August/September 2016 Tallahassee Woman

AUGUST/SEPTEMBER 2016

SHE’S ELECTRIC! SHELLY BELL A Principal With a Purpose A Mix Tape of Everything ’80s!

Back to the Future ’80s Style Pour Some Sugar on Me The Truth About Sugar The Future’s So Bright!

The Next Generation Love Is (Not) a Battlefield Tips on Co-Parenting Girls Just Want to Have Fun! Haute Happenings

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contents TWM best of the '80s

Music

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44 Business and Career She Works Hard for the Money

8 Our Thoughts

46 Money Talks

We Loved the ’80s!

Beware of “Get Rich Quick” Schemes—How to Avoid Falling Into the Trap

10 Woman2Woman

48 Our Community

20 Style and Grace

62 Home and Garden

24 Healthy Living

64 The Dish

26 Bodies in Motion

66 Funny Girl

Purple Reign | Get Into the Groove With a Little Ditty | Hair I Go Again | So You Think You Know the ’80s? | She’s Got Bette Davis Eyes—Three Ways to Make Your Eyes Get Noticed | Trending Now—The ’80s Can't Buy Me Love

Back to the Future—1980s Style Is Forever Young

Hanging Tough With the Hang Tough Foundation | HerStory of Tallahassee History | Cards for a Cure Honoree Abby Bender Kirkland | A Look Back...Tallahassee Women in the 1980s | Women We Admire— Talethia Edwards | Haute Happenings | Around Town

Our House: A Radical Remodel of a 1980s Home

Be Part of the Breakfast Club

Pour Some Sugar on Me

A Paperless Society

Let’s Get Physical With Body Electric

28 Real Life

The Power of Love and Collaborative Co-Parenting: Best Friends or Battlefield?

37 Special Feature: The Next Generation The Future’s So Bright, They Gotta Wear Shades

40 Special Feature: Woman of

Philanthropy: Don’t Stop Believin’ in Community Causes

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30 On the Cover

She’s Electric! A Champion for Today’s Electric Youth By Heather Thomas

About the Cover: Photography by Kira Derryberry | Styling by Calynne Hill | Hair by Ivey Whiddon of Studio 5 Hair Studio | Makeup by Leslie McClellan of Makeup Pro Studio | Clothing and accessories provided by Narcissus.

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Dr. Michelle Mitcham, LMHC, NCC, CFM, a professor, life coach, author, psychotherapist and family mediator, founded Courageous Conversations, LLC. She has expertise in diversity, empowerment, vision boards, conflict resolution and family court matters.

Dr. Mitcham regularly presents and speaks at regional, national and international conferences when not teaching at FAMU, where she is the Program Coordinator for Counseling.

WRITERS Dr. Asha Fields Brewer is a speaker, author and radio personality. She combined her love of sports medicine and her faith background to launch the Temple Fit Health organization in 2012. Through her weekly radio show, health empowerment programs, and inspirational speaking engagements, she has equipped communities across the nation to live well.

PHOTOGRAPHERS Kira Derryberry is a Tallahassee-based portrait photographer specializing in families, headshots, boudoir and commercial photography. She books locally in Tallahassee and is available for travel world wide. View her portfolio at kiraderryberry.com.

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hen we decided to do a 1980s-theme issue, the idea generated a lot of excitement and conversation in the TWM office. As many of us started to recall our lives during that time, we realized our personal experiences during that decade included similar fond and funny memories of the music, fashion, entertainment and lifestyle of the ’80s.

As you can see from the pictures of the TWM team below, many of us were in different decades of our lives…children, teenagers, college-aged, mothers-to-be...some were not even born yet. However, we all had one thing in common (besides big hair.) We all recalled something from that era that continues to provide us with wonderful memories and brings us joy.

The ’80s may seem like a long time ago, but the changes that have occurred since then are really quite remarkable for just over three decades of time. To me, the Internet has had the most effect on how different our world is now. And while it has challenges, the Internet has opened our access to the world, resulting in an unprecedented amount of information exchange that I never would have imagined possible.

Because music was such a significant part of the lifestyle then, you will see as you read through (cover to cover as many of our readers like to tell us they do!) that we have themed articles to reflect popular songs of the time. And to keep the fun going throughout August and September, be sure to check out more fabulous memories of the ’80s on TWM’s website, our social media sites and on Cumulus radio station Star 98.9 during Capital Cafe, as TWM sponsors your favorite tunes from the ’80s.

So whatever stage of life you were in during the 1980s, we hope this issue will stir up fond memories of a time in your life when your biggest concern was if you used enough hairspray to keep your big hair looking totally rad.

Until next time,

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PURPLE REIGN

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“Honey, I know, I know, I know, times are changing. It's time we all reach out for something new."—Purple Rain by Prince

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erhaps it’s time to try the power of purple for your wardrobe? Luckily, this year’s trendiest color can be worn in its warmest and coolest shades. A lighter shade of purple offers a more delicate look to any outfit—it’s perfect for the whimsical, free-spirit feel of summer, yet maintains a rich appearance that makes it a great fall color, as seen on the runways in many designers collections’ during New York Fashion Week Fall 2016. And the Fall 2016 Pantone Fashion Color Report recommended shade of purple has the fantastic and fun name of “Bodacious” which sums up how we feel about the color purple!

How to personalize your purple: for the golden goddesses, complement your skin tone with a light lavender sundress. For the fair-skinned beauties, perhaps an orchid top with white shorts or skinny jeans. For a more subtle statement, try a violetcolored clutch for year-round use. Purple tees can be worn with shorts in the summer or under a blazer in the fall. Purple pants are the absolute “it” look this year. Loose-fitting, cuffable purple slacks can be rocked in the office with pumps or at a summer brunch in flats.

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Boost Your Roots—The volume of your hair always begins with the roots.

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Sleep in a Bun—Many women don’t realize the number of hairstyles that can be achieved by styling hair just before bed. You can sleep in a single messy bun, three buns or even braids to wake up with curls. Placing your buns closer to your scalp will give more volume to your roots. Additionally, once you wake up in the morning, you can style your curls in any way you want, brushing them out completely or adding more curls with an iron.

Use Specific Products—This method is certainly more expensive, but it does have its merits. There are hundreds of products,

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woman 2 woman | knowledge

5. In 1981, who became the first woman to be appointed to the U.S. Supreme Court?

A. Geraldine Ferraro B. Sandra Day O’Connor

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C. Florence Griffith Joyner D. Sally Ride

6. Which children’s toy caused the shopping frenzy of the 1983 holiday season?

A. Care Bears B. Cabbage Patch Kids Dolls

C. Nintendo D. Rubik’s Cube

7. What did Madonna perform at the first MTV Video Music Awards in 1984?

A. “Like a Virgin ” B. “Holiday ”

A. CNN B. HBO

C. MTV D. NBC

2. What was the best-selling music album of the ‘80s?

A. Michael Jackson’s Thriller B. Bruce Springsteen’s Born in the U.S.A. C. Whitney Houston’s Whitney Houston D. Bon Jovi’s Slippery When Wet

3. What was the highest grossing movie of the ‘80s?

A. Raiders of the Lost Ark (1981) B. Back to the Future (1985) C. E.T. the Extra-Terrestrial (1982) D. Return of the Jedi (1983)

4. It took 19 years for someone to complete all levels of this popular video game. Which video game is it?

A. Super Mario Bros.

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C. Donkey Kong D. Pac-Man

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8. Which pop star released her debut album in 1985?

A. Cindy Lauper B. Janet Jackson

C. Whitney Houston D. Madonna

9. Which computer software company introduced the first personal computer in 1981?

A. IBM B. Apple

C. Microsoft D. Compaq

10. Which NBC sitcom ran for 11 seasons?

A. Saved by the Bell B. Family Ties

C. The Golden Girls D. Cheers

11. Which fashion trend of the ‘80s was introduced at the 1982 World’s Fair in Knoxville?

A. Ray-Bans B. Jellies

C. Air Jordans D. Stick-on earrings

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1. Which popular cable network made its debut on August 1, 1981?

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ette Davis, one of the greatest actresses in Hollywood history, could blink her perfectly mascaraed eyelashes to “tease and unease,” as the ’80s hit by Kim Carnes reminds us. Get your Bette Davis eyes noticed with these three easy tips.

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Making your lashes as luscious as Bette’s is as easy as 1-2-3. (1) Gently comb your eyelashes. (2) Get an old business card and place it behind your eyelashes. (3) Use your other hand to sweep your mascara brush gently back and forth over your eyelashes. This simple trick can be used to make a drugstore mascara look like a highend Hollywood favorite. It will also leave your eyes looking wider, without having to wake them up with eyeshadow.

2. Shimmery Shades

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more color. If you’re already using a brush to apply your shadows, simply dampen your brush a little with warm water.

This easy trick works with both bright and neutral shades. The hint of warm moisture will add an intensified shimmer to your color and make those eyes pop!

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If you suffer from dark circles, bags, or crow’s feet, then a super-light concealer may be your saving grace. You can grab any concealer as long as it is a lighter color then you would usually use. After you apply the rest of your base makeup, you’ll be left with a light and bright palette to play with. The lighter areas that now surround your eyes will add contrast to whatever shade you choose, giving your eyes that extra “oomph.”

