OCTOBER/NOVEMBER 2023
FALL IN WITH YOURSELF
TWM RED GALA MIDTOWN READS
Fall Drinks
INDIVIDUAL FALL FASHION Bows are Back SEXUAL CYBERHARASSMENT
ADHD in Adult Women
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CONTENTS 10. LETTER FROM PUBLISHER
CULTURE & CUISINE
14. EMBRACE YOUR VIBRANT STYLE AND AGELESS ELEGANCE 16.PUMPKIN DELIGHT 17. CELEBRATION OF WOMAN & GIRLS 18. BOWS ARE BACK 20. MIDTOWN READS: FALL BOOK LIST 22. THE SPIRIT OF HALLOWEEN
LIVING LOCAL
24. FALL FLAVORS IN YOUR CUP: TALLAHASSEE WOMAN OWNED COFFEE SHOPS 26. AROUND TOWN: TALLAHASSEE WOMAN MAGAZINE'S RED WOMEN'S FALL FORUM AND FASHION SHOW, BADDASS COSMETICS LAUNCH PARTY
39. LEGAL WRITES WITH DANA BROOKS 40. STACKED: WOMEN IN REAL ESTATE WITH CARRIE BOYD
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MIND, BODY & SPIRIT 42. MINDFUL LIFE RESOURCE GUIDE
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LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS 46. THE CRUCIAL IMPORTANCE OF MENTAL HEALTH 49. YOUR MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP 51. WE INSPIRE
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ON THE COVER
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30. REMARKABLE JOURNEY OF REINVENTION CARRIE BOYD'S EXTRAORDINARY PATH TO TRANSFORMATION
BUSINESS & LEADERSHIP
37. ORGANIZATIONAL CULTURE
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28. ABOUT THE COVER: | PHOTOGRAPHY: KIRA DERRYBERRY | MUA: IMAGE BY LISA | HAIR: TANYA EVANS: EIGHT FIVE ZERO SALON | DRESS: NARCISSUS
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Women United proudly features
SHANNON BREAM On November 14th, the Seventh Annual Women’s Leadership Breakfast, a project of Women United and United Way of the Big Bend will bring community members together for a morning of inspiration and motivation. This annual signature event provides an opportunity for women (and men) in our community to learn about Women United, and how we address the region’s most critical needs with the aim of lifting women, children, and families out of poverty while igniting a spirit of community and connection creating a better future for our neighbors. This year’s keynote speaker is Shannon Bream: a Tallahassee native, FSU College of Law graduate, author, journalist, podcaster, wife, and daughter.
Shannon began her legal career specializing in race discrimination and sexual harassment cases and is well versed in the struggles that many in our community face daily. Bream is the host of FOX News Sunday with Shannon Bream and has written several books including two New York Times #1 Best Sellers. We are so excited to have Shannon Bream speak at the 7th Annual Women’s Leadership Breakfast and hope you will join us for this incredible event. If you are interested in sponsoring this event, please contact Elyse Thompson at elyse@uwbb.org or call 850.487.2087.
NOVEMBER 14 • 8:30 AM • DONALD L. TUCKER CIVIC CENTER 307 E. Seventh Avenue l Tallahassee, FL 32303 l Ph 850.414.0844 l www. uwbb.org
WOM A N
MAGAZINE
October - November 2023 • Volume 18 • Issue 6
Publisher | Editor-in-Chief Dr. Michelle Mitcham
CRISTINA CARTER Relationship Manager
BRIANA SMITH Creative Consultant
PAULA DEBOLES-JOHNSON Director of Leadership Initiatives
CONTRIBUTORS
Executive Editor
OLIVIA HEYWARD Creative Director
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Talent Shaping Tallahassee With nearly a decade of experience serving the City of Tallahassee, Vanessa Spaulding is now leading the way to establishing a Foreign Trade Zone (FTZ) at Tallahassee International Airport (TLH). With a proven track record managing large-scale, detailed projects including more than 75 aeronautical and non-aeronautical leases at TLH, Spaulding was recently promoted to manage the FTZ, air service development, cargo development and Airport legislative affairs. Focused investments at TLH support the City's Five-Year Strategic Plan objective to increase the Airport's annual economic impact on the region to $1 billion in 2024, serve 1 million annual total passengers and process 22 million pounds of cargo annually. Data released this year from the Florida Department of Transportation reports TLH’s annual economic impact grew to $859 million, up 43 percent from $599 million in 2019. The FTZ at TLH will continue to distinguish the Airport as the global connection to the Northwest Florida region, enhance international commerce, stimulate the economy and bolster the region’s global market competitiveness. Maintaining close relationships with federal, state and local partners is a critical part of Spaulding’s new role, as is her work managing strategic air service and cargo development programs. In its steadfast pursuit of new air service options for the community, TLH landed JetBlue as its newest air service provider earlier this year, with flights to Fort Lauderdale set to begin in January 2024. As activity abounds at TLH, Spaulding’s embracing her new role and the global opportunities emerging at the Airport. To get the latest updates from TLH, visit TLHAirport.com.
VANESSA SPAULDING
Sheila Salyer has dedicated more than 27 years of service to residents of the City of Tallahassee, currently serving as director of Tallahassee Senior Services. Knowing the value of national senior center standards and accreditation, Tallahassee Senior Center (TSC) has been accredited three times under her leadership. Now, Salyer’s community impact has been recognized with the National Council on Aging’s Trailblazers in Aging Awards 2023 National Institute of Senior Centers 2023 Founders Award. Salyer is credited with growing the TSC Foundation from $60,000 to $700,000 and enabling it to provide innovative programming, like UPSLIDE, which addresses loneliness and isolation by connecting people ages 50 and older for meaningful social interaction. TSC serves more than 5,000 participants annually and, monthly, offers almost 180 programs, activities and opportunities designed to encourage active living, optimal aging and social fitness. To learn more about offerings from Tallahassee Senior Services for independent adults age 50+, visit Talgov.com/Seniors.
SHEILA SALYER
Happy October!
