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The One Thing We All Want to Know

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ETSY Easter

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Just Eat It, Damnit!

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“I Want to Go Home” Helping Your Child Overcome Summer Camp Homesickness

Summer Camps

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Summer Camp Spotlight

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[ EVENTS ] 10 Parenting Solutions to Prevent Cyberbullying

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Editor’s Note It’s April, which means the remainder of the school year will suddenly fly by! In a blink of an eye, June will be here so instead of scrambling at the last-minute to find childcare or summer camp options, be sure to secure your help now! This issue includes tons of amazing options to keep the kids cared for and busy this summer.

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We have discovered so many camps this season that we weren’t able to include them all in this issue so be sure to check them out on our website at www.activefamilymag. com where you’ll find a comprehensive Summer Camp Guide by city. Looking for weekly events, discounts, information dedicated to families? Then send us an email or sign up at www.activefamilymag.com to receive our weekly emails!

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Rachel Macy Stafford is a certified special education teacher with a Master’s Degree in education and ten years of experience working with parents and children. In December 2010, this life-long writer felt compelled to share her journey to let go of distraction and grasp what really matters by creating the blog “Hands Free Mama.” Using her skills as a writer, teacher, and encourager, Rachel provides readers with simple, non-intimidating, and motivating methods to let go of distraction and connect with their loved ones. Rachel’s work has been featured on CNN, Good Morning America, Global News, USA Today, TIME.com, MSN.com, The Huffington Post, and Reader’s Digest. Her blog currently averages one million visitors a month. Rachel’s new book, HANDS FREE MAMA, is a New York Times Bestseller.

The One Thing We All Want to Know

by Rachel Macy Stafford “I do not ask the wounded person how he feels, I myself become the wounded person.” - Walt Whitman I recently attended an informational meeting for fifth grade parents at the middle school my daughter will be attending this fall. After swallowing the lump in my throat caused by the undeniable reality of why I was sitting there, I settled in to absorb everything the staff had to offer about parenting a middle schooler. But within the first five minutes of the presentation, I got stuck. It was something the assistant principal said.

“You might think opening their locker or having seven teachers is the greatest worry for sixth graders on that first day of school—but it’s not. In general, their biggest source of angst is knowing how they’re getting home.”

The administrator proceeded to explain where bus routes could be accessed during the summer months, but I was only half listening. All I could think about was this: They just want to know how they’re getting home.

My mind returned to one particularly trying day in my own middle school career.

I’d forgone the city bus and made a long walk home, crying all the way. I’d

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[ PARENTING ] gotten my first C, and I was devastated. When I got to the door, my grandma opened it. I’d forgotten she was spending the week with us. I quickly wiped my snotty face and forced a smile, but Grandma couldn’t be fooled.

“Rachel, what’s wrong?” she exclaimed. Despite the prominent wrinkles on my grandma’s heart-shaped face, I saw worry lines appear between her eyes.

“I got a C on my math test, Grandma,” I confessed between sobs.

Grandma immediately pulled me to her chest. Her shaky hands smoothed my hair lovingly. And then she said the words I needed to hear. “Rachel, no one is going to be mad at you. Your mama and daddy love you, no matter what.” And then she looked directly into my red, puffy face and said, “I love you.”

They just want to know how they’re getting home, the school administrator had said.

And I would add: They just want to know there will be a welcoming smile and two open arms waiting for them, no matter what they’ve done, no matter what kind of day they’ve had.

After the parent meeting I picked up my almost middle schooler from swim team practice. She energetically jumped in the car and greeted me with a cheerful “hey Mom!” It appeared that her earlier grouchiness had washed away with flip turns and dolphin kicks. And that is how it was lately. One minute she was impatient, exasperated, touchy, and annoyed. The next minute she was silly, tender, kind, and delightful. While on a recent family bike ride, she lowered her face while we waited on the traffic light to change. She didn’t have to say it, but I knew she was hoping no one from school would see her. At her age, I too was easily embarrassed, especially when it came to my family.

and hopeful. Suddenly she didn’t look so mature or so moody. Perhaps the words of the assistant principal had softened my heart. This child was a human being going through a period of change and uncertainty. She just wanted to know she was accepted and loved. I decided I could be a little more understanding … a little more assuring … a little more forgiving like my grandmother, even when (and especially when) my child’s smile was absent.

And then something unexpected happened. My mom called and I immediately noticed she sounded different.

Something was wrong. “I’ve been diagnosed with Bell’s Palsy,” Mom blurted out. She explained that the left side of her face had no feeling. Although it had only been an hour since she got home from the emergency room, Mom quickly realized the challenges she’d be facing until the paralysis subsided. She could not blink her left eye, and speaking and eating would be difficult. But my mother’s voice did not crack until she talked about stopping to get medication at the drug store. “I didn’t realize how often I smile at people until I couldn’t. I couldn’t smile when people smiled at me.” Of all the losses she suddenly faced, the loss of her smile was the one that made her cry.

Later that night I realized how my mother’s situation related to the assistant principal’s words and my own experience with my grandmother.

We just want to know how we’re getting home.

We just want to know there will be a welcoming smile and open arms waiting, no matter what we’ve done … no matter what kind of day we’ve had … and no matter how we look.

