Tallahassee Woman Magazine February - March 2022

FEBRUARY / MARCH 2022

Ashley Mitchell-Buckman Gina Giacomo Dr. Chanta Haywood Gloria Allison Dr. Maxine Montgomery

Rekindling Relationships | Applying to College | Double Standards | Preparing for Tax Season

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HONORING OUR DONORS

Over $115,000 raised to support patients fighting breast cancer FIRST COMMERCE CREDIT UNION First Commerce Credit Union has been the driving force behind the #PinkPower #FlamingoChallenge for two years, raising over $115,000 to support the Walker Breast Program at Tallahassee Memorial HealthCare (TMH).

The Challenge is a fun, annual event that raises significant funding to support local patients fighting breast cancer. First Commerce and the TMH Foundation spearhead the Challenge by delivering dozens of pink flamingos to individuals, businesses and organizations and encouraging participants to fundraise during Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

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PRESIDENT AND CHIEF ADVANCEMENT OFFICER TMH FOUNDATION

The funds provide PET scans, MRIs or mammograms for patients who do not have health insurance and hotel stays and transportation for patients who must travel for treatment. Most importantly, generous community support helps TMH provide the most advanced technology available for cancer care.

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CONTENTS

10. LETTER FROM PUBLISHER 12. LETTER FROM GUEST EDITOR

CULTURE & CUISINE

14. 4 WAYS TO ELEVATE YOUR MAKEUP LOOK IN 2022 16. ST. FRANCIS STREET BUNGALOW IS A LINK TO TALLAHASSEE’S BEGINNINGS 18. BLACK HISTORY & WOMEN'S HISTORY MONTH

LIVING LOCAL

20. HAUTE HAPPENINGS: LOCAL TALLAHASSEE EVENTS

BUSINESS & LEADERSHIP

34. ACHIEVE FINANCIAL FREEDOM 36. TAX FILING REMINDERS 38. LEGAL WRITES: SHOW ME THE RECEIPTS!

MIND, BODY & SPIRIT 40. LET’S FIND LOVE

22. ON THE COVER: SUPER HEROES

42. CREATING AN AT-HOME SPA WITH THE TSURI COMPANY 44. CONFIDENCE DRESSING: HOW CLOTHING IMPACTS OUR CONFIDENCE 46. PLAYING LIKE A GIRL: FIGHTING DOUBLE STANDARDS IN SPORTS

LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS

48. 4 WAYS TO REKINDLE THE CONNECTION WITH YOUR PARTNER 50. APPLYING TO A TEST-OPTIONAL COLLEGE: FACTORS PARENTS AND STUDENTS SHOULD CONSIDER

W.E. INSPIRE

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February - March 2022 • Volume 17 • Issue 2

Publisher | Editor-in-Chief Dr. Michelle Mitcham

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CONTRIBUTORS

DANA BROOKS WRITER Dana Brooks of Fasig & Brooks law firm, is an author, attorney, champion for women, collaborator, mother, mentor and one of Tallahassee’s 25 Women You Need to Know.

Dana is passionate about empowering women and advocating for justice.

She is a tireless advocate for social justice.

KYLEE SEAVER WRITER Kylee Seaver is a Senior at Florida State University studying Media Communication.

She is from Orlando, Florida, and plans on pursuing graduate studies in journalism.

LAUREN BUZZELLI FUCHS WRITER Lauren Buzzelli Fuchs, ELY ROSARIO CPA, CVA serves as WRITER a supervising senior Ely Rosario is an author, JANE MARKS accountant at Carr, WRITER mother, leader and Riggs & Ingram, LLC Jane Marks, licensed wellness enthusiast. in Tallahassee, FL. She holds a Masters of psychotherapist “life Lauren has nearly 10 Business Administration coach” with more than 50 years of experience years specializing in child in public accounting, degree from Colorado and adolescent behavior.

State University a providing accounting, tax Host for “From the Heart” and business valuation Bachelors from FSU and the Mental Health in Communications. services. and Wellness expert for Ely has 23 years the Black News Channel. of leadership, Jane is a motivational entrepreneurship, and speaker / lecturer with a marketing experience. focus on mental health She is a Management and adolescents.

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CRISTINA CARTER WRITER Cristina Carter, owner/ founder of Tallahassee Notary, LLC, holds a Master of Arts in International Relations from FSU and has taught several courses there.

She also co-directed/coproduced, “Las Chica’s”.

DORI GOMES WRITER Dori Gomes is a passionate writer, speaker, educator, and advocate. As a former journalist and adjunct professor, she merged her passions of writing, research, and mentorship to form her company which offers various writing, consulting, and editorial services. www.dorigomes.com.

KIRA DERRYBERRY PHOTOGRAPHER Kira Derryberry is a Tallahassee-based portrait photographer specializing in families, headshots and boudoir and commercial photography. She books locally in Tallahasee and is available for travel worldwide. View Kira's portfolio online at kiraderryberry.com

LISA DAVIS WRITER DR. DENISE BARRETT Lisa Davis is a wife, mommy of four, beauty WRITER blogger, Freelance Dr. Denise Barrett is an educator, author, mother, Makeup Artist, and and owner of Beautifully Owner of Image by Lisa.

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God made her girly Her business is centered and she loves sharing on empowering girls and her tips and tricks with women to embrace the other women so that they power of education, self- can look and feel their love, and inner and outer absolute best. For more beauty. Follow her on information about Lisa Instagram at @beautifullyeducatedenterprises visit imagebylisa.com.

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Limitless – Not Even the Sky is the Limit Hello, Women Who Mean Business!

