Active Family Magazine | April 2022

APRIL 2022

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of Quality

How to Calm a Stressed Out Teen

KID-FRIENDLY LIVERMORE VALLEY WINERIES

Volume 9 / Issue 94

[ PARENTING ] True Grit: 12 Ways to Raise a Resilient, Competent Child

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Listening And Talking to Your Kids About Ukraine with Empathy

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Spring Staycation: The Purple Orchid Wine Country Resort & Spa

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How to Calm a Stressed-Out Teen

18 Four Daily Doses of Quality

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28 [ SEASONAL FUN ] Easter Basket Ideas For Little Ones!

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Spring Breakout!

Great Wolf Lodge

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Summer Camp Guide

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20 Livermore Valley Wineries

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Talking About War With Your Kids: What to Say and How to Say It

Disney On A Dime

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Local Life & Style for the East Bay Area

Publisher/Editor Tracie Brown Vollgraf

Travel Editor Elizabeth Kang ekang@activefamilymag.com

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Editor’s Note As the masks come off and restrictions loosen, we are busier than ever! Always on the lookout for the perfect getaway, we have plenty of options for our readers in this issue.

Starting with a few local possibilities, turn to page 8 to learn about the ideal spring staycation featuring the Purple Orchid Resort & Spa in Livermore. Another great family-friendly getaway, just down the road, is the Great Wolf Lodge.

Of course, we can’t forget about Disneyland! This time we are providing tips on how to visit the park on a budget, so flip to page 20 for more details!

With Easter around the corner, we are making parenting a little easier by sharing our top Easter basket favorites on page 34. Just click on over to the websites provided and grab these adorable products today!

Wishing you all a healthy and happy spring!

Tracie Brown Vollgraf Editor info@activefamilymag.com

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Dr. Laura Markham is the author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting. She earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University and has worked as a parenting coach with countless parents across the English-speaking world, both in person and via phone.

You can find Dr. Laura online at AhaParenting.com, the website of Aha! Moments for parents of kids from birth through the teen years, where she offers a free daily inspiration email to parents.

TRUE GRIT:

12 Ways to Raise a Resilient, Competent Child

by Dr. Laura Markham "The exhausting cycle of constantly monitoring their work and performance... makes children feel less competent and confident." - Elizabeth Kolbert

Parents are often told that frustration is good for kids, since when they grow up the world will be full of frustrations. That's a bit like saying that it's a cold, cruel world so your child should learn to sleep without blankets.

What we really want is to raise kids who have the resilience to find or make blankets (and to create a warmer world where everyone can find blankets!)

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[ PARENTING ] So how do we foster that resilience?

competence they'll develop.

It has become a commonplace idea that failure builds

So how do we hit that sweet spot of giving appropriate

resilience. But when children fail over and over and

support and protection on the one hand, and enough

don't have the support to keep trying, all they learn is

independence to foster confidence and competence

that they're failures. Experiencing disappointment or

on the other?

failure is only half the picture. Resilience comes not from failing, but from the experience of learning that even

1. Stop controlling and start coaching.

when everything goes wrong, you can pick yourself up, try again, and succeed. That requires at least some

Coaches help kids develop skills, but kids play the game.

experience of success, and lots of emotional support.

Your job as a parent is to support your child so she can flourish and develop. Doing things FOR her robs her of the

So it’s true that we all learn from overcoming challenges,

opportunity to become competent. Doing things WITH

but we also learn best when we experience success,

her teaches her how and builds confidence. This means

which motivates us to tackle more difficult challenges.

we have to manage our own anxiety and let go of our

Failure without support sets up a cycle of lack of

need to control.

confidence, giving up and more failure. Mastery, on the other hand, begets mastery.

2. Remember that perfection is not the goal.

We're also told that we as parents are over-protecting

Resist the temptation to "improve" on your child's task,

our children, so they don't gain confidence from

unless the outcome is vitally important. Intervention

learning to handle things for themselves. This is anxiety-

undermines a child's confidence.

provoking for any parent, because the line between appropriate support and helicoptering is rarely clear.

3. Let him try to do it himself from the earliest age.

(Isn't a helicopter parent just someone who hovers more than you do?) All parents want to protect their children

Rein in your own anxiety. That doesn’t mean abandoning

-- that's our job! -- but we also don't want to stymie the

him to it. Stand by, smiling, ready to be helpful in

development of self-confidence, resourcefulness and

whatever way actually helps your child -- BUT keep your

resilience.

mouth shut and your hands to yourself except to give appropriate encouragement, unless you REALLY need to

So are kids today really less confident than they used to

help.

be? I haven't seen any convincing research to support that claim. (And Alfie Kohn, in The Myth of the Spoiled

Clucking anxiously about how worried you are as he

Child, assembles lots of evidence to refute it.) But I don't

climbs that play structure may make you feel better, and

think it's news to any parent that our natural desire to

it may impress the other parents on the playground with

protect our children from discomfort often prompts us

your attentiveness, but it won't help your child. In fact, it

to step in to solve things for our kids. And we certainly

limits him. Just ask if he is keeping himself safe, then stand

know that the more practice kids have in solving their

by and spot him. Smile proudly. Say:

own problems, managing their lives, and overcoming obstacles to meet their goals, the more confidence and

"Look at you! I knew you could do it!"

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[ PARENTING ] (And if he falls, you’re there to catch him. Which is, after

But if you help him each step of the way to organize his

all, what allowed him to try it.)

ideas and his work, BUT resist the impulse to improve on the project yourself, he completes the job, hugely proud,

4. Help her build confidence by tackling manageable challenges.

Emotional development researchers call this "scaffolding," which could be defined as the framework you give your child on which she builds. You demonstrate how to do something, or you use words to

and having learned something about how to plan and execute a complex project.

6. Encourage, Encourage, Encourage. And teach selfencouragement.

All humans need encouragement. Encouraging your child not only keeps him feeling more positive and

suggest a strategy, or you simply spot her. This assistance

motivated, it also gives him an inner voice that will

helps her to succeed when she tries something new,

help him to encourage himself for the rest of his life.

and small successes achieved with your help give her

Research shows that kids who talk themselves through

the confidence to try new things herself. Scaffolding

difficult situations find it easier to master difficult tasks.

also teaches children that nonjudgmental help is always

Give your child maxims to repeat as mantras when the

available if they need it. You want your kids to trust that

going gets tough. "Practice makes progress!" and "If you

deep in their bones before they hit adolescence.

don't succeed, try, try again!" and "I think I can, I think I can!" are designed to help us manage our frustration.

