Issue 236

THE RESULTS ARE IN!

What does kibbud av mean for you?

Nature speaks. The wise listen.

The secret behind your vitamins

SPREAD THIN

The predicaments and privileges of the sandwich generation

All in the Family

MOTHER TO DAUGHTER

Things you borrowed… forever

TO HONOR AND REVERE

A halachic overview of the laws of kibbud av v’eim

AROUND THE SHABBOS TABLE

Highlights and how-to’s of the family Shabbaton

PRETTY AS A PICTURE

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FLORAL ARTISTRY & TABLESCAPES

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MAKEUP & SKINCARE

SEWING & FABRICS

Machine use in depth, alterations, fabric prep, threading procedures, and array of techniques.

By SARAH KATZ

HOME ORGANIZING

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By DALYA GOLDMAN @space.reborn

Applying makeup for everyday + occasions, product guidance, and skincare routines.

By RAYCH KRAUS @byraych

SINGING & VOCAL DEVELOPMENT

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Voice techniques and tips, powerful vocalizing methods, and a peek at the pro studio process.

By DEVORAH SCHWARTZ @devorahschwartzofficial

ART & PAINTING

Step-by-step techniques, styles, and mediums to create your own masterpieces.

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SHABBOS COOKING BASICS

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NOSTALGIA

(Re: A Musical Legacy, Issue 235)

Thank you so much for your beautiful article about Reb Moshe Goldman, a”h. It was very interesting to read more about his life, and I found it so poignant to remember all those songs and have them replay in my mind. As a woman whose brothers had all gone to Camp Shalva, reading about that time in his life was especially meaningful. Thank you for this welcome dose of nostalgia!

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(Re: A Voice from Above, Issue 235)

I just finished reading the story “A Voice From Above.” It was a beautiful and inspirational story. Thanks for providing content that is comforting and uplifting.

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A PAINFUL READ

(Re: To Live and Let Live, Issue 235)

First of all, thank you so much for such an amazing magazine. I look forward to reading it every Wednesday.

I would like to comment on the serial To Live and Let Live. It’s an extremely difficult and painful read. Here she is, married to a guy who she knew had a medical history, but she decided to get engaged to him because of his beautiful qualities. When his health began to deteriorate, it was incredibly difficult for them, but instead of allowing Debbie to get support from her friends and own family, Gavi asks the impossible: to keep it a secret. Now his wife is dealing with not only illness, but with an unbearable secret as well, which results in her

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isolation from her friends and family. By doing so, Gavi hurt his wife deeply, and also caused people to speculate and jump to conclusions about what is going on.

I sincerely hope that anyone going through something similar knows that it’s not okay to be asked to keep such a matter a secret, and also knows to discuss it with a rav or professional.

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NO SECRETS

(Re: To Live and Let Live, Issue 235)

I imagine that this serial will have a happy ending, but my heart races every week when I read it. I hope people are not getting the message that it’s normal to keep such a thing a secret! Patients and their families should be allowed to access the emotional and physical support they need.

I’m very surprised that in this story, the young man’s parents did not talk to him about his choice, but supported him in his desire to keep it a secret. They really wronged his wife.

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MUSIC IS GOOD FOR YOU

(Re: Hitting the Right Note, Issue 235)

I read with interest the article about different musical instruments. I myself am almost completely tone deaf, but some of my kids are very musical. This has taught me the difference between listening to music and creating music. When you listen to music, the music stirs feelings in you, but when you create music, you are expressing your own feelings. In many ways, music is a channel. A moving song helps you release feelings you might not even have been aware of, and creating music helps you express what you want to share with others.

There are studies that show that music helps develop many different areas of the brain. Watching my kids, I’ve found that creating music is indeed a very wholesome and powerful outlet. Thanks for another great issue of your wonderful magazine!

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NOT A VIOLIN?

(Re: Hitting the Right Note, Issue 235)

Thank you for the article on musical instruments; it was a fascinating read! What I found especially interesting was the fact about violins being only 500 years old. This begs the question: What did Serach bas Asher play when she told Yaakov that Yosef was still alive?

Wondering

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THE COLOR OF FUN

(Re: Color Me Pretty, Issue 235)

The new coloring page for adults was a great idea! I enthusiastically joined my four-year-old when she took out her colored pencils and sat down to color alongside her. Surprisingly, I found myself gravitating toward the children’s color by number, and I realized that I’m just a kid at heart!

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(Re: House of Cards)

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PARSHAS BECHUKOSAI

To Tame the Beast

Y. Levenstein

In Bechukosai, Hashem promises that if Klal Yisrael will keep the Torah and mitzvos, we’ll enjoy material prosperity and live peacefully in our Land. Among the brachos is “ V’hishbati chayah ra’ah min ha’Aretz” – I will remove wild beasts from the Land (Vayikra 26:6).

IT WAS A DIFFICULT YEAR for the Yidden of Yerushalayim. Living in the Holy City in the 16th century was never easy, but with the current drought, life became unbearable. There was simply no food to be found. Starvation and hunger ran rampant.

The community leaders and activists, each venerated talmidei chachamim in their own right, gathered for an important asifah. The community-generated funds for tzedakah had been used up, and they hoped to find a way to raise more money.

“We must send a messenger to Istanbul to solicit funds from the wealthy Turkish Yidden,” they decided.

But who would agree to go?

The chachamim drew a goral, and the name of the outstanding tzaddik, Rav Avraham Galante, zt”l, was drawn.

Rav Avraham accepted the mission and immediately headed to Yaffo, where he boarded a ship to Istanbul.

After three days at sea, the ship neared the Ottoman port. The crew prepared to dock, but noticed a strange scene. The people on dry land were shrieking and running wildly. Many residents could be seen standing on rooftops, hollering.

The captain didn’t want to lay anchor. Something frightening was going on, and he didn’t want to put his passengers in danger. He motioned to his crew to raise the sails and turn back toward open sea.

When Rav Avraham realized what was happening, he immediately approached the captain. “Sir, I would like to disembark,” he requested. “It’s a danger zone there… but I believe that with G-d’s help, I can fix the problem.”

Somehow, the captain was convinced, and he let Rav Avraham off at the port.

As soon as he set his foot on ground,

Rav Avraham was met with frantic shouts. From all corners, people yelled, “Jew! Old man! Watch out! Lions are running wild on the streets!” The police called out to him, “Run, Jew! Get onto a roof, quickly!”

But Rav Avraham calmly replied, “Don’t worry. I’ll take care of them.”

It turned out that two of the lions from the Sultan’s menagerie had escaped that day, throwing the entire city into panic and confusion.

Suddenly, one lion came into view. It was running down the street wildly. The soldiers who were anxiously patrolling the streets ran away, but Rav Avraham wasn’t fazed. He remained standing in his place, looking at the lion without a hint of fear.

