Active Family Magazine | April 2020

APRIL 2020

How to

HELP TEENS SHELTER IN PLACE

How to Cope with Stress During Covid-19

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Volume 7 / Issue 74

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When Parents Disagree on Discipline: 8 Steps to Harmonious Parenting

Distance Learning in this New Era: Advice from Stratford School

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How to Help Teens Shelter in Place

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How to Cope with Stress During Covid-19

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Quarantine Forced Togetherness

by Dr. Laura Markham "One of my children is having such a hard time that he's making everyone in the family miserable. How do we keep our kids from each others' throats when Dr. Laura Markham is the author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting. She earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University and has worked as a parenting coach with countless parents across the English-speaking world, both in person and via phone.

You can find Dr. Laura online at AhaParenting.com, the website of Aha! Moments for parents of kids from birth through the teen years, where she offers a free daily inspiration email to parents.

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we're all home, all the time?!"

Family life is hard enough in ordinary times, because kids are still learning basic skills to get their needs met without attacking others .... and, truth be told, so are parents.

So right now, in the middle of the virus pandemic, it's not surprising that many homes feel like a pressure cooker. If your children are at each others' throats and you're getting fed up, you're not alone.

It's natural to snap and start shouting threats. But since all humans rebel against control, you just end up escalating the drama. And since punishment

[ PARENTING ] doesn't address the emotions and needs causing

being part of their group of schoolmates. Unfortunately,

your children's "bad" behavior, this approach ends up

playing with their sibling sometimes isn't much of a

creating more antagonism.

substitute -- it just reminds them of what they're missing, because the sibling can't hope to replicate their

Luckily, there's a better way. Address the needs and

friendships.

feelings that are driving the behavior, and you can nip it in the bud. Here are five family habits you can structure

• Set up regular video "playdates" or hangouts for

into your life in quarantine to help with emotions, meet

your child who misses their friends. It's not the same,

needs and heal sibling rivalry -- for more peace and

of course, but there are ways to help kids past

affection all around.

the awkwardness so they can connect. Younger kids might each use clay to create monsters,

1. Insure personal space.

demonstrating for each other how the monsters roar

One effect of being cooped up together is that it's easy

or fly. Older kids can play chess, or chat while they

to get on each other's nerves. Everyone needs some

draw. Kids who are into pretend play can come up

downtime to "just be" with themselves and replenish

with stories together; kids who are into building things

their batteries. Yes, extroverts need this time too,

can show each other their latest creations. Kids can

although they often don't need as much of it. Without

even do science experiments or baking while their

some downtime, all children get over-stimulated, which

friend follows the same instructions, chatting, keeping

eventually leads to crash and burn.

each other on track, and comparing their results.

• Teach your child the words to help them disengage

• If your child's school has a Morning Circle or an

from siblings when they've had enough time together:

afternoon Closing Circle, it's worth structuring your

"I really like playing with you. Right now I'm starting to

day to be sure your child gets to participate. (Don't

feel crabby so I need some time by myself."

feel guilty about keeping schoolwork to a minimum in between, especially for kids who need more

• Be your child's backup by diverting the sibling: "Your brother loves you and will play with you later. Right

supervision. Your whole family might be better off spending a couple of hours outside.)

now he is going to read. What would you like to do?"

• Step up your connection time with your children • Be sure that everyone in your family has a way to

to help them play with each other, which meets

withdraw to a quiet, cozy space when they need to.

everyone's need for contact -- even if it isn't your

You may want to designate one room of your home

child's first preference.

as the "Quiet Room." If your home is big enough, each person can have a room that is theirs, to withdraw to.

3. Balance Individual Needs Your children's needs may well clash right now, so try to

• This is the time for headphones, so no one is subjecting the rest of the family to their screen and music

articulate and address those differences without making anyone wrong.

preferences.

• "You are just full of energy this morning, aren't you? It • You do need a family schedule to stay sane. Be sure

looks to me like you sister isn't really awake yet, and

that Quiet Time or Me Time ispart of each day, for

she needs a little time to herself. Why don't you and

everyone.

I head up to the park for awhile? You can play with your sister later, when she's ready."

2. Address Social Isolation Many children are suffering because of the social isolation. They miss playing with their friends. They miss

• If one child wants more interaction than the other one, try setting up daily "Special Time" between APRIL 2020 | ACTIVE FAMIL Y 7

[ PARENTING ] these two siblings. You may have to help them find

• Empathizing with each child -- without making the

an activity that they'll both enjoy, but research

other one wrong -- helps kids feel acknowledged,

shows that when children have fun together, their

even when they can't get what they want. "It sounds

relationship improves, even if they fight at other times.

like YOU want some peace and quiet. And YOU want

Of course, after their "Sibling Special Time" you'll need

to dance to your music! This is a tough situation. I

to protect your child's right to time without her sibling,

wonder how we can work this out?"

which will mean that you find a way to keep the sibling occupied.

• When tensions start to rise, step in to uphold standards of respect, without shame or blame: "You two sound

• When one child is bugging another and you suspect they're just bored, step in to meet their need for

really mad at each other. You can tell each other what you need without attacking each other."

connection: "Are you out of hugs again? Let's see what we can do about that!"

• Instead of rushing in to correct and protect, coach your kids to stand up for themselves. "I hear some

• In normal times, it is not your older child's job to babysit your younger child. They're busy with

words that could really hurt. You can tell your sister 'I don't like it when you tease me.'"

schoolwork, peers, activities and important developmental tasks. But these are not normal times

• If one child persists, be your child's backup to uphold

and we all need to pitch in as a family. If you need

your family rules and teach repair: "Our family rule is

to work to keep your paycheck coming in, there's

Be Kind. Your brother is telling you how he felt when

nothing wrong with enrolling your older child to

you used those words. I wonder what you can do to

watch over younger sibs for short periods of time.

make things better with your brother now?"

