FEBRUARY /MARCH 2025
Oasis TRAILBLAZER Luncheon DANA BROOKS TAKE INVENTORY OF YOUR LIFE
Define Your Boundaries
Celebrating Galentine's Day
BOSS MOVES
WOMEN ON FIRE AWARDS & BUSINESS EXPO MARCH 21,2025
S M A S H I N G C E I L I N G S , S T E R E OT Y P E S A N D S E L F D O U B T
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Talent Shaping Tallahassee With a heart for community service, storytelling and preserving history, Karen Kirksey brings significant value to the City of Tallahassee’s Department of Communications as a Public Information Specialist. Since joining the team in 2021, Kirksey goes above and beyond to build personal relationships with members of the community as she shares City news. As a seasoned professional, she expertly guides communication efforts for the Tallahassee Senior Center, Hilaman and Jake Gaither golf courses, John G. Riley Museum, the City’s Neighborhood Affairs division and more. She was deeply invested in outreach for the Zillah Street Pedestrian and Street Safety Project, historic designation of the Jake Gaither Golf Course and Capital City Senior Games, to name a few. Kirksey began her career writing stories for Florida Agricultural & Mechanical University’s (FAMU) student newspaper, then for the women’s fashion section of the J.C. Penney catalog in New York City. She worked as a producer and editor at a television station in Boston and Tallahassee. In 2019, she retired from The Florida Bar, before reigniting her passion for communications with the City. A lifelong learner, she is a proud alumna of FAMU, taking undergraduate journalism courses at the university. She went on to receive her bachelor’s degree in journalism from Suffolk University, before returning for a master’s degree in education from FAMU. She is a member of the Florida Municipal Communicators Association, the City-County Communications & Marketing Association and a long-standing member of the Florida Public Relations Association (FPRA), which recently recognized her work on the Carrie Pittman Meek Street Renaming event. She is also a member of two community service organizations: the Chi Upsilon Omega Chapter of the Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. and Ahmed Court #134 Daughters, the sister organization of the Prince Hall Shriners. Read more about Karen Kirksey’s impactful work in Communications on the City’s LinkedIn page.
KAREN KIRKSEY
What is the Tallahassee Land Development Code (LDC)? An expert would tell you it is a vital tool for shaping our City’s built environment in a way that ensures smart growth, sustainability, and economic vitality. That expert at the forefront of implementing the LDC – which includes zoning, building regulations and residential and commercial permitting for signage, streets, subdivisions, site plans, environmental management and more – is Dylan Haase, AICP, Land Use Administrator for the City of Tallahassee. In her role, Haase has worked to support the City’s clean energy and affordable housing initiatives through amendments to the LDC, like a revised ordinance expanding opportunities for Accessory Dwelling Units (commonly referred to as mother-in-law suites). She also frequently trains others on implementation of the Live Local Act, a state initiative that supports affordable housing by removing barriers to development. Haase enjoys interacting with the public and underlines the importance of providing excellent customer service that meets the City’s high standards. Her team leads introductory meetings with landowners and developers to understand project goals and walk them through the permitting process. She has streamlined these processes and developed materials to help residents and developers understand the LDC and related items. Haase emphasizes teamwork and collaboration, frequently citing the talent and expertise of her team. Over the past few years, she has participated in the American Planning Association’s “Mentor a Planning Student” program through Florida State University to help graduate students develop a passion for the profession. She holds a bachelor’s degree in Geography from Florida Atlantic University and a master’s degree in Geographic Information Systems from FSU. In 2020, she received the American Institute of Certified Planners (AICP) certification. With a decade of industry experience under her belt, Haase’s passion to use her background and expertise to continue improving the quality of life for the residents of Tallahassee has never been stronger. Read more about Dylan Haase, AICP, on the City’s LinkedIn page.
DYLAN HAASE
CONTENTS
8. LETTER FROM PUBLISHER
CULTURE & CUISINE
10. SPRING 2025 STYLE GUIDE 12. AROMATIC WEST INDIAN STEWED CHICKEN DELIGHT 14. CELEBRATING BLACK HISTORY MONTH 16. HONORING BLACK HISTORY THROUGH LITERATURE
LIVING LOCAL
20. AROUND TOWN: BRANDI THOMAS COVER PARTY AND IMAGE BY LISA GRAND OPENING OF NEW LOCATION 24. TWM 19 YEARS OF EMPOWERING LOCAL WOMEN 26. DECEMBER COVER WOMAN REFLECTION 27. CELEBRATING GALENTINES
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WITH DANA BROOKS 40. EMBRACE YOUR VOICE 42. BOSS MOVES
MIND, BODY & SPIRIT
44. DEFINE YOUR BOUNDARIES AND ENHANCE YOUR MENTAL HEALTH 46. BREAKING FREE FROM OVERTHINKING 48. EMBRACING THE 'EXTRA'
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LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
50. LOVE YOURSELF: THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO SELF -CARE THIS SEASON
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ON THE COVER 30. VICKI BRADLEY: SMASHING CEILINGS, STEREOTYPES AND SELF DOUBT
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TRAVEL
36. 24 HOURS IN PARIS
BUSINESS & LEADERSHIP 38. LEGAL WRITES
30. ABOUT THE COVER: | PHOTOGRAPHY: KIRA DERRYBERRY | MAKEUP: IMAGE BY LISA DAVIS | HAIR: EIGHT FIVE ZERO SALON | WARDROBE: PRIVATE COLLECTION
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MARCH 21, 2025 11:30 AM – 3:30 PM Tallahassee State College Student Union Building | Grand Ballroom
444 Appleyard Drive Tallahassee, Florida 32304 As we recognize and honor dynamic businesswomen who are “on fire” with their passion, leadership and dedication to the business community.
TWM will be recognizing the most inspiring and influential businesswomen in our community for the following award categories: • • • • • • •
Entrepreneur Award Innovator Award Legacy Award Rockstar Award Service Award Torchbearer Award Mompreneur Award
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MAGAZINE
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PAULA DEBOLES-JOHNSON
KIRA DERRYBERRY PHOTOGRAPHER
DR. TAVIA REYES WRITER
JANE MARKS WRITER
SHAIRI TURNER, MD, MPH
Kira Derryberry is a Tallahassee-based portrait photographer specializing in families, headshots and boudoir and commercial photography. She books locally in Tallahasee and is available for travel worldwide. View Kira's portfolio online at kiraderryberry.com.