PUBLISHER
Welcome to a new season filled with endless possibilities and opportunities for growth. As I reflect on the changing seasons, I am reminded of my childhood in Michigan, where each season brought its own unique charm. It was always a favorite time of year, filled with anticipation and excitement. In life, just like in nature, we experience different seasons. These seasons may manifest as a new attitude, a fresh perspective, a promising job opportunity, or a blossoming relationship. Each season brings with it an opportunity for reflection, renewal, and gratitude. As Thanksgiving approaches, it is important to take a moment to appreciate what truly makes us happy and the qualities that define us as human beings. Let us cherish our families, friends, and the beautiful memories we have created together. At Tallahassee Woman Magazine, we are honored and thrilled to be selected Photo by Kira Derryberry Photography
as the Minority Business Enterprise of the year from the Office of Economic Vitality. We are also excited about the recent inaugural RED Women's Fall Forum and Fashion Show, that featured outstanding community leaders, students and collaborators. Special thanks to the Young Actors Theater, Narcissus, FSU interns and all of the volunteers that made is a success! Congratulations to Carrie Boyd, our dynamic Cover Woman. Her inspiring story will undoubtedly leave a lasting impact on all who read it. A special thanks to Elizabeth “Ely” Rosario, an-
other rockstar in our community, for beautifully capturing Carrie's journey. Make sure to explore all the wonderful articles in this issue of Tallahassee Woman Magazine. From empowering stories to insightful features, we have curated a collection of content that will uplift and inspire you. We invite you to join us on October 26th for the Red Masquerade Gala, where we will honor women who embody resilience, empowerment, and determination. It promises to be a night filled with celebration and recognition. Go online for tickets or sponsorships today at http://TalWoman.com .
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As we embrace this new season, let us embrace the opportunities it brings. Let us continue to support and uplift one another, celebrating the achievements and milestones that make our community thrive. Together, we can create a season of growth, inspiration, and endless possibilities. Warmest regards,
Dr. Michelle Mitcham
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OCTOBER
BREAST CANCER AWARENESS MONTH Have you had your mammogram this year?
RAISE AWARENESS, SUPPORT SURVIVORS, AND FUND CRUCIAL RESEARCH. TOGETHER, WE CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE LIVES OF THOSE AFFECTED BY THIS DISEASE.
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CULTURE & CUISINE
Embrace Your Vibrant Style and Ageless Elegance FALL 2023 IS HERE, AND IT'S TIME TO REVAMP YOUR WARDROBE WITH TIMELESS STAPLES THAT EXUDE ELEGANCE AND SOPHISTICATION.
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hile neutrals are always a safe bet, don't be afraid to add a touch of excitement with a pop of vibrant red. As the famous quote goes, "There's a shade of red for every woman," and this season is all about finding yours. Comfort is key, and you don't have to break the bank to achieve a stylish look. Invest in a classic white T-shirt and pair it with sleek black leggings for a chic and effortless ensemble. Layering is the name of the game, so experiment with different coats and textures to add depth and dimension to your outfits. And let's not forget the power of accessories! Make a statement with a fashionable hat and incorporate pops of color to elevate your overall look. For our environmentally conscious fashionistas, why not embrace the vegan trend? Dive into your personality and dare to go totally vegan with a faux fur coat or vegan leather pieces. Not only will you be making a fashion-forward statement, but you'll also be contributing to a more sustainable future. Age is just a number, and fashion knows
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"Get ready to conquer fall with confidence and grace."
no boundaries. Whether you're a professional woman or a seasoned fashionista, these fall fashion tips are designed to inspire and empower women of all ages. Embrace your individuality, break the rules, and create a style that makes you feel your absolute best.
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So, ladies, get ready to conquer fall with confidence and grace. Florida may not have the traditional autumn weather, but that doesn't mean we can't embrace the spirit of the season through our fashion choices. Let your wardrobe reflect your vibrant personality and show the world that age is no barrier to looking fabulous. Here's to a season filled with fashion-forward choices, endless possibilities, and the joy of expressing your unique style. Happy fall, ladies!
PUMPKIN DELIGHT! By Kaitlyn Keane
INSTRUCTIONS
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ou know, there's something truly magical about being home during this time of year. And for me, that magic is wrapped up in a delicious dish. Picture this: eleven years ago, right after Hurricane Sandy swept through our hometown in New York, my mom was just chilling and watching "Live with Kelly and Michael." And guess what? It was during that cozy TV time that she stumbled upon Nicole Murphy's fantastic pumpkin dessert recipe. Fast forward to today, and this dessert has become like an old friend in our family's fall festivities. My mom's taken it under her wing, added her own special touches, and made it a cherished tradition that we look forward to every autumn.
2 sticks of butter 1 large, 29 oz, can of pumpkin puree 3 large eggs 1 large can of evaporated milk 1 cup of white sugar 1 tsp vanilla extract 2 tsp of cinnamon ¾ tsp nutmeg 1 box of yellow cake mix 1 tub of Cool Whip
DIRECTIONS
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. Heat the two sticks of butter until melted, then set aside. In a large bowl mix together the large can of pumpkin puree, three eggs, a large can of evaporated milk, vanilla extract, cinamon, and nutmeg. Pour your mixture into a baking dish of your choosing. Sprinkle the bag of cake mix evenly over the top of your mixture. Pour the melted butter that was set aside on top of the cake mix. *Do Not Mix* Bake for one hour. Place your finished dish in the refrigerator to cool. Slice and serve your creation, and top with Cool Whip.
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The Oasis Center for Women and Girls’ 12th Annual Celebration
of Women & Girls on Sept. 7 was an extraordinary success! With music, poetry, comedy, performing arts, and more, our community’s talented female artists came together for a captivating performance at Tallahassee Community College’s beautiful Turner Auditorium. Guests were treated to an array of local color: Social Catering’s spread of flavorful food and beverages, complemented by beer samples from Amicus Brewing Ventures; a raffle featuring unique prizes like a painting completed live and in-person by Sarah Painter, and a custom cutting board from The Raptor Den; and remarks in support of women’s and girls’ empowerment by TCC President Dr. Jim Murdaugh, attorney Carrie Roane of Galaxy Sponsor Fasig Brooks, and our outstanding emcee Christic Henry. Oasis is grateful to all the people and businesses that supported the celebration, and a special thanks to the evening’s performers: Mary Caitlin Boulo, Cynie Cory, Jaci Niks, Sarah Painter, Brianne Rucker, Paula Sofia, The Tallahassee Alumnae Chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, The Maddox Youth Dance Company, The Tallahassee Ballet, Theatre Tallahassee and Michelle Nickens, and the Director Liane Giroux.
www.TheOasisCenter.net
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Bows ARE BACK!!