But give clear guidelines so they know how to guide the younger child's behavior appropriately, how to handle specific issues, and when to interrupt

• Never compare your children, which increases competitiveness.

you. And be sure to make it worth their while, with appreciation, special privileges, and an increase in allowance.

• Parents often increase sibling rivalry because they don't know how to intervene in conflicts without creating more resentment. The articles linked to at

4. Disarm Sibling Rivalry and Teach Social Skills.

the end of this post will help you take your parenting

No matter much siblings love each other, most will at

game up a notch. And don't miss the section of the

times experience a twinge of worry that their parents

Aha! website that's devoted to Parenting Siblings.

might love their sibling more. At times of threat (and yes, a pandemic qualifies), this worry intensifies, and fighting

5. Help with Big Emotions.

may intensify. You can address this by making sure that

If your child is surly to everyone, they're clearly having a

each child feels uniquely appreciated, and that you're

hard time. Children are not immune to the fear infecting

not unwittingly increasing sibling rivalry by comparing

our entire society, even if they seem more concerned

your kids or intervening in conflicts so that one child feels

about that party they're missing. They may not be able

like they "lost." This is also a terrific opportunity to teach

to articulate it, but every child picks up on the tension

your kids the skills to work through their differences in

their parent is feeling, and it makes them anxious. A few

ways that bring them closer.

positive family habits can help kids work through their worries, reduce everyone's anxiety and make it easier to

• Special Time with each child is more important than

get along with each other.

ever, so they feel connected, seen, valued and safe. It also gives them a safe place to play out their worries, or bring them up verbally.

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• Roughhousing reduces the stress hormones circulating in the body and should be on your daily

[ PARENTING ] schedule. Since roughhousing and laughter also

During the Coronavirus Pandemic School Closures) or

increase bonding hormones, find ways for your kids to

a gratitude practice at dinner every night.

laugh as they're physically active together.

This is a scary, unprecedented time, which means that • Talk to your child about their feelings about the virus pandemic. Expressing fears, even unreasonable ones, to a caring witness has a way of making them more manageable. And when we allow ourselves to feel and acknowledge our big emotions, we start to gain conscious control over them, so their power begins to dissipate.

• Welcome all emotions. Remember that behind anger

you're a saint if you're not more tense than usual. That means that you can expect tension between yourself and your children. Between yourself and your partner (see #8 at this link: 10 Solutions To Save Your Sanity During the Coronavirus Pandemic School Closures.) And of course, between your children, who after all have a less-developed prefrontal cortex, meaning they have a harder time managing their impulses.

you will usually find fear or sadness, so if your child is angry, resist taking the bait. Breathe deeply, stay

So build in family habits that help everyone work though

calm, and invite your child to show you all that upset:

big emotions. Be disciplined to do whatever you need to,

"You must be so upset to speak to me like this... Tell me

to keep yourself centered and your courage strong. And

more, Sweetheart.... I'm listening." The more safety you

most of all, give yourself and everyone around you some

can create with your tone, the more likely that your

grace. We can get through this in a way that makes us

child will move past the anger to the tears and fears

stronger.

beneath. (If your child gets stuck in anger but can't cry.)

• Keep reminding yourself that kids pick up on what we're feeling. If you're a nervous wreck, or fighting with your partner, your children will feel the stress. Take responsibility for what you're radiating. That means developing a repertoire of practices to manage your own stress.

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• Turn off the news. It just increases everyone's anxiety.

• Teach kids to manage their worries, with skills like Stop, Drop Breathe, Focusing on what they CAN control, rather than what they can't, and noticing how upsetting thoughts lead to upsetting feelings.

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How to Help Teens Shelter in Place

by Christine Carter, Ph.D. Teens are not made for isolation, which makes COVID-19 especially hard on them. Here's how to help your teenager to see the bigger picture.

Last weekend, my kids began arriving home from their various schools.

We invited our oldest daughter’s longtime best friend, Lena, over for a homecoming dinner. She’s like a member of our family, and we were excited to see her, too, despite closing schools and social-distancing recommendations. The kids are all healthy, we reasoned. We had Lena wash her hands when she came in; we resisted hugging her.

On Monday we got a government order to shelter in place, and having had Lena over the night before suddenly seemed like a reckless mistake. But not all families in our neighborhood agree.

Parents all around me are reasoning that their high schoolers have been hanging out together anyway, so they’ve already “shared germs.” Lots of seemingly rational (but dangerously short-sighted and scientifically

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[ PARENTING ] unvalidated) arguments for letting kids out of the house

In addition, their hard-wired attunement to social

are circulating, including the belief that teens and

status makes them super touchy about whether or not

college students won’t get seriously sick, and that they

they are being treated like children. Their most central

aren’t contributing to the spread of COVID-19 beyond

developmental job during adolescence is to individuate,

their “friend groups.”

to leave the nest and become independent from us, their parents. So, of course, they feel infantilized when

Teenagers, college students—and other families—can

ordered to shelter in place.

be difficult to control. When asked how she is holding up, a friend texted “2 of my kids are at home being good

What can we do to encourage teens to comply with

citizens and students doing homework. The other is at the

social-distancing measures? We need to work with their

beach with her friends being a part of the problem.”

existing motivations. Teens are unlikely to be persuaded by (brilliant! logical! passionate!) arguments that conflict

Another worried mother of younger kids proclaimed:

with their innate, developmental motives.