Jane Marks is a licensed psychotherapist "life coach" with more than 50 years of experience specializing in child and adolescent behavior. She is a motivational speaker/lecturer focusing on mental health and adolescents.
Dr. Tavia is an applied kinesiologist, certified acupuncturist and yoga teacher. She is deeply grateful for the opportunity to serve as a holistic physician, empowering others through root cause medicine and health education.
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Shairi R. Turner, MD, MPH, is Chief Health Officer at Crisis Text Line, focusing on youth mental health and suicide prevention. She has served in significant public health and juvenile justice roles in Florida, and has trauma-informed care expertise. Please follow her on IG @DoctorShairi
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PUBLISHER LETTER
SHARE YOUR VOICE
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reetings to our cherished community as we welcome the vibrant season of spring! As we celebrate both Black History Month and Women’s History Month, we reflect on the themes of renewal and fresh perspectives that spring brings. In this issue, we recognize and celebrate the extraordinary trailblazers from Tallahassee and beyond. Featured on our cover is Vicki Bradley, a true pioneer who has consistently broken barriers and shattered glass ceilings in her various endeavors. The convergence of Black History Month and Women’s History Month invites us all to acknowledge and celebrate the significant achievements of diverse female icons while also honoring the challenges and obstacles they have faced. Let us come together to elevate the voices and stories of women from all walks of life—regardless of ethnicity, ability, culture, linguistic ability, race, religion, socioeconomic status, or sexual orientation. Our collective diversity is our greatest strength, and united, we can accomplish remarkable things. Tallahassee Woman Magazine takes pride in being a locally owned and operated publication. This year, we are excited to celebrate our 19th anniversary of highlighting the incredible women in our community. It is essential that we continue to foster kindness and solidarity as we work toward our shared goals of supporting one another and strengthening our community ties. We extend our heartfelt gratitude to our advertisers who support this locally and woman-owned magazine, which is dedicated to uplifting, inspiring, and celebrating the women of Tallahassee and our neighboring communities. Please save the date for March 21, when we will host our annual awards ceremony and the second annual Women’s Business Expo held at the Tallahassee State College. See FB or Eventbrite for details. Together, let us continue to forge connections, celebrate our achievements, and uplift one another in this beautiful journey.
Photo by Kira Derryberry Photography
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Dr. Michelle Mitcham CEO & Publisher Tallahassee Woman Magazine
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CULTURE & CUISINE
Spring 2025 Style: Bold, Playful, and Unapologetically Chic! By TWM Staff
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pring 2025 is here, and it's time to amp up your fashion game with a vibrant twist! Say goodbye to the mundane and embrace the fabulous maximalism that’s taking over women’s daytime wear. Think bold prints, oversized blazers, and playful layering—pairing cropped jackets with flowing midi dresses is a must! Accessorize with eye-catching statement bags and chunky sandals that scream “look at me!” Don’t shy away from mixing textures—pair satin with denim or tulle with leather for that extra flair. With lace, chiffon, and silk in the spotlight, it’s the perfect season to elevate your wardrobe. Get ready to strut your stuff, Tallahassee! Your stylish spring awaits!
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Aromatic West Indian Stewed Chicken Delight
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et ready to tantalize your taste buds with this mouthwatering West Indian Stewed Chicken! This delightful dish serves up to four and is bursting with flavor, making it the perfect centerpiece for dinner or an exciting appetizer for your next gathering. Your guests will be raving about it long after the last bite!
DIRECTIONS
1. Marinate the Chicken: In a large bowl, season your chicken pieces with seasoned salt, black pepper, minced garlic, and chopped red onion. Toss everything together until the chicken is well-coated. Add the ketchup and mix until every piece is lovingly enveloped in the sweet and tangy goodness. 2. Heat Things Up: Grab a deep pot and drizzle in the olive oil. Turn up the heat to high and let it warm up, ready to work its magic! 3. Caramelize the Sugar: Sprinkle the brown sugar into the pot. Watch as it begins to melt and caramelize, creating a rich, golden syrup. This is where the magic starts! 4. Sear the Chicken: Once the sugar is caramelized, carefully add in your chicken and ketchup
INGREDIENTS • 1 pound of chicken (skinless and boneless, cut into bite-sized pieces for maximum flavor)
5. Add the Potato: Toss in the cubed potato and continue to stir and flip until it also takes on a lovely golden hue. 6. Simmer to Perfection: Pour in 2 cups of water, and then add the chopped garlic and cilantro for that aromatic flair. Reduce the heat to medium-low, cover the pot, and let it simmer for 15 to 20 minutes. The chicken will become tender, and the flavors will meld into a mouthwatering symphony! 7. Serve and Impress: Once done, serve this aromatic delight over fluffy jasmine rice, letting the rich sauce soak into the grains.
Whether you’re hosting a dinner or looking for a standout appetizer, this West Indian Stewed Chicken is sure to steal the show! Your guests won’t be able to resist going back for seconds. Enjoy the compliments that come your way!
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mixture. Sear the chicken on high heat until it’s beautifully golden brown, stirring frequently to ensure every side gets that gorgeous color.
• 4 garlic cloves, minced • 1 medium red onion, finely chopped • 2 tablespoons of brown sugar (for that sweet caramel touch) • 6 tablespoons of olive oil (to bring it all together) • A handful of fresh cilantro, chopped (for that vibrant finish) • 1 medium potato, cubed (to add heartiness)
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GARDEN COLOR, EVERY MONTH ANNUALS | PERENNIALS | CAMELLIAS | MORE
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CELEBRATING
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Tallahassee Woman Magazine is thrilled to honor the spirit of inclusive excellence in our February/ March issue as we celebrate both Black History Month and Women’s History Month. This edition shines a spotlight on the dynamic and diverse women who enrich our vibrant community, making Tallahassee an extraordinary place to live, work, and thrive. Each of these remarkable women brings forth unique narratives, experiences, and perspectives that contribute to the rich tapestry of Florida’s capital. Join us in recognizing and celebrating the extraordinary achievements and contributions of women throughout history and in our community today—here’s to the incredible women who inspire us all!
