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RITA LORRAINE ELCOCK-MAJOR Born: 6th July, 1978 Died: 21st August, 2021 Aged: 43 Years SERVICE HELD AT ST. AGNES ANGLICAN CHURCH BALLIOU HILL ROAD Nassau, New Providence • The Bahamas SATURDAY, 11th September, 2021 at 9:00 A.M. OFFICIATING: Archdeacon Keith N. Cartwright Rector, St. Agnes Church
ASSISTED BY: Archbishop Drexel Gomez Archdeacon G. Kingsley Knowles
Rector, Christ The King Anglican Church
Canon Warren Rolle Rev’d Fr. I. Ranfurly Brown Rector, St. John’s Parish
Rev’d James Moultrie Rev’d Chitan Thompson
Assistant Curate, Christ Church Cathedral
Rev’d Fr. Eric A.A. Miller
Assistant Curate, Christ Church Cathedral
Rev’d Fr. Ruel J. Strachan II
Assistant Curate, St. Agnes Church
Rev’d Desiree Johnson
Assistant Curate, Christ the King Church
Rev’d Allison Dean
Assistant Curate, St. Luke’s Parish
ORGANIST: Preston Ferguson
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REMEMBERING
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vril Rita Lorraine Elcock Major came into this world on 6th July 1978. Verna and Wilfred Elcock were blessed with a jewel. It was our sisters’, Melvern and Dianne, honor and privilege to accompany and help care for Aunt Verna during her confinement at Aunt Leonora Braynon’s home in Miami. Avril was the long-awaited baby. She was born with a red blood spot on her forehead, a hemangioma. Auntie brought her home in time for our grandparents’ fiftieth wedding anniversary. She arrived in Nassau as a pink bundle of joy. We all gathered around to welcome her and most notable at the time was the centurion position that one year old Jody took at her side. Funnily, this was to be his position throughout her life. Avril was the ninth Bowe child. Our mother, her Babbie, and Daddy Peter loved her and included her in our clan. At first our Mama was charged with her rearing along with Brampie. She refused to attend St. Agnes Day School telling Brampie he could go to school; she was going to Mama. Along with Jody she attended Wee Wisdom Christian Academy and then onto St. Anne’s Anglican School. She completed her high school education at St. Andrew’s International School. Avril attended the College of The Bahamas where she made many life-long friends and began her professional career.
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Auntie and Uncle Freddie were not ready for the breaking from the apron strings when Avril left to attend Barry University in Florida. She earned a Bachelor’s of Science Degree in Accounting and then a Master in Business Administration from Nova Southeastern University. On graduating she was immediately employed by her cousin and life time mentor, Julian Brown, at Alliance Investment Management Ltd. In time she became the Vice-President of the company and also served in various capacities for the parent company, Benchmark (Bahamas) Limited. For the last twenty years Avril worked tirelessly at Alliance. She put her all into growing the company into the well-recognized entity that it is today. In her resume Avril described herself as “Competent and self-motivated individual with the ability to organize and research investment details and trade various securities. Dedicated and responsible team player with the ability to lead groups, as demonstrated in the various leadership positions held in a variety of large organizations; Strong communication, innovative and professional skills and a strong desire to learn. Capable of instructing individuals and proven to be an excellent worker.”
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Avril entered another phase of her life when she married the love of her life, Randy Vernal Major. Together, they took care of auntie and took into their care Lamar and Lamia and Uncle Leslie. Randy, a member of All Saints on Calvary Hill gladly became an active member of St. Agnes. Randy was also raised in the Anglican tradition and his parents, Vernal and Leonora Major, instilled in their children, Bradley, Randy, Kevin and Nadia, good Christian values and that there was pride in industry. His parents nurtured in their children a strong sense of responsibility and family values. Randy was dedicated to his family at Sans Souci. Avril and Randy enjoyed fourteen years of married life. It was in his arms that she took her dying breath on Saturday, 21st August, 2021. Avril Rita Lorraine was born into a great St. Agnes Anglican Church tradition. She was all church. She loved the services – patronal festival, evensong and benediction and 10:30 am Sunday was her mass. The ancient and Modern Hymnal and the CPW were her playlists. She knew all the hymns for the different seasons of the church year. She had a beautiful voice and she loved to sing. She served in many church ministries. Her greatest love, however, was the youth of the parish. She was director of the primary and junior choirs; a leader in David’s Army, an advisor to the Anglican Young People’s Association; and either godmother or sponsor to many children and young adults. It was her profound joy to have them celebrate each and every occasion at her home. She was present at their school plays and speech days or graduations. She made it her business to discipline the unruly and admonish them to obey their parents or face her wrath. She was likewise proud of their successes and accomplishments. She was sure to reward and to show that every good effort deserved an award. Avril was a saint. She walked this earth doing as
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God commanded us to do…To love thy neighbor as thyself. Her passing has come as a great shock to family and friends alike. We have received condolences from around the world. All attest to the great impact Avril had on their lives. The stories are many. The tears are real and flow easily. Our hearts ache and the pain is unbearable. Our love for her knew no bounds. Our gift is that she returned that love. In all we give thanks for the life of Avril Rita Lorraine. May she rest in peace and rise in glory. Left to cherish her memory are: HUSBAND: Randy V. Major; MOTHER: Verna A. Elcock; “SISTERS”: Ian-Marie Darville – Miller (Revd. Eric Miller) and Kendra Samuels; SISTERS/COUSINS: Ruth Bowe-Darville, Cheryl Bowe-Moss, Melvern Bowe-Seymour of Florida, Carol Dianne (Bradley) Watson, Claudette (Brian) Davis; BROTHERS/COUSINS: Adrian (Theresa) Bowe, Christopher “Shaggy” (Francise) Bowe, Dwight Dorsett, Dwayne (Janet) Dorsett; COUSINS: Lorca Bowe, Akiri (Ria) Bowe, Michael Darville, Dr. N’Tari (Yolanda) Darville, Giovanni (Cicely) Darville, Dr. Kristen Darville, Adrian, Xavier, and Hugh Bowe, Mia McIntosh, Christopher (Monique) Bowe, Carol Crystal (Kenyawn) BoweCarroll, ObieCheryl Peta Bowe, Ashley, Alicia and Stephen Moss, Dwight Caylen (Joia) Trotman, Jomel Barr, , Bradley and Hebron Watson, Dominic Rigby, Blair and Paige Davis, Neville Johnson, Catherine “Cathy” Johnson, Mark Johnson, Nikisha, Tabitha, Sheniel, Antoine, Madrica, Wentworth and Ruth Johnson, Whitfield, Raynell, Ciji, Raquell and Osano Neeley, Anne and Howard Legore of New York, Latoya Pratt of North Carolina, Rabiah and
