The Journey Magazine January 2010

January 2010

Fashion

Wedding trends

Inspiring Women Jane Kendrick & Karen Harris

kids konnect

new years resolutions

2010 Wedding Issue

claire brody Inspiring Young Woman

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Contents

January 2010

Your Home At Home: chandeliers 8 Landmarks: pines 10 Homestead: quick fixes 11 home tour: stonegate 12 In the Kitchen: back to the basics 14 Landscaping: fertilizing facts 16 simple solutions: advice for marriage 17 entertain in style: wedding shower ideas 19

Stephanie Oliver P r e s i d e n t a n d E d i to r Michelle Briley d i r e c to r o f s a l e s kay hendricks acco u n t e x ec u t i v e

Your community hot spot: temple theater 22 business spotlight: chick Fil A 24 Business Connections: donna busler 25 lufkin Chamber of Commerce 26 Nacogdoches Chamber of Commerce 28 Calendar 30 Places and Faces 32 Giving Back: river of life 38 Inspiring young woman: claire brody 40 inspiring woman: karen harris 42 Your Life

Courtney Conerly l ayo u t a n d d e s i g n Kristie Huddleston graphic designer greg patterson w w w. g r e g pat t e r s o n . c o m C o v e r p h oto g r a p h e r Lisa crow e v e n t p h oto g r a p h e r Susan childers web designer

Contributors K at h ry n G r e e n e E m i ly Pa r k s Carrie Leonard D r . Wa r r e n G u y F e l i c i a Da r k C h r i st i R ow e

Hall of Fame Hubbies 46 Distrubution

Pretty Babies 47 Girls Group: debbie tompkins and laura simpson 48 your wallet: are you ready to roth 49 weddings 50 Relationships: one flesh 52 education: mrs. sharon luce 53

Ja n e t G lov e r E m i ly Ko l k lu f k i n M at t h e w L aw r e n c e n aco g d o c h e s C h r i s sy l av i o l e t t e l i v i n g sto n Anna Boles Lee Center

Your Body Fitness: getting in shape 56 Health: wedding stress 57 fashion: 2010 wedding trends 58 Beauty: plan plan plan 59 Your child ask the doc: dental wellness 61

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childs play: alex and clara keath 63 kids konnect: new years resolutions 65 treats and eats: super bowl treats 66 family Support: 67

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Welcome 2010…WOW. Isn’t it crazy to think back to all the anxiety and anticipation we had over Y2K? Now, here we are ten years later. As another New Year rolls around, many often start working on their New Year’s Resolutions. I am usually not a resolution maker. But, the other day as I was driving in my car

and heard a song by Francesca Battistelli; it really struck a chord with me.

There is one line that she repeats in the song, “Who your heart beats for.”

It really got me thinking. By all the resolutions people make- that is what it boils down to… “who does your heart beat for.” This song really made me think of the upcoming year, made me think of each of you, and New

Year resolutions. It really answers why we continue to get up every morning, why go through the daily grind- its all those things that our heart beat for.

Everyone has a different answer as to what and who your heart beats- the answer is what makes our own lives so special.

As we enter another hectic year, it will be easy to forget and loose track as to why our heart beats. I love to think about that question

over and over. It makes me happy inside to know that I have God that loves me unconditionally and because of that I am able to experience the unexplainable, crazy love I have for all of those in my life (especially those crazy little kiddies of mine!).

When you flip through the pages of this issue- you will see that it is our annual wedding issue. When we think of wedding- we think

of LOVE! Regardless if we are planning a wedding, planning our day, or just staying at home having to do laundry- it is easy to get lost in the moment and the planning and forget about the big picture. Who does your heart beat for?

Congratulations brides and Happy New Year to all!

Stephanie oliver president & editor

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At home

chandeliers add drama Chandeliers aren’t just for grand ballrooms or even formal dining rooms anymore. They come in so many styles and sizes that they can add a touch of drama to just about any room in the house.

Size matters when selecting a chandelier,

directly overhead should also be considered. She

there is a simple way to make sure the fixture

life.

Consider

decorative

compact

equal the diameter of the chandelier, in inches.

a comfortable mood.

• For extra sparkle, consider installing small

should be no greater than the width of the table

chandelier.

The right light in the right fixture will create the

them 30 to 36 inches above the top of the table,

chandeliers, sconces, bathroom fixtures – anywhere

depending on the ceiling height, “notes Gotti.

Gotti suggests that lighting from a chandelier that beams directly down on your guests from above

can cast unflattering shadows. The heat from bulbs

sources of glare if exposed. Dimming can reduce glare and provide lighting flexibility or “scenes” for various events.

Coated bulbs or coated

compact fluorescent bulbs provide more diffused light, reducing harsh shadows.

Now that you have the measurement details and proper bulb selection mastered, the biggest

recessed downlights on either side of the

bumping into it. How high off the table should

a chandelier be hung? “Typically, you’ll find

Clear bulbs can provide glitter, but also can be

or a wall dimmer to help control the light and set

In the dining room, however, a chandelier should

minus 12 to 20 inches, to prevent anyone from

standard incandescent bulbs.

fluorescent

• Try adding shades to chandelier candelabra bulbs

be scaled to the size of the table, not the room. It

that filters out the dull, yellow rays produced by

decorative lamps to reduce watts and extend lamp

measure the length and width of the room, in feet.

Add the two numbers together and the sum should

Reveal light bulbs. They deliver clean, pure light

the heat and can increase the potential for glare.

•

is not too large or too small for your room. Just

patterns that may normally go unnoticed, try GE

• Avoid high wattage bulbs as they will increase

according to Mary Beth Gotti, a lighting expert with GE Consumer & Industrial. She points out

and energy-efficient. To bring out colors and

offers these tips:

challenge will be selecting among the dazzling fixtures available. Whether it’s a Mission style fixture hanging in the den surrounded by quarter-

sawn oak bookcases, a chrome fixture with

look you really want. Use decorative bulbs in

geometric glass elements hanging in a modern

master bedroom, or simply a junk-store find

the bulb is visible. With decorative bulbs, the bulb

adding a splash of whimsy to a shabby chic

is just as dazzling as the light it creates. Superior

apartment – chandeliers can be the crowning star

halogen technology allows GE bulbs to deliver

of a room’s décor.

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landmarks pines theater

funding for the much needed

Hopefully, the revitalization of the theater will

The entire cost projections of $1.4

and one day too reminisce of yesteryears.

facelift to the front of the building. million, might take years to fund.

The city is currently researching

private funding to help capture the excess.

The bright lights have made an impact on First Street. Barbara Over 85 years ago, Pines Theater was constructed

Thompson, Main Street Director could not agree more. “The Pines

in downtown Lufkin. The Kurth family was the

bright lights keep people driving by at night

The Pines was named after the Kurth’s daughter

is the heart of any town or City because of the

investor behind the construction of Pines Theater.

Lynn.

After many years of being in

looking and smiling as they reminisce. Downtown

history. And history is made because of places like the theatre.”

operation as the city theater, it

eventually closed. The building

No one knows an exact target

as a church called Covenant of

go back inside and enjoy a play,

was later purchased and used

date when the community can

Love Outreach.

an onscreen movie, or fine art

programs. It is amazing to listen to

In 2008, the City of Lufkin

the stories of those who enjoyed

purchased the building back

going to the Pines Theater on a

from the church. Plans for

Friday night. Keith Wright said,

renovations began to slowly get

“The Pines was constructed as a

underway.

vaudeville playhouse. It is my

center of downtown Lufkin. It is what light up

it) that the Marx Brothers once

This single screen theater was at one time the the dark night in the city. That same ambiance is

why it was important to local officials to renovate

understanding (I can’t prove performed at the Pines.”

the landmark. According City Manager Keith

“The theatre gives people

to the city. “The Pines is important to aid in the

and a sense of holding those

Wright the restoration project is very important revitalization of Lufkin’s downtown area and to promote cultural events,” says Wright.

The initial investment of $500,000 provided

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another place of yesteryears old memories in place,” says Barbara Thompson.

allow a new generation to create fond memories

Homestead

quick fixes to save on heating and cooling

The average family spends $1500 a year on

level.

and cooling, according to the Environmental

Other ways to save on energy

and some quick fixes can save some of that hard-

up or down the temperature before heading to

energy bills, nearly half of which goes to heating

Protection Agency (EPA). A home energy audit

• Either installing a timed thermostat or by turning

earned money.

work.

The EPA estimates that homeowners can typically

• Make sure the fireplace flu is closed and

save up to 20 percent of heating and cooling costs by air sealing their homes and adding insulation

in attics, floors over crawl spaces and accessible basement rim joints.

Conduct an energy audit to identify spots where energy is lost through gaps and cracks. Start in

your basement and move upwards. Look for both visible gaps and cold or hot spots.

HVAC Penetration

Your air-conditioning system set-up could be doing more than just heating and cooling your

house. It could be an air-infiltration culprit. Check the HVAC ducts from your attic and basement

into the living space. There may be gaps where the ducts go through the floor above into the ceiling below.

Plumbing

While plumbing pipes may be hidden behind or under the sink, it doesn’t mean that the pipe

install glass fireplace doors to keep energy from penetrations aren’t allowing unseen bugs and

unwanted air into the house. Check for holes under the sink where the pipes enter from the floor or

wall in all rooms that have running water (kitchen, bathroom, utility room, and laundry room).

Electrical Box

Stand in front of the electrical box of your house and look at where the main electrical exits the box

and enters the living space (in the basement look upwards). If there is a hole, seal it.

Electrical Outlets

Use a screw driver to remove your outlet cover

escaping.

• Check to be sure no air vents are being blocked by furniture or drapery.

• Insulate any areas that are not heated and cooled (garage, attic, basement, or crawl space).

For more information on how you can save money by sealing gaps, visit www.dowgreatstuff.com.

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plates. Homes have holes cut in the walls for the outlets. Check for gaps between the wall and the metal box that houses the electrical socket.

Attic Hatch

Seal around the attic hatch frame to keep the

unconditioned attic air from entering your living space.

The EPA recommends sealing these leaks

with spray foam, caulk, or weather stripping.

Insulating foam sealants, such as GREAT STUFF form an airtight, water-resistant seal.