“Why, for the love of God, is it so hard to follow the guidelines and ISOLATE?”

Let’s start with their high motivation to individuate, to be out from under our control. We can work with this existing

It isn’t that we aren’t trying. Isolating teenagers and

motivation by treating them like competent young adults

young adults is hard. Another friend is understandably

rather than little kids. We can do this by:

coming unglued. “My kids keep skating around rules and being with friends every time I close my office door to

•

Expecting them to contribute to our household in

work.” She has two teenagers and a big corporate job

meaningful ways. They can help with meal prep

she’s got to keep doing. She’s trying to care for elderly in-

and household cleaning. We expect our kids to

laws, and her younger daughter needs medication that

keep family spaces clear of their belongings, and

she’s having trouble securing. “I feel like I should be able

also to help with actual cleaning by vacuuming

to control them. I’m trying. But my anxiety is so heavy. I’m

and wiping down the counters. Being nice to their

emotionally exhausted.”

siblings—keeping conflict low amid tight quarters—is a meaningful contribution. Planning fun activities

Time is of the essence. Accounts from Italy make it

for the family to do together might be the most

clear that we need to get our young people—those

important contribution of all!

who are carrying the coronavirus but not showing any symptoms—to stop spreading it. TODAY matters. “It

•

Allowing them to manage themselves, their own

only takes a one-day difference in action to see a 40

schoolwork, and their other responsibilities without

percent reduction in cases—that’s enormous. It really

nagging or cajoling. This does not mean that we

conveys the urgency of the situation,” infectious disease

won’t set expectations or establish the structure and

epidemiologist Dr. Britta Jewell explained to the New

support they need to function in this new reality. Nor

York Times.

does it mean that we won’t be engaged with them.

It does mean that we give them space to operate

Teenagers and college students have amplified innate,

freely within the limits we agree to as a family.

developmental motivations that make them hard to isolate at home. The hormonal changes that come with

•

Asking them to help us with our work to the extent

puberty conspire with adolescent social dynamics to

that they can. “My kids keep interrupting me on

make them highly attuned to social status and peer

Zoom calls for stupid shit,” a friend texted me,

group. Friends feel like everything. Social isolation is

frustrated to the brink. Most teens need us to be

hard for humans of all ages, but it is more profoundly

clear about how their constant interruptions affect

distressing for adolescents—especially if they all think

us. Try using feeling words instead of criticizing them.

that their friends are all hanging out without them.

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•

call and you keep asking me questions” vs. “It is inconsiderate and selfish of you to keep interrupting

We are wondering: What do you truly care most about in this crisis?

•

my meetings.”

Who can you help, and who are you concerned that you might harm? How can you use your skills to help the world right now?

•

Using non-controlling, non-directive language.

One good way to do this is to ask them questions

•

Your grandchildren are going to ask you about the

instead of telling them what to do. For example: “Is

role you played during this pandemic. What will you

there anything that I can do to help you get some

tell them?

exercise today?” My all-time favorite question is this one: “What’s your plan?” As in: “What’s your plan for getting your homework done?” This makes it clear that they are still in control of their own behavior, and it helps put them in touch with their own motivations and intentions. Often teens simply need to make a plan, and sometimes if they aren’t asked to articulate it, they won’t do it—especially those who are used to being nagged because they know their parents will eventually get frustrated and do their planning for them.

•

Acknowledge that all of this is so hard. Many students coming home from school are experiencing great losses right now. Their feelings of grief, anxiety, stress, and isolation are hard to cope with. And also: One of the great lessons of adulthood is that they can do hard things.

We can also tap into their high attunement to the social world by emphasizing their social value—how their lives

If they just aren’t getting it, try humor. This video is wildly inappropriate in many ways, which is why it could be hugely effective with teenagers. Not comfortable with that? Try asking them to demonstrate their understanding of this graph. Show them the videos coming out of Italy and hospitals here in the US pleading with folks to stay at home.

Help them see that this is not about what they want or expect from life. It’s about what life is expecting from them right now. We expect them to rise to the occasion; to be a part of the solution, not a part of the problem.

The best outcome right now is that we get the virus under control before our hospitals are collapsing. If this happens quickly, my family will accuse me of being too aggressive. They may be angry with me for having unnecessarily ruined a few weeks of their lives. That is the outcome I am hoping for.

have a purpose, meaning, and impact on other people.

While Generation Z’s impact on this global pandemic

No matter what happens, there are incredible, urgent life

might be obvious to us adults, it’s not to many of our

lessons here. We are teaching our kids both directly and

kids. Here is what we said to our teen who was resisting

through our own example how to take responsibility—not

isolation:

just for ourselves and our immediate family, but for our local and global community, as well.

• •

We know that you want to see your friends. We know that you are bored and lonely.

We are all being called to demonstrate our character

We hope you see clearly that you are not a passive

and commitment to others and to the greater good. Our

actor here, along for the ride. Your actions are

young people are being called, too. Let’s give them the

directly affecting the course of this crisis.

opportunity to step up.

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Easter BRUNCH Easter Brunch is a must and presents a wonderful way to work together as a family to create a scrumptious meal!

Weelicous.com has provided some fabulous recipes below.

For more recipes, please go to www.weelicious.com/27-easter-recipes.