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Fayola Elcock of Canada, Alvin Elcock and family of Nigeria, Frank Assim, Sr., Frank, Jr., and Arthur Elcock families of New York, Lucille Belgrave and Esther “Anita” (Tom) Pinder of Maryland; IN-LAWS: Lenora and Vernal Major, Kevin (Sandra) Major, Bradley Major, Nadia (Andy) Dodd; AUNTS: Monica Elcock of Barbados and Barbara Elcock of Canada, Julia Burnside, Willamae (Alphonso) Smith, Brenda Samuels, Elaine “Ditty” (Joseph) Patterson of New Jersey, Madge Wynter of Florida, Anne (Tracey) Whitehead of Texas, June Carey, Lena Gray Hazel (Nick) Austin, Grace (Bruce) Dean, Lula Minus, Edna Pratt; UNCLES: Peter M. Bowe, Gregory Major of Virginia, Donald Louis Major, Erskine Gray, Verdon (Jackie) Gray and Roderick (Clara) Gray of Freeport; Housekeeper – Winsome Saunders; GODCHILDREN: Lamar and Lamia Taylor, Timothy Williams, Malik and Mia Strachan, Kaylee Musgrove, Janaye and Jayna Saunders-Forsythe, Prya, Petra and Peyton Armbrister, Tyler, Walter, Tazmyn and Levi Sawyer, Taneli Hall of Jamaica, Kellen Jervis, Reshado Bethel, Danielle, Diane and Jodi Dorsett, Meghan Bowe, Camry Wilson; Julian Brown, the Board of Directors, Management and Staff of the Benchmark Group of Companies particularly the staff of Alliance Investments Ltd., PureWater Ltd. and Premier Travel; The Directors, Management and Staff of IT Bahamas Ltd, Mangrove Network Company and Liquid Courage; Management and Staff of Alarms Unlimited; Commonwealth Law Advocates; THE TEA PARTY – Torez (Corrie) Hanna, David Briggs, Keenan Johnson, Taran (Agatha) Mackey, Horatio (Ashley) Smith and Ryan Bastian; COUSINS: The family of the late Livingston Bostwick; Kermit, Carmen, Julian (Candace) and LeKeisha Bostwick; Janet and Spurgeon Lightbourn, Nakia Williams, Winston, Bernadette and Faith Bunch, Elaine Bunch and Harry and Marcia Bunch and
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Semaj Bunch; Earl (Shirley) Bostwick; the family of the late Betty Stubbs; Andrea Archer, Esther Derykere, Edward (Sherry) Minnis, Jessica Minnis: the family of the late Leroy Gay; Lilian Gibson, Gladstone Gay, Esther and Carleton Blair, Harris and Carvey Gibson and family, Leroy and Mikhail McLean; the family of the late Olga Rhos, the family of the late Don Jordan, Margo and Gilberto Gongora, Dr. Larry, Dr. Carol, Amanda, Keenan and Melissa Carroll; Yasmin (Gabbie) Enache and Anna Alicia; Nathalie and Dr. Helen Minnis of Scotland; Laurine Zoe Moss, Shona Knowles, Percy Moss and the family of the late Perciss Mackey; Yvonne Adderley and family; J. Henry Bostwick and Dame Janet Bostwick; Erma Colebrooke Thompson of Florida, Ursula and Catherine Coakley, Kyron (Coco) Strachan, Michaela and Zandra Strachan, Flora Moss, Daisy French, Wilfred, Henry and Tyrone Minnis; Carnetta Clarke; Crystal and Darryl Won of New York, Jackie (Mike) Silva of North Carolina, Anne (Don) Cooke, David and Blaize Johnson, Renee ForsytheSaunders, Christopher Johnson, China Ferguson, Gloria Gibson, Gary Johnson, Shadrach Johnson, Lilian Johnson-Lightbourne, Brenda Wilkinson, , Wilhelmina Carter and Dr. Edward Robinson of Florida, Angela and Sylvester George; GODMOTHERS: Rosemary Hanna and Alexis Smith of Florida; GODBROTHERS: Farley (Duane) Williams, Franklyn (Gillian) Williams and Dr. Francis, Raquel, Timothy, Danielle and Emma Williams, Dudley and Darrell Smith, Marlon Hunt, Franklin (Eugenia) Butler, Andrew (Crystal) Holder; GODSISTERS: Tiffany Moxey, Bernadette Butler, Clarice Hanna, Jacqueline Hunt-Farington; SPECIAL FRIENDS: Revd. Bernard Been and Mrs. Joanne Been of Barbados, Revd. J. Kenneth Major of Florida, , Shannon Hanna; Jonathan and Yvette, David and Kelli Knowles, Carol-Ann and Caylen Jervis, Michelle Wilson, Nhomsa Gibson, Preston Ferguson, Clarence Cleare, Andrew and Crystal
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Holder, Cyprian and Mikeiko Collie, Carson and Cara Collie, Patrick and Yashicka Carey, Clementine, Dominic, Frank, Damian and Martin Butler; Nelson Bevans, Samina Castillo, Roston Wallace, Candace Thompson, Shanita Johnson, Ivy Gates, Constance, Dionne and Andre Commery and Mioshi of Canada; OTHER RELATIVES AND FRIENDS: Robert Miller, Ahmad Miller of Florida, Aline, Bola and Noah LaBassiere of St. Lucia, Nikolai Battoo of Switzerland, Reverend George Knight, Rosina and Michelle Knight of Barbados, Sandra Knight, Bertel and Barbara Holder of Canada, Hon. Counsul for Barbados, Carleton Jones and Mrs. Gretchen Jones, Carol Creary and family, Miriam Adderley, Christine Adderley, Jackie Sands, Yolanda Fernander, Charles and Valda Hunt, Jaqueline Hunt Farrington, the family of the late Edwin Hunt, Pamela Christie Tabron of North Carolina and Jenna Christie, Sandra Christie
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and family, Kim and Philip Carey, Paul and Betty Barnett and family, Dr. Emily Osadebay and family, Angela Archer, Elma Campbell. Justice G. Diane Stewart, Anita Roberts, George Darville, Celeste, Donald and Callum Darville, Elsie Strachan, Thea, Patrick and Gianna Paul, Hubert and Roxanne Chipman, Hon. Elsworth and Cathy-Ann Johnson and family, Maurice and Lyn Glinton, Dr. Theodore Ferguson, Leonie Lockhart, Denise Reynolds-Petite, Carl, Damien and Jason Turnquest and Leann Turnquest Forbes, Presley Seymour, Crispin, Kimmie, Kristin, and Cadre Seymour; Michael, Monario, Leslia, Tyler and Trenton Seymour; Natalie Miller of Freeport; Winifred Butler and family, Patricia Thomas, Henry “Von Zipper” Sands, Sonia Thompson and Patrice Francis, Carver Garden Club; Young Women’s Christian Association; St. Agnes Anglican Church – Primary Choir, Youth Choir, Co-Co-Chair of St. Agnes Fair Committee, St.
Ambrose Guild, Communications Committee, David’s Army, Youth Advisor, Christian education Committee, Discovery Team, Ricardo and Charles (St. Agnes Securities), Patrick Johnson, John Eneas; St, Agnes Anglican Church Women Association; Gaol Alley Reunion; Maurice Minnis Family Reunion; Barry College Room-mates: Kwame LaBassiere of New York, Zamira Ramos of Florida, Nikki Wilson of Trinidad, Ray and Vanessa Vilca of Texas, Dierdre Dumont; Vidya Lackinsingh of Florida, William and Yvonne Wallace, The BahamasBarbadian Association; Sans Souci Crime Watch Association; Mr. Adrian White and the St. Anne’s FNM Constituency Association, Bahamas Girl Guides Association; Present and Retired American Embassy Staff; CLERGY: Bishop Liaish Boyd and Mrs. Joann Boyd, Archbishop Drexel Gomez and Mrs. Carol Gomez, Archdeacon Keith N. Cartwright, Archdeacon Kingsley Knowles and Mrs. Sandra Knowles, Revd. I. Ranfurly Brown and Mrs. Olga Brown, Canon Warren Rolle and Mrs. Thelma Rolle, Revd. James Moultrie and Mrs. Bernadette Moultrie, Revd. Basil Tynes and Mrs. Sonia Tynes, Revd. Denrick Rolle of Florida, Revd. Chitan Thompson, Revd. Peter Ferguson, Revd. Ruel Strachan II, Revd. Desiree Johnson, Revd. Allison Dean.
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SERVICE OPENING SENTENCES: Jesus said, I am the resurrection, and I am the life; he who believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, and who ever lives and believes in me shall never die. John 11:25-25 The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, His compassion never fails: every morning they are renewed. Lamentations 3:22-23 Jesus said, let not your hearts be troubled; believe in God, believe also in me. John 14:1
If we live, we live to the Lord, and if we die, we die to the Lord; so then, whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord’s. For to this end Christ died and lived again, that he might be Lord both of the dead and of the living. Romans 14:8-9 We brought nothing into the world, and we take nothing out. The Lord gives, and the Lord takes away: Blessed be the name of the Lord. Job 1:21 The Eternal God is our refuge, and underneath are the everlasting arms. Deuteronomy 33:27
I am sure that neither death, nor life, nor angles, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:38-39
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INTROIT HYMN | “Jerusalem the Golden” Jerusalem the golden, With milk and honey blest, Beneath thy contemplation Sink heart and voice oppressed. I know not, o I know not, What joys await us there; What radiancy of glory, What bliss beyond compare.
There is the throne of David; And there, from care released, The song of them that triumph, The shout of them that feast; And they who with their Leader Have conquered in the fight, Forever and forever Are clad in robes of white.
They stand, those halls of Zion, All jubilant with song, And bright with many an angel, And all the martyr throng. The Prince is ever in them, The daylight is serene; The pastures of the blessed Are decked in glorious sheen.
O sweet and blessed country, The home of God’s elect! O sweet and blessed country That eager hearts expect! Jesus, in mercy bring us To that dear land of rest; Who are, with God the Father And Spirit, ever blest.
