Tallahassee Woman Magazine October-November 2018

COMPLIMENTARY

The Arts & Culture Issue Autumn Greetings!

Porch Décor

Teens and Social Media What All Parents Should Know

OC TOBER / NOVEMBER 2018

QUIA Z. MORRIS The Healing Hues of Art

Fall Fashion Fantasy

Special Section

Women Who Mean Business Journal

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contents tallahassee woman magazine

On the Cover

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The Arts & Culture Issue

The Healing Hues of Art

By Heather Thomas

About the Cover: Photography by Kira Derryberry | Makeup by Frelandre Knight | Hair by Miranda Jones with Chelsea Salon and Spa | Duster and jewelry provided by Narcissus

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Our Thoughts

Fall, Art and the Suspension of Disbelief

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Trending

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Food

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Living Local

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Funny Girl

Trending and Timeless Tassels | Five Thanksgiving Day Myths | Five Must-Read Fantasy Books for Fall

Women We Admire: Lorraine Huggins—All Things Grow With Love Organizations: Ability1st—The Center for Independent Living of North Florida Around Town: Hearth & Soul Celebration of Tallahassee Women | Theatre Tallahassee Awards and Volunteer Appreciation Ceremony Haute Happenings: Highlights of local events not to miss!

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Style

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Wellness

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Fashion: Fall Fashion Fantasy—Kimonos Home: Color It Fall! Pretty Pumpkin Porches

Healthy Living: Turning Down the Noise | Why Breast Cancer Awareness Is Important All Year Long

Family

Why Can’t I Survive a Week of Meal Planning?

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Trends

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In the Know

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Life: CD9 Pal… Decoding Life Online

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The Dish: Pecan Perfection: A Fall and Thanksgiving Essential

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Business & Entrepreneurism: Fighting Irrelevance: Professional Certifications Business Lifestyle: Authentic Leadership: Finding True North | Simple Tips for Trainers

Feature

Virginia Glass: Faith, Community and Leadership

Working Women to Watch

Highlights of Tallahassee’s Business and Professional Women

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contributors OUR

WRITERS

Dana Crosby is a Trainer for the University of Florida and works in Tallahassee and with local government agencies throughout the state. She has a background in adult education and holds a master’s degree in education.

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PUBLISHER Michelle Mitcham PUBLISHING CONSULTANT Kim Rosier

Deborah deSilets, Florida Artist, Architect and Author is preparing her latest book, Florida's Dixie Highway where she will feature the State Historic Marker made for the Gilbert S. Chandler Sr. Tourist Camp in Tallahassee.

Jennifer Elmore is a wife of 12 years and mother of two children.

With significant experience serving in state government, she is dedicated to creating a healthier Florida for individuals of all ages through strategic program design, collaborative teamwork, and community organizing. Jennifer holds an M.A. in Human Services from Southeastern University and a B.S. in Marketing from UCF. Meredith Bowen Hunter is a communications consultant specializing in strategy, messaging and branding. She's a wife, mother, and a Gen Xer admittedly enamored with the efficiency of texting and intrigued by the power of social media.

Annette Hannon Lee was director of Media Relations at Florida State University for 10 years before leaving in 1995 to serve three state universities in Georgia as director of University Relations. She retired in 2007 from the University of North Georgia in Dahlonega and returned to Tallahassee to be near her two daughters, four granddaughters and two sisters.

Michelle Nickens is a vice president at the Institute for Intergovernmental Research, a graduate of Leadership Tallahassee and Leadership Florida and a local actor, blogger and author of the novel Precious Little Secrets.

EDITOR Heather Thomas ADVERTISING SALES Jennifer Stinson, Ad Sales Manager Michelle Royster Hart, Ad Sales Associate GRAPHIC DESIGN Christy Jennings INTERNS Stephanie Jimenez | Emily Monnier Jennifer Santana

Tallahassee Woman is a publication of Mitcham Media Group LLC Post Office Box 16616 Tallahassee, FL 32317-3401 Phone (850) 893-9624 Fax (850) 254­-7038 info@TalWoman.com Tallahassee Woman is published six times per year and is distributed on a complimentary basis throughout Tallahassee and the surrounding communities.

The information in this publication is presented in good faith. The publisher does not guarantee accuracy or assume responsibility for errors or omissions.

PHOTOGRAPHERS Lydia Bell, owner of elleBelle Photography, is a member of COCA, PPA, Tallahassee Professional Photographers Guild, FPP, PPA Charities, NPPA, NAPCP, ASMP, APA Atlanta Chapter, IFPO and Fotolanthropy. She has been commissioned by many local and national publications, organizations, businesses and events. You can find an online portfolio of Lydia’s work at ellebelle.pics.

Kira Derryberry is a Tallahassee-based portrait photographer specializing in families, headshots and boudoir and commercial photography. She books locally in Tallahassee and is available for travel worldwide. View Kira’s portfolio online at kiraderryberry.com.

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Our

thoughts Fall, Art and the Suspension of Disbelief

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nyone who knows me well understands that I’m a bit of a fantasy and sci-fi fiction nerd. OK, so maybe that might be an understatement seeing that I have a framed, autographed Game of Thrones ‘work of art’ hanging in my home, along with a picture of the Star Trek Enterprise. These fictional genres require one main thing to truly enjoy them, and it’s a literary term that harkens back to my high school English teaching days. This ‘magical’ ability is called suspension of disbelief. The Webster dictionary defines this as, “to allow oneself to believe that something is true even though it seems impossible.” As in, “unless I can see it, or know that it’s real, it’s hard to believe in it, or enjoy it.”

What does this have to do with fall and art, and our theme for this issue—Fall Fantasy?

Well, another way to define this suspension of disbelief could be magic. But I mean real magic, like when you pause in the endless hustle of your day to pick up a golden leaf that has fallen from a tree and marvel at the wonder of such an occurrence. For me, there’s something about fall that opens the doorway to a secret world that allows us to see ordinary events as something more extraordinary. Whether it’s the changing leaves, the cool autumn air, dressing up for Halloween, or gathering around a table with family and friends—you get a glimpse; a shimmer of the otherworldly that your soul recognizes as truth—that this is what it means to truly feel alive.

This is also how many would describe the timeless appeal of the arts—whether it’s visual art, music, books, theatre, dance and everything in-between—art allows us to suspend ourselves in the moment in which we think, wonder, exult, or simply enjoy the experiences of what it means to be human, and to use our imaginations to envision and create a deeper understanding of the common threads that connect us all.

In this issue you’ll find a blend of fall and art, along with our Women Who Mean Business supplement. Many of the articles showcase women and topics that encourage us to believe in what we cannot see, yet they remain the most enduring powers on earth—faith, hope and love.

I think we could all use a little more suspension of disbelief in our lives. And, the more we can press the pause button, the better we can check in to the power and beauty of the present moment. For me, there’s nothing more magical, or fantastical than that.

Wishing you a fantasy-filled fall—

Heather Thomas, Editor

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TRENDS

TRENDING AND TIMELESS TASSELS

By Emily Monnier

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t seems like everywhere we look this fall, we are seeing tassels adorning articles of clothing, accessories and home décor. The love of tassels could be attributed to the ease of being able to add a small, tasseled accessory to an outfit or a home space to give it definitive style with a modern approach. However, there is quite a history behind this classic look that may also help to explain its timeless appeal.

You may have early memories of these small embellishments hanging on your grandmother’s curtains or throw pillows, and you can credit that to the French. Tassels have a rich and extensive history dating back almost two thousand years, but the French were the first to give the decoration its sought-after and desired status. Around the 16th century, passementerie, which is the art of creating trimmings of cords, threads, braids and more for decoration, was established. Tassels required years of apprenticeship, hard work and dedication to make. Because of this, they became a symbol of wealth and class, which led to their popularity. Even today, tassels adorn graduation caps and church robes to show superiority and rank. They are a small detail that can cause us to feel stylish, intelligent and empowered.