Since my mom lives 500 miles away, my daughters and I got right to work on a care package to lift her spirits.

Inside a card I wrote some of the same words her mother told me the day I walked home worried about how I would be received:

Yes, there was no denying that my child’s bright smile seemed to appear less frequently these days. She had new worries, new challenges, and new emotions accompanying her eleventh year growth. And this period of uncertainty reflected in her fluctuating smile.

I love you no matter what.

You are strong.

You will get through this.

I will support you and pray for you.

Your positivity comes from inside. Nothing can change that.

“How was swim team, hon?” I asked. My daughter told me about a competition they had and something funny the coach said. In the rearview mirror I could see her looking pensively out the window, the ends of her wet hair starting to curl. Her beautiful face looked so fresh

My daughter made soap using shea butter and coffee beans (her Grandma’s favorite) and wrote a card that said: “However you may look or feel, know that you’re always beautiful and loved!”

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[ PARENTING ] As I handed the care package to the postal worker it was all I could do not get on that delivery truck so I could open my arms to my mom and let her know my love was unconditional, my embrace a safe haven.

That night I was feeling sad and worried. I offered to get my family ice cream sundaes knowing I could use a little time in the car with my music and my thoughts. I ended up crying the whole way, missing the support of my friends in my old city, missing my parents, and wishing I could be there to help them. I pulled up to the drive-thru window makeup-less and cheerless. But you wouldn’t have known it by the way the man with blue-rimmed glasses and rosy cheeks greeted me. I actually looked away in embarrassment. I looked so awful. I felt so empty.

But he just kept beaming at me. He handed me my change, and also some hope. I came home and wrote the following passage—words inspired by three special people: a restaurant worker whose smile had healing powers, a fifth grader whose smile is erratic, and a 74 year old woman whose smile is gone for a while.

Step Stool Smile I reached for my icy treats and the cashier looked right at me and smiled warmly Like sunshine warmly Like Grandma’s arms warmly Like soothing lullaby warmly I looked away.

I didn’t want to be seen. I felt ugly. Unkempt. A mess of sorts.

But there he was, smiling at me. Looking right at me like I wasn’t ugly. Like I wasn’t a mess.

And for one brief moment I realized the ugliness I felt inside might not be apparent on the outside.

And for one brief moment I realized maybe I was being too hard on myself (again).

And for one brief moment I realized I didn’t have to hide.

I took that stranger’s smile so freely given to me and I used it as a step stool To reach my own grace, my own courage, my own hope That felt so far away.

Now here I am.

Some days, I am the smiler.

Some days, I am the one who wants to look away.

When I am the smiler, I smile warmly. Because the warm smile has the power to go down deep and shoo away the painful thoughts that make a good person want to hide.

And when I am the one who wants to look away, I don’t.

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my face like sunshine, Like my grandma’s arms, Like a soothing lullaby Bringing love to the hurting places in my soul I cannot reach today.

My mom has temporarily lost her smile due to a health condition. My daughter’s smile comes and goes due to adolescence. Mine is a little shaky these days—maybe yours is too. But all hope is not lost, my friends. In fact, there is great hope in these circumstances, and it is this: Whether we wear a smile or not, Whether we have our ducks in a row or they are running loose, Whether we know what the future holds or have no clue, Whether we are standing on solid ground or sinking sand, We all share one commonality: We just want to know how we’re getting home.

And we can get there, my friends. We can get there.

By loving each other with acceptance, grace, and unconditional love, We can bring each other home.

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Rachel Simmons is the author of the New York Times bestsellers Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls, and The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence. As an educator, Rachel works internationally to empower young women to be more authentic, assertive and self-aware. Rachel is a Vassar graduate and Rhodes Scholar from New York. The cofounder of the Girls Leadership Institute, she is an experienced curriculum writer and educator. She currently develops leadership programs for undergraduates at the Center for Work and Life at Smith College. She has previously worked as a classroom teacher in Massachusetts and South Africa.

Rachel was the host of the PBS television special, “A Girl’s Life,” and her writing has appeared in the Washington Post, Atlantic, and Slate. Rachel serves on the board of the College Women’s Leadership Educators affiliate of the AAUW. Rachel has appeared on Oprah and the Today show, and appears regularly in the national media. Odd Girl Out was adapted into a highly acclaimed Lifetime television movie. Rachel lives in western Massachusetts with her daughter. For more information, please visit www. rachelsimmons.com.

“I Want to Go Home” Helping Your Child Overcome Summer Camp Homesickness

by Rachel Simmons Welcome to summer camp season, that time of year when an epidemic illness sweeps across America, striking down children of all ages: homesickness.

As the Girls Leadership Institute summer camp director, I spent countless hours consoling girls longing for home. I’ve also counseled desperate, angry parents ready to jump in their cars, speed towards camp and commando their kids out.

If your child is away at camp this year, and you get that mournful e-fax, letter or phone call, you have my deepest sympathy. There is nothing more anguishing than knowing your child is alone and suffering. Below is some advice and wisdom I’ve accumulated over the years to help you get through this homesickness season.

Remember That Homesickness Comes and Goes. Homesickness is an illness cured by distraction. Most of the time, kids are sad during brief moments of the day. The most common flare-ups occur during unstructured time, like getting ready for bed, or moments when kids are asked to think about home, like during letter writing time or phone calls.

