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Volume 4 / Issue 45

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[ CHILDREN’S HEALTH ]

6 Ways to Reconnect With Family When You Disconnect from Technology

Youth Sports Nutrition Tips

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8

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The Importance of Healthy Family Home Rhythm

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32

[ EVENTS ]

[ MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIPS ]

20

Pumpkin Patch Guide

30 Simplify Your Halloween and Savor Every Spooky Moment

36

October Calendar

16

[ TRAVEL ]

Why My Husband Infuriates Me

10

22 [ SEASONAL FUN ]

Your Physical Well Being

5 Relationship Killers and How to Avoid Them

Paradise Found, Family Style

Timber Cove Resort – Adventure up the Northern Coast

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Editor’s Note Hello Fall! As the seasons change and the holidays quickly approach, first things first‌Halloween! Get the little ones ready to have some fun! Simplify your holiday so you can enjoy family time. Flip to page 36 for some great ideas and inspiraton.

Looking for a local Pumpkin Patch around the Bay? Turn to page 30 and find all that our area has to offer!

Our travel features on pages 10 and 22 will have you packing your bags and jumping on a plane! The Timber Cove Resort and the Aston Kaanaplai Shores in Maui are kid-tested and parent-approved and should be added to your bucket list ASAP! You can thank us later!

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Dr. Gail Gross, Ph.D., Ed.D., M.Ed., is a nationally recognized family and child development expert, author, and educator. Her positive and integrative approach to difficult issues helps families navigate today’s complex problems. A dependable authority, Dr. Gross has contributed to broadcast, print and online media including CNN, FOX’s The O’Reilly Factor, MSNBC, The New York Times and USA Today.

ABC, CBS and KHOU, Great Day Houston Show. She is a veteran radio talk show host as well as the host of the nationally syndicated PBS program, “Let’s Talk.”

Dr. Gross’ soon-to-be second book, How to Build Your Baby’s Brain, teaches parents how to enhance a child’s learning potential through various developmental stages.

Two additional books are slated to follow, including The Only Way Out Is Through, a Jungian approach to navigating life’s transitions including grieving, and Defining Moments, which recounts the defining moments of celebrity guests as shared with Dr. Gross during interviews on PBS’ “Let’s Talk.” www.drgailgross.com

6 Ways to Reconnect With Family When You Disconnect from Technology

by Dr. Gail Gross Time spent together as a family is critical, especially if you have younger children who are still developing socially, mentally, physically, and emotionally.

Focused family time can even help boost a child’s health and IQ. So put down the cell phones and prepare to pick up some stronger family bonds. Here are some ways you can reconnect with the important people in your life while remaining disconnected from technological distractions.

1. Start the day with a morning ritual. Consider easing into the day together as a family by doing some sort of relaxing activity. For instance, you can download one of my audio meditations and meditate together for 20 minutes, and then enjoy a leisurely breakfast together. By starting the day together as a family with clarity and focus, you set the tone for a more positive day ahead. In fact, studies show that families who eat one meal together have children that perform better in school.

2. Visit a family friend or relative you haven’t seen in a while. Is there a family friend, brother, sister, aunt, or uncle that you only communicate with via Facebook and email, but they live less than an hour away? Use this day to reconnect in real life. Remember: children do what they see, and when they

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[ PARENTING ] see you place importance on your relationship with

your home where all family members will feel safe,

others, they will likely place the same importance on

comfortable, and welcome, since each person had a

their own friendships and relationships.

hand in shaping the space.

3. Cook a meal together. The kitchen is the heart of the

6. Donate time at a shelter with your family. There is

home – where alchemy happens. Have each family

nothing more intimate and rewarding as the common

member be in charge of choosing one part of the

goal and enterprise of helping others, especially with

meal – maybe your son chooses his favorite side dish,

your child’s home team: Mom and Dad. This not only

your husband chooses his favorite main dish, you pick

teaches your children to appreciate what they have

your fave dessert. Then you all help each other with

but also the wonderful and open hearted feeling of

each part of the meal. This way, you are each showing

helping others who are less fortunate.

respect and enjoying something that another family member truly cherishes, and working together to

When you are unplugged, be sure to engage in

create a complete meal that represents your family.

meaningful conversations with your children – really listen to them and hear what they have to say. Without

4. Learn together. Take this opportunity to take a class

the distraction of cell phones or television, this is your

or go on a tour together as a family. You don’t have

chance to allow your children to speak their minds, ask

to go far or spend a lot of money. Most local tourist

you questions, and to interact in fully focused discussions.

bureaus offer free tours of local attractions and historic

Engage in the empathic process.

places. Many local colleges offer low-cost half-day workshops and classes. Whether you decide to go on a

Also, while you are working together to create a meal or

tour of local haunted hot spots, or take a glass blowing

visiting an old family friend, gently weave in questions to

class, it’s great for your children to see you learning

your children about school, friends, likes/dislikes, without

alongside them.

any pressure and without your immediate feedback.

When you take the time to step back and listen, you

5. De-clutter and update a common area in your house

might be surprised to hear your child sharing more than

together. Has your family outgrown your family room,

you imagined. This gift of trusted information shared by

which still has toys stuffed into corners even though

your child, coupled with meaningful activities shared

your “baby” is now 15? Is your garage overflowing with

throughout the day, will hopefully lay a new foundation

boxes of old clothing? Have each family member pitch

or solidify your already strong bond of family.

in to help donate old, unused items to shelters and other charities, and then work together to refashion

This time to reset and reconnect with your family is so

the space to fit your current family needs. The giving

important in today’s society. Then, when you plug back

aspect feels good and by creating a “new” space

into technology, you’ll remember how important it is to

together, you are automatically creating a place in

unplug once in a while and focus on family.

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ADVENTURE UP THE NORTHERN COAST Many East Bay locals are tempted to head south for an oceanside vacation, but for dramatic and spectacular views of surf and sand, try driving

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north, instead, to a much cooler climate and far fewer crowds on the Sonoma coastline. There is plenty of adventure to be had for everyone,

including visiting historical parks, exploring beaches, and tasting local wines.

But first, reserve lodging at a resort you may not want to leave at all.

[ TRAVEL ]

– STAY – Timber Cove Resort is nestled on a sweeping bluff in Jenner, Ca, and is the perfect lodging choice for a romantic, cozy getaway or adventurous family weekend, and everything in between. The resort is somewhat of an icon in the area, having been established in the 1960’s, and is known for its unbelievably breathtaking location on Timber Cove, with cliffside views of the sea. The property is a majestic blend of lush forest filled with redwoods and eucalyptus, and sandy cliffside with views of rocky beach and crashing waves.

