Tallahassee
DECEMBER 2019/JANUARY 2020
ROLLE JOURNEY OF FAITH
Advocacy for Women
Co-Parenting After Divorce
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CONTENTS Contents
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10. Letter from the Publisher 12. Letter from the Guest Editor 14. Trends
Fall Makeup: Merry & Bright She Say Social: The Season of Giving Home: Holid liday Decorating Tips Shopping: Faves and Raves
24. Living Local
WE Elevate: Reflection Around Town: TWM R.E.D. Gala Sweet Home Tallahassee: "Collegiate Spotlight: TCC" Community: "Here's to Unsung SHEroes" Haute Happenings: Highlights of Local Events
32. On the Cover
Katrina Rolle: "Faith in the Journey"
36. Business
Community: Human Trafficking: STAC Helps
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Money Talk: "Savings Greetings" Women to Watch: Promotions, awards and other notable achievements of local women. By Life’s Ups and Downs
44. Style
Holiday Fashion: Winter Wardrobe
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46. Feature Travel
Madame Xhales at Chateau Elan Winery & Resort
50. Wellness
Healthy Living: Maintaining A Healthy Lifestyle Mental Health Matters: Women and Mental Health Leading the Field
54. Family
Family: Co-Parenting After Divorce
56. Food
The Dish: Zing's Sweet Treats
to Mobilize the Healthcare Community
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32. about the cover woman: Katrina Rolle: Faith in the Journey By Rebbecah Lutz photography: The Lonely Fox | makeup: Lisa Davis | clothing and accessories: Narcissus and Katrina Rolle's private collection
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WOM A N
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December 2019/January 2020 • Volume 14 • Issue 6
PUBLISHER Dr. Michelle Mitcham MANAGING EDITOR Serene Blair EXECUTIVE ASSISTANT LaShaya Pierce CHIEF DEVELOPMENT OFFICER & SALES Cookie Godfrey PUBLISHING CONSULTANT Kim Rosier CREATIVE DIRECTOR Olivia Heyward
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Season's Greetings &
Best Wishes for the New Year! From the Tallahassee Woman Magazine Staff
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CONTRIBUTORS Contributors
NZINGA DENNARD WRITER Nzinga’s interest in baking was ignited in a culinary arts class at Leon High and soared after graduating from FSU. She uses whole food ingredients MEREDITH BOWEN to create original masterpieces. Zing HUNTER bakery offers regular, WRITER Meredith Bowen Hunter vegan, and glutenfree options. “Baking is a communications consultant specializing is therapeutic. I love making people smile.” in strategy, messaging and branding. She's a wife, mother and Gen Xer admittedly enamored with the efficiency of texting and intrigued by the power of social media.
MELISSA WRIGHT WRITER Melissa Wright is a Accredited Wealth Management Advisor at Capital City Bank. With nearly 20 years' experience offering custom financial services, Melissa strives to educate, empower and guide women in their personal financial management. Meliss is a graduate of Florida State University.
ROBIN HASSLER THOMPSON WRITER Robin Hassler Thompson, M.A., J.D., is the Executive Director of the Survive and Thrive Advocacy Center (STAC), a non-profit agency she helped to found in the Big Bend area of Florida to assist survivors of human trafficking. ... From 2002 to the present, she has directed numerous statewide antitrafficking projects.
SIDNEY WIER WRITER Sidney Wier born and raised in Tallahassee and is a student studying communications.She has been working in fashion boutiques since she was a young teen. She truly enjoys helping women of all ages with fashion advice and styling them with clothes that fit their lifestyle.
LAURA BRYANT WRITER Laura Bryant is a licensed interior designer living in Tallahassee, FL with her two kids, two labs and her Tallahasseenative husband. Laura is originally from Miami, FL and has been practicing interior design since 2005.
JAMEE WRIGHT WRITER Jamee Wright is a licensed Esthetician, Professional Makeup Artist, Certified Image Consultant and Personal Stylist. Dedicated to encouraging women "to let their light shine" for over 23 years. See and feel her passion for encouraging and uplifting others when she is creating a custom makeup look. jameewright.com
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LISA DAVIS MAKEUP ARTIST Lisa Davis is a wife, mommy of four, beauty blogger, freelance makeup artist, and owner of Image by Lisa. God made her girly and she loves sharing her tips and tricks with other woman so that they can look and feel their absolute best. imagebylisa.com
REGINA LYNCHHUDSON WRITER Veteran publicist and luxury lifestyle experience-aholic, Regina Lynch-Hudson, pens MadameXhales, slated towards the vintage of woman that according to studies: enjoys more time to travel, indulges in longer trips, and selects more extravagant travel accommodations. The exacting taste of MadameXhales finds her exploring destinations, cruises, resorts, spas, and extracurricular activities.
' Got You and Weeve Your Garden Covered Through the Holiday Season into a Fresh New Year
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SEASON’S GREETINGS
Letter from
PUBLISHER
from
Dr. Michelle Mitcham
Thank you for supporting Tallahassee Woman Magazine. It is our mission to continue bringing you quality articles, features, resources, entertainment, as well as highlighting the diverse stories and great women of this beloved community. We are so grateful for the dedicated and loyal advertisers that believe in empowering women and continue to highlight their businesses in TWM, the premiere magazine for women. We also honor the women leaders and volunteers of non-profits, such as our phenomenal cover woman, Katrina Rolle who wears many hats. We are so excited to welcome our amazing Guest Editor, Rebeccah Lutz, veteran writer who conducted a close-up and candid interview with Katrina. In this issue of TWM we take a closer look at how Women Empowered care about each other, our families, friends, the community and the future of our city. This issue features the unique people, diverse organizations, causes and the moments that keep us caring, celebrating, and embracing life’s greatest gifts. This holiday season, a time of love, joy and peace, consider new ways to reach out and demonstrate compassion and giving. I know you will be inspired by the amazing efforts of the Unsung Heroes featured who are making a difference in the lives of so many children and families in Tallahassee. These extraordinary and empowered women care so much and give of their hearts, time and talent. Congratulations to the 2019 Tallahassee Woman of the Year, Beth Harding Corum and all of the R.E.D. (Resilient, Empowered, Determined) winners; Michelle Brantley, Dr. Elaine Bryant, Kyndra Light and Finalists; Patricia McCray, Heather Cox Rosenberg, Kelly Otte, Dr. Rachel Pienta, Dr. Sharon AmesDennard and Rose-May Frazier. The RED Gala not only honored R.E.D. women, but also highlighted the critical community issue of mental health. We partnered with Apalachee Center to bring more awareness. We are grateful for the overwhelming support from the community for a spectacular and unforgettable red carpet event. We will be releasing the date of the RED Gala soon! Love, Peace and Blessings,
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Congratulations red gala finalists & woman of the year
WOMAN OF THE YEAR
Beth H. Corum
RESILIENT Michelle Brantley Patricia McCray Heather Cox Rosenberg
EMPOWERED Dr. Elaine W. Bryant Kelly Otte Dr. Rachel Pienta
DETERMINED Dr. Sharon Ames Dennard Rose-May Frazier Kyndra Light
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Rebeccah lutz
guest EDITOR
Guest Editor
“No matter which path we choose, moms are busy, and we work hard to provide for and support our families.”
