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PLANTING THE SEED There are abundant opportunities in Northwest Indiana to volunteer your time and resources to others in need. And giving back is not only gratifying for adults—it’s a blessing to your children as well.

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KID BITS The T-Ford Performance Horse Ranch on Gary’s West Side, and NWI’s BackPack program

OUR KIDS Three Northwest Indiana children who demonstrate a remarkable spirit of volunteerism

HEALTH CHECK Tips for handling eczema, and free/low-cost hospital programs to keep your child thriving

SCHOOL NOTES Making a difference in your child’s school classroom, one student at a time

TOT SPOT Providing your toddler with face-toface interactions in an age of online social media

MEAL TIME Recipes, ideas and advice for bringing a meal to a family that needs a break

FAMILY ROOM Still waters run deep: when an obligation becomes a shy teenager’s quest

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ast year, right around this time, my then-16-year-old daughter informed me matter-of-factly that she would be putting together a Halloween costume, because she and her friends were all planning to go trick-ortreating. Inwardly, I thought, Today’s teens are so greedy. She should be staying at home handing out candy to the little kids, not collecting it for herself. Back when I was 16, I wouldn’t have been caught dead trickor-treating! Outwardly, I said with a sigh, “Trick-or-treating at your age? You know I can’t be trusted with that much chocolate in the house—especially when it comes in the form of teeny-tiny Milky Way bars!” But her response surprised me. She and her friends had decided to use Halloween night as an opportunity to canvass local neighborhoods and collect canned goods for people in need. And sure enough, they filled up their little wagon three times over that night, eventually donating eleven grocery bags of food to area food pantries—and they’re planning a repeat performance this year, too. Despite the fact that times are tough for a lot of Northwest Indiana residents, there is good news: our children are nurturing an awareness that we are all in this together—and

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it is resulting in a culture of caring that is truly contagious. Just check out the outstanding local youth volunteers (“Our Kids,” page 8) who are making a difference for area teens, individuals with disabilities and those who are hospitalized. Or smile along with columnist Rick Kaempfer, who is equally amazed at how his painfully shy son has blossomed into a beloved soup kitchen helper (page 24). I encourage all of you to take up the cause, any cause, whether it involves sinking your heart and soul into a full-time enterprise to help at-risk youth, such as the couple who built a horse ranch on Gary’s West Side (page 6), or merely volunteering your extra time to help out in your child’s classroom (page 12) or to bring a meal to a family in crisis (check out tips and recipes on page 16). Wondering what volunteer opportunities are available nearby? Our “Planting the Seed” feature on page 18 gives you plenty of food for thought, and even offers tips on the types of activities that best suit children of different ages. (Hint: Thanksgiving is coming up, and we’ve listed several organizations that can use your help to feed those who need a helping hand this year.) Finally, our thanks to the featured sponsor in this issue, Omni 41 Health & Fitness Connection. Their commitment to the health and well-being of our Northwest Indiana families will be even more evident on November 14, when they hold their Children’s Health and Fun Fair. Read more about their exceptional facility on page 20. The approach of Halloween means many things to many people (see: teeny-tiny Milky Way bars, above), but it also heralds one universal truth: before we know it, the holidays will be here. This year, let’s all work to make this a true season of giving. We owe it to our kids—and our communities. Kathy MacNeil

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edged tightly between the Indiana Toll Road and the South Shore commuter rail tracks is an oasis for children on the city’s crimeplagued West Side. The T-Ford Performance Horse Ranch, where a truck driver and his postal carrier wife offer horseback riding and rodeo skills classes, charges only whatever local families can pay. “People say, ‘How do you fix the streets?’” says Tim Ford, owner of the ranch and lifelong West Side resident. “I’m going to start with these kids. This is how we’re going to fix it.” Ford, 38, has eleven horses and is currently training five boys and one girl in horsemanship. “I teach them there’s another side other than being in the streets,” he says. “It’s easy to get in trouble, but it’s hard to get out of it. It teaches you responsibility. A horse can’t take care of itself. You’re responsible for a life.” The kids have to care for the horses and the ranch itself. Grades of C or higher are required, and, if the kids receive a bad grade, they can’t come to the ranch for a week. “If they don’t do

their chores at home or get in trouble at home, they can’t ride here either,” he says. Tiffany Ford, Tim’s wife, speaks with pride about her husband’s influence in the neighborhood. “He teaches the kids what you should expect from a man,” she says. “The boys and the girls need that.” The couple often skips date nights, dinners out and carryout meals, instead putting the money they would have spent into the youth program. “This is our life,” Ford says. Nine years ago, Ford called Keilani Jackson and told her to bring her then-5-year-old son, Landrick, outside of her West Side home. “Tim came down the alley on one of the horses,” Jackson says. “My son’s eyes got about this big and he’s been into it ever since. He lives, eats, breathes it.” Now 14, Landrick is preparing to enter his freshman year at Thea Bowman Leadership Academy. “There’s a lot of kids not really doing anything interactive or educational, just playing in the streets, getting hurt with gangs and stuff,” Landrick says. “With this, you can take the horses places, go to other states and it’s fun.” His mother says the ranch is a blessing. —Lauri Harvey Keagle

