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Your Thoughts on Beauty

All That Glitters! Fashion and Food Get Your Beauty Sleep

THE RUNWAY OF A BEAUTIFUL LIFE

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contents The Beauty Issue 10 Our Thoughts

42 WWMB Community

12 Woman2Woman

44 Business and Career

Beauty Is Joy!

Women Who Mean Business: Women to Watch

24 Style and Grace

Beauty in the Boardroom: Increasing Women in Leadership Roles

46 Money Talks

Sharing the Beauty: Create a Charitable Giving Plan for the New Year

Women Who Define Beauty: Tallahassee Trendsetters

28 Healthy Living

Music and Healing: The Beautiful Sound

30 Bodies in Motion

48 Our Community

66 Home and Garden

Body Beauty

32 Real Life

The Beauty in the Branches

70 The Dish

Cultivating Beauty in Your Life

40 Special Feature

Make Your Holiday Plate Sparkle

What is Beauty? TWM Readers Share Their Thoughts on Beauty

74 Funny Girl

Thoughts on Housework

34 On the Cover

The Runway of a Beautiful Life By Heather Thomas

About the Cover: Photography of Marsha Doll and her dog Gucci provided by Michael Copeland of Copeland Productions. Gold dress provided by Narcissus. Shot on location at the DoubleTree Hotel in downtown Tallahassee. 4 tallahassee woman • december 2016 / januar y 2017

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OUR CONTRIBUTORS WRITERS Sara Dreier is a recent graduate of Florida State University with a degree in editing, writing, and media. She is currently working in the mental health sector (Better Living Solutions), marketing and promoting eating disorder awareness (and/or mental health awareness) and freelances articles to empower and elevate women in the community.

Dr. Michelle Mitcham, LMHC, NCC, CFM, a professor, life coach, author, psychotherapist and family mediator, founded Courageous Conversations, LLC to help empower individuals and companies to arrive at “courageous solutions” for their life, families, relationships or business. Dr. Mitcham has expertise in diversity, empowerment, vision boards, conflict resolution and family court matters such as high-conflict divorce, parenting plans and solutions for co-parenting. Dr. Mitcham regularly presents and speaks at regional, national and international conferences when not teaching at FAMU, where she is the Program Coordinator for Counseling.

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Terra Palmer is not only a TWM Style Editor but also has a luxury design firm with a passion for quality interiors. She designs interiors all over the United States and has been featured in multiple publications. Terra is also an accomplished artist. Her paintings can be found in art galleries in the Southeast. You can see her work on terrapalmerdesigns.com or follow Terra on Instagram: terrapalmerdesigns and terrapalmerart.

Keasi Smith is a graduate of Florida State University who lives and works in Tallahassee. A freelance writer, self-proclaimed amateur photographer and champion of women everywhere, she aspires to make this world a better place than she found it through her creative endeavors.

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TO RING IN THE NEW YEAR By Maria Elena Margarella

s winter rolls in, temperatures drop and chestnuts roast. We bundle up with cozy sweaters and scarves to stay warm, but what about our lips? In cold weather, lips can crack, dry up and lose color. Well, kiss your troubles away with these healthy lip tips. Hydrate: Winter climate is less humid, which means there is less water in the air for our lips to soak in. While that may be good news for our hair, our lips need water. Being entirely exposed to the external environment, lips are threatened by dryness and cracking 24/7. The skin is thin and transparent, so licking your lips won’t help. Try a softening lip balm or gloss to maintain moisture. Exfoliate: This is a major key for healthy lips. Lip exfoliation will remove the flaky, dry and dead skin and leave behind a smooth, healthy layer. Cosmetic companies have recently taken lip scrubs to a new level—you can find fashionable lipsticks and balms that have exfoliants in them already. Protect: Against the sun! Even during our Florida winters, SPF must be a priority. Constant sun exposure—as for any skin—is not good for the lips. It thins them out and makes them another common, vulnerable spot for skin cancer. Sunscreened lip products usually range from SPF 10 to 30, which is plenty. General rule: don’t bother buying anything for your lips if it doesn’t also give you this extra-protective oomph. Line: Your lips, that is. Lip liners are not only rising in cosmetic trends right now, but they are also the trick to plump those puckers. Apply your lip pencil slightly outside your natural lip line—but not too far!—then fill in the lip area with your favorite lipstick.

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How Technology Can Improve Your Health By Rachel Corry

oday, the advancement of technology is occurring at an unprecedented level as new innovations are made and new apps are created. Holding a smartphone provides us with an endless amount of opportunities—but these opportunities do not have to be limited to social media and mobile games. Check out these convenient apps that aim to help you improve your exercise and eating habits for the New Year: Lose It!—This versatile app offers numerous tools to reach your wellness goals. It allows you to set up a personal profile with your current weight and goal weight then creates a unique personal budget. It features a valid food database to keep track of your daily calorie intake as well as a daily activity log. Strava—Check out this app and make exercise fun! You can record your athletic activities by entering them yourself or

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pairing the app with another GPS device. The app will allow you to compare and compete with yourself and other athletes. Everywhere you go, you can stay motivated by trying to beat others’ record distances and times running or biking. 5k Runner—Perfect for new runners, this expertrecommended running app promises to move you from a “couch potato to a 5k runner.” It features alternating walk/ run intervals and an audio coach that can be paired with listening to music and follows a weekly 30-minute, 3-timesa-week schedule. Fooducate—Healthy eating doesn’t have to be difficult. Fooducate helps you choose nutritional food by allowing you to find options that meet your dietary needs. It has a barcode scanner that gives food a nutritional grade based on your diet, along with the item’s ingredients and pros and cons.

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Holiday Help for Healthy Skin By Maria Elena Margarella

ood tidings aren’t the only things winter brings. It’s also the season of cooler temperatures and thicker sweaters. But how do we protect our beautiful bodies? Colder weather means our skin runs risks of dryness, redness and irritation. Heed our holiday help to keep you safe from Jack Frost.

When Jack Holds Your Hand: Don’t let him turn it into sandpaper. When you go outside, always protect your hands with gloves. (It’s a perfect fashion opp!) Moisturizers with aloe vera and green tea extracts are great sources of hydration, and they don’t leave skin feeling greasy. For your feet, think butter. Gently exfoliate with a hydrating scrub and then apply a thick, buttery moisturizer. Your runway strut will thank you.

Red Nose Like Rudolph?: That’s because your blood vessels dilate when the weather gets colder. The best remedy is warmth. Ski masks, thick scarves that wrap up to your nose, and hats that cover your ears will all lessen the redness. Applying a warm pad also helps.

No Wax, No Way: Beauty products that are wax-based will most likely leave skin feeling more parched than before. Seek products that are more viscous, so the ingredients better seep into the skin. This tip especially applies with lip balms—be wise, but don’t be waxy.

The Winter Sun: We can’t ignore it. Cooler temps don’t excuse skin cancer scares. Sun exposure also causes redness and dehydration, so if you’re going outside, slather on the SPF. Protect your face—the area that is most often exposed to winter air—with an SPF layer of at least 30. Keep your skin smiling!

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Make Your Holiday Meal Healthier By Janecia Britt

n the midst of all the holidays, it’s hard not to get swept into a mashed-potato dream cloud. The great abundance of heavy and hearty foods around the table can make you wonder how you can lighten up some of the traditional favorites. Worry no more; there are a few healthy swaps you can make to keep yourself feeling healthy and full this season.

1. Mashed Cauliflower instead of Mashed Potatoes

The mashed potato is a sacred dish, but there is a way to have your mash and not feel guilty. Cauliflower is making a comeback, and with a few spices and a bit of love, you can have your favorite whipped veggies. You can even mix mashed cauliflower into your regular homemade mash for a semi-light option that doesn’t compromise flavor. 18 tallahassee woman • december 2016 / januar y 2017

2. Roasted Vegetables instead of Green Bean Casserole

A true staple in some households, green bean casserole is a tasty reminder of family. But with fried onions and toppings, the green beans can’t really shine. Roasted brussel sprouts, butternut squash or even green beans by themselves are a great healthy side that still gives you that homemade feeling without compromising health or flavor.

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Here in the South, we love our Bloody Marys and no holiday morning is quite the same without one. But if you’re trying to cut back, having mimosas is a much healthier option for your brunch drink. Not only is a mimosa bubbly and bright, but it’s also packed with vitamin C and fewer calories. So even if you still have that Bloody Mary, make a pitcher of fresh-squeezed orange juice and champagne for your guests. They’ll love the light and fresh option.

