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Contents 24 Healthy Living

March is Multiple Sclerosis Awareness Month

26 Style and Grace

Make Your Reception a Love Story

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8 Our Thoughts

Finding your Passion is Only the Beginning

9 Women Who Mean

40 Real Life

Feed Your Passion—A Flight of Appetizers

54 Community

Sports and the Outdoors are for Everybody | Elder Care Services Improving the Quality of Life for Seniors

60 Women We Admire

How to Write a Love Letter

Katherine Cox—A Passionate Heart

42 Home & Garden

Business Award Nominations

Keep Harmony in the Home During Your Next Project | Create a Unique Planter for Spring Flowers

10 Girl Talk

46 Business & Career

The Secret to Finding Your Passion | Bringing Hollywood Home | The Health Benefits of Passion Fruit | Ten Ways Men and Women Communicate Differently | Trending Now: Palazzo Pants and the FSU AcaBelles

50 The Dish

The Transformational Power of Volunteering

62 Funny Girl

Staying on the Funny Side... of Kitchen Gadgets

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48 Money Talks The Sandwich Generation

18 Faves & Raves Lucky in Love

36 Special Feature for Women’s History Month Meet Jerrie Mock—A woman who flew into history. She was the first female pilot to successfully fly solo around the world and she lives right here in our community.

On the Cover

Page 32 WOMeN TAKE FLIGHT Lacey Smith and Faith Drewry, owners

of FL Aviation Center, speak of how a love for flying is beneficial to all aspects of life including womanhood, personal fulfillment and growth.

About the Cover: Pilots Lacey Smith and Faith Drewry | Photography by Adam Cohen Styling by Nancy Cohen | Makeup by Morgan Williams of Randi Buchanan Makeup is Art

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OURTHOUGHTS

outloud Finding your Passion is Only the Beginning “There is no passion to be found in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” —Nelson Mandela

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’m a Trekkie and a Tolkienite and basically a fan of anything involved with suspending disbelief of a teleportation machine, alien beings, or magical powers for the sheer joy of living out a fictional, fantasy adventure. This all started while I was growing up and watching reruns of the 1960s Star Trek episodes when TV remote controls weren’t around yet.

I remember sitting right by the TV so I could turn the giant channel knob during commercials. The irony of having to manually turn that knob while watching stories about advanced technology was lost on me. If I wasn’t exploring strange new worlds with Captain Kirk, I was reading and then I was writing, which turned into a passion that has led me on an adventure I could have never written myself.

When was the last time you pushed through fear to fight for something worth fighting for? What exhilarates you and makes you truly feel alive? Finding and pursuing your passion is only the beginning of a lifelong adventure. Our cover women, Faith Drewry and Lacey Smith, are local pilots who know what it’s like to beat back fear and take on challenges for the thrill of their passion for flight. With February being a month symbolic of passion and love, and March being Women’s History Month and Women in Aviation History Month, Faith and Lacey embody the pursuit of passion while making history at the same time. Jerrie Mock, the first woman to successfully fly around the world, lives in Quincy, Florida. Her legacy lives on in Faith, Lacey, and other women who boldly go where no woman has gone before.

These days, my adventures predominately consist of traveling with my husband and our two children, who fight in the car most of the way to braving the wilds of a theme park. Or, it’s the adventure of waking up late for work and school and at a superhuman, almost magical speed I can get all of us out the door feeling pretty good about myself, but while in the car I realize that I’m still wearing my house slippers.

Typically, I love the mornings (it may have a lot to do with the amount of coffee I consume), but for as long as I can remember, the expectant promise of the day is like the feeling of getting ready to embark on an adventure, the same feeling I get at the beginning of what I know will be a really great book. The mourning of life lost has taught me that I may only have this one opportunity to leave my own message to the dawn. As the latest Switchfoot song says, “Love alone is worth the fight,” and living a passion-filled life is the adventure we long for and is worth fighting for.

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Until the next flight,

Heather Thomas

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The Secret to Finding Your Passion Living a passion-filled life starts with figuring out what you are passionate about. At your very core do you know what you long for and what you live for? Finding your passion starts by responding to this question and a series of others, and letting your heart speak. So, grab a pen and paper, and write down your first thoughts to the questions below.

Remember, there are no right or wrong answers. Answering truthfully will reveal your heart’s true passion.

1. When you love someone, your whole heart is full of joy.

Who and what brings you to that place of joy and of freedom?

2. When are you feeling a surge of creativity or peace, that time flies by and you wish the day would never end?

3. If you could have any job and money wasn’t a factor, what would it be?

4. If you were given a chance to start over, what would you be doing with your life?

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5. What would you do today if it were your last?

Those who have discovered the secret know that it’s not about using your mind, but about following your heart every day as if it were the last. To know that every waking moment is

an opportunity to love, learn, create, inspire, help and to forgive. Forgive yourself for not living passionately, since it is never too late to start. Grab hold of what brings you joy and never let it go. Ignore your mental naysayer and know that you were not given a spirit of fear, but one of power and love. Physically pursuing your passion will free your captive potential and take you on a journey of a life lived to —Heather Thomas the fullest.

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Bringing Hollywood Home Host an Unforgettable Oscar Bash

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ollywood holds its most glamorous event on March 2, 2014—The Oscars. Whether you’re enthralled by the films of the past year or enjoy being the fashion police for the red carpet, there is something for everyone. This year marks the 86th year of awarding talented men and women of the movie industry.

Living more than 2,000 miles away from the epicenter of cinema, we can still captivate the mood of an Academy Award event. Follow these quick tips to help you host the awardwinning party of the year.

Décor. Similar to the red carpet style, decorations can be nothing short of sparkles and glitter. Turn off the main lights and add candle lighting for a 5-star ambience.

Eat & Drink. Champagne and hors d’oeuvres are a must. Miniature desserts and bite-size

appetizers lead for a filling snack. Place popcorn on a fancy dish for a classy impression as well as an easy reach.

Play the Part. Many websites offer printable Oscar Bingo cards, Oscar ballots, and

red carpet dress and style rankings. You can be a part of the action right in front of the television screen in your own living room. Check out the website Oscars.org for game print outs, recipes, fun ideas and more.

Look the Part. To feel elegant, you have to look elegant. Save the pajamas for another lazy Sunday night and pull that New Year’s Eve dress back out of the closet.

Act the part. Roll out your own red carpet using red fabric in your foyer hallway for guests

to walk on as they enter. Hang a backdrop and take pictures of them as soon as they walk in the door. This is a fun memento that your friends can either take with them as a souvenir or — Kayla Sim to look back on.

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ith a beautiful name like passion fruit, what makes it even more appealing is that this naturally edible fruit is full of nutrients. While passion fruit is primarily used for juicing, many nutritional benefits have been found from eating the pulp and seeds as well. Here are five health benefits of eating passion fruit.

1. Fiber and Protein. Most people prefer the juice of the passion fruit but eating those crunchy seeds increases the nutritional benefits significantly.

One cup of passion fruit with seeds and pulp contains up to 24.5 g of fiber and more than 5 g of protein making it a great source for your daily intake.

2. Carotenoids. Passion fruit contains at least 13 carotenoids that help the body produce Vitamin A. Eating one cup of passion fruit provides 25 percent of the daily value of Vitamin A which contributes to good vision, healthy skin, and healthy cell growth and reproduction.

making it a great source of iron, especially for vegetarians. The Vitamin C found in passion fruit also helps to absorb additional iron in the body.

3. Antioxidants. When eaten fresh, passion fruit contains a full day’s worth of Vitamin C, an antioxidant that aids in preventing aging and helps to build a stronger immune system.

5. High Nutrient Content. Several important nutrients are found in passion fruit including copper, magnesium, and phosphorus. The fruit is also a great source of potassium which regulates heart rate and blood pressure.

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4. Iron. Passion fruit is rich in a plant-based iron called nonheme,

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Ways Men and Women

Communicate Differently

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e’ve all felt that communication divide between men and women. Typically, men are more to the point while women desire more conversation—it can be frustrating for both sides. A recent Discovery.com article discusses how men and women communicate differently, concluding that these differences start at childhood. Here are ten differences in the ways men and women communicate.

1.

Talk vs. action. Women are discussion-oriented while men are action-oriented.

2. Nonverbal Communication.

Women use body language and gestures to keep men engaged and men are more reserved with facial expressions and contact.

3. Orientation. Women orient

themselves to face each other and keep eye contact while men sit at angles to each other and survey the room rather than keeping eye contact.

4. Arguments. During arguments women ask questions to present their conflicts and men usually reply with direct answers and may not even realize that an argument is occurring.