5. Don’t set him up for failure.

Offer structure to help him succeed. Should you step in when you see failure ahead, or "let him learn a lesson"?

Always a hard call. Rescuing children can prevent them

When your son goofs a piece on the piano and has to start over, or your daughter strikes out with the bases loaded, they need an automatic internal comforting voice to encourage and motivate them. Otherwise the harsh criticizing voice steps in, triggered by the disappointment.

from learning important lessons. But when children see their parents stand by and let them fail, they experience

7. Instead of evaluating, describe and empathize.

that as not being loved. Instead of learning the lesson that they should have practiced that clarinet, or

Praise evaluates the outcome of your child's action:

read the directions on that science kit, they learn the

"Good job!" It doesn't give the child much information

lesson that they are failures, that they cannot manage

about what was good about what he did, or why you

themselves, and that their parents did not care enough

think it was good, and it teaches the child to rely on

to help them not be failures or teach them to manage themselves.

But isn't stepping in “rescuing them?”

external sources to evaluate him. You can refine your praise to make it serve your child better by giving him he power to evaluate for himself. Just describe what he did and empathize with how he must feel: "You just kept practicing and didn't give up....You must feel so good that you finished that!"

That all depends on how it's done. If you take over the science fair project and do half of it the night before it's

8. Focus on effort, not results.

due, that's worse than rescuing: not only does your son

"I see you worked so hard on this."

learn that you will bail him out if he goofs off, he learns that he is incompetent.

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"How did you learn to do that?!"

[ PARENTING ] Give positive feedback about specific things that she

Once she's done grieving, she'll be ready to pull herself

has control over, like hard work or perseverance, rather

together to try again the next day, especially when

than things she feels she has no control over, like being

you express your confidence in her. That's how children

smart. The point is never the product -- you don’t want

develop resilience.

her resting on her laurels at the age of six, or sixteen.

Your goal is for her to keep trying, practicing, improving,

11. Don't set your child up for extra frustration.

and for her to learn that when she works hard, she can accomplish her goals.

Your child will naturally develop the ability to handle increasing amounts of frustration and anxiety as he

9. Model positive self-talk.

attempts more difficult challenges. But those frustrations are inherent in growing up and are guaranteed aplenty

Whatever you model, your child will learn and will

in life. There is no benefit whatsoever to setting your child

emulate. Positive self-talk improves our mood, unlike the

up for extra frustration or negative experience. In fact, he

self-disparaging comments many of us so automatically

will see your doing so as evidence of your lack of caring,

make. If something negative about your child -- or,

which is always translated in his mind as his lack of value,

equally important, about yourself -- starts to come out of

and which therefore undermines his resilience.

your mouth, bite your tongue. Most parents know better than to say "What an idiot!" to their child (and most

12. Affirm your child’s ability to impact the world.

of them are able to stop themselves), but a surprising number see nothing wrong with berating themselves that

Competence and feelings of mastery are about power

way in front of their kids. Just train yourself not to do it. (It

and derive from a child's experience of herself as having

certainly isn't good for you, either. Would you let anyone

an effect on the world.

else talk to you that way?)

"If I stand on the stool, I can flip this light switch and light 10. Don't be afraid of your child's feelings.

up the room!"

When your child encounters frustration, remember that

All children will experience reasonable limits to their

your empathy will be a critical factor in his overcoming

power (“I can't make the rain stop, and neither can

it. Instead of automatically jumping in to remove

Mommy"), but the more your child has opportunities to

the source of the frustration, give it a larger context

make a difference in the world, the more she will see

by communicating your compassion that he has to

herself as capable.

encounter this circumstance: In the end, our job as parents is to work ourselves out of "I'm sorry this is so hard..."

a job, and it starts when our children are very young. All kids eventually grow up and live their lives without us.

"It's really disappointing when...."

How they live will depend partly on whether we've been able to rise above our own anxiety and our impulse to

"This isn't how you hoped it would turn out..."

control our child.

It's okay for children to get frustrated and to be

You know the old adage about giving our children roots

disappointed. Your child may cry and sulk all day, but

and wings? Unconditional love is the roots. Confidence is

your unconditional understanding will help her grieve.

the wings. Young people who have both live bigger lives.

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SPRING STAYCATION:

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The Purple Orchid Wine Country Resort & Spa

by Elizabeth Kang

Spring has sprung, and we’re jonesing for a weekend getaway. Preferably somewhere peaceful, serene, and close by. The Purple Orchid Wine Country Resort & Spa fits the bill perfectly, and then some. Located deep in the bucolic rolling hills of Livermore Valley wine country, The Purple Orchid is the dreamiest mix of quaint, boutique charm and upscale, luxurious pampering. With a superior spa, gorgeous pool and hot tub, cozy lodging and delicious complimentary breakfast, this tucked away resort is sure to be your go-to for romantic escapes and girlfriend getaways.

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- LOCATION Situated just a few-minute’s-drive from downtown Livermore, The Purple Orchid feels worlds away from suburbia, tucked between gently rolling hills and surrounded by nearby wineries and farms. Proprietors Rhiannon and Derek Eddy are college sweethearts who somehow, between raising two young kids, have turned The Purple Orchid into Livermore’s prized hidden jewel — a place locals recommend to friends and out-oftown guests. Nearby wineries are less than a five-minute drive away and include Cedar Mountain Winery, Eagle Ridge Winery, 3 Steve’s Winery, and Darcie Kent Vineyards.

- STAY With just ten rooms, The Purple Orchid boasts an intimate bed & breakfast vibe with rusticluxury charm. Each rooms is spacious and comfortable with modern amenities like flat-screen TVs, stand-along soaking tubs, private balconies with views of the valley, and comfortable beds with luxury linens. Rooms are decorated with minimal, stately decor.

