She Magazine—Sept12

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Everyone has a dream—something they have always wanted to learn how to do, but just haven’t gotten around to it. Maybe you’ve wanted to take some vocal lessons, learn to speak Chinese, flip a pancake without a spatula, play the piano or knit.

There’s something. You know there is.

I have always wanted to learn how to fly a hot air balloon. No, I have never even ridden in one, and it’s possible that doing so would make me puke. But I still want more than just the experience of being a rider. I want to know how to be the pilot.

It would be really obvious for me to sit here and tell you that anything you want to learn you can go out and pay someone to teach you. In a word—duh. But the truth is that there is a whole world of options out there, which do not require you to spend a dime.

Consider this: For every dream you have to learn something new, there is someone else in this world who wants to learn something you already know. Maybe you can give vocal lessons, speak Chinese, can flip a pancake without a spatula, play the piano or knit. The key is to take what you know and trade that knowledge with someone who has the knowledge you seek. Cool concept, right? I call it, “Dream Barters,” and believed in it so much, that a close friend and I created a Facebook page to back it up.

Knowledge is power, and there is a world of knowledge out there if you look in the right place. You might find someone in China that wants to learn English as much as you want to learn Chinese. I don’t know how to play the piano or knit, but I sure know how to flip a pancake in a pan without using a spatula. You might not be able to teach me how to pilot a hot air balloon, but that’s okay. I’m sure you know something that I would love to learn.

So, this month, I am challenging you to pick something you have always dreamed of learning how to do and go out into this world and find someone who will teach you how to do it, in exchange for some knowledge you have to share. You can “like” the Dream barters page on Facebook. You can talk to co-workers, neighbors or friends.

But do something this month to make it happen. In the words of Tim Curry, “Don’t dream it—BE it!”

See you next month.

MANAGING EXECUTIVE EDITOR Tina Sordellini PUBLICITY SHE ESPAÑOL EXECUTIVE EDITOR Maria Espinal ASSOCIATE EDITORS Marissa Cohen • Shawn Nicholson Christina Radish • Denise Warner CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Marissa Cohen • Verónica Espinal Christina Radish • The Village Sage Nadine Smith • Tina Sordellini Denise Warner • Donna Woessner CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS Verónica Espinal • Yadira Claralt Karina Luna • Angie Sowers Juan Saco Mironoff • Boi-Photography SALES ASSOCIATES Maria Espinal • Diana Price Donna Woessner ads@shemag.com DISTRIBUTION JR Davis • Randy Justice SUBSCRIPTIONS www.shemag.com EDITORIAL OFFICE 6511 Nova Drive, #173 • Davie, FL 33317 954.354.9751 office info@shemag.com • www.shemag.com

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september 2012 / VOLUME 14 / ISSUE 8

IN THIS ISSUE

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20 features

16 ORLANDO PRIDE Get your bags ready and come out with pride to celebrate. See schedule of events.

18 JENNIFER BEALS

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she espaÑol 30 NOTICIAS Entérate lo que sucede en nuestros paises.

31 SOY MUJER

“This character is very different from Bette.

She does not have the same kind of...”

20 MELISSA ETHERIDGE

Exclusive interview: “It is the most confident album I have ever made.”

24 SANDRA VALLS & ERIN FOLEY See them perform during Womenfest

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DIRECTOR’S CHAIR MULTIMEDIA IN THE NEWS WHAT TO DO, WHERE TO GO

Calendar of Events

22 SHE GIRL

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28 CHEW ON THIS

We visit Key West’s Le Bistro

32 ON THE SHELVES 32 ARCHIVES

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38 SCOPES

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with tina sordellini

Opening September 28 is Won’t Back Down, starring Viola Davis, Maggie Gyllenhaal, Holly Hunter and Ving Rhames.

In this drama, two determined mothers, one a teacher, look to transform their children’s failing inner city school. Facing a powerful and entrenched bureaucracy, they risk everything to make a difference in the education and future of their children.

Alanis Morissette has just released her new album Havoc And Bright Lights.

The album marks the songstress’ first release in four years. “This record, as always, is a snapshot of what I currently obsess about, care about, and what strikes me at 4 in the morning in my most introspective moments,” says Morissette. “It is my emotional, psychological, social and philosophical commentary through song...”

If you have been on the edge of your seat waiting for the return of some of last season’s hottest ABC shows, the wait is almost over. Castle, starring Stana Katic, premieres on September 24 at 10pm. Modern Family is back on the 26th at 8pm. Scandal, starring Kerry Washington, returns on the 27th at 10pm.The second season of Once Upon A Time begins the 30th at 8pm and Revenge right after that at 9pm.

There are two comedy flicks coming to theaters on October 5. First is Butter, starring Jennifer Garner. An adopted girl discovers her talent for butter carving and finds herself pitted against an ambitious local woman in their town’s annual contest. And Pitch Perfect, starring Anna Kendrick, Brittany Snow, Rebel Wilson and Anna Camp. A college freshman is cajoled into joining The Bellas, her school’s all-girls singing group.

Joe + Belle is a funny and romantic lesbian feature boasting a great story, a whimsically dark comic sensibility and stellar performances. Writer-director-star Veronica Kedar shines as Joe—a laid-back dope dealer full of magnetic charisma. Sivan Levy is Belle—a forlorn yet irresistibly sensual crazy girl who attaches herself to Joe and refuses to let go. They fall madly in love against the backdrop of a wild cross-country getaway— after they accidentally kill a guy! On DVD.

At 666 Park Avenue, all your dreams and burning desires can come true: wealth, sex, love, power, even revenge. But just be careful what you wish for, because the price you pay...could be your soul. Welcome to The Drake, the premiere apartment building on Manhattan’s Upper East Side, home to dozens of residents who are unaware they’re living in the dark embrace of supernatural forces. Stars Vanessa Williams. Premieres September 30 at 10pm on ABC.

not to be missed: Beautiful Surprise, the new album from Ontario, Canada R&B singer/songwriter, Tamia. The sixth album from British singer/songwriter, Joss Stone, The Soul Sessions, Vol.2 . And of course, Melissa Ethridge’s new album, 4th Street Feeling.

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phish phest & pandora events presented out for laughs, starring suzanne westenhoefer at the abbey in orlando, fl benefiting the human rights campaign. photos by boi4life.com / view more photos at www.shemag.com

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in the news NEW POLL: LGBT Issues See Historic Political Shift Logo TV Releases Survey Comparing General Population with LGBT Voter Attitudes, Demonstrating Increasingly Shared Values In an election year with historic shifts in attitudes toward gay rights, the issues of concern to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender voters (LGBT), such as same-sex marriage, serving openly in the military, and to be free from hate crimes, among others, are significantly shaping voters’ decisions well beyond LGBT Americans.

These findings from a poll released by Logo TV also indicate that LGBT voters prioritize the same issues of the economy, unemployment, and health care as do a cross-section of all American voters.

The survey compares the political attitudes of 1,367 U.S. voters, 18 and older, reflecting the broader American electorate, with those of 1,190 self-identified LGBT voters, 18 and older.