Photo by Kylene Gay
Rebeccah is a content strategist and storyteller who helps nonprofits tell their story of impact. Before starting her own business, she worked as a reporter, editor and manager in Gannett newsrooms for 15 years. She enjoys spending time with her husband and son and singing in the voice studio of Alice Blackhall and with Tallahassee Community Chorus. I had the pleasure of interviewing Katrina Rolle for this month’s TWM cover story. I first met Katrina years ago when I was managing editor of the Tallahassee Democrat and she was starting her position as CEO of the United Way of the Big Bend. Katrina’s story resonates with me, and I think it will resonate with you, too. Like many women, Katrina has balanced roles as a wife, mother and caregiver with her career and community service. I say “balanced,” but I dislike that term because we know that things are rarely in balance. As women, we keep lots of plates spinning. Only some of them receive our full attention at any given time, but as Katrina says in her interview, we make it all work. Katrina’s done a lot: She worked in the corporate sector right out of college. She was a stay-at-homemom. She managed her own law practice. She’s now held two leadership positions in the local nonprofit sector. She floated in and out of her career, based on what she felt was right at the time. One of my favorite quotes from her: “No matter
which path we choose, moms are busy, and we work hard to provide for and support our families.” Katrina has defined success on her own terms, and I like that. We tend to think of success as the fulfillment of a plan. In reality, success is usually a mixture of intention and taking advantage of opportunities as they come. “You have to have faith in the journey,” she says. I hope Katrina’s story encourages you to have faith in your own journey. You don’t have to know exactly where you’re headed. It’s OK to put the pieces together as you go along, having faith that all things work together to lead you where you’re meant to be. Rebeccah Lutz is a storyteller, content strategist and CEO of Rebeccah Lutz Content Strategy, LLC. You can contact her at rebeccah@rlcontentstrategy.com.
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Merry&Bright
Trends TRE TRENDS
FASHION • SOCIAL • HOME • SHOPPING
BY JAMEE WRIGHT
HOLIDAY MAKEUP TIPS
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Start with skincare. Your facial selection is the base for defending against dryness in your look for these winter months. Select moisturizing products to keep your skin plumped up: Using a moisturizing gel, gel masks, Vitamin C serums, nourishing oils, and regular exfoliation products for fabulous and moisture-rich skin prepping!
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ant to look simply radiant this season? With winter dryness dulling out dewy looks, we have simple tips to refresh and brighten your look this holiday season! Most of us want to add a bit of shimmer to our look for holiday parties, family photo sessions, or just because! If you’re feeling hesitant to try a new look, we can make it easy for you with these festive steps. My favorite tips are sure to give your seasonal skin-care and make that close up confidence and gleeful glow you’re looking for! tallahassee woman | 14 | december 2019 • januar y 2020
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When it comes to makeup, keep it fresh by choosing makeup hues that are different from your outfit. If you're wearing a shimmery top or dress, choose a matte, smoky eye and soft lip. If you're wearing bold color or prints, then keep your makeup neutral. Add shimmer! It's fun to brush and blend on your décolletage, tops of shoulders, top of the cheekbone, and even mix with your lotion for your legs. Don't go overboard though, select no more than two places. Choose to play up either your mouth or the eyes. If you emphasize both, you'll risk looking overdone. Try varying eyeshadow colors to create your "smoky eye look!" Beautiful mauves and plums, navy and greys, and emerald and golds all give you that little "extra" and can often be way easier and less intimidating to apply and blend. Rock a gorgeous smile. Because no matter what you're wearing, you have the confidence and power to spread the love and joy throughout the season. Now that is true beauty!
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Brehon House because I admire the service of this organization.
We asked our Tallahassee Woman Magazine followers on Instagram & Facebook. What organization(s) do you donate to and why?
I support independencelandingfl.com because people with disabilities do not have a place to live when the last parent dies other than a nursing home. I also support keysbigbend.org because lifelong learning for individuals with disabilities is vital to their success! Allison Richard
Sponsor a child, or multiple children with Compassion International.
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Thirst Project because it is the world's largest youth driven clean water movement! Their website is thirstproject.org.
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She Says Social
Children's Home Society. Their services assist children in finding forever homes, or foster care programs that provide a stable temporary home. Also, I support Hartsfield Elementary to ensure kids have school supplies, lunch money, or the ability to attend musical events and act. @dmriordanart
Hang Tough, Suwannee River Area Council, Boy Scouts, Autism Speaks, and Independence Landing. All of these organizations serve youth or at-risk populations and this is what speaks to me. Heather Rosenberg
Joanna Gore
Great question! The Sharing Tree has my whole heart for supporting creative children, and Hang Tough Foundation for their work of the heart! Carly Sinnadurai
The Boys and Girls Clubs of the Big Bend, Rotary Youth Camp, and Legal Services of North Florida. I also donate through Rotary and Zonta.
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Good Samaritan and City Walk. I believe in second chances and new beginnings; Both of these organizations provide the foundations for people to rewrite their story. @tallybeautygirl tallahassee woman | 16 | december 2019 • januar y 2020
HONORING OUR DONORS
D. Mark Vogter, M.D.
K A R E N
V O G T E R
D. Mark Vogter, M.D., Memorial Endowment Vogter Neuro Intensive Care Unit Karen carries on her husband Mark’s legacy through the Tallahassee Tennis Challenger, which has raised more than $850,000 for an endowment supporting the Vogter Neuro Intensive Care Unit (VNICU). Karen has been tournament director since 2004.
What does it take to plan and direct the Tallahassee Tennis Challenger? There are about 300 people from all over our community who volunteer in some capacity every year. No one is paid, and that’s unique for a professional tennis tournament. The tournament wouldn’t be the same without all of these people who are willing to give their time.
What motivates your work as a volunteer? You don’t want your loved one’s death to be meaningless if there’s something you can do about it. Mark, unfortunately, was a neurosurgeon here for only 10 years, but even in that short time, he provided so much for his patients and the community. I want Mark to be remembered.
How do you personally benefit from directing the tournament? It’s nice to be able to give something to a bigger purpose. We do a Special Olympics event at the tournament every year, and we bring about 250 kids from all over Leon County. To see them enjoying themselves playing tennis, it’s just wonderful. It benefits me way more than it benefits them.
How has the endowment supported the Vogter Neuro Intensive Care Unit? Mark was really interested in his colleagues. He truly admired the people who dedicated their lives to working in this unit. One of the things we’ve supported is ongoing education and professional development for his colleagues so they can benefit from the latest knowledge in their field, which in turn benefits patients and families.
What are your goals for the tournament? My children and I will be so happy when we reach $1 million in support for the endowment. We have worked toward this for so long, and we are within striking distance.
“Giving is good for the soul.” TA L L A H A S S E E M E M O R I A L H E A LT H C A R E F O U N DAT I O N
Trends | HOME
holiday
DECORATING IDEAS
BY LAURA BRYANT DESIGNS
The holiday season will soon be upon us. While most interior designers are busy working hand in hand with contractors and furniture vendors, when December approaches we are inevitably asked: “can you decorate my home for the holidays?” Here are some easy “do-it-yourself” holiday decorating tips I’d like to suggest for 2019. Grab some yard clippers from your tool shed and head into your own backyard! I’m a big proponent of using natural greenery in the home. In years past I’ve clipped large Magnolia tree branches to make arrangements for Christmas, using a tall glass vase (which you can get from places like Home Goods or Hobby Lobby). For 2019, however, I’d suggest going more on-
trend with a total Florida themed plant like the Saw Palmetto. Consider displaying the Palmetto fronds in medium-sized vases on your fireplace mantel or your foyer table. Then surround the rest with your existing Christmas and holiday decorations, like stockings or bowls of peppermints. You can use old fashioned water goblets to display candy canes too. If you don’t have a set sitting in the back of your china cabinet consider a trip to one of our local antique stores to get a good deal on some. Last, but not least, remember to plant some winter greenery in your front door planters for an inviting holiday welcome. Pussy Willow makes a lovely winter-time statement in outdoor planters because it adds height and texture. They look great indoors too!