5. Apologizing. When resolving

arguments women offer up apologies to sustain connections but men worry about what position it will put them in if they apologize.

6. Complimenting. Women use

compliments as a source of inclusion while men offer up observations and fear being critiqued by compliments.

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Problem Solving. During problem solving women desire extensive conversations while men focus on facts to quickly resolve the issue.

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8. Getting Your Way. When

trying to get their way, women ask questions to lead to an agreement but men tend to stick to short statements to get their way quickly.

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Interrupting. When women interrupt a conversation it is usually to express their concern while men will interrupt to change the subject.

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Chatting. No differences have been found in the amount of words spoken by men and women; however, women use communication to build relationships and men only feel the need to talk for a purpose.

Understanding how your spouse communicates may help to work out those differences and create a more respectful, fulfilling relationship where both of you feel like you are being heard and understood.

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Palazzo Pants We should have known that Palazzos, the wide-legged trouser, would make a comeback. Wildly popular in the late 1960s and early 1970s, the Palazzo pant was a staple in women’s wardrobe at that time, much like the widely known bell-bottoms Last spring, the gaucho pants, a shorter version of the wide-legged trouser, was on the fashion scene. Once again, the wider the better is the latest slogan for this spring.

pants. But, with all the leg breathing room they are just as comfortable to do so.

The statement piece is seen differently this year with an elegant yet edgy twist. Versatility is a key component when it comes to these slacks. Not only do they flatter just about everyone, especially shorter girls, but designers have used an array of fabrics. From satin to wool these pants are no longer just your lounging

Say goodbye to the long skirts we have collected over the past couple of years because these fancy pants are a substitute.

When in a particular posture, these pants play tricks with your mind as if you were wearing a loose skirt. The silhouette will leave you with a refreshed fashion perspective this spring.

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Palazzos have power written all over them.

Modernized for the working woman, this trend has been spotted all over the runway as well as bringing color to the streets. The flared bottoms take on a life of their own, so keep the rest of the ensemble simple. Wear with heels to add even more height and a close-fitting blouse for dramatic impression.

With the help of movies like the 2012 blockbuster hit Pitch Perfect and YouTube videos of a capella renditions of pop songs sung by a cappella groups from around the country, the a capella craze has spread throughout the nation. In recent months the Florida State University AcaBelles have received much deserved praise for their rendition of Lorde’s Royals. The video, which was produced by an a cappella production company called The Vocal Company, received one million views in less than 24 hours. Since then the video has received over 7 million views.

The FSU AcaBelles was established in 2000 and has since competed at competitions such as SoJam and the International Championship of Collegiate A Cappella. They released their own album in 2012 called Seamless. Unlike other a capella videos on the web, the AcaBelles’ video of Royals does not feature any choreography or video effects.

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and Seventeen magazine. They even received praise from Lorde, the artist herself, who said via Twitter “oh sweet lockage, beautiful ladies of Florida State!

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THANK YOU!” in regards to the viral video.

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The group, consisting of members anywhere between new college freshmen to veteran seniors, has set an excellent example of what it means to be a professional, determined, and hardworking group of women who can accomplish great feats. To find out what else the AcaBelles are working on find them on Facebook. You can also support these talented ladies — Keasi Smith by checking out their Kickstarter page.

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HAPPENINGS Red Hills Horse Trials March 6-9, 2014 Elinor Klapp-Phipps Park

Named for the sloping terrain and rich red earth known as the “red hills” of North Florida and South Georgia, the Horse Trials feature exciting events which include dressage, cross-country, and show jumping.

This is a popular event that brings in competitors and spectators from all over. For more information, call (850) 580-4020 or visit rhht.org online.

Baby and Family Fair 2014 February 1, 2014 Turnbull Conference Center

Come out to this event hosted from 9:30 a.m. to 1 p.m. to learn about the resources, products and services for families making decisions about pregnancy, childbirth and raising a family. Children of all ages are also invited to the Tallahassee Memorial HealthCare’s (TMH) Children’s Center Superhero Soiree hosted by TMH Super Kids, with games, entertainment and activities. For more information, visit online at tmh.org/fair.

40th Annual Tallahassee Marathon February 2, 2014 Gulf Winds Track Club

The 40th Annual Tallahassee Marathon and Half Marathon will start at 7:30 a.m. on the campus of Florida State University on Chieftan Way in front of the FSU Circus. Courses utilize the St. Marks Trail and are paved and essentially flat.

For registration, prize information and other details, visit online at tallahasseemarathon.com or e-mail tallahasseemarathon@gmail.com.

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First Friday at Railroad Square

Dance With Soul: The Marvin Gaye Tribute

February 7, 2014 and March 7, 2014 Railroad Square Art Park

February 15, 2014 Leon County Civic Center

The First Friday evenings of every month are fun at Railroad Square. Join your friends and be part of one of Tallahassee’s favorite community gatherings at Railroad Square Art Park. Free outdoor concerts on three stages in the sculpture gardens. Food booths offer regional and international options. First Friday happens from 6 p.m. to 9 p.m. each month. Come early for limited parking within the Square. For more details on the event visit online at railroadsquare.us.

Join Journey to Dance in celebrating Marvin Gaye’s life this Valentine’s Day weekend. Dance With Soul will feature collaborations in dance, music and spokenword. The event starts at 8 p.m., and tickets are sold on the Journey to Dance website as well as at the door. For more information, call Denise McInnis at (850) 545-9835 or visit online at journeytodance.com.

Monty Python's Spamalot February 14 – March 2, 2014 Florida State University School of Theatre

Come out and support the FSU School of Theatre with this musical comedy “lovingly ripped off from” the movie Monty Python and the Holy Grail and the Broadway production of the show that is sure to be an entertaining performance.

Recommended audience age is 13+. For show times and tickets visit theatre.fsu.edu.

ArtiGras at Railroad Square February 22, 2014 Railroad Square Art Park

ArtiGras boasts thousands of attendees, local and diverse artists, a variety of vendors, live entertainment, great food and a celebration of arts and community.

It will take place beginning at 4 p.m. to 8 p.m. at Railroad Square Art Park. For more details on the event visit online at communityatrailroadsquare.org.

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2014 Whale of a Sale

February 28 and March 1, 2014 Tallahassee Mall This year marks the 40th Anniversary of the Junior League of Tallahassee’s signature fundraising event and the community’s largest and most popular garage sale showcasing gently-used, high-quality items at bargain prices. All proceeds from the event go directly back into the League’s community projects. The family-friendly Big Food Truck Bash will be on Friday, February 28 and will feature at least ten local food trucks and activities for the kids. To purchase tickets and for more information visit online at jltallahassee.org.

Downtown MarketPlace Saturdays in March Downtown Tallahassee

Located at Monroe Street at Park Avenue the Downtown MarketPlace features fresh homegrown produce, fresh cut flowers

and native plants. Musicians, authors and regional artists exhibit their arts and crafts. Special activities for children.

The event runs from 9 a.m. until 2 p.m.

Call (850) 224-3252 or visit online at tallahasseedowntown.com.

Child Evangelism Fellowship Market

March 8, 2014 Thomasville Road Baptist Church Bring the family and shop local crafts and food offerings from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. (rain or shine) to help raise support for Child Evangelism Fellowship (CEF). There will also be a bounce house and a train display.

For more information visit online at cefmarket.blogspot.com

Artworks by Charlotte Williams: Leaves, Limbs and Lichens Through March 3, 2014 Artport Gallery

In her 84th year, artist Charlotte Williams new collection of artwork deals with transience, change and the cycles of nature. She shares her own handcrafted quilts, wearable needlework and drawings inspired by and produced with elements found in our local landscape. This exhibition is presented by the Council on Culture & Arts as part of the Art in Public Places program sponsored by the City of Tallahassee. The gallery is located in the Tallahassee Regional Airport and is open daily from 8:00 a.m. until 11:30 p.m.

Tallahassee Symphony Orchestra March 8, 2014 Ruby Diamond Concert Hall

At 8 p.m., the Tallahassee Symphony Orchestra will perform Schumann’s Cello Concerto and Mendelssohn’s “Scottish Symphony.” Mendelssohn penned his “Scottish” Symphony after a visit to the ruined Holyrood Chapel in Edinburgh. For information, visit online at tallahasseesymphony.org.

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Lisa C. Graganella Golf Classic for the Tallahassee Ballet March 10, 2014 Southwood Gold Club

The Lisa C. Graganella Golf Classic is Tallahassee Ballet’s largest fundraiser of the year.