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tubs, and quaint gardens. The resort is surrounded by majestic olive tree groves that provide the Castelvetrano olives from which the resort’s fruity, sumptuous olive oil is made from. (This 100% first-pressed, unfiltered, extra virgin olive oil is available for purchase at the front desk and makes the perfect take-home souvenir.)

- DINE Although the resort doesn't have a restaurant on property, they do have a kitchen which serves a wonderful full-service complimentary breakfast each morning.

During our stay, my husband and I chose a delicate mushroom spinach omelet and a hearty chorizo-egg breakfast burrito, both which were executed perfectly.

There were also options to include potatoes, fruit, toast, juice, tea and coffee.

Mimosas can be enjoyed for an additional charge.

In the afternoons, the resort offers an “Olive and Vino” hour, serving The Purple Orchid label red or white wine, plus a delectable personal cheeseboard to each guest. Sipping wine and noshing on cheese poolside with the sound of the pool’s waterfall in the background is a wonderful way to enjoy the setting sun and get to know other guests.

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[ PARENTING ] Dr. Meeker is a pediatrician, who has practiced pediatric and adolescent medicine for 25 years. She is the author of six books including the best-selling Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: Ten Secrets Every Father Should Know; Boys Should Be Boys; Your Kids At Risk;, The 10 Habits of Happy Mothers: Reclaiming Our Passion, Purpose and Sanity; Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: The 30 Day Challenge and Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Lessons Mothers Need to Raise Extraordinary Men, (Ballantine) April 2014. She is a popular speaker on pediatric health issues and child-parent relationships.

Dr. Meeker is co-host and physicianin-residence of Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk Radio. She is also Assistant Clinical Professor at Michigan State University College of Human Medicine and currently teaches medical students and physicians in residency training.

She is board certified with the American Board of Pediatrics and is a fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics. Dr. Meeker serves on the National Advisory Board of the Medical Institute. She has been married to her husband, Walter for 32 years. They have shared a medical practice for over 20 years.

They have three grown daughters and a grown son. She lives in northern Michigan.

Talking About War With Your Kids: What to Say and How to Say It

by Dr. Meg Meeker Over the past couple of years, we’ve had to talk to our kids about some really difficult topics: the pandemic, racism, and now we can add to the list, war.

Russia’s invasion of Ukraine has been broadcast more than most wars on social media, T.V. and podcasts. Tragic images have been published, interviews with evacuees are streaming, and the news seems to worsen with each day.

Perhaps you’re protecting your child from the news, but if he has a smartphone or a friend with one, chances are he’s heard about this war, and 14 ACTIVE FAMIL Y | APRIL 2022

[ PARENTING ] he’s probably confused, worried or scared.

the conversation. Don’t go into the history of Russia and Vladimir Putin and the Soviet Union. Don’t try to explain

We live in an age where it’s nearly impossible to keep

sanctions and the U.S.’s role in a war like this. Use simple

big news stories from our children. The news is simply

language that speaks to his specific questions and

too prolific and too available on too many platforms. If

concerns.

you’re seeing multiple messages a day about a tragedy or horrific event, your child probably is too. Which begs

If your child is a pre-teen or teen, he can understand

the question, how do you talk to your child about war?

complicated situations more easily, and he is probably

While this topic is weighty and complicated and will

hearing about the nuance of the conflict at school.

depend on your individual child, family and needs, I do

Continue to address your teen’s specific questions and

have some guidance on how to navigate this difficult

concerns but know that he can handle more nuance

conversation with your child.

than a younger child can.

1. Don’t avoid the conversation.

3. Keep the lines of communication open.

If your child is asking you about the war in Ukraine, or

As this war continues to unfold, more will happen, more

if you know your child is hearing about it, don’t avoid

news will be reported, and your child will continue to

talking about it. We tend to think talking about difficult

have questions. That’s OK. Reassure your child each time

things with our child will only make her more afraid, but

you talk about it that she can come to you with questions

the truth is avoiding talking about an event your child

or concerns. This is not a one-and-done conversation but

already knows about will simply allow her questions to go

an ongoing one. This will feel greatly reassuring to your

unanswered. That’s what will make her more afraid.

child.

Don’t avoid the conversation for the sake of your child’s fears; have the conversation and make it a priority.

Parents, it’s difficult enough that this war is happening, talking to your child about it adds yet another layer of

(If your child is under the age of seven and hasn’t asked

difficulty. While it may feel uncomfortable, I encourage

you about the conflict yet, don’t initiate a conversation.

you to stay aware of your child. Is he reading the news?

Wait until she asks about it.)

Is he hearing it at school or at home on T.V.? If so, step into a conversation about it, not thinking you have all the

2. Be age-appropriate.

answers but knowing that you are uniquely equipped to

If your child is around ages eight to 11, don’t complicate

assure your child by simply being open and present.

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SPRING BREAKOUT! Great Wolf Lodge

by Elizabeth Kang Breakout, along with a partnership with Autism

Wolf Lodge character as they emerge from their dens

Awareness month, and we wanted to be sure to highlight

after a long winter hibernation.

all the fun. From March 4th, through May 1st, Great Wolf Lodge is offering special Spring-themes activities and

GAMES & CRAFTS!

savings of up to 30% on rooms, along with bright and

Crafty kids will enjoy spring-themed crafts such as

cheery Springtime decor. In addition to all of the new

making hand-made flowers, beaded butterflies and

Springbreakout fun, families can support children with

dragonflies, flower and butterfly rings, and make-your-

autism by purchasing special limited-edition blue Wolf

own Moochi hand puppets.

Ears for $5, with proceeds donated to Autism Speaks.

Read on to learn about all the new Spring Breakout fun

SPRINGTIME FUN!

at resort!

Guests can join in on even more springtime fun at the Spring Jamboree, with sing-a-longs to the Sunshine

SPRING DECOR!

Celebration theme song, and move their bodies at the

Great Wolf Lodge celebrates spring with vibrant and

Spring Dance in the lobby. There is also a nightly story

cheery springtime touches like colorful, sprouting flowers,

time to help wind down excited bodies, and daily yoga

verdant green trees, and opportunities to take photos

to guide in stretching, breathing, and just being fun and

against new spring backdrops. Pose with favorite Great

silly.