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The commencement of the new school year means the return of the Food Bank of Northwest Indiana’s BackPack program for eligible students in Lake and Porter counties. The BackPack program was officially approved by Feeding America in 2006 and last year more than 140 of its members served over 190,000 children. students who receive a free or reduced lunch at school are eligible for the program, which is designed to meet the needs of hungry children at times when other resources are not available, such as weekends and school vacations. The Food Bank of for more information, Northwest Indiana has visit feedingamerica.org been taking part in the or foodbanknwi.org. program for several years and currently serves schools in gary, hammond and Portage. “We’re trying to expand it all throughout Lake and Porter counties,” says Megan sikes, communications manager for the Food Bank of Northwest Indiana. students pick up their food items every Friday when they leave school. The food varies from week to week so kids don’t feel as if they are getting the same thing all the time. “We try to rotate different foods in there,” sikes says. “We try to make it as nutritional as possible.” The food is also kid-friendly—nonperishable meals that don’t require the use of a stove and items they can easily make on their own in case Mom or Dad isn’t there. sikes says the program is among the most popular at the food bank. “It’s the one everyone wants to volunteer for and pack boxes for kids,” she says. Methodist hospitals donated two boxes of backpacks for the cause. “If these families don’t have enough money for food, they are unlikely to have money for backpacks,” sikes says. “These children can use these bags to carry their books for school.” According to FeedingAmerica.org, the BackPack program concept was developed at the Arkansas rice Depot after a school nurse asked for help because hungry students were coming to her with stomachaches and dizziness. The local food bank began to provide the school children with groceries in nondescript backpacks to carry home. This year, the Food Bank of Northwest Indiana also sponsored the summer Food service Program for the first time. This program provides breakfast and lunch to children during the summer when they are no longer receiving meals from school. —ROB EARNSHAW

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Community spirits JUSTIN RHINEFIELD, 17 Justin Rhinefield is notching benchmarks of success in more ways than one. The Valparaiso High School senior, who is the son of Jeanette and Jeff Rhinefield and has achieved scouting’s highest rank, Eagle, is volunteering his time and talent to support Opportunity Enterprises, a nonprofit organization that formed in 1967 and helps create life choices and opportunities for individuals who have unique challenges and abilities. Rhinefield’s goal is to make three benches (large enough to seat eight people) for the organization’s Lakeside facility at Lake Eliza. The benches, which are to be completed by fall, will contain storage compartments so clients can participate in activities outdoors. Volunteering is a large part of why Rhinefield became a scout in first grade. “I think scouting has been one of the most important things that have helped shape who I am,” Rhinefield says, adding that he plans to stay involved in scouting. His Eagle Scout activities also have included assisting with a Memorial Day concert at Valparaiso’s Memorial Opera House and helping to build a playground and setting up and ushering at a jazz concert for Opportunity Enterprises. Rhinefield’s volunteerism extends to other areas. He is a class mentor at school for the Hope Club, which assists special needs students, and assists with the youth group at Valparaiso Methodist Church. “I like the feeling of helping other people. I’ve been taught to lend a helping hand. It makes me feel good when I can help others,” he says.

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Jeff Ross’s spirit of volunteerism goes beyond expectations. Ross, son of Frank and Nanett Ross of Crown Point and a junior at Crown Point High School, volunteers for the St. Anthony Medical Center Auxiliary. His duties include escorting patients, delivering flowers to rooms and “anything they want me to do.” Ross just spent a month of his summer vacation assisting at the Crown Point hospital, where he previously had performed 40 hours of high schoolrequired community service. Ross has logged more than 100 hours of service thus far and plans to return during Christmas, spring and summer breaks and possibly on weekends. “At first, it was for 40 hours, but then I took on more shifts. I really like everybody I work with and enjoy helping the patients—they’ve always been good to me,” Ross says. His family moved to Crown Point after previously living in California and Washington State. He has an older brother who serves with the Coast Guard and a younger sister, who is a high school freshman. “I feel good about helping to set an example for my sister, Nicole, and hope to be making a difference,” Ross says. The honor student, who competes in track and field at school, also has volunteered his services at the Lake County Animal Shelter. Ross plans to go to an engineering college and to become a computer or electrical engineer. “I enjoy seeing the smiles on patients’ faces when I bring them flowers. I always try to make conversation with people when I’m in the elevator to help bring a little light into their day.”