“Run away! Hide!” the people called from the rooftops.

The lion charged toward Rav Avraham, but then it suddenly kneeled to the ground. It licked Rav Avraham’s hand docilely, as if it were a trained domestic pet, and Rav Avraham grabbed hold of the lion’s ear and began walking it toward the menagerie. The lion followed meekly, like a baby sheep.

On the way, Rav Avraham met the second lion, which was trying to break into a locked house. Rav Avraham grabbed the ear of this lion, too, and continued walking, calmly escorting the two wild beasts.

Bystanders, up on their roofs, watched in total shock. How could this little old man could manage to do what strapping young soldiers and policemen were terrified to try?

Rav Avraham reached the Sultan’s court and led the two lions into their cage, locking the metal gates securely.

With the danger past, the residents came out of hiding and surrounded Rav Avraham. They lifted him high and brought him to the Sultan. Rav Avraham was treated like royalty and

The lion charged toward Rav Avraham, but then it suddenly kneeled to the ground

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was seated to the right of the Sultan.

The Sultan asked him to introduce himself. “Where do you come from? And how did you know to arrive right in the middle of this danger to save our city?”

Rav Avraham replied that he was a Yid from Eretz Yisroel, and that he had come to raise money, since they were suffering from severe hunger and poverty.

The Sultan then asked the question that everyone was wondering. “From where do you get the power to tame such beasts?”

“Your Highness surely sees,” Rav Avraham replied, “that I am no strong man. I’m just a frail old Yid. But I have one thing going for me. I bear the stamp of Hashem. That’s why I’m not afraid of any creature, as our Torah says (Devarim 28:10), ‘All the nations of the world will see that the name of Hashem is called upon you, and they will fear you.’”

The Sultan was impressed. The man standing before him was obviously very holy. He instructed his treasurer to give Rav Avraham a chest filled with gold and silver for the poor of Yerushalayim. He didn’t want this elderly, saintly Yid to have to go door to door, collecting pennies.

Rav Avraham Galante parted from the Sultan amidst much pomp. He was happy to return to his brothers in Yerushalayim so quickly — mission accomplished.

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At times, animals seem to not be afraid of people, and even come to mauling or killing humans, despite the promise Hashem gave Noach after he left the teivah, that “your fear shall be upon all beasts of the earth” (Bereishis 9:2).

Hashem created man with His image imprinted on his face. If a person sins and pursues the lowliness of Olam Hazeh, he loses his tzelem Elokim. This sets him as an “equal” if he ever finds himself face to face with a Conversely, one who follows the Torah and mitzvos ensures that animals automatically fear him and can do him no harm.

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“Take your vitamins,” says the doctor before you leave the exam room. You follow the rules and take that multivitamin, but really, why do you need vitamin supplements anyway? It doesn’t seem like the vitamin is actually doing anything. You don’t always feel a difference when you do remember to take your vitamin or when you don’t.

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When you look at the vitamin bottles in a typical family’s medicine cabinet, you’ll see practically an entire alphabet. Vitamin B, vitamin C, multivitamins with vitamin A and vitamin K, supplements for energy, and supplements for iron.

Today, supplements are added to meals just like salt is added to food. But vitamin supplements are a pretty recent invention.

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Scientists discovered the existence of vitamins in the early 1900s. Realizing that vitamin deficiencies caused many illnesses, doctors started promoting vitamins as dietary supplements.

Why were people low in vitamins, though?

In those years, big changes were happening in food production. Farmers started using chemicals and pesticides on their farms, which killed off not only bugs, but also damaged the quality of the food, decreasing the amount of nutrients in it.

Processed foods also became popular then, causing people to overeat junk food with no nutritional value. These foods drain the body of its nutrients. There’s also a lot of stress in an average person’s

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Kolel Chibas Yerushalayim is more than just an unparalleled empire of chesed – it’s a testament to our eternal connections to the Holy Land. It is a name that evoked longing and love for generations and is still deeply woven into thousands of Jewish households worldwide, where its iconic pushka is a constant reminder of that generational commitment.

Founded 194 years ago in Europe by the gedolim and tzaddikim of Klal Yisroel at the time, this venerable tzedaka has been a steadfast pillar of support for countless families for nearly two centuries. Known as Tzidkas Reb Meyer Baal Haness, it has also been the tzedaka that our forefathers turned to for blessings and prayer in times of joy and adversity.

This commitment of generations is at the heart of the theme for the upcoming annual dinner named “M’Dor L’Dor,” set to take place on June 6 in the Ateres Golda Ballroom in Boro Park. Thousands are expected to gather to celebrate and further the legacy of this empire of chesed, and sup-

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For nearly two centuries, the pushka of Reb Meyer Baal Haness has been ubiquitous in Jewish homes, symbolizing the unwavering commitment to supporting the poor in Israel. Our ancestors, often sacrificing their meager resources, placed their hard-earned money into these pushkas, driven by a profound sense of duty and compassion. This tradition of giving has been passed down through generations, reinforcing the unbreakable connection between Jewish communities worldwide and the Holy Land.

Today, Kolel Chibas Yerushalayim is a beacon of hope and support for over 7,000 families and more than 50,000 children through many initiatives. Under its expansive umbrella, the organization operates kollelim for talmidei chachamim, distributes funds directly to families multiple times a year, and provides critical health and dental services. These efforts are making a significant

impact, particularly in these challenging times, when poverty escalates amidst the shadows of conflict in the Holy Land.

The dinner theme M’Dor L’Dor, from generation to generation, is aptly named to emphasize this generational commitment. From the shtetlach of Europe to the bustling Jewish centers of today, the dedication to supporting Eretz Yisroel has remained steadfast. This event is not just a fundraiser but a celebration of our collective history, values, and the enduring spirit of chesed that binds us all.

The upcoming dinner promises to be a momentous occasion. Held in the elegant Ateres Golda, it will unite supporters from all walks of life, unified by their commitment to continuing the legacy of Kolel Chibas Yerushalayim. The evening will be filled with inspiring speech es, heartfelt stories, and a renewed call to

action to support the vital work of this esteemed organization. In these times of heightened need, the importance of this dinner cannot be overstated. The dinner will serve as an opportunity to come together, reflect on our glorious history, and pledge our support for the future at a time when our brothers and sisters in Eretz Yisrael are enduring historic rates of poverty in the shadows of war and terrorism. Those conditions impact the Israeli economy and pose unprecedented hardship for families across the land.

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BPJCC Event Celebrates Parenting Program Participants

Participants in a parenting program run by the Boro Park Jewish Community Council in partnership with Catapult Learning enjoyed an afternoon of inspiration and encouragement, while also gaining practical skills.