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TRENDS || knowledge

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Thanksgiving Day Myths

By Stephanie Jimenez

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hen one thinks of the history of Thanksgiving, what comes to mind are probably turkeys, pumpkins, Pilgrims and American Indians in harmony and tall black hats.

However, the actual history behind Thanksgiving is not what we have all believed. Here are some facts to dispel common Thanksgiving myths.

1. “The settlers at the first Thanksgiving were called Pilgrims.”

They did not even refer to themselves as Pilgrims. They called themselves “saints” or “old comers.” It wasn’t until 1820 at a celebration of the colony’s founding that the term “Pilgrim” came into play.

2. “They wore black clothing with large hats.”

The Pilgrims did not wear tall hats with buckles on them, pointy shoes or black clothing. The 19th-century artists portrayed them this way so that people would associate black clothing with being old-fashioned.

Additionally, the buckles on the hats were drawn to make them seem quaint.

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hen people think of fall, they often think of it as the coziest time of the year. These five fantasy books are perfect for those days when you’re looking to curl up by a warm fire and get lost in a world of fantasy.

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by George R.R. Martin With its eighth and final season airing in early 2019, now is the perfect time to start reading this hit series. Set in a world riddled with knights, fighting and dragons, this series will keep you on your toes while you follow the characters

through their journeys and obstacles as they try to survive in a kingdom divided by war.

The Magicians by Lev Grossman Quentin Coldwater is stuck in his favorite childhood fantasy novels. He doesn’t feel fulfilled in his everyday life and routine, until one day he discovers a private college of magic that is kept secret from the rest of the world. This leads him to the discovery that Fillory, the magical world he read about as a child, is very real

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and is not as whimsical as he dreamed it would be. The Magicians will invoke lots of deep thinking as it reimagines our everyday world.

Blackfish City by Sam J. Miller After most of Earth was left damaged and uninhabitable by the climate wars, a technologically advanced floating city was built. The city thrives for a while but, like most places, quickly becomes filled with crime, poverty and disease.

When a foreign woman visits, she creates a group to resist the city’s ways. With themes like political corruption and human connection, this novel provides a new perspective on the world.

3. “Turkey was a main dish at the feast.”

The Pilgrims had deer as their main course, and it is not certain if they ate turkey at all. Even if they did, it was more likely to have been a side dish.

4. “The celebration was held in November.” The first Thanksgiving was actually held between late September and mid-October. By November, the Pilgrims were busy preparing for winter.

5. “Thanksgiving has been an annual

celebration since the first feast in 1621.”

In truth, the Pilgrims had not had a successful harvest and were probably more focused on staying alive than beginning a new tradition. It was not until 1863, during the Civil War, that President Abraham Lincoln decided to devote the last Thursday of November to give thanks and unite the country.

The Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern When a circus mysteriously appears one day, it confuses everyone. The people are enthralled by the circus, but they don’t really know what happens behind closed doors. Two magicians are unknowingly using the circus as a stage while they compete until only one of them is left standing. This novel is full of suspense, mystery and love and will leave you in anticipation for what comes next.

Furyborn by Claire Legrand Rielle Dardenne has the powers of a prophesied queen. She must fight for her life to prove herself as the Sun Queen or else she’ll be put to death. A thousand years later, a bounty hunter named Elena discovers the true evil that lies beneath the Undying Empire. Though centuries separate these women’s lives, their stories cross as they both fight in a war to save the fate of their world.

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LIVING

LOCAL Women We Admire LORRAINE HUGGINS All Things Grow With Love

By Deborah DeSilets

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ecently Lorraine Huggins, now 95, presented me with a gift from her past that contained my memories. It was a newspaper clipping of the LeMoyne BFA exhibition of artist Melinda Trucks, whose studio was next to mine above Huggins Business Machines at 111 West College Avenue, so many years ago. How did Lorraine and I come to meet again after 25 years? Well, it was kismet; but first about Lorraine. . .

Lorraine’s first days in Tallahassee were spent along College Avenue in a college dorm. In the early 1940s, Lorraine came up from Delray Beach, Florida, to attend Florida State College for Women to obtain a degree in business while working as a secretary. She met her husband-to-be, Cauly, at a church party, and after three months of marriage, she kissed her new husband good-bye—WWII was calling all men to war. Alone on College Avenue in their apartment home for two years, she learned how to do everything on her own. Nights were spent writing letters and days were spent waiting for news that arrived by air mail after being censored while the two newlyweds awaited their next meeting.

After coming home, Cauly began working with business machines, and in 1960, he and Lorraine started their own business at 111 West College Avenue. Later they bought the building, which had two adjoining businesses and upstairs offices for rent. Cauly and Lorraine lived their early life together on College Avenue. Then, as their family grew, they built their home on the outskirts of

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town on Idlewild Drive off the Old Perry Highway (Hwy 27).

By the middle 1980s, Cauly and Lorraine had retired and sold the building. But through the years, they had rented the upstairs rooms of their building to various artists (such as myself )— supporting the local art scene. We artists worked oblivious to the business machine business below, yet we all knew it was a very special place. The small gift now in my hand rushed into my heart all those memories.

There is a banana tree that blooms on Huggins Hill outside the window where Cauly and Lorraine, married 72 years, dreamt. Many years later, in the shade of that tree, her life has grown around her and Cauly has passed. She now witnesses its beauty alone in the light of morning as the morning sun rays paint the room in the ever-changing light. On Huggins Hill the flowers grow and the bees buzz and the honey is sweet—it is a place where wisteria perfumes the humidity and azaleas bloom colorfully and the blackberries hang in blushed deep hues. Paints come from Lorraine’s hand and capture these scenes, as well as others gleaned from books— scenes she will never visit except in paint and her dreams. Yet Lorraine travels with her mind through all states of the divine as she watches each passing day. The love she has nurtured around her is a spring and fountain of giving. Lorraine’s T-shirt, gifted to her, says it best: “I Googled the symptoms: turned out I JUST NEED TO PAINT.”

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After retirement, Lorraine began her second career as an artist. On Huggins Hill, an 18-acre home site for her and her family, she has received all the things in life she had prayed for: a good life, four wonderful children, a lifetime of devotion and painting. Here, the early “portraits”— which she calls paintings done on a quest to see and witness the love she saw on the faces of strangers—are displayed in each home. Now in 2018, Lorraine had presented me with a joint piece of our most precious memory: my artist days on College Avenue and her new creations at Huggins Hill which has spanned 28+ years.

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LIVING LOCAL || organizations

The Center for Independent Living of North Florida

By Jennifer Santana

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n a world where mental health is becoming a larger topic of conversation—as the general public gains insights into the lives of those living with these invisible disabilities—there is still a lot about mental illness that is unknown to those that remain unaffected by it.

Although these disabilities are often unseen and can go undiagnosed in many, that doesn’t erase the difficulties that these individuals face as a result of their mental health.

Working to overcome the stigma around mental illness and aid individuals living with disabilities, Ability1st is an organization that focuses on providing those with disabilities with the resources necessary to become fully independent. Ability1st also offers preferential employment in its organization to those with disabilities—about half of its staff is made up of individuals that live with some kind of disability.

Though Ability1st is known primarily for its outreach and support of the disability community in North Florida, as well as its efforts to make North Florida more

accessible to those living with disabilities, there is also a significant portion of Ability1st that deals with the treatment of mental health.

“We coordinate with other local agencies to provide care and services,” said Pamela Sykes, the Mental Health Outreach Coordinator at Ability1st.

“The primary purpose is to connect individuals living with mental illness and/or substance abuse with needed mental health and substance abuse treatment, housing programs and other community resources.”

Around three years ago, Pamela received a call from an agency and was asked to meet with Mary Brooks, a possible consumer who could benefit from Ability1st’s mental health programs. During this time, Mary had just transitioned from the Kearney Center and was living in Westgate transitional housing.

