NOVEMBER 2021
Where the Wild Things Are
A NEWBORN PERSON’S GUIDE TO EARLY PARENTING
TOP 10 REASONS to Visit Great Wolf Lodge, Manteca
Volume 8 / Issue 89
5 Science-Backed Reasons To Let Your Hair Down & Play
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13 Tips to Help Children Manage Social Anxiety by Dr. Laura Markham Dr. Laura Markham is the author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting. She earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University and has worked as a parenting coach with countless parents across the English-speaking world, both in person and via phone. You can find Dr. Laura online at AhaParenting.com, the website of Aha! Moments for parents of kids from birth through the teen years, where she offers a free daily inspiration email to parents.
“Probably the worst thing to do is to say, ‘Don’t be shy. Don’t be quiet.' This is not about trying to change the child’s temperament. It’s about respecting and honoring temperament and variation, and helping children navigate the world with their own instruments." - Dr. K.R. Merikangas Parents often ask me how to help children who are "shy." But what does "shy" even mean? Some children who are considered "shy" are highly sensitive, meaning very aware of and strongly affected by their environment. Others are introverted, meaning that they need time away from other people to renew their energy. Some children are so absorbed in their own projects and ideas that they're simply less interested in social interaction. Some feel more anxious when their "attachment people" aren't there as backup. And the rest of us who think we're "shy" usually mean that we feel awkward
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[ PARENTING ] or anxious in social situations. A large NIMH study in
him will just make him feel worse about himself, and
2011 found that half of all teenagers in the United States
therefore more insecure. Empathizing with your child will
think of themselves as "shy." In fact, half of all adults think
also help him develop empathy, which will enhance his
of themselves as "shy," and many more say that they
social skills and help him connect with others.
were "shy" as children. That's a lot of us. And yet most of those adults feel able to successfully handle most social
3. Teach your child to trust their inner compass -- and
situations they encounter, at least most of the time.
that discomfort is okay.
They've gained confidence through their experience
Most of us think that when we're uncomfortable, we
that even if they're sometimes a bit apprehensive, they'll
should run in the other direction. But discomfort is part
be able to manage.
of most new situations, and that means it is part of how we grow. Teach your child that it is okay to feel
So let's say, for the purposes of this article, that you're
uncomfortable. When she feels uncomfortable, her job
reading this because you want to support your child to
is to notice that, and soothe herself so that she can think
become more comfortable in social situations. Hopefully,
clearly.
you appreciate your unique child, who probably notices social nuances that other children miss. But it's natural
Then, evaluate the situation. Is there actual danger? In
to worry if your child seems to feel anxious with other
that case, seek trustworthy help.
people. We all want our children to make friends easily, to feel comfortable asking questions at school, to speak
But danger is rare. Most of the time, discomfort signals
up for themselves.
a new situation. In that case, maybe there is something new to learn, or someone she will enjoy meeting. Then,
The good news is that most kids can learn to manage
her job is to reassure herself, keep paying attention to
social anxiety so they can connect happily with others,
the situation, and support herself to take small steps
enter new groups, and speak up for themselves. Some
toward engaging with the newness. Over time, positive
just need a little extra support.
experiences will build trust, and she may come to enjoy and value that process of discovery.
1. Nurture your child by noticing her needs and responding to them.
4. Model confident behavior with other people. Kids
Highly sensitive baby chimps given to extremely nurturing
learn from watching us.
mothers became leaders in their group, while their equally sensitive siblings raised by less responsive chimp
That means being friendly to strangers, offering help to
mothers seemed anxious and fearful throughout life.
others, and modeling a relaxed attitude about social
Responsive mothering helps sensitive little ones learn
interactions of all kinds.
to calm themselves and manage their reactions. That allows their heightened sensitivity to become an asset,
5. Teach your child basic social skills to respond to both
because it makes them more aware of the needs of their
adults and children.
peers and better at negotiating group situations.