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Michelle Velez’s time in girl scouting has been golden. Velez, daughter of Jacinto and Sylvia Velez of Griffith and a recent graduate of Griffith High School, is a recipient of the Girl Scout Gold Award, which recognizes accomplishments in scouting and community volunteerism. It is the highest attainable award for scouts aged 14 to 18. She and other scouts were honored at a Girl Scouts of Greater Chicago and Northwest Indiana ceremony last June in Rosemont, Illinois. Velez, a member of Troop 238, enjoys the community service aspect of her activities. “It makes me proud that I was able to accomplish the honor. Being in Girl Scouts, I have learned a lot of life skills that have prepared me well for the future.” Her two brothers are Eagle Scouts. “Scouting is part of the family,” Velez says. Among other contributions, her scouting activities included helping organize a health fair, Teens for Teens Health and Wellness Fair at St. Mary Hildebrandt Hall in Griffith. Her troop arranged for vendors and free health screenings focusing on issues teens face today. Music also is part of Velez’s repertoire. While in high school, she was a band and choir member, achieving golden honors in the Indiana State School Music Association competition in soloist and duet categories. Velez took part in the Colgate Country Showdown at this year’s Lake County Fair in Crown Point, performed at Griffith’s St. Mary Western Days and Rockin’ Rail Fest and sang the National Anthem at a Gary RailCats baseball game. She also was a member of the student council and booster, art and drama clubs in high school. She plans to attend Purdue University Calumet but so far is “keeping options open” on her course of study.

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czema is an umbrella term for a group of skin conditions, the most common of which is atopic dermatitis, a term often used interchangeably with eczema. Pediatrician Dr. James Goldyn, of Northwest Family Health Care in Hammond, estimates that about 30 to 50 percent of babies are affected by eczema in their first year. Though the cause is unknown, the condition tends to run in families, especially those genetically predisposed to allergies and asthma. Like allergies and asthma, eczema is an overreaction by the immune system to unknown triggers. Some common triggers are weather and typical allergens such as house dust, animal dander, pollens and molds, and metals in costume jewelry. Soaps, which tend to be harsh and drying, are a big offender, too. The good news is that the condition is not contagious and can be effectively managed. Goldyn recommends steering clear of harsh soaps and sticking with a mild cleanser such as Aveeno or Cetaphil. Goldyn also advises ditching the diaper wipes when possible, reserving them only for convenience when on the go. He says that diaper wipes contain irritating chemicals and are simply too harsh for baby’s skin, so it’s best to use plain lukewarm water and a soft towel to clean the diaper area while at home. erika Rose is a If over-the-counter moisturizers aren’t helping to keep the rashes at bay, freelance journalist ask a doctor about using an over-the-counter steroid cream, such as 1 percent who primarily covers hydrocortisone, in addition to a moisturizer, and ask about the safety of health news in repeated use. Don’t use steroid creams—even over-the-counter products— Northwest Indiana. on the face, Goldyn says. erika and her Right after bathing, while the skin is still damp, Goldyn advises parents husband Kevin live in to apply the over-the-counter 1 percent hydrocortisone cream followed by Highland with their a moisturizer on top to help seal in moisture. Also, avoid lengthy baths and two girls, morgan showers. Keep baths quick and the temperature lukewarm, he says. and Alexandra. oct/nov 2010

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Most astute new parents have their pediatrician’s number on speed dial, in case a medical issue arises as they navigate the daunting new role of parent. But prevention and wellness practices by educated parents, siblings and caregivers can prevent many of those middle-of-the night calls. Area hospitals are happy to educate parents and caregivers in such topics as baby care, breastfeeding, infant massage, performing infant CPR and handling choking, often for free or at a nominal fee, so check with your local health care facility for updates on classes. Sibling Class Sept 17, Nov 19, 10-11am Community Hospital, Munster Prepares parents and children (ages 3 to 10) for the arrival of a new sibling. Includes a tour of the Family Center. Free. Register at 219.836.3477. Breastfeeding Class Sept 20, Sept 28 and Nov 22, 6:30-8pm Community Hospital Outpatient Centre, St. John Taught by a boardcertified lactation consultant, this class provides education and support for women who want to breastfeed. Free. Register at 219.836.3477. Taking Care of Baby Oct 4, 6-8:45pm Community Hospital Outpatient Centre, St. John Topics include health issues, safety, immunizations, crying and survival tips, all taught by a Community Hospital neonatal nurse clinician. Adoptive parents are welcome. Free. Register at 219.836.3477. Grandparents Class Oct 5, 6-8pm Community Hospital, Munster

Review basic baby care while learning some of the new practices and recommendations for infant care. Intended for today’s new grandparents. Free. Register at 219.836.3477. Infant CPR and Choking Class Oct 7, 5 and 7pm St. Anthony Medical Center, Crown Point Instruction and practice in infant (newborn to one year) CPR and obstructed airway training. Class size limited. $10. Register at 219.757.6368. Breastfeeding Class Oct 12 or 13, Dec 7 or 8 St. Anthony Medical Center, Crown Point Topics include the role of the partner in breastfeeding, methods for feeding the baby while the mother is away, and suggestions for when the mother returns to work. The class is included in the medical center’s childbirth series, but may be taken separately. $10. Register at 219.757.6368. Baby Care Class Oct 14, 7-9:30pm St. Anthony Medical