The majority of homesick kids spend most of their days laughing, playing and being, well, happy campers. That means you end up hearing from them at their

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[ PARENTING ] worst, and not seeing them at their best (how’s that for a raw deal?).

Check in with yourself. Emotional intelligence experts say that knowing you have a feeling is different from just being in that feeling and acting without thought or reflection. When your child is homesick, there are two areas of emotion to look out for within yourself. First, it’s your job as a parent – indeed, it’s built into your biology – to be emotionally activated by the sound or thought of your child’s distress. And by emotionally activated, I do mean literally wanting to get in your car, drive to camp, strangle the staff and pull your kid. Once you reflect on this important drive, your self-awareness will prevent you from letting it overwhelm your response.

The second area to reflect on is your own experience with abandonment and parental empathy. Are you sensitive to feeling abandoned, or to others feeling that way? Did you grow up with parents who did not take your emotions seriously? If the answer is yes to any of these, you may be reacting to your child’s homesickness with an intensity that is more about your own past than your child’s experience. That doesn’t mean your emotions are “wrong,” only that they should be understood and acted on in context.

As you well know, you sent your child to camp both to enjoy herself and to give her an opportunity to live independently. If you act rashly and pull her now, you take away her chance to overcome her homesickness and accomplish a huge life challenge. That’s not to say that she might not end up coming home, but the decision should be as thoughtful as possible.

Trust Camp Staff. This one’s very important. If staff tell you that your child is okay except for those tough times mentioned above, believe them. I once had a parent tell me, “You have been with my daughter for 11 days. I have been with her for 13 years. You don’t know her at all.” No, staff can’t compete with a parent’s knowledge of her child, but they do see her laughing and playing most of the day – and parents don’t.

Remember that you trusted the camp enough to take care of your child for a reason. The staff has no interest in making your child suffer unnecessarily. They are experienced with homesickness, and they know the difference between a kid who can make it and a kid who might not.

The most effective response to homesickness will happen with you and staff working in partnership. Ask what staff are doing to support your child and find out how you can help. For example, the camp may ask you to refrain from offering to bring your child home for at least a few days.

Do your best to work together.

Keep Your Eyes on the Prize. Overcoming homesickness and sticking out a tough time is an incredible accomplishment for your child. The knowledge that I did it on my own is developmental gold. This is the raw material of resilience, the ability to manage stress and overcome difficulty, and it is associated with less depression and anxiety, and general life success.

Conversely, having to come home is a loss that your child will not soon forget. Keep in mind that pulling your child from camp is not just about responding to a single moment. The experience of not finishing may inspire a new set of painful emotions in your child: feelings of failure, disappointment and regret.

Don’t Dwell. If you do decide to bring your child home, exercise caution in framing the experience. Focus on the positives and what she accomplished in the days she was there. Remind her of what she enjoyed. Emphasize that she may not have been ready this summer, but maybe she will be next year. Praise her efforts and hard work, even if they did not result in success this time around. If you focus on the failures of the camp, or other kids, it can make it easy for your child to bow out next time, and the time after that.

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Shasta Nelson, M.Div., is the Founder of GirlFriendCircles.com, a women’s friendship matching site in 35 cities across the U.S. and Canada.

Her spirited and soulful voice for strong female relationships can be found in her book Friendships Don’t Just Happen! The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends.

She also writes at ShastasFriendshipBlog.com and in the Huffington Post, speaks across the country, and is a friendship expert in the media appearing on such shows as Katie Couric and the Today Show.

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Five Questions to Ask Before Ending a Friendship

by Shasta Nelson Not all friendships last forever, in fact only about 1 in 12 friends end up being lifetime friends. And even those friendships have to change and become something new many times over as we all go through various life stages and moves. But all friendships are meant to enhance our lives and teach us new ways of loving people even if they don’t last forever so we want to learn how to leave people better for having spent time with us.

Very few people are actually “toxic” (a word we’re throwing around waaay too easily these days!) but that is not to say that the friendship we co-created with them might not be meeting our needs anymore.

If we’re starting to entertain the idea of our friend being toxic, then it is a good time to pause and answer the 5 questions below. In many cases we’re not so much mad at her for obvious “wrong-doings” she’s done as much as we are disappointed at the unspoken expectations we have of her that she didn’t

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[ WOMEN & RELATIONSHIPS ] live up to. We’re just as likely to call a friend “toxic” for not calling us enough: “I always have to do all the work in our relationship!”) as we are for a friend who calls too much (“She’s insatiable! She makes me feel guilty that I have a life and can’t talk every day!

Seeing that it often has less to do with their actions and more to do with our expectations and current needs reminds us that there is room for mature conversations to help grow the friendship into something that brings joy to both individuals!

The Five Friendship Threats The five friendship threats that I highlight in my book Friendships Don’t Just Happen! are: blame, jealousy, judgment, neglect, and non-reciprocation.

Those five threats are the umbrella that every specific story of friendship frustration falls under, whether the judgment stems from us thinking she’s dating the wrong guy or that we interpret her canceling our plans as “selfish.” And, unfortunately, they can’t all be avoided.

