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contents 14 PLAN Learn how to organize your wedding itinerary, give a good toast and find the right venue for you. BY HEATHER AUGUSTYN, ASHLEY BOYER AND CLAIRE BUSHEY

20 ANTICIPATE Have a stress-free wedding-planning experience by pampering

yourself with yoga, massage and hair extensions. BY CHRISTY BONSTELL AND ABBEY GILLESPIE

22 CELEBRATE From a documentary-style wedding film, to artisan chocolates, to joyful butterflies—these minor moves will make a big statement.

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26 GRAND ENTRANCE These modern gowns fit right in at the historic Amway Grand Plaza Hotel. PHOTOGRAPHY BY MITCH RANGER

IN EVERY ISSUE Letter from the Editor 4 Inspire 8 Planning Checklist 50 List 52 Service Directory 55 Advertiser Index 55 Capture 56

33 TWICE AS NICE The second time’s a charm for this bride, whose friends gave her a bridal shower to remember. BY SHARON WALLER

40 RELAX You don’t have to go far to get away. Florida offers all the respite you’ll need for your honeymoon. BY ASHLEY BOYER

46 LIVE Before you tie the knot, make sure you follow the experts’ advice on how to manage money, in-laws and friendships after marriage.

BY CHRISTY BONSTELL AND DANIELLE BRAFF

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e all know the economy is bad. And that’s scary. But it could be a good thing, too. i recently heard about a survey that revealed people are no longer interested in “bling,” nor in the comings and goings of celebrity heiresses like Paris Hilton. somehow, in the past year, the life of extraordinary luxury for which we all once longed, now seems a bit ridiculous— even kind of cheap and tawdry. We’ve been knocked out of our senses enough to realize that we don’t need all of those extravagant extras in order to have a life of happiness. this newer, wiser philosophy certainly applies to wedding planning as well. When we asked Jessica Pennington, of stella event design in st. Joseph, Michigan, what effect the economy was having on the bridal industry (page 16), she said that “brides are still throwing the same caliber of weddings as before, but they’re doing it for less. they’re inviting fewer people or doing more themselves.”

Gone are the days of the three-Hundred-Person Guest list. engaged couples are learning that less truly is more, and the only people and things that should be a part of their wedding are the people and things that really mean something to them. this means people are rethinking the ever-popular destination wedding as well. over the past decade, more and more couples had been traveling thousands of miles to wed in a luxurious, tropical climate. But these days, couples are opting to stay close to their loved ones, and to save some money while they’re at it. the good thing is, we live right on lake Michigan, which means a destination wedding on the beach is still very feasible, right here in our own back yard. on page 24, sharon Waller lists two Michigan towns and one resort that offer just as much fun and romance as any place in the Caribbean. some couples are forgoing a big wedding altogether and are eloping instead. But as we see on page 22, eloping is not always the easier option. something else that isn’t easy is getting—and keeping—people dancing at the reception. so consultant Mark lindemer offers some ideas on how to keep the dance floor hopping all through the night (page 28).

We also have advice on how to incorporate feng shui into your wedding details (page 22), the benefit of having a fall wedding (page 16), and constructive techniques for arguing with your spouse after the wedding is over (page 34).

As you prepare for the biggest day of your life, remember that all the extra bells and whistles are nice, but no longer necessary. it is our hope that you have a blast on your wedding day, not because the flowers are extravagant or the cake tastes amazing, but because you and your favorite people will be celebrating the lifelong commitment you’ve made with the one you love.

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Lately, it seems nearly every industry has endured major economic turmoil. But what about the bridal industry?

Shore Bride talked to event planner Jessica Pennington, of Stella Event Design in St. Joseph, Michigan, about what the economy is doing to weddings.

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The slowing economy has forced many people to take a hard look at their spending habits. Has the bridal industry been affected by this?

Personally, and from the vendors I’ve talked to, we’ve seen that brides are still throwing the same caliber of weddings as before, but they’re doing it for less. They’re inviting fewer people or doing more themselves.

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What are common things brides are doing on their own that they weren’t before?

A lot of people are making their own invitations. We’re also getting more brides asking us to do their centerpiece setup. They’ll buy bulk flowers and have us do the arranging.

There have also been more requests for arrangements with bigger flowers, so they have to buy fewer flowers.

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What other clever ways are brides working within their budgets?

Cakes are a big one. I’ve seen people use smaller tiered cakes and use sheet cakes to make up the difference. But the most common thing we’re seeing is that a lot of people are cutting their guest lists. Last year we’d have a lot of receptions with 250 or 300 people. The averages right now are a lot smaller. People are starting to keep it at 125 or 150. Another thing I’ve heard from other vendors is that more people are opting to do a small destination wedding. They might have originally planned a large traditional wedding, and faced with a job cut or because of the economy, they decided to go with a small wedding with close family.

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Is there anything that brides still aren’t willing to really compromise on?

Location. Brides are still really, really going for the venues they want. I’ve had brides that will cut back on food and other costs to be in the venue they want. That’s the big one.

I’ve had brides cut back on almost everything else.

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Over the past few years, more and more brides have chosen to forgo the traditional June Bride route and book a fall wedding. September, in particular, has won over many couples.

Kim Eldridge, of Kim Eldridge Weddings & Special Events in Chesterton, Indiana, says fall weddings started as an alternative for brides who wanted less unpredictable weather. “In fall, it’s temperate.

You don’t have to worry because it’s not scorching hot or freezing cold.”

At one time, before fall weddings gained popularity, some reception halls weren’t doing as much business, so they were more inclined to offer deals to couples with a fall date. That’s no longer the case, Eldridge says.

“I think it’s become very trendy. The brides I talk to just don’t want to be average. Nothing out of the box. And even brides that aren’t doing fall weddings are using fall colors.”

Chocolate browns, ivory and shades of orange, burgundy and celadon green are more popular year-round than ever before. Eldridge says vendors are taking notice of the change, and are offering more color options for everything right down to the favor boxes.

“You can really go A to Z in your motifs now, where you used to be limited. It’s an exciting time for a fall wedding.”