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all 2023 is all about embracing the playful and exciting trend of bows in fashion. From hair bows adorning blouses to bows as statement belts, this charming accessory is taking the fashion world by storm. Bows add a touch of femininity and whimsy to any outfit, making them the perfect way to spice up your fall wardrobe. Whether you're looking for a subtle bow detail or a bold and oversized statement, there are endless options to explore. Designers have embraced this trend, incorporating bows into their collections in innovative and creative ways. From delicate satin bows on blouses to leather bows on belts, there is a bow for every style and occasion! To stay ahead of the fashion curve, I recommend exploring IG or online websites. These provide inspiration for incorporating bows into your fall outfits. Look for fashion bloggers and influencers who are showcasing this trend and offering savvy tips. They can provide valuable insights on how to incorporate bows into your own unique fashion sense. Remember, fashion is all about individual expression, and having fun! So, don't be afraid to experiment with different bow styles, sizes, and placements. Whether you choose to wear a bow in your hair, on your blouse, or as a belt, let it be a reflection of your personal style and add that extra touch of excitement to your fall fashion. So, ladies, get ready to embrace the bow trend and let your fashion choices be a celebration of joy and playfulness. Fall 2023 is the perfect time to add a little spice to your wardrobe with these delightful and fun accessories. Let the bows be your fashion statement and enjoy the thrill of expressing your unique style. Happy bow hunting and have a fabulous fall season!
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By Rebecca Weaver
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FALL READING LIST BY SALLY BRADSHAW
t’s finally fall – our favorite season at Midtown Reader because of all the great new reads and the cooler weather (we hope!). Here’s what’s stacked on our nightstands for the next few months. Rouge By Mona Awad Margaret Atwood named Syracuse writing prof Awad her “literary heir”, and Awad’s latest gothic fairy-tale has been named a most anticipated book of 2023 by multiple outlets including LitHub and Good Housekeeping. Described as “Snow White” meets “Eyes Wide Shut”, this story probes the love between mothers and daughters along with our messed up obsession with the mirror. The Vaster Wilds By Lauren Groff Celebrated Gainesville author Lauren Groff is back with her latest adventure, featuring a young servant girl who escapes from a colonial settlement into a world for which she is completely unprepared, armed only with her wit and imagination. Publisher’s Weekly calls this “taut and electrifying” and gives it a starred review. Amazing Grace Adams By Fran Littlewood The publisher marketing surrounding this debut novel says all you need to know….”Bernadette, Eleanor Oliphant, Rosie, Ove . . . meet Amazing Grace Adams, the funny, touching, unforgettable story of an invisible everywoman pushed to the brink--who finally pushes back. Stuck in traffic, she finally has had enough. To the astonishment of everyone, Grace gets out of her car and simply walks away.” The Sisterhood: The Secret History of Women at the CIA By Liza Mundy Bestselling author of Code Girls, Mundy pulls together the stories of women spies spanning three generations, from the earliest women
to join the CIA to the women who helped track down Osama Bin Laden, women broke the glass ceiling in the intelligence industry while making untold sacrifices in the process. Kirkus calls Mundy’s read “vivid, compelling, important….a winner.” Mystery Guest: A Maid Novel By Nita Prose Author of the best-selling The Maid, Prose is back with a sequel! Modern-day “Amelia Bedelia” Molly Gray has a new mess to clean up and a new mystery to solve when a famous mystery author drops dead at her hotel. With lots of suspects and a case that threatens the hotels’ reputation, Molly gets to work! The Fraud By Zadie Smith Fans of Hilary Mantel get ready! Zadie Smith’s latest fiction novel is based on real events. Mrs. Eliza Touchet, a Scottish housekeeper is obsessed with the “Tichborne Trial” in 1873, where a butcher from Australia claims he is the heir to an estate and a title. Is Tichborne a fraud? Or is he telling the truth? And Andrew Bogle, once enslaved in Jamaica, is the trial’s star witness. The Guardian says few could write this mix of “narrative delight” and “rapid satire” as Smith does. My Name is Barbra By Barbra Streisand Superstar Streisand walks us through her story in this fall’s most anticipated memoir – from growing up in Brooklyn and performing in nightclubs, to her standout performances in musicals and films, Streisand’s frank and funny tale is sure to be a best-seller.
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The Spirit of Halloween: A Journey into Its Significance By Summer Batten
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alloween is a holiday that has evolved and changed over the years. Many cultures celebrate it differently. Symbolizing the changing of the seasons by the ancient Celts, people would come together to ward off evil spirits with a bonfire and costumes, often indulging in sweets. Sound familiar? With origins in Europe, the holiday gained popularity in America with Washington Irving’s short story The Legend of Sleepy Hallow in 1820, much like A Christmas Carol did to Christmas, setting up All Hallow’s Eve as the spookiest time of the year. Not every country celebrates the holiday the same way. In Mexico, Dia de Los Muertos (Day of the Dead) is a time to celebrate and remember the departed when the veil between the living world and the dead is the thinnest. They dress up but in bright colors and partake in parades and festivals to rejoice in life and the life after death. While Halloween has evolved in many ways, like carving pumpkins instead of turnips, it is still a time to come together. Keep warm by a fire, trick-or-treat, or drink hot apple cider while watching spooktastic movies that make you spill your popcorn. Some take it to the scariest level, while others quietly carve pumpkins with family and friends. If you choose, make the holiday your own by creating traditions and including your family and friends.
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celebrating national
SEPTEMBER 15, 2023 – OCTOBER 15, 2023
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LAKE TOMAHAWK PARK SEVEN SISTERS MOUNTAIN RANGE LOOMS IN BACKGROUND
FALL FLAVORS
in Your Cup
A Tour of Tallahassee's Women Owned Coffee Shops By Heather Touby
RedEye Coffee: Salted Caramel Mocha Looking to start your morning with a taste of chocolate deliciousness? Head over to RedEye to try their new Salted Caramel Mocha! This drink is made with rich dutch cocoa, sweet buttery caramel, and topped with Himalayan pink salt. Putting a fall twist on a house favorite, the Salted Caramel Mocha is made with the finest ingredients and is perfect hot, iced, or as a frappe. RedEye Coffee owner Barby Moro “loves the balance of sweet and savory, [since] it's the perfect choice as we get ready for sweater weather." If you’re not in a chocolate mood, no worries! Their fall menu also includes some must-try specials like the Caramel Apple Cider, and Pumpkin Spice Latte, made with real pumpkin in their house made syrup.
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s the weather gets colder and coffee drinks go from cold to hot, it’s only natural to feel like your morning coffee could use an upgrade! From creamy Snickerdoodle lattes, to energizing pumpkin cold brews, autumn presents unlimited opportunities to add some spice to your morning cup of joe. Not sure what to try? No worries! We visited some Tallahassee local, women-owned coffee shops and sipped on some delicious coffee drinks we know you’ll fall over for! Keep reading to see a few fall drinks that’ll have you feelin’ gourd!