Center, Crown Point For parents, grandparents, caregivers. Topics include bathing, diaper changing, home safety and advice on when to seek medical attention. $10. Register at 219.757.6368. Infant Massage and Baby’s Development Oct 18, 7-8:30pm Fitness Pointe, Munster Therapists from Community Hospital’s pediatric therapy department will give an introduction to infant massage and will provide handouts and answer questions about your infant’s development in the first year of life. Free. Register at 219.836.3477. Keeping Baby Safe and Healthy Nov 10, 5:30-7pm St. Catherine Hospital, East Chicago Addresses such topics as when to call the doctor, how to childproof the house, what to do in an emergency, and nutritional needs of babies. Information on child seat safety will be available. Free. Register at 219.836.3477.

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Changing roles in Changing times to four times a week. “There are so many wonderful teachers out there who go above and beyond their job description. But the fact is there are not enough hours in the day to do everything they need to do. Teachers just don’t have the time that they once did.” For Traci Coil, a teacher at Valparaiso’s Hayes Leonard Elementary, parents are utilized as true partners in the educational process in her second grade classroom. Often, parents meet with students in small groups to work on everything from math to reading. “The children love this sort of one-on-one attention,” Coil says. “It also enables students to work on projects that I simply might not have time for. For example, I regularly have the parents sit down with the students to read the Scholastic News magazine and it often turns into a pretty in-depth discussion.” Parents are also being utilized outside of the classroom. Last year, teacher Amanda Alaniz asked parents of her sixth grade students at Willowcreek Middle School in Portage to sit down and read a newspaper article with their child in their

As chief financial officer of a local beer distributor, valparaiso resident Todd Wagenblast has experienced his share of stress in the workplace. Yet, it wasn’t until he spent forty-five minutes volunteering in his child’s classroom that he truly realized the plight of the American teacher. “After spending time in a room with twenty to thirty kids, I had a whole new appreciation for teachers,” Wagenblast laughs. “I saw what they go through and what is expected from them, and I knew I wanted to be there to help in any way I could.” In fact, Wagenblast is just one of the increasing number of Northwest Indiana parents finding that they are needed for much more than planning Halloween parties and chaperoning field trips. Instead, the role of room parent has evolved into parents playing an active role in their child’s education, both inside and outside of the classroom. “The more load you can take off the teachers, the better your child’s education will be,” says Hammond parent and frequent volunteer Nicole Swart. “It’s been wonderful to be able to work with kids in the classroom, some who just needed an extra push that they might not have been getting at home.” As class sizes continue to increase and funding for education continues to plummet, teachers find themselves in a desperate situation. More and more, educators are finding it necessary to turn to parents for the extra help they so desperately need. “These days, administrators expect so much more out of the curriculum, and so much time is spent on assessments,” explains Swart, who estimates visiting her children’s school three

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own home in the hopes they would better understand the value of nonfictional text. Alaniz also regularly invited parents into her classroom to lead small groups on a favorite subject. “These groups were not sorted by ability, but rather on interest,” Alaniz says. “At the junior high level, it can be tough to get parents into the classroom. Yet, these sorts of projects, where parents can share their expertise and celebrate their child’s successes in the classroom, are something they seem to find very intriguing.” And with more parents working than ever before, sharing their profession with a classroom of children makes for a wonderful educational opportunity to volunteer. In recent years, Coil has welcomed police officers, firemen and music teachers into the classroom. “The fact is that we just can’t go on field trips like we used to, so we need to find ways to bring all sorts of outside experiences into the classroom,” Coil explains. “For a guy, the idea of planning a party just isn’t our thing,” laughs Wagenblast, a father of three. “But I love being able to come in and share some of my knowledge. And frankly, it’s easier to find an hour during the day to come in and volunteer when you make the commitment way ahead of time.” Indeed, making the decision to devote the time it takes to participate in the classroom setting is something parents should put a lot of thought into. Teachers and parents agree that honesty is the best policy when it comes to committing to volunteer in the classroom. “I always let the teacher know right at the beginning of the year that I am here to help and the amount of time I will be able to devote in the classroom,” Swart says. “Be upfront and honest, and don’t overextend yourself. All in all, volunteering has been incredibly rewarding for both my husband and me. It has given both of us a chance to see my children in another perspective. There is nothing like seeing them, firsthand, succeed in the classroom.”

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In an age of Facebook statuses, tweets and blog posts, striking the balance between online life and life in the outside world is important now more than ever, and parents have to make a concerted effort to expose their children to a variety of face-to-face social settings. However, social media and other online resources can also provide opportunities for social interaction that did not even exist a few years ago.