Although the resort was very recently renovated, the mid-century, 60’s charm still remains, and provides a hip juxtaposition with the modern, rustic finishes.

The lobby stays loyal to

its roots, with midcentury lounge furniture and a huge, rustic rock fireplace.

Inside the rooms, however, you’ll experience modern, luxurious amenities such as slate-floor bathrooms with separate, soaking tubs, vaulted ceilings with retractable sky-lights, and cozy, plush beds with stark white linens. Rooms are equipped with a working record player and oldschool Smeg refrigerator —playful nods to the resort’s birth decade. The view from most rooms are nothing short of spectacular, with either cliffside ocean views, views of the gorgeous Timber Cove, or forest views. Whether you book an ocean, cove or forest view, there’s truly no bad room in the resort.

While Timber Cove Resort is an ideal couple’s getaway,

if you happen to be staying with children, the resort has created a fun scavenger hunt that serves as a great way to explore the gorgeous property, (and even without kids it’s a worthwhile adventure). The resort owner’s daughter, Sofia, created “Sofia’s Treasure Hunt,” where guests follow instructions on a selfguided stroll throughout the property to find clues and answer questions about the surroundings. At the end of the hunt, kids can return their completed scavenger hunt questionnaire to the front desk for a small toy “treasure.” It’s a fun and exciting way to explore the vast property, but can be precarious, as some of the trails are only a few feet away from dangerous cliff sides, so those with very small children will want to keep them close at hand.

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– DINE – After all that exploring and

thoughtful, perfectly

a flavorful broth featuring

discovering, you’ll want to

executed dishes that stays

meaty, tender chunks of

re-energize with a delicious

true to local ingredients

Neuske’s bacon and sweet

meal at the resort’s on-site

but venture into a bit more

cherry tomatoes. The local

restaurant, Coast Kitchen.

adventurous faire than your

halibut entree, as well as

The restaurant is small and

everyday coastal dining

the scallop entree, were

minimal, focusing your

menu. Some standouts are

both cooked perfectly and

attention on the seaside

the light and crispy deep

accompanied by some very

views and beautifully

fried quail appetizer, which is

flavorful and well prepared

presented plates. Arrange a

served with a sweet chili and

local produce. The wine list

windowside table at sunset

caramelized onion sauce.

features carefully selected

for an unforgettable dinner

The mussel appetizer came

bottles, many from nearby

with a view. The menu at

with a generous portion

Sonoma wineries, such as

Coast Kitchen features

of large, plump mussels in

Flowers, and Hirsch Winery.

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– EXPLORE – Speaking of wine, there are

Jenner, in Duncans Mills.

windmills and other goods.

a number of tasting rooms

If wine tasting isn’t your

The former settlement has

in the area worth spending

thing or the kids are in tow,

been well maintained and

the afternoon visiting. Only a

you won’t want to miss Fort

some of it rebuilt to provide

few miles from Timber Cove

Ross State Historic Park,

visitors with a frozen-in-time

is Flowers Vineyard & Winery,

located 11 miles north of

glimpse of settlement life at

which makes a popular Pinot

Jenner. Fort Ross is was the

the time. It’s a fascinating

Noir and Chardonnay. Make

country’s northernmost

destination not to be missed.

your way South to Wild Hog

Russian settlement, which

Be sure to watch the short

Vineyard, which is off the

was active from 1812 to 1842,

historical video in the museum

beaten path but well worth

and founded by the Russian-

before exploring the actual

the excursion. Sophie’s Cellars

American Company to trade

fort grounds for a deeper

is another excellent tasting

fur and agriculture, establish

perspective of the history and

room located just east of

settlements, and build ships,

people of Fort Ross.

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[ TRAVEL ]

HOW TO GET HERE From Fort Ross, head down the coast to explore the many beautiful beaches on the Sonoma Coastline.

Schoolhouse Beach offers an easy walk from the car to a picturesque beach of tiny pebbles and some tide pools with hermit crabs, starfish, mussels and other sea creatures. Just a little south you’ll find Goat Rock Beach, named after the impressive, huge rock structure jetting out from the beach. Eighties film fans might be excited to know that the pirate ship scene from the hit movie “Goonies,” was filmed on Goat Rock State Beach.

Further south you’ll find Portuguese Beach, which is not swim-friendly but a great beach to roam with your dog, or take a casual stroll and have a picnic. www.timbercoveresort.com

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DR. MARGARET PAUL is a bestselling author, popular Huffington Post writer and cocreator of the powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing process, and the related SelfQuest® self-healing software program recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. She has appeared on numerous radio and television shows (including Oprah). Her book titles include “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You” (and subsequent titles “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By God,” and “...By My Kids”), “Healing Your Aloneness” and “Inner Bonding.” Margaret holds a Ph.D. in psychology, is a relationship expert, public speaker, consultant and artist.

She has successfully worked with thousands and taught classes and seminars for over 47 years.

5 Relationship Killers and How to Avoid Them

by Dr. Margaret Paul As a relationship counselor, I am constantly being asked why so many relationships fail. In the 48 years that I have worked with couples, I have discovered five major relationship killers: Controlling Behavior Most people enter a relationship with a deep fear of rejection, and this fear motivates various forms of controlling behavior. Controlling behavior falls into two major categories - overt control and covert control.

Overt control includes many forms of attack, such as blaming anger, rage, violence, judgment, criticism and ridicule.

Covert control includes compliance, enabling, withdrawal, defending, explaining, lying and denying. Often a person at the other end of attack will respond with some form of covert control in an attempt to have control over not being attacked.

Controlling behavior always results in resentment and emotional distance,

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[ MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIPS ] bringing about the very rejection that it is meant to

your partner’s anger, but completely unaware of your

avoid.

own compliance. You might be very aware of your partner’s addictive behavior, but very unaware of your

Resistance

own enabling. As long as your eyes are on your partner

Many people enter a relationship with a deep fear of

instead of on yourself, you will continue to believe that if

being engulfed and controlled - of losing themselves. The

only your partner changed, everything would be okay.

moment they experience their partner wanting control over them, they respond with resistance - withdrawal,

Resolving Relationship Killers

unconsciousness, numbness, forgetfulness and

All relationship killers come from fear - of inadequacy,

procrastination.

failure, rejection and engulfment. As long as you are coming from any of these fears, you will likely be

When one partner is controlling and the other is resistant

behaving in one or more of the above ways.

- which is really an attempt to have control over not being controlled - the relationship becomes immobilized.

Partners in this relationship system feel frustrated, stagnant and resentful.

Neediness Many people enter a relationship believing that it is their partner’s job to fill their emptiness, take away their aloneness, and make them feel good about themselves.

