Tallahassee Woman Magazine December 2023 - January 2024

DECEMBER 2023/JANUARY 2024

CAITLIN YANCEY MOORE

A JOURNEY OF PASSION, PERSEVERANCE, AND BALANCE

MIDTOWN READS WINTER BOOK LIST

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COST OF SHAME

WHOLESALE REAL ESTATE

MONEY TALKS!

Caribbean

HUMAN TRAFFICKING

SHOSHANA BEAN AT YAT!

CHRISTMAS DRINK

TWM AWARDED MINORITY BUSINESS OF THE YEAR!

GREEK GODDESS

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CONTENTS 10. LETTER FROM PUBLISHER 12. LETTER FROM EXECUTIVE EDITOR

CULTURE & CUISINE

14. WINTER FASHION- THE ART OF LAYERING 17. GREEN GIFTS 18. A TASTE OF TRADITION CUBAN CONGRI RECIPE 19. TRINIDADIAN SORREL RECIPE 20. MIDTOWN READS

LIVING LOCAL

22. BROADWAY STAR BENEFIT CONCERT 23. 100+ WOMEN WHO CARE TLH 24. W.E. ELEVATE: NIDIA ALVAREZ-NGUYEN 25. MOMMY MAKEOVER-APRIL CURRY 26. AROUND TOWN: TALLAHASSEE WOMAN MAGAZINE'S RED WOMEN MASQUERADE GALA

WITH DANA BROOKS 40. STACKED: WOMEN IN REAL ESTATE WITH CARRIE BOYD 42. MONEY TALKS WITH ROBIN VERNON 44. WOMEN ON FIRE AWARDS AND BUSINESS EXPO

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MIND, BODY & SPIRIT

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46. INSTANT CONNECT 48. DEALING WITH LOSS DURING THE HOLIDAYS 49. TO SURVIVE AND THRIVE

LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS 50. GREEK GODDESS 51. WE INSPIRE

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ON THE COVER

32. UNVEILING THE MULTIFACETED CAITLIN YANCEY MOORE A JOURNEY OF PASSION, PERSEVERANCE, AND BALANCE

BUSINESS & LEADERSHIP

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38. LEGAL WRITES

32. ABOUT THE COVER: | PHOTOGRAPHY: KIRA DERRYBERRY | MUA: IMAGE BY LISA | HAIR: TANYA EVANS: EIGHT FIVE ZERO SALON | DRESS & JEWELRY: NARCISSUS

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WOM A N

MAGAZINE

December 2023 - January 2024 • Volume 19 • Issue 1

Publisher | Editor-in-Chief Dr. Michelle Mitcham

CRISTINA CARTER Relationship Manager

BRIANA SMITH Creative Consultant

PAULA DEBOLES-JOHNSON Director of Leadership Initiatives

CONTRIBUTORS

Executive Editor

OLIVIA HEYWARD Creative Director

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Empowering Women

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Talent Shaping Tallahassee Rhonda Reaves-Smith brings more than 20 years of experience in public service with the City of Tallahassee to her role as Assistant Director of Customer Operations. Developing her career in Customer Operations over the past two decades, Reaves-Smith’s spirit for service shines through in her work.

The City continually enhances services provided through the evaluation and adoption of new technology, and development of customer-centered solutions. Reaves-Smith makes an impact as she leads a team dedicated to serving more than 126,000 utility customers, ensuring key objectives are met, including improving operational efficiency and the user experience.

The City’s commitment to providing exceptional customer service is also a personal value for Reaves-Smith. To work in this field, she says passion for helping others is a must, along with the ability to find gratitude in knowing you’ve made something easier for another person. Starting her career with the City in a temporary position and serving in numerous customer operations roles before recently becoming Assistant Director, Reaves-Smith prides herself on her unique ability to connect with people in a positive way, whether on a personal or professional level. She is a strong proponent of mentoring and values the opportunities for professional development that the City provides.

Today, Reaves-Smith is excited to lead a team focused on the customer journey as the City continues to lead in the adoption of new technology and industry best practices.

RHONDA REAVESSMITH

A passion for public service, with a goal to work in local government, brought Diana Gallego from Toronto, Canada, to the Sunshine State. After gaining her master’s degree in Public Administration from the University of Central Florida and experience as an International City/County Management Association Senior Management Fellow, Gallego joined the City of Tallahassee’s Strategic Innovation team and supported the development of the City’s first-ever Five-Year Strategic Plan.

Now, as Manager for Human Resources and Workforce Development, Diana embraces the values set forth in the Strategic Plan, particularly to help ensure the City continues to lead in promoting equity and celebrating diversity and investing in employee excellence.

With the mindset of a consultant and in-house knowledge gained through work with City leadership and across departments in strategic planning, Gallego drives efforts to build the organization’s future workforce and retain talent. Enhancing recruitment processes and ensuring diversity among demographics, skillsets and experience builds upon the City’s ability to provide best-in-class service with a workforce of more than 4,000 dedicated employees.

For Each day brings a new opportunity for Gallego to make a positive impact on the organization as her work covers employee recruitment, benefits, safety, wellness and engagement. To learn more about how you can do great things as a City of Tallahassee employee, visit Talgov.com/Jobs.

DIANA GALLEGO

PUBLISHER LETTER

Dear Empowered Women,

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s we embark on this season of snow and sparkle, I want to take a moment to express my heartfelt gratitude to each and every one of you for making Tallahassee Woman Magazine an extraordinary resource and beacon of inspiration for our community. For the past 17 years, our mission has been to uplift, empower, and inspire women while shining a light on the remarkable women in Tallahassee. This year has been particularly special, as we have witnessed countless achievements and milestones for women, all of which we have proudly captured within the pages of our magazine.

I am honored and humbled to share that Tallahassee Woman Magazine was elected MED Week Minority Business of the Year. This recognition, coupled with the proclamations we received from Mayor John Dailey and City of Tallahassee Commissioners, Leon County Commissioners, and the Leon County School Board, is a testament to our impact on the community. Furthermore, we successfully launched our first-ever RED Women's Fall Forum and Fashion Show at Young Actors Theater. We also hosted the second annual RED Gala and our annual Women Who Mean Business “Women On Fire” Awards, which were resounding successes. These events allowed us to honor and celebrate deserving women with distinguished awards. Additionally, Tallahassee Woman Magazine has been privileged to host several intimate RED Women Recharge events, focusing on wellness and personal empowerment.

I share these accomplishments not to boast but to emphasize that this year has been one of limitless possibilities.

Our theme for this year has been "limitless," and it is my sincerest hope that every woman knows she is not alone.

Let us continue to celebrate, uplift, and inspire one another, for this journey cannot be undertaken in isolation.