“She let me know early on that she would like to live in her own apartment—that was her goal,” Pamela shared about her initial meeting with Mary. “I worked with the Ability1st Housing Coordinators to get her a referral for housing. Mary and I went

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together to check out the apartment that she lives in now.”

With the aid of Pamela and the services of Ability1st, Mary was able to set a goal for herself and work to make it a reality—but it was just as important to Pamela and the team at Ability1st that Mary hold herself accountable to meet her goals. Although they do the best they can to help their consumers work towards their independence, it is still important to them that their consumers are able to maintain their independence on their own.

“At Ability1st, we work with consumers to set their goals, but they have to do the work to reach those goals,” said Pamela about her time helping Mary achieve her goals. “Working with Mary, my colleagues and I have done what we can to remove any barriers in her way, but she does what is necessary to take care of herself and maintain her independence.”

Pamela still maintains communication with Mary to this day, offering Mary support and a listening ear. Even after aiding Mary

in her search for independence and a home of her own, it is still important to Pamela and her team at Ability1st to keep in touch with their consumers and maintain a personal relationship with them.

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Not only was Mary encouraged and aided by Pamela, she was also inspired to return to her passion of art and painting. “What a blessing it’s been to have Pamela and Ability1st in my life,” Mary shared. “Pamela has been there for me during some of the most difficult times.”

Mary, who had taken art and design classes during her time in college, was unable to make art when she was living in transitional housing and had to leave that passion behind while she dealt with her mental health and living situation. Without a studio space or even so much as a desk to paint on, Mary was unable to continue pursuing her passion—until one day, after Mary was finally able to own her own apartment, she was gifted with a studio table from Pamela. With her new desk and the resources necessary to become independent, Mary started creating art again, even selling some of her pieces to local art galleries and donating her work for charitable fund-raising functions. “I’m forever grateful for Pamela and Ability1st. They changed my life.”

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Art & Soul Celebration— When in Rome

October 18, 2018 | The Carriage House at Goodwood Museum and Gardens From 5:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m., dress up in your best Rome-themed costume and immerse yourself in Italian culture at the 2018 Art & Soul Celebration. Dine on Italian food, enjoy live entertainment, participate in silent and live auctions and visit the open bar at this festive event. Donations provide support and funding for LeMoyne educational and community outreach programs. Visit lemoyne.org for additional information and tickets.

NorthTown Getdowns at Bannerman Crossings

Friday evenings before home FSU games 6668 Thomasville Road Music, food, drink, shopping and kids activities—fun for the whole family from 4:30 p.m. to 10 p.m. For details of an evening’s event, visit Facebook@bannermancrossings or online at bannermancrossings.com.

The Foundation for Leon County Schools 10th Annual Soiree October 4, 2018 The Goodwood Museum Carriage House

From 5:30 p.m. to 8 p.m., support a great cause that directly benefits Leon County Schools at the Foundation for Leon County Schools 10th Annual Soiree. Funds raised go towards classroom grants and other innovative programs not provided by tax dollars that enhance the lives of local teachers and students. Enjoy live musical entertainment

by Avis Berry, catering by Pink Jacket, beer provided by Tri-Eagle Sales, wine and a silent auction. For additional details and to purchase tickets, visit online at the website foundationforlcs.com.

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Cards for a Cure

October 6, 2018 | Donald L. Tucker Civic Center Every year, Tallahassee Memorial HealthCare Foundation hosts the annual Cards for a Cure to honor a member of the Tallahassee community who is courageous in a personal battle against cancer. This year’s honoree is Betsy Burgess, who has been fighting breast cancer while raising three young children since 2016.

Enjoy an evening filled with food, friends, entertainment and live and silent auctions. The event will take place from 7 p.m. to 11 p.m. Purchase your ticket online at tmh.org/giving/cards-for-a-cure.

Experience Asia 2018

October 6, 2018 Bloxham and Lewis Park, Downtown Tallahassee The 14th annual Experience Asia 2018 event will be held from 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Planned activities include Matsuriza from Disney, Kumu Kalina with Mau ‘Oli ‘Oli, and Sunrise Chorus from Chicago just to name a few of the featured performers. Two stages, demonstrations, dragon dancers, food and so many activities throughout the park for kids.

Admission is free. Additional information is available at the Asian Coalition of Tallahassee website: asiantlh.org.

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by Opening Nights Performing Arts October 8–9, 2018 Goodwood Museum and Gardens

Graeme James, a New Zealand singer and songwriter, is making his way to Tallahassee as he travels the globe to put on concerts with his loop pedal and a variety of instruments. With tickets ranging from $20 to $40, come and listen to James perform songs from his original album. To purchase tickets and for more information, visit online at openingnights.fsu.edu.

French Country Flea Market Fall Show October 12–13, 2018 6007 Veterans Memorial Drive

The French Country Flea Market is heaven for vintage-lovers. Some of the best vendors in the Southeast gather to showcase antique items,

hand-made jewelry and accessories, art, up-cycled furniture and much more. For more information, visit frenchcountryfleamarket.com.

Experience Tallahassee Festival October 13, 2018 | Cascades Park

The Experience Tallahassee event is the KCCI’s UniversityCommunity Connectivity Project and shines a spotlight on Tallahassee’s diversity and uniqueness.

From 4 p.m. to 10 p.m., students from local colleges and universities can gather to connect to our beautiful city and learn about everything it has to offer. This festival highlights various restaurants in town, nearby artists and art organizations and student facilities that help with student careers and provide networking opportunities.

Havana Pumpkin Festival October 13, 2018 Downtown Havana, Florida

The Havana Pumpkin Festival is the perfect event for celebrating the fall season! Enjoy the beautiful fall weather as you partake in the various activities offered by talented artists, such as pumpkin decorating, face painting, balloon decorating and more. Food will be provided and there will even be costume contests for children, adults and dogs. Visit havanaflorida.com/festivalsevents for additional information.

Almost, Maine

Through October 14, 2018 Theatre Tallahassee As the leaves fall and the weather gets cooler, now is the perfect time to go see a play. Almost, Maine will have you laughing, crying and falling in love with the characters. It isn’t your average rom-com. Visit theatretallahassee.org for information on tickets and show times.

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LIVING LOCAL || Haute Happenings Design Week Tallahassee October 14–20, 2018 | Domi Station

Whether you’re a beginner or an expert, all designers are welcome at Design Week Tallahassee. Get inspired and let your creative side shine with workshops, guest speakers and various other design-related activities. This week-long event is the perfect opportunity to meet other local artists in the Tallahassee area and to learn more about art and tech. To learn more, visit designweektallahassee.com.

Halloween Howl

October 19–20, 2018 | Tallahassee Museum From 6 p.m. to 10 p.m., take your family to the Tallahassee Museum’s annual Halloween Howl. This event brings lots of fun for everyone in the family and features a large selection of activities, such as carnival games, costume contests and the scary haunted trail. For more information, visit online at tallahasseemuseum.org.

The Curious Curators

October 20, 2018 | Opperman Music Hall The Florida State University (FSU) College of Music presents “The Curious Curators” starting at 7:30 p.m. at the Opperman Music Hall. Bharatanatyam dancer and FSU alumna Preeti Vinayak shares the stage with her daughter and disciple, Nethra Valli Shah, as they perform to hand-selected music from various composers. With no admission fee, everyone is welcome to come and enjoy rich cultural heritage presented through the medium of dance.

Moon Over Maclay 2018 October 21, 2018 Maclay Gardens State Park

Bring some blankets, folding chairs and your favorite snacks to the historic Maclay House for the Ninth Annual Moon Over Maclay Jazz Concert. Relax and enjoy live jazz music, or look at the scarecrows

made by local youth groups that are set up in the garden. For additional information regarding tickets and times, visit friendsofmaclaygardens.org.