The event will be held at the Southwood Golf Club from 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. Participants enjoy first class golf and a chance to win prizes and silent auction items donated by The Tallahassee Ballet Board of Directors, dancers, and local businesses, ranging from cruises, to jewelry and gift certificates. Funds raised from this event will benefit the Tallahassee Ballet, as they provide funding for community outreach programs. Register online for the event at TallahasseeBallet.org or call (850) 224-6917 for more information.

Les Liaisons Dangereuses March 28 – April 6, 2014 Florida State University School of Theatre

Join the FSU School of Theatre this spring with their performance of Les Liaisons Dangereuses.

This play about what happens when the fine line between lust and love is shattered is sure to be full of deception and secrets that will keep the audience on the edge of their seats.

Recommended audience age is 16 and older. For show times and tickets visit theatre.fsu.edu.

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Join in the fun at this year’s Springtime Tallahassee parade and festival, including fun for families and friends, with local and national entertainment acts. As always, there will also be fantastic arts and crafts, entertainment and food vendors. For more information, including parade location and event times, visit online at springtimetallahassee.com.

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March is Multiple Sclerosis Awareness Month

By Angela Howard

We’ve all heard the statistics. We know that our risk of heart disease and breast cancer are greater than that of men.

However, there’s another disease that should be on women’s radar as well— multiple sclerosis.

According to the National Multiple Sclerosis (MS) Society, an estimated 2.3 million people worldwide have the disease, with at least two to three times as many women being afflicted. The World Dictionary defines it as a chronic, progressive disease of the central nervous system, characterized by the loss of some of the myelin sheath (or insulation) surrounding certain nerve fibers.

Symptoms include a sudden, painful loss of vision in one eye, disturbance in speech and weakness in the legs.

In the Tallahassee area, approximately 500 women are currently battling MS and Joya Frazier is one of them. “I was living in Chicago at the time and was taking a self-defense class when my vision got blurry,” Joya said. “As the day progressed, it went from blurry to completely losing vision in one eye.” One year later, Joya was diagnosed with MS. “When I was diagnosed, they were floored because it is not as prevalent in African American women.” That was in 1997, and back then, treatment options were limited. Now, though, there are a number of ways to treat MS, from medication to physical therapy, and new options are continually coming out, so you are urged to talk to your doctor to find out which course of action is right for you.

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painful tingling and fatigue flare up followed by periods of remission where they feel almost like their old self again.

Still, multiple sclerosis is not widely understood. “MS is a lot like having a house that has a short circuit in the fuse box and you just don’t know what room will trip a fuse,” Joya explains. There are numerous misconceptions also. “The biggest myth is that people are going to be incredibly disabled,” said Teresa Hunter, PT, DPT., a physical therapist who has worked at Tallahassee Memorial HealthCare (TMH) for 30 years.

“A lot of people see [MS] as a death sentence in that they won’t be able to do things as they did before, and that is not true.”

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However, the fact remains that women— especially Caucasian women ages 20 to 50—are at an increased risk. Although there’s no concrete reason why, TMH Neurologist Siddharth Sehgal, M.D. said it may have to do with hormones and levels.

Early theories, he says, are that estrogen levels may play a role and testosterone may be somewhat of a protectant.

Even if they are not the ones who have been diagnosed, children are also affected

by MS. This is why the North Florida Chapter of the National MS Society hosts Kids Camp. Each year, one hundred children, ages 7 to 13 take part in a weekend of fun at YMCA’s Camp Immokalee in Keystone Heights, FL. Meantime, those with MS and their

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families can turn to the Tallahassee MS Support Group if they need help coping with the disease. They meet on the second Saturday of each month at the Lafayette Park Center. For more information on MS, visit online at nationalmssociety.org.

The Tallahassee MS Support Group meets on the second Saturday of each month at 2 p.m. at Lafayette Park Center, 501 Ingleside Avenue in Tallahassee or call (850) 431-5037. Kids Camp will take place May 16-18, 2014. Contact Corrina Steiger at (800) 344-4867 for more information.

On the Move Luncheon benefitting the National MS Society North Florida Chapter Thursday, September 19, 2014, 11:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. at the University Center Club, Doak Campbell Stadium.

An inspirational keynote speaker will talk about how MS affects lives and allows each of us to make connections.

Donations will be collected to help create a world free of MS. Contact Carole Towcimak, Committee Chair, (850) 386-4843 or e-mail floridaevents@nmss.org.

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fter graduating from Tallahassee’s Maclay School, Ashley Carr left her family and hometown to receive a bachelor’s degree in psychology at Washington and Lee University in Lexington, Virginia, where she met Brian Scully, a Parsippany, New Jersey native studying for a future financial career. Brian asked Ashley to Homecoming and they began dating.

Upon graduation in 2010, Brian relocated to Manhattan, New York to pursue his career in finance. When Ashley graduated in 2011, she joined him in New York to pursue her master’s degree in occupational therapy at New York University’s Steinhardt School.

When Brian decided to “pop” the question, he searched for days to find the perfect location in New York City. Ultimately, he selected picturesque Bow Bridge in Central Park to propose. After Ashley said “yes,” she began planning the big day with the help of her mom, Tammy Carr, and wedding planner, John Gandy. Ashley wanted to bring together the warm charm of her hometown of Tallahassee and the elegance of their engagement location to create a night everyone would remember. So, armed with her memories of their love story, Ashley decided to incorporate these details into their wedding reception with a theme that recreated her and Brian’s love story, providing a touching and memorable evening for the bride and groom, as well as for their family and friends.

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After Ashley walked down the aisle at St. Peter’s Anglican Church on the arm of her father, Dr. Stephen Carr, to say “I do” to Brian, family and friends retreated to the Carriage House at Goodwood Museum and Gardens to enjoy an elegant and sophisticated southern celebration. Upon entering Goodwood’s rustic Carriage House, reception guests were transported to a romantic celebration with soft neutral colors accented with many metallic details, from mercury glass vases and silver tufted chiavari chairs to glistening chandeliers, gilt-framed mirrors and warm candles with sterling holders.

Because Brian proposed to Ashley in Central Park in New York, details from the area were cleverly entwined throughout the room. A map of the room, created to mimic the image of Central Park, was used to help guests locate their New York-named tables. In addition, each table was named for a landmark in Central Park, with a framed image and notation of the park site. With all guest tables being a specific location in the park, the bride and groom were seated at “Bow Bridge” in honor of their location of the engagement.

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Women Take Flight!

By Heather Thomas | Photography by Adam Cohen

Men aren’t the only ones who seek adventure. Women also have an inborn need to explore the depths of life and what they are capable of and to live passionately doing something they love. For Faith Drewry and Lacey Smith, pilots and owners of FL Aviation Center, taking to the skies has become the ride of their lives. With March being Women’s History Month and Women in Aviation History Month, they are embarking on a quest to encourage other women to embrace their inner adventuress, make their own history, and soar to new heights.

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ost women can attest to the feeling of being on autopilot and not stopping long enough to enjoy the scenery. Living with abandon can seem like a flight of fancy in the rush hours that keep us in a state of survival without ever really feeling like we’re getting much done. However, pursuing a passion that fulfills us is not just a daydream. It is what compels Faith Drewry and Lacey Smith of the FL Aviation Center, and a love of freedom and of flight connects them to the skies and each other. They’ve learned that there’s a lot about flying an airplane that parallels a woman’s life and her search for adventure and a longing to live a passionate life. t a l l a h a stsaelel a wo h ams a s ene •wo D emcaenm b• eFr e2013/J b r u a r y /M ana u rc a rh y

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Originally a horse trainer from Iowa, Lacey Smith began flying lessons in order to reduce the amount of time she was spending in a car traveling to different farms in the southern region. However, she says, “I became so in love with flying that I switched my center to the airport instead of with horses. I’ve always followed what I loved.” Being in tune with what brings you joy and also being willing to switch your center, or your focus to pursue it, is important to finding passion. Lacey shows that you can also have more than just one passion, and they usually overlap. “I find that the multi-tasking and leadership skills necessary in horse-training has served itself well in being a pilot and business owner.”

“At no point in my training did I feel like being a woman was going to hold me back at all.

I just loved to fly and nothing could have stopped me.” —Faith Drewry Because Faith Drewry’s aunt had her pilot’s license, “it didn’t occur to me that becoming a pilot wasn’t something that people just did.” When most teenagers are focused on getting their driver’s license, Faith started training to be a pilot when she was just 14. She got her pilot’s license when she was 21, bought her first plane a year later and has been flying ever since in a world dominated by men. “At no point in my training did I feel like being a woman was going to hold me back at all. I just loved to fly and nothing could have stopped me.”