CARROT GINGER SOUP (serves 4) Prep Time: 5 mins Cook Time: 20 mins

INGREDIENTS • 1 tablespoon olive oil • 1 small yellow onion, diced • 1 16 ounce bag baby carrots • 2 tablespoons fresh ginger, peeled and chopped • 1 teaspoon kosher salt • 1 32 ounce box low sodium vegetable stock (you could also use low sodium chicken stock)

PREPARATION 1. Heat the oil in a stock pot over medium heat and sauté the onion for 4-5 minutes or until translucent.

2. Add the stock, ginger, carrots and salt, bring the liquid to a boil, reduce to a simmer and cook for 15-20 minutes or until carrots are fork tender.

3. Puree the soup using a hand blender or in a blender until creamy and smooth.

4. Serve topped with a dollop or yogurt, sour cream or crème fraiche.

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ROAST CHICKEN WITH CARAMELIZED LEMONS, CHERRY TOMATOES AND OLIVES

SHAVED VEGETABLE SALAD

INGREDIENTS

INGREDIENTS • Use any combination of these vegetables: • fennel • cucumbers • carrots (any color), peeled • celery • radishes (any type) • asparagus • beets (any color), peeled • artichoke heart, raw • zucchini • yellow or patty pan squash • cabbage • kohlrabi • turnips • parsnips • celeriac • rutabaga

• 1 tablespoon vegetable or canola oil • 4 chicken breasts, bone in and skin on • 1 teaspoon kosher salt • 1 lemon cut in half • 1/2 cup pitted black olives • 1/2 cup cherry tomatoes • handful of thyme (about 8-10 stems) PREPARATION 1. Preheat oven to 450°F. 2. Heat the oil in an oven-proof skillet over medium-high heat.

3. Pat the chicken breasts dry, make sure they are very dry, and sprinkle the top with the salt.

4. Place the chicken breasts, skin side down, in the heated oil and sear for 5 minutes, or until skin is crisp and golden brown.

5. Flip the chicken over. Add the lemon, olives, tomatoes and thyme to the skillet and transfer to the oven.

6. Roast for 25 minutes, or until chicken is cooked through.

Prep Time: 5 mins Cook Time: 0 mins

PREPARATION 1. Using a mandoline, thinly slice vegetables and place on a plate or platter.

2. Lightly drizzle with olive oil, a squeeze of lemon juice and sprinkle with kosher or maldon salt.

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Easter BRUNCH

HAM AND ASPARAGUS QUICHE (serves 6) Prep Time: 30 mins Cook Time: 50 mins INGREDIENTS • 4 large eggs • 3/4 cup half and half • 1 cup swiss cheese, shredded • 1 cup chopped asparagus • 1 cup chopped ham • 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt • 1 unbaked pie crust* (you can make your own pastry dough or buy prepared crust at the grocery) PIE CRUST: • 1 1/3 cups flour • 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt • 1/2 teaspoon sugar • 1/2 cup butter, cubed & cold • 2-3 tablespoons water PREPARATION 1. Preheat oven to 350° F. 2. In a bowl, whisk together the eggs and milk, then stir in the remaining ingredients.

3. Place the dough into a pie or tart pan and mold into the shape of the dish. Place the pie crust in the freezer for 10 minutes to chill.

4. Pour the filling into the well-chilled pie crust, and bake for 50 minutes or until golden and cooked through (the center shouldn’t jiggle).

5. Cool and serve.

PIE CRUST: 1. Place the first 3 ingredients in a food processor and pulse.

2. Add cold butter and using on/off turns, process until coarse meals forms.

3. Add the water 1 tbsp at a time and process until moist clumps form, adding more water 1 tsp at a time if mixture is dry.

4. Form dough into a disk, wrap in parchment paper or plastic wrap and refrigerate 1 hour or until cold.

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[ RECIPES ]

LEMON POUND CAKE MINI DOUGHNUTS (makes 18 doughnuts) Prep Time: 10 mins Cook Time: 20 mins

CARROT ORANGE GINGER SMOOTHIE Prep Time: 0 mins Cook Time: 0 mins INGREDIENTS • 1 peeled orange • 1 large carrot • 1 inch piece fresh ginger, peeled • 1 inch piece fresh turmeric, peeled • 1 dates • 2 tsp coconut oil • 1 crackbl black pepper • 2 teaspoons bee pollen • 1 tablespoon hemp seeds • 3/4 cup frozen mango • 1 cup milk (cow, almond, rice, etc) PREPARATION 1. Place all of the ingredients in a blender and puree until smooth.

2. Pour into a tall glass, pop in a straw and you’re ready!

INGREDIENTS • 1 cup granulated sugar • 1 stick (1/2 cup) unsalted butter, softened • 3 large eggs • 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract • 1 1/2 cups all purpose flour • 1/2 teaspoon baking soda • 1/4 teaspoon kosher salt • 1/2 cup sour cream • 1/4 cup lemon juice • 1 teaspoon lemon zest • Lemon Glaze: • 1 cup powdered sugar • 1-2 teaspoons lemon juice, milk OR cream (to make the icing white) PREPARATION 1. Preheat oven to 325 degrees F. 2. Using a standing mixer or electric mixer, cream the butter and sugar until light and fluffy, about 5 minutes.

3. Add the eggs one at a time, making sure to incorporate each one.

4. In a separate bowl, whisk together the flour, baking soda, salt and set aside.

5. Whisk the vanilla, sour cream, lemon juice and lemon zest in a separate bowl.

6. Add the flour and sour cream alternately to the egg mixture 1/2 at a time, until combined.

7. Spoon the batter into greased mini doughnut pans and bake for 18-20 minutes, until a toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean.