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am so excited to publish the February/March issue of Tallahassee Woman Magazine. TWM has been uniting, inspiring, empowering, and uplifting women for nearly 16 years. In every issue, we celebrate women. Not even the sky is the limit for women. So, our inspirational word for the year is LIMITLESS! This month, we are recognizing women who seem to have no limits to their incredible leadership abilities.

They give back and believe in service to the community.

Gracing our cover are five fierce women leading quietly and making a distinct difference in our community. These boss women include Gloria Allison, Gina Giacomo, Dr. Chanta Haywood, Ashley Mitchell, and Dr. Maxine Montgomery. Each of these women has a unique and powerful story. Don’t miss any of their interviews conducted by our newest team member, Mrs. Laci Swann, TWM’s Executive Editor!

In this issue, we are incredibly proud to observe and celebrate

Black History Month.

Understanding our past helps us unlock doors to the future.

Please take time to embrace the rich diversity in Tallahassee.

Our unique differences are our strengths. Together, we will continue to dream and achieve without limits.

March marks National Women’s History Month and International Women’s Day. Women have come far in all disciplines, including but not limited to academics, healthcare, government, and politics. Set your intentions with limitless possibilities, pursue your dreams, and use your voice authentically and unapologetically.

Whether you celebrate Valentine’s Day, Galantine’s Day, or both, please take time to cherish those loving and special relationships in your life.

Pursue all your dreams without limits, Michelle Mitcham, Ph.D., Publisher

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Leadership is not limited to a title, task, or role. In fact, leadership comes in all shapes and sizes

EXECUTIVE EDITOR

-Laci Swann

of CEO, CFO, and so forth. Boss women are not one-size-fits-all, and I look forward to the five living examples of “limitless” in this month’s issue.

Additionally, as we celebrate and acknowledge Black History Month, National Women’s History Month, and International Women’s Day, let us remember to stay in a humble, student-centered mind frame, as there is always something to learn and, subsequently, grow from. With increased knowledge comes growth, healing, and stronger communities.

Thank you, Dr. Mitcham, for welcoming me to Tallahassee Woman Magazine. Let the journey begin!

Forever thinking outside of the box, Laci Swann, Executive Editor

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could not be more excited to join the incredible team of women at Tallahassee Woman Magazine! I feel deeply humbled to step into this role, and I look forward to sharing stories that highlight the depth of women in our state’s capital and beyond.

In keeping in mind our word of the year, our five extraordinary cover women exemplify limitless leadership in their respective industries.

Leadership is not limited to a title, task, or role. In fact, leadership comes in all shapes and sizes (industries and titles). So, this month’s cover interview was particularly special because, as women, we need more reminders, examples, and testimonies from brilliant women in various roles, roles that are not in the form

Laci is the Principal of Sharp Editorial, an award-winning editorial + small business consulting + branding design firm. Since 2016, Sharp Editorial has served thousands of clients, including professional athletes, television stars, Fortune 500 companies, and a range of other professionals. Laci is passionate about ensuring that her table always has room for others, encouraging women to pull up a seat and stay awhile.

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CULTURE & CUISINE

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Ways to Elevate Your Makeup Look in 2022

By Lisa Davis

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s a professional makeup artist, I’ve heard the following statement so many times: makeup can be overwhelming.

Some of my clients admit they were relieved when face masks and Zoom meetings became the new normal because they had an excuse not to wear makeup. Other clients were makeup-free for so long they forgot how to apply it.

It’s natural to feel intimidated or uninspired after a makeup hiatus, especially as aging begins. If you get frustrated trying to address new problem areas with makeup or feel like you need a refresher on applying it, you’re not alone.

I’ve rounded up my clients’ most common makeup struggles and provided my tried-and-true solutions.

MY UNDER-EYES ARE CREEPY. It’s tempting to apply concealer generously underneath the eyes, but keep in mind that wherever the brush or blender starts is where the most product deposits. When we apply too much product closest to the eye, the area becomes cakey and accentuates fine lines. Instead, apply concealer on the upper cheeks using a damp beauty blender and slowly blend upwards towards the under-eye. Always set the under-eye concealer with a translucent powder, which is thinner and lighter than fully colored powders.

MY FOUNDATION WON’T STAY ON. The most common reason foundation doesn’t stay in place is inadequate skin prep and moisture. When the face begins to dry during the day, it ingests makeup and causes the foundation to separate. To prevent separation, exfoliate your skin at least once a week and moisturize well before applying foundation. Add a makeup primer between your moisturizer and foundation and a setting spray after to lock in the skin’s natural moisture.

MY EYES ARE HOODED. If you have hooded eyes or extra skin between the brow and crease, your lids may appear smaller than they are. Drawing attention away from the hoods will help eyes look younger and larger. To do so, sweep a mid-tone to deeper taupe color over the entire lid using a puffy blending brush. Save any shimmers, very dark or very light colors for the lowest part of the lid.

I’M STUCK IN A MAKEUP RUT. This happens to us all. Applying daily makeup the same way is easy and fast but can get boring. My favorite way to shake things up is to go brighter or deeper, especially on the cheeks and lips. Bonus: brighter and bolder colors help you look younger and your teeth appear whiter and pop on camera!

A little makeup can boost your confidence and make a big difference in how you look and feel at any age. You deserve a fresh start this year!

Need more suggestions or examples?

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ST. FRANCIS STREET BUNGALOW IS A LINK TO TALLAHASSEE’S BEGINNINGS

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he teal and garnet bungalow on St. Francis Street sits quietly at the corner, just one block from the hustle and bustle of the Gaines Streets shops, and the nearby chatter of the Hill. It has been a pillar of this community since it was built in 1925, in the All Saint Neighborhood, Tallahassee’s very first community dating as far back as the late 1800s. Many families have graced the doorsteps of this beautiful home for almost 100 years.