COLLECT FOR THE DEPARTED: Celebrant: Let us pray: Almighty God, we remember before you today your servant AVRIL RITA LORRAINE, and we pray that, having opened to her the gates of larger life, you will receive her more and more into your joyful service, that, with all who have served you in the past, she may share in the eternal victory of Jesus Christ our Lord; who lives and reigns with you, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever. All: Amen. THE NEW TESTAMENT LESSON | Master Kellen Jervis (Godson) A reading from the Word of God written in I Corinthians 15:50-58 I declare to you, brothers and sisters, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God, nor does the perishable inherit the imperishable. Listen, I tell you a mystery: We will not all sleep, but we will all be changed— in a flash, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, the dead will be raised imperishable, and we will be changed. For the perishable must clothe itself with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality. When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: “Death has been swallowed up in victory.”
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“Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?” The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labour in the Lord is not in vain. GRADUAL HYMN | “Master, speak! Thy servant heareth” Master, speak! Thy servant heareth, waiting for Thy gracious word, longing for Thy voice that cheereth; Master, let it now be heard, I am listening, Lord, for Thee; what hast Thou to say to me? Speak to me by name, O Master, Let me know it is to me; Speak, that I may follow faster, With a step more firm and free, Where the Shepherd leads the flock In the shadow of the Rock!
Master, speak! Though least and lowest, let me not unheard depart; Master, speak! For oh, Thou knowest all the yearning of my heart; knowest all its truest need; speak, and make me blest indeed. Master, speak! and make me ready, when Thy voice is truly heard, with obedience glad and steady still to follow every word. I am listening, Lord, for thee; Master, speak, O speak to me!
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Avril, You were full of life, full of hope, but most of all full of love. You were the glue that held us together. You were a gem; you had the biggest heart and your smile could light up a room. Whenever we spoke you always inquired about my family, Kamry and the boys. We will miss you. Your tattoo is etched in my my brain “FaithHope-Love”. Sleep in Peace My Friend Love Michelle K. Wilson
THE HOLY GOSPEL | John 11:21-27 Martha said to Jesus, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died. But even now I know that God will give you whatever you ask of him.” Jesus said to her, “Your brother will rise again.” Martha said to him, “I know that he will rise again in the resurrection on the last day.” Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Those who believe in me, even though they die, will live, and everyone who lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this?” She said to him, “Yes, Lord, I believe that you are the Messiah, the Son of God, the one coming into the world.” TRIBUTE | Mr. Julian R. Brown SERMON | The Rev’d Fr. I. Ranfurly Brown (Cousin and Mentor)
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Mrs. Avril, We will miss your beautiful smile and your soft spoken voice. You were such a nice person. You are now an angel like my Grammy please tell her I love and miss her. I will always remember when you taught me I’m gonna live so God can use me any where Lord any time. I love that song I sing it all the time. Now when I sing it I will sing it even more beautifully so you can smile down from heaven. Love You, Liam Pratt
THE APOSTLE’S CREED CELEBRANT: Let us with confidence and hope confess the faith into which we were baptized, as we say, All: I believe in God, the Father Almighty, creator of heaven and earth. I believe in Jesus Christ, His only Son, our Lord. He was conceived by the power of the Holy Spirit and born of the Virgin Mary. He suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died, and was buried. He descended to the dead. On the third day He rose again. He ascended into heaven, and is seated at the right hand of the Father. He will come again to judge the living and the dead. I believe in the Holy Spirit, the holy Catholic Church, the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the body, and the life everlasting. Amen. THE INTERCESSION | Walter and Tazmyn Sawyer (Godchildren) Leader: For our sister AVRIL RITA LORRAINE let us pray to the Lord Christ who said, “I am Resurrection and I am life”. Leader: Lord, you consoled Martha and Mary in their distress; draw near to us who mourn for our sister AVRIL RITA LORRAINE and dry the tears 0f those who weep. All:
Hear us, Lord.
Leader: sorrow.
You wept at the grave of Lazarus your friend; comfort us in
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Hear us, Lord.
Leader: You raised the dead to life; Raise our sister AVRIL RITA LORRAINE to eternal life. All:
Hear us, Lord.
Leader: You promised paradise to the thief who repented; bring our sister AVRIL RITA LORRAINE the joys of heaven. All: Hear us, Lord.
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Leader: Our sister AVRIL RITA LORRAINE was washed in baptism and anointed with the Holy Spirit; give him fellowship with all Your Saints. All:
Hear us, Lord.
Leader: She was nourished with your Body and Blood; grant her a place at the table in your heavenly Kingdom. All:
Hear us, Lord.
Leader: Comfort us in our sorrows at the death of our sister. Let our faith be our consolation, and eternal life our hope. All:
Hear us, Lord.
Celebrant: Lord Jesus Christ, we commend to you our sister AVRIL RITA LORRAINE, who was reborn by water and the Spirit in Holy Baptism. Grant that his death may recall to us your victory over death and be an occasion for us to renew our trust in your Father’s love. Give us, we pray, the faith to follow where you have led the way and where you live and reign with the Father and the Holy Spirit, to the ages of ages. Amen. THE ACT OF PENITENCE Celebrant: If we say we have no sin we deceive ourselves, and the truth in not in us. If we confess our sins, God is faithful and just, and will forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Celebrant:
Let us therefore confess our sins.
All: Almighty God, our Heavenly Father, we have sinned against you and one another, in thought, word and deed, and in what we have left undone. We are sorry and repent of all our sins. For your Son, our Lord Jesus Christ’s sake, forgive us all that is past, and grant that we may serve you in newness of life to the glory of your Name. Amen. THE ABSOLUTION Celebrant: Almighty God, have mercy upon you, pardon and deliver you from all your sins, confirm and strengthen you in all goodness and keep you in life, eternal; through Jesus Christ our Lord. All:
Amen.
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THE OFFERTORY HYMN | “Pleasant Are Thy Courts Above” Pleasant are thy courts above In the land of light and love; Pleasant are thy courts below In this land of sin and woe. O, my spirit longs and faints For the converse of thy saints, For the brightness of thy face, For thy fullness, God of Grace!
Happy souls, their praises flow Even in this vale of woe; Waters in the desert rise, Manna feeds them from the skies; On they go from strength to strength, Till they reach thy throne at length, At thy feet adoring fall, Who hast led them safe through all.
Happy birds that sing and fly Round thy altars, O most High; Happier souls that find a rest In a heavenly Father’s breast. Like the wandering dove that found No repose on earth around, They can to their ark repair And enjoy it ever there.
Lord, be mine this prize to win; Guide me through a world of sin; Keep me by thy saving grace; Give me at thy side a place. Sun and shield alike thou art; Guide and guard my erring heart; Grace and glory flow from thee; Shower, O shower them, Lord, on me!
OFFERTORY PRAYER Celebrant: Through your goodness, Lord, we have this bread and wine to offer, the fruit of the earth and the work of human hands. They will become our spiritual food. All: All things come from you, O Lord, and of your own do we give you. Blessed be God forever. Amen. THE EUCHARISTIC PRAYER Celebrant:
The Lord be with you.
All:
And also with you.
Celebrant: All:
Lift up your hearts. We lift them up to the Lord.
Celebrant:
Let us give thanks to the Lord our God.
All: It is right to give God thanks and praise. Celebrant: It is right and a good and joyful thing, always and everywhere to give
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you thanks, Father Almighty, everlasting God: Through Jesus Christ our Lord; Who rose victorious from the dead and comforts us with the blessed hope of life eternal. For to your faithful people, O Lord, life is changed, not ended; and when our mortal body lies in death, there is prepared for us a dwelling place eternal in the heavens. Therefore we praise you, joining our voices with angels and archangels and with all the company of heaven, who forever sing this hymn to proclaim the glory of your Name. All: Holy, holy, holy Lord, God of power and might; heaven and earth are full of your glory. Hosanna in the highest. Blessed is He who comes in the Name of the Lord. Hosanna in the highest. Celebrant: Sovereign Lord and Father, to you be glory and praise forever. In your boundless wisdom you brought creation into being; in your great love you fashioned us in your image; in your tender compassion you sent your Son, Jesus Christ, our Saviour, to share our human nature; in the power of the Holy Spirit, He overcame the power of sin and death and brought your people to new birth as first of your new creation. On the night that He was betrayed, He took bread and when He had given thanks to you, He broke it and gave it to His disciples and said: -”Take this and eat it: This is my Body which is given for you. Do this for the remembrance of Me.” And after supper He took the cup of wine: and when He had given thanks, He gave it to them and said: “Drink this, all of you: This is My Blood of the New Covenant, which is shed for you and for many for the forgiveness of sins. Whenever you drink it, do this for the remembrance of me.” Celebrant: Therefore, Father, according to the command of your dearly beloved Son. All:
We remember His death. We proclaim His resurrection. We await His coming in glory.
