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CONTENTS 10. LETTER FROM PUBLISHER 12. LETTER FROM GUEST EDITOR

CULTURE & CUISINE

14. THE POWER OF COMFORT 16.MIDTOWN READS 17. 7 MUST WATCH SHOWS & MOVIES 18. NECK NEGLECT SKINCARE MISTAKES

LIVING LOCAL

20. AROUND TOWN: TANYA EVANS TWM COVER PARTY, RED WOMEN RECHARGE EVENT, PACE CENTER FOR GIRLS EVENT, OASIS CENTER TRAILBLAZER AWARDS

ON THE COVER

24. TINA VIDAL-DUART A LIFE WITHOUT LIMITS BY HEATHER THOMAS

BUSINESS & LEADERSHIP

WWMB JOURNAL 29. WWMB FEATURE SALLY S. BRADSHAW 31. LEGAL WRITES WITH DANA BROOKS 32. STACKED: WOMEN IN REAL ESTATE 33. WOMEN ON THE MOVE: KELSEY SCOTT

35. FROM PITCH TO PROFIT WITH DR. BOBBI PETERSON 36. MEN WHO MEAN BUSINESS: CARLOS DUART, BILL MOORE, KEITH BOWERS, GARY YORDON, CHRIS TURNER, PASTOR GREGORY JAMES & MARK CHAMBERS

MIND, BODY & SPIRIT

44. THREE MAGIC WORDS TO CONSIDER 46. PUT YOUR MASK ON

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LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS 48. BREAKING THE CYCLE 49.TURNING OVERWHELM INTO GROWTH 50. A PICTUREPERFECT WEDDING FOR LESS 51. HOW ONE WOMAN TRANSFORMED LOSS INTO A LEGACY

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April - May 2023 • Volume 18 • Issue 3

Publisher | Editor-in-Chief Dr. Michelle Mitcham

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CONTRIBUTORS DR. SUSAN SPELL WRITER Susan Spell, MD, is an internationally DR.JEANNE O'KON acclaimed health and WRITER beauty expert. Her Dr. Jeanne O'Kon is a member of the Tallahas- unique background, see/Leon County Com- which includes internal mission on the Status of medicine dermatology, LACI SWANN Women and Girls. She is from Harvard Medical WRITER a psychologist and teach- School, Atlanta Laci Swann is a Board es psychology at Flagler University Center, and Member of the Autism College Tallahassee. She New York University Society of Florida, taught the "Psychology of equips her with expertise representing the state’s Women" course for many in overall health, skin, panhandle in fundraising years, and has dedicated and beauty. and advocacy efforts. years to work focused on Laci is the Principal women and girls in our of Sharp Editorial, an community. award-winning editorial + small business consulting + branding design.

LISA DAVIS WRITER Lisa Davis is a wife, JANE MARKS mommy of four, beauty WRITER blogger, Freelance Jane Marks is a licensed Makeup Artist, and DR. TAVIA REYES psychotherapist "life Owner of Image by WRITER coach" with 50+ years of Lisa. She loves sharing Tavia is holistic experience specializing her tips and tricks with physician, passionate in child and adolescent other women so that they about cultivating behavior. She is a can look and feel their wellness through motivational speaker/ absolute best. For more sustainable and healthful lecturer focusing on information about Lisa living. She teaches mental health and visit imagebylisa.com. mindful movement and adolescents. meditation. She also volunteers at a maternity home for at risk women. tallahassee woman | 8 | april • may 2023

KIRA DERRYBERRY PHOTOGRAPHER Kira Derryberry is a Tallahassee-based portrait photographer specializing in families, headshots and boudoir and commercial photography. She books locally in Tallahasee and is available for travel worldwide. View Kira's portfolio online at kiraderryberry.com

CRISTINA CARTER WRITER Cristina Carter, owner/ founder of Tallahassee Notary, LLC, holds a Master of Arts in International Relations from FSU and has taught several courses there. She also co-directed/coproduced, “Las Chica’s.”

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PERSEVERANCE, PASSION, & PURPOSE

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ife is difficult and there will be challenges. Strong women know how to rise above any challenge, obstacle, or unseen barrier. Empowered women are purpose-driven and know that any perceived setback is an opportunity for a major comeback. Perseverance, passion, and purpose are the secret powers of women. Living and dreaming without limits can unlock barriers and create the life you envision. Throughout our lives, we will encounter opportunities that allow us to pivot and take on new directions, fulfilling our passion and purpose. Remember that the mind attracts that which it dwells upon and acknowledges. The manifestation of our dreams unfolds as we live authentically. I have authentically loved helping others in my roles as mother, professor, psychotherapist, family mediator, board member, volunteer, and countless other hats. Who knew that these roles would manifest in leading TWM? I can’t believe that it has been nearly 5 years since I had the honor of taking over the magazine as Publisher and CEO from my dear friend, Kim Rosier. I loved the purpose of the magazine, which resonated with me, and I am honored to serve the community with this resource, as a minority entrepreneur. I am so excited that Tallahassee Woman Magazine is celebrating 17 years of sharing women’s stories of purpose, passion, and perseverance! I am so appreciative of the TWM team, contributors, and collaborators. Teamwork makes the dream work! Our goal is to continue taking the magazine to new heights. It is my vision that all women consistently see themselves in the picture and represented in the pages of TWM. Our diversity is our strength. TWM embraces and celebrates the beautiful, diverse women of our community 365 days a year.

Photo by Kira Derryberry Photography

In this issue, we celebrate the courageous Cover Woman, Tina Vidal-Duart, entrepreneur, wife, and mother, who walks the talk and knows about manifesting dreams, hard work, determination, and the art of pivoting. Heather Thomas captures her inspiring story with a soulful heart and authenticity.

wish you a very Happy Mother’s Day! Please save the date, May 17, 2023, for the annual Women Who Mean Business, Women on Fire Awards luncheon! Sponsorships are available. We look forward to seeing you! Remember that the magic is in you!

Don’t miss the impressive Men Who Mean Business profiles, highlighting leaders that share how they appreciate, celebrate, and embrace women in the community and beyond in their various roles. On behalf of the TWM team, we

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Optimistically yours,

Dr. Michelle Mitcham

Dream it IF YOU CAN

Landscape it WE CAN

GUEST EDITOR

It was a call from the soul and everything within me pushed me to answer, no matter the fears of the inadequacy of not measuring up, and not knowing where the path would lead. Some of the best, and most transformative years of my life would follow because I decided to co-create and collaborate on my own dream and the dreams of others. It is with great joy that I watch TWM’s new publisher, Dr. Michelle Mitcham, continue to follow the call and expand the magazine’s vision with continued innovation and expansion. By including information on self-care and mindfulness in each issue along with sharing the stories of the women in our community, the goal of TWM is to continue to inspire women from all walks of life.