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Faves &Raves
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Check out these holiday decorating, entertaining and gift ideas and shop local! Need a special outfit, jewelry or diamonds for the holiday season...these shops have something for you!
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Chrysalis Fine Fabrics Large embroidered throw pillows - $123 Light Green & Off White Fretwork Chenille Lumbar Pillow - $65 (850) 224-2924 1410 Market St Ste B-1, Tallahassee, FL 32312
Kanvas Tribal Glass Mosaic Lamp - $75 (850) 224-7467 823 Thomasville Road Tallahassee, Florida 32303
Gypsy Rose Camel Color Cashmere Sweater - $259 (850) 219-5210 Bannerman Crossings – 6668 Thomasville Road Tallahassee, Florida 32312
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Gold Star Ornaments - $3 Gold Rhinestone Snowflake Ornament - $13 Faux Holly Berry Branch - $17 "Holiday Party" Kitchen Towel - $13 "Holiday Party" Wooden Tray - $37 "Holiday Party" Mug & Gift Box - $17 (850) 385-2162 2911 Thomasville Rd, Tallahassee, FL 32308
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Belle Sleeve Top - $33 Arrowhead Necklace and matching earrings $12 Black Stella McCartney Skirt - $11 Tori Burch black leather crossbody handbag - $215 (850) 765-0342 2887 Kerry Forest Pkwy Ste 4, Tallahassee, FL 32312
Walter Green Roberts Jewelry 14kt Rose Gold Garnet & Diamond Necklace - $930 (850) 422-1373 1950 Thomasville Road #M, Tallahassee Florida 32303
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Gypsy Rose CV Design Gold Earrings - $49 (850) 219-5210 Bannerman Crossings – 6668 Thomasville Road Tallahassee, Florida 32312
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Hobo Handbags Blue Shoulder Bag - $118 Red Clutch - $98 Black Clutch - $138 (850) 999-6105 1817 Thomasville Road Suite 530, Tallahassee Florida 32303
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Local LIVING Living LOCAL
WE ELEVATE • AROUND TOWN • SWEET HOME TALLAHASSEE • COMMUNITY • HAUTE HAPPENINGS
BY DR. MICHELLE MITCHAM
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ome women inspire; some empower, but when I was listening to the dynamic and down to earth, Dr. Andrea Friall speak at the Professional Women’s Forum last August, I was beyond uplifted. The ballroom was nearly filled to capacity with women leaning in to inhale the inspiring and authentic words of wisdom from Dr. Andrea Friall. The energy in the room was charged with positive vibes as this Powerhouse of a leader, shared her positive philosophy of life, success, love and family. Her decisive remarks and confident disposition defined a natural leader, but she shared that there were challenges along the way. Dr. Friall embraced life and turned any challenges into opportunities. It was an honor to spend that afternoon in the presence of her brilliance and inner and outer beauty. Dr. Friall is a women empowered who elevates other women, as witnessed at the forum. Dr. Andrea Friall exemplifies the concept of WE Elevate. It is my honor to highlight such a phenomenal woman.
WE Elevat e DR. ANDREA FRIALL
Dr. Friall's Reflection...
“Early in the month of August, I was given the opportunity by the Tallahassee Chamber to address the women leaders at the monthly Professional Womens Forum. I am not a public speaker, however, for a living I thrive with one-on-one and small group conversations. But standing in front of a room full of people addressing anything, quite frankly, terrifies me. My topic to speak on encouraged women to be ready for opportunities when they come our way, especially the unplanned ones. I decided to make myself vulnerable
because the message that I wanted to share was far more important than my fear. Recently, learning about vulnerability and leadership encouraged me to share the idea of why it is important for women and for leaders to put ourselves out there and embrace our dream. We have the courage to be the person we see when we look in the mirror! Be the girl who is cheering for the success of the other girl too! (that’s the old cheerleader in me). Know that you have to be able to push through the self-doubt and through the negative thoughts in order to believe that you are not the imposter… You
belong! So, think of vulnerability as a strength. Have courage. Many may say “How can a good leader be vulnerable?” and I ask you: How can they not?” Dr. Andrea K. Friall is a native Floridian. She received her B.S. degree in biology from Florida State University and her M.D. from Howard University College of Medicine. She completed her Obstetrics and Gynecology training at Tulane University. As a student, intern and resident, Dr. Friall distinguished herself as
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a leader, teacher and community servant, receiving several awards honoring her stellar performance. Since 2001, she has been a trusted physician and partner at North Florida Women's Care. In 2016, she became the Chief Medical Officer for Tallahassee Memorial Healthcare (TMH) while continuing to practice medicine. An advocate for women and girls through the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology, Dr. Friall is dedicated to the community activities that improve healthcare outcomes.
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AROUND TOWN The 2019 Tallahassee Woman Magazine’s RED Gala
recognized extraordinary R.E.D. women that exemplify characteristics of being Resilient, Empowered and Determined. TWM celebrated the outstanding contributions and achievements of these outstanding women with several awards; Tallahassee Woman of the Year; Resilient; Empowered and Determined. A special Ruby Award recognized a R.E.D. finalist who is a gem to all around her, as well as her community. The RED Gala will be an annual Fall celebration of R.E.D. women. This year, TWM partnered with Apalachee Center to raise awareness of mental health. Nominate a R.E.D. woman in 2020! Pictured from left to right: 1. Tallahassee Woman Magazine Staff 2. Michelle Brantley, Nina Ashenafi Richardson 3. Chris Corum, Beth Corum, daughter Stella 4. Dr. Michelle Mitcham, Adonis Smith, Briana Michelle Smith 5. Heather Cox Rosenberg, Molly Lord, Dr. Rachel Pienta 6. Jenny Dailey, Allison Tant Richard, Gary Yordon 7. Melesa Dickey, Patricia McCray, Alicia Colvalt 8. Dr. Elaine Bryant, Husband 9. Kyndra Light, Finalist Dr. Rachel Pienta, Beth H. Corum 10. Quia Z. Atkinson, Kollet Nichole Probst 11. Shannikia Bethea, Patricia Griffin, Dr. Michelle Mitcham, Bill Moore, Chattie Winton 12. Kelly Otte, Samantha Otte 13. Finalist Dr. Sharon Ames Dennard, Malek Dennard 14. Dr. Tamara Bertrand Jones, Robin Haggins, Renee Jean- Charles, Rose-May Frazier 15. Mickey Moore, Audrey Hendrick Moore 16. Angela Dempsey, Mary Mayhew, Nina Ashenafi Richardson, Dr. Jay Reeve
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The Women of Appleyard- Collegiate Spotlight: TCC
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weet Home Tallahassee highlights “All things Tallahassee” including outstanding women at our universities and colleges. In this issue, we highlight some phenomenal women students and leaders at Tallahassee Community College. faculty and had access to resources that I don’t believe would have been possible without the loving and supportive nature of TCC as well as my amazing family, friends, and other supporters; my ‘village.’ All this is credited to divine intervention. My ultimate goal is to become the Vice President of Student Affairs at a community college or university.