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woman 2 woman | trends

TRENDING NOW:

FA S H I O N • E N T E R TA I N M E N T • C U LT U R E • T E C H N O L O G Y

The ‘80s is not a decade we will soon forget—it certainly left its mark, and we have the ‘80s to thank for inspiring and introducing some of our most popular modern trends. Let’s rewind and walk down the ‘80s memory lane of the people, music and trends that shaped a generation.

Cabbage Patch Dolls, Strawberry Shortcake, Rainbow Bright, Jem, Star Wars action figures, He-Man, G.I. Joe, and Rubik’s Cube.

Video games, Atari, Nintendo and arcade games (Pac-Man, Double Dragon, Street Fighter, Donkey Kong).

Hammer Dance—MC Hammer Break Dancing Michael Jackson’s Moonwalk Thriller The Electric Slide Cabbage Patch The Robot The Worm

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Famous Movie Dance Scenes Swatch watches, Sony Walkman, Boomboxes, VCR (video cassette recorder), disposable cameras, CD players, personal computers

Hair Bands, New Wave, Hip Hop, Prince, Michael Jackson, U2, Bon Jovi, Def Leopard, Journey, Guns N' Roses, Madonna, Cindy Lauper, Janet Jackson, Whitney Houston, The Bangles, Phil Collins, Stevie Wonder, Kool and the Gang, Beastie Boys, and don't forget all the one-hit wonders...

“I Want My MTV”

Music television, or MTV, debuted in 1981,and originally aired music videos almost exclusively. It

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revolutionized the way music was delivered and promoted. The first Video Music Awards (VMAs) show was hosted in 1984, famous for Madonna’s live performance of “Like a Virgin.” Today, MTV has transitioned into a channel for reality programming, with the goal of targeting a younger demographic.

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Footloose Thriller Dirty Dancing Flashdance Big (the life-size keyboard) Ferris Bueller’s Day Off (flash mob) Girls Just Wanna Have Fun

Star Wars The Empire Strikes Back (1980) Raiders of the Lost Ark (1981) Fast Times at Ridgemont High (1982) E.T. (1982) Blade Runner (1982) Return of the Jedi (1983) National Lampoon’s Vacation (1983) Flashdance (1983) Valley Girl (1983) Scarface (1983) Sixteen Candles (1984) Ghostbusters (1984) The Terminator (1984) Gremlins (1984) Karate Kid (1984) Back to the Future (1985)

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Growing Pains, Who’s the Boss?, Diff’rent Strokes, Cheers, The Cosby Show, The Golden Girls, The Facts of Life, Family Ties, Knight Rider, The A-Team, Miami Vice, Magnum P.I., Punky Brewster, The Love Boat, Fantasy Island, Dallas

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The Goonies (1985) Pretty in Pink (1986) Aliens (1986) Platoon (1986) Ferris Bueller’s Day Off (1986) Top Gun (1986) Dirty Dancing (1987) Coming to America (1988) Die Hard (1988) Big (1988) When Harry Met Sally (1989)

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his year’s most talked about trends pay tribute to one of the most inventive and expressive clothing decades to date, with MTV videos being the runway for many iconic ’80s looks.

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style & grace Neon accents absolutely electrified the ’80s video fashion scene. Today you can wear it to brighten up your summer wardrobe, or to accessorize an all-white minimalist outfit.

Stay forever young in your favorite jeans, which can be rocked all year ‘round in either loose boyfriend style or with a faded light-washed jacket.

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Madonna, the quintessential Material Girl, rocked the material of leather in “Borderline.” Leather is a perfectly fierce transition piece that is worn as a jacket over an off-the-shoulder relaxed t-shirt, also an ’80s staple.

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healthy living

“Pour Some Sugar on Me”

By Dr. Asha Fields Brewer

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t has caused many a woman to question the late-night activities of her spouse. It has tempted the most dedicated to taking the long way home. Our youth are even hiding it from their parents at younger and younger ages. What is the culprit?

Sugar.

Going by its formal name of “carbohydrates,” sugar is regarded as the primary fuel source of healthy bodies. The brain, heart, muscles and other organs prefer carbohydrates to other sources of energy. However, going by the stage name of “sugar,” the guilty party has been given the bad rap of causing weight gain, liver disease and diabetes.

If it was just the ice cream causing our ill health, we might be in better shape.

Why? Because we all grow up knowing confectionary foods are to be enjoyed sparingly. The issue is that not every sugar is hot, sticky or sweet. Frequently used items such as salad dressings, sauces, yogurts and flavored drinks contain hidden sugars. Unbeknownst to many consumers, we are smothering the health out of our food. Some believe we have the marketing industry to thank for this mass deception.

Children are a target demographic for marketers, because they “shape the buying patterns of their families,” according to Dr. Sandra Calvert’s spring 2008 article in The Future of Children. Calvert further mentions, “Paid advertising to children primarily involves television spots that

feature toys and food products, most of which are high in fat and sugar and low in nutritional value.”

The Federal Trade Commission, a governmental regulation agency, launched restrictions against youth-targeted sugar marketing in the late 1970s. But these restrictions were swiftly retracted, due to lobbying from the food industry, as recorded by the Journal of Health Politics, Policy, and Law’s April 2010 issue. What is even more unfortunate is that children have developed an affinity for both blatantly sugary and inconspicuously sugary foods alike. Some would even call it an addiction.

Regardless of the source—money, praise, drugs, food, etc.—the brain registers all pleasurable experiences in the same way. Harvard Medical School warns us in the July 2011 article “How Addiction Hijacks the Brain” that addiction changes the brain by “subverting the way it registers pleasure.” You are likely not surprised that sugar makes our pleasure centers light up brighter than a Def Leppard sound stage. Remember how it felt to bring home smiley-faces from preschool and be rewarded with a cookie?

Or maybe you remember the anticipation of earning a kid’s meal—complete with a burger, soda, and fries—in exchange for a good report card? While our parents meant well, this reward system taught us to register good behavior not as a noble act, but as a way to feed our pleasure center. After decades of reinforcement, it

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is no wonder that we have such an issue with sugar as adults.

Despite the marketing tactics, the addictions, and the 1980s telling us to keep pouring it on, how do we get out of this sugary mess? One easy method is to swap out hidden sugars for real food: • Homemade salad dressing—Most of our favorite salad dressings are laden with sugar. Make your own dressing with olive oil, vinegar and herbs.

• Sauce boss—From ketchup to barbecue sauce, our favorite meats are often accompanied by sugar. Try making your own sauce with combinations of herbs, citrus fruits and a bit of unsweetened applesauce or honey. This way you have more control over how much sugar you ingest.

• Smarter smoothies—A number of smoothie establishments include sugar as one of their ingredients. Ask your favorite smoothie bar to hold the sugar or use a little less, so you can enjoy the more natural fruit sugar instead.

• Spa water—Water-flavoring powders and liquids and other flavored drinks also sneak in some sugar. Instead, use fruit to flavor your water, like you have seen at the spa. Then add an earthy twist with mint or basil leaves. Feel free to pour this lightly sweetened beverage as often as you wish.

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bodies in motion

LET’S GET PHYSICAL WITH BODY ELECTRIC

By Michelle R. Nickens

I sing the body electric I celebrate the me yet to come I toast to my own reunion When I become one with the sun

After seeing exercise in a new way while visiting South Florida, Margaret Richard came back to Tallahassee and decided that the concept of dance could revolutionize exercise. And it did. Some view Body Electric as the impetus to the aerobics movement and many of the exercise programs we have today.

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Body Electric took off in Tallahassee and grew into a PBS-broadcast show. Our very own Jane Marks (local psychotherapist and wife of former Mayor John Marks and) was one of the original Body Electric dancers. “Body Electric changed how we viewed exercise,” Jane explained. “It was fun—high energy. The music made you want to move.”

–Excerpt of lyrics from “I Sing the Body Electric” from FAME

he reference to “I sing the body electric” was originally from a poem

by Walt Whitman. It was one of the 12 poems in the first edition of Whitman’s Leaves of Grass. In the poem, Whitman explores the body, its connection to the soul, sensuality and the unanimity of all of us. It is not surprising, therefore, that Body Electric—an exercise movement that emerged in the ’80s—focuses on moving the body in a healthy and beneficial way as well as the love for life and for each other.

Taking its theme song from the television show FAME was also apropos. The ladies of Body Electric were like stars to many of its followers, and the show continues to leave its legacy.

Jane started dancing in her thirties. “My husband actually bought me my first leotard and even found a class for me—a ballet class. But it wasn’t right for me.”

Body Electric brought the high energy this fast-paced and active woman was seeking. “When Margaret started Body Electric, it mushroomed. The classes were

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packed. It was the first time that exercise didn’t feel like exercise. It was more than exercise. We built camaraderie,” Jane said.

“There was a sense of belonging. It grew into a sisterhood, where women could go to be themselves—to express themselves through the freedom of dance.”

