JUNE 2022
Our Kids’ Mental Health –the Covid Casualty We Need
GOLFING SCOTTSDALE
Where to Stay, Where to Play
Volume 9 / Issue 96
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How To Make a Fight With Your Partner Into a Positive Learning Experience for Your Child
Golfing Scottsdale — Where to Stay, Where to Play
Summer Camp Guide
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Glamping Getaway — Wildhaven, Sonoma 48-hour-weekend-Itinerary
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13 Year Old’s ADHD Behavior Drives People Crazy!
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Local Life & Style for the East Bay Area
Publisher/Editor
Social Media Manager and Sales Manager
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Editor’s Note Summer is here and we couldn’t be more excited. Longer days, warmer weather, friends, family and fun. What more can we ask for? Our favorite part of summer (or any season, for that matter) is traveling! Whether it be with the family, a couple’s retreat or a girl’s/guy’s getaway, we highly encourage you to get out and GO! We will be sure to continue to push out travel inspiration all summer long, but also be sure to check out our travel tab on our website and go to our Instagram page (@activefamilymagazine) and our Facebook page (@ activefamilymag) for more ideas. Looking to keep the kiddos busy this summer? Check out our Summer Camp Guide on page 26. Plenty of ideas no matter what your child is in to! Enjoy the sunshine and summer months ahead! Best, Tracie Brown Vollgraf Editor info@activefamilymag.com
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How To Make a Fight With Your Partner Into a Positive Learning Experience for Your Child by Dr. Laura Markham "Dr. Laura.... In your last post (How To Do Damage Control When You Fight In Front of Your Kids), you said that when parents fight in front of their children, it makes the children anxious. But I read that fighting is fine as long as you "make up" afterward and the kids see that."
Dr. Laura Markham is the author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting. She earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University and has worked as a parenting coach with countless parents across the English-speaking world, both in person and via phone. You can find Dr. Laura online at AhaParenting.com, the website of Aha! Moments for parents of kids from birth through the teen years, where she offers a free daily inspiration email to parents.
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It sounds like you're referring to the research by Mark Cummings, reported in Po Bronson's book Nurture Shock. Bronson reports that as long as parents "made up" with each other afterwards, the children easily recovered from the incident. BUT as Cummings the researcher stressed, the parents were disagreeing, not yelling in these scripted encounters, so there were no raised voices, insults, or disrespect. By contrast, when parents' fights include yelling or disrespect, it does make children anxious, and in fact previous studies by Cummings have established that such fights, especially when repeated, are damaging to kids. In this more hopeful research, Cummings wanted to find out whether "plain old everyday confl ict" -- just ordinary non-yelling disagreement -- was also a problem. So he scripted encounters in which the parents had a difference of opinion but did not yell at each other. As it turned out, even these disagreements were very upsetting to the children who witnessed them. So yes, even non-yelling disagreements where parents are in confl ict are hard on kids.
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our disagreements with respect and good will, looking for
the children also saw the adults "resolving" the argument
solutions instead of blame. If we yell or express disrespect,
with affection, the kids were fine afterwards. In fact, I
it's an emotional risk factor for children, and simply
think it teaches children important lessons, to see parents
"making up" in front of the child does not ameliorate the
disagree and make a repair.
negative effects.
So the takeaway is that any time you have any
And of course, respect and refraining from yelling is best
disagreement with your partner in front of your child --
for our partnerships, too. Anger is a message to us about
even without yelling -- it's essential that you affectionately
what we need. There's always a way to ask for what
and explicitly "repair" the relationship.
we need without attacking the other person. It's never
The following scenarios of parents "fighting" are actually terrific modeling for your child. 1. One parent snaps at the other, then immediately course corrects. “I’m so sorry – I’m just feeling stressed – can we try that over? What I meant to say was…” Kids learn from this modeling that anyone can get angry, but that we can take responsibility for our own emotions, apologize, and re-connect. You'll see your child start to apologize and course correct, too. 2. Parents work through a difference of opinion without
appropriate to dump anger on another person, in front of your kids or not. Not so easy to do? You're right. Most of us never learned how to manage our own emotions, express our needs without attacking, and handle conflict in a healthy way. But every couple can learn healthy conflict resolution. And you can repair things with your children if you've been fighting in front of them. We'll get into these questions in my next article! 12 Keys To Healthy Partnership Conflict Resolution When you Live With Kids
getting triggered and raising their voices. For instance, if you and your partner have a good-
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listen to each other, and work toward a win/win decision – all respectfully and with affection. 3. Parents notice that they have a conflict brewing and agree to discuss it later. Hopefully, this happens before there’s any yelling -- or you’ll be modeling yelling. And hopefully, you can close the interaction with a big, public, hug. If you're too mad, first take some space to calm down and then prioritize the hug in front of your child, with a family mantra like “It’s okay to get mad. You can be mad at someone and still love them at the same time . We always work things out.” This takes maturity, but it models self-regulation and repair. And it's crucial to restoring your child's sense of safety.