Celebrant: And we offer you, Father, our sacrifice of thanks and praise. Send your Holy Spirit on these gifts of bread and wine that they may become the Body and Blood of your Son, Jesus, our Lord and Redeemer. As we partake of this holy food of new and unending life, may your Holy Spirit Avril Rita Lorraine Elcock-Major
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establish us as a royal priesthood with the Blessed Virgin Mary, St. John the Baptist, St. Agnes and all your sons and daughters who share in your eternal inheritance; Through Jesus Christ our Lord. With Him and in Him and through Him, by the power of the Holy Spirit, we worship you, Father almighty, with all who stand before you in earth and heaven, in songs of everlasting praise. All: Blessings and honour and glory and power be yours forever and ever. Amen. THE LORD’S PRAYER: Celebrant:
As our Saviour has taught us, so we pray:
All: Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your Name; your kingdom come; your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us. Save us from the time of trial and deliver us from evil. For the kingdom, the power, and the glory are yours, now and forever. Amen. THE BREAKING OF THE BREAD Celebrant:
We break this bread to share in the Body of Christ.
All: Though we are many, we are one body, because we all share in one bread. THE INVITATION Celebrant: The Gifts of God for the people of God All: Our souls will feast and be satisfied, and we sing glad songs of praise to Him. THE AGNUS DEI Lamb of God, you take away the sin of the world: Grant her rest. Lamb of God, you take away the sin of the world: Grant her rest. Lamb of God, you take away the sin of the world: Grant her rest eternal. THE COMMNUNION
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HYMNS AT COMMUNION “Through all the changing scenes of life” Through all the changing scenes of life, In trouble and in joy, The praises of my God shall still My heart and tongue employ.
Oh, make but trial of His love, Experience will decide How blest they are, and only they, Who in His truth confide.
Oh, magnify the Lord with me, With me exalt His name; When in distress to Him I called, He to my rescue came.
Fear Him, ye saints, and you will then Have nothing else to fear; Make you His service your delight, Your wants shall be His care.
The hosts of God encamp around The dwellings of the just; Deliverance He affords to all Who on His succor trust. “Hark My Soul It Is The Lord” Hark, my soul! It is the Lord, ‘Tis thy Saviour, hear His word; Jesus speaks, and speaks to thee – “Say, poor sinner, lov’st thou Me?
“Mine is an unchanging love, Higher than the heights above; Deeper than the depths beneath, Free and faithful, strong as death.
“I delivered thee when bound, And when wounded, healed thy wound; Sought thee wand’ring, set thee right, Turned thy darkness into light.
“Thou shalt see My glory soon, When the work of grace is done, Partner of My throne shalt be; Say, poor sinner, lov’st thou Me?”
“Can a woman’s tender care Cease towards the child she bare? Yes, she may forgetful be, Yet will I remember thee.
Lord, it is my chief complaint That my love is weak and faint; Yet I love Thee, and adore, Oh, for grace to love Thee more!
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Tribute to Goddie Avril Words cannot explain how much you meant to us. You were always so caring and supportive no matter what. You were a bright light in all our lives; always smiled and comforted us despite all you were going through. You always loved us and treated us like your own children; and you were always there for us. We’ll always miss the pool parties and movie nights we had at your house and we’ll always be grateful that you were in our lives. We know you’re in a better place now. Rest in peace Goddie. Love, Tyler, Walter, Tazmyn and Levi Sawyer.
POST COMMUNION PRAYER All: Almighty God, we thank you that in your great love you have fed us with the spiritual food and drink of the Body and Blood of your Son Jesus Christ, and have given us a foretaste of your heavenly banquet. Grant that this Sacrament may be to us a comfort in affliction, and a pledge of our inheritance in that kingdom, where there is no death, neither sorrow nor crying, but the fullness of joy with your saints; through Jesus Christ our Saviour. Amen. Avril Rita Lorraine Elcock-Major
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RECESSIONAL HYMN | “How Bright These Glorious Spirits Shine” How bright these glorious spirits shine! Whence all their white array? How came they to the blissful seats Of everlasting day?
The Lamb, who dwells amid the throne, shall o’er them still preside, feed them with nourishment divine, and all their footsteps guide.
Lo! These are they from sufferings great who came to realms of light, and in the blood of Christ have washed those robes that shine so bright.
Midst pastures green He’ll lead His flock where living streams appear; and God the Lord from every eye shall wipe off every tear.
Now with triumphal palms they stand before the throne on high, and serve the God they love amidst The glories of the sky.
To Father, Son and Holy Ghost, The God whom we adore, Be glory, as it was, is n ow, And shall be evermore.
Hunger and thirst are felt no more, nor suns with scorching ray; God is their sun, whose cheering beams diffuse eternal day. CLOSING SENTENCES Christ is risen from the dead, trampling down death by death, and giving life to those in the tomb. The Son of Righteousness is gloriously risen, giving light to those who sat in darkness and in the shadow of death. The Lord will guide our feet into the way of peace, having taken away the sin of the world.
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Christ will open the kingdom of heaven to all who believe in his Name, saying, “Come, O Blessed of my Father; inherit the kingdom prepared for you.” Into paradise may the angels lead you. At your coming may the martyrs receive you, and bring you into the Holy City, Jerusalem.
To: Mrs. Major, You are gone but I will not forget you. I remember being told that I was in the choir from a baby and I was always with you. As long as I could remember you were always nice and I hardly heard you shout. May your soul rest in peace. Mrs. Major you are surely one in a million and you will never be replaced. I will always love you. Petra Armbrister Avril Rita Lorraine Elcock-Major
GRAVESIDE THE COMMENDATION MINISTER: Give rest, O Christ, to your servant with your saints. ALL: Where sorrow and pain, are no more neither sighing, but life everlasting. MINISTER: You only are immortal, the creator of mankind; and we are mortal, formed of the earth, and to earth shall we return. For so did you ordain when you created me saying, “You are dust, and to dust you shall return.” All of us go down to the dust; yet even at the grave we make our song: Alleluia! Alleluia! Alleluia! ALL: Give re st, O Christ, to your servant with your saints, where sorrow and pain are no more, neither sighing, but life everlasting. MINISTER: ALL:
Lord have mercy. Christ have mercy.
MINISTER: Lord have mercy. ALL: Christ have mercy. MINISTER & PEOPLE: Our Father, who art in heaven hallowed be thy Name, thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, the power, and the glory, forever and ever. Amen. MINISTER: Let us commend our sister AVRIL RITA LORRAINE to the mercy of God our Maker and Redeemer. Deliver your servant, AVRIL RITA LORRAINE, O Sovereign Lord Christ, from all evil, and set her free from every bond, that she may rest with all your saints in the eternal habitations; where with the Father and the Holy Spirit you live and reign, one God for ever and ever. ALL: Amen.
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MINISTER: Into your hands, O merciful Saviour, we commend your servant, AVRIL RITA LORRAINE. Acknowledge, we humbly beseech you, a sheep of your own fold, a lamb of your own flock, a sinner of your own redeeming. Receive her into the arms of your mercy, in the blessed rest of everlasting peace, and into the glorious company of the saints in light. ALL: Amen. MINISTER: Rest eternal grant to her, O Lord; ALL: And let light perpetual shine upon him. MINISTER: May her soul and the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. ALL: Amen. MINISTER: ALL:
Let us go forth in the name of Christ. Thanks be to God.
THE COMMITAL Everyone the Father gives to me will come to me; I will never turn away anyone who believes in me. He who raised Jesus Christ from the dead will also give new life to our mortal bodies through His indwelling Spirit. My heart, therefore, is glad, and my spirit rejoices; my body also shall rest in hope. You will show me the path of life; in your presences there is fullness of joy, and in your right hand are pleasures for evermore. I heard a voice from heaven, saying, “Write this: “Happy are the dead who die in the faith of Christ! Henceforth,” says the Spirit, “they may rest from their labours; for they take with them the record of their deeds.” Man born of a woman has but a short time to live. Like a flower he blossoms and then withers; like a shadow he flees and never stays. MINISTER: In sure and certain hope of resurrection to eternal life through our Lord Jesus Christ, we commend to Almighty God our sister, AVRIL RITA LORRAINE and we commit her cremains to the ground, earth to earth, ashes to ashes, dust to dust. And we beseech You in Your infinite goodness to give us grace to live in Your dear love and to die in Your favour that when Your well beloved Son shall come again in judgement both this our sister, AVRIL RITA LORRAINE and we ourselves may be found acceptable in Your sight. Grant this for the sake of Your Son Jesus Christ our Lord. ALL: Amen.
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The Lord be with you. And also with you.