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Christine Carter, Ph.D.*, is a sociologist and happiness expert at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center. She is the author of “RAISING HAPPINESS: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents.” She teaches online happiness classes that help parents bring more joy into their own lives and the lives of their children, and she writes an award-winning blog for *Greater Good* (www.greatergoodparents.org).

How to Calm a Stressed-Out Teen

by Christine Carter, Ph.D. Do you have a stressed-out teenager? You aren’t alone! A recent survey by the American Psychological Association found that fewer than half of teenagers today would rate their mental health as “excellent” or “very good.” And it doesn’t seem to get better as they get older; more than 90 percent of today’s 18 to 21-year-olds experienced at least one physical or emotional symptom due to stress in the past month (this is very high compared to other adults).

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[ PARENTING ] school or in their own lives—they’re also stressed about

response to the circumstance.

the world they are living in. For example, three quarters say they are stressed about mass and school shootings.

This is the “name it to tame it” technique, and research

More than half feel stressed about the current political

shows that when we label our emotions, we are better

climate, and more than two-thirds feel significantly

able to integrate them.

stressed about our nation’s future. About 60 percent are worried about the rise in suicide rates, about climate change and global warming, and about the separation and deportation of immigrant and migrant families. The list goes on and on and on.

Step 4. Ask them about the source of their stress.

We can encourage them to look for what might be new or changing in their lives. Similarly, we can help them look for sources of unpredictability or to identify ways that they feel threatened. And we can ask them about

It’s no wonder that our teens are suffering. Fortunately,

the things in their lives that feel out of their control.

there is a lot that we can do for our stressed-out teens.

Here are seven steps for helping teens cope from my free eBook, How to Help Teens Deal with Stress (download the

Step 5. Encourage them to classify their type of stress.

In addition to searching for sources of stress, it can be

full guide here). helpful for teens to classify the particular strain of stress Step 1: Confront the Stress.

The most important thing to do when a teen is anxious or suffering is to help them confront the stressor or worry

they are experiencing. Is it related to a negative life event? Is it the result of cumulative day-to-day difficulties that are beyond the teen’s control? Or is it a daily hassle?

rather than avoid it. Why? Because avoidance fuels anxiety.

Step 6. Help them see that their stress can be helpful.

Stress is healthy and helpful when it creates enough

Step 2: Ask them to describe the difficult circumstance.

tension and strain to foster growth.

Have them simply give you the facts of the hard place they are in, and in response, show genuine curiosity

Step 7. Practice acceptance.

about their experience. You are not trying to take away

When we accept the reality of a difficult or scary

their pain. The goal is for them to feel seen and heard by

situation and our limited control, it allows our kids to do

you.

the same. Importantly, acceptance also frees them up to move forward, rather than remaining paralyzed by

Step 3. Help them identify how they are feeling in

difficulty and fear.

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DISNEY ON A DIME GRAND LEGACY AT THE PARK OFFERS COMFORTABLE LODGING JUST A FIVE-MINUTE WALK FROM THE PARK

by Elizabeth Kang

There’s no way around it — Disneyland tickets are expensive!

What’s a family on a budget to do? While discounted park tickets are hard to come by, there’s an easier way to cut costs while still experiencing all the magical moments Disney is known for. I’m talking lodging, of course, and Grand Legacy at the Park offers some of the biggest bang for your buck that we've experienced.

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CLOSE PROXIMITY AT UNBELIEVABLE PRICES The best way to pinch pennies on a Disneyland vacay is to save big on your hotel. Grand Legacy at the Park is a wonderful way to do just that. This hotel is directly across the street from the park, only a five minute walk! No need to shell out hundreds of dollars at a Disneyland Resort hotel, because Grand Legacy provides close proximity at a fraction of the cost, with room rates starting around $150 in the low season.

BIG AMENITIES, SMALL COST Your money goes a long way at Grand Legacy, where kids can splash away in the oversized heated pool and exciting splash zone, while parents relax on loungers or catch up on emails using the hotel’s free high speed wifi. Whether you need extra pool towels or toiletries, hotel employees are happy to assist. We found the service at the hotel to be warm, gracious and hospitable. Rooms are clean, modern and ultra comfortable, equipped with microwaves, refrigerators, safes, and flatscreen TVs. Some rooms also boast amazing views of the Disneyland fireworks at night, which is always an incredible sight.

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BUDGET-FRIENDLY BITES Another way to keep your wallet happy on a Disney vacation is to budget on food, and Grand Legacy offers an abundance of affordable options, just steps away. Some of these fast-casual and family friendly offerings include Pink Pig Boba & Pizza, Anytime Hawaiian, Panda Kitchen, and Alpha Gift Mart, for forgotten toothbrushes or last-minute souvenirs. The hotel also boasts amazing rooftop views of the park at The FIFTH, located on the top of the hotel’s main tower. The FIFTH Rooftop Restaurant & Bar is a lively restaurant and bar offering delicious food and drinks. The giant towering nachos are a popular choice, along with juicy burgers and crispy Ahi tuna tacos.

The Grand Legacy hotel is an excellent choice for budget-friendly lodging that doesn't feel like a budget hotel, and the proximity to the park simply can’t be beat.

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BERKELEY/ECHO LAKE

Tri-Valley YMCA 6693 Sierra Ln 925.263.4444

Berkeley Echo Lake Camp Lot #7 Echo Lakes Rd 530.659.7539 www.cityofberkeley.info/camps

CASTRO VALLEY Skye Valley Training Camp 10250 Crow Canyon Rd 925.858.8825 www.psi.lunariffic.com/~skyev0/

Sarah’s Science 21525 Knoll Way 510.581.3739 www.sarahscience.com

Camp Kee Tov 1301 Oxford St. 510.842.2372 www.campkeetov.org

Bee Best Learning 20394 San Miguel Ave. 510.728.2110 www.beebestlearning.com

Habitot 2065 Kittredge St. 510.647.1111 ext. 14 www.habitot.org/museum/ activities_camps.html

Monkey Business Camp 2880A Sacramento St. 510.540.6025

www.trivalley.ymcaeastbay.org

Extended Day Child Care 8435 Davona Dr. 925.829.4043 & 7997 Vomac Rd. 925.551.8170 7243 Tamarack Dr. 925.833.0127 & 5301 Hibernia Dr. 925.803.4154 & 3300 Antone Way 925.826.5538 www.extendeddaychildcare.com

Quarry Lane School 6363 Tassajara Rd. 925.829.8000

DUBLIN

www.quarrylane.org

East Bay SPCA Animal Camp 4651 Gleason Dr. 925.479.9670

FREMONT

www.eastbayspca.org/camp

www.monkeybusinesscamp.com

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Learning Bee Summer Camp 39977 Mission Blvd.