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November 2–3, 2018 | Holy Mother of God Greek Orthodox Church Experience traditional Greek culture at the annual Greek Food Festival. Enjoy dancing, food and music from 10 a.m. to 10 p.m. on Friday and Saturday. For additional information, visit online at hmog.org/festival.

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November 4, 2018 | Cascades Park From 1 p.m. to 3 p.m., join Capital Health Plan at the beautiful Cascades Park and participate in the Alzheimer’s Project’s Forget Me Not Walk. This walk works to support a comfortable existence for those with dementia, as well as providing support and assistance to the caregivers. Visit online at firstgiving.com/ AlzheimersProject to register or donate.

22nd Annual Artisans in the Garden

November 12, 2018 Downtown Tallahassee

Bring the entire family to celebrate and honor those who have served our country.

Many activities are planned, including the parade which starts at 10:40 a.m.

For more information on all the events scheduled that day, visit veteventstally.org.

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Enjoy art in a beautiful garden setting at Tallahassee Nurseries at the Artisans in the Garden event from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. With various food trucks, live music and over 50 artists, this event will be fun for the entire family. Visit online at tallahasseenurseries.com for more information.

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The Healing Hues of Art

By Heather Thomas Photography by Kira Derryberry

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What does it mean to have an artistic spirit, and as women, are we all creators that have potential to bring life and hope to the world with our unique abilities? The answer is, “Yes!” says Quia Z. Morris, artist and owner of QZ Design Gallery. Quia believes that our lives are like a canvas, and when we tap into our unique gifts, we hold the paintbrush that is poised above our own life’s masterpiece. With each brush stroke, we can bring healing light and the colors of love to ourselves and those around us.

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ealing comes in many forms, and Quia Z. Morris first discovered the health-giving power of art at the age of 13, when her 9-year-old sister, Andrea, was diagnosed with brain cancer. “Sketching, playing the piano and listening to classical music were my way of processing the fear and the uncertainty that came from the unknown, and it brought me peace. It took a long time for me to realize that art was more than just an outlet—it was actually one of my gifts.”

It was also during this time that she caught a glimpse of how she believes everyone is born with specific talents.

“After a 23-hour surgery to remove the brain tumor, my sister ended up mostly paralyzed on the right side of her body.

Later, she lost the majority of her hearing in her left ear and had permanently damaged hair follicles due to the radiation treatment. Even with all of that, she was—and still is—the most positive person I have ever met in my life. I think about her when I go through hard times and it gives me strength and hope. She had to fight to survive, but she did it with such humor, faith and grace.” Calling her sister their family’s “miracle,” Andrea’s cancer eventually went into remission

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ON THE COVER and she regained usage of the right side of her body. “She has an incredible gift of seeing the joy in every situation and then passing along that joy to others.”

Becoming used to the varying shades that change can take was another gift that came from her sister’s cancer journey, along with having Marine military parents, whose postings took Quia and her two younger siblings (Keith and Andrea) to different corners of the world. After a 7-year military career, her mother retired from service, while her father’s postings continued to station them at places such as Norway and Morocco. Her parents were involved in the Christian ministry in Rabat, Morocco, but having a Bible was illegal for residents. Quia’s parents would hold Bible studies at their house, and Moroccans would attend by sneaking over in the cover of darkness. “My parents’ faith, dedication to our country and the love they had for all people was woven into the fabric of our lives, and our home was a rainbow house—diplomats, orphans, dignitaries…people of all races and backgrounds. It made a huge impact on how I view people and the world—it was a wonderful childhood.”

Eventually, Quia’s family settled in Virginia when she was in the tenth grade and her father retired. By that point, Quia had attended 11 different schools. Even with all of the changes, one thing remained constant—Quia knew she wanted to join the military when she was old enough to do so, even envisioning that her future children would have the life that she did growing up.

Before she became a senior in high school, she joined the Army Reserves, went through Basic Training in Fort Jackson, South Carolina, and while a senior in high school, received a fully paid, four-year Army ROTC scholarship to Florida A&M University (FAMU). During her second year at FAMU, she began to feel tremendous pain in her knees, and after several doctor visits and a final prognosis, it was determined that further knee strain from ROTC training/ running would cause permanent damage and future surgery. It was a devastating blow.

She elected to be medically discharged and

“... God took the gift he gave me and breathed new life into it and into me. Instead of seeing darkness around me, I started to see God’s beauty and grace in every piece that I created. The countless hours I spent pouring paint onto canvas changed my life.” had to forgo her military dreams and find a way to pay for college, since she no longer had a scholarship.

After hard work and re-envisioning her future, Quia graduated from FAMU in 2003, with a degree in healthcare management. She also graduated as a married woman pregnant with her oldest child, James. After college, Quia and her husband decided to go into real estate investment. As they purchased and managed a growing number of properties over the next several years, life was moving along at a successful speed, and they welcomed their daughter, Camryn, into their family, never knowing that the Great Recession would soon change their lives and their livelihoods, as it did for many during that time. “I think I can trace things back to then, when life became an ongoing struggle.” Eventually, over the years, those challenges led Quia and her husband to separate and later divorce amicably. “We remain great friends and our continued, intentional positivity has trickled down to our children. It is an ongoing, mutual effort to raise happy kids in two different households, and we embrace that as our most important priority.”

During the period before and after her divorce, Quia’s artistic ability manifested itself in a transformative way. “Art had always been a mental escape for me, but

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I did not realize the healing power of it until my marriage of 13 years ended. I was devastated and felt like there was a dark cloud of guilt and failure hanging over me. I put on a happy face for my children because I’m still ‘mom,’ but the sense of loss in my heart was heavy and unbearable. At that point, art ceased to become a hobby—it became a lifeline.

God took the gift he gave me and breathed new life into it and into me.

Instead of seeing darkness around me, I started to see God’s beauty and grace in every piece that I created. The countless hours I spent pouring paint onto canvas changed my life.”

This new vision for her life included taking a leap of faith by selling her artwork and starting her own business— QZ Design Gallery. She also teaches art classes and sees the therapeutic power of a creative pursuit. “We should all pursue something that builds up the individual and encourages the community to discover the uniqueness of its members.

Being an artist is a gift in itself. It is quite thrilling to be entrusted with a gift that promotes creativity in others.”

Even though painting on canvas is Quia’s talent, she believes that we are all put on this earth to create. “Talent and

creating something new don’t have to be tangible—some of the most valuable talents are things you can’t see.”

Ultimately, the challenge is to share that talent with the world, when doing so can often cause fear and a sense of vulnerability. Quia understands but says, “Being an artist and being vulnerable are synonymous with one another, but don’t mistake vulnerability for weakness.

When you create something—whether you are a teacher creating a curriculum, a chef creating a menu or a business owner building your dream—it brings out the truest part of you and can teach you to dig deep and persevere in ways you never thought possible. This is the definition of being strong, brave and bold.”

These words can also illustrate Quia’s contemporary and abstract style of art, with its vibrant colors, mixed media and the combination of resin and pieces of glasswork on canvas—she is not afraid to experiment with different textures and mediums. Her art is also a mirror to where and who she was— the kaleidoscope of changing hues intertwined with the broken places now healed—along with colorful strokes depicting the beauty of her

journey towards the person she wants to be.

Quia’s dream is to one day be a full-time artist and to own a creative space that can be a home to other hardworking artists to perfect their talents. “When I look at one of my paintings, I’m reminded that there are no other paintings like it in the world, just like a human being. What would be more awesome than being surrounded by others walking in the uniqueness of their God-given talents? Whether it’s inspired by the emotional response to something you created, or you help someone in their own artistic pursuit—success as an artist, and as a creator, is when you are playing a pivotal role in bringing out the good of another.” Thereby the healer becomes the healed—one shared brush stroke at a time.

Quia’s artwork will be featured at a free art show on December 5, 2018, at The Moon.