When people have not learned how to take responsibility for their own feelings and needs, and to define their own

The way out is through a devoted practice of Inner Bonding to develop a loving adult self who knows how to take full responsibility for your own feelings and needs.

You will move beyond controlling, needy and addictive behavior only when you learn how to fill your self with love and define your own inner worth. When you are willing to take your eyes off your partner’s plate and turn your eyes fully on yourself, you can begin to do the inner work necessary to heal yourself and your relationship.

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Substance and Process Addictions Most people who feel empty inside turn to substance and process addictions in an attempt to fill their emptiness and take away the pain of their aloneness and loneliness. Alcohol and drug abuse, food, spending, gambling, busyness, Internet sex and pornography, affairs, work, TV, accumulating things, beautifying and so on, can all be used as ways to fill emptiness and avoid fears of failure, inadequacy, rejection and engulfment.

And they are all ways of shutting out your partner.

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Jill Castle is a pediatric d ietitian/nutritionist who helps parents and professionals nourish and grow children of all ages.

As a private practitioner, online educator, consultant and speaker, Jill explains the science behind nutrition for kids and makes it come alive with her practical tips and strategies.

She is the author of Eat Like a Champion: Performance Nutrition for Your Young Athlete, co-author of Fearless Feeding: How to Raise Healthy Eaters from High Chair to High School, creator of The Nourished Child blog and podcast, as well as several online resources for parents and professionals.

Jill is regularly quoted in popular print and online publications as a leading childhood nutrition expert and regularly contributes to US News & World Report, USA Swimming and Bundoo.com.

Youth Sports Nutrition Tips

by Jill Castle As the fall sport season begins, many young athletes will train, work hard and expect to see the results of their efforts. From new equipment to top notch coaching techniques, young athletes will be looking to gain an upper hand on the competition.

A lot goes into having a great season! One area that helps all young athletes improve their athletic performance is nutrition. I’ve got 5 youth sports nutrition tips to help your young athlete gain the edge on his competition.

5 Youth Sports Nutrition Tips Tip #1: Eat Three Meals Each Day Meals provide the foundation of nutrients that the body needs throughout the day to perform, both on and off the field. About 36% of kids and teens,

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[ CHILDREN’S HEALTH ] respectively, skip breakfast. Almost 17% of kids and young

for recovery. Milk contains a combination of casein (the

teens skip lunch.

main protein that coagulates into curd when cheese is made) and whey (the watery part that separates

When young athletes skip a meal, they put their body

from the curd). Whey is recognized as a “fast protein”

behind in the important nutrients that fuel performance,

because it is quickly absorbed and available to muscles.

especially calories, carbohydrates, and protein. Plus,

Whey also supplies leucine, an amino acid that has been

meal skippers may be more prone to overeat later

associated with reducing muscle soreness after exercise

and increase the likelihood of making unhealthy food

in adult athletes.

choices. Make sure your athlete includes all three meals in his daily eating plan.

Any combination of protein and carbohydrate can help muscles recover after exercise. Chocolate milk happens

Tip #2: Eat Healthy Snacks (& Plan for Them)

to be convenient, easy to consume, and enjoyed by

Whether athletes have packed snacks in the gym

many young athletes. Ideally, young athletes should

bag, or eat a sit-down snack at home before practice,

consume chocolate milk or a protein-carbohydrate

they should always have a healthy source of fuel.

combined snack within 45 minutes of exercise

Unfortunately, studies show that kids and teens frequently

completion.

snack on unhealthy foods.

Tip #4: Hydrate, Hydrate, Hydrate Planning healthy snacks discourages the use of junk

When young athletes feel sluggish, are fatigued, or just

food, sweets, and other undesirable options during

don’t have the umph they usually count on, the issue

training and competition. Just like a race car needs

may be dehydration.

premium fuel to perform, so does the young athlete who is training or competing in his sport. Low octane fuel – or

One 2013 study of youth soccer players at summer camp

unhealthy snacks like donuts, candy or chips – doesn’t

showed most of them showed up to practice with some

draw out the best performance in young athletes.

degree of dehydration (75% of them!), and progressively became more dehydrated on subsequent days of

Tip #3: Fuel the Recovery Phase

practice.

After intensive or extended exercise, the body’s muscles are broken down and tired. They need to recover.

The study highlighted that young athletes may not drink

This can be accomplished with food, particularly

enough during practice sessions, or throughout the

food sources that contain a mixture of protein and

day. One reason is they are often distracted and need

carbohydrate.

reminders to make sure they are getting plenty of fluids.

Most young athletes need about 2-3 liters of fluid each

Protein provides the amino acids needed to repair the

day, depending on exercise demands and climate.

muscles and promote muscle gain. Carbohydrates allow

Young athletes can get fluids from beverages, fruit, soups,

the reloading of glycogen (an energy source) in muscle,

veggies and yogurt.

preparing them for future exercise.

Tip #5: Rest!

Research has highlighted chocolate milk as a good

Sleep is critical to the young athlete’s growth,

recovery option after intense exercise. Chocolate milk

development and recovery. It’s the time when the body

has a combination of about 10 grams of protein and

heals from the activities of the day and a time when

roughly 27 grams of carbohydrate per cup, providing

growth hormone surges and allows growth to occur.

an ideal combination of nutrients to repair and ready

The National Sleep Foundation recommends children

muscles for subsequent exercise sessions.

aged 6 to 13 years get 9 to 11 hours of sleep per day, and teens aged 14 to 18 years get at least 8 to 10 hours of

Furthermore, the type of protein found in milk is ideal

sleep.

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[ EVENTS ]

October Alameda County OCTOBER 1, 15, 22 & 29 Rockridge Ice Cream Tour Oakland Times Vary www.localfoodadventures.com/ food-tours/ice-cream-tour

OCTOBER 13 Movies in the Park: Goosebumps Redwood Heights Recreation Center Oakland 6:33pm www2.oaklandnet.com

OCTOBER 13 & 27 Free Harbor Tours Port of Oakland Oakland 6:30pm www.portofoakland.com/harbortours/harbor-tour-2017-schedule

OCTOBER 14 Kid’s Cook from the Garden Botanical Garden Berkeley 10am – 11:30am www.events.berkeley.edu

OCTOBER 20 – 21 DLUX PUPPETS: “Alice in Wonderland” Botanical Garden Berkeley Times Vary www.firehousearts.org

OCTOBER 22 Cal Sail Open House Cal Sailing Club Berkeley 1pm – 4pm www.cal-sailing.org Email info@activefamilymag.com to subscribe to our weekly email blast for more events!