Kids often need to be taught to make eye contact, shake hands, smile, and respond to polite chit-chat
2. Empathize with your child’s worries and avoid shaming
appropriately. Make games out of social skills and
him.
practice at home. Just grab two teddy bears and have
Acknowledging what your child feels, without negative
them act out scenarios in a funny way to get your child
judgment, helps him to feel good about himself. Giving
laughing, which defuses the child's anxiety. During your
him the impression that there is something wrong with
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“Sometimes it takes you awhile to warm up in a new situation. Remember Lorenzo’s birthday party, how you
6. Help your child learn how to make friends.
held my hand all through the games? But by the end,
Role play with your child how to notice and respond
you were having lots of fun with the other kids.”
when another child initiates, how to join a game at the playground, how to introduce themselves to another
9. Teach your child effective strategies for dealing with
child at a party, and how to initiate a playdate. For
feelings of social awkwardness.
instance, kids who are successful in joining groups of
One very helpful approach to social anxiety is to accept
kids usually observe first, and find a way to fit into the
it as a part of normal life that affects most people. Then,
group, rather than just barging in. It can really help to
reassure yourself that you’re okay, and focus on others
read books about social skills with your child and then
rather than yourself. For instance, reassure your child that
role play. Several good books are listed at the end of this
most people feel socially awkward at least sometimes.
article, for children of different ages.
Then remind your child that she doesn’t have to be interesting, just interested, and teach her to ask other
7. Coach your child to express her needs and stand up
kids questions and listen to their answers. Brainstorm with
for herself in social situations.
her how she might handle a situation that makes her
All children need the confidence that they can handle
nervous:
what comes up when parents aren't around. For instance, every child needs to know how to respond to
“If you feel nervous at the party today, what could you
affronts with phrases like "It's my turn now.... I was still
do to make yourself more comfortable? Could you hang
using that..... I don't like it when you say that.... I am not
out with one of the kids you know from school? Could
going to play with you if you say hurtful things to me."
you offer to help serve the refreshments? What could you
This is especially important when peers tease or bully.
say to reassure yourself? What do you think you might
Roleplaying is essential in learning skills, play is very
talk with the other kids about?”
helpful in managing anxiety, and reading books helps teach kids that they aren't alone or powerless. Asking
Once she knows she can handle whatever comes up,
"What would you do?" is invaluable in helping kids think
she'll feel more ready to tackle a new experience.
through possible responses and outcomes.
10. Help your child develop social confidence by providing small daily opportunities to interact with
If you're concerned about your child's ability to stand
others.
up for himself, one good book to help you coach your child, offering scripts and strategies, is Scott Cooper's
Socially anxious children need downtime, of course,
Sticks and Stones: 7 Ways Your Child Can Deal with
especially if they're introverts. But they also need plenty
Teasing, Conflict, and Other Hard Times. Several books
of opportunities to practice their social skills. Remember
for kids on how to handle bullying are listed at the end
that empathizing doesn’t mean being over-protective.
of this article. You may also want to read the article 11
If your child is worried, remind him that he can do hard
Ways to Empower Your Child Against Bullying on this
things. Talk every night at dinner about one hard thing
website, which has more specific suggestions and book
each person in the family did that day. Applaud every
recommendations.
little step your child takes on his own.
8. Don’t label your child as shy.
11. Don't push your child to perform.
Instead, acknowledge his worries and point out that he
Some children like telling jokes or showing off their
can overcome his fears. For instance,
new abilities for Grandma, but many kids hate it. Enjoy
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[ PARENTING ] your unique child without making him feel like he's only
discussing how to keep herself safe.
valued if he performs. If you have the video rolling on your phone and your child asks you to stop, stop. She's
14. If your child seems generally fearful, consider that
allowed to enjoy life without feeling the pressure to
she's got some tears and fears inside that need to be
perform.
expressed. When kids experience something scary and don't feel
12. Remember that one good friend is worth many
safe at that moment, the fears get repressed. You can
acquaintances.