The show is called “Collective Soul”—an artistic collaboration with local artists Kollet Probst and Jim Russell. For more information about the event and Quia’s art, visit qzdesigngallery.com.

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ith new and innovative technologies emerging every day and being integrated into the workplace, it has become more of an emerging trend for adults to seek out professional certification programs in order to keep up with their evolving industries. Ensuring that they stay competitive and in the know about the latest technologies, it is not uncommon for adults to continue to seek education in their field—even long after they have completed their college degrees.

Although professional certifications are a more recent trend in the modern workplace—emerging to fill new positions and necessities that have developed as little as five years ago—it has become increasingly crucial to employers that their employees keep up with the changes in their industries in order to fill more specific positions. Whether it is classes in programming, coding or even just managerial and leadership courses, completing professional certifications has become an invaluable asset in the modern workplace. Even professionals that aren’t directly working in techrelated industries have to at least have a

fundamental knowledge of the language and intricacies of these new technologies, as it is not uncommon for employers to start incorporating new technology into the workplace.

To keep up with this recent trend, universities and colleges around the country have started offering professional certification programs to working adults in a wide range of areas, providing them with the resources necessary to stay relevant and competitive as their industries continue to evolve and grow. Varying in pace and flexibility, these programs have been designed specifically with the schedules of working professional in mind, and can be completed as quickly or as slowly as individuals choose to pace themselves.

Locally, Florida State University offers several different graduate certificate programs that are open to degree-seeking and non-degree-seeking students alike and cover a wide range of concentrations— from Event Management to SAS Programming and Data Analysis.

Tallahassee Community College (TCC) also offers a wide range of certifications,

with dozens of these programs centered on vital technological and programming skills. TCC also offers several vocational certification programs that can be applied to professional fields, from courses in air conditioning, refrigeration, and heating technologies to certifications in help desk/ technical support.

No matter the industry, it has become commonplace over the last five years to see working professionals return to school to complete additional certifications in an attempt to fight irrelevancy and keep up with new emerging techniques and technologies. In a competitive and ever-evolving workplace, employers have started to value individuals with these additional certifications under their belt as an asset to their companies. Professionals that complete certifications are even eligible to have higher earning potential than those without certifications. Even years after graduation, it might be worth the additional investment for adult students to head back to college for a few classes, giving them an edge over their competition and opening the door to additional career opportunities.

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Authentic Leadership

Finding True North

By Jennifer Elmore

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rovocative studies are emerging on the topic of Authentic Leadership, which has gained much recent interest. It’s not difficult to understand why Authentic Leadership, as a concept, would evoke the attention of researchers, leaders or anyone for that matter. The world is rapidly changing. Division, negativity and

uncertainty seem to multiply around us.

In the current (global, corporate, political, economic, insert your situation here) climate, many Americans are searching for trustworthy and transparent leaders who exhibit more than just influence and charisma. There’s a longing for genuine leaders who exemplify moral character,

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admirable values and ethical means— leaders who are authentic.

Academically Authentic

As a theory of leadership, Authentic Leadership is still in the formative stages of research. It is based on positive perspectives in social sciences, including positive

psychology and psychological theories of self-regulation. Attempts to build evidence-based models or isolate a single definition of Authentic Leadership have proven difficult. More research is needed to explain specific organizational outcomes, and new information will likely cause the academic characteristics of Authentic Leadership Theory to evolve. That said, scholars have been able to empirically identify certain aspects of Authentic Leadership. These aspects provide leaders with opportunities for application.

Practically Authentic

A person is not born with some sort of “secret sauce” that predisposes him or her to becoming an authentic leader. Practical steps have been suggested for developing, over time, an authentic leadership style.

Here’s how to get started.

Reflect on internal beliefs, goals, preferences, emotions, abilities and weaknesses. To be authentic, a person must have self-awareness and be accepting of themselves as an individual. It is important to think about past experiences and assign meaning, steeped in optimism and resilience, to each of the experiences.

Originality and personal history form the basis for authenticity.

Habitually demonstrate purpose, passion, self-discipline, connectedness and compassion. Authentic leaders align their behavior with bold vision and positive moral standards. Their actions are guided by an internal compass and are not influenced by negative external pressures or expectations. Authentic leaders are clear, strong, reliable and consistent.

Exhibit relational transparency, preferring honest and open communication and accountability.

It’s not enough to transcend selfawareness, determine an end-game and then dogmatically trample anyone who gets in the way. Authentic leaders are open to reality checks from their team.

They process decisions in a balanced and objective manner, analyzing all options and seeking wisdom from multiple viewpoints.

Positive Progress

Effective authentic leadership has been shown to have encouraging effects on team members, groups and even the leaders themselves! Authentic leaders may experience more positive emotions and improved well-being. Workers are more apt to thrive as staff creativity, attitudes, performance, job satisfaction and organizational commitment may increase. As leaders foster a workplace culture that is stable, unbiased and affirmative, it is generally believed that organizational learning, engagement and communication will flourish.

Even if the theory of Authentic Leadership is still relatively untested, the rewards may warrant a leap of faith. It’s easy to fret or complain about the present state of affairs.

It’s easy to look at many of the leaders around us and, perhaps even rightfully, question their motives. Running parallel to perceived or real strife, there may also be an individual in our lives who appears to operate a little differently: someone people gravitate towards because of the light and energy they seem to exude; someone who inspires others to work hard, try again and never give up; someone who admits they are not perfect. Someone who is real— someone authentic.

It is with these role models in mind that I am encouraged (and I hope to encourage others) to commit to honoring authenticity.

Let’s approach life from a perspective of abundance, with anticipation and hope for a good future. Let’s resourcefully adjust to setbacks. Let’s facilitate fair conflict resolution. Let’s credibly oppose unethical practices. If more research is needed on Authentic Leadership Theory, let’s be part of an expanding study base. Together, we can provide a wealth of data that will allow our academic friends to put forth a definition of Authentic Leadership and publish key theoretical findings.

Hopefully, we’ll be able to relate personally to their newly discovered knowledge, because our purpose will already be defined and our True North will already be found.

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erhaps as a subject-matter expert you’ve been asked to give a class, facilitate a training or present information to your organization. Here are some simple do’s and don’ts to make it a great day for your adult learners.

Don’t go over time.

If you announce that your class will end at 4 p.m. or that your training will take about two hours, then your class should end at 4 p.m. and your training should be wrapped up within two hours. Adults

have busy schedules and typically have other obligations. Remember, their time is valuable! If you can’t present your content in the time publicized, either streamline the content or change the time allotted that you advertise. Since each class and audience is a bit different, I always pad the time. If it is an all-day class, don’t forget sufficient periods for lunch and breaks. Padding the time allotted is a win-win. If you get done early, the class is thrilled; if you get done on time, you have delivered as advertised.

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Do give breaks.

I recently attended a class that went for three hours without a break. That is just cruel. While the instructor invited us to use the restroom as needed, many adults feel it is rude to get up and leave the room while someone is speaking. If the class is for certification purposes, provides critical information or involves a test, many attendees don’t want to miss anything. In addition to the call of nature, folks need a break to stretch and refocus.

Don’t think it’s all about you.

Have you ever been in a class where the instructor seems determined to share his life story, try to impress the participants or, worse, share his non-course-related views and opinions?

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Now, getting a bit personal can be a good way to connect with your audience and establish a relationship.

I remember hearing a speaker discuss safety, and in the presentation, he showed a picture of his (adorable) baby to drive home how personal and critical safety is. This immediately put the speaker in a positive light and perked up everyone’s attentiveness.

Stories can be quite useful to a presenter.

Besides establishing authenticity, studies have shown that telling stories related to the content is a great instructional tool. They can encourage interest, evoke emotions and help folks connect to and retain the material. Just be sure that personal stories are content-significant, and don’t go overboard.