I am immensely grateful for our incredible team at Tallahassee Woman Magazine as well as our dedicated contributors, interns from Florida State University and Leon County Public School, advertisers, and the countless volunteers who have helped us remain the number one magazine for women in our community. On our December cover, we proudly feature the remarkable Caitlin Yancey Moore, an extraordinary mother, community leader, and banker. Her story of resilience is truly uplifting, and I encourage you not to miss the inspiring stories within this issue.

Photo by Kira Derryberry Photography

As we approach the end of the year, let us carry the spirit of compassion, empathy, and motivation with us. Let us support one another, lift each other up, and create a community where every woman feels seen, heard, and valued. Together, we can achieve greatness. Empowered women empower other women.

Thank you for your unwavering support, and we eagerly look forward to seeing you soon.

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Thank you to OEV and the entire MED Week Committee for the honor of being awarded Minority Business Enterprise of the year! Congratulations to the other honorees, Tracey Cohen, and Mr. Beasley!

On behalf of the entire team of Tallahassee Woman Magazine, thank you so much! This is a team effort that involves amazing women, including our wonderful internship students and externship students. We are so thankful to be in this wonderful community of Tallahassee with the opportunity to empower and uplift women with TWM! Thanks to all of the team members, contributors, advertisers, volunteers and readers. Thanks for supporting TWM, an OEV certified minority and woman owned business.

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EXECUTIVE EDITOR LETTER May you always recognize the chances to embrace the new, confront the unknown, and afford yourself the grace of a fresh beginning—without confining such renewal to a calendar year.

-Laci Swann

spite facing adversity, we all possess the capacity for greatness, with success taking diverse forms for each individual.

As you contemplate your aspirations for the upcoming year, I encourage you to dream bigger than ever before. Let your goals reflect your unwavering faith—faith so profound that setbacks won't deter you at the first sign of defeat.

You need not wait for a new year to embark on a fresh start. This very moment is new, and every ensuing second is an opportunity for renewal. May you always recognize the chances to embrace the new, confront the unknown, and afford yourself the grace of a fresh beginning—without confining such renewal to a calendar year. After all, tomorrow is not guaranteed.

Here's to a future marked by health, happiness, and abundance. Cheers to the possibilities that lie ahead.

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s we step into 2024, I find myself not lamenting the moments left behind in my rearview, but rather embracing the joy derived from the high points of 2023. Reflecting on the peaks of the past year fills me with gratitude, especially in my continued role as the Executive Editor of this remarkable publication.

Throughout 2023, Tallahassee Woman Magazine remained steadfast in its mission to spotlight and feature numerous women in the community—women embodying resilience and grace. These individuals serve as extraordinary inspirations, leaving an indelible mark in their professional lives, within the community, and at home. Each woman featured in the magazine brought forth a unique narrative and perspective on life, collectively conveying the beautiful commonality that, de-

Laci is the Principal of Sharp Editorial, an awardwinning editorial + small business consulting + branding design firm. Since 2016, Sharp Editorial has served thousands of clients, including professional athletes, television stars, Fortune 500 companies, and a range of other professionals. Laci is passionate about ensuring that her table always has room for others, encouraging women to pull up a seat and stay awhile.

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CULTURE & CUISINE

Unveiled Winter Fashion

The Art of Layering

By Elizabeth Massey

CAN YOU FEEL THAT CRISP BREEZE, TALLAHASSEE WOMEN?

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s the temperatures finally drop, we're stepping into the perfect season to bid farewell to our summer wardrobes and immerse ourselves in the delightful realm of layering.

It's time to unleash your inner fashionista and explore the enchanting combinations of textures and colors residing in your closet. Layering isn't just about staying warm; it's a canvas for expressing your creativity.

Ever considered experimenting with wildly fun textures? Picture micro pleats, leather, or fur – embrace the unconventional and turn heads! While classic monochromatic vibes are timeless, why not infuse some complementary colors for an extra burst of excitement? Accessories act as the secret sauce – they can complement, pop, or shape your ensemble.

A strategically placed belt has the power to transform a seemingly ordinary outfit into a stunning hourglass masterpiece.

Embrace the seasonal chill and embark on a journey of fabulous layering.

Happy layering!

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Discover the Hidden Gems in Your Closet Unearth the magic of combining soft knits with sleek leathers, or infuse your ensemble with the playful contrast of bold colors. Your closet is a palette, and it's time to paint your own fashion masterpiece.

Dive in and let the textures and colors tell your unique style story.

Within the depths of your closet lies a treasure trove of textures and colors waiting to be explored. tallahassee woman | 15 | december 2023 • january 2024

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GREEN GIFTS

THE ENVIRONMENT WILL LOVE!

By Heather Touby

give your gift wrap that personal touch, consider repurposing meaningful newspapers, handmade artwork or decorating paper grocery bags for extra holiday cheer.

Regarding food, another topic worth discussing, we know that big holiday meals can be lots of fun, but the uncomfortable feeling that follows eating a bit too much can be less than ideal. Around the holidays, large increases in global food consumption cause increased CO2 emissions every year. This year, shop local. By serving organic or locally grown foods and preparing only the necessary amount, we can reduce CO2 emissions and create a meal that guests and planet Earth will relish. Also, reusable napkins,

We’re serving up new sustainable ways to upgrade old holiday traditions this holiday season.

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hen it comes to gifts, it’s what’s on the inside that counts. Most of us barely notice the packaging as we race to open our gift, but Mother Nature sees everything. Traditional wrapping methods like wrapping paper, tape, and ribbons can be difficult to recycle or are not recyclable at all. Add some spice to your wrapping routine by using festive reusable bags or reusable fabric, like bandanas or blankets, as sustainable alternatives to wrapping paper. To

silverware, and tablecloths are another great way to dish out some love to the environment.

In this season of giving, less is more (especially when it comes to decorating).

Families can reduce energy consumption from holiday lights and decorations by switching to LED lights and refraining from leaving their lights on all day. Those looking to take the extra step can toss aside holiday lights for a sweeter option: natural, biodegradable decorations, such as cranberries, popcorn, and live flowers. The planet will thank you for it!

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s winter's chill sets in, our hearts yearn for warmth and comfort, often discovered in the rich tapestry of family recipes. In my Cuban home, this comfort is encapsulated in a humble, yet profoundly satisfying dish: Congri. [pronounced kongree] It's more than just rice and beans; it's a symbol of home, a staple at our holiday gatherings, and a testament to the simplicity and richness of our heritage.

As a child, I watched, wide-eyed, as abuela moved with a rhythm honed by years of love and practice, her movements harmonizing with the joyous carols and laughter that filled the house. Each ingredient she added was like a verse in a holiday hymn, a note in a lullaby of our culture, sung from her heart to ours.

