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ne of my best friends likes to take me to Vegas. (We call her my fairy godmother; she appears one day with plane tickets in hand, and away we go.) She is a delicate thing,well read, perfectly mannered, all of a hundred pounds, and extremely intelligent … the kind of person who is capable of telling you the last 10 fiction Pulitzer Prize winners without batting an eye. And when she looks for the ultimate escape, she turns to Sin City.

I know. What a paradox.

For years,my friend encouraged me to go to Vegas.

That’s right, years. She was convinced I would love it. For years,I would nod my head vaguely,but my calendar was always full.

Secretly, I was positive I wouldn’t like it. I like mowed pastures ringed with trees, bright blue skies, the roar of the ocean, the gold of leaves clinging to a poplar branch in late fall. My idea of the perfect vacation includes time outdoors,and usually,a horse nearby. I sawVegas as the ultimate city of cities,stuffed with too many people and too many bright lights. I imagined time spent in timeless buildings filled with cashhungry gamblers and ever-ringing slot machines.

There would be gambling and shopping … fun things, but not particularly my favorite things. I couldn’t fathom that it was worth conquering my fear of flying in order to go to this city.

My friend is persistent. Finally, on a whim, I agreed to go with her to Vegas at the last minute in the middle of December. I still remember how incredulous I was at the decision: Who was I? How could I possibly leave my young daughter and the glory of my Christmas tree to go to, of all places,Vegas?

Did I mention my friend is persistent?

Once there,I was right: Vegas was all of those things

I imagined it to be. And I loved it. I loved the camaraderie of the craps table, the glee my friend and I shared over our winnings at the blackjack table, loved breaking into the good ol’ boys club of the casinos’ sports rooms and placing bets on horses and football games. It was just as she had always described it — Disney World for grownups.

In short, I forgot all about my Christmas tree.

On our last night in Vegas, we headed over to the Bellagio to eat dinner. We were inspecting the hotel that“Ocean’s 11”made famous when we wandered into the hotel’s conservatory and gardens. There,we found ourselves transported from the very grown-up world of Vegas into the childlike wonder of the holidays.

Words don’t do it justice, but I will try. The atrium was fantastically transformed into an all-natural, winter wonderland. It was as if the walls fell away,and we were in the North Pole. An enormous fir tree towered to the ceiling, packed with enough lights to power a small city. There was a family of polar bears made out of flowers. I turned and saw a fleet of fantastic reindeer fashioned from enormous, whole pecans (110 pounds of pecans per reindeer, as it turns out). The reindeer jumped in the air effortlessly,flying just as they do for Santa every Christmas Eve. My friend and I stopped as if struck. The crowd pushed past us. We looked at each other in amazement, and it was like we were the only two people in the atrium. Together, we looked to the ceiling, and saw the flakes of “snow” sprinkling down upon us.

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DEPARTMENTS 6

Editor’s Letter A Christmas Memory,Vegas Style

12 On The Move Charlotte Women Making Strides

28 At Home Putting The Wow In Your Holiday Décor

13 Meet Our Advertisers Diamonds Direct Offers Selection And Education

34 Fashion Make Your World A Wonderland

14 Girl Time Tips,Trends, And Fancies

40 Beauty Give The Gift Of Gorgeous

26 Wine Up Today’s Charlotte Woman | December 2012 8

Celebrate The Dawn Of Wine With An Obscure Grape

42 Queen City Jewels Happenings You Don’t Want To Miss

44 Health Flash What You Need To Know To Stay Well

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Volume 16, Number 8 December 2012

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Editor

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Sales Executive

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PROFILES 18 Precious Gifts Jewelry Designer Chelsea Charles Celebrates A Year Of Good Fortune

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22 Food For Thought Kay Carter Changes Her World At Second Harvest Food Bank

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Trevor Burton Judy Cole Dana Durham Fiona Harmon Melinda Johnston Deb Mitchell Renee Roberson Contributing Photographers

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50 Essay: A Pyromaniac’s Hanukkah

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Job Changes/Promotions Bissell has hired Rhonda Walcott (top) as controller; Robyn Gainey (bottom) and Ali Stanley as property assistants; Lori McManus as assistant human resources director at Bissell Hotels; and Jessica Vecchione as recruiting manager at Bissell Hotels.

Vanessa Jenkins was promoted from director of sales and marketing for Preston Development Company to executive vice president.

Dr. Tiffani Jones has joined Providence Obstetrics & Gynecology; her special interests include pelvic pain, adolescents, obesity, and minimally invasive surgery.

The Mint Museum has hired Ana Lucia Divins as Latino community education liaison, a newly created position.

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Evelyn Leathers was hired by Shaw University as vice president for institutional advancement.

Atkins has hired Jeanne K. Richter, PE, a licensed professional engineer, as senior project manager in the company’s transportation highways and bridges sector.

Bednar Cosmetic Surgery has hired Laura Murphy, a licensed esthetician and makeup artist, as a skincare specialist at its satellite location in Rain Salon, at 1910 South Blvd.

The Charlotte Mecklenburg Library has hired Deirdre Middleton as new early literacy coordinator.

Awards & Installations Crystal Campagna (center) has received the Champion Award from the Lupus Foundation of America, Piedmont Chapter, at its 12th Annual NC Lupus Summit.

T. Reid and Company Salon & Spa was named one of the Top 100 Salons in America by Elle Magazine.

YWCA Central Carolinas has announced its 2012 Women of Achievement Winners (from left to right):Janice Valder Offerman, Pioneer winner, given to a mature woman who has exemplified a lifetime commitment to promoting social justice; Antonia Childs, Emerging Leader winner, given to a woman of the rising generation who will lead our community forward; and Melissa Memmert, Community Champion winner, given to an established woman currently working at the forefront of social change.

Nancy Black Norelli, a lawyer and former district court judge, has been honored by North Carolina Lawyers Weekly with a 2012 Women of Justice Award; a Litigation Practitioner Award; and she also is a finalist for the Woman of the Year Award.

GreyHawk Films was a finalist in the Video of the Year category in the ninth

annual Stevie® Awards for Women in Business.