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tacular architecture, stunning outdoor courtyards, lush gardens and more. Couples can choose from six beautiful rooms, all with views of the gardens and courtyards.

COUNTY LINE ORCHARD 200 County line Rd Hobart, Ind. 219.947.4477 countylineorchard.com Capacity: Up to 255 Available from November through July, this 100-yearold dairy barn is a full-service banquet facility, complete with a beautiful oak loft dance floor that is handicapped accessible. The Barn’s two wedding coordinators help to create an elegant reception in a natural setting.

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THE LIGHTHOUSE 7501 Constitution ave Cedar lake, Ind. 219.374.9283 cedarlakelighthouse.com Capacity: 25-200 The beautiful banquet facility, located on the second floor of Cedar Lake’s newest lakeside restaurant, which can also be rented, features an extraordinary atmosphere,

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So you want a beautiful glow on your big day, and you want to stay away from cancer-inducing tanning beds. But you’ve also heard the horror stories: the bride who got an awful spray tan before her wedding and ended up with a face more orange than tan in her pictures.

Spray tanning can be a healthy option for brides-to-be, but carefully consider the pros and cons before you decide to get the treatment prior to the big day.

There are several advantages to spray tans.

Probably most importantly, your skin is not exposed to the sun, so there is no risk of sunburn, not to mention skin cancer and premature aging. Also, spray tanning is a much smaller time investment than going to the tanning salon, where sessions can take up to 30 minutes Local apiece. On the other hand, tanning Spray Tan solutions contain the active ingredient Facilities dihydroxyacetone (DHA), which can stain clothing. Moreover, there have ENDLESS TAN been cases of allergic reactions to DHA. 2256 Morthland Dr Valparaiso, Ind. If you do decide to go through with 219.531.6505 spray tanning, you have options. You can apply spray tan yourself, or you can LE SOLE TANNING have your tan sprayed on at a tanning 1130 S Wabash Ave, #102 Chicago, Ill. salon, where they will likely use airbrush 312.235.1100 tanning, a process by which a DHA solution is airbrushed onto the skin by PLANET BEACH an automated system.

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Whether or not you choose to apply the solution yourself or through a professional, here are a few tips to ensure you have the best results.

STAY AWAY FROM THE DARK TAN. Get the lightest shade possible. You want all attention to be on you and your special dress. The tan should be invisible, adding just a “glow.”

DO A TRIAL RUN. If you’ve never had a spray tan before, have a trial a month before the occasion. If you like the results, make sure that you have your spray tan done in the identical salon, by the same technician (if you are having it airbrushed) and using the same solution as during your trial.

EXFOLIATE BEFORE TREATMENT. Self-tanner will be no good if it attaches itself to dead skin cells.

BACHELORETTES

Here are five ideas that will help you get beyond the traditional.

Consider doing something local. In return for a donation, Chicago Cares can set up a service project for any size group, according to the bride’s favorite issue—they have projects that impact hunger and homelessness, children’s education, environmental projects, as well as health and wellness.

And they can even work with you to accommodate your geographic concerns: they don’t just have projects in the city, but in the suburbs. Call ahead to arrange your service day.

312.780.0800. chicagocares.org.

Go out and build something. Don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty— Habitat for Humanity provides a venue for you and your girls to feel a little female power as well as doing something good.

Habitat is well equipped to accommodate larger groups in community service. So grab your hammer and your gals and help build a home for a family in need. Enjoy stories and triumphs in an after party at a local bar. Windy City Habitat services Chicago and the Northern suburbs, but Habitat has numerous locations in Indiana and Michigan. Find your local Habitat by calling 800.422.4828 or visiting their website habitat.org and searching under “volunteer locally.”

Walk for a cause. Pick the bride’s favorite charity and have the girls walk en force in their walk event.

Get matching shirts for the entire group and make sure each bachelorette has sponsors donating for your group. At the end, donate all of the proceeds in the bride’s name.

Clean up your neighborhood. You don’t need to work through an organization to set up a service project. Gather your girls to beautify your neighborhood. Spend a few hours cleaning up a park or a local beach. When you are done, enjoy an evening picnic, champagne and some games.

Help at the local animal shelter. Take the entire group to the local animal shelter for a fun day with the dogs and cats.

Volunteer to help with an adoption fair, feed the animals, walk the dogs, clean up the kennels, etc.

In Valparaiso, check out the Porter County Animal Shelter (219.465.3550. petfinder.com/shelters/ portercoanimalshelter. html); in Chicago, the Tree House Humane Society (773.784.5488. treehouseanimals.org.); or in St. Joseph, the Animal Aid of Southwestern Michigan (269.934.7729. animalaidswmi.org).

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achelorette parties are a rite of passage. The phallic party props, the cheesy bridal sash, the lingerie and drunken clubbing are all part and parcel of the ritual meant to celebrate singledom one last time. But not every woman wants to mark the end of being single in this way. There are many reasons why you might consider throwing an alternative bachelorette party. The economy may have left you without the funds to throw a party complete with the drunken tour bus. Perhaps you want to spend a day giving back, or think that doing a service project will bring the bridal party together.

Whatever your reason, if the traditional bachelorette party is not your thing, you have other options. Particularly, a service project can bring the bridal party together in a common purpose and help your girls bond before the big day. An alternative bachelorette party may also have a better chance of reflecting your personality and values. And it doesn’t have to be all work, either— doing good work can be fun if you plan your party well.

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My BIG Fat

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COLOR

Choose colors to instantaneously set the mood. In feng shui, all colors should be chosen based on their symbolism.

Red and gold are for harmony, happiness and success.

Green and blue are for good health and prosperity.

Purple and white provide the perfect balance of feminine (yin) and male (yang).

FLOWERS

Choose flowers that will effectively energize the atmosphere.

Roses symbolize beauty.

Yellow chrysanthemums symbolize joy, happiness and wealth.

Red tulips symbolize devotion and romance.