Both Faith and Lacey have day jobs as well as owning FL Aviation Center. Lacey is the customer service manager at Million Air and Faith is the Director of Consulting Services with a small company based out of New York. Their livelihoods fuel their passion for flying and for helping to fill a void in the community. They have had a tremendously positive response.

Lacey says, “I think people can see that we are trying to create something long term and provide a place where everyone can come and learn and getting the aviation community here going again. The community needed a place to foster and to grow, so this is not just a business. We started it because we love aviation, not to make money, and I think everyone respects that.” Following your heart may mean you keep your day job and success may not be measured in a monetary sense. The true payoff is the overflow of fulfillment from pursuing your passion and making a difference in the lives of others—an intangible investment with life giving dividends.

Facing Your Fears

These wing women know a lot about flying, which means they also know a lot about facing down fears. “Most of what makes up fear is the unknown,” says Lacey. “Those that are afraid of flying don’t know what makes an airplane stay in the air.” Fear holds a lot of women back from pursuing a passion, whether it is a new job or learning a new skill, or caring too much about the scrutiny of others. Lacey says, “I’m terrible at math, so that was one of my biggest concerns first going into this and it may be what also keeps other women from pursuing becoming a pilot. The more I learned about the aerodynamics of why the plane stays in the air, the less afraid I became because I know this plane is going to keep flying because of proven criteria and the control I have over it.”

Taking control is one of the biggest aspects to becoming a good pilot and building courage. Faith says, “In aviation you have a large amount of control over how safe you make it and your trainer works with you on not only what’s legal, but on what’s smart, and knowing your own “personal minimums,” or where your own limits are. For example, the wind is at 20 mph today and the airplane can handle that, but does that mean you are capable of flying?” Knowing your strengths and weaknesses means spending time assessing those things. An honest evaluation will help you recognize any negative, self-defeating thought patterns, habits or addictions. Turn a mirror inward and get an attitude check as to what might be holding you back from pursuing a dream.

Before every flight, a pilot runs through a mental “I’m Safe” checklist to check for a healthy attitude and body: illness, medication, alcohol, fatigue, diet—a lot of what Faith and Lacey do with flying and running a business depends on a healthy attitude. This carries over strongly into other aspects of life.

Lacey says, “A healthy, positive attitude reflects maturity and growth. You can’t be a good pilot without it. Controlling your attitude is a choice, and it is one that you have to make daily.”

The importance of ongoing growth is crucial to fostering and maintaining your passion. “Before we came along there was only one continuing education course available locally once a year. We built up a monthly seminar course for the pilot community and we’re the only ones 50 miles around doing this,” says Lacey. It’s hard to imagine that these two women were ever afraid of anything. By following their hearts and through constant pursuit of their passion for flying they have

“A healthy, positive attitude reflects maturity and growth. You can’t be a good pilot without it. Controlling your attitude is a choice, and it is one that you have to make daily.” —Lacey Smith

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learned that every woman has wings and the courage to face down the fears that may be preventing her from taking flight.

Flying with Friends

It all began in 2009, in a room crowded with male pilots attending a continuing education course, Faith and Lacey were the only women in attendance. They sought each other out and have been flying friends ever since. Just like the birth of all good ideas, Faith and Lacey’s business idea was formulated while dining out and discussing shopping. However, their shopping topic consisted of how to best go about buying their own airplane, which evolved into leasing the airplane to cover costs, to why not start a flight school? “We felt that there was this void for local pilots who wanted to continue their training and just to have a place to congregate and support one another,” says Faith. “When people ask what do we provide that the other place (that is now out of business) didn’t? I answer with, ‘a couch.’” It’s important to have a supportive environment in order to foster a passion and inspire one another to greater heights.

However, there are dangerous attitudes for flying. Faith says, “The people who come into this with inappropriate, unsafe attitudes tend to wean themselves out of the pilot community.

Just because a person has passed a test and gets a license doesn’t mean we have to rent an airplane to someone who is exhibiting unsafe behaviors. The pilot community looks out for each other in that they’ll say, ‘Don’t fly with that person.’”

The people who remain active pilots are conscientious of their attitudes, safety-oriented and look out for the good of others.

In other words, the Golden Rule is a good navigation system and surrounding yourself with those who will encourage you towards being your best self. Adventures are best shared with someone you love, trust, and can have fun with.

For Faith and Lacey, their friendship grounds them, but also gives them the above-ground perspective they need in order to see the larger landscape. Faith says, “We try to never lose sight of why we do this—it’s because we love to fly and we want to help other people who love to fly and encourage others to give it a try—it’s a plane passion. Laughing, Lacey agrees and says, “If all of this doesn’t work out then we’ve still got a really fun plane.”

Flying into History

The FL Aviation Center consists of a renovated space at Tallahassee Regional airport that houses a lounge area, a formal classroom space, and a computerized testing center.

They currently have eight instructors and three planes with a plan in the works to acquire another plane for more advanced training. All of this and they have only been in business for fifteen months. Their success and community impact is already being felt in an impressive way, especially since women make up only six percent of the pilot population. Incredibly, this statistic remains unchanged since Amelia Earhart’s time.

There have been studies that have tried to determine why this is, since other male-dominated fields have increased their feminine representation. Faith says, “I met a female economics professor at the Atlanta airport who studies women entrepreneurs in male dominated industries; she had been trying to answer this question through her work. She said that her research showed that the reason there are no women participants is because there are no women participants. Meaning, men will learn from anyone, but women learn from women.” Recent studies have shown that women don’t pursue STEM education (science, technology, engineering and math) or aeronautical careers not because they don’t like math, but because they have no female math teachers or role models. “Girls need female role models to show them what is possible, just like it never occurred to me not to fly because of my aunt leading the way,” says Faith.

With March being Women’s History Month and Women in Aviation History Month, Faith and Lacey are encouraging other women to get on board their own history-making adventure. Lacey says, “Flying an airplane is more accessible than anyone may think and you will never regret giving it a try.” This year’s “Women Fly It Forward” event will be held on March 8 and is the anniversary of the first woman to get her pilot’s license in 1910. Funds raised from sponsorships of the event will go toward providing free introductory flights to women and all children ages 8-17. They also have plans to create a runway of pictures from Tallahassee’s aviation history on the center’s main wall. “The pictures will reflect the history of local aviation so that our students will feel that they are a part of that history too,” says Lacey.

It all started with a desire to find and then to pursue a passion, but now it’s become so much more. Faith says, “We want to leave a legacy and continue the idea that aviation and being a pilot isn’t just about you. There’s continuity to it when you see all the ones who have come before you to make your flight today possible and now you are inspiring the next generation.” Not only were women created to lead passionate lives, but experiencing the freedom of giving themselves fully to the adventure that each day can bring will inspire those who need a light to shine the way. The horizon is calling, and the time is now to pursue a passion-filled life.

The “Women Fly It Forward” event is on March 8 from 9am to 4pm in the Honda Jet hangar at Tallahassee Regional Airport.

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Th e Fi r s t Wo m a n to F ly S o l o A r o u n d the World

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ne of the most fascinating women I have met is my husband’s grandmother, Jerrie Mock.

Almost fifty years ago, on April 17, 1964, she became the first woman to successfully pilot an aircraft around the world. Jerrie has been a resident of Quincy, Florida, for over 20 years, but most people in North Florida have never heard of her.

Uncovering history can be a thrilling experience, particularly when the discovery takes place within one’s own community. After learning about Jerrie from her family members, I was delighted to meet her in person. She is a kind and dedicated woman, and she has not only paved the way for many women in aviation, but she has inspired me to follow my dreams as well.

Jerrie’s path to becoming a pilot began with an exhilarating ride in a Ford Trimotor plane. After that childhood experience, she realized that she belonged in the skies. “In fourth grade, I told my classmates that I was going to be a pilot. Then when Amelia did her flight, I decided I was going to fly around the world,” she told me.

Jerrie Mock in her plane

Even as a child, Jerrie never intended on setting a world record. According to her, “I just wanted to have fun. I wanted to see the world and see the people.”

She was fascinated by the stories she read of people in other countries, and she longed to experience those cultures firsthand. Since taking a commercial airline was not the convenient option that it is today, Jerrie decided that she would fly there herself.

After earning her private pilot’s license in 1958, Jerrie learned that no other woman had ever flown solo around the world. Following Amelia Earhart’s tragic disappearance, World War II had prevented other women from attempting that feat. A housewife at the time, Jerrie decided that pursuing a world record would be fun to try, so she decided to outfit “Charlie,” her single-engine Cessna 180 plane, for a trip around the world.