Six women attorneys from Horack Talley were selected by their peers for inclusion in The Best Lawyers in America in the following categories: in family law, Gena G. Morris, Elizabeth T. Hodges, K. Mitchell Kelling, and Elizabeth J. James; in real estate law, Cheryl D. Steele; in bankruptcy and creditor debtor rights/insolvency and reorganization law, Kristin Decker Ogburn.

Twelve companies were selected from 305 applications to receive the American Heart Association’s Fit Friendly Worksite designation, presented locally by Moore & Van Allen.

Gold recipients are: Carolina Neurosurgery & Spine Associates,Crowder Construction Company,GE Capital Retail Bank,HarrisTeeter Supermarkets Inc.’s Corporate Office,Hedrick Gardner Kincheloe & Garofalo,LLP,Mecklenburg County Government,URS Nuclear Center, and Zenith Insurance Company. Fit Friendly Platinum level recipients are: Domtar Paper Company,LLC,EDI-Shealy, Frye Regional Medical Center,and Piedmont Natural Gas.

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Although 70 to 80 percent of Diamonds Direct’s business comes from bridal pieces,Diamonds Direct also offers hundreds of fashion pieces for the many other occasions that merit a beautiful piece of jewelry, such as pearls, diamond earrings, bracelets, and colored gemstone pieces.

As part of the exceptional customer-service experience, Diamonds Direct provides an extensive diamond education and selection to each customer to help them understand the worth and significance of each diamond by industry standards. This education empowers customers to make intelligent jewelry-buying decisions no matter where they decide to purchase.

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From The Mouths Of Men Female First-Date Faux Pas

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ew Year’s Eve is right around the corner, and if ever a night was fraught with dating fright, this one is it. However, according to Brandon Wade, CEO and founder of WhatsYourPrice.com, there are certain mistakes women notoriously make that send Mr.Right packing before he can discover how wonderful she is.

WhatsYourPrice.com is a date-auction website created by Wade. He polled 1,000 of the site’s active male members ages 18 to 45,and culled a list of the most-common relationship blunders women make during that all-important first date. “A common misconception among women is assuming that since they already received an offer for a date,then the job is done,”he says.

“In reality, going on the date is barely a quarter of the battle.”

Consider this handful of dating do’s and don’ts: Dating Don’t No. 1: Airing out the dirty laundry — A.K.A. the ex-boyfriend.

A whopping 94 percent of men claimed they had dated women who discussed their ex-boyfriends within the first or second date.

Dating Do: Save it for later … or never.

“Ex-talk is the biggest travesty to creating a new relationship,” Wade says. “A man wants to know that he is entering into the possibility of a new relationship, not cleaning up some other guy’s mess.”

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Dating Do: Play the game … or at least opt for mysterious.

“Men love a good challenge,”he says. “That’s why you have fantasy football, when they aren’t playing the actual sport. In theory, women have it right: Don’t play games if it will hurt someone. Do be coy, playful, and mysterious during your date.”

Dating Don’t No. 3: Giving out too much information.

Dating Do: Save the eccentricities for date No. 4 and beyond.

“Another study we conducted found that men find quirkiness endearing,” Wade says. “However, it also revealed that women should wait at least until the fourth date to begin talking about her peanut allergies or fear of clowns. Delving too soon into such topics comes off as hyper-neurotic.”

Dating Don’t No. 4: Broaching the subject of sex.

Dating Do: Keep it to yourself, at least until the goodnight kiss.

Men were turned off by a woman who says, unprovoked, “I don’t sleep with men on the first date.” Such a statement,even in good taste, makes a woman seem uptight and untrusting. Instead, wait until the end of the date; if a guy is not invited in, it’s a graceful way of getting your point across.

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ringing a hostess present to a party is about as classy as it comes … but it can be stressful to pick out yet another gift that might go unappreciated.

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elcome to the busiest season of the year, when you are expected to do more, and look your absolute best. Don’t let all that holiday stress go straight to your head — or as the case may be, your hair! Instead, take a few preventative measures to ensure your hair is nothing short of gorgeous.

“Whether you are going to a big office party or having a small, family celebration, you want your hair to look fabulous,” says Mahisha Dellinger, founder and CEO of CURLS, which specializes in organic hair products for naturally curly hair. “But it just so happens that the holiday season comes during one of the most challenging times for hair, so you have to take action.”

For healthy tresses this season, try these tips before things get hairy (sorry, couldn’t resist!): Pre-condition. Before the holidays arrive,pre-condition your hair with a good, all-natural,deep conditioner. Add in a little extra olive oil for amazing shine.

Get regular trims. No matter how busy you are, don’t skimp on regular trims, which are essential to maintaining beautiful hair.

Keep it natural. Forget about twisting your hair into new positions and shapes.

Keep it stress-free.

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Wash less. Did you know the less you wash your hair, the better? Washing daily strips it of natural oils, thus drying it out, especially during the winter months.

Skip the heat. Many people like to use some sort of heat source on their hair, to either dry or curl it, which can be quite damaging to the hair. Avoid using heat whenever possible.

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Global Giving is a virtual marketplace dedicated to philanthropy that allows shoppers to choose from more than 1,000 pre-screened causes. Groups in the marketplace provide realworld solutions to help educate children, feed the hungry, build houses and infrastructure,protect our environment,empower women (and men), rescue animals, and support active military and veterans, among other causes.

Gift cards start at just $10 ... but the value is so much more.

A gift card of $10 could be used to feed a Cambodian orphan for 10 days;a $35 card could pay for a girl’s school fees for one month;and a $150 gift card could cover the medical expenses for a shelter dog that is placed with a war veteran.

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Jewelry Designer Chelsea Charles Celebrates A Year Of Good Fortune

By Melinda Johnston | Photos By Michael C. Hernandez If jewelry designer Chelsea Charles was counting her blessings this year, she wouldn’t have to look beyond her own delicate wrists.

The 32-year-old creator of Count Me Healthy bracelets — which have been spotted on celebrities such as Taylor Swift, Selena Gomez, Lauren Conrad, Cameron Diaz, and Fergie — has experienced a year full of surprises and accomplishments.

Her Count Me Healthy jewelry line, described by Charles as beautiful journals for your wrist, is for sale in over 500 boutiques nationwide, and has appeared in more than a dozen fashion and women’s magazines. Charles was recently a guest on Dr. Oz. She signed a contract this spring with Belk department stores to market her jewelry, which includes Pretty Little Reminder necklaces and earrings. Last but not least, Charles is six months pregnant with her first child, a baby boy.