The rice, each bean, the spices— they weren't just parts of a recipe; they were fragments of our family's soul, lovingly stitched together in a pot, much like the patchwork of memories and traditions that make up our holiday celebrations.

I would watch in awe as these simple ingredients transformed into something magical, each grain of rice absorbing the rich, earthy flavors of the black beans and the sazones.

Today, as I continue this culinary tradition, each stir of the pot brings a flood of memories, each taste a reminder of the love and warmth that filled my grandmother’s kitchen. Congri is more than a recipe; it's a story of family, culture, and comfort. As you gather around the table this holiday season, may this dish bring you the same warmth and joy it has brought to my family for generations.

INGREDIENTS 1/2 cup chopped green bell pepper 1 small chopped onion 2 minced cloves garlic 1 cup uncooked long-grain rice 2 cans of black beans 1 1/2 cups water 1/2 teaspoon cumin 1/2 teaspoon oregano 1 bay leaf Salt and pepper Adobo seasoning Garlic Seasoning Onion Seasoning Cumin Seasoning 1 lime 1 banana (optional. but encouraged) Spanish olives (optional)

INSTRUCTIONS Use a 2:1 ratio of water to rice. For example, for 1 cup of rice, use 2 cups of water. Be sure to wash your rice! Abuela would not stand for that! Bring the water to a boil in a saucepan. Add a pinch of salt and a few drops of olive oil. Stir in the rice and return to a boil.

Then lower the heat to a simmer and cover the saucepan with a lid. Let the rice simmer for 18-20 minutes. Avoid lifting the lid or stirring the rice during cooking, as this can release steam and affect the cooking process.

Dump the cans of black beans into the rice.

Begin seasoning to taste. Cover, reduce heat to simmer, and cook for 10-20 minutes. Make sure to stir and check the rice to ensure it doesn't burn. The burnt rice at the bottom is actually called 'Raspas' or 'Raspitas' and it is the favorite part to many!

Remove from heat and serve. I cannot have this dish without adding lime and banana!

While optional, throw in some spanish olives for a real authentic dish! The warmth of the rice with the blend of flavors, may make this dish a staple of your household as well!

SABOR CUBANO

A Taste of Tradition with Our Irresistible Cuban Congri Recipe

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Trinidadian Sorrel Recipe

By Cyan Moore

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s the holiday season draws near, many find comfort in cherished traditions that anchor them to their cultural origins, oering a sense of continuity and warmth. Myself included, one tradition involves a preciously memorable family recipe originating from the vibrant and culturally rich island of Trinidad and Tobago—Sorrel. I hope you take pleasure in sharing this beloved Caribbean drink with your family, as I have with mine.

of Caribbean vibrancy and Black American pride.

Reflecting on those moments, I find solace and joy in the kitchen, surrounded by the laughter and warmth of my family. The process of crafting Trinidadian Sorrel was a labor of love, with my mother at the helm, guiding us through each step. Sorrel curated sweet spoon fed taste tests and mommy’s endlessly colorful stories of her childhood, while the aromatic spices turned our culinary haven into a sacred flowery Oasis.

Sorrel, a member of the hibiscus family, is a short shrub with flowers resembling those of ochro and hibiscus.

Once the flower drops, a transformation begins as the calyx at its base swells and thickens, creating the cover for the seed capsule.

This crimson cover, known as sorrel, becomes the star ingredient in a drink that carries with it the flavors and history of generations.

In the heart of the festive season, my late mother, the connector and battery of our family, would gather with us in the States to create this beloved drink.

Although we hadn't visited Trinidad since I was a baby at the time , the process of making Trinidadian Sorrel annually fused us closer to my mother's culture. It wasn't just a beverage; it was tradition, bonding my siblings and I further in our social fabric.

A testament to the resilience of our heritage, a fusion

INGREDIENTS 2 cups dried sorrel petals 10 cups water 2 cups granulated sugar (adjust to taste) 1 tablespoon grated fresh ginger 10 whole cloves 4 cinnamon sticks 1 cup dark rum (optional, but ‘a quiet and nice’ addition as my cousin Karlene would say)

INSTRUCTIONS Rinse the dried sorrel petals thoroughly.

In a large pot, bring the water to a boil.

The history of Trinidadian Sorrel is deeply intertwined with the Caribbean's cultural tapestry, reflecting the resilience and creativity of people who call the islands home. The drink has its roots in the fusion of indigenous traditions and influences from Africa, Asia, and Europe, creating a flavorful mosaic that mirrors the diversity of Trinidad and Tobago.

In a world often surrounded by American traditions, Trinidadian Sorrel stands as a reminder of the beauty that emerges when cultures intertwine. As the holiday season approaches, I invite you to embrace the spirit of unity and diversity, savoring the rich flavors of tradition and the legacy of strong, empowered women who have paved the way for us all.

Add the sorrel petals, ginger, cloves, and cinnamon sticks to the boiling water.

Reduce heat and simmer for 15-20 minutes.

Remove the pot from heat and let the mixture steep for several hours or overnight.

Strain the liquid to remove the sorrel petals and spices.

Stir in the sugar, adjusting to your desired sweetness.

If making the adult version, add the dark rum.

Chill the sorrel in the refrigerator.

Serve over ice and garnish with a cinnamon stick for a festive touch.

Cheers to creating new traditions and celebrating the richness of our heritage!

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By Rebecca Weaver

FALL READING LIST BY SALLY BRADSHAW

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here’s no better gift than the gift of reading, and this holiday season, Midtown Reader’s got your gifts all wrapped up. Children’s illustrated holiday classics? Check. Terrific cookbooks that will help you entertain? You know it. That cozy mystery which must be consumed with a steaming cup of hot chocolate? Yes! Our seasonal picks will be sure to delight the readers on your list.

How Does Santa Go Down The Chimney?

By Mac Barnett; illustrations by Jon Klassen Who hasn’t been faced with this question? The amazing Mac Barnett addresses all the tough questions. What if he gets stuck? What if there is not chimney? And Jon Klassen’s illustrations are classic. A perfect picture book to kick off the holidays for children young and old!

Elves are the Worst!

By Alex Willan

Who works harder? Elves or goblins? Gilbert the Goblin infiltrates Santa’s workshop to prove he can outwork any elf. School Library Journal gives Willan’s books a starred review for this tale of teamwork.

Eight Nights of Lights A Celebration of Hanukkah

By Leslie Kimmelman

Sesame workshop writer Leslie Kimmelman authors a fun educational look at Hanukkah for children using an interactive menorah and a candle-shaped book! Each night, follow the story of a young girl and her family as they celebrate the Festival of Lights!

The Friendly Animals A Christmas Story

By James Newman Gray

Based on a folk song, this “gentle retelling of the first Christmas” uses beautiful illustrations to tell the tale of animals who offer up their own gifts to the babe in the manager.