Also, be sure to keep your personal bio brief and pertinent to the training or skill sets being learned that are intended to give validity to the instructor and class/course.

Don’t forget participant introductions.

It’s all about your audience. If the class size allows for individual introductions, start the day off right and let the participants introduce themselves. This should be first, before you introduce yourself. Try to remember their names— everyone likes to be addressed by name.

Name cards are helpful to this end.

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VIRGINIA GLASS Faith, Community and Leadership

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uided by faith, Realtor Virginia Glass has lived her life, raised her children, succeeded in her career and

served the Tallahassee community in unparalleled ways.

After accumulating multiple recognitions, awards and other accolades for numerous achievements, Virginia credits God’s guidance for her direction, decisions and successes, culminating in a legacy of professional leadership and community stewardship.

One of six children raised on a farm in Mayo, Florida, Virginia grew up handling her fair share of chores, always involved with her church and assuming she would become a wife and mother and live happily ever after in a Christian household. And that was the way her young married life began in Tallahassee. But after 17 years of struggling in a union that appeared destined to never improve, she boldly initiated divorce proceedings after a brief relocation to South Florida. In 1978, she moved herself and her two daughters back to Tallahassee, where she had more family support.

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Selling real estate had never been her career goal. Supporting her family, she worked as a receptionist, administrative assistant, bookkeeper and then office manager for a large realty firm and, over 13 years, learned to take charge of closing sales, as well as all other aspects of real estate. As a single parent, Virginia appreciated the security of working

behind a desk with a steady paycheck.

Realtor-broker Jack Buford challenged her to go into sales, a job, he declared, “she was cut out for,” and she proved him right as she succeeded in home, land and commercial sales, as well as all aspects of real estate transactions. By 1981, she was running her own realty company.

Ten years later, because her young grandson was fighting a battle with leukemia, she went back into sales with another company headed by a friend from church, Millard Noblin, in order to assist her daughter and son-in-law with the challenges they faced with their son’s health crisis. Today, her grandson, Caleb Young, is a healthy grown man whom Virginia is especially proud of, and her faith remains unwavering. “When our

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challenges are bigger than we are,” she says, “God will take us through whatever fires we encounter.” Virginia is now a great-grandmother. Her daughter Dina Glass Moriarty and husband Shaughn live in Niceville, Florida. Their two sons are parents of five children. Daughter Michelle Glass Young and husband Duffy live in Tallahassee and have two sons, a daughter and two grandchildren.

Church committee work and additional volunteer service with several community organizations occupy much of her time and passion. Four decades ago, she took on a leadership role with the single adults ministry, Single Focus, at First Baptist Church, where she remains active as director. Virginia served as president of the Tallahassee Board of Realtors in 1994, was the Top Producing Agent for that citywide organization in 2003 and was named Realtor of the Year twice. In 2007, Virginia was in the first group of the Tallahassee Democrat’s “25 Women

You Need to Know.” For 15 years, she was the TOP Producer for Coldwell Banker Hartung and Noblin.

raising almost $40,000 for Second Harvest, making possible 160,000 meals for those less fortunate.

As a director of the board of the United Way of Big Bend, she currently chairs the Income Council, seeking ways to improve the lives of the less fortunate in a sevencounty region. She served as campaign chair in 2014, carrying out her leadership duties in a wheelchair, after breaking a femur and undergoing surgery. Her faith, as always, guided her through the challenge. “When we keep God in our lives, He is faithful,” she explains.

With more than 50 years of professional experience in real estate, Virginia has served 25 years on the Chamber of Commerce’s board of directors. The Chamber recently presented her with its Lifetime Leadership Award, an honor she especially cherishes at this time of her life, as she attempts to wind down some of her community involvement, as well as her work hours. Nobody who knows her, however, sees her really slowing down in any of her endeavors. She doesn’t mention “retirement,” but no matter the direction of her life, Virginia will continue to step out in faith, never doubting that there will be something solid to stand on, she firmly believes—or else she will be taught how to fly.

Since 1989, she has been an active member of the Tallahassee Memorial HealthCare Foundation board, having served as chair in 2005, and general chair of the TMH Gala for two years. For the past three years, Virginia has sponsored a fundraising seafood luncheon at the Woman’s Club, packing the large room with friends and business colleagues,

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WOMEN TO WATCH N E W S | A W A R D S | M I L E S T O N E S Carol Campbell Edwards has been elected as the President of the National Association of Social Workers-Florida Chapter. Carol is a licensed clinical social worker and Assistant Teaching Professor in the Florida State University (FSU) College of Social Work. At FSU, she serves as the faculty advisor for Power of We and chairs the College of Social Work Faculty Diversity Committee.

Carol was selected as a Professor of the Year in 2017. She recently published a film review of Resilience, in the Child and Adolescent Social Work Journal. In the Tallahassee community, she devoted over 25 years to child welfare practice and leadership.

Kelly Overstreet Johnson of Baker, Donelson, Bearman, Caldwell & Berkowitz, PC, was the recipient of the 2018 Martha Barnett Women Lawyers of Achievement Award. The award has been established to recognize and celebrate the accomplishments of women lawyers from Florida’s Second Judicial Circuit.

Each year, this award honors an outstanding woman lawyer who has achieved professional excellence and who has been an advocate or mentor for the advancement of other women lawyers.

Anna-Kay Hutchison recently transitioned to a new position with Children’s Home Society of Florida as the Community Partnership School Director at Sabal Palm Elementary, a Community Partnership School. In this new role, Anna-Kay will lead efforts to bring support and services to children and families at Sabal Palm Elementary and the surrounding community. Community Partnership Schools address students’ holistic needs, recognizing their unique challenges —and opportunities. Anna-Kay has more than 17 years of experience in the human services field.

Alberta Foerst recently opened a new business, Reflections Hair Studio and Spa, offering salon and spa services for both men and women. Located in the Capital Regional Medical Center area, services offered include haircuts and blow-dry, everyday and special-occasion styling, highlight and hair color, keratin treatments, perms, skincare, waxing and more. Openings are available for room rental for professional hairstylists, barbers, estheticians and massage therapists who desire setting their own schedule, being their own boss and keeping 100 percent of earnings.

Madison Setliff, owner of boutique Sparkle by Madison, recently received the Young Entrepreneur award presented by Governor Rick Scott. The award recognizes young adults who have illustrated a strong work ethic and determination to have a successful future. Madison’s inspiration for her business began with a high school graphic art project, when she designed a store logo for Sparkle by Madison. She then started selling items to her friends on Facebook and later launched home shopping. At just 16 years old, Madison opened her first storefront in Midtown. Over the past seven years, as the boutique grew, Madison relocated her store twice, yet still remains in the heart of Midtown Tallahassee.

Lisa Mergel has been named the 2018 America’s Retail Champion of the Year by the National Retail Federation.

Lisa is the owner of Kanvas Beauty, a day spa and boutique that was opened in 2007 and is located in Midtown Tallahassee. When she’s not running her business, Lisa is volunteering at local civic organizations and mentoring students from Florida State University who are interested in the retail merchandising field.

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Fashion

FALL FASHION FANTASY

Kimonos

By Michelle Hart and Heather Thomas

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here’s something about fall that evokes magic and whimsy, and there’s one style this season that best brings the fantasy to life—the kimono. It is a chameleon piece in a woman’s closet because it can change the look of any outfit. Kimonos come in all colors and styles, with many being diaphanous in nature, lending themselves to a fluidity appeal and creating a sense of flight and movement. Because of this and contrary to the “myth” that a kimono adds weight to a body, the very nature of its design does the opposite, and it can enhance and flatter any woman’s figure.

There’s an empty hanger in your closet just waiting for the right kimono to add a touch of magic and fantasy to your fall wardrobe.

Black Kimono/Dress from Narcissus Gold-Brown Kimono from Walter Green Boutique Necklaces from Narcissus Models: Dr. Asha Brewer (left) and Diane McCain (right).

