014 marks the 26th anniversary of National Coming Out Day. NCOD is observed annually to celebrate coming out and to raise awareness of the LGBT community and civil rights movement. For more visit www.hrc.org/ncod
octoBER in lgbt history October 4, 2002—Transgender Teen Gwen Araujo is murdered in
California. October 5, 2004—A Louisiana judge throws out an amendment to
the state constitution banning same-sex marriage. October 6, 1968—Metropolitan Community Church of L.A. is
founded by Rev. Troy Perry. October 6, 1998—Gay college student Matthew Shepard is beaten, tortured and left to die near Laramie, Wyoming. October 9, 1984—Dr. Mervyn Silverman, San Francisco’s Public Health Director orders Gay Bathhouses and Other Businesses to close saying they were ‘’fostering disease and death.” October 9 - 12, 1998—First International Retreat for Lesbian and Gay Muslims is held in Boston. October 10, 2008—The Connecticut Supreme Court in Hartford rules that the state must allow gay and lesbian couples to marry. October 11, 1987—Half a million people participated in the second March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights in Washington. October 11, 1988—First National Coming Out Day is celebrated. October 12 - 15, 1979—First March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights with estimated 75,000 attendees. October 12 - 15, 1979—First National Third World Lesbian and Gay Conference Convenes. October 12, 1998—Matthew Shepard died from severe head injuries at age 21. October 14 - 17, 1987—Latin American and Caribbean Lesbian Feminist Network is formed and it was held in Mexico. October 15, 2013—Brenda Clark and Carol McCrory are the first same-sex couple to receive a marriage license application in Buncombe County, North Carolina. October 18, 1973—Lambda Legal Authorized to Practice Law. October 18, 2012—The 2nd U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals rules that the Defense of Marriage Act, (DOMA), violates the Constitution’s equal protection clause, deciding in favor of widow Edith Windsor. October 21, 2013—Same-sex marriage becomes legal in New Jersey by court decision. October 22, 2009—The United States Congress passed the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act. October 28, 2009—President Barack Obama signed hate crime legislation into law at the state and federal levels. October 31, 1969—Time Magazine runs a cover story entitled, “The Homosexual: Newly Visible, Newly Understood.” October 1955—Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon formed Daughters of Bilitis, the first lesbian civil and political rights organization in the United States, in San Francisco. October 1969—Nuestro Mundo Forms as First Queer Organization in Argentina. October, 1974—Lesbian Connection begins publication by the Ambitious Amazons in Michigan. October, 1980—Kitchen Table: Women of Color Press is founded by author Barbara Smith at the suggestion of her friend, poet Audre Lorde. October, 1992—Canadian Military Lifts Its Ban on Gays and Lesbians. Sources: Historic Calendar Project, Wikipedia, Library of Congress, Gay and Lesbian Issues, CNN.
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At the Stonewall Riot on June 27, 1969, DeLarverie threw the first punch.
TO DO WHERE TO GO
Darlene Garner, Activist
dine out lauderdale
b. September 28, 1948, Columbus, OH Garner helped found the National Coalition of Black Gays, the first non-white LGBT organization in the country.
Oct 1 - Nov 6 various restaurants • sunny.org/dineout
The women of the 20th annual lgbt history month In 1994, Rodney Wilson, a Missouri high school teacher, believed a month should be dedicated to the celebration and teaching of gay and lesbian history, and gathered other teachers and community leaders. They selected October because public schools are in session and existing traditions. LGBT History Month celebrates the achievements of 31 lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender Icons. Tallulah Bankhead, Actress
b. January 31, 1902, Huntsville, AL d. December 12, 1968, New York, NY During a time when women were marginalized, Bankhead was a beacon of civil rights and sexual liberation. Natalie Barney, Author
b. October 31, 1876, Dayton, OH d. February 3, 1972, Paris, France An American expatriate in Paris, Barney started a salon where leading artists and intellectuals gathered. In addition to her weekly salon, Barney founded the Académie des Femmes to mentor women writers. Bernice Bing, Artist
b. April 10, 1936, San Francisco, CA d. August 18, 1998, Philo, CA Bing’s body of work reflects her lifelong feelings of cultural duality. Ivy Bottini, Activist
b. August 15, 1926, Lynbrook, NY In 1986 Bottini successfully worked to defeat Proposition 64, which designated homosexuals as a public menace who should be quarantined. Margaret Cho, Entertainer
b. December 5, 1968, San Francisco, CA Cho was among the first to bring LGBT rights out of the shadows and into the mainstream comedy circuit.
Angelina Weld Grimké, Poet/Playwright
b. February 27, 1880, Boston, MA d. June 10, 1958, New York, NY Grimké’s three-act drama, “Rachel,” was the first play by a black woman to be staged in a public theater. Billie Holiday, Singer
b. April 7, 1915, Philadelphia, PA d. July 17, 1959, New York, NY Holiday sang with the swing era’s greatest musicians and was one of the first AfricanAmerican to work with a white orchestra. June Jordan, Poet
b. July 9, 1936, Harlem, NY d. June 14, 2002, Berkeley, CA Her commitment to fighting oppression, particularly of women and blacks, was the defining element of her work. Kathy Kozachenko, First Out Elected Official
b. California 1954, date unconfirmed Three years before Harvey Milk’s well-known political victory, Kozachenko was elected to public office on a platform aimed at enforcing homosexual rights. Megan Rapinoe, Olympic Soccer Player
b. July 5, 1985, Redding, California “Your personal life is less about people having to know about your sexuality than standing up for what’s right and fighting for equality.” When she came out, Rapinoe said she became a better soccer player.