510.226.8408 www.learningbeeusa.com

Ohlone for Kids 43600 Mission Blvd.

510.659.6000 www.ohlone.edu/org/ ohloneforkids

HAYWARD Hayward Area Recreation Park District (H.A.R.D.) Day Camps 510.881.6700 www.haywardrec.org

LIVERMORE Horizons East Equestrian Center 5111 Doolan Rd. 925.960.9696 www.showstables.com

Roy’s Magic Camp 2466 8th St. 925.455.0600 www.magiccamp.org

Camp Arroyo Taylor Family Foundation 5535 Arroyo Rd. 925.371.8401 www.ebparks.org/activities/ daycamps/parks_camp_arroyo

Saddle to Ride Topline Training, Inc. 4180 Greenville Rd. 925.858.3933 www.saddle2ride.com

Xtreme Force Dance Company 847 Rincon Ave. 925.455.6054 www.xtremeforcedanceco.com

Double Diamond Sports Academy 2272 Research Dr. 925.830.9765 www. doublediamondsportsacademy. com

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Camps Valley Montessori 1273 N. Livermore Ave. 925.455.8021

MOCHA Summer Camp 1625 Clay St. 510.465.8770

Contra Costa County

www.valleymontessorischool.com

www.mocha.org

OAKLAND

PLEASANTON

Lakeshore Children’s Center 3534 Lakeshore Ave. 510.893.4048

Gingerbread Preschool 4333 Black Ave. 925.931.3430

City of Antioch Parks and Recreation 213 “F” St 925.776.7070

www.lakeshorechildrenscenter.org

www.ci.pleasanton.ca.us/services/ recreation/gb/gbhome.html

Urban Adventure Camp 5701 Cabot Dr. 510.339.0676 www.urbanadventurecamps.com

Extended Day Child Care 5199 Black Ave. 925.846.5519 www.extendeddaychildcare.com

East Bay SPCA Animal Camp 8323 Baldwin St. 510.569.0702 www.eastbayspca.org/camp

Quarry Lane School - East 3750 Boulder St. 925.846.9400 www.quarrylane.org

California Shakespeare Theater Summer Conservatory 4660 Harbord Dr. 510.809.3293 www.calshakes.org/v4/educ/ summer_conservatories.html

Oakland Summer ZooCamp 9777 Golf Links Rd. 510.632.9525 www.oaklandzoo.org

Lake Merritt Boating Center Youth Boating Camps 568 Bellevue Ave. 510.238.2196 www.sailoakland.com

Raskob Learning Institute 3520 Mountain Blvd.

510.436.1275 www.raskobinstitute.org

Kids N’ Dance 3840 Macarthur Blvd.

510.531.4400 www.kidsndance.com

Quarry Lane School - West 4444B Black Ave. 925.462.6300 www.quarrylane.org

ANTIOCH

City of Danville Camps 420 Front St. 925.314.3400 www.danville.ca.gov/Recreation/ Camps

www.ci.antioch.ca.us/Recreation

Four Stars Gymnastics Academy 1799 Vineyard Dr. 925.778.8650

Vision Tech Camps 117 Town & Country Dr. St. B 925.699.9602 www.visiontechcamps.com

Athenian Summer Programs at Athenian School 2100 Mt. Diablo Scenic Blvd 925.837.5375

www.fourstarsgym.com

CONCORD City of Concord Parks and Recreation 925.671.3404

www.athenian.org

www.cityofconcord.org/recreation/ summercamps

Camp Concord in South Lake Tahoe 1000 Mt. Tallac Trailhead Rd South Lake Tahoe 530.541.1203

Yang Fan Academy 4160 Hacienda Dr. St. 100 925.699.4664

www.ci.concord.ca.us/recreation/ camp

www.yfacademy.org

Backyard Explorers Corner of Babel Ln & Cowell Rd. 925.671.3118

City of Pleasanton Summer Programs 200 Old Bernal Ave. 925.931.3436

DANVILLE

Color Bundles 301 Hartz Ave. #104 925.727.3137 www.colorbundles.com

Camp Brainy Bunch 741 Brookside Dr. 510.548.4800 www.campbrainybunch.com

Quest Therapeutic Camps Charlotte Wood Middle School 600 El Captain Dr. 925.743.2900 www.questcamps.com

www.cityofconcord.org/recreation/ summercamps/backyardexp.htm

www.ci.pleasanton.ca.us

Expressions Dance & Art 3015 Hopyard Rd. Ste. I 925.200.9908 www.expressions-dance-arts.com/

Young Ivy Academy 5460 Sunol Blvd (#3) 925.548.0188 www.youngivyacademy.com

Inspire Music Academy 2340 Santa Rita Rd. Ste. 7 925.461.3266 www.inspiremusicacademy.com

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Summer LAFAYETTE California Shakespeare Theater Summer Conservatory 1000 Upper Happy Valley Rd 510.809.3293 www.calshakes.org/v4/educ/ summer_conservatories.html

Sienna Ranch 3232 Deer Hill Rd. 925.283.6311 www.siennaranch.net

Sherman Swim School 1075 Carol Ln. 925.283.2100 www.shermanswim.com

Kids N’ Dance 3369 Mt. Diablo 925.284.7388 www.kidsndance.com

www.frenchforfun.com

Lafayette Tennis Club 3125 Camino Diablo 925.937.2582 www.lafayettetennis.com

Husky House for Kids 3855 Happy Valley Rd. 925.283.7100 www.huskyhouseforkids.org/ summer-camp-programs