Body Electric became so popular, Margaret was approached about filming the classes. It was first filmed locally but then transitioned to PBS. More than 400 stations across the country aired the show.

“We were like mini-celebrities. It was a taste of the entertainment world,” Jane explained. “Sometimes we would film until 1 or 2 in the morning. We didn’t care. We did it out of love—the love of dance and for each other.”

In the midst of this success, some people were critical. “There were so many rules on what you should do and wear and act,” Jane explained. “Thirty was defined as older. People would comment about our outfits. We wore leg warmers and spandex. I loved leg warmers—had them

in every color. Mostly, though, what we were doing was well-received. We didn’t realize it at the time, but we were changing the way people thought—and not just about exercise.

We were changing the rules.”

There are so many benefits of exercise. Staying active not only keeps you strong and toned, it is an important component of your overall health management program. It reduces stress, boosts energy and improves your mood and outlook. It builds confidence and self-esteem. Sometimes, it even results in lifelong friendships.“Those ladies are still my friends,” Jane said. “Even today we get together.”

Jane served as an assistant to Margaret, auditioning dancers at her home and working to coordinate logistics and routines for the program. She participated in Body Electric for 25 years, and it is still going strong.

Jane takes four or five Zumba classes a week and teaches a Throwback Thursday Zumba class with ’80s and ’90s music. “You have to set priorities.

Dance is important to me. Teaching helps me stick with it.”

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real life

The Power of Love and Collaborative Co-Parenting: Best Friends or Battlefield?

By Dr. Michelle A. Mitcham, LMHC, NCC, CCMHC, CFM

reaking up is hard to do, right? Separate lives, broken wings and shattered dreams. Whether through divorce or dissolution of a committed relationship, challenges are inevitable—now add children to the equation. Children are also in need of some emotional first-aid and healing.

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You may be wondering, what’s in the best interest of the children? Even though the love for each other has changed, the love for the children and need to be parents lasts forever. Coparents must make a decision not to enter into a combat zone and go onto the battlefield.

They are hurting, adjusting, grieving, worrying and trying to understand, if old enough to be aware of the breakup. What about when children are caught in the middle of co-parenting high conflict? Children may be devastated and traumatized as a result of the parents’ negative behaviors. Parents are oftentimes so engulfed in the physical, legal, financial and psychological divorce that their attention is taken away from the children’s needs.

Parents may be bitter, contentious, resentful, angry and even depressed. This is a tough time for the family, friends—everyone.

The co-parents may seek professional interventions if they are not able to come together in a civil manner and move forward collaboratively. Parents choose to be helpful or hurtful; it is up to them. Their reality with the other parent is usually not their child’s reality.

How do two people once in love move on with their lives when they have to also be parents and engage in shared parental responsibility? It is not easy. This may be the most difficult challenge they have ever faced. Co-parents should act as a united front, in one accord—communicating, collaborating and caring all while dealing with the myriad changes in their lives.

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Here are some guidelines to help co-parents move forward collaboratively as a “united front” and act in the best interest of their children.

• Communicate with each other directly (telephone, e-mail, text messages, face-to-face meetings) and not through the children, which is hurtful and damaging. If this is not an option at present, consider utilizing a parenting notebook whereby

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• Both parents should attend school meetings, functions, team sports events— consider sitting together.

• Take the high road at all times and be a role model. When parents are putting forth great effort as co-parents, oftentimes, others are not even aware of the breakup or divorce.

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She’s Electric!

A Champion for Today’s Electric Youth

By Heather Thomas | Photography by Kira Derryberry | Styling by Calynne Hill

“Life moves pretty fast.

If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”

—From Ferris Bueller’s Day Off There aren’t a lot of opportunities for a “day off” for Shelly Bell, principal of Godby High School, but she does take a moment with Tallahassee Woman to look around at the positive impact she’s making at Godby, along with the changes in the school environment and women’s leadership roles in higher education since the 1980s. Despite the challenges she faces on any given day, Shelly strives to love and serve her family, students, faculty and the school community and to not miss out on impactful opportunities to invest in the lives of today’s electric youth.

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on the cover

“Good Morning!

Welcome to another day of higher education!”

—From Pretty in Pink

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t 5:00 a.m., Shelly Bell’s alarm clock goes off. Her day (and sometimes the night) of leading close to 1,300 students and over a hundred faculty and staff members as principal of Godby High School has only just begun. By 6:00 a.m., she is at her desk doing as much office work as she can before heading to the parent and school bus dropoff areas to greet students as they arrive and check in on the students in the cafeteria. With two sons of her own, Taylor who is 11 and Parker who is 12, she understands the confidence that parents place in her and the school staff in entrusting their children into their care. “Parents and guardians are opening their doors and sending us their most precious gifts. When people ask me, ‘How many children do you have?’ I always answer, ‘1,300.’ My Godby students are my babies too.”

After the morning announcements at 7:30 a.m., Shelly illustrates in one of many ways how she does her best to balance being a “mom” of hundreds and also a mother to her boys,

by calling home to make sure Parker has woken up and gotten himself ready to make it to the bus stop. “There have been days when my kids have been sick and they’ve slept in my office because I have to be here. You can’t buy in only halfway at the high school level. There has to be a 100 percent commitment by me and my family.” Shelly’s husband, Ricky Bell, also serves the Leon County school district as Director of Interdivisional Support Services. “I’m incredibly lucky to have a husband who understands my responsibilities at the higher-education level.”

This commitment is not for the faint of heart. On a typical day, the majority of her time is spent meeting with teachers, parents and students and she visits as many classrooms as she can for teacher/ student observations, along with visiting the guidance department to check in with students and counselors. She is especially committed to meeting with students to look at their academic progress and help them problem-solve. “A ‘one-sizefits-all’ approach does not work. It’s our role to figure out what each child needs and to give them as much support and individualized attention as we can. A lot of what I do is in a counseling capacity.”

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teenagers so they believe that you are invested in their future. It takes thousands of hours and a daily devotion to the overall goal of uplifting each student to his or her fullest potential and leading teachers, administrators and staff members to do the same. Add in the challenges of an environment where you can be yelled at, cursed at, and confronted by angry parents and students; handle bomb and gun threats, and prepare for worst-case scenarios that make parents and communities shudder in fear, and you would need incredible strength.

“In my job, I can’t always be the ‘yes’ person. Over time and with experience, I’ve learned how to maintain control of a tense situation or I’d be an emotional wreck. I have to be strong for my teachers and my students. I’m their advocate.”

“I just want them to know that they didn’t break me.” —From Pretty in Pink Where did Shelly’s emotional fortitude and commitment come from? Shelly’s father, a colonel in the Air Force, and Shelly’s mother, a middle school and high school teacher for over 30 years are clearly pivotal figures for her. She says,

“...With the unwavering support of the district, my team at Godby, and my family, I’ve been able to become the principal that others saw in me. I’m grateful to be in this role and wouldn’t want to be anywhere else.”

“Growing up in the 1980s, we moved around a lot due to my father’s tours in the military, so I was very adaptive to change. Both of my parents worked really hard, and education was always at the forefront in our home. My mother was a wonderful working-mom role model for me, juggling a demanding teaching career, whose students loved her while raising four children.” Shelly’s twin sister, Julie Lawson, an assistant principal at Deerlake Middle School, was also a source of influence, because of their competitive natures. “I often say that my love of learning and leadership stemmed from my competition with her!”

After graduating with a degree in english education from Florida State University, Shelly did her first internships at Cobb Middle School, SAIL High School and Godby High School. She then taught at Belle Vue Middle School for three years while also working on her master's in

educational leadership at Florida State University. “I loved working with my students, but I wanted to transition to a leadership role in which I could impact more than just one classroom.”

While she served as the assistant principal at Bond Elementary, a Title I school, for three years, Shelly’s leadership strength became abundantly evident as she navigated the challenges of a student population that came from predominately disadvantaged backgrounds. And then, only eight months after her mother’s cancer diagnosis, Shelly took charge of her mother’s final days and the funeral arrangements. It was a traumatic time for the close-knit family, but Shelly remembers an inner power that permeated her actions. “I focused on helping to hold up my family, and that became my own source of strength at home and at school.”

Four years ago, when Shelly was only 33 years old and after just completing her fourth year as principal of Cobb Middle School, she was offered the principal position at Godby High School. “The district leaders saw something in me that at the time I wasn’t quite sure I saw in myself. I felt like a high school freshman coming in to essentially run a struggling company with over 1,000 people. With the unwavering support of the district, my team at Godby and my family, I’ve been able to become the principal that others saw in me. I’m grateful to be in this role and wouldn’t want to be anywhere else.”

Being a principal of a high school is a position that only a handful of women in the county have held since the 1980s.

Shelly is serving in the post-Columbine, 9/11 and standardized testing eras— where school safety concerns are at an alltime high and state testing pressures are at a boiling point. “In school administration, you have to be confident in your ability to handle the day-to-day pressures and crisis situations, whether it’s a student who pulls a fire alarm right before the end-ofthe-day bell is supposed to ring, a water line breaking during finals week, a kid in your office who breaks down

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on the cover from emotional burdens that he or she is too young to carry or a teacher who needs encouragement after going through a hard time.