She’s been creating jewelry ever since.

After earning a marketing degree, Charles moved from Michigan to Memphis, Tenn., where she worked as a marketing director for a major corporation during the day and crafted jewelry at night. After doing double duty for a few years,she quit her day job to put 100 percent of her effort into her own company.

She’s never looked back.

“I work 55-plus hours a week and many weekends,but I love it,”Charles says. “It’s a joy and I can’t imagine doing anything else.”

Her initial concept was simple, and her

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Golden Opportunity Without a doubt,Charles is living her dream.

Her success is a testament to networking, organization, and perseverance. And she says the fact that she went to an all-girls’high school was an added bonus.

“I’ve always loved art. I drew all the time when I was younger. But I didn’t start making jewelry until high school. I went to an all-girls’ school and we had to wear uniforms. When you are all dressed alike, what separates you?

Accessories! That’s when I made my first bracelet,” she says.

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“I didn’t start making jewelry until high school. I went to an all-girls’ school and we had to wear uniforms. When you are all dressed alike, what separates you?

Accessories! That’s when I made my first bracelet.” — Chelsea Charles

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innovative design provided a refreshing slant on a traditional pastime.

“One of the best ways to reach your goals is to journal, but that’s not always convenient,” she says. “You can’t carry around a pad and pencil all the time.

Count Me Healthy bracelets are a beautiful way to wear your journal on your wrist.”

The delicate gold, rose gold, and sterling silver bracelets contain beads that the wearer can space out and move across the bracelet as the day progresses. The beads act as gentle reminders to (take your pick) drink a number of glasses of water, walk a number of miles, lose a number of pounds,appreciate a number of blessings, or think happy thoughts, and so on.

“It’s a heartfelt gift,” Charles says.

“When you give it to somebody,there are so many different things they can count.

And it’s fun, too. For instance, the Golf Goddess bracelet,sold in country clubs nationwide and in Canada, helps women count their golf strokes, taking the place of traditional counters on your belt or bag.”

Labor Of Love For Charles, success didn’t happen overnight. The design process took many months, and she counted many failures among the prototypes.

“One of the main issues was getting the beads to stay where I wanted them.

I probably made over 100 prototypes to get the finished product,” she says.

She’s since received two patents for the design.

Once satisfied with the prototype,she worked with a jeweler friend to refine it and put it into production. Her network of contacts then helped secure her bracelets a place in Hollywood.

“My jewelry has been in the official Oscar bags and the official Grammy bags,” she says. “Because my jewelry is dainty instead of overpowering,I think celebrities like it. We also use a lot of tri-colors and do stacking.”

These days, Charles looks forward to getting up each morning,never knowing exactly what the day will bring.

“There is no typical day,” she says.

“When you run your own business, each day is totally different. I workout each morning — I love Pilates and have a reformer in my house — and then I start designing, talking to people, and dealing with issues that come up. I also visit lots of different Belk stores promoting my line.”

In her spare time she adds to her blog, Counting With Chelsea, found on her website chelseacharles.com. She also takes time to consider new goals and aspirations.

“My dream would be to expand the jewelry line to bags and other small accessories,” Charles says.

Hers is an all-female business with a publicist,four customer service reps,and a warehouse team based in Memphis that distributes Chelsea Charles jewelry across the United States. And giving back is part of the company plan; she is active in women’s charities, with a percentage of sales from certain styles donated to breast cancer research and heart disease prevention programs.

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Melinda Johnston would count herself lucky if a Chelsea Charles bracelet was under the tree this year!

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Charles has followed her dream and watched it come to fruition; likewise, she encourages others to do the same — with a note of caution thrown in.

“If this is your dream, then go for it. But make sure you have a plan. You can’t just say, ‘I’m going to draw,’ or ‘I’m going to design.’

You have to understand all elements of the business,and you have to have a business plan to make it successful,” she says.

“And you have to have a fire inside of you.

It must be a passion. It took years for my business to make money,but I wouldn’t have it any other way.”

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Kay Carter Changes Her World At Second Harvest Food Bank

By Deb Mitchell | Photos By Joe Martin Food. It’s a top priority for us all. But for Kay Carter, executive director of Second Harvest Food Bank of Metrolina, food isn’t just a necessary element of life, it’s a career — and one that helps countless others in need throughout the Carolinas each year.

Since taking the helm of the 31-year-old nonprofit agency in 2004, Carter has infused the Charlotte-based food bank — which serves 19 counties in North and South Carolina — with her enthusiasm, her eye toward efficiency, and her tireless support for the area’s needy.

For The People Born in Rock Hill,S.C.,Carter has always“rooted for the underdog.” Her family rarely had a holiday meal that didn’t include someone in need.

“I’ve always wanted a job where I could help people,” she says.

Carter earned a bachelor of arts in political science from Winthrop University, and a master’s in public administration from the University of South Carolina. Before long,she found a peoplecentric job working for the town of Camden,S.C.,

and then landed a position as city manager in York, S.C. Seven years later, Carter became the director of the Department of Social Services in York County.

“I spent a lot of time getting to know people in need as I worked with programs like food stamps, adoption services, and senior services,” she says.

At DSS,Carter was responsible for a variety of duties, however, she always gave special focus to projects that helped the needy. She thought

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“What I do isn’t easy — it’s just rewarding,” Carter says.

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“I’d like to impress on people that there are a lot of people in our community who are hungry every day, and every donation — every can of food, every hour of volunteering — counts.” — Kay Carter

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she would never leave her career at DSS, accepting the job at Second Harvest is what Carter enthusiastically calls “the best work decision I’ve ever made!”

These days, she has no regrets about signing on to head the staff of 38. “They are very special,” Carter says. “They’re an eclectic group on the surface,but they all share the mission of ending hunger very clearly.”

Boundless Energy As executive director at Second Harvest, Carter wears many hats. She arrives at the warehouse by 6 a.m. nearly every morning. She spends the majority of her time calling on financial donors and food donors; working with Second Harvest’s

board of directors locally; partnering with the organization’s 600 partner agencies; and overseeing all of the operations of the food bank’s five locations.