How difficult was it for women at the time to achieve what she did? According to Jerrie, “Some instructors

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wom e n M AKIN G H I S T O R Y were looking for women to fail. They wanted to tease you. You had to put up with that; you had to want to do it.” Highlights of her historic journey included seeing Morocco and achieving her childhood dream of riding a camel in the Sahara Desert. Then, in Asia, she enjoyed observing the contrasting cultures of Saudi Arabia, Pakistan, India, Thailand, and the Philippines.

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Finally, she arrived home in Columbus, Ohio, where her husband and three children—and thousands of other people—were awaiting her arrival. In her book Three-Eight Charlie, Jerrie describes that night, “The police pushed the mob back from Charlie so I could climb out.

I just stood there, speechless.” Later she writes, “It was all exciting and I wondered if the night was real. Words were getting through to my whirling brain in fits and starts.”

In the 1990s, Jerrie decided that it was time to move away from the ice and snow in Ohio.

Then she happened upon Quincy, Florida, which struck her as a “nice, quaint little town.”

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There are plans to unveil a statue of Jerrie on April 17, the fiftieth anniversary of her flight. The statue would be installed at the Columbus airport, the place where she made history.

Jerrie has inspired many people through her courage and determination. Her advice is, “If it’s in your blood, don’t let them hold you back.” Hopefully, as people learn about her story, they will find the inspiration to set off on their own world-changing quests.

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How to Write a L ve Letter

By Christina Morgan

In today’s technology-run world, the art of writing a love letter has been lost.

Letter writing used to be the only available form of communication, but as we have progressed to sending a quick email or a few words in a text message the romance is being lost. The next time you feel like making a romantic gesture, rediscover a lost art and try following these steps to win someone over with a love letter.

1. Use pen and paper. Take a step away from technology and put some real heart into it. A handwritten letter will show your loved one that you care enough to put real effort in.

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2. Take your time. It can be really difficult to get in touch with your emotions but that is what a love letter is all about. Take the time to sit down and think about what your loved one means to you and make sure your true feelings make it onto the paper.

3. Don’t be afraid of getting too emotional. Writing a love letter might feel cheesy and mushy but it’s about conveying your real emotions to someone that you love. You may feel silly at times but rest assured that your loved one will be moved by the gesture and will appreciate a heartfelt letter.

4. Make a real connection. Try adding a genuine memory or the story of how you met. Also, be sure to display what you love about this person and how their love has affected your life.

5. Be sure to craft a real letter.

Open your letter with a sincere greeting and close it with a romantic line and a signature.

Your letter does not have to be long, just from your heart. It will be a memento that the love of your life will cherish at that moment and for years to come.

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Keep Harmony in Your Home During Your Next Home Improvement Project

By Michelle R. Nickens

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eplacing your carpet with tile or putting up a privacy fence? Maybe, you’ve been dreaming of a renovated kitchen or bathroom. You and your spouse have decided to take on the challenge but how often have you heard, “I will never do a home project with my husband again!” I hear it all the time and I wondered, “What would make it a fun and successful venture while eliminating arguments, tears, or worse, someone walking out the door?”

My husband and I have done dozens of household projects together. He’s quite handy. So, we’ve already got a notch on the “how-to” belt. But, that doesn’t solve all the problems and can even cause some. I’ve identified our dos and don’ts for working together and hope they help you on your next project.

Create Clear and Realistic Goals

What is the project and what is it not? Write down the changes you want. My husband and I make independent lists and then sit down and compare them. The items that match immediately go on the master list. We discuss and prioritize the others. Compromising isn’t easy but ensuring a collective vision up front will reduce problems down the road.

Avoid Mission Creep

Mission creep is when your project started off as a paint job and ended up as a new addition.

Mission creep can cause stress, worry, arguments, higher costs and lost productivity. Once you’ve agreed to a plan, stick to it.

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afford, you may start resenting the very room you upgraded.

Know how much you can spend. Research how much your project or renovation will cost. Develop a budget in advance.

Address changes and adjust the budget as soon as something changes. Build a celebration into your budget. For example, if you’re painting your dining room, plan a dinner party to show off your work. You’ll feel proud of your accomplishment and immediately use the new space.

Understand Your Individual Capabilities

When my husband and I had our first house, we decided to put in tile. We had never tiled. My husband researched the project months before we even looked at tile. What’s involved?

How long does it take? What is the best material? How much does the tile and the supplies cost? Then, we shopped. Places like Lowes and Home Depot hold classes for homeowners to learn about projects like tiling. Knowledge boosts your confidence. Not ready? Calling a professional is not defeat.

Often, it’s the best choice.

We tiled again in our current home but took on a much larger area. It went smoothly, except when the floor scraper slashed my husband’s wrist and we spent the next few hours at the doctor’s office, which brings me to my next tip—

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Don’t Panic!

According to the National Safety Council, there is a disabling injury every four seconds in some home in the United States. Safety is the top priority. Before beginning your work, restock the first aid kit and place it in sight of your work area. Purchase a couple of fire extinguishers if you do not have any and place them in convenient locations. Remove children and animals from your workspace. If you get tired, rest. Be sure to stay hydrated and eat healthy meals on a regular basis. Refrain from drinking alcohol until you’re done for the day. Read directions and wear appropriate safety glasses and gear. If something happens, be calm. If it’s an emergency, call 911.

Fortunately after eight stitches, my husband was fine but he still has that scar to remind us that safe is never safe enough.

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One of my least favorite parts of a home project is preparation.

Putting that blue tape on the walls to help ensure crisp paint lines takes forever. One time I thought I would wing-it. I made so many mistakes that it took twice as long fixing them than if I had put up the tape. Do the pre-work.

Respect Each Other

Don’t criticize your spouse’s work. Be thoughtful. You can say almost anything if you say it the right way. Think before you speak.

Realize that your way may not be the only way. Identify each other’s strengths and weakness and determine how you can give your best to complete the job.

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Part of the process is the journey and working together to accomplish a common goal is rewarding.

Maintaining harmony while working with your spouse can be achieved. It takes patience, communications and mostly—a whole lot of love.

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DIY! Create a Unique Planter for Spring Flowers

By Kelly Pettit

Even though it’s cold outside, it’s never too early to start planning for spring. One of the best ways to add spring color to your deck, porch or patio is to use a planter, but don’t just leave the planter plain. You can get the materials yourself and transform a plain, plastic planter to make it look like it’s expensive, aged copper.

Step 1. I purchased a small planter for about $6. I then did a quick coat of white latex primer to be sure my paint would adhere. Let that dry for about an hour.

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Step 2. I purchased a simple wooden medallion at a

craft store and attached it to the front of the container using glue. Let it dry.

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Step 3. I then used two colors of metallic paint, bronze and gold and stippled them over the surface using a large paint brush. You could also use a sea sponge for this step.

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different shades of green and some white craft paint to stipple over the surface. Don’t cover all of the base color since you want the metallic to show through. Let dry. If you covered too much of the base, go ahead and add more metallic until you are happy with the results.

Step 5. Now comes the step where you create the look of years of patina and age. Using a spray bottle, water down a little bit of white paint on your palette and stipple a small amount around the rim of the planter and, while it’s still wet, spray with water. This will cause the paint to streak and run and—voila!—you have created years of patina in one simple step.

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The Transformational Power of Volunteering

By Wendy Spencer

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here are numerous advantages to volunteering for both those being served and those who are serving. I can think of few feelings greater than knowing that the work you do is making life better for others. Now we can add one more benefit to the list—it can help you land your next job.

This is something many of us working in the volunteer sector knew anecdotally. I spent eight years as the governor-appointed CEO of the Florida Commission on Volunteerism and Community Service before coming to Washington to lead the Corporation for National and Community Service (CNCS), and time after time, I would hear success stories about how our volunteers turned their good deeds into full-time work.

One of these stories came from Leanne, a military spouse who volunteered when her family relocated to Florida from California.

Her work with the Navy Marine Corps Relief Society as a financial counselor and managing volunteers created a passion that never faded as she moved from coast to coast with her family for deployments.

Leanne’s experience helped her secure a full-time position managing volunteers with her local American Red Cross chapter —experience she gained by helping others.

Andrea, a single mother of three in Philadelphia, demonstrated her potential after she was laid off by volunteering at a program her children attended. By serving with this program, she was able to secure a part-time position where she could use her current skills, as well as develop new ones.

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—opening doors and leveling the playing field. And we have data to back it up.