Nydia McSwain Tallahassee Community College Student “Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day—or even a year. But eventually, it will subside. And something else will take its place. If I quit, however, the pain will last forever”.—Dr. Eric Thomas I can victoriously say that I’ve overcome many painful obstacles in my young life. Not only is pain temporary, but it is inevitable. Physical and emotional pain are experiences that everyone must face at some point in their lives. The quote above is my philosophy. Whenever I say it, I am immediately reminded to never stop working towards my goal—whatever that may be. I am Nydia Ta’Nee McSwain, a secondyear student at the eminent Tallahassee Community College. I am 23 years old and a proud native of Quincy, Florida. I enjoy listening to hip-hop and R&B in my downtime and I have a passion for everything hospitality and education. Initially, I chose TCC because I wanted to continue my education after a failed attempt at Nursing school. I was already familiar with TCC, so finishing my AA here seemed to be my best choice. After enrolling in my last semester, I knew without a doubt that this was, in fact, my best choice. I have made connections with
Transitional Studies, which houses the summer bridge program, mentoring programs as well as foundational courses in reading, writing, math, and specialized courses for non-native speakers of English. She finds her work at TCC to be rewarding and admires the democratizing quality of the open-access community college system. At TCC, Sharisse has found her professional calling of helping the most vulnerable students to be aligned with her spiritual calling as an ordained minister. A passionate servant-leader and advocate for academically underprepared students and developmental education for many years, Sharisse is past-president of the Florida Developmental Education Association and an active member of the National Organization for Student Success and the College Reading and Learning Association. Additionally, she serves on the ministerial staff at Celebrate New Life Tabernacle Church.
Sharisse Turner Dean of Transitional Studies, Tallahassee Community College Sharisse, a native North Floridian, began her career in postsecondary education at her alma mater, Chipola College, as a learning specialist and English instructor before transferring to Tallahassee Community College. Here she has dedicated herself for over 31 years to working with at-risk and underserved student populations to facilitate their academic success, retention, and completion. She began her TCC career as a college preparatory English instructor. She enjoyed the challenges of the classroom and engaging with her students, many of whom have remained in contact with her years later. Sharisse currently serves as the dean of
Sagan May I decided to go to TCC instead of going straight to a university because I felt like I needed a smooth transition from high school class sizes to university class sizes. I had already chosen my career path of becoming a Forensic Chemist and Pathologist and I felt that doing my prerequisites in a smaller class structure would give me the best chance of success. I love that the teachers and staff at TCC seem to really want the best for all of
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their students and they each put forth the effort to make themselves available for any students that need a little extra help to understand the material being taught or how best to go about being successful in college. If it were not for a few of these people I would not be where I am today, and after 5 years I am only a couple semesters away from getting my AA in Biochemistry. This is all thanks to a staff member in the financial aid office that helped me to understand how to sign up for financial aid and helped me fill out the proper paperwork that allowed me to become a full-time student. In addition, if it were not for the director of the STEM Program, I would still be struggling with my time management. With her help and with the resources and scholarships offered by the STEM Program, I have come so much farther in my college career. I believe that it is important that everyone is given the chance to better themselves and having people such as teachers or employees that want the best for every student and strive to help to the best of their abilities makes a huge difference to those of us that feel like another cog in the machine.
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SHANNON CARROLL REDEMPTIVE LOVE FARM To say Shannon Carroll has a big heart, fearless spirit, and strong faith would be a colossal understatement. When she and her husband, Brian, decided to adopt, little did she know the magnitude of blessings it would bring to so many. Along with a commitment to adoption, the Carrolls wanted to live debt-free. Their love of faith, family, animals and the outdoors led them to sell their home and eventually move to Miccosukee. There the Carrolls formed Redemptive Love Farm where they live with their seven children and menagerie of animals including llamas, ponies, sheep, rabbits, and cows. The animals help bring joy and healing to the children who all have unique challenges. “Before they were adopted, each of our children experienced significant hurt or trauma,” explained Shannon. “Animals create trust, give comfort and teach responsibility.” To help maintain the farm, it’s available for special events, private visits, photoshoots, riding lessons, and farm yoga. Also provided are adoption/re-homing services for a variety of animals. Learn more: redemptivelovefarm.com.
MICHELLE HART & JANELLE IRWIN HANG TOUGH FOUNDATION When a child receives a serious diagnosis, it impacts the entire family. Often the journey involves travel for medical treatment, extended hospital stays, and numerous doctor tallahassee woman | 28 | december 2019 • januar y 2020
appointments. Many experience feelings of isolation due to health concerns that accompany exposure to public places. Loneliness also accompanies their experience by the feeling of a lack of a community who can relate. Michelle Hart understood and lived this reality after her daughter, Haley, was diagnosed with leukemia at age four. Haley’s family and friends rallied to support her. They coined the slogan “Hang Tough Haley Hart” and inspired a cycling team that ultimately brought the Irwin family to Tallahassee. Just shy of his first birthday, the Irwins’ son, Grayson, was diagnosed with leukemia. “The first person I called was Michelle,” remembered Janelle Irwin. Haley and Grayson, both healthy today, inspired the Hang Tough Foundation. Irwin is now the foundation’s Executive Director. Hang Tough has 16 programs and services and has served over 2,000 “heroes and sidekicks” (patients and siblings) and their families. “At Hang Tough, we encourage and enable our clientele to thrive by offering curated services and programming free of charge. We want the whole family to be supported and enjoy time together,” said Janelle. Learn more: hangtoughfoundation.org. CECKA ROSE GREEN CHILDREN’S HOME SOCIETY Cecka Rose Green is not one to rest on her laurels. Ever since her days as a leader at Florida Agriculture and Mechanical University, Cecka has been a force for good. Her professional life has garnered Cecka a wealth of experience from leadership management and strategic planning to a gubernatorial campaign. Family life is just as busy with a husband, three children and her continued support of her alma mater. She created the FAMU 10 for 10 Challenge to encourage support of the university. Recently, Green was honored with two awards from ACHI Magazine: Woman of the Year and Editor’s Choice. Last February, Cecka was named the Children’s Home Society (CHS) Regional Executive Director serving Tallahassee and the surrounding communities. CHS is the state’s largest provider of services to children and families with the goal of building strong families. “CHS is diversifying our programming to assist children with their growth and development, early learning and education, preparation for work and, lastly, becoming ready to parent their own children,” said Cecka “If we can positively impact our children and families in meaningful ways, our community will see significant changes for the better in our youth and young adults.” Learn more: chsfl.org tallahassee woman | 29 | december 2019 • januar y 2020
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The Winter Festival December 7, 2019 Downtown Tallahassee
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Celebrating its 33rd year, the Winter Festival is an event for all ages! An all-day affair, participants can look forward to the annual Jingle Bell run, the lighting ceremony, evening holiday parade, and plenty of crafts, vendors, and activities to get into the holiday spirit. For more information, visit talgov.com. market days December 7 - 8, 2019 North Florida Fair Grounds Market Days is the Southeast’s largest and best arts and crafts show around! Explore unique and handmade crafts from over 300 artisans. The market runs from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Saturday and is open until 4 p.m. on Sunday. For more information and tickets call (850) 575-8684. The harlem globetrotters December 9, 2019 Donald L. Tucker Civic Center Enjoy an exciting night filled perfectly for the family with the Harlem Globetrotters! They will be performing high-flying dunks from 7-9 p.m. at the Donald L. Tucker Civic Center. Visit ev11.evenue.net for ticket information.