Stormé DeLarverie, Activist
b. December 24, 1920, New Orleans, LA d. May 24, 2014, Brooklyn, NY
View full list of 31 icons at www.lgbthistorymonth.com
WHAT
Transcending Gender: Bodies & Lives
thru - Oct 19 • Tue - Sun 2PM • Free Wilton Manors Gallery 2157 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors stonewall-museum.org talking w kids about sex & sexuality
Oct 7 • 7 - 9PM The Pride Center • 2040 N. Dixie Hwy. Wilton Manors • pridecenterflorida.org lesbo go-go’s lost in lust
Oct 10 • 10PM lesbo go-go’s t-dance
Oct 19 • 4PM Tokyo Blue • 4040 Galt Ocean Drive, Fort Lauderdale • lesbogogo.com the 6th annual fort lauderdale gay & lesbian film festival
Oct 10 - 12 & 16 - 19 various locations • flglff.com the 2nd annual lgbt business expo
Oct 11 • - 12 - 3PM Compass • 201 N. Dixie Hwy., Lake Worth compassglcc.com FEMME FATALE—the masquerade ball
Oct 17 • 11PM - 3AM Dapur Asian Tapas • 1620 N. Federal Hwy., Fort Lauderdale • dapurkitchen.com nveee’s 5th anniversary
Oct 18 • 7PM - 11PM Surfcomber • 1717 Collins Avenue Miami Beach • nveee.org lgbt senior health expo
Oct 18 • 10AM - 2PM The Pride Center • 2040 N. Dixie Hwy. Wilton Manors • pridecenterflorida.org save’s the 20th annual halloween ball
Oct 25 • 10PM Alfred I. Dupont Building, 169 E Flagler St Downtown Miami • savedade.org/halloween wicked manors
Oct 31 • 7PM - MID • on Wilton Drive Wilton Manors • wickedmanors.org Equality FL’s Orlando Gala
Nov 14 • 8PM The MEZZ • 100 S. Eola Dr., Orlando eqfl.org/orlandogala
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When we last left Mary Lambert in October 2013 she had just performed with Jennifer Hudson on the VMA’s. She had landed her first magazine with us. Her single “She Keeps Me Warm” was climbing up the charts. This past January, Mary shared the stage with Macklemore & Ryan Lewis at the 56th Grammy Awards, just to later join the Material Girl herself (how can we forget that Grammy moment and the newly weds?). Here we are, a full year later, catching up with the singing sensation herself on her new music and her incredible motivations. Mary Lambert’s debut album, Heart on my Sleeve, drops on October 14th from Capitol Records as her tour kicks on October 10th in toronto.
Here we are! A year later and so much has changed. You’ve been on a major tour, you’ve got a new full length feature album finished, Heart On My Sleeve, a break-up, a new love—so much has happened.
So much, I know. I’m really good, I’m so happy and this has been, literally, the best year of my life. It’s truly amazing. Heart On My Sleeve is a powerhouse of positivity, starting with “Secrets.” I have to tell you, when I first heard the song, I instantly thought, “OMG, she gets it! She so gets it!” It feels like you wrote it just for me, and yet so many people must feel that way.
It’s been amazing, that really has been the reaction across the board. The relatability factor is there and I’m grateful for that. That’s what I wanted. I wanted that connection. I mean, look, we’re all battling something, we all have our sh*t. Everyone has baggage and the sooner we talk about it, it becomes less stigmatized. There is something really freeing about letting your secrets go. It’s more of a relief, rather than being filled with so much guilt and shame about it. In my experience I’ve learned those are such useless feelings. It’s like you have a knack for tapping into every woman’s thoughts, SHE - 16 - 10/14
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especially those of us who don’t fit into mainstream America’s idea of what a woman should look like. How does that even happen?
(laughs) I don’t know! I honestly don’t know! It’s such a talent to take all of our secret feelings, put them to music and make this incredible new album.
Oh my God, thank you. That means so much to me. I really just write from my point of view and I’ve gone through the sh*tter, but I’ve come out on the other side. Like I said, I’ve just had the most amazing year of my life. It would be silly not to celebrate it and offer these little healing tips, maybe? This album is kind of like a little lesson plan. I want to share it. I want to offer the things I’ve learned on this journey, like what the healing has been like. I want to share it with people and make that connection. This album does play like a personal diary, doesn’t it?
Yeah. I did most of the writing for this album in the last six to nine months, so it is really a reflection of where I am right now. And where I am right now is a culmination of my past experiences. So, yeah, it’s kind of about the past journey and where it’s brought me, presently. I heard there is a very unique cover of “Jessie’s Girl” on the new album. Let’s talk about the twist you’ve put on it. How did that come about?
Yes! I loved that song! It’s one of my favorite songs. It captures such a very specific kind of envy. And I’d guess any gay person can tell you at some point in their lives they’ve probably had their share of straight crushes, you know? You’ve pined for someone who just isn’t gay. It’s happened to me. It’s happened to all my friends. So, I thought this could be an awesome parallel of that experience and of course, I’m always happy to make something melancholy and add some strings. I wrote the arrangement in a day. We actually did it as a pitch for Grey’s Anatomy because they were doing a lot of 80’s covers in their last season, so we did it for specifically for that and they didn’t use it. So I thought, “Damn! But I’m so proud of this. Let’s put it on the album!” and then it was like, “Uh, Mary, no one puts covers on a debut CD,” but I did. I don’t know if it’s the right move, but it feels good to me. You have some very specific goals that you list for your career and it feels like you’re about to start checking them off one by one. What happens once they’re all checked marked?