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hile social media can be a time-trap to keep you in the house and away from the outside world, it also opens doors that may not have been previously accessible. Jennifer Matuska of Chesterton is a local blogger who understands the benefits of social media and uses it to her advantage. “For me, social media is what saved me. Being a parent can be isolating, and if you aren’t capable of leaving the house to meet with other parents for whatever reason, having things like parenting blogs and Twitter can be lifesavers. I went through some extremely difficult times with pregnancy-related depression as well as postpartum depression. If it weren’t for the relationships I formed online, my life would be drastically different than it is today. But being able to take those online friendships and turn them into weekly play dates certainly has made a difference,” Matuska says. Joy Minocha of Valparaiso is the coleader of Mothers and More of Porter County, a group providing socialization opportunities for both mother and child. The group uses Meetup, an online meeting website, to coordinate events. “When someone is fresh to an area, they’d love to meet other moms for their own socialization and others with kids in the same age range for their children’s socialization. Sometimes it’s hard to know that such a group exists without the help of the Internet. Social

media makes everything a bit more within arm’s reach. It’s really all right at your fingertips; you just need to take the initiative to go find it,” Minocha says.

THE REWARDS OF SOCIALIzATION Minocha believes there are many benefits of playgroups for children. “They [children] learn to socialize and play outside of their comfort zone with the benefit of having Mommy close by. They make friendships that will carry them from infancy to the toddler years through school age. They are well adjusted and learn a bit of independence prior to starting preschool and know the value of friendships. My daughter talks about her friends from playgroup all the time.” Minocha also thinks the benefits are immense for parents. “For moms, it’s almost like a weekly sanity check. It lets you feel as though you’re not the only one going through certain phases with your children. It’s hard for parents to deal with at times, so it’s nice to have a sounding board to bounce ideas and suggestions off of,” Minocha says. “Who better to get advice from than a fellow mom and friend?” So, while Facebook and Twitter may seem like a good way to stay indoors, it’s what you make of it that matters most. Matuska believes that by using the Internet to find people you want to interact with, you are using social media as it was intended—turning online relationships into real-life relationships. “If used right, social media can be truly rewarding and meaningful, and expand your time with people in the real world,” Matuska says. —Jamie Bissot

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LIKE TO COOK? Sometimes the family needs dinner tonight. Other times, it’s a bigger help to have something they can keep in their freezer and use at their convenience. Don’t worry—we’ve got ideas for both situations! Cooking for tonight Your goal is to make something that is easy to reheat and serve. It’s also a nice touch if you can round out the meal with a salad (don’t forget the dressing!), some bread and even a dessert. If you don’t have time to make everything yourself, that’s okay—the thoughtful touch of a full meal will mean a lot on its own. This recipe includes some veggies and is great with corn bread on the side. Chili maC 1 1 2 1 1 1 2

box wagon wheel pasta pound ground turkey teaspoons minced garlic small onion, diced bell pepper, chopped cup frozen corn kernels tablespoons chili powder (can be reduced if spiciness is a concern)

1 teaspoon ground cumin 1 teaspoon oregano 1 can diced tomatoes with chiles (tomatoes without chiles may be substituted) 1 small (8-ounce) can tomato sauce 1/2 cup water 1 cup shredded cheddar cheese 1. Cook pasta according to package directions. Drain and keep warm. 2. Spray a large skillet with nonstick spray. Add the garlic, onion and bell pepper—cook for two minutes. Then add ground turkey and cook until the turkey is no longer pink. 3. Stir in chili powder, cumin, oregano and salt to taste. Add corn. Cook 3-5 minutes more until all veggies are soft. 4. Add tomatoes, sauce and water. Simmer, uncovered, for 10 minutes. Stir in the drained pasta and cheddar cheese to combine.

Bring dinner to the house in a casserole dish or foil baking pan. Reheat at 300 degrees for 20 minutes or reheat individual servings in the microwave. Other suggestions for dinner tonight: Baked potato bar: Bake the potatoes, wrap them in foil and bring prepared toppings in individual containers. Homemade soup: If you have some large Mason jars, they are the perfect container; oct/nov 2010

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then the soup can easily be saved for multiple meals. Cooking for tomorrow When my brother and his wife had their first child, I went to their house and filled the freezer with cooked meals—all wrapped for the freezer and clearly labeled with defrosting and reheating

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Freeze them in a plastic bag and write the date plus reheating instructions directly on the bag. Freeze for up to three months. To reheat, take muffins directly from the freezer, place on a cookie sheet and bake at 400 degrees for 45 minutes (or simply reheat individual servings in the microwave). Other suggestions for the freezer: Most pasta dishes freeze wellâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;think lasagna, turkey tetrazzini or beef and noodles. Beyond pasta you can make spaghetti sauce, pot roast or barbecue pork.