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Getting Your Beauty Sleep By Emily Wells

etting a good night’s rest can be difficult because of our busy lives, but getting good sleep is essential to your well-being. According to the National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute, when you’re asleep, your body repairs your heart, decreasing the chances of having a heart problem in the future and allows for your brain to form new pathways to help you remember information and make decisions. Furthermore, less than 7 to 8 hours of sleep can lead to difficulty making decisions and staying focused. If you’re having trouble getting those hours, here are some tips to getting some good sleep: Create a comfortable environment. According to the Mayo Clinic, humans are programmed to sleep in the dark, so keeping your room dim will help you fall asleep quicker. Studies have shown that sleeping comfortably can give you a deeper sleep, so make sure your bed is comfortable for you. Create a sleep schedule. The National Sleep Foundation discovered that women need an extra 20 minutes of sleep compared to men, due to using their brains more to multitask.

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To make sure you’re getting enough sleep, set a time for when you go to bed and an alarm to wake you up. Create a bedtime ritual. Doing a relaxing task like listening to music right before bed can help prepare your body for rest. However, avoid using electronics because the bright screen of your phone or the television may keep you awake. Use lavender oil. Prevention Magazine reported that the scent of lavender may help to ease insomnia, so don’t be afraid to diffuse some lavender oil before you go to bed. The lavender in the air will help you fall asleep more quickly, as well as help you sleep more peacefully at night. Sleeping is a simple activity, but one of the most important ones there is. Making it a priority to get enough rest will help you to be your very best.

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ALL THAT GLITTERS

By Janecia Britt and Maria Elena Margarella

here is something about the holidays that makes everything feel shiny, new and special. From bringing back the ’90s to natural hair and dressing up an old coat, we bring you the new, need-to-know trends for 2017.

Glitter Makeup: This cosmetic trend sparkled all across runways, proving that 2017 will be a bright year. It’s your time to shine. For starters, try shimmer eyeshadow with some glitter dust concentrated near your tear ducts. For a simpler look, use liquid eyeliner—it applies best for a smooth, sleek appearance. You can also get your glitter fix in lipsticks, glosses and body powder. Let the sparkles speak for themselves and embrace your inner glitz. Chokers: The ’90s are making a comeback, and we’re not complaining. What’s so great about this trend is that it’s accessible to everyone. These simple yet personal touches are both ageless and beautifully diverse. There are so many styles! Find the choker that best matches your personality, and strut along. Leather, metal and velvet are just a few of the various textures out there. To add a dash of dazzle to your outfit, check out chokers with charms, jewels and other stones. Hold your heads up high, ladies, so the world can see your confidence…and your fashionable chokers! Hair Embellishments: Jewelry on your mind this holiday season? How about on your head? That’s right. Our hair deserves some bedazzlement too, and this fashion trend delivers just that. Clips, pins and bun holders have all debuted down runways with sparkling, exaggerated accents. Other popular pieces include crown headbands, bejeweled brooches, hair drapes and the timeless flower crown. Let these pieces inspire the bold and beautiful spirit within you. 22 tallahassee woman • december 2016 / januar y 2017

No Makeup: Remember when

women wouldn’t leave the house without a full face of makeup? Well, the days of that are fading away. The #NoMakeup trend has gotten thick roots in pop culture. Made famous by Alicia Keys, everyone is nurturing and showing off their bare face. In the midst of contouring tutorials, this trend is a refreshingly honest look at how to let the beauty within shine through. Celebrities who have taken the trend to heart are Gwyneth Paltrow, Cindy Crawford and Lady Gaga—all coming together on social media to celebrate that the skin they’re in is beautiful on its own.

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straighteners and chemicals because embracing your natural texture is all in. Gone is the pressure of conforming to societal standards of beauty and in is letting your hair be exactly the way it grows from your roots. A way to break free from the chains of impossible beauty standards, the trend has spread to everyone with the message of loving ourselves and every curl that comes with us. Wash away all the product, clip your dead ends and embrace your waves, curves and curls.

Brooches: Sometimes you just need to jazz up an outfit. With winter approaching, what better way to spice up any boring old outerwear than with a stunning brooch? Attach them to the knot of scarves, the lapel of a coat or the side of tote bag for the perfect holiday bling.

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WOMEN WHO DEFINE BEAUTY

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Trendsetters By Maria Elena Margarella Photography by elleBelle Photography Styling by Terra Palmer and Calynne Hill

Because beauty is in the eye of the beholder, definitions of beauty are infinite—for everyone. As women, though, sometimes we struggle to see the beauty around and within us. To empower you to find your own beautiful definitions, we gathered some of Tallahassee’s inspiring beholders and asked them about the beauty that catches their eye.

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[First Lady of Tallahassee and Director of Foundation Affairs at Florida Dental Association] Q. How do you define beauty? A. For me, beauty is all about

feeling good about yourself. When you are confident, that spirit radiates from the inside and manifests on the outside. You feel encouraged to take pride in your appearance and take care of your body.

Q. What are your go-to beauty products? A. The most important things to me are my skin and my teeth.

I can’t live without my Laura Mercier Smooth Finish Foundation powder, Maybelline Mega Plush mascara, nude lip gloss, Neutrogena face wipes, Dove soap and my electric toothbrush.

Q. What and/or who makes you feel beautiful? A. My husband :-) Q. What or who brings beauty to your life? A. My family and my friends. Q. How would you define your style? A. Classic. I wear a lot of black, and then I add “spice” with my accessories. I

love to wear bright-colored pumps or leopard-print shoes.

Q. What do you hope to see in the future when it comes to beauty and women? A. While it’s definitely getting better, I want to see more diversity in fashion

and beauty products. Seeing someone who looks like you in ads and on the runway can be validating, and I think it’s also important for girls and young women. I am an average-sized, dark-skinned woman, and I will always support brands and businesses that provide options for me. Thank you to Tallahassee Woman for always showcasing such diversity on your covers and in each magazine.

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BRADY THOMPSON

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Q. How do you define beauty? A. I think my outward beauty is defined by my self-awareness, self-approval and self-

validation. I certainly love to hear from my husband that I’m beautiful...but feeling confident is really what helps me feel beautiful.

Q. What are your go-to beauty products? A. I have always been a “less is more” kind of girl when it comes to beauty

products. My list of go-to beauty products is not very long, but it is essential. I LOVE Burberry’s Fresh Glow Highlighting Luminous Pen. I inherited dark undereye circles, so after some moisturizer and concealer, I quickly finish off with the Luminous Pen to give my eyes the “I’m awake!” look. Also, two of my daily favorites are the Burberry Gloss in Rosewood and a bit of Jo Malone Wood Sage and Sea Salt Cologne. One thing I simply couldn’t live without is Neutrogena’s Makeup Remover Cleansing Towelettes. These towelettes remove every trace of makeup and include a moisturizer that leaves my face feeling hydrated. Besides the tangible products that I use on a daily basis, my other beauty necessities include plenty of sleep, a lot of water and regular exercise!

Q. What makes you feel beautiful? A. Brett, my husband, often tells me I’m beautiful. I love that he enjoys enhancing my beauty by buying me nice things...like

my Chanel bag. That’s always a bonus! As a child I would hear my mother say that “pretty is as pretty does,” and at the time, I thought she was referencing appearance. However, as an adult, I know that the “pretty” she was referring to was having a beautiful heart. Doing for others and living a purposeful life is what really makes me feel beautiful.

Q. How would you define your style? A. I am constantly refining my style as I age and travel. I tend to lean away from a real tailored look and to go for a more

sophisticated casual look. I also love to take comfortable risks, and I’ll often throw on an unexpected piece to finish an outfit. I think Tallahassee does a good job letting women dress to their liking. There’s just not a whole lot of pressure to always conform. I think it’s so important to always be true to your own style.

Q. What or who brings beauty to your life? A. My children, Isabel and Everett, bring the greatest beauty to my life. Watching them grow and find joy and purpose in their

lives is truly a beautiful thing.

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JULI DOWNS

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Q. How do you define beauty? A. True beauty begins with kindness and a good heart. I have devoted my

professional life to helping women match their outer beauty to their inner beauty. I love it when women feel as beautiful as they are.

Q. What are your go-to beauty products? A. I love Smith & Cult lip gloss and nail lacquer. I also love Armani foundation

and Oribe hair products.

Q. What makes you feel beautiful? A. My family! But in the world of fashion…what makes me feel beautiful is

being put together head to toe. An outfit doesn’t have to be dressed up, just thought out. No matter if the occasion is work, drinks with the girls, a formal affair, or the grocery store—hair, makeup and the right outfit are #Stylegoals.

Q. What or who brings beauty to your life? A. My friends and family are the beauty! Great clothes, bags and accessories are the icing on the cake! Q. How would you define your style? A. Trending classics. Simple, clean and elegant. I also think we should have fun with fashion. Don’t lock yourself into one

style. Be open-minded. If you hear yourself keep saying, “That’s not me!” Maybe it should be!

Q. What do you hope to see in the future when it comes to beauty and women? A. I wish that all women could see themselves as a canvas with so many possibilities. To see the beauty they bring

to the world. We are hard on ourselves. Be confident and strong—that is beautiful!