BPJCC’s Parent Engagement Community Center, better known as the PECC, was launched approximately three years ago. Since that time, dozens of women have participated in more than ten workshops addressing various contemporary challenges, and have found them to be a safe space to discuss a variety of child-rearing issues.

The parenting event took place on May 14 at the BJPCC ballroom and was open to all PECC alumni. In addition to enjoying lunch and refreshments, participants heard from guest presenter Rebbetzin Chana Malka Singer and were treated to a roundtable discussion led by PECC coordinator Mrs. Rachel Horovitz. Both discussed how to make joy and positivity a part of everyday life, even when facing difficult circumstances.

Funded by the New York City Department of Education, the PECC’s programs are completely free. One-on-one mentoring with a licensed social worker is the latest PECC offering, giving parents a no-cost opportunity to consult with a professional about finding ways to help their children succeed.

“The PECC is extremely needed and extremely popular,” said BPJCC CEO Rabbi Avi Greenstein. “It has ushered in a new era of helping parents, and dovetails with our mission of giving the community the type of culturally sensitive help that it needs.”

After More Than a Decade, NYC Reopening Section 8 Housing Applications

At long last, the New York City Housing Authority’s Section 8 housing waitlist will finally be accepting applications for rental subsidies in early June, with 200,000 applications to be randomly selected by lottery for the coveted vouchers.

The NYCHA Section 8 waiting list, which has been closed since December 10, 2009, will reopen for a week starting at midnight June 3 and running through 11:59 p.m. on June 9. Eligibility is determined by income, with a maximum annual income of $62,150 for two-person families, $69,900 for threeperson families, $77,650 for four-person families, $83,850 for five-person families, $90,050 for six-person families, $96,300

for seven-person families and $102,500 for eight-person families.

Section 8, also known as the Housing Choice Voucher Program, provides low-income families with rental subsidies that they can use to rent housing from a participating landlord in the private market, in the neighborhood of their choice. Announcing the return of Section 8 on May 20, Mayor Eric Adams said that the program is expected to draw hundreds of thousands of new applicants, providing at least some portion of those families with desperately needed assistance to alleviate the housing crunch.

“Addressing our city’s housing crisis means using every tool our city has, and that’s exactly what we’re doing,” said Adams. “From advancing 24 housing projects on public land this year through our ’24 in 24’ plan, to fighting for our ‘City of Yes for Housing Opportunity’ proposal to build a little more housing in every neighborhood, we are committed to helping every New Yorker find and stay in their home.”

Applications can be submitted online at www.on.nyc.gov/ section8-application. Paper applications can be requested by calling 718-218-1525 from 8 a.m. to 5 p.m., or picked up in person during those same hours at the Brooklyn Customer Contact Center, located at 787 Atlantic Avenue. All mailed applications must be postmarked by June 28, 2024.

Those who receive vouchers for the waitlist will be notified by NYCHA after August 1. NYCHA gives higher priority to mobility impaired individuals living in inaccessible housing, people ages 62 and over and those with disabilities. The agency administers the country’s largest Section 8 program, and is currently providing rental subsidies to 241,117 residents.

A second waiting list is expected to be opened on August 1.

Death in Flatbush Sparks Legislation To Mandate Radiator Inspections

Four months after a Flatbush baby was killed by steam spewing out of a faulty radiator, the City Council is considering a bill that would require landlords to conduct annual inspections of heating equipment.

Councilwoman Farah Louis introduced the legislation, which would apply in any unit that is home to children who are less than seven years old. Inspections would have to be done by licensed plumbers, with building owners required to provide inspection reports, and to repair or replace any damaged radiators. Failure to comply with the mandatory inspections, which would be overseen by the New York City Department of Buildings, would result in a fine of as much as $1,000.

Eleven-month-old Binyomin Kuravsky was killed by steam from a faulty radiator on January 19. His father, Alexander Kuravsky, called Louis’s legislation “a common-sense bill that

will save lives.”

An online petition started by the Kuravskys noted that three other babies have died in similar incidents. They hope that the bill, which is currently being reviewed by the City Council’s Committee on Housing and Buildings and will still need to be approved by the entire City Council, will prevent similar tragedies in the future.

“A 60- to 100-year-old piece of metal — one that can steam a room up to 212 degrees — needs to be inspected,” said Kuravsky. “We will continue our fight and advocacy until the bill is passed.”

With Congestion Pricing Looming, MTA Head Slammed for Sky-High Salary

Metropolitan Transportation Authority CEO Janno Lieber has long touted a $15 congestion pricing toll as the answer to the agency’s financial woes, but payroll records suggest that perhaps the agency could tighten its own belt and save money by lowering Liebers’s salary, as well as that of many of his staff.

Lieber earned $400,999 last year, which is $999 more than President Joe Biden. Lieber’s take-home pay was reported by See Through NY, which showed that more than 170 MTA employees had take-home salaries between $290,000 and $400,000. By comparison, Governor Kathy Hochul earns just $250,000 annually, with Mayor Eric Adams taking home $258,000.

“The MTA may be the most profligate agency in America, and it starts with Janno Lieber’s exorbitant salary,” said Joshua Bienstock of Keep NYC Congestion Tax Free.

Lieber’s salary was set in 2022 by a group of individuals appointed by Hochul and Adams to the MTA board. While See Through NY lists Lieber’s earnings as $386,999, plus $14,000 in other payouts, the agency said that he earned just $365,000, explaining that the report adds retroactive pay and other non-salary items to its totals. The MTA also noted that the CEOs of the transportation authorities

in Washington, D.C., and Jacksonville both earn more than Lieber.

Bienstock accused Lieber of failing miserably at his job, saying that he has wasted billions of dollars in recent years, a track record that would get him fired if he were working in the private sector.

“If the agency were run even half competently, transit fares would be lower and New York drivers wouldn’t be facing a small business-killing congestion pricing tax,” said Bienstock.

“The MTA is an absolute disgrace.”

Four Arrested for Skimmer Fraud at Heimishe Stores

With multiple kosher stores targeted by thieves using skimmers to obtain electronic data that allows them to steal from shoppers, word that four men have been arrested comes as very good news.

Two men were arrested in Flatbush on May 22 after being spotted trying to remove a skimming device from Moisha’s Supermarket on Avenue M. Shmira members followed the men as they left the store, detaining them outside and attempting to hold them there until police could arrive on scene.

EMS workers were called to the scene after one of the men told police that he was ill, in an apparent ruse to avoid arrest. After EMS volunteers pronounced the man to be in good health, police searched him and his partner, but were unable to locate the skimmer. Following a suggestion from a Shmira volunteer, police searched the on-scene ambulance and discovered the skimmer inside, where it had been hidden by the suspect who had claimed to be sick.

Police arrested the pair, and arrested another two men the following day after they were spotted placing a skimmer on a card reader in a Williamsburg grocery.