There are so many things for a bride to think about when planning her wedding day: choosing the perfect music for the first dance, finding a hair and makeup team that will help her look her best, and choosing flattering dresses for her bridesmaids. Every detail is considered, but

most brides don’t stop to think about the symbolism behind each element of the wedding. By applying the concepts of feng shui, the ancient Chinese art of aesthetics, brides can bring balance to their special day.

Athina Mercouriou, a senior practitioner in feng shui, believes that bringing positive energy to open your environment and surroundings can set the tone to your wedding day and can even positively affect your marriage. “Every object has a vibration and its own energy. By creating a loving energy flow, you can evoke feelings of happiness on your wedding day,” Mercouriou says.

Some elements of feng shui are intuitive: brides and grooms seat their guests according to whether they may get along with each other, flowers and color schemes are chosen to evoke a certain emotion, and space is created for guests to mingle and dance. In feng shui, the ultimate goal is to create harmony; colors, elements, shapes and numbers should all be supportive and beneficial to one another.

Pink tulips symbolize pleasure.

TABLES

A great table arrangement is essential to create a balanced and harmonious gathering.

Tables should be round and oval for open energy flow that leads to conversation.

Centerpieces—including candles and flowers—suggest open elements of fire (illumination) and earth (groundedness).

Soft scents in candles or diffusers allow for an open environment with fun and pleasure.

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Mercouriou is available for personal feng shui consultation for the home, business or event.

Mercouriou can be contacted at the Chicago-based Jonathan Breitung Salon and Luxury Spa, 773.348.1800.

Let’s Run Off! It’s so common to hear a bride say, “I wish we would have eloped!” The attraction to running off with your fiancé and suitcase to tie the knot is understandable; obsessing over the costs and details of favors, flowers and food can turn even a mellow bride into a nervous wreck.

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lthough it seems like a carefree option, eloping can actually lead to more stress than a traditional wedding. Friends and family could feel disappointed by not being involved in your wedding, and your spontaneity could result in hurt feelings. Some couples may feel pressured to host a reception for friends and family upon their return from their elopement, and this could defeat the point in cutting costs.

If, after weighing the pros and cons, you decide that eloping works for your

particular situation, you still have some decisions to make. “Destination weddings with close friends and parents are becoming more and more popular,” says Christina Page, a wedding planner based out of Merrillville, Indiana.

Brides and grooms need to decide on whether or not they really want to go at it alone, or if they’re open to including others at the ceremony. “Keep in mind that some older family members may be unable to travel, and some may not afford to travel to the destination of your choice,” Page says.

For a young couple and their families, the financial stress of a traditional wedding can be daunting. “My father told me that he would either give me a wedding or a down payment on a house,” says Kate

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Nottingham of Springfield, Illinois.

“My husband and I decided to choose the latter and we drove to Las Vegas to elope. We were by ourselves at the wedding, which I loved. There was no pressure, no staring, no drama. We felt free to express our emotions without being embarrassed,” Nottingham says.

Nottingham and her husband Brian have been married for ten Christina Page works years and have with brides and grooms four children. throughout Northwest “Honestly, I can’t Indiana and Chicagoland. think of one thing She can be contacted at in my marriage 219.309.1943 or cpage@ ccpweddings.com. that would have been better or different had we not eloped,” she says. “The amount of time and money you spend on an event or a ring do not dictate the amount of happiness you will have.”

My husband and I decided to choose the latter and we drove to Las Vegas to elope. We were by ourselves at the wedding, which I loved. There was no pressure, no staring, no drama. We felt free to express our emotions without being embarrassed.”

Kate Nottingham

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ne thing that makes people nervous about holding a wedding far away is the organization.

If you’re not actually at the site, how can you make sure everything will go according to plan? The Homestead Resort in the Upper Peninsula has everything covered. The resort provides wedding co-coordinators for your big day with different price points for every budget, including an all-inclusive price. They will even provide referrals for florists, photographers and officiants in the area.

The circular terrace above Mountain Flowers lodge is surrounded by a rose garden on one side and sweeping views of Lake Michigan on the other. Mountain Flowers lodge has seating for 180 guests and provides chefs to help you choose food and wine pairings.

Camp Firefly, which holds fifty, was designed to resemble the camps frequented by aristocrats during the turn of the 20th century. It has a river

rock fireplace and knotty pine walls.

Café Manitou is located on the beach and its three terraces give you a different place for each phase of your wedding: ceremony, cocktails and dining.

But most of all, the resort provides everything you and your guest could need or want for their stay. Activities include lessons in fly-fishing, tennis and golf, walks on the beach and lakeside bonfires. Amira Spa provides relaxing treatments for a nervous bride and her guests. The views at the resort are magnificent and include the inlands and dunes of Lake Michigan. There are three restaurants in the resort: Beppi’s Sports Bar and Pizzeria; Café Manitou, located on the beach; and Nonna’s, with its Northern Italian cuisine.

If you feel like venturing out of the resort, Sleeping Bear Dunes National Lakeshore is nearby, or take in one of the summer concerts at the famous Interlochen Center for the Arts, a nonprofit creative arts high school formed in 1928. Go golfing on the scenic 18-hole Dunes Golf Club or charter fishing for salmon and trout on Lake Michigan with the kid-friendly Finicky Fishing Charters.

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“Destination weddings are a big trend just now,” says Jamie Jewel, spokesperson for the Homestead Resort, located on the upper peninsula of Michigan.

“Often people are getting married later in life and are established in a different town from where they grew up. Many families are mixed, too, and it can be hard to keep everyone happy, so a neutral location is often the answer. The wedding festivities can also be spread out over a couple of days. People often have a brunch the day after the wedding where they will open gifts, or a barbeque on the beach the night before. A destination wedding will also give your guests an excuse to combine your special day with a vacation.”

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nly a 90-mile drive from downtown Chicago, St. Joseph is a quaint little town with a lot going on. It’s a walker’s town, too. You can arrive on a Friday, park your car and not get back in it until you leave. The town, filled with beach cottages and Victorian houses, sits on a bluff overlooking Lake Michigan and beautiful Silver Beach, which was recently voted one of the world’s top six beaches by Delta Airlines.