The foam is sandable, paintable, and can be trimmed with a utility knife afterwards and is

easy to use for do-it-yourselfers of any skill

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home tour stonegate

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new home construction, without the headache and hassle of dealing with it. You will get a custom home fully furnished with custom amenities. Caldwell & Loper

Custom Homes did not cut any corners on this state of the art home. Stonegate is

located minutes from Lufkin, deed restricted, and located off Ralph Nerren Road in Huntington.

This home boasts 3,016 square feet heated and cooled. The exterior is rock and

stone. A gated entrance to a concrete driveway welcomes you home. The appliances

are all high end Electrolux appliances. All cabinetry in the house is custom built all

wood hickory, granite countertops, hand trailed walls, travertine, and hand scrapped wood flooring throughout the house. There are many prominent interior amenities

like installed security system, track lighting, coffered ceilings, wood burning fireplace, and surround sound ready. The outside area is also ready to entertain

with an outdoor kitchen and stone fireplace, along with being fully landscaped with irrigation system.

To visit Stonegate, call Gene Caldwell at 936.240.0197

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In the Kitchen

back to the basics of cooking – staple ingredients | by anna boles lee

Let me start off by saying: being a “good cook” doesn’t mean that you have

sure to always keep a container of either dried cayenne or red pepper or a

meal. In my opinion, it all boils down to having a few staple ingredients that

of Italian seasoning (which includes garlic, oregano, and basil) and garlic

to have chef level culinary skills! Anyone can cook a good and nutritious

you keep in your kitchen at all times. These ingredients are just as important to keep in your kitchen as it is to keep toilet paper in your bathroom.

What are these staple ingredients? It all depends on the tastes that you and your family like. Some of my staple ingredients are: bread, Tony Chachere’s Creole Seasoning, garlic powder, bouillon cubes, cheese, Worcestershire

sauce, a few types of vegetables, eggs, and some sort of meat and poultry. Of

seasoning like Tony Chachere’s. If you like an Italian taste, grab a container

powder or garlic cloves. For those days when you don’t feel like cooking anything, it is always a great idea to be sure that you always have sandwich or cereal fixings for a quick and easy meal.

Here are a few quick and easy meals made with some of my staple ingredients.

course there are other things that I like to keep in my pantry, but with these ingredients, I can prepare good meals any night of the week.

When deciding what staple ingredients you would like in your kitchen, think

about flavors that you really enjoy. If you like your foods a little spicy, be

tuesday’s chicken

beef goulash

5 boneless skinless chicken tenders

1 1/2 cup frozen corn

Salt

1 lb. gound beef

Pepper

1/2 cup tomato sauce or ketchup

5 red potatoes, washed and cut into cubes

1/2 onion, diced

1/2 onion, chopped

2 cups cooked macaroni

1 package onion soup mix

Salt and pepper to taste

Butter Place ground beef, salt and pepper in a large skillet. Cook meat on

2 Tablespoons water

medium-high heat until thoroughly browned. Drain meat and place Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Spray a small baking dish with non-

back in skillet along with the rest of the ingredients. Mix ingredients

stick cooking spray. Place onions and potatoes in dish. Place a few

well and cook over low-medium heat for 15 minutes.

tiny pats of butter, salt, pepper, water, and half of the soup mix on top of your vegetables. Layer chicken on top of vegetables and cover with remaining soup mix and a few more tiny pats of butter. Cover dish and place in preheated oven for 35-40 minutes.

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Ingredients for Quick Wraps or Sandwiches • Sandwich meat, leftover baked or grilled meat, poultry or fish • Any type of cheese (cheddar, pepper jack, swiss) • Avacado, mushrooms and olives • Salsa or BBQ Sauce • Miracle Whip, mayonaise, mustard or salad dressing • Fresh vegetables such as lettuce, tomato, onion, and peppers • Flavored tortillas

Anna Lee grew up right here in East Texas in the wonderful town of Center. While growing up, she was very much involved in her local 4-H club participating in projects from foods and nutrition, showing chickens in the infamous Poultry Festival, and riding in the Shelby County mounted drill team, played on her High School Golf team, and worked at her parent’s family business, Boles Feed Company. Anna completed a Bachelors degree in Family and Consumer Sciences at SFA, Master’s degree in Family Studies at Texas Woman’s University. Anna and her husband, Justin, live in Nacogdoches. Anna is currently is working at Shelby Savings Bank.

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Landscaping

fertilizing facts

Organic fertilizers are usually derived from plant and animal sources. They have less nitrogen and phosphorus than typical synthetics, so they work

more slowly. But, over time, they tend to promote more even growth and healthier soil underneath.

Unlike organic food products, organic lawn and

garden products are not regulated by the US

Department of Agriculture. Because there are no national standards yet, it can be tricky to find truly organic products. Look for a seal that says “OMRI

Listed.” The Organic Materials Review Institute (OMRI) is a nonprofit organization that reviews

products and checks them against the National Organic Standards.

Whether using synthetic or organic, it’s important Part of keeping a lawn healthy is applying the right

fertilizer in the right amount at the right time. But with so many choices available, how do you know

county extension office – they can do it accurately for a reasonable fee.

what’s best? These facts should help.

Slow vs. fast release. Slow release fertilizers

Fertilizer analysis. The set of three numbers on

the plants more evenly. They last longer and

each bag of fertilizer is the fertilizer analysis. They show the amount of three key nutrients for grass

gradually release nitrogen into the soil and feed require fewer applications than fast release.

health, nitrogen (N), phosphorus (P) and potassium

Fast release fertilizer gets nitrogen into the soil

20 percent nitrogen, 10 percent phosphorus and

even in cold weather.

(K). So a bag with the numbers 20-10-10 contains

10 percent potassium. The remaining 60 percent

is made up of inert and filler material that helps transmit the nutrients to the plant.

What do those nutrients do? Nitrogen is key to overall plant health, phosphorous is integral in

root formation and potassium helps strengthen the plant against disease and drought.

Having soil tested is the best way to determine what ratio your lawn needs. Over-applying nitrogen, in particular, is harmful because excess

nitrogen can seep through groundwater, into

streams and rivers, causing algae blooms and

other environmental problems. Check your local

quickly. It’s usually less expensive and will work

The Environmental Protection Agency (EPA)

recommends slow release in order to reduce nutrient run-off and help produce healthier plants.

Synthetic vs. organic. Synthetic fertilizers are manufactured through chemical processes or from

naturally occurring deposits that have been mined and chemically altered. Synthetics typically have more nitrogen and usually work quickly to generate

fast growth and “green up.” Concerns about

synthetic fertilizers include potential health risks due to exposure, environmental consequences of run-off and of their production processes.

to not over-apply fertilizer. According to the EPA’s

publication “Greenscaping,” “Improper use of fertilizers can damage beneficial soil life essential

for healthy soils and plants. Excess chemicals can also find their way into ground water, streams and lakes where they can contaminate drinking water and harm fish and other wildlife.”

Always read and follow product labels carefully before using fertilizer and other lawn products.

Doing a little homework will help you make smart decisions about taking the best care of your lawn.

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Simple Solutions advice for marriage

“There are two way to do everything. Compromise. Try to see the others point of view.”

“Pray together.”

“Work together and not apart. You will come out a stronger couple if you utilize each other’s strengths and make up for each other’s weaknesses.”

“Forgive, Forgive, Forgive!”

“Never date anyone you wouldn’t marry.”

“Do not keep secrets in your marriage.”

“Learn to be responsible with money early in your marriage. Money is the root of too many divorces today.”

“Don’t forget you married your boyfriend or girlfriend. Treat them as such everyonce in a while, act giggly, date, have fun!”

“If marriage is forever and you made a promise to God- take the word divorce out of your vocabulary. If it is not an option, it should not be used in the marriage.”

“Be your spouses biggest cheerleader. Ask questions, be involved, show interest in their work, education, family, extracurricular hobbies, volunteer work.”

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Simple Solutions continued

“We have all heard the saying, ‘The grass is always greener on the other side.’ At the end of the day, there is still one man and one woman in the relationship whose brains are wired completely differently than the other. Marriage takes work, might as well work hard at making the first and only one a success.”

“Wake up every morning and ask yourself, ‘What can I do today to show my spouse that I love them.’”

“Don’t fight to win. Someone always looses.”

Entertain in style wedding shower ideas

Putting together a fun and unforgettable wedding or engagement shower can be a daunting task. The trick is in the details. The

more pieces of the bride elect or the couple you can incorporate the

better. There are many great ideas you can use to get the ball rolling.

Ask around from others who have recently hosted a shower or had

a son or daughter get married would be another route. Starting with

a theme or colors that mean something to the couple should be the

initial step to get the creativity started. This will allow all the other

details to start flowing. Having a great invitation also gives guest a

sense of what to expect. So if you are looking for something to knock the guest’s socks off, start with a great invitation!

Around the Clock Shower. When sending out invitations give everyone a

different time around the clock. Guests will bring a gift that can be used

during that time of the day. For example: 8am a waffle iron would be a great gift.

Western theme. One couple took all their engagement photos wearing their

boots. So that gave the shower hostesses the idea to host a western themed

couple’s shower. That started the idea for the invitation: “These boots are

made for walking, right down the aisle.” The more details you can incorporate of the couple into the shower the better. All their engagement photos

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were used for table centerpieces.

Alphabet Shower. This is a great way to hold a unique shower.

Everyone on the guest list receives a different letter of the alphabet. All the gifts correspond with the letter given to the guest.

Christmas Shower. This is great for any time during the year. For one bride elect, Christmas always holds special meaning. Her group of hostesses decided to host a Christmas shower. The shower gets the couple a head start on their first Christmas.

Color Shower. Does the bride or groom have a favorite color?

College colors or favorite athletic team? Have all the shower

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Entertain in style continued

dĂŠcor coordinate with that color and ask all the guests to wrap their gifts in that color wrapping.

BBQ. Who doesn’t like a backyard BBQ? This is a great theme for just about any couple. One unique idea for a party favor is to bottle up homemade BBQ sauce and give it to all your guests.

Hobby Shower. Does the couple have a hobby they enjoy together? Gardening, Camping/Hiking? Traveling? Stock them up on things they enjoy doing together.