It’s like a warrior going into battle, but you are fighting for the students and faculty who depend on you to be a strong leader.”

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Now a “B”-rated school, Godby is thriving under Shelly’s leadership. Besides the daily pressures, the question still remains of why more women aren’t at the helms of local high schools. “My children were 7 and 8 when I first started at Godby. Even though it’s somewhat easier now that they are older, I work 50 to 60 hours a week, which makes it difficult balancing being a mom and a wife. This is a total family commitment, and that may be what keeps more women from pursuing this position.

Unless the support network is there, it would be incredibly difficult to maintain this schedule. I’m grateful for the people in my life who help me be the best principal I can be.”

"There’s no TV! Have you seen a TV? I haven’t seen a TV. Do you know what it means when there is no TV? No MTV." —From The Lost Boys The experiences of the teen years reflected in the movies, music videos and culture of the 1980s in some ways haven’t changed,

and in other ways they have. The overall culprit of change in higher education is technology. “Technology has changed everything—the way curriculum is delivered, how we communicate, the way we access information and the skills that students need to learn today in order to be successful in the digital age.”

Some of the differences are tangible in a tactile way—students rarely use or need lockers, they text instead of talk on the phone (and just having mobile phones, period), and the information is no longer found or researched in books.

You can’t do anything without everyone knowing, and a student can take a test on the computer and get instant results.

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our students. This is normal for them. We want to provide an environment that is stable, so that no matter what is going on in their lives or the outside world, they know they can depend on us.”

“Feel the power you see the energy comin’ up, coming on strong. The future only belongs to the future itself, in the hands of itself, and the future is Electric Youth. It’s true you can’t fight it, live by it, the next generation...it’s electric!”—From Debbie Gibson’s "Electric Youth" This August will be Shelly’s thirteenth year in school administration, with nine of those serving in a principal capacity. No matter what school grade Godby gets or what standardized tests say about her students’ academic performance or what the future holds for Shelly professionally, she does not plan to waver from her goal of making sure every student in her life knows that she believes in them. “My kids are going to be successful no matter what. We have to teach them that they are so much more than where they come from or what score they get on a test. We are training them to go beyond tests and pressures at home and whatever that future holds—to be mothers, fathers, husbands, wives, leaders in the community and contributors to our workforce.” Quoting Debbie Gibson’s ’80s pop hit song, “Electric Youth,” Shelly says, “Our students are our community’s electric youth. We can all be energized and inspired by their passion and their hope for something better.”

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The pressures on today’s high school students are enormous. Many students work one, sometimes two part-time jobs while balancing college-credit courses and intense academic requirements. Shelly endeavors to hire the best teachers, provide them professional development and make sure everyone is doing their part to build one-on-one relationships with students. “We want to know when they are upset and what their struggles are at home. We’ll send food home with them, help their family find ways to pay the electric bill and sometimes even find homes for the ones who have nowhere to go. We want our students to know we truly care. I’m proud of our faculty and what they do and the amount of time they give to our students. Some things have changed over the years, but the transformative power of people caring about you will never change.”

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special feature | the next generation

A ma ra A hmed—Science Wanting to make a difference in this world, Amara Ahmed decided to pursue medicine.

“Science is constantly evolving,” she said, “I’m always working to motivate other students to keep studying, join clubs and get involved in the community.” Before graduating first in her class from the International Baccalaureate program at James S. Rickards High School, Amara acted as vice president of the Science National Honor Society, won 13 medals in regional and state Science Olympiad competitions and served as founder and president of the Rickards chapter of the American Red Cross. Amara also gained valuable experience volunteering in four different units at Tallahassee Memorial HealthCare and numerous other health care settings where she learned about the humanistic aspect of medicine.

“I think it’s so important to not only treat the illness but to address other factors, such as socioeconomic status or finding housing and jobs,” said Amara.

Outside of science, Amara enjoys playing the piano, painting and learning about other cultures. She has attended Model United Nations Conferences, where she represented Rwanda in a mock United Nations assembly. “I love learning more about the world, and I think embracing cultural diversity is really important,” she said. Her humanitarianism developed during her time as a Key Club member at her high school, where she helped provide food for the homeless, conduct toy drives, participated in school and park clean-ups and led members as committee chair of Finances and committee chair of Membership of the club.

Recently Amara’s academics and community service were recognized at the 2016 Best & Brightest Awards, where she won in the Science & Health category. Now graduated from high school, she is planning to pursue premedical studies at Florida State University in the fall. “The end goal is to become a physician, serve my community and become a better human being in the process,” said Amara, “It’s so important to give back, and as a physician, I’d have the ability to care for people directly.” With her family and friends behind her, Amara urges others to find a support system that lifts them up when times get hard. “My parents always reminded me that just because you have a bad day or a bad moment doesn’t mean that should take you off track,” said Amara, “You should always keep moving toward your dreams one step at a time.”

Z ena ni Johnson—Communi ty L eader Since the age of 5, Zenani Johnson has always felt a calling to help the community. The 18-year old’s passion is advocacy and education and says that “We’ve already been given everything we need to make our communities better. We’ve got to do the work ourselves.”

A recent graduate from James S. Rickards High School’s International Baccalaureate program, she is a three-time U.S. Presidential Volunteer Service Award recipient, twotime Congressional Award winner and a recipient of the Governors Champion of Service award.

Zenani used her community engagement and leadership acumen to bring “I Talk to Strangers” and “Teens and the Law” events to her school. In her own words, Zenani feels “Honored and empowered knowing that my Teens and the Law program will make teens feel more safe and comfortable when interacting with law enforcement. I feel good knowing that I may have positively impacted someone’s life through this program.”

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Zenani has spent hundreds of hours speaking about critical issues that impact the youth here. Currently serving as an ambassador for the Youth Health Leadership Council, she strives to help the youth of Tallahassee to understand the importance of overall good health. This fall, she will be attending the University of West Florida and major in Psychology and Criminal Justice.

Zenani’s passion for helping the community is sure to bring her even greater happiness and success in the future. “That’s what we’re here for,” she says, “To help one another.”

Cel i ta Summa — Journal ism A Tallahassee native who graduated from Florida High, Celita Summa’s natural talent for writing is what led her Florida High English teacher to encourage her to take up journalism. An Advanced Placement student with over 400 hours of community service under her belt, she found it was writing that allowed her to express herself.

“Journalism is definitely my passion,” said Celita. “I like being able to articulate my thoughts. Also, with journalism, there’s a sense of community that I love being a part of.” Her hard work and dedication while acting as editor-in-chief of her high school newspaper recently earned her the Best & Brightest Award for journalism.

This award was also granted, in part, because of Celita’s impressive list of extracurricular activities, which all began with

her participation in her school’s Key Club. “Once I started serving my community, I started to expand and branch out to other projects, like writing a historiography and assisting at the animal shelter. I was targeting my own interests while still making a difference,” said Celita, “It’s important to realize that once you expand your horizons beyond the scope of yourself, you learn to be grateful for what you have and help others who may not have those things.”

Hoping to guide other young professionals, she participated in the competitive Summer Youth Training program in 2014, which trains young people on how to join the workforce.

Celita continued to pave her own path last year after being chosen to attend the Chuck Stone Program for Diversity in Education and Media on a full scholarship at the School of Media and Journalism at UNC-Chapel Hill. This year she’ll be starting at Florida State University, where hopes to continue her career in journalism by majoring in editing, writing, and media. Her advice to others writing their own destiny: “Take advantage of resources that you’re offered, and make sure you’re networking and building ties with people and making the most of those connections.”

A ria na Tra utma nn—Medicine Ariana Trautmann’s journey towards medicine is a personal one. She was 11 years old when her brother, who was 14 at the time, was diagnosed with cancer. “Up until then, I had only associated cancer as an affliction of the elderly,” said Ariana.

“Not only was my brother suffering from it, but there were far too many other sick children at the hospital, some of whom were not as lucky as he was to make it to remission.” It was the feeling of helplessness she experienced while watching her brother fight for his life that motivated Ariana to pursue medicine at Florida State University’s (FSU) College of Medicine, where she is now a first year med student.

As a high school student at Lawton Chiles High School, Ariana created a Relay for Life team called, “Siblings of Survivors” which she has led for the past seven years. In addition, she has shadowed doctors at Capital Regional Medical Center Wound Care Center and worked as a scribe at the Tallahassee Memorial HealthCare emergency room which has impacted her greatly. “It is through all my past experiences and a medical mission’s trip to Nicaragua, that I learned the great value of emotional, as well as medical support for families fighting all illnesses,” she said. “It’s important to step beyond the world that you know and extend services to those underserved and in desperate need of medical treatment and attention.”