The NYPD is continuing to urge shoppers to wiggle the surface of electronic payment terminals before swiping or tapping their cards to ensure that there are no skimmers present.

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Debbie hates the rumors circulating about herself and Gavi. Gavi’s condition deteriorates, and during that difficult time, they welcome a second baby. Soon COVID strikes. Gavi’s family, oblivious to Gavi’s medical situation, grows resentful when his mother spends so much time with Debbie and the kids.

It was a hectic Friday morning right after Sukkos. Tzvi was two and a half; Moish was nine months old. Gavi felt awful, and Professor Lowenstein wanted us to come in. I dropped my boys at my in-laws and got a very uncomfortable Gavi to the hospital. The first thing they did was drain six liters of fluid from his abdomen. Then they admitted him. I left my babies at my mother-in-law and stayed with Gavi for a very emotional and difficult Shabbos.

On top of my regular kids-hospital-kids routine, I was also involved in planning my sister’s upcoming wedding, a COVID backyard wedding. One morning, I left the kids at my mother-in-law,

left Gavi in the hospital, and went to meet my sisters and mother for a gown fitting. The wedding was two weeks away, and I couldn’t keep putting it off. For the first time in weeks, I felt myself relaxing, ready to take a break from it all.

Soon after I got there, Gavi called. “Debbie? They’re moving me. To a different hospital. I need you to come; I’m so, so sorry.”

I didn’t know how to respond. I tore the gown off and ran to the stairwell, bursting into tears. I didn’t know what to do. Do I finish this gown fitting so I’d have something to wear at the wedding, or just run?

My mother came looking for me. “Debbie? Where are you? What happened?”

Through my tears, I told her what Gavi had said. My moth er firmly guided me back to the dressing room, quickly took my measurements, and sent me in a taxi to the hospital. The hospital transferred us via van to the larg er hospital, which handled organ transplants. That same day, we met the transplant team. The realization dawned that a transplant was more imminent than we had thought.

Gavi was in the hospital for two weeks. We celebrated our fourth an niversary in his room on the ward. To my relief, they released him two days before my sister’s wedding. We’d be at the wedding, all of us, and the thought

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comforted me and brought me joy. I went to bed the night before my sister’s wedding in my own house, with every member of my immediate family in the same house as I was.

I opened my eyes suddenly. The house was dark and silent. For a moment, I listened to the clock’s gentle ticking. Then the sound came again. Moish was whimpering from his room. Slipping my feet into my slippers, I rushed to take him out of his crib before he could wake Tzvi.

“Come, Moish,” I murmured. My phone read 5:15 a.m. Much too early to start our day. I made Moish a bottle and brought him to bed with me, hop- ing he’d fall back asleep. My pillow welcomed me back as I snuggled down with my baby. But Moish was excited to see Gavi after their two-week separation. Within moments he’d woken his Tatty, and they started giggling and playing together.

GAVI SEIZED VIOLENTLY AS I ANSWERED THE DISPATCHER’S QUESTIONS. AFTER SEVERAL MINUTES, THE SEIZURE STOPPED AND THE MEDICS ARRIVED

The dispatcher answered. I said, “My husband is having a seizure.” Horrible sounds were coming from my husband’s bed. It sounded like every bone in his body was cracking. He seized violently as I answered the dispatcher’s questions. After several minutes, the seizure stopped and the medics arrived. I threw on a robe and opened the front door.

The next minutes passed in a nauseating blur: the medics trying to get my husband to respond, my two little boys crying from their bedroom, hearing myself answer another paramedic’s questions, trying to locate a neighbor to watch my children.

The paramedic questioned me about my husband’s medical history.

“He has a liver disease,” I said. “PSC. He was just hospitalized for two weeks; we came home two days ago…” The discharge papers were still lying on the table.

When we came out of the building, blinking in the early morning Yerushalayim light, I saw the special intensive care ambulance used for life-threatening emergencies. Sirens screaming, we made our way to the hospital.

I messaged Professor Lowenstein on the way. Gavi had a seizure. We’re in an ambulance on the way to Haddasah.

“Gavi,” I whispered, “I want to go back to sleep! Please don’t play with him now!”

But they’d missed each other. Eventually, I stood up with Moish in my arms. “We’re going back to sleep now,” I said, and marched back into the kids’ room. I lay Moish in his crib with his bottle and went back to bed. Maybe he’d settle himself. I needed more sleep.

Before I could fall asleep, my husband started making noises.

“Gavi, please,” I begged.

The peculiar noises continued. I raised my head. To my horror, my husband was jerking on his bed, moving strangely.

“Gavi? What are you doing? Gavi!”

His eyes rolled wildly. When my heart resumed beating, it thudded and hammered against my chest so forcefully that it was hard to breathe. I watched my husband for another moment before grabbing my phone and calling for help.

He replied that he would meet us there.

By the time we arrived, my husband had regained consciousness. He was tested for COVID, and routed to a temporary ER to wait until his results came back with all the other patients who hadn’t yet received a negative result. I wasn’t allowed in. My sister-in-law went to get my kids from my neighbor, and my mother-in-law came to the hospital to be with me. After almost two hours, Gavi’s negative COVID test result came in, and we were moved to the regular ER, and then moved again to the highest-level care in the ER: ER-ICU. Blood work, physical examinations, a CT scan and an ultrasound followed.

At about 10 a.m. my phone rang. I glanced at the number and my breath caught. It was my mother. I suddenly realized where I was supposed to be right then. It was my sister’s wedding day, and I was supposed to be at my parents’ house for my appointment with the make-up artist.

TO BE CONTINUED…

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CHAPTER 12

Yoel hits rock bottom and speaks to Tuli. At the annual Brandwein pre-Pesach tasting fest, Yoel hands Chavi a generous cash gift, and Russy buys a horse-riding vest for Zevi.

“Russy, can you be ready in fifteen minutes?” Yoel poked his head into the Pesach kitchen.

“What for?” Russy cracked another egg, carefully separated the white from the yolk, and threw it into the mixer. One more, and she could get the coffee cake going.

“Surprise trip, hatched to get you away from the eggs.”

The only downside of the newly revised Yoel was his recovered terrible sense of humor. At least he tried.

“Sounds egg citing.” She looked longingly at the Bosch. What would she do with the eggs?

Zul zein ah kapparah, she figured. Thinking a pun wasn’t as bad as saying it. She dumped all the carefully divid-

ed yolks and whites into the garbage can. It wasn’t worth risking a Pesach cake.

When they were in the car, Russy looked at her husband curiously. “So… what’s the secret?”

He carefully backed out of the driveway and made a left toward Grove Street. Then he looked at Russy. “I wanted to celebrate the halfway mark. I finished thirty hours — that’s half!”

He was celebrating with her!