Our Volunteering as a Pathway to Employment study found that volunteers have a 27 percent higher likelihood of finding a job after being out of work than non-volunteers. These connections create benefits that are even more pronounced for volunteers who don’t have a high school diploma or who live in rural areas, increasing the likelihood of finding work by 51 percent and 55 percent, respectively.

Research from our Volunteering and Civic Life in America report has also found that women are willing to carve time out of their schedules to help others—especially our working mothers who consistently volunteer at higher levels than any other group we track. To us, volunteering may appear to be just doing what needs to be done, but believe me, it does not go unnoticed.

We are spreading the word about the transformational power of volunteering and encouraging others to get involved.

Nonprofits can build capacity by targeting

job seekers to form relationships that benefit both parties. Our policy makers can encourage volunteering as a strategy to create greater economic opportunity.

It’s not exactly breaking news how busy our schedules can be. Whether our fulltime job is inside or outside of the home, it seems there is a never-ending to-do list facing us every day. Still, many of us are finding time to give of ourselves to others.

Isn’t it great to know that for all the giving that you do, you—and the groups you help —get a lot more in return?

About the author: Wendy Spencer, who is from Tallahassee, is the CEO of the Corporation for National and Community Service, a federal agency that engages more than 5 million Americans in service through Senior Corps, AmeriCorps, and other programs, and leads President Obama’s national call to service initiative, United We Serve. She is also co-chair of the President’s Task Force on Expanding National Service.

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The Sandwich Generation

By Gary Parsons

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s if the last decade of economic tumult didn’t provide enough uncertainty for families, a new financial phenomenon has reared its head in what has been dubbed the Sandwich Generation. The Sandwich Generation encompasses adults ages 40 to 59 who are now finding themselves financially responsible for both their children and their parents. For some, this can extend to grandchildren and grandparents as well.

For those falling into the latter years, i.e. the Baby Boomers, this is a particularly precarious proposition given that you may just now be recovering from the hit your retirement took during the recent recession.

According to the Pew Research Center, nearly half of adults aged 40 to 59 are responsible for providing some form of financial assistance to a parent and child simultaneously, and that trend is not likely to abate in the near future.

If you were especially hard hit by the recession, it may feel impossible to keep afloat while supporting so many people.

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This begs the questions, what was the impetus for this trend and what can be done to avoid it in the future?

A major contributor is the increase in life expectancy. People are living longer and they are doing so thanks to the miracle of modern medicine. The problem is that it is exceedingly costly on both the revenue and expense side.

Many of the elderly are simultaneously outliving their retirement savings while incurring substantial medical expenses.

Even with Medicare, out of pocket expenses during the later years can still be tens of thousands of dollars.

The increased life expectancy has given rise to another unplanned expense associated with long term care facilities. According to the Assisted Living Federation of America (ALFA), the average cost of an assisted living facility is over $30,000 per year. That price goes up for a nursing home.

The need to care for both your parents and your children is not only financially draining, it is emotionally draining as well. While you expect your growing children to look to you for emotional support, your aging parents will as well and the added stress of having to worry about their daily life can be exhausting.

So, what can be done about this trend?

First and foremost, communication is paramount. Don’t avoid this impending reality until it is too late. Being reactionary rather than proactive is the quickest way to get blindsided and overloaded with the additional financial and emotional burden.

Make certain you understand your parents’ financial position and their future plans and see if it may be prescient to get on a waiting list for a long term care facility and/or alter spending and savings habits.

This doesn’t have to become a crisis if it is planned rather than ignored.

For today’s adults, the outlook should be different. As someone who has

experienced the struggles of the Sandwich Generation, I am armed with a foresight the generation before me wasn’t. We know this is coming and can prepare for it. Employment past age 65 is becoming the new normal as we are consciously planning for a longer and more expensive retirement. New products like long term care insurance and associated riders on ancillary financial products make paying for long term care facilities a little easier and help ensure you won’t have to encumber your children.

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Feed Your Passion

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A Flight of Appetizers

By Carolyn Binder

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his issue’s theme is Find Your Passion, and women like Jerrie Mock have been taking to the skies and leading the way, encouraging all of us to live fuller, more satisfying lives. As a food and garden writer, my feet are firmly planted in the soil, but I still found my passion: serving delicious food sourced as locally as possible—starting with produce from my own garden.

The Big Bend is blessed with a temperate climate that allows Tallahasseeans to grow and enjoy a wide variety of produce year-round. We can pick gorgeous citrus and pecans from our backyard trees. Local farmers offer organic eggs, fruits and vegetables that are so fresh and tasty, they need little preparation to bring out the best in them. Our local bee keepers produce fantastic honey, and local farmers raise beautiful free-range pork and poultry. We have world-class oysters and shrimp from the gulf and award-winning cheese from Sweet Grass Dairy up the road in Thomasville, Georgia. And with the arrival of Whole Foods and Trader Joe’s in town, we have an ever-expanding array of choices on where to shop for quality foods.

Appetizers are a fun and easy way to enjoy and share our beautiful local foods. When my kids come home or friends come to visit, I want them to literally taste Tallahassee, our seasons, and my love. I also don’t want to spend all day in the kitchen. So I might start with something really simple, such as Manchego cheese and quince paste squares (find quince paste near the cheese section in the supermarket) on toothpicks, with thin slices of prosciutto and toasted pecans on the side. Then I’ll make one or two other appetizers that highlight whatever is fresh from the garden or the market. Here are a couple of ideas for appetizers that feature the best of the Big Bend’s local produce. When preparing them, head to your local farmers market, fish market, and cheese shop before you hit the grocery store. You’ll taste the difference, you’ll save money, and you’ll be supporting Tallahassee’s passionate growers, artisans and farmers.

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Roasted Cauliflower with Pecans and Meyer Lemon This dish highlights north Florida’s famous local pecans and Meyer lemons. It can be served as a healthy and pretty appetizer or a side dish for dinner. Kids go nuts for it!

Ingredients: 1 head cauliflower, chopped into bite-sized florets ¼ cup pecan oil (or olive oil) ¼ cup pecans, chopped 3 to 4 cloves garlic, finely sliced 2 tablespoons Meyer lemon juice and the zest from the lemon 2 tablespoons chopped fresh parsley or thyme Salt and pepper to taste Optional (but highly recommended): A few slices of diced smoky bacon or country ham.

Preparation: Preheat oven to 450 degrees. Line a cookie sheet with parchment paper. Place the cauliflower on the baking sheet and gently toss with the pecan oil, pecans, garlic, lemon juice and bacon or ham if you’re using it. Roast for 15 to 20 minutes, tossing occasionally, until the cauliflower is cooked through, but still crispy, and some of the florets are browned on the edges. Toss with the lemon zest, herbs and salt and pepper. Serve piping hot on a platter with plenty of napkins.

Cook’s Hint: You can roast almost any vegetable this way. Roasting vegetables takes little effort, brings out the natural sweetness of the vegetables. Try carrots, potatoes, parsnips, onions...whatever looks great at the market!

Wild-Caught Gulf Shrimp Ceviche Spoons Who doesn’t love fresh, wild-caught Gulf shrimp? Ceviche hails from our neighbors in South America, where it is often made with whitefish.

This no-cook appetizer features Gulf shrimp and fresh Meyer lemon juice to “cook” the shrimp. It’s refreshing and delicious!

Ingredients: ½ pound wild-caught Gulf shrimp ¼ cup finely diced red onion ¼ cup finely diced red bell pepper 1 to 2 finely diced jalapeño peppers ¼ cup cilantro, chopped 1 cup Meyer lemon juice ¼ cup extra virgin olive oil Salt and pepper to taste Plantain or tortilla chips 1/4 to 1/2 diced avocado for garnish Preparation: Clean and dice the shrimp. In a nonreactive container, add the shrimp and all the vegetables except the avocado. Cover with the lemon juice and marinate for two to three hours. Add olive oil and salt and pepper to taste. Toss in the diced avocado and cilantro. Serve in little spoons or with plantain or tortilla chips. t a l l a h a s s e e wo m a n

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Gulf Shrimp and Bacon Skewers with Orange-Sriracha Glaze Great for gatherings and social events, these bacon skewers will whet visitors’ appetites while giving locally sourced Gulf shrimp pride of place on the table.