Very First Concerts Crowden Community Music Day Berkeley Times Vary www.thesfco.org/events/veryfirst

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Baby Rave Bay Area Children’s Theatre Oakland 10am www.bactheatre.org/babyrave

OCTOBER 24- 28 COI: Ghost Stories 2017 Firehouse Arts Center Pleasanton Times Vary www.firehousearts.org/events/coighost-stories-2017

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OCTOBER 14 Art Walk Livermore 2017 Livermore Valley Performing Arts Center Livermore 11am – 5pm www.lvpac.org

OCTOBER 14, 21 & 28 Halloween Dress Rehearsal Sunvalley Shopping Center Concord Times Vary www.shopsunvalley.com/events

Harvest Festival Original Art & Craft Show Alameda County Fairgrounds Pleasanton 10am www.alamedacountyfair.com

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OCTOBER 6 Preschool Performance Series Village Theatre Danville 10am www.villagetheatreshows.com Friday Night Live McGrail Vineyards & Winery Livermore 6pm – 9pm www.mcgrailvineyards.com/home. html

OCTOBER 7 Grill & Chill Cedar Mountain Winery Livermore 6pm -9pm www.cedarmountainwinery.com Iron Horse Mothers Club Fall Festival Peace Lutheran Church Danville 10am-1pm www.facebook.com/ events/1733779463592242

Dogtoberfest 2017 Robert Livermore Park Livermore 11am – 3pm www.larpd.org Campfire Programs John Muir National Historic Site Martinez 5:45pm www.nps.gov

OCTOBER 28 Pumpkin Jubilee Danville Livery Danville 12pm – 3pm www.danvillelivery.com/events

OCTOBER 31 Trick-or-Treating at Sunvalley!

Sunvalley Shopping Center Concord 5pm – 7pm www.shopsunvalley.com/events

Out of Area OCTOBER 1 Afternoon Farm Tour Hidden Villa Los Altos Hills 1pm – 2:30pm www.hiddenvilla.org

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October Community Day Gamble Garden Palo Alto 10am – 1pm www.gamblegarden.org/event/ community-day-2017 Sunday Streets Excelsior San Francisco 11am – 4pm www.sundaystreetssf.com/seasonschedule/excelsior100117/

OCTOBER 1 – 9 Fleet Week Marina Green San Francisco Times Vary www.fleetweeksf.org

OCT 6 Free Admission Day Seymour Marine Discovery Center Santa Cruz 10am – 5pm www.seymourcenter.ucsc.edu/ visit/hours-admission/#freeday Seals & Slippers The Marine Mammal Center Sausalito www.marinemammalcenter.org

OCTOBER 7 Fall Toddler Day #1 Slide Ranch Muir Beach 9am – 12pm www.slideranch.org/calendar/ falltoddlerday1

OCTOBER 7 – 15 The Wizard of Oz New Conservatory Theatre Center San Francisco Times Vary www.nctcsf.org/family-shows/thewizard-of-oz

OCTOBER 14 “Mini” Harvest Celebration Family Farm Day Slide Ranch Muir Beach 10am – 2pm www.slideranch.org/calendar/ harvestcelebrationfamilyfarmday Penguins + Pajamas Sleepovers Cal Academy of Sciences San Francisco www.calacademy.org/ penguinspajamas-sleepovers 39th Birthday Bash Pier 39 San Francisco 5pm – 10pm www.pier39.com/event/39thbirthday-bash

OCTOBER 8 & 22 Marine Science Sunday The Marine Mammal Center Sausalito 10am – 4pm www.marinemammalcenter.org

OCTOBER 22 Little Pumpkin Party Hidden Villa Los Altos Hills 1pm – 3:30pm www.hiddenvilla.org

OCTOBER 27 Halloween Party Hidden Villa Los Altos Hills 6:15pm – 9pm www.hiddenvilla.org

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[ TRAVEL ]

O

n ten acres of beachfront paradise

base for the true Hawaiian experience.

rests a resort that may not have

Bring the whole brood to this gorgeous West

been on your radar, but should be. The

Maui resort and leave your worries behind.

Aston Kaanapali Shores Resort is truly a

Soak up the sun, spend all day in the pool

family friendly Eden, with large, spacious

and on the white-sand-beach, and take full

condominium style rooms, a year-round

advantage of the family-oriented amenities

kid’s camp and on-site shopping and

the Aston Kaanapali Shores Resort has to

dining, your family has a spectacular home

offer.

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THE DIGS

tropical gardens teaming with native flora,

With a location that can’t be beat, the

white-sand-beaches with calm waves

Aston Kaanapali is only five miles from the

(perfect for “Keiki’s”) and gorgeous, flowing

charming and historic town of Lahaina,

waterfalls.

where you can spend the day shopping and tasting local delicacies. Located in

A variety of room sizes can accommodate

tropical and lush West Maui, the resort is

anyone from couples to large families, and

a short drive from forested, breathtaking

every size family in-between. Choose from

hikes, picturesque viewpoints and a

hotel-sized rooms to larger multi-bedroom

conveniently nearby urgent care facility.

condominium suites with full kitchens,

The resort property is breathtaking, with

washers and dryers.

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[ TRAVEL ] PLAYTIME With such a wide variety of activities and amenities available right on the property, you and your family will never run out of fun options. The newly renovated garden pool features waterfalls, nightly LED colored lights, a tropical garden and new ocean pool bar.

The pool is large, lush and beautiful.

Some of the other free amenities included in the $20 a day resort fee are a state-ofthe-art fitness center, complementary hula classes every Tuesday, a weekly craft fair on Thursdays, and a spectacular Polynesian dance show every Wednesday. Take advantage of a free scuba lesson every morning at 10 a.m. or try your hand with the ukulele with weekly free lessons.

For a small fee, hotel guests can make their own authentic Hawaiian flower lei ($6) or take a yoga class in the morning ($10.) Indulge in a luxurious ocean-side massage or book a facial or other treatment at the on-site Puamana Day Spa. Another fun experience requiring an additional fee is the “Cocktails & Canvas� painting experience, where guests ($59) and non-guests ($69) enjoy a free drink and appetizer while creating a hawaiianthemed canvas painting, hosted by the Island Art Party.

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DELICIOUS EATS

snapper “Opakapaka.”

Choose from a variety of dining options at the resort, which is sure to please the palate

The restaurant offers a full breakfast, lunch

of every member of the family. You won’t

and dinner menu with a large variety of

even have to dry off at the Beach Club

fresh and seasonal options. Highlights on

Restaurant & Bar to enjoy poolside dining

the breakfast menu include classic Eggs

by the adult freshwater pool. Choose from

Benedict, organic fresh papaya, and the

tropical cocktails and delicious snacks, and

hawaiian staple, “Loco Moco.”

take advantage of happy hour specials available daily from 2:30-5:30pm.