think of this as stuffing them in an emotional backpack,
Some parents worry if their child isn't the life of the party.
to be processed later. The problem is that humans don't
But what's important is that your child feel connected,
willingly subject themselves to scary feelings. So often
like she has someone she can talk to, or someone he wants to play with at recess. It's not necessary to have a lot of friends, just a few good ones. 13. Don’t create social anxiety by teaching young children to be afraid of strangers.
those tears and fears stay locked up inside. But since the body knows those emotions need to be felt to go away, the feelings are always trying to bubble up to get healed. Children who are trying to keep fear at bay often become generally fearful and even rigid. If this describes your child, give her daily opportunities to giggle by playing games that dance just on the edge of
Instead, teach your child that he or she should always
fear -- bucking bronco rides, for instance. That takes the
be with you, or with a teacher or trusted babysitter. If
edge off anxiety. And when she feels safe enough to let
her special adult is with her, your child doesn’t need to
those fears surface in tears, welcome her meltdown. On
be afraid of strangers. Once she’s old enough to begin
the other side of it, you'll have a less fearful, more flexible
walking home from school by herself, you can begin
child.
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TOP 10 REASONS TO VISIT GREAT WOLF LODGE, MANTECA by Elizabeth Kang After months of eager anticipation, Great Wolf Lodge
resort.
Manteca is finally open, and we couldn’t be more excited. Located just under an hour from the east bay,
5. The Yummy Food!
this all-ages, 95,000-square-foot waterpark is brimming
Picky eaters will find solace here, because they’re sure
with fun, from its just-thrilling-enough waterslides and
to find something they like among the wide variety of
“late-night” dance party, to it’s toddler-friendly story
dining options. `From sweet treats at Dunkin’ Donuts
times and build-a-bear workshops. There are countless
and Wood’s End Creamery to savory fare such as tacos,
reasons to visit Great Wolf Lodge in Manteca, but here
pizza, salads, and bbq, the whole family will be satisfied
are our top ten.
with the options available at Great Wolf Lodge.
1. It’s So close!
6. Teen/Tween Thrills
At just under an hour’s drive from most east bay towns,
Nothing’s can ruin family vacay vibes faster than
kids won’t even get the chance to say “are we there
a moody or bored teen, and there’s small chance
yet?” before their unpacking swimsuits and heading
of that happening at this resort. There’s more than
to the slides. That means no packing one million road
just waterslides, and even teens and tweens will be
snacks, no stopping for potty breaks, no fighting in the
entertained by the variety of fun. There's a huge
car, and no constant whining. The short journey, in and of
arcade chock full of the latest games, a bowling alley,
itself, is priceless.
an outdoor pool, and the area’s newest and largest MagiQuest immersive live-action experience. There’s
2. Perfect for All Ages
also a few high-thrill water rides to be found, such as the
While many “family friendly” attractions claim to be
“Wolf Tail” — a 20-foot free fall followed by a 360-degree
inclusive for all ages, rarely really are. Great Wolf Lodge
loop.
offers so much to do for any age, from toddler to teen. While it’s true that the park may be best for school-aged
7. Toddler/Kid Fun
children, there’s definitely fun to be had by all ages.
Little kids and toddlers will find plenty to keep busy here, too. There’s a “Cub Paw” toddler pool offering mini slides
3. Fun & Unique Lodging
and a 2-foot-deep splash pool, a fun mirror maze and
Boring hotel rooms are often unavoidable when
gold mining experience, and a ropes course suitable for
traveling, even to theme parks and attractions geared
bigger kids. There’s also a mini golf course that families
toward children. Happily, however, that’s not the case at
can enjoy together, and a Build-a-Bear workshop where
Great Wold Lodge, where imaginative “wolf den” or “log
children can create their own plush keepsake. Little
cabin” themed rooms with bunk beds and kid-centric
ones will also love the chance to rest and watch the live
decor rule.
animated shows that play periodically throughout the day.