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Teaching children the importance of volunteering can lead to a lifetime of giving back Long before the last scarecrow comes down and the jack-o’-lantern on the front porch turns to mush, retailers will be in full-blown yuletide overdrive, frantically turning the calendar page from one marketing-blitzed holiday to an even more profitable one right around the corner. Ready or not, the “season of giving” will be upon us, and more than ever, many parents may indeed feel themselves unprepared to process it all on behalf of their impressionable children. After all, “giving” in the world of nonstop holiday advertising certainly resembles a hypermaterialistic pursuit of ever more stuff than it does any notion of selfless altruism and goodwill.

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ut this disconnect between competing notions of giving actually may be just the opening parents need to introduce the concept of volunteerism. On one hand, the comically over-the-top consumerism of the holidays helps illustrate plainly—even to a child—just how far off course the seemingly benign notion of “giving” can stray. Meanwhile, ready examples of need and want, while amply demonstrated throughout the year, often seem more pronounced when observed against the backdrop of holiday plenty. Combined with an abundance of charitable opportunities around the holidays, the season gives families a chance to discuss the notion of giving back and find some way to put those ideas into practice together. As with any other important life lesson, parents should be prepared to field the questions their kids may come up with about volunteering, and should be ready to confront some of the unique challenges that may arise when trying to get their young ones excited about helping out.

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questions about why one might want to take the time to visit with seniors or do a few hours of work at a food pantry rather than just write a check. Without minimizing the importance of monetary contributions, this is a good opportunity for parents to explain—or better yet, illustrate—how sometimes a gift of one’s time can mean more to a person or organization in need than even a few hard-earned dollars might. Particularly in the case of a face-to-face encounter, it may be helpful to point out how the human connection is something that simply can’t be bought.

INTERESTS AND ABILITIES One of the surefire ways to get a kid excited about volunteering is to find an opportunity that somehow dovetails with his or her interests. For example, a child who loves animals may relish a chance to work with sick or abandoned pets at a local shelter or veterinarian’s office. Likewise, a child who is a born entertainer may like the idea of performing for a group of seniors at a local nursing home. Whatever a child’s interest or talent, the key for parents is to try and find an activity or charity that hooks them, because the longer they continue to volunteer out of a love for the underlying cause, the more likely they are to develop that next level of emotional commitment to the people they’re helping and the work they’re doing.

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DEDICATION AND FOLLOWTHROUGH Speaking of commitment, the notion of sticking with a volunteer activity may be the most important lesson for parents to instill in their kids. Of course, the best way to hammer home that message is to model it, which is why it’s important for parents to be equally committed to any activity that they settle upon. Children especially have to understand how impor important volunteers become to charitable agencies and the people they serve. The deci decision to volunteer is not one to be made lightly, lest that decision end up causing more harm than good when one backs out or serves half-heartedly. Of course, there will be instances when volunteer and charity turn out to be a sub-par match for whatever reason, but the idea going in should be that this is a commit commitment to be honored— even when it’s not always fun or convenient. This can be one of the trickier lessons of volunteerism to pass along, but it’s also one of the most vital for kids to learn. For this reason, shorter-term volunteer assignments are often a good place to start, so that kids can get a sense of what it means to stick with a commitment without feeling as though they’re locked into a seemingly unending position. Like many other aspects of volunteering, this is one point that will likely have implications far beyond the scope of any specific charity work a child may perform.

While a volunteer experience that involves the whole family may sound like a wonderful idea, the fact is that many charitable organizations simply aren’t set up to offer opportunities for younger children. That’s why, in addition to gauging a child’s interests and abilities before settling on something, it’s also a good idea to do some preliminary research to get a better notion of exactly what options might be available for different age ranges. AGES 1-4

At this young age, kids won’t be able to do much in the way of physical labor or anything that might require independence, but they’re often eager to pitch in and help out with the group. The idea here is simply to plant that seed of doing good and helping others, so even an activity that involves them just observing the rest of the family in action can have the desired effect. Some possibilities include participating in a charity walk, visiting residents at an area nursing home, or riding along for meal deliveries from a local food pantry. Whatever the activity, explaining what the family is doing and why can help reinforce the positive message.

AGES 5-12

As kids begin to get older, not only are they able to do more, but the range of opportunities available to them expands as well. At this stage, they may want to choose a volunteer idea from a list of possibilities in order to find something that aligns with their interests. These might include making cards or writing letters for overseas military personnel, working with animals at a local shelter, serving food at a soup kitchen, participating in a beach or park cleanup day, or even just gathering old books and toys for a donation.