In addition,Carter manages Second Harvest’s Backpacks for Kids, which sends food home on weekends and holidays to children at risk of hunger. She oversees Go Green, which “rescues” food that would otherwise be thrown out from area grocery stores,hotels,and restaurants. She works tirelessly with Second Helping, which distributes food to seniors. She often sorts food alongside staff and volunteers in the warehouse. Other days, she can be found “suiting up” in business attire to raise funds at evening and weekend events.

One of her biggest challenges — and an area where Carter has led Second Harvest to award-winning success — is product turnover. “The board members who hired me were clear that they wanted to see us meeting more community needs,”Carter says. “The product doesn’t do anybody any good if it’s sitting in the warehouse.”

She thought the best way to do this would be to take in more product,and distribute it faster. Carter has successfully increased the food donations annually from 7 million pounds when she started with Second Harvest to over 38 million pounds for the year ending June 30, 2012.

Adding to the challenge of maximizing speed and efficiency is Second Harvest’s

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commitment to providing ultra-perishable fresh produce, meat, and dairy items to the underprivileged. “People can least afford these items,” she states,“but they are essential for everyone.”

A (Busy) Season Of Hope At home inYork,Carter settles in with her extensive music collection,and her two cats — Jett, after rocker Joan Jett; and Cash, as in Johnny Cash — to tackle Second Harvest paperwork. She lives near extended family,and doesn’t miss a chance to spend time with them. But she admits that breaks are few and far between.

“I work a ton,” Carter says. “The older I get, the more I want to work to help people. Some people slow down as they get older, but I just speed up! I can’t imagine not working,as long as I’m doing something productive.”

During the holidays,when donations and volunteers are at their peak, Carter says the work is “blistering.” At other times, when need is high and donations are down,Carter works even harder to maximize resources.

Educating the community is a top priority for Carter. “I’d like to impress on people that there are a lot of people in our com-

munity who are hungry every day,” she says, “and every donation — every can of food,every hour of volunteering — counts.”

She downplays her role in Second Harvest’s effectiveness. “If I have any talent at all,it’s in hiring people who are smarter than me, and then getting out of their way.”

Regardless, Carter is talented at instilling hope in those she manages in the ever-present face of adversity.

“We get tired,” she says. “I’m not a person who gets discouraged very often … but if you don’t keep everything in context,it can be overwhelming. I love what Mother Teresa said: ‘If you can’t feed 100 people,feed just one.’ I tell the staff, ‘We do the very best we can every day; we feed everyone we can.’ ” [TCW] ToLearnMore Visit secondharvestmetrolina.org for information about donations or volunteering efforts.

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WineUp

Jewels

Georgia

By Trevor Burton

Celebrate The Dawn Of Wine With An Obscure Grape

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he only thing more fun than exploring the world of wine is sipping on wine as you do the exploring. I’m constantly putting that philosophy into practice! Just recently,I came across an unexpected keeper — a wine made in Georgia (the country,not the state). These wines were made from the Saperavi grape; the wines I tasted were a selection from the Gorelli winery, which is located in the Kakheti region of Georgia.

But first, a little context. Archeological evidence indicates that the Caucasus region was the birthplace of wine. It turns out that wine actually invented itself. Some 8,000 years ago, Neolithic man figured out how to store stuff for later consumption — a revolutionary concept at the time. Some enterprising soul decided to put aside some tasty grapes to see his tribe through the winter months.

What he didn’t take into account, however, was the force of gravity, which caused the grapes in their ceramic container to crush themselves. Natural fermentation occurred, and wine made its entry onto the world stage.

The world has never been the same since.

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In The Beginning I get a kick out of imagining the bravery of the first person to try this strange,new liquid … and the moral dilemma he or she faced after the first sip. Should the good news be shared with the whole tribe, or should the new discovery be kept under wraps? Envision the ensuing conversation: “Hey guys, we’ve really got a shortage of water. Why don’t you divide what water we have among yourselves,and I’ll take one for the tribe and subsist on this funky grape residue?”However it truly transpired at the time, it got us to where we are today.

When you sip on a glass of wine made from the Saperavi grape, you’re shaking hands with the dawn of wine history.

For such a small country, Georgia has a huge amount of indigenous grapes. Although there are some 400 of them to choose from,only 40 or so varieties are officially grown for winemaking. Saperavi is, by far, the most widely used. In Georgian, Saperavi literally means “paint” or “dye.”

The Saperavi grape has a very dark skin and is one of the few grapes that has red rather than white flesh. Not surprisingly, the wine has an intense, dark color.

These wines are far from shy. They feature deep aromas and flavors. They have a huge, earthy taste that’s accompanied by deep coffee and chocolate notes. All that good stuff is followed up by some powerful, dark fruit tastes.

These are definitely Old World style wines, as opposed to wines we find in the Napa Valley,for example. With most wines from the New World, it’s the fruit tastes that come first; these wines are described as “fruit-forward.” It would be a fool’s errand to try and define which style — New World or Old World — is best. They are what they are, and should be enjoyed for just that. It all depends on your personal taste. Remember, the only person in the world who has your palate is you.

A Heavy Lightweight The alcohol level in Georgian wines is extremely low. I found it amazing that wines this deep and robust had an ABV (alcohol by volume) of just 12 percent. (The usual level you see in wines with this much body is 13.5 percent and above.)

The good news is, you don’t have to restrict yourself; you can have several glasses of Georgian wine!

Which brings me to another point.

These wines are sometimes referred to as “no headache wines.” Many people are unable to drink red wines because of the resulting headache. It seems that Georgian wines are an exception. Maybe it’s the Saperavi grape, maybe it’s Georgian winemaking methods — but for whatever reason, these wines allow people to enjoy the many pleasures that red wines have to offer, without punishment.

How do you select a Georgian wine?

Most likely, you’ll see the Saperavi grape listed on the label. Even if the name isn’t there,it’s a good bet that the wine is made from Saperavi or is a blend of the grape — Cabernet Sauvignon is often used for blending. One thing you have to look for is the region where the wine was

produced. The name you’re looking for is Kakheti — the main wine-growing region in the country, i.e., the region where the really good wines come from.