The survey was conducted online by Harris Interactive on behalf of Logo TV from August 10th hrough 15th.

• Most Important Issue in Deciding 2012 Presidential Election Vote, Ranked in Order of Importance to LGBT Voters (** indicates statistically significant difference, all numbers are percentages)

Economic issues Unemployment/jobs Health care Gay rights in general Social Security Federal budget deficit Same-sex marriage

LGBT Voters

Gen Pop Voters

18* 14 12 9** 7 6 6**

24** 15 12 1 7 11** 1

• Support/Oppose Same-Sex Marriage Legalization, 2007 & 2012 *2007 data is taken from a Harris Poll, among US adults, age 18+, which fielded Aug 7-13, 2007.

Sept. 2007 - Adults* General Population Independents

Support 31 36

Aug. 2012 – Likely Voters

Oppose 46 44

Support 52 55

Oppose 40 35

• 2012 Presidential Election Vote, among LGBT and General Population Likely Voters ** indicates statistically significant difference

Barack Obama, Democratic Party Mitt Romney, Republican Party Gary Johnson, Libertarian Party Jill Stein, Green Party Not at all sure

LGBT 67** 23 3 2 3

Gen Population 48 42** 2 2 3

4TH ANNUAL FT. LAUDERDALE GAY & LESBIAN FILM FESTIVAL ANNOUNCES its WOMEN’S INTEREST FILMS “Women’s interest films that entertain, educate and inspire will take center stage as the 4th annual Ft. Lauderdale Gay and Lesbian Film Festival (FLGLFF) is set to feature eight compelling women’s films this year. Expanding the slate of women’s interest films is an integral component of the festival this year,” said Franc Castro, executive director of the FLGLFF. Running October 4 --7, all women’s interest films will be shown at The Classic Gateway Theatre, 1820 East Sunrise Blvd.

The women’s interest line-up includes: Thursday, October 4th - Cloudburst – Opening Night • 7:30pm Friday, October 5th - Call Me Kuchu • 5:30pm Preceded by the short film: The Arrival - About Cherry • 7:30pm Preceded by the short film: Ursula’s Victory (La Victoria de Ursula) Saturday, October 6th - Taboo Yardies • 2pm Preceded by the short: No Where To Run - A Perfect Ending • 7pm - I Do • 7:30pm Sunday, October 7th I Stand Corrected • 3pm Jennifer Leitham and Director Andrea Meyerson are scheduled to attend and hold a post-screening Q&A with the audience.

- UNFIT: Ward vs. Ward • 6pm Co-director Edwin Scharlau is scheduled to attend and hold a post-screening Q&A with the audience.

Preceded by the short film: Free Man For more information, visit www.flglff.com or call 305-751-6305.

“While LGBT and general population voters both give President Obama credit for advancing gay rights issues in his first term, LGBT voters also consider the President to be more of a follower on these issues,” said David Goldstein, Research Manager at Harris Interactive. For complete results, visit www.newnownext.com/vote SHE - 14 - 09/12

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The Greater Fort Lauderdale Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce to Host “Transition Solutions for LGBT Seniors” The Greater Fort Lauderdale Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (GFLGLCC), is excited to announce they will present a Symposium, “Transition Solutions for LGBT Seniors ” to be held on Thursday, September 13, 6 - 8PM at the Pride Center at Equality Park, in Wilton Manors, FL. This inaugural event is presented by the Greater Fort Lauderdale Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (GFLGLCC) at no cost to the community. While it is focused on practical issues facing LGBT seniors, ALL are invited and encouraged to attend. The Symposium will feature three expert speakers who will offer valuable information to assist the attendees in planning a safe and secure future. The event will be followed by questions and answers. Coffee and pastries will be provided by Starbucks.

The agenda is as follows: Wanda E. Gozdz, CAPS, eSMM will discuss “Aging in Place”: “Adapting our space to meet our changing needs.” Wanda will discuss “The aspects of aging and how it impacts families psychologically, spiritually and physically.”

Everyone wants to live forever in his or her home. Come and find out what tips you can use to modify your place so that you can live safely, securely and independently.

Ryan Schultz, ChFEBC, MBA will discuss “Living Comfortably in Retirement: Financial Tools to Help You Age Gracefully.” Ryan will cover investment strategies that will help you afford paying for care in your home, maintain your dignity as you age, and not outlast your savings. Specific items include Long-term Care Insurance, IRAs and Annuities.”

Stephanie L. Schneider, Board Certified Elder Law Attorney will discuss “Navigating the Maze: Estate and Long Term Care Planning Issues Unique to the LGBT Community.”

Specific items discussed will include: Why Plan for your Future? Creating a Management Plan for Incapacity. Strategies for Passing on Wealth and Minimizing Estate Tax. Asset Preservation Strategies for Long Term Care/Medical Needs.

Facilities Visitation Rights.

The GFLGLCC is a 501 C (6) Non Profit organization, dedicated to promoting business and economic opportunities for the LGBT and LGBT-friendly community in the Greater Fort Lauderdale area. For more call 305-7985455 or gogayfortlauderdale.com.

the miami-dade gay & lesbian chamber of commerce holds 2nd Annual LGBT Symposium on Aging The Miami-Dade Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce in collaboration with Community Partners will hold its 2nd Annual “LGBT Symposium on Aging” on Saturday, September 22nd with the objective to educate and explore the needs of the LGBT community. The events will be held at the Hyatt Regency Miami, 400 SE 2nd Avenue, Miami / 8am - 5pm. The symposium will consist of speakers and forums that will address several topics of importance to this segment of the community such as Care, Health, Legal, Finance, among others. The fee for admission, which includes seated lunch and refreshments throughout the day, is $35 for members of the MDGLCC and $55 for non-members of the MDGLCC. Event is open to the public.

RSVP is required at 305-673-4440 or rsvp@gaybizmiami.com.

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TO DO WHERE TO GO WHAT

WOMENFEST KEY WEST Sept. 4 - 9 Various locations in Key West, FL womenfest.com She Magazine Presents The 15th Annual Beach Blanket Babe & Butch Sept. 7 • Noon - 3PM • Free Bourbon St Pub, 724 Duval St. Key West, FL MDGLCC’s Maintaining Healthy & Loving Relationships Luncheon For LGBT adults over 50 Sept. 7 • FREE • 305-673-4440 Z- Ocean Hotel South Beach 1437 Collins Avenue • Miami Beach gaybizmiami.com Miami International Wine Fair Sept. 14 - 16 • 5 - 8PM Miami Beach Convention Center, Hall A 1901 Convention Center Dr. Miami Beach, FL • 305-673-7311 miamiwinefair.com The 2nd Annual Not On My Watch Sept. 15 • 8PM - Midnight Dream Hotel in Miami Beach • nveee.org Girls Out Loud Music Fest Sept. 15 • 1 - 7PM Al Lang Field, Downtown St Petersburg, FL girl2girlproductions.com Hunter Valentine Live Sept. 17 • 9PM Will’s Pub • 1042 N Mills Ave • Orlando, FL Aqua Affair Sept. 29 • 7 - 10PM The Shore Club in Miami Beach, FL aquafoundation.org Fiona Apple Live Sept. 30 • 8PM Fillmore Miami Beach • livenation.com Fort Lauderdale Gay & Lesbian Film Festival Oct. 4 - 7 • Various locations • flglff.com Celebrate Orgullo Oct. 6 • Noon - 6PM 11th - 12th St. on Ocean Dr • Miami Beach celebrateorgullo.com Tampa Int’l Gay & Lesbian Film Festival Oct. 5 - 13 • tiglff.com

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feature What comes to mind when someone thinks of a gay pride festival?