4. It’s (Mostly) Indoors With nearly all of the fun under one dry roof, weather is
8. Holiday Fun
never a factor at Great Wold Lodge. Whether it’s raining
Great Wolf Lodge hosts a variety of themed events
and dreary out, a cold winter’s day, or a blistering hot
throughout the year, where families can enjoy a taste of
summer day, it’s always perfectly comfortable inside the
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the month of October, for example, the resort is putting
offers special rates and packages. For instance, their
on a “Howl-o-Ween” featuring a variety of halloween-
current “All in One” package includes up to 15% off room
themed events such as spooky themed crafts, story-
rates, $100 food & beverage credit, a $50 arcade card,
times, trivia games, trick-or-treating, and a “Monster Bash
unlimited access to mini golf, the bowling alley and the
Dance Party.”
mine, plus even more for $250.
9. Affordability
10. Lasting Memories
Much of the fun of Great Wolf Lodge is included in
Whether you’re celebrating a birthday or simply the fact
the price of your room, so no need to purchase costly
that it’s the weekend, the memories made at Great Wolf
entrance tickets, which we all know adds up fast. In
Lodge will stay with you and your family for years on end,
addition to the affordable nightly rates, the resort often
which may be the best reason of all to visit.
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Carrie Contey is an internationally recognized coach, author, speaker and educator. Her work offers a new perspective on human development, parenting and family life. She guides, supports and inspires her clients to live with wide open and courageous hearts so they can approach family life with skill, spaciousness and joy. Carrie received her PhD in prenatal and perinatal psychology and is masterful at synthesizing and articulating the science, psychology, and spirituality of humanhood. She is the creator of “Evolve” a year-long “personal growth through parenting” program. She is also the cofounder of the Slow Family Living movement and the co-author of CALMS: A Guide To Soothing Your Baby. Carrie has appeared on NBC’s The Today Show, NPR, CBS radio and in many publications including Time, Parenting and The Boston Globe. Currently she lives, works and plays in Austin, TX but spends as much time as she can traveling, speaking, creating things that make family life more wonderful and living her very own extraordinary life to the fullest! To learn more, visit www.carriecontey.com
A Newborn Person’s Guide to Early Parenting by Carrie Contey 1. I am a whole person – Even though I arrived in a very small and physically limited body, I’m in here. Relate to me with respect, kindness and gentleness. It feels so good.
2. I feel most relaxed when I feel physically and emotionally safe – In the early weeks, months and years, I feel safest when I can feel the people who love me nearby. You are my safe base.
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7. I love to play – Get in sync with me and follow my lead
much love!
in this arena, I’m a master at the art of play.
4. I’m working hard to understand what you are saying to me – Speak the verbal, physical, emotional, social, etc. languages you want me to learn. I’m listening and taking it all in and soon enough I will be speaking them back to
8. I can’t verbally tell you how I am feeling – but I am showing you how I am feeling through my body motions, facial expressions and emotional communications.
you. 9. It takes a village – My emotional needs are pretty big. 5. I am very sensitive – I’ve been inside of my mom for
I know you can’t do it all. And I don’t expect you to. It’s
nine months. I’m thrilled to be out here experiencing this
fun to be surrounded by lots of people who love me,
big beautiful world but I need you to realize that things
who love us. I enjoy being with people who are relaxed
are much more heightened and intense for me and I can get overwhelmed easily.
and rested and if that means you having breaks and me being with other people who love me, please do it.