MINISTER: Let us pray. {One or more of the following prayers may be said.} MINISTER: Almighty God, with whom still lives the spirits of those who die in the Lord, and with whom the souls of the faithful are in joy and felicity; we give you heartfelt thanks for the good examples of all your servants, who, having finished their course in faith, now find rest and refreshment. May we, with all who have died in the true faith of Your holy Name, have perfect fulfilment and bliss in your eternal and everlasting glory; through Jesus Christ our Lord. ALL: Amen. MINISTER: Merciful God, Father of our Lord Jesus Christ who is the resurrection and the life: Receive that blessing which your well beloved Son shall then pronounce: “Come, you blessed of my Father, receive the kingdom prepared for you from the beginning of the world.” Grant this, O Merciful Father, through Jesus Christ, our Mediator and Redeemer. ALL: Amen. MINISTER: Grant, O Lord, to all who are bereaved the Spirit of faith and courage that they may have strength to meet the days to come with steadfastness and patience; not sorrowing as those without hope, but in thankful remembrance of your great goodness and in the joyful expectations of eternal life with those they love. And this we ask in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord. ALL: Amen. MINISTER: ALL:
Rest eternal grant to her, O Lord. And let light perpetual shine upon him.
MINISTER: May her and all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. ALL: Amen. MINISTER: The Lord bless her and keep her, the Lord make His face to shine upon her and be gracious to her, the Lord lift up His countenance upon her and give her peace. ALL: Amen.
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GRAVESIDE HYMNS HYMN | “Glad Reunion Day” There will be a happy meeting in heaven I know When we see the many loved ones we’ve known here below. Gather on the blessed hilltops with hearts all aglow. That will be a glad reunion day. (Chorus) Glad day, a wonderful day, Glad day, a glorious day; There with all the holy angels and loved ones to stay, That will be a glad reunion day. There within the holy city we’ll sing and rejoice, Praising Christ the blessed Saviour with heart and with voice. Tell him how we came to love Him and make Him our choice. That will be a glad reunion day. When we live a million years in that wonderful place Basking in the love of Jesus, beholding His face. It will seem but just a moment of praising His grace. That will be glad reunion day.
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Words can’t describe the type of person Mrs. Avril Major was. The time, effort, and dedication you showed us will never be forgotten. Thank you for taking your personal time to teach us songs, Bible verses, and life lessons because those will always be near and dear to my heart. I’m so lucky to have had you in my life. Rest in Christ’s love! Lynae Barr
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HYMN | “Abide With Me”
Abide with me! fast falls the eventide; The darkness deepens; Lord, with me abide! When other helpers fail and comforts flee, Help of the helpless, oh, abide with me. Swift to its close ebbs out life’s little day; Earth’s joys grow dim, its glories pass away; Change and decay in all around I see; O Thou who changest not, abide with me. Come not in terrors, as the King of kings; But kind and good, with healing in Thy wings: Tears for all woes, a heart for every plea; Come, Friend of sinners, thus abide with me. I need Thy presence every passing hour: What but Thy grace can foil the tempter’s power? Who like Thyself my guide and stay can be? Through cloud and sunshine, oh, abide with me. I fear no foe, with Thee at hand to bless: Ills have no weight, and tears no bitterness: Where is death’s sting? where, grave, thy victory? I triumph still, if Thou abide with me.
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To my beautiful, sweet, amazing, and loving choir director
Mrs. Major!! For all of those Saturdays you spent to come to choir practice and teach us new songs, I thank you so much for it..I will miss you very much and I cannot stop thinking about you and all that you have done for me. I love you and I thank you for everything that you have done for me!! Rest In Peace Mrs. Major!! Lailah Barr Avril Rita Lorraine Elcock-Major
Tribute to Avril R.L Elcock-Major from “Slim” Dearest Avril, The world stopped temporarily as you breathed your last breath that faithful Saturday evening on August 21st. You were in every sense of the word, A Saint. A Saint that walked among men. It is a true saying that death is something we all must go through, but it is so hard to accept and yours has and continues to be. I thank you for being you always. I thank you for your constant encouragement even at times when I felt like giving up. I will miss my pop-ins to your office just to say “Hey Dahlin I just checking on you” or you popping in on me to ask, “What service we listening to today?” or the highlight of our days “What’s for lunch?” I will miss our car ride conversations when you dropped me home some evenings. Talking about your “Sweet Petunia” and how she called 5 or 6 times a day to check-in on you and of course, our many many conversations about our beloved St. Agnes. You never truly miss someone until they’re gone, and I miss you. Although I am no longer physically as slim as I used to be, I will always be your Slim, a nickname coined by Candice and yourself. You take it easy up there aye, and I, as usual, will keep singing our hymns to the very end. Much love always, Durante “Slim”
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My dearest
Avril,
It was only yesterday that Verna thrust you in my arms while she cleared Bahamas Customs that August afternoon in 1978. You were a tiny bundle of “pink”. Already your full rosy cheeks were radiating and complemented the red mark (hemangioma) on your forehead. The moment I held you I knew that our spirits became one. You were mine, my first daughter, my friend, my confidante, my advisor, the one person I could always call and depend on. Together we shared a life like no other. My one regret being that when you said you needed me that Saturday night I could do absolutely nothing, I was paralyzed. I was in shock and disbelief then and continue to be. I have never experienced such loss, such pain, such emptiness. My heart is truly broken. I think back at the great times we shared and remember…. My babysitting you at the apartment and then Tedder Close. Taking you along as a toddler to my work at the Archives and to my social events.
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The photo shoots with Woodie as a child in Regency Park and lately with Lil Lee. Beautiful always was my Avril. You always giving instructions to your parents about what you wanted to do; Uncle Freddie did not know how to “rewhimes or rewhamps” (rewind or advance) his video machine. You loved wearing jeans just like Claudette; Answered briskly anytime Cheryl called you “Nem” and followed Meg’s and Di’s every move.
The little flower girl in Meg’s wedding so sweet and charming until you saw your daddy. You never made it to the altar with the flower basket and left poor Jody behind. You at age five or six planning a surprise party for your mom and asking Mama to borrow ten dollars to pay for it.
I can see you now at my call to the bar in your light blue crinoline Sunday dress and hair ribbons in the front row of the Supreme Court and then our photo together at the Cenotaph. Then came Ian-Marie to rock your world. Yes, You and Kenny were the chief nurses always in tow and attending to her every baby need. Our grand tour on your sixteenth birthday – Scotland (with you and Jodi searching the streets of Glasgow at midnight for Missippi Chicken. Then onward to Paris, Spain and London. Your choice of an Indian dinner with great Indian beer. You being an Andrew Lloyd Weber fan and Uncle Freddie ensuring that wherever we travelled you got to see a play…remember “Phantom of the Opera” and “Sunset Boulevard”? You surprised your dad when you not only played the clarinet but marched in the St. Andrew’s school band. Oh, and that beautiful voice. Avril Rita Lorraine Elcock-Major
You were blessed. I remember our many shopping trips, Walmart, Dollar Store, Best Buys, Flea Market, Thanksgiving in Florida. You always arranged the cruises; they were the best of vacations. I shared with you a love of plants. Your orchids are in full bloom as a true testament to your journey here below. They are beautiful just like you. Like me you were a Girl Guide under Aunt Julia’s care every Saturday. And you said you wanted to be just like me! What an honour. The only row we ever had was over the number of persons in your wedding party. Ian-Marie simply put me in my place……. It is not your wedding! Then look at karma last February! You were like the last button on Joseph’s coat…. there were eight and, Avril, you made nine. Babbie and Daddy Peter loved you dearly and spoilt you more than the original eight. In fact, we all loved and spoiled you. We waited a long time for you. There was a time I thought you would go to Codrington. You did everything in St. Agnes except serve on the altar. Your commitment to your church was admirable and truly God-inspired. I shared in and enjoyed all of your successes. I went along with your parents to take you to Barry University. I laughed along with you when your dad insisted on Jody installing the security features on the house. There were not enough outside lights, etc.! Avril Rita Lorraine Elcock-Major
Then you were there with me to take Ian-Marie to Canada. Don’t know who cried the most when parting with her. I quite remember your sneaking off to buy Randy a birthday gift in Miami airport on one of our marathon one day shopping trips. You introduced Randy to our family. Ian-Marie was so taken that someone else should share your love and affection. She soon overcame that and the joke was “food” , that’s all it takes to win her over. The engagement and wedding were a family affair. Avril was blessed to have Randy as her helpmate and to share her life. His love and support were purely reflective of his vows. I am grateful to you and appreciate you, Randy. The family events we planned – birthday parties for Auntie and Uncle Les, Christmas dinners, happy hours, just being together, those special times and, of late, our Sunday afternoon lunches and desert treats. Your last hurrah was Ian-Marie’s wedding, Madam Matron of Honour. Imagine we survived the lockdowns (many meals and lots of “to drink”) but not the pandemic. Remember those times on the patio with the Tea Party. Politics will never be the same. I always admired your faithful and selfless commitment to Julian, Alliance and Benchmark. If ever there was a stellar employee you were it. The growth and progress of the company could not have been achieved without you.