Coming Home to Yourself Photo by Kira DerryBerry Photography

or the last several years I’ve been on a journey of the soul. With a global pandemic that literally forced us to go inward, I took the time to learn how to tap into the energy of my being, through daily meditation and connecting to books, podcasts, classes, mentorships, and people that were on a similar awakening path of discovering who we really are, and our purpose for being here at this time. It took me and is still taking me through quite a few fear thresholds that have brought up difficult things to the surface to be seen and acknowledged, while at the same time, surrendering to the process in order to grow and be of service to the growth of others. As I do this inner, consciousness expansion work, I shine more brightly, and so too does the world around me. It goes beyond spirituality and is more of a focus on soul potentiality. Perhaps this is why I felt led to share Tina Vidal-Duart’s compelling story. She is on a similar path of self-discovery and is at a place in her life where she has experienced the incredible power of intention-setting and working towards dreams now made manifest. She has experienced a lot—both the highs and lows of a life well-lived and is now going further in her journey of the self, continuing to see beyond the limits of what is possible. Seventeen years ago, in April of 2006, Kim Rosier, former publisher and owner of Tallahassee Woman Magazine (TWM) printed the first issue because she was willing to face down fears and perceived limitations. I picked up that first edition, newly back in town with a toddler in tow (who is now 18!), and sat with Kim to discuss how I could help her vision take flight. She had created an extraordinary platform to share women’s stories and information on how to inspire them to live their best lives, and I knew that I was supposed to be a part of it. tallahassee woman | 12 | april • may 2023

Perhaps that is more of what we are all moving towards. When we follow what lights us up and drown out the disempowering thoughts that want to be our paintbrush instead of our heart—it’s because it will change our lives, and powerfully impact others. The bigness of that is what our mind is feeling. But we are ready. There is so much inside of us that is waiting and burning to come out. The mind will give you millions of worried thoughts because it wants to protect you and keep things from changing. However, turning towards these thoughts and exploring beyond them helps us to tap into our inner well of power, peace, and soul knowledge that is always there, waiting for us to breathe it into life. The chaos of this world may only increase, and the voices of doubt and fear will be loud. But, if you follow the quiet call of your soul, it will always show you the way home.

Yours on the journey,

Heather Thomas Want to reach out to Heather? Contact her at fullcircleawakening@gmail.com, or follow and message her on Instagram @‌fullcircleawakening.

THE POWER

OF COMFORT CULTURE & CUISINE

Why Real Women are Choosing Comfort over Runway Fashion

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s society continues to push unrealistic beauty standards and fashion trends, it's important to remember that real women prioritize comfort over runway fashion. The pressure to constantly look glamorous and put-together can be overwhelming, but it's crucial to prioritize personal comfort and well-being. Dressing for comfort doesn't mean sacrificing style - it simply means choosing clothing that feels good, fits well, and allows for ease of movement. Real women understand that confidence comes from within, and that feeling comfortable in their own skin is more important than adhering to any fleeting fashion fad. By prioritizing comfort, women can focus on living their lives to the fullest without being bogged down by restrictive clothing or self-consciousness. Do you love cozy, worn jeans that move with you effortlessly? Well, say no more! Shed those layers for spring and choose comfort, which is the name of the game. Baggy jeans, oversized denim jackets of all colors are the winning outfit. Make a statement with a satin, jean, leather or denim bomber jacket. If you choose not to wear leather, then no problem - vegan is the answer... Kick it up a notch with a bold blazer in any color, but make sure it is oversized. This spring, be in style with your own unique jacket statement. Check out these oversized jackets and jeans!

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pring is the most beautiful season in the Big Bend. It’s also the most fleeting. But books channel the renaissance of spring, providing a year-round chance to reinvent yourself and your world. And Midtown Reader has all the best spring reads with which you can plant your garden in 2023. New Yorker women – one born to wealth, one who marries it and one who wants to give it away!

50 Pies, 50 States by Stacey Mei Yan Fonge Midtown Reader’s “Piebrary” café is the perfect place to grab coffee, a piece of delicious pie, and spend an hour pouring over this ode to the classic American desert. One pie for every state—terrific recipes from Stacey Mei Yan Fong, who grew up in Singapore dreaming of a road trip through America fueled by slices of diner pie.

A Most Intriguing Lady by Sarah Ferguson

The London Séance Society by Sarah Penner It’s Paris, 1873 and despite her aversion to the occult, Lenna Wickes joins spiritualist Vaudeline D’Allaire to investigate her sister’s death. Before long, both women suspect they are engaged in a mystery of their own.

Yellowface by R. F. Kuang

The Duchess of York pens this “romantic and compulsively readable historical saga” about Lady Mary Montagu Doulas Scott, who secretly works as an amateur sleuth for wealthy victims of pickpockets, burglers and art thiefs during Queen Victoria’s reign. A fun break from the royal saga currently dominating the news world.

Hang the Moon by Jeanette Walls Walls, bestselling author of The Glass Castle, brings to life the remarkable Sallie Kincaid to the pages of her latest novel. A young woman coming of age in Virginia during Prohibition, Sallie navigates the challenges of her family, becoming a bootlegger in the process.

Pineapple Street by Jenny Jackson Jackson’s sharp, funny first novel exposes race, class, wealth and privilege through three affluent

Two competitive female authors, but only one is a success… that is until the other dies, and her competition steals and publishes her unfinished work – reinventing her ethnic background along the way. Kuang’s dark-humored darling of a novel addresses diversity, cultural appropriation and social media.

What’s Eating Us: Women, Food, and the Epidemic of Body Anxiety by Cole Kazdin Journalist Cole Kazdin tackles the crisis of disordered eating and the impact it has on women. Through interviews with leading researchers and women suffering from this epidemic, Kazdin exposes the diet industry and provides guidance and strategies for freeing ourselves from our preoccupation with food and our bodies. These books and many more great reads are available at Midtown Reader, Tallahassee’s neighborhood bookstore, 1123 Thomasville Road.

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Must Watch Shows & Movies to Inspire & Evoke

By Dr. Tavia Reyes

e’ve all heard the phrases, “You are the company you keep., You are what you eat. ” Let’s extend this concept to media consumption. The subconscious mind is susceptible while watching TV because the brain shifts to an alpha wave state, similar to being in a trance. Bring new content into your regular rotation and interrupt your algorithm. Whether it’s books, movies, music or television- variety and moderation are the key to a balanced mind, and a balanced mind forges a balanced life. This list features highly acclaimed shows and movies for you to enjoy.

True Spirit - Australian Biographical Film: Netflix (2023)

This movie depicts the valiant journey of 16-year-old sailor Jessica Watson, the youngest person to sail solo around the world nonstop. All based on a true story of fierce determination and skill.

Homegrown - Docuseries: HBO Max, Prime Video (2021)

Minari - American Drama: Prime Video (2020)

Set in the 1980s, this film tells a powerfully touching story of a Korean-American family as they move to a small Arkansas farm in pursuit of the American Dream. A tender tale of devastation and delight; an intimate family portrait that will bring tears of joy and sadness.

Soul - Animated Film: Netflix (2021)

This Pixar animation for Disney is a heartfelt, comedic drama about a music teacher who has lost hope for his bigger dreams. Stuck in a realm between life and death, his only hope to come back to life is to help another soul find passion for life on earth.

Sparking Joy with Marie Kondo - Reality Series: Netflix (2019)

This show is both educational and inspirational as Atlanta-based farmer Jamila Norman creates breathtaking gardens and teaches families about growing their favorite foods in urban settings.

Follow the tidying Queen, Marie Kondo, as she empowers people to interact with their spaces through joyful intention and organization, bringing life into all aspects of work and home to bring balance and freedom in daily life.

Nomadland - American Drama: Hulu (2020)

Samsara - American Non-narrative Documentary: Watch for Free at TubiTV.com (2011)

This movie is loosely based on the book ‘Nomadland: Surviving America in the Twenty First Century’. After losing everything, a woman in her sixties turns a desperate circumstance into a resilient nomadic journey where she meets other van-dwellers along the way. Fun fact: Real American nomads were cast in this film.

Samsara means “The ever turning wheel of life.” This documentary is an audio-visual experience highlighting a vast array of footage taken from over 25 countries. It took five years to collect the content for this masterpiece. These vivid scenes delicately woven together, will evoke deep emotion, wonder, woe and awe.