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Midtown Reader: Librarian Chai There’s nothing better than cozying up this fall with a warm latte and a good book! Introducing the Librarian Chai, a literary spin on The Librarian Spy by Madeline Martin. Midtown Reader Manager Kristin Kehl tells us this is “the perfect pair of a cozy drink and a riveting historical fiction.” What better way to kickoff fall than with mysteries, librarians, and, of course, pumpkin spice chai lattes. Grab it from the Piebrary today!
Frother’s Daughter: Banana Bread Latte Frother’s Daughter loves fall so much, they started serving pumpkin in July and don’t plan on slowing down anytime soon! Owner Rosalyn Wilsey understands that “fall isn’t just a season - it’s a feeling, it’s a memory, it’s a beautiful change, and it’s a cup of anything that celebrates your inner child’s desire to jump into a pile of leaves.” One of their returning October favorites is, “the Banana Bread Latte”: a brown sugar cinnamon, caramel, and banana latte topped with whipped cream, caramel drizzle, and cinnamon sugar. Want to try it today? Just look for their iconic coffee trailer traveling around Tallahassee, and grab yourself a latte that tastes just like waking up to a house filled with the sweet smell of banana bread.
Square Mug Cafe: Happy Fall Y’all “Happy Fall Y’all” isn’t just a fun new way to greet your friends, it's also the name of Square Mug Cafe’s favorite fall drink! This drink is made with maple spice, cookie butter, and white chocolate, making it the perfect coffee to relax, light a candle, and watch the leaves change. Owner of Square Mug, Donna Elliot, loves this drink because it tastes just like a “maple leaf cream cookie!”
L a F l o r i da C o f f e e and W i n e : C o zy C a m pfi r e One sip of LaFlorida’s Cozy Campfire and you’ll be transported back to cool autumn nights gathered around the fire with friends. This fall drink is made with chocolate syrup, toasted marshmallow, and cinnamon, making it the perfect transition from summer to autumn. LaFlorida Coffee and TICKETS AND SPONSORSHIPS AVAILABLE TALWOMAN.COM Wine Owner, Jean Uthmeier, says thisAT drink reminds her of “growing up on Lake St. Claire in Michigan, inching closer to the fire until your face glowed and you feel warm head to toe.” Once you smell the warm cinnamon aroma paired with mocha and toasted marshmallow, you’ll be wishing it was fall all year long!
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AROUND
TOWN
THE INAUGURAL RED WOMEN'S FALL FORUM AND FASHION SHOW 09.15.23
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he inaugural RED Women's Fall Forum and Fashion Show held at the Young Actors Theatre (YAT) was exciting and enlightening!! This highly anticipated event attracted professional women of all ages, as well as men, who were eager to be a part of this empowering experience. The panel of 13 remarkable women, shared their pearls of wisdom, leaving the audience uplifted and inspired!! Mothers seized the opportunity to bring their daughters along, and the excitement in the air was palpable. The discussion centered around women's empowerment and the importance of using your voice; being authentic. It was truly heartwarming to witness the younger generation being filled with enthusiasm and hope for their future.
Panelists pictured from left from right: Dr. Andrea Friall, Marina Lickson, Carrie Boyd, Analorena Melendez, Dr. Chanta Haywood, Dr. Michelle Mitcham, Carla Juarez Farley, Dr. Gwendolyn Singleton, Chattie Winton, Anita Bushnyakova, Tina Darnell, Mary Stafford, Nina Ashenafi Richardson, Kelly Otte, Sarah Doolin-Roy
But the excitement didn't stop there. The fall fashion show that followed was nothing short of fabulous! The stunning dresses by Narcissus took everyone's breath away, and the event was co-hosted by the dynamic duo of Dr. Michelle Mitcham, Publisher of Tallahassee Woman Magazine, and Sarah Villella from Narcissus. The young ladies and professional women who graced the runway did a phenomenal job, captivating the audience with their confidence and grace. We extend our heartfelt gratitude to the community and the dedicated volunteers who came out to support this extraordinary event. It is through your unwavering support that we were able to create such a memorable and impactful experience for all who attended. Special thanks to Tanya Evans and her phenomenal team at 850 Salon and Lisa Davis, Image By Lisa and Baddass Cosmetics for taking care of all the Photography By Mandie Barber Studios
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models and panelists hair and makeup!! Thank you to all of the interns and volunteers! Team TWM did an amazing job! Special thanks to Olivia Heyward for her creativity, and curating the backdrops for an international experience!! As we reflect on the overwhelming success of the inaugural RED Women's Fall Forum and Fashion Show, we can't help but feel a sense of anticipation for what the future holds. We are already eagerly looking forward to next year's event, where we will once again come together to celebrate the strength, resilience, and achievements of women in our community. Thank you once again for being a part of this fabulous event. Your presence and support made all the difference, and we can't wait to see you next year for another unforgettable celebration!!
Photography By Mandie Barber Studios
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LISA DAVIS BADDASS COSMETICS LAUNCH PARTY 09.07.23
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By Kaitlyn Walsh
isa Davis is not just
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an
glosses come in rich pinks,
entrepreneur;
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reds, and mauves.
woman! With over 13 years of experience, Davis has been
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creating
makeup
into the world of makeup be-
looks and empowering wom-
gan as a result of her four chil-
en to feel confident in their
dren. At the launch event, her
makeup skills. Her beauty
daughter Lydia proudly sport-
salon, Image by Lisa, is the
ed a BADDASS Cosmetics
place where all the magic
t-shirt, embodying the brand's
happens. Here, Davis works
spirit.
stunning
her makeup artistry to perfection while creating a fun and
BADDASS Cosmetics caters
exciting environment for her
to all the needs of the modern
clients to relax and unwind.
woman seeking simple, hassle-free makeup. Each prod-
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uct in the line is designed to
ness further, Davis ventured
easily fit into a makeup bag,
into the world of cosmetics.
from mascaras and brow mas-
And thus, BADDASS Cos-
caras to powders, lipsticks,
metics was born, with a fab-
and eyeliners. Not to mention,
ulous launch party held on
the packaging is sleek and
September 7th. The event was
stylish, adding a touch of el-
an absolute blast, with ev-
egance to your beauty routine.