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hot spots temple theater

Two exciting hot spots to place on your calendar are

taking place this month at the Angelina Arts Alliance.

“Life after triple bypass.”

The first is Goodnight Moon

and the Runaway Bunny on January 16th.

This beloved bedtime story will be brought to life at the live children’s theater in a special family matinee performance. The sixty minute show by Mermaid Theatre specializes in live adaptations of children’s literature. What you can

expect to see at the show is innovative puppetry, striking scenes of the book coming to life, and a musical aspect to make every child get excited.

The matinee performance at the Temple Theater, Saturday, January 16th at 2:30

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p.m., is a great way for grandparents and or parents to introduce very young

audiences to the performing arts take them out for a special treat, and a great

way to create lasting memories with a very young heart. You could even

include a couple of children who might not have the opportunity to see a live

show and invite them along. The show is suggested for children ages 3-7 and their families. Tickets are $5-$10. These are stories that have lasted through

generations. Goodnight Moon is a celebration of familiar nighttime rituals, while The Runaway Bunny’s pretend tale of leaving home evokes reassuring responses from his loving mother. The two productions are not to be missed!

Angelina Arts Alliance has put together a special gift package, “Bunny Bags”

that will make a perfect addition to the tickets. This can be a great way to introduce your child to the book and get them excited about the show. Bunny Bags come with two paperback books, Goodnight Moon and The Runaway Bunny, a Goodnight Moon stuffed bunny toy, a scrumptious homemade bunny cookie, and tickets to the show!

The second great event you do not want to miss is the Ballet Folklórico de México on Sunday, January 24th.

This show will begin the great show line up for the 2010 Angelina Arts Alliance.

This world renowned production features the largest and most widely acclaimed folk dance company in the Americas.

For almost sixty years Ballet Folklórico de México de Amalia Hernández has celebrated the diversity of Mexico’s rich cultural heritage with dances drawn

from regional and historic influences. Ballet Folklórico sets itself apart by combining its artists’ talents with live music, elaborate choreography, and 22 / The Journey

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ornate costumes of Mexican culture. With 50 dancers and 20 live musicians,

this extravaganza of music and dance illuminates the facets of Latin American

life with theatrical flair. The results are stunning. Ballet Folklórico celebrates the beloved traditions that lie at the very heart of Mexico. Since 1952, it has become

one of the most important cultural institutions in their country, as well as one of the Mexico’s official cultural representatives.

Do not miss this breathtaking performance on Sunday, January

24th at 7:30 p.m. in the Temple Theater on the Angelina College campus in Lufkin. Tickets ($31-

$40) are on sale at the Temple Theater

Box

office.

Ballet

Folklórico is sponsored by the

City of Lufkin. Season Sponsors

are Temple-Inland and Lufkin Industries, Inc.

Temple Theater Box Office is open weekdays noon-5:30, or

by calling 936-633-5454. For more information, visit www. angelinaarts.org or visit them on Facebook.

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Business Spotlight chick-fil-a southloop crossing

Everyone knows what type of service you will

“Seeing Team Members

from the top down. Julie Walker, owner of the

leaders is the most exciting

receive when you walk into a Chick-fil-A. It comes Southloop Crossing location says, “Our corporate leadership has been instrumental in leading Chick-

fil-A Operators to keep customer service a very high priority. “Second Mile Service” taken from

Matthew 5:41 is a philosophy that Dan Cathy, son of Truett Cathy has championed for our whole chain.

Julie Walker began her career with Chik-fil-A when she was only in High School. “When I turned

16 I got my first part time job at Chick-fil-A in the Westwood Mall in Houston, TX. I was trying to earn $325 for a Spanish Club trip to Mexico. (In

those days the going rate for babysitting was $1 per hour. Chick-fil-A paid $2.90. I was going to

quit CFA after I earned the money.) During this

short time I had the privilege of meeting Chickfil-A founder Truett Cathy. After hearing him

speak and just working in the restaurant I began to fall in love with Chick-fil-A.”

Thirty years later, she is still there!

Growing up in Houston, having family in

Shreveport, graduated from SFA, Lufkin was the

perfect location for Julie. She was thrilled to be

given the opportunity to run the Lufkin location.

When the company learned the Lufkin Mall

operator was relocating, they offered the position to Julie. “This was really a God thing that I was sent here because if I could have picked any store in the whole chain, it would have been the Lufkin

store. Nobody really wanted this store because it

grow and develop into part. We had an elderly

gentleman who was a regular customer that several of my

Team Members befriended.

When he would come to the store, they would spend

time visiting with him. On

his birthday they threw a party for him. One day they

heard he was in the hospital,

so on their own initiative they went to visit him.

They took him a pillow,

because one of the girls felt that hospital pillows were uncomfortable. They decorated the pillowcase

for the man and put ‘I love Chick-fil-A’ on it.

The

man loved the pillow. The man died. They buried the

man with that very pillow under his head because it meant so much to him. My Team Members made a real

difference in that man’s life. They loved him. That

You can’t do it alone, you have to have help. God

part of this story for me is that I nor my General

you need. Always do the right thing, no matter

is what this business is all about. The thrilling Manager had anything to do with initiating that event, but the culture in our store is what allowed that whole event to transpire.”

was so far in the red. I didn’t care, I just wanted a

Julie continues, “What I have learned from

Julie says the best part of her job is sowing seeds

as perfection, but there is excellence. It’s ok to

store!” said Walker.

into the lives of the people who work with her.

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operating this business is there is no such thing

make mistakes as long as you learn from them.

always gives you “just enough” of whatever it is what it might cost.”

Business Connections donna busler

fit in the position, and she should pray about it.

Kitty told her to come to the fundraising dinner that same evening. Donna did not want to go because her son was planning on coming in from college that evening, and the family was planning

a quiet family dinner at home. Shortly after the conversation and keeping that conversation to herself, her husband called and said, “Why don’t you call the Mosaic Center? They are having a

fundraising dinner and I really think we should go.”

Donna ended up telling her son about the dinner

By now, East Texas is familiar with the very

uplifting program for women- The Mosaic Center.

This organization, according to the Mosaic Center mission statement, “Seeks to promote and

nurture an integrated vision of the whole person – body, soul and spirit. Students of The Mosaic

Center develop self-sufficiency to strengthen the

family unit. This is achieved through education, guidance, job and life skills training, parenting, mentoring and follow-up.” This is no easy task for

one, two, or even ten people. We have all heard

the saying, “It takes a village.” At The Mosaic

and he wanted to go; and the same went for her

Donna shares a story like many who volunteer at

year the family was able to all get together to share

getting more back than the women they mentor.

year. After being moved by the organization, the

and many women volunteer to help share a hand

daughter. This was a first of a few times in the last

the center. They feel as though they are the ones

a meal, being her daughters busy, hectic senior

The Mosaic Center has many women involved

mission, the highlights of the year that evening-

up to other women.

their way home, she shared the earlier conversation

The Mosaic Center has two classes a year that

agreement that this is what she should do. After a

The center provides job and life skills, guidance

She laughs saying, “God really does have a sense

the program, they help women improve their self

The week The Mosaic Center needed me to start

term employment. Working with one woman at a

into her dorm. What timing! It just kept me busy

and resources, they in turn teach them to become

Donna was moved and felt God moving her. On with Kitty with her family. They were in full

educate women in an eleven week class setting.

lot of time in prayer, Donna accepted the position.

and mentoring in a Christian setting. Through

of humor and a way of taking care of his children.

esteem and train them in valuable skills for long

was the very week my daughter needed to move

time, helping them identify their own strengths

and not a sobbing, basket case making it harder on

self sufficient.

my daughter.”

If you would like to get involved, donate, or

center that is definitely the case-it does take a

This position is important to Donna. It is

learn more about The Mosaic Center- contact

the director, Donna Busler.

to the women/students. It is important to the

936.639.5068.

Donna is the one who represents the organization

Mark your calendar for April 15-18

me out of my comfort zone. I just think I don’t

DINNER & AUCTION

village. And one major person in that village is

Donna Busler joined the team in 2008. She was

entering a period in her life she was dreading-the empty nest. Her baby girl was about to graduate high school and was headed to college in the fall.

One day in the spring of 2008, the director at the time Kitty Bounds, said to Donna in passing that

she was ready to take a step back from the center.

Kitty also mentioned that Donna would be a great

important to The Mosaic Center. It is important volunteers. It is important to the community.

to the local and state officials. She says, “It puts

Donna Busler, donnabusler@consolidated.net or

SERVE

ONE ANOTHER TENNIS TOURNAMENT,

belong talking to these lawmakers. But, I have to

do what I have to do on behalf of the Center. And

there is very little that you will find that I will not do for this place- even if it means getting out of my comfort zone.”

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angelina County Chamber of Commerce 90th Annual Chamber Banquet

The 90th Annual Lufkin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce Banquet, is scheduled for 6:30 p.m., Thursday, January 28, 2010, at the Pitser Garrison Civic Center in Lufkin.

The Banquet will feature Humorous Motivational Speaker - Billy Riggs, M.Div., MRE. Billy Riggs is more than a mere speaker, entertainer, magician, singer

or comedian. He’s been called the “Dr. Phil of Magic,” a unique communicator, motivator, and wizard who magically changes lives by skillfully weaving humor, audience participation, and world class illusions into a profoundly inspiring program. Renowned as the

world’s only Dis-illusionist, Billy Riggs presents grand

illusions while shattering the illusionary thinking that hinders morale, performance, confidence and success.

A spellbinding communicator, Mr. Riggs honed his uplifting message and speaking skills in the pulpit,

founding one of America’s fastest-growing churches at the age of 29. Though his presentations now

are secular, audiences sometimes sense the old preacher in him, stirred by his sincerity and power on the platform. In 2002, Mr. Riggs was presented the highest earned award of the National Speakers

Association: the Certified Speaking Professional. Since 1995, he has breathed The Magic of Attitude into people, companies and organizations.

But the goose bumps aren’t always the result of dramatic oratory. When Billy Riggs appears, things

on stage begin to disappear! Using world-class magical illusions to drive home his points, Billy’s presentations have transformed hundreds of otherwise ordinary conferences into something truly

special. His quick wit and quicker hands spread laughter and raise morale as listeners learn to reshape their destinies with a wave of life’s magic wand: attitude!