Black History Month serves as a powerful reminder to celebrate Black authors for their invaluable contributions
By Laci Swann
Honoring Black History Through Literature
to literature, culture, and history.
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s I enter the final stretch of my doctoral program at Florida State University, I feel privileged to reflect on the Black women writers I’ve closely studied. These authors who inspire my research but have also shaped by commitment to truth, storytelling, and meaningful contributions to the field. Black History Month serves as a powerful reminder to celebrate Black authors for their invaluable contributions to literature, culture, and history. This month offers a unique opportunity to engage more deeply with their transformative works. Toni Morrison and Gloria Naylor—two of the
greatest writers to ever put pen to paper— have done more than tell stories. They have created legacies, drawing readers into profound conversations about community, history, identity, and other critical themes. Their unparalleled ability to make you feel, think, and grow has been pivotal in my own development—as a mother, student, citizen, and writer. With that in mind, I’d love to share two of my favorite books that have deeply impacted me, and I highly recommend exploring them for yourself! Whether you’re an avid reader or just beginning your literary journey, consider diving into The Women of Brewster Place, a must-read by Naylor
that explores the intertwined lives of Black women navigating life’s highs and lows in the same neighborhood. And definitely add Morrison’s Paradise to your list, a gripping exploration of community and the clash between tradition and change. These powerful narratives prompt readers to see the world through new perspectives, celebrate the resilience and richness of Black voices, and uplift those who continue to inspire change. As Morrison once said, “The function of freedom is to free someone else.” So, let us embrace their stories and carry these messages forward.
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Welcome to the Next Chapter of Image By Lisa! Image By Lisa, Tallahassee’s elite, women’s-only beauty boutique, is thrilled to unveil our luxurious new location. Locally owned and dedicated to providing a personalized experience, we specialize in custom airbrush spray tanning, makeup artistry, lessons, group classes, and glam birthday parties.
Here’s what awaits you at our stunning new space: Twice the Space Our expanded boutique offers double the room for GLAM and hosting unforgettable events Two State-of-the-Art Spray Tan Rooms Enjoy private changing areas in each room for added privacy and convenience. Expanded Kate’s Place Our ultra-feminine makeup classroom now features double the seating capacity and a kitchenette, making it perfect for birthday parties, team events, and girls’ nights out. Expanded Retail Shopping Discover a beautifully curated selection of Baddass Cosmetics, tanning essentials, and glam accessories. NEW Makeup Application Area A private, gorgeously lit space dedicated to professional makeup services.
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Our New Address: 1419 Market Street (inside The Gallery retail complex, home to local favorites like Hopkins Eatery and Nic’s Toggery). Find us on the second floor, directly above The PolkaDot Press.
We can’t wait to welcome you to a space where elegance meets glamour.
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LIVING LOCAL
AROUND
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he Akbar Thomas Law firm, in partnership with Tallahassee Woman Magazine, celebrated December/January Cover Woman, the incredible attorney Brandi Thomas, at the stunning Charlie Park! Surrounded by her husband, Dr. Thomas, friends, family, and colleagues, the atmosphere was electric as everyone gathered to honor Brandi's remarkable achievements. Attendees raised their glasses in a heartfelt toast led by Attorney Mutaqee Akbar and Dr. Michelle Mitcham, TWM Publisher, celebrating Brandi’s impact in the community. With delicious bites from Charlie Park setting the scene, this fabulous event was truly a night to remember! Check out the vibrant photos capturing all the excitement!
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TOWN By TWM Staff
Photos By @grace_glams
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Introducing Tallah Ultimate Beauty B M O R E
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Kate’s Place, our makeup classroom & event space for birthday parties, team events, and girls’ nights. And of course, our fabulous retail space is stocked with our growing Baddass Cosmetics line, glam accessories, and all your tanning essentials. This boutique was built just for you girl, and I cannot wait to welcome you in!
-Lisa Davis
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’m beyond excited to officially open the doors to our luxurious new location!
Tallahassee needed a beauty boutique like this—one that’s 100% dedicated to makeup application, lessons, spray tanning, cosmetic sales, and all things glam! This dreamy pink and girly space is twice the size, giving us even more room to glow up together. We’ve expanded our makeup application area, added two private spray tan rooms with changing areas, and doubled the size of
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ahassee’s Boutique
Photos By Langley Clark Photography
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et ready to celebrate the incredible journey of Tallahassee Woman Magazine as we honor nearly 19 years of empowering local women! As a proud locally owned publication certified by the Office of Economic Vitality and awarded the 2023 Minority Enterprise of the Year, we're thrilled to shine a spotlight on some of the phenomenal female leaders who call Tallahassee home. Join us in honoring the trailblazers who have made their mark and inspired countless others along the way. Feast your eyes on this electrifying photo collage showcasing some of our magazine covers that highlight these extraordinary women. Tallahassee Woman Magazine is not just for women, by women, and about women—it's the magazine that women read from cover to cover! Let's take pride in our city and the remarkable women who shape it. Enjoy the celebration!
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or the February issue of Tallahassee Woman Magazine, I’d like to reflect on my time as the December cover girl—a truly memorable experience. At first, I was hesitant. Sharing my story in such a public way felt intimidating, and I couldn’t help but wonder how people might perceive me. Would I be too vulnerable? Was I ready for this kind of attention? But once the magazine debuted online and on social media, all those nerves melted away. The response was overwhelmingly positive, and the love and support I received from the community, friends, and family were both heartwarming and a little surprising. People I hadn’t heard from in years reached out to share kind words, and my family practically made it a campaign, proudly sharing the feature with anyone who would listen. What I thought might be a nerve-wracking experience turned into a reminder that being open and authentic can have its own rewards. It wasn’t about being perfect—it was about being real. The encouragement I received was a testament to the strength of connection we can find when we let people see us for who we truly are. Thank you to Tallahassee Woman Magazine for allowing me to be part of such a wonderful platform and to everyone who reached out with kind words. It was an experience I’ll always appreciate, filled with laughter, love, and maybe a little less fear the next time I decide to step out of my comfort zone!