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a Christmas carol December 12 -22, 2019 Theatre Tallahassee Experience Charles Dickens’ Christmas classic come to life! Watch Scrooge and Tiny Tim in this wonderful holiday production. Showtimes will be at 8 p.m. Monday through Saturday and 2 p.m. on Sundays. For more information call (850) 224-8474 or visit tallahasseearts.org. Holiday Magic December 14, 2019 Ruby Diamond Concert Hall Start the holidays off with this jazzy Christmas performance! The Leon Anderson Trio will join the Tallahassee Symphony Orchestra at 3 p.m. and 8 p.m. Be sure to pick up your tickets as the night’s program includes Sinatra, Fitzgerald, and Marsalis. Visit tallahasseesymphonyorchestra. secure.force.com for more information. Winter Solstice Celebration: SE Native American Festival December 14 - 15, 2019 Mission San Luis From 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. join Florida’s Apalachee-Spanish Living
History Museum for family fun! Support artisans and learn about Native American dancing, music, and storytelling! Admission is $5 for adults and $2 for children. Meals will be served at the festival so bring your children, family, and friends for a great time. The Nutcracker December 21 - 22, 2019 Ruby Diamond Concert Hall Celebrate this annual holiday tradition and let your imagination soar! This Tallahassee Ballet’s performance includes professional dances and a live orchestra as they take you and the family around the Kingdom of Sweets! Showtimes vary. For more information call (850) 224-6917 or visit tallahasseeballet.org. Saving Wakula Springs December 21, 2019 Wakulla Springs State Park Tour nature with Jim Stevensons, a Florida springs expert, on this fascinating tour. Join this car caravan, departing from Cascades Park, towards the scenic basin of Wakula Springs and spend time learning about Florida’s underground aquifer that supplies drinking water through pristine sinkholes. Tickets are $10 for
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students and $18 for adults. The proceeds benefit Friends of Wakulla Springs State Park. For more information call (850) 926-3376 or visit palmettoexpeditions.com Free Planetarium Show: January Skies Over Tallahassee January 4, 2020 Challenger Learning Center of Tallahassee Discover the night sky! From 10 a.m. to 11 a.m. to view constellations, stars, and planet positions in the “January Skies Over Tallahassee.” This event is hosted by the Tallahassee Astronomical Society. For more information visit the Challenger Learning Center of Tallahassee website challengertlh. com. Take Me Home North Florida Pet Adoption Event January 11, 2020 North Florida Fair Grounds
From 9 a.m to 5 p.m., hang out with over 200 songwriters and musicians, performing pieces from various genres from country and Americana to folk and blues in over 25 dedicated listening rooms. This event is held in the historic 30A in South Walton. The festival is produced by the Cultural Arts Alliance (CAA) as a portion of the proceeds will benefit. For more information and tickets visit 30ASongwritersFestival.com. Tallahassee Beer Festival January 25, 2020 The Pavilion at The Centre of Tallahassee From 2-5 p.m. the Tallahassee Beer Festival will be serving cider, beer, and seltzer from over 70 breweries. For unlimited sampling and a night of beer, tasting fun check out tlhbeerfest.com for tickets and more information!
Kristin Chenoweth in Concert January 28, 2020 Ruby Diamond Concert Hall This evening performance offers a mix of songs from The Art of Elegance, a collection of American Songbook classics, Broadway, and well-known standards. Kristin’s long-time career in film (The Sopranos), Television, and stage. She has received Emmys, Tony’s and starred in Broadway. Her charitable contributions foes to support the Arts & Education Fund and use the opportunity to lobby the legislature about the importance of the National Endowment of the Arts. For more information call (850) 644-7670.
Support local pet adoption at the 8th annual Take Me Home Pet Adoption Event! The event will not just have pets for adoption, but a variety of local pet vendors, food trucks, and a dog sport event: The Barn Hunt! Over 50 percent of the animals at this event go to new and loving homes. 30A Songwriters Festival January 17- 20, 2020 Highway 30A, 32459
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hen Katrina Rolle reflects on her life, she says each step led her to the job she has today as president and CEO of the Community Foundation of North Florida. This is Katrina’s second leadership position in the local nonprofit sector. Before joining the Community Foundation, she was CEO of the United Way of the Big Bend, where she led a major shift in the organization’s funding model. Now she’s helping individuals fulfill their philanthropic goals and helping nonprofits plan for long-term sustainability. For 22 years, Katrina has been deeply engrained in the community. She has served with many organizations as a board member and volunteer and managed her own law practice. She’s also a dedicated mom, leading her daughter’s Girl Scouts troop and breathing a sigh of relief that her three youngest children, finally, all participate in the same sport – track and field. Through it all, Katrina has defined success on her own terms, at times leaning into her career, and at other times focusing on her role as a wife and mother and helping as a caregiver to her mother. “All of these things become part of who you are,” she said. “They prepare you for where you’re supposed to be, and I do believe this is where I’m supposed to be.” On the job for two weeks, Katrina sat down with TWM in October to talk about the path that led her to the Community Foundation and her plans for the future: You’re from Miami; how did you land in Tallahassee? “My husband, Gary (an orthopedic surgeon) received a call from Tallahassee Orthopedic Clinic, asking him to come take a look. That’s how we ended up here, but I have family here in the Panhandle. My dad was born in Blountstown, and as a kid, I spent some of my summers in Blountstown. We’ve lived here since 1997, and for many of those years, I was a stay-at-home-mom, which was one of the greatest joys of my life.”
You said that you don’t embrace the working mom vs. nonworking mom debate. Why is that? “No matter which path we choose, moms are busy, and we work hard to provide for and support our families. It’s akin to seeing a duck on top of the water. Nobody knows what we’re doing underneath the water to make it work, but we make it work.” It was while you were a stay-at-home mom that you became involved in nonprofits. “Yes, I served on the local Children’s Home Society Board for nine years, two as chair. While on that board, I formed the Teen Leadership Council, which I’m proud to say is still in existence. My oldest son was one of the first members, and my thirdborn just got selected to be a part of that, so it’s full circle. From there, I was asked to be on the state board for Children’s Home Society, and I did that for three years.” What was the transition back to work like after 11 years as a stay-athome-mom? “I opened my own law practice. I wanted to work for myself to have the flexibility to be there for my children. Estate planning is
another attorney helped me through that process. I thought, wow, this is a great way to help people that I just hadn’t thought about.” You closed your practice after your mother and father moved to Tallahassee. “Yes, my parents were living in South Florida, and my mother was diagnosed with Parkinson’s and Shy-Drager syndrome (also called MSA). I closed my practice until I could figure out how to help them. I did that for about three years until I got things under control, and during that time, I was on the board for United Way.” You were CEO at United Way for four and a half years. What are you most proud of during your tenure? “Being part of creating the new strategic direction focused on the five funding areas: housing, early learning, safety net, the aging workforce and skills development. Being a part of something that was clearly bigger than any of us for the good of our community was exciting, but when the result is change, you deal with the resulting challenges, too.”