eryone in attendance having a great time, enjoying lively
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music, and sipping on bubbly
BADDASS
Davis's
own
words,
drinks. The enthusiasm in the
"makeup simplified for the
salon was palpable, as people
baddass woman on the go!"
eagerly purchased products
It's a brand that understands
from the new cosmetics line.
the needs of today's busy
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is
women and provides them Davis's vision for BADDASS
with the tools to shine effort-
Cosmetics is simple yet im-
lessly.
pactful: "Some people don't have time for 20 different col-
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ors; they just need 2 or 3." Her
BADDASS Cosmetics ex-
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Remarkable Journey of
Reinvention CARRIE BOYD An Extraordinary Path to Transformation BY: ELIZABETH ROSARIO | PHOTOGRAPHY: KIRA DERRYBERRY
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he Backstory of How I Met Carrie… Carrie and I met at RedEye Coffee when a mutual friend introduced us to work on a local non-profit together. I decided the organization was not the right fit for me, yet at the end of the meeting, I told her, “Don’t worry, you had me at your curls.” Since then, Carrie and I have been inseparable. From trail walks to Mexican nights at El Jalisco, from weekly video chats through the Marco Polo app to supporting each other through our failures, hardships, and successes, I am thrilled to call Carrie Boyd a true friend, mentor, and business partner. As women, it can be hard to build deep and meaningful relationships with other women in our 40s, especially when our kids do not attend the same schools, share the same sports teams, or work in similar business industries. Yet, Carrie and I have created a bond that has been tested in our half-decade friendship and continues to strengthen.
Although we have undoubtedly learned so much from one another, it is undeniable the impact her friendship has had not only on my life but also on my children’s lives. Carrie has taught me how to think big and how to rediscover the tranquility, darkness, and effectiveness of early morning hours. She has challenged me to look within, to not make decisions that affect me just because I feel bad for others, and not only to ask for what I need but also for what I want and need. “Live your life,” I hear her say, and soon you will find out why those words are important to her as well. Carrie and I share a passion for bringing people together. First and foremost, our families and special friends who have become family mean everything to us. We don’t tear women down; rather, we empower them to spread their wings and fly. We love traveling, learning, writing, reading, and investing in real estate. Taking risks and crunching numbers is what we do just
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PHOTOGRAPHY: KIRA DERRYBERRY | MUA: IMAGE BY LISA | HAIR: TANYA EVANS: EIGHT FIVE ZERO SALON | CLOTHING & ACCESSORIES: SUIT-SAKS, EARRINGS-OLIVIA HEYWARD, NECKLACE-PRIVATE COLLECTION
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"Who is Carrie Boyd? Those who truly know Carrie Boyd understand that she sees herself as coming from two different worlds. When asked to share more about this dichotomy that has comprised her life, she smiles a bit wistfully. "I grew up as a farmer’s daughter in a town with four stoplights, packed bleachers during Friday night football and basketball games, and church on Sundays with Grandma Boyd. My mother’s family were genuine, hardscrabble folks who toiled and did without a lot of what most of us would consider necessities. My father’s family included athletes who still hold sports records from the 1960s, attended universities for generations, and viewed the world as their oyster. I remember Grandma Boyd’s home as the place where I would watch MTV and take refuge in the 'bought air' during the sweltering summer months. Great Aunt Mary always had forbidden foods and plenty of opinions. Both sides of my family were influential in their unique ways." Carrie describes how these two divergent views of life impacted her mindset well into adulthood. "You can’t tell by looking at me, yet both abject poverty and endless possibilities were before me from a young age. I had aunts and uncles on my mother’s side who never had bank accounts. While we certainly had our share of challenges on the farm and with my dad’s ongoing battle with cancer, my parents encouraged me to not only appreciate my roots but also grow great wings. There was always talk around the table of politics, business, people, and places beyond our hometown, and my parents expected I would be a part of it all. I am sharing this because I attribute a great deal of my resilience and any success I’ve had to those recurring conversations in my childhood, as well as the examples set by my parents. It
is vital for other women to understand the power of hope when raising and mentoring others—and especially when speaking to themselves." Carrie considers her mother her first advocate and the one who championed her education. "My mother saw education as a gateway to the world. She did not have formal education beyond high school, yet she is incredibly gifted at reading people and assessing situations. She fostered my love of reading. She bought my first electronic typewriter, and I spent countless joyful hours writing stories and poems on that machine. When I went to college, she signed off on purchasing the first laptop on the market so I would have every advantage. Her EQ is high, she has done well despite countless obstacles, and I don’t feel she ever gave herself enough credit, honestly." Carrie’s mother and Uncle Len were the only children from a divorced home in their hometown in the 1950s and 1960s. Life was not easy for them even before their mother made the difficult decision to obtain a divorce due to her husband’s violence when Carrie’s mother was age three and Uncle Len was just an infant. "My mother has often told the story of how she had only three dresses in the 8th grade. Her mother, who left high school to marry at age 16, worked double shifts at the shoe factory. I think about my mother as a girl a lot now given that my son, with all his gadgets and gear, is that same age as she was when she vividly recalls having next to nothing— and being grateful to have it." "It was through her Grandma Rose’s life story that Carrie first began to identify misogyny—a wrong she has spent her life trying to right. "I recall sitting with a relative on my father’s side when I was an early teen. Hearing this beloved family member repeat internalized misogyny by blaming Grandma Rose for the actions of her wandering ex-husband was perplexing to me. I did not recall ever experiencing such unapologetic cruelty be-
fore when it came to the treatment of women. I began to examine, with fresh eyes, my mother’s upbringing. I saw her for the first time as a unique person in her own right and not solely as my mother. I imagined how she must have felt growing up poor and as the only child in our small hometown with a divorced, single mother. This revelation called into question her own story. "I reexamined how I viewed my own childhood and the bias through which I learned to perceive ancestors on both sides of my family. I began to wonder why I hadn’t heard more about Great Aunt Mary’s courage and resourcefulness to put herself through business school in the 1930s. I questioned why more respect was not given to Grandma Rose for rising above hardship, as well as the savings she was able to leave behind and the savviness it required to amass. Little was ever said about Great Grandma Rose, who was a one-room schoolteacher and pioneer. It was like a bubble popped. It was a lot to unpack at such a young age. Some of her bafflement was due to how Carrie was treated by her father. "My father never regarded me any differently because I was a girl. He was my first mentor. He instilled in me a deep love of the land. I used to sit in the fields and let the dirt trickle through my fingers for what felt like hours when I was a girl. I loved everything about it then and still do—the smell, the feel, the possibilities. It was everything— our lifeblood. When asked about her father’s influence, Carrie recalls shadowing him and being the only girl in rooms full of men and boys. "I was one of a handful of girls in the entire statewide 4-H program who had her own show animals, and that is solely because my father took the time to be involved and teach me. I first learned about sales and campaigns from him, and he introduced me to stakeholders. I competed in Little League with the boys for several years before playing softball with the girls. He was beyond busy serving in the community and running his businesses, yet he made special time for me by chatting while shooting hoops or playing pitch and catch in the yard. Al-
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for fun! I am thankful Carrie is such a big part of my life! Cheers to the next 45 and all the adventures we have yet to come! It was an honor to interview Carrie for this amazing feature in Tallahassee Woman Magazine. I know you will be inspired by her story below.