Brandi Thomas Dec-Jan 2025 Cover Woman
PHOTOGRAPHY: KIRA DERRYBERRY | MAKEUP: LISA DAVIS MAKEUP - GRACE MILLER | HAIR: EIGHT FIVE ZERO SALON | WARDROBE: NARCISSUS
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CELEBRATING
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“From my first professional position through today, I have been mentored by many talented women who have created opportunities, pushed me to take risks, and poured into my growth.
“Supporting other women has been a cornerstone of my personal and professional life. I’ve seen how a strong circle of friends can uplift each other through challenges, celebrate triumphs, and inspire success.
“Thankfully, I’ve also built an incredible circle of friends with whom I can cry about the missteps, commiserate about the hurdles, and share the apprehensions. These women deserve just as much credit for their supportive role. I pray every woman has such a positive network of their own.”
“When women come together, we amplify each other’s voices and strengths. For me, it’s not just about friendship, it’s about building a community of confident, empowered women who help each other thrive.”
Michelle Winokur, DrPH
Founder and President of Pratt PR
President of MW Consulting & Evaluation
“Life is better when woman support each other. I've come to deeply appreciate the value of surrounding myself with positive, uplifting women. I've learned that the true magic lies in collaboration and mutual support. “This kind of support, rooted in kindness and genuine care, strengthens us all. It reminds us that there’s enough room for all of us to shine, and that empowering another woman doesn’t diminish our own light—it only makes it brighter.”
Nadia Amrouch
Rachel Pratt
“Over the years, I’ve realized just how important it is to build strong bonds and friendships with the women around you. As Co-Owner of Cookie Mommas Tally with my sister-in-law, I’ve been beyond grateful for the love and support of so many incredible women in this community. I feel so lucky to share this journey with some of the best moms and friends. “To the women who have had my back through it all: thank you from the bottom of my heart. You mean the world to me!”
Meagan Green
Co-Owner of Cookie Mommas Tally tallahassee woman | 27 | february 2025 • march 2025
BRANDI THOMAS - A PHENOMENAL WOMAN With grace, strength, and a spirit that lights up every room, Brandi embodies what it means to be truly phenomenal. She lifts, inspires, and radiates kindness and courage—a friend whose presence reminds us of all the beauty and power within. WE HONOR YOU FOR BEING A PHENOMENAL WOMAN. -NADIA,tallahassee MEAGAN, MICHELLE AND RACHEL woman | 28 | february • march 2025
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Smashing
COVER
CEILINGS, STEREOTYPES AND SELF DOUBT
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ave you ever watched a clip of a movie, read a line of a book, or saw a scene in a television show that brought you instant happiness? I have. For me it’s at the end of the Mary Tyler Moore Show theme song when she twirls in the street and throws her hat up in the air. It’s such a light, happy moment - but at the same time it’s a message of hey - anything is possible. Which in the 70s being a woman working in a male dominated industry like television news probably felt impossible. But not for Mary! There’s a good chance if you’re reading this - you have no idea who I am. Let me catch you up. I’m not from Tallahassee, but most people assume that I am because of my love for this community. I’m a Carolina Girl, the best one of course, North Carolina. I have a nearly 20-year career in journalism and leadership in newsrooms across the South. I always wanted to get out West, but those doors just didn’t open, at least not yet I suppose. I’m divorced, something that always catches people by surprise when they find out. I was married to a wonderful man; he just wasn’t my forever. I haven’t given up on the idea that my forever is out there, somewhere. No kids, two pups and the most AMAZING friends and family whose children I do love like they’re my own. If you do know me, you probably cannot tell this from my frequent social media posts, but I’m an introvert. No, seriously. If you ever watch me in a room full of people, I’m typically off to myself, or just within my small comfort circle of people I know. I assume this
may make me come off as unapproachable, but I’d love to talk to you. I just won’t be the one making the first move. When Michelle asked me to be on the cover almost a year ago, there was both a feeling of fear and excitement at the same time. But there was no way I was going to let a moment like this one pass me by. Especially in what I know will be one of the most transformative years of my life. It’s the year where I go after everything I want and just might get it!! This article is just a small part of the many things that have helped shape me into the person I am today. Some of the things I’m sharing, have only been shared in the tiniest of circles with the most supportive friends and loved ones. I hope this article leaves you inspired and motivated. We are all fighting different battles and just because your thing doesn’t seem like a big deal to others, doesn’t mean that it’s not. It’s YOUR THING! My things are what I hold on to and look back on when things feel nearly impossible. They are the best reminders that I'm so strong, resilient and I can get through anything. That my faith and belief in God’s purpose for my life will carry me through all my days to come. That faith and belief were instilled in me from the time I was born. My mom tells the story of seeing angels over my crib when I was an infant. Thinking about that right now makes me smile, and is a good reminder of just how extremely blessed I am. But those blessings have been met with moments of difficulty and great sadness over the years. My senior year in high school was met with
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PHOTOGRAPHY: KIRA DERRYBERRY MAKEUP: IMAGE BY LISA DAVIS HAIR: EIGHT FIVE ZERO SALON WARDROBE: PRIVATE COLLECTION
PHOTOGRAPY BY KIRA DERRYBERRY
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displacement and sickness. We were forced to move in with a family friend after we were no longer able to afford to stay in our home. If that wasn’t a lot on its own, I became very sick suddenly. A sickness that took lots of visits to specialists before they diagnosed me with an autoimmune disease known as Sarcoidosis. I spent so much time at the doctor during that year, I remember the school threatening to not allow me to graduate if my attendance did not improve. That diagnosis also threw me into a place of giving up on what I was always told was important, going to college. Ultimately, I made the decision to go to school close to home, enrolling in a small Historically Black University and it was one of the best decisions I ever made. It allowed me to meet the most amazing lifelong friends and a professor, Todd Davis, who poured into me and made me feel that anything was possible. That I could go after my dreams of being a journalist, and I did! I still very much deal with impacts from Sarcoidosis today, but it does not run my life. The days that I wake up in pain, or crazy inflammation I push through. I will not let this, or my fibromyalgia diagnosis define the kind of life I live. I will accept limitations that might come but not without putting up a fight first! A limitation I have never been willing to buy into is this thought that once existed that Black people didn’t belong in newsrooms, or our voices were not important. There were times at the stations I worked where I was the only Black intern, producer or manager. At some point in my career, it was special to be the only Black Assistant News Director or only Black News Director. You’ve heard that saying, it’s lonely at the top. Now imagine looking around and seeing no one else like you. Because I was often the only one like PHOTOGRAPHY: KIRA DERRYBERRY MAKEUP: IMAGE BY LISA DAVIS HAIR: EIGHT FIVE ZERO SALON WARDROBE: PRIVATE COLLECTION