Lafayette Community Center Camps 500 Saint Mary’s Rd. 925.284.2232 www.lafayetterec.org

Roughing It Day Camp 1010 Oak Hill Rd. 925.283.3795 www.roughingit.com

BandWorks Summer Camp 28 Orinda Way 925.254.2445

Camp ARF for Kids 2890 Mitchell Dr. 925.256.1273

www.bandworks.com/summer_ orinda.php

www.youth.arf.net

Orinda Academy 19 Altarinda Rd. 925.478.4504

Merriewood Children’s Center 561 Merriewood Dr. 925.284.2121

www.orindaacademy.org

www.merriewood.org

www.campdoodles.com

MARTINEZ

PLEASANT HILL

John Muir Mountain Day Camp John Muir National Historic Site 925.680.8807

City of Pleasant Hill Camps 147 Gregory Ln 925.682.0896

www.johnmuirassociation.org/ muircamp/index.php

French For Fun 3381 Mt. Diablo Blvd 925.283.9822

ORINDA

Rancho Saguaro 1050 Pereira Rd. 925.788.5200 www.ranchosaguaro.com

MORAGA Gaels Summer Camp 1928 St Mary’s Rd. 925.631.4FUN www.smcgaels.com

Camp Saklan 1678 School St. 925.376.7900 www.saklan.org/about-us/campsaklan

OAKLEY City of Oakley Parks and Recreation 3231 Main St. 925.625.7044 www.ci.oakley.ca.us

Diamond Hills Sports Club 1510 Neroly Rd. 925.420.4575 www.sparetimeclubs.com

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Camp Doodle 66 St. Stephens Dr.

www.pleasanthillrec.com

PITTSBURG City of Pittsburg Parks and Recreation 300 Presido Ln. 925.252.4842 www.ci.pittsburg.ca.us

SAN RAMON City of San Ramon Camps 2226 Camino Ramon 925.973.2500 www.ci.san-ramon.ca.us

School of Rock San Ramon 460 Montgomery Street 925.415.3340 510.207.9281 bit.ly/SORsanramoncamps

Adventure Day Camp Dorris-Eaton School One Annabel Lane 925.937.6500 www.adventuredaycamp.com

WALNUT CREEK Adventure Day Camp Seven Hills School 975 North San Carlos Dr. 925.937.6500 www.adventuredaycamp.com

Castle Rock Arabians 1350 Castle Rock Rd. 925.933.3701 www.castlerockarabians.com

City of Walnut Creek Summer Camps 1666 North Main St. 925.943.5899 www.walnut-creek.org

COPA STC 2640 Shadelands Dr. Walnut Creek, CA 925.357.8999 www.copastc.com

Lindsay Wildlife Museum Summer Science Camp 1931 First Ave. 925.935.1978 www.wildlife-museum.org

Multiple Locations The Growing Room Academy Various locations around the Bay Offers: 3,4 and 5 Day Camps 925.837.4392 www.thegrowingroom.org

Camp Rocks: Girl Scouts of Northern California Offered at 5 locations: San Rafael (Camp Bothin), Santa Cruz (Skylark Ranch), San Jose (Camp Metro Day Camp), North Lake Tahoe (Deer Lake), and the Sierra Nevada Mountains (Sugar Pine) 800.447.4475 ext. 2091 www.camprocks.org

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Camps Mad Science Camp Offered at several local Recreation sites and Community Centers 925.687.1900 www.mtdiablo.madscience.org

Steve and Kate’s Camp Danville, Dublin, Fremont, Oakland, Walnut Creek and Berkeley 415.389.5437 www.steveandkatescamp.com

Lango Language Summer Camps Serving Alamo, Blackhawk, Brentwood, Briones, Canyon, Clayton, Concord, Danville, Martinez, Moraga, Orinda, Pacheco, Pittsburg, Pleasant Hill, San Ramon, Walnut Creek and surrounding regions 888.445.2646 www.langokids.com/parent/kidslanguage-summer-camps

Camp Galileo Alameda, Alamo, Berkeley, San Ramon, Walnut Creek, Fremont, Oakland, Lafayette and Orinda 510.595.7293

Club Sport Fremont, San Ramon, Pleasanton and Walnut Creek 925.938.8700

www.galileo-learning.com

Camp Edmo Alameda, Fremont, and Oakland 415.282.6673

KinderCare Walnut Creek, Concord, Danville, Martinez and Clayton 888.523.6765 www.kindercare.com/ summercamp

Viva el Espanol!

Lafayette, Piedmont, Pleasanton & San Anselmo 925.962.9177 www.vivaelespanol.org/ summerprograms.php

www.clubsports.com

www.campedmo.org

Kids’ Carpentry Berkeley, Lafayette, Alameda, Oakland, Alamo & Walnut Creek 510.524.9232

Out of Area Golden Arrow Camps 644 Pollasky Avenue, Ste. 100 Clovis, 93612 800.554.CAMP www.goldarrowcamp.com

Coppercreek Camp 1887 Williams Valley Rd. Greenville, 95947 800.350.0006 www.coppercreek.com

Camp Unalayee 3921 East Bayshore Rd. Palo Alto 650.969.6313 www.unalayee-summer-camp.com

CYO Summer Camp 2136 Bohemian Hwy Occidental, 95465 707.874.0200

TechKnowHow Kids Dublin, Berkeley, Fremont, Livermore, Oakland & Pleasanton 650.638.0500

Stratford School Summer Sports Camp & Enrichment Danville, Fremont, Los Gatos, Morgan Hill and Pleasanton 925.737.0001

www.techknowhowkids.com

www.stratfordschools.com

888.709.8324

Almaden Equestrian Center 20100 Almaden Rd. San Jose 408.927.0232 www.almadenequestriancenter.net

Silver Creek Sportsplex 800 Embedded Way San Jose 408.224.8774 www.gotoplex.com

College For Kids 1700 W. Hillsdale Blvd.

