the right to rule JODIE MESCHUK
TAKE MY HAND AND LET’S FIND YOUR COURAGEOUS VOICE
TAKE THE QUIZ
SHIFTING YOUR MINDSET FROM FEAR TO FREEDOM F R E E D O M IS MY L AN GUAGE
FREEDOM IS MY LANGUAGE
AND IT EMERGES STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART
HOW MUCH
DOES FEAR INFLUENCE YOUR DECISIONS?
None of us want to be the boat-rocker. In general, we’d all love to live in a conflict-free world. But sometimes we have to make tough or unpopular decisions. And we don’t always come out unscathed. Criticism and even rejection are common when we operate from a place of standing up for what we believe and making choices that we deem best for our families. Therefore, we need to build up our gumption. We need to gauge how much we tend to make decisions in order to avoid upsetting people so that we can grow into a truer, bolder version of ourselves.
I INVITE YOU TO TAKE THE
FREEDOM IS MY LANGUAGE
QUIZ
PUT A CHECKMARK ON THE BOX THAT MOST REFLECTS YOUR ANSWER
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At a neighborhood dinner, my friend is serving a dish I don’t particularly like. When she passes it to me... a I smile, scoop a little onto my plate and force myself to eat it. b I lie and say, “I’m allergic.” c I hold up my hand and say, “No thank you.”
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My mother-in-law feels I need to discipline my kids more. When she’s around... a I definitely become a little more strict. b I parent as usual, but I’m hyper-aware of her judging me. c I let the kids go wild even more than usual just to make a point.
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At the park with my kids, another mother scowls at me because my child is on the swing for longer than she thinks is fair... a I quietly usher my child to a different play area. b I pretend I don’t see her, but feel uncomfortable until my child gets off the swing. c I smile at the mother and comment on the nice weather.
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My 5 year old is having a meltdown in the middle of the grocery store. I’ve been trying to hold my ground... a but I console him by opening the box of his favorite treats instead. b so I quietly reason with him for 20 minutes while distractedly shopping. c so I abandon my cart in the aisle and carry him outside to discuss his behavior.
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My neighbor complains about a political sign in our yard. Later... a I put the sign in the garage. b I move it over to where she can’t see it. c I get three more signs to put up.
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My child has a well-check appointment. There’s going to be vaccination pressure... a so I make up an excuse as to why we aren’t coming in. b I feel my anxiety rise just driving to the doctor’s office. c I rehearse my speech in my head and get ready to express my beliefs.
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FREEDOM IS MY LANGUAGE
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A friend buys me a funny t-shirt that reflects my beliefs about a political issue... a But I would never wear it in public. I wouldn’t want others to feel uncomfortable. b It’s great for wearing to the gym. I probably won’t see someone I know there. c I rock that shirt as often as possible. People should know where I stand.
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My child has been misbehaving in class, so... a I avoid interacting with the teacher after school. b I write the teacher an email to show her I’m invested. c I consistently approach the teacher in person to see how things are going.
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My spouse regularly feeds my child junk food when I’m not around... a but I’m so tired of having the argument, I just don’t bring it up anymore. b I secretly throw out the junk food after he buys it. c I patiently and consistently speak to him about why this needs to stop.
10 When my mom/aunt/sister/grandma visits, she doesn’t respect our home rules... a but I don’t say anything; I just fix things when she leaves. b I follow her around and try to share the way I’d like things done. c I am direct and suggest she will be more comfortable at a hotel next time. 11 A friend misunderstands my text message and makes ridiculous accusations... a but I apologize anyway. It’s the quickest way to keep the peace with her. b I defend myself and decide to avoid her for a couple weeks. c after listening to her side, I explain mine to make sure I’m heard as well. 12 I’m hosting Thanksgiving dinner when Uncle Charlie makes a racial slur... a I politely smile. He is from a different generation, after all. b I am suddenly examining the mashed potatoes on my plate. c I kindly but firmly tell him that kind of talk isn’t acceptable in my home. COLUMN TOTALS (from both pages)
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MY FINAL SCORE
SO...
HOW’D YOU SCORE?!
SCORE OF 12 - 19 Currently, you are a Petrified Penny, but you certainly don’t need to stay that way! Consider what you are afraid of losing by being more of yourself. Consider who told you you needed to conform to find love and acceptance. And look around you for faithful friends and family. I’m sure you’ll find they are more loyal and accepting than you think. Perhaps you should try giving them a chance to know and embrace the real you. SCORE OF 20 - 27 You’re moving along, Timid Tina! You’re ready to push yourself just a bit further in expressing your true feelings and beliefs. Right now, you feel comfortable playing it on the safe side, exercising your wishes behind the scenes. But what if you allowed the people in your life to understand what you really want? Choose safe people to show your courageous voice and true self. SCORE OF 28 - 36 Great job, Daring Debbie! You use your voice to stand up for what you believe. Remember that when you show courage, you empower others to do the same. When it comes to the battle for what’s good and right in life, you are a force to be reckoned with. Keep it up!
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