me, it drove me to work harder than everyone else. I mean if there is only one of us, you best believe I was going to be the shining example of why there needed to be more of us. That mindset is what took me from a part-time job running cameras to running the whole show. As I’ve climbed higher in my career, I’m always surprised at the people who are surprised by my level of achievement. A couple of months ago, I was interviewing someone for a job and when I asked if they had questions, they asked me how does it feel to be a Black woman running a newsroom? I had to pause for a second before answering. Because I’ve gotten to the point where I’m confident in who I am and what I bring to the table and that should always speak for itself. As I reflect on my career and things that I have accomplished it is not lost on me, the number of things I have given up in the process – because I prioritized career over my personal life. I often wonder if my marriage would have lasted – if I didn’t uproot our lives to move halfway across the country. Maybe not, but it is still something that stays in the back of my mind. Something else that stays in the back of my mind, motherhood. I often wonder did I sacrifice my chance at being a mother to move up that ladder. My husband and I could not conceive naturally. We tried for a year. A long, sad year. My desire to be a mother had gotten to the point that we made a deal
that if I didn’t get pregnant by the end of 2015, I would get a puppy, you know someone else to love. I’ve had Jaxson now for almost 10 years and that little Shorkie is the best gift I’ve ever gotten.
I’ve lived in six cities and no other has felt like home the way Tallahassee does.
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So back to the whole baby thing. After seeing a fertility doctor, we landed on going through the IUI process. But that plan quickly fell apart. We were preparing to go on vacation outside of the country. The doctor’s office was aware. One afternoon, I was in my office at work when they called me to say because of Zika concerns we would not be able to start the process until six months after our trip. Instant tears. At the time I was up for a big job. I knew going through the process that it was either going to be then or never and I was right. By the end of that six-month period, we were living in a whole new city with our marriage barely hanging on. A long three years later we were divorced. Now, as I approach my fourth decade of life my desire to be a mother remains. What that looks like when it
COVER finally does happen will be a bit different than I previously imagined. Regardless of how it happens I know my heart will be full and my soul will be grateful. As I wait, I have so many amazing things to fill my days, outside of work. In a couple of months, I will take on a different kind of leadership role. I will become the first Black Junior League of Tallahassee President. It might not feel like a big deal, but it is significant. For me it’s incredibly significant. You see in 2017 I joined a Junior League chapter in a small Texas town. I was looking for more ways to be involved. Two of my news anchors were members, so I thought it would be perfect. I was wrong. From the very beginning I didn’t feel welcomed, I didn’t feel like I belonged. I remember checking in for my very first meeting and the girls not being overly friendly, but whatever. What I remember next is having to take my official headshot photo and having them just stare at me. I will never know why they did it, but there weren’t very many people who looked like me and I feel pretty good about saying that was part of the problem. Despite that experience I knew the Junior League to be an organization that does amazing work, so I didn’t think twice when given the opportunity to join the Tallahassee league. I am so proud of our league’s focus on diversity, and I’m a big believer that if you're going to talk about it, be about it. I will be the best president I can for all members. I hope my presence in this role shows our community how much like them we are. I also hope I open the door for more women who look like me to take on larger roles in our league or other organizations around town. My desire to help my community also stretches far beyond the League. I sit on the board for the Oasis Center for Women and Girls. I’m a member of the Sabal Palm Community Council, Access Tallahassee, and Leadership Tallahassee Class 39 (you can’t outshine 39). I’m also a supporter of
other organizations like Second Harvest of the Big Bend and Knight Creative Communities Institute Tallahassee. Being part of all these groups has motivated me and inspired me in ways I didn’t think was possible. I find myself surrounded by brilliant people with such a passion and heart for making a difference in the lives of others. Their energy fuels my desire to want to do more and give more to families in our community. I’ve lived in six cities and no other has felt like home the way Tallahassee does. If you are reading this and you feel like you haven’t found that kind of community, get involved with the amazing nonprofits here. They could always use your support, and I promise that you will get more out of them than you give. Being committed to service has given my life purpose. There was a point that I didn’t know if life was worth living, because it felt like everything was so bad. I didn’t know if things would ever turnaround. When Kate Spade committed suicide in 2018, I thought I know what it feels like to not want to live any more. I never attempted to take my own life, but it didn’t seem like such a bad idea. During that time when I was trying to find my way, I made a promise to God. If you get me through this, I will live a life of purpose and with service to others. So, that’s what I plan to do all my days. There is also a star tattoo behind my left ear to remind me of overcoming what felt impossible and knowing God’s got me, always. There are six other stars in various places that are great reminders of many great things that have happened in my life. I learned a while ago you must celebrate all the things no matter how big or small. Two thousand words ago or something like that, I started this article talking about my transformative year ahead. I believe you can have what you say. It might not exactly happen when you want, but start
the work and things fall into place. Last year I took the biggest leap in my career. I went from running a newsroom to the entire news station. A move that’s made me a bit more fearless and confident to take other leaps. This year I turn 40, I know, I cannot believe it either! I’m going to launch a project that combines my passion for teaching and journalism. I’m going to get around to writing that book I’ve been talking about for a couple of years now. This is all part of my commitment to myself to live a limitless life and man am I excited. The great Beyoncé has a song lyric that I ABSOLUTELY love, and it is incredibly empowering. “I’ma keep on running because a winner don’t quit on themselves.” For me that means go for what you want! Surround yourself with people who want greatness for you. Know that you will be met with challenges along the way, but don’t let them break you. A mantra that I try to live by, and I share with people often “keep going, you’ve got this.” I have dealt with heartaches and disappointments in my nearly 40 years here. These things are always in the background to some degree, but I learned how to not let them overwhelm me. God has blessed me with so many amazing things in this life of mine. I don’t take them for granted. I suggest you don’t either. If at any moment you need a reminder that life is good or things will get better, let me make another suggestion. Just look up the theme song to the Mary Tyler Moore Show. There’s this part in there that puts the biggest smile on my face and makes me feel like everything will be just fine. “Love is all around, no need to waste it. You can have the town, why don't you take it. You're gonna make it after all!”