I remember too when you offered to provide relocation for Aline, Bola and Noah after the devastating hurricane hit Dominica. You adopted a whole family because Kwame was your friend. That’s family. That’s true friendship.
Avril, you gave of yourself, loved all and helped many; all the children called you “Goddie” or “Us Goddie”. I remember your care and concern for Uncle Freddie and the same gentle reassuring care you took of Uncle Les. I sit and revel in the many, many sister times we shared, our secret side jokes, our common interests, so, so many memories. I thank you, my dearest Avril, for my treasury of memories. You are such a beautiful person, inside and out. As I swoon on Dwight lamentingly singing “Going Home” I see that bright beaming smile taking in the whole world as your cheeks fluff up and those dimples sink. I shall cry while I pray for your glory. Be assured of my everlasting love and devotion. I shall take care of Auntie and Randy. Take your wings. Take flight to your God seat. Lovingly, Your Big Sister, Ruth
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My Dear Sis, Your loss has been one of the most devastating events in my lifetime. I really thought we’d have many more years of impromptu gatherings, our ‘service’ after Sunday services, punishment in ‘the corner’ as partners in crime, and sharing our most personal thoughts. I have so many wonderful memories to reflect upon. You became so much a part of my daily life that it truly feels as though I’m missing a part of me. It seems almost cruel that I could grow to love you so much, only to have you snatched away so suddenly. I didn’t know how I would make it without you but now I realize that because we have crossed paths I will always find you here. I smile when I think of the things we’d find hilarious. I see you in the simple beautiful things in nature. I hear your words of advice when I’m at a crossroad.
You helped to reinforce my lesson to my children that there are angels on assignment walking among us. You were one of their biggest fans, supporting, encouraging and rewarding every milestone; the ultimate Goddie. It has been so difficult to explain to them why God sometimes needs his best children before we are ready to let them go. Rest easy Avril. You deserve a break. I know that now you truly are ‘alright’. Shannon
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oddy was always a person that you could depend on. She was caring, loving, and the best guardian I could ask for. Whatever I did she would support me and help me if i needed it. She would always surprise my sister and I with little gifts that went a very long way and she would want nothing in return. She was a very kind and fun soul and she will truly be missed. She loved each and everyone of her children very much and we loved her just as much. She may be gone but her spirit lives on in each and every one of our hearts. Malique
To my Godmother Avril You often hear people say there’s no love like a mother’s love for her child, but my Godmother….ohhh how much she loved each and everyone of her godchildren. No matter the day, no matter the time, you could always count on Goddy to be there….in the crowd at games or being the loudest person at graduation. Goddy was what we called ‘the life of the party’. Lol I would know because she played a big role in planning all of mine. Thanks for all the laughs, memories and trips and most importantly thanks for being my biggest supporter. I will miss you dearly and not a day will go by when I don’t think of you. Avril Elcock-Major you will always be in my heart. Love Mia
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Tribute to Mrs. Major
Dearest Avril, Writing this seems so surreal. I’m sure our friendship started before this but it was at this point where we started working together with the youth of St. Agnes. It was at the youth leaders weekend held by Fr. Buck. Oh what a dynamic spirit filled weekend that was. After that we were inseparable on Friday evenings. Over the years we’ve worked together with CYM especially David’s Army, The Primary Choir, The Servers’ Guild and our very own poinsettias ministry on Sundays after church. You were always passionate about the youth. Attending graduations, birthday parties and more recently championship baseball games. I think you were our kids favorite cheerleader.
Mrs. Major you were the best choir director ever. Even though I was shy, you could get me to sing. I just loved your smile and kind spirit. One of the best memories I remember of you was when you invited our choir over to your house for a pool party. We had so much fun that day! You welcomed us into your home like we were your own children. You would always message my mom to check on me. I am so sad that you are gone. I am going to miss you. I will always remember how kind and loving you were to me and to all the children in the choir. Until I see you again, I will remember how kind you were. Love always, Valachjae
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Avril, You left so soon,
Avril, I will forever miss your gentle spirit, encouraging words, beautiful smile and melodious voice. The memories from our get-to-gethers be it for the adults or our kids, our check in chats, our you sending an encouraging word because we hadn’t seen each other will forever live on in my heart.
You gave so much to the young children in our church, You impacted many lives young and old, You were so beautiful, with your radiant smile that would light up any room. Your pleasant smile spoke words that read “love, peace, encouragement, hope” Life is so uncertain, no one knows the day nor the hour but your love for others showed you, and will always be remembered and felt, today we mourn, but still comforted that you are in a better place. We love you but Jesus love you best.
Sleep on beautiful angel, Candice Thompson
May her soul Rest in Peace. Des Stuart
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A Rare Gem, An Angel Among Us A hand that GAVE to those in need, A heart that LOVED in faith and deed, A voice that spoke the TRUTH, AUNTY AVERIL YOU WERE AN ANGEL AMONG US. The common cause to help all, Whether they be friends or foes, Your COMPASSION for all so lovingly grew, AUNTY AVERIL YOU WERE AN ANGEL AMONG US. The forgetting of self to the SERVICE of others, The extra mile was the DISTANCE you covered, AUNTY AVERIL YOU WERE AN ANGEL AMONG US. The Christ like spirit you DEMONSTRATED, The LIMITLESS love from God so great, The DISCIPLE who walked HUMBLE in faith, AUNTY AVERIL YOU WERE AN ANGEL AMONG US. From the very first time I met you in the Bahamas National Boys Choir I knew that you were someone SPECIAL and from the very first time we spoke and interacted the connection was unbreakable. You have left a very POSITIVE influence on my life and I am forever GREATFUL. I will miss that GENTLE and PEACEFUL smile that you always had. Sleep on Aunty and take your well deserved rest. From Tyrone (Bahamas National Boys Choir and Bahamas National Children’s Choir)
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Avril Elcock-Major Dearest Avril (Ms. Major…Goddie Avril…Avvy), Your sudden passing has left us all in a state of shock and utter disbelief. You were the true definition of a Saint that walked among men, as you were someone who truly cared for their church and it showed through your involvement and support of our beloved Church’s various organizations. The support given to St. Agnes’ branch of the Guild of St. Ambrose will always be appreciated. From your constant encouragement given to the altar servers, to your pep talks with persons interested in becoming priest, your love for us had no bounds, and for that, we are eternally grateful. Our Lord reminds us in Psalms, the 116th chapter, beginning at the 15th verse that “Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His Saints.” The Guild of St. Ambrose bids farewell to a lady, a confidant, a friend, an honorary Auntie, a Godmother, but most importantly, a Saint. May your beautiful soul and the souls of the faithful departed through the mercies of God, rest from their labour. We love and will miss you, thank you for everything! The Guild of St. Ambrose
For The Fallen Warrior Thy memory stays midst friends, Where e’er thy body lies. Thy spirit lives, a warrior star ablaze in darkened skies. I’ll look for thee when day is done Thou jewel in night’s dark crown, A fearless legend burning brave, forever shining down. Kaylen, Karrol and Kellen Jervis
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From St. Agnes Youth and Sports Ministry To the family of Avril Elcock-Major, On behalf of our sporting teams, we offer our heartfelt and deepest condolences to you. We do not imagine that we need to tell you how special Avril was, but we would like you to know the positive impact she had on our organization. Avril was an avid supporter of the sporting teams. She always showed keen interest in our activities and a willingness to help in any way that she could and if she could not help, she would find the person who could. Though considered a youth herself, Avril took on leadership roles among the youth and was well known for dedicating herself to her work and encouraging other young ones to participate. All the while being personally involved in the choir and other groups in the church. Avril also showed how important family is and ensured that her family got the very best she had to offer. No doubt, Avril could persuade her husband to do almost anything. Still, she chose to use her persuasive power to lead him to help others, after which he became involved with the Boys Brigade, all of the sporting teams, CYM and AYA groups. Avril displayed the greatest example of self-sacrifice by lending herself Avril Rita Lorraine Elcock-Major
as a mother to two wonderful children, whom she made sure had access to all the same opportunities as their peers to participate in youth activities. Avril’s selflessness, compassion for others and generosity always made her a pleasant person to work with and provided an example that we all would do well to imitate. Avril’s passing is undoubtedly a devastating and tremendous loss for anyone who knew Avril. Her absence will surely be felt by those who loved her dearly and she will be sorely missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all and our support is with you as well. May the God of all comfort, give you the comfort and strength you need to endure this trial until the time comes when trials will be no more in harmony with Revelation 21:3,4. Mario Williams
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of each member of the Youth Choir. Your love for life was an inspiration to many as you taught us all to enjoy life and live each day as if it were our last. Your love for music never went unnoticed. Your contribution to the Youth Choir, in particular the alto section, was an outstanding one. Your leading alto role cannot be replaced. Your excitement as the choir sang will never be forgotten. Your genuine smile and caring attitude will forever be etched in our memories. It was a joy having you sing with us, but there was truly joy in heaven when your membership was transferred to the alto line of that heavenly choir. Sing with the angels and know that although you’re no longer with us physically, we will always have you in our hearts. We love you, The Directors and members of the Youth Choir
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How do I say goodbye to my sister
and friend? I am patiently waiting for someone to give me further instructions because I am at a loss. I recall when I barreled into the family thirty something years ago, no distinction was ever made I immediately was “cousin Kendra”. People who didn’t know me always wanted and needed an explanation and they would get a quick and immediate education and fall in line. Our childhood was amazing, Tedder Close was our headquarters while Subway and McDonalds was our fueling stations. We moved from Tedder Close and Sea Breeze became Headquarters. Aunt Ruth had us spoiled, every weekend was an event and then every special occasion was a party.