San Mateo 650.574.6149 www.collegeforkids-smccd.com

www.camp.cccyo.org

Mountain Camp Woodside 302 Portola Rd. Portola Valley 650.576.2267 www.mountaincampwoodside.com

www.kidscarpentry.com

SF Zoo Camp Sloat Blvd. & the Great Highway San Francisco 415.753.7080 www.sfzoo.org

School of Rock Summer Camp 711 South B St. San Mateo, San Jose & Palo Alto 650.347.3474 www.schoolofrock.com

Camp Tawonga 131 Steuart Ste. 460 San Francisco 415.543.2267 www.tawonga.org

Kennolyn Camps 8205 Glen Haven Rd. Soquel 831.479.6714 www.kennolyncamps.com

iD Tech Camp Moraga, Concord, Livermore, Berkeley and other Bay Area locations www.idtech.com

Sky hawk’s Sports Camp Various locations around the Bay Area 800.804.3509 www.skyhawks.com

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Kid-Friendly Livermore Valley Wineries

by Elizabeth Kang

A Guide for When to Bring The Kids, and When to Leave Them Home As a resident of Livermore, one of the most popular questions I see asked in social media forums is “Which Livermore wineries are kid-friendly?”

That’s a good question, and the answers seem to be constantly changing.

Ever popular Murreita’s Well, for instance, used to be kid-friendly, but recently has changed to an adult’s only venue. Intimate Dante Robere appears on first glance to be adults-only, but upon questioning, actually welcomes children wholeheartedly.

It’s sometimes confusing and hard to keep up with which wineries welcome children and which don’t, so we’ve made a handy guide to keep them straight. Now, whether you’ve hired a babysitter or need to pack snack bags and crayons, any weekend can be a wine-tasting weekend in Livermore!

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Bring the Kids!

Garré Vineyards — As one of the only wineries in Livermore offering sit-down dining, Garré is an excellent choice when tasting with kids-in-tow. Nothing complains more than a hungry child, and Garré satisfies grumbling tummies with kid-friendly menu items such as mac’ n’ cheese, pizza and burgers. Adults will find plenty to please the palette, too, with salads, pastas, sandwiches and, of course, wine. Children are welcome in the outdoor tasting area, as well. There are usually friendly dogs around to pet, and a grassy area to explore.

McGrail Winery — McGrail welcomes children with open arms, and their expansive outdoor areas are perfect for restless little bodies to wriggle. Adults love the delicious

Dante Robere Vineyards — This small and intimate winery is tucked away across from the entrance to Sycamore Park, so it’s a great stop after a morning of family biking or trail walking. Children are welcome in the front grassy area, and they also allow outside food. There are juice boxes and snacks available for little ones, too.

Retzlaff Vineyards — Popular and always packed, Retzlaff offers beautiful outdoor seating with picnic tables and live music on weekends. Children are not allowed in the tasting area, but they are permitted in the picnic area as long as they stay seated. There are usually food trucks available for purchasing refreshments and lunch, and guests are allowed to bring their own food, as well.

Darcie Kent — Another family friendly winery popular

Cabernet Sauvignon wines the winery is known for, and

with picnickers is Darcie Kent, boasting panoramic

little ones enjoy sprawling out on the lawns to nibble on a

views and shaded picnic tables. Although this winery

bring-your-own picnic. The winery also often features live

welcomes children, they do ask that minors remain

music on weekends.

seated during tastings and that they do not wander.

Boaventura de Caíres Vineyard — One of the most “kid-

3 Steves Winery — Causal and fun, 3 Steve’s is a great

friendliest” wineries around, Boaventura offers a fun, laid-

option for wine tasting with the family. This small

back atmosphere with plenty of outdoor spaces, farm

boutique winery is owned by three friends, all named

animals, bocce ball, and views. Kids will get a kick out

— you guessed it — Steve. With 360-degree views and

of exploring the quirky winery grounds, and adults can

laid-back vibes, 3 Steve’s is a wonderful little winery big

relax knowing their children are welcome and wanted.

on fun. They even host family movie nights!

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Leave them Home Murrieta’s Well — Offering delicious wine and bites, Murrieta’s Well is one of the most popular wineries in Livermore, and is always packed….with adults only.

Leave the kids home during this visit, and enjoy amazing wine and delicious food like cheese-plates, charcuterie, and flatbread pizzas.

Wente Vineyards — As the most renowned winemaker in Livermore, a visit to Wente Vineyards is well worth the cost of hiring a babysitter. With beautiful grounds and even better wine, this adults-only winery is always a memorable and elegant experience.

Wood Family Vineyards — Wood Family Vineyards offers a lively atmosphere with live music and great Zinfandels.

Because most of the tasting venue is indoors, it’s best to come without the kids to this winery. Dogs, on the other hand, are popular wine-tasting companions here.

Las Positas Winery — Although technically not adults only, Las Positas Winery is best experienced without kids-intow, when you can enjoy sitting on the beautiful outdoor patio overlooking vineyards and rolling hills. Kids are, however, allowed in the seating area near the parking spaces.

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Four Daily Doses of Quality

by Emily Rivera At age 42, I found myself celebrating my birthday in the Emergency Room, processing the news, that I was having a heart attack. All I could think about was my three children. Even within the most traumatic moment, I found myself ignoring my needs and focusing on them, an honorable approach to living, but not one that fully promotes the ability to enjoy the gift of living.

Since then, I have committed to feeding four daily doses of quality. These doses of quality have helped me create balance and peace for myself, which Emily Rivera has been professionally supporting individuals of varying ages and backgrounds find guidance. Offering them answers, tools, and strategies into creating a life of fulfilment, freedom, and abundance. She has coached via private and group sessions, events, published work, and on stage.

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in turn has given me the ability to lead more productively. This commitment has not just healed my heart, but it has also enabled me to create more joy for me and my children.