Ariana would continue to learn valuable lessons while navigating the challenges she had to face leading up to taking the Medical College Admission Test (MCAT). Upon learning that she still needed two additional subjects in order to be fully prepared for the MCAT, a rigorous and extensive test, Ariana had to teach herself biochemistry and physics. “It was intense but I stuck with it and I’m glad I did,” she said. “I’m definitely very proud of getting into FSU's College of Medicine.” She’s particularly appreciative of her fellow classmates and her family for providing support through difficult times. “My desire to become a doctor comes from the possibility of making a difference in someone else’s life,” she said, “If it’s something you really want, you have to keep going for it. Don’t ever give up on your dreams!” Hoping to make a difference at home, Ariana has been working with the Hang Tough Foundation and has started a chapter of this foundation at FSU in an effort to get the college community involved by helping families in our area who are affected by pediatric illness. tallahassee woman • august/september 2016 39

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WOMEN OF “Don’t Stop Believin’ ”in PHILANTHROPY: Community Causes

By Sara Dreier

Philanthropy is an all-encompassing lifestyle and entails so much more than writing a donation check. Being a philanthropist takes time, energy and, most importantly, wholeheartedness. Here, we take the time to acknowledge the tremendous growth and prosperity Tallahassee is experiencing, all thanks to passionate leaders and role models in the community.

“The success of every woman should be an inspiration to the rest.”— Serena Williams

ALEXIS “LEX” PHILLIPS

When a woman in the Tallahassee community is a thriving leader and a generous giver, she deserves the spotlight, and thirty-five-year-old Alexis “Lex” Phillips is such a person. Director of

AMANDA MORRISON

Talented home chef, marketing guru and social butterfly, Amanda Morrison has combined her expertise in business and a passion for delicious food to create her dream career. As co-owner and managing partner of Social Catering & Events and popular event space, The Gathering,

Communications at Rogers, Gunter, Vaughn Insurance, Lex has been in the business of marketing for 11 years and continues to thrive in the industry.

When she’s not working, Lex dedicates her time as board chair for the United Way of the Big Bend. With locations all over the nation, United Way seeks to “advance the common good by creating opportunities for all.” United Way of the Big Bend, specifically, serves eight counties across Florida. By focusing on education, income and health, the organization provides a sector for young professionals to volunteer, precisely where Lex found her niche. As an active member, she has the vision to engage young professionals in the Tallahassee community to give their time and

resources. The organization has set aside “Days of Doing,” during which members will participate in a canned food drive, read to children at local schools or raise money to provide books and educational tools.

Amanda’s job is to fulfill what it really means to eat, drink and be merry. Many times, catering companies fall into the trap of sacrificing quality to satisfy the masses. This is certainly not the case with Social Catering, as Amanda makes a point to take the restaurant experience and apply it anywhere.

have helped countless other no-profits create successful, creative fundraisers.

Amanda makes networking a priority; she attends every event and is more than willing to have lunch or coffee with anyone looking to partner. Her advice to young professionals: “The best way for young people to start in philanthropy when you don’t have the finances to write a big donation check. Instead, take your energy, ideas and creativity and use those to inject life into a nonprofit that’s been established but may have grown stagnant or isn’t reaching the millennial audience.”

When she’s not developing custom menus running her business or meeting with prospective partners, Amanda admits her favorite time of the day is when she gets to go home and cook for her family.

The Gathering is a sister company of Madison Social, a popular restaurant by day and bar by night. What sets the company apart from the rest? “We established early on that Madison Social would be a partner in the community,” said Amanda. By partnering with local charities and catering their events, Social Catering operates with a philanthropic mentality. This will be their second year catering at the Wish Upon A Star event for the Children’s Home Society, and they

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When Lex isn’t working or volunteering for United Way, she’s attending meetings on weekends as Management Director for the Junior League of Tallahassee.

Determined to improve the community and encourage other young professionals, Lex uses her leadership skills to mold and prepare future leaders in the community.

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As part of a community of business-minded women, Tallahassee Woman wants to celebrate, recognize and honor the achievements made by women in the workplace, in the community. In doing so, we are connecting women together, empowering one another and celebrating our successes that are making a difference for everyone.

WOMEN TO WATCH

BUSINESS Marcy Collins has been named President of Business & Professional Women (Tallahassee) for 2016–2017. Marcy is operations administrator at Florida Restaurant & Lodging Association’s Regulatory Compliance Services.

Jamila Campbell has opened her business Natural Nomad, a mobile massage studio offering various massage techniques. She recently moved to Tallahassee from Washington, DC, where she practiced massage for nearly a decade. She has been licensed in Florida since 2015.

WOMEN TO WATCH Kristen McDonald has recently joined Hill+Knowlton Strategies as an account supervisor. In her new role, Kristen will support the firm’s public affairs work. Prior to this position, she was the communications director for the Office of the Majority Leader in the Florida House of Representatives and was named one of the “30 Under 30 Rising Stars in Florida Politics” in 2014, by SaintPetersBlog. Kristen holds master’s and bachelor’s degrees in political science from Florida State University.

Christy Crump is serving her fourth year and final term as president of Business & Professional Women (Florida). Christy is director of operations at Florida Restaurant & Lodging Association’s Regulatory Compliance Services.

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New to Tallahassee, Dr. Valarie Dozier earned her bachelor’s degree in biological science from the University of Nebraska. She then sought out her dental degree from the University of Nebraska Medical Center, graduating in 2016. In order to provide the best care and improve her patients’ overall health, Dr. Dozier is continually educating herself on the latest techniques to improve her skills, which gives patients confidence in their smiles. She is a member of the American Dental Association (ADA), the Academy of General Dentistry (AGD) and the American Association of Women Dentists (AAWD), as well as the American Dental and Political Action Committee (ADPAC). Dr. Dozier is happily married to husband Cory, whose career is in photography. In her spare time, she enjoys volleyball, traveling, anything outside and being with friends and family.

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business & career

She Works Hard for the Money

By Keasi Smith

D

uring the 1970s and 1980s, the number of women in the United States labor force soared. Since this immersion into the workforce, women have tackled a number of issues, including equal pay, workplace harassment and working around family-career interruptions. Cinema in the 1980s reflected these struggles with films such as 9 to 5 (1980), Baby Boom (1987) and Working Girl (1988). Even now these movies feel fresh, because even though workplace culture and policies have improved tremendously since their debut, there is still progress to be made.

9 to 5: Toxic Workplace Environments

A comedy starring Jane Fonda, Lily Tomlin and Dolly Parton, 9 to 5 illustrates an adverse work environment where they are subjected to sexist remarks and sexual harassment as well as denied promotions based on their gender. After kidnapping their boss, the women seize control of the company and implement equal pay, flexible hours, a job-sharing program and a daycare center. Almost four decades later, full-time female workers make only 79 cents for every dollar earned by a man. And while many companies have implemented sexual harassment policies it has been harder to stomp out more subtle, everyday slights and gender expectations. Besides campaigning for women in the workplace through legislation and the implementation of better workplace policies, you can shut down sexism in the workplace by speaking up when you feel you aren’t

being heard or taken seriously or are undermined. More important, encourage your male and female coworkers to take on a zero tolerance policy.

Baby Boom: Can We Have It All?

After becoming a single parent through inheriting a child, J.C. Wiatt, played

by Diane Keaton, struggles to keep up with her demanding career working at an advertising firm. Today, women still bear a disproportionate amount of responsibility for childcare and housework, which can often lead to missed career opportunities. A 2013 Pew Research Center survey found that mothers with children under 18 were three times more likely than fathers to say that being a working parent made it harder for them to advance in their careers, either by turning down a promotion, reducing work hours or quitting. Some may just attribute this to the way the world is and insist that making sacrifices is the norm, but I’ll argue that providing flexible hours, the ability to work from home and childcare would allow a woman to not only do her job, but do it better. These types of initiatives can impact our communities in an amazing way and increase a company’s productivity and, thus, its profits.

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Working Girl: Climbing the Ladder

As Tess McGill, played by Melanie Griffith, learned in the movie Working Girl, climbing the corporate ladder isn’t easy when there are systematic barriers in your way. Although not legal, hiring and promotion processes may favor men, and lack of support and role models often deter women from seeking these positions in the first place. Polls show that Americans find women leaders indistinguishable from men in traits such as intelligence and capacity for innovation and that they excel in areas such as compassion and organization. Still, according to Fortune.com, in 2016 women occupied only 21 percent of Fortune 500 board seats and held 4.2 percent of CEO positions. In fact, there are 24 Fortune 500 companies that have zero female directors altogether. While Tess chooses to impersonate a senior executive to get ahead, there are other ways to shatter glass ceilings. Find a mentor, whether it’s someone you know or a prominent woman you’d like to emulate.

Also, network, especially with other women. And lastly, don’t forget to ask for what you want. If you can’t get the promotion you’re seeking, don’t be afraid to accept a position elsewhere where there’s more room for advancement.

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Beware “Get Rich Quick” Schemes How to Avoid Falling Into the Trap

By Brooke Harrison

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he 1980s have previously been dubbed “the decade of greed.”

Following the economic recession of the 1970s, which was characterized by war, crime and inflation, it makes sense that Americans were all about money.

Picture Tom Cruise in Risky Business, desperate to get rich quick, or Michael Douglas in Wall Street who famously coined, “Greed is good.” This desire for easy wealth is not an uncommon struggle, which is perhaps why “get rich quick” schemes are something to watch out for in every decade.