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GOLFING SCOTTSDALE WHERE TO STAY, WHERE TO PLAY
by Elizabeth Kang
Home to dozens of fabulous resorts, countless trendy restaurants, a stunning desert climate and some of the best golfing in the country, Scottsdale is one of our favorite golfing getaways. Just a two-hour flight away, this popular vacation area is easy to get to, affordable, and always offers plenty of fun in the sun.
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STAY Fairmont Scottsdale Princess While you can’t go wrong staying at one of the many 5-star resorts in the area, we keep returning to the stunning Fairmont Scottsdale Princess. his sprawling resort is fit for royalty, with six sparkling pools, five top-ranked restaurants, spacious accommodations and close proximity to numerous championship golf courses. Accommodations at the Fairmont are luxurious, with a space to fit everyone’s needs. There are 750 guest rooms in total, including two Presidential Suites, 66 Fairmont Gold Rooms and 122 Casitas. Every room boasts oversized bathrooms, cloud-soft luxury bedding, a refreshment area, and a designated workspace. The pools at the Fairmont Scottsdale are swoon-worthy, and each pool offers a different vibe and scene. For actionpacked, kid-friendly fun, the Sonoran Splash waterslides pool is always a good time, with a DJ playing upbeat tunes, daily foam parties, and various hosted games. The Sunset Pool offers a more relaxed vibe, with its white sand beach, fewer crowds, and poolside bar service. For a kid-free, instagram-worthy scene, head to the Adult Pool, where swan floats drift lazily and the views are incomparable. Guests are spoiled for choice when it comes to delicious dining options at the Fairmont Scottsdale, including renowned Michael Mina eatery Bourbon Steak, refined MexicanAmerican La Hacienda, the lively Toro Latin Restaurant and Rum Bar, and the casual and family friendly Ironwood American Kitchen. A visit to the Fairmont Scottsdale would JUNE 2022 | ACTIVE FAMIL Y 7
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be incomplete without a treatment at the award-winning Well & Being Spa. Recognized as one of USA Today's "10 Best" Reader’s Choice Top 10 Winner Best Hotel Spa, the Well & Being Spa offers a variety of innovative spa treatments inspired by nature's four elements – air, water, earth, wood and fire. The spa is tucked away in a tranquil space boasting a rooftop adults-only pool, spa-cuisine service, grotto waterfall, steam room, dry sauna, fitness center, and much more. If you’re traveling with children and you want to relax in the spa, play a few rounds of golf, or simply need some quiet time, the Trailblazers Kid’s Club is a wonderful option. This kids’ club program at the Fairmont Scottsdale is open to children ages 5-12 and includes a stimulating day of games, swimming, and crafts. Summertime brings a ton of fun for families, and from Memorial Day to Labor Day, guests can enjoy fireworks every Saturday night, evening poolside movies, laser tag, a kids’ welcome gift for each child, thrilling zip lines, a year-round rock climbing wall, and much more. 8 ACTIVE FAMIL Y | JUNE 2022
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PLAY We-Ko-Pa Named after the surrounding mountains in the stunning Sonoran Desert, We-Ko-Pa translates to “the four peaks.” This highly acclaimed golf club is located northeast of Scottsdale, on a site developed by the Fort McDowell Yavapai Nation, and boasts two award-winning, championship courses — Cholla and Saguaro. While both courses offer uniquely different layouts, they both boast sweeping views of mountains, and are surrounded by stunning native desert flora, and fauna such as coyote, rattlesnakes, and roadrunners. The courses boast perfectly maintained greens that are well protected by bunkers, washes and gullies. They are demanding, challenging, and a ton of fun to play. The Cholla course is a breathtaking 7200-yard course, built by noted golf course architect Scott Miller, offering scenery so idyllic that it may distract a player if they're not careful. Offering tees to suite every level of player, this beautifully maintained course ensures that every shot is a pleasure to hit, with fairways that allow for generous landing areas. The Saguaro course is also an award-winner, most notably recognized by Golf Digest, which gave it the 4th spot in its 2020-2021 list of the “Best in State Rankings: Arizona.” Designed by Bill Coore and Ben Crenshaw, the Saguaro is an 18hole course less than 7,000 yards. Unlike the more traditional target-style Cholla course, this course was designed for walking, built with greens situated near to the next tee. We-Ko-Pa offers a first class club house with an excellent golf shop staffed by some of the nicest people we have met in golf. The We-Ko-Pa Grille not only offers excellent food and beverage, but also a stunning view of the Sonoran Desert. JUNE 2022 | ACTIVE FAMIL Y 9
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The grille is open daily for breakfast from 6:30am until 10:30am and lunch from 10:30am — 6:00pm. Expect to find delicious, American cuisine with a southwest twist, and innovative cocktails such as the Ancho Chile Paloma 13, made with Cazadores Blanco Tequila, Ancho Reyes Chile Liqueur, Pink Grapefruit Soda, Chili-Paprika Rim.