Lunch options include tuna poke salad, fresh fish tacos, and a good ol’ fashioned

For American-style cuisine with a nod to

cheeseburger. Dinner options include a

the Pacific, dine inside the Beach Club

generous cut of Prime Rib, fresh Pacific

Restaurant for mouth-watering specialties

seafood options, and a variety of pasta and

such as Papaya Coconut Prawn Salad,

burger options that are sure to please the

“island style” BBQ Ribs, or try the local pink

kids.

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[ TRAVEL ] CAMP KAANAPALI Children ages 5-12 can enjoy the fantastic Camp Kaanapali year-round, for $35 per session. Each session includes snacks and a meal, and a variety of fun activities. Some of the activities may include scavenger hunts, hula dancing, arts & crafts, nature walks, swimming, kite making, ukulele lessons, and other seasonal fun. The camp is a wonderful opportunity for children to burn energy, make new friends and learn about Hawaiian culture. It’s also a great chance for parents to catch some alone time or just relax and rejuvenate.

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[ CHILDREN’S HEALTH ]

Ask the Expert: Goal Setting & Attainment: A Recovery Plan for Injured Young Athletes

by James Faison, PTA, ATC, CSCSCenter for Young Athletes Q: Why is goal setting important when a young athlete is injured?

A: Discussing and developing a series of goals should always be the first step when working with someone who is injured. When working with young people who are injured it is important to emphasize goals throughout the rehabilitation process.

Goals help motivate, focus and crystalize effort when times get tough. Revisiting goals periodically and celebrating the achievement of meeting each goal is a crucial component of injury rehabilitation, especially with children.

Q: What kinds of things can young athletes and their families do to help in attaining their recovery goals?

A: There are several concepts that help in attaining recovery goals: Concept #1: Write it down How can your child or teen make progress toward their goals if they don’t remember what they are? Write down their goals, post them somewhere that they can see them, and revisit them often. If a young athlete is getting frustrated by the lack of progress, break the goals up into smaller, more attainable chunks.

Concept #2: Consistency is more important than Intensity A crucial concept with regards to goal attainment is to work at accomplishing goals every day. No days off. It’s the little things that the athlete does every day to get better that have a big impact in progress toward goal attainment.

James D. Faison works at UCSF Benioff Children’s Hospital at the Sports Medicine Center for Young Athletes in Walnut Creek.

He has been providing injury rehabilitation for over 10 years to the children of the Bay Area as a Physical Therapist Assistant and Certified Athletic Trainer.

Concept #3: It isn’t good enough to just want it.

A wise man once said that, “The will to win is easy; it’s the will to prepare to win that really counts.” To get better and make improvements, your child or teen will have to work. Hard work and determination in the face of adversity is often the solution to even the most complex problems.

Concept #4: Remember to review goal progress Everyone has bad days and sometimes lack motivation. It is in these down times that it helps to look back at how far your child or teen has actually come. They should think about the progress they have made and reinvest in the process of improvement.

Q: How can parents help motivate their athlete?

A: In this new culture of oversharing and selfies, some people may confuse pride for boastfulness. I firmly believe that one of the most inspiring things that an adult can say to a child is “I believe in you” and once they have made good progress toward attaining their goals tell them “I’m proud of you.” There is nothing in life that is more rewarding than helping a child through a tough time in their life, and continually reflecting on their goals is a great way to keep them on track!

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[ MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIPS ]

Why My Husband Infuriates Me

by Christine Carter, Ph.D. The other night, I did something that I am not proud of.

We have four teenagers, so dinnertime is never dull, but this particular evening it was full chaos. One of our kids had not eaten much. My husband, Mark, really wanted this kid to eat more, and so he offered a bribe/threat: You can’t go hang out with your friends until you finish everything on your plate.

A power struggle unfolded, complete with sibling cheering sections. I tried to shut it all down using dramatic non-verbal cues. This was not what we agreed to do when a kid doesn’t eat well, I screamed silently with my supercharged glares.

I was not successful. The picky eater ate what was required in order to go hang out in the neighborhood.

Christine Carter, Ph.D.*, is a sociologist and happiness expert at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center. She is the author of “RAISING HAPPINESS: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents.” She teaches online happiness classes that help parents bring more joy into their own lives and the lives of their children, and she writes an award-winning blog for *Greater Good* (www.greatergoodparents.org).

Although I was obviously right (chuckle) in my frustration–because bribing kids can work in the short run, but research clearly demonstrates that it backfires in the long run–this post is actually about what I did next, and why I did it.

The next night, I intended to calmly raise the issue so that we could prevent similar dinnertime spectacles in the future. I knew that I couldn’t make accusations or do anything that might make Mark defensive, because people don’t learn well when they are being criticized.

Let the record show that I was not even remotely uncritical.

I opened with something like “How could you have been so stupid?”

And then I started to rant.

“Haven’t we talked about that situation a million times? We have a freaking PLAN for this!! We’ve AGREED what we will do about picky eating!! Why can’t you follow through with the plan? Why can’t you understand how important it is to be consistent?” He responded calmly. I rolled my eyes with contempt and superiority.

I was such. an. ass.

I do not know of any parent, myself included, who has not at some point threatened, bribed, or otherwise manipulated a child into doing what they

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[ MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIPS ] wanted the kid to do. I actually do possess a huge

myself, in my friends and children, and in my clients.

capacity to empathize with my husband’s intentions and

That doesn’t mean that we are always projecting when

behavior, but it was a capacity I failed entirely to draw

we see other people’s flaws, or when we see the ways

on.

that others can learn and improve. But when we feel particularly emotional about a situation? When we

Why? Why was this so emotional for me? Why was I so

feel hooked and irrational or harshly judgmental about

critical and punishing?

someone else’s shortcomings, rather than empathetic or

Because I was projecting.

compassionate? We are probably projecting.

We project, psychologically speaking, when we

Projection is an undeniable human tendency, and I think

unconsciously and unknowingly attribute our judgments

it is pretty wonderful, actually, because it allows us to

about ourselves to other people.

see ourselves more clearly, to better understand what is causing us anxiety and stress.

See, the thing that drives me most crazy about myself is that I often make big elaborate behavioral plans for

The greatest thing about projection, to me, is that it

myself and then I don’t follow through on them. For

comes with a set of instructions for our own growth and

example, I’ve recently stopped meditating (again)

happiness. We’ll usually do well to do whatever it is we

after making a plan to meditate more over the summer.

wish other people would do (or stop doing).