A “get rich quick” scheme refers to the concept that with a small investment, one might obtain a high rate of return.

In other words, this type of scam might promise big bucks for something that requires little time, effort or risk on the part of the investor (you).

Perhaps the most recognizable examples of “get rich quick” schemes are Ponzi and pyramid schemes. According to the U.S. Securities and Exchange Commission (SEC), these scams rely on “robbing one person to pay another.” As long as the scam continues to entice new investors, there is money to pay off the original investors. This type of scheme cannot be sustained, because it collapses when there are no new investors and everyone’s money is in the pockets of the fraudsters.

This fallout is exactly what happened in San Diego, California, in the 1980s, when it was discovered that J. David Dominelli’s trading and investing company was a Ponzi scheme. Of the $200 million he took for himself, only $120 million was returned to investors.

Therefore, $80 million belonging to the

investors was lost. Since then, the losses of more recent events, such as the Bernie Madoff scandal, have far exceeded those of Dominelli’s.

It’s easy to think, “This wouldn’t happen to me,” but you’d be surprised by the number of intelligent people who still unknowingly fall into this trap. So how does one guard against these seemingly gratifying “get rich quick” schemes? Keep reading for strategies to avoid these scams.

Do your own research.

Know exactly what you’re getting into by doing your own investigation and independent research. It’s not as difficult as you might think to perform your own “background check” of sorts. Go online to check a company’s credentials and financial statements with the SEC. Read the company’s prospectus, a document that details how and where your money is being invested. (And if there is no prospectus, that’s probably a red flag.)

Ask questions about things you don’t understand.

Don't forget that it’s your money and your investment, and it’s completely within your rights to monitor your account. Is there an exit strategy? Be sure to ask. You want to know how to get out if it comes to that. And, of course, don’t be afraid to talk to a third party—a trusted friend or advisor who would give you an unbiased opinion or advice.

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Be patient—take your time to make a decision.

Be skeptical. Be cautious. Take the time you need to conduct your research or to ask questions. Be thoroughly informed, prepared and confident before signing on the dotted line or handing over your money. Don’t allow yourself to be pressured into taking action before you’re ready.

In the end, there is no big reward or high payout. When it comes to “get rich quick” schemes, “investment” is merely a disappearing act. Worst-case scenario, you’ll have less money than you started with. Arm yourself with these strategies so you’ll be prepared to make an informed decision about any future investment opportunities. Lastly, remember that if it’s too good to be true—it probably is.

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OUR COMMUNITY A look at the events, organizations, businesses and people that make Tallahassee a great place to live—and love.

Hanging Tough With the Hang Tough Foundation

By Jordan Stinson

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ang Tough Hayley Hart” was the slogan that represented the body of hope that surrounded now 11-year-old Hayley Hart when she was diagnosed with Lymphoblastic Leukemia at just four years old. Hayley’s parents Michelle and Lance Hart were as terrified as any parents would be to hear of what their baby girl would soon face. Inspired by her incredible strength, four men decided to compete in an 860-mile bike race across the west, in Hayley’s honor. One team member, Brady Irwin, who was one of the cyclists’ coaches, was sought out all the way from Colorado. The team raced and took home gold for their category.

Not only did Hayley’s team win, but she walked away victorious again when she won her battle against cancer in November of 2011, and still remains healthy to this day.

The two families’ paths crossed again when Brady Irwin, alongside his wife Janelle and their daughter Katelyn, picked up and moved to Tallahassee to help manage a bike shop. Meanwhile, Janelle teamed up with Michelle and joined Cure Search for Children’s Cancer. In 2012, this became the new platform for the racers to represent as they biked again, this time, 3000 miles across America.

Almost two months after the race was finished, Janelle and Brady were blessed with a brand new baby boy, Grayson.

In a terrible twist, their support and understanding of Hayley’s journey would soon become their own reality. Just a week before Grayson’s first birthday in

August of 2013, he was diagnosed with infant T-Cell Leukemia.

Having been told that their baby had only a 10 percent chance of survival, the Irwins were left in a state of devastation. Having no family living in Tallahassee besides their “hang tough” family, Janelle reached out to Michelle Hart for support. This divine friendship that unfolded between them was the catalyst for the two women to create the Hang Tough Foundation.

Having seen no nonprofit quite like it before, Michelle and Janelle co-founded this grassroots 501(c)(3) foundation to support the entire family unity of children with chronic or life-threatening illnesses and special needs. The duo radiates excitement and passion when they explain all the foundation has to offer.

“During the course of Grayson’s two year treatment, my eyes were opened to the fact that it isn’t just the patient whose life is altered by a medical condition. I was astonished at how little support is provided for the parents and siblings as they embark of their new life changes due to a child’s diagnosis,” said Janelle.

A Hang Tough family is welcomed with open arms and immediately given a care package. Each care package includes information about the free-of-charge services automatically offered to the families, such as tutoring, counseling and therapy for parents, parent’s night out events and family fun nights. From there, the intimate connection the Hang

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Tough team establishes with the families allows them to learn more about the family’s specific needs. This one-ofkind relationship has helped harbor the community of now over 80 families, which Michelle and Janelle refer to as “Hang Tough Heroes.”

The services, being free, mean that business owners local to Tallahassee are donating their time and services because they believe in what Janelle and Michelle are doing. Recently, Florida State University donated a baseball suite to the children to come watch a game and enjoy free catered food. The players themselves even wore Hang Tough bracelets during the college world series.

One sibling of a Hang Tough Hero beamed as she explained that her favorite part of the family fun night was “spending the evening with just my mommy.” This is a true testament to how important the purpose behind the Hang Tough Foundation is. The family of a sick child needs heroic strength to help support the heroes in their lives so they hang tough, together.

To help support the Hang Tough Foundation, visit hangtoughfoundation.org and get information about an upcoming September event in honor of Pediatric Cancer Awareness Month.

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By Sara Dreier

Tallahassee is rich in culture, entertainment and history. However, one of the most special things about this town is the people, especially those who have lived here for most of their lives. In this new segment called HerStory, we share the stories from the women of Tallahassee who reflect on the past and share with us how times were for women as Tallahassee was a growing city.

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t was 1963, when Doris Rehberg and her husband, Chesley, pulled together $1,000 to buy a small grocery store at the intersection of Bradfordville and Thomasville Roads in rural Tallahassee.

Growing up in Pelham, Georgia, Doris was a small-town girl who never could have imagined taking on a role as a small business owner. She had worked in a grocery store previously after high school, but running her own business had not crossed her mind until the opportunity unfolded before her. In the midst of raising four daughters—Nancy, Peggy, Hilda and Nell—Doris had more than just a full-time job on her hands. The days began at 4:30 a.m. and were nonstop until Doris closed the store as late as 9 p.m. “I was always there—that’s how we stayed open,” she stated matter-of-factly.

The days were long but the family banded together to tackle work at the store and chores at home. Every Friday, Doris would take the money her family had earned to the bank. Gun control was lenient, and she made sure to carry her pistol on the dashboard of her car whenever she was traveling alone at night. Rehberg Grocery quickly became well known throughout the community, not only for its variety of goods and services provided (gasoline,

fishing licenses, food and hardware) but also for its unparalleled hospitality. The customer was always put first and the employees were treated like family. “My husband could talk to anybody. It didn’t matter what they looked like, if they were a millionaire or had no money at all. It was a good life—we worked hard.”

The humble little store caught its fifteen minutes of fame when President Eisenhower, who was passing through Tallahassee, stopped at Rehberg Grocery to fill up on gas. Then the excitement continued when the store was featured in the 1973 film Country Blue.

After 23 years of business and countless memories made, Rehberg Grocery closed its doors to the public in October of 1986.

It was a bittersweet day for Doris, as it was the end of an era of her life. In talking about the memory of her late husband, Doris smiled thoughtfully. “He had a ninth grade education but everything he touched turned to gold.” Hanging on the wall of Doris’ kitchen is a hand painted picture of the store in its heyday. Rehberg Grocery will be remembered for its reliability and small town charm, and the woman who worked tirelessly to keep it thriving for decades.

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Cards for a Cure Honoree Abby Bender Kirkland

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t was May 20, 2014, the night before her annual gynecological exam, and 39-year-old Abby Bender Kirkland knew Dr. Vikki McKinnie, OBGYN, would ask if she had performed self-breast checks over the past year. Abby had not done this, so she did a self exam, even though she had had her annual mammogram seven months prior and the results were normal. To Abby’s surprise, she found a dime-size lump in the right breast. The next morning, Abby shared her discovery with Dr. McKinnie.

Taking Abby’s medical history into consideration, Dr. McKinnie advised they closely monitor the lump over the next few weeks. After one month, the lump was still present and Abby started experiencing discomfort. Abby was diagnosed with a clogged duct and referred to Dr. Richard Zorn, a general surgeon at Tallahassee Memorial HealthCare. “My first impression was Dr. Zorn was so kind and made me feel very comfortable,” said Abby. “He examined me and stated he felt I had intraductal papilloma, a benign breast condition, and he could remove the benign tumors for peace of mind.” Surgery to remove the benign tumors was scheduled for September 8, 2014. During her surgery, Dr. Zorn discovered something that would forever change Abby’s life as well as her family’s. “Dr. Zorn told my husband he found suspicious areas in my breast, and he decided to perform an emergency pathology evaluation.