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COVER though he was a serious person and often a man of few words, I knew I was adored. It never occurred to me that I was going to be regarded later in life by some as ‘less than’ or ridiculed because of my gender. My father was the first person who made me feel as if I not only had a seat but also owned the table and would decide whom to invite to the boardroom. That passion attracted Ryan Culton, who lived three doors down from Carrie during their freshman term in the university dorm and is now her husband and partner of over 25 years. Ryan says, 'Carrie is strategic and lives with purpose. She thinks big and will obsess over an idea or project until she gets it right. She has a way of making people from all walks of life feel valued. She feels called to help other people, especially women, reach their highest potential. Our kids have an innate desire to understand and explore new people and places because of her.' Ryan’s love for his wife is apparent. 'Her entire presence captivated me from the start. We played intramural softball together that first year, and I think I fell in love with her then as she could throw the ball harder than most of the guys,' he laughs. Ryan describes Carrie as kind, funny, supportive, driven, and adventurous. Carrie says she showed obvious interest in Ryan and would concoct excuses to study with him in the hallway while he did his math assignments. He never got the hint. 'In a sea of first-year chaos, he was a calming presence. He was ambitious and sincere. I turned to him toward the end of a Hum concert many of us attended, we kissed, and it was magical. We fell in love quickly. Soon after, we mourned the loss of both our fathers, the assault I endured from a former friend, and these experiences deepened the bond between us,' Carrie shares. After college came law school for Carrie and Ryan’s first role as a civil engineer. Carrie had been active for years in political campaigns and began helping candidates at the highest levels get elected to office. 'I took on the legal profession with all I
had and wanted to help women who were in abusive situations. I learned everything I could about contracts, negotiations, and I soaked up anything my mentors would share. I was making a real impact on women’s lives through litigation. I learned even more about business. Ryan and I combined our expertise by doing deals and investing in real estate. It was an extraordinary time in our lives.' However, a time of change was on the horizon after this period of achievement, and not just the turbulent financial markets of the mid-late 2000s. 'The law, which was male-dominated when I began practicing almost 20 years ago, broke my heart in many ways. The misogyny I had battled on behalf of others was now aimed squarely at me and my female colleagues. Most in our industry assumed the old ways would endure. I was told more than once to quit complaining when calling for a change in workplace culture. Many of us were known for taking cases to trial as most of our clients had experienced domestic violence and could not co-parent with abusers who demanded joint custody. Some of the judges and opposing counsel didn’t like that we weren’t ‘go-along, getalong,’ and then I began to feel penalized for becoming a mother. I had a lengthy trial three weeks after Andrew was born. I had zero help from the firm, and the judge refused to move the trial date. I learned from other mothers who were attorneys that they had endured similar treatment in the profession. It got worse after I gave birth to my daughter as the first woman to hold an elected prosecutor role in my region. These were watershed moments that eventually resulted in a life change. Ryan and I experienced a lot of triumphs and failures during that time that we have used as life lessons to direct us to where we are now." For the next decade, Carrie devoted her career to political campaigns and served in the nonprofit world as a lobbyist and executive. 'I was ready to take a break from the practice of law and wanted to help write laws that were grounded in the voices of the directly impacted.
To date, one of her greatest satisfactions is having served as the lead lobbyist for a statewide domestic violence organization and securing almost $20 million in funding during a time of political gridlock and no state budget for two years. She went on to lobby for and secure equal pay legislation, housing laws, legislation supporting crime survivors, and legal protections for women and children at both state and federal levels. Carrie has also raised millions for nonprofits and political candidates. 'I enjoy presenting people with an opportunity to invest in worthy causes. I think because of my parents, who were more conservative when I was growing up, I learned to consider varying viewpoints and developed a skill for uniting people,' she says. Now, following another turning point after a major surgery during the Covid pandemic, Carrie was forced to slow down in a way she never had before as an adult. It meant focusing on herself and leaving the nonprofit community, at least as an executive. 'I am proud to be a board member for Survive and Thrive Advocacy Center and Big Bend Habitat for Humanity. I rolled off the Tallahassee/Leon County Commission on the Status of Women and Girls this year after four years.' The time after surgery was one of reinvention, yet it was also marked by coming full circle to embrace her first love: the land. Carrie has been quietly immersed in the technology and digital marketing world for over two years. She founded one and co-founded another service-based tech company with Ryan, and they’re energized for the future. 'I am obsessed with tech. Once you see the immense power to change lives, you cannot turn back. My legacy is to leave this world better than I found it, and for me, that means helping women and those whose voices are often unheard. We’re leveraging tech alongside my background in real estate investing, project fundraising, contracts law, and negotiations to empower women to create financial freedom. My dear friend and local partner, Ely Rosario, and I are launching this latest national venture merging tech and real estate investing in November.
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We hope you’ll join us!' One of the main reasons women remain in abusive relationships is due to finances. 'We’re helping survivors and others attain financial independence through a proven path to creating wealth over time: real estate.' It is also an opportunity to be the change in culture she wishes she had, serve in a greater capacity than she ever imagined, and be flexible for her children, Andrew, age 13, and Anabel Rose, age 9. 'Andrew will enter high school soon, and Anabel has worked hard to overcome myriad challenges. I feel the sands of the hourglasses of their childhoods slipping away. I don’t want to miss a moment.' Carrie is contemplative as she considers this time in her life. 'One thing I never shared about my surgery is that I was alone. There were delays, and Ryan had to go get our son. In those 30 minutes prior to being unconscious at the hands of virtual strangers, my father’s last words to me drifted into my mind. He told me to “live your life.” I swore that if I awoke, I would. And, I have. I stopped going through the motions and doing what I thought I should do to make everyone else happy. I put my dreams into action. There are risks, and there will always be naysayers, yet we’re ready to fly.' When asked to impart any last thoughts, Carrie shared this: 'Women, don’t be afraid to fail forward, as life rarely follows a linear path. Don’t worry so much about what other people think. And, it is never too late to begin anew, cleanse yourself of people and things that don’t serve you, and take action toward the biggest dreams for your future. You are worthy!'"