Most would probably associate the term with rainbow flags, over the top parade floats (even if it is a local drag queen sitting on the back of a convertible, tossing condoms in the crowd), and excessive drinking and partying. Pride is not just about being gay, coming out of the closet, or partying harder than usual. Having pride is something everyone can relate to, regardless of color, race, or sexual preference. Pride is what helps unite communities and families, brings people together, and conquers their fears or personal restrictions. Pride allows someone the opportunity to release apprehensions and become her true self.

This October, the city of Orlando’s Come Out With Pride festival plans to reiterate that message more than ever with their celebration “World of Pride,” where they will be offering their guests more than just a festival and parade, but a weeklong event that caters to everyone.

Each year tens of thousands of people from all backgrounds flock to the streets of downtown Orlando for the annual pride parade. The local businesses and downtown civilians open up their doors in celebration, creating an exciting and wonderful environment for everyone. While downtown, be sure to check out some of Orlando’s exceptional local hangouts, such as Stardust Lounge (a cool underground throwback bar with great music and plenty of seating), Shari (a sheik sushi restaurant and bar that offers a lively -- and affordable -- happy hour from 4-7pm each evening), and Burton’s Bar (Orlando’s oldest standing bar, offering everything from billiards, darts and shuffle board to its guests).

This year, on top of the exceptionally beautiful central Florida fall weather, pride organizers will enhance participants’ experiences with

a farmer’s market-esque food and beverage setup. Crowd goers will be able to try cuisine and drinks from around the world while learning about other countries and their LGBT communities. For families with children accompanying them, there will be plenty of child-friendly food and beverages. There will also be a Disney-sponsored kid zone so the little ones can enjoy themselves. Accompanying the international treats and delicacies will be a wide range of performing artists, from choirs to DJs, providing music for all ears, including female R&B singer/songwriter Live Hart.

To top everything off, eight LGBT couples will be married on stage before local government officials, with thousands of their friends, family, and neighbors present to congratulate them. After the marriages will be the official Pride parade through the streets of Orlando, followed by a spectacular fireworks display to light the night skies.

Come Out With Pride’s director, Mikael Audebert, says, “Our mission is to celebrate living an authentic life, celebrate diversity in its entirety and promote acceptance and equality while opposing societal prejudices. We are hopeful our theme ‘World of Pride’ will bring about a greater understanding of what our community truly stands for and a better appreciation of the challenges we continue to face on a global scale.”

Orlando Pride Parade & Festival will take place Sunday, October 6, 2012. This year’s parade Marshal is Debbie Gibson. Make sure you stop at She Magazine’s booth during the festival!

For more information on this destination event, visit Orlando Pride’s website at www.comeoutwithpride.com.

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SCHEDULE OF EVENTS Monday, Oct 1st >> Film Festival OPENING NIGHT

Friday, Oct 5th >> Comedy at Hamburger Mary’s

Love Free or Die The Abbey / 7PM 100 South Eola Drive #100 Orlando, FL 32801

8PM/ No Cover 110 West Church Street Orlando, FL 32801

Tuesday, Oct 2nd >> Film Festival

Shorts: 6 - 7.30PM Special Features: 8 - 11PM The Abbey Wednesday, Oct 3rd >> Film Festival CLOSING NIGHT SPECIAL GUEST, CHELY WRIGHT

WISH ME AWAY The Abbey / 6PM thursday, Oct 4th >> Opening Ceremonies

Saturday, Oct 6th >> Pride Day / Noon

Lake Eola Downtown 101 North Rosalind Avenue Orlando, FL 32801 Parade / 4PM Fireworks / 7:45PM Sunday, Oct 7th >> Recovery Brunch

Hamburger Mary’s 11AM / No Cover 110 West Church Street Orlando, FL 32801

>> Pride At Halloween Horror Nights

Closing Ceremonies >> Macy’s at Mall of Millenia / 7PM

Universal Studios Orlando 6000 Universal Blvd.

4200 Conroy Road Orlando, FL 32839

Time & Venue TBD

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with denise warner / photo by stefaniekeenan.com

feature

JENNIFER

BEALS

ON YOUR LAP

Jennifer Beals is back and what better place to have her, but right in your lap as part of the new Internet-based 3-episode WIGS series, Lauren, which debuted on August 13th.

Beals plays Commanding Officer, Major Jo Stone, who has just been informed by Lauren, a female solider in her unit, that she was brutally raped by three fellow officers. The intense drama is played brilliantly by Jennifer as the conflicted Officer, and Troian Bellisario (“Pretty Little Liars”), a young solider looking for justice.

When we asked what her loyal lesbian fans will think of the Major Stone character and what they might be drawn to in WIGS, Beals said: “I don’t know what the lesbian fans will like about the series. Maybe the uniform? And I say that lovingly because I have to say, my lesbian fans are the most loyal that I have ever encountered and I’m very grateful to all of them. This character is very different from Bette. She does not have the same kind of vulnerability that Bette has. She is probably two years short of being completely ossified in a way, having to survive and succeed within the parameters of the military. I don’t think it’s easy for anyone to keep their tenderness intact and when having spent that many years in the military, I think that it’s really a challenge to be a tenderhearted warrior. I think for her it’s been particularly difficult.

She comes from a generation who felt that if they were to be the victim of any kind of sexual assault, that it would (behoove) them to silence themselves so that they wouldn’t experience the second trauma of being belittled. I think she’s had to silence herself a lot. She’s had to take on a role, a much more masculine role probably, than her parents would have ever wanted for her. She could kick Bette’s a*s in about two seconds.”

Being in a project that’s based solely on the Internet was new territory for Jennifer.

“I feel like you are able to tell stories that perhaps you wouldn’t be able to tell on network TV or perhaps cable. There’s a sense of freedom. It feels very free because there are no real rules attached to it because nobody really knows exactly what it is yet. So it feels very exciting.”

So, what attracts Jennifer to a script or a new project? “The story is always the first and foremost. I’m most enticed by a narrative regardless of what the budget is and then it’s certainly a consideration of who you get to work with, who you get to go play with. And those are the most important factors. If I have to pay the mortgage—that’s also a consideration!” Beals laughed.

Check out the new series WIGS on YouTube at www.youtube.com/wigs.

“This character is very different from Bette. She does not have the same kind of vulnerability that Bette has.”