Baking for the Holidays 50+ Treats for a Festive Season

By Sarah Kieffer

Celebrated blogger and cookbook author Kieffer doesn’t disappoint with more terrific baked goods to treat family, friends, and yourself! Who can resist Triple Chocolate Pepper-

mint Bark and Meyer Lemon-White Chocolate Scones! This book goes well beyond traditional sugar cookies.

The Bartender’s Manifesto How to Think, Drink & Create Cocktails Like a Pro

By Toby Maloney

For your favorite mixologist, James Beard award winner Maloney teaches how to mix classic cocktails and create original drink recipes from any ingredients you have on hand!

The Six The Untold Story of America’s Frist Women Astronauts

By Loren Grush

Bloomberg science writer Grush tells the tale of six women selected from a pool of 8000 in 1978 to train for the space program – all eventually traveling aboard the shuttle – and the huge challenges they faced in the process.

Bright Lights, Big Christmas

By Mary Kay Andrews

“Nobody does Christmas like Mary Kay Andrews” says bestselling author Debbie Macomber, and we agree. Her latest holiday title celebrates love and the glitter of the holiday season when Kerry Tolliver leaves her family’s tree farm in North Carolina for the Big Apple to help with the family tree stand and share a vintage camper with her older brother. Enter single dad Patrick and a holiday romance!

The Exchange: After the Firm

By John Grisham

Grisham’s latest legal thriller marks the return of the Firm’s Mitch McDeere. Mitch and wife Abby live in Manhattan fifteen years after exposing the crimes of a Memphis law firm, and again finds themselves in the middle of a sinister plot and in danger along with family, friends and colleagues. Grisham again at his best!

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Broadway Star

to Give Benefit Concert at Young Actors Theatre

LIVING LOCAL

SHOSHANA BEAN

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n January 20, 2024, Tallahassee hosts the esteemed Broadway star Shoshana Bean for a benefit concert at Young Actors Theatre at 8:30 pm. Ticket sales will bolster the production budget of the movie musical, "Joni & The Whale," spotlighting Tallahassee students. Bean, a Tony and Grammy nominee, also serves as the executive producer for this film composed

by Tallahassee-native David Reiser, an alumnus of Young Actors Theatre.

Currently starring in Alicia Keys's new musical, "Hell’s Kitchen," at the Public Theater, Shoshana Bean's Broadway career includes roles in "Wicked" and "Waitress." Her concert is the third Broadway Benefit supporting "Joni & the Whale," with previous contributions from

Caissie Levy and Christy Altomare.

Tickets for the January 20 Benefit concert are available at www.youngactorstheatre. com. Young Actors Theatre, a nonprofit program established in 1975 in Tallahassee, provides performing arts training for students aged 3 to 18. The organization's mission is to inspire North Florida's children through the magic of the performing arts.

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n the fall of 2020, Virginia Glass and her co-founders, Jaime Hoffman, Melanie Weaver Carr, Danielle McBeth, and Anita Favors Thompson, started the 100 Women Who Care – Tallahassee chapter (100WWC TLH). This effort began with 65 members when nonprofits could not meet due to the pandemic. As of August 2023, 100WWC has awarded over $297,000 in funding to several non-profits serving our community. They recently celebrated their third anniversary and have grown to a remarkable 240 members.

The minimal time required of four one-hour meetings a year and manageable financial donations of only $400 annually make this a win/win. At each meeting, three nonprofits present their story, and members vote at the end. The unexpected blessing has been the awareness of so many nonprofits doing great work with limited funding, as the donations from 100WWC boost their efforts. The list of nonprofits they have served are listed below: Interested in knowing more? Please visit www.100wwctlh.org. The needs are ongoing, and 100WWC welcomes new members. They also have a men's group!

If interested, please contact Jim Sullivan at 100menwhocaretlh@gmail.com.

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W.E. ELEVATE Women Empowered Elevate

Nidia Alvarez-Nguyen raises awareness of homelessness through non-profit Project Heart to Hands

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s a formidable contributor to the Tallahassee community, Nidia Alvarez-Nguyen leads a non-profit called Project Heart to Hands, dedicated to providing support for the homeless community.

"Heart to Hands started when I was volunteering at the Plant Center. By the time I joined, they had certain resources for the houseless community. But I felt like more needed to be done. While we started with a central focus on the houseless community, we have gravitated to being a resource distribution center, working with members of all marginalized communities."

Nidia's influential voice is evident in her robust support for the homeless community and her unwavering dedication to making a meaningful impact.

"I mean, it's hard because it's a big part of my heart. And it's really challenging because we do not receive many donations or grants. We don't really get much credit. We are recognized by FSU, but we're in the final stages of being recognized as an official nonprofit because it's such an expensive process.

people's negative perception of the houseless community.

"The majority of Americans hold a stigma against the homeless community. So that's probably one of the worst parts—the way they're treated by people, as if they're a plague or an infestation. It's made me softer, but it's also really enraging and encourages me every year to do something to help and hopefully encourage others to join."

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Nidia works tirelessly to advocate for her non-profit and continues to strive to make a positive impact in the community.

"People can help by advocating and educating yourself. I wish people would understand how close everyone is; almost everyone here is a paycheck away from being homeless. That could be you. So, I think that educating yourself, advocating, donating, volunteering, and understanding are crucial."

Nidia has encountered challenges in getting the non-profit up and running.

She believes many setbacks arise from

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I nominate my sister-in-law, April Curry, for the mommy makeover.

April's challenging journey began in childhood, raised mostly by her Granny as her mother battled alcoholism. Diagnosed with epilepsy at a young age, April faces unpredictable seizures, managed with a heart monitor that administers shocks. Without guidance on being a "lady" or styling herself, April has thrived, marrying my husband's brother and raising a 16-year-old son, Riley, and a 2-year-old, William. Despite her busy life, April supports me immensely, especially during my 2020 loss.

Her selflessness and big heart deserve recognition. A makeover would offer her the care she unconditionally gives others, restoring her self-esteem and reminding her of her inherent beauty.

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allahassee Woman Magazine recently hosted its second annual RED Gala honoring resilient, empowered, and determined women at the beautiful Parkview at Cascades.

Pastor Dr. Judy Mandrell offered a moving invocation and inspiring message. City Commissioner Curtis Richardson addressed the need to continue empowering women in our community with his moving speech.

Dr. Kerry McCord expression his appreciation for Dr. Mitcham’s vision for this and the community.

We celebrated the 12 exceptional finalists, and the winners up-

lifted the crowd with words of wisdom and empowerment. The atmosphere in the standing-room only event was electric thanks to Tallahassee Nights Live, who kept everyone out on the dance floor.