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MUSIC AND HEALING THE BEAUTIFUL SOUND By Keasi Smith

merican philosopher, psychologist and physician William James once said, “I don’t sing because I’m happy; I’m happy because I sing.” A man before his time, he already knew what scientists have since proved: music can heal us. Not only that, but a speedy tempo can motivate you to run faster, a funky rhythm can inspire your hips to sway and particular melodies can bring us to tears. We have all experienced the mysterious power music can have on our emotions and behavior, but the science of music and music therapy as a discipline didn’t really form until after World War I and World War II, when hospitals began to see the positive effects volunteer musicians had on veterans suffering from the traumas of war. Over the decades, studies have

unveiled the effects of music on our brain and, in turn, uncovered an effective tool for addressing physical, emotional and cognitive needs of individuals. Possibly the most remarkable effects of music therapy can be seen in patients suffering from dementia. Nursing homes from across the country have seen the benefits of inviting musicians to come play at their facility, and as the 2014 documentary “Alive Inside: A Story of Music and Memory” demonstrates, providing each patient with an iPod can do wonders for facilitating movement and promoting engagement even in the most docile individuals. This is because a person’s ability to engage in music remains intact late into the disease

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process, as our brain requires little to no mental or cognitive functions to enjoy a tune. Music selections from the individual’s young adult years—18 to 25—have proved to have the strongest responses. Because memories are so spread throughout the neurological pathways, music has the amazing ability to evoke powerful memories in patients who have lost their identity to dementia. Music therapy techniques are also used in hospice care, including at Tallahassee’s very own Big Bend Hospice, where music therapy is used to increase relaxation, give spiritual comfort and provide an outlet for self-expression and communication. Techniques vary but include learning how to play the piano to improve fine

motor skills or using music instruments to cope with emotions. And because music therapy comes with no side effects and is so noninvasive, this approach has become a wildly popular tool to help increase the quality of life for those suffering from a terminal illness. It can also be extremely helpful to the patient’s family, providing support and comfort for them throughout their hospice journey alongside their loved one. The healing benefits of music span people of all ages, including children with autism. A 2012 study shared in the Pertanika Journal found that over a ten-month period, weekly music therapy sessions improved children’s inattentive behaviors, and additional studies have shown that childhood music lessons serve extreme cognitive benefits, such as decreased stress, depression and addictive behavior. For those suffering from insomnia, the Institute of Behavior Sciences in Hungary conducted a study in 2015 that found music to be an effective tool for improving sleep quality in adults. Hospitals continue to utilize music therapy to heal, alleviate pain and counteract apprehension and fear, which all can lessen the amount of pain medications prescribed. Still, you don’t have to be suffering from any of the above ailments to take advantage of the healing benefits of music. After all, music predates recorded history and has been used by cultures all over the world for religious, spiritual and communicative purposes. We are hardwired to enjoy music. Listening to your iPod can be considered preventative medicine, as music gets your good genes moving and slows down genes that cause brain degeneration. Listening to music can actually protect your brain while simultaneously counteracting effects of chronic stress, a contributing factor to illnesses and disease. The next time you’re enjoying your favorite song, remember that the magic you’re feeling is actually the beauty of neurotransmitters and chemicals in your brain, healing you from the inside out. So, turn up the volume!

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BODY BEAUTY by Janecia Britt

A new year always seems like a great time to craft a new you, whether that be kicking old habits or getting back in the gym. But one thing is for sure, the “new year, new you” mantra hasn’t lost its flair. This new year, as you work towards a better you, we and our favorite people in fitness encourage you to find self-love in your fitness journey and what makes your body beautiful, inside and out.

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exercise and good sleep. For me, good sleep can change my outlook on everything. A happy outlook is essential to feeling and looking beautiful.

2. How do you encourage others to love their bodies?

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I would encourage anyone struggling with self-love to let go of any guilt from past choices and focus on being healthy and happy today. Choosing happiness every day (and believe me, it is a choice because some days are not easy) is the healthiest way to live your life.

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3. How do you define “body beauty”?

1. What do you love about your body and how does it make you feel beautiful on the outside? On the inside?

4. What do you hope to see changed about women and body image?

I love the way my body feels when I am eating healthy and getting regular

I define beauty as healthy, confident and happy.

2. How do you encourage others to love their bodies?

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1. What do you love about your body and how does it make you feel beautiful on the outside? On the inside?

My mantra in life is that we have been given the incredible gift of our body: so we should walk because we can, we should nourish our bodies because we can, we should lift weights because we can and we should rejoice in our body because it is our gift—one that we should

5. What 2017 healthy “body beauty” tips would you like to share with our readers? Slow down and simplify. When we are not in a constant state of go, go, go, we have time to be more aware of our body and our health choices. We need to make time for ourselves and not feel guilty about this. Make time for exercise and rest. When we slow down, our senses become more alert and we can enjoy life more. My wish for everyone in 2017 is to choose to live healthily and be happy.

I would hope that women could develop their body image from their own

appreciate, cherish and use to the best of our ability. To not take care of our greatest gift is an injustice to our Creator and an injustice to ourselves.

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mothers, sisters, friends and mentors. Know your body, and know when you feel strong, energized and happy. This should give you a goal to keep your body in that state for a positive body image. When you are strong, energized and happy with yourself, you will be beautiful to yourself and others too.

I encourage others to love their bodies by celebrating their strengths and accomplishments, no matter how large or small. Each and every day, we see people work towards their goals, and every step must be acknowledged, celebrated and should drive the motivation to do more. Celebrate accomplishments, but always have another goal ahead of you to strive toward.

3. How do you define “body beauty”?

Body beauty is the twinkle in one’s eyes of happiness and self-confidence. In the weight-loss world, we see people walk through our doors every day with their heads down and timid eye contact that reads self-defeat. As they change and feel healthier each day, we see them raise their heads and their eye contact becomes more

and more radiant. Seeing someone have a twinkle in their eyes that they have not had in years is true body beauty!

4. What do you hope to see changed about women and body image? Women are faulted by society so often about perceptions of body images and what is acceptable by society. I am passionate about society’s pressure on young girls today, and it is on the top of my wish list of things I would change if I could and would move the world to do so. I tire of the constant negativity, which can make some feel like it is not even worth trying to take a step forward, and that breaks my heart. Find the good and allow it to empower you!

5. What 2017 healthy “body beauty” tips would you like to share with our readers?

There is no greater feeling than empowering others. Find what attribute serves you the best, and allow it to empower others. A healthy beautiful smile is at the very top of my beauty tips for 2017 and beyond.

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Cultivating Beauty in Your Life Dr. Michelle A. Mitcham, LMHC, NCC, CCMHC, CFM

o you feel beautiful? If so, why? If not, why not? What does “feeling beautiful” really mean? Know that you are beautiful and that is a fact. Believe it. Look in the mirror of your soul and see the intrinsic beauty that emanates from within. You are a beautiful sister, daughter, wife, mother, partner, friend, grandmother or mother-in-law. True and authentic beauty cannot be bought but discovered and embraced from within. A beautiful mind, heart, personality or spirit is priceless. Yes, it is wonderful to have pretty clothes, fancy shoes and the most awesome makeup, but does this make us beautiful? If the only definition of beauty is the unauthentic standard we see on television or the Internet, then we are being unrealistic and selling ourselves short. Many women spend a fortune on clothes, makeup and even plastic surgery. There is nothing wrong with any of these things to make us feel more beautiful, but what is on the inside? I want everyone who is reading this to look in the mirror with a bare face, maybe even naked. Stare at yourself intently and be the observer of your thoughts. What do you think and what do you feel? Whatever it may be, positive or negative, wipe your mind clear and loudly affirm “I AM.” Let’s take a moment to get real with the real you. Do you ever feel like no matter what, you aren’t enough? YOU WERE BORN ENOUGH. Are you investing in yourself or hiding from yourself? What are your best inner qualities? What would your friends and family say if asked this question about you? What do you say about you? True love of self is falling in love with the intrinsic values that support spreading your light into the world. Here are some intrinsic and mindful beauty tips shared with me from my daughter, Tavia Rahki.

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Cultivating Beauty in Your Life 1. Find beauty in nature. Spend a few minutes marveling at the sun, the sky, the trees and the grass. 2. Trade in your morning coffee for a cold-pressed juice, hot tea or a smoothie. Don’t scroll through Instagram or Facebook—no TV, no distractions. Sit up tall, breathe deeply and take each sip with mindfulness, and with each sip, think of something you have done that you are proud of or something that brings you joy, or simply be present in the moment. 3. Today when you look at people,

think about what you notice first. Are you judging their appearance, their hair, their skin, their teeth, their body? Watch those thoughts, reflect and redirect them to a positive mental space. Today, make it your mission to find beauty in everyone (even those who may not find beauty in you).