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Our queen of rock is back and better than ever! Melissa Etheridge puts still more of her trademark passion into her 12th studio release, the brand new album, 4th Street Feeling, released on September 4th.

We recently spoke to our Queen of Rock about her album, her kids, new relationships and more.

Your new CD has such a brave, confident feel to it and you wrote 12 songs.

What was the general feeling when you were putting it together?

That means a lot to me, thank you! It is the most confident album I have ever made.

Twenty five years ago, people would ask me “What would you like to be doing 20 years from now?” and I remember saying, “I would love to just be making and playing music that people love to hear,” and I when I made this album, it dawned on me, “I got my dream. I did. I’m still here. So, let’s just make some more good music, and music that I love,” and with that came this freedom. I just felt so free.

It was a feeling of, “This is right. I’m the right

person, doing the right thing for me. I’m supposed to be right here, doing this,” and that really is what this album is all about.

Tell us a little about the title, 4th Street Feeling.

First off I’d say that 4th Street Feeling has got to be the hardest title ever to pronounce! (laughs) The poor European fans! (laughs) Ok, it is an actual street in Leavenworth, Kansas - my hometown, and it was the main drag – you know, where the McDonald’s was, the place we used to cruise up and down all the time. The first car I ever had was a 1964 Chevy Impala and we used a similar car on the cover for the album, and you know, it brings me back. It’s a memory. So, that 4th Street Feeling just brings me back. You know, we’re older now, we have so many more responsibilities, and I remember when everything I had I could fit in that Chevy! So, it was an easier time.

The first single “Falling Up” is on iTunes and the response from fans and Rolling Stone Magazine has been great. There’s a certain excitement in that song that sets a tone. Was it intentional that “Falling Up” was the first released single?

You know (laughs), it sounds crazy, but when I’m done with making my record, I hand it in to the music execs, and I say, “Here you go.” At that point, I don’t know.

I’m connected to every song, so I let them decide how to handle it. I don’t know what people listen to. That’s their job. What’s funny is that, out of all the songs, “Falling Up” is probably the one I wouldn’t have even put on the album. I mean, it’s a fun song, and I love it, but it was just kind of sweet to me. The execs listened to it and went nuts. They loved it! They loved the energy of it and decided right off that was the one going out first.

You’re just back from New Zealand and Australia. It’s the first time in a long time since you’ve been there. How was that for you?

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It was wonderful! Such a great feeling to have such a warm welcome after being gone from there so long! Everyone knew all the songs, not just the ones from my big albums. I mean, they knew all the songs. I sold out two nights at the Sydney Opera House - and that was a dream come true for me. It was amazing. I can’t wait that long again.

“Rock’n’Roll Me” is so smooth and sexy, I just love it. It’s one of those songs you can listen to over and over. It has a really different bluesy feel to it. With so many songs on this CD to love, do you have a favorite?

Denise, you’re making my day! I’m so happy you liked it! I go through phases, and I like all of them at different times. Right now I’m into “Shadow of a Black Crow”.

Is it scary to try new sounds and styles because fans are looking for the “classic Melissa” stuff?

You know (laughs), I don’t even know what “classic Melissa” is anymore. I mean, I push myself a lot into new areas, but I always try and stay true to the core of me. I want to be able to just pick up my guitar and be able to play my song by myself. That’s always been my measuring stick. This album does have a lot of my influences on it [like] bluegrass and different instruments. I grew up listening to The Commodores, Marvin Gaye and The Supremes. It’s nice to bring styles that influence my life into my new music.

There are some amazing guitar riffs and really cool sounds.

There’s a banjitar and a harmonica on these new tracks (“Be Real”), all to your credit. It’s like a rush of creativity for the ears.

What inspired you?

That’s what happened! I wanted to do more of the stuff that I enjoy as much as I could. Ever since I toured Europe and England, I’ve been pushing myself to play harmonica and different stuff, guitars, banjitars - because I like them.

I put a lot of them on the album, so I could play that sort of stuff. I’m glad it comes through in the music because I’m having a great time playing it. So, was it scary, you asked me before? It was scary to put myself out there and say, “I’m going to play the harmonica,

I’m going to play all the lead guitar, I’m going to play the banjitar myself” and put so much of me into it. That part was a little scary.

moves us. I talk a little bit about what I know, take calls, talk to listeners, read their letters and play songs. It’s pretty cool. I love doing it.

As we’ve read, you’re in a new, healthy, happy relationship with Linda Wallem, (creator, producer of “Nurse Jackie”).

How does a world tour impact that?

You live your life pretty much out loud, but that has its downside, as we all saw during your last relationship. Are you doing anything differently now?

Ooooh, it is the hardest part. She works as hard as I do, so it’s a constant balancing of schedules. We’re trying to schedule through the end of the year to be sure we have time together, when she can come out to me, when I can fly back to her. I mean, it’s hard. I just did a show in Portland and she came out for that, and it was great. And the same thing with my kids, you know? I have to keep it all balanced.

I mean, my life is my work and my family.

Do the kids like coming to see you play?

Yeah, maybe a little more private. I don’t go out much anymore. (laughs) Look, I’m very happy. I have a wonderful relationship. It’s everything I ever wanted. I have a beautiful, warm family with my two baby-mommas, who are still a part of my world because we share children. So, it’s a wonderful blend of people, but you know, no one can know what that’s really like. So yeah, maybe I lay low a little more, but that’s fine because I’m happy!

Yeah, I think they get a kick out of it.

Are they musically inclined? Have you seen signs?

Yeah! They all are a little bit! My daughter really loves it. She’s got her eye on Broadway.

Speaking of that, you made your Broadway debut in Green Day’s rock opera “American Idiot.” Did you ever think when you started out one day you would be on Broadway? Has the bug bitten you (because I read somewhere you’re working on a musical)?

That was so much fun! I love Broadway! I’ve always been a very good gay. I love “Jesus Christ Superstar” and “Godspell” and anything Andrew Lloyd Weber. I think it was always a destination for me. I absolutely loved being onstage in a production. It was amazing. I just kind of had to give it up for a while for my own work, but I love it and would love to get back to it.

Melissa’s world tour is underway beginning October 3rd in Oakland, CA to November 13th in Kentucky. Her syndicated radio show through Benztown Radio Networks can be heard on 20 different markets across the US and Canada. Melissa will be honored by the National Women’s Museum of Art in Washington, D.C. this fall and will be included in the exhibition, “Women Who Rock: Vision, Passion, Power.” Organized by the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame and Museum, the exhibition will run Friday, September 7 through January 6, 2013.

Follow Melissa on Twitter at @speak_ true, facebook.com/MelissaEtheridge or www.melissaetheridge.com

4th Street Feeling is your 12th studio album for Island Records. You seem to have a great relationship with your label. How important is that to an artist?

It’s so great to have that. I’ve been so fortunate to be with the same record company for 25 years! Now, that doesn’t mean I’ve been with the same people because as you know in business, that changes constantly, but to be with the same label and have their support.

They have such respect for me, and you can’t buy that. I’m very lucky.

