It’s not an interview

This is another common pitfall -- try not to spend the date hammering the other person with questions or evaluating them. Things like their level of career success or their ability to settle down and have lots of babies shouldn’t even be on the menu for a first date. Rather, try to get a feel for who they are as a person and whether you have things in common or shared values. Do they make you smile or laugh? Did they show interest in getting to know you? How do they make you feel? Keep the conversation light and steer away from heavy topics like past relationships and politics. Avoid “checklisting” and try not to make any judgement calls until after the date is over.

Anyone can take one look at a person and rule them out for no reason, and trust me, people do it all the time. The thing is, if you can look at someone and decide they’re not good enough for you, others can and will do it to you too. If you’ve been in love before, you know that you are infinitely more attracted to someone after you build a meaningful relationship with them over time. Get to know someone beyond their hairline, their body type, their height, and their age, and you may surprise yourself. Here’s some tough love –you’re single for a reason. Maybe it’s time to consider someone who isn’t your typical physical type. The less rigid you can be, the more likely it is that you’ll find love. Challenge yourself to find at least three things you really like about every person you go on a date with, and not surface-level things, either. Seeing the best in others will keep you feeling positive about the process.