4. Ok, so social media is a daily thing, but let’s look at how it affects your inner thoughts and your mood. Scroll through your Facebook, Instagram, etc., and pause at any unpleasant feelings. Are you genuinely happy for others? Do you ever feel discontent after peeking into the lives presented by others? Why? Meditate on that or even journal your feelings. 5. Write yourself a beauty affirmation

letter/note in your planner or any place you will definitely see it. This affirmation is most helpful when shedding light on an insecurity. It can be as simple as, “My presence is appreciated.” “I am worthy.” “I am beautiful.”

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“The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode, but the true beauty of a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring she lovingly gives and the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.”—Audrey Hepburn After working in the world of fashion, modeling and beauty for decades, Marsha Doll understands the mirror quandary, but doesn’t want us to define beauty or our self-worth based on what we see. Marsha’s devotion to her family, community and the countless women and men she has empowered is a deeper revealing of a woman whose life purpose is to encourage us to see and celebrate the beauty within ourselves and others. tallahassee woman • december 2016 / januar y 2017 35

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t’s a picturesque Tallahassee morning when Marsha and I get together at her home. As we sit on her deck, enjoying the view of the pond in her backyard, there’s a tall tree waving its arms above us, sprinkling leaves all around. Even though we have met up frequently in town over the years, this is the first time I’ve been back to her house since working for her while an undergraduate at Florida State University. One fateful Friday afternoon in 1999, I was at her house picking up supplies for a promotion that her company was handling that weekend. Her youngest child, “little” Dean, Jr., was three years old and sitting in a booster chair in the kitchen. Marsha, in a chic cocktail dress, was finishing up preparing dinner for the family before attending an event that evening. She was a glittering picture of a working mom in a demanding, but glamorous career.

world of modeling. “I remember lying on my bed and looking through pages of fashion magazines wanting to be a part of that world.” It was on one buying trip in Atlanta, Georgia, that Marsha was first approached by a modeling agency and began working as a model throughout her teen years. “I wasn’t 5'10", but I knew clothes and fashion—I was raised and born in the business. My grandfather who came from Lithuania and opened our clothing store in 1925, taught me the meaning of hard work, treating all people with respect and giving back. He proved with dedication and perseverance, success was inevitable. Ninety-two years later, the family clothing store is still going strong, thanks to my husband Dean.”

“I was just this small-town girl with really big goals and I had the determination to reach them, but I couldn’t have done it without the support of some important people in my life.”

Neither one of us can recall how it happened, but Little Dean somehow banged his forehead on the table. Chaos ensued. Being 20 years old at the time and not knowing much about screaming children or frantic mothers, I did the first thing I could think of and ran to the freezer to get ice to put in a dishtowel, which I put on Little Dean’s head. As Marsha rocked him in her arms we navigated finding the doctor’s office phone number and called it, and then off Marsha and her husband, Dean Faulkenberry went to get Little Dean checked out. This cacophonic scene painted a picture that has stayed with us both. Perhaps it’s because despite all the fame and success Marsha has garnered over the years, she takes strength from these real moments that are composed of both beauty and pain and is grateful for all of it. Also, for Marsha, a beautiful life is centered on family. Family for her is defined, in part, as the ones who nurtured her as a girl with modeling dreams and the family that is made up of her husband and four children, as well as the mentors, friends and people from all over the world whom she has inspired with her courage and grace in business and in life.

“Just a small-town girl.” Down the road in Perry, Florida, Marsha Glickman grew up in a close-knit Jewish family and worked in her grandfather’s clothing store alongside her parents. Living in a small town yet traveling with her mother on clothing buying trips to bigger cities helped Marsha develop an appreciation for fashion and the glamorous, yet capricious 36 tallahassee woman • december 2016 / januar y 2017

When Marsha was a student at Tallahassee Community College and then later at Florida State University, she saw her future profession taking shape. “I was just this smalltown girl with really big goals and I had the determination to reach them, but I couldn’t have done it without the support of some important people in my life.” One of those people was Eileen Mitchell, the owner of a local modeling agency. “I was 18 years old and standing in front of this beautiful, but stoic woman. She said, ‘Go strut.’ So I did my runway walk and she said, ‘You are fabulous! I need you to teach my classes.’” Marsha taught modeling classes while in college and would go on trips to New York with Eileen as her assistant, meeting famous icons of the day. She became enthralled with the city, making modeling and business connections that she still maintains. After graduating from college, she worked in Tampa, Florida, at a modeling agency, then moved on to Miami, Florida, and continued to teach modeling there. Although only 23, her modeling expertise and business acumen began to kick in. “I realized I knew a lot, but I wasn’t able to produce opportunities for models that I wanted to provide for them.” Marsha came back to Tallahassee and soon after bought Eileen Mitchell’s agency from her in 1985. She married her first husband in 1987. In 1990, the same year that her first child, Tiffany, was born, she launched her own agency, Marsha Doll Models, and began to make a name for herself on a national/international level. Marsha’s charisma draws people to her, and wherever Marsha is, you feel beautiful in her presence. “I tell people that modeling can be a brutal industry. But a truly beautiful person has the ability to light up a room, not because of their superficial attributes, but because they are sincerely ‘real.’ I try to model the authenticity, compassion and confidence that I want to see in

young women and men, no matter what they do in this life.” With this kind of professional and personal success, you naturally assume that Marsha has unwavering confidence. In actuality, she says, “I was intimidated for years. But you don’t grow if you’re not scared, and if you stay in your comfort zone you don’t learn anything. If you can dream it, you can do it. I always want to challenge myself and do the impossible. I’ve learned to use fear as my fuel.” This authenticity is what grounds her in the midst of the limelight and how she inspires others to go after their dreams. “One of the gifts of traveling all over the world and meeting people from all walks of life is that you realize how similar we all are. We can be so scared to do things, but we’ve got to get out there and live life while we are still here.”

“If you can dream it, you can do it. I always want to challenge myself and do the impossible. I’ve learned to use fear as my fuel.” Finding the Beauty in the Tough Times The resiliency of Marsha’s spirit would serve her well through a myriad of highs and lows in the following ten years, which included a divorce from her first husband. In 1994, she married Dean Faulkenberry, who she says is “my hero and the absolute love of my life,” and then her family circle expanded to include Dean’s two children, Sara and Gracie, who were six and three years old at the time.

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“We all have so much background noise. I take the time now to pay attention to all the beautiful things God has given us. I’m grateful.” When Marsha’s mother passed away, from an aneurism in 1995, it was a devastating, unexpected loss. Little Dean was born a year later, and then in 2001, Marsha’s brother, her only sibling, took his own life. Marsha says, “If you live long enough, you will lose people you love, you will go through illnesses or your loved ones will go through illnesses. You experience the greatest of joys and the lowest of lows. It all comes down to a choice—you have to learn to find the beauty in every experience. It’s all in your attitude. Learn from it and then share what you’ve learned with other people.”

“You have to live day-by-day and one beautiful moment at a time.” Through the late 1990s and into the 2000s Marsha Doll Models, which she and Dean operated out of their home, continued its successful climb by providing real-world experiences to aspiring models and talent, while expertly handling promotions for national clients. With thousands of models and talent in her agency’s database and clients such as Vogue, Seventeen magazine, Covergirl, Ralph Lauren and Proctor and Gamble, just to name a few, Marsha had achieved unparalleled success in the local and national industry as someone who could be relied upon to deliver star-quality results. “Having people count on me to do something seemingly impossible and coming through in a big way is my favorite kind of challenge.” But there was one challenging foe she had not planned on. In 2007, she discovered a tiny lump in her left breast during a breast self-exam. After testing, it was discovered she had Stage 1 cancer. She didn’t have to have treatment but had a mastectomy on only the affected breast. She later regretted this after discovering a lump in her right breast in 2008, bigger than the first one, which tested HER-2 positive and had spread to the first lymph node. After another mastectomy and double reconstruction, she went through a grueling 38 tallahassee woman • december 2016 / januar y 2017

time of chemotherapy. “I remember lying on my couch outside after chemo sessions, watching leaves fall from this very tree, and I would count them as they fell. I think that’s when I learned you have to live day-by-day and one beautiful moment at a time.” Cancer has given Marsha a new lens of beauty on how she looks at the world. “It seems during times of adversity that we look deep into our lives and try to figure out what is our purpose. After surviving breast cancer twice, I had no choice but to slow down. When you sit and really pay attention, there is an abundance of natural beauty that surrounds us and can heal us. We all have so much background noise. I take the time now to pay attention to all the beautiful things God has given us. I’m grateful.” Through the years, Marsha has never lost the intrinsic drive that she was put on this earth for a reason. “I know deep in my soul that my purpose is to help others, but it’s not been easy. I’m not lucky. I created my luck. My father passed away five years ago, and I can still hear him talk about my grandfather and how hard he worked. I’m so proud of my family heritage and the foundation that was given me. I don’t ‘work’ because I’m doing what I love. I’m here to show others that if you can dream it, you can do it.” Marsha’s “work” includes conducting modeling/acting seminars and taking children and teens to New York City several times a year for her NYC Bootcamp. “When I see them feeling beautiful and see the positive influence and the impact I’ve had in their lives, that makes me feel beautiful. Teaching kids to love themselves, believe, dream and be confident is the most rewarding part of what I do.” Among her other business endeavors is Marsha Doll Beauty: The Model Collection, a line of lotions and self tanners. She is the creator of the Promise Candle and the author of the book, Modeling Totally Exposed. She is also co-hosting, “Magic on the Red Carpet with Marsha and Jane,” a TV segment on Live in Tallahassee, with her best friend, Jane Marks. “I have a hard time sitting still. I like to experience new things, and I surround myself with