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hat’s the perfect backdrop for welcoming fall, along with family and friends to your home? At this time of year, the best place to reflect and greet autumnal bounty is with a pumpkin-pretty front porch.

Along with pumpkins and gourds, container gardening using fall friendly plants, and strategically-placed autumn blooms, will help accentuate all of the colors and flavors of the season.

Plants used in containers: • Creeping Jenny • Diamond Frost • Firecracker Plant • Flamingo Feather • Florida Cherokee Daybreak • Ornamental Cabbage • Ornamental Peppers (two varieties)

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wellness healthy living

Turning Down the Noise “Whether you’re walking down a trail or in a spin class, you should still be able to have conservation without raising your voice. If you can’t, then the music is too loud and you’re damaging your hearing.”

—Michael Seidman, otolaryngology and a head and neck surgeon (2016 Florida Hospital)

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ecently, I was waiting to board a plane at the Tallahassee International Airport for a trip to California. After digging in my laptop bag for a few minutes, I realized I had left my ear phones at home. Feeling a bit disappointed, I glanced at the travelers around me. Most of them were on their phones, and most of them were wearing earbuds.

Who doesn’t enjoy a relaxing day, lying on the couch or hammock, listening to your favorite tunes? Or jogging to the beat of the latest top 40? It helps keep you moving and makes exercising fun.

And when on a plane for hours, listening to music or a movie can certainly make the flight more enjoyable.

young people affected by what seems like constant exposure to noise?

What I discovered might surprise you.

Hearing loss is frequently associated with aging, and many believe that young people don’t have to worry about that “yet.” On the contrary, hearing loss is a problem for all generations.

According to the Hearing Health Foundation, it is estimated that 48 million people live with hearing loss in the United States with two-thirds being under 65 years old. The World Health Organization reported that 1.1 billion teenagers and young adults are at risk for hearing loss, specifically because of damaging levels of noise.

In a June 2016 post, Florida Health reported that 1 in 5 teenagers have some form of hearing loss (30 percent more than in the 1980s and 1990s).

Many experts suggest that

As I stood at the gate, watching people absorbed in their personal worlds, I wondered—what impact do earbuds have on our hearing? And how are

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the use of earbuds or headphones have contributed to this increase. Dr. Michael Seidman (Florida Health) explains, “Listening through headphones and earbuds at high volumes and for extended periods of time can result in lasting hearing loss.” An article by Rebecca Huzzy, Au.D., in the Hearing Health Foundation magazine, states, “Since the prevailing cause of hearing loss in young people with typical hearing is noise exposure, we need to educate kids early.”

In the 2011-2012 National Health and Nutrition Survey, it was revealed that 53 percent of survey participants indicated they had no regular exposure to loud noises in their work environment; therefore, their hearing loss was caused by other factors—including listening to music through headphones with the volume turned up too high.

The study also revealed that 19 percent of participants were between 20 and 29 years old (The Washington Post, 2017).

So, how high is too high? And how long is too long?

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that one minute of hearing a 120-decibel siren,

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two hours of a 90-decibel leaf blower or 2 minutes of a 110-decibel rock concert can damage hearing. Earbuds can reach to 100– 120 decibels. At this volume for long periods of time, the inner ear can be damaged, leading to noise-induced hearing loss (NIHL). The CDC recommends listening at levels no higher than 85-decibels. Others suggest even less, using a 60/60 rule—60 decibels for no more than 60 minutes per day. If you listen longer, turn the volume down. Moderation is critical. If you cannot carry on a conversation or hear what is going on around you, your volume is probably too high.

The World Health Organization notes that 60 percent of childhood hearing loss is due to preventable causes. Damage due to noise exposure is preventable. It doesn’t matter whether you are caring for an infant or are a millennial, Gen X or a mature adult, it is never too late to safeguard your hearing.

According to Dr. Huzzy, NIHL can occur slowly and over time, like sun damage after years of exposure.

In addition to lowering the volume and limiting your time using earbuds, there are other steps you can take to protect your hearing. EarQ stresses the importance of wearing protective gear when around loud noises such as mowing the yard, working with machinery, celebrating with firecrackers or attending a concert. Give your ears a rest. Silence can be golden.

Additional suggestions for good ear health include not using cotton swabs, taking medications as directed, ensuring dry ears, managing stress, exercising, losing weight and obtaining regular hearing checkups. For parents, talk with your kids about hearing health and educate them on the importance of safe listening. Begin prevention early, explore available apps to control volume and research kid-friendly headphones.

Whether on the couch, around the track or waiting for a plane—by turning down the noise, you’ll be able to listen to what you love for life.

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wellness healthy living Why Breast Cancer Awareness Is Important All Year Long

By Stephanie Jimenez

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ctober marks Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and although this is a great time to put breast cancer in the spotlight, it is important to acknowledge the significance of the disease all year long.

Being knowledgeable about breast cancer can help to understand symptoms to look out for, to be aware of the latest statistics and developments, and also employ preventative measures so that action can be taken immediately.

mutations that are caused by aging.

Thus, it’s just as likely to happen to you as any other woman.

Breast cancer is a disease where cells in the breast grow out of control, creating a tumor, or lump, within the breast. It’s estimated that 1 out of 8 (12.4%) of U.S. women throughout their lifetime will develop breast cancer. Other than lung cancer, breast cancer has the highest fatality rates among U.S. women. Breast cancer is more common among African-American women than any other race or ethnicity. The risk of getting breast cancer doubles for women who have first-degree relatives that have had it. Many believe that breast cancer mainly occurs in women with family history of the disease, but about 85 percent of women who are diagnosed have no family history of breast cancer. This occurs due to genetic

All women need gain as much information through self-education— the more you know about it, the easier it will be to notice the symptoms and take action as soon as possible.

The earlier it is caught, the better your chances of prolonged health.

According to the American Cancer Society, women should begin having annual mammograms beginning at the age of 40 and continually get checked for any signs of breast cancer.

Regular self checks are important as well, and report to your doctor any changes. Be persistent in asking your doctor questions and getting checked if something doesn’t feel right. Avoid harming your body with tobacco (or any other drugs) and excessive amounts

of alcohol. Risk can also decrease by taking care of your body and living a healthy life. Exercise daily and eat nutrient-based foods. Although breast cancer cannot be fully prevented, it can be easier to treat if it is caught early on.

The treatment for breast cancer is continually improving and the survival rate is increasing, but early detection and preventative steps are vital— overall, get to know your body and your family history and maintain a healthy lifestyle. And no matter what happens, there are resources, support groups and medical professionals that want you to know that you are not alone—hope and help are abundant in the Tallahassee community.

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family life

CD9 PAL… DECODING LIFE ONLINE

By Meredith Hunter

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arenting has never been easy. Not only does raising children take the proverbial village, today’s parents must be cell phone-proficient, social media-savvy and textspeak sleuths…CD9 (parents around), PAL (parents are listening).

According to a study by Qualtrics + Accel, Millennials overwhelmingly prefer to communicate via text message, most sleep with their phones within reach, many check it if they wake briefly during the night and nearly two-thirds bring their phones with them to the bathroom.

Most of us don’t need studies to tell us Millennials and post-Millennials (also known as Gen Z) are obsessed with their cells. “My children’s phones are basically an extension of their arms,” shared Susan Johnson, Tallahassee mother of three.

“They’re on them constantly—from texting to social media to apps for school to check grades and homework.”

The majority of today’s teens are fluent in textspeak—a language that encompasses more than codes and cryptic acronyms.

Behold the emoji (digital image or icon used to express an emotion or idea), GIFs (Graphic Interchange Format—animated picture without sound) and memes (an image with a funny or witty caption) to keep things interesting. What’s the difference between a GIF and a meme?

A GIF is usually a looping animation. A meme can be anything from a still image to a GIF to simply a phrase or an idea that is spread from person to person, often taking on a life of its own.