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NECK NEGLECT

The Skincare Mistake You Didn't Know You Were Making By Dr. Susan Evans

r. Susan Evans, 90210 of Beverly Hills who has been preparing celebrities and stars for the red carpet, wants everyone to remember not to forget your neck. One of the most common skincare mistakes is only focusing on your face and forgetting the neck. How many times have you seen someone who has a young-looking face, and their neck gives there age away? Neglecting the neck is an easy mistake to make, and needs special attention to keep the skin plump to cover the neck muscles and tendons that are more prominent with age and saggy skin. The problem is once the neck falls, it's extraordinarily difficult to fix. If you want to prevent your neck from aging faster than the rest of your skin, follow these four simple tips for your neck to look more youthful and smoother. First and foremost, start today. Don’t wait, even if you think your neck already looks great.

izer packed with peptides that delivers moisture deep in the skin layer. 2. Exfoliate the neck gently with an enzyme and papayaprotease is the agent of choice Dr. Evans uses in herpapaya protease enzymatic cleanser daily. 3. Vitamin A in a retinol or retinoic acid stimulates collagen, elastin, and acts as a humectant to plump the skin. (Dr.Susan 90210 Pure retinol serum) 4. Vitamin C with sunscreen combine for multiprotection from fight the sun free radical damage andhyperpigmentation. (Multiprotection sunscreen) There four steps will keep your neck looking as young as your face.

1. Moisturize your skin on your neck twice a day. Dr. Evans uses a neck serum with pure hyaluronic acid followed by a moistur-

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e had the pleasure of recently celebrating our amazing Cover Woman, Tanya Evans, at her salon and it was an absolute blast! The energy in the room was electric as we gathered to recognize Tanya's hard work and dedication to her family and community. Tanya is truly a force to be reckoned with. Not only is she a devoted wife and mom, but she is also a successful salon owner who is passionate about serving her clients and creating a welcoming space for all. Her commitment to pouring into her family and community is truly inspiring, and we were thrilled to have the opportunity to shine a light on all that she does. As we gathered to celebrate Tanya, it was clear just how many lives she has touched in a positive way.

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R.E.D. WOMAN RECHARGE EVENT

ave you checked out the latest R.E.D Women Recharge event hosted by Tallahassee Woman Magazine? It happens bi-monthly and it's always a blast! Here are some of the amazing moments from our last event. RWR is the perfect opportunity to reset, renew, and recharge your batteries. This event will help you connect with other resilient women in business who are ready to take on the world. Whether you are a business owner or a working professional, we understand that life can be tough and we all need a little bit of support sometimes. RWR will be an unforgettable experience where you can share your stories, learn from each other, and build relationships.

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PACE CENTER FOR GIRLS BELIEVING IN GIRLS BIG ASK EVENT “Pace is the village I didn’t realize I needed.” Truer words were never spoken and apply not only to students and parents but to staff as well. This year’s “Believing in Girls Big Ask Event” was our first in-person event since COVID. To share the Pace Love we experience every day with a room filled with supporters was an experience you had to be there to understand, to feel. Testimonials, poems, and artwork from parents and current and former students brought tears to our eyes and joy in our hearts. We are so grateful to those who donated to our mission to impact one of the most vulnerable populations in this world: Our girls. From our hearts to yours, thank you for the reminder that good people still exist. If you would like to donate or learn how to partner with our cause, please reach out to Kristel Avilus (850) 544-6937.

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A LIFE WITHOUT LIMITS BY: HEATHER THOMAS | PHOTOGRAPHY: KIRA DERRYBERRY

What would you do if you knew there were no limits to what you could manifest and experience? Tina Vidal-Duart’s story is a testament to the power within us all to create a life without limits.

hat are limits or perceived limits? For some, they could be growing up in a household that instilled a sense of survival and financial insecurity. Born and raised in Miami, Florida, to a Cuban father and a Mexican-American mother, Tina’s father worked, and her mother was a homemaker. Living paycheck to paycheck, her parents struggled with paying the mortgage and putting food on the table. “My family was close and loving, but there was this pervasive sense of never having enough money. Buying new clothes and shoes for my younger sister and me was a luxury.” The other aspect is how their financial situation impacted her parents’ marriage. “I remember my parents fighting a lot about money, which modeled what I wanted and didn’t want out of a

relationship. My mom relied on my dad for everything, and I determined that I didn’t want to depend on anyone else or struggle for basic necessities. I didn’t know how it would happen, but I knew I needed to work hard for the life and future I envisioned.” Tina’s strength and will were honed early on as she began working different jobs by age 11. “I did any job available, including cleaning other people’s houses, mowing lawns, and babysitting their kids. It was a way to help my family and have things I wanted, but it was also the fire behind the drive to change my path in life.” This is part of Tina’s secret to success. She doesn’t see circumstances or obstacles as limits but views them as unlimited opportunities to learn, grow, and succeed. This tenacity led her to do extremely well in school and other pursuits—she was captain of her cheerleading squad, became a skilled pianist, made straight As, and graduated

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COVER fifth in her class of 800 students. “I went to a school that bordered the projects, and some of the kids I grew up with were in similar and worse situations financially. People in all circumstances are given opportunities in life and either choose to take advantage of them or choose not to, often because it’s too much work or inconvenient timing. One thing I’ve learned is that none of the opportunities were convenient or easy—they required a lot of work and sacrifice. Because I took advantage of them, my life is incredibly different now.” In order to attend Florida International University, Tina got scholarships and worked full-time while taking a full load of classes and then some—it only took her four years to graduate at the top of her class with both a Bachelor’s in international business and marketing and a Masters in international business. As she was finishing her master’s degree, she was recruited by an entrepreneur of a startup acquiring financially distressed healthcare assets. “I thought it was the right time to take a risk. If it was successful, I knew it would change the landscape of my life, and that’s what ended up happening.” Tina worked at the company for 12 years, helping it grow to approximately 800 employees and a revenue of 80 million. She was CEO of a hospital by the time she was 25 years old. However, everything changed in 2008 when the bubble burst in the stock market, and the Great Recession began. “I had everything I had dreamed of— the clothes, the car, the house, and the successful career. Then my whole world came crashing down. I had a lot of personal debt, and we lost capital for acquisitions.

We all had to take significant pay cuts to make the company work. I knew I could either allow it to destroy me or use it as a learning lesson. My whole life has been about pivoting.” Things changed as soon as the capital market began opening back up. Tina utilized her hard work ethic, skillsets, and experience to pay down her debt, be at the right places at the right time, and build back what she had lost with a renewed focus on building the life she wanted without incurring debt and learning from past mistakes. Her path eventually led her to CDR Companies, her husband Carlos, and becoming a mother to a daughter (now five) and later a son (now three). Tina and Carlos help lead the different divisions of the corporation that specializes in health, engineering, financial services, and emergency management. Tina would need all of her skillsets and fortitude when in 2020, the COVID-19 pandemic changed life as we know it. Because of her extensive hospital management background and position as Executive Vice-President of CDR, she was asked to step into the CEO role of the State of Florida COVID-19 Infectious Disease Field Hospital System. She oversaw the management and deployment of Florida’s field hospitals and its healthcare and administrative support personnel throughout the state. “I had extensive experience running hospitals, how a hospital should be structured, and a large network in the healthcare industry. As a result, CDR was positioned to supply the state with lab kits, lab capacity, medical supplies, and PPE— all things very difficult to come by in early 2020. Everything in my life had prepared me for this moment.” However, nothing had prepared her for the grueling aspect of COVID and all that it implied. “In the beginning, we thought it would be tallahassee woman | 26 | april • may 2023