You have a syndicated radio show now, “The Melissa Etheridge Show.” What a great way to stay in touch with fans.

What’s that been like?

Oh yeah! It’s great! It’s on almost 20 markets across the country and Canada. We talk about music and a little bit about life and what

cover story by denise warner photos by james minchin III

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SHE GIRL

photos by diana price at boi4life.com / more photos at www.shemag.com

relationship status: Single My occupation: EMT/ Personal Trainer Dream girl: Barbie meets G.I. Jane Dream job: Orthopedic Surgeon my PET: Bruce Wayne, my cat My mother thinks I: Am funnier than my twin sister Turn-ons: Good hair, confidence, spontaneity and a love for life Turn-offs: Sarcasm and a lack of ambition/drive Sensitive Body Part: Neck, behind my ears Best quality: I like to believe I carry good positive energy and an

undeniable caring nature have a weakness for: Children, big trucks, a great smile and

Oreos I like to wear: New socks and hats If you could have one super power, what would it be and why?: Time travel, that way I could experience anything

anyone ever experienced Your house is on fire, besides a loved one, what is the inanimate object you’d grab?: My hair straightener,

photo albums and pull-up bar If you could change your name, what would you pick?: Xena, Warrior Princess The last book I read was: 50 Shades of Gray If my life were made into a movie, my part will be played by: Demi Moore, of course My greatest accomplishment: There are so many aspects

Jessica, Lake Mary, FL

of my life that I value such as family, friends, and education…every component is so important to me The cartoon character I am most like: Sandy from Sponge Bob The weirdest thing I ever ate was: Monkey meat, while on a missionary trip in Africa My favorite quote: “You have the power to act only, you do not have the power to influence the result, therefore you must act without the anticipation of the result, without succumbing to inaction.” —The Bhagavad Gita I just won a million dollars. The first thing I am going to buy is: A plane ticket to travel the world with my closest

friends My favorite TV show: The only show I can endlessly watch

reruns of and still laugh, Will and Grace What breakfast cereal best describes you?: Wheaties French Fries, French Vanilla, French Toast or French Manicure?: …and what about French Kiss?

My most memorable date: It was while in Spain. Waking up to the best coffee from a local café, exploring castles and villages and a locals’ dancing ceremony, followed by dinner and a late night walk.

If I could have one wish granted, I would wish: To go back and be able to redo things knowing what I know now…

My coming out was: I was fortunate to have a very supportive family and group of friends.

If you were to become an activist in the LGBT community, which organization would you choose: Equality

Florida or HRC

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by denise warner

feature

If laughter is the best medicine, than what could be a better cure for the summertime blues than a combination of Womenfest Key West and Curiously Strong Comedy, with this year’s line-up of Chantal Carrere, Erin Foley and Sandra Valls? This month, we had the pleasure of rounding out our set of interviews with this hilarious trio, by speaking with Erin Foley and Sandra Valls.

SANDRA VALLS ] You are the perfect blend for every avenue of comedy. how do you choose your material, as far the fun Mexican jokes, lesbian jokes and everyday observations?

My jokes come from what I personally find funny, what pisses me off, and what is just plain absurd! The jokes usually start with me shooting the breeze on the phone with my BFF Christopher or just in conversation with

my girlfriend, Jackie. If we fall out laughing, I’ll use it. Even if it’s something that really pisses me off or annoys me, I’ll use it. I also find that you can inject messages through humor.

Someone once said, “When their mouths are open with laughter, I feed them a message.”

That’s so true. Laughter can entertain, heal, educate and elevate your spirit. I make that my personal mission with my comedy. It is through awareness that we transform, validate and empower ourselves for the better.

You’re a comedian, a partner and a parent. How do you find the balance?

Wow. It’s not easy since I have raging ADD. I am constantly striving for time management and organization. Thank God I have an amazing partner who can roll with me and keep me on track. We have date night. We have family game night or family outings. We put aside time to do these things. We understand and support each other’s careers and know that there are times when we have to be away

from home. It’s a constant renegotiation and restructuring of our family life. The kids are getting older and have different needs and wants than when they were little, so Jackie and I constantly have to check in and reinvent our family life. Communication is key! You can have it all. I do.

How did you know stand up comedy was the right choice for you?

I’ve always loved to make people laugh. I didn’t pick it. It picked me. It sort of fell in my lap when an old girlfriend signed me up for an adult education comedy class. We were going through a break up and I didn’t feel very much like laughing but my friend, Chris, suggested I take the class simply to make more friends.

I went to my first class and I was hooked. It healed my heart. I’ve been doing this ever since. When I get emails from fans saying that they saw me on TV and I helped them come out to their family, when they write me that I got them through a tragedy with my crazy

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jokes, this is what it’s all about. Healing. I love what I do. That’s how I know. I love doing it.

Are there ever moments on stage when you blank or freeze up?

Oh my God, yes! It’s only happened to me a few times. I was terrified! If I’m tired or not feeling well, I always run the risk of forgetting and having a “Sandra has left the building” moment! The first time was when there was this woman in the front row with a really, really low cut blouse and her, um, incidentals were humongous! I referred to them as ‘weapons of mass distraction’! I was so distracted by them (blame ADD) that I blanked out! Completely blanked! I had to banter with her so I could get back on track! Thankfully, she said she was a stripper and I asked her to come up on stage and show some moves. She did. While she was dancing and people were hooting and hollering, I remembered what joke came next! This is why I always have an outline and I memorize it.

You get to work with a lot of lesbian comedians. Who makes you laugh?

Most of them are super funny. But the ones I find extra funny are the ones I have worked with the most. Mimi Gonzalez’s funny, crazy a*s makes me laugh each and every time, on and off stage. I like Amy Tee too. We laugh on the phone every day as well! I also love Julie Goldman, Gloria Bigelow, Poppy Champlin, Karen Williams and Vicki Shaw.

What’s your biggest thought just before you go on stage?

There are several. First and foremost, I always have to go to the bathroom right before. It comes on suddenly and without warning! And no, it’s not for a piss. How embarrassing. Secondly, I chant “nam myoho renge kyo” to remember all my material and not blank out! Lastly, I chant to create value. I want to touch and connect with the audience.

Is it easier, as an out comedian, to work for a gay audience, like pride fests than working in a mainstream comedy club?

It’s easier to perform for a gay audience because I don’t have to explain certain lesbian clichés. Yet, it’s easier to perform for a Mexican audience because I don’t have to explain Mexican culture clichés. I love working for any and all audiences. Certainly, with a gay audience, I get to work out more of my gay material, which is always a plus. I find my home with every audience. do you write out jokes methodically or do you just roll into it freestyle?

Is there still an adrenaline rush when big laughs happen?

Yes! The rush I experienced from my first successful joke is comparable to the rush I received on stage last night. When the audience and I are on the same page, there’s nothing like it.

Is stand up comedy a launching pad for something more, typically?

That depends on the performer. I consider my stand up comedy career to be separate from my acting and writing career. They naturally will overlap at times, but overall, stand up comedy is my first love. If I had my own television show tomorrow, I would still do stand up every week.