Oh, you mean, the goals I set out for this record? Well, yeah I had hoped I would fulfill them all and I did when I finished this record. I put it out there: I wanted to have fun, and I am, I didn’t want to dumb down anything, any lyrics, and I didn’t. I wanted to be my authentic self. I didn’t want to stray into creating something that’s more palatable for a certain audience. I made sure that I was keeping to the depths of my work, being true to myself and making sure that I was conscious of my intention. Our words mean so much. I wanted to be careful with my words. It’s important to be careful about that because I’m this powerful platform. I wanted to make sure that my words had purpose and motivation. Of course, I wanted it to be on the radio and “Secrets” is on the radio, so that’s cool. And the last one was that I wanted to buy my mom a beach house. So, we’re almost there! The bidding has started!
through those two avenues. I’ve never wanted to tell my stories to be exploited and I’m not telling my story about being bipolar or my traumas to be exploited in any way ever. I’m always extremely cautious about that. It’s only to encourage other people to be open about their truths. We live in such a world that’s hammering shame and guilt down our throats at every step. I used to live that way, but now I’m living such an incredibly free life, free of that shame and guilt. I’m happy with myself, my body, my life. It’s so empowering. It would be selfish not to share that with people so they can understand that they can be this free and this happy, too. It’s possible. It’s possible for them to have that life and feel this good. Losing Robin Williams and learning about his battle with addiction and depression has created more awareness. What you’re doing with your
So, you’re a really goal-oriented person!
struggles, being open to talking about
Yes! Extremely. Absolutely. I’ll definitely have more goals with each project. I mean, early on,
them, really is a way of getting people to connect. You are very much on the
“...we’re all battling something, we all have our sh*t. Everyone has baggage and the sooner we talk about it, it becomes less stigmatized. There is something
really freeing about letting your secrets go. It’s more of a relief, rather than being filled with so much guilt and shame about it. “
I said my goals were to perform at the Grammys and make an album that’s a reflection of my authentic self. Goals are important! Wow! Boom! Check and check! You’ve never shyed away from who you are. You’ve talked openly about your body, your lifestyle, your past and your bipolar condition. Most artists may incorporate some of those things in their lyrics, but it never feels like they really own them. You do. Why is that?
I’m learning that everyone is on his or her own path. I don’t know everyone’s path or journey, but I do know that for me, it’s important to be open and to be vulnerable. I guess the secret is that I don’t see myself as a pop star. I see myself more as a “healer” disguised as a pop music maker. The lessons that I want to learn are done through vulnerability and you reach that through empathy. Empathizing with each other is the key to human connection. I think we’re really disconnected from each other right now. My goal is to get us more connected
right path, especially now.
Thank you. That was one of the hardest days, wasn’t it? It was such a loss. I just loved him and I feel very protective about it, too. I bet that describes how a lot of people are feeling about it. I couldn’t figure out how to describe it.
Yeah. Maybe that’s it. You’ve shared the stage with so many amazing people- from Madonna to Jennifer Hudson to Queen Latifah. If you could hand pick the next person to perform with right now, who would it be?
Oh my God, so many. I’m such a fan girl of so many people! So, I think I’d love to write a song with Natalie Maines and perform it with the Dixie Chicks! Perfect! That’s some girl power right there! thank you so much for catching up with She Magazine!
Hell yeah! Thank you for having me back! For more information on tour dates & cities, visit marylambertsings.com
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the tradition & celebration of white party
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The evening will also feature the premier performance of DJ David Knapp and the White Party Symphony, as conducted by Sam Hyken. Hyken said, “I am taking music and adding a whole new layer with strings, bass, horns, piano and percussion. It’s a whole new level of sophistication and excitement. Together, with DJ David Knapp, we are going to take guests through 30 years of music – songs that were popular from White Party’s past. It will be epic.” Guests arriving before 9PM are welcome to fully explore the Perez Art Museum while being entertained by an array of musical quartets, ensembles and very colorful characters. Outside, guests will be treated to delectable hors d’oeuvres prepared fresh from the kitchen of Stephen Starr Events. Guests can also take their chances to win fabulous prizes at our outdoor casino and enjoy amazing complimentary cocktails all night long. The party hostess, the ever-so-fabulous Elaine Lancaster, has a marvelous and secretive performance in store too. So get your outfits together and prepare for the all-new White Party! This party will incorporate a larger spectrum of guests from all around Miami and the world. White Party isn’t just an event for gay men. It’s a Miami event. Men and women of all races and creeds are invited to attend. White Party is more than just a fun time, too. Back in 1985, local successful gay businessman, Frank Wager helped stage this fundraiser to generate desperately needed funds to help combat a disease that was running rampant. This party symbolizes community solidarity in a way that is non-political and non-combative. White Party is about honoring people and the memories of those who have been lost, while providing help to those who need it. More information and tickets are available by visiting www. whiteparty.org. [ WHITE PARTY EVENTS ] Thursday, November 27
Care Resource, South Florida’s oldest and largest HIV/AIDS service organization serving clients in both Miami-Dade and Broward Counties, gets ready to celebrate The 30th anniversary of White Party: A Diamond Jubilee, taking place on Saturday, Nov. 29th at the Perez Art Museum of Miami from 7PM - 12AM. Valet Parking will also be available for $25 at the event. Self parking will be available for $15 at the Hyatt Regency, with complimentary shuttles to the Museum throughout the night. Attendees are invited to dress to impress in their finest formal wear and debonairly debut their elegance all while enjoying an evening overlooking Biscayne Bay, the Port of Miami and the Miami skyline. It will be a fantastic night of fabulous fashionistas in white, emblazoned with diamonds and pearls. According to Care Resource Marketing Manager, Jonathan Welsh, “The Perez Art Museum is an incredible location offering amazing vistas of Miami. Both internally and externally, there has always been the desire to recreate the White Party with a waterfront view of Miami. Visitors coming from Paris, London, Buenos Aires, Montreal or even Fort Lauderdale deserve the best Miami has to offer. This three-story museum, sits upon an elevated platform and below a canopy, both of which extend far beyond the building’s walls creating a shaded veranda and plazas. The architects worked with local and international landscape designers and horticulturists to bring a park into the museum in new and innovative ways.”