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Family: Husband of 25 years Gary; four children ages 22, 18, 16 and 15 Education: Undergraduate degree in business administration from Tuskegee University; Levin College of Law - University of Florida Community: President of the University of Florida Alumni Association Board of Directors, chair of the Maclay School Board, board member for the Economic Club of Florida and Tallahassee Chamber of Commerce. Active in Leadership Florida, serves as her daughter’s Girl Scouts Troop leader and serves on the Vestry for her church.
conducive to controlling your schedule, so that worked out well for about six years.” Why did you choose estate planning? “I stumbled into it because of my father-inlaw. He was diagnosed with brain cancer and given a short time to live. He didn’t have any estate planning documents. We needed to get that done quickly, and
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That process was challenging, I’m sure, and not everyone was pleased with the changes. How did you navigate that? “You have to start with doing the right thing for the right reason, and when you’re doing that, everything falls into place. These are the words that Skip (Skip Foster, president and publisher of the Tallahassee
O N T H E C OV E R Democrat and a United Way Board member) used and now everybody says this: “If your funding is a mile wide and an inch deep, are you truly having an impact that can move the needle in our community?” No. Everyone was not happy. Change is difficult, but the hope is that when United Way collectively begins to have an impact in these five areas, more resources will become available to support other areas of need in our community. The goal of every United Way is to continue to evolve to meet the needs of your community. I feel very good about the work we accomplished in establishing a new strategic direction for United Way.” What motivated you to move on from United Way? “I wasn’t looking. I had two different people say, the Community Foundation job has your name all over it. You’ve got the skill set, what you’ve done with the United Way, your involvement in the community, you should consider it. I thought, maybe I’ll take a look. And now, I’m in a great position to tell the story of need to help people make long-term charitable decisions about how they want to support this community.” When you say that you’ve always had a passion for the community, what do you mean? “For me, success means helping other people be successful. We are all put on this earth for a purpose, and we all have spiritual gifts. I believe my gifts are organization, planning and leadership, so how do you use your gifts to make a difference in your life, in your family’s life and in your community? I feel very fortunate to have been given great opportunities to do that. A lot of times, we think success is the result of a stated plan or a direct path. For me, it’s been a journey. It’s funny how you don’t know where you’re going to end up, but when you look back, you see how everything played a part in getting you to where you are and helping you to have what you need to have an impact. You have to have faith in the journey.” As a leader, do you think women leaders in Tallahassee face challenges? “Yes, if they try to do it on their own. Women need a support network. If you have that, that’s a great tool to help you succeed. Look at some of the organizations here, nonprofit and otherwise, that are led by women. There are opportunities, but again, we should never forget to have our support system.” How did you build your network? “When you start working with other leaders and you’re producing results, you tend to gravitate toward one another, so it was through community engagement. Some people will say, if you see someone and you want them to be your mentor, ask. I’ve never done that. My friends and colleagues have ended up being peer mentors more than anything else.”
“You have to start with doing the right thing for the right reason, and when you’re doing that, everything falls into place.” How are you approaching your new role at the Foundation? “I’m reading as much as I can, understanding the operations, getting to know the staff, tapping into the knowledge that Joy ( Joy Watkins, former CEO) is sharing, and then I will start meeting with stakeholders. You listen to people’s thoughts about the organization, what they perceive to be the strengths, weaknesses and opportunities, and then you chart the course.” What are your goals for the Foundation? “For me, the goal is to inspire and facilitate people’s charitable giving and to help nonprofits grow their endowments and determining the best way to do that. What will be my stamp on the Community Foundation to continue to help it evolve and grow? I’ll know that over time, and I’m looking forward to the journey. For more information about the Community Foundation of North Florida, visit cfnf.org
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Human Trafficking: STAC Helps to Mobilize the Healthcare Community BY ROBIN HASSLER THOMPSON
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ealthcare professionals are on the front lines of identifying and assisting trafficking survivors. A survivor could be male or female, an adult or a child. They may have recently escaped a trafficking situation or could even be brought into an emergency department or clinic by the trafficker. Nurses and physicians may be the first and only people a survivor can see in private who could help. The need for healthcare professionals to understand how to identify and respond is great: in one study, almost 90 percent of trafficking survivors sought healthcare while being trafficked, almost 70 percent in emergency departments. Every human trafficking survivor is different and has unique needs. These survivors, like all of us, need access to healthcare. Human trafficking survivors also may suffer injuries directly related to their trafficking situation. Consider this example based on what we know about how traffickers operate: “Josie,” a young woman from Guatemala, is enslaved on a North Florida farm, picking tomatoes. Like other agricultural workers, she lives in unsafe and dilapidated housing provided by the grower. Unlike her male co-workers, Josie often is sexually assaulted by the crew boss: he tells her that these visits to “the green motel” are mandatory if she wants to keep her job, which she does: even though the meager wages she receives (far less
than what she was promised) helps feed her family back home. Josie has many potential healthcare needs: •
She comes from a very poor area and has never seen a doctor or a dentist. She’s never received vaccinations or any form of preventative medicine.
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Josie is routinely exposed to harmful chemicals and pesticides; she never gets protective gear like masks or gloves.
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She may have STIs associated with repeated rapes and she’s often threatened with harm if she tries to leave.
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Her abusive working conditions and life are highly traumatizing; she experiences nightmares and often is anxious and depressed.
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Josie suffers from poor nutrition, lacks regular access to clean water, is rarely allowed to wash her clothes, or bathe.
It is not unusual for female labor trafficking victims to also be sexually
assaulted, whether in farms and fields, like Josie, or in homes and hotels where they may be housekeepers. In this example alone, Josie has multiple actual and potential injuries and conditions that require coordinated attention from the healthcare sector. There is good news that can help trafficking survivors like Josie, both statewide and locally. Florida laws require nurses to receive two hours of human trafficking training every two years, as a condition of licensure and a new law mandates one hour of human trafficking education for physicians and a broad array of providers from acupuncturists to physical therapists. These professionals also must post information including the National Human Trafficking Hotline 1-888-3737-888 in their offices. The Florida Medical Association and the Department of Health have online training and information about the topic, too. Here in Tallahassee, The Survive and Thrive Advocacy Center (STAC) works with Tallahassee Primary Care Associates, Tallahassee Memorial Healthcare, the Leon County Health
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Department, the Florida Department of Health and seven area County Health Departments. STAC has prioritized area healthcare training to help all members of the healthcare team to recognize human trafficking and safely respond to patients in the healthcare setting, especially since healthcare is a primary way to reach many who may be isolated, in our rural areas. In the above example, STAC could help Josie if her nurse or physician contacts us. Josie may need legal help, she may want to report her trafficker to law enforcement, and she may need help with housing, clothing, food, and counseling. STAC coordinates with providers throughout our area to wrap-around services for trafficking survivors like Josie so she can begin to recover and heal. Everyone – from businesses to the faith community, from law enforcement to the schools – should understand how to recognize possible and respond to human trafficking. Healthcare
providers, especially, can do much to assist survivors and help end trafficking in our community.