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Organizational Culture: Striving for Success Versus Accepting Failure By Michael Mitcham
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usiness leaders and organizational leaders -- it's time to take a closer look at the culture within your company. Are you fostering a success-oriented environment or are you unknowingly promoting a culture that is comfortable with failure? Let's explore the stark differences between the two. In a failure-oriented organizational culture, there is a comfort with not achieving the desired outcome. Instead of embracing challenges and striving for excellence, these organizations tend to shy away from taking risks and settling for mediocrity. They may even discourage their employees from aiming high and reaching their full potential for FEAR OF FAILURE. On the other hand, a success-oriented culture is one that thrives on achievement and accomplishing the goal - SUCCESS. These organizations understand the importance of setting high standards and pushing boundaries and taking risks. They actively seek success and refuse to accept failure as an option. In fact, they view failure as an opportunity for learning and growth, rather than a setback. In a success-minded culture, high performers are not only appreciated but also nurtured and cultivated. These organizations recognize the value of their
talent pool and believe in each individual's ability to make a significant impact. They provide the necessary resources, support, and opportunities for their employees to excel and reach new heights. These organizations appreciate great effort and are comfortable with the results. Contrastingly, a failure-minded culture may overlook the potential of their high performers, failing to recognize and harness their talents. This can lead to a stagnant and uninspired workforce, hindering the organization's overall success. This culture breeds low performers and does not encourage high performers. So, business leaders and organizational leaders, it's time to reflect on the culture you have created within your company or organization. Are you comfortable with failure and afraid to succeed? Or are you striving for success and refusing to accept failure? The choice is yours. Embrace a success-minded culture that encourages your employees to aim high, take risks, and continuously improve. Nurture and cultivate your high performers, appreciating their talents and providing them with the support they need to thrive. The visionary leader can create a culture that celebrates success and inspires greatness.
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Until recently, the consequences of the non-consensual sharing of intimate images were borne largely by the victim. There was little recourse for people whose disgruntled former partners or immature co-workers shared those intimate and sometimes embarrassing images with others. The Florida legislature changed that when it enacted Florida Statute 784.049, commonly referred to as the "Revenge Porn Law," making it a crime to publish or share sexually explicit images of another person through electronic means without their consent.
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misdemeanor, and a second and subsequent offense is a third-degree felony. It gives law enforcement the authority to investigate violations of the law and make arrests. Importantly, the statute contains a private cause of action for victims to obtain all appropriate relief to prevent or remedy a violation of the law, including: Injunctive Relief: This stops the offender from continuing to share the explicit images and orders their removal from any platforms. It’s intended to provide immediate relief from the ongoing harm. Monetary Damages: Victims can bring civil lawsuits against offenders for the emotional distress and harm caused by the offender’s actions. Importantly, the statute provides for minimum damages of $10,000 or actual damages, whichever is greater. Actual damages would include counseling services, lost wages, job loss, retraining, medication, and other related losses. Attorney’s Fees: Perhaps the biggest boost for victims is the provision for statutory attorneys’ fees. Courthouse doors are closed to most people who can’t afford to pay an attorney. By providing reasonable attorneys’ fees to successful plaintiffs, the legislature removed a significant barrier to justice for victims of sexual cyberharassment. Through Florida Statute 784.049, the legislature has provided pivotal legal recourse for victims of revenge porn, enabling them to immediately halt the distribution of explicit images and seek financial compensation for the harm they suffer. This legislation spells out the state’s commitment to protecting the privacy and dignity of its citizens in the new online era.
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any in real estate sales don't want to admit what I'm about to say for fear of spooking buyers, and I don't mean at Halloween: millions of potential homebuyers are locked out of the market for years, if not their lifetimes. Typically, when loan rates increase, buyer demand falls, thereby lowering home prices and making housing more affordable. However, that is not what we're experiencing in today's market. There are several reasons for this economic reversal. One is the speed at which the Federal Reserve raised interest rates to combat inflation. In about eighteen months, mortgage rates have skyrocketed to almost 8%, compared to the 3% that even buyers with average credit scores enjoyed during the pandemic. Homeowners are unwilling to sell given the locked-in lower rates. The costs to build are almost double in some areas compared to a few years ago, which is also a significant factor. All of this is a recipe for the lowest inventory in decades. In fact, according to Housing Wire, home sales fell over 32% in the 4th quarter of 2022. We have not seen numbers like that since 2008, and the 2nd quarter of 2023 improved only slightly. With potential home buyers priced out and current owners unable or unwilling to move, the housing market dynamics have changed.
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The resulting market shift could be as powerful, but in an opposite way, as the PostWWII boom that made residential home ownership central to FDIC-backed banks' marketing of "The American Dream." More than a year before WWII officially ended, President Roosevelt signed the GI Bill of Rights, providing access to home ownership for millions of people, including veterans, who otherwise would not have been able to afford a home. The result: American suburban and middle-class culture was born, and unprecedented wealth creation was set in motion. All that policy enactment by our government was a novel approach in a less divisive time when patriotism and cooperation were at an all-time high. Our national political landscape and affordability are very different now. It is less likely that a government-backed solution will save the day for most potential homebuyers who can do the math and see that buying is beyond their financial reach with stagnant wages, high interest rates, high prices, down payments, appraisals, inspections, closing costs, private mortgage insurance, taxes, homeownership association fees, and more. According to Realtor.com, one would need an annual household income of over $250,000 to afford 85% of the listings in most areas, and for every listing that a household earning $75,000 can afford, there are 65 buyers, according to the same source.
Finally, Redfin reports that in only 4 cities (Cleveland, Houston, Detroit, and Philly) is buying cheaper than renting. I genuinely hope new, effective policies will be unveiled to help would-be residential homebuyers. However, it seems clear to me, as someone who understands politics, economics, and real estate, that the U.S. is potentially headed toward becoming a nation of renters. Even if there is an interest rate reduction, most analysts believe the increase in housing prices is here to stay. We must craft other solutions to ethically solve this housing affordability crisis. Investors and landlords have a tremendous opportunity to step up and be the change! One can generate recurring income as a property investor while also providing fair rents and alternative paths to home ownership for those who want it. We're going to show you exactly how to do this on November 15th at Noon with Women Wednesdays in Domi Station. Join us!