These wines are priced to sell. Georgian winemakers are trying to carve out a niche in the American wine market, so they’re pricing their wines attractively.

You’ll find them for around $15. One of the wines I tasted was special,and carried the title of a Grand Reserve. Like the Gran Reserva wines of Spain, this wine had been aged for several years in oak barrels and then further aged in its bottle. It’s a standout wine that commands a higher price,at about $50. A little on the high end … but we all need that special treat once in a while.

So, whether it’s going for an exceptional wine or an everyday wine, it’s well worth the effort to seek out some of Georgia’s gems. Each bottle brings with it several millennia of wine history. [TCW] Wine aficionado Trevor Burton is pretty certain he would have kept the discovery of wine a secret ... at least for a little while.

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Behind The Merry Scenes 10 Tips For Decking The Halls, From Designer Deborah Bell

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ome folks have their Christmas tree up and snowmen on display before their Halloween pumpkins are packed away. Others approach holiday decorating with dread. If you’re loath to deck the halls, don’t despair.

More and more folks are enlisting professional designers to decorate for them.

Deborah Bell,of Deborah Bell and Company, is one of those professionals.

Though she devotes much of the year to designing weddings, parties, and other special events and celebrations, come November and December, she’s busy hanging wreaths, draping mantles, decorating trees, and adding seasonal pizzazz to area homes.

If you can’t imagine someone else arranging your Snow Village or wrapping garland around your handrails,Bell understands. But whatever your decorating style — whether you turn the task over to the professionals or are a decorate-it-yourselfer — she has a few simple (and free!) tricks of the trade that are sure to add the holiday wow factor to your home this season. >

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1. Define your style.

“Decide if your home will be decorated in a traditional, or contemporary, or Victorian, or eclectic style,”Bell says. “And by eclectic,I don’t mean dragging out everything you own and spreading it out all over your house. You need to decide on your style, then select and arrange your decorations accordingly.”

2. Pay attention to the little details.

“Tags on lights are one of my pet peeves!” she says. “Even in a professionally decorated home, you may find tags still hanging on the lights. Cut them off. It makes a big difference.”

3. Fluff, fluff, and fluff some more.

“Sometimes, I’ll go into someone’s home with beautiful decorations on display, but they aren’t showcased well because they were just brought out of the attic and weren’t fluffed. The wow factor is gone. Make sure you straighten all bows, pull up garland, smooth out wrinkles, and do anything else that needs to be done to freshen the items up before displaying.”

4. Group things in collections.

“If you group things together — like angels or trees or reindeer — the items will be much more impactful than if they are spread all around the house. Think individual scenes. It’s more impressive.”

5. Size matters! Do things to scale.

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but everything must be done to scale,” Bell insists. “If you love colored lights, use them. If you love big bulbs, use them. But don’t put big lights on a skinny tree. And if you use small lights, plan on having enough to make an impact. If you have a fat,9-foot tree and are using small bulbs, you are going to need 50 to 100 strands to make an impact. And they shouldn’t just be wrapped around the outside of the tree. Lights need to be woven in and out of the branches. Decorations should be hung from the inside out, with larger items toward the center of the tree.”

6. Decorate in layers.

“Layering is really important. A large Santa Claus is great,but put another element with it to add depth.”

7. Don’t be afraid of red and gold.

“From an interior design standpoint,Christmas red and gold can go in anywhere, no matter the color of the room,” Bell says. “But that doesn’t mean you have to use those colors. It’s the holidays and it’s your house. Use colors that make you feel good.”

8. Think green.

“Give a new look to old decorations by using them in another room or setting. Mix it up. And when you pull out a decoration that looks a little mussed,don’t automatically discard it. Pull it apart and use the elements in a different way. Use it in a wreath or arrange it in a glass vase with a vine. Repurpose as much as you can.”

10. Plan ahead for a stress-free 2013.

“If you want to make decorating less stressful next year, take your time un-decorating this year,” Bell says. “Roll lights individually — don’t shove them in a box in one massive ball. And don’t just buy one big tub and shove everything in — that’s the way things get broken. Invest in stackable ornament boxes with individual compartments to ensure your treasured decorations will be enjoyed year after year.”

ToLearnMore Visit deborahbellandcompany.com.

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9. Take your time.

“Don’t decorate on a moment’s notice. Put up garland, add a couple elements,and then leave the room. Come back later to see how it looks or what needs to be added. Be patient and don’t rush the process. It will make a big difference.”

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Make Your Own Spark This Season Eye Candy Boutique specializes in fashion with great prices and excellent quality. Come in and capture your beauty in fashion.

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To Savor & To Share Set the mood for special holiday moments with the heartening aroma of crisp fir needles, cedarwood, and relaxing sandalwood, found only with the Frazier Fir scented Candles by Thyme. Complimentary gift wrap.

And The Bead Goes On These double-strand necklaces are our favorite finishers that polish off every ensemble with a perfectly subtle pop of color. The muted colors and textured beads are sophisticated yet fun, and match every outfit! Equally as fabulous with your favorite little black dress as your favorite boyfriend jeans, these necklaces will be your new wardrobe staple!

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Take an arm accessory to a new level with a leather wrap-watch from La Mer Collections, or add some edge to a cocktail dress with a crafted piece from House of Harlow 1960 or Kendra Scott. You can find these celeb-loved lines and much more at Lipp Boutique!

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Sleigh bells ring, are you listening?

In the lane, snow is glistening.

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Walking in a winter wonderland.

Willow and Clay Deco Embellished dress, $98; with Willow and Clay Contrast Tuxedo Jacket, $108.

Belk & Belk.com Opposite page, Lotus statement necklace, $88.

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Winter White

By Dana Durham

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here’s just something magical about a white Christmas. The idea of a frosty winter landscape in December conjures candy canes and steaming cups of cocoa, prancing horses pulling bell-laden sleighs, Brenda Lee rockin’ around the tree, and white fuzzy sweaters mixed with brightly colored mittens. And then comes reality. In Charlotte, our chances for a snowy holiday season rank right up there with no traffic on I-77 at 5:30 p.m. In other words, about as likely as world peace! Still, a girl can dream. Here, a sprinkling of pristine, winter-white wares ... just right for a wishful wonderland.>

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Belk & Co. platinum plated, sterling silver, freshwater pearl pendant, $100.