For more information: • The National Human Trafficking Resource Center: humantraffickinghotline.org • The Florida Department of Health’s human trafficking webpage: flhealthsource.gov/ humantrafficking including signage: flhealthsource.gov/ humantrafficking/docs/ HumanTraffickingPoster-All.pdf • The Survive and Thrive Advocacy Center: surviveandthriveadvocacy.org Robin Hassler Thompson, JD, MA, is the Executive Director of the Survive and Thrive Advocacy Center (STAC); STAC’s mission is to build awareness of all forms of sex and labor trafficking and to assist trafficking survivors.
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holidays. When should you start to save? The easy answer is the sooner the better. Consider these five tips I pulled from my personal playbook that may make your holiday season less financially stressful…I hope! 1. MAKE A LIST AND CHECK IT TWICE
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Friday, and all through the house, after too much turkey consumption, the family could not function—not even their dog, Duncan. Momma was looking over her budget with care, while Daddy was watching football with great fanfare. Now, Narcissus! Now, Nicks! On, Kanvas and Kevin’s! To the mall, we go. Now shop away, shop away, shop away all! As we enter the holiday season, people begin asking about financial tips for saving for the
could afford? Your gift buying throughout the year deserves that same consideration. Not only do I list who I want to buy for and for what occasion, but I also add the amounts I want to spend. That way, in January, I know how much I should save for my gift-giving desires.
Just like when I diet—which is all the time— writing down what In our digital world, we have I eat every day is the best way access to great apps on our phones for me to lose weight. I’m held to help keep us organized. In accountable— besides stepping on January, I use the Note app on the dreaded scale, of course. It’s my iPhone to organize all my the same for the dreaded B-word. upcoming gift buying (birthday, WRITE IT DOWN. Know what anniversaries, etc…). I type in all you want to spend and document the family members, friends and that amount. coworkers for whom I may buy a gift during the year, and when "Make good ol’ S t. 3. someone mentions something specific they would like, I Nicholas proud — document the idea under their name. So as the year progresses, make a list and I have ideas and can look for sales along check it twice" the way. Make good ol’ St. Nicholas proud—make a list and check it twice. Don’t go shopping without a list of who you are buying for and how much you want to spend. 2. SET A BUDGET Yes, I said it: the dreaded B-word. Consider this: when you decided to buy your home, did you drive down the most expensive street or did you carefully consider the cost of the home and what you
START A SEPARATE SAVINGS ACCOUNT The best way to save is by payroll deduction. Most of our employers allow us to direct deposit our paycheck, and most employers allow you to direct deposit to more than one account. Set up a Holiday savings account and payroll deduct the amount you budget for holiday gift buying. This is one of the easiest ways to save.
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Just like with a payroll deduction for your 401k or health insurance, it’s out of sight, out of mind. Think of having a different account for a different expense, and once you set up the account for holiday saving, block it from online view. You do not want to see the money accumulating because we all know what happens when cash is available to spend. 4. USE GOOD OLD FASHION CASH Yes, I said it: cash. Unfortunately, debit cards and credit cards are not your friends. They provide ease to spend and entice us with rewards points so it’s harder to know and control what we’re spending. Your budget for your
sister is $50, for example, but when you visit the store sweaters are two for $90. With a credit card or debit card, 90 percent of us would buy two and end up spending the extra $40. When you’re using cash however, you have $50 to spend, so unless you really know who you would buy the other sweater for— and you budgeted $40 for them— you shouldn’t buy it. Some of us will find a reason to keep the sweater as a gift to ourselves but remember our main goal is to avoid having credit card debt we have to pay in January. 5. COUNT YOUR CHANGE! One year my parents told me they were saving every five-dollar
bill they received as change from eating out, getting gas or shopping. With lots of discipline, they saved every five-dollar bill in a safe place at home, and by the end of the year, they had accumulated $2200. This is a great family challenge everyone can take part in for one year. Set your goals with your family and ask everyone to save their change, be it $5 or $10. We cannot avoid the holiday season. Instead of hiding or stressing over the gift-giving season, remember it’s not what you spend; it’s truly the thought that counts. Mother Teresa said, “It’s not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving.”
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Christmas celebrations don’t have to mean hanging your stocking at home. For a change of pace, pack a few special gifts along with holiday attire, and check into a resort that’s right under your nose. That’s what we did! And, trust me, Old St. Nick still found us—snuggled up, at Château Élan Winery & Resort, (40 miles north of Atlanta), the most-awarded winery on the East Coast. Though the resort is situated roughly a 5 hour dash from Tallahassee, the environs are reminiscent of fairy-tale castles and chateaus in France’s wine country. The 3,500 acre panorama made for a magical and mythical spot to hang our hats for Christmas. Santa hats, that is! Empty nesters, deserving twosomes, and frolicsome families, relish in the chance to forgo decking the halls and washing dishes—for an indulgent holiday where someone else does the cooking! Christmas at Château Élan unfolds endless food options, delightful spa treatments, celebratory wines, golf outings — and gift cards tailored to suit your fancy! When the jolly guy in red made his list and checked
it twice, he must’ve assumed that I’d been good, because he rolled out the red carpet at Château Élan. chateauelan.com
As you drive through the gates of the 4.5 star Château Élan, you enter an idyllic that blends an expanse of bountiful woodlands and lush grapevines, along with splendorous interiors, waiting to be explored. The entry lobby flows with crackling fireplaces— to welcome guests to linger, and stay awhile. During the Christmas season, an ingeniously decorated wine tree, featuring bottles of Château Élan-brand spirits and corks, adorn the estate’s adjoining winery. The inn offers 275 deluxe guest rooms, 22 suites, a 1,832 square foot Presidential suite, and 1,333 square foot Governor’s suite — all festooned in grand French Estate style. A lavish bathroom with oversized tub and shower, a 32” flat screen television, and a mini-fridge, create a comfy Yuletide haven. From the moment I slung open the doors to my opulent suite and leaped into the massive sleigh of a bed, I knew that visions of sugarplums would dance in my head. The only item we needed to bring was mistletoe!
With 7 restaurants on-site, you’ll feel like a kid in a candy palace. Versailles’ menu offers American cuisine with modern flair, featuring both a gourmet buffet and a fixed menu. ( The legendary ‘Christmas Day Feast’ at Versailles elevates the term ‘buffet.’) Marc Bar & Restaurant is a Southern-inspired bar and chophouse, showcasing premium aged steaks and a carefully curated array of handcrafted libations. Paddy’s Irish Pub serves up traditional Irish dinners along with live music. Fleur-de-Lis at Château Élan Spa will tempt your taste buds with wholesome, healthy spa fare. If you’re in the mood for grilled meats, sandwiches, and salads in a relaxed setting with big screens TVs, Sarazen's Bar & Grille will suit your fancy. Le Soleil Pool Bar, the
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I arrived at the Spa at Chateau Élan with bells on, eager to partake in an Antioxidant Soak & Château Essential Massage! The pampering commenced with an intoxicating neck-deep wine bath in a massive hydro-tub. A soothing body massage followed, making the perfect ending to an unforgettable holiday hiatus.