The truth is that we’re human, we have expectations of each other, and we have needs we want filled so we’re bound to experience these threats from time-to-time.

What we can do is be aware that some frustration and disappointment is normal in relationships, that we’re just as likely to be the subject of her annoyance as she is ours, and that the most important thing in these moments is deciding how we can best respond in ways that grow our friendship.

Five Questions to Ask Before Letting the Threats Lead to Demise: Here are five questions that maturity invites us to ask before getting so frustrated with someone that we’re at risk of walking away from them instead of being willing to repair a friendship to something more meaningful than we’ve ever before experienced: 1. How can I show up a little more thoughtfully? Let’s first assume there is something we could do to enhance this friendship even if we feel she is the problem— what comes to mind? In other words—she may be jealous and we don’t want to play smaller to avoid her jealousy, but could we affirm her more? If we feel neglected, can we write her an email and say, “I miss you. Can we schedule some time together?” Go past asking if she deserves it, and just simply brainstorm what could be done if you had to do something?

2. Have I asked her what she needs? While the next two questions are super important in helping us articulate what we need, I sometimes find that providing space to ask her what we could do in our relationship to bring her more happiness is a fabulous way to often change the dynamic. If we sense she’s jealous or that she expects too much of us, sometimes simply allowing for that space to ask her can diffuse the problem, helping both of us navigate a path where we both feel more heard. Maybe some form of, “I’m sensing that you’re pulling away a bit (or feeling frustrated when we talk) maybe I’m imaging it… But, I wanted to check in with you to see if there was anything I could do differently in our friendship to make it more meaningful for you right now?” We often skip this step out of fear of hearing that we’re not meeting a need or fear that we can’t, or don’t want to, meet the need we’ll hear, but I’ve found that there is way less anger on both sides after she feels like we care enough to ask. And it’s completely acceptable to respond with an “Oh how I wish I could be that for you, but honestly I can’t give that kind of time right now. I am so sorry! Does it help that I’m still willing to x?”

3. What is it I actually want from her? For example, if we feel that we’re always the one giving more than the other (non-reciprocation), then pause and ask ourselves—what is it I actually want or need? If she just noticed what I gave and thanked me, would that be enough? Or is there a specific area I need her to give to me more? Or do I need to know what I do for her that means the most so I don’t waste my time or money giving to her in ways that aren’t all that important to her? When I’m upset that I’m over-giving, is it because she’s asking for too much or because I’m simply giving too much? What do I think I really need from her? And try to answer it with specificity, but also with knowing the root reason. In other words, instead of just saying ,”I need her to be there for me more,” try to say, “I need her to call me at least once a week… because what I really need is to know that I matter to her and that she’s thinking of me….”

4. Have I already asked her for what I need? We so often end friendships without taking the time to let the other person know what we need or how we feel.

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[ WOMEN & RELATIONSHIPS ] we feel frequently feel judged when she gives advice or opinions, then it’s appropriate to say, “I just need a friend to listen right now. I don’t need anyone to try to fix this.” If we feel like she’s jealous of our activities and feels left out, then we can follow-up her silence or passive-aggressive statement with, “Are you okay? I just had this feeling like maybe I’ve upset you somehow?

I’d be so open to talking about it!”

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5. What could forgiveness look like in this situation?

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APRIL 4 Spring Egg Hunt Extravaganza Willard Park Berkeley 2:00pm – 2:30pm $6 per youth www.ci.berkeley.ca.us The Great Egg Hunt Peralta Oaks Court Oakland 11:00am – 4:00pm Adults $5 Ages 4 & up $3 Ages 3 & under free www.dunsmuir-hellman.com Funny Bunny’s Saturday Storytime Fremont Main Library Fremont 3:30pm – 4:00pm Free www.aclibrary.org Annual Easter Eggstravaganza NewPark Mall Newark 12:00pm – 3:00pm Free www.newparkmall.com Tap Dancing Easter Bunnies Fairyland Oakland 11:30am Guest ages 1 – 8: $8 Guest under age 1: FREE www.fairyland.org Spring Eggstravaganza Emerald Glen Park Dublin 8:30am – 1:00pm www.ci.dublin.ca.us Bunny Hop Egg Hunt Downtown Pleasanton 11:00am – 1:00pm Children 10 & younger www.pleasantondowntown.net

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APRIL 4 – 5 Bunny Weekend Fairyland Oakland 11:00am – 2:30pm Guest ages 1 – 8: $8 Guest under age 1: FREE www.fairyland.org

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Just Eat It, Damnit!

by Christine Burke (aka, Keeper of the Fruit Loops) It is often said that arguing rationally with an irrational person is an exercise in futility and never is that more true than with toddlers and their eating habits.

If you live with children, have had children, know anyone with children or have sat next to a table with one in any Red Robin across America, you know that the eating habits of toddlers can only be described with one word: RIDICULOUS. That’s right: RIDICULOUS. I was pretty much caught with my pants down with this whole motherhood thing and toddler eating really threw me for a loop. I mean, breast feeding was bad enough, what with the whole “shoving my boob in the face of a perfect stranger” thing and the “unmistakable urge to moo as I sat and leaked nourishment” business. I wore more rice cereal than the Fruit Loops actually ate and to this day, the site of pureed green beans makes me want to barf.