Emojis, GIFs and memes can be innocent, entertaining additions to messaging, or

they can contain hidden, not so innocent meanings from sexual advances to drug symbols. Pay close attention to all elements of messaging your children send and receive. Those banana, cherry and peach emojis may mean Junior is thinking about more than a fruit salad. “If you’re confused or concerned with anything you see in your child’s posts or messaging, I strongly recommend speaking to your child’s school counselor,” advised Melissa Bakas, Licensed Clinical Social Worker and school guidance counselor for ten years. “Googling is OK but will likely lead to more fear and concern.” Melissa also said closely monitoring children’s accounts and asking lots of questions is critically important. “Children will not like it, but it’s what we as parents can do to best keep them safe.”

When not texting, Millennials and Gen Zs are likely online. Snapchat (a messaging app that allows users to send Snaps, mostly photos or video, that disappear after being viewed by the recipient), Instagram (a photo- and video-sharing social networking service owned by Facebook) and YouTube (a video sharing website) are currently the most popular online platforms among teens, according to a recent Pew Research Center study.

Kids today are mobile pioneers well aware of their dependence on technology. Their online lives are both spontaneous and carefully crafted. Parents must continually remind them that social media is not real life. It’s an illusion that can be fun and entertaining, but it also can create false expectations, contribute to depression and

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low self-esteem and remove them from the joy of being in the moment when they’re more concerned with posting it than experiencing it.

“We have no idea what’s happening in someone’s life on the other end of the screen. The problem with social media is it robs our teens of empathy and compassion they would more likely have in a face-to-face communication versus hiding behind the taps and scrolls of the smartphone,” warned Lisa Buyer, instructor of social media management at the University of Florida.

What’s a parent to do? Be aware of and have accounts on the same platforms your children favor and make sure you have their Apple ID and password, phone password, e-mail password and passwords to all digital devices/computers. Also, make sure you follow their fake accounts.

That’s right—fake accounts. The most popular is the finsta (fake Instagram).

Why would someone want a rinsta (real Instagram) and a finsta? Besides the numerous unacceptable reasons, the popular rationale is that a rinsta is the public persona and a finsta is more authentic and unfiltered.

Fake accounts highlight the deeper, more serious issue of helping children understand that social media is not real life, nor is it authentic or unfiltered. Real life interactions add immense value and meaning unlike anything found online.

Parents need to be plugged in to monitor their children yet also need to guide them to unplug. A little digital detox is good for us all.

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Pecan Perfection A Fall and Thanksgiving Essential

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s one of the most wellknown and loved tree nuts of the South, Pecans have become a symbol, and some might say a necessity, for fall. Their usage can be dated back to the Native American tribes in the United States and Mexico who favored them and collected them as a major food source during this season because they were always available.

The name “pecan” roots from a Native American word that means “all nuts that require a stone to crack.” Over time, they have remained popular due to their sweet taste and their ability to go with just about anything. From pecan shortbread to pecan cheesecake, the possibilities with pecans are endless! Here’s a simple Pecan Pie recipe that is perfect for Thanksgiving Day, or even if you’re just craving something sweet.

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Why Can’t I Survive a Week of Meal Planning? by Lisa A. Beach

o make life easier, some people follow the once-a-month meal planning and cooking approach, where you basically buy, prepare and cook a month’s worth of meals in one day and then freeze them until you need them—I am not one of those people.

in hell for trying to conceal chopped kale.

After much cajoling and a few spoonfuls later, my finicky teens push their halfempty bowls away and claim they’re both “full” as they grab a couple more slices of bread and bolt upstairs. Day One: Fail.

make me feel better, Parker and Trevor both remark how delicious the soup is and encourage me to “make this more often.” Yeah, I’ll hold on tight to that Campbell family recipe. Dear God, why do I even try?

I like the idea of stockpiling 30 days of ready-to-heat dinners in my freezer like an end-of-the-world underground bunker. But that would require way more planning than I’m capable of—and a Costco-size freezer. Besides, even my best-laid plans usually fall apart with my family’s hectic schedule. Top that off with the typical craziness of the meal-prep witching hour and you can understand why I shy away from once-amonth cooking.

Tasty Tuesday

Tonight, I tempt taste buds with gourmet cuisine, taking my cue straight from the Barefoot Contessa herself. I channel my inner Ina Garten as I whip together an elegant meal of chicken with Asiago cheese and basil, oven-roasted dill carrots and penne pasta with roasted red peppers, garlic and sun-dried tomatoes. It’s piping hot and ready to serve—until family plans go awry. My husband Kevin needs to work late; my older son, Trevor, has to help with a group project at school; and my younger son, Parker, has his soccer practice rescheduled. After two hours of keeping dinner warm, my epicurean entrée and sumptuous side dishes meld into charred chow. I’m 0-2.

Free-for-All Friday

But I figured I could handle seven days of meal planning. So I buckled down one Sunday afternoon to tackle the weekly chow plan. I knew that weeknights would run smoother when I planned what to make for dinner and stocked my kitchen with all the necessary ingredients. Sounds simple enough. But the reality of meal planning took a turn for the worse midweek, as my carefully crafted meal plan morphed into a meal ban, one dreadful dinner at a time.

Here’s how it all went down.

Meatless Monday

I make a no-fail Vegetable Soup for Veggie-Haters, falsely believing that my take-no-prisoners recipe will convert my meat-loving-men to healthier eating at least once a week. My carnivore clan (less than thrilled with the lack of a dead animal in their entrée) immediately start dissecting their soup. My husband stealthily pushes all the carrots to one side, hoping no one notices. In between looks of disgust, the boys pick out the onions, while asking, “Ew! What’s that green stuff floating next to the potato?” I lie and call it parsley, knowing I will burn

Win-Them-Back Wednesday

I attempt to appease everyone’s picky palate with a family favorite: a crockpot full of chili. I toss a couple pounds of beef in the slow-cooker, add some chopped onions, herbs and diced tomatoes and we’re good to go—perfect for our super busy day ahead. Eight harried hours later, we walk through the door, anticipating the spicy aroma of chili to welcome us home.

Strangely, we smell nothing. I head to the kitchen and see the cord dangling next to the crockpot like a lifeless snake—I forgot to plug it in before we all left today. The opposite of last night’s overcooked dinner, tonight’s meal sits raw and bloody in my cold crockpot, practically mooing when I crack open the lid.

Thankless Thursday

After three failed attempts, I’m cursing the meal plan and popping open cans of soup, wondering if anyone will even notice it’s not homemade. Trying to

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With everyone on a different schedule tonight, I ditch the idea of a homecooked meal together... Trevor eats at the mall food court with his friend before they see a movie. Parker eats a PB&J in the car on the way to his soccer game, while I grab a cheese stick and pop a few pretzels in my mouth as I drive him there.

Kevin (if he remembers to bring cash) hopes to eat a concession-stand hot dog at halftime. My meal plan is dying a slow and painful death.

Suck-It Saturday

By the weekend, the boys are fighting, Kevin’s cursing his way through a plumbing project and I’m crying into my cookbook as I throw frozen fish sticks at the kids and run for the front door, pretending not to hear their pleas for “just one more chance.”

Sanity-Saving Sunday

Tonight, I’m dining alone with a glass of wine and my head buried in a copy of Erma Bombeck’s Aunt Erma’s Cope Book, reminding myself that I cannot divorce my family or just opt out of dinner for the rest of my life. I eye-up the stack of menus on the counter and realize it's time we start supporting the small businesses in our community. I pick up the phone to make a call and hear the words that bring joy to my ban-the-meal-plan heart: “China Wok, may I help you?”

About the author: Lisa Beach is a freelance journalist and copywriter. Her work has been published in The New York Times, Good Housekeeping, USA Today Back to School, Parents, Edible Orlando, and more.

View her writer’s website at LisaBeachWrites.com.

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