Originally built as a duplex, it housed a community grocery store before the owner, Alonzo Charleville, closed up shop to run the local Tallahassee Cotton Gin. Alonzo’s wife, Exie was very involved in the local Garden Club and in 1932 she chaired a beautification project to plant shrubs and flowers from Gaines Street to Railroad Avenue to Monroe Street! The Charlevilles must’ve had the most beautiful yard on the block.

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The home hosted gatherings of the Business & Professional Womens Club Chamber of Commerce, bringing together strong women of the 1930s who were entrepreneurial in spirit with bigger dreams than what social norms allowed at the time.

There are not many neighborhoods in Tallahassee like St. Francis Street, and not many homes like this beautiful home that was once a duplex. When I mention this house to my friends in other parts of town, they smile; they know exactly what I’m talking about.

In the 1940s, the Maynards moved in and news clippings show that Evelyn Maynard had a short radio segment on the local CBS station. For 15 minutes, once a week, Evelyn entertained Tallahasseeans with what, I wish I knew.

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his issue of Ta l l a h a s s e e W o m a n Magazine is dedicated to women who are super heroes in their own right. In honor of both Black History month and Women’s History month, we pause and celebrate the millions of unsung, unknown sheroes whose daily triumphs make our society great.

We want to always acknowledge the accomplishments of women like Kamala Harris, Hillary Clinton, Oprah, Sonia Maria Sotomayor, Rosa Parks, Michelle Obama, Maya Angelou, Susan B. Anthony, Ellen Ochoa, Mae Jemison and so many more. We venture to think, however, that even these women will quickly tell us that they could not be who they are without the women who worked beside them and behind the scenes.

So many of their mothers, aunts, sisters, cousins, and friends may not have degrees, but they are smart and savvy. There are millions of women who are not running companies, but they are running their homes

and household budgets with the exactness of a corporate executive.

There are women who may not have been Beyonce, Patti Labelle, Selena or Celine Dion, but they are in the background enhancing and complimenting the voices of these stars. So many women have never had the luxury of sitting behind desks every day. They in factories or are delivering our mail, or are helping raise our children and maintain our homes, but their work is just as meaningful to our advances as a country.

BLACK HISTORY & WOMEN'S HISTORY MONTH

Many of our historical movements were successful not because of the people out front, but because of those in the background who believed just as passionately as those making the speeches or who made the news.

There are women right here in Tallahassee who style our hair, beautify our nails and enhance our homes. They make up the fabric of our community.

So we elevate and honor every woman who makes history every day. She will probably never make the books, but she will make someone’s life better.

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HAUTE HAPPENINGS Celebration of Excellence Dinner

LIVING LOCAL

March 24th, 2022 5:30 PM – 8:00 PM Champion’s Club, Doak Campbell Stadium Tallahassee, FL 32306

Join the College of Business as they spend an evening at Doak Campbell Stadium celebrating their student’s achievements.

Beginning with a Meet & Greet Networking Reception at 5:30 PM and the dinner and program to follow at 6:30 PM. For more information visit, eventbrite. com

Field Day Music Festival

February 27th, 2022 2:00 PM – 7:00 PM Alfred B. Maclay Gardens State Park 3540 Thomasville Road Tallahassee, FL 32309 Mark your calendars for a day filled with local music, food trucks, drinks, and games at the park! This event will be raising money for the Judy Field Memorial Foundation and their fight against pancreatic cancer.

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2022 Bold Sips Benefitting the Junior League of Tallahassee

March 3rd, 2022 6:00 PM Governors Club 202 South Adams Street Tallahassee, FL 32301 Take a trip into Wonderland and explore the food and wine tastings in this signature themed event filled with fun!

This fundraiser will go to help children and families within the community. For more information and tickets, visit eventbrite.com

A Tribute to Aretha Franklin

February 12th, 2022 7:30 PM Ruby Diamond Concert Hall Tallahassee, FL 32306

Honoring and celebrating the life and career of music legend, Aretha Franklin. This tribute concert will feature her popular songs performed by her mentee, Damien Sneed and joined by Karen Clark Sheard. For more information and tickets, visit openingnights.fsu.edu

Rodgers & Hammerstein’s Cinderella

February 18th – 27th, 2022 2:00 PM, 8:00 PM Richard G. Fallon Theatre 540 W Call St. Tallahassee Florida 32306

Florida State University as they present the classic and beloved fairytale of Cinderella. Become lost in the story and the music of Rogers and Hammerstein. For more information and tickets, visit openingnights.fsu.edu

Springtime Tallahassee

April 1st – 2nd, 2022 6:00 PM Downtown Chain of Parks Tallahassee, FL 32301 Bring spring back to Tallahassee with this festival perfect for friends and families of all ages. With local and national entertainment, a parade, music, food, and more, celebrate the new season in style.

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Shop & Stroll

March 25th, 2022 5:00 PM Market District Tallahassee Tallahassee, FL 32312 Women United presents a night out with friends filled with shopping and drinks in the Market District. Take a stroll around the shops and treat yourself to something nice! For more information and tickets, visit uwbb.org

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SUPER HEROES

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eadership has never been a one-sizefits-all role—not the same title, doesn’t have the same responsibilities, and won’t reach the same audience. Among the leaders in Tallahassee, these five cover women have not only made waves in their respective industries, but they steer the unpredictable current, playing impactful roles each and every day, often unspoken due to their humble moves. Silent but mighty, these exceptional women were invited to shine on this month’s cover as we highlight the brilliance behind some of our city’s best and brightest leaders.