Sponsors of the 90th Annual Chamber Banquet are: Gold Sponsors - Memorial Health System of East Texas, KTRE, and First Bank & Trust East Texas. Silver Sponsors - Consolidated Communications, Courtyard by Marriott Lufkin, Lee TranServices, Polk Oil Company, Inc. and Woodland Heights Medical Center.

Tickets for the Banquet will be $40 per person or $500 for table sponsorship (reserved table for 8 and corporate identification at table.)

For more information, call the chamber at 936-634-6644.

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angelina County Chamber of Commerce Gale Wasson of the Lufkin State Supported Living Center was the

winner of the November First Friday Luncheon $800 Incentive Drawing.

This drawing accumulates by $50 per month until a winner is drawn.

Gale generously donated her winnings to the Lufkin State Supported

Living Center and we are thrilled that this money has gone to help our community.

Ribbon Cuttings Regal Nail Spa celebrated their grand opening with a Ribbon Cutting on Tuesday, November 17th. They are located at 2002 South First Street in Lufkin. They are a full service nail salon. Call (936) 634-1052 to schedule your appointment today. Pictured are the owners of Regal Nail Spa and members of the Lufkin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce Diplomats Team.

Courtyard by Marriott Lufkin celebrated their Grand Opening with a Ribbon Cutting on Thursday, November 19th. A crowd of over 200 people gathered to tour the new facility. The hotel features a new state-of-the art lobby that enables guests with enhanced flexibility and cutting-edge features for working and relaxing. From WiFi throughout the hotel to their casual bistro, their innovative hotel is a refreshing blend of high-tech hospitality and warm East Texas personality. Pictured are the owners and staff of Image Hospitality, along with Mayor Jack Gorden and Lufkin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce Board Chairman Todd Kassaw.

Miss McGillicuddy’s celebrated their Grand Opening with a Ribbon Cutting on Friday, December 4th. They are located inside the Lufkin Mall across from JCPenney. If you are looking for fabulous accessories, purses and wallets, this is the place to go!

Pictured is Owner Mandy Smith, family, staff and members of the Lufkin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce Diplomats team.

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NACOGDOCHES County Chamber of Commerce Important numbers for Nac

Census 2010 will define Nacogdoches county for the next decade. Communication between Nacogdoches community leaders and the U.S. Census Bureau began in early summer. In fall, planning meetings began

for local volunteers to work to meet the accurate count goal for the census, which is scheduled next spring.

“The Nacogdoches Counts committee has now separated into several groups with group leaders,” said City Planner Larissa Philpot. “Each group will focus on a specific area of the community including businesses, schools, SFA, and hard to count populations.”

To do more to spread the truth and benefits of Census 2010, the Nacogdoches Counts committee looks forward to an aggressive public promotion.

“We are putting together a publicity campaign for awareness using fliers, scheduling speaking

engagements, recording public service announcements, and a poster contest. People will begin hearing and seeing more at the beginning of the year,” Philpot said.

One fact we must all keep in mind is “completing and returning a Census 2010 form isn’t just important, it’s mandatory.”

Ribbon Cuttings | celebrating good things in business Horn Welding Owner Eddie Horn, (936) 645-8370.

New Chamber member.

Elvis Extravaganza Coldwell Banker Choice Realtors, 2026 N.W. Stallings Dr. Bobby Ray Bridwell, (936) 552-7877.

Treats for Elvis fans of all ages.

Hospice of East Texas Director of Community Relations Jessica Henderson.

(936) 560-9277, www.hospiceofeasttexas.org.

New business and Chamber member.

Doches Credit Union 823 S. University Dr. President James Muse 936-569-7700, www.dochescu.com.

New branch opening.

NACOGDOCHES County Chamber of Commerce Join in upcoming celebrations 4:30 p.m., Thursday, Jan. 14 SFA Center for Economic Education SFA campus at intersection of Starr and Raguet - former location of Early Childhood Research Center.

Director Phyllis Gilbert, (936) 468-2449. New office location.

1:15 p.m., Friday, Jan. 15 Shine Salon 105 Upton St. Owner Bradley Pollard, (936) 559-9309 New business and Chamber member.

And other events: Alive After Five – 5:30 to 7 p.m., Jan. 21 hosted by The Daily Sentinel at Lanana Hall, 108 N. Lanana St. Fourth Friday Lunch – Noon, Jan. 22, Hotel Fredonia “Nacogdoches Water Works – A Community Water Park.”.

Operation Thank You! Operation Thank You! is an annual event that gives Chamber directors and other volunteers the opportunity to: • Deliver the new 2010 Nacogdoches Guide & Chamber Directory and the 2010 Nacogdoches City & County Street Map to as many Chamber members as possible.

• To personally say “thank you” for their Chamber memberships and support.

If you would like to join in the delivering - even if you aren’t a Chamber director - please contact Kelly Daniel, business@nactx.com or 560-5533.

“Teams will be formed and some friendly competition makes the event even more enjoyable,” said event Chair Tonya Hearnsberger, Express Employment Professionals.

Call 936-560-5533 to RSVP for the Kickoff Breakfast 7:15 - 9 a.m., January 12 at the at the Chamber.

Always know the latest Nacogdoches news Twitter.com/NacChamber - Twitter updates for Chamber.

Twitter.com/TxBlueberryFest - Twitter updates for Texas Blueberry Festival. www.Nacogdoches.org - The Nacogdoches County Chamber Web site is also a great place to find

a community event! Online calendar (submit your events, too), links to the Chamber events photo albums, Shop Nac First and NacBlog sites, and more!

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Calendar of Events 559-2507

6 Farmers Market 8:00 a.m.

107 Pearl Street 559-2570

9 Birding with Louis Debetaz & Carroll Moore ( Adults Only ) Kurth Lake 936-639-4434 9 Farmers Market 8:00 a.m.

107 Pearl Street 559-2570

16 Harlem Ambassadors Basketball Show 7:00 p.m.

Woden High School Gym 936-558-3637 16 Goodnight Moon and The Runaway Bunny Temple Theater on the AC campus 936-633-5454 16 Bridal Market Hotel Fredonia 936-632-6400

9 Millard’s Flea Market Dawn to Dusk 6020 North Street (Hwy 59) 564-4490

16 Farmers Market 8:00 a.m.

107 Pearl Street 559-2507

9 Nacogdoches Naturally Fire Safety/Camp Stove Cooking 468-1832

16-17 Trade Days Dawn to Dusk 1304 NW Stallings across from Foretravel 564-2150

10 9th Annual Bridal Fair Lufkin Civic Center 12p.m.-5p.m.

Preregister at A-1 Party Rentals Or ktre.com and admission is free For more information call 936-639-2595 12 Texas Friendly Hospitality Training Workshop 5:15 pm - 6:15 pm CVB 200 East Maiin FREE to Downtown Businesses.

Advance registration 559-2573 13 Farmers Market 8:00 a.m.

107 Pearl Street

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20 Farmers Market 8:00 a.m.

107 Pearl Street 559-2507 22 State of the County/City Luncheon Crown Colony Country Club 936-634-6644 22 SFA Planetarium “Marsquest” 7:00 p.m.

SFA Campus Planetarium $2 468-3009 23

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Farmers Market 8:00 a.m.

107 Pearl Street 559-2507

23 Pickin In Nac Terri Hendrix and Lloyd Maines in Concert Banita Creek Hall $25.00 936-462-8000 24 Ballet Folklorico de Mexico Temple Theater on AC Campus 936-633-5454 27 Comedy Night Benefiting CASA Doors open at 7pm Hotel Fredonia $8 pre sale $10 at door 564-1234 27-29 East Texas Geospatial Conference For info call: Darrel McDonald SFA 936-468-1347 27 SFA - “Nate the Great” 9:30 am and 12:30p.m.

SFA Turner Auditorium Join us for this new musical about teamwork and friendship starring nate the Great, Marjorie Weinman Sharmat’s beloved detective, as he uses all of his derring-do to locate his friend Annie’s missing painting. Target Grades: K-4.

W.M. Turner Auditorium on the SFA Campus.

Tickets: $6 individual, and $5 per person for goups of 20 or more.

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107 Pearl Street 559-2507 29 Lamp-Lite Theatre “Oklahoma” 7:30 p.m.

Lam-Lite Theatre 29 SFA Planetarium “Marsquest” 7:00 p.m.

SFA Planetarium $2 468-3009 29 SFA - “Liverpool Legends” 7:30 p.m.

W.M. Turner Auditorium $35, $29 and $17.50 In this “Ultimate Beatles” Tribute show, the Liverpool Legends perform songs spanning the entire career the Fab Four and on.

468-6407 30 Lamp-Lite Theatre presents “Oklahoma” 7:30 p.m.

Lamp-Lite Theatre 30 Nacogdoches Naturally Fishing at Lakeside Park 468-1832 30 Farmers Market 8:00 a.m.

107 Pearl Street 559-2507

February 2010 3 Farmers Market 8:00 a.m.

107 Pearl Street 559-2507

5 SFA Planetarium - Marsquest 7:00 p.m.

SFA Planetarium $2 468-3009 5 Lamp-Lite Theatre presents “Oklahoma” 7:30 p.m.

Lamp-Lite Theatre 5 First Friday Nights 5:00 - 8:00 p.m.

Downtown 559-2573 5 Secret Keeper Girl 7:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m.

For info call: Crystal Bradsher Oak Grove Baptist Church Girls today face pressures earlier than their mothers did. Live Event offers Moms proven tools to coach their 8-12 year-old girls into meaningful friendships, true beauty,, biblical modesty and vibrant purity.

936-569-0756

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Send us your events at Calendar@tjmag.com.

Submission deadline is the 15th of the month prior to publication.

(January 15th for the February issue) In order for your event to be included please list all ofthe following: Date, Event Name, Brief Description, Event Location, Time, and Contact.