8. Mix together the glaze ingredients until smooth.

9. Allow the doughnuts to cool completely before glazing.

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The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids to Listen Without Nagging, Reminding or Yelling (Penguin, 2011.) Amy is a regular parenting contributor on The TODAY Show and has also appeared on Rachael Ray, CBS This Morning, CNN, Fox & Friends, MSNBC, Steve Harvey and elsewhere. In her most important role, she plays mom to two teenage boys. Follow Amy on Twitter @AmyMcCreadyPPS.

When Parents Disagree on Discipline: 8 Steps to Harmonious Parenting

by Amy McCready You vowed to be together for better or for worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, but now you’re in a parenting standoff and can’t seem to agree on A.N.Y.T.H.I.N.G. You’re tired of yelling at your kids. Your partner is tired of their disrespect. You try to implement consequences. Your partner insists on sending them to time out. You dread mealtime. Your partner dreads bathtime.

The tension is palpable and your kids notice. They know you’re the strict one and your partner is more lenient. They know who will cave under pressure and whose fuse will blow first.

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[ PARENTING ] If there is one thing you can ALL agree on, it’s this:

fresh start for everyone involved, so build on your

Something has to change.

commonalities.

The standoff can’t continue.

Step 2: Explore the Underlying Reasons why you Disagree on Discipline

Your kids are too important. Your marriage is too

The greatest influence on our discipline methods is

important. Your family is way too important to let

undoubtedly our own parents. Whether you agree with

discipline differences wear everyone down.

your parents’ discipline-style or not, the choices you make today as a parent are due in part to how you were

So what should you do about it?

raised.

First, take a deep breath. Like a REALLY deep breath.

Without new knowledge and outside influences, parents are often predisposed to repeat the same patterns of

There is hope for you and your family, my friend. Lots of

behavior as their parents. Which is why you’ll hear moms

hope.

all over the world catch themselves in a moment of shock and mutter, “Oh no! I sound just like my mom!”

I’m here to suggest there are 8 tangible steps you and your partner can take TODAY to set a new foundation

For those with negative childhood discipline

in your home – a foundation that you can both feel

experiences, these parents often vow to not repeat the

comfortable standing on as you continue your parenting

same discouraging behaviors on their own children.

journey.

Or conversely, (and more frequently) those who agree Step 1: Find (Any) Common Ground

with the discipline techniques used by their own parents

Start by identifying the aspects of parenting and

will repeat the same strategies and use the same

discipline in which you DO agree. You’ll be more

language they internalized as a child.

successful by identifying areas you agree on rather than focusing energy on the many areas where you disagree.

This scenario plays out when you hear a parent say, “My parents did _____ and I turned out ok!”

Look for the positives. Identify the parenting strategies

This justification for parenting choices is a slippery slope

your partner uses that you appreciate.

because you are taking your experience as a single person and applying it to an entire group of people.

Are they encouraging?

Do they use a respectful tone?

For example, you might hear someone say, “I never wore

Do they play with the kids?

a seatbelt growing up, and I turned out fine.” Chances

Are they consistent?

are, if this were the case, the same person problem

Do they have reasonable expectations of your kids?

wasn’t in a messy car accident either.

Are they loving?

This person’s one experience can’t be used to justify Even if all you can say with confidence is “I appreciate

banning seatbelts because inevitably, someone is going

how much you love our children,” that is a positive

to get into a car accident and need a seatbelt to save

foundation to build upon.

their life.

After all, your partner DOES love your kids. And even

In parenting circles, you’ll often hear someone say, “I was

though his/her parenting style may differ from yours, the

spanked all the time, but I turned out ok.” But the truth is

discipline approach comes from a place of LOVE.

we can’t let a single person’s experience justify spanking

This is not a time for blame or rehashing – this is a

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[ PARENTING ] backgrounds and who have different predispositions. Or

work. Imagine who they’ll be when they have children

when multiple scientific studies tell us it has a negative

of their own.

effect on children.

What attributes do you hope your children will possess And sure, this negative effect might be something as

when they become adults?

simple as a quick-temper or mild anxiety, but it could

Compassion? Work ethic? Thoughtfulness? Respect?

also create emotional trauma that is much deeper than

Motivation? Resilience?

you ever intended.

If you and your partner can agree on 3-4 words you If you find yourself using the “I turned out fine” argument

hope describe your children as adults, you’ll be able to

to justify your position, I’d encourage you to really dig

view parenting with a far-sighted lens.

deep and evaluate where these feelings are coming from.

Then, when tackling the day-to-day discipline dilemmas, ask yourselves the question:

To find common ground with your parenting partner it’s critical you each do a little soul-searching and discover

“What do we want our child to LEARN from this

WHY you disagree.

experience or discipline opportunity?”

What parts of your childhood influence your perception

It’s not about winning. It’s not about proving “you’re the

of appropriate parenting techniques?

boss and they WILL OBEY!”

Additionally, what parts of your childhood influence how

It’s about teaching your child to make the best possible

you feel about your partner’s parenting techniques?

choices in the future and learning from mistakes along

With a little self-reflection from you and your partner,

the way so they can grow into well-adjusted adults.

you’ll be well on your way to uncovering the surface of your deeply held parenting beliefs.

When you and your partner have a long-term goal of raising responsible, compassionate, respectful children,

Step 3: Start Small

you have a framework to make short-term decisions.

Begin with the non-negotiables for your family.

The non-negotiables are typically the health and

For example:

safety rules (wearing bike helmets, driving before dark,

• If you want your child to be responsible, should you

etc.) and other areas your family values – education

drive his forgotten homework up to school for the third

(homework before playtime) or respect (name calling

time this week or not?

will not be tolerated).