just for a month or two. Then those months dragged on, and many people were losing loved ones.” As for her family, who lived in Miami, she was away from her children for weeks at a time while she and her husband helped respond. They solved some of this by moving the children to Tallahassee, but she still spent 24 days on average at the state’s emergency operation headquarters. “What kept me going was that I knew we were saving lives. It was a time when we thought everyone was going to die.” She would have to face the same scenario as other families did when Carlos got COVID early in the pandemic. “He was very close to being intubated but was lucky enough to receive an experimental treatment, convalescent plasma, which ultimately saved his life. It also became crystal clear that there are two things money can’t buy—time and health.” It was an unprecedented, fearful period that seemed to limit our scope, yet Tina did what she does best and confidently blazed a path forward that helped to save and change countless lives. At the end of 2021, after the hospitals were demobilized, Tina assisted CDR’s COVID-19 test site logistics team in deploying a call center, launching a patient portal, and develop a turnkey software solution from patient registration through result delivery, and developing and launching a proprietary vaccination data management system. Tina’s team opened hundreds of mass testing, vaccination, and monoclonal antibody sites for the State of Florida and several other states across the nation, ultimately becoming responsible for vaccinating long-term care facilities and underserved communities throughout the state. As 2022 began to shift into a more normal workload and life, she struggled to adjust.

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COVER “Those two and half years were incredibly intense. On the one hand, it was invigorating—we tested, treated, or vaccinated over seven million people. On the other hand, I found it incredibly difficult to come down from the intense level of stress we experienced during those two years. Also, there was this lull as if the dust had settled, and I wondered, ‘Am I ever going to do something that great again?’ I had imposter syndrome and couldn’t hide from myself anymore.” When Tina shared what she was going through with other women, she realized she wasn’t alone in her experience. “The struggle of feeling like an ‘imposter’ in your own life, or a fraud, is rooted in believing you are not good enough. It usually starts young with trauma, or something feeling out of control, creating a sense of needing perfection because you can control that, and it seems to make people happy. As you get older and you achieve all of these amazing things, no matter how good you are

and how successful you are, you feel that you are still falling short.” This brought her to a place of intense selfreflection towards the end of 2022. She had reached a perceived limit of success and had forged a life built on perfection in all things, but she began to feel like she was struggling in all of them and struggling with motherhood. “When I became a mother, it was this tremendous gift, but I began to lose my sense of self. I was also trying to be 100% mom, wife, and working mom; personally, you get the crumbs of whatever is left at the end of the day. A couple of years of that, you are a shell of the person you once were.” It was a breakthrough and then surrendering to the opportunity for personal change and growth. Tina knew she needed to start loving herself for simply being and not doing. “Women feel that they need to be invincible and take on more than men. But, when I neglect my main job—my health and wellness—I’m not fully engaged in the

other roles. This crisis in middle-aged women is because we don’t give ourselves grace or make time for self-care. We get stuck in survival or victim mode. However, we must also take responsibility for how this behavior negatively impacts relationships. It was humbling to step back and appreciate where I was, how I got here, and what it was doing to myself and my family. Much of that was driven by a need to be ‘perfect’ and survive. It was time to let down the walls that have protected me for 40+ years.” With these insights, Tina began to make lifestyle changes and launched a new business in Tallahassee under the CDR umbrella—Evita Med Spa—a state-of-theart facility that “cultivates beauty from the inside out.” The spa’s opening coincides with her radical shift in focus for 2023. It centers around wellness, creating peace in her life, being intentional with her time, being fully present in her relationships, and helping other women do the same. “I realized that the only person who could tell me I wasn’t good enough was me. I was the one creating any perceived limits and disempowering thoughts. Your mind is powerful, and what you say to yourself within is what is created and manifested externally in your life.” Ultimately, Tina’s story highlights the importance of focusing on what’s really important and letting go of what isn’t. She still believes in working hard and accomplishing new things at her core, but that her greatest work is just beginning. Her firm was recently awarded its first billiondollar contract solidifying the company’s healthcare division in a post-COVID world. “One of the things I’ve come to appreciate is quality over quantity. When I am with my children now, I am incredibly present. This has made a big difference in their lives and mine. You can have all the money, success, and power in the world, but what holds value is the small moments you can never get back. I’m learning to enjoy the journey.”

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Women Who Mean

APRIL/MAY 2023

BUSINESS

SPECI A L SECTION

JOURNAL

SISTERS, THIS IS THE POWER OF LEVERAGE IN REAL ESTATE

MEN Who Mean BUSINESS

WOMEN ON THE MOVE MEET

KELSEY SCOTT

SALLY S. BRADSHAW

BEYOND THE BESTSELLERS

Midtown Reader is Expanding Minds and Fostering Dialogue in Tallahassee

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BUSINESS & LEADERSHIP

SALLY S. BRADSHAW BEYOND THE BESTSELLERS

Midtown Reader is Expanding Minds and Fostering Dialogue in Tallahassee

Sally Bradshaw is the esteemed proprietor and operator of Midtown Reader, an bookstore nestled in Tallahassee, Florida. With an unwavering commitment to fostering healthy and stimulating discussions in the state's capital, Sally had envisioned and brought to life the conception of Midtown Reader in November 2016. Her vision for the bookstore was rooted in offering a diverse range of content and programming that could elevate the level of civil discourse in the community. Sally ardor for the project underscores her deep-seated passion, cultivated during her formative years spent in her neighborhood bookstore in Greenville, Mississippi. In addition to her entrepreneurial pursuits, Sally has contributed to the education sector in Florida through her two tenures on the Florida State Board of Education and her role as the school board chairman for Holy Comforter Episcopal School. Further, she is presently serving on the Maclay School Board of Trustees, demonstrating her abiding dedication to academic excellence and community engagement. Sally serves on the Board of Trustees for Tallahassee Memorial Hospital. She is also a member of the WFSU (public broadcasting) Community Council, and serves on the Board of Directors for United Way of the Big Bend. Sally has been named one of the “25 Women You Need to Know” by the Tallahassee Democrat newspaper. Sally has an extensive career in the political arena that has spanned three decades. Sally served as senior advisor to former Florida Governor Jeb Bush’s 2016 presidential

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campaign. Sally also served as Chief of Staff to Governor Bush during his tenure as Governor and managed two of Bush’s three runs for Governor. She has previously served as Transition Director and senior advisor to Florida House Speaker Will Weatherford. Sally also served as a board member for Americans for a Conservative Direction, affiliated with FWD.us, and formed by Mark Zuckerberg to advocate for changes in US immigration policies. She co-chaired the RNC’s “Growth and Opportunity Project”, providing an assessment and review of the 2012 election cycle to GOP leaders along with recommendations for future growth of the national party committee. Sally has worked as an advisor to Governor Haley Barbour of Mississippi through his political action committee, “Haley Pac”. She also served as a senior advisor to Governor Mitt Romney’s Presidential campaign in 2008. She is a former Political Director for the Republican Party of Florida and Staff Director to the Minority Office in the Florida House of Representatives. And she worked in both the 1992 and 1988 Presidential campaigns of George H. W Bush. Following the President’s election, she worked in the White House as an Associate Director of Political Affairs. Sally attends Faith Presbyterian Church where she has served as both a Deacon and an Elder. Sally resides in Havana, Florida with her husband and their four children.