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places and faces Evening in bethlehem expo center December 11-12, 2009 Lufkin

breakfast with santa texas forestry museum December 5, 2009 Lufkin

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christmas parade downtown lufkin December 3, 2009 Lufkin

breakfast with santa hotel fredonia December 19, 2009 Nacogdoches

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casa dinner home of ann watson December 1, 2009

whmc Senior Circle new england trip October 12-19, 2009

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casa tour of homes December 3, 2009 Lufkin

fourth friday luncheon nacogdoches chamber hotel fredonia December 4, 2009 Nacogdoches

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rotary waffle bake angelina college December 3-4, 2009 Lufkin

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academy of dance nutcracker lufkin middle school December 12, 2009 Lufkin

junior league christmas social courtyard marriott December 8, 2009 Lufkin

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Giving Back river of life

There is an important ministry in Livingston, Texas

(depression, fear, divorce, abuse, loneliness,

Women’s Life Skills and Training Center.

other women’s experiences, and instruction from

that is changing the lives of women -River of Life

Director, Debby Schmidt was attending school working on a degree in counseling. In 2006, she

finished her degree. Later that fall, everything began falling into place to open a center focused

on training women in Polk County. The building,

etc.) and solutions are found through the Bible, qualified individuals who volunteer with RoL.” Volunteers and mentors try to help apply practical

insight and steps to problem solving not just coping mechanisms that have so long been the way to deal when issues arise for many of the women.

volunteers, start up- God had his hand over Debby

Job and computer skills are taught everyday to

Life.

work. Resume writing, job retention techniques,

Schmidt’s life to get her prepared to open River of

Today, three years later, they stand 60 volunteers strong. The ministry is strictly faith based, operating solely on donations. Schmidt says, “We feel that

the most important part of the program is getting

enhance the quality of life for those who need to and interview role playing are just a few of the topics taught, along with an outward appearance

makeover which includes haircuts, clothing and makeup.

women in touch with their Creator, the One who

Each lady walks with a mentor through the eight

every one.”

of support group to insure that all is still moving

loves them and has a purpose and plan for each and

The ministry is designed to accept nine women at

week daily part of the program and then four weeks forward.

a time to go through a three month program. The

The program has had a ripple effect in the community.

is once a week. “Everyday issues are talked about

woman is the backbone of the family. Husbands see

first two months it is everyday and the last month

Debby Schmidt shares, “Everyone knows that a

positive changes in their wives and children experience a new mom. We have found

that 90% of the clients that come through the RoL program now attend a church,

find work, and move forward in their relationships and everyday experiences.� The ripple effect comes from the families lives touched by the women, then reach out

to their extended families and neighbors. And the best part of the program is to see many ladies come back to volunteer, to give back to others the peace and stableness they now experience.

The program is designed to help women in the community. But, lives are touched and changed by the women who come through to volunteer. It brings a sense of

enrichment to their lives that they had not known before. Women come to ROL interested in a job and they leave as volunteers and with changed lives.

If you are interested in volunteering there are many areas in need. Or if you know

of a woman who needs the program or services offered by River of Life, have them call or stop by for more information about the next session.

River of Life Women’s Life Skills Training Center 936-327-4899

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Inspiring Young Woman

Claire Brody

Claire Brody is an inspiring young woman. A few things that make her

University of Texas, with plans to major in Radio, Television, and Film.

confidence, and her character.

always instilled something very important inside of me. They taught me that

special and unique are her maturity, her values, her personality, her

Claire was born and raised in Lufkin. She is currently a senior at Lufkin High

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Her family is very important and close to her heart. Claire says, “My family

in everything I did God came first, then family, education, community, and finally, any extracurricular activities I could balance.�

past year, she again was asked

When asked if she had any advice to share with

Christmas Spectacular.

Priorities, Priorities! It is extremely important to

to emcee the Panther Pride

Throughout her school years

she has been a leader and role model. She has been involved in the Girls of Grace Bible Study,

Christians in Action, Anchor

Club, KYSSED, Student Council, Student

Advisory

Council,

Leadership Tomorrow, W.H.O. Claire Brody is a familiar name to many because

club, Lufkin Panther Varsity

also a member of St. Andrew’s Catholic Church.

Margie Brody, asked if she would want to write

Young women like Claire develop strong character

traveling to soccer games and during these trips,

person who has played a strong role in her life is her

they outlined their plans for the book. Finally,

when Claire was in the seventh grade, Skippy Dimpledot was published. “My mom and I visited

many schools with a multimedia presentation and

I really began to learn a lot about public speaking.

It has been an incredible experience that I would not trade for the world.”

play guitar, and to this day it is my getaway from a busy schedule or a bad day. Find your escape.

It is very important to pave your own path, and

follow your own dream. Never settle. Lastly, give

a little more. When you think you have given all you have, give a little more, love a little more.”

University of Texas. Claire Brody’s story is not

an Angelina County Drug Free All Star. Claire is

a book together. They were constantly in the car

important. When I was in sixth grade I learned to

years, a member of National Honor Society and

children’s book gave her an invaluable experience When Claire was in the fifth grade, her mother,

Secondly, finding something you enjoy is very

Next year Claire will leave Angelina County

represented Lufkin High School as mascot for two

and introduced her to the world of public speaking.

decide what matters most in your personal life.

Tennis Team for four years,

of her very popular Christmas book-- Skippy

Dimpledot the Christmas Elf. She says authoring a

young women, Claire Brody says, “Priorities,

and head off to fulfill more of her dreams at the finished and we cannot wait to hear the rest of her life story!

from many influences and experiences in life. One mother. Claire says, “The prime impact comes from someone very close to me. My mother instilled many

vital qualities in me to have as a young woman and I can never thank her enough for that. The impact

she has made on my life is indelible. I love her more than words can ever express.”

Little by little, Claire learned she enjoyed entertaining and decided that was the journey for

her life. Her years at Lufkin High School were filled with opportunities and gave her valuable experience. At the end of her freshman year,

Claire was asked to try out for the Lufkin High School Mascot. Having served as Lufkin Middle School’s mascot, she knew it was something she

enjoyed. Claire tried out and soon found out she would be the first sophomore on the Varsity Cheer

Squad. “This was an incredible experience to further my passion for entertaining.” During her sophomore year, Johanna Walker, the Lufkin High

School drill team director, asked her to emcee the annual Spring Show. “I was shocked, excited, and

nervous at the same time!” This was a poignant event for Claire because it gave her more reason to pursue a career in entertainment. Then this

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Karen Harris & Jane Kendrick There might not be another business in town that has single handedly helped more brides than Jane Kendrick and Karen Harris with House of Traditions. The two have owned House of

Traditions, located in downtown Nacogdoches, for twenty-four years, but the business was open

for many years prior to their ownership. Anyone who knows the mother-daughter duo knows how

enjoyable they are to be around the minute you walk into their shop.

Jane Kendrick grew up in Shelby County in Patroon, Texas, on a dairy farm. She is always reminding her grandchildren of the days of walking

before daylight to milk the cows and then having to walk to school. “I do it to remind them that they really don’t have it so bad!” said Jane. She

also graduated as valedictorian of her high school and later graduated from SFA. Jane married Bill Kendrick, and together they had three girls: Jana, Karla, and Karen. Karen says of her mother, “My

In 1986, they purchased the store. The plan

was very convenient anytime I needed to work

away at age 42 of Hodgkins so she had to raise

continue teaching.

always so nice to hold a baby every now and then,

mom has a great deal of perseverance. Dad passed three young girls. I’m sure I will never understand how hard that must have been. Then my oldest sister Jana passed away at age 23 with cancer.”

Karen Harris was born and raised in Nacogdoches.

She married her high school sweetheart, Brent Harris. They have three precious girls: Jocelyn, 21, Allyson, 17, and Madison, 14.

When you ask the two if owning the shop was

always in the plans or a goal of theirs, Jane

emphatically says, “No!” Karen, on the other hand, says, “I knew owning a shop is what I

was that Karen would run it and Jane would

In 1991, Jane finally retired from teaching and

began working full time at the shop. Now, nineteen

and appreciate each other’s strengths a great deal

and be involved with them every day.

side. “We enjoy the bond that has been created more than just mother and daughter. I am amazed

Being able to have a business and merge it with

their welfare. She has a great ability to recall the

effort. Karen says her family is fully aware that

members. She genuinely cares about people and

patterns brides have selected even years down the road,” said Karen.

King in the turn of the century white home. Karen

was in store. (Or so I thought!)” Karen said.

together is being able to work and see the children

at my mother’s recall of people’s names and family

SFA majoring in elementary education when they worked for the previous owners. “So I knew what

the business!”

Jane says that is one of the benefits of working

When they purchased the store, House of

took ownership of the shop. Karen and her sisters

too. Needless to say, my kids have grown up in

years later, they are still working together, side by

always wanted to do.” Jane was in the middle

of her teaching career and Karen was attending

and needed a babysitter. And our customers were

Traditions was located on the corner of North and

juggled children, running the store, and being mom 24 hours a day. The Harris Family lived upstairs

until their middle child was 2. Karen recalls, “It

raising a family takes a lot of work and team her work consumes a great deal of time and that is

what they know and are used to. “I have learned to squeeze a lot into a 24 hour day. I have learned to

be a great multitasker and utilize every minute.”

One very important factor in everything is her husband. Karen says, “I have a very understanding

husband.” As long as Jane makes her bridge dates,

lunch with friends, and time for a little travel--she enjoys working at the shop.

As you can imagine, they have seen some things

change over their twenty-four years in the business. Weddings have grown from very formal

and traditional to casual and smaller. Brides

are waiting a little later in life to marry and are combining household goods. Karen and Jane

are incredibly helpful with brides and mothers of brides and grooms—they can assist with everything from etiquette to china choices!

What is their advice to brides? “Brides--make a

bridal gift registry in your hometown! Your guests love seeing first hand what you have selected and

knowing they are getting something you will need and want. Remember...not all people want to shop on-line! Think long term when making your

tabletop selections. Mothers: you are a valuable resource!

Your knowledge is generally very

helpful and is usually needed!”

To sustain their partnership as mother, daughter, and business partners, they depend on a lot of

inspiration. Karen says, “My sister, Karla inspires me to be a stronger and more committed Christian,

my mom inspires my work ethic and two very

dear cousins have taught me about FAITH!” Jane says her friends and family have always been her sources of inspiration.

Small business is what makes East Texas tick.

If it were not for individual people dedicated to making small towns and their communities thrive, there would not be much character in downtown.