people who are loving and encouraging. I’ve learned through the years that you are your environment.” The environment of Tallahassee has been impacted significantly throughout the years by Marsha’s generosity of time and resources to almost every major charitable organization in town, and these are just a few—The Joanna Francis Living Well Foundation, Cards for a Cure, Big Bend Hospice, Chelsea House, Alzheimer’s Project of Tallahassee, Boys Town of North Florida, Lauren’s Kids, Ladies Learning to Lead, Refuge House, United Way, Commission on the Status of Women and Girls, Pace Center for Girls, Tallahassee Police Department’s Victims of Domestic Violence, Alpha Gamma Delta Philanthropy and Tallahassee Democrat’s Club 25 charities. “So many people have helped me and mentored me. Life is too short not to give back.” As we both sit and reflect under the same tree whose leaves became a metaphor for moments in time, there is one question that still bears asking an expert on beauty, someone who has worked among famous and beautiful people all of her career— what is the alchemy of beauty? “Beauty is not only what we see on the outside, but the love someone has for themselves and others. A beautiful woman is one with self-confidence, who can walk into any room and own it because she likes herself and genuinely cares about other people. She makes an effort to make others feel special and important, not intimidated. It’s a woman who follows her dreams, is not afraid of failing and never gives up. It’s the woman who tries to find perspective, humor and joy when she walks the runway of life.”

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By Janecia Britt

We often take for granted the beauty of this world and forget to stop and recognize how beautiful we are—our minds, hearts and the people who surround us. It’s easy to overlook the simple beauties in life when you’re busy and just going through the motions. This holiday season we asked you, our readers, what is beauty to you? Here’s what you said: “Beauty is truly being happy for someone and seeing what God is trying to teach you in the midst of a stressful time or situation. Beauty is allowing yourself to recognize the teachable moments through the “crazy” of life.” —Elizabeth Ekk

“Beauty is the acceptance of differences and oddities. It’s the bumps, bruises and scars—the smiles, laughter and satisfaction. Beauty isn’t just what you see; it’s what you feel. And that’s why it’s all-encompassing.” —Ranya Salvant

“A woman who walks into the room with confidence, a mother who kisses her baby’s boo-boo and ladies laughing uncontrollably.” —Bonita Davis Paige

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“Beauty is the courage to stand up for what you believe in and for others who can’t.” —Katie Sue Britt

“Beauty is seeing the natural pink color infused back into your husband’s ash-colored face following his heart transplant.” —Jill McMullen Elmore

“Beauty is when the heart illuminates past pain and challenges.—when you look into another’s eyes and recognize understanding and compassion. Beauty, in its simplest form, is humility and kindness.” —Lisa Brown

“The only four freckles on my daughter’s face that I have coined, ‘Angel Kisses.”” —Amy Balla Keys

“Beauty is being confident and unafraid to shine your bright light from within.” —Ashley Mayo

“My definition of beauty is watching the faces of adoptive families on adoption day. Witnessing the beauty of forever families being created is one of the most amazing feelings ever!” —Heather Cox Rosenberg

“Beauty is having unconditional love from your children and grandchildren.” —Marie Riou

“Beauty is watching the seasons change, hearing a hearty laugh and seeing a family bond and spend time together.” —Taylore Maxey

“Anyone who is kind is beautiful.” —Ericka Zdenek McKibbin

“My mom always told me “beauty is as beauty does”; for me, beauty is the act of pure selflessness...what you give back to others.” —Jan Sheffield

“Beauty, to me, is the confidence you exude when you’ve discovered self-acceptance and love.” —Lydia Bell

“Beauty is a hard worker with confidence who loves herself as much as being kind to others.” —@kolbikollette on Instagram

“Beauty is embracing everything that you are—and exactly who you were made to be—from the inside out.” —Stephanie Hartman

“Beauty is kindness and selflessness towards everyone and everything. Beauty is defying stereotypes and exceeding standards meant to limit you. Beauty is being you by embracing your talents and flaws and turning them into things that allow you to love fully yourself. Beauty is taking all that and using it to empower people to spread the message of self-acceptance in this world!” —Angela DiBella

“Beauty is understanding God’s love and power in the freedom of life to do or become whatever you so desire. Beauty is embracing the strength God gives us to move past our fears and the pain of life, to rise above it all, to become a beautiful butterfly.” —Patricia B. McCray

“I define beauty as a strong woman who knows she is equipped with enough strength for the journey but also knows that the journey is where she will become strong! The road will not always be clear. There will be barriers, speed bumps, stop signs, yield signs, flashing lights and possible red lights. Still, she sticks with it long enough and emerges victorious.” —Yvette M. Holmes, Ph.D.

“Being beautiful is not what you wear or much how makeup you have on. It is how you treat others and make them feel.” —Somkit Thompson

“True beauty is something that cannot be achieved with the right clothes or makeup or haircut—it seeps out from within. What your mind, heart and soul dwell on and how you think about and treat others will shine brighter than any physical beauty.” —Christy Jennings Ploch

“Beauty is you—customized and molded to perfection, equipped with everything you need to travel this earthly journey. You are beautiful.” —Tangela Lofton

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As part of a community of business-minded women, Tallahassee Woman wants to celebrate, recognize and honor the achievements made by women in the workplace and in the community. In doing so, we are connecting women together, empowering one another and celebrating our successes that are making a difference for everyone.

Jami Aisha Coleman, a Tax, Business, Probate, and Estate Planning Attorney at Viera Williams, P.A. During the 91st Annual National Bar Association in St. Louis, Missouri, Jami was inducted as one of the Top 40 Under 40 Advocates in the Nation. The Top 40 Under 40 Advocates exemplify a broad range of high achievement, and Jami received the highest recognition amongst the inductees as the 2016–2017 Nation’s Best Advocate Under 40. Jami is also an Adjunct Professor at Florida A&M University, the President of the Legal Aid Foundation of Tallahassee and serves on the board of directors for many nonprofits in Tallahassee. Marci Beck, DMD, MAGD, recently received the Academy of General Dentistry (AGD) Lifelong Learning & Service Recognition (LLSR). The LLSR is a formal recognition for AGD Masters in the areas of CE, dental-related community service and service to organized dentistry. LLSR recipients set a higher standard that all general dentists are encouraged to emulate. Dr. Beck joins less than 300 members who have received this recognition since 2004. Achieving the LLSR from the AGD tells colleagues and patients of her continued commitment to lifelong learning and quality patient care.

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Cielo Z. Rose, DO, MPH, has joined Preventative Cardiology & Internal Medicine Associates as a physician board-certified in internal medicine. A graduate of Leon High School, Dr. Rose is fluent in Spanish and also holds a master’s of public health and has returned to Tallahassee to raise her family and build a practice focused on general internal medicine, complex patient management, diabetes treatment, preventive cardiology, women’s health and geriatric care. Dr. Rose is currently accepting new patients and looks forward to helping the Tallahassee community stay healthy and out of the hospital.

Kelly Dozier and Mary Pankowski were recently appointed to serve on the Tallahassee Memorial Healthcare Board of Directors. Kelly is co-owner and Senior Vice President of Mad Dog Construction; Owner and Manager of Midtown Urban Properties and Director of the LeMoyne Chain of Parks Art Festival. Mary served as an Assistant State Attorney in Willie Meggs’ office for 11 years, working with juveniles entering the criminal justice system. Upon her retirement in 2013, she opened a small law office devoted to helping children and young adults negotiate the system and rebuild their lives. Mary served as President of the Rotary Club of Tallahassee from 2014 to 2015, during which the club earned the District Club of the Year Award.