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GIRL, LET’S TALK ABOUT GENDER…

Girl, let’s talk about gender… Gender is hot right now. We are hearing about transgender athletes, removing gendered categories from the Oscars, and whether parents have the right to know if their child is struggling with gender identity. Gender roles are a frequent topic covered on social media with everyone sharing their opinions about what a man or woman is or should be. Gender is a hot topic because if you have an opinion on it, it’s probably a strong one. Until recently, we rarely discussed gender. We considered it fixed and easy to discern. From the time we are born, data is collected on us by gender and used to make important decisions affecting our lives based on assumptions about sex. But is gender as relevant as we’ve been led to believe? Gender may not be relevant to competency when hiring an engineer, but we definitely want to know whether the male engineer earns more than his female counterpart. If gender is removed from sports, how will government funding be allocated, and performance monitored? How can we be sure medications are safe for every-

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one if they’re disproportionately tested on men or we do not track how they effect men and women differently? The current discussion on gender raises some thorny issues. Some feel it goes against God and nature to question, change, or remove gender. Others welcome the changing climate of acceptance and understanding. For most, though, the concept of gender has changed faster than we’ve been able to keep up with it and we’re experiencing some growing pains. There is something deeply unsettling about being forced to reconsider a construct as established as gender. As gender becomes less rigid, we are seeing more asexual clothing and fewer gendered hair color and styles. Many feel empowered to experiment with clothing choices that previously would have subjected them to ridicule or questioning. That can be shocking and disturbing if you’re unaccustomed to seeing it. Confusion always spurs questions, and the workplace is no different. You may think it’s fine to ask your transitioning coworker if they are gay or will be getting a divorce simply because you are vexed by their behavior. Your questions can be offensive to your coworker

and undermine their ability to do their job well. That hurts the employee, the employer, and the organization, which then hurts everyone, including you. Please remember that you are not owed an explanation for things you do not understand. But if you do some research, admit your ignorance, and demonstrate some humility and sensitivity, your coworker will likely be thankful and more open to your clumsy attempts to get to know one another better. If you’re an employer, you may consider offering sensitivity training for your staff. It’s important you establish a harmonious workplace free of intimidation, alienation, and discrimination. You can do that by explaining that sexual orientation is about who you’re attracted to, but gender is about who you are. For many, neither is binary but more on a continuum. To people for whom those constructs are binary, their curiosity and frustration can often get the better of them and potentially subject you to employee complaints, a hostile working environment, even litigation. It’s in your interest to expand your knowledge of the law as it relates to this emerging issue. The world is changing. Don’t let it leave you behind.

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Sisters, This is the Power of Leverage in Real Estate FROM THE DESK OF

ow many times have you wished there were two of you so that you could cross off every item on your endless to-do list? You could sleep in and still have time to work out in the morning, or you could finish that work project, attend your child’s game in the afternoon, and ensure there is a healthy meal prepared for later that evening? While it may not be physically possible to clone ourselves, I will share an open secret many seasoned investors know when it comes to real estate: you can. Well, not literally, yet you can build your wealth in a relatively short amount of time if you understand the power of leverage, i.e. using other people’s money. It is kind of like legally cloning your own cash! I am often told by women that they have a little money saved and want to invest, yet they have no idea where to begin. They fear losing their savings. They have no support system for investing and are instead surrounded by naysayers who tell them it won’t work. There are many different schools of thought on how to begin, and any investment has risks, yet the best approach is to find a trusted mentor and just start— whether you decide to invest in a singlefamily home, duplex, or multi-family property. Each has pros and cons depending

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on your unique situation. What is the not-so-secret sauce? The BRRRR method can change your life and the lives of those you serve as a property owner. BRRRR stands for Buy, Rehab, Rent, Refinance, Repeat. It is great for small projects such as a single-family home or duplex. An investor starts off by paying cash for the property rather than financing it through a loan as is usually done. This may seem odd yet bear with me! There are many ways to get that cash that we will discuss later and many other advantages that are open to everyone. Next, the investor manages the rehab stage when more funds are placed into the project. Value is added in one of two ways: (1) paying less than the property is worth, known as “buying equity”; and (2) increasing the value by improving the property, known as “building equity.” With this method, you are adding value BEFORE you are financing. After the rehab is complete, the property is rented, and the cash flow begins. The cash flow is higher than in traditional investing since there is not yet a mortgage. After the property is rented, THEN the investor obtains a loan. Unlike the usual way of finding a fixer upper and trying to convince a bank to lend,

the amount financed is based on the value of the property in its remodeled state; this key fact is what makes BRRRR so effective in rapidly building wealth. We will discuss finance options later as well, yet just know for now that banks can lend on an asset at any time –not just at the time of purchase. And, banks love this approach as the risk to them is greatly reduced since you’ve already completed the remodeling process. Why refinance? To cash out equity at the higher remodeled property value and use it to buy another BRRRR property! What is crucial to understand is that this approach gets more of your capital out of your project faster because of the order of how you conduct the multiple stages of buying a property. This return on investment, or ROI, is the single greatest metric for you to master. For now, just know this one tiny change in the order of operations is the difference between someone buying one or two houses a year versus more than a dozen like our companies do. Want to talk real numbers and see BRRRR in action? Stay tuned for next time!

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WOMEN ON THE MOVE KELSEY SCOTT

ctress Kelsey Scott’s talent has flown her to Hollywood heights, and her Tallahassee roots run deep. The two-time Emmy-nominated performer is a graduate of Florida Agricultural and Mechanical University and the film school at Florida State University. After roles in Fear the Walking Dead, How to Get Away with Murder, True Detective, and the Oscarwinning film 12 Years a Slave, Scott will portray the fabled Egyptian queen in Southern Shakespeare Company’s FREE Shakespeare in the Park Festival. Shakespeare’s doomed romance is full of ancient intrigue, but Scott sees Cleopatra with the eyes of a modern woman. She reflects, “In an atmosphere in which women are still denigrated for daring to exist outside of a sanctioned box, I’m eager to portray a woman who offered no apologies for her passion— personal or political.” Scott stars in free nightly performances at Cascades Park May 11-14. For further information, visit SouthernShakes.org.

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FROM PITCH TO PROFIT Lessons from a Shark Tank Winner

HO IS DR. BOBBI PETERSON?

contribute to a brighter and more equitable future for all.

I am Dr. Bobbi, a trailblazing dentist, entrepreneur, and advocate who is deeply committed to improving oral health and healthcare access for all communities, especially those of color. One of my proudest achievements is inventing and launching the first electric toothbrush created by a Black woman.

WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO HAVE CONFIDENCE, USE YOUR VOICE AND BE HEARD?

In addition to my work as an inventor, I am also the owner of ACES BRACES, a dental practice located in the heart of Brooklyn, New York. Through my practice, I am dedicated to providing affordable and highquality oral healthcare to everyone who walks through my doors, regardless of their background or socioeconomic status. As an advocate, I am passionate about bridging the gap in oral healthcare access for disenfranchised communities of color. These communities have historically struggled to afford the rising cost of maintaining good oral health, and I believe that everyone deserves access to the care they need to lead happy and healthy lives. Through my advocacy and influence, I am working tirelessly to make a difference in the lives of those who need it most. By improving oral health and healthcare access, I hope to

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Confidence is key in so many areas of life, whether it be in your personal relationships or your professional endeavors. When you have confidence, you are able to use your voice and be heard, which is essential for success. It allows you to express yourself and your ideas, and it helps you take risks and try new things. TELL US OR SHARE HOW YOU DEVELOPED YOUR CONFIDENCE AND DETERMINATION BECAUSE YOU CLEARLY ARE OUTSPOKEN AND SO SUCCESSFUL? Thank you for the compliment! Developing confidence and determination is an ongoing process that requires effort and practice. For me, it has been a combination of pushing myself out of my comfort zone, taking risks, and learning from both successes and failures. I have also had great mentors and support systems along the way, which have helped me to stay focused and motivated.

By Dennis Manuel.