By Laci Swann | Photography Kira Derryberry

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ON THE COVER

INSPIRING THE NEXT GENERATION OF LEARNERS AND LEADERS Dr. Chanta Haywood Earning her Ph.D. from The University of California at San Diego at the age of 27, Dr. Chanta Haywood has been a pillar of brilliance and leadership for nearly three decades, discovering her mission to be carried on in post-secondary education. Currently, Dr. Haywood is a professor and entrepreneur who teaches in the School of Communication at Florida State.

Haywood has gained unique insight into getting students in, through, and out of college. Her CollegeSmartNow program at A.C.E. College Success Academy, LLC and her partnership with MaxTheTest.com have helped students around the country improve their standardized tests scores, get admitted to the best universities, and receive thousands of dollars in scholarships.

Her groundbreaking book, Prophesying Daughters: Black Women Preachers and the Word, 1823-1913, was re-released in a second edition and has been used by scholars at Harvard, Duke, Brown, Indiana, and other institutions around the world. She also lectured on her book at Yale in January of 2020 before over 300 students, which is an obvious testament to her profound reach to budding leaders across the nation. Achieving the highest level of education, yet humbly remaining a forever student, Dr. Haywood hopes to continually inspire the next generations of learners, which directly speaks to her “why.”

Whether Dr. Haywood is in the university classroom, teaching theories and expanding their world views; in conference rooms, creating policies that impact their academic development; or in board rooms, making decisions that influence lives, everything goes back to that quote from Fanon. Although she is an inspiration to many, Chanta is deeply inspired by helping this generation of learners and leaders define and fulfill their personal missions so that they can change the world.

“There is a quote by philosopher and psychoanalyst, Frantz Fanon, that inspires me and best summarizes my why – ‘Each generation must, out of relative obscurity, discover its mission, and either fulfill it or betray it,’” Chanta shares.

Everything Chanta has accomplished since then as a professor, scholar, dean, and former vicepresident has been informed by that “why,” as she imparts unique insights on what it takes to get students of all ages in, through, and out of college.

“When you are on a mission to carry out a Godordained vision, the title or position you have in doing that is secondary,” Chanta shares, which speaks to her bold exit that led her from university administration to the classroom, entrepreneurship, and getting her teenagers through college, all of which align with her higher education purpose.

With the occasional administrative itch, Chanta scratches it from time to time by doing a strategic initiative on equity, diversity, and inclusion. But for now, her choices proudly fit her mission, which speaks volumes to her peace, fulfillment, and influence among several populations.

In her nearly 30 years in higher education, Dr.

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ON THE COVER

A RESPONSIBILITY NURTURE TO POSTERITY Gloria Allison

Gloria Allison, one of the beloved leaders in the sacred teaching space in Tallahassee, Florida, is a seasoned second-grade teacher at North Florida Christian School. With a strong belief that teaching is a calling and that the Lord provides the health and strength necessary to accomplish what is needed for each day, Gloria is committed to her students’ success.

But her wisdom and leadership span far beyond academic lessons, testing, and curriculum, as she imparts faith-based principles to share many of life’s most important lessons.

“I enjoy being able to share Biblical principles to help guide the students in making good choices, both now and in the future,” Gloria shares.

Molding future leaders is not for the weak, especially when high-spirited, high-energy children are part of the equation. However, Gloria has an extraordinary gift to keep students challenged and engaged while

directing their energy into productive projects and learning opportunities.

Understanding that every student learns differently and at varying paces, Gloria creates a community-like atmosphere by facilitating family outreach of her students, which has formed lasting bonds throughout her 20-year tenure as a wellrespected educator.

“I enjoy watching students succeed in what, at first, may have appeared to be difficult learning tasks,” Gloria smiles.

“Being able to see the students succeed, even in small ways, is truly a blessing.”

When challenges occur, which they inevitably do in the ever-changing teaching arena, Gloria reminds herself that she is in the classroom because that is where God wants her to be.

“He will provide what is needed for me to deal with the challenge effectively,” she affirms.

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ON THE COVER

LED BY PURPOSE WITH PURPOSE

Dr. Maxine Montgomery

As an esteemed English professor at Florida State University and co-chair of President Richard McCullough Council on Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion, Dr. Maxine Montgomery has seized and dominated the opportunity to teach literature by underrepresented writers, ultimately inspiring the next generation of scholars.

Teaching works by Toni Morrison, Gloria Naylor, Edwidge Danticat, and others, and publishing about the authors whose fiction conveys the challenges and rich possibilities of being Black and female, Dr. Maxine Montgomery has quickly established herself as one of the most esteemed professors in this subject matter.

Throughout her leadership journey in the classroom, several doors have opened in Dr. Montgomery’s life, allowing her to travel internationally, publish books and articles, and, of course, teach works she loves.

Surprisingly, Dr. Montgomery had once contemplated a career as a clinical psychologist, a role that would allow her to offer clinical or counseling services in assessing mental, emotional, or behavioral disorders. However, after enrolling in

upper-division literature courses and performing as well or better than her seniorlevel cohort, she realized her passion and purpose rested in English, which has led to a decades-long career in imparting the knowledge students gain from her classes to have a transformative effect for years to come.

“There is something energizing about my work with undergraduate and graduate scholars at Florida State,” Dr. Montgomery unveils, “especially when students acknowledge the insights they acquire in courses introducing scholars to works typically excluded from an established literary canon. Each class carries a different dynamic and I learn from the insights my students bring with them to our courses.”