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BUSINESS & LEADERSHIP
Girl, take inventory of your life!
Dana Brooks
January is the Monday of months they say. It follows a couple of fun months and brings a no-nonsense, back to business energy. But the bleak, grey, overcast early days of the year can also be a great time to reflect on your life.
Managing Partner/Shareholder Fasig | Brooks Law Offices dana@fasigbrooks.com
If you have questions about this or any other legal topic, Dana can be reached at Fasig Brooks Law Offices, 850-777-7777. I’d be glad to help.
I start my goal setting process by inventorying the important aspects of my life: relationships, love, career, money, and health. By looking at what I already have, I am awash with gratitude and that improves my mood and mindset. Where my inventory reveals deficiencies, they are clearer and easier to address
Relationships Our relationships are what make life worth living yet they often take a back seat to the things we have to do, like work, chores, and daily routines. So much pride and shame is built into our culture, we feel guilty when we aren’t being objectively productive so we prioritize spending time on things society values at the expense of what actually brings us joy. You are not being overly self-indulgent by taking trips with your girlfriends or holding your monthly book clubs inviolate. You are not being a bad daughter/mother/sister if you don’t attend every family event. And you’re not a bad friend or wife if you do want to spend time with your family. This is your life. No one knows what’s going on in anyone else’s life. Quit worrying what people think and do what makes you happy.
Love At the beginning of the year, evaluate your love life and ask yourself one question: do I want the next two/ten/ twenty years to look like the last? If the answer is no, let this be the year you do something about it. Literally write down the pros and cons of your tallahassee woman | 38 | february • march 2025
relationship/love life choices and be honest with yourself about whether the cons can be fixed or lived with and if the pros outweigh them enough. Seeing this on paper can be the catalyst for you to take bold steps to pursue the life you know you deserve.
Money Understand money, especially your own. If you’re not already, become financially literate. Beware of getting financial advice from people who sell particular products and insurance. They’re oriented towards their products, not necessarily your best interests. Get advice from independent financial advisors who can look at your financial picture in totality. They will be a good referral source for attorneys and trust managers who can assist you with restructuring your assets in the most financially and tax advantageous ways. January is a good time to look at your holdings and make sure they’re protected. Start with completing a personal financial statement (PFS). Update it each year. This shows your net worth, meaning the difference between what you own and what you owe. It’s your equity in everything from cash to retirement savings accounts to real estate holdings to shares in businesses. It gives you an idea of what you can leverage to acquire more wealth, start a business, etc. Evaluate your insurance policies and make sure you’re carrying enough, but not too much insurance. You may be carrying $300,000 in replacement coverage for a home that would cost $900,000 to rebuild. Again, an independent advisor can tell you how much coverage you need to be protected and whether there are alternative ownership structures that help you save on insurance premiums. It may be advantageous for you to restructure the ownership of your non-homestead property in a trust in order to insulate it from exposure for liability. This is especially
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and brainstorm with people who have similar interests and goals. But if your job is not what you want it to be, make this the year you do something about it.
Make sure you have uninsured motorist coverage. Car crashes cost more every year but sadly, most people do not increase their liability coverage or carry enough insurance to cover the damage their carelessness causes other people. Look out for yourself and your hardearned money by carrying uninsured motorist coverage in case you get hurt by someone who isn’t as responsible as you are.
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Career Most Americans spend two-thirds of our waking hours trying to earn a living. Shouldn’t our occupation be the most rewarding aspect of our lives? Often it is not. If that is true for you, vow to change that this year. If you cannot change jobs or careers right away, develop a plan and start working towards it. Make your current job less bad by embracing technology, asking for help and feedback, and getting more training. Instead of mindless scrolling, go online for ideas for side gigs, new businesses, coaching assistance. Attend workshops
Finally, all of this planning is for naught if you don’t take care of yourself. Schedule a thorough annual examination, including blood work, physical exam, mammogram, PAP smear, and colonoscopy, if needed. Consider alternative healthcare providers like nutritionists, chiropractors, and functional medicine physicians to quarterback or augment your healthcare and total wellness. Get your weight under control. Make sure you are moving and introduce weight training, stretching, and balance work as you age.
Cheers to a bright, happy, successful 2025! If you want help kicking off your new year, contact Dana Brooks at Fasig Brooks Law Offices 850-777-7777 or dana@fasigbrooks.com
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EMBRACE YOUR VOICE
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his past week, I heard a common theme among my patients: they discussed not feeling seen or heard in their respective worlds. Often, their ideas were co-opted and presented by someone else, they were overlooked for promotions, or they felt too nervous to speak out on topics that they were clearly knowledgeable in. If any of these situations resonate with you, you are not alone.
JANE MARKS WRITER Jane Marks is a licensed psychotherapist "life coach" with 50+ years of experience specializing in child and adolescent behavior. She is a motivational speaker/lecturer focusing on mental health and adolescents.