My advice for women wanting to pursue their dream or invent something like my new toothbrush is to believe in yourself and your ideas, and to be persistent in pursuing them. It's important to surround yourself with positive influences and to seek out mentors and support systems who can help guide you on your journey. Don't be afraid to take risks and make mistakes, as these are essential learning opportunities that can help you grow and achieve your goals. CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR RECENT WIN ON SHARK TANK! WHAT’S YOUR ADVICE FOR PREPARING THE PERFECT PITCH? Thank you! My advice for preparing the perfect pitch is to be confident, concise, and passionate about your idea. Know your audience and tailor your pitch to their interests and needs. Use visuals and stories to help bring your idea to life, and be prepared to answer questions and address concerns. Most importantly, practice, practice, practice! The more comfortable you are with your pitch, the more likely you are to make a strong impression and win over your audience.

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Who Mean WHO ARE THE TWM MEN WHO MEAN BUSINESS? WHO ARE THE TWM MEN WHO MEAN BUSINESS? TWM is excited and proud to feature the fourth annual issue of Men Who Mean Business (MWMB) profiles. These men serve in business and the community supporting the mission of women in Tallahassee. The TWM “Men Who Mean Business” exemplify outstanding support of women through their medical and law practices, community services, non-profit agencies, philanthropic contributions, leadership, volunteerism, advocacy, employment practices and commitment. TWM Men Who Mean Business demonstrate core values that support the best interest, mission and vision of Tallahassee women.

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MEN Who Mean BUSINESS CARLOS DUART Carlos Duart, CEO of CDR Maguire and its related companies, is a Cuban-American born and raised in Miami, Florida. The oldest of five siblings, his parents were immigrants from Cuba who raised five children while going to school to create a better life for their family. That instilled in Carlos a sense of hard work and the desire to provide a better life for himself. A graduate of Florida International University with a bachelor’s and master’s degree in accounting and taxation, Carlos began his career with an engineering firm counting cars to determine volume and traffic patterns for volume planning and expansion. Eventually becoming the company’s president, he bought CDR Maguire in 2009, and launched an emergency management division in 2010. A strong supporter of women in business, Carlos has advocated for and promoted women within the firm, eventually asking his then girlfriend and now wife, Tina Vidal-Duart, to join him in 2014. Together they have helped grow the firm to a height of 5,000 employees and $500 million in revenue with a majority womanled executive team. Over half of the C-suite positions at CDR are held by women, Under Carlos’ leadership, the firm focuses on recruiting and hiring women in engineering, technology, emergency management, healthcare, and general business. “Women are incredible multi-taskers and have an attention to detail you don’t often see in men,” said Carlos. “Those attributes are incredibly important in business success and the overall growth of our firm.”

His wife, Tina, cannot speak more highly of her husband. “I’ve worked for many men throughout my career, dealing with inappropriate and harassing behavior in silence prior to the #METOO movement,” said Tina. “Carlos was one of the first men in business at his level that I met that not only encouraged women and their growth, but supported them, gave them opportunities, and provided them resources to succeed. He was the first man that didn’t take credit for my work but actively worked to ensure the entire world gave credit where credit was due, not only to me but to the other women that work for and with him. He is one of the special ones.”

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MEN Who Mean BUSINESS BILL MOORE MARKET PRESIDENT

Recycling Loan Program

Bill has been with Synovus for more than 25 years. He is a graduate of the University of Florida with an MBA from the University of Miami. Bill used to provide clients with investment advice and securities management services before deciding he’d rather be a community bank lender helping businesses grow. We’re glad it was our bank he chose. Bill manages commercial banking, overseeing lending and other financial services for our business clients. In his spare time, Bill is active in United Way and many other community organizations. His favorite pastimes are golf and helping to coach youth baseball teams.

Member, Tiger Bay Club

Work in our community Past Board Chairman, Goodwill Industries of the Big Bend Past Board Chairman, Network of Entrepreneurs & Business Advocates Past Board Member, Tallahassee Chamber of Commerce Past Board Member, Capital City Country Club Past Lending/Approval Committee Member, Florida

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Member, Economic Club of Florida Synovus is about enabling people to reach their full potential. It’s our purpose. And we made it broad, intentionally, because it doesn’t just apply to the clients or communities we serve. It applies to our team members, from front-line workers in our branches to our Executive Leadership Team. And that means building an inclusive workplace where women can grow and thrive. While the work to foster more opportunities for women at Synovus never stops, we are proud of the growth we’ve seen in the representation of women in senior leadership positions over the last several years. We’re currently on track to increase women in senior leadership to 40% by the end of 2024, an 8% increase since 2017. Of course, inclusion isn't a story exclusively told through statistics. It's about celebrating women's accomplishments and respecting their expertise. It's about bringing women's voices to the forefront because they need to be heard. It's about doing what's right. And when we do that, we all reach our full potential together.

MEN Who Mean BUSINESS KEITH BOWERS As the Director of the Office of Economic Vitality (OEV) for the Tallahassee/Leon County metropolitan area, Keith Bowers coordinates the activities of a team of economic development professionals focused on developing programs and initiatives that advances the community as a hub for economic competitiveness while simultaneously leveraging ideas, innovations, and intellectual capital through the continuous coordination of the community’s economic development partners. Strengthening women entrepreneurs and women-owned business owners is a significant portion of OEV’s mission. Providing resources to engage, educate and empower women business owners and founders is not only the right thing to do; it’s the wise thing to do. There are 12.9 million women-owned businesses in the U.S. that employ 9.4 million people. Women started 49% of new businesses in the U.S. in 2021. Florida ranked only behind Washington D.C. in the number of women-owned businesses per 100,000 people. Despite defying social expectations of women’s roles in business, overcoming the disparities that exist with accessing capital and maintaining operational excellence, women business owners have proven resilient, persistent, and impactful. Prior to his appointment at OEV, Keith served as the Regional Director for the Florida Small Business Development Center at Florida A&M University for twelve years. Keith and his team provided supportive services and technical assistance to entrepreneurs and small business owners throughout an eight-county region in the Florida Panhandle. Prior to his appointment as Regional Director, Mr. Bowers founded and operated the Bowers Group, a consulting firm specializing in community development, affordable housing and economic development.

Keith is married to Valerie, his wife of 17 years and they have a 16-year-old son, Wynton. Keith is an ardent jazz aficionado and collects vintage jazz recordings and memorabilia. He also enjoys, cooking, travel and volunteering in the community. Keith serves on the board of directors of Florida First Capital Finance Corporation, Truist Bank Community Advisory Board, the Northwest Florida Black Business Investment Corporation, Big Bend Capital Region Red Cross, Goodwood Museum and Career Source Capital Region.

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MEN Who Mean BUSINESS “My father never allowed me to refer to my mother as “she” or “her”. The reference was reinforced if a “she” or “her” came out of my mouth when referring to my mom. My father’s stern look was immediately followed by the simple question, “Who?” In those early lessons, my dad began to instill in me respect for women, like when walking with a woman, always be between the woman and the street. And with every little lesson, respect was built. As I matured, I began to understand not just how my dad expressed those things, but why. In a time when our social structure in America would often narrow opportunities for women beyond the home, Dad had a woman doctor and a woman lawyer. He understood, and by example, so did I. It was not about gender; it was about ability. And even more important, where opportunity did not exist, was eliminating barriers so ability could flourish.

GARY YORDON A ten-time Emmy Award winner, Gary Yordon designs media for corporate and non-profit clients, government agencies, public sector amendments, and referendums. After eight years as a host and producer on public television, Gary was elected to the Leon County Commission in 1986. After leaving public office, Gary returned to his roots and began hosting the popular CBS Television political program, The Usual Suspects. Today, the show remains a political staple in the state of Florida. In 1998, Gary founded the media production and political consulting firm The Zachary Group. He is a national award-winning columnist for Gannett Newspapers and has served as a Florida correspondent for CNN. He has authored his first book, Driving the Road of Life with a Flat Tire.