> White Journey • 10PM - 5AM Cameo Nightclub • 1445 Washington Ave., Miami Beach Friday, November 28
> White Dreams • 10PM - 8AM Club Space • 34 NE 11th St., Miami Saturday, November 29
> White Splash • 11AM - 7PM National Hotel • 1677 Collins Ave., Miami Beach > The White Party • 7PM - 12AM Perez Art Museum Miami • 1103 Biscayne Blvd., Miami > White Starz • 10PM - 7AM Score Nightclub • 1437 Washington Ave., Miami Beach Sunday, November 30
> Noche Blanca • 10PM - 5AM Mansion Nightclub • 1235 Washington Ave., Miami Beach > Muscle Beach • 1PM - 8PM 12th Street Beach, Miami Beach Monday, December 01
> White Horizons • 5AM - 12PM Mekka • 950 NE 2nd Ave., Miami >>Read all about women’s white party in our november issue!
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SHE GIRL
photos by boi-photography.com / view more at www.shemag.com i live in: Tampa, FL. my greatest accomplishment: Deciding that I’m going to
follow my dreams as a performer despite of all the negativity I receive. My occupation: Dancer and dance teacher. Dream Girl: My girlfriend. i like to wear: Big t-shirts, shorts and Nike slides. Basically, anything that’s comfortable. my pets: A dog named Pepsi. Dream Job: Back up dancing for Rihanna. My mother thinks I: eat too much salad. sensitive body parts: Neck and thighs. Turn-ons: Confidence, physically fit positive thinkers with a sense of humor. Turn-offs: Excessively vulgar (especially around children), lack of ambition, poor self-control. My Best Quality: I am ambitious and a down to earth person. the last movie I went to a theater to see was: Transformers: Age of Extinction. secret fetish: Calf muscles. Big, toned, cut calf muscles. I have a weakness for: Long hair, girls with curly hair, girls with long hair in general. The last book i read was: Fifty Shades Freed. my favorite flower: Baby’s Breath. what cereal best describes you: Fruity Pebbles. If my life were made into a movie, my part will be played by: Zoe Saldana. If you could change your name, what would you pick?: I like Yorelis. It’s different, unique and fits my personality.
So far, I haven’t met anyone with the same name as me. If my life were made into a movie, my part will be played by: Zoe Saldana. The last thing I listened to on my iPod was: Work
Song by Hozier. my most memorable date: Cracking crab leg meat and juice onto my clothes, hair and anything within a two foot radius of me on my first date with my girlfriend. my favorite quote: “Imperfectly Perfect.” the weirdest thing i ever ate was: Goat. Never again. Celebrity’s butt I would most like to squeeze: Ciara. the cartoon character i am most like: Spongebob Squarepants. my favorite tv show: The Legend of Korra. My coming out was: Pretty smooth until I came home with a neck full of hickies three days later. if i could have one wish granted, i would wish for: A cure for Multiple Sclerosis, so my mom could finally be pain free. I think the LGBT community needs: Positive activists. A negative and over-bearing presentation is unattractive no matter what message is. In order to connect to audiences, we need to portray ourselves as positively as possible. If you were to become an activist in the LGBT community, which organization would you choose and why?: I would choose “I am Transgendered.” Everyone
should be given the opportunity to feel comfortable in their skin.
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RAINBOW SURVIVOR’S
NETWORK
READY TO ROLL!
