Being A Mother

The simplest and most enigmatic word dictionary or in human memory is: “Motherhood”. It is simplest because it is natural for a female to produce a baby and become a mom. It is complex because to become a mother a woman does not have to give birth to a child or necessarily be a biological mom.

Motherhood is a concept, a philosophy. A woman, as a human being, may harbour many negative emotions. She need not be an angel. But a mother can never be unloving or selfish when it concerns her child She would, happily, go hungry after feeding the last morsel to her baby or babies irrespective of his/their age. She would keep the child warm while she has to spend the night shivering. Even if the child grows up to be nasty or ungrateful, the mother would not bad-mouth him publicly. Whatever happens a mother can never curse her child. Let me tell you a small anecdote – a folklore. A man was very mean to his mother.

One day someone offered him money for her mother’s heart. The son killed her and carried her on his shoulder. He proceeded towards that man’s house. On way, he hit a boulder and stumbled The dead mother’s heart spoke,” Oh my son be careful! Don’t get hurt”. The son was amazed and repented his misbehavior with his mother. Only it was too late.

A woman who raises a child (Not her biological offspring) as her own, is no less a mother. Many women are unable to conceive. They adopt a baby. If they do not have motherly instincts, why should they opt for adoption? In India, we have a famous character of Yashoda, who raised Krishna as her own son The folk tales remember Yashoda as Krishna’s real mother, not Devaki who had given birth to Krishna. Raising and looking after a child is as great a job as giving birth to a kid.

Nowadays childless couples get their babies through surrogacy

In surrogacy, the surrogate woman carries and gives birth to a child for someone else. The intended parents are called the commissioning parent. Here, the intended mother is no less than a biological mother. The very fact that she wants a baby and gets it through some other person does not mean that she does not have real motherly feelings. In fact, she feels more love for the baby; more grateful to God for compensating her for her inability to have a child Even the adoptive mother opts for a baby who is not her biological offspring because she loves and wants to have and raise a child.

Every woman has a natural instinct for motherhood. She feels fulfilled as a mother. Milk of kindness and affection flows in her bosom. It is a miracle that the moment a girl delivers a baby, her breast gets filled up with milk

The baby automatically learns to suck her breast. This food is provided by God for the child. The pleasure and contentment, the new mother feels after breast-feeding her baby is out of this world. It is a well known fact that a woman goes through tremendous pain while delivering a child. Every woman is aware of this. It is said that giving birth to a child, amounts to a second birth to the woman Still, every woman wants to become a mom. Every woman wishes to have her own baby and raise him lovingly.

The sentiment behind motherhood is not confined to human beings alone; it is an allpervading emotion on earth Look at a bitch guarding her newly born pups. The most docile of female-dog would become feral and violent if she fears that someone is trying to harm her puppies. This is purely a motherly instinct. Once the puppies are grown up and do not require their mother’s care, the bitch returns to her previous gentle nature. I have seen a picture of a lioness with her cubs. There was no ferocity in her. There was the most tender expression on her face. Amazing! Is it not! There is a slogan which has now become a cliché, “God could not be everywhere so he created Mother.” True! But the concept of motherhood denotes a much wider meaning. Even a father, in the absence of mother, plays the part of a mother to the hilt Man, woman and any other creature, on earth, can possess the sentiment that defines motherhood. The essence of kindness, affection, empathy and care for fellow beings makes a person “Motherly”. That’s why I say that “Motherhood” is a philosophy, not confined to its narrow notion of being a biological mother onl

The death of my mother was a profound and deeply emotional experience that has left a lasting impact on those who loved her. Her loss can be especially difficult, as she truly was the nurturer and caretaker of the family, providing a sense of love, comfort, and security that is so difficult to replicate.

The grief that follows the death of my mother can be overwhelming, and it may take time for those left behind to come to terms with their loss. Eleven years later no one can truly believe she has been gone so long. Memories of happy times and cherished moments with my mother flood back daily, mixed with feelings of sadness and longing.

The death of my mother bring up unresolved feelings and regrets. I wish I had spent more time with her, or done more to show her love and appreciation. Her loss brings up feelings of fear and uncertainty about the future, as she has always been a constant presence and source of guidance is no longer there.

Despite the pain and sadness that came with her death, it has become daily even every moment a time of reflection and appreciation for the life she lived and the impact she had on those around her. It is an opportunity to honor her memory and continue to carry her love and spirit forward.

Ultimately, the death my mother has become a reminder of the fragility of life and the importance of cherishing the time I have with my loved ones family and friends who have become family until the end. It may has been difficult and trying experience, but it is a catalyst for growth, healing, and a renewed appreciation for the people and moments that truly matter in life.

After her death I relinquished my passion of writing as she was the guiding light I had. Covid came and proved she still guided my hand. Days go by I see her smile as I become whom I know she wants me to be.