TEENS

By the time they reach junior high and high school, the volunteer options available to kids are generally limited only by their busy social and academic calendars. Teens are more likely to seek out specific causes or campaigns that reflect their growing education and interest levels. volunteering at this age can also be a means of making new friends with similar interests, and can be a nice addition to upcoming college and scholarship applications. Some of the previously age-restricted opportunities that may now be available include volunteering at a local hospital or building houses for underprivileged families with a group like Habitat for Humanity.

Finding a Fit

Plenty of organizations and agencies throughout Northwest Indiana can use a helping hand, from a few weekend hours to a longer-term commitment. Whatever their interests, families can explore opportunities to work together to help out area charities like these:

Thanks + Giving Between the football marathons, the postholiday retail strategizing and the gluttonous overabundance of starchy side dishes, it can be pretty easy to lose sight of the true purpose of Thanksgiving. sometimes the best reminder of everything one has to be grateful for is to spend some time with folks who have very little. Maybe that’s why Thanksgiving for many families has become an ideal opportunity to put down the cookbook and the remote control for a few hours and start a new holiday tradition— volunteering together to serve a meal to those who are less fortunate. on a day that has come to symbolize gastronomic excess, perhaps a shift at one of these area organizations can provide a healthy serving of perspective instead. SOUP AND SERENITY FIrsT PrEsByTErIAN ChUrCh oF CroWN PoINT 218 s Court st Crown Point 219.663.2255

Humane Society Calumet Area 421 45th Ave, Munster hscalumet.org 219.922.3811

Moraine Ridge Wildlife Rehab Center 570 N 450 E, Valparaiso mrwildliferehab.org

Salvation Army—Porter County 799 Capitol Rd, Valparaiso usc.salvationarmy.org 219.762.9191

SOuTH lAKE COuNTY COMMuNITY SERvICES 1450 E Joliet st Crown Point 219.663.0627

St. Margaret Mercy Healthcare Center 5454 Hohman Ave, Hammond smmhc.com 219.933.2037

American Red Cross of Northwest Indiana 791 E 83rd Ave, Merrillville nwindiana-redcross.org 219.756.5360

Habitat for Humanity of Northwest Indiana 6114 Ridge Rd, Gary nwihabitat.com 219.923.7265

ST. CLARE’S KITCHEN hoLy NAME CAThoLIC ChUrCh 11000 W 133rd st Cedar Lake 219.374.7160

Lakeshore Area Regional Recovery of Indiana larri.info 219.836.1325

Food Bank of Northwest Indiana 2248 W 35th Ave, Gary foodbanknwi.org 219.980.1777

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ot every child is ready for something like the Parisi program right off the bat, of course. For parents with younger children, finding the time, energy and responsible child care to get in a little exercise can be a strenuous workout in its own right. That’s why these days, most health clubs offer some form of on-site child care, allowing parents the peace of mind to know their little ones are in good hands nearby. But Omni 41 truly takes this service to another level with its Planet Kids Playroom. The Planet Kids theme was developed last year in conjunction with a major overhaul of the playroom, as a way to incorporate more educational opportunities centered on the environment and how kids can help take care of it. The reconfigured space goes far beyond a bare-bones playroom experience, offering not only the traditional fun and games, but themed educational quarters targeting various topics (sun, earth, water and air) through lessons, stories and craft projects. The Planet Kids area is divided into four different rooms based on age level: Seedlings (6 weeks–walking), Sprouts (walking–2 years), Branches (2–4 years old) and Green Leaves (5–12 years old). With over 25 years experience working with children in various capacities and 12 years at Omni, playroom supervisor Lynn zajicek oversees an operation that now serves over 300 members and their children every week. But no matter how many kids come through the door, zajicek and her staff of 18 remain committed to the ideals that she’s held for the playroom from the beginning—that is, Planet Kids is not just somewhere to “park the kids” for a couple of hours, but a place where kids can come to have their own physical and mental growth experience while their parents do likewise. zajicek has come to find as much fulfillment in her day-to-day work as many of the kids in her charge likely do. “I try to create and train other staff to meet the specific needs of families and individuals in order to encourage and nurture physical, social, emotional and intellectual growth within a safe environment,” zajicek says. “Omni has allowed me the opportunity to merge my talents and passion with others and make a difference to the families and individuals that I come in contact with.”