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Breaking the Mold Exploring ADHD in Adult Women and Overcoming Stigmas By Katie Kelsey
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was diagnosed with ADHD approximately two years ago, and the journey since then has been challenging, especially the wait for referrals and the several-month-long waitlist to see a psychiatrist. I consider myself fortunate to have had doctors who took my concerns seriously regarding ADHD in adult women, even though many medical professionals tend to associate ADHD primarily with young boys. Additionally, many people remain unaware of the symptoms that adults with ADHD experience. Here are some common symptoms I encounter due to my ADHD and how I manage them. While this article is not meant for self-diagnosis, it can certainly help expand your understanding. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD): RSD causes extreme emotional distress in response to perceived rejection. Individuals with RSD often interpret rejection more intensely than others. To cope with this, try grounding techniques to refocus your mind on the actual severity of the rejection, reminding yourself that it isn't the end of the world. Echolalia: Echolalia involves the subconscious urge to mimic sounds or noises that one finds
amusing or pleasant. While this symptom may not always be worth combating, it is helpful to educate others about it to ensure they understand that your mimicry is not intended as mockery. Hyper-Focus: Many people wish they could achieve hyper-focus. It allows one to fully dedicate their mental energy to a specific task, completely immersing themselves in it. To avoid neglecting other important tasks, create reminders and to-do lists to allocate your time to various responsibilities. Time Blindness: Among the symptoms mentioned above, time blindness can be the most disconcerting. It involves losing track of time, often occurring alongside a bout of hyper-focus. What feels like an hour could actually be five. To combat this, consider setting alarms on your phone to remind yourself of the passage of time. Diagnosing ADHD requires the expertise of a medical professional, so if you suspect you may have ADHD, I recommend seeking professional help. If not, I hope this discussion of less commonly discussed ADHD symptoms can shed light on a mental disorder that is often mistakenly labeled as a "boys' mental disorder." tallahassee woman | 45 | october • november 2023
The Crucial Importance of Mental health By Chloe Pomeranc
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t is impossible to stress the importance of mental health in today’s fast-paced society. Although physical health frequently takes center stage, mental health is just as important. Our emotional, psychological, and social well-being, which affects how we feel, think, and act, are included in our mental health. Now, more than ever, we must prioritize mental wellness. OVERALL WELL-BEING:
Our mental health and general well-being are inextricably intertwined. Better decision-making, efficient problem-solving, and improved coping skills are influenced by mental health. Your mental health enables you to face obstacles with resiliency. CONNECTION TO PHYSICAL HEALTH:
There is a clear link between the mind and body. Headaches, sleeplessness, and chronic diseases like cardiovascular disease are physical signs
of poor mental health. On the other hand, maintaining excellent mental health can benefit physical health.
at work. Proactively addressing mental health can resolve those problems, which will affect economies more broadly.
PRODUCTIVITY & PERFORMANCE:
The stigma associated with mental diseases can be reduced by recognizing the value of mental wellness. Open communication encourages requesting assistance without feeling guilty or afraid.
People with strong mental health typically exhibit higher productivity levels and superior performance across various domains, including work and academics. Focus, inventiveness, and the capacity to adjust to changing circumstances are fostered by a healthy mind. RELATIONSHIPS & SOCIAL INTERACTIONS:
Strong relationships are based on clear communication, empathy, and understanding, all fostered by mental wellness. Making mental health a priority encourages meaningful interactions and lessens feelings of loneliness. ECONOMIC IMPACT:
Mental health issues might result in decreased output and more absenteeism
LIFESPAN & QUALITY OF LIFE:
According to World Health Organization research, mental health issues may shorten one's life. We can improve the length and quality of life by giving mental health the attention it deserves. A happy and balanced existence depends on good mental health. We may live happier, healthier lives by appreciating its value and actively seeking methods to promote it. It's past time for mental health to occupy the prominent position it deserves in the public discourse.
tallahassee woman | 46 | october • november 2023
Happy Thanksgiving May your Thanksgiving be filled with love in your heart, a vision of prosperity in your thoughts, and a deep sense of gratitude in your soul. Warm Thanksgiving greetings to all! -Tallahassee Woman Magazine
tallahassee woman | 47 | october • november 2023
Your Most Important Relationship
LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
By Ashley Fischer
W
ith the seasons transitioning to cooler temperatures, the concept of “cuffing season” is often mentioned. People are looking for someone to cuddle up and fall in love with this fall. Many look for new relationships when they already have a perfectly good one, yet only one person is guaranteed to be by your side from start to finish. And it’s not your mother or significant other but yourself! That is why forming a loving and healthy relationship and an inner dialogue with your own being is of the utmost importance. Falling in love with yourself is a life-long journey. Try beginning with affirmations. Talk to yourself like someone you love! Unfortunately, the person who has been the meanest to us is often ourselves. Try saying affirmative phrases in the present tense to facilitate an optimistic mindset. Here are my personal favorites:
I am worthy of great things. I am loved. All things are working in my favor. I am confident. I love myself. A similar self-care approach to affirmations is exercising gratitude. Hectic schedules often distract us from our blessings. Do you remember a time when you would have sacrificed anything to have the job, relationship, or home you have now? Most times, there isn’t anything devastatingly wrong in our lives; we simply don’t take the time to acknowledge how blessed we have been. Put life into perspective. I would never tell my best friend she looks ugly when she’s crying, although my subconscious may say that about myself. If my sister was exhausted but beating herself up for not getting into the gym that day, I would tell her to let her body rest, although it is not second nature to speak to myself in that manner. This fall, we are working on our relationship with self! Tell yourself how kind and compassionate you are every day. “I treat myself like I would my daughter. I brush her hair, wash her laundry, tuck her in goodnight. Most importantly, I feed her. I do not punish her. I do not berate her, leave tears staining her face. I do not leave her alone. I know she deserves more. I know I deserve more.” tallahassee woman | 48 | october • november 2023
tallahassee woman | 50 | october • november 2023
W.E. INSPIRE By Katie Kelsey
The fall leaves once again drift to the Earth’s floor, as they did last year, and the year before, and the year before. Even in Florida, you can spot some trees with their leaves changing colors, transforming into a beautiful ensemble of oranges and reds. These leaves, like ourselves, change not just adapt, but thrive, during the new season. Let the cool autumn air blow you off your feet, and wrap you up in its comforting embrace. Enjoy yourself.
tallahassee woman | 51 | october • november 2023
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