What’s the best way to handle a heckler?

I’m not sure if there is an across the board answer for that question.

Every comic has his or her own style. I try to diffuse the situation as quickly as possible and not anger the audience member. It’s an acquired skill, one that I shouldn’t have to hone, but unfortunately it comes with the job.

How do you decide what’s funny? Try it out on friends, write down funny thoughts? Tweets?

Basically, if I find something funny, I’ll write it down on some sort of scrap of paper and most likely find that scrap of paper months later.

Every joke I deliver I find stuck to the bottom of my shoe or behind my desk. Then I try it out again and again in front of total strangers and hope it works. If not, I drink a bottle of wine and contemplate applying to grad school. Note to self: hire a handler.

Do you have topics that are just off limits or is everything considered “material”?

I have topics that are off limits because I don’t find the subject matter to be interesting or original. I also have a genuine fear of making someone feel uncomfortable or marginalized so I try to keep that in the back of my head when I write. I consider it my job to push boundaries and go into uncomfortable territory, but just not at someone’s expense.

WomenFest! Your first? Excited?

Very excited! What lesbo doesn’t enjoy being in the middle of a gaggle of fun ladies in Key West? I’m really looking forward to the show! erinfoley.com / welovesandra.com

I write down the story of premise. I tweak it, then get it on its feet and talk it out. I try to record my shows to study what worked and what didn’t. Some jokes come out exactly as they should sound. They require the perfect wording and inflection. Others, I have to talk it out, hear it and see how they evolve.

[ erin foley ] You’ve worked all over the map, west coast to east coastwhere are you most comfortable?

I think the key word in that question is coast. My comedy is definitely better received on the coasts, rather than in the middle of the country.

I’ve had a lot of fun performing in the heartland. However, being in front of a more liberal, gay friendly crowd is much more enjoyable. Still to this day, my favorite place to perform is New York City.

What was your family’s reaction when you decided to become a stand up comedian?

Terror. Shock. Awe. Confusion. Support. Confusion. Support. Bewilderment. Confusion. Acceptance. All of which have led to my parents calling me once a week with really bad jokes that I should include in my “skits”. Adorable.

Don’t miss Curiously Strong Comedy on Friday September 7, 2012 at Womenfest Key West 2012. For more information, visit Womenfest.com or curiouslystrongcomedy.com

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supporting participants from all across the country for starbucks appreciation/National marriage equality day and national same-sex kiss day photos facebook.com/GayMarriageUSA / view more photos at www.shemag.com

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LE BISTRO/ CROISSANTS DE FRANCE Island Infused French Cuisine If you are looking for comfortable outdoor sitting with a great Key West flair, the must-make stop is this French Café, Le Bistro/Croissants de France on famous Duval Street. Croissants de France is an institution in Key West. For 28 years, locals and visitors have made it a part of their schedule to dine at least once a week and buy delicious pastries and cakes at their shop.

The service at Le Bistro is great, the food is amazing and the desserts are to die for. As an extra service for their loyal clients, Le Bistro also offers full service catering for private parties on the premises as well as at any location in the Keys. Other convenient service added is delivery for Breakfast and Lunch packages 7 days a week. So, check out their menu, call for delivery or make your reservation (recommended). You can not leave Le Bistro without making a stop at their bakery. Among other delicacies you will find apple cinnamon, almond or raspberry croissants, raisin rolls, Pain au Chocolat, Couques, apple and key lime tarts, beignets, brioches, muffins, sourdough rolls, Kouign Amann’s and many more. They sell over 40 different specialties in our bakery. Bon Appetite!

Pictured: Chévre Galettes, Salmon Graulox, Popeye Eggs Benedict & Key West Bouillabaisse.

Executive Chef: Felix Duarte Wine List: Eclectic featuring fifty wines from around the world, twelve by the Glass Signature Drink: Mango Mimosa Most Popular wines: La Griveliere Cotes du Rhone & Mer Soleil Unoaked Chardonnay Most Popular Dishes: Lobster Andouille Eggs Benedict, French Onion Soup & Beef Bourguinon Most Popular Dessert: Royale Banana Split Crepe— our sweet Vanilla Crepe with Caramelized Bananas, Pecans, Tahitian Vanilla Ice Cream, Grilled Pineapple, Fresh Strawberries Chocolate Sauce & Whipped Cream What is le bistro most popular For? We are most popular for our casual outdoor dining in a garden style Key West setting under a two hundred year old Spanish lime tree.

Our artisan baked goods by Master Pastry Chef Jean Francois Huchon are extraordinary and Chef Duarte’s Beef Bourguinon, Seafood La Mer Galette and incredible soups give old classics a Key West flair.

Entree Price Range: Breakfast & Lunch $7.95 - $15.95 / Dinner $15.95 - $28.95 Location & hours: 816 Duval Street Key West, FL • 305-294-2624 • 8AM-10PM Reservations at www.croissantsdefrance.com

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noticias Abren puerta para el matrimonio gay en Colombia La representante a la Cámara Alba Luz Pinilla, radicó el proyecto de ley No. 101 de 2012 que busca, mediante la modificación del código civil, que las parejas del mismo sexo puedan celebrar matrimonios civiles y gocen de los mismos derechos y deberes que las parejas compuestas por hombre y mujer. La iniciativa es una respuesta al mandato que la Corte Constitucional dio al Congreso de la República en la sentencia C-577 de 2011. Según el fallo el Congreso debe legislar sobre los derechos de las parejas del mismo sexo, incluyendo el matrimonio, antes del 20 de junio del 2013.

La Corte Constitucional ya ha reconocido que en el país existen diversos tipos de familia que deben ser reconocidas y protegidas, incluyendo por supuesto las de parejas homosexuales. Si la iniciativa es aprobada Colombia sería el país número 11 en permitir el matrimonio para parejas del mismo sexo en todo su territorio, después de Holanda, España, Bélgica, Sudáfrica, Portugal, Canadá, Noruega, Suecia, Islandia y Argentina.

> Detienen a cuatro sospechosos de crímenes contra comunidad gay en Honduras Al menos cuatro personas fueron detenidas durante varios allanamientos realizados por elementos de la Policía Preventiva y de la Dirección Nacional de Investigación Criminal (DNIC) en la colonia El Limonar de San Pedro Sula, Cortés, al norte de Honduras.

Leonel Sauceda, jefe de la Metropolitana II de la Policía, dijo que los operativos tienen como finalidad capturar a los presuntos responsables de crímenes contra miembros de la comunidad gay en esa zona de Honduras. Por su parte, Elvis Guzmán, portavoz del Ministerio Público, confirmó que los aprehendidos durante los allanamientos son investigados por la muerte de Marlon Javier Jiménez Alemán, miembro de la comunidad de diversidad de género. Durante los operativos que comenzaron a las 6AM, los elementos policiales rodearon varias viviendas del lugar en donde supuestamente vivían personas vinculadas a las muertes de personas de la comunidad lésbico-gay.