Centered in the heart of downtown St. Joe, the Veranda at the Whitcomb Hotel was a renowned wedding venue in the 1920s, ’30s and ’40s, but it wasn’t until recently that weddings were offered in the historic setting once again. Have your wedding ceremony on the beach and the reception at the resort on the bluff.

The Veranda offers wedding planning sjtoday.org services and can sjcity.com help provide stjoebanquets.com everything you silverbeachpizza.com need for your 269.983.6325 special day. for the John E. N. For the Howard Bandshell 269.983.7111 ext 8435 for the Shadowland Pavilion’s bandstand

ceremony, the John E. N. Howard Bandshell, on the corner of Lake Boulevard and Port Street, is a popular site. St. Joe’s pride and joy, the bandshell is host to the popular Sunday concerts that run through the summer. Another choice is Shadowland Pavilion’s bandstand, which sits between the St. Joe River and the dunes of Silver Beach.

You and your guests will enjoy exploring the town. The historic train depot, where the Amtrak train stops, is home to local favorite Silver Beach Pizza, which is famous for its ice-cold beer schooners. You can go boating on Lake Michigan for the day from City Boat Launch and Marina Island, and there are paths for hiking on the Howard Recreation Trail, which runs through the Margaret B. Upton Arboretum on the south side of the St. Joseph River.

amed after the bay’s long “traverse” by French-Canadian voyageurs, Traverse City is resplendent with reminders of its nautical past. And with its long stretch of Lake Michigan shoreline dotted with lighthouses, parks, vineyards and resorts, the city has lots to offer a wedding party. Public places are free, and no permits are required in many of them; however, the parks on the beach do require reservations.

One of the more popular choices for wedding services is the Old Mission Peninsula Lighthouse, built in 1870 to warn ships away from the shoals in the bay. The building is the highlight of Lighthouse Park, and there are plenty of photo opportunities with its picturesque beaches and beautiful views.

Many couples prefer the romantic setting of a vineyard for their day. Madonna’s father, Silvio Ciccone, owns the Ciccone Vineyard, which has three venues for weddings and receptions: the Tuscan-inspired wine tasting room, the Barn, built in the 1930s, and the antique iron trellis under the ancient maple tree.

With nine condos and four cottages, Lakeshore Resort’s beachside setting can be the gathering for everyone on your guest list. Gas grills and fire pits on the beach make for a romantic rehearsal dinner. If you’re looking to have your ceremony, reception and accommodation in one place, then consider the Parkshore Resort. You can say your vows on the beachfront gazebo and then have your reception on the covered deck overlooking East Grand Traverse Bay. You and visittraversecity.com your guests can cicconevineyards.com arrange outings lakeshoreresort.info parkshoreresort.com to nearby tallshipsailing.com Sleeping Bear Dunes National For a complete list Lakeshore and of nontraditional its Manitou wedding sites, call 800.940.1120.

Islands. Take a sail in the schooner Manitou, one of the largest sailing vessels on the Great Lakes, to experience a little of its maritime tradition, or go golfing on one of the area’s eighteen courses.

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NIGHTMARES Stories of wedding day nightmares pop up every day. It is such a hot topic that popular TV shows and movies about “Bridezillas,” “Monster Moms” and “Wedding Disasters” can dominate the thoughts of those planning a wedding reception. Yes, nightmares occur, but you can prevent them from happening to you before your wedding day.

Here are three common nightmares and their solutions.

WRITTEN BY MARK LINDEMER

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NIGHTMARE #1 THE DEAD DANCE FLOOR

SOLUTION: Consult with your DJ or band about what to do if this happens.

Dead dance floors at wedding receptions should never happen unless factors are out of a DJ or band’s control, such as religious beliefs, family feuds or if a large number of guests leave the ballroom for photographs or other non-dance reasons. Typically, family and friends that get together to celebrate are ready to hit the dance floor hard and stay there with an optimal mix of music and activities. If a floor suddenly clears and stays that way for no “outside” reason, it’s time to take action. Ask your DJ or band ahead of time what they will do if this happens. If their solution seems to lack action, share these guidelines to re-start the floor: • If a song “bombs,” fade out of it or transition to something else immediately. Do not let it play to the end (unless there is an obvious reason to let it complete).

• Change the music to a slow song from a completely different musical era, such as from a current club fast dance to a “sure-fire” ballad from the ’80s.

• Dedicate the slow song to all the “sweethearts” in the crowd and tell the gentlemen to ask their lady to dance.

• After the floor refills, play an “automatic” fast dance song from the same musical era as the slow song.

• If the above does not work, “break the ice” by moving onto a special event that involves the bride and groom, like the bouquet and garter toss or a conga line dance. This guarantees participation from guests. After people get moving on the dance floor for an event, they are more likely to stay on the floor when the DJ or band returns to dance music.

Clear, advance communication with the DJ or band about “what if” scenarios prepares everyone to maximize the enjoyment of a reception. Often, a quick change in the music or activity immediately transforms the mood. The key is not to assume, but to prepare for swings in mood and use them to keep the party moving and energy high.

NIGHTMARE #2 RIGID MUSIC SELECTION SOLUTION:

Choose a variety of music to match the tastes of your guests.

Wedding receptions are never the place to make a personal musical statement. A narrow segment of the guests may be wild about Goth or industrial music, but to insist that any format be heavily played instead of a variety of music for all generations is a formula for disaster. Consider that the emotional bond that everyone wants to share with the bride and groom is expressed very easily through music. If certain generations of people are unable to recognize or emotionally relate to the dance music, they may feel disconnected from the reception. Usually, the music people “grew up with” during their teen years and twenties is what they like best. Whether it’s big band, baby boomer rock, disco or hip-hop from the 2000s, “good music” is a personal choice. One of the keys to maximize reception success is to have your DJ or band play music that pleases all generations.

NIGHTMARE #3 BOOKING A BAD DJ OR BAND SOLUTION: Book the best entertainment you can find.

The DJ or band’s ability to guide everyone through an evening can “make or break” a wedding reception.

