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Date Night
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he TV stars do it, Instagram influencers do it, so why don’t you do it, or me for that matter? Dating is ‘de rigueur’! Okay okay, I hear you! Childcare is expensive, you are just too busy and therefore it’s easier not to, isn’t it? Going out or away together can also be just too expensive but here’s the thing, it’s really important to spend quality time with your partner, especially when you have children at home to take care of and/or demanding careers. You both need to remember why you came together in the first place. One year or 40 years together, to keep going, you have to keep building on that relationship. You get out what you put in and that’s the truth.
Dating may take some planning, saving, a few favours owed by friends and a little sacrifice, but ‘DATING’ your other half allows you both the time to focus on your special connection together. It allows that early relationship erotic spark to be re-explored by the intentional pursuit of romance. Dating gives you time away from the humdrum of life to communicate, without the interruptions of your collective home and/or work life.
you can lose each other, just a bit more every day, simply because the role you each play barely includes either of you. Exhausted ships that pass each other in the night, you’ll recognise the symptoms, apathy, arguments, zero libido, shabby underwear and very hairy legs! It’s not intentional, of course not, but it happens because you are busy being Mum and Dad and you just don’t put yourself or your relationship first, and that’s never a good thing. You are tired and the thought of dressing up and playing the love game is the last thing on your mind, but schedule those dates in anyway. I promise you wont regret or forget it. Be creative! Don’t just go to your favourite pizza place and be back in bed by 9pm, we’ve all done that! Try couple massages, cooking courses, wine tasting and attempt to think outside the box. Give each other the chance to book a date night their way, get to know each other again. We change and grow as individuals, within a partnership and just like anything in life, the more we don’t do together, the further away from each other we can get. “Get busy watering your own grass so as not to notice whether it’s greener elsewhere.” - Unknown
Date nights are officially recommended both for a healthy sex life and for developing a long-lasting, strong relationship beyond those first, hormone-filled years. When you have a house full of tiny kids or even worse, teenage monsters, Simply Living France, Company Reg:- 13738420