6. Be gentle and slow with transitions – It can be scary when things go too fast and can often leave me feeling
10. Make your life great – I feel safe and secure when
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WHERE THE WILD THINGS ARE by Elizabeth Kang Safari West brings the African Serengeti to wine country, and it’s the next best thing to a real-life African safari. For over 25 years, guests have been visiting this 400-acre reserve, located in the rolling hills of Sonoma County in Santa Rosa, California, to get up-close and personal with over 90 species of exotic animals and birds, and spend the night under the stars in authentic safari-style canvas tents. The experience is unlike anything else in the area, and should not be missed. This wildlife haven was nearly burnt to the ground during the 2017 Tubbs fire that ravaged the area. While Safari West owners Peter and Nancy Lang lost their home in the fire, Peter managed to save Safari West from devastation by remaining behind after evacuations and protecting the animals and property with water hoses. Today, their love and dedication to the property and animals is illuminated in every detail, from the well-kept animal habitats to the meticulously decorated safari tents and delightful family style bbq dinners. Experience the Sonoma Serengeti The main attraction at Safari West is their 2.5-to-threehour interactive safari tour, with a large portion of the tour taking place on a rugged, open-air jeep, and partly on foot. While on the jeep, which holds about 12 people, riders get to see a variety of exotic animals such as zebra, giraffe, buffalo and antelope, sometimes coming as close as four feet away. The latter part of the guided tour leads guests on foot through exotic birds habitats, and small animal sanctuaries, where guests can see and learn about monkeys, fox’s, cheetahs, red pandas, and much more. After the tour, guests can stay for lunch or dinner, and shop in the expansive gift shop, where keepsakes such as rare stones, plush animals featured on the safari, and handmade, artisan crafts can be purchased. There are four safari times to choose from, with safaris departing at 9 am, 10 am, 1 pm or 2 pm. Dine on Backyard BBQ Lunch or dinner at Safari West is a fun experience where guests sit outdoors and get to know one-another over
a delicious family style BBQ. Before covid, this meal was served family style, but under current conditions — for safety and sanitary reasons — a server now brings out plated meals. Guests can still choose to eat as much as they want from the menu, which consists of delicious bbq chicken and/or ribs, along with mac n cheese, roasted potatoes and vegetables along with dessert. Guests who stay overnight are treated to a complimentary continental breakfast of pastries, porridge, yogurt, eggs, bagels, cereal, juice and coffee. Fall Asleep to Flamingo Lullabies While a day trip to Safari West is definitely fun and doable, a big part of the magic and experience is sleeping overnight in the delightful safari-themed canvas tents, which are fully outfitted for an ultra-comfortable stay. These stand-alone tents are plenty big for a family or couple, and feature double or single beds, bathrooms with showers, and a big front porch with seating for four. Enjoying a cup of coffee on the front porch to a symphony of exotic birds calls makes for a memorable morning, and it isn't hard to imagine you’re in Africa when you spy a giraffe walking by in the distance from your porch view. Guests are welcome to wander the main grounds during their stay, and observe the animals at their leisure. Insider Tips: *Kids must be at least four-years-old to ride on the safari and they must be about 45 inches or taller to ride on the very top seat of the safari jeep, where they're treated to a bird’s eye view of the wildlife. (In our experience, the top seat was definitely the way to go— so much fun!) *If you’re a light sleeper, try to request a tent farther away from the flamingo habitat. These, and other birds, are extremely chatty and can be noisy well after dark, and during the early morning. *During warmer months in the summer and early fall, be sure to book a morning safari for a more comfortable ride. NOVEMBER 2021 | ACTIVE FAMIL Y 17
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Emma Seppälä, Ph.D is Science Director of Stanford University’s Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education and is the author of The Happiness Track (HarperOne, 2016). She is also Co-Director of the Yale College Emotional Intelligence Project at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. She is a frequent contributor to Harvard Business Review, Psychology Today, Huffington Post, and Scientific American Mind. She is the founder and editor-in-chief of Fulfillment Daily, a popular news site dedicated to the science of happiness. Her work and research have been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Chicago Tribune, The Boston Globe, The Atlantic, VOGUE, ELLE, CBSNews, Oprah Magazine, Fast Company, U.S. World and News Report, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Inc, Huffington Post, ABC News, Business Insider, SELF, GLAMOUR. She has appeared several times on Good Morning America. She was also interviewed for Huffington Post Live and TIME/MONEY and is featured in the documentary film The Altruism Revolution. She is the recipient of a number of research grants and service awards including the James W. Lyons Award from Stanford University for founding Stanford’s first academic class on the psychology of happiness and teaching many well-being programs for Stanford students. She graduated from Yale (BA), Columbia (MA), and Stanford (PhD). Originally from Paris, France, she is a native speaker of French, English, and German.