Knowing that she is living her purpose and doing what she loves, Dr. Montgomery feels confident that her gift holds the potential to motivate, inspire, and enlighten undergraduate and graduate scholars, which prompts her to keep leading, guiding, and teaching

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ON THE COVER

LEADING WITH A STRONG MORAL COMPASS Gina Giacomo

Gina Giacomo, Director of Administration of the Florida Commission on Offender Review, has served in her role for over 13 years (hats off to spending the better part of ’20 as a pivotal leader with FCOR). Gina's efforts impact the entire state of Florida, as she focuses on various program areas such as release services, revocations services, field services, and victim services.

Leading with a strong moral compass, Gina stands by her first principle to be of service to others, as she is inspired by the very people she has committed to serve—women who dig deep to change their circumstances and brave the storm to create change for themselves and their children.

“When women and girls are nurtured and educated to attain their fullest potential, everyone benefits,” Gina shares. “When you help a woman or girl rise, we all shine.”

With a true passion for making a difference in the lives of women and girls, Gina strongly believes that although “women’s work” has been to care for others, that is not something women need to be liberated from. Instead, it is something that needs to be properly valued and rewarded.

Her perspective of a collective mindset speaks to her leadership abilities, as she has close to 30 years of criminal justice experience, most of which have been in leadership positions.

As a social-driven leader and advocate of recruiting people to her team, Gina sees the greatest opportunity for success when people work toward the common good. With an inclusive mindset, she focuses on pulling different strengths from her counterparts.

“Not all minds are alike,” Gina explains, “and ten minds that are all alike are not better than two minds that have different experiences, points of view, and values.”

“How to serve is up to you,” Gina shares, “but you can be of service to others through your thoughts, words, or deeds.”

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ON THE COVER

AN EMPATHETIC VOICE FOR THE ‘VOICELESS’

Ashley Mitchell-Buckman Ashley Mitchell-Buckman, Board Certified Behavior Analyst at Behavior Management Consultant, stumbled upon the role of Applied Behavior Analysis while teaching in a public elementary school. Frustrated by her inability to maintain a safe place for students who didn’t have one outside of her classroom, Ashley was motivated to provide skills to children to successfully traverse through a much larger (and more complex) world.

As a teacher, Ashley was more concerned with delving into why her students felt the need to throw chairs, elope from the school, and trash my classroom, behaviors they do not teach how to navigate during training and certification. She started noticing that she felt more accomplished when she had spent her day successfully deescalating a tantrum or one of “my kids” (as she lovingly called all of her students) reached a personal milestone. And with that feeling of accomplishment, there was a nagging feeling that it still wasn’t enough.

Around her fifth year of teaching, Ashley started actively looking for ways to bridge the dichotomy between academic state standards and functional life skills, to which she had come across a field she had never heard of: Applied Behavior Analysis.

Through a series of extremely fortunate events, Ashley now works as a Board-Certified Behavior Analyst with Behavior Management Consultants.

“My clients, who are now ‘my kids,’ inspire me to seek out creative solutions to some very complex challenges,” Ashley shares. “I constantly step outside of myself and see things from perspectives I may not have considered before, which helps me

to become a better leader.”

And ‘her kids’ are, indeed, fortunate that she passionately and consistently advocates on their behalf, continually teaching the narrative that a ‘disability’ does not equal ‘inability’ or ‘incapacity’ to do so many things. With an empathetic-driven leadership style, combined with experience and years of hands-on service, Ashli remains motivated to serve children and families.

“I once joked that I could float for months on a single positive report from a parent, but it’s the truth! I love that I can be actively involved with families and invited to celebrate even the smallest of milestones alongside them,” Ashley marvels.

Ashley’s cheerleader-like spirit promotes one of BMC’s core values: Persistent positivity.

Unlike toxic positivity, which can be defined as responding to distress with a lack of empathy or the denial of any emotion other than happy or positive, “persistent positivity” motivates Ashley to take on challenges armed with the knowledge that she and her respective clients have been able to overcome obstacles before.

“We acknowledge that life is hard right now and that it can get better,” Ashley explains.

In this evolving profession, there is no way of avoiding some level of challenges, especially when navigating the complexities of behaviors.

Nonetheless, Ashley desires to be the best, most authentic version of herself, which helps her lead parents and their children throughout their unique journey.

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BUSINESS & LEADERSHIP

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n alarming 80% of women do not discuss money with family and friends. Some see talking about money as too personal. Others are not ready to discuss financial matters with those close to them while the rest were simply not raised to discuss it at all.

an analogy they could later understand was, “Is it worth it if you have to work X number of hours for it”? Make them work!

3. Oftentimes people buy “stuff” to reward themselves, celebrate, or simply because they are bored. Reward yourself with assets and wealth. Buy stocks not stuff!

We are about to change this!

4. top wasting money. Remember, it’s not how much you make, but how much you save. Starbuck trips, convenience fees, lunches, dinners, all add up to a lot of money!

Here are 5 things you can do to change your financial mindset.

1. Surround yourself with people who are willing to talk about money, their successes, and elaborate on their failures. Learn from their mistakes!

2. Teach children and remind yourself of the value of money. My kids were 4 when I began explaining bills, savings, and investing.

Because they were familiar with the concept of the hourly wage,

5. Define your goals and create a plan to achieve them. What do you want? Buy a house, pay off credit card debt, save money, travel, save for retirement. Once you know what you want, create a budget to make it happen. No excuses! No exceptions! Simply stick to the plan and do the work!

Let’s be clear. Money is not about how much stuff you can buy, but rather how much freedom you can have.