And don’t get me started on how much I hated the smell of baby formula. I still don’t understand its appeal to the under 12 months set and while we are on the subject, “The Formula” is a stupid name. I always pictured The Count from Sesame Street announcing “I’m going to feed him The Formula…ah ah ah”. (Give me a break.

I am The Keeper of The Fruit Loops, Driver of The People Mover and Manager of The Fecal Roster.

In other words, I’m a mom. An Erma Bombeck Martha Stewart with a Roseanne Barr twist, I have the organized cabinets and mouth to prove it. I live in Pennsylvania with my ever budget conscious husband, two blog inspiring Fruit Loops and my extensive collection of thrift shop finds. When I’m not writing, I can be found running marathons, governing the PTA like nobody’s business and pinning things on Pinterest like it’s my job. You can find me on Facebook, Twitter and in the smash hit books “I Just Want To Be Alone” and “Scary Mommy’s Guide To Surviving The Holidays”. For more information about Christine Burke, check out her website Keeper of the Fruit Loops: www.keeperofthefruitloops.com.

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But all of the above, while trying, pales in comparison to feeding a child over the age of a year. Before the cherubs turn a year, you are still pretty much in charge and there really isn’t much choice: boob, bottle or green shit. Case closed. But, after you hit that year mark and they get teeth, you are then obligated to start feeding them things that are more interesting (read: solid and not mashed into oblivion). And, as you progress towards 18 months and beyond, that toddler learns words. And starts to have an opinion. And is very vocal about what they will and will not eat.

This part of toddlerhood is AWESOME, I tell you: I not eat this ha-cause my sock hurts.

No. I no like.

I not eat this ha-cause its green.

No. Is yuck.

Me not like crackers today.

No. Is smooshy.

I want da purple sippy. Milk is yuck in da green sippy.

No. Not in a bowl. In a bag.

No. No. No. I not eat it.

You get my point.

Fruit Loop #1 was no exception to the It Is Hell To Feed A Toddler Rule. In fact, I often said he was a fruitarian who occasionally accepted dairy on alternate

[ PARENTING ] Tuesdays. He enjoyed blueberries a great deal, was a huge fan of the Goldfish cracker and if the moon was properly aligned with Venus and visible in the western sky, he’d eat a Yo Baby yogurt (pear flavored ONLY, please). He drank milk by the truck load and refused any and all other forms of liquid. So, basically, his diapers were fantastically epic adventures and we single handedly kept the Dairy Farmers of America in business.

Fruit Loop #1 inspected his tray very closely. Very closely indeed. After looking at the sight before him, he looked up and caught my gaze. You could hear a pin drop.

Somewhere in the distance, I heard the jingling of spurs and the sound of tumbleweed. Battle lines had been drawn. It was win, lose or draw time. Hide your women: Sheriff Mommy was about to face-off with Outlaw Fruit Loop.

Because I’m a control freak and because I simply could not tolerate such a finicky eater, I decided to go to war with Fruit Loop #1 when he was just shy of two years old.

I got tired of being a short order cook and his picky, seemingly schizophrenic reasoning behind his food choices. I kept flashing forward twenty years to the thought of him in a restaurant demanding the waiter bring him whole milk, cut up pineapple and Gerber Puffs.

And since I REFUSED to serve chicken nuggets at his wedding, things had to change.

I decided the best way to win the war was to trick the little stinker into eating what I deemed healthy. At the time, he was accepting cut up peaches into his repertoire but only from a jar and only on Wednesdays.

So, me, being the brilliant, bachelor’s educated mother that I am, decided to mix the finger food peaches from a jar with finger food carrots from a jar on his high chair table. Both were orange, slimy, and soaked in pear juice. He was not so adept at the pincher grasp yet and generally used a sweeping fist to get food into his gullet, so it stood to reason that at least a few carrots would make their way into his stomach.

So smart, right? Ingenious, really.

I mean, what could possibly go wrong?

You can stop snickering RIGHT. NOW.

Who was going to blink first?

Fruit Loop #1 made the first move. And it was a bold one.

Without having tasted a single morsel, Fruit Loop #1, silently and still holding my gaze, picked out the carrots in the pile and dropped them, one by one, off the side of the high chair. Systematically and with little fanfare, he removed the offending veggies to the floor and proceeded to then take one of the peaches and eat it.

And. Then. He. Grinned.

Look out, Yosemite, there’s new Sheriff in town. And it ain’t Mommy.

Fruit Loop #1: 1, Mommy and her carrots: 0.

I spent the next few years in Toddler Feeding Hell and aside from much kicking and screaming (on my part), I don’t have any words of wisdom to offer. There were tears over steamed green beans, face offs over broccoli and someday if I have the strength, I’ll have to write about The Great Uneaten Dinner Escapade of 2007.

Suffice it to say, I had to concede the battles for three

After I had nonchalantly mixed the peaches and carrots on his tray, I stood back, smirking, to watch the magic happen. I silently patted myself on the back for a sneaky job well done and high fived myself. I was going to WIN THIS WAR, bitches!

straight years to win the war. And, I’m happy to report, both warring factions came to a peace treaty and there were no prisoners taken. Well, Elmo was held hostage but that was in the interest of eating protein. You understand.

Ahem.