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omething extraordinary is happening in the field of mental health treatment in Florida: After years of stigma and misunderstanding, the public discussion of mental health issues is suddenly blossoming. In the press, on TV, in the legislature, and around dinner tables, what was once a taboo subject has become a topic of fascination. For those of us who have worked in the field for decades, this sea change is an amazing and welcome shift – one that is leading to new awareness, reduced barriers, and ultimately to a much better mental health for the community. Why here? Why now? Many point to the tragedy of the Parkland shootings and other killings – while those working in this field know that individuals with mental illness are much more likely to be victims of violence than its perpetrators. I have another explanation – the
growing presence of women in leadership roles. In the state of Florida, First Lady Casey DeSantis and AHCA Secretary Mary Mayhew have become the champions for expanded access to quality mental health treatment. This has led to unprecedented cooperation across all branches of State government and a sense of urgency and mission for those of us in the field to make our delivery better and make it count. These two extraordinarily articulate and committed women are leading the way, but their example is echoed in our own community: In the championship of Representative Loranne Ausley for improved early childhood mental healthcare; in Courtney Atkins and Whole Child Leon’s pioneering Pediatric Navigator program; in the extraordinary leadership of Nancy O’Farrell, the Chair of the Tallahassee Chapter of the National
Alliance for Mental Illness and Cindy Foster, President of NAMI Florida; in the pioneering work of Professor Heather Flynn at the FSU College of Medicine; in the effective and gracious leadership of Sue Conger, the Chief of Operations at Apalachee Center; and of course, in Dr. Michelle Mitcham’s leadership of Tallahassee Woman magazine and their new emphasis on mental health. It’s no accident that the directors of the three acute inpatient psychiatric units in this region ( Jackie Beck at Apalachee Center; Heather Lincicome at Tallahassee Memorial Behavioral Health Center; and Fiona Hall at Capital Regional Medical Center) are all accomplished women doing very, very tough jobs. When I look at the renaissance of mental health discussion and sophistication in Florida, and in this region particularly, it's clear to me that one of the major drivers is a group of women in leadership roles who are changing the world of mental health for the better.
Dr. Reeve is President and Chief Executive Officer of Apalachee Center, a not-forprofit behavioral health center serving Florida’s Big Bend region. Dr. Reeve is the chair of the Florida Council for Behavioral Health and the ABC Campaign.
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ivorce is real. All too often, the negative effects go beyond the husband and wife. Do you know any children "caught in the middle" of a bitter divorce or separation? Maybe you know someone that is going through an intense, hostile, angry divorce that has children and you worry about how the divorce is affecting them. When we take a closer look, divorce and separation are becoming a normative event in American society and elsewhere. Nearly half of all marriages end in divorce. The probability of the demise of a first marriage within 5 years is 20%, increasing to nearly 33% after 10 years. Additionally, the length of a first marriage is short lived, averaging approximately 8 years. What about the children? How does this affect them? Children Caught in the Middle The breakdown of a marriage, and ultimately the process of separation and divorce, has damaging effects on the parents as well as the children involved. Often, individuals who were once committed to stable, loving relationships find themselves in the middle of divorce engaging in highly-conflicted behaviors of fighting, hostility and blame. The impact of high conflict divorce on children can be devastating, traumatic, and extremely stressful. Characteristics that typically define highconflict divorce involve a lack of trust between parents, elevated anger levels, seeing things in black or white—all or none thinking, and a willingness to perpetuate a cycle of litigation. We see examples of this played out on television, in movies, bestselling books, the internet, talk shows and even on the news. Perhaps you recall a very well known actor that once left a scathing message on the answering machine for his daughter that was clearly a case of high conflict divorce. The child was “caught in
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the middle” of all the parental drama. We all know someone who is or has experienced a high-conflict divorce that put their children in the middle of the conflict, whether they knew it or not. What I mean by that is, the parents, while embroiled in their anger, oftentimes, inappropriately confide in their children regarding the break up, details of child support, unnecessary stories of the other parent’s character flaws, infidelities, court documents, financial information about assets and so much more. Furthermore, parents experiencing this extreme hostility toward one another, oftentimes, engage in behaviors that negatively affect the children and diminish the relationship between them. In my work as a family mediator and specifically, as a Parenting Coordinator, I observed numerous high-conflict cases that needed an immediate intervention to help parents with conflict resolution skills, effective communication, learning “a new dance” and transitioning into being co-parents. As a former Parenting Coordinator, I was assigned to work with court-ordered high-conflict separation and divorce cases involving children. What amazed me was how many parents had limited awareness and minimal understanding regarding the effects of their high-conflict behavior on the children. Perhaps you’ve heard of the parent that instructed their child to “ask your daddy when he will pay the child support”, or “tell your mother I don’t have any more money to give”, or “you would have what you needed if your other parent didn’t spend it on that new car”, or “you can’t see your other parent on that day according to the court order and the judge; if you don’t believe me, read it yourself”. Sadly, this type of behavior is all too common in high-conflict separation and divorce. Children can survive divorce. However, they cannot survive unaffected by the extreme, chronic conflict and toxic fighting that occurs between parents in an emotionallycharged divorce. The level and intensity of conflict between parents during marriage is a very good indicator of the level and type of conflict that will ensue after the divorce, unless the parents learn how to be co-parents and NOT put the children in the middle.
Ten tips to becoming effective CoParents and taking children “out of the middle”. 1. Do not discuss the adult and court issues such as child support and the contact schedule and other issues about the divorce with the children. 2. If you need someone to lean on, call a friend, pastor, relative, or seek professional help during this difficult time from a mental health professional; not confiding in children. 3. Promote the relevance of the other parent to the child; both parents are the center of the child’s life and the child needs a relationship with each. Do not discuss the flaws or shortcomings of the other parent with the child. 4. Do not send messages to other parent through the children. 5. Do not ask your child to keep secrets about their activities at your home; children naturally want to discuss their world with both parents. 6. Allow your children to take their personal belongings with them when they visit the other parent. 7. Allow your children access to other parent (telephone, cell, email) and don’t monitor their conversations with the other parent. 8. Communicate through a parent notebook or weekly email to other parent with latest news, school updates, and vacations. (This reduces conflicts and misunderstandings). 9. Attend school functions, celebrations, sports events, etc…and be cordial to other parent- this teaches your children how to get along despite your differences. It shows them how important they are and lastly, shows them that even though the love between their parents has changed, the love for them is constant and unwavering. 10. BE A UNITED FRONT. Show your children that you both care enough about them to be co-parents; to discuss their welfare, school, events, holidays and through your behaviors support them, encourage them and be on the same page. Children’s best interests must come FIRST.
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5. On low speed, gradually add flour
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mixture; mix until just fully incorporated. Dough will be very sticky. Cover work bowl and refrigerate at least 2 hours or overnight
6. When ready, preheat oven to 325ºF (165ºC). Line two baking sheets with parchment paper and place confectioners’ sugar in a small bowl; set both aside. 7. Measure enough dough to roll into generous 1-inch (2.5 cm) balls, making sure each scoopful is in equal amounts. This is important for evenly baked cookies. 8. Bake in preheated oven until cookies
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1. Preheat oven to 325ºF (165ºC). Coat two 6 inch round pans with oil/butter and flour. Line the bottom of pans with parchment paper; set pans aside. 2. Melt your butter and combine it with your oil; set aside to cool to room temperature. 3. Combine sifted flour, baking soda, pumpkin spice, baking powder, salt, and brown sugar in a medium mixing bowl and whisk to combine. 4. With your hand mixer, combine eggs one at a time, blending until loosely combined after each egg. 5. Add your remaining ingredients and
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