People like Karen and Jane who are dedicated to their customers make East Texas a truly unique place. “We feel blessed to have been able to be of service to Nacogdoches for 24 years and for

developing such great and lasting friendships

with our customers and employees. At any given time, you will always see either one of us in the

shop because we feel the need to be of service and

little more relaxed than when they came in. We

us. We want everyone who walks in to experience

amazed at the people that pass through our little

available to those who are so loyal to shop with a little friendly hometown hospitality and leave a

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Girls Group

debbie tompkins and laura simpson

Many know Debbie Tompkins and Laura Simpson as the hair dressing duo-- and boy, do they do great hair! These two amazing women have a long

There is a group of friends that put on a huge

annual talent show. Laura set a goal to sing in

the talent show. So off and on twice

a month for a year, Laura attended

history together and an even stronger bond.

voice lessons with Mikki Friar, who

the first place trophy. She said, “That is the first

an angel.”

on the counter where I get ready every morning.

according to Laura has the “voice of

Debbie and Laura were the

trophy I have won my whole life! It sits right

And it isn’t about the plastic trophy. It is about

original operators and the

Debbie would ask Laura how

Co. They met as friends and

a while they would sing together.

The hair. The singing. The friendship. The bond.

Laura sang in front of a group for

Simpson are as people. But, this past year, they

very beginning of Laura and

lessons were going, every once in

were acquaintances. One day

As the talent show drew closer,

Debbie told Laura she was going to beauty school. She

went to beauty school and later they began working together.

Prior to beauty school, Debbie has always been a singer. She grew up singing in school and even

started a band in high school. Since high school, Debbie has been part of seven bands because of her amazing and beautiful voice.

Laura, on the other hand, loved dancing and singing to Debbie while she was on stage. Laura

would always joke and make comments like, “When I grow up, I want to be a Singer.” Having

Debbie around would always remind her of that and kept the fire alive inside of Laura. Laura

the first time to practice her song for

the talent show. Her friends were amazed, and Debbie pulled Laura aside and said, “Okay you have learned the basics--you have been laying the foundation to build the house, now it is time to add the emotions.”

The talent show was one week away. Two days

that week prior to the show, the two of them got together and practiced her song. Debbie says,

“she was stiff and lacked feeling.” Debbie would coach her through the mirror, getting her to

practice her facial expressions, and would play the piano loud when she needed to sing loud and soft when she needed to play soft.

says, “My dad was an absolutely phenomenal

Their preparation worked!

to accomplish.”

stage and her first line came

tenor. So it has always been a goal that I wanted

About a year ago, the two of them went to Encore music to pick something up. While they were there, Laura asked about voice lessons.

She looked at the schedule and she told Debbie,

The minute Laura took the out, “Looking out in the morning rain,” the crowd

immediately began clapping, cheering, and whistling.

“I am signing up to start taking voice lessons.”

Laura says, “That day was

wanted to do, Debbie encouraged her.

That night Laura took home

Knowing that was something Laura always

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the best day of my life!”

getting over a fear and accomplishing a goal.”

It is all a part of who Debbie Tompkins and Laura were able to put another notch in their friendship belt. This was an important experience that they were able to share together.

This experience has brought out a lot of lessons

for these two friends. Debbie says, “It is never

too late to start your journey with something you are afraid to do. Pursue your dreams no matter

how old you are.” Laura encourages women, “If you don’t have passion and life is too busy

(which mine is), stop and see what you would like to do for yourself. Refuel when life is being sucked out of you.”

your wallet

happy new year! are you ready to roth?

5 Questions To Ask Bill Gates received his Christmas present late this year.

He’s probably not complaining because

starting January 1, 2010, he can now convert to

year might be a good time to pay off Uncle Sam early.

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Bonus: If you convert this year, you can stretch

Winfrey, Warren Buffet, and Britney Spears can,

burden in 2011 and the other 50% in 2012. After

despite being the richest man in the world. Oprah too – and so can you, regardless of your income.

Benjamin Franklin said, “The only things certain

the taxes over two years by paying 50% of the this year, the conversion taxes will be due in the following year as normal.

be significantly lower by the time you take

in life are death and taxes.” You might not be able

Question: How are Roth distributions taxed?

tax law changes, you can definitely avoid some

free as long as they are “qualified distributions.”

to avoid death, but because of significant recent major taxes. Roth IRAs were once reserved for

individuals, single or married, making $100,000

or less in their modified adjusted gross income (AGI). This income limit is now lifted and anyone can convert a traditional IRA or employer-

sponsored retirement plan to a Roth. This change

Distributions from your Roth will be income-taxA “qualified distribution” is one that occurs

after a Roth has been open for five years and the

if this largest tax break in history can work for you

Unlike traditional IRAs, required minimum

Question: Why would I convert my traditional IRA to a Roth IRA?

Traditional retirement accounts grow tax-deferred, meaning you do not pay taxes until you withdraw

What about the required minimum

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to receive distributions after your death, but the distributions will be income-tax-free, provided the Roth has been open for five years.

money. A Roth IRA also grows tax-deferred, but

Question: Should everyone convert to a Roth

think taxes are going to increase in the future, this

No!

the funds you withdraw are also tax-free! If you

your IRA, which can be costly.

death, or disability.

money.

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taxes with non-retirement funds – not from within

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Wedding Bells

Brook Allison McPhail & Adam Hunter Johnson November 21, 2009

First United Methodist Church, Lufkin Photographer Becki Basham

Jessica Jenkins and Brandon Conn Do you have an engagement, bridal, or wedding photo you

Married December 22, 2009

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in Fort Worth, TX

www.jenniferconn-photography.com

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Shelley Jansen and Bradley Davis Married November 21, 2009 in Lufkin, TX

Jennifer Conn Photography

www.jenniferconn-photography.com

Kyle and Valena Spradley, and the late Odie Wheat, are

happy to announce the engagement of their son T.J. Wheat and Morgan Hurlbut, daughter of Denise & Paul Conner and Bryan & Jenny Hurlbut.

The wedding will be held July 24th at First Presbyterian Chruch of Fort Worth .

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Relationships one flesh | by kathryn greene

“It isn’t good for man to be alone; I will make a

verse above (verse 24) says that

the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep

(married) they become one person

companion for him, a helper suited to his needs… sleep, and took one of his ribs and closed up the place from which he had removed it, and made the rib into a woman, and brought her to the man.

‘This is it!’ Adam exclaimed. ‘She is part of my own bone and flesh! Her name is ‘woman’ because

she was taken out of a man.’ This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to

his wife in such a way that the two become one person.” (Genesis 2:18, 21-24 Living Bible).

I have just attended two weddings of young people I have known most of their life. I heard them make commitments to each other:

~ to love, comfort, and honor each other

~ to be faithful and true in sickness as well as health

~ to forsake all others emotionally and physically as long as each lives

~ to hold to each other no matter what their life experience might be – whether there is poverty or riches, sickness or health.

~ to love and cherish each other until death would part them because God commanded it.

Pastor

and that is like two sheets of paper being glued together. Then, when

divorce takes place it is like trying

to take those two sheets of paper

apart without tearing either piece of paper. It is impossible to do!

Becoming

one

flesh

means

embracing a new family. When

you take on a spouse, you also

get all of their baggage, which includes their extended family.

You now have two sets of

parents (or more), more siblings, grandparents, aunts and uncles,

etc. There are more relationships

to form, more misunderstandings to work through, as well as more joys to share. You are no longer

I also heard them promise:

The

when man is joined to his wife

always

applauds the couples for

to think of yourself, but you think with each other in mind – what is

receive him as God’s gift to you to complete you,

require making a hard decision in which you

physical needs that God designed him to meet,

best for my spouse and my family unit. It may choose new family over the extended family.

and that you will take him to be your partner in fulfilling the purposes and plans of God for your

life. This is a decision to be

“You will allow him to meet the emotional and physical needs that God designed him to meet”

making commitments to each other and binding

themselves in a marriage ceremony. This is a time

when the cultural leaning is to avoid commitment

To become one flesh is much more than a physical

relationship is going to work. Breaking up is hard

cleaving”, and embracing your spouse’s family as

by agreeing to live with each other to see if it the

whether you are married or not! When you give your heart to someone, it hurts when they leave.

I heard an illustration that gives a good visual

picture of the effects of a couple divorcing. The

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relationship. It includes commitment, “leaving and your own. One of the most important decisions

you will make is the person you will marry. When

you walk down the aisle to take the hand of your husband, you are symbolically saying that you

made with your head as well as your heart. It can’t just be

made based on emotions, but

in well thought-out pros and cons of what is best as well as

right. Take the time to realize what you are really saying when you say, “I do”!

Education

sharon luce - teacher of the month | by emily parks

Sharon Luce, January’s Teacher of the month is every parents’ dream for their child’s teacher. Her passion for children obviously runs in her family, as she is a third generation teacher. I am so inspired by her thoughts of being a teacher and have renewed faith in our teachers in America! I know there are some bad

seeds in the bunch, but I believe there are far more with dedication just like that of Sharon Luce! Thank you Sharon Luce for changing little hearts one child at a time!

TJM: Tell us about yourself and your family?

Luce: I have been married to a handsome, sweet man for 42 years, Aubrey Luce Jr. and we have 2 great kids. Shanon, our daughter, is married to Bubba Loggins and they have 4 sons... Samuel, Joseph, Aaron, and Preston. Our son, Stephen and his wife Ashley, have a little boy named Wyatt Lane. I am a Memaw

for 5 boys who are “everything” to me! God has truly blessed our family and I thank Him for them all. I

am the third generation of teachers in my family. My father was Murl Price and he was a counselor for 36 years. My mom, Pearl Price, was a teacher for 32 years. My dad’s mom was also a teacher. I am so proud to be a teacher!

TJM: Who was your favorite teacher when you were in school?

Luce: When I was in elementary school at Hudson, I had the sweetest 4th grade teacher named Evonne Tisdale. I have so many memories of that year, but one that has always stood out was the day that I cheated

on a spelling test. Instead of being totally ridiculed or belittled, she talked to me about how I might miss the word, it was just a mistake, and that was better than “taking it from someone else”. That lesson stayed with me through all my schooling, even college.