Check out the finalists, winners and attendees in the captivating photos of this unforgettable evening! We are so thankful for all of the sponsors, with the platinum title sponsor the Akbar Thomas Law firm featuring, Brandi Thomas, and Mutaqee Akbar. We look forward to seeing you next year!

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Unveiling the Multifaceted

CAITLIN YANCEY MOORE A JOURNEY OF PASSION, PERSEVERANCE, AND BALANCE PHOTOGRAPHY: KIRA DERRYBERRY

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hen introduced to Caitlin Yancey Moore, one is greeted with a smile that lights up the entire room. Two decades ago, Dr. Amanda Bowden had the privilege of experiencing this warmth, and it continues to be the case with new encounters today. She is the embodiment of excitement, not just about herself but about the people she encounters and the adventures that life presents. Caitlin is that rare individual who effortlessly connects with everyone, yet has never landed her on Dateline. A true intellectual genius, Caitlin seems to possess an uncanny ability to tackle a myriad of endeavors while simultaneously being a beacon of encouragement and support for those around her. Her versatility is nothing short of impressive – from raising chickens, crafting professionally decorated cakes, and engaging in day trading to preparing for endurance races. Yet, her interests extend beyond the personal into the realm of social impact, as she immerses herself in causes like childhood hunger, swings a 9-iron on the golf course, and even ventures into the pilot's seat of an airplane. However, beneath the whirlwind of activities, Caitlin maintains a laser focus on her career and family, particularly her children. Striking a balance that seems almost mathematical, she actively participates in various leadership roles while traversing the southeastern region for cheer or ath-

letic conferences with her kids. Caitlin's journey is marked by a continuous evolution, a testament to her ability to redirect herself when needed, all while keeping her priorities firmly intact.

Her openness and savvy approach to life might be the simplest way to describe this extraordinary woman.

A steadfast companion for two decades, Dr. Amanda Bowden, MD, stands as Caitlin Moore's closest friend.

“Caitlin is an extraordinary woman. She is one of the hardest working, most selfless individuals I have ever met, a truly beautiful person, a generous friend, and a bright light in a sea of darkness. The world, and Tallahassee specifically, are made better by her presence, and the world is a better place because of her and her service to others. To know her is to love her and to know more love and kindness in your own life than before.”

-Cate Saunders “Caitlin Yancey Moore is definitely a woman who ele-

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vates other women. I know firsthand at her core she is a woman who possesses a heart of service, selflessness, love, and kindness.

The bedrock of her existence is to empower others through community service, philanthropy, and strong business acumen. To know her is to know your moral compass is centered when she is around. I don’t know a stronger woman.”

-Dionte Gavin | Director of Communications | Office of Mayor John E. Dailey at City of Tallahassee

The Educational Pause: Vulnerability as Strength In a candid revelation, Caitlin opens up about the layers beneath the surface, delving into the vulnerabilities that she, like many of us, carries daily—hidden away from the public eye. She passionately advocates for the creation of a nonjudgmental space where women can share their vulnerabilities without bearing the weight of societal expectations. Caitlin bravely exposes one of her more prominent insecurities: the interruption of her educational journey.

Starting college at the tender age of 16 with dreams of multiple degrees, life took an unexpected turn. Amid medical and personal challenges, she had to put her educational pursuits on hold, entering the professional arena armed only with her work ethic and wit, devoid of a college degree. While the ache of this hiatus lingers, Caitlin embraces the excitement of rekindling her educational journey in the future—a testament to her unwavering determination and commitment to personal growth.

From Finance to Motherhood: Caitlin's Turning Point Embarking on a journey of multifaceted success, this remarkable woman graciously shares her narrative of evolution as a thriving banker, devoted mother, and influential leader. The pivotal turning point, she muses, was motherhood, an experience that magni-

fied her innate tendencies and fueled a newfound determination. With the birth of her daughter, Ivy, a flame was ignited within her, propelling a desire for both tangible and intangible success. Fueled by the passion to make her daughter proud, she embraced challenges as opportunities, refusing to quit when faced with adversity. Transitioning from a finance role at Camping World to reentering the mortgage industry, she found herself drawn to contribute directly to the growth of Tallahassee, her cherished hometown. Rising through the ranks, from President of the Mortgage Bankers Association of Tallahassee to an alum of 'Leadership Tallahassee' (Class 38 - The Freshest Class Ever), she reflects on the significance of these professional milestones. In her involvement with the Greater Tallahassee Chamber of Commerce, she discovered uncharted facets of her beloved city, sparking a renewed commitment to further invest in her community. This is a story of resilience, growth, and a profound love for Tallahassee, a city she wholeheartedly endeavors to make shine.

Balancing Act: Navigating Career and Motherhood Juggling the demands of a thriving career and the joys of motherhood, our cover woman candidly reveals the ongoing battle for balance that defines her daily life. With an unwavering focus on her children as the guiding force behind every decision, she grapples with the realization that, at times, the best choice for her kids is to prioritize work or other obligations. Drawing from her journey, she emphasizes that success is not handed out but earned through discipline, hard work, and navigating difficult choices. Central to her approach is the belief that her children should witness the ebb and flow of success, learning valuable life choices along the way. Rigorous planning, a recent addition of weekly breakfasts with her parents, and a commitment to being fully engaged in each role have become her

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compass in this quest for balance. Despite the departure of her long-serving nanny, she views the void as an opportunity to be filled with her own presence. Striving for proficiency and reliability in both her roles as a lender and a leader, she unapologetically hustles and embraces the occasional longer hours and tough decisions. In family life, she prioritizes connection, communication, and cherished traditions like 'Taco Tuesday,' ensuring quality time amid busy schedules.

Front row at every important event in her children's lives, she strives to balance the inevitable challenges with moments of joy, acknowledging that the equilibrium isn't a perfect 50/50 every day. A skill she continually hones is the art of delegation, recognizing that success in both work and home life necessitates a collaborative team effort working toward shared goals.

Evolving Definitions of Success: Finding Fulfillment in Small Victories Caitlin, our inspirational cover star, shares her profound insights on the ever-evolving definition of success. According to her, success is a dynamic journey comprised of phases, with small victories serving as crucial milestones. For Caitlin, personal fulfillment and happiness take precedence in her definition of success, emphasizing that personal accomplishment goes beyond mere professional recognition or financial gain. It's the sense of completeness that arises from giving your best, both at work and at home, leading to the unique blend of exhaustion and exhilaration after a day of dedicated effort. Success, for Caitlin, is intricately tied to doing the right thing at the right time, surrounded by the right people, fostering a sincere sense of peace in her surroundings. To women navigating their own path to success, Caitlin imparts invaluable advice—remain true to your beliefs, sustainably pursue what aligns with your values, and seek environments and cultures that resonate with your essence.