Ingredients: For the skewers: 1 pound of Gulf shrimp, shelled with tails on ½ pound local smoky bacon (thin-sliced) For the Orange-Sriracha Glaze: 3 tablespoons orange marmalade 3 tablespoons soy sauce A shot or two of Sriracha sauce, to taste Preparation: For the skewers: Soak small bamboo skewers for 20 minutes. Preheat the broiler. Cut the bacon slices into thirds, and precook the bacon in the microwave for a minute or two, until just starting to crisp. Wrap each shrimp with a piece of bacon, and feed two or three of the shrimp onto the skewers, making sure to catch the ends of the bacon. Broil for 3 minutes per side, or until the bacon is crispy and the shrimp is pink.

Brush each shrimp on both sides with a little of the glaze.

For the glaze: In a small bowl, combine the marmalade, soy sauce and Sriracha and stir to blend. Microwave for one minute.

Cook’s hint: Try your hand at making your own marmalade. Visit my website for my recipe for Satsuma and Bourbon Marmalade (cowlickcottagefarm.com/satsuma-and-bourbon-marmalade). Delicious!

About the author: Carolyn Binder is a freelance food and garden writer and photographer. She gardens and cooks at her homestead known as Cowlick Cottage Farm in Monticello, Florida. Visit Carolyn’s blog, cowlickcottagefarm.com for more on local gardening, cooking and country living.

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Easy Spicy Refrigerator Pickles Pickles are all the rage these days, and you will find them on the menu at many of the south’s finest restaurants and on the pages of some of my favorite southern cookbooks (check out The Lee Brothers Fresh Simple Southern and Edward Lee’s Smoke and Pickles). Refrigerator pickles are easy to make, and once you develop a favorite “juice,” you will find yourself pickling all manner of veggies. Make these a couple of days in advance, and serve alongside any appetizer that features something creamy or cheesy. Find my recipe at cowlickcottagefarm.com/spicy-pickled-okra.

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Sports and the Outdoors are for EveryBody

Improving the Quality of Life for Seniors

By Keasi Smith

By Kayla Sim

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he Florida Disabled Outdoors Association (FDOA) is a non-profit organization based in Tallahassee that aims to enrich the lives of people in the community through providing easy accessibility to the outdoors, nature, and a variety of sports. This mission is carried out with the thought that living an active life can be therapeutic, motivational, and allow for improved mental and physical health. FDOA offers people with disabilities the chance to enjoy nature while overcoming obstacles. Whether it’s scoring goals or riding waves, members are building their physical, mental, and social confidence.

The organization was formed by David Jones in 1990. After suffering a head injury David went through rehabilitation.

It was through this experience that he learned the importance of recreation rehabilitation and its benefits to the body and mind. By working with civic groups, organizations, and the public FDOA has not only educated others on the benefits of recreational activities for all, but has also created more opportunities for the disabled to participate in these activities.

To get people involved FDOA holds a yearly event called SportsAbility. David says SportsAbility is a vital part of their organization. “It is the beginning, the middle, and end of what we do and why we do it. This event allows people to

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discover us and what we’re all about.” The event includes activities for people of all ages and ability levels. Not to mention, it’s free. David describes the event not only as fun, but as a way to encourage people to get off their couches, turn off the computer screen, and become more active in their leisure activities. David says, “SportsAbility is a teaser to get people to come have fun, but in the process they learn about people and about life.”

Over 37 million Americans are classified as disabled. People with disabilities are often unemployed, but David says that this free time could be spent in more productive ways than being cooped up at home. “Helping one person will help the whole population, if you take into account these individuals’ families and loved ones,” he says. FDOA believes there is a direct link between leisure activities and wellness.

The organization is dedicated to providing better leisure opportunities for the disabled. Still, all people of all abilities are welcome to embrace an active life together.

If you want to be a part of helping others be the best they can be, while also improving your own quality of life you can attend SportsAbility in Tallahassee on April 10 through 12, 2014, at many locations, such as Tallahassee Community College, Miracle Field at Messer Park, and Ochlockonee River State Park. For more information visit fdoa.org/tallahassee.

Created in 1970, Elder Care Services has been giving assistance to seniors for over 40 years in our local community.

This service’s heart and soul is composed of volunteers in the Tallahassee and surrounding areas. Their aim is not only to provide support to the elderly population, but to be knowledgeable with the latest information. Therefore, Elder Care Services can continue to improve seniors’ quality of life.

This philanthropic organization was established when Frances Clay and others became concerned for the future of the elderly. With aid from state grants and donations from the community, Elder Care Services has come a long way in creating a growing neighborhood of happy and healthy seniors.

Elder Care Services offers diverse options for the elderly in the Big Bend region.

Meals on Wheels is more than its humorous name. It is one of the most important priorities of Elder Care Services and just in the past year celebrated

delivering their four millionth meal to seniors in their homes. Lunches are prepared Monday through Friday and are personally delivered to the senior’s doorstep. These nutritious meals not only do good for the body, but for the mind as well. In 2006, Elder Care Services established a facility for “Elder Day Stay” on Monroe street.

This is an opportunity for a senior who can no longer stay home alone, but will enjoy social interaction, activities with exercises and a lunch.

From minor housekeeping to friendship, Elder Care services provide a volunteer for guidance in all aspects of living a healthy lifestyle.

This organization not only benefits seniors, but enables seniors to enrich others in the community as well. The Foster Grandparents Program pairs adults over the ages of 55 with children who have special needs. “Foster Grandparents” volunteer at a range of places including schools to pediatric units mentoring children, or young adults in any way possible.

There are numerous ways to contribute to the elderly community. The easiest way is donating canned goods to their main office off of Tennessee Street. Tallahassee residents can volunteer for delivering meals or transporting the elderly to much needed daily activities such as appointments and the grocery store. Hotel Duval will host the second annual A Night in Paris Gala on June 23rd. Last year, over 200 people attended this black-tie fundraiser. There are all kinds of way you can help. Reach out, make a difference—you will be glad you did.

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Children’s Home Society’s Wish Upon a Star

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More than 300 people came out in their “southern proper” attire to support Children’s Home Society’s Wish Upon a Star event. Under a picture-perfect, star-filled evening everyone enjoyed a skeet shoot, auctions and dinner, followed by a bonfire and s’mores by the lake.

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Dr. Acquinonette Bryant, MD, FACOG is the founder of Jasmine Women’s Center LLC, a new state of the art OB/GYN practice in Tallahassee. Dr. Bryant is a native of Havana, Florida, and has practiced in military medicine for eight years. Dr. Bryant is proud to return and serve the women of the Big Bend Community and surrounding areas.

Barbara M. Ivery has recently received certification as a Florida Registered Paralegal through The Florida Bar. She has also received her AS degree in Legal Assisting and Paralegal Studies from Tallahassee Community College. Barbara has worked in the legal environment for over 25 years and presently works at Florida State University.

Mandy Bianchi was recently selected as Executive Director of the Epilepsy Association of the Big Bend. She brings with her more than 15 years of experience in state associations and will infuse her passion for helping others and communications expertise into her new role.

Donna Smithey, owner of In Tents Events, is celebrating her company’s 14 year anniversary of providing full-service party and event rentals throughout the area. In Tents Events has won the Tally Award for “Best Party Rentals” every year since 2007.

Khalena Knox was recently crowned Miss Florida International 2014. Khalena works for the Department of Economic Opportunity and attended Florida Agricultural and Mechanical University, graduating with a bachelor’s degree in molecular cellular biology. She also volunteers with the Children’s Home Society of Florida and the Lupus Foundation of Florida.

Jackie Wilson has joined the team at Tallahassee Technology Group as an Account Executive. Jackie has also worked with many non-profits and charitable causes, in the community, and looks forward to renewing many of her past relationships in her new role.

LaToya Crawford has recently opened her new business, LaToya’s School of Dance, in the Southside Arts Complex in Tallahassee area. LaToya is also getting ready to launch her own local television show in March called The LaToya Crawford Show, which will air on Preach the Word Worldwide Network.

Sarah Butters, senior counsel of the law firm Holland & Knight was recently elected to partnership of the firm and also was elected a fellow of the American College of Trust and Estate Counsel.

Wanda Kane-Harris, was appointed Tallahassee Chapter President of Christian Women’s Small Business Association, which recently launched in January. Wanda was also accepted as a participant in the Veteran Women Igniting The Spirit Of Entrepreneurship conference in Long Beach, California.

Dr. Tamarrah Tarver-Small recently released a cookbook entitled Pretty Girls Cook. She is the Chief Executive Officer of Pretty Girl World (PGW), an organization whose mission is to empower and educate women to become whole and live life to the fullest.

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Tiffany Hamilton is the broker of the new brokerage agency Ekk and Hamilton Realty. She was recently voted to the board of directors for the Tallahassee Board of Realtors and the Big Bend Homeless Coalition. Tiffany has been a licensed Realtor for over ten years with a bachelor’s degree in marketing and management.