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Satin clutch with jewel lock, $75.

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MICHAEL Michael Kors Signature Tote in metallic pewter or gold, $198.

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Visit Metropolitan and Birkdale Village for new holiday arrivals!

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Calvin Klein Ultimate skinny colored jean, in deep fuschia, $69.50.

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White Hot! Circle feather handbag, $135.

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Satin perfect pump with back button detail, $195.

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ake the beauty-conscious folks in your life merry and bright with gifts sure to please. From eye-popping palettes to holiday-inspired lotions, potions, and polishes, these goodies are perfect to give … and receive!

Smashbox Studio Pop Eye Palette This kit of 20 eye shadows offers an array of choices. $49 • Beauty Brands & BeautyBrands.com

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Nightly Beauty This delicious drink, full of vitamins and collagen peptides, promotes healthy skin and sound sleep. $49.99/box • Beautyfoods.com

Clarisonic Mia Cool cleansing system in a seasonal palette of white, wintergreen, and pale peppermint. $119-$149 • Beauty Brands & Beautybrands.com

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OPI Nail Polishes Offering holiday hues such as Tangled In Tinsel and Ask Me Who I'm Wearing. $4.98 • Beauty Brands & Beautybrands.com Philosophy SnowAngel Collection Sweet holiday-inspired lotions and potions. $10-$22 • Beauty Brands & BeautyBrands.com

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Get Your Jingle On To Benefit Battered Women’s Shelter ick off December with a jolly jingle — and help area women in need — by attending the Jingle Bell Bash Dec. 1, from 7 to 11 p.m., at Wells Fargo Atrium, 301 S.Tryon St. The Jingle Bell Bash, which raises money for United Family Services’ new Shelter for Battered Women, includes an open bar, heavy hors d’oeuvres, live entertainment from Soul Play, complimentary valet parking, and a silent auction. Tickets are $65 a person, or $115 for two. VIP tickets are available.

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Sweets For The Sweet Nutcracker Tradition Returns hat better way to rediscover the magic and innocence of the holidays than spending a little time with Clara and the Sugar Plum Fairy? A longtime Charlotte tradition,NC DanceTheatre’s“Nutcracker”is slated for Dec. 8 through Dec. 23 at Belk Theater. “Nutcracker” features choreography by the celebrated Jean-Pierre Bonnefoux, live music performed by the Charlotte Symphony, and over 100 dedicated performers.

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Swingtown Nnenna Freelon & The John Brown Big Band

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elebrate swing and enjoy an evening with six-time GRAMMY® Awardnominee Nnenna Freelon — also known as The Jazz Diva — Dec. 15 at McGlohon Theater.

The Swing Jazz Series is a four-part concert event celebrating the spirit of swing.

Presented by the Jazz Diva Foundation and the Performing Arts Coalition,the event will showcase the John Brown Big Band, accompanied by internationally renowned artists Freelon,Terence Blanchard,Tia Fuller, and Jon Faddis.

WantToGo? McGlohon Theater is located at Spirit Square, 345 N. College St. Visit blumenthalarts.org.

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WantToGo? Visit unitedfamilyservices.org/jingle-bell-bash.

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y a d i l Ho s g n i n e H a pp Dec. 1-2 “Magic Of Christmas” Charlotte Symphony charlottesymphony.org 704/972-2000 Dec. 1-2 “The Nutcracker” Charlotte Youth Ballet charlotteyouthballet.org 980/322-5522

Through Dec. 16 “A Farndale Avenue Christmas Carol” Davidson Community Players davidsoncommunityplayers.org 704/892-7953 Through Dec. 16 “White Christmas” Matthews Playhouse matthewsplayhouse.com 704/846-8343

Dec. 7-8 “Clara’s Trip: A Nutcracker Story” Caroline Calouche & Co. blumenthalarts.org 704/372-1000

Dec. 18-23 “Cirque Dreams Holidaze” Blumenthal Performing Arts blumenthalarts.org 704/372-1000

Dec. 7-16 “A Christmas Carol” Theatre Charlotte theatrecharlotte.org 704/376-3777

Dec. 19-Jan. 5, 2013 “Winter Wonderettes” Actor’s Theatre Of Charlotte Actorstheatrecharlotte.org 704/342-2251

Dec. 9 “Rockin’ In A Winter Wonderland” Streetwise Music blumenthalarts.org 704/372-1000

Through Dec. 23 “The Best Christmas Pageant Ever” Children’s Theatre Of Charlotte Ctcharlotte.org 704/973-2828

Dec. 12 “Messiah” Charlotte Symphony charlottesymphony.org 704/972-2000

Through Dec. 31 “Holidays At The Garden” Daniel Stowe Botanical Garden dsbg.org

Dec. 16 “CFS Holiday Jam & Potluck” Charlotte Folk Society folksociety.org 704/372-3655

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ake a difference in the lives of local children by participating in the eighth annual Puppies for Patients program, hosted by the Community Blood Center of the Carolinas through Dec. 31.

Donors who give blood during this time can sign a tag that will be attached to a stuffed animal puppy that will be delivered to children in area hospitals and care facilities this holiday season.

CBCC is a member of America’s Blood Centers, North America’s largest network of community-based, independent blood centers. The primary blood supplier to 21 hospitals in the region, CBCC relies on volunteer donors and local organizations to help fill the need for blood. And need is great: One local children’s hospital alone requires nearly 300 red blood cells and more than 200 platelet units each month.

Every drop of blood collected remains in the Carolinas to help local patients.

“Throughout the past seven years, our donors,supporters,and community partners have gone above and beyond to be a part of Puppies for Patients,”says Martin Grable, president and CEO of CBCC.“Together,we are bringing joy and comfort to children during their hospital stay this holiday season while saving local lives through each blood donation.”

Individuals can donate blood at a community blood drive, or visit donor centers at 4447 South Blvd.; 363 Church Street North, Suite 170, in Concord; 2524 E. Franklin Blvd., Suite E, in Gastonia; and 600 Hospital Drive, in Monroe.

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ccording to a study by researchers at Baylor University’s Mind-Body Medicine Research Laboratory, clinical hypnosis can reduce hot flashes in post-menopausal women.