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We tend to surround ourselves with people who think like we do. Seeing progressive men is not a strange occurrence in my daily life. So, when I hear about domestic abuse, trafficking, assaults on reproductive rights, pay equity or any other gender specific issue, I often wonder if those who would condone or perpetrate are simply products of how they were taught. I don’t have answers, but like many men, I will continue to add my voice. And if it’s true that we are where we came from, then continuing to share the lessons with our grandchildren that we shared with our three boys is a good start. We need to take the time to nurture respect for women and to make certain their hearts are always open to whoever is standing in front of them, regardless of gender. And maybe, in a world where some problems seem too big to solve, simply walk between the woman you’re with and the street.”

MEN Who Mean BUSINESS CHRIS TURNER "Mentoring is about sharing resources and information and doing whatever you can to help people achieve their goals. When I decided to start coaching cross country at Lincoln High School four years ago, I was never planning on being the “girls team” coach, but I couldn’t keep up with the guys so that’s where I was. It ended up being a great opportunity to give back, to listen, and to help. I have been able to mentor in more ways than on the race course, but towards future professional development as well. There’s a large focus in society of young men needing strong male role models in their lives, but we forget that young women can use the same. As we continue towards an inclusive culture, as we work towards shattering the glass that is still above many, we must continue to help and provide access to all who are working towards their goals. I encourage everyone, when presented the opportunity to mentor and teach the next generation, to not question who is asking for the help, but to do so and move forward. These young women are the future."

"BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AS MUCH AS I BELIEVE IN YOU."

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MEN Who Mean BUSINESS PASTOR GREGORY JAMES “I am still amazed by God’s grace and the community’s grace; I am humbled to make positive investments in our community and villages.” -Gregory James “As a native son of Tallahassee, Florida, I am humbled for another chance to serve this community in a way that implements a positive difference in the lives of our neighbors,” says James. Gregory James, the CEO of Greg James & Associates, is an avid philanthropic humanitarian. He returned to Tallahassee, Florida, in 2008 from a wrong detour his life took in 1996; since his reentry, he has unprecedently set the standard as a visionary, executive, and servant leader. In 2008, he hit the ground running, establishing lifelong relationships across the state of Florida and with government leaders— people who had the power to make changes that impact the daily lives of Floridians. James became one of the most influential voices for Florida Amendment 4, Voting Rights Restoration for Felons. This amendment helped level the playing field for returning

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citizens and impacted the political landscape. It further empowered so many mothers, daughters, sisters, and grandmothers who were returning citizens. After having his rights restored, James made a bold move and sought the public office of State Representative— District 8. He finished second in a race featuring five candidates. James continues strategically leveraging his statewide and government relationships by advocating for single-parent households when the parent or child finds themselves on the wrong side of the law. He works cooperatively with the courts, state attorney, and district attorney’s office to offer alternatives to incarceration, thereby reducing further risk to single-parent families, which are mostly led by women. His company, Greg James & Associates, also affords additional professional support to families. James, known for his philanthropic humanitarianism, also started the Greg James Community Show, which gives free airtime and a platform to women in business, ministry, and others who wish to discuss issues impacting our daily lives and offer solutions. James says the show “gives all of our citizens’ voice more volume.”

MEN Who Mean BUSINESS MARK CHAMBERS “Every morning, I wake up thankful that I have a strong team beside me every single day. My mornings start with my wife of 25 years by my side and on my team. As the District Manager of Meraki Tallahassee, I have the privilege of creating an amazing team of Energy Consultants that are part of making an impact in the Tallahassee community. If it weren’t for the fierce women on my team, I would not be able to be where I am today. I started this venture to open the Tallahassee store with my daughter in 2021. I’ve always wanted to make sure she could have a career in something she loves. Meraki found us both and has impacted our lives— and the community around us— to make a change. Meraki is a Greek verb meaning to do something with soul, creativity, or love, when you put "something of yourself" into what you're doing, whatever that may be. At Meraki Solar in Tallahassee, we are devoted to help others have an opportunity at a new career or help their home save on their power bill. We have some amazing women on our team that have just joined, and some that have been with us since the beginning. We encourage our women at Meraki to have our five core values of Integrity, Soul, Unity, Growth, and Humility. We welcome all women with the spirit of Meraki to join forces with us to help homeowners make the switch!”

"IF IT WEREN’T FOR THE FIERCE WOMEN ON MY TEAM, I WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO BE WHERE I AM TODAY."

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MAGIC

THREE WORDS TO CONSIDER

MIND, BODY & SPIRIT

By Laci Swann

don’t think I’ll ever forget the moment I hit the final submission button on my application for graduate school.

My plate, like yours, is full. In fact, it’s overflowing. I’m a wife and mama (one of our kiddos has special needs), I own a business, I’m a board member for the Autism Society and Florida, and my husband is working on the West Coast for a bit. Full plate, for sure. Well, last year, I also decided to pursue my Ph.D. in culture and literature at Florida State. It’s been years since I’ve set foot inside a classroom (excluding my kids’ classrooms). I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t filled with fear and a swarm of negative thoughts. I’ll probably be the oldest person in my class. Will I be able to balance school, work, kids, and life? What if this is a giant waste of time and money? Can I even do this? Thankfully, I earned a spot in the program, and as of Spring 2023, I was officially a student (again). Well, on my first day of school, I quickly realized I was the oldest in my class. The others noticed, too (*chuckles*) I also realized I could do this. And when I say “this,” I’m actually not referring to the going-to-class part and keeping up with assignments. I’m referring to going after my dream, regardless of the outcome. It’s not about age (really, age is a mindset) or being the smartest in the room (we all have a special spark of brilliance) or achieving success (success is relative anyway)! It’s about tapping into your tool kit with confidence, harnessing hope, and going for it. Sure, I was filled with doubt at one point, but I also look back and realize I had the confidence to at least try to earn a spot in the Ph.D. program. Today, I encourage you to “at least try,” three magic words that are worth exploring. I must say— trying and coming up short is far better than wondering “what if” for the rest of your life. tallahassee woman | 44 | april • may 2023

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travel quite a bit for work, at least once a month, and at this point, I’m fairly certain I’ve memorized the flight attendants’ in-caseof-an-emergency speech. You know, when they share instructions about putting on your mask and so forth?

PUT ON YOUR MASK. By Laci Swann

“Put on your mask first before assisting others.” Those words always stood out to me. Those are very specific instructions for saving our lives and helping to save the lives of those around us. But when I really think about it, I realize I usually “put on my mask last,” as in I tend to myself in the end. Sadly, I realize I don’t tend to myself at all. I know I’m not alone, either.. Selflessness is seemingly engrained in our DNA, or perhaps society has pushed us to continually maintain that standard. Nevertheless, women have this incredibly giving, loving, nurturing nature that ensures the people around us are cared for to the fullest, often leaving our gas tank on E (or our gas mask on the floor somewhere). If you’re reading this article, let this serve as a reminder to put on your oxygen mask. Take care of you. Breathe life into yourself again. Your inner being deserves to be revisited and revitalized. Perhaps you’ve put off that workshop you’ve had your eye on or maybe you feel “mom guilt” for thinking about taking a solo vacation. Maybe you’re too exhausted to pick up your old art hobby or you lost sight of who you are because you’re too busy pouring into everyone else. Sis, put on your mask. Take the vacation. Sign up for the workshop. Schedule a regular girls’ night. Explore your interests. Tap back into your hobbies. Read something other than work documents and school fundraiser forms. Heck, do nothing and rest. Do all the things sans guilt and doubt. Put on your mask.

tallahassee woman | 46 | april • may 2023

LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS

How Understanding Adverse Childhood Experiences Can Help Create a Brighter Future By Dr. Jeanne O'Kon

hat are adverse childhood experiences? In the academic fields of psychology, social work, and mental health counseling, the study of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) is relatively new. The original ACEs study was conducted in 1995 to 1997 in California, with over 17,000 confidential surveys completed by HMO participants. Data has now been collected in all 50 states through the Centers for Disease Control, the Behavioral Risk Factor Surveillance System (BRFSS), and other studies.