5 Science-Backed Reasons To Let Your Hair Down & Play by Emma Seppälä Ph.D. Submerged in the responsibilities of life, the seriousness of world affairs, and an ever-growing to-do list, we often forget to PLAY. Animals, on the other hand, continue to play throughout their adult lives! We may believe that play is somehow no longer appropriate or cast it aside as a frivolous waste of time. Research suggests, however, that play is essential to our well-being, creativity, and health. 1. It Boosts Our Creativity Mark Beeman, Ph.D., at Northwestern University found that people have an easier time solving a puzzle after watching a short comedy clip. Having fun, perhaps by easing tension, may be facilitating neuronal connections helpful for greater mental flexibility and creativity. In another brain imaging study, Dr. Beeman found that activation of pleasure centers in the brain predicted successful puzzle-solving. These findings suggesting that well-being helps us think more creatively and could potentially help us resolve challenging situations.
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moment, and it is a state of great pleasure.
Ph.D., of the University of Chapel Hill – North Carolina and author of Positivity, found that positive emotions increase
About 50% of the time, we aren’t in the present moment,
our cognitive resources by expanding our visual attention
according to a study of 5,000 people by Matthew
as well as our social resources by improving our ability
Killingsworth and Daniel Gilbert of Harvard University.
to connect with others. In other words, play may be a
Our minds tend to wander and the researchers found
way of getting literally “unstuck.” Taking a break and
that “a wandering mind is an unhappy mind.” No matter
engaging in a totally frivolous act of fun can help loosen
what we’re actually doing, pleasant or unpleasant, we
our tension and worries and help us think of different
are happiest when our mind is in the present moment.
ways to engage with a challenging situation.
When our mind is in the past, it usually dwells on negative emotions such as anger or regret. When it is in the future,
Stuart Brown, M.D. describes in his book Play how the Jet Propulsion Lab (JPL) found it difficult to find young engineers of the same caliber as those that had retired.
anxiety and fear arise. Play makes you present, and both research and ancient wisdom say that’s the only place you can be truly happy.
After interviewing the engineers that had retired, they came to the realization that the retirees had engaged in various forms of analytic play that had resulted in their brilliant performance as engineers. Today, JPL interviews include questions about the type of play that applicants engaged in during their youth.
3. It Improves Our Health Laughter is a natural outcome of play. Preliminary studies suggest that, in addition to being enjoyable and relieving feelings of stress and tension, laughter can also improve physical health. It has been linked to decreased stress and inflammation in the body and may improve vascular health.
5. It Connects Us As I described in my previous post, social connectedness is a fundamental need for human beings. On January 1st 1915, during World War I, a soldier in the in the front line sent home a famous letter that was first published in the London Times. It described the events of the truce on Christmas Day: ‘The English brought a soccer ball from the trenches, and pretty soon a lively game ensued. How marvelously wonderful, yet how strange it was. The English officers felt the same way about it. Thus Christmas, the celebration of love, managed to bring mortal enemies together as friends for a time.’