En los allanamientos también participaron fiscales del Ministerio Público y de los Juzgados competentes. El subcomisionado Sauceda dijo que los presuntos delincuentes serían integrantes de la Mara Salvatrucha “MS”. Los detenidos fueron trasladados a una estación policial para que la Fiscalía les instruya el proceso judicial por los delitos que se les imputan.

Preocupa el crecimiento del bullying homofóbico en Chile De acuerdo a una encuesta del Movimiento de Integración y Liberación Homosexual (Movilh), el 39% de los estudiantes chilenos ha conocido casos de homofobia o transfobia en colegios. Sin embargo, sólo el 33,2% reporta que “siempre” (12%) o “a veces” (21,2%) se sanciona a los responsables de los atropellos.

El sondeo, realizado en diez establecimientos de enseñanza secundaria de la región Metropolitana, arrojó que a juicio de los estudiantes, sólo el 49,6% de los maestros imparte “siempre o a veces” clases de sexualidad, siendo escasas las menciones a lesbianas, gays, bisexuales o transexuales.

La organización Todo Mejora inició una campaña para prevenir el suicidio de adolescentes e impulsar reformas en las leyes y el reglamento escolar para que se acojan indicaciones internacionales que buscan evitar el “bullying” homofóbico. La campaña consiste en la publicación de videos testimoniales de jóvenes y adultos hétero como homosexuales.

festival “celebrate orgullo” celebra a la comunidad hispana lgbt Ahora en su segundo año, Celebrate Orgullo® es un esfuerzo a nivel local, concebido e implementado por un grupo de voluntarios que decidieron que ya era hora para que Miami Beach tomara la vanguardia en honrar las contribuciones culturales de la comunidad hispana 7 LGBT. El festival igualmente coincide con la celebración del día de la herencia Hispana.

Esta observación se inició en 1968 como la Semana de la Herencia Hispana durante la presidencia de Lyndon Johnson y fue ampliado por el presidente Ronald Reagan en 1988 para cubrir un período de 30 días a partir del 15 de Septiembre hasta el 15 de Octubre. El día 15 de Septiembre es importante porque es el aniversario de la independencia de varios países de América Latina como Costa Rica, El Salvador, Guatemala, Honduras y Nicaragua. Además, México y Chile celebran su independencia el 16 y 18 de Septiembre, respectivamente.

Celebrate Orgullo tendrá lugar el próximo Sábado 6 de Octubre del mediodía a las 6pm en Ocean Drive y la 12 calle en Miami beach. Celebrate Orgullo será gratuito y abierto al público. Una porción de las ganancias de la venta de alimentos y bebidas beneficiarán al Fondo de Becas para Jóvenes LGBT y la programacion annual de Unity Coalition|Coalicion Unida, Inc. Unity Coalition|Coalicion Unida es una organización sin fines de lucro de la Florida, con enfoque en el liderazgo, protección y promoción de los derechos civiles de la comunidad latina|hispana LGBTQ en el sur de la Florida desde el 2002.

Sabado, octubre 6 LGBT Leadership Conference

9am - 1pm / 1001 Ocean Drive Eleazar Delgado Exhibit

Architecture in the Tropics / GRATIS Celebrate ORGULLO Festival

Mediodía - 6pm / GRATIS 11 - 12 Calle y Ocean Drive / Miami Beach www.celebrateorgullo.com

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por veronica espinal

BAJO LA BANDERA DE LA RELIGION

MILAGRO. 1. m. Hecho no explicable por las leyes naturales y que se atribuye a intervención sobrenatural de origen divino.

FANÁTICO, CA. 1. adj. Que defiende con tenacidad desmedida y apasionamiento creencias u opiniones, sobre todo religiosas o políticas.

BLASFEMIA. 1. f. Palabra injuriosa contra Dios, la Virgen o los santos.

El tema de la religión es una de gran peso en nuestra cultura Hispana. Sinceramente no creo que exista una casa que no tenga una Biblia, una cruz, una imagen de algún santo, una virgen, un rosario, en fin. Yo también tengo los míos. Y es que sin duda la religión, o mejor dicho nuestra fé—al nivel y de la forma que sea—nos ofrece una paz especial. El problema esta cuando el fanatismo se apodera de la lógica.

El problema está cuando esa religión no nos permite pensar.

Recuerdo cuando estaba yo en 4to grado y le preguntaba a la monja encargada de nuestro grado si Jesús alguna vez había tenido novias ya que, según las fotos que conocemos, me parecía un hombre guapo. Y como esta, puedo nombrar preguntas sobre lo escrito en la Biblia misma sin sentirme que falto a mi fé.

La religión nos enseña a tenerle miedo a Dios, a tenerle miedo al castigo que recibiremos por nuestros actos. La religión también nos enseña que el sexo es algo malo, sucio y solamente valido para procrear. La religión nos enseña a creer en lo que se nos dice y no hay lugar para preguntas. A veces yo me cuestiono, ¿cómo saben ellos que es así? ¿Cómo pueden estar tan seguros los superiores de la Iglesia que nos enseñan la verdad? ¿No será más bien que nos enseñan lo que ellos interpretan de la palabra de Dios?

Este preámbulo lo hago porque hace ya unas semanas vi por segunda vez un programa nuevo de televisión que se transmite en el canal de cable de Oprah Winfrey, OWN. El programa se llama “Our America: y lo conduce Lisa Ling. Específicamente me refiero al episodio: “Our America with Lisa Ling: Pray The Gay Away?”. Si no lo viste, te diré que lo puedes buscar en Internet y verlo completo.

Básicamente se trata de un grupo formado hace 35 años llamado Exodus International liderado por un “ex gay” quien dice que ha dejado de ser gay porque entrego su vida a Dios. Obviamente, muchos que pretenden conseguir lo mismo, le siguen y son miembros de este movimiento de supuestos ex gays y lesbianas. Según su propia definición, Exodus International “es el ministerio mas grade del mundo de familia e individuos que han sido impactados por la homosexualidad”.

Curiosamente quien creó este grupo originalmente decidió salirse de el porque se enamoro de otro hombre que iba a las conferencias que ofrecían. Este hombre se dio cuenta que lo que proponía era pura mentira, que le hacia daño a sus miembros y más importante aún, que podía

estar cerca de Dios siendo, asumiendo y viviendo su homosexualidad.

Por otra parte, el actual líder de Exodus—Alan Chambers, se casó y adoptaron un niño si mal no recuerdo ya que él es estéril. Allan hace 21 años dejo de ser gay. Con tu permiso, y disculpa el estereotipo, pero el señor este tiene un aspecto de loca innegable. Lo mismo aplica a otros hombres que entrevistaron que estaban más preocupados por no haber planchado su camisa que por la imagen que proyectaron en el programa, come on people!

Una de las primeras cosas que me llamo la atención en el programa, es que la periodista no podía decir el lugar donde se llevaba la conferencia de Exodus y debía hacer tomas desde la parte de atrás del lugar, o sea, no podía mostrar los rostros de nadie. Igualmente si te tomas el tiempo de ver el website, te darás cuenta que presentan fotos distorsionadas. ¿Por qué es que no pueden mostrar sus rostros?