Physical and emotional challenges from ACEs begin in childhood and continue into adulthood. The younger a child is when exposed to a traumatic event, the more likely the toxic stress will affect the child’s brain development. Abuse and family dysfunction in childhood significantly shape an individual’s physical and mental health long-term. Alcoholism, substance abuse, obesity, depression, heart disease, diabetes, and stroke are some of the health conditions linked to experiencing childhood trauma.

The original ACEs study showed that there is a direct link between childhood trauma and adult onset of chronic disease, mental health issues, addiction, incarceration, and employment challenges.

ACEs are surprisingly common in our society. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that over half the children in the U.S. are exposed to violence, crime and abuse every year. CDC estimates that the lifetime costs associated with maltreatment of children totals $124 billion. Multiple studies have shown that certain groups are more likely to experience adverse childhood events and trauma, including: Black, Hispanic/Latino, or multiracial people; people with less than a high school education; and lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender people. The intersectionality of a person's social and political identities create different modes of discrimination.

The ACEs scale is a 10-item questionnaire used to measure childhood trauma. The primary events are categorized into three groups: abuse, neglect, and household challenges. The ACEs scale assesses whether or not a child has been subjected to one or more of these events: • Physical abuse • Sexual abuse • Emotional abuse • Physical neglect • Emotional neglect • Living with a relative with mental illness • An incarcerated relative • Mother treated violently • Substance use in the home • Divorce of parents One point is assigned to each of the events listed above. The higher the number of ACEs, the greater the incident of negative outcomes. The ACEs score represents the cumulative effect of multiple exposures to toxic stress. Children with an ACEs score of four or more are especially high-risk.

Importantly, parents, teachers, healthcare providers, and other practitioners need to be aware of how children may have been affected by ACEs and trauma. Developmental delays, academic failure, and behavioral problems at school are just a few of the early signs. Raising awareness about ACEs and trauma is important. Trauma-Informed Care and the Integrative Health Care model are both recommended for helping children and adults who have experienced trauma. Fortunately, healing from trauma is possible, especially through social networks and positive relationships with others, trauma informed psychotherapy, mindfulness, learning resilience, and health-promoting activities.

tallahassee woman | 48 | april • may 2023

How to Turn Overwhelming Weeks into Opportunities for Growth By Jane Marks

ave you ever had one of those weeks where every day was filled with multiple obligations? If you are like me, you are not only responsible but you do everything in your power to get things done. Sometimes it feels exhausting, yet sometimes it feels exhilarating. If we frame these weeks as making memories as opposed to “having too much” on our plates it is amazing what it can do for our health and overall outlook. So as we look ahead to the coming week, let’s frame our outlook differently with the idea that this week will turn ordinary circumstances into special moments.

4. Build Episodic memories that include all of your senses. I often tell patients to pay attention to what they see, hear, smell, or even touch. These memories tend to be richer and more brilliant, but also give you a different lens to view these jampacked days.

1. At the beginning of each day, write down an interesting experience that you expect that day. Be deliberate and the end of the day, review. Remember that this is your story. You have the opportunity to take positive snapshots of your life and the joys that come with it. Pay attention.

So, what are we waiting for? Let’s get ready to be amazed, charged, engaged, and motivated for the season ahead.

5. Take genuine snapshots of moments that are actual emotional highlights. These are so easy to retrieve. The science says that happy memories are essential to our health, our sense of identity, our purpose, and our bonds to our community... we have shared much to be grateful for.

2. Focus on what feels good: A handshake, a smile, a walk completed, an unexpected gesture of kindness, a surprise. What’s important about this? These focused memories have the power to counteract any negative emotions that can intrude at the most unexpected times. Just this experience can often help us regulate our emotions. 3. Pause... take a moment to remember or even reminisce about something that happened this past weekend. Drawing on these moments will establish a track record for problem solving, positive feelings, our strengths, and even ways that we have connected with those we care about. tallahassee woman | 49 | april • may 2023

JANE MARKS WRITER Jane Marks is a licensed psychotherapist "life coach" with 50+ years of experience specializing in child and adolescent behavior. She is a motivational speaker/lecturer focusing on mental health and adolescents.

LUXURY ON A BUDGET How to Have a Picture-Perfect Wedding for Less By Cristina Carter

aving a wonderful wedding doesn’t mean you have to have an expensive price tag. When talking to brides as a wedding officiant, one of the things I hear most is how challenging of a task it can be. But with careful consideration, it is possible to create a beautiful and memorable wedding day without breaking the bank. Here are some tips to help you plan a wedding on a budget: SET A BUDGET: The first step in planning a wedding on a budget is to set a budget for the wedding. Determine how much you can afford to spend and stick to it.

ue, consider renting a unique space such as a park or a historical building.

PRIORITIZE: Decide which aspects of the wedding are most important to you and allocate your budget accordingly. For example, if you prioritize the photography and videography, you may need to cut costs in other areas such as flowers or catering.

FOOD AND DRINK COSTS: Food and drink costs can quickly add up. Consider hosting a potluck-style reception or having a dessert-only reception to cut costs.

PLAN OFF-SEASON: Consider planning your wedding during the off-season. Venues, vendors, and services tend to be less expensive during the off-season. HAVE A MICRO-WEDDING: Having a smaller wedding can save you money on venue rental, catering, and other costs.

DIY DECORATIONS: DIY decorations can save you a lot of money.

GUEST LIST: Inviting fewer guests will save you money on food, drinks, and other costs. ATTIRE: Consider renting or buying a pre-owned wedding gown or finding a dress at a discount store. WEDDING FAVORS: Instead of buying expensive favors, consider making your own or skipping them altogether.

CHOOSE A UNIQUE VENUE: Instead of renting a traditional wedding venBy following these tips, you can plan a wonderful wedding on a budget. The key is to prioritize what's important to you, find ways to cut costs, and being mindful of your expenses. Remember, the most important thing is to focus on what truly matters - celebrating your love and commitment to each other.

tallahassee woman | 50 | april • may 2023

THE POWER OF

PURPOSE How One Woman Transformed Loss into a Legacy By Lisa Davis

n 2021, my mother Kate passed away at the age of 64 after battling cancer for more than two decades. Her cancer affected her nose, eyebrows, and forehead, leaving her self-conscious about her appearance. As a makeup artist, I have had the privilege of serving clients facing similar challenges caused by cancer, strokes, paralysis, and skin issues. It is heart-wrenching to see women lose their confidence and feel hopeless about their situation. However, it is fulfilling to witness their joy and boosted confidence after a makeup session. It brings me great joy to pay tribute to my mother's legacy by creating Kate's Place, where we aim to provide an ideal setting for various occasions such as birthdays (suitable for individuals 12 years old and over), girls' nights out, and team-building events. If you're interested in scheduling a makeup class, please don't hesitate to contact us at imagebylisa@yahoo.com Lisa Davis, Owner of Image By Lisa and Kate's Place www.imagebylisa.com

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