• If you want your child to be compassionate, how should you respond when she admits to cheating on

Agree on the limits and expectations for the nonnegotiables and clearly communicate those to everyone. Be sure you both follow through each and every time on the non-negotiables so your kids see you are a unified front.

a test?

• If you want your child to be respectful, how can you model that for him on a daily basis?

If you and your partner can agree on some longterm parenting goals for your family, the short-term decisions will be easier to make.

Step 4: Think Long-Term Remember that parenting is a marathon, not a sprint –

Step 5: Select a Signal

and that requires we think long-term.

It’s okay if you disagree on some discipline issues – but the key is not to argue about them in front of your

Visualize your kids when they show up for their first day of 20 ACTIVE FAMIL Y | APRIL 2020

children.

[ PARENTING ] undoubtedly share the same sentiments and behave Establish a non-verbal signal between you and your

accordingly.

partner that indicates “we clearly don’t agree on this one, let’s discuss it away from the kids.”

Step 7: Commit to Consistent Communication Set aside some time one night each week, after the kids

Since 95% of issues don’t need to be solved on the spot,

go to bed, to discuss your progress.

this gives both parents a chance to take a breather and decide on a course of action later.

Take note of the issues that have come up most frequently and agree on a correction method to use

Step 6: Avoid Good Cop, Bad Cop

from now on. Keep in mind that your goal is not to

In the same way you shouldn’t disagree on discipline

“win the battle” with your partner, but to find the most

in front of your children, it’s vitally important you don’t

constructive plan to help your children make good

pigeon-hole one another into good cop, bad cop roles.

Well-meaning parents do this all the time when you hear them say things like, “Just wait until Dad gets home,” or “Mom is going to be very upset about this.”

What message does a kid hear when mom says, “Just wait until Dad gets home?” A child hears that Daddy is the bad cop and is the only one capable of handling this situation.

Or if Dad says “Mom is going to be very upset about this broken vase!” The child assumes Mom cares more about the vase than Dad does.

Statements like these only reinforce a child’s feelings of

choices–thereby reducing future misbehaviors and training them for adulthood.

Again, this is not a time for blaming or rehashing, but rather a time to come together and map out a plan for your current parenting struggles. Celebrate the little successes you’ve made and the changes you’ve seen in your children and each other.

Step 8: Seek Support If after some focused effort, you and your spouse continue to disagree on parenting and discipline issues, consider taking a parenting class together or visiting with an objective, third party resource – such as a family therapist.

viewing one parent as the “loving one” and one parent as the “strict one”.

If you’re not sure whether an in-person parenting course or an online class is better for your family, you can learn

In reality, if you’re trying to present yourselves as a

more about the pros and cons of each type here.

unified front, you should both try to be consistent in your reactions. Each parent should feel equipped and

No matter what route you take, just remember, you and

empowered to handle any situation that arrives when

your partner are on the same team!

the kids are in their care without threatening the other parent’s involvement.

Final Thoughts While the task of solving discipline disagreements can

In a similar vein, it’s important not to undermine your

seem daunting, these 8 strategies will put you and your

partner’s parenting decisions in front of the children.

spouse on the path to success. With these guidelines,

If your children see you have a lack of faith in the

time and effort, it won’t be too long before the big

parenting decisions your partner made, they will

discipline debate is happily in the past.

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[ PARENTING ] Dr. Meeker is a pediatrician, who has practiced pediatric and adolescent medicine for 25 years. She is the author of six books including the best-selling Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: Ten Secrets Every Father Should Know; Boys Should Be Boys; Your Kids At Risk;, The 10 Habits of Happy Mothers: Reclaiming Our Passion, Purpose and Sanity; Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: The 30 Day Challenge and Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Lessons Mothers Need to Raise Extraordinary Men, (Ballantine) April 2014. She is a popular speaker on pediatric health issues and child-parent relationships.

Dr. Meeker is co-host and physicianin-residence of Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk Radio. She is also Assistant Clinical Professor at Michigan State University College of Human Medicine and currently teaches medical students and physicians in residency training.

She is board certified with the American Board of Pediatrics and is a fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics. Dr. Meeker serves on the National Advisory Board of the Medical Institute. She has been married to her husband, Walter for 32 years. They have shared a medical practice for over 20 years.

They have three grown daughters and a grown son. She lives in northern Michigan.

How to Cope with Stress During Covid-19

by Dr. Meg Meeker Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, life in our country looks very different, and every parent is wondering the same thing: Now what?

COVID-19 has disrupted every family in America. Here’s how parents can cope.

In a matter of two weeks, it seems life for American families has completely changed. Parents are working from home, and schools are closing, as well as restaurants, coffee shops, and playgrounds. Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, life in our country looks very different, and every parent is wondering the same thing: Now what?

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[ PARENTING ] This pandemic is unprecedented compared to recent

will suffer; your parenting will suffer. That’s OK. You are

viral outbreaks, such as SARS and Ebola. COVID-19 has

navigating new territory, there is no map, and we are all

now spread across the globe, and the U.S. is cracking

just trying to find our way through a new norm.

down, trying to flatten the curve with rules against

Now is not the time to be comparing yourself with your

gatherings of more than 10 people and the closures of

friends. Even if it looks like they’re holding it together on

schools and countless businesses in most states. While

social media, the reality is probably much different. Give

these precautions are good and necessary, they come

yourself extra grace during this time.

at a cost, especially for parents who are now trying to homeschool their children while working from home and only leaving the house to run necessary errands.