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TJM: How many years have you taught? Where and what grades?

Luce: I have taught a total of 25 years with a few years of substituting. I have taught 4th

grade at Hudson Elementary and 7th and 8th grade Art at Hudson Junior High. I was a 2nd grade teacher at Diboll and 1st grade at Huntington. I have the honor of teaching at Saint Cyprian’s School in the 2nd grade at the present time.

TJM: What do you like most about teaching?

Luce: One of the things I love most about teaching is the light that comes in their eyes when they have achieved a goal. It is so awesome to make a goal. One of my students in

the 1st grade finally mastered a goal of reading all of his sight words. He sure did giggle a lot as I jumped up and said, “It’s time to dance!”--and boy, did we dance!

TJM: What is your favorite subject to teach?

Luce: Hard to say what my favorite subject is to teach, but reading sure does float to the

top in my thoughts. Everything hinges on reading...and that opens the door on writing... which opens the other doors. Reading is important!

TJM: What is the most important thing parents can do with their child at home to enhance his/her educational experience?

Luce: I believe our parents should start teaching from the day they are born. Reading to

a baby. Singing to a baby. I am not an advocate for television. I would limit it to a bare minimum and pull out the Play-doh and markers and games for stimulation. Everyday

life teaches our children to love school. You can teach when you “cut” their sandwich.

Do they want a triangle or do they want a rectangle? And as many a teacher has said... read to your child. Little words open a world to them all.

TJM: What are some fun, winter, educational activities parents can do with their children at home?

Luce: We can do educational activities everyday at anytime. I think one of my favorite things to do with my grandboys is to cook chocolate chip cookies. I let them measure with just as little help from me as possible. They seem to think it is pretty neat to be able to crack the eggs and measure all the ingredients! They also have to clean up. Seems washing dishes can be done by the smallest if you have a stool. So what if they “play a

little” with the bubbles. My youngest grandson is only 3, but he is sitting on the bar at this

time watching me stir cookies and cakes with a little help from him. It will not be long before he will crack his first egg. We both like to lick the bowl!

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fitness 101

getting in shape before your wedding We put more pressure on ourselves to look a certain

way to go for mealtime. The problem is that not

understand that no one will even think about your

problem, choose salads that have some sort of

way on the day of our wedding. First, you need to size or that you didn’t get into the size dress you

wanted to be in, or the hundreds of other crazy

thoughts that enter your mind. There are a lot of things that you can do before your wedding to help

the meal.

Shop Smarter. When you are grocery shopping, think

you want to lose a few inches and pounds for the

more work, but the healthy foods are all natural and not processed. Stay in the produce department to get more of your basics.

Drink Water. Sugar filled drinks can add a lot of

pounds to your diet. One easy way to cut out pounds is replacing sugar drinks with water. Challenge

yourself to drink 8-10 glasses of water a day. There are many retail locations that have a drinking container

sized

for

the

recommended daily intake of water. This is an easy way to know where you stand. Not

only does water help shed pounds, but it improves your skin and complexion, too.

Snacks. The more servings

or healthy snacks you eat in

a days time, the less likely

you are to overeat at a meal.

A good idea is to divide up

your snacks- almonds, fruit,

granola, chips- in smaller packages so they are divided up into snack portions when you need one.

Salads. Salads are a great

January 2010

lunch and dinner, than have a smaller portion for

Heart rate. Along with watching what goes in, you

badly. It might take a little longer and requires a little

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protein included. Or plan to eat a salad before your

you feel better about yourself.

about your purchases so you are not tempted to eat

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everyone can fill up on a salad. To alleviate this

have to get your heart rate up to burn calories. If

big day, push yourself to get in at least 45 minutes

of cardiovascular exercise 4 times a week. Put it on your calendar and schedule it!

women’s health say i dont to wedding stress

Stomach aches, headaches, sleep problems, poor

haven’t. Use them!

thoughts…Getting married is supposed to be a

Take care of yourself. It’s always important to

be completely stressed out?

especially important during times of stress. You’ll

concentration, moodiness, irritability, racing happy time, right? So why are so many brides-to-

eat right, get enough sleep and exercise, but it’s feel more energized, you’ll be able to think more

Having to take care of endless details, manage

clearly and make better decisions. Besides, who

vendors, handle family demands and meet the

wants to see a bride with dark circles under her

emotional needs of the groom – and fitting it

eyes drag herself down the aisle?

all into an already busy schedule – can turn any sweet-natured woman into either a blubbering

Keep things in perspective. The most important

mess or the dreaded bridezilla.

thing to remember is that the wedding is only a one-day event. It’s just a party to celebrate the

Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be that way.

beginning of a life together. Too many brides feel

Wedding consultants and planning experts agree

enormous pressure to make the wedding perfect

that there are some ways to manage the stress and

and they forget about building a solid marriage.

make the planning process more enjoyable for

Don’t lose yourself in the details of this one day.

everyone involved.

Expect stress. If you accept the fact that this is

You have a lifetime of new memories to create, this is only one of them.

a stressful time, you can let go of guilt about it

Nor is it reasonable to try. The wedding is about

with it. Talk with your fiancé and a close friend

is meaningful to you and what will express who

tense. Come up with a non-judgmental code word

her bagpipe as you march down the aisle and you

When you hear the code word, stop, take a deep

with a polite response such as, “Thanks for your

and do something non-wedding related.

with the plans.” Feelings may get bruised, but

Be realistic. A lot of brides set their expectations

you and your fiancé.

around them) crazy trying to meet them. But

Delegate, delegate, delegate. No matter how

you’re going to have to adjust some of your plans.

organizer is, you can’t do everything by yourself.

magazines, friends) that can help you pull off a

friends, family and the groom for help – as long as

and take some precautionary measures to deal

the bride and groom. You two need to decide what

about helping you chill out when things get too

you are. If his mother wants Cousin Jennie to play

they can say to let you know it’s time for a break.

don’t care for the idea, it’s ok to say no. Come up

breath and then set the planning aside for a while

suggestion, but we’re going in a different direction

so high that they drive themselves (and everyone

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ultimately it’s your day and it only has to please

unless you have unlimited access to money,

capable you are, no matter how nifty your

There are a lot of resources (Web sites, books,

Nor should you, so stop feeling guilty. It’s ok to ask

lovely wedding on whatever budget you have.

you do it nicely. Some churches or reception halls

Don’t try to please everyone. It’s just not possible.

details. They’ve done this hundreds of times – you

have a wedding coordinator available to help with

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Fashion 2010 wedding trends

There are definite wedding trends that change

shoulder. Whatever the

industry. Designers pick their top trends as they

the over the shoulder trend

every season, similar to the everyday fashion

fabric and detail choice,

design cutting edge runway pieces an entire

will definitely add to the

year earlier. No matter what, when your big day

look and feel of the big

arrives, you need to do what fits your own style and personality. 2010 definitely has new looks and trends so here are a few.

Dress Trends

Colors- sage green and blue

are the new color trends being seen on the runway.

Plum is still a hot color from previous seasons. The

new colors can be seen as accents to the dress with

a colored sash or hint of colored tulle. Designers are

trying to give traditional dresses a more modern flare.

department is choosing a dress

that your girlfriends can wear again. They are modern and

contemporary styles, tea length dresses, and more everyday fabrics. Common styles seen on the runways for the spring

season are open backs, over the shoulder or beautiful necklines, and fun colors as opposed to the common use of pastels.

extravagant detailed bolero. It is a nice touch to a

any outfit- jewelry. Many brides often place little

Broach. The “it” piece this season is having

a broach detail on the dress. It is usually the focal point of the dress.

It’s a hot addition to a gown because it is a

tiny accessory that adds so much detail.

Off the Shoulder. Off the shoulder is a prominent trend in fashion in general. In the wedding dress

industry there is another piece to make a gown pop.

The over the shoulder look adds sophistication and style all rolled into one. It can be an extravagant

floral detail or a simple tulle strap over the January 2010

The main trend in the bridesmaid

Accessory Trends

traditional dress.

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Bridesmaid Dress Trends

Bolero. Bolero’s can be seen on many of the dresses this season- simple lace overlay or an

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day.

It is the final piece that completes

time and attention to choosing what pieces of jewelry will be worn. But, if it done right, the

chosen pieces can make everything come together and pop! Top trends seen with dresses this season

are layering pieces- especially necklaces and

bangle bracelets. Gold is also something you cannot go wrong with this season. Gold has come

back and can be found in many beautiful styles.

Again, seen with wedding dresses, broaches of all

kinds are very popular. Get creative with what you

find and tie it to your bouquet, pin one in your hair.

The draw to broaches as a fashion accessory is that it turns into a keepsake and can be transformed into everyday wear after the wedding day.

beauty plan plan plan

Looking stunning and radiant is what every bride looks forward to on her big day. The more

preparation you can do before the week you walk down the aisle,

the easier it will be. There is so much to get done and cross off the list that brides often forget to

take care of themselves. Keep this list handy to help prepare for the beauty part of your wedding.

Tip 1

Makeup Artist. Consider hiring

a makeup artist. Your everyday

wear makeup is different than your wedding

day makeup. The reflection of the flash on a

aesthetician that can apply a cortisone injection to shrink the blemish.

shimmer shadow or a undereye concealer can

Tip 5

makeup artists and select the one who listens

artists coming, have everything out and in one

really change your photographs. Try out different to your likes and dislikes and uses his or her techniques to make you feel glamorous.

Tip 2

Hair Texture. It is best to work with your natural

texture on your big day. If you are natural curly

Plan ahead. If you have hairdressers and makeup location. That way you are not scrambling at the last second looking for the bag you put the

mascara in that you just purchased. Have rollers

and irons plugged in and ready to go to save time.

or have board straight hair, do not attempt to leap

Tip 6

will happen with your hair after walking outside

changes. Wear makeup you are confident in. Do

from one extreme to the other. Not knowing what

or if you perspire at the reception, it is the safest bet to go natural.

Tip 3

Waterproof Mascara. You either love it or hate it!

Last minute calls. Do not make any last minute not try something new the day of your wedding.

Do not pluck your eyebrows a couples hours

before, as the redness cannot be covered up with makeup.

If you are not a big fan of waterproof mascara,

use your regular mascara and follow it up with a coat of waterproof on top.