You see, here’s the thing: toddlers are NOT stupid.

They have their agendas, know what they like and are determined to make us turn grey in six months. I’m here to tell you: they are on to us and our fruit and veggie commingling ways.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have to go cut the crusts off the PB&J, peel and quarter grapes into sixteenths, remove lima beans from the frozen mixed vegetables and make sure the yogurt I bought is blended, no seeds, and NOT blackberry.

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APRIL 10 Family Movie Night ClubSport of Pleasanton Pleasanton 6:30pm – 8:30pm www.clubsports.com

APRIL 11 Friends of Albany Memorial Parks Clean- up Day Memorial Park Albany 9:00am – 12:30pm www.albanyca.org Berkeley Bay Festival Shorebird Park Nature Center Berkeley 11:00am – 4:00pm www.ci.berkeley.ca.us

APRIL 13, 20 & 27 Off the Grid Mobile Food Trucks City Hall Of Hayward Hayward 5:00pm – 9:00pm www.ci.hayward.ca.us

Cal Day at the Lawrence Hall of Science Lawrence Hall of Science Berkeley 10:00am – 5:00pm www.lawrencehallofscience.org

APRIL 21 Hearst Elementary PTA Fundraiser Bottle and Bottega Special Event Mangia Mi Pleasanton 6:00pm – 8:00pm www.bottleandbottega.com Pleasanton Run for Education Alameda County Fairgrounds www.ppierun.com

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APRIL 1 - 29 Kiddie Korner San Pablo Community Center San Pablo 9:00am – 2:00pm www.ci.san-pablo.ca.us

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Out of Area Earth Day Celebration Bay Area Discovery Museum Sausilito 9:00am – 5:00pm www.baykidsmuseum.org

APRIL 11 Spring Garden Exploration Forest Home Farms San Ramon 10:00am – 2:00pm www.sanramon.ca.gov Spring Fashion Show & Tea San Ramon Community Center San Ramon 2:00pm – 4:00pm www.sanramon.ca.gov Night at the Improv Front Row Theater San Ramon 8:00pm www.sanramon.ca.gov

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[[ EVENTS PARENTING ] ] Dr. Michele Borba is an internationally recognized expert and author on children, teens, parenting, bullying and moral development. She is an NBC contributor appearing over 100 times on the TODAY show and is the regular parenting expert on Dr. Drew’s Lifechangers. Her work has been featured on Dr. Phil, Dateline, The View, The Doctors, Fox News, The Early Show and CNN and well as in Newsweek, People, Good Housekeeping, Chicago Tribune, U.S. News & World Report, Washington Post, The New York Times and The Globe and Mail.

She was an MSNBC contributor to two televised “Education Nation” specials. Dr. Borba is the awardwinning author of 22 parenting and educational books translated into 14 languages. Titles include: Don’t Give Me That Attitude!, Parents Do Make A Difference, The Big Book of Parenting Solutions: 101 Answers to Your Everyday Challenges and Wildest Worries, and Nobody Likes Me, Everybody Hates Me!, No More Misbehavin’, Building Moral Intelligence (cited

by Publishers’ Weekly as “Among the most noteworthy of 2001”), and Esteem Builders used by 1.5 million students worldwide. She writes as the parenting expert for Dr. Oz’s website, as well a daily column for her blog, Dr. Borba’s Reality Check: www.micheleborba.com Twitter: @micheleborba

10 Parenting Solutions to Prevent Cyberbullying

by Dr. Michele Borba Mom and Dad, wake up: If you assume your child is using that fancy home computer or smartphone to stimulate his brain or connect with friends, think again. Sadly too many kids are using their keyboards to send vile, hateful and highly slanderous messages about their peers through the Internet or have received them. Once confined to playgrounds, bullying has hit cyberspace, cell phones and pagers, and it’s both serious and sophisticated. So how do you protect your child from cyberbullying? The first step is for parents to get educated about electronic bullying. This horrific form of bullying can happen 24 hours a day on your child’s cell phone, computer or tablet and anywhere.

Stopbullying.gov defines cyberbullying as the following: Cyberbullying is bullying that takes place using electronic technology.

Electronic technology includes devices and equipment such as cell phones, computers, and tablets as well as communication tools including social media sites, text messages, chat, and websites.

Where we once thought we just had to protect children from adult predators using the Internet, we now need to shield kids from one another. The 2013 Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance Survey finds that 15% of high school students (grades 9-12) were electronically bullied in the past year. Though stats can vary from source to source, here are just a few reasons why we must stay

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[ PARENTING ] educated gathered from various sources.

• 80% of teenagers regularly use a cell phone. This is the generation who would rather text than talk • 90% of teens who’ve have seen social media bullying say they have ignored it • Almost one-fifth (18%) of parents believe their child has encountered online behavior they would consider aggressive or unpleasant between 1 and 5 times in the past year • 73% of teens have shared personal information or potentially inappropriate content • 71% of teens admit they hide their online activity from their parents • 16% of teens have social media accounts set up to automatically include their location Cyberbullying is most common around the middle school years, but is making its way into the younger set. Kids now a days are electronically savvy, but make no mistake: the behavior is all about intentionally causing another pain (bullying), and parents must be far more vigilante.