So many of us feel that we are not listened to or understood. As a result, we feel frustrated, anxious, unsure of ourselves, and unvalued by those around us. Suppose we took stock of how assertive we are in situations. Do we confidently express our thoughts? Are we clear in our messages? Do we set boundaries and establish limits? Do we actively listen while engaging with others? Are we our own self-advocates? If your answer is a tentative “maybe” or a struggling “yes,” consider these key tips: 1. KNOW WHO YOU ARE. Your feelings and needs are valid, and you have the right to express them. 2. BODY LANGUAGE IS KEY. Stand tall, make eye contact, and use a steady voice. Be clear about what you mean and do so in a straightforward manner. 3. USE “I” STATEMENTS. Frame your thoughts by focusing on your feelings and experiences. Also practice saying
“no.” Start with small situations. Remember: it’s okay to decline requests that don’t serve you. 4. WHEN PRESENTING YOUR IDEAS, REMAIN CALM AND COMPOSED. Express your needs openly and honestly. Be clear and direct. Stick to the main point. Do not feel you have to justify your reasons or apologize for simply having an opinion. 5. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR FEELINGS. If you feel angry or upset, remember that the other person did not choose for you to feel that way. They chose their behavior; you can choose your response. 6. LISTEN ACTIVELY. Show that you value others’ opinions, but don’t let them overshadow your own. Take the time to practice assertiveness. Practice scenarios with friends, family, and colleagues and role-play scenarios that often stump you. Reflect and learn. After having navigated these experiences, reflect on what went well and where you can improve. Learn to accept that — most of the time — you can’t change others. Try and remain grounded and not take it personally. Remember: being assertive is not just about speaking up. It’s about taking charge of your health, your well-being and who you are. This week, embrace your voice and watch how it grows a bolder you.
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BOSS MOVES
How to Elevate Your Career in 2025 By TWM Staff
Develop a Growth Mindset – See challenges as opportunities for learning rather than roadblocks.
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hether you're climbing the corporate ladder or launching your own business, 2025 is the year to step into your power, sharpen your skills, and make bold moves toward success. The workplace is evolving, and with it, the expectations for leadership, networking, and professional growth. Here’s your guide to making career-defining moves this year.
1. Build a Strong Professional Network
Leverage Social Media – Platforms like LinkedIn, Instagram, and Twitter are essential tools for personal branding. Engage
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2. Elevate Your Confidence
Your network is your net worth. In 2025, building meaningful connections is more important than ever.
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partner to keep you on track.
4. Invest in Continuous Learning The most successful professionals never stop learning. Upskill to stay ahead in your industry.
Break It Down – Large goals can feel overwhelming. Break them into smaller milestones and celebrate each win.
Take Online Courses – Platforms like Coursera, Udemy, and LinkedIn Learning offer affordable and flexible learning opportunities.
Stay Accountable – Check in with yourself regularly or find an accountability
Read More – Follow industry blogs,
read books, and listen to career-focused podcasts to stay informed and inspired. Seek Feedback – Constructive criticism is a tool for growth. Regularly ask for feedback and apply it to improve.
5. Develop a Personal Brand Your reputation precedes you. In 2025, establishing a strong personal brand can differentiate you from the competition. Define Your Unique Value – What
Make 2025 Your Year of Success makes you different? Identify your strengths and communicate them effectively. Be Consistent Online and Offline – Your online presence should align with how you present yourself in professional settings.
Elevating your career in 2025 is all about being proactive, intentional, and fearless in your pursuits. Whether you’re striving for a promotion, launching a business, or leveling up your skills, now is the time to make those boss moves. The key is to stay focused, adaptable, and always ready to learn and grow. Your career success story starts now!
Create Content – Share your knowledge through blog posts, videos, or social media updates to establish credibility in your field.
6. Take Bold Risks Success often requires stepping outside your comfort zone. Say Yes to New Opportunities – Even if a challenge feels daunting, take the leap and trust your abilities. Negotiate for What You Deserve – Whether it's a raise, a new title, or better business terms, advocate for yourself with confidence. Embrace Failure as Growth – Every misstep is a lesson. Learn from setbacks and use them as stepping stones toward greater success.
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MIND, BODY & SPIRIT
Define your Boundaries and Enhance your Mental Health in 2025 By Shairi R. Turner, MD, MPH
Dr. Shairi joined Shontra Powell on her Proven Not Perfect YouTube Channel for a powerful conversation on boundaries and mental health. Scan the QR code to listen to Navigating Boundaries and Mental Health: Insights with Dr. Shairi Turner for personal growth and parenting in the digital age.
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rticulating boundaries with clarity and intentionality is key to good mental health and well-being. We have been here: Someone crosses a personal boundary into our emotional, mental, or even physical space. As women - mothers, daughters, sisters, aunts, friends, or co-workers - our next action is often important to the mental health and well-being of ourselves, our friends, and our families. 2025 is the year that we set boundaries and protect them. Personal boundaries are the limits we set for ourselves. They define the emotional, mental, and physical spaces that set alerts in our relationships. Boundaries are created and influenced by family values, culture, life experiences, and even where we live. They define us. Emotional boundaries define our feelings and inner sentiments. Mental boundaries connect values and belief systems, allowing us to form opinions. Physical boundaries incorporate preferences for physical touch and personal space.
exhaustion and burnout. 2. To improve relationships: With diverse life experiences and backgrounds, we have different boundaries. Clarity fosters mutual respect. 3. To reinforce self-worth and independence: Defining what is acceptable and how we want to be treated are directly related to our autonomy and self-worth. 4. To reduce stress: Overcommitment can cause overwhelm; Just say “No”.
What do you do if someone crosses your boundary? 1. Take a deep breath. 2. Stay calm and composed as you state your expectations. 3. Share why this is important to you.
Why do we need boundaries?
Please know that establishing boundaries takes practice. To become comfortable with it, role-play. The goal of setting boundaries is to:
1. To balance gender bias and expectations: There is a belief that women can and will do it ALL. We routinely prioritize the needs of others before our own. This can lead to emotional
Be unapologetically yourself. Be clear about what you need. Live your best (and freest) life.