“It is important to share with those newly diagnosed with cancer that there is hope and life after treatment. Attitude and life style changes can significantly make a big difference in surviving. The Rainbow Buddy team is a good support group for each other. This group is inspiring and I feel it important to make a difference in our sister’s lives.” —Debora, 7 year survivor “Even though your family, friends, and even your partner are being supportive, they don’t know what you are going through like someone who has been through it themselves. I couldn’t call the doctor’s office with every little question or concern, but I could call my buddy.” —Doreen, 5 year survivor “Our partners or spouses, if we have one, cannot easily take off from work or take Family Leave when we need care. Because my partner and I are not legally married but domestic partners, there were times when her supervisor came close to threatening her [with her job] regarding taking off work to take me to chemo.” —Yvonne, 9 year survivor “We are family, all of my sisters and me” is the belief that lies at the heart of the Rainbow Survivor’s Network, created in the spring of this year. This peer support network’s purpose is to offer a newly diagnosed LBT
person with any cancer, one to one support from a Buddy who has completed her cancer treatment. It is not a support group that requires attending a specific meeting at a certain time in a specific location. There is no other LBT–specific cancer survivorship network like this in the SE Florida region. Area Resource and Referral Organization for Women, ARROW Inc. has developed this network because research shows that lesbians are more likely to receive support from friends than from their family of origin. This may be due to geographical distance or ostracism related to being an LBT person. Partners are the most frequent support for lesbians, leaving single lesbians at the most risk for negative mental health outcomes. Regardless of partnered status, what may be most important to a cancer patient is to hear how another survivor has managed the side effects of treatment as well as the multiple stressors including work and personal issues. At present, there are twelve multicultural trained Rainbow Buddies. They represent a variety of cancer diagnoses, range in age from 26-66 and are geographically dispersed from Homestead to Del Ray Beach. For newly diagnosed women, getting a Rainbow Buddy simply entails phoning ARROW Inc. and making a request. They will then be sent an application that covers information about their cancer type and suggested treatments. This information is held in confidence and is not disclosed without consent. The Rainbow Buddy “matchmaker” will then review the application and connect the woman with a Buddy. Mentor and mentee can meet as often as they can mutually arrange, but support isn’t limited to face-to-face meetings; many Buddies and mentees also connect through email or phone. What is the potential need and demand for the Rainbow Buddy network? Examination of the Florida Charts data base (www.floridacharts.com) for the SE Florida region indicates that by using a 3% estimate of the number of LBT persons in the population, approximately 122 will be diagnosed with breast cancer on a yearly basis. If gynecologic cancers are included, an additional 48 LBT persons will receive that diagnosis. Within the SE Florida region on a yearly basis, potentially 200 women will receive a cancer diagnosis of some kind. What are the greatest risk factors that could predict whether a lesbian hears the “C Word?” Risk factors for breast cancer are: a) not birthing babies or breast feeding, b) being overweight, c) drinking more than two alcoholic drinks daily and d) not getting screened. Since most lesbians don’t take birth control, they are also at higher risk for gynecological cancers. Additionally, since lesbians have a much higher rate of smoking than heterosexual females, they have increased risks for cervical and lung cancer. The Rainbow Buddies are ready to offer peer support for any lesbian, bisexual or transgendered person who is diagnosed with cancer. We would love to offer our experience, strength and hope to assist all who are facing cancer. To show our care and support, each mentee will receive a “buddy bag” from her mentor. This will include a variety of treats, as soothing and motivational surprises are sure to bring a smile to the face of every new buddy. Let Rainbow Buddies offer you support! Visit the RSN’s booth at the American Cancer Society Making Strides Walk/Run on Oct 11th in Miami at the Marlins Park (501 NW 16th Ave.) at 9 am and at the Komen Race for the Cure at 6 am on Oct 19th at Bayfront Park in Downtown Miami. To contact the Rainbow Survivor Network, call 954-981-1090 or visit WWW.ARROWLBT.ORG.
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noticias Se estrenó la película venezolana de tema lésbico “Liz en Septiembre” El miécoles 17 de Septiembre en el Teatro Baralt, ubicado en el casco central de Maracaibo, se estrenó en Venezuela de la nueva película de la actriz y modelo Patricia Velásquez y la premiada directora Fina Torres: Liz en Septiembre, una película que expone un mensaje que no sólo se centra en la diversidad sexual, sino en la amistad y la libertad de escoger como vivir, amar y morir. Cada año Liz se reúne con entrañables amigas para celebrar su cumpleaños en una paradisíaca playa en las costas de Venezuela. Liz es una exitosa y bella modelo que ha tenido una vida sin límites. Una sola experiencia le ha sido esquiva: amar. Ella sabe varias cosas desde niña: que es diferente, que la belleza es un poder y que jamás querrá lástima ni compasión de nadie. Decide ocultar a sus amigas un terrible secreto, pero conocerá a Eva, un encuentro que lo cambiará todo. La cinta está inspirada en la obra de teatro estadounidense Last Summer at Bluefish Cove, que fue la primera obra lésbica de Broadway. Comenzó a gestarse hace 10 años cuando una productora americana le propuso a Fina Torres adaptarla al cine. Torres indicó que si la cinta propicia la polémica, será por los temas profundos que tocan y que exponen la homosexualidad entre mujeres y, el derecho a decidir cómo y cuándo morir en el momento de llegar a un caso extremo. “Es importante hablar de todos los fenómenos sociales que nos pasan a los humanos. Hay muchos prejuicios sobre la diversidad sexual y creo que con la homose-
xualidad femenina las personas son todavía más duras y existe mayor rechazo (que con la homosexualidad masculina)”, dijo Torres. Agregó, que la pieza no fue creada con el fin de crear controversia, sino que expone su visión del mundo y que quiere compartir o
cuestionar. “Cuando cuento una historia me pongo del lado del público, para saber si la historia les permite conectarse emocional e intelectualmente”. El largometraje cuenta con la actuación de Patricia Velásquez, en el rol principal, acompañada por la cubana Danay García y sus colegas venezolanas Elba Escobar, Mimí Lazo, Sheila Monterola y Mariaca Semprún. El estreno oficial de la película fue el pasado 3 de Octubre en el país.
Se realizó la 11° marcha del Orgullo LGBTI en Paraguay Con el lema “Las familias diversas existen, exigimos derechos”, la coalición de organizaciones LGBTI de Paraguay realizarán su tradicional marcha del orgullo en su 11ª edición. La convocatoria fue para el sábado 27 de Septiembre a las 10.30 en la escalinata de Antequera, de donde salió hacia el Panteón Nacional de los Héroes, para realizar el acto central.