The three biggest mistakes adults make are not taking children’s complaints seriously, not being educated about online issues, and having a “not my kid” attitude.

There are some specific ways to protect kids from bullying both in cyberspace and on the playground.

Parents today need a closer “electronic leash” on their kids and need to be more tuned into the cyberspace trend. This isn’t about being controlling–this is good parenting. The good news is that a recent study found that teaching children about unsafe online behavior and cyberbullying can actually reduce the impact. Parents do make a difference! You are the best firewall to protect your child in cyberspace. So here are solutions to start educating both you and your child about cyberbullying or what to do if your child has been cyberbullied.

1. Start “the talk.”

If your child isn’t talking about cyberbullying, don’t assume he hasn’t been affected. Start the discussion: “What have you heard about…?” “What are other kids saying…?” Let your child know you’re aware of this new trend and you are on the alert and are monitoring your digital devices.

2. State your values again and again and again Never assume your child understands why cyberbullying is cruel and wrong. Take time to explain: “In this house we believe in kindness. I expect you to be kind.” Be clear on your values.

3. Set clear “electronic” rules “Never put anything on a cell phone, I-Message, website,

email or pager that is hurtful.” “Never send anything you wouldn’t want said about you.”

Research at the University of Maryland College of Education also found it helpful to teach kids thee KEEPS of Internet Safety: Keep safe, Keep away and Keep telling.

4. Save evidence Tell your child if he ever receives something that is hurtful, slanderous, hateful, to save or print the message.

You may need it to identify the bully or contact their parents with evidence.

5. Block further communication If your child is victimized change your phone number, password or e-mail account, and talk to your provider.

Contact police for threats of violence and extortion.

6. Google your child One simple tip is to periodically google your child’s name to see what (if anything) is being posted online. Just go to Google then put your child’s name in quotation marks and see if something comes up. Google can also send you email alerts.

7. Monitor that computer and all digital devices Keep your computer in a central space and out of your kid’s bedroom. Or at least let your child know that having a computer (phone, tablet or pager) is a PRIVILEGE and may be taken away when house rules or regulations are not followed. Let your child also know that you will log onto his account. If you tell your child upfront that you will be monitoring studies show kids are less likely to engage in risky behavior simply because they know they are being watched.

Monitoring is not the same as snooping or spying. Also do a random collect of your kids’ smartphones in which you simply ask them to “hand it over” so you can do a fast check. (Just watching your kids’ reaction could be enough to give you a red flag that something is up).

Better yet, collect your kid’s cell phones each night (just place them in a basket or box) and return them the following day. Doing so will improve your child’s sleep – teens admit in confidential surveys that they are texting and talking after lights out and most of their parents are clueless.

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8. Pull the plug If your child ever uses a cell phone, pager, answering machine, or fax, to send vicious gossip or hate, remove the electronic gizmo from your kid and pull the computer plug from power surge. Back your rules up with firm and fair consequences.

9. Take your child seriously Cyberbullying is painful stuff and your child needs your empathy. Watch your child carefully and tune into his or her emotional signs. Don’t let your child be victimized and if you discover that she or he has been — be there and be supportive. Do what you need to help your child feel and be safe.

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Summer CampS

June 1 – august 21 With themes like Fort Building, Art Attack and Outdoor Explorers, children ages 3 – 8 will love spending the summer at our week-long Discovery Camps. We even have a Junior Counselor program for ages 9 – 14!

Fort Baker, Sausalito

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Summer Camp 2015 Creativity and Leadership Grades K-8 10 weeks at The Academy June 15th – August 20th Art | STEM | Music | Sports | Theater There is something for every age and interest at The Academy.

Because our Camp is small, each student gets special attention to make sure that their classes are relevant. Students work on projects all summer, engage in team building, and take local day trips. They will have so much fun that it doesn’t even feel like learning!

Classes | Games | Day Trips | Competition | Projects

Register Today 925-820-5808 www.thegrowingroom.org/academysummer 2340 SAN RAMON VALLEY BLVD · SAN RAMON · CA · INFO@THEGROWINGROOMACADEMY.ORG

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Summer Camp Spotlight SIENNA RANCH This year promises to be another exciting summer at Sienna Ranch, filled with all of your favorite animals (plus a few new ones!), all the secret magical places like the Tree Fort, Tire Tunnel, and the Buckeye tree, and of course their fabulous, passionate and dedicated staff. They offer a range of activities in their Summer Camp programs like Nature, Archery, Woodworking, Horses, Gardening and more! Morning or Afternoon Summer Camps are offered for ages 4 – 14. Dates for the camps run from June 15 – August 21.

CAMP CONCORD

Grades Pre-K through 7th. 40+ locations. Founded in 1980.

Family Camp at Camp Concord is a great opportunity for parents and kids to unplug and experience nature together. Truly a vacation for everyone - families can participate in our organized camp activities, or strike out on their own. With age appropriate kids hours, parents get time to relax knowing their children are experiencing new adventures under the guidance of a highlytrained counseling staff. Our nightly social hours are great times to mingle with other adults and meet new friends. Whether you have been to Camp Concord before or are coming for the first time, you will find continuing improvements to our facilities and programs. Forget about the usual camping chores!