Be sure the DJs or bands you consider are recommended by trusted sources, like your banquet center, photographer or videographer.

(From a professional’s perspective and personal experience “on the job,” they can direct you to the best services.) Ask your DJ or band for a reference list of past customers as well as copies of thank you notes from past brides and grooms. A DJ or band’s performance record should be the primary factor in whom you choose to book.

Is your entertainment budget tight? Consider that an “average” or “bargain” priced DJ or band may put the fun and success of your reception at risk. Therefore, be prepared to pay somewhat more than you may expect. (Increasing your budget by $200 to $400 will greatly expand your entertainment options.) Need to find money? Eliminate the glitz and glamour of expensive “add-ons” (like little boxes of candy at each place setting) to easily save Mark Lindemer is a wedding hundreds. Think reception music and of it this way: activity consultant, What will have specializing in helping couples more impact plan unique, fun on the fun and and personalized success of your receptions. The creator of Wedding reception? Is it Reception Perfection $200 to $400 for (wed-perfect.com), “showy” extras or Mark assists brides and grooms in clearly is it the same to communicating their secure a better entertainment plan DJ or band? to their DJ or band.

In closing, people remember how much fun they had after a reception is over, and “fun” is the direct responsibility of the DJ or band. If this is a priority for you, booking the best entertainment consistently returns the best value from your wedding day budget.

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the honeymoon

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HALF MOON Jamaica halfmoon.com

For more than 50 years, Half Moon has been welcoming distinguished guests to its 400 acres of tropical landscape on Jamaicaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s northern coast. The colonialstyle resort remains one of the most popular and complete resorts in the Caribbean with 398 individually decorated rooms, suites and villas available for romantic getaways.

Guests have a wide variety of relaxing options to choose from including a par 72 golf course, 51 swimming pools, a chance to swim with dolphins at the Dolphin Lagoon and dutyfree shopping.

Customizable honeymoon packages are available as well as a Romantic Rendezvous package. Nightly rates range from $250 to $2,500.

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Caribbean Nights Honeymoon spots in the worldâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s most famous islands Cake? Check. The perfect venue? Check. Photographer? Check. Now what?

What comes next can be one of the hardest parts of wedding planning, but only because it is perhaps the most fun. Finding the perfect place to put your feet up and bask in your hard work can be overwhelming with so many choices, especially in popular places like the Caribbean. These five island hot spots are some of the perfect places to enjoy the post-marital glow and start your life together just right.

CANEEL BAY (left, below left) St. John caneelbay.com Set among seven separate beaches surrounded by the Atlantic Ocean and Caribbean Sea, this St. John resort continues to pursue the vision of founder Laurance Rockefeller and his reverence for the environment.

The Virgin Islands National Park provides an opportunity to explore that environment on nature walks while the resort offers tennis, an underwater slide show and movie presentations.

Natural woods, native stone, handcrafted furniture, commissioned artwork and richly woven fabrics supply Caneel’s 166 guest rooms with a motif purposefully absent of modern glitz and digital distractions.

Special two-person packages range from $325 to $710 per night.

LADERA | Lucia | ladera.com Although this lush tropical resort is smaller than most, with only 6 villas and 26 suites, it is considered one of the world’s most romantic destinations. Formerly part of one of the port town Soufrière’s oldest cocoa plantations, Ladera has been providing guests with an intimate environment in which to relax and connect for almost 30 years. All of the rooms, which are built of Caribbean timbers, local stone and terra-cotta tiles, are completely open to the outside, offering breathtaking views and natural sounds from the nearby rainforest.

Weekly rates range from $690 to $9,900.

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THE CERVANTES Puerto Rico cervantespr.com

Modeled after the intimate European town hotels, this exclusive boutique hotel features a modern, yet classical, ambience designed by Nono Maldonado for sophisticated travelers. The fine art of hospitality is the name of the game here—only the second hotel in Puerto Rico to earn a recommendation from Condé Nast Johansens—and at the unique gastronomic experience provided by Panza Restaurant.

The Cervantes is situated at the gateway to colorful Old San Juan, a 465-year-old neighborhood full of cobblestone streets, fine beaches, casinos, museums, plazas and stunning 16thand 17th-century Spanish colonial architecture.

Nightly rates range from $195 to $975.

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PARROT CAY (above and below) Turks and Caicos | parrotbay.como.bz

The good climate, white sand and warm seas of Parrot Cay, one of about 40 small cays of Turks and Caicos Islands in the northern Caribbean, provide a memorable honeymoon destination. Located on 1,000 acres of private island, with a mile-long beachfront, guests can expect award-winning service along with a relaxing holistic spa, gourmet cuisine and beach houses with private pools. With rooms designed to maximize light, sophisticated interiors come in whitewash and teak, and Balinese daybeds, four posters and private pools encourage relaxed lounging in the ocean breeze. Nightly rates range from $575 to $3,500, while the honeymoon package starts at $5,450 per couple for seven nights.

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gloves on

How to Fight with Your Spouse The newlywed stage has barely started, yet you’re already at each other’s throats. Fighting. Yes, it’s a normal, healthy part of any relationship. You and your hubby are together forever. But you’re not sure you can live with that loud chewing sound he makes forever. Or you can’t picture your life complete with his ugly chair forever. Whatever it is, you two will need to find a good way to communicate so the fighting itself doesn’t last forever.

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orm LeClercq, licensed clinical marriage and family therapist with New Leaf Resources in Lansing, Ill., says there are some ways to make those arguments actually help your relationship rather than harm it. The key, he says, is to refrain from accusing or judging your partner. Instead, describe and disclose how their behavior affects you. If your husband goes out with his friends all the time instead of chilling with you, tell him that you love hanging out with him and wish you could spend more time together—instead of yelling that he goes out drinking with his buddies too often.

“Share not out of defensiveness, but out of vulnerability,” he says. One hint: start by making a few affirmative statements about what you love about your partner. Once you’ve done that, just mention that there’s a little glitch that you could solve together.

“The main thing is ‘I love you,’ but this is causing problems,” LeClercq suggests.