Encouraging them to push beyond com-

fort zones, Caitlin affirms that astonishing capabilities emerge when women challenge themselves.

and unrecognized, highlighting the critical role they continue to play in her ongoing journey.

Empowering Women: A Rising Tide Lifts All Boats

Continued Ambition: Finding Motivation in Reflection and Learning

In the eloquent words of Caitlin Moore, 'a rising tide lifts all boats,' encapsulates the essence of why empowering and inspiring other women is not just a choice but a responsibility. In her reflective journey, Caitlin vividly recalls the palpable tension and the silent panic she concealed while striving to outperform her male counterparts in male-dominated industries. The unspoken rules dictating women's behavior—neither too strong nor too soft, neither too cold nor too friendly—created an exhausting tightrope for her to navigate. Yet, Caitlin sees these challenges as a collective struggle, urging women to uplift one another. The pivotal moment that underscored the urgency of this mission occurred when Caitlin's daughter, upon the election of the current Vice President, asked if women were allowed to be President. It was a stark reminder that, despite progress, the next generation remains uncertain about the possibilities for women. Caitlin passionately declares, 'It's time we change that,' emphasizing the transformative power of empowering women for a future where the limits imposed on them no longer exist.

Mentorship and Growth: Learning from Transformational Leaders In Caitlin's remarkable journey, mentorship emerges as a cornerstone in her professional growth, playing an indispensable role in shaping her trajectory.

From mentors who may not have recognized their impact to transformative leaders who provided guidance through both triumphs and setbacks, Caitlin acknowledges the profound influence of mentorship on her personal and professional development.

Her early foundation in a home where parents were present at the dinner table every night instilled the importance of mentorship. The mentors she sought were not only sources of professional wisdom but also models for character and how she aspired to be perceived. Caitlin attributes her success to the valuable lessons learned from mentors, both known

In a captivating glimpse into her life, Caitlin shares the secrets behind her unwavering motivation and the continual setting of new goals. Revealing her favorite pursuit, she expresses an ardent commitment to refining and polishing herself to become the best version possible. Caitlin's insatiable curiosity is evident as she finds inspiration in meeting and learning from people, recognizing and adopting admirable qualities that contribute to her personal growth. She treasures the invaluable role of being a positive role model for her children, acknowledging them as her greatest motivators. Embracing life's vast opportunities, Caitlin thrives on the excitement of new challenges, constantly testing her skillsets and pushing boundaries for personal growth. Despite the occasional need to pause and prioritize, Caitlin's zest for learning and the pursuit of excellence infuse her life with perpetual excitement and vitality.

Discovering the Pulse of Tallahassee: Through Caitlin Moore's Commitment to Community In the heart of Tallahassee, where Southern charm meets community resilience, Caitlin Moore stands as a beacon of unwavering dedication. Her commitment to community service and giving back is more than a passion—it's a profound love story with Tallahassee, a city that holds immeasurable significance in her life.

As we delve into Caitlin's journey, the question lingers: why does Tallahassee hold such profound significance for her? "I sort of alluded to this a bit earlier, but this is my home, and I take great pride in it," Caitlin shares, her eyes gleaming with affection for the city that has become the backdrop to her life's most meaningful chapters.

Tallahassee, with its fabulously gifted and generous residents, has opened its arms to Caitlin. It's a place where community isn't just a concept; it's a lived experience. Caitlin's pride in Tallahassee stems from the people who, graciously and gener-

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PURSUE THE THINGS YOU DOING, AND THEN DO THEM SO WELL THAT PEOPLE CAN’T TAKE THEIR EYES OFF .

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COVER ously, invited her to be a part of their world. In Caitlin's narrative, the Junior League of Tallahassee (JLT) emerges as a pivotal chapter, an organization that propelled her into a realm of community involvement she hadn't explored before. "I fell in love with ser-

FIND PURPOSE & FULFILLMENT IN THE SERVICE OF OTHERS.” vice on a whole new level after my very first meeting with JLT," she reflects, a smile tugging at the corners of her lips. It was in the company of inspiring and compelling women, all gathered under one roof, that Caitlin's journey into the heart of community service truly began. For those seeking avenues to make a difference, Caitlin passionately recommends JLT as the perfect starting point.

"They play a role in supporting almost every other non-profit or community and human service organization in town," she notes, emphasizing the organization's far-reaching impact. Caitlin's commitment to community service extends beyond JLT, as she proudly serves on the board of directors for 211 of the Big Bend. In her opinion, this organization stands as one of the most incredible human services entities, particularly for its crucial role in mental health support. Caitlin's dedication to mental health advocacy reflects her belief in the transformative power of compassionate support.

As the conversation unfolds, Caitlin reveals her significant support for the United Way of the Big Bend, where she served on the "Power Five" for two impactful years. Her involvement speaks volumes about her commitment to effecting positive change within the community. For Caitlin, supporting United Way is not just a charitable endeavor; it's a way to actively contribute to the betterment of Tallahassee. In the tapestry of Caitlin Moore's life, each thread is woven with a commitment to community, service, and the undeniable love she holds for Tallahassee. Her story is a testament to the transformative power of giving back, an inspiration for every woman seeking a deeper connection with her community. As we celebrate Caitlin's unwavering dedication, we are reminded that, in her footsteps, we too can find purpose and fulfillment in the service of others.

Guiding the Next Generation: Intentionality and Relentlessness

women aspiring to carve their paths to success. Emphasizing the importance of intentionality and a clear 'why,' she advocates for self-awareness and a relentless pursuit of personal and professional aspirations. Caitlin encourages the development of habits centered on setting clear, actionable goals, steering away from vagueness.

Whether it's starting a business or facing challenges head-on, she urges specificity and resilience. Caitlin dismisses timidity in seeking mentorship, highlighting the generosity of those willing to share insights. Offering practical wisdom, she suggests waking up early, maintaining a disciplined routine, and staying engaged. As a guiding principle, she underscores the significance of surrounding oneself with like-minded individuals who foster accountability and honesty. In a crescendo of advice, Caitlin concludes with a powerful quote by Maya Angelou: “Pursue the things you love doing, and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off you,” offering a beacon of inspiration for aspiring women navigating the journey to success.

In unveiling Caitlin Moore's journey, it's evident that her story is a symphony of passion, perseverance, and balance. As she continues to evolve, Caitlin remains an inspiring figure for women navigating the intricate dance of life, career, and motherhood.

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Shame, a silent adversary, hinders women in various aspects of their lives, leading to diminished earning potential and adverse life outcomes. Weekly, women reach out with legal struggles, often unable to voice their concerns due to shame.

This silence impedes them from accessing the necessary support, as societal pressures force them into compliance with threats of financial ruin, reputational damage, or even losing custody of their children.