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anymore she was becoming a woman and she thought she was in charge. We were a dynamic trio, each of us with our own personality, we agreed on most things and never argued.
head. In my mind I played back our last telephone conversation and I realized you did warn me but I wasn’t ready to face that conversation because I know we were preparing for LadyBug.
Avril, we have laughed, cried, geared up to go to battle and then laughed again. Our love for each other was unconditional. You have always had my back and for that I am forever grateful.
But on August 21st you forced me to face this harsh reality. No more Sister morning sticker wars (of which I was always the loser), No more daily what’s for lunch conversations,No more hearing you say “I’m sorry to hear that”, No more “Hey Kenny you reach, now where is Ian”, No more “Kenny you been to church today, I didn’t see you?” Simply No more.
I remember telling someone a few days ago you were the best of us. You were one of the kindest persons that I know, but your kindness was never to be mistaken for weakness. You would observe everyone and everything but when that pointer finger came up in conversation everyone was quick to listen. Over the last few weeks as people were counseling and checking on me in their own special way (Thank you). I think they were trying to give me instructions on how to cope but as you know my head is hard, because I am not ready yet. But I did try a grief technique, I went over our group and individual conversations in my
I know that you are at peace my love the look on your face these last two days says it all. It assures me that your work here with us is done and you are no longer in any pain. You have left Auntie Verna and Randy in our hands and we will make sure they are well taken care of. Take your rest sister, you have fought a good fight, but Jesus loves you best. Your Sister, Kendra
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From the 1st Company Girl’s Brigade Death is truly a sting
A child born for a purpose. Avril came into this world as a saint and a child of God. She was known by everyone. She was born to Verna and Freddy late in life and remained an only child. She came into the world with a bright smile on her face. She was to be their star, and also the 9th child of the Peter and Mildred Bowe clan.
There is no way in my imagination that Avril will leave so soon!! This is heart wrenching & unbelievable
Avril possessed everything she needed to succeed, a bright smile, brilliant mind, great disposition and a way of pleasing everybody.
I reflect fondly on her as a warm, beautiful and gentle classy lady.
I remember Avril as a little child growing up in the grace of God. She grew up into a wonderful person, a young woman who was the star that guided her parents. She spent her days taking care of them.
when necessary chided with love....and diffuse any anger Loved young people pushed their development. I reflect on when Mrs Elcock joined me in Girls Brigade, although she new me well...she came out on one of our outings @ to make sure her Mom was good...she joined us on a few and then became comforted that Mum was fine!! You loved unconditionally!! May the Angels wait to greet you and the Martyrs lead you into Paradise Rest on dear one!! You will never be forgotten Captain Carol Rahming and 1st Company Girl’s Brigade
When it became time for Avril to pursue her education she went away to school but once she graduated she came back home to her parents. Soon she met Randy, her husband, which was a blessing to her parents. They joined forces and they were a fortress for Verna. Avril was just like my child. She was respected and loved by her many sisters, brothers, cousins and friends. Even though she was independent otherwise, she was always one of mine. She was a big sister to many. Her friends always regarded her as someone special. She will forever live in my heart. Peter Bowe
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Rest in peace my Darling Godchild Avril. You were such a blessing to all of us especially the young people of St. Agnes Parish. My condolences to Ms. Verna and your husband, Randy and the entire family. You’ve earned your wings dear.
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see potential and beauty beneath all of the scars and pain, Avy it sure was you. You saw me for what I was battle scars and all, you took a risk and poured purpose and life back into my world, and brought back to life every dream I ever had. You watch me accomplish many great things over the years, ad you molded me into the force of a woman I am today.
“Jesus has taken a beautiful bud, Out of our garden of love, Borne it away to the city of God, Home of the angels above.” Rest In Peace Avril Love, Goddie Rosemary Hanna
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know my Prayer and Hymn Books by heart and it is second nature but tonight I knew none of it... It’s different when it is someone who loved you before the titles and the esteem. Who loved you when no one even bothered to learn your name but saw potential and God’s will. Today my big sister moved from time into eternity... A saint is now resting from her labour.... We’ll meet again to sing two hymn gal! Fadda Eric
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possible that Avril simply completed the work the Lord set before her. No individual may know the full list of her good works. Every voice speaks of their unique experience, of the Love of Christ exemplified by Avril. Everyone felt they were special in her sight; especially me. How wonderful is that! The Lord be praised for his spectacular creation. The Lord giveth and taketh. All Glory to God!!!
Our last conversation you expressed how proud of not only me but all of us you were. Even through this pain, this unexpected void, we will still carry you in our hearts and continue to make you proud. There are many words, I wanted to say, many dreams I wanted to share, but God knows best, and his timing is always the right no matter how hard it is. Heaven gained an angel yesterday, you gained your wings, but most importantly, we gained a guardian! S.I.P. Avril Elcock-Major your beauty, your love, your undying commitment to those that you loved will always be remembered! Love, Alicia
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his was the heart of the village that helped me raise mine EVEN to her last day. Avril was the main part! To know her, Randy or Auntie Verna was to know Lamia and Lamar. It was always US GODDIE, OR GODDIE OR UNCLE RANDY...She wanted the best, gave her best and through her worse days and moments she pretended she was at her best! The bond broke when Babbie died. She kept the love alive in her own way with all of us. Every last one of my cousins she had her own way with. Her greatest beliefs were peace unity and love. I said thank you every time I could. Its true, I can never repay them, but my gratitude goes beyond what any eye can see, imagine or hope to see and like she always said, “Peta, know your truth and own it. No explanation is needed. I learned that and still learning it. You made me so much better. To forgive, to love, to smile and smile big, to not let people take me out of character, to just always do my best. When I heard that zipper go up my world paused. Lamia was waiting for u to get up. Wished we could have played socca or junkanoo for you to get up. It hurts so bad! You were our angel on earth and I’m sure you will be our angel in heaven. I bid you farewell my love. Thank you for it all! GOD WAS READY FOR YOU BABY. HIS PLAN WAS DIFFERENT.
Keep being the light, sweet friend. Can I tell you something I’ve learned recently? When we shine a light for others, we brighten our own little world. When the world starts spinning out of control (like it has seemed to do lately), we tend to draw in, retreat & isolate. But you know what? When we withdraw, we stop sharing our light with others & the more we do that, the darker our days start to seem. Keep offering words of encouragement to others. Send the cards that brighten people’s day. Keep cheering on others. Take the time to give the compliments to people you know... and even to those you don’t. Spread happiness to others. Share your light. It makes a difference in the lives of others, but quite honestly, the biggest change just might happen inside you. Your joy will return. Your purpose is rekindled. Doing for others just makes you feel good. KEEP BEING THE LIGHT, FRIEND. Henry Von Zipper Sands
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Grampie was tasked with taking Avril
to St. Agnes Day School. She went willingly the first day. The second day she told Grampie: “You go school, I go Mama!” Man, I am so scared for he! (Auntie) ! This is so hard. Keep remembering how we waited for her to have Avril then to bring her home. Bubbling bundle birthmark between her eyes, dipoles and infectious smile! Cheryl
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’m so Thankful to you all and thankful to God for putting me in such a loving family . We are blessed to have what we have, and I know we work hard for it. Sacrifice for it. Avril embodied that sacrifice, and her legacy inspires us to SHOW UP for our loved ones. Now and forever. God bless, Hebron Avril Rita Lorraine Elcock-Major
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or those of us who had an opportunity to know Avril, we can all agree that she was truly a blessing to this world and will always hold a special place in our hearts. Her aura and smile illuminated any room she walked into. She was a light and an inspiration to us all. We always joked about her being “My Avril”, but this alone spoke volumes to the kind of person that she was and what she meant to us. The love Avril shared with those closest to her was unconditional. She treated everyone with respect, kindness, and grace. She approached every obstacle in life with humility, grace, and unwavering dedication. The life Avril lived and the memories she has left behind reminds us daily of what it means to live by the fruits of the spirit and how to be a follower of Christ. There was no limit to her love; for it knew no bounds. Let us be confident in our hope that Heaven has welcomed its newest angel. Avril may have left his world, but she has surely gained her Heavenly wings.