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BEAUTY IN THE BOARDROOM Increasing Women in Leadership Roles By Janecia Britt

merica hit a milestone in 2016— the most female Chief Eexecutive Officers (CEOs) ever. According to CNN Money, there are now 27 women at the helm of America’s largest publicly traded companies. It’s a new record for women in business, according to S&P Global Market Intelligence. It’s also 22 percent more than last year, but women still have a long way to go. Females make up half the national workforce, earn more college and graduate degrees than men and by some estimates represent the largest single economic force in the world. But we still need to look at the big picture. It’s not all coming up roses. If females will be the majority in the workforce, we could argue that they should also be the majority among leadership ranks. The reality? According to Catalyst, a research group that tracks executive women, female CEOs in the Fortune 500 represent just 4.8 percent. For underrepresented women, such as minorities or those who are mentally or physically disabled, the numbers are either bleak or non-existent. Women are more than just beauties with brains. But for the few women who are making it up the ladder, many glass cliffs have emerged. The glass cliff describes women in leadership roles being likelier

than men to be put in positions during periods of crisis or downturn when the chance of failure is highest. As a result, rather than breaking stereotypes about women being poor leaders, they may end up reinforcing them. The gender gap in science also persists, particularly in computer science and engineering. It’s not that women aren’t wanted. But many cultural forces continue to stand in the way—ranging from gender bias and sexual harassment in the workplace to the potentially career-stalling effects on women from having children. It may be hard to not sit and wonder what can be done. How can we get more females at the head of the table? It starts with women helping other women. In order to see the numbers of female CEOs rise, investing in young girls is vital. But we can’t sit and wait for that investment to bear fruit—nor can we rely on education alone. We need to boost women’s leadership right now by putting a spotlight on those who are smashing through glass ceilings and dodging cliffs. We have to inspire the next wave of female entrepreneurs to get their ideas off the ground and back them with the

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funding and technology support required to get started. Support and encourage young women you know to attend programs that will prepare them for difficult sectors like film (Reel Grrls), technology (Girls Who Code), science, engineering and math (the Smith Summer Science and Engineering Program) and even politics (Running Start’s Young Women’s Political Leadership Program). It’s also crucial that we support and recognize that women’s colleges continue to champion future STEM leaders via undergraduate programs. They produce graduating women knowledgeable in their field of study as well as in skills associated with a liberal arts education. Furthermore, you can work in your own office to improve the conditions for women and break down the stigma associated with females in upper-level positions. If you are in a position of power, try to help diversify your team and mentor a young woman through a local program like Women for Florida State or Girls 2 Divas Mentoring Program Tallahassee. Women helping, encouraging and uplifting other women to strive for success and break down barriers is beautiful. That’s the kind of beauty we need in the boardroom.

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SHARING THE BEAUTY: Create a Charitable Giving Plan for the New Year By Maria Elena Margarella

et’s reflect on the old money motto “Save, spend, give.” The holidays are usually a time for giving, but more often than not, we don’t really make plans for it. How much of our money can we carve out for charitable causes? How can we share the beauty from our budget and give back? Align Goals With Goods: People invest in what they believe in. Find what organizations speak to causes close to your heart. You are more likely to donate your money—and feel good about your donation!—if you feel a strong connection to the goods and services that an organization provides and represents. Relating the charity element of your finances to your personal and professional goals will motivate you to save more and, thus, give more. The Ratio Rule: Don’t live your life based on ratios. Every person’s financial situation is unique. The thing with ratios is that the harvest may change from season to season. The amount of money reaped from the allotted portions—you may be familiar with 70:20:10 or 80:15:5—is likely to vary each month. Keep your finger on the pulse of your bank account and adjust when necessary. Some months, you may be able to give more. Pay attention to those months and have a destination for your money in mind. Fun Philanthropy: Make donating a celebration. Marry goodwill and good times by looking into local charity events where you can partake in fun that gives back. Sometimes just showing up makes all the difference. To give back in cash, try saving up extra change in a jar you decorate yourself. Thinking bigger? Hold a fundraiser with friends who support the same cause— it’s funding with good old-fashioned fun!

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The Small Things That Count: Can’t find a charity you connect to? There are so many other ways to make a difference. Whether it’s setting aside money for tithes at your church or handing out some loose dollars to the homeless, you possess the power to make change—no money pun intended. We often hear stories of people paying for other customers’ meals at restaurants or coffee shops or giving extra tips to their servers. Those stories make us feel good because they remind us of humanity’s kindness and generosity. Don’t be discouraged by any big hubbub— individual deeds are just as important. Invest in What You Believe In: Donations aren’t the only route for your money in these giving times. Investing is also a highway for helping. The stock market is full of businesses and nonprofit organizations that are actively working toward humanitarian and/or philanthropic goals. The same goes for the local level. Search and then do your research. On any scale, investing offers you the opportunity to be a part of a greater network while contributing to a cause you believe in. Make a Charitable Budget: Keeping all of the above tips in mind, create a charitable, month-by-month budget of what amount you will be giving and to which organization. Remember to leave room for unexpected asks and to also take note of which charitable organizations qualify for a tax deduction.

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OUR COMMUNITY A look at the events, organizations, businesses and people that make Tallahassee a great place to live—and love.

STAC: Providing Victories for Victims of Human Trafficking By Janecia Britt

January is National Human Trafficking Prevention Month. During this month, the goal is to recognize that human trafficking is a reality and that everyone has a role in ending it. This means collectively working to assist victims of trafficking, and resolving to build a future in which its perpetrators are brought to justice and no one is denied his or her inherent human rights of freedom and dignity. Here in Tallahassee, the Survive and Thrive Advocacy Center (STAC) aims to do that very same thing every single day. Human trafficking is the equivalent of modern-day slavery and involves the use of force, fraud, or coercion to for labor, services or commercial sex. According to the Department of Homeland Security, every year, millions of men, women and children are trafficked in countries around the world, including in our own Big Bend area. It is estimated that human trafficking generates billions of dollars of profit per year, second only to drug trafficking as the most profitable form of transnational crime. Human trafficking is a hidden crime as victims rarely come forward to seek help because of language barriers, fear of the traffickers or fear of law enforcement.

organization, formed in the spring of 2015, STAC works with existing agencies and organizations as a single point of contact for those who are helping victims, and collaborates to provide needed services to victims such as shelter, health care, legal services, and counseling. “Victims of human trafficking vary greatly in terms of their situations and their needs. A trafficking victim can be an immigrant man working in the fields of Quincy, or a runaway girl in

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Tallahassee,” according to STAC’s executive director, Robin Hassler Thompson. “STAC exists because there is a great need in our area to have a single point of contact on this issue. Our guiding principle is collaboration and capacity building so no matter if that survivor shows up in a local emergency room or homeless shelter, they will be identified and helped. STAC is a primary provider of case management services, and to be an assistant to any agency, professional, or individual who is working with that survivor.”

STAC is organized to provide case management assistance to victims over both the long and short terms in collaboration with others such as The Big Bend Coalition Against Human Trafficking and The FSU Center for the Advancement of Human Rights. STAC’s goal is to help each victim to not only survive the tragic events of the past but also to rebuild their lives and to thrive. STAC will host several events in January 2017. There will be an arts event and reception on January 27, at the LeMoyne Center for Visual Arts, where artwork from all over the community that depicts human trafficking and survivors’ journeys will be on display. This event will take place from 5:30 p.m. – 7:30 p.m. This event is part of a month-long community awareness campaign during the month of January, in partnership with the Big Bend Coalition Against Human Trafficking. Other events during the month include a 5K run, educational programs for the legal and health care communities, forums for the Spanish speaking community and a call to the faith community on January 14, from 9:00 a.m.–11:30 a.m. at the First Baptist Church. For more information on STAC and the January Human Trafficking Awareness Month activities, visit the website surviveandthriveadvocacy.org or contact Robin Hassler Thompson at (850) 597-2080 or by e-mail at Robin@surviveandthriveadvocacy.org.

STAC received a grant from Club 25 to produce a local directory of anti-trafficking contacts and services in the Big Bend area. Pictured from left to right: Darby Kerrigan Scott (STAC Board member); Pam Ridley (Club 25); Erika McKibben (Club 25); Pamela Marsh (STAC Board President and Club 25); Tena Pate (Club 25); Sabrina Rodriguez de Conte (STAC Board Treasurer); Robin Hassler Thompson (STAC Executive Director and Club 25); and Marsha Doll (Club 25).