FAsT TrACk One of the more popular new additions at Omni in recent years—for adults and children alike—has been the Parisi Speed School. While Parisi offers programs for both kids and adults, the philosophy behind its youth area is to get kids focused on developing their individual athletic skills, which in turn can help build character and self-esteem as well. The director of the Parisi program, Michael Kopec, believes “speed training that starts at a young age can have a lasting effect on kids as they grow and develop, both physically and socially.” “Childhood races in many cases are the beginning of a social hierarchy,” he explains. “The fastest kids normally are the most popular kids being picked first in sports and games, while the slower kids often feel left out and eventually stop even trying to participate. We are able to teach kids who initially lacked in athletic performance and give them the skills to compete, offering them a whole new world of opportunities and fun.” Parisi is a personal development company that has been training children and adults for over twenty years, and in the two years since the franchise has been operating at Omni, it has quickly emerged as one of the club’s most popular offerings for youngsters. Working with kids ages 7 and up, the Parisi program focuses on activities designed to improve speed, strength, flexibility, endurance, agility, nutrition and self-confidence. Starting with an orientation and multidiscipline evaluation, prospective participants get an understanding of their strengths and weaknesses against a number of performance benchmarks. From there, the program focuses on improving those areas where kids may be lagging, helping them to gain new confidence in not only their athletic skills, but their ability to work toward and achieve a goal. While the Parisi Speed School has trained more than 250,000 participants over the course of its history—including a number of first-round NFL draft picks—the idea is not necessarily to mold every child into an elite athletic specimen, but rather to simply give every child the opportunity to perform to his or her optimum personal potential. “From the serious athlete with aspirations of high-level CONTACT sports to the kid picked last on the playground, all kids can benefit from gaining physical and mental strength,” OmNi 41 Kopec says, stressing that one of the program’s goals is to 221 US Highway 41 Schererville, Ind. appeal to children at every skill level. “Nobody sits the 219.865.6969 bench at the Parisi Speed School.” —MarK LoeHrKe

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Both the Parisi speed school and the Planet kids Playroom will be among the many omni programs and activities geared toward healthy kids and fit families that will be specifically highlighted during the omni 41 Children’s health and fun fair on November 14 from 1 p.m. to 5 p.m. the fair is free and open to the public. Program specialist Lisa resney says the focus for this fall’s event will clearly be on the club’s dedication to providing a place where the entire family can embrace wellness together. the “fitter than your 5th grader Challenge” is a perfect example of omni’s dedication to families and their wellness experience. • “our goal is for families to have fun, and to take away lots of great information about omni 41 and our booths,” resney says. “We love it when folks are pleasantly surprised by how much omni has to offer kids and their families.” • In addition to tours of the omni facilities and program areas, the fair will feature parent resource booths ranging from eye care specialists to mental health providers, as well as games, arts and crafts activities, and free refreshments. • resney says, “this will be a great way for families to spend some time together and have some fun without breaking the bank.”

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Rick Kaempfer’s business card says author/writer/blogger, but his real job is “stay-at-home dad” for his three school-aged sons. For more adventures-in-parenting tales, check out Rick’s “Father Knows Nothing” blog at nwi.com/parent.

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CoMMUNITy SERvICE A reLIgIous eduCAtIoN requIremeNt BeComes A LABor of Love for A shy teeN

can still see the look on my oldest son’s face when he heard he was going to have to do community service in order to be confirmed by our church. He didn’t say the words, but his facial expression screamed: “I can’t do that!” It’s not that Tommy is anticommunity. It’s that he’s painfully quiet, and most community service projects involve having to speak and interact with strangers. Tommy doesn’t even speak and interact with his family. I pinch him twice a week just to make sure he’s still breathing. So, when we looked at the possibilities on the long list of community service projects they gave us, one of them jumped out at us: volunteering at the library. “What do you think about that one?” I asked. He grunted and shook his head. “Nah.” Just as I was searching the list for something even more appropriate for him, like “taking a vow of silence,” he pointed to something that I never thought he’d consider. “What about this one?” he asked. I thought I must be seeing things. “You’re accidentally pointing to ‘volunteering at the soup kitchen.’” “I know,” he said. “Do you know what that is?” I asked. “Sure. They serve free food to people that can’t afford it. Right?” “Yeah,” I said. “But you wouldn’t go there to eat the food. You’d go there to serve it.”

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“I know,” he replied, rolling his eyes at me. “I’d like to try it.” So he did. We found out that they needed help on Tuesday nights, and right then and there Tommy committed himself to doing it the rest of the school year. I drove him to the Catholic Charities soup kitchen every Tuesday, and every week he came out of there with a big smile on his face. (I should point out that this is a boy who also never smiles.) “Are you actually enjoying this?” I asked him. “Yeah,” he said. “They put me in charge of the beverages.” On the way to and from the soup kitchen, the two of us began to have long conversations about being thankful for all of our blessings. He was now able to put a face on the word “poverty,” and began to realize that poor people really aren’t any different than we are. “It feels good to help,” he said. “People really seem to appreciate it.” When he broke his leg and couldn’t help for a few weeks, he really missed it. The moment that cast came off, he was back in there, helping out on Tuesday nights. This, despite the fact that there were only a few more weeks until his confirmation and the religious education program told him he had already completed the requirement. “I want to keep on doing it,” he said. And he did, and he continued to come out with a smile on his face. “I’m making some good friends,” he told me. “I’m getting to know some of the regulars.” Confirmation came and went in May, but Tuesday night has continued to be soup kitchen night at our house. And to tell you the truth, I’m so proud of my boy that I could burst.

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