Este año la marcha fue encabezada por las madres, padres y familiares de personas lesbianas, gays y transexuales con el objetivo de concienciar a la ciudadanía acerca de la diversidad de familias que existen y la importancia que tiene reconocerlas como tales. La marcha ofreció una variedad de actos culturales, entre los cuales se destaca la participación estelar de “Envidiametenes”, interpretada por Omar Mareco, quien tendrá a cargo la conducción del acto central.
crearán clínica para personas transgénero en puerto rico Consciente de que en la Isla escasean portavoces, mentores y médicos para las personas transexuales y transgénero, la alcaldesa de San Juan de Puerto Rico, Carmen Yulín Cruz, anunció que trabaja para que en la capital haya un centro especializado para ayudar a esta comunidad. La líder de la ciudad capital explicó que empezaron a reunirse con grupos focales integrados por gente de dicha minoría. Cuando se le preguntó si esa discriminación contra la comunidad transgénero proviene incluso por parte del sector político, Yulín Cruz fue cautelosa y prefirió no señalar, pero sí reconoció que todavía “hay mucho camino que recorrer por la equidad”.
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yo soy mujer
por veronica espinal
No te sientas invencible...
¡CUIDATe hoy! ¿Cuantas campañas había escuchado, años tras año? ¿Cuántos exámenes había pospuesto? ¿Cuántas voceras había escuchado? ¿Cuántas cintas rosadas me habían dado? Sí, me refiero al cáncer del seno, mejor dicho la prevención del mismo. Un día de tantos, mientras me bañaba, se me ocurrió explorar mis senos. ¿Y por que no? ¡Después de todo vivo eternamente enamorada de ellos! Ya lo había hecho una vez anteriormente y bueno, sentí tantas cosas que realmente no sabía qué era lo que buscaba. La verdad es que hay tantas glándulas y cosas raras allí dentro que todo al tacto se siente feo. Pues bien, la próxima vez que palpé mis senos… esta vez si encontré algo que no era normal. Esta vez era una bola, dura, casi como una bola de ping pong, una bola que podía mover de arriba abajo y de lado a lado. Obviamente me c*gé del miedo; se me fue la vida a los pies. En ese momento me acordé de todo lo que antes había oído, mas no escuchado. En ese momento me acordé de lo que las campañas de concientización enseñaban. Salí del baño y me acosté en la cama, con el brazo hacia arriba y una almohada debajo la espalda (que es mucho más efectivo), para volver a palpar. Efectivamente, ahora la pelota era más accesible. Me paré frente al espejo con los brazos en alto y sí, igual podía ver la diferencia entre un seno y otro. No lo podía creer. No podía creer que a “mi” me hubiese salido algo así. Fui donde mi pareja para que igual palpase lo que yo. En Internet busqué cuanta información se me ocurrió para saber que era esto que había encontrado. Entre otras cosas descubrí que dependiendo del lugar dónde está situado el tumor, es que se puede asumir si es maligno o benigno. Para esto, el seno se divide en cuatro partes. Si el tumor está situado en la parte de arriba, entonces esta más propenso
a ser maligno. El mío esta precisamente en el medio en la parte de afuera del seno, lo cual era peor para mi pues no había certeza ninguna. Podría ser cualquier cosa. Obviamente había que hacer la mamografía, cosa que nunca antes me había ocupado de hacer. La preocupación más inmediata que tuve fue el cómo me iba a costear estos exámenes si en ese momento no tenía seguro. Después de averiguar, conseguí una prueba gratuita con la organización Susan G. Komen quienes me dirigieron a unos de los hospitales que ofrecen esos servicios. Actualmente, con el nuevo sistema de seguro médico, las pruebas a la mujer—de mamografía y papanicolau—son gratuitas. Verdaderamente fue un gran alivio, al menos ya había saciado una de mis preocupaciones. Los días se hicieron eternos y la angustia no se hizo esperar. Los pensamientos negativos y la obsesión con el tumor aquel eran tal, que lo tocaba a cada rato y sentía como crecía con los días. La mente no paraba de pensar y era imposible evitar el llanto y de preguntar por qué yo tenía que pasar por aquello. Sin embargo, dentro de mí, muy dentro, yo sentía que no tenía por qué temer. Al fin llego el día. Ver aquellas maquinas y la tecnología actual frente a uno puede ser un tanto intimidante; aunque sinceramente, en ese momento me preocupaba más el pasar pena, ya que no puedes usar desodorante cuando te haces la mamografía. Menos mal que mi buen PH nunca me ha dejado mal parada. Lo único que puedo decir es que la mamografía duele, duele y… ¡duele! Aquella máquina presiona el seno de tal manera, aunque necesaria, que te quita la respiración. Para no alargar la historia, gracias a Dios el tumor resultó ser solamente tejido graso que se forma, si mal no recuerdo, por las hormonas mismas. Gracias a Dios no era necesario extirparlo, no era necesario tratamiento y mucho menos era necesario la quimioterapia o el tratamiento de radiaciones. Lo único que tengo que hacer es revisarme cada cierto tiempo y ahora en Diciembre hacerme de nuevo la mamografía. Ya casi un año que me sucedió esto, pero quise posponer mi historia precisamente para contarla este mes, cuando una vez más, las organizaciones pretender concientizar a hombres y mujeres sobre el cáncer del seno. Sólo deseo pedirte que no dejes de atenderte para descubrirlo cuando sea demasiado tarde. Siempre pensamos que estamos exentas de ser presa de tal mal, sin embargo como mujeres, y sobre todo como mujeres gay o lesbianas, estamos a riesgo y se vuelve una ruleta rusa de la que no podemos escapar. Por ser mujeres gay, estamos expuestas a un mayor riesgo. ¿Las razones? Una de ellas es el no poner a trabajar las glándulas mamarias y no producir leche materna por, obviamente, no dar a luz (al menos la gran mayoría de las mujeres gay). Otra es que, según la Universidad de Colorado, las mujeres hispanas / latinas con cáncer del seno suelen ser más jóvenes y tener tumores que son de mayor tamaño y en un estado más avanzado. No te sientas invencible. ¡Cuídate hoy! consigue mas información en: www.yosimecuido.com • www.cancer.org/espanol • www.lunacancersupport.org • komenmiaftl.org • arrowlbt.org / *Consulta a tu médico ante todo y haz una cita para tu mamograma hoy mismo.