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Grayhawk Grayhawk Golf Club offers two championship 18-hole public courses, several delicious dining options, and a stylish pro golf shop. Set amongst the stunning Sonoran Desert, the two courses — Raptor and Talon — are two of the top daily fee courses in the Scottsdale area and have played host to the PGA, as well as being the current host of the NCAA Men’s and Women’s Golf Championships. The Tom Fazio-designed Raptor course boasts generous fairways and large greens with sweeping undulation. This par-72 course runs 7,151 yards from the back tees, with greens that are guarded by deep green side bunkers and grass collection areas, providing fun challenge to get up and down. The course is immaculately maintained
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[ TRAVEL ] with smooth greens that prevent any wobble or hop. Our favorite hole on the Raptor course is hole 18, which may also be the prettiest hole. Number 18 is a par 5, requiring a carry over a large waste area onto a fairway that has a generous landing area but narrows as you approach the green. The Talon course, designed by U.S. Open and PGA Champion, David Graham, and golf course architect Gary Panks, is also beautiful and fun to play, but may be tighter off the tee than the Raptor course, requiring a player to place their shots. The 6,973-yard layout on this course has greens that are large and tiered, requiring some very challenging putts. The Talon course is also kinder to off line approaches than Raptor, with easier “ups and downs.” Hole number 17 is a memorable one, being a par 3 island green that’s completely surrounded by water, with little to no bail out area. Miss the green on this hole and you have a drowned ball. The tee shot on hole number 17 may be the most fun shot of the day. The golf shop at Grayhawk is a standout, and probably one of the best we have visited. It’s stocked with an impressive and stylish lineup of both men’s and lady’s fashion, the latter of which can be limited in typical golf shops. Grayhawk also boasts two popular and sought-after dining options. Phil’s Grill offers warm, friendly service with delicious, classic cuisine, ice-cold beer and a relaxed, yet upscale atmosphere. Isabella’s boasts a lively setting and a beautiful outdoor patio with a great happy hour. Isabella’s serves delicious salads, sandwiches, pizza, fish, steaks and fresh pastas. Whether you’re an avid golfer or more of a poolside lounger, Scottsdale is a terrific choice for your next getaway. The Fairmont Scottsdale Princess is a resort you’ll want to return to, again and again.
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Our Kids’ Mental Health –the Covid Casualty We Need to Talk About by Dr. Meg Meeker May was Mental Health Awareness month. At Meeker Parenting, we always take this opportunity to seriously discuss the state of mental health and our kids because it’s such a critical part of their overall health and well-being. Sadly it seems that over the years, kids’, especially teens’, mental health has been on the decline. Making matters worse is two years of Covid-induced isolation. I have personally witnessed a rise in anxiety and depression among the Dr. Meeker is a pediatrician, who has practiced pediatric and adolescent medicine for 25 years. She is the author of six books including the best-selling Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: Ten Secrets Every Father Should Know; Boys Should Be Boys; Your Kids At Risk;, The 10 Habits of Happy Mothers: Reclaiming Our Passion, Purpose and Sanity; Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: The 30 Day Challenge and Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Lessons Mothers Need to Raise Extraordinary Men, (Ballantine) April 2014. She is a popular speaker on pediatric health issues and child-parent relationships.
patients in my practice over the past two years. The scary part is that I’ve seen it appear in kids who had no problems prior to Covid. Why is Covid affecting our kids’ mental health? There are numerous ways that Covid has negatively affected our kids’ mental health but in my experience, these are the biggest culprits: Social Media During Covid, kids have spent more time on social media, where they see their friends posting happier lives, better friends, and more attractive figures. The longer they look at social media, the more they want to look at it—it’s addicting. And the longer they look at it, the more they feel they are falling short.
Dr. Meeker is co-host and physicianin-residence of Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk Radio. She is also Assistant Clinical Professor at Michigan State University College of Human Medicine and currently teaches medical students and physicians in residency training. She is board certified with the American Board of Pediatrics and is a fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics. Dr. Meeker serves on the National Advisory Board of the Medical Institute. She has been married to her husband, Walter for 32 years. They have shared a medical practice for over 20 years. They have three grown daughters and a grown son. She lives in northern Michigan.