The perfectionist in me has been a mess of guilt and anxiety over this, something I didn’t consciously realize

In other words, when we notice that we are projecting,

until I found myself dressing Mark down for not following

we have the opportunity to take our own advice.

through on our picky eater protocol.

For example, I wanted Mark to stop asking me to make We humans have blind spots. It is often hard for us to

parenting plans that he couldn’t follow through on.

see our own failings, but it can be very easy for us to see

Instead, I wanted him to accept easier, good-enough,

what’s wrong with other people. The people around us,

plans. So the opportunity for me (to take my own advice)

particularly our spouses, are like mirrors. We see clearly

was to stop forcing myself to follow-through on all my

what we don’t like, but we get it backwards.

best-made plans.

It’s not them, it’s us.

In this instance, the solution was not to try to be more perfect. The follow-my-own-advice solution that

Martha Beck cleverly calls this charming human

emerged from my projection was to stop making plans

propensity “You spot it, you got it.”

that weren’t realistic given the lovely, messy world—of teenagers and a career that has me traversing time

Psychological projection (in its many forms) is a defense

zones—that I live in. My fight with Mark showed me that I

mechanism first conceptualized by Sigmund Freud. His

don’t always have to model the very best practices; it’s

daughter, Anna Freud, later developed the theory. The

good enough to be strategic, realistic, and skillful.

Freuds posited that we often deal with the thoughts, motivations, desires, and feelings that are hard for us to

What are your projections telling you? What advice for

accept in ourselves by attributing them to someone else.

others would you do well to take yourself?

Although many Freudian theories have not stood the test

For us and our picky eater, it has meant being less

of time, projection is still considered a textbook human

controlling about food. For me and my meditation, it has

behavior.[i] I see projection at work all around me, in

meant letting it go until school starts again.

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[ SEASONAL FUN ]

Pumpkin Patch Guide ALAMEDA

CLAYTON

HERCULES

Speer Family Farms Alameda Point 2153 Ferry Point 510.705.2352 www.speerfamilyfarms.com -Petting Zoo -Inflatable Fun

Clayton Valley Pumpkin Patch 1060 Pine Lane 925.672.5198 www.cvpumpkinfarm.com -Petting Zoo -Train Ride -Barnyard

Pick of the Patch Pumpkins 400 San Pablo Ave 408.393.6303 www.abctreefarms.net -Petting Zoo -Haunted House

ANTIOCH

CONCORD

Pick of the Patch Pumpkins Delta Fair Blvd @ Century Blvd 408.393.6303 www.abctreefarms.net -Petting Zoo -Haunted House -Train Ride

Pick of the Patch Pumpkins 1096 Oak Grove Rd at Monument Blvd 408.393.6303 www.abctreefarms.net -Petting Zoo -Haunted House

G&M Farms 487 East Airway 925.447.FARM www.gmfarms.com -Corn Maze -Train

BRENTWOOD

J. E Perry’s Farms 34600 Ardenwood Blvd 510.793.6658 www.perryfarmsorganic.com

Smith Family Farm 4430 Sellers Ave 925.625.5966 www.smithfamilyfarm.com -Corn Maze -Petting Zoo -Hay Ride

CASTRO VALLEY Moore’s Pumpkin Patch 9711 Dublin Canyon Rd 510.886.6015 www.moorespumpkinpatch.com -Train Ride -Fun House

FREMONT

Pick of the Patch Pumpkins 4020 Fremont Hub 408.393.6303 www.abctreefarms.net -Inflatable Fun

HAYWARD Pick of the Patch Pumpkins One Southland Mall Dr. 408.393.6303 www.abctreefarms.net -Petting Zoo -Haunted House

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LIVERMORE

Joan’s Farm and Pumpkin Patch 4351 Mines Rd 925.447.0794 www.joansfarm.com -Farm Animals -Hay Ride -Corn Maze

MARTINEZ Pick of the Patch Pumpkins 5041 Blum Road 408.393.6303 www.abctreefarms.net -Ponyland Pony Rides -Parachute Rocket Rides -Petting Zoo -Haunted House

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Pumpkin Patch Guide NEWARK Pick of the Patch Pumpkins 2086 NewPark Mall 408.393.6303 www.abctreefarms.net -Petting Zoo -Haunted House

OAKLAND Piedmont Ave Pumpkin Patch 4414 Piedmont Ave 510.967.9363 www.pumpkinpatch.info -Corn Stalks -Straw Bales

SAN LEANDRO Pick of the Patch Pumpkins 1555 East 14th St at the Bay Fair Center Mall 408.393.6303 www.abctreefarms.net -Petting Zoo -Haunted House

SAN RAMON Forest Home Farms 19953 San Ramon Valley Blvd 925.973.3284 www.sanramon.ca.gov -Hay Ride -Train Ride Moore’s Pumpkin Patch 19901 San Ramon Valley Blvd 510.886.6015 www.moorespumpkinpatch.com -Train Ride -Fun House

PETALUMA

WORTH THE DRIVE

Great Peter Pumpkin Patch 4235 Spring Hill Rd 707.762.3446 www.springhillcheese.com/pumpkinpatch -Hay Ride

HALF MOON BAY Arata Pumpkin Farm 185 Verde Rd 650.726.7548 www.aratapumpkinfarm.com -Hay Maze -Petting Zoo -Train Ride

Peterson’s Farm 636 Gossage Ave 707.765.4582 www.petersonsfarm.com

LEMOS FARM 12320 San Mateo Rd 620.726.2342 www.lemosfarm.com -Train Ride -Haunted House -Petting Zoo

Petaluma Pumpkin Patch and Amazing Corn Maze 450 Stony Point Rd 707.781.3132 www.petalumapumpkinpatch.com -Corn Maze

LATHROP Dell’Osso Family Farm 26 Stewart Rd 209.982. 0833 www.pumpkinmaze.com -Corn Maze -Haunted House -Petting Zoo

SAN FRANCISCO

MARIN

Emerald Forest Great Pumpkin Patch 317 Sloat Blvd 415.566.8984

Clancy’s Pumpkin Patch 1620 7th Ave 415.753.2689 www.clancystrees.com -Hay Maze

Nicasio Valley Farms Pumpkin Patch 5300 Nicasio Valley Rd 415. 662.9100 www.nicasiocheese.com -Hay Ride -Petting Zoo

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[ PARENTING ]

The Importance of Healthy Family Home Rhythm

by The Growing Room Is family bedtime a constant battle? Do transitional activities result in the digging in of heels, complaints, and tears? Is mealtime a battle of wills? Does your child experience anxiety surrounding new activities? The constant resistance to parental guidance and support can take its toll on well-meaning, over-worked parents. There is a solution and its simplicity may surprise you—rhythm. The creation of rhythm in our homes has a magical effect on children’s behavior.