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Freedom to Marry & HRC ENDORSED!
LONG-TERM LGBTQ Couples Celebrated in New Coffee Table Book
[ Ruthie & Connie ]
[ Byllye & Ngina ]
[ Mayor Parker & Kathy ]
Released on September 26, First Comes Love is a new book of photographs and love stories that celebrates the lives and enduring relationships of LGBTQ couples from across the United States. The brainchild of Philadelphia photographer Barbara Proud (aka B. Proud), the book is just one element of the FIRST COMES LOVE PROJECT, a traveling exhibition of photographs, love stories and video interviews documenting LGBTQ couples who have been together for 10, 20, 30, 40, and even 50+ years. When the First Comes Love Project began in March of 2009, Proposition 8 had just outlawed same-sex marriages in California and the Defense of Marriage Act prevent the federal government from recognizing marriages of same-sex couples. Now ďŹ ve years later, though DOMA has been declared unconstitutional and Proposition 8 has been defeated for good, there are currently 31 states where gay and lesbian marriage remains illegal. LGBTQ couples continue to face discrimination based on myths, prejudice and popular misconceptions. First Comes Love seeks to change attitudes, open hearts, and propel the marriage equality movement simply by introducing and sharing the love stories of 65 real American long-term same-sex couples. By doing so, Proud hopes to educate those outside of the LGBTQ community, while celebrating those who are a part. To preview it, order, view events and more, go to WWW.FIRSTCOMESLOVE.ORG.
[ Edrie & Jan ]
[ Deb & Cheryl ]
[ Sinjoyla & Angelisa ]
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Your Guide to The 6th Annual Fort Lauderdale Gay & Lesbian Film Festival
EuroGames Stockholm to Host the 2015 IGLA World Aquatics Championships
If you are a movie lover, you will be pleased to know that this year’s film festival has extended. The Festival takes place Friday, October 10th through Sunday, October 12th, and Thursday, October 16th through Sunday, October 19. Here is a list of the full line-up, including eight lesbianfilmed films (highlighted). Get ready to enjoy some of the the world’s best queer cinema! FRIDAY, OCTOBER 10 6 - 7:30PM • FILMMAKERS SOIRÉE 8 PM • Four Moons (Cuatro Lunas) 10PM – 12AM • OPENING NIGHT PARTY
Museum of Art Fort Lauderdale 1 E. Las Olas Blvd. SATURDAY, OCTOBER 11 2:30PM • Out in the Night
Gateway Theatre, 1820 E Sunrise Blvd. 4:30PM • Boy Meets Girl Cinema Paradiso / 503 SE 6th St. 5PM • Alex & Ali 7:30 PM • Ten Year Plan Gateway Theatre 8:30 - 11:30PM • AFTER FILM GAYTHERING / Rumors Bar & Grill • 2426 Wilton Dr., Wilton Manors 9:45 PM • Stand / Gateway Theatre 10PM • BFFs / Cinema Paradiso SUNDAY, OCTOBER 12 Noon • Boys (Jongens) / Gateway Theatre 2PM • Blackbird / Cinema Paradiso 2:30PM • Rosie 5PM • Eat With Me 7:15PM • Futuro Beach (Praia do Futuro)
10PM - Midnight • CENTERPIECE AFTER PARTY / Stache Bar, 109 SW 2nd Ave. FRIDAY, OCTOBER 17 6PM • The Way He Looks (Hoje eu quero
voltar sozinho) / Gateway Theatre 6:45PM • Fear of Water / Cinema Paradiso 8:15PM • Xenia / Gateway Theatre 9PM • Eastern Boys / Cinema Paradiso 10PM - Midnight • LADIES’ NIGHT America’s Backyard, 100 SW 3rd Ave SATURDAY, OCTOBER 18 Noon • Born to Fly: Elizabeth Streb Vs. Gravity 2:30PM • I Always Said Yes: The Many Lives of WakeFIeld Poole 5PM • F(l)ag Football
Gateway Theatre 5:30PM • 52 Tuesdays / Cinema Paradiso 7:15PM • Tiger Orange / Gateway Theatre 8PM • Life Partners / Cinema Paradiso
Gateway Theatre 7:45 PM • Tru Love / Cinema Paradiso 9:45PM • Drown / Gateway Theatre 10PM - Midnight • COCKTAILS IN THE COURTYARD / Cinema Paradiso
8:30 - 11:30PM • MEET & GREET W/ SOUTH BEACH ON HEELS DIRECTOR & DRAG QUEENS / Location TBA 9:30PM • South Beach On Heels Gateway Theatre 9:45PM • Honeymoon (Libanky) Cinema Paradiso THURSDAY, OCTOBER 16 7:30-9:30PM • CENTERPIECE FILM - BEYOND LOVE / Gateway Theatre
SUNDAY, OCTOBER 19 Noon • Holiday (Feriado) / Gateway Theatre 2:30PM • WOMEN’S SHORTS 5PM • MEN’S SHORTS
Gateway Theatre 7 - 9PM • WOMEN’S CLOSING FILM - APPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR / Cinema Paradiso 7:30 - 9:30PM • MEN’S CLOSING FILM QUEEN OF AMSTERDAM / Gateway Theatre 9:30PM – Midnight • CLOSING NIGHT FINALE / Bahia Mar, 801 Seabreeze Blvd. For further information and tickets, visit www. flglff.com or call 305.751.6305.