“Mazel tov,” she choked out. “Wow! That’s big. So… how’s it been going?”

He concentrated on driving. “It’s been really… special. Obviously, I wouldn’t have chosen to do this. But then again, maybe I should’ve been more grateful for… everything… be-

fore it had to come down to schlepping boxes.” He paused. “Actually, that’s how we’re celebrating. Tonight is dropoff, and I can use your help.”

She turned around and noticed the trunk piled with cardboard boxes.

“Yoel,” she said, alarmed, “you can’t carry these boxes yourself.”

“If I got them into the car, I’ll get them out. Russy, it’s all extremely confidential, and I don’t think you know any of these people. But don’t ask any questions.”

Russy nodded. They drove another minute quietly while Russy processed Yoel’s words. Was this her husband? Sharing his feelings and thoughts with her ? And if 30 hours of community service had changed him more than

35 years of marriage, she was afraid — and curious — what the next thirty hours would do.

But maybe it wasn’t only Yoel who’d changed? Maybe she’d also changed?

Waze announced that their destination was on the right. Yoel pulled up and grabbed a mask from the cup holder. He covered his face, except for his eyes.

He removed a case of potatoes and eggs from his car and quietly dropped it on the porch. Russy noticed the broken mini-blinds on the windows.

“Considering a career in the FBI?” Russy kidded as he came back.

Yoel’s smile dried up. The atmosphere chilled considerably.

“Sorry. I didn’t mean it.” She pointed lamely to the mask.

He didn’t answer, just concentrated on the dark roads until they pulled up to Glenn Circle.

“Glenn Circle?” Russy asked, surprised. Glenn Circle was the Wall Street of Monsey.

It was only the first week of April, yet the air smelled of fresh mulch and flowers. The street looked like a car showroom, with each driveway sporting another gleaming, late model.

They approached a house, probably the newest on the block. An oversized chandelier glistened from behind the sheer drapes. A white Lexus and black Expedition were parked in the driveway.

A few feet past the house, Yoel killed the engine.

“I’ll park here,” Yoel said, “so they shouldn’t see us.”

“This house?” Russy asked.

Yoel nodded.

“The Lichtentags,” she said quietly. “Ratzy Lichtentag.”

“Oy! ” Yoel banged a fist of the steering wheel. “I didn’t think you knew where they live. She’s much younger than you, no?”

Russy nodded. “The N’shei meeting was at her house a couple of months ago.”

She remembered that meeting. They’d planned the tablecloth gemach for the community. As usual, Yoel had insisted she attend, but she’d barely opened her mouth, save for offering Kristina’s services to cut the tablecloths to size.

But Ratzy? She’d chaired the meet-

ing, highlighted wig bouncing as she debated between embroidered linen toppers or eyelet ones.

“Gavriel is going to recognize you even with a mask,” Russy said.

“You’re right. What should I do?”

“You can never really know what goes on behind sheer curtains,” Russy said sadly. She thought about the broken mini blinds and wondered who was better off.

Yoel was quiet, thinking.

“Maybe I’ll bring Menachem later, and he’ll do it,” Yoel said at last. “They won’t recognize a random bachur, and I don’t think he knows where the Lichtentags live.” He turned to her, making sure she was looking at him, “And besides, I should tell Menachem I spoke to a friend of mine. A mashgiach at Rav Bruk’s yeshiva in Yerushalayim.”

“That would be… nice.”

Yoel’s phone, synced to the car, rang. Daniel and Rechy were calling.

“Hi Daniel. How was your supper?” Russy asked, as soon as Danny’s voice filled the car. They’d gone to that new steakhouse in Pomona for supper, although she’d cooked supper especially for them.

“Sick. The place was packed! Looks like weren’t the only ones back from Eretz Yisroel craving real food.”

Yoel frowned but stayed quiet.

“Anyway,” Daniel said slowly. “So the thing is, Rechy’s sister… you know, the one from Staten Island?”

Russy’s heart dropped. She knew what was coming. She’d smelled it all day as Rechy popped upstairs a few times and spoke about her sister in this nonchalant, deliberate way.

“Hmmm…”

“So… Rechy hasn’t seen her since her wedding. And… last-minute plans, whatever. She’s going to be at my in-laws for first days.”

His voice echoed in the car so loudly, Russy lowered the volume. Yoel was quiet.

“I mean, Rechy would love to be here first days. The Sedarim are so special by us. But…”

“I hear,” Yoel said.

Russy closed her eyes tightly. She was surprised to feel tears coming. Not now, Daniel. Not when Tatty is trying so hard.

And did Yosef Yehuda break the news about their coming only for the second

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Seder?

The smell of rotten potatoes floated to the front of the car

“Okay,” Yoel said quietly. “We’ll miss you.”

After Daniel disconnected, Yoel stayed seated. To Russy, he looked exhausted from the conversation.

“Should we continue to the next address?” Russy finally asked.

“I don’t know. I feel so bad for Gavriel. I mean, just mowing this lawn costs a bomb.”

She nodded. “I can’t imagine what they must be going through. Maybe you know someone who can hire him? He was successful, no?” Russy found herself blabbering. She still wasn’t used to having Yoel listen to her.

Yoel didn’t answer. Finally, he started the car again. He drove slowly down the street, made a circle at the cul-de-sac and turned around.

When they reached the Lichtentag’s house again, he finally spoke again. “Truth is? I fired my property manager the day after I was arrested. He played a big part in this whole shady business.”

“Yoel,” Russy said softly, “go. I’ll be waiting in the car for you.”

* * * * *

Mental health emergencies didn’t care about Bedikas Chometz. Chavi had agreed to come in until 12, but at the rate the phones were ringing, she’d need a miracle to get out of the office.

Most callers wanted to know if their meds were kosher l’Pesach. (They all were.) A mother called crying that her son was admitted overnight, and could Dr. Kogel call the unit to speak to the doctors? (Of course, as soon as she’d have a moment.) One woman with OCD called for an emergency appointment because the Bedikas Chometz pressure was bringing her to the edge. (Come in right away.)

Chavi herself felt like popping a magic pill to get through the day.

The kids were all off from school, and if she didn’t want Zevi hanging off the freshly polished chandelier, she’d better be home on time.

Would there be a time when she would be totally calm? As much as he’d improved, change took a long

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“You can never really know what goes on behind sheer curtains,” Russy said sadly

time, and she didn’t have much of it. He had to be perfect by tomorrow. She’d been tempted to ask Dr. Kogel for a sedative to keep him sleeping through the Sedarim, at least. She dared not think of all the ways he could act up at her father’s long Seder.

She hurried out of the office, wished the doctor gut Yom Tov and practically flew home. The kids were all in the yard enjoying the warm weather and the swing set. Zevi was doing somersaults on the in-ground trampoline without bothering anyone.