Keep conversations open.

Your kids probably have a lot of questions right now.

Even if you were able to shelter them from the news of

While the situation is changing daily, and we don’t know what the future will hold, there are some things you can do now to help ease your fears, anxieties, and cabin fever, even with your entire family in the house all day.

Embrace boredom.

Even though your child might be homeschooling or taking classes online, their sports have been canceled, along with their plays, and music class and time with friends. With this lack of access to activities, they will get bored. But don’t fight it. Embrace it. Boredom is good for kids. It forces them to use their imaginations. It sharpens their sensibilities. And it teaches them how to be comfortable with themselves. Don’t try to fill every minute

the virus at first, now that school has been canceled or postponed, this is probably not possible, and that’s OK. Kids need to hear the truth, and they need to hear it from you. Don’t alarm them but tell them the necessary facts. Tell them that a virus can’t be killed with antibiotics, so the best we can do is avoid getting COVID-19 while the experts work on testing, treatments, and vaccines.

Younger children might be especially fascinated to see a picture of what the virus actually looks like. That picture may make the virus much less scary for young children.

You can also talk about how the virus spreads. This will help children take smart precautions to avoid it. The CDC website has all the updated advice.

of your child’s day. Let him figure out what it feels like to be bored and learn how to fill his time productively.

Lastly, I want to remind you that you are not alone. Most parents are in the same situation as you and your family

Don’t try to be supermom.

and are experiencing the same fears right now. In a

I focus on moms here because we mothers tend to put

strange way, this has united all of us, and that can be

a lot of expectations on ourselves throughout the year,

a beautiful thing. Reach out to your community. Stay

but during a quarantine, this is even more tempting. Do

connected, even if you can only do so virtually, and give

not expect to parent perfectly during this time. If you

yourself grace and time to navigate a new normal for

are a working mother, this will be a big adjustment. Work

yourself and your family.

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[ PARENTING ]

Distance Learning in this New Era: Advice from Stratford School

by Stratford School With mandated school closures and shelter-in-place orders, parents have suddenly become their children’s teachers, guided from afar by their children’s educators. Many working parents, including educators, are now also both working at home and teaching their children at home.

“It’s stretching and testing us—as educators, as parents, as families,” acknowledges Melissa Sidebotham, Stratford School Morgan Hill principal and mother of three. “But we’re coming together to make it work.”

Sidebotham and three colleagues, all educators and working moms, offer these tips for successful distance learning.

Create a learning-friendly environment.

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[ PARENTING ] writing materials, technology tools, and other learning

learning is that it requires an open line of communication

supplies nearby. Choose an area of your home where

between parents and educators. Talk with your child’s

your child can focus on assignments with minimal

teacher as often as needed. Share your concerns and

distractions and you can monitor them.

ideas, and solicit theirs. Ask for help, and ask how you can help.

Set a daily schedule.

Create a list of activities for each day of the week,

Tend to your child’s emotional and social needs.

allotting time to both learning and life activities. Allow

Many children are confused, lonely, and anxious

sufficient time for your child to complete assignments as

because of the changes and restrictions in their lives.

well as to play and recharge. Schedule learning time for

As parents, we need to be mindful of our children’s

when you can be present and accessible.

emotional and social well-being. If your child seems out of sorts, spend some down time together, comfort them,

Make art and physical education part of daily learning.

and address their concerns or complaints. If your child

Creative expression and intentional movement not only

gets stumped or frustrated with an assignment, take

make children feel better emotionally and physically,

a breather, talk with their teacher, and try a different

they also enhance the brain’s ability to learn. Take this

approach later. Enable your child to interact remotely

opportunity to include art and physical education in

with friends, grandparents, and other important people

daily learning plans and to integrate art and movement

in their lives—with tele-chats, online gaming, social

into core academic learning.

media, or a phone call.

Incorporate fun and engaging teaching moments into

Guide your child through the learning process.

your daily life.

Provide a level of support appropriate to your child’s

Make a list of things that you and your child like to do,

age and needs. Older, more self-directed children may

and then brainstorm ways to weave learning into those

need you to check in, answer questions, and help them

activities. Sprinkle in some math or chemistry while

work through challenges. Younger and less self-directed

cooking together. Dig into botany or nutrition while

children may need more direction, supervision, and

planting a veggie garden. Explore history or architecture

assistance. Your encouragement and involvement will

while taking a drive through town.

also motivate and facilitate learning.

Tap into technology and other learning resources.

Be gentle with your child and with yourself. You really

Many schools are utilizing technology—such as Zoom

can’t do this wrong. What your children will remember

(live video-conferences), YouTube (prerecorded videos),

from this challenging time is not all the worksheets and

and Facetime (tele-chat)—in their distance learning

videos you made them do and watch. They’ll remember

content. You can also find distance-learning ideas,

the quiet moments of building a connection with one

games, materials, and programs online. For children who

another and learning together.

don’t have access to electronic devices and internet at home, educators are staying connected by phone and

About Stratford School.

mail. You can also ask your child’s teacher for resources

We believe high expectations yield extraordinary results.

to facilitate your child’s distance-learning.

Our advanced, innovative, intentionally balanced curriculum challenges students, accelerates their

Communicate with your child’s educators.

achievement, and prepares them for the future. Learn

One of the challenges and opportunities of distance

more at stratfordschools.com.