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WOMEN WE ADMIRE

PAULA DEBOLES JOHNSON LEAVING A

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“The most beautiful thing in the world to me is a woman who is secure in who she is, unapologetic, and has an opinion and is not afraid to share it.” —Paula DeBoles Johnson

omen who choose to be leaders exhibit two qualities that set them apart to forge positive change in the community—boldness and an unapologetic approach. For as long as she can remember, Paula DeBoles Johnson refused to sit on the sidelines in any area of her life. She was raised by a single mother whose tireless work ethic instilled the tenacity and motivation that Paula continues to carry with her. A graduate from Florida A&M University, Paula received both her undergraduate degree in political science and master’s degree in public administration. After foregoing law school to raise her two daughters (Zemoria and Zenani), Paula and her husband David decided to make Tallahassee their permanent home. The tight-knit family of four was reduced to three when Paula’s husband, an officer in the National Guard, was deployed to Iraq for a year and a half. “It was a challenge for our family. It felt like everything had been put on hold. We kept the Christmas tree up for months afterwards. It was painful, but I wanted to keep as much normalcy for our daughters as possible.” Emotion reverberated through her words. A woman of faith, Paula trusted that God would keep her family in one piece. After a year and a half apart, David returned safely. Although this season of her life was not without pain and heartache, it led Paula out of her position in

government and into an activist role, empowering youth in the nonprofit sector. Her entrepreneurial spirit inevitably led her to found Capital City Youth Development Corporation, working out of her own home to establish an early intervention and education program for girls who were struggling in school or at home. Next, Paula spent time as a consultant for the Florida Department of Transportation and then accepted her current position at Volunteer Florida, managing a portfolio of national service programs, including school boards, faith-based organizations, nonprofits and government organizations. In 2015, through her work with Volunteer Florida, Paula created the LeaderCorps Initiative to “raise awareness of the impact of national service, as well as advocate for volunteerism and civic engagement.” When she isn’t working for Volunteer Florida, Paula volunteers her time with a host of organizations, including the Timothy Training and Development Center, Tallahassee Human Relations Council and the Airport Advisory Committee and serves as board chair for the Tallahassee/Leon County Commission of Status on Women and Girls (CSWG). The Commission is where the root of Paula’s passion lies: empowering the next female generation to be both seen and heard. According to Dove’s Campaign for Real Beauty,

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7 in 10 girls believe that they are not good enough or don’t measure up in some way, including in their looks, performance in school and relationships with friends and family members. While this statistic and others are unnerving, it raises the question: Where are our girls getting these messages? Paula attributes this self-defeating thinking to media’s portrayal of women and an unattainable standard of beauty. From a young age, girls are bombarded with the notion that self-worth, success and happiness are all dependent on physical appearance. Not only does she have zero tolerance for this objectification, Paula challenges these standards by asking, “What would our world look like if females came out of the womb believing we were incredible? There’s something to be said about a woman creating life. We push forward genius and talent. To objectify and minimize who we are—it hurts.” This year, Paula was named board chair for the Commission on the Status of Women and Girls. Established by the Leon County Board of Commissioners and the city of Tallahassee, the committee serves as a platform to advocate for women and girls to achieve “economic, education and employment parity.” Paula, CSWG Commissioners and faithful volunteers under the direction of the past chair, Sha’Ron James, rallied together to plan and host the Year of the Girl Summit. The summit hosted over 125 girls from seventh through twelfth grade, with breakout sessions focusing on embracing authenticity, promoting healthy relationships, antibullying and more. For Paula, her success as a leader has stemmed from her embedded, inherent belief that beauty is a product of character. She encourages both herself and her daughters by focusing on strength, intellect, and capability—characteristics that are continually undervalued in our culture. By doing so, Paula forges a path for women and girls to follow fearlessly.

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haute HAPPENINGS The Nutcracker

December 10-11, 2016 Ruby Diamond Auditorium Tallahassee Ballet Company proudly presents the holiday season’s most treasured and advanced performance. This elaborate production will thoroughly entertain guests of all ages with the variety of characters, ranging from the handsome prince to the dancing snowflakes. Live music will be performed by the Tallahassee Ballet Orchestra. Visit tallahasseeballet.org for more details.

Irving Berlin's White Christmas

2016 Winter Festival—A Celebration of Lights, Music December 1–18, 2016 | Theatre Tallahassee and the Arts Based on the beloved film, this holiday musical tells the story of two veterans who have a successful song-and-dance act after World War II. Irving Berlin’s music will be featured, including Snow!, Blue Skies, and White Christmas. For show times and tickets, visit theatretallahassee.org.

Annual Camellia Christmas December 2, 2016 Alfred B. Maclay Gardens State Park

Come to Maclay Gardens State Park to experience a candlelit walk among fully bloomed camellias and enjoy live holiday music by local artists. The Maclay House will be open to the public and displaying beautiful, fresh arrangements. There will be hot cider, cookies and biddings on festive wreaths and decorations donated to benefit the state park. The event will last from 6 p.m. to 9 p.m. For additional information, go to floridastateparks.org/ maclaygardens.

December 3, 2016 | Downtown Tallahassee Celebrating 30 years of holiday memories, the 2016 Winter Festival will have much to offer and something for everyone to enjoy. Get ready to have lots of fun and make memories. Activities planned include the traditional Jingle Bell Run, the lighting ceremony, children’s activities, music, arts and crafts, entertainment, a nightime holiday parade and more which will keep the family entertained and instill the excitement of the season. For details and festival updates visit online at talgov.com.

Alternative Christmas Market

December 3–4, 2016 John Wesley United Methodist Church Put more meaning into your family’s celebration of the season by giving to the less fortunate. Over 30 nonprofit ministries will provide donation opportunities, and a third-world fairtrade craft shop will have a variety of handmade gifts for sale. This beneficial event lasts from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. on both days. For informatio, visit alternativechristmasmarketjwc.com.

Holiday Harmony With the Capital Chordsmen

Market Days

December 8 and 13, 2016 Tallahassee Senior Center

Two full days of shopping ensue when over 300 juried artists and craftsmen take over the North Florida Faigrounds. Proceeds benefit the Tallahassee Museum. For more information visit marketdays.org.

Join Tallahassee’s award-winning barbershop chorus and its director, Greg Hilliard, Jr., for the ninth annual Holiday Harmony. The Chordsmen narrate the Christmas story and perform full-chorus and sacred songs. This event will be held from 7 p.m. to 8 p.m. For more information, go to capitcalchordsmen.org.

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December 8â&#x20AC;&#x201C;9, 2016 Downtown Thomasville, Georgia Historic Downtown Thomasville invites you to come and make a memory with friends and family this Christmas season by taking an unforgettable journey back in time to the late nineteenth century. Enjoy horse-drawn carriages, strolling carolers, holiday shopping, dancers, musicians, museums, food and the presence of St. Nicholas. This event will be held from 6 p.m. to 9 p.m.

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Alternative Christmas Market December 11–12, 2016 Christ Presbyterian Church

This unique market, will be filled with opportunities to honor those who have enough by giving to those who are less fortunate. With each gift receipt, a card will be provided detailing how your donation has helped someone in need. The market will be open from 6 p.m. to 9 p.m. on Friday and 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. on Saturday. For details, go to cpcacm.org.

The Currys and the Krickets Christmas December 16, 2016 The Junction at Monroe

Join these two entertaining music groups for a night of early Christmas celebration and cheer. Selective free drinks will be served. The concert begins at 8 p.m. To order tickets and learn more, visit junctionatmonroe.com.

Tallahassee Symphony Orchestra December 17–18, 2016 Ruby Diamond Concert Hall

Celebrate the holidays with the Tallahassee Symphony Orchestra by attending the Holiday Magic concert at 8 p.m. on Saturday and 2:30 p.m. on Sunday. This unique production combines sentimental favorites with timeless classics, creating an inspiring evening of music. To purchase tickets, visit tallahasseesymphony.org.

Winter Solstice Celebration December 17-18, 2016 Mission San Luis

Join Southeastern Indian Culture and Heritage for two days of Native American culture, crafts, astronomy, living history and more. There will be presentations by historical scholars, the Tallahassee Astronomical Society and Theater with Mission. This event will be held from 10 a.m. to 8 p.m. on Saturday and 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Sunday. For additional information, visit info@missionsanluis.org.

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Tallahassee Downtown New Year's Eve

The Annual Art Faculty Exhibition

There’s no better place to be for New Year’s Eve in Tallahassee than Downtown Adams Street! Experience music, food, dancing and fireworks while celebrating the arrival of a new year with family and friends. Local bands, food vendors, outdoor bars and activities for kids will also be included. Festivities will begin at 7 p.m. Visit tallahasseedowntown.com for additional details.

The opening reception for this intriguing art exhibition will take place on January 8 from 6 p.m. until 8 p.m. The museum is open Monday through Friday from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m., as well as Saturdays and Sundays from 1 p.m. to 4 p.m. Admission is free and open to the public. For additional information, call (850) 644-6836 or go to mofa.fsu.edu.

Swamp Forest Trail Marathon and Half Marathon

Martin Luther King, Jr. Convocation/ Day of Service

Join the Gulf Winds Track Club for the 4th annual Swamp Forest Trail Marathon, Half Marathon, and 6.5 Mile Run. The race covers beautiful rolling terrain along various trails in Elinor Klapp-Phipps Park. Proceeds from the event benefit the Tallahassee Friends of Our Parks Foundation, Inc. For registration details, visit eventbrite.com or call (850) 4436795.

FAMU will be honoring the life of Martin Luther King, Jr., on this day of service. The service will last from 10:10 a.m. to 12:10 p.m with free admission. The National Day of Service will be held on January 15, 2017, to celebrate the Martin Luther King, Jr., national holiday. The FAMU community invites you to join them in serving local communities by participating in service projects and volunteer activities. Visit famunews.com for more information.