It’s interesting that hypnosis didn’t just slightly improve symptoms for participating women. The study, which was funded by the National Center for Complementary and Alternative Medicine of the National Institutes of Health, found that hypnotic relaxation therapy reduced hot flashes by as much as 80 percent. Participants also experienced less anxiety, relief from depression, and an overall improved quality of life.

The study was published in Menopause: The Journal of The North American Menopause Society.

The mind-body therapy study, which included 187 women over a five-week period, measured physical symptoms of hot flashes, combined with women’s self-reporting of symptoms.

“This is the first study in which we compared both self-reporting and physiological monitoring — not just a change in tolerance or ability to cope, but the hot flashes themselves decreased,” says Dr. Gary Elkins, professor of psychology and neuroscience in Baylor’s College of Arts & Sciences and director of the Mind-Body Medicine Research Laboratory.

Participants received weekly sessions of hypnosis by clinically trained therapists. They also learned to practice selfhypnosis using audio recordings and “cold” visualizations such as a path covered in snow, or a cool mountain creek.

By the fourth session, hot flashes had decreased about 70 percent. At a three-month follow-up, the decrease averaged 80 percent.

“Some women reported having nearly complete elimination of hot flashes,” says Dr. Elkins.

To be clinically significant, the decrease must be 50 percent or more. Besides decreasing in frequency, the hot flashes also became milder.

“For women who want to be involved in their own therapy, this is very appealing,”says Dr.Elkins. “It also has the advantages of cost savings, and few or no side effects.”

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“I use vanilla sugar in my homemade body scrub,” Nielsen says. “The scent is relaxing, and it’s an affordable way to treat myself to a little pampering.”

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Sodium Overload Beware The Salty Six onsuming too much salt can cause health problems, including highblood pressure, heart disease, and stroke. But cutting down on sodium isn’t as easy as putting down the chips and French fries. All sorts of common foods are packed with sodium, which helps explain why the average American consumes approximately 3,400 milligrams of sodium a day, more than twice the daily recommended amount.

According to the American Heart Association/American Stroke Association, the top-six sources of sodium in today’s diet are:

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Bread. Bread doesn’t taste especially salty, but one piece can have as much as 230 milligrams of sodium — about 15 percent of the recommended amount per day.

Cold cuts and cured meats. One serving of deli and pre-packaged turkey can contain as much as 1,050 milligrams of sodium.

Pizza. One slice can contain up to 760 milligrams of sodium; two can send you over the daily recommendation.

Poultry. Reasonable portions of lean, skinless, grilled chicken is healthy, depending on how you prepare it. But when you serve up chicken nuggets,the sodium adds up — just 3 ounces of frozen, breaded nuggets can add 600 milligrams of sodium.

Soup. One cup of canned chicken noodle soup can have up to 940 milligrams of sodium, and soup cans typically contain more than one serving.

Sandwiches. If bread and cured meats are heavy on the sodium, then combine them with a little ketchup or mustard,and voila! You can easily surpass 1,500 milligrams of sodium in one sitting.

Exercise Might Be ‘The Biggest Loser’ Reality Show May Discourage Others he reality TV show “The Biggest Loser” centers around competition to encourage overweight participants to lose the most weight through healthy eating and exercise; the biggest “loser” wins a cash prize. While the show may encourage its participants to adopt healthy habits, one expert says it actually discourages viewers from doing the same.

“The depictions of exercise on shows like ‘The Biggest Loser’ are really negative,” says study lead author Tanya Berry,a physical-activity promotion expert at the University of Alberta, in Canada. “People are screaming and crying and throwing up,and if you’re not a regular exerciser, you might think this is what exercise is — that it’s this horrible experience where you have to push yourself to the extremes and the limits, which is completely wrong,” she says.

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The study included 138 undergraduate students, split into two groups. One group watched a small clip of extreme exercise from “The Biggest Loser,” while the other watched a segment from “American Idol.” Afterward, participants wrote down their first five thoughts, and completed a test and questionnaire to assess their attitudes about exercise.

“We did find that the people who watched ‘The Biggest Loser’ had worse attitudes about physical activity than those who watched the ‘American Idol’ clip,” Berry says.

The results were consistent, regardless of participants’ physical-activity levels or weight, and suggest that instead of motivating others to adopt healthy attitudes, shows like “The Biggest Loser” may encourage people to avoid exercise.

The study will be published in the January 2013 issue of the American Journal of Health Behavior.

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here may be good news on the horizon for those with multiple sclerosis: Two new trials show that the cancer drug alemtuzumab (Campath) reduces the risk of MS relapse.

MS occurs when a person’s immune system begins attacking the coating of nerve fibers. About 85 percent of MS patients start with a form of the disease called relapsing-remitting MS, where symptoms appear sporadically and then partially or completely fade away. Currently, there is no cure for MS. Alemtuzumab is used to treat leukemia and other cancers of the immune system by altering the number and functions of a certain type of white blood cell — called lymphocytes — that plays a major role in the functioning of the immune system. In two clinical trials, British researchers led

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Cambridge, compared alemtuzumab with interferon beta 1a, the most commonly used drug to treat MS. The first trial focused on patients who had never received drug treatment for MS. Relapse rates after two years were 22 percent for those given alemtuzumab, and 40 percent for those given interferon beta 1a. The second trial included patients who previously had been treated with either interferon beta 1a or an MS drug called glatiramer, but had suffered at least one relapse since initial treatment.

The relapse rates were 35 percent for patients who were given alemtuzumab, and 51 percent for those who received interferon beta 1a.

Researchers also found that alemtuzumab appeared to reduce the risk of MS-related disability such as the loss of coordination or the ability to walk.

The findings were published in The Lancet. [TCW]

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Dr. Ross W. Nash Ross W. Nash, DDS, is one of only 46 Accredited Fellows in the American Academy of Cosmetic Dentistry,meaning he has acquired extraordinary skills in the area of esthetic and cosmetic dentistry.Founder of the Nash Institute for Dental Learning, Dr. Nash is the epitome of “expert.” Here, he answers questions about Direct Composite Bonding.

Q: What is composite bonding?