EuroGames Stockholm is pleased to announce that it will host the 2015 International Gay & Lesbian Aquatics (IGLA) World Championships in conjunction with its cultural, sport and political program. The aquatics championships will be August 5-9 and will include swimming, diving,water polo and synchronized swimming and will be the world’s largest pro-LGBTQ aquatics event of 2015. EuroGames Stockholm is a sports, cultural and political event and is expected to attract over 5.000 participants and more than 250.000 visitors. EuroGames is held about three times per decade. Previous host cities include Barcelona, Paris, London and Antwerp. Stockholm is a stunning destination and has as a lot to offer within the LGBTQ community. From unique boutique hotels to major cultural events, Stockholm never falls short. EuroGames is among the world’s largest LGBTQ-events, founded by the European Gay and Lesbian Sport Federation (EGLSF) in 1992 to combat discrimination, encourage integration, and promote the right to engage in sport, politics and culture - regardless of sexual orientation, gender, religion, age, ethnic origin, political beliefs, or athletic or artistic ability. IGLA is the world’s foremost international organization solely devoted to developing and promoting LGBTQ swimming, water polo, diving, and synchronized swimming.The annual IGLA Championships are the world’s largest LGBTQ-aquatics event and attract hundreds of participants from around the globe each year. The IGLA Championships were first held in San Diego in 1987and most recently in Copenhagen, Honolulu, Reykjavik, and Seattle. Registration for EuroGames Stockholm 2015 is now open at eurogamesstockholm.com/registration.
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scopes AQUARIUS JAN 21 - FEB 19 The Universe is urging you to take those dreams and turn them into realities. Then accept their right to their opinion. Keep your cool and discuss, rather than argue. You’ll need to make concrete plans to achieve those goals and perhaps with a little help from your friends. Don’t alienate your cheering section. The restrictive energy of the retrograde will be gone by month’s end, so rest up, be ready to implement your action plan to achieve your goals.
leo July 23 - aug 22 How you speak your mind and put forth your ideas is as important as what you have to say. Use charm to convince and overcome any objections. Spend this time consulting with those in a position to help you achieve your goals. Rediscover your own sphere of influence and gain benefits by networking within it. Cash flow improves by month’s end, but don’t spend it yet.
pisces feb 20 - mar 20 The Universe is pushing your current financial situation into overdrive, especially as it affects joint finances, business partnerships and alliances that can be beneficial to your long term financial security. By month’s end, money will flow freely once again. Once you stop spinning in the worry, your reward will be a totally new beginning for enjoying a quality life with loved ones and an improved cash flow.
virgo aug 23 - sept 23 All your energy is focused on your finances. You have the chance to hit rewind and turn loss into profits by seeking professional assistance. Give up your need for order. Think before you react, go with the flow and be willing to share your innermost feelings, including your dreams for the future. Don’t assume everyone’s on the same page. Remember, conversation and compromise avoids conflict.
aries mar 21 - apr 20 Undertake challenges, especially communication challenges within close relationships. The planets are doing their best to disrupt your balance. Compromise whenever possible. Use this cycle to review past successes and failures and then use the information to plan strategies to implement next month. Give in to your desire to explore new possibilities.
libra sept 24 - oct 23 Take your personal inventory and revisit your strategies for reaching your goals and even the goals themselves. What is the state of your relationships, your diet, your finances and your job? Be honest. What can you improve upon in your current situation? Reinvent yourself in order to improve the quality of your relationships, your cash flow and your career.
taurus apr 21 - may 21 Use this energy to finally clear out all the crap from your house, office and mind. Revamp your routine to include physical exercise, better dietary choices and willingness to do things differently. Balance your relationship needs with other responsibilities. You must learn to balance your relationship needs with your responsibilities. Recharge in order to realize your goals and improve your bottom line.
scorpio oct 24 - nov 22 The planets are urging you to use these energies properly by making plans for some much needed alone time. Don’t dwell on the challenges, but clear the debris and move forward. Think of positive changes that include how you deal with inner conflicts, which hopefully, will be reflected in how you handle yourself in relationships.
gemini may 22 - june 21 Your creative juices are flowing and there are so many chances for rom-com scenarios. The Universe tempts you to take foolish risks with your happiness, to test boundaries and to cross lines. The seductive past glides back into your present day fantasies, but it’s up to you to control your impulses. Weigh the consequences carefully, as they will be life changing. Change your attitudes about the things that matter to the significant others in your life.
sagittarius nov 23 - dec 21 It’s time for you to come out of your self-imposed isolation and play with your friends – and their friends. Be your usual chatty self and let everyone know your goals, and then enlist their help achieving them. Just be choose your words carefully, as misunderstandings are the norm now. Use your edit button often to ensure you don’t make enemies. By month’s end you’ll have most of your projects accomplished.
cancer June 22 - july 22 The two Eclipses will affect you because your emotions are center stage. Work on balancing your job with your life. No matter what the challenge might be, remain cool and don’t make any drastic moves. Instead, use this time to review the past and strategize on how to improve the future. Be open to opportunities to use your considerable skills and lay the groundwork for future projects.
capricorn dec 22 - jan 20 The planets are empowering you to focus on your finances, your career, and your cash flow. You will need to be clear about your goals. Enlist the help of your network and ask for help in order to achieve. The alliances you make now will lay the groundwork for your future success. Relax and enjoy the social aspects of networking and finally have some fun.
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