Rhythm strengthens parental authority as it creates channels for discipline that are more intrinsic than opposed. It provides security, safety, and predictability that contribute to a child’s sense of order and well-being. Rhythm creates connections and closeness. For a parent, it simplifies and adds quality to family life. And, while it may seem daunting to commit to activities that create a healthy family rhythm with regularity, the outcome will serve as motivation to continue the quest!

Rhythm versus Routine While the two terms are often used interchangeably, rhythm reflects those daily, weekly, monthly, and seasonal changes that make up the cadence of our lives.

Conversely, the concept of routine can conjure up rigid timelines and inflexible schedules. Rhythm is distinct from routine in that it’s about the ebb and the flow—a fluid grace as opposed to stern schedules. When we are considering implementing a healthy home rhythm we must consider the individual needs of all family members: quiet and active times, the coming together or moving apart, downtime versus structured activities. It is about finding the point of balance in your family’s day—that sweet spot between rigidity and chaos. Rhythms are markers that not only provide the steady calm but also punctuate those special occasions. Rhythm values lie in the intention behind it.

Rhythm Provides Security through Predictability For many of us these are uncertain times. Worries about the economic, social, or the political landscape are the cause of anxiety for many Americans. It is the concern of the unknown—those elements out of our control— that fuels anxieties, and so it is for our children. When the only predictable aspect of our family schedule is its unpredictability, it is time to revisit our priorities! Children thrive where there is a sense of order. Rhythms are markers of our days, weeks, and years that we either impose or bestow upon our children. They can bring a sense of security, safety, and peace to our homes or create patterns that are well beyond a child’s sensory world. It is within those chaotic family patterns where children exhibit behavioral problems.

Rhythm Eases Child Anxiety and Resistance to Transitions A wonderful daily rhythm that easily accommodates most families schedule and 32 ACTIVE FAMIL Y | OCTOBER 2017

[ PARENTING ] serves to curtail transitional behavioral outbursts is to

Rhythm Eases Meal Time Troubles

review the upcoming day with children. This process

Food should be a source of nutrition for children,

provides not only an element of predictability, security,

but for many children, food becomes a source of

and safety but also models conscientious and courteous

empowerment. Refusing to eat what the rest of the

behavior. Who is on pick-up duty from school? What

family eats or what is placed in front of them offers

time do we need to be at violin lessons? Will we bring

another opportunity for children to flex some dictatorial

a snack or stop somewhere along the way? This simple

muscles. When kids sit down at the table they see a

process takes the uncertainty— and for many children— the anxiousness, out of their day. As mentioned above, when establishing rhythm we must look at the intention behind it. The key is implementing this rhythm when you don’t have one foot out of the door or your cell phone under your chin. A successful rhythm lies in the quality of the process. It provides the opportunity to connect with your children in a meaningful, purposeful way. And, while your child doesn’t have autonomy to control their own days, they can feel safe and secure knowing that someone competent and caring is at the helm.

fight that they are sure to win. Well-meaning parents concerned about their children’s comfort (and feeling worn-down after a long day) will often give in to food preference demands. A healthy rhythm at dinner doesn’t start with the first bite. Involving children in food prep is a rhythm that will not only ease the transition to the dinner table but will create children who have a vested interest or stake in the meal. They are more likely to try something new if they have helped prepare it some way. Another helpful rhythm is a weekly menu that family members can look forward to and count

Rhythm Provides Powerful Connections that Meet

on. When children know that Tuesdays is taco night,

Children’s Emotional and Physical Needs

it reduces friction around the meal. If a complaining

The best rhythms of healthy family life don’t only

child doesn’t like tacos but loves lasagna, parents can

offer consistency: they provide connection. They are

calmly let him know that he will have something to look

purposeful. Many of the behavioral outbursts parents

forward on Thursday! A weekly menu also allows for a

experience throughout the course of a day are the

punctuation mark in the rhythm when the family does

result of children’s unmet needs. The child who cries

something special outside the home.

for ice cream or playground time after school is most likely not experiencing an insatiable craving for ice

A Healthy Home Rhythm is the Secret to Happy Home Life

cream or the playground swing, but rather an event or

These days, there aren’t many people who characterize

space where you, the parent, are both emotionally and physically present for him/her. What the child is craving is that deep comfort of your company. By incorporating this “outbreath” rhythm into your family routine, you are literally carving out heart-space for your child. A morning, bedtime, or after school rhythm creates a natural “pause” in you and your child’s day where feelings, experiences, and thoughts are more likely to be expressed. When these rhythms flow because activities happen about the same time each day, rather on a

their lives in terms of the rhythm of the earth, yet our lives revolve around rhythms that shape our work, sleep, academics, and holidays. Rhythm is the marker of our lives. A healthy home rhythm helps us respond from the heart rather than react to chaotic or stressful scenarios.

As parents, the rhythms we adopt affect our children; we govern the markers of our children’s day. Being mindful of those rhythms will create daily shifts in energy in ourselves and our home that will help us create a

rushed or harried schedule, we are more present for our

nurturing routine. In the case of rhythm, meaning lies

children and they receive the attention they are seeking.

in the repetitions. It signals to your children that we do

These daily interactions are also an antidote for children

this everyday because it is important: you are important.

who “demand” prolonged bedtime routines or excessive

It will contribute to the values you want to instill in your

amounts of attention as their emotional need for quality

children. Rhythms are the daily, weekly, seasonal,

interaction has been met at various times throughout the

and yearly activities that we consciously choose with

day.

intention and carry out with love.

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Your Physical Well Being

by Hayes B. Gladstone, MD

October is a busy month. With school in full swing and after school activities taking wide swaths of time and the holidays on the horizon, it is sometimes easy to forget about taking care of yourself.

Well being is comprehensive. It includes taking care of yourself physically, Hayes B. Gladstone, MD is the founder and President of the Gladstone Clinic in San Ramon. He is the former Director of the Division of Dermatologic Surgery and Associate Professor in the Departments of Dermatology and Otolaryngology, Head and Neck Surgery at Stanford University

intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. Each component of your well being reinforces the other in both positive and negative ways. Physically, it is important to both exercise on a regular basis and maintain excellent nutrition. Exercising means at least 5 days per week. It should vary so exercise doesn’t become stale, but also so you strengthen different muscle groups and create more muscle flexibility particularly in your core. Exercise should include both aerobic and anaerobic exercise since the most important muscle is your heart. Stressing it in a positive, gradual and consistent manner creates more stamina and energy. Given busy schedules, it is easy to push exercise to another day. Attending aerobic, or spin classes can create a more definitive commitment. Hiring a personal trainer who can optimize your exercise regimen as well as teach you proper techniques can be very rewarding.