December 31, 2016 Adams Street

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Celebrating 100 Years Contributed byFamily Patricia Cheavers of Life and By Maria Elena Margarella

omen often worry about growing older. As the years stretch behind us, we reflect on what we’ve accomplished, what we still want to accomplish and how we can accomplish everything with our backs pressed against time and the burdens of aging. Well, ladies, meet Helen Long. She’s 100 years old and has lived a life meant to be celebrated. And she’s not slowing down anytime soon. Born in 1916 in New York City, Helen has an independent spirit that proudly embraces a love for family and worldly experience. She’s traveled to every state except Hawaii (It’s still a goal!) She’s been to Canada and the Greek Islands. She’s touched the West Wall in Jerusalem, stayed in a German castle, rode a camel in the Sinai Mountains and so much more. Helen has clearly made living a priority. “I liked everything,” she says. “I’ve led a very full, very eventful, very glorious life.” Helen eventually left the Big Apple for the Sunshine State in 1955. Today, she shares her life’s stories with two daughters, four grandchildren, and ten great-grandchildren. Since last December, she alternates living with daughters Martie Hunter in Atlanta and Mary Warren-Scoggins in Thomasville. However, Tallahassee is special because it’s home to three grandchildren and eight great-grandchildren. A group text keeps the family in touch, so new family memories never run short. Helen deems family time a privilege and luck irrelevant—everything and everyone is a blessing. “I have so much to be thankful for,” she says. “I thank the Lord. I’ve been through so many highs and lows…He has sustained me, He has blessed me, He has taken care of me.” In keeping with her modest manner, she claims her favorite invention over the last 100 years is the microwave. When her husband died in 1982, she lived alone for a long time.

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Thus, the microwave was a symbol of autonomy—she could cook whatever she wanted. She drank almond milk before it was cool, thinks vitamins are important to health and loves organic fruits and vegetables. Beauty, in her opinion, is not about looking young; it is about a woman’s “inner glow.” To Helen, growing older is simply a passage of time. It’s nothing to fear. “If you can think, it’s wonderful,” she says, “although, I would love to hear better.” With a twinkle in her eye, she laughs and says, “But at least I have my own teeth!” Her humility and sharp sense of humor have arguably kept her mind and spirit feeling young and limitless. And she does not intend to limit herself now. Her 100-year-old legs still strut the streets—do not even think about sitting her in a wheelchair. “I don’t want to look like an old lady,” Helen declares with a smile. “As long as I have two working feet, I can walk.” Indeed, she has walked through an entire century. Living through the Great Depression, World War II and the Cold War and then voting in the 2016 presidential election is a tale not many can tell. And Helen tells it with a deep sense of appreciation. To ask her the secret to reaching triple digits is to receive a rather humble answer: “Must be the Lord,” she says. “I had nothing to do with it.”

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ADVANCES IN IMAGING MEANS EARLIER DIAGNOSIS AND IMPROVED SURVIVAL RATES FROM BREAST CANCER

e are diligent about our monthly breast self-exams, and everything seems normal to us. But even so, our anxiety levels spike on our way to have our annual mammogram done. Often, our worry doesn’t lessen until we hear that everything checks out OK. “We are pleased that the Women’s Imaging Center of Radiology Associates is able to offer the full range of services from the initial interpretation of the mammogram to the diagnosis via stereotactic, ultrasonographic or MRguided biopsy. Our goal is to guide our patients through this difficult process and to provide them with an understanding of the next step in their care,“ says Mary E Swain, M.D., FACR, one of three female radiologists at Radiology Associates in Women’s

Imaging who specializes in women’s breast care. “Our mammographers not only are specialty-trained in breast and women’s imaging and have been involved in medical research but also have years of experience in diagnosing breast cancer and providing compassionate care to the women of our community,” said Barbara Jaeger, M.D., a mammographytrained radiologist in women’s imaging at Radiology Associates. An advanced technology offered is 3D breast tomosynthesis, which allows doctors to see details in the breast that were not visible in the past. Studies show that tomosynthesis increases the breats cancer detection rate while reducing callbacks for additional reviews. It’s important to understand the difference between screening and diagnostic mammography as well as when women should start having screening mammograms. “Screening means you have no symptoms or signs of an issue. Regular mammography screenings can detect a majority of breast cancers before they can be felt and when they are at a smaller size, earlier stage, and are

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more likely to be curable,” said Maribel Lockwood, M.D., head of Women’s Imaging at Radiology Associates and a fellowship-trained radiologist specializing in women’s imaging. “Women at normal risk should start annual mammography screening at 40. Approximately 75 percent of women diagnosed with breast cancer have no family history of breast cancer or other factors that put them at high risk for developing the disease. Screening only high-risk women will miss the majority of cancers. It is recognized by the American Cancer Society (ACS) that the incidence of breast cancer begins to “noticeably increase around the age of 40 years.” More so, ACS recognizes that mammography reduces breast cancer deaths as much as 48 percent. Screening should be done every year starting at 40. Skipping a mammogram every other year would miss up to 30 percent of cancers.” If someone has detected a lump, then she will have a diagnostic mammogram and ultrasound to determine what the lump is. “Women at high risk should also undergo risk evaluation (a specific set of questions analyzed by software to determine a woman’s five-year and lifetime risk of breast cancer). Based on those results, they may be recommended for a breast MRI,” said Barbara Jaeger, M.D., with Radiology Associates. All three physicians stress the importance of knowing. Dr. Jaeger says, “So many times, I have heard someone tell me they ‘just don’t want to know.’ The fact is that only a very small percentage of women who undergo mammography have breast cancer. It would be such a relief to those ladies to know their studies are negative. I am happy to say that through advances in breast imaging and in breast cancer treatments, localized breast cancer survival rates have now risen to 99 percent.” “I strongly encourage women to obtain the life-saving benefits from mammography by continuing with an annual screening schedule starting at age 40. Remember, mammography saves lives, and one of them could be yours!” emphasized Dr. Lockwood. Women’s Imaging Center of Radiology Associates 1600 Phillips Road, Tallahassee (850) 878-4127 | radassociates.com

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AROUNDTOWN Events • Benefits • Activities

United Way’s Dress Down and Dine

Dress Down and Dine is a women’s only leadership event hosted by the Women’s Leadership Council of the United Way of the Big Bend. It’s a chance to have a girl’s night out and support a great cause. Proceeds from the event are used to support an early literacy initiative called READ UNITED. In 2010, READ UNITED was created to encourage a love for reading and provide each first grade student in our eight-county area a new free book. Last year, 200 volunteers distributed over 4,500 books, and since 2010, over 27,000 new books have been out into the hands of first-grade students.

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1. Sarah Deeb, Lauren Murphy, First Lady Ann Scott, Jeri Madden, Pam Bauer 2. Diana Cureton, Debbie Dantin 3. Julie Montanaro, Berneice Cox, Rene Hanselman 4. Allison Harrell, Stephanie Derzypolski, Nancy Friedman 5. Katrina Rolle, First Lady Ann Scott 6. Betsey Shenkman, Betha Desloge, Martha Barnett, Sam Boge, Kathy Bye 7. Debie Leonard, Sam Boge 8. Pam Oertel, Carole Khawand, Mai Beaumont, Christine Boulos

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a life-changing smile “I had one peg tooth and one tooth that was missing. When I was in middle school, I would smile with my mouth closed. I was very self conscious before coming to Dr. Oppenheim. He really did change my life. It’s a great feeling to be able to smile with confidence!” Why did Stevie Lynn choose Dr. Oppenheim to give her a beautiful, natural smile? Was it Dr. Oppenheim’s ten gold medals in international cosmetic dentistry competitions, or that he is one of only 63 dentists worldwide to have achieved the elite status of Accredited Fellow in the AACD, or that his patients have appeared on the cover of The Journal of Cosmetic Dentistry eight times? - Stevie Lynn says, “Yes, it was!”

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Women Who Mean Business (WWMB) Community Luncheon

Tallahassee businesswomen attended the Women Who Mean Business Community Luncheon hosted by Tallahassee Woman magazine at the Woman’s Club of Tallahassee. The event featured networking, vendors, lunch catered by Chicken Salad Chick and an engaging presentation by Dr. Michelle Mitcham, professor, author, psychotherapist, and founder of Courageous Conversations, LLC, on the topic of effective strategies for crisis management.

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7. Abbey Bender, Shannon Kirkland 8. Pam Bauer, Tarsha Davis 9. Hannah Brock, Alissa Ovalle, Kelby Mahoney, Nicole Sabol, Alexia Gonzalez 10. Mary Heinz, Mary Stafford, Leslie Baker 11. Debra Harris, Samantha Hobbs 12. Julia Holly, Jennifer Fellers

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