4. It Makes Us Present One of the reasons play may be so fun is that it brings us into the present moment, which
This striking story is a reminder that play – the ability
is the only place where we can feel happiness. When
to laugh and let go, to inhabit the present, and to be
we lose ourselves in play, we can enter a state of Flow,
immersed in mirth and lightness of being – can be an
a concept proposed by research psychologist, Mihály
ultimate act of love and belongingness. When we can
Csíkszentmihályi – author of the book Flow. Flow occurs
laugh and joke, we are remembering our joint humanity,
when we are completely immersed in an activity —
our mutual desire for happiness and love, and our
the state of being one hundred percent in the present
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STAY & PLAY: CENTRAL OREGON Go north for the ultimate (kid-friendly!) golf retreat
by Elizabeth Kang What if you could incorporate more golf into your family
courses, but many of these golf resorts can be stuffy,
getaways without having to drag them to the usual
somewhat pretentious and decidedly not kid friendly.
adult-oriented spots? How about a place that offers both world-class golfing and kid-friendly activities? That would
Central Oregon offers a more accessible, laid-back golf
be a win-win. If you’re looking for the best of both golf
scene: an area where everyone feels welcome, even the
and family time, head north.
smallest of travelers. There’s nothing quite as refreshing as playing a round in the cool, crisp central Oregon air,
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surrounded by tall Aspens and towering Cascade Peaks.
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With magnificent, lush scenery, affordable green fees,
There’s also a serene lake accessible by bike on the
and a staggering lineup of outdoor activities, these two
property, as well as fishing, biking and boating rentals,
Central Oregon resorts are a family golfer’s dream.
and miles of paved paths winding through lush forests and picturesque meadows. A children’s day camp is
BLACK BUTTE RANCH
available (hurray!) while grownups golf or visit the onsite spa. The day camp, available to children ages 4-12,
Celebrating 50 years, the 1,800-acre Black Butte Ranch
offers crafts, games, swimming and play.
has been helping families create lasting memories for decades. There’s a reason golf enthusiasts return to
Budding golfers will also have fun practicing their game
the ranch with their loved ones, again and again. This
on the newly installed “Little Meadow Putting Course,”
gorgeous haven offers an unbelievable selection of
which offers a shorter game of twelve holes between 45
recreation and activities, including two award-winning
and 105 feet. Black Butte Ranch offers private and group
golf courses, a full-service spa, delicious onsite restaurant
lessons for those wanting to learn the basics or perfect
and luxurious lodging accommodations.
their game. NOVEMBER 2021 | ACTIVE FAMIL Y 21
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PRONGHORN RESORT
varied onsite dining with craft beer and cocktails, live music, fitness center, and of course, the golf.
Pronghorn Resort, located just a short drive from downtown Bend, is both rugged and luxurious, offering
To that end, Pronghorn Resort offers two nationally
peace and quiet along with plenty of diversions. With
acclaimed courses designed for all level players. Both
sweeping mountain views, stellar service and amenities
the Jack Nicklaus Signature Course and the Tom Fazio
galore, this golf getaway is an easy win.
Championship Course offer Instagram-worthy scenery and jaw-dropping views on meticulously maintained,
Kids will love the two heated pools, waterslide, bike
emerald-green fairways. At the Pronghorn Golf
rentals, daily arts & crafts, lawn games, and unique lava
Academy, players can take lessons by the best, in either
formations, while adults will appreciate the serene spa,
group or individual lessons. NOVEMBER 2021 | ACTIVE FAMIL Y 23
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Pumpkin Science Experiment Classics and More! by Stratford Schools It’s Fall and that means it’s pumpkin season! That time of year when we are surrounded by all things pumpkin. We eat them, drink them, carve them, and decorate with them. Many of us look forward to the abundance of pumpkin spiced options -- employing those lattes, cookies, breads, pie, and delicious smelling candles to help us get into that cozy feeling of the season. Yet there truly is more to a pumpkin than meets the pie. At Stratford our young students are immersed in engaging science experiments centered all around pumpkins because pumpkins just so happen to be the perfect vegetable to get children excited about the wonders of science and nature. So this year, go out and get your happiness-inducing pumpkins and whimsical looking gourds, and prepare to explore the fascinating science of a pumpkin with your child. Shopping for Pumpkins We all love to look for the “perfect” pumpkin whether that means round and robust, tall and cylindrical, or the one that has a personality all its own. Take your child with you to the pumpkin patch or the store to pick out their favorite pumpkins and gourds. If you have options, select a colorful variety of shapes and sizes. Get a big one, a little one, and liven it up with some gourds of varying colors and textures. Exploring Your Pumpkins Once you get your pumpkin haul home, lay out your pumpkins on a table and have your child get out their lab coat (an old t-shirt or apron will do), measuring tape, and magnifying glass. It’s time to start our science exploration. Starting with a standard looking pumpkin, let’s talk about the differences that we can see on the outside fi rst. • What does the pumpkin look and feel like? • How would your child describe the texture of the shell of their pumpkin? Is it bumpy or is it smooth? • Encourage your child to use their senses and write down all of the things they can see, hear, feel, and smell. • Shake up the pumpkin. Does it make a sound? 24 ACTIVE FAMIL Y | NOVEMBER 2021
[ PARENTING ] • Get a measuring tape and have your child measure the height and circumference of their pumpkin. • Does the pumpkin have a stem? What color is the
can roast your pumpkin seeds for a tasty snack or dry them and have your child create a pumpkin seed shaker using a recycled plastic water bottle or can.