Before I share these four doses of quality, I would like to speak to two negating ideas that I hear often. One, mom’s can very quickly try to convince themselves that there is no need to create personal balance and peace,

[ PARENTING ] if taking care of responsibilities is manageable, why

This is something that is more easily accessible than

interrupt what seems functional. I get it, I was once in

we think. I will share three tools for this. One, take time

that space, until my body shut down. Second thing

to add two to three minutes of deep breathing three

I hear from mom’s is that there is no time for peace

to five times a day. Which you can do while you drive,

and balance. Which, the reality is, that not taking time

drink your coffee, take a shower, or even when you are

for these things actually create interruptions. These

doing your cooking. Science shows that there is a large

interruptions negatively impact productivity, focus,

majority of us that do not take deep enough inhalations,

mindset, and emotions. Which actually rob of us of time.

which creates lack of oxygen flow. Lack of oxygen can create mental fog, lack of energy and focus, tiredness,

The four doses of quality that can lead you into balance

and crankiness. So incorporating deep breathing into

and peace are: Clarity of focus, Mindset recovery,

your daily routine, will add a boost of energy. Secondly,

Energy boost, and Letting go. If time is taken to feed

add more live foods. This includes superfoods, fruits,

these, balance and peace are the inevitable outcome.

and vegetables. These can be made into daily snacks that you can enjoy throughout your day. Thirdly, stretch.

Clarity Focus: Take at least 10 to 15 minutes daily, ideally

Stretching can promote a more productive biochemistry,

before midday, to list your intentions for the day. Include

physical balance, and a form of stress release. This does

answering these questions, How do I want to feel? What

not mean you have to commit to a Yoga like practice

would I like to see more of today? What can I appreciate

but explore incorporating two to three minutes of

in this moment? By taking this time to pause, you begin

periodic stretches into your day.

to guide your focus and the areas of your mind that can start working on your behalf to lead you into the clarity

Letting go: This is something that is encouraged by a

and focus identified.

variety of professionals, but understandably, can feel very challenging. I personally make a list once a week

Mindset Recovery: The mind can be a tricky place, and

of the things that I can control and a list of the things

we are all susceptible to the mind traps that can occur if

that I can’t control that need my attention and/or are

we do not take time to intentionally guide our thoughts

taking my attention. For the things I can control, I add a

and attention. So ideally it is good to add a check in

list under each of at least two to three things that I can

at least three to five times a day, once you identify the

do to take care of them by the end of the week. From

mindset goals. You first begin by taking 5 to 10 minutes

there, I commit to taking action. For the things that I

early in the day to write down 3 mindset goals, which you

can’t control, I circle the items that I can ask others for

can repeat from the day before. From there you repeat,

help, and then I commit to asking for help by the end of

affirm, and as best as possible, embody the statements.

the week. Then the other things that are in the list that

Here are a few examples for the statements: I choose to

are out of my control, and I am not able to get help for,

see the resourcefulness within me, or I am unstoppable,

I bless them and invite for something greater to work on

every time I choose to see the good in me. To ensure

my behalf to take care of them. And from there, I audibly

that you promote the best outcomes with this mindset

say, “I know this is out of my control, so I choose to focus

recovery, it is ideal to add at least three to five reminders

on what I can control and let this go.” From there I am

on your phone. When these reminders go off, you pause

hyper committed into not going into worry about these

and you take a moment to repeat, affirm, and as best as

things that I can’t control. If it comes to mind during the

possible, embody the statements that were set earlier in

day, I go back to re-affirming the statement above. These

the day.

four doses of quality have led to positive results in my life, and I trust it can do the same for you. They all promote

Energy Boost: Oh do we moms need our energy boost.

more joy with the balance and peace that get created.

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Easter Basket Ideas For Little Ones!

BASKET FILLER IDEAS WE LOVE

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[ PARENTING ]

Lynne Azarchi is the author of the book The Empathy Advantage: Coaching Kids to be Kind, Respectful and Successful. She is also the executive director of Kidsbridge Tolerance Center outside of Trenton, New Jersey—a nonprofit organization dedicated to fostering bullying prevention, anti-bias, diversity appreciation, empathy, and empowerment strategies for youth.

Over her career, Azarchi has educated more than 30,000 students, won many awards and been published both in newspapers and academic journals.

For more information visit www. lynneazarchi.com.

Listening qnd Talking to Your Kids About Ukraine with Empathy

by Lynne Azarchi Especially for empathetic persons, these are tough times today: the anxious situation in Ukraine, COVID, the fires, hurricanes and floods that accost our planet in rising intensity. I can barely watch the news-- it all seems bad.

Why the focus on empathy? Research demonstrates that people who can “read” feelings and other nonverbal cues are more emotionally adjusted, better liked, and more successful. They make better leaders, have lower rates of substance abuse, and higher levels of academic achievement. Teaching empathy – the ability to ‘walk in someone else’s shoes’ and understand what people different from ourselves are going through – is one of the greatest foundations and skills that you can bestow upon your child/student.

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[ PARENTING ] Here are some helpful tips for your children or students

with thoughtful questions to prompt discussion and

during challenging times to discuss the situation in

answers.

Ukraine. Most inculcate empathy: • Visit the library for books on refugees to foster empathy • Active listening – sit down face-to-face and focus (put cell phones away)

• Face-to-face: One person talks, and the other demonstrates both attentiveness and good eye

in your children for families that are fleeing their homes and countries.

• Finally, role model action. Together, choose and discuss where you want to donate to support refugees.

contact.

For more info, refer to the National Traumatic Child Stress • Reflect back what you heard or ask related questions

Network talking-to-children-about-war.pdf

about what the person expressed.

Over the past twenty years, I have taught empathy to • Occasionally agree or do “The Nod.” (use your body

more than thirty thousand youth and their educators.

to affirm the youth talking by nodding).

Through this work, I have put together a list of fun • Use empathy to ‘walk in their shoes’. Some kids might be triggered by news or conversations about war or violence. Less can be more.

• If your child is feeling anxious, mindfulness and stress reduction resources are available on many websites.

activities and resources parents can use with their children – from toddlers to teens – to build their empathy muscles.

'A door closes and a window opens'; empathy provides a unique emotional springboard to do better than we have in the past. It is time for all of us to focus on creating

• Let them know that many countries around the world

and coaching empathetic human beings-- young and

are united fighting to protect democracy. Don’t forget

old. Teaching empathy is one of the greatest foundations

that Ukraine is a democracy and how special that is in

and gifts that you can bestow upon your child. Adding

Eastern Europe.

empathetic activities and discussions to your family’s routine will not only give you new ways to connect with

• Consider viewing the news and documentaries. For proper processing, you must watch together with kids

your kids, but will help you help them to become kinder, more empathetic youth.

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