A: Direct composite bonding is the process of adhesively attaching a tooth colored material to natural tooth structure. The tooth is shaped if needed and treated with a bonding agent. A composite resin material made of glass and plastic is placed and contoured before it is hardened with a high intensity blue light source.

It is then shaped and polished.

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Q: What problems can composite bonding correct?

A: Teeth that have been worn, chipped, broken or decayed can be restored with these techniques. Teeth that are dark in color or have natural defects can be completely veneered to create a new surface using composite bonding. Cavities in front or back teeth can be filled using bonded composite resin materials.

Q: Are the materials strong enough to replace parts of a natural tooth?

A: Yes. Modern composite resin materials are very strong and can be used in many situations.

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Q: Can any dentists provide these types of tooth colored restorations?

A: Most dentists are trained in adhesive composite resin bonding. The final result is in the hands of the clinician providing the treatment. Some have more artistic ability than others and the esthetic result can differ from dentist to dentist.

Q: Are composite restorations expensive?

A: Direct restorations can usually be placed at a cost that is affordable for most people.

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Q: How long can composite restorations be expected to last?

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A Pyromaniac’s Hanukkah

By Judy Cole

ne of the biggest cultural differences I noted after we moved to the South was the commonplace practice of being asked, “What church do you go to?” While at face value it seemed a neighborly enough inquiry, I couldn’t shake the notion that folks wanted to put me in the proper box, wrap me in shiny preconceived paper, tie me up with a corresponding bow — Baptist, Lutheran, or Catholic — and place me under their respective Christmas trees.

As “none of the above,” I learned to take this social gambit with a grain of salt. You see, I don’t go to church — and even if I did,the church I would not be going to would be synagogue.

I guess that would make it kosher salt?

Don’t get me wrong. One of the reasons we bought our house is because it’s within walking distance of temple — not that I attend temple. But, having moved so far from all of my personal and cultural (damn) Yankee touchstones, I took comfort in the prospect of “not being the only one here.”

That said, I am a self-professed “bad Jew.” I have a sense of history about my place in the bigger tableau,but I’ve never regularly attended services, nor do I keep kosher. Out of respect for my family, I’ve never worked on the most sacred day of the Jewish calendar, Yom Kippur; and I attempt to pull together some form of Passover pseudo-seder. The only other holiday I regularly observe is Hanukkah.

Now, I appreciate a gift as much as any gal. But I am by no means gelt ridden. For me, Hanukkah isn’t about presents; it’s about feeling connected to my heritage.

Our first year south of the Mason-Dixon Line,Hanukkah candles were scarcer than hen’s teeth. After leaving empty-handed from the “umpteenth” store, I sat in my car and wept. (I did eventually track some tapers down at a big chain pharmacy,and although it may not have been a miracle on par with an evening’s worth of lamp oil lasting eight dark nights,it did seem

like a sign from God.) Here comes the perfect place for a confession: Hanukkah also gives me a chance to indulge in a“guilty pleasure.” There’s something about striking a match that speaks to my senses.

There’s the suggestive scraping sound, the scent of sulfur, the mesmerizing flash of light, the thrilling rush of heat, accented by an undeniable taste of danger — all constructed and consumed in the blink of an eye. Bonfires and leaf burnings, now largely things of the past, are some of the fondest memories of my early youth. To stand, face warmed by flame, and watch as curls of smoke ascended toward heaven filled me with a childlike ecstasy.

It still does, but for more slightly grownup reasons.

My great-grandmother Ida’s menorah — dented and dinged, its shamash holder long lost (succeeded years ago by a makeshift replacement rigged from electrical wire and a castoff ratchet wrench socket adorned by a crystal chandelier drop bauble) — is a true family heirloom. Holding it in my hands as she did half a century ago and lighting the candles dials a long distance connection that defies corporeal boundaries and religious convention.

The dancing flames form a cosmic telephone, each night its volume turned up a bit louder, that facilitates a ritual conversation between who I am now and where I came from — even before I was born. Unanswered questions, small hopes, urgent fears, big dreams, are one by one relinquished to the flames.

While I don’t actually hear the voices of my dead relatives speaking to me, again, I’m comforted by an undeniable feeling of “not being the only one here”… and,pyromaniac or not,that ain’t chopped liver. [TCW]

Judy Cole, a freelance writer living in Gastonia, loves lighting matches. However, she neither condones nor participates in acts of arson, except the verbal variety.

Journey to Breast Implants Throughout her late teens and early 20s, Erica Lopez’s life was plagued by the anxiety of bikini tops, bra shopping and generally being self-conscious. “It got so bad I just stopped shopping for tops because nothing seemed to fit right.”

Erica had a congenital disorder known as tuberous breast deformity. “I had never heard of tuberous breasts. I just knew mine didn’t grow like everyone else’s.” At age 23, Erica decided to fly to Miami for surgery at the advice of a friend who had surgery there. “It was terrible. I had sent them pictures and they quoted me a price, but when I showed up, they said I needed some extra surgery and it would cost an extra $2,000. I flew back without having surgery, and felt totally taken advantage of.”

Erica consulted with several other plastic surgeons before deciding on Bill Kortesis, MD, at the Hunstad Kortesis Center and Medspa. “Every previous doctor that I talked with told me I needed something different than what I wanted. I had done a lot of research by this point and had a pretty good idea of what I was looking for. When I meet Dr. Kortesis, he spent time asking me about my desired outcome. I felt that he really listened and cared about exactly what I wanted. It turned out that waiting to have surgery with him was the best thing that could have happened to me,” she says.

“Erica was a textbook case of tuberous breast deformity, and honestly, she had been through a lot and I felt honored to be able to make a difference in her life,” states Dr. Kortesis.

Erica reports the surgery experience was surprisingly easy. “Dr. Kortesis met with me and reviewed the entire procedure, and then an anesthesiologist gave me meds through an IV. The next thing I knew, I was waking up and surgery was over! After a couple hours of recovery with the nurse, I was able to go home and just a few days later, I was back at work. I definitely thought I was going to be in much more pain, but mostly I was just sore.”

Erica can’t help but smile when asked how she feels about her body. “I’m a different person now. I’m more confident. I can finally fit into normal clothes! Dr. Kortesis literally changed my life and I couldn’t be happier. I would do it again in a heartbeat!”

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