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All kids, especially teens, want to feel like they fit in. Social media comparison makes them feel like they don’t, and that they’re not enough. These feelings can lead to anxiety and depression. The more time spent on social media, the more likely a child or teen is to experience depression. Lack of Meaningful Relationships Kids have learned a lot about relationships during Covid. Some good, some bad. They lived with their parents 24/7 for the first time. Most of those parents were adjusting to homeschooling their kids while trying to do their jobs. The stress in these relationships skyrocketed. Some families fought. Others grew to resent each other. And those who didn’t have good family relationships to begin with were reminded of that.
[ PARENTING ] We know that people can’t survive without healthy
Second, they need us to pay close attention to them. We
intimate relationships and to the degree that Covid
must watch our kids’ moods. If they seem down, lethargic
worsened them, depression rose. Of course, this didn’t
or want to sleep a lot or spend hours alone in their rooms,
happen with all families, but for some kids, their family
we need to find out why. If they seem too happy—even
ties worsened and that will inevitably lead to mental
giddy—this isn’t always a good sign either. They may be
health issues.
hiding something.
Isolation If you have any doubt at all that your child may be While many kids amped up digital communication during Covid, they never received the critical components of healthy communication so vital to good
depressed or anxious get him help right away. You can start with your pediatrician. We handle these cases all the time.
relationships: facial expressions, body language, touch. Without these, connections don’t feel complete. This lack of connection has led to depression in many of our kids. There are many other reasons Covid has caused a mental health crisis among our kids, but these are the most important. I know this because I also saw the other side. Kids who were already spending more time with parents and siblings and less time on screens thrived
Third, let your child know that the past two years have been rough. They have caused otherwise healthy kids to struggle. Then ask your child if she has struggled in any way. If so, ask her how. Then listen. Don’t interrupt or tell her she shouldn’t feel that way. That will make her stop talking.
the best. Going into Covid, they stood on solid ground. They had well-established communication and strong relationships and, therefore, were not forging new territory.
If your child admits that she feels anxious or sad, reassure her that these feelings are normal and most importantly, tell her that help is available and that you want to work with her to find that help. Finally, ask your child if she
What can parents do about it?
agrees she needs help. You’d be surprised at how many
First, we must be honest about a child’s and adolescent’s
kids will agree once their parents have a conversation
needs and not pretend that those needs are being filled
like this with them.
outside of us. Kids need more time with us. They don’t necessarily need fun or quality time; they just need us in
Parents, use Mental Health Awareness month to become
the room more often, so they can learn how to handle
aware of your child’s mental health. They’ve likely
life during difficult times. And they need us in the room
suffered during Covid, but they need you to see it, talk to
because isolation is a child’s enemy.
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Glamping Getaway - WILDHAVEN, SONOMA by Elizabeth Kang
Ready for an idyllic, fun-filled weekend with all the nostalgia of camping, minus the hard part, like setting up a tent? Take the quick drive to Wildhaven, Sonoma, and spend the weekend making memories you won’t soon forget.
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Friday 1:00 pm. Gas Up and Head Out Wildhaven is just under a two-hour drive from the East Bay Area, but it’s Friday (Yay!) and you’ll want to give yourself a little extra time to allow for early commute traffic. 3:00 pm. Check In Check in time at Wildahven is 3 p.m., and you’ll want to be there right on time to soak in every possible minute at this gorgeous glamping resort. Book one of the heated tents directly across from the Russian River to fall asleep to peaceful sounds of flowing water. 3:30 pm. Explore! There are so many fun details to discover on Wildhaven’s picturesque 10-acre riverfront property, from the beautiful grounds and river, to the fun lawn games, such as corn hole and ladder ball. 4:00 pm. Stock Up Visit the adorable onsite market to stock up on s’mores supplies, firewood, wine, and cheese. Bring said wine and cheese back to your tent’s front patio or picnic table to enjoy an incredibly memorial happy hour. 6:00 pm. Dinner in Healdsburg The charming wine-country town of Healdsburg is only a 10-minute drive from your tent, and once there, you’ll be spoiled with delicious restaurant options. Little Saint is a great choice for gourmet, plant-based fare, and innovative cocktails. This newly opened restaurant is beautifully designed and sources all of its fresh produce from nearby Single Thread Farms.
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9:00 pm. Fireside Chats and S’mores
at one of the nearby wineries before lunch. Dry Creek
Once back at your tent, grab your s’mores supplies from
Vineyard is a great option, because it can be enjoyed
the Wildhaven market and head over to the communal
with or without kids in tow, and it allows outside food for
fire pits for gooey treats and meaningful conversation, all
a perfect picnic lunch on the winery’s beautiful outdoor
while gazing at the stars above.
picnic area. All your picnic supplies can be procured from the well-stocked Dry Creek Vineyard General Store.