She called out a rushed greeting to the girls playing, and a promise for snacks — baby fingers, while they were still exciting — and ran inside to change.

“Mrs. Chavi?” Kristina greeted her from the couch. Her couch, mind you.

“What are you doing in my house?” she asked, annoyed.

“Oh! Your kids let me in,” she said breezily.

“Did they?” She walked into the dining room where Kristina was lounging. The white Wall of China Pesach tablecloth was starched and ready.

On the table lay a large, ugly, probably silver-plated from a local Judaica store, three-tiered ka’areh still in the box.

A ka’areh?

So Shloimy had taken matters into his own hands.

Kristina followed her gaze, and Chavi put on a nonchalant face. All she needed was for Kristina to break the news to her parents that they were having the Seder home.

“So let’s see what you have for us,” Chavi said coldly.

“The yuntiff dresses came out gorgeous.” The way she said “yuntiff ” made Chavi crack up.

“Your dress is also a dream. I promise you, a dream! You should see what I did at the neck. Pleated a piece that’ll work with that gorgeous, high neck of yours.”

Chavi sat down tiredly. There was no way around it, and she did need those dresses for Yom Tov.

“I showed your dress to your mother last week, and she loved it.”

“I’m sure she did. She loves everything you sew,” Chavi said cynically.

Kristina chose not to pick up the sarcasm. She lowered her voice and looked at Chavi. “She doesn’t always love what I do. She was quite grumpy this winter.”

“And… you should know something…” Her voice took on a dramatic edge. “I need you to know something without me telling you.”

Chavi inched closer despite herself. Not more bad news!

“My parents?” she asked.

Kristina nodded, her teal glasses glinting.

“You know what?” Kristina said, changing tactics. “I don’t see why I can’t tell you.”

Chavi waited until Kristina could taste her anticipation.

“They’re looking good. Better than ever.”

TO BE CONTINUED…

Parfaits are easy, elegant and pretty as a picture. On Shavous, when we take advantage of the gorgeous weather and splendid flowers, dairy parfaits fit right into the scene.

WHITE CHOCOLATE PASSION FRUIT PARFAITS

Creamy and sweet, with a bright burst of passion fruit, this recipe is a party in a glass!

INGREDIENTS

16 oz. whipped cream cheese, at room temperature

1 cup confectioners’ sugar

8 oz. dairy white chocolate

1½ cups heavy cream

TOPPING Coconut chips

8 frozen passion fruit cubes, defrosted

1 ripe mango, cubed

Grated white chocolate

DIRECTIONS

1. Beat cream cheese and confectioners’ sugar until smooth.

2. Melt the white chocolate over a double boiler, and add to the cream cheese mixture. Mix to combine.

3. Slowly add the heavy cream, and whip until peaks form.

4. To prepare topping, toast a handful of coconut chips in a pan until browned.

5. To assemble, place cream mixture into a decorative glass, and top with passion fruit, mango, coconut chips and shaved white chocolate.

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BLUEBERRY CHEESECAKE PARFAITS

A no-bake delicacy that feels just like summer. Use non-infested fresh blueberries, checked.

INGREDIENTS

8 oz. whipped cream cheese, at room temperature

¼ cup maple syrup

2 T. vanilla yogurt

8 sheets honey or cinnamon graham crackers, crushed

BLUEBERRY REDUCTION

1 pint blueberries

¼ cup sugar

1 T. lemon juice

DIRECTIONS

1. Mix cream cheese, maple syrup and yogurt until smooth. Set aside.

2. Place all ingredients for blueberry reduction in a pan and bring to a boil. Allow to simmer gently until mixture is thick and syrupy, stirring occasionally, approximately 15 to 20 minutes.

3. To assemble, place a couple of tablespoons of crushed graham crackers into a decorative glass. Top with a dollop of cream, and then a spoonful of blueberry reduction.

BASIL STRAWBERRY SHORTCAKE CUPS

Light, playful, yet all dressed up.

INGREDIENTS

1 loaf pound cake

2 cups heavy cream, chilled

¼ cup sugar

16 oz. frozen strawberries, defrosted

½ cup confectioners’ sugar

Juice of one lime

2 heaping T. fresh checked basil, chopped

DIRECTIONS

1. Cut the pound cake into slices, then chop those into cubes. Set aside.

2. Whip the heavy cream and sugar until stiff peaks form. Set aside.

3. Blend the strawberries, confectioners’ sugar and lime juice with an immersion blender until smooth. Add the chopped basil.

4. To assemble the strawberry shortcake parfait cups, place cubes of pound cake into a decorative glass. Pipe heavy cream over the cake. Top with strawberry sauce, then repeat layers if desired.

A delicate citrusy grape juice with petite bubbles. Pairs perfectly for the Shavuos morning Kiddush.

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Experience the beauty of dessert in full bloom with showstopping cheesecakes! Let’s embark on a culinary journey and create desserts that embody the elegance and joy of Yom tov!

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THREE-LAYER CHEESECAKE WITH NOUGAT GANACHE

Three layers of absolute perfection. Luscious, show-stopping, and surprisingly simple to make.

6 oz. honey graham cookies

6 T. butter, melted

CHEESECAKE

4 (8 oz.) cream cheese, 2 whipped and 2 unwhipped

1¾ cup sugar

1 T. vanilla sugar

4 eggs

1 cup ground filberts, roasted

2½ oz. milk chocolate, melted

GANACHE

8 oz. milk chocolate

8 oz. nougat powder

8 oz. heavy cream

DIRECTIONS

1. Preheat the oven to 350°.

2. Line the bottom of a 10-inch springform pan with parchment paper.

3. For the crust: Combine crust ingredients, and press into springform pan in an even layer.

4. Bake for 10 minutes, and let it cool.

5. To prepare a water bath, place a disposable baking pan on the oven rack, pour in cool water, and allow it to heat as the oven preheats.

6. For the cheesecake filling: In a bowl of an electric mixer, beat the cream cheese and sugars, and add eggs one at a time. Beat until well incorporated and fluffy.

7. Divide evenly into three bowls.

8. Add ground nuts to the first bowl, and pour over the crust. Freeze for 1 hour.

9. Add melted chocolate to the second bowl, and pour over the first layer. Freeze for 1 hour.

10. Pour the contents of the third bowl over the chocolate layer.

11. Put cheesecake on a rack above the water bath. Bake at 350° for 1½ hours.

12. Leave in the oven until cooled. When completely cool, freeze it in the pan. Remove from pan when frozen.

13. For the ganache: Combine all ingredients in a saucepan, and melt over a low flame. Blend if needed.

14. To assemble: Pour chocolate ganache over frozen cheesecake, and top with fresh cherries.

Optional: Add chocolate triangles if desired.