Tip 4

The Breakout! The dreaded pimple on the most

important day of your life. Don’t panic. The best plan of attack is to stay away from it and

not touch it. Just do your best with makeup. If it is gigantic, try contacting a dermatologist or

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Ask the doc dental wellness | by dr warren guy The Development of Your Child’s Face

By Warren S. Guy, DDS, PhD

Pediatric Dentistry of East Texas

Takeaway point 2: The overall shape of the face is established early as genetic factors direct

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the shape and size of the neurologic structures in the upper face like the brain and eyes.

The central part of the face develops as part of the

growing airway. An open nasal airway optimizes

and lower teeth in the front of the mouth do not bite together.

The grade school years are important for the

development of the jaws. Permanent teeth erupt.

We want our children to develop beautiful faces

The lower face develops rapidly.

and smiles that promote their future success. Is that

process something we can favorably influence?

What factors might have an unfavorable effect?

During this period a new way to swallow

Compare the faces in the above picture. The

thrust, causes facial growth problems. Airway

newborn head is mostly neurocranium. The face of

develops. Abnormal swallowing, called tongue

the six year old (middle) shows that development

facial growth. Airway obstruction causes certain

preschool years. The early teen’s face is nearly

much of the middle of the face is formed during

around the airway in the midface dominates in

fully formed. Jaw and dental development are the emphasis in the grade school years.

Takeaway point 1: Timing is important.

facial growth abnormalities. Keep in mind that

the preschool years. This in turn will have a major effect on the growth of the jaw and the positions of the teeth in the smile.

Abnormal facial growth begins early in life.

Takeaway point 3: Take advantage of medical

Here is what we cannot change: basic genetic

obstruction and mouth breathing.

patterns. The long narrow face on the left

and surgical interventions early for airway

(dolichofacial) and the short square face on the

Watch for signs of nasal airway obstruction.

Sexual

throat and ear infections, sleep apnea and

right (brachyfacial) are genetically programmed. characteristics

are

as

well. These

tendencies show up early in the shape of the cranium of newborns.

These include snoring, nasal allergies, frequent attention deficit. The upper jaw grows narrow with crowded and protruded incisors. The upper

obstruction continues to be a problem. Normal development and eruption of the teeth gives a

pretty smile. Oral habits like nail biting and thumb sucking play a part.

This is the phase when corrections of developing

abnormalities is most helpful. The upper jaw can be widened. A weak or excessive lower jaw can

be made more harmonious. Teeth can be guided

into place.Habits can be controlled. Grade school

children are more cooperative than teenagers.

Major growth is still taking place. It is much harder to straighten teeth with braces in the teen years after the boney framework is already established.

Takeaway point 4: Do not wait to correct

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From Essentials of Facial Growth, Enlow and Hans, 1996

Do you have a topic you would like to learn more about regarding children’s health? Send us your questions and ideas and we will find a local professional to answer your questions. Email us at editor@tjmag. com.

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child’s play alex and clara keath

Alexandra, 4, and Clara, 2, moved into a new home and her mother wanted to make the rooms just perfect for their personalities. The rooms are adorable.

They provide a lot of color, creativity, and beauty to the girl’s days. Many of the base pieces to the room’s came from the family. Alex and Clara’s mom,

Lacey Keath, says, “This couch and armoire used to be mine when I was a little girl. The chair in the corner came from their grandmother.” The chair was the starting point when choosing colors and patterns for Alexandra’s room. The rooms are adorned with chandeliers. It adds an elegant and a feminine touch.

Lacey did not want that to set the tone for the room, so she was sure to soften it with the pillows, drapes, and linens she chose. To finish off the rooms, there are adorable prints taken by Becki Basham in beautiful, custom frames all around both rooms.

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Kids Konnect new years resolutions

“I want to learn how to read books.”

Trey Huddleston, 4 Nacogdoches

“My New Year’s Resolution is to re-use more stuff so I can help the environment.”

Mason Rasberry, 6 Nacogdoches

“I want to help my little brother learn how to play baseball.”

Hank Warren, 7 Lufkin

“In 2010, I just want to go to Hawaii.”

Anna Huddleston, 7 Nacogdoches

“I want to kill a big buck” James Michael Warren,13 Lufkin

“I want to write a brand new song and teach our dog Max some tricks.”

Blayre Brent, 6 Lufkin

Does your child have a craft, hobby, or interest that they would like to share with other kids their age? Tell us about it by emailing us at editor@tjmag.com.Your child might be featured in a future issue of The Journey!

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Treats and eats super bowl snacks for kids | by felicia dark

At many adult gatherings, children come along for the ride. This Super Bowl season

will most likely not be any different. If you plan on having a party this year, don’t forget about the kids! It is so easy to make things appeal to children. You can take simple finger foods, dress it up, create a nice presentation- and it will be a child magnet! Go one step further and get heart healthy foods.

Here are a few quick ideas for snack foods for kids: Bowl of Individual Fruit--grapes, strawberries, blueberries Bowl of Nuts (do not forget about peanut allergies) Cheese Cubes. Have a little more time? Stick each cube with a pretzel stick.

Celery and Peanut Butter Marshmallows Sandwiches cut out with cookie cutters Popcorn Large pretzel sticks dipped in chocolate Cheese Puffs

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family support questions for counselors

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Q: I am recently divorced. My ex-husband and I are still very young and I know dating is going to be in the future for both of us.We have 2 children, a son, age 5, and a daughter age, 2. What is the best plan to introduce dating to the children? Should we set ground rules together on what the children will see and how little or how much they will get involved in our dating relationships? Or do we just decide individually? My ex and I do not communicate or work well together, so I am not sure if we can agree on rules together. What should we do for the sake of the children?

A: The most important thing after a divorce is that your children are adjusting to their new

situation. You need to remember that it is not natural for them to see mom and dad with anyone other than each other. If you start dating keep your children away until they are ready for someone new in their life. Do not introduce them to everyone that you date. This is very confusing to children. When you do meet someone that you feel will be around for the long term, take it slow when introducing them to your children. Reassure your children that both mom and dad still love them very much even though they are not still together.

They need stability now more than ever. Try not to make the situation anymore confusing for them. The more you and your ex can work together in handling this situation the better it will be for the children.

Christi Rowe, MA, LPC, NCC Â

Would you like a professional opinion about one of your questions? Send your questions to editor@tjmag.com

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why i love being a mom carrie leonard

Shepherd now aim for the Wise man.”

I had long anticipated watching the Disney

fireworks with our boys. I could hardly wait to

hear “When you wish upon a star” as we watch the colors light up the sky. Yes, I had planned

for this moment – it would be great, no, it would be momentous! At the first mention of fireworks, my youngest son began wailing. You

see, neither of my boys like loud noises, they never have. But somehow, I hoped the magic

of Disney would help them overcome this fear.

Instead, we escaped to a quiet restaurant. When

my older son saw how much his mom wanted to watch the show, he put on a pair of earmuffs

Tim, Carrie, Evan and Grant Leonard

“The greatest lesson motherhood has taught me would be to search for joy in what is given rather than what was expected.”

Sometimes things just don’t turn out as planned. “Yes”, I told my mother-inlaw again “I would rather have the fish poacher than a Cuisinart mixer.” After

all, marriage was going to bring out the Julia Child within me and we would eat mainly fish – it’s healthiest after all. Fast-forward 11 years: I’ve burned

out two electric hand mixers, I’m still no Julia Child and that fish poacher is

lying somewhere in the city landfill. In spite of all this, my family still likes it when I cook dinner.

precious moment of sacrifice on his part made

the whole trip more special than I could have ever planned.

Because things didn’t go as planned, I can empathize with the mother struggling to teach her child to use his words instead of his hands, feet or teeth. Likewise, I would never have been blessed with friends that don’t say a word (or better yet laugh) when I explain the red mark on my child’s

forehead is a rug burn - which he made on purpose. As for me, when a child

gets out of the car with gum stuck to their behind and mismatched shoes

My visions of life as a mom were no less grandiose and thankfully it hasn’t worked as planned either – it has been so much better! Motherhood is never short on surprises. In fact, the greatest lesson it has taught me would be to

search for the joy in what is given rather than what was expected. And by all

means laugh a lot. Without a sense of humor and a willingness to share our shortcomings with our friends, we would all feel like lonely failures.

My younger son Grant had repeatedly missed the target with his nerf gun.

His older brother Evan would surely be fed-up soon and stop playing with

him. Instead, I watched unnoticed as he patiently taught his little brother how to aim for the target. So excited to be able to witness one of these

rare moments, I walked closer. “Good Job” – exclaims Evan. “You got the

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because they were allowed to dress themselves, I know instantly that his

mom is a friend. And the opposite is true too, if you’ve got any number of children and your car doesn’t occasionally stink, you probably make me a little nervous.

In all our efforts to prove our skills as a great mom, it’s best to remember that it’s rather endearing when we’re not.

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Parting Advice: I am worried about what my future mother in law will wear to the wedding. She usually dresses more on the risqué side. Am I over reacting or should I be concerned? What is the best way to help her choose something appropriate and what do I say?

Try to plan a day to go dress

mother-in-law will dress. Under the

you bringing it to her attention,

future mother-in-law aren’t dressed

shopping together. Instead of

guise of making sure your mom and

call the shops ahead and let

alike, you could share what your mom is

them know what is going on. Let

wearing and suggest a few shops. Tread

them drop the hints on etiquette

lightly! You surely don’t want to start

and dress wear. That way they

off on the wrong foot with your mother-

are the “bad guys.”

in-law and she just might surprise you with the perfect, elegant outfit.

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The general protocol for the groom’s mother in choosing her dress is to follow the bride’s mother. Once the bride’s mother has selected her dress,

the groom’s mother can go ahead and select her dress. I think discussing with

the bride and her mother, if possible, on color and style of the dress is common

courtesy. Groom’s mother should avoid

dresses in white, ivory, black or red, unless the bride specifically requests

one of these colors. In my opinion everyone should honor the bride’s request as much as possible…it is HER special day!

Kelley Moore

Carlisle Consultant

Yes, you’re probably overreacting! Your best bet is to focus on the things

that you have control over and try not to worry about how your future

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