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ax season is in full swing. Have yet to file? Don’t panic. Here is a rundown of what to consider when preparing to file your 2021 tax return: The Federal 2021 tax filing and payment deadline (aka Tax Day) is Monday, April 18, 2022.

This year, the standard April 15th deadline falls on District of Columbia Emancipation Day, a legal holiday.

Review last year’s tax return and use it as a guide to gathering the necessary information to prepare and file the current year's return.

Don’t think you’ll have enough time to collect tax documents, sift through that shoebox of receipts and file your return by Tax Day? File Form 4868

by April 18th to receive an extension of the filing deadline until October 17, 2022.

It is important to note that the extension applies

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only to filing, not for paying; that is, if you anticipate a tax balance due, you need to pay that amount by April 18th.

Whether filing a completed tax return or extension, opt for electronic filing, or e-filing, over filing by paper. If you are unable to e-file, it is strongly suggested to mail respective forms with a tracking number for proof of timely filing.

Then, be patient as the Internal Revenue Service (IRS) works through the backlog of returns resulting from Covid-19 shutdowns.

If you experienced a significant event in 2021 (i.e. birth of a child, marriage, retirement, divorce, bankruptcy, death of a spouse or partner, etc.) that may impact your tax return, consider hiring a certified public accountant (CPA) or credentialed tax preparer to handle the complexities of the issue(s).

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ebruary is the time of year when many couples contemplate taking their relationship to the next level. Whether moving in together, buying a home, or adopting a pet, 14% of couples today have decided to take a future life with someone for a test drive before signing on the dotted line.

Given the dismal statistics on marriage, with 50% of first-time, 67% of secondtime, and 74% of third-time marriages ending in divorce, couples are smart to take their time trying out different living arrangements before taking the emotionally and financially significant “leap.”

together, they can own it as a tenancy by the entireties, meaning they both own the entire home. If they were to divorce, the court could force the sale of the house and equitable distribution of the proceeds. When two unmarried people buy a home together, they cannot own it as a married couple and instead typically own it as tenants in common.

It is often unclear and disputed what percentage each party holds or whether the court could force the sale of the property should one party want out of the arrangement. Anything unclear is usually litigated, often at great expense and delay.

Although marriage has its negatives, it does come with built-in financial protections for the distribution of assets typically not available to an unmarried couple. Even when the parties enter into a cohabitation agreement that only controls the law between the two parties, it does not change how the law or other contracts treat non-marital real or personal property.

Finally, when it comes to paying for and distributing personal property, like the furniture you brought into the relationship but then shared the entire two years you were together. Or the washer and dryer you bought in your name because he had bad credit but promised to make payments on, or whether he owes you for the value of the car you traded in for a down payment on his new car. All those things must be proven because there is no default legal position defining them as marital liabilities and assets. So if you start playing house together and things eventually go sour, but you want to be sure to get your fair share of what you’ve invested, take the time to consult with an experienced attorney and protect yourself with a cohabitation agreement.

Otherwise, be ready when the judge says, “Show me the receipts!!”

If the parties both enter into a lease, the rights and obligations are well defined.

If one party has a lease, marries, and the spouse moves in, that is now their marital home, which provides additional rights to both parties. The spouse whose name is on the lease would not simply be able to kick the other party out of the marital home.

When a married couple owns a home

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MIND, BODY & SPIRIT

By Jane Marks

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t’s the month of February and time for us to start looking for love! We’ve spent the last year protecting our health and those of our loved ones, so let’s get ready to focus on ourselves. The past year has given us ample time for self-reflection and has taught us many lessons about ourselves: 1. We have learned to stop, pause, and be more mindful.

2. We have become better listeners and communicators.

3. We are clearer about what we want in partnerships.

4. We no longer look for people to fix us, as we’ve had the time to work on ourselves.

5. We accepted our flaws—warts and all.

6. We have prioritized our self-care, making us present and available to connect.

7. We hold ourselves accountable for our choices.

8. We have learned how to apologize and not sweat the small stuff.

So, as we begin dating in a post-pandemic world, keep these tips in mind: 1. Make sure you are ready for a relationship, not just an experience. After a year of isolation, be clear with yourself about the type of connection you want.

2. Go out with friends and ask about their experiences.

3. Take baby steps. Take your time, if you prefer, and let potential dates know you want to take things slowly.

4. Build your confidence: hit the gym, feature your best look—fashion, hair, makeup, swag.

5. Use dating apps.

6. On dating apps, always tell three unique things about yourself and highlight the qualities you’re looking for in a potential partner.

7. Still anxious about COVID? Set your own pace and go on virtual dates.

8. Hone your listening skills. We have spent over a year watching and reacting. Potential daters long for someone to listen.

Most importantly, maintain a positive attitude! Finding love is a journey, so keep an open mind and have fun along the way.

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Creating An At-Home Spa With The Tsuri Company

By Laci Swann

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mid COVID, feeling the winter blues, and managing daily expectations of life, self-care should be prioritized more than ever, especially self-care practices that nourish, strengthen, and soothe the body.

Thankfully, The Tsuri Company (www. thetsuricompany.com) specializes in all-natural, organic, luxury skincare products, ideal for creating an at-home spa-like experience. With the finest ingredients and most soothing properties in every product, Tsuri is your answer creating a real spa experience from the comforts of your home.

Check the following must-have Tsuri products for your at-home spa: 1.Tsuri body crème: Tsuri’s best-selling body crème is the hydrating skin crème you've been looking for all your life. Made with 20% floral water and ceramides, this body crème delivers hydrationW and healing to the deepest layers of your skin so that it stays supple and soft.