Saturday 9:00 am. Camp Breakfast It’s not camping without a sizzling bacon and egg breakfast, and Wildhaven makes camp cooking convenient and easy. The resort offers camp kitchens
2:00 p.m. Choose Your Own Adventure There is so much to do in the area that it’s difficult to choose from the many adventurous options. Active types may opt to go hiking on the family friendly Healdsburg Ridge Open Space, or, for incredible views, the cliffside Kortum Trail. Other fun activities including renting cruiser
for guests’ use on the property, which include gas BBQs,
or road bikes and biking nearby trails, or horseback riding
tools, picnic tables, and dish-cleaning stations with soap
at The Ranch at Lake Sonoma. If the weather is warm,
and sponges.
tubing the Russian River is a refreshing way to spend the afternoon. If a more leisurely activity is in order, the
10:00 am. Complimentary Yoga
nearby towns of Guerneville or Jenner are fun to explore.
Back at Wildhaven, take advantage of their complimentary Saturday yoga classes overlooking the
6 p.m. Dinner, Glamping Style
river to re-center and rebalance after your morning
Be sure to purchase some easy-prep mains and
bacon and eggs.
prepared sides from Big John’s Market while in Healdsburg for a no-fuss dinner back at camp. Big John’s Market offers a variety of marinated meats, gourmet
Noon. Wine Tasting and Picnic Lunch
sausages, hot-food items, prepared sides, local wine,
There are a bevy of notable wineries in the area, and the
and freshly baked treats to create an easy, gourmet
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Sunday
already time to check out. The good news is that there's no tent to dismantle, no sleeping bags to roll up, and the hot showers are plentiful. Even more good news
8:00 am. Breakfast at Quail & Condor
— Wildhaven is so nearby that you’ll be home in time
This charming bakery is a must-visit in Healdsburg,
for lunch, and you’ll have plenty of time left in the day
and a testament to that statement is the perpetual
to prepare for the oncoming week. Until next time,
line that forms out the door on the weekends. Gather
Wildhaven!
your patience and be prepared for some of the best pastries you’ve ever tried, including the flakiest pistachio croissants, gooiest cinnamon rolls, and most generous avocado toasts. Coffee is served, as well.
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Susan Stiffelman, Huffington Post Parent’s weekly advice columnist (“Parent Coach”), is an engaging speaker whose presentations leave audiences upbeat, entertained and fortified with practical strategies that will make an immediate and significant difference in their day to day lives. Susan is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child therapist, a credentialed teacher, and a highly regarded parenting coach. Instead of offering standard, scripted advice to parents about how to control their children, Susan focuses on helping them be what she calls the Captain of the ship their children need and naturally want to cooperate with, confide in, and respect. Those who attend Susan’s presentations routinely email her office with thanks, and a request to come back again!
13 Year Old’s ADHD Behavior Drives People Crazy! by Susan Stiffelman, MFT My ADHD son has impulse problems. He is 13 years old and his behavior drives other children away. His teachers are beyond frustrated. Any advice on what to do? The pre-frontal cortex (PFC) is the part of the brain behind the forehead that governs the inhibitory response in human beings. It creates a pause between having an impulse, and acting on it. In the ADD-ish children and teens I’ve worked with, I almost always see up to a 30 percent developmental lag between a child’s actual age and their PFC
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[ PARENTING ] developmental function. In other words, while your child
Many impulsive children feel they’re constantly failing
may officially be 13 years old, (and might be quite mature
or disappointing others, which keeps them in a state of
in some respects) he may be more like an 8 or 9-year-old
stress that fuels their misbehavior.
when it comes to controlling his impulsive behavior. • Make sure your teen is getting plenty of sleep, good Given how frequently he frustrates friends and teachers,
nutrition, fish oils, and lots of time out in nature. All these
he’s probably highly sensitive to feeling scolded or
elements have been proven to help ADD-ish children
reined in by those who try to force him to “act his age.”
function better and are especially important when you
Any effort you make to teach him how to behave more
fold adolescent hormones into the mix!
appropriately will have to come across as helpful rather than critical or shaming.
As frustrating as it is to have to deal with your son’s mishaps, the more you accept him as is — rather than
Here’s my advice:
comparing him to what I call your ideal, “snapshot child”
• Make sure your child sees you as his ally and champion,
— the better able you’ll be to gradually help him try
rather than a source of relentless criticism. The more he
new ways of interacting with friends more patiently, or to
feels safe to confide in you, the more receptive he’ll be
hold his tongue in class when he feels the urge to blurt
to asking for better strategies to avoid getting in trouble
something out.
or alienating a friend. If you’d like more help in this area, please check out my • Give your son plenty of opportunity to participate in
recent class with Dr. Ned Hallowell, The Gifts of ADHD.
activities he loves that come easily to him and fuel
You may also want to join me for a class on Parents with
his self-confidence (other than video games or TV).
ADHD: Surviving and Thriving.