CRUST

FRUIT-TOPPED CHEESECAKE WITH MANGO COULIS

The combination of creamy cheesecake and fresh fruit is both luscious and a feast for the eyes.

8 oz. vanilla cookies, crushed

5 T. butter, melted

CHEESECAKE FILLING

1½ lb. farmer cheese

2 (8 oz.) whipped cream cheese

16 oz. sour cream

1½ cups sugar

2 vanilla sugar

1 T. freshly squeezed lemon

4 T. cornstarch, diluted in 2 cups milk

CHEESE FROSTING

8 oz. (2 sticks) butter, softened

1 (8 oz.) cream cheese bar, chilled

2¼ cups confectioners’ sugar

2 T. heavy cream

2 tsp. vanilla extract

GARNISH

Fruit of your choice Mango Coulis

1 mango, very ripe

½ cup. sugar

1 T. lemon juice

DIRECTIONS

1. Preheat the oven to 325°. Line a 10-inch round springform pan with parchment paper.

2. For the crust, combine crumbs and butter, and press into the pan. Bake for 10 minutes, and let it cool.

3. For the cheesecake filling, combine all ingredients, and blend until smooth.

4. Wrap the bottom and sides of the springform pan well with silver foil, and place into a larger pan.

5. Pour cheesecake filling over the crust.

6. Fill the larger pan with water, and bake for 1½ hours or until slightly golden. Do not open the oven door throughout.

7. Remove cheesecake from the oven, and let it cool.

8. For the cheese frosting, beat butter and cream cheese until smooth. Scrape down the sides of the bowl as needed. Add confectioners’ sugar, and beat until combined. Scrape down the sides again. Add heavy cream and vanilla, and beat until combined.

9. Spread over cheesecake or pipe with a tip.

10. For mango coulis, combine all ingredients in a blender, and blend until smooth.

11. Garnish cheesecake with fruit of your choice, and top with mango coulis.

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Peanut Butter Tart

CRUST:

2 cups flour

¾ tsp. baking powder

1 ½ sticks butter, softened

1 ¼ cup brown sugar

¾ cup ground almonds

1 egg

FILLING:

1 Bakers Choice

Sweetened Milk Cream

⅓ cup peanut butter

½ cup Bakers Choice

Dairy Chocolate Chips

⅓ cup chopped

peanuts

DIRECTIONS:

CRUST: In a large bowl, whisk together flour & baking powder. Add softened butter, sugar, and ground almonds and combine until crumbly. Set aside one cup. Add the egg into the remaining crumbs and mix until well combined. Press the crumbs firmly into a lined 9-inch round baking pan or springform pan. Bake the crust at 350°F for 15 minutes or until lightly golden.

FILLING: In a seperate bowl, mix together sweetened condensed milk with peanut butter until smooth. Set aside 2 tablespoons of the batter for garnish. Spread the remaining batter evenly over the crust. Combine dairy chocolate chips, chopped peanuts, and the reserved cup of crumb mixture. Sprinkle topping over the peanut butter layer and gently press down. Bake for an additional 20 minutes or until golden brown.

GARNISH: Drizzle the reserved peanut butter mixture over the cooled tart.

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Commandment

In these turbulent times, the idea of respect for anyone who truly deserves it has been disrespected by the modern world. In exchange, the ideas of dishonesty and corruption are honored instead.

As the old Yiddish expression goes, “Azoi vee es goyisht zich, azoi Yiddisht zich” — the way the secular world evolves affects the Yidden as well — and it is very hard for us to not get influenced by these wild storms.

The Gemara (Kiddushin 30b) equates honoring and fearing one’s parents to honoring and fearing Hashem. But the Yaaros D’vash warns that in today’s generation (this was written a few hundred years ago), it has become the opposite, and parents have to fear their children.

As we approach Kabbalas HaTorah, when we read this mitzvah in the Aseres Hadibros, let’s explore some areas that could use chizuk

TheFIFTH

Commandment

An illuminating guide to relevant halachos of honoring one’s parents

There is a machlokes as to whether this halacha applies to each time a parent enters the house or room one is in.

Teshuvos V’hanhagos (3:276) explains that the concept behind getting up for one’s parents is that one’s parents’ honor is compared to Hashem’s honor. If this is the case, one must stand up for their parents as they would for Hashem. This obligation also helps instill respect for one’s parents. In conclusion, he rules that it’s appropriate to train children to get up from their seat in honor of their parents twice a day.

The poskim rule that this refers to the place where the father generally sits, such as the head of the table.

Most poskim are of the opinion that this applies to anywhere he sits, and not necessarily a place that connotes chashivus, such as the head of the table. Hence, this halacha would also apply to his makom kavuah in shul or his seat at work.

It is unclear whether this halacha applies to a temporary seat, such as the place where he sits while away on vacation.

The Shevet Halevi (8:168) writes that although the poskim don’t specifically mention what the din is when the chair is not at the head of the table, but it’s obvious that it’s the parent’s chair, it is preferable to be machmir and not sit on the chair.

Indeed, the Vayaverech Dovid writes in Hilchos Kibbud Av V’em (65) that the minhag is to be stringent. However, if it appears that the father is not makpid, it may possibly be permitted to sit there.

Not only does this apply to disagreeing with a parent’s opinion, Sefer Hamussar (5) writes that even if the parent tells a story incorrectly or exaggerates, a child may not correct them.

The Chut Shani (s”k 4) writes that refusing to do what one’s parents ask of them is part of this prohibition, as well as pretending that they didn’t hear their request.

However, it would be permitted to correct a parent’s error in a respectful manner (Chazon Ish, Yoreh Deah 149), and it even considered praiseworthy if it’s done in order to save the parent from embarrassment (Vayevarech Dovid 83:10).

There is a machlokes haposkim regarding whether this also applies to contradicting one’s father in divrei Torah ( Aruch HaShulchan, se’if 12, and Minchas Elazar 4:6).

A grandson of the renowned posek, Rav Shraga Feivish Schneebalg, zt”l, of London, author of Teshuvos Shraga Hameir, relates that he once listened to a recorded speech on the topic of kibbud av at his grandfather’s house. The speaker commented, “There’s an expression that only exists in America, and it has crept into the heimishe society. The expression is an outright example of contradicting a parent’s words. The words are: ‘Oh, no!’”

Rav Shraga Feivish overheard these words and concurred.

L’Horos Nassan and Teshuvos V’hanhagos (3:286) write that if someone does not live in the same city as their parents and is unable to physically visit them, he is obligated to call or write to them at least as frequently as the minhag is to do so.

Hisorerus Teshuvah (4, Yoreh De’ah, siman 9) writes that it’s a mitzvah to travel in order to physically visit parents whenever possible, and the more often one does so, harei zeh meshubach

To call a parent by their first name, even after their passing, is an issur d’Oraisa (S’dei Chemed Mareches 20:104).