Once you’ve had the argument, there’s the aftermath, but the make-up nookie that you see in the movies doesn’t always

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happen. Tara Kingston of Highland, Ind., says she had to learn that her husband Sean needs space after a fight—and it’s not a rejection of her. “Rather, it’s a way for him to reflect on what’s happened,” she says. “He knows that I’m waiting to talk it through, so when he’s ready, we’ll talk.”

Another thing she learned: nine times out of ten, Tara’s ruminating on the argument long after her husband’s moved on. “I think women are more analytical, so we tend to do that anyway,” she says.

While Tara and Sean have figured out ways to resolve their arguments successfully on their own, others need a little outside help. That’s where LeClercq steps in. He says couples need help from a professional counselor sometimes in order to help listen to each other. If you’ve already become resentful and bitter of your partner, it’s probably time to seek outside help. “At that stage, counseling can help a couple recognize that it is possible to address these issues,” he says.

A good counselor will create a safe place for both people, and will value each person without taking sides—so don’t go there expecting the counselor to agree with everything you say, and to yell at your husband for his actions. “The goal is understanding, not winning,” LeClercq says.

Slowly, the relationship should shift with the help of the counselor, and each person will begin to recognize what they may be doing to trigger the other person’s anger. And once they learn this, they can work to stop pushing buttons and communicate before the issue becomes too out of control.

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GETTING FAIR ABOUT HOUSEHOLD AFFAIRS Not so long ago, a woman’s place was in the kitchen and the man’s was in the office. But now that women are well established in the work force, men are finally tip-toeing into the laundry room and dipping their hands into the dish soap.

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While it’s great that the stereotypical gender roles are starting to disappear, it’s also a pretty typical source of arguments: who does what around the house? If we’re both working fulltime jobs, why am I still the one to do most of the chores? Why is it so hard for you to put your clothing in the hamper? How many times do I need to remind you to wash your dishes?

Tara Kingston and her husband Sean, of Highland, Ind., have been married for four years and they believe they’ve created a system that works for both of them. She does the inside of the house and he does the outside.

Tara says, “When we were first married, it did take some trial and error to figure out who was going to do what, but we’ve just worked through whose talents lie in what areas.”

And when problems arise, they talk through them to tackle them together. Tara used to iron Sean’s shirts—an inside-the-house chore—and while she was proud of her work, she became resentful about the amount of time she was spending leaning over the ironing board. So they decided that the few dollars they could spend on the dry cleaning bill was worth her sanity and their marriage.

The couple appears to be doing everything right, says Norm LeClercq, licensed clinical

marriage and family therapist with New Leaf Resources in Lansing, Ill. LeClercq suggests that couples make a commitment to address each chore and figure out ahead of time who will be doing what. Next, they need to realize that there’s no right or wrong. One person will inevitably be neater and cleaner than their partner, but that person is not necessarily “right.”

“These are preferences,” LeClercq says.

“Often what causes conflict is when they get put into the right and wrong category. In talking about the issues, there needs to be a focus on the issue instead of solely attacking the person. It’s about the behavior, not the person.”

Tara says she learned that the most important part of asking her husband to do tasks around the house is to be patient. If he doesn’t do the task immediately, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s forgotten.

“It just means it’s different on his list of priorities than it is on mine,” she says. She finds herself nagging Sean sometimes, but she tries to stick to the system that she’s found works best for them.

“What works better is a ‘honey do’ list, so I don’t have to keep reminding,” she says.

Save your money.

Start now—even if it’s the smallest amount. Put it away, and it trains you to keep doing it. You’re old a long time, and it’s very expensive.

Start a separate bank account for the money, and it never gets touched.

Or, buy a bond every month— something that you won’t get at. Look at your parents or grandparents— what would they do if they didn’t have a nest egg?

Start now, so you’ll have a long time to accumulate—and it does accumulate, the same way your bills accumulate.

I wouldn’t care if it was $5 a month.

It’s just training you to start saving.

I always said to my kids, “You’re young for a short amount of time, but you’re old forever.”

—KATHY SELLERS, A LOAN ORIGINATOR FOR MUTUAL BANK IN NEW BUFFALO WHO HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR 41 YEARS.

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12 months or before: _ Announce the engagement.

_ Decide on the men’s formalwear and order it.

_ Ask friends and relatives to participate in the wedding party.

_ Make arrangements for the rehearsal dinner.

_ Decide what kind of wedding you want, including when and where it will be. Choose a few different dates and sites in case your favorite location is already booked.

_ Find accessories, including jewelry and shoes. Wear shoes around the house to begin to break them in.

_ Book the ceremony site, officiant and the reception venue. _ Start thinking about the guest list.

Divide your list between people who need to be invited and those whom it would be nice to invite, in case you need to downsize later. _ Set a budget early and try to stick to it throughout the planning process. _ Order or renew passports if required for your honeymoon. six to nine months before: _ Decide on the cut, color and style of your dream gown. Take your time shopping to make sure you order the perfect one. _ Research and book the photographer, videographer, florist and entertainment. _ Register for gifts. _ Select a flower girl and ring bearer. _ Choose and order the bridesmaids’ dresses. _ Start planning your honeymoon. _ Have your engagement portrait taken. four to six months before: _ Finalize the guest list and order wedding invitations. _ Reserve lodging for out-of-town guests. _ Shop for and order wedding rings. Allow up to four weeks for engraving.

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_ Buy gifts for wedding party, parents and each other. three months before: _ Research bakeries and order the wedding cake. _ Select and hire transportation for the wedding day. _ Purchase reception decorations and party favors. _ Look into wedding license requirements. _ Plan activities for out-of-town guests for before and after the wedding. _ Schedule appointments for getting hair, makeup and nails done. six to eight weeks before: _ Address and mail out invitations. _ Check with newspaper for wedding announcement requirements. Write it up and send in with photograph.

caterer. Arrange seating and create place cards, if desired. _ Discuss must-have shots with the photographer and videographer.