stem? Is the texture of the stem the same as the pumpkin’s shell? • Let’s compare the pumpkin to one of the other
The Life Cycle of a Pumpkin If you have a garden or space to plant, be sure to save
gourds. What color is the gourd? Is the gourd texture
a few seeds to try growing your own pumpkin later.
and shape similar or different from the pumpkin?
Speaking of growing a pumpkin, let’s take a good look at a pumpkin seed and talk about the life cycle of a
Looking at all of these details and answering all of these
pumpkin. What does it take to turn that little seed into
questions is called “scientific observation” and it is one
a fully grown pumpkin? Once you add the essential
of the primary ways that scientists research their subject.
elements of light, water, and nutrient rich soil, the seed is
Your child is now an official Squash Scientist.
unlocked.
What’s Inside?
Wanting more pumpkin science?
Next, let’s pick one of our larger pumpkins and have a
Talk about the science of cooking the pumpkin. Make
parent cut it open so our Squash Scientist can see all
some pumpkin soup or pie! Observe what happens when
of the amazing things that are inside of the pumpkin.
an adult heats up the fibrous strands in a pan? What
There’s a whole other world to observe inside. Have your
texture is the soup or pie after it is finished cooking or
child get their hands in there and feel the pulp and seeds
baking? And most importantly, what does it taste like?
of the pumpkin. Talk about what that feels like. Does the inside of the pumpkin feel like the outside? How is it
Looking for something more explosive?
different or similar?
Create a pumpkin volcano with your child using warm water, baking soda, dish soap and vinegar. You can find
Once your child has gotten a good sense of what the
plenty of fun tutorials on Google and YouTube.
pumpkin feels like inside, you can properly identify the anatomy of a pumpkin together. Have your child draw
And for older children who are ready to move on and
their pumpkin, color it, and label it.
learn all about the concept of xylem and phloem you can check out how farmers grow those giant pumpkins.
Identify the following parts of a pumpkin: 1. Stem
As we combine “Science’ and ‘Fall’ together, we
2. Shell (or Skin)
fascinate children with a wonderful list of pumpkin
3. Cavity
science experiments. These experiments also build a
4. Pulp
bridge between science and art activities that teach
5. Seeds
a variety of simple and complex scientific concepts
6. Fibrous Strands (note: that this is the part that we cook
to the young scientists in our homes and in school. For
and eat!)
the inquisitive kids of all ages, these easy and cool experiments offer a great time to explore pumpkin
The Math Inside
science in a fun and exciting way.
When you are done with the identification process, it’s time to count the seeds! Have your child remove and
To learn more about Stratford School or to schedule a
count all the pumpkin seeds and put those aside. Don’t
personalized tour visit us online at www.stratfordschools.
forget to have them write down their findings. Later, you
com. NOVEMBER 2021 | ACTIVE FAMIL Y 25