Women leaving relationships face manipulative tactics, from financial threats to coercive warnings, illustrating the desperate measures taken by those in pain. Recognizing these actions as tantrums from a hurting individual allows women to focus on obtaining legal and financial assistance, breaking free from toxic cycles.

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Moreover, shame doesn't solely endanger a woman's safety; it also impedes her earning potential. Many women, after facing humiliation, recoil from taking risks and advocating for themselves. The fear of embarrassment becomes a barrier, leading to a settling for mediocrity and a warped perception of selfworth. This self-imposed limitation, driven by societal judgment, curtails their professional and personal growth.

It is crucial to discern between genuine unworthiness and temporary embarrassment. Women must reclaim the power to determine the value of the criticism they receive. Before allowing discomfort to negatively impact earnings, legal rights, and self-perception, a moment of reflection is imperative.

This introspection enables women to differentiate between enduring self-doubt and fleeting embarrassment, empowering them to navigate the professional and legal realms with confidence.

Britney Spears' narrative serves as a stark reminder of the pervasive influence of shame on women's lives.

Addressing societal constructs that perpetuate shame and empowering women to seek legal and financial support constitute a collective call to dismantle barriers hindering women from realizing their full potential. It's a rallying cry for women to rise above shame, rewrite their narratives, and pave the way for a future where every woman thrives emotionally, professionally, and financially.

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The Jewelry Making of Real Estate Investing

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appy holidays, Dear sisters!

Some of you may be giving gifts to celebrate friends and loved ones.

Serving women is my life’s work, so I want to give you a little gift of knowledge this holiday season, and it is about wholesaling as a way to enter the real estate investing space.

I want to first tell you a story. I am lucky enough to have two friends who each have their own unique jewelry stores. They travel to trade shows and host events to showcase their jewelry. One friend specifically does beadwork, and the other friend enjoys creating earrings that are statement pieces. Both women go to trade shows, online auctions, and e-commerce stores to select their favorite pieces from which to make jewelry. They purchase these pieces at wholesale prices before fashioning them into gorgeous necklaces and earrings. Then, they beautifully display these jewelry items at their events and shows. Someone like you comes along who is pressed for time with work, kids, grandkids, or other responsibilities. You don’t have the time to go select the pieces and then create our own custom jewelry, so you go to my friends’ unique jewelry stores and pick out already made, magnificent earrings or necklaces for yourself. You pay a retail price for these items. You get years of enjoyment from your jewelry, and my friends both earn a little money to provide for themselves or their families. This is a

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win/win exchange and one that happens every day in all types of businesses.

My friends earned the difference between what they purchased the raw materials for at a wholesale price and what they sold the jewelry to you for at a retail price. Speed is the key for why we purchase items at retail. We know we could probably buy stones or jewels and make jewelry for less if we did it ourselves, yet we don’t have the time, desire, or skill to do so. What I have just described is precisely what wholesaling real estate is all about.

Wholesalers work with sellers who are facing a challenge related to a property they own, and we help them solve problems so they can move on with their lives. We serve as the “middle women” who provide a service to the sellers and earn a little profit after the property is sold to an end buyer—just like the jewelry makers. Many sellers who desire to wholesale their properties are days away from bankruptcy or foreclosure due to circumstances outside of their control such as an illness or death in the family, or perhaps they have lost income and fallen behind on mortgage or tax payments with no relief in sight. Sometimes, sellers inherit properties they do not wish to own for a variety of reasons. These sellers don’t have the time or financial ability to list their property with a realtor and pay a commission. Often, our service is to help them relocate, negotiate with lienholders, take over their mortgage

payments to fix, flip, or rent their home ourselves or through an end buyer, etc. I cannot stress enough what I am about to say: we only work ethically and with tremendous care for our sellers. We treat them like a loved one in all interactions. We do not take advantage of people in distress, ever. If that is something someone is inclined to do, they have no business being a real estate wholesaler. It takes empathy, market knowledge, and negotiations skills to be a wholesaler; all these skills can be taught other than empathy as I’ve found you either have it or you do not.

You do not need a license to be a wholesaler unless you are in IL or OK. You do not need any of your own money, credit, or financing to be a successful wholesaler. And, the risk to you is extremely low as you do not have to buy the property yourself. Wholesaling is a way to help families solve problems, earn a small fee at closing for your service (and that doesn’t come out of the sellers’ pocket), and create win/win situations that can truly change the sellers’ lives for the better. Now, this is a gift worthy of celebration!

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eflecting on this notion, at the tender age of 5, the concept of wealth crystallized for me during the era of cabbage patch dolls. It became apparent that possession of one placed you in the exclusive category of the wealthy kids, leaving the rest of us yearning for that coveted doll. However, my compassionate grandmother intervened, braving a five-hour wait to gift me a redheaded cabbage patch doll named Shannon for Christmas in '82.

Yet, being wealthy is more than possessing material things— it’s a lifestyle. As a financial planner today, I advocate for four fundamental rules to attain a truly wealthy life: 1. Save 20% of your yearly income.

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3. Leading a purposeful life filled with abundance and intention.

4. Embodying qualities of humility, generosity, and kindness.

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The common thread? Wealth signifies freedom. The beauty is, achieving a wealthy life is within reach. Engage in honest self-reflection, define your wealthy life, and then go out and make it yours.

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MIND, BODY & SPIRIT INSTANT CONNECT

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know this has happened to you. It happened to me twice this past week– that unexplainable connection with someone you just met. In only a few minutes, you clicked in a way that felt like you had known that person forever. The encounter is rich and flows easily. For some unexpected reason, you experience a sense of familiarity that you are comfortable being yourself and sharing personal stories that usually take you years to divulge. The science says that these connections often share similar characteristics:

1. Easy and natural conversation that flows without awkward pauses - There is a mutual, genuine interest in the other’s thoughts and experiences.

2. Shared humor - You find yourself laughing with that person over the same observations, and often, there is a deep similarity in your histories. You discover you have similar values and beliefs.

3. Sense of support - You somehow feel socially supported by this person and feel a sense of camaraderie and belonging— like you share the same space. You may feel the most acute stress, but sharing this

with someone you just met instantly eases the burden.

There is a sense of acceptance and authenticity. There is also that unexplained mutual encouragement and motivation.

4. Health benefits Strong connections like this have been shown to buffer stress, improve health indicators, and even improve immune functioning.

5. Acceptance of differences - You find a bond in the uniqueness of your differences. There is a shared curiosity about your personal histories and experiences.

It’s hard to resist these kinds of encounters. Instant connections are usually rare, but when they find you, you feel that energy immediately. So, the next time you spark with someone, don’t take it for granted or let it slip away. Please remember that these moments could be the beginning of a lifelong friendship or an encounter that adds joy to your week and emotional nourishment to your spirit.