To register: www.steveandkate.com 415.389.KIDS

To register: www.cityofconcord.org 530.541.1203

STEVE AND KATE Campers choose activities such as stop motion animation, soccer in an inflatable stadium, rock climbing on a 30 foot wall, bread making, knitting, sewing, music recording in custom vocal booths, learning to code, and pie throwing - all good for your child’s resume. Two ways to play: Day Passes - Buy any number of days and use them anytime.

Membership - One fee covers the entire summer. Lunch, snacks and all materials included in both plans.

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To register: www.siennaranch.net 925.283.6311

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BAY AREA DISCOVERY MUSEUM With themes like Fort Building, Art Attack and Outdoor Explorers, children ages 3 – 8 will love spending the summer at their week-long Discovery Camps. They also have a Junior Counselor program for ages 9 – 14! Their summer camps offer children the freedom of childdirected, open-ended learning through play. Our natural surroundings provide children with a unique local environment to enrich their investigation of the surrounding world as they seek our new experiences.

Children will leave here with a sense of belonging and new lifelong tools to support them with future discoveries.

Summer Camps at Bay Area Discovery Museum run from June 1 – August 21.

DIABLO HILLS COUNTRY SCHOOL Diablo Hills Country School’s upcoming Summer Camp is entitled “Lights, Camera, Action.” Join us on our daily journeys as your children will experience new cultures and travel to magical lands just waiting to be discovered.

They will delve into fabulous art projects, new stories, and culinary creations. Some of the weekly themes include “Follow the Yellow Brick Road” (weather and colors), “To Infinity and Beyond” (Outer Space, Cowboys and Cowgirls) and “A Whole New World” (Aladdin and different cultures). Our older students embark on off campus field trips to some of the best places the Bay area has to offer while our younger students will enjoy many “in house” field trips. The children will learn through age appropriate fun and exciting experiences, which include special crafts, field trips and cooking projects at the Diablo Hills Country School Summer Camp!

To register: www.baykidsmuseum.org 415.339.3900

Diablo Hills Country School Toddlers (18 mos)  Pre-School School-Age Care  Summer Camp

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by Dr. Petra Steinbuchel Q: ADHD is a medical condition that affects 5 to 10 percent of all children. What are the types of ADHD and are there differences in girls and boys?

A: There are actually three main types of ADHD. The inattentive type of ADHD was formerly known as Attention Deficit Disorder, or ADD. Symptoms include making careless mistakes, failing to follow through with tasks, difficulty with organization, losing things easily and being readily distracted and forgetful. The hyperactive and impulsive type includes symptoms like fidgeting, squirming, running around, climbing on things, talking too much, interrupting, or moving quickly from one activity to another. The combined type of ADHD includes both inattentive and hyperactive symptoms. Boys are three times more likely than girls to have the disorder. Girls may demonstrate more of the inattentive symptoms and therefore a diagnosis can be missed because it’s not as obvious as in boys.

Q: If you think your child has ADHD, when is the appropriate time to seek help?

A: Between the ages of 5 and 7, symptoms may begin to cause impairment at school or in relationships. Hyperactive or impulsive behaviors can be perceived as disruptive. Or a child may act like the class clown. The child may get into trouble with a teacher or have difficulty interacting with other children. When a child can’t manage impulses well, other children may not want play with them. It takes much more effort for children with ADHD to control their behaviors than children without ADHD. It is critical to acknowledge that these behaviors are the result of the disorder and not willful misbehavior on the child’s part.

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A: Another symptom of ADHD is that a child might fail to make expected academic gains at school. By 4th grade, ages 9-10, school becomes more complex and abstract. Attaining academic goals may become a challenge. A child might have more trouble finishing class work or homework. He or she might not feel “smart” and this may lead to decreased self-esteem. A child may also interrupt other children and annoy them.

The child can begin to feel that no one likes them and that they can’t do things right, leading to anxiety or depression. It is critical to prevent this from happening.

Q: Should ADHD symptoms be treated with medication or with behavioral approaches?

A: It comes down to the child. For the most part, the core symptoms of ADHD are usually best treated with a medication. The most effective type of medication is a stimulant medication. These medications are typically 75 to 90 percent effective at treating the core symptoms of ADHD, but leave the body’s system at the end of the day. Because ADHD is neuro-biologically based condition, no amount of psychotherapy can change core executive functioning challenges. However, learning some behavioral techniques and skills can help

manage some of the symptoms and families can also use these techniques. For example, don’t give threestep instructions – break ideas down into single steps.

Have a checklist at the front door and before leaving the house, have your child can make sure that daily items like a backpack, homework, lunch and jacket are going too. Learning key behavioral interventions is important because not every child is going to take a medication every day, and they are good skills to have moving forward into adolescence and adulthood. Some children with ADHD will function better with medication alone, but many children with ADHD will benefit from a combination of medication and behavioral interventions.

Q: Is ADHD a life-long condition?

A: Up to two-thirds of people with ADHD outgrow the symptoms – particularly the hyperactive and impulsive symptoms – but sometimes the disorder persists into adulthood and may require indefinite treatment.

Although both children and adults suffer from the disorder, ADHD at age 5 can look very different from ADHD at age 15 or 45. ADHD is a common disorder that many children live and thrive with, but it is important as a parent to remain patient and supportive.

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