La verdad es que cada quien hace de su vida lo que más le plazca.

Sinceramente creo que hay hombres y mujeres quienes elijen la vida homosexual por conveniencia, mayormente monetaria, y también quienes amamos y deseamos a nuestro mismo sexo porque es nuestra naturaleza.

Tengo que opinar que para mí este “ministerio”, que además te da la oportunidad de ser aliado a su causa a través de donar entre $10,000 - $200,00 para poder cubrir sus gastos, es una enorme blasfemia. Yo sí creo en los milagros y creo que Dios es grande, pero me parece absurdo que por rezar mucho mucho mi preferencia sexual va a cambiar. Deberíamos de hacer la prueba y rezar mucho para que un heterosexual cambie su orientación sexual, entonces lo creo. O quizás voy a rezar mucho y con mucha fé para que mañana cuando me despierte, biológicamente sea otra persona.

Son organizaciones como estas, con la bandera de la religión, que llevan jóvenes y adultos flojos de mente que andan buscando aprobación de los demás porque creen ser una abominación ante los ojos de Dios y buscan salvación pretendiendo que no hay mas atracción o deseo hacia su mismo sexo. Sinceramente me dan vergüenza ajena pero si ellos creen que están correcto, debemos respetarlo.

Por mi parte, nunca pretendí distorsionar los que sentí y siento.

Al contrario, opte por defender mis sentimientos y mi persona. Hoy me siento orgullosa de haberlo hecho.

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on the shelves

Fun Under The Sun in Ft. Lauderdale • April 2004 Before the Rain

by Luisita Lopez Torregrosa Set during the fall of Ferdinard Marcos in 1980s Philippines, Before the Rain follows newspaper editor Torregrosa as she falls in love with a fellow writer. The two struggle to maintain their relationship against a backdrop of shifting politics and an unforgettable adventure. Torregrosa’s tone is full of longing and her approach to history is clear-eyed, even as her heart is breaking.

Take Me There edited by Tristan Taormino There’s no way I could not love a book of erotica that included both the works of blogger Sinclair Sexsmith (“The Hitchiker”) and Canadian storyteller Ivan Coyote (“Hold Up”). Take Me There highlights the diversity and intelligence of transgender or genderqueer erotica. The best thing about this steamy and smart collection is that each story is different from the last, down to Patrick (formerly Pat) Califia’s “Big Gifts in Small Boxes.” It’s about time we had a book like this.

The Best Sex Writing 2012 edited by Susie Bright I’ve loved Susie Bright for years, since I first discovered her writing when I was in college.

This collection—like its editor—is a razor sharp, smart, and groundbreaking look at contemporary political and sexual issues. My favorites?

Andrea Marcotte’s take on Slutwalk, “Sluts, Walking,” which examines SlutWalk’s main (often misinterpreted) concept: to have a rape free culture; and “An Unfortunate Discharge in My Naval Career,” Tim Elhaijj’s story of a Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell discharge. This collection is intelligent and powerful.

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scopes AQUARIUS JAN 21 - FEB 19

leo July 23 - aug 22

The planets are pushing you out of your comfort zone and into uncharted emotional waters. Prepare to take voyage and expect calm seas with some turbulence.

Take personal inventory and notice what’s missing, as well as what is no longer needed. You are driven to be successful in your career, but if you are too aggressive you might start conflicts that are costly in more ways than one.

Your focus is on your finances and how to improve them, as well as improving your professional image and appeal. Network as much as possible to increase your sphere of influence. Release old negative habits, thoughts and patterns so that you are able to enjoy your present circumstance. Be ready to answer yes when opportunity knocks. No second guessing.

pisces feb 20 - mar 20 Your focus should be on maintaining your current relationships, both personal and professional. You are vulnerable to manipulation so don’t allow yourself to be pushed in any direction you really don’t want to go.

Network within your sphere of influence with the goal being to benefit your current agenda. Be discerning, rather than judgmental, when selecting new friends and allies. Above all, cooperate and compromise.

virgo aug 23 - sept 23

aries mar 21 - apr 20

libra sept 24 - oct 23

You’re highly motivated to improve your life but ‘burning bridges’ before you even have a destination won’t help at all. Don’t dwell on what isn’t working. Use your energy to figure out what changes you can make to be part of the solution, not part of the problem. Adopt new ways to do the same old things. Listen instead of just waiting to talk.

You are in huge demand as you are offered invitations and opportunities to get out and strut your stuff.

Even though the planets are encouraging you to accept them all, be sure to still take care of business, home and family. Carefully consider which choice(s) will serve you best, and which ones you will regret long after. Know your personal limits. Do some selfanalysis to help you select.

taurus apr 21 - may 21

scorpio oct 24 - nov 22

Your hedonistic nature won’t be denied as the planets give you permission to indulge in your wildest fantasies. Be creative in your self-expression and be optimistic about the future as you make new starts with new people and have new opportunities. However, you must always be in charge of your decisions and subsequent actions.

You crave the spotlight as the planets get you all revved up and ready to satisfy your appetite. You’re more aggressive than usual now, and while that might work for some it definitely won’t work for others. Use your abundant charm to get your way instead. Spend quality time, not money, to have the best time ever with all your friends and family.

gemini may 22 - june 21

sagittarius nov 23 - dec 21

You’re focused on your home, family and career, and how to improve your various situations. Thinking is good, doing is better. Once you’ve done the mental and emotional steps that go into creating new goals, implement an action plan to accomplish them. Renovate and restore whatever you can as you make improvements. If others don’t agree, don’t take it personally. Compromise to avoid conflict.

Your usual footloose, non-committal attitude is being replaced with an urge to merge. No worries though, you’ll still enjoy romantic comedy adventures. Only now you’d rather enjoy them with significant others in your life. Decide on where you want to go to from where you are now, in every facet of your life. Remember to include an equal say from everyone involved in the outcome, then compromise.

cancer June 22 - july 22

capricorn dec 22 - jan 20

Focus your energy and thoughts on enhancing your skills and improving yourself as well as your current situation. Explore all the possibilities available to you in new places. Meet new people with new ideas and new opportunities to grow and learn. Be careful not to ignore your loved ones while focusing on your own interests. Share your thoughts and opinions, then be open to suggestions.

Tone it down a tad as your decisive energy is being ramped up to blast any and all opposition. Don’t waste time quelling a rebellion. Be wise to charm and cajole rather than butt heads. Honesty is the best policy; say what you need and want then listen carefully to feedback. Through negotiation and compromise you will achieve a win/win.

You get to do what you love best; analyze, internalize, and fantasize. Just don’t criticize. Make all decisions based on facts, not assumptions or wishes. Do your due diligence. The Universe is challenging you to prove you ‘got it’ by creating vexing situations to see how you’ll cope. Reinvent yourself as a kinder, gentler ruler, using lessons learned, and your kingdom will thrive.

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