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4.Tsuri glycerin soaps: Tsuri’s glycerin soaps are made with over 95% vegetable glycerin and organic oils and extracts so that you can gently cleanse without stripping the skin of its natural, nourishing oils, leaving you with soft, hydrated skin.

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6.Tsuri body oil bar: This product is the perfect pair for Tsuri’s body crème. Made with organic, ultranourishing butters and oils, this solid form of body oil delivers a protective barrier over the skin to seal in moisture and prevent minor skin ailments like dryness, cracking, and wrinkling.

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Confidence Dressing: How Clothing Impacts Our Confidence

By Denise P. Barrett, Ph.D.

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ake a moment to close your eyes and think back…think back to a time and place when you truly brought your “A game” to an event, it could be work-related, social or an appearance you had to make on behalf of your business or in school. What were you wearing?

Why did you choose that dress, suit, gown, etc.?

Ultimately, how did the total outfit make you feel from the inside out? Wouldn’t it be great to get that amazing feeling in your clothing every day? Imagine the possibilities! Welcome to the empowering and exciting world of “confidence dressing”!

A woman’s personal style is everything. That is why we should take time and be intentional about discovering it, developing it and owning it. Once we have experienced this epiphany of fashion empowerment, our fashion sense and choices will fall into place no matter the occasion. Learning your body type and styles that enhance it, discovering the colors make you glow and come alive, and understanding the true art to accessorizing through hair, make-up, jewelry, belts, handbags, and shoes are essential in defining your personal style as a confident woman!

In the next issue of Tallahassee Woman Magazine (April/May) be sure to read Confidence Dressing: How Clothing Impacts Our Confidence – Part 2 which will feature the following 10 essential tips to set you on your “confidence dressing” journey!

1. First Impressions are Lasting, Make Yours a Good One 2. Less is More 3. If you are questioning yourself, don’t wear it 4. Figure Flattering Finesse 5. Color Me Beautiful 6. Fit is everything 7. Personal Styles vs. Trends 8. Accessorize to glamourize 9. Shoes make all the difference 10. Mindful Make-up Until, then be confident, be impactful and be bea“U”tifully YOU!.

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PLAYING LIKE A GIRL

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e have all heard the phrase “you play like a girl” at some point in our lives. As a society, we have normalized the idea that female athletes are inferior to males simply because of their gender. These subtle microaggressions continue to build up and result in a toxic environment for many female athletes.

Due to the intense scrutiny put on female athletes, many of them face immense mental health issues. Let’s take Simone

Biles as an example. Male athletes are considered “the bar,” so when a female starts making headlines, everyone is quick to put her into place by unfairly comparing her to a solid male athlete. For example, after dominating the 2016 Rio Olympics, Simone Biles was compared to other wellknown male Olympians. In an interview, Biles stated, “I’m not the next Usain Bolt or Michael Phelps, I’m the first Simone Biles.”

Biles shouldn’t have to explain that her

accomplishments are unique to her, but this again shows how gender biases contribute to how female athletes are treated on all levels. When male athletes break records, the attention is solely on them, but when a female athlete makes headlines, we feel the need to compare her accomplishments to others.

Simone has been at the forefront of tackling gender biases within the sports world and

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Fighting Double Standards in Sports

By Kylee Seaver

has shed light on how it has affected her mental health. She was the main attraction of all 2020 Olympic coverage leading up to the games. So, when Simone pulled out of the team final competition and several other individual events, the world was left stunned. Simone said she did not feel safe competing in these events due to mental health concerns that started to impact her performance and, therefore, put her physical health at risk. In an Instagram post, Biles stated, “I truly do feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders at times. I know I brush it off and make it seem like pressure doesn’t affect me, but damn sometimes it’s hard hahaha!” This exemplifies the immense pressure put on female athletes and the anxiety to constantly perform their best to prove the strength of female competitors. Like Simone, female athletes can develop anxiety and depression due to the pressure to perform while facing the disadvantages set by gender biases.

Simone walked away from the 2020 games with two more Olympic medals but, more importantly, opened the floodgates for discussing the mental well-being of female athletes on a global scale.

As a woman in a leadership position, Simone has experienced firsthand the many barriers that come with gender construct in our society. Rather than letting the system change her, she decided to change

the narrative herself. She and many other notable female athletes are standing up for the voiceless, for those who feel trapped in the double standards within their sports and our society. Simone is calling out the double standards and the stigma surrounding mental health for female athletes. This shows that where there are women in sports, there’s a way to showcase the strength of all female athletes.

Female athletes are forced to carry the

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unfair attitudes that narrow in on women in sports. Many female competitors experience mental health concerns, such as body image issues and anxiety, stemming from these double standards. For these double standards and the pressure that comes with them to end, we must break the barriers of gender biases within our society. We must teach our youth that there is strength in playing like a girl.

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Ways to Rekindle the Connection with Your Partner

By Dori Gomes

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ith inflation rates reaching historic levels, work environments ever-changing, and re-entering and navigating a new normal amid a pandemic, it is not wander that all of us are stressed! And our relationships take the biggest hit.

Stress misplaces your energy and takes your attention away from the things that matter most. When you are stressed, it is easy to become frustrated over insignificant matters, nitpick nonessentials, and grow impatient toward the very things you once found endearing.

The key to rekindling a taxed relationship is to stir the love, appreciation, and respect you have for your partner that has been buried under the weight of stressful circumstances.

Rekindling your relationship begins with reconnecting and rediscovering the very things that made you fall in love in the first place. Here are a few ideas to reignite the flame:

1. Watch them in the workplace: Watch how others revere and interact with your partner. Doing so will give you a new respect for them.