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www.edge-gymnastics.com
Lawrence Hall of Science UC Berkeley 510.642.5134
Kidz Kraftz Quail Creek Cir. 925.271.0015
www.lawrencehallofscience.org
www.kidzkraftz.com/camps
BERKELEY/ECHO LAKE
Tri-Valley YMCA 6693 Sierra Ln 925.263.4444
Berkeley Echo Lake Camp Lot #7 Echo Lakes Rd 530.659.7539 www.cityofberkeley.info/camps
CASTRO VALLEY Skye Valley Training Camp 10250 Crow Canyon Rd 925.858.8825 www.psi.lunariffic.com/~skyev0/
Sarah’s Science 21525 Knoll Way 510.581.3739 www.sarahscience.com
Camp Kee Tov 1301 Oxford St. 510.842.2372 www.campkeetov.org
Bee Best Learning 20394 San Miguel Ave. 510.728.2110 www.beebestlearning.com
Habitot 2065 Kittredge St. 510.647.1111 ext. 14 www.habitot.org/museum/ activities_camps.html
Monkey Business Camp 2880A Sacramento St. 510.540.6025
www.trivalley.ymcaeastbay.org
Extended Day Child Care 8435 Davona Dr. 925.829.4043 & 7997 Vomac Rd. 925.551.8170 7243 Tamarack Dr. 925.833.0127 & 5301 Hibernia Dr. 925.803.4154 & 3300 Antone Way 925.826.5538 www.extendeddaychildcare.com
Quarry Lane School 6363 Tassajara Rd. 925.829.8000
DUBLIN
www.quarrylane.org
East Bay SPCA Animal Camp 4651 Gleason Dr. 925.479.9670
FREMONT
www.eastbayspca.org/camp
www.monkeybusinesscamp.com
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Learning Bee Summer Camp 39977 Mission Blvd. 510.226.8408 www.learningbeeusa.com
Ohlone for Kids 43600 Mission Blvd. 510.659.6000 www.ohlone.edu/org/ ohloneforkids
HAYWARD Hayward Area Recreation Park District (H.A.R.D.) Day Camps 510.881.6700 www.haywardrec.org
LIVERMORE Horizons East Equestrian Center 5111 Doolan Rd. 925.960.9696 www.showstables.com
Roy’s Magic Camp 2466 8th St. 925.455.0600 www.magiccamp.org
Camp Arroyo Taylor Family Foundation 5535 Arroyo Rd. 925.371.8401 www.ebparks.org/activities/ daycamps/parks_camp_arroyo
Saddle to Ride Topline Training, Inc. 4180 Greenville Rd. 925.858.3933 www.saddle2ride.com
Xtreme Force Dance Company 847 Rincon Ave. 925.455.6054 www.xtremeforcedanceco.com
Double Diamond Sports Academy 2272 Research Dr. 925.830.9765 www. doublediamondsportsacademy. com
[ SUMMER CAMP ]
Camps Valley Montessori 1273 N. Livermore Ave. 925.455.8021
MOCHA Summer Camp 1625 Clay St. 510.465.8770
Contra Costa County
www.valleymontessorischool.com
www.mocha.org
OAKLAND
PLEASANTON
Lakeshore Children’s Center 3534 Lakeshore Ave. 510.893.4048
Gingerbread Preschool 4333 Black Ave. 925.931.3430
City of Antioch Parks and Recreation 213 “F” St 925.776.7070
www.lakeshorechildrenscenter.org
www.ci.pleasanton.ca.us/services/ recreation/gb/gbhome.html
Urban Adventure Camp 5701 Cabot Dr. 510.339.0676 www.urbanadventurecamps.com
Extended Day Child Care 5199 Black Ave. 925.846.5519 www.extendeddaychildcare.com
East Bay SPCA Animal Camp 8323 Baldwin St. 510.569.0702 www.eastbayspca.org/camp
Quarry Lane School - East 3750 Boulder St. 925.846.9400 www.quarrylane.org
California Shakespeare Theater Summer Conservatory 4660 Harbord Dr. 510.809.3293 www.calshakes.org/v4/educ/ summer_conservatories.html
Oakland Summer ZooCamp 9777 Golf Links Rd. 510.632.9525 www.oaklandzoo.org
Lake Merritt Boating Center Youth Boating Camps 568 Bellevue Ave. 510.238.2196 www.sailoakland.com
Raskob Learning Institute 3520 Mountain Blvd. 510.436.1275 www.raskobinstitute.org
Kids N’ Dance 3840 Macarthur Blvd. 510.531.4400 www.kidsndance.com