Give final song list to band or DJ. _ Start packing for the honeymoon. _ Keep up to date on thank-you notes as gifts arrive. one week before: _ Have final dress fitting and bring it home. Make sure maid of honor knows how to bustle the dress. _ Confirm honeymoon reservations and other arrangements. Finish packing. _ Attend bachelor and bachelorette parties. _ Confirm all arrangements made for the wedding day. day before: _ Give the best man the officiant’s fee and any other checks to be paid. _ Make sure a member of the wedding party is in charge of bringing the wedding accessories to the service. _ Rehearse the ceremony and give marriage license to the officiant.

_ Obtain marriage license. Have name changed, if you choose, on all important documents.

_ Give gifts to the wedding party.

_ Mail invitations to rehearsal dinner.

_ Give wedding bands to the best man and the maid of honor.

_ Collect your “something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue.” _ Write your vows. _ Create a wedding program. two to six weeks before: _ Contact guests who haven’t responded to invitations. _ Finalize menu for the reception and give a final head count to the

day of:

_ Present gifts to parents and each other. _ Take a deep breath and enjoy your day.

planner beauty

five to six months before:

one to two months before:

one week before:

_ Begin to take one night a week to do something fun and get away from the stress of planning the wedding.

_ Go to your makeup artist for a trial run. Discuss your best feature with them and highlight that.

_ Allow yourself to enjoy the prewedding parties and festivities, but be selective in what you eat there.

_ Get plenty of sleep and try to stay away from a lot of caffeine and unhealthy food to reduce stress.

_ Take your veil to your hairdresser for a trial run. Don’t hesitate to let them know of any concerns you may have now.

_ Start researching hair and makeup ideas. _ Try a new style or color for your hair now, before it’s too late to change back. _ Start a strict skin care regimen, cleansing and moisturizing daily, and schedule a facial once a month. _ Start exercising at least three times a week. Enlist one of your bridesmaids to help if you need to get motivated. Try yoga or aerobic exercises—such as cycling or running—that will help you look great and relieve stress. _ If you want to lose weight before the wedding, talk to your doctor to set up a plan to lose the weight and then keep it off after dress fittings are underway. Don’t lose more than two pounds in a single week because by doing so, you will only be losing firm muscle. three to four months before: _ Research options for hairdressers and makeup artists. Meet with them and bring pictures you like along to show them. _ Book appointments with a hairdresser, makeup artist and nail salon for the wedding day. _ Test out different types of selftanner now for a streak-free glow. Pay special attention to the neckline of your dress so that you don’t miss anything.

_ Pamper yourself with a spa day, complete with massage, waxing appointments and a final facial. _ Confirm your hair and makeup appointments.

_ Begin to cut down on coffee, tea and dark sodas to whiten your smile. Try whitening toothpaste, an at-home bleaching kit, or talk to your dentist about professional bleaching.

day before: _ Gather items you shouldn’t be without on your wedding day and put them into a beauty kit. Give this kit to your maid of honor to keep in case of an emergency.

_ Start getting weekly manicures for healthy nails. two weeks before: _ Get a basic haircut or trim and touch up your hair color.

With just weeks to go, don’t do anything drastic.

Just stick to a look you love. _ Make sure your fiancé gets a haircut and manicure if needed as well. _ Continue to eat a healthy diet, and try to avoid salt and fat. _ Drink lots of water to keep your skin clear and moisturized. _ Maintain a normal exercise schedule to keep up energy and reduce stress.

_ Exfoliate your skin for a perfect glow. Use a product that you’ve used before so there are no surprises.

Items for an _ Get a final emergency beauty kIt: manicure and aspirin bobby pins breath mints Clear nail polish Comb or brush eye drops feminine hygiene products hair spray hand sanitizer Lotion makeup for touchups nail file Perfume safety pins small sewing kit spot remover sunscreen

pedicure.

_ Treat yourself to a long, hot bath to relax. Deep condition your hair while you’re at it. day of: _ Make sure you eat something. _ Remember to wear a buttonup shirt to your appointments. _ Get your hair and makeup done. _ Give yourself one last look in the mirror and go get married!

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shops & services

making your list and checking it twice Newly engaged and don’t know where to start?

We’ve listed some of the area’s best in the categories of apparel, beauty, receptions, photography and more.

Highlight, circle and start shopping!

design KRISTINA LYNN FLORAL 1642 Britton Dr, schererville, ind.

219.865.8663 Kristina Lynn, who offers delivery, will meet every floral need for the wedding—from the boutonnieres to the corsages—including the engagement party, bridal shower, church and reception. eat GREAT LAKES CATERING 701 Washington st, Michigan City, ind.

219.898.1501. greatlakescatering.com With a combined 75 years of experience, father and son Matt and Ed Kis are some of the area’s leading caterers. Services include catered food and beverages, hall rental assistance, flowers, DJs, bands, tents, tables and more.

H&R CATERING, INC. Banquets of st. George 528 W 77th Ave, schererville, ind.

219.864.1458. banquetsatstgeorge.com H&R Catering strives for culinary expertise in its freshly prepared food, extensive menu options and ability to fulfill special requests, while offering free tastings throughout the process to help with tough decisions. pamper CENTER FOR OTOLARYNGOLOGY 9120 Columbia Ave, ste A, Munster, ind. 219.836.4820 Dr. Bethany A. Cataldi specializes in general otolaryngology, nasal/sinus surgery, allergy and facial plastics and cosmetics. Dr. Cataldi offers Botox, otoplasty, liposuction, face lifts and blepharoplasty through the most advanced, precise and cutting-edge procedures.

DYER FAMILY DENTISTRY 890 Richard Rd, ste B, Dyer, ind.

219.322.1326. dyerfamilydentistry.com Dr. Irfan Atcha, Dr. Robert Zajac and Dr. Lynn Karr have trained with some of the world’s best dentists. Specials are available for brides, grooms and wedding parties, for ZOOM Whitening services.

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HAIR SCULPTORS 1208 E Evans, Valparaiso, ind.

219.477.4455. hairsculptorssalon.com The stylists at Hair Sculptors are trained for head-to-toe services, including hair, makeup, manicures, pedicures, waxing and massage. Combination packages are available, for the entire wedding party.