2. Volunteer together: Watching your partner serve and love others is powerful. It reminds us of the beauty that exists within them.

3. Listen in: (yes, eavesdrop). Listen to the advice and wisdom they pass along to others. Hearing their mind and heart work in unison is inspiring. Their heart will be revealed in the words they speak.

4. Accomplish something together: Accomplishing something together makes you feel united. Take every chance to become teammates. You will notice strengths that have gone unnoticed or forgotten over the years.

Kindle love, not stress.

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APPLYING TO A TESTOPTIONAL COLLEGE: FACTORS PARENTS AND STUDENTS SHOULD CONSIDER

By TWM Staff

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any colleges have made standardized tests optional for college admissions due to challenges imposed by COVID-19. Parents are uncertain about how to factor this option in their teens' college application process. One of the "super heroes" featured on our cover this month happens to be a higher education expert and college prep consultant, so we decided to ask her opinion.

Here is Dr. Chanta Haywood’s advice to parents who want to know how to move forward with this major decision.

As with so many other parents, I found myself considering what to do when my youngest was applying for college this year.

We chose to submit her scores. Here are the factors we considered.

Competitiveness for Scholarships Colleges may be giving students the option of submitting ACT or SAT scores, but many scholarship programs still require them. In fact, in Florida, to be eligible for the Bright Futures Scholarship, students must meet test score criteria. On top of that, some test-optional colleges, themselves, require ACT or SAT scores for merit scholarships.

My daughter applied to some test-optional schools. She scored a 31, and I am convinced

that she would not have received the nearly 300K in scholarships so far (from early decision schools) had she not submitted her score. Students should give themselves an advantage.

Potential for Extra Scrutiny Just because the scores are optional does not mean that admissions officers are not factoring them into their decisions. I would venture to say that since they do not have your score, they may scrutinize the application a little more - looking for indicators that you will be successful in college. Imagine two students having the same GPA, similar extracurricular activities, high achievements and a strong essay. One opted not to submit a test score. The other opted to submit it. A decision maker may privilege the one with the score, and while it may seem “unfair,” they technically gave us the “option.” I advise parents to ensure that the student’s academic profile is strong enough to offset a test score if you do not provide it.

Practice for Future Standardized Tests The ACT and SAT may one day disappear, but trust me, standardized tests are not. In fact, the bachelor’s degree has now become

the equivalent of what a high school diploma was decades ago. Many students are now going to graduate school to be competitive, and exams like the LSAT, MCAT and GRE are still required. Additionally, several professions require standardized tests for licensure and more. Mastering the techniques now will help prepare students later.

As a university professor, I must say this in all honesty. When students are in my classroom, I do not ask about or am concerned about their ACT or SAT scores.

I look for core competencies needed to do well in my class. Key among those are critical thinking and analytical writing. The ACT and SAT assess these skills, but I also know that not doing well on these tests does not mean that students do not have these abilities. But you do not get to my or my colleagues’ classroom without being vetted in some way on the front end. My advice to parents is to give your kids the best advantage possible.

Note. Dr. Haywood prepares students for the ACT and SAT from the perspective of how the test writer thinks. For more information, email her at getsmart4college@gmail.com

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others are always an inspiration. Many times, the voice of my mom comes to me when I am in the middle of a difficult situation. For instance, I always think about the importance of surrounding myself with positive people. Growing up my mom would tell me, “Dime con quién andas, y te diré quién eres”. Translated, this means “Tell me whom you hang out with, and I will tell you who you are”.

This phrase still holds a very special place in my heart. When I became a mother, I made sure to instill this notion into my child's life as well. The importance of surrounding yourself with positive people and those who reflect your inner self is key.

Thanks, mom! Or should I say, ¡Gracias mamá!

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UNITED WAY

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LEADING THE CHARGE INSPIRING THE CHANGE

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or eighty years United Way of the Big Bend has worked to become a leading change agent in Tallahassee and the surrounding region. Volunteer-led, Women United acts as an arm of this organization’s efforts to raise awareness, mobilize resources, and create collaborative strategies to address the community’s critical needs. While the interests of our community change over time, one critical concern will always be the lives and education of our children.

Women United brings together women throughout our community to flex their philanthropic muscles, improving the lives of women, children, and families experiencing poverty. By spearheading two signature fundraising events each year, this group is able to propel their mission and the mission of the United Way forward. The Women’s Leadership Breakfast, which hosted former NASCAR driver, Danica Patrick, in November, and Shop & Stroll, a fun girls’ night out on Market Street, set for March 24th, benefit programs that create positive change in the lives of our neighbors in need.

Sally Bradshaw, Women United & UWBB Board Member and owner of Midtown Reader, said it best at the Women’s Leadership Breakfast, “Communities who don’t work to support reading see the severe consequences of that down the road in increased poverty and crime rates. A child living in poverty who cannot read at grade level by the end of 3rd grade is more likely to fall behind, become frustrated with school, and drop out before graduating high school.”

Celebrating Dr. Seuss’s birthday, the week of February 28th – March 4th, United Way of the Big Bend will engage community volunteers to read to children for one hour at the 11th Annual READ UNITED. The aim is to bring joy (and a bundle of books) to each classroom and to inspire the love of reading in children. United Way of the Big Bend has distributed over 40,000 free books in the last ten years.

Join Women United and United Way of the Big Bend this spring to make a positive impact in the lives of your Big Bend neighbors. For more information, visit uwbb.org/womenunited or contact alaina@uwbb.org.

UNITED WAY OF THE BIG BEND | 307 East Seventh Avenue | Tallahassee, FL 32303 | telephone 850-414-0844 | www.uwbb.org

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