Mia McKown, a senior counsel at the Tallahassee office of the law firm of Holland & Knight, was recently elected to partnership of the firm. Mia has immediately assumed the roles and responsibilities of an active partnersip in the organization.

Stacey Kolka was promoted to Senior Manager of Tax Services at Thomas Howell Ferguson P.A., a professional accounting, assurance, and tax services firm headquartered in Tallahassee. Stacey has 16 years of experience in providing tax and consulting services to a variety of corporate clients. Her responsibilities include planning, supervision of staff, review of tax returns, and research on tax engagements and special projects.

Courtney Harrison and Taryn Griffin have opened Cherry Blow Dry Bar, located in the new Whole Foods Shopping Center. Cherry Blow Dry Bar is Tallahassee’s first and only blow dry bar where they offer the highly popular blowouts for all hair lengths.

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Katherine COx A Passionate Heart

By Amy J. Hartman | Photography by Christie Meresse

this friend also happened to be a pediatrician.

It was at this impromptu appointment that the doctor heard a catch in Katherine’s heartbeat.

Two echocardiograms later, Jill and Clifton Cox sat stunned as they were told their beautiful baby girl was unlikely to see her first birthday. She had a host of congenital heart defects, including Transposition of the Great Arteries, which meant the blood in her heart was flowing in the wrong direction. In the unlikely event that she survived, Katherine would suffer brain damage from lack of oxygen to her brain and would need to undergo open heart surgery every five to eight years for the rest of her life. The prognosis was grim, but the family soldiered on, guided by a strong faith in God and a team of doctors with a firm foundation in research and experimental medicine.

Before the age of six, Katherine had undergone three open heart surgeries and six angioplasties. Through it all, Katherine stayed upbeat, hosting tea parties for hospital staff in the Cardiovascular Intensive Care Unit (CICU) and, when asked, showing other kids awaiting open heart surgery not her scar, but her “miracle mark.”

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n January, Katherine Cox turned 18. For many this is a long-awaited milestone; their transition from child to adult. But for Katherine and her family, birthdays are celebrations of life. They see each day as the continuation of a miracle 18 years in the making, and still going strong.

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By fourth grade, against all odds, Katherine was wowing audiences with her public speaking skills. Her first public speaking experience was the Tropicana Speech competition. A speech about her beloved big brother, Charles, won second place, school-wide. Two years later she spoke about her cherished little sister Taylor, who has cerebral palsy, and won Best Inspirational Speech at the County level. By seventh grade, Katherine was speaking at annual golf tournaments held to raise funds for the Big Bend Heart Association, each year providing the audience with updates on her heart condition and the research being done.

When she reached tenth grade, Katherine contacted the local chapter of the American Heart Association in the hope of earning volunteer hours, but they already had enough volunteers. Several days later, Katherine received a call back asking if she was the same Katherine

Cox that was known locally for her inspirational speeches of survivorship.

Shortly thereafter, Katherine was asked to speak at a Heart Walk kick-off event where local businesses would be asked to commit to forming a Heart Walk team. By the time the event was over, every organization present had signed up. Katherine says, “I can’t do a lot of things, due to my heart and all the surgeries, so working with the Heart Association has been perfect.” There’s no doubt the Association would agree.

Today, Katherine Cox is a force to be reckoned with. This young woman who, by all accounts, shouldn’t be alive, lives; Who shouldn’t be able to function on par with her peers academically, is an honors student, among the top in her class; who is shy around new people, is speaking to large groups as a survivor and holding their rapt attention.

Over twelve years after Katherine’s last surgery, the bovine heart valve doctors implanted is still functioning well enough

to keep her energy levels up. “Today I’m healthy,” she says, “but you’re never promised tomorrow.” Though she will ultimately need heart surgery again, every day Katherine and her doctors are able to wait sees new advances in the field of transcatheterization. For the first time, Katherine dares to hope that additional open heart surgeries may not be necessary after all.

“Today I’m healthy,” she says,“but you’re never promised tomorrow.”

This spring, Katherine will graduate from high school and will start college in the fall.

She has her eye toward teaching, and hopes to continue to pursue public speaking engagements as well. Wise beyond her years, just by being, Katherine has already taught so many so much about her passion for living, to never give up hope and to embrace life everyday.

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Staying on the Funny Side Of Kitchen Gadgets

By Kelly Swanson

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’m a sucker for those “As Seen On TV” kitchen gadgets.

Show me a woman in a dated hairdo and a pantsuit, waving her hand over a seventy-five-piece plastic monogrammed food packaging and storage system, and my pulse starts to race.

Show me the whole family frolicking (is that still a word?) through the meadow with the dog and the handy dandy monogrammed food packaging carrying case on wheels with the drink holder and solar radio, and I’m diving for my credit card.

Tell me that for just an additional dollar, I can get a complete set of stainless steel knives guaranteed to cut steel and to outlive three generations, and it is no longer a want—no longer a need—it has become an “I must have this or I will die.” Forget braces for Junior, Mamma needs a food storage system.

My husband tried to block the channel after I ordered him thirty-seven buttonme-easy kits that promise to replace your button in thirty seconds without the need for needles or thread. He said it would have been a good idea, if most of his shirts had buttons.

It happened again yesterday. Just when I’ve barely recovered from the ramifications of ordering a lifetime supply of under-the-bed sweater organizers that emit a lilac scent— I see her white teeth and that familiar pantsuit, and I’m under her spell again.

This time is different. This gadget is the king daddy of all gadgets—the Air Sucker 2000—breaking all records in high-tech kitchen gadgetry. Put your food in the bag, 62 t a l l a h a s s e e

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slide the bag through the sealer and it sucks all the air out of the bag and keeps it fresh for the rest of your life, just as fresh as the day you put it in. We’re thinking of using it on Great Uncle Fred. You can seal pork chops, chicken, steak, salad, soup, and even a pint of your dog’s blood should he ever need a transfusion. This would have been a handy thing to have when Uncle Skeeter cut off his toe with the weed whacker and we needed something to carry it in.

This is revolutionary. This will save us millions of dollars in wasted food. This, I have to have. I decide to order three—just in case they stop making them. “What are you doing?” my husband asks in an accusing tone as I’m reciting my credit card number to Susie who swears the Air Sucker 2000 changed her life. How does he do that? I have to yell for help four times when I superglue my foot into my new shoe (long story). It takes ten minutes for him to come to my aid when I get my hair caught in the drain (even longer story). We have a dead squirrel on the front porch for three days and he doesn’t even notice. Pick up the phone to try and place a tiny little credit card order and it’s like I blew a dog whistle.

I tell Susie to please hold, roll my eyes, and explain to my husband, while trying to be patient, that this is one of those necessary purchases. “You do NOT need that,” he says, gritting his teeth. He should really learn to handle stress more effectively.

“Yes. I do.” “Like you needed the battery operated Bug-Be-Gone for the pool?”

He can be quite sarcastic when he wants to be. “Hey, you said yourself that was good idea,” I point out. “We don’t have a pool!” he growls. I hang up the phone before Susie can call 911 to report domestic violence and follow my husband to the

kitchen where he’s standing with his arms crossed, wearing that look he gets when he’s about to win an argument. Uh-oh.

“Open that cabinet,” he barks. “Come on. Open it. And tell me what you see.”

I don’t appreciate his tone. “Let’s see,” I murmur. “There’s the green pepper spiraler...the vegetable blender with the pasta attachment...the six-speed juicer with the sleeve to hold the morning paper... oh, here’s that cute serving tray with the ceramic pigs in bikinis on pool floats... and the pasta colander that turns into a centerpiece...and I’m not really sure exactly what this thing is...” My voice trails off as I crawl deeper into the cabinet. “What’s that behind the silver-plated cake stand that sings happy birthday?” he asks while I drag out a dust-covered contraption and read the words on the side: Air Sucker 2000.

Suddenly it comes rushing back. It was November, two years ago. I still remember the day it came in the mail.

I was so excited. I was convinced that this revolutionary item would change my life. I never could figure out how it worked. It was missing three pieces, wouldn’t work on any speed but high, made an awful screeching noise, blew a fuse, and was wider than my counter top.

I wrapped one piece of chicken (which is still in my freezer, thank you very much) and decided it wasn’t worth the effort.

Okay, okay, so maybe my husband has a point. He’s still a little mad. It’s probably better that I don’t tell him there are three more Air Suckers in the basement.

About the author: Kelly Swanson is a humorist writer. Visit her website at kellyswanson.net.

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