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SAN RAMON City of San Ramon Camps 2226 Camino Ramon 925.973.2500 www.ci.san-ramon.ca.us

School of Rock San Ramon 460 Montgomery Street 925.415.3340 510.207.9281 bit.ly/SORsanramoncamps

Adventure Day Camp Dorris-Eaton School One Annabel Lane 925.937.6500 www.adventuredaycamp.com

WALNUT CREEK Adventure Day Camp Seven Hills School 975 North San Carlos Dr. 925.937.6500 www.adventuredaycamp.com

Multiple Locations The Growing Room Academy Various locations around the Bay Offers: 3,4 and 5 Day Camps 925.837.4392 www.thegrowingroom.org

Camp Rocks: Girl Scouts of Northern California Offered at 5 locations: San Rafael (Camp Bothin), Santa Cruz (Skylark Ranch), San Jose (Camp Metro Day Camp), North Lake Tahoe (Deer Lake), and the Sierra Nevada Mountains (Sugar Pine) 800.447.4475 ext. 2091 www.camprocks.org

Mad Science Camp Offered at several local Recreation sites and Community Centers 925.687.1900 www.mtdiablo.madscience.org

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Camps Steve and Kate’s Camp Danville, Dublin, Fremont, Oakland, Walnut Creek and Berkeley 415.389.5437 www.steveandkatescamp.com

Camp Galileo Alameda, Alamo, Berkeley, San Ramon, Walnut Creek, Fremont, Oakland, Lafayette and Orinda 510.595.7293

Lango Language Summer Camps Serving Alamo, Blackhawk, Brentwood, Briones, Canyon, Clayton, Concord, Danville, Martinez, Moraga, Orinda, Pacheco, Pittsburg, Pleasant Hill, San Ramon, Walnut Creek and surrounding regions 888.445.2646 www.langokids.com/parent/kidslanguage-summer-camps

Out of Area Golden Arrow Camps 644 Pollasky Avenue, Ste. 100 Clovis, 93612 800.554.CAMP www.goldarrowcamp.com

Coppercreek Camp 1887 Williams Valley Rd. Greenville, 95947 800.350.0006 www.coppercreek.com

www.galileo-learning.com

KinderCare Walnut Creek, Concord, Danville, Martinez and Clayton 888.523.6765 www.kindercare.com/ summercamp

Viva el Espanol!

Lafayette, Piedmont, Pleasanton & San Anselmo 925.962.9177 www.vivaelespanol.org/ summerprograms.php

Club Sport Fremont, San Ramon, Pleasanton and Walnut Creek 925.938.8700 www.clubsports.com

Camp Edmo Alameda, Fremont, and Oakland 415.282.6673 www.campedmo.org

Kids’ Carpentry Berkeley, Lafayette, Alameda, Oakland, Alamo & Walnut Creek 510.524.9232

Stratford School Summer Sports Camp & Enrichment Danville, Fremont, Los Gatos, Morgan Hill and Pleasanton 925.737.0001

www.kidscarpentry.com

www.stratfordschools.com

www.techknowhowkids.com

Sky hawk’s Sports Camp Various locations around the Bay Area 800.804.3509

iD Tech Camp Moraga, Concord, Livermore, Berkeley and other Bay Area locations www.idtech.com

www.skyhawks.com

TechKnowHow Kids Dublin, Berkeley, Fremont, Livermore, Oakland & Pleasanton 650.638.0500

Camp Unalayee 3921 East Bayshore Rd. Palo Alto 650.969.6313 www.unalayee-summer-camp.com

CYO Summer Camp 2136 Bohemian Hwy Occidental, 95465 707.874.0200

SF Zoo Camp Sloat Blvd. & the Great Highway San Francisco 415.753.7080 www.sfzoo.org Almaden Equestrian Center 20100 Almaden Rd. San Jose 408.927.0232 www.almadenequestriancenter.net

Silver Creek Sportsplex 800 Embedded Way San Jose 408.224.8774 www.gotoplex.com

College For Kids 1700 W. Hillsdale Blvd.

San Mateo 650.574.6149 www.collegeforkids-smccd.com

www.camp.cccyo.org

Mountain Camp Woodside 302 Portola Rd. Portola Valley 650.576.2267 www.mountaincampwoodside.com

School of Rock Summer Camp 711 South B St. San Mateo, San Jose & Palo Alto 650.347.3474 www.schoolofrock.com

Camp Tawonga 131 Steuart Ste. 460 San Francisco 415.543.2267 www.tawonga.org

Kennolyn Camps 8205 Glen Haven Rd. Soquel 831.479.6714 www.kennolyncamps.com

888.709.8324

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OUR CAMP CONFORMS TO KIDS. NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND.

“GO WITH THE FLOW” IS OUR MIDDLE NAME. JUST KIDDING, IT’S “AND.”

Instead of a rigid structure, we give our campers choice. Instead of teaching kids the typical way, we give them tools and gentle guidance to help them become autodidacts, people who teach themselves.

Kids choose from: stop motion animation, coding, sports in a custom stadium, bread-making, waterslides and much more.

Our policy is as flexible as you need it to be. You can buy a whole summer membership or you can purchase as many day passes as you want. Use the passes whenever. Didn’t use them? No sweat. We’ll give you a full refund for unused passes. And best of all, you don’t even have to tell us when you’re coming. Ta-da. Camp just got easier.

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PLEASANTON WEST CAMPUS Preschool and Pre-Kindergarten 4444B Black Ave., Pleasanton, CA

925.462.6300

Full and Half Day Schedules Computer, Spanish, Music, P.E., and Library Two Preschool Campuses in Pleasanton

PLEASANTON EAST CAMPUS Toddler through Pre-Kindergarten 3750 Boulder St., Pleasanton, CA

925.846.9400

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