JOSEF & MARI’S SALON & SPA 822 Ridge Rd, ste A2, Munster, ind. 219.836.8460 Josef & Mari’s offers complete bridal hair and professional makeup services, including manicure and pedicure, with special discounts for bridal parties. party THE ALLURE 301 B st, laPorte, ind.

219.477.9666. allureone.com Recently renovated, this 1920s building now houses the area’s newest banquet hall. This unique venue combines modern design with classic ambience and features balconies, lofts, lounges and a gorgeous cascading staircase that descends into a grand ballroom.

AVALON MANOR 3550 E Us 30, Merrillville, ind.

219.945.0888. theavalonmanor.com The largest freestanding banquet facility in Northwest Indiana, Avalon Manor has exquisite outdoor gardens, a new ballroom and seating available for up to 1,200 guests.

BLUE CHIP CASINO 2 Easy st, Michigan City, ind.

219.851.4852. bluechipcasino.com Blue Chip’s brand-new Stardust Event Center offers 20,000 square feet of space, to accommodate a wedding of any size. Pre-wedding pampering is offered at Spa Blu, and guests can stay at the new, luxurious hotel.

CASA DEL ROMA 712 Calumet Ave, Valparaiso, ind.

219.465.0478. casadelroma.com This full-service banquet facility offers a wedding chapel, catering services for up to 700 people, and a quaint Italian ambience.There are five banquet rooms

to choose from, to accommodate any size and style of wedding.

THE CENTER FOR VISUAL AND PERFORMING ARTS 1040 Ridge Rd, Munster, ind.

219.836.1950. cvpa.org Up to 400 guests can share in your joy at the Center for Visual and Performing Arts, where “happily ever after begins.”

FIESTA PALACE 2005 Broadway, East Chicago, ind.

219.743.7333 6220 Broadway, Merrillville, ind.

219.887.3377 fiestapalacein.com This recently remodeled banquet hall can serve from 25 to 400 people. There are four catering packages available— including a family style meal—and couples have a choice between American and Mexican cuisine.

GENESIS CONVENTION CENTER One Genesis Center Plaza Gary, ind. 219.882.5505 genesisarena.com With spaces to accommodate 25 to 500 guests, Genesis Convention Center is an ideal venue for engagement parties, bridal showers, bachelor parties, weddings, receptions, or all of the above.

A broad menu selection is available.

HARBOR GRILL 12 on the lake, Michigan City, ind.

219.874.2469. harborgrill.net What was once the Michigan City Yacht Club is now a renovated lakefront restaurant that’s also available for small weddings and parties. Off-site catering is an option, and an in-house professional event planner will help couples prepare the ideal menu.

INNSBROOK COUNTRY CLUB 6701 taft st, Merrillville, ind.

219.980.9060. innsbrookcc.com Innsbrook Country Club’s newly remodeled banquet hall can accommodate up to 350 guests, and the floor-to-ceiling windows offer a beautiful backdrop to any photo. Innsbrook’s staff will work with any specialty themes,

decorations, flowers or entertainment you would like to have at your reception.

LOST MARSH GOLF COURSE 1001 E 129th st, Hammond, ind.

219.932.4046. lostmarshgolf.com Beginning Spring 2009, the clubhouse at Lost Marsh became available for wedding receptions, accommodating up to 250 guests. Situated on a sprawling golf course, the setting offers spectacular views.

LUBEZNIK CENTER FOR THE ARTS 101 W 2nd st, Michigan City, ind.

219.874.4900. lubeznikcenter.org With more than 5,000 total square feet, the Lubeznik Center is a unique and ideal setting for brides and grooms who love art. Large and small galleries can be rented for both wedding receptions and bridal showers.

SERBIAN SOCIAL CENTER 18550 stony island Ave lansing, ill. 708.895.8998 serbiansocialcenter.com The well-trained servers at the Serbian Social Center guarantee outstanding service for the bridal party and guests. The ballrooms can comfortably accommodate up to 700 guests underneath the magnificence of the brilliant crystal chandeliers.

STRONGBOW INN 2405 E Hwy 30 Valparaiso, ind.

219.531.0162 strongbowinn.com Strongbow’s Charles Room and Caroline Room can each hold around 200 guests and can also be combined to accommodate up to 600 people.

VILLA CESARE 900 Eagle Ridge Dr schererville, ind.

219.322.3011. villacesare.com With two large banquet halls available to accommodate up to 900 people, Villa Cesare has an inviting atmosphere with impeccable service.

WHITE HAWK COUNTRY CLUB 1001 White Hawk Dr Crown Point, ind.

219.661.2322.

whitehawkcountryclub.com The elegant banquet rooms at White Hawk collectively seat 230 people. All couples will be provided with a wedding coordinator for planning purposes.

Additionally, an outdoor gazebo overlooking the 36hole golf course is available for wedding ceremonies. plan CHANTAL’S BRIDAL STUDIO 219.381.0201 708.921.7958 chantalsbridalstudio.net The experienced wedding consultants at Chantal’s specialize in assisting couples with planning wedding details, plus creating favors and centerpieces and sending invitations. All of their wedding packages include monthly meetings to discuss the status of the wedding. wear DUNHILL TUXEDOS Various locations in Northwest indiana and southwest Michigan 800.445.1889 dunhilltuxedos.com Names such as After Six, Oscar de la Renta and Perry Ellis fill the six different locations of Dunhill Tuxedos, with special wedding deals including free groom’s tuxedos and invitations.

ELEGANCE WEDDING & EVENING WEAR 2820 Highway Ave Highland, ind.

219.923.0977 elegancewedding.net With a dedication to its customers and commitment to excellence, Elegance Wedding & Evening Wear is a one-stop shop for all bridal needs, including gowns, jewelry and invitations.

LOUIE’S TUX SHOP Multiple locations in Northwest indiana louiestuxshop.com With more than 50 years of experience, Louie’s offers designer tuxedos— all of which pass a thorough inspection process—as well as accessories, gifts and stationery.

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