It was determined I had invasive ductal carcinoma.”

When Abby woke from her surgery, her husband had to tell her that she had breast cancer. “That ride home was the most blurred memory. Having to go home and tell my daughters was by far the most difficult part of this process.”

The following day, Abby received a call from Dr. Zorn saying that she had the

most curable of breast cancers and that he recommended a single or double mastectomy.

She decided on a double mastectomy and reconstruction with plastic surgeon Dr. Ben J. Kirbo.

Abby was referred to receive chemotherapy and radiation treatments at the Tallahassee Memorial Cancer Center. She admitted, “Knowing you are walking into the Cancer Center to receive chemotherapy is about as intense as it gets emotionally. I remember feeling that this couldn’t be real, and can’t really be happening to me. But, when I walked in, I was immediately greeted by Dr. Iman Imanirad (hematologist/oncologist); his nurse Lea Lane and patient navigator Dreama Taylor.” After one month of chemotherapy, Abby met with Cancer Center radiation oncologist Dr. Raj Bendre. “When Dr. Bendre entered the room,” Abby said, “he knew my entire medical history. We discussed the best options for me, and he seemed to know every case study regarding my type of cancer.

Knowing Dr. Bendre and Dr. Imanirad were my oncology team made me feel much more secure.”

As of March 2015, Abby was declared cancerfree. As she returned to full health, giving back became her mission. With much involvement in the community, she wants to remind everyone about the importance of selfexaminations and regular doctor appointments. “My attitude in life has surely shifted to being more accepting of what God’s plan is for me,” said Abby. “This very crazy journey was filled with every emotion possible.

Seeing the love I received from so many people made me truly understand my meaning to others. Today I work hard to give back to those who need to feel that same love during such a difficult time.”

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The women of Tallahassee looking good in the 1980s.

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TALETHIA EDWARDS

AN UNEXPECTED DIFFERENCE TURNS INTO THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL

By Amanda Wallace

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ife has a funny way of working out differently than we thought it would and Talethia Edwards is no stranger to the curveballs life can throw at us. However, she also has learned that gifts and new perspectives can come through the challenges, if you learn to roll with the punches and make the most out of life’s surprises.

A graduate of Florida A&M University, Talethia had dreams of “making a difference,” with plans to go to law school before becoming the firstever female African-American Supreme Court Justice. However, plans have a way of shifting, and “making a difference” is often not what we expected it to be. “My husband always wanted a lot of children,” Talethia said of the first amendment to her life’s plan. Law school was put off when she married her husband and began her journey becoming the mother of seven children, all born within nine years of each other.

When Talethia and her husband moved into a home on Tallahassee’s south side, within weeks, Talethia said, they noticed things that made them uncomfortable with their home’s location.

While she was able to see the community’s elementary school from her front yard, she decided to drive her children out of the school zone to attend a different school. Talethia wasn’t comfortable with her children going to the school where they lived, because of the amount of crime and dangerous behavior that she was witnessing in the Bond community.

Regardless of her concerns, Talethia was active in her new community, serving on the SmithWilliams Advisory Board. After attending the Neighborhood Leadership Academy, hosted

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“Building a Greater Community Together.” by the city of Tallahassee, she found herself being approached about the area’s need for a leader. Talethia decided that she needed to be a part of the solution to her neighborhood’s problems, and after much prayer, she asked herself, “If I don’t do something, who will?” That question led her to the decision to take on the leadership role in her area—building a neighborhood association from scratch, naming it the Greater Bond Neighborhood Association and focusing on “bringing unity and cohesiveness back” to the area. A part of that can be seen in the motto she created for the area: “Building a Greater Community Together.”

“I don’t need a street named after me.

I just want to make a difference.”

As if being a wife, the mother of seven children and community leader wasn’t enough, Talethia continued to follow her passion for helping people by founding the H.A.N.D. Up project. H.A.N.D. stands for Helping Alleviate the Need and Deficit, and Talethia says it is a “hand up rather than a handout.” While the program was created as a way for Talethia to help members of her community receive items they were in need of, such as food and clothing, it grew into a way for Talethia to share money-saving techniques with those individuals in order to help them achieve long-term financial stability.

While Talethia continued to make progress, she was clearly making deep impressions as she did so. She wanted to paint the picture of what the Greater Bond Neighborhood could be. Her neighbors and the city, did see the picture she was painting for them, and in June, Talethia was named Leon County’s Neighbor of the Year.

Recently, Talethia came to a realization. She says, “I was choosing not to send my children to a school that I had never even set foot in.” She knew that part of the “sustainability” she wanted was not “walking away from your neighborhood,” but rather to become even more active within it. Talethia made her way down to Bond Elementary School, met the administration and learned about some of the amazing programs they offer.

Again, Talethia felt the pull to be a part of the difference she was hoping to see created in her area and has moved all of her schoolage children over to Bond, where they will attend school with the children from their own neighborhood, which is one more link in the chain that strengthens the community.

While Talethia says she used to spend a great deal of time “thinking about how I wasn’t clicking my heels on the halls of justice,” she is beginning to see the way that her original plan is not as “divine” as the one laid out before her. Life has worked out a little differently, but Talethia says, “I don’t need a street named after me. I just want to make a difference.” While she says there is still a long road ahead of her, the difference she is making within her community and the lives of her children will last for generations.

Talethia Edwards and the H.A.N.D. Up Project can be reached at toedwards1069@yahoo.com.

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Florida Jazz and Blues Festival September 23–25, 2016 | Cascades Park

This September, Tallahassee will be hosting the first-ever Florida Jazz and Blues Festival throughout a three-day weekend. Jazz and blues music is a core part of American culture, making this festival not an opportunity to miss. The festival will be run by multiple award-winning jazz musicians, who explain that the festival will be open to all ages and is to “teach more than entertain.” To find out more about the event, go to fljazzandblues.com.

Wine, Woman and Walking!

August 19th, 5:30 p.m. to 8:00 p.m.

640 East Gaines Street

Spend a night with women from all over Tallahassee in a 3-mile stroll with your favorite glass of wine. The only supplies you need are comfortable walking shoes, your favorite wine, an outdoor chair and an appetizer to share. This event is an easy way to get out of the house and meet both old and new friends over wine, food and walking. For more information about the unique event, contact Dawn Griffin at griffindd@aol.com.

Fine Artistry Fashion Show August 20th, 6:45 p.m. to 9:30 p.m.

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If you and your friends are interested in a night of fashion, buy tickets to attend the Fine Artistry Fashion Show.

Created in order to preview the newest works of aspiring fashion designers in the Tallahassee community, the event additionally helps to raise money for High H.E.A.L.E.D. Hearts. This nonprofit organization purpose is to raise awareness for domestic violence in the new generation along with assisting struggling survivors. Tickets may be purchased online at eventbrite.com.

LCHA Open Horse Show

September 3rd, 10:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.

Leon County Horseman’s Association Arena The Leon County Horseman’s Association Open Horse Show is open for all to attend and see the horses. Featuring classes such as halter, English, Western and hunter, this quarterly horse show is guaranteed to impress. With both free admission and concession, the horse show is a perfect way to spend a day with family, friends and

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fellow horse lovers. For more information, go to showlcha.org.

CARE Casino Night

September 16th, 7:00 p.m. to 11:00 p.m.

Shiloh Farm Interested in a night of card games and fundraising? The Companion Animal Rescue Endeavor (CARE) is hosting its second annual casino night to raise money to treat sick or injured annuals.

One hundred percent of all the proceeds gained from the fun-filled night will go towards this cause. Spend a night with your best girlfriends surrounded by hors d’oeuvres, silent auction prizes and card games. In order to buy a ticket for the fundraiser, go to eventbrite.com and search Care Casino Night Tickets.

Beth Moore's Living Proof Simulcast

September 17th, 9:45 a.m. to 5:10 p.m.

Lake Talquin Baptist Church Christian speaker Beth Moore will be showcasing her day long “Living Proof ” seminar for everyone in the Tallahassee community. Living Proof Ministries was created in order to help people find faith and learn more about scripture.

Visit online at lproof.org for more information.

Cards for a Cure

September 17th, 6:00 p.m. to 10:00 p.m.

Tallahassee Automobile Museum Cards for a Cure is an annual silent auction, hosted by the Tallahassee Memorial Healthcare (TMH) Foundation. This year’s honoree is Abby Bender Kirkland (read her story on page 50.) With dazzling prizes and

entertaining live band performances, Cards for a Cure is a wonderful environment dedicated to helping the TMH Cancer Center and cancer programs. For more information regarding both the event and the sponsors, go to cardsforacuretallahassee.com.

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Award-winning country band Rascal Flatts will be bringing their Rhythm and Roots Tour to Tallahassee in late September. Take your family or your friends to a night of singing, dancing and fellowship. For more information about the concert and finding tickets, go to vividseats.com.