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Breaking Free from Overthinking A Guide to Quieting Your Mind and Finding Peace By Jane Marks
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ow often do you find yourself asking, “What if?” How often do you beat yourself up over a mistake you made yesterday? How often do you find yourself stuck in a spiral of playing out different scenarios and catastrophizing the outcomes? Do you often think about how you are going to embarrass yourself? If so, you may be like a lot of us “Overthinkers.” It’s important to note that thinking tooo much can not only take a toll on your sense of well-being, but it can also result in many nights of lost sleep. So, how do we begin to put aside our overthinking— our rethinking, rehashing, and secondguessing? Here’s where to start: 1. Catch the moment when you notice you are replaying certain events over and over. You may experience a headache or stiffness in your back. Automatic negative thinking will do this to you. 2. Step back and observe your thoughts as if you were a reporter reviewing a case. This will help you reframe your concerns.
3. Don’t suffer in silence. Notice the feeling and take action. If you try out a solution, you will feel more in control. 4. Set boundaries on how long you will worry or overthink a situation. Keeping it to five-minute intervals gives overthinking term limits. 5. Put aside perfectionism. It’s important to experience failures—we learn from them. 6. Trust your intuition. Going with your gut will keep you from continually censoring yourself. 7. Cancel decision fatigue by creating routines. Fewer decisions mean less worry. 8. Change the channel to happiness. When we distract ourselves with music, dancing, meditation, painting, gardening and things we love it often stops overthinking in its tracks. Finally, find grace and gratitude every day. If we can honor our successes— and grow from our failures—we are on our way to developing our very own blueprint to conquer overthinking.
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TURBOCHARGE YOUR SELF-CARE AND MINDSET FOR 2025 By Jane Marks
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y niece often jokes about how her two-year-old daughter is “so extra”: she’s so confident, so outspoken, and always has a largerthan-life perspective on everything she sees. Well, this got me to thinking how important “extra” can be as we prepare to embrace the New Year. Adding “extra” can add vibrancy, vitality, and most of all positivity to your overall mindset. So, this #MentalHealthMonday, let’s give our week a turbo boost by adding some of the following strategies to your self-care plan for 2025. 1. BE BOLD IN YOUR HEALTH CHOICES. Don’t just dip your toes into the wellness pool—dive in headfirst. Try that pickleball class, a spicy new dish, hitting the gym like you own the place, or swapping soda for a green smoothie. Go big and feel exhilarated.
2. SET BOLD GOALS. Dream big! Set ambitious, but achievable goals for personal growth, whether in your career, health or relationships. Approach each day with purpose. Set intentions for how you want to feel and what you want to achieve in a big way. Also, it’s okay to set quirky goals: wear those outrageous outfits that are in the back of your closet waiting for a special occasion. That occasion could be today. 3. PRIORITIZE SELFCARE. Make time for yourself. Your to-do list should include daily movement, mindful eating, protected sleep, daily hydration, interpersonal connection, and most importantly, a time out each day recharge your batteries. So, whether you add a spa day, nature walk, or a cozy day-in, these activities refill your health bank. 4. WEAR YOUR HAPPINESS. Don an outfit that makes you feel fabulous—bright colors, funky patterns, or even accessories that are over-the-top. Your style can be the sunshine that sets your outlook. If you know me, that’s been a mantra for years. So, let’s all dress like we mean it.
5. COMPLIMENT LIKE CONFETTI. Throw extra compliments around like it’s New Year’s Eve. Make it a goal to share at least three compliments a day with those around you. Think of it as adding “extra” to your personal happiness workout, and most importantly watch as it becomes contagious to those around you. 6. EXPRESS YOURSELF WITH FUN AND FLAIR. Your self-talk should include your “extra” inner critic makeover. Instead of “I can’t do this,” tell yourself, “I am a rock star in training.” Give yourself a funny over-the-top motivational speech to remind yourself of your uniqueness and your greatness. Don’t forget, we are surrounded by friends, family faith, and favor. That means we have a spectacular new year to look forward to. So, this year, let’s turn ordinary moments into “extra” ordinary moments. Let’s channel my vibrant and joyful grand-niece, and add a sprinkle of fun and a dash of adventure to our health journeys. This can be our secret sauce to a healthier you and a healthier 2025.
tallahassee woman | 48 | february • march 2025
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THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO SELF-CARE THIS VALENTINE’S SEASON
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ebruary isn’t just for romance—it’s also the perfect time to prioritize self-love and embrace practices that nourish both the mind and body. In a season filled with grand gestures and heartfelt connections, don’t forget to invest in the most important relationship of all: the one with yourself. Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, taking the time to care for your well-being can bring an unmatched sense of fulfillment and happiness. Self-care isn’t just about indulging in beauty treatments, though they can certainly play a role. A spa day, a luxurious skincare routine, or even a simple face mask can help you feel refreshed and pampered. Taking time to unwind with a warm bath infused with essential oils or enjoying a quiet moment with a book and a cup of tea can create a sense of peace amidst the daily hustle. By treating yourself with kindness and care, you reinforce the idea that you are worthy of love and attention. Beyond physical self-care, mindfulness practices can help cultivate a deeper sense of inner peace. Taking a few minutes each day to meditate, journal, or simply sit in quiet reflection allows you to reconnect with yourself. Being present in the moment, appreciating the little joys, and
practicing gratitude can shift your perspective and help you approach life with a renewed sense of purpose. Engaging in deep breathing exercises or taking a mindful walk in nature can provide clarity and calm, reducing stress and enhancing overall well-being. Confidence-boosting habits are another key component of self-care. Dressing in a way that makes you feel powerful, speaking kindly to yourself, and setting healthy boundaries are all acts of self-love. Replacing negative self-talk with affirmations and surrounding yourself with positive influences can significantly impact how you see yourself. Investing in personal growth, whether through learning a new skill, pursuing a passion, or setting and achieving meaningful goals, can further boost your self-esteem and fulfillment. This Valentine’s season, remember that love starts from within. By caring for yourself, you cultivate the confidence and happiness that radiates outward, enhancing all of your relationships. Whether it’s indulging in a little luxury, practicing mindfulness, or embracing self-empowerment, taking the time to prioritize your well-being is the greatest gift you can give yourself. Love yourself first, and everything else will follow.
tallahassee woman | 50 | february • march 2025
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