Quarry Lane School - West 4444B Black Ave. 925.462.6300 www.quarrylane.org
ANTIOCH
City of Danville Camps 420 Front St. 925.314.3400 www.danville.ca.gov/Recreation/ Camps
www.ci.antioch.ca.us/Recreation
Four Stars Gymnastics Academy 1799 Vineyard Dr. 925.778.8650
Vision Tech Camps 117 Town & Country Dr. St. B 925.699.9602 www.visiontechcamps.com
Athenian Summer Programs at Athenian School 2100 Mt. Diablo Scenic Blvd 925.837.5375
www.fourstarsgym.com
CONCORD City of Concord Parks and Recreation 925.671.3404
www.athenian.org
www.cityofconcord.org/recreation/ summercamps
Camp Concord in South Lake Tahoe 1000 Mt. Tallac Trailhead Rd South Lake Tahoe 530.541.1203
Yang Fan Academy 4160 Hacienda Dr. St. 100 925.699.4664
www.ci.concord.ca.us/recreation/ camp
www.yfacademy.org
Backyard Explorers Corner of Babel Ln & Cowell Rd. 925.671.3118
City of Pleasanton Summer Programs 200 Old Bernal Ave. 925.931.3436
DANVILLE
Color Bundles 301 Hartz Ave. #104 925.727.3137 www.colorbundles.com
Camp Brainy Bunch 741 Brookside Dr. 510.548.4800 www.campbrainybunch.com
Quest Therapeutic Camps Charlotte Wood Middle School 600 El Captain Dr. 925.743.2900 www.questcamps.com
www.cityofconcord.org/recreation/ summercamps/backyardexp.htm
www.ci.pleasanton.ca.us
Expressions Dance & Art 3015 Hopyard Rd. Ste. I 925.200.9908 www.expressions-dance-arts.com/
Young Ivy Academy 5460 Sunol Blvd (#3) 925.548.0188 www.youngivyacademy.com
Inspire Music Academy 2340 Santa Rita Rd. Ste. 7 925.461.3266 www.inspiremusicacademy.com
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[ SUMMER CAMP ]
Summer LAFAYETTE California Shakespeare Theater Summer Conservatory 1000 Upper Happy Valley Rd 510.809.3293 www.calshakes.org/v4/educ/ summer_conservatories.html
Sienna Ranch 3232 Deer Hill Rd. 925.283.6311 www.siennaranch.net
Sherman Swim School 1075 Carol Ln. 925.283.2100 www.shermanswim.com
Kids N’ Dance 3369 Mt. Diablo 925.284.7388 www.kidsndance.com
www.frenchforfun.com
Lafayette Tennis Club 3125 Camino Diablo 925.937.2582 www.lafayettetennis.com
Husky House for Kids 3855 Happy Valley Rd. 925.283.7100 www.huskyhouseforkids.org/ summer-camp-programs
Lafayette Community Center Camps 500 Saint Mary’s Rd. 925.284.2232 www.lafayetterec.org
Roughing It Day Camp 1010 Oak Hill Rd. 925.283.3795 www.roughingit.com
BandWorks Summer Camp 28 Orinda Way 925.254.2445
Camp ARF for Kids 2890 Mitchell Dr. 925.256.1273
www.bandworks.com/summer_ orinda.php
www.youth.arf.net
Orinda Academy 19 Altarinda Rd. 925.478.4504
Merriewood Children’s Center 561 Merriewood Dr. 925.284.2121
www.orindaacademy.org
www.merriewood.org
www.campdoodles.com
MARTINEZ
PLEASANT HILL
John Muir Mountain Day Camp John Muir National Historic Site 925.680.8807
City of Pleasant Hill Camps 147 Gregory Ln 925.682.0896
www.johnmuirassociation.org/ muircamp/index.php
French For Fun 3381 Mt. Diablo Blvd 925.283.9822
ORINDA
Rancho Saguaro 1050 Pereira Rd. 925.788.5200 www.ranchosaguaro.com
MORAGA Gaels Summer Camp 1928 St Mary’s Rd. 925.631.4FUN www.smcgaels.com
Camp Saklan 1678 School St. 925.376.7900 www.saklan.org/about-us/campsaklan
OAKLEY City of Oakley Parks and Recreation 3231 Main St. 925.625.7044 www.ci.oakley.ca.us
Diamond Hills Sports Club 1510 Neroly Rd. 925.420.4575 www.sparetimeclubs.com
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Camp Doodle 66 St. Stephens Dr.