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Dealing with Loss During the Holidays

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he holidays can be a difficult time for anyone who has experienced the loss of a family member or a friend. The weight of that loss can carry on for years, making the holidays hard. People can experience grief in different ways, and no one can tell you how to move on with your life after a traumatic loss. People cope in their own ways.

There are different things that you can do during the holiday season to get through the tough times.

These suggestions may not work for everyone, but hopefully they will help.

"Just because new traditions are being made without your loved one does not mean that old memories are being erased."

Some families have holiday traditions.

Whether baking a certain treat each holiday season or celebrating together, doing activities that relive those traditions can help. The Psychology Group states, "It can be helpful to continue with old traditions that existed to honor and celebrate the individuals who are no longer here. This is a helpful way to keep their memory present." The Psychology Group also states that just because new traditions are being made without your loved one does not mean that old memories are being erased.

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By Kaitlyn Walsh

with whom you can share stories of your loved one. Spending quality time with some people you feel closest to may help you relive memories of past holidays. Mayo Clinic also suggests watching how you feel when talking about memories of your loved one, "Pay attention to whether this warms you or becomes too hot to touch. Let your feelings be your guide. Finding the path to navigate through all the season's activities may provide a sense of empowerment."

Since grief is not a one-way process for everyone, you may not want to participate in holiday dinners, events, and get-togethers with your family and friends. Talking about your feelings is helpful because moving through emotions of loss on your own can be difficult. Telling people how you feel can help you relieve weight off your chest. Speaking with a licensed therapist can also be beneficial to work through your feelings. Licensed therapists provide ample resources for you to start the healing process.

Joining a support group with other people who have lost their loved ones can help as well.

May this holiday season bring you joy, peace, and comfort.

To Survive and Thrive

By Robin Hassler Thompson, STAC Executive Director

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uman trafficking is a complicated and often-misunderstood issue that impacts the lives of people in our region every day.

As the executive director of the Survive and Thrive Advocacy Center, I am seeing real progress in our efforts to empower human trafficking survivors and educate and inform our communities with the tools to recognize, report and prevent trafficking. This is in large part due to a growing group of advocates, volunteers, elected officials, and business leaders and donors who are committed to helping us make labor

and sex trafficking a thing of the past in the Big Bend.

STAC is funded by grants and the generous support of individuals and businesses who believe in our work. Each year, we celebrate those supporters with our Gratitude Awards presented as part of STAC’s annual Imagine Freedom event.

This event demonstrates how the issue of human trafficking is on the shoulders of the entire community – and that everyone can act to end trafficking when they understand that both sex and labor trafficking are here.

Imagine Freedom 2024 is scheduled for January 30 at the 621 Gallery in Railroad Square. As part of that event, STAC will be unveiling a mural as part of National Human Trafficking Prevention Month observance in January. The winning artwork will be featured at Imagine Freedom, then throughout the year at regional venues where STAC provides services.

To stay informed about STAC’s work, visit the website at surviveandthriveadvocacy.org and listen to our Imagine Freedom podcast. I have the honor of hosting enlightening conversations with survivors of human trafficking who are working to fortify our communities against the realities of sex and labor trafficking. It is available wherever you listen to podcasts. Please join our work as we educate one other so that the freedom we imagine for those impacted by human trafficking can soon become a reality for all.

You can reach Robin and STAC at 850-597-2080 or robin@ surviveandthriveadvocacy.org. More information is also available at the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 888-373-7888 or https://humantraffickinghotline.org/en

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Imagine Freedom 2024 is scheduled for January 30 at the 621 Gallery in Railroad Square.

LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS GREEK GODDESS DISTINCTION

Tallahassee Woman Magazine recognizes the significant contributions that sororities play in uplifting, supporting and improving our communities. Be it via tutoring, hosting Dance-a-thons, joining Habitat for Humanity building projects, or orchestrating clothing or food drives, these servant leaders are front and center in making their campuses and cities better.

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ormer Leon High School student, Kalen Camille Roberts, recently joined the new charter chapter of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority at Rollins College in Winter Park. She is being recognized as a Greek Goddess by her mother, Dr. Chanta Haywood.

Dr. Haywood states that “while Kalen is new to the sorority, service through Greekdom is in her DNA. My mother is an AKA, as am I, so as a third-generation member, she is wired for servant-leadership.”

Members of the sorority agree, as they voted Kalen to be the new chartered chapter’s first President. She stood out to her peers and to the Psi Theta Omega graduate chapter members because she embodies AKA’s mission in her role as a campus leader, tutor, volunteer and 4.0 bio-chemistry major.

Is there an extraordinary young woman in your life who embodies the spirit of a Greek Goddess? Seize the opportunity to showcase her exceptional qualities by purchasing a page to recognize her in TWM’s Greek Goddess Distinction! Join us in celebrating her remarkable achievements, visionary leadership, and unwavering commitment to your sorority's noble mission. Take a moment to highlight the profound impact she has on her community, campus, or within the organization. This is more than a recognition; it's a unique chance to honor and magnify the brilliance of your daughter, niece, or granddaughter. Let's unite to share her inspiring story of empowerment, resilience, and accomplishment!

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Congratulations Kalen Roberts, as our Inaugural Greek Goddess

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W.E. INSPIRE

By Ashley Fischer

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eing an out-of-state college student, I am away from my family for most of the year.

To me, the holidays mean going home to the cold state of New Jersey and spending time with my parents and two siblings. Typically, we would spend Christmas Eve with my mom’s side and Christmas Day with my dad’s. Last holiday season, we tragically lost two members on my dad’s side of the family, leading us to reevaluate this year’s plans.

My father brought up the idea of going on vacation and making that our big gift. When this was mentioned when I was younger, my siblings and I rejected the idea. We were unwilling to exchange anything for our presents. Since 2015, though, my family has gradually had fewer members in attendance over the holidays. Seeing my already small family fall victim to cancer and other terminal diseases year after year has forced me to alter my perspective.

I would rather never receive a Christmas present for the rest of my life if that meant having my grandparents pull into my driveway one more time on December 25th. Instead of sitting around a seemingly smaller dinner table, my father invited his two sisters and their children to spend time with us in Puerto Rico over winter break. I’m looking forward to traveling out of the United States with my loved ones to make new memories.

This holiday season, I challenge you to reflect on its true meaning. Christmas is not about who was gifted the newest iPhone or how pretty the lights look on the house. Christmas is about letting your loved ones know how appreciated they truly are. Over the years, people have confused demonstrating how much they love someone with how much money they spend on them. Money won’t care for you over the years, give you a warm hug, or say “I love you” time and time again. Use this holiday season as an opportunity to show your family how much they mean to you. You may not be able to next year.

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