September 17th, 11:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m.

1209 Paul Russell Road All food lovers, artists, photographers, jewelers, authors, musicians, actors and more are welcome to visit the second annual Art + Craft Festival. This freeadmission fair is teeming with activities, live performances and raw talent. The festival was created in order to bring notice towards rising artists and to propel them forward. A portion of the proceeds from the day long festival will go towards community projects such as youth sponsorships. For more information about

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September 24th, 7:30 p.m. to 10:30 p.m.

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For more information about local events follow Tallahassee Woman on Facebook where we post events continually. You can also visit the Tallahassee Arts Guide at tallahasseearts.org a website hosted by the Council on Culture and Arts (COCA).

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Tallahassee turned up the glitz and the glamour at this star-studded event featuring a concert by pop-folk legend and Grammy Award-winning artist James Taylor. Nearly 1,700 community members attended the 33rd annual gala. As Tallahassee Memorial HealthCare’s top fundraising event of the year, it raises an estimated $1 million for the TMH Foundation each year.

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1. Paul and Cindy Sullivan, Sheree Lucero, Susie Busch-Transou, Rich Leverich, Tripp Transou 2. Mark O’Bryant, Caroline O’Bryant 3. Mickey Moore, Audrey Hendrick Moore 4. Gentle and Alma Littles, MD, with James Taylor 5. Grace Dansby and Aubrey Scoma with James Taylor 6. Roger Champion and Donna Champion with James Taylor

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KCCI

KCCI (also known as The Knight Creative Communities Institute) hosted two events at Hearth & Soul as their featured nonprofit. The events included a VIP Reception to thank the businesses and people who work to make Tallahassee a stronger community and an evening to shop, learn about and support KCCI. 1. Anna-Kay Hutchinson, Alyce Lee Stansbury, Ellen Piekalkiewicz, Nancy Miller, Stephanie Derzypolski, Berneice Cox. 2. Jenay Sermon, Lauren Pace, Sangeetha Wollet, Ellen Piekalkiewicz, Ariel Floyd, Tiffany Baker.

3. Betsy Couch, Taylor Hatch, Lauren Pace, Alison Voorhees 4. Sharon Rolfes, Sheila Costigan, Kristin Dozier

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First Commerce Credit Union (FCCU) teamed up with The Edison to kick off summer and take a totally awesome trip back to the 1980s during Mugs and Movies, a fundraising initiative for the FCCU Foundation, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization supporting financial literacy in the community. The first in a series of movie-themed events that will rotate venues around town, Mugs and Movies offered guests ’80s movie trivia hosted by Greg Tish, a special viewing of National Lampoon’s Vacation, a gourmet popcorn bar, plus food provided by The Edison and locally crafted beer supplied by GrassLands Brewing Co.

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OUR HOUSE

A Radical Remodel of a 1980s Home

By Sara Dreier

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t was 1981 when Gilbert Jr. and Bridget Chandler built their home in peaceful, wooded Betton Hills.

Roughly two decades later, the home was passed down to their son Bert Chandler and his wife, Debi. The 1980s had made their mark with low ceilings, small living spaces, carpeted flooring, curtains with ruffles and chintz fabric engulfing the home. However, the house was well built and in a sought after location, even if the interior of the house needed a modernized touch, so Bert and Debi agreed that selling the house would not be an option—it was, “Our House,” as the 1980s song by Madness suggests, and would always be a part of their family.

In order to update it to modern styles and trends, the couple hired Suzanne Whitaker, interior designer and owner of Suzanne’s Down Under and Whitaker Construction to help their dream home become a reality. Walls and ceilings were demolished to create a more open floor plan—the original 8-foot ceilings were doubled to enhance its grandeur. One of the most unique features of the remodel is the welcoming seethrough fireplace, which adjoins the dining room and living room.

“It was a work of art because we placed the light fixtures in the proper place so there weren’t too many shadows.

Everything is detail oriented,” said Suzanne. The goal of the remodel was to maintain the familiarity of the home, while completely modernizing the interior.

“It was always my vision to raise the ceilings but I had no idea it was possible,” Debi said. “I left the design up to Suzanne and was so impressed with the detail work that went into the house. The woodwork around the windows are especially impressive,” she raved.

Sitting in the sunroom is the most sentimental piece in the house, an oak dining table built by Bert’s grandfather.

Family heirlooms add small touches of warmth and familiarity to a newly renovated home. Although eighties décor has its own unique charm, the couple has enjoyed the upgrade to hardwood floors, high beamed ceilings, and granite countertops. It’s been two years since the renovation and the home remains the gathering place for entertaining guests and for hosting family functions.

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Don’t Forget About Breakfast. Be Part of

The Breakfast Club!

By Randi Shiver

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admit it. I have served detention in Saturday school, just like the characters did in one of the ’80s most memorable films—The Breakfast Club. In honor of National Breakfast Month in September and this totally tubular movie, I created a breakfast bio for each character. Who knew Saturday school could bond a bizarre group of teenagers together and inspire a really rad menu to keep the breakfast club vibes alive?

Let’s begin with The Princess. I am serving something fancy for this trendy teenager. This crustless quiche will help her watch her waistline and please her particular palate. Made in mason jars, this quiche is an elegant breakfast and perfectly portioned for a princess.

Moving on to The Athlete—What this jock needs is a hearty, all-American breakfast to tide him over until his next meal and prepare him for football practice. These breakfast sliders are perfect to grab and go or when you need a big meal to feed the whole team.

Spinach and Mushroom Quiche

Breakfast Sliders

(Makes seven half-pint mason jars)

1 tablespoon olive oil 8 oz white button mushrooms, sliced 1 bunch green onions, thinly sliced (discard green tops) 10 oz package frozen spinach, thawed and drained very well 4 eggs 16 oz cottage cheese 2 cups mild cheddar cheese, shredded Salt and pepper Sauté mushrooms in olive oil for 5 minutes. Add green onions and salt and pepper to taste. Cook 1 minute. In a bowl, combine the mushroom mixture with the spinach, eggs, cheeses, 1 teaspoon salt and ½ teaspoon pepper. Spray mason jars with cooking spray.

Using an ice cream scoop, add ¾ cup of quiche mixture to each jar (about three scoops). Bake at 325 degrees for 35 to 40 minutes.

To prepare this in advance, put the tops on the jars and refrigerate until ready to bake. Remove tops and add 5 to 10 minutes to cooking time. To prepare in a pie plate, spray pie plate before adding mixture and bake at 325 degrees for 1 hour.

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12 slider buns, sliced in half 12 eggs, fried 8 pieces bacon, cooked 8 slices American cheese ¼ cup butter, melted 1 tablespoon minced onion (fresh or dried) 1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce Place the bottoms of the slider buns on a 13x9-inch pan. Layer eggs, bacon and cheese over the buns. Put the tops of the buns on.

Stir melted butter, onion and Worcestershire sauce. Spoon over sliders. Cover with foil and bake for 10 minutes at 375 degrees.

Uncover and cook 3 to 5 more minutes, until golden brown. Let cool slightly then cut sliders with a knife.

Frying your eggs in mason jar lids will form them to fit perfectly on the slider rolls. Spray a flat skillet with cooking spray. Put 2 or 3 mason jar lids upside down on the pan and spray with cooking spray. Crack one egg into each lid. Gently break the yolk and sprinkle with salt and pepper. When the egg starts to set around the edges, 1 to 2 minutes, use a spatula to carefully flip the egg over (with lid still on). Cook one minute longer and remove to a plate. When cool enough to handle, remove lids.

To make this the night before, cover and refrigerate. Add 5 to 10 minutes to cooking time.

Last but not least, The Basket Case. What could be more perfect for her early morning meal than dough-“nuts”? She may be nuts in this movie, but by the end, she’s all sugar and spice—and everything nice.

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Cut out the middle of each biscuit using a small, circular cutter or bottle top. The top to an olive oil bottle works well. Roll the small pieces of dough into balls for doughnut holes.

Pour melted butter and cinnamon-sugar mixture into separate bowls.

Heat ¾ inch oil in a large frying pan. When hot, add 4 doughnuts (don’t overcrowd) and cook 1 to 2 minutes until the edges are golden brown. Carefully flip the doughnuts and cook 1 more minute until golden brown all over. Place doughnuts onto a plate lined with paper towels. Cool slightly. As soon as they are cool enough to handle, dip the doughnuts in butter on both sides then coat with cinnamon-sugar mixture. Serve immediately.

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“Computers will make us a paperless society.” —Statement commonly heard in offices during the 1980s. I think they grossly underestimated our passion for Post-It notes.

“Velcro... next to the Walkman and Tab it is the coolest invention of the 20th century.”

–Lynn Stone from Girls Just Want to Have Fun

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Check out TWM ’80s mix tape hits list on our YouTube channel, Tallahassee Woman TV. Also, be sure to listen to Star 98.9’s Capital Cafe during August and September, as TWM hosts radio segments of your favorites ’80s tunes.

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Average Time Patients Spent In The ER, Before They Were Admitted To The Hospital As An Inpatient

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