From Riley Symonette
Avvy…It will be strange navigating this world without you by my side and your daily counsel. Our bond was special. You are my big sister, my friend, my thug-life(inside joke), my biggest supporter, my confidant, and a superhero. I will miss the laughs we shared; the wise advice you gave; the stories of your adventures; and just simply being in your presence. You had so much more life to live and we had so much more to share with each other. Thank you for being “My Avvy”! You will forever remain in my heart. Until we meet again… Love , Christal Bowe-Carroll
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In Your Business I remember when you graduated from high school and went to prom. You were so intelligent and such a beauty. I was enamored by your beauty and grace and just always wanted to be where you were, with your friends and be in your business.
I was always in your business. You were always in my business. However, you made me your business.
I never understood the interrogation, strategizing and goal setting you put me through from birth until your passing. As a child I just wanted to be with you and no matter how annoyed, you loved me all the same. I took up all the space in your bed; woke you up in the middle of the night to get me water; and while you slept, I would open your eyes with my little fingers and say “I’m hungry”.
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Most of all I just wanted to be in your business. We shared so many characteristics, being only children and always hungry just to name a few. You, Kendra and I were passengers of Grammy Darville’s after school pick up service. After school you made us stop for Swiss Pastry Chocolate Mousse Cake that we ate (or you were forced to share with us) after we ate scrumptious meals prepared by Miss. Elsie. Many afternoons as you tried to complete your studies and ensured that I completed mine, I taunted you the entire afternoon. I eavesdropped on your phone conversations with friends just to be in your business.
During your COB years, I thought you were the absolute coolest person ever. Although I was not old enough, I just wanted to hang with you. You took your Friday afternoon responsibility to pick me up from St. Anne’s very seriously while I was just excited my cousin in the black Mercedes Benz, blasting the latest hit spot dub tapes and the sunroof pulled back was coming to collect me. You introduced me to all the latest reggae “riddims” and toted me along with you and your friends. It was a joy to be reared in my early high school years by you and Sharmila (who is now happier than ever for the reunion in heaven). You went off to university and it was like nothing changed. You used your phone credits to call and keep in touch. When you arrived home all I wanted was to be where you were and more importantly in your business. I remember my mom even allowed me to spend a summer with you in Florida and
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your parting words ‘If you see me in cold Canada and I didn’t announce my arrival, know that it is not a courtesy call and I am there to buss you’re a**!” The same admonition was given when I went to England. SCARY MUCH?!?! Needless to say, the next time you returned it would be to pack me up for my journey to law school or the return home.
oh what a joy it was for me to be with you and your crew and be all up in your business. When you returned home and gained fulltime employment our relationship incorporated much more. It was now time for you to be in my business and you made me your business. You deposited in my life and made me one of daily expenses. By taking a keen interest in my teenage years, you acted as a Mom and big sister when Ruth and Mike didn’t understand. You guided my steps as I completed high school and the College of the Bahamas. You determined I would be an attorney even before the thought entered my mind. You took me to university and settled me in. I will never forget Avril Rita Lorraine Elcock-Major
You demanded I send you my class schedule and transcript every semester even though I didn’t share the former with my parents. You even made me tell you when I would go on frolics of my own throughout Toronto, Windsor, Detroit, London and Europe without my parents’ knowledge but not without giving me a stern message and then making a lovely direct transfer to my account to ensure I had enough emergency money. You thought it was your responsibility to ensure that you knew my whereabouts at all times. You summoned me to Nassau when you deemed it necessary at your expense. In retrospect, it was just because you missed me. You messaged me EVERY SINGLE DAY up to the day of your death. It started with msn messenger, black berry messenger, Facebook messenger and ultimately WhatsApp. When I took too long to answer you simply just called and in a stern calm tone
said “Why are you not answering me??? I shall hold on to these messages forever. The acquisition and merger with your love Randy added so much as he adopted your extreme enthusiasm for me. Although in the beginning I was a tough cookie because “I had it up to here with him…” (inside joke). You knew that it would simply take a conch salad and daiquiri for me to get used to the idea of sharing you. However, it was such a gift because you gave me an additional brother. He understood and appreciated the bond you and I shared. I was delighted to be the keeper of the surprises including your engagement and consulted on the ring and other gifts for milestones, birthdays and holidays. I was honored to be your maid of honor and to be a genuine supporter of the love you shared over the years. You made me your business and protected me from liabilities in life, bad decisions, horrible experiences, terrible relationships and dangerous mistakes. You warned and ensured I was aware of the cruel world we live in. You always told me to suck it up and put on my big girl shoes. You were my protector and defender against ANY AND ALL who dared to test your little sister.
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constantly reminded us that we were all we had. The outside world considered us clannish as we would naturally gravitate toward each other in every social setting. We cannot begin to thank you enough for holding us together in the bad times and celebrating and supporting us in the good times. Our times together including our shopping and family trips will never be the same.
You, Kendra and I, sisters for life, the exclusive charter members of the one and only club, shared any and everything with each other. You ensured that we had our daily general meetings whether in person, WhatsApp, email or over a delicious spread of food. You kept us all in touch and informed about each other’s lives. You even called extraordinary meetings by threeway calls, skype or zoom if it was an emergency or something juicy developed (lol). The three of us developed and shared personal standards, career goals, our spiritual journey, and relationship affairs. We developed our own family dinner precedent that involved a minimum 2 meats, 2 types of rice and 4-5 sides. You
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You were an asset to me. You insisted I developed verbal and/ or written business plans for every aspect of my life. It was your way of ensuring I was matured and prepared for every and anything that came my way. We celebrated each other’s victories and equally there for the defeats and hurts. You expressed your disappointments but exclaimed how proud you were of me and my accomplishments. You encouraged my spiritual relationship and church involvement even when it waivered. You ensured that I was mannerly, intelligent, smart, decent, well dressed and commanded respect that I deserved. From an early age you engrained in me that “reputation is all I had and once it’s gone that is it”. You prepared me for every stage in my life giving your input and opinion whether it was requested or not.
As my CFO you ensured I understood the value of saving and investing. Your knowledge of the markets and your gift of working with numbers was unmatched. You ensured that I only borrowed when necessary and made sound financial decisions. You encouraged me in making sound relationship and emotional investments which developed into the forever project Miller Matters.
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You were excited about Ladybug and hosted a celebration to celebrate the news. Eric and I already resolved that it would be your child. You told me of all the baby stuff and clothing you had in your amazon cart for Ladybug. You constantly told me your plans for Ladybug and announced your scheduled babysitting times which amounted to everyday. Little did I know that it was a message that you would be there for Ladybug everyday as a guardian angel always. Ladybug will know of your life and the love you had even before birth. Ladybug will know that your love and protection transcends from life to death. Godmother does not describe what you will always be as Ladybug will know you as Mom #2A. Just a thought – I don’t know how to access your trolley on Amazon!!! As I review the balance sheet of our relationship, I can truly say that you were truly The Best Big Sister and My Bestest Friend. Your love, life and legacy, has yielded an immeasurable revenue that can never be matched. Overall, you and I, me and you did good business. I love you now, I loved you then and I will love you forever. Your Little Sister Ian-Marie
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Message of
GRATITUDE
Farewell
We the family of the late AVRIL RITA LORRAINE ELCOCK-MAJOR, wish to express our humble gratitude and sincere appreciation to those who, in one way or another, provided our family with support and prayers. Your prayers and most especially your presence with us today are greatly appreciated and has helped to strengthen us during our time of sorrow. We wish God’s blessings of peace upon you. With love,
From the Family
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