www.pleasanthillrec.com
PITTSBURG City of Pittsburg Parks and Recreation 300 Presido Ln. 925.252.4842 www.ci.pittsburg.ca.us
SAN RAMON City of San Ramon Camps 2226 Camino Ramon 925.973.2500 www.ci.san-ramon.ca.us
School of Rock San Ramon 460 Montgomery Street 925.415.3340 510.207.9281 bit.ly/SORsanramoncamps
Adventure Day Camp Dorris-Eaton School One Annabel Lane 925.937.6500 www.adventuredaycamp.com
WALNUT CREEK Adventure Day Camp Seven Hills School 975 North San Carlos Dr. 925.937.6500 www.adventuredaycamp.com
Castle Rock Arabians 1350 Castle Rock Rd. 925.933.3701 www.castlerockarabians.com
City of Walnut Creek Summer Camps 1666 North Main St. 925.943.5899 www.walnut-creek.org
COPA STC 2640 Shadelands Dr. Walnut Creek, CA 925.357.8999 www.copastc.com
Lindsay Wildlife Museum Summer Science Camp 1931 First Ave. 925.935.1978 www.wildlife-museum.org
Multiple Locations The Growing Room Academy Various locations around the Bay Offers: 3,4 and 5 Day Camps 925.837.4392 www.thegrowingroom.org
Camp Rocks: Girl Scouts of Northern California Offered at 5 locations: San Rafael (Camp Bothin), Santa Cruz (Skylark Ranch), San Jose (Camp Metro Day Camp), North Lake Tahoe (Deer Lake), and the Sierra Nevada Mountains (Sugar Pine) 800.447.4475 ext. 2091 www.camprocks.org
[ SUMMER CAMP ]
Camps Mad Science Camp Offered at several local Recreation sites and Community Centers 925.687.1900 www.mtdiablo.madscience.org
Steve and Kate’s Camp Danville, Dublin, Fremont, Oakland, Walnut Creek and Berkeley 415.389.5437 www.steveandkatescamp.com
Lango Language Summer Camps Serving Alamo, Blackhawk, Brentwood, Briones, Canyon, Clayton, Concord, Danville, Martinez, Moraga, Orinda, Pacheco, Pittsburg, Pleasant Hill, San Ramon, Walnut Creek and surrounding regions 888.445.2646 www.langokids.com/parent/kidslanguage-summer-camps
Camp Galileo Alameda, Alamo, Berkeley, San Ramon, Walnut Creek, Fremont, Oakland, Lafayette and Orinda 510.595.7293
Club Sport Fremont, San Ramon, Pleasanton and Walnut Creek 925.938.8700
www.galileo-learning.com
Camp Edmo Alameda, Fremont, and Oakland 415.282.6673
KinderCare Walnut Creek, Concord, Danville, Martinez and Clayton 888.523.6765 www.kindercare.com/ summercamp
Viva el Espanol! Lafayette, Piedmont, Pleasanton & San Anselmo 925.962.9177 www.vivaelespanol.org/ summerprograms.php
www.clubsports.com
www.campedmo.org
Kids’ Carpentry Berkeley, Lafayette, Alameda, Oakland, Alamo & Walnut Creek 510.524.9232
Out of Area Golden Arrow Camps 644 Pollasky Avenue, Ste. 100 Clovis, 93612 800.554.CAMP www.goldarrowcamp.com
Coppercreek Camp 1887 Williams Valley Rd. Greenville, 95947 800.350.0006 www.coppercreek.com
Camp Unalayee 3921 East Bayshore Rd. Palo Alto 650.969.6313 www.unalayee-summer-camp.com
CYO Summer Camp 2136 Bohemian Hwy Occidental, 95465 707.874.0200
TechKnowHow Kids Dublin, Berkeley, Fremont, Livermore, Oakland & Pleasanton 650.638.0500
Stratford School Summer Sports Camp & Enrichment Danville, Fremont, Los Gatos, Morgan Hill and Pleasanton 925.737.0001
www.techknowhowkids.com
www.stratfordschools.com
888.709.8324
Almaden Equestrian Center 20100 Almaden Rd. San Jose 408.927.0232 www.almadenequestriancenter.net
Silver Creek Sportsplex 800 Embedded Way San Jose 408.224.8774 www.gotoplex.com
College For Kids 1700 W. Hillsdale Blvd. San Mateo 650.574.6149 www.collegeforkids-smccd.com
www.camp.cccyo.org
Mountain Camp Woodside 302 Portola Rd. Portola Valley 650.576.2267 www.mountaincampwoodside.com
www.kidscarpentry.com
SF Zoo Camp Sloat Blvd. & the Great Highway San Francisco 415.753.7080 www.sfzoo.org
School of Rock Summer Camp 711 South B St. San Mateo, San Jose & Palo Alto 650.347.3474 www.schoolofrock.com
Camp Tawonga 131 Steuart Ste. 460 San Francisco 415.543.2267 www.tawonga.org
Kennolyn Camps 8205 Glen Haven Rd. Soquel 831.479.6714 www.kennolyncamps.com
iD Tech Camp Moraga, Concord, Livermore, Berkeley and other Bay Area locations www.idtech.com
Sky hawk’s Sports Camp Various locations around the Bay Area 800.804.3509 www.skyhawks.com
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