Healthy eating habits are also key to your physical well being. It is a truism that Americans eat portions that are much too large as well as too much processed “fast food” and GMO food. Many years ago, a famous study followed Japanese individuals and their incidence of heart disease when they lived in Japan, and

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[ HEALTH ] then after they moved to Hawaii. Heart disease sky rocketed when they moved to the United States. Eating a balanced diet with non-fried foods, fish and heavy in anti-oxidants such as berries provides a strong foundation for a healthy lifestyle.

As we age, our metabolism slows. Genetics also plays a role. A healthy diet and regular exercise may not be enough to remove stubborn pockets of fat. In women, most commonly these are along the abdomen, flanks, back, bra area and thighs. In men, it is mostly the lower abdomen and flanks (“love handles”). Two cosmetic procedures known as Coolsculpting and Ultratone can play a role in helping you obtain the physical presence that you want. Coolsculpting also known as cryolipolysis is a brilliant method for fat reduction and contour improvement. It freezes fat without harming the skin.

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[ SEASONAL FUN ]

Simplify Your Halloween and Savor Every Spooky Moment

by Christina Katz Halloween becomes more commercialized every year. But a classic approach to Halloween will keep your budget intact and a grin on your face throughout the spookiest time of year. If you want to restore the playful spirit of Halloween and spend more quality time with your family, let these reminders help you center your celebration on old-fashioned, frightening fun. Make memories, this Halloween, rather than too many trips to the store.

Pump Up Your Pumpkin Power What’s Halloween without those bright orange globes of autumn spirit? I’m referring to pumpkins, of course. Set a date for that trip to the pumpkin patch where family members can each select a choice carving pumpkin. Then set aside a few hours one week before Halloween for jack-o-lantern carving. Here are some classic pumpkin designs to inspire you.

Smiling Jack Evil grin Cat in profile Flying bat Spider with web Wise owl Spooky ghost Puking pumpkin Your family’s name Halloween words Go Green When Choosing Costumes When it comes time to brainstorm costume ideas, challenge your kids to pull costumes together from scratch rather than purchasing pre-made. Try to inspire more creative self-expression from them and less you making it all happen for them.

You’ll find ample tutorials on the Internet and lots of costume accessories to choose from at your local resale shop. Here is a list of costume types to get the ideas popping.

Author, journalist and writing coach Christina Katz always thinks of Halloween as the kickoff to the busy holiday season, followed swiftly by Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, and New Year’s Eve. So she tries to take it slow and simplify as much as she can.

Animals Bugs Heroes Celebrities Monsters Magical Creatures Professions

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[ SEASONAL FUN ]

[ SEASONAL FUN ]

Foods

“Purple People Eater” by Sheb Wooley

Cartoons

“Witchcraft” by Frank Sinatra

Fictional Characters

“Ding Dong The Witch Is Dead” by Arlen & Harpburg “Bad Moon Rising” by Creedance Clearwater Revival

Use Down To Earth Décor Don’t go over the top with Halloween décor. Often a

Create Annual Movie-watching Traditions

few natural-looking items added to a front porch are

Sharing family films is a terrific way to chillax during a

all you need. Or search online for easy craft tutorials

busy time of year. So gather the crew and get in the

related to the following images. Build up a repertoire of

Halloween mood with movies that startle without scaring

decorations that you expand gradually over the years

the pants off anyone.

rather than going over the top with Halloween decor.

For The Whole Family To Watch Together Bats

The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown

Crows

(Not Rated, For ages 4 and up)

Pumpkins

The Wizard of Oz (Not rated, ages 8 and up)

Spider webs

ET (Rated PG, ages 8 and up)

Ghosts

Harry Potter and The Sorcerer’s Stone

Skeletons

(Rated PG, ages 9 and up)

Witches Cats

For Older Kids: Family Movies to Watch With Teens

Owls

The Goonies (Rated PG, ages 11 and up) 1985

Branches

Hocus Pocus (Rated PG, ages 11 and up) 1993

Tombstones

Edward Scissorhands (PG-13, ages 13 and up) 1990 The Addams Family (Rated PG-13, ages 13 and up) 1991

Compile A Halloween Playlist Spooky songs are to Halloween what Christmas carols

Transform Candy Into Decor

are to Christmas. Recruit your kids’ help and make a

Halloween candy isn’t merely for eating. Display some

Halloween playlist. Here are some blasts-from-the-past

classic candy choices in glass jars from the dollar store

many parents will recognize. Turn them on to turn chore

to inspire seasonal fun. Or use classic candy to decorate

time into a dance party.

a wreath form to hang on your front door during TrickOr-Treating. Search for photos online and choose the

“The Monster Mash” by Bobby Pickett

wreath style that matches your level of ambition. Here

“Thriller” by Michael Jackson

are some candies that can add visual sweetness minus

“This Is Halloween” by Danny Elfman

the calories and cavities.

“Superstition” by Stevie Wonder “Werewolves Of London” by Warren Zevon

Candy Corn

“Ghostbusters” by Ray Parker Jr.

Candy Pumpkins

“Time Warp” by Richard O’Brien

Black & Orange Mary Janes

“Abracadabra” by The Steve Miller Band

Autumn Colored Gummies

“Don’t Fear The Reaper” by Blue Oyster Cult

Autumn Wrapped Candy

“Spooky” by Andy Williams

Jelly Belly Autumn Mix

“Witchy Woman” by The Eagles

Chocolate Eyeballs

“I Want Candy” by Bow Wow Wow

Black & Orange Hard Candy Sticks

“The Devil Went Down To Georgia”

Caramel Apple Lollipops

by The Charlie Daniels Band

Harvest Blend M&Ms

“The Addams Family” by Victor Mizzy

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[ SEASONAL FUN ] Brainstorm Imaginative Party Themes

Halloween. Try your hand at the following favorites.

Hosting a Halloween party? Keep it simple with classic Halloween party themes. Here are some ideas to get you

Chili with Corn Muffins

brainstorming. Search online for easy homemade dĂŠcor

Sweet Potato Soup with Zucchini Bread

ideas.

Pulled Pork Sandwiches with Cole Slaw Chicken And Dumplings

Salem Witches

Beef Stew with Crusty Bread

Sleepy Hollow Headless Haunts

Shepherd’s Pie

Roswell Aliens

Chicken and Cheese Enchiladas

Black & White Horror Movie

Meatball Subs with Potato Salad

Transylvania Vampires

Lasagna and Caesar Salad

Zombie Apocalypse

Vegetable Soup with Pumpkin Muffins

Shakespearean Tragedies

Clam Chowder with Apple Muffins

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