If there is no choice but to say a parent’s name, for example when a man is asked whose child he is, he may say his father’s first name by adding an honorable title like Reb (Pischei Teshuva s”k 2, Biur HaGra s”k 36).

If a person’s children are named after their own parents, it is permissible to call the children by their names as usual. However, there were gedolim, one of them being the Chasam Sofer, who did change the way they called their sons who were named after their fathers. After citing the Chasam Sofer as practicing this hanhagah, the Elef Ksav (2:724) concludes, “But the world is not makpid not to do this.”

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WHETHER IT’S STANDING UP WHEN YOUR PARENTS ENTER

A ROOM, OR REFERRING TO THEM IN THIRD PERSON, CAN YOU SHARE A SPECIAL WAY YOU PERFORM KIBBUD AV V’EIM?

WE VISIT OUR PARENTS MOST SHABBOS AFTERNOONS.

– Family Lieberman

Once a year, usually on Chanukah, my siblings and I buy an expensive gift for my parents as a show of our appreciation. It means so much to them.

– Shany L.

When my parents sleep over at my house, I prepare their negel vasser on an elevated place so they dont have to bend down to wash their hands. They love the idea.

– Leah Teitelbaum

I always pick up the phone when my parents call.

– P.E.

I BRING THEM NEGEL VASSER EACH NIGHT.

– Langsam

I serve the entire Shabbos meal so my parents can stay seated.

– Leah Weinberger

My husband learns b’chavrusa with his father every day. I think it’s such a beautiful way to be mechabed his parents and bring them nachas!

– Katz

After Kiddush, we move my father’s chair closer to the table so he can sit down.

– Family Knofler

Every night, I write down a few things for which I’m grateful to my parents. After a while I give them the list to read, and they really enjoy it.

– F. Gross

WE

TRAVEL TO MY PARENTS FOR YOM TOV.

— Family Silber

I send my parents supper twice a week and sometimes visit on Shabbos.

– Schwartz

I HONOR MY MOTHER BY BRINGING HER THE LOCAL CIRCULARS EVERY WEDNESDAY MORNING.

– Greenfeld

WE NEVER SIT DOWN AT MY FATHER’S PLACE, WHETHER IT’S IN THE DINETTE OR IN THE DINING ROOM.

— M.G.

My mother isn’t one to indulge herself, but she always prioritizes taking care of her children. I’ve made it a priority to treat her to things she wouldn’t buy for herself, which makes her feel truly special. For Pesach this year I surprised her with a La Plume package that included a robe and slippers.

– H.H.

My dear father always wants me carry my ID whenever I go out — for safety purposes. So even if I’m only going on a walk with my husband around the block, or if I don’t feel like taking anything more than my phone into a wedding, I remove my ID from my pocketbook and bring it along with me in order to fulfill my father’s wishes.

– Simon

I call my mother once a day just to schmooze and catch up, and I call my father at least twice a week.

– Bleich

Whenever I’m in the grocery, which is usually once every day, I ask my parents if they need anything.

– Friedman

WE LISTEN TO A KIBBUD AV V’EIM LINE EVERY WEEK.

– Family Einhorn

I try to remain standing after Kiddush and only sit down once my parents are seated.

– Dina L.

We never refer to our father or mother with the secondperson “you.” For example, we would say, “Would Mommy like a cup of coffee?” instead of, “Would you like a cup of coffee?

– Family Rottenberg

WHENEVER I MAKE FRESHLY BAKED GOODS, I SEND OVER SOME TO MY PARENTS.

– Zeitlin

IT’S VERY IMPORTANT FOR MY MOTHER TO HAVE AT LEAST ONE COUPLE JOINING HERSELF AND MY FATHER FOR EACH SHABBOS OR YOM TOV SEUDAH. THAT’S WHY MY SIBLINGS AND I MAKE IT OUR BUSINESS TO WORK OUT OUR RESPECTIVE SCHEDULES SO MY PARENTS SHOULD HAVE COMPANY BY EVERY MEAL.

– Eisenberg

We’re very careful with basic halachos like not contradicting our parents and speaking respectfully to them.

– Family Rosenberg

I call my parents every day to check in on them and to inquire about their wellbeing.

– Kaufman

AS THE OLDEST CHILD, I FEEL RESPONSIBLE TO SET THE STANDARDS FOR MY SIBLINGS. RECENTLY, I BEGAN REFERRING TO MY PARENTS AS TATTY AND MOMMY INSTEAD OF TA AND MA, AS THE FORMER IS MORE RESPECTFUL. I AM HOPING MY SIBLINGS WILL LEARN TO DO THE SAME.

– Yitty Nussbaum

WHENEVER I EAT A MEAL WITH MY PARENTS (AND NOW IN-LAWS, AND MOST CERTAINLY GRANDPARENTS!), I NEVER TAKE FOOD BEFORE THEY DO. EVERY DISH GETS SERVED TO THEM FIRST, AND ONLY AFTER THEY PARTAKE OF IT (OR DECLINE) DO I TAKE SOME FOR MYSELF.

– Levi

WHEN PARENTS ASK ME TO DO SOMETHING, I VERY MUCH TRY NOT TO DELAY THEIR REQUEST.

– R.S.

WE WERE THE CHILDREN WHO SPOKE TO OUR PARENTS IN THIRD PERSON. I CAN’T SAY THAT IT WAS ALWAYS COMFORTABLE TO DO SO, BUT IT DEFINITELY SET A CERTAIN LEVEL OF RESPECT.

– Family Friedman

I call my parents before every Yom Tov and offer to cook or bake something l’kavod Yom Tov.

– Schwartz

In our family, we stand up when our parents enter the house.

– H.F.

When I visit my parents during the week and we chat in the kitchen, I pour them drinks. Also, as a girl at home, I used to tie my father’s shoes all the time. Now, as a married daughter, it’s an extra privilege to do so when he wakes up or gets off the couch when I’m nearby.

– Anonymous

I used to find the halacha of not agreeing with a parent very difficult. Recently, I had an idea that works as follows: My mother says something like, “ Wow, this is stunning!” When she turns to me for approval, I answer with a different positive adjective, something like, “It’s gorgeous!” This way, I never directly agree with her, but I still give her the answer she’s waiting for without any awkwardness. With a little practice, this has become second nature to me, and now I don’t even realize that I’m doing it!

– Suri Goldman

I try to avoid being the first one to tell my mother any bad news, R”l

– Malky N.

We honor our parents by buying flowers for my mother and hadassim for my father every Erev Shabbos.

– M. Halberstam

EVERY WEEK, MY TEENAGE DAUGHTER, WHO IS OFF FROM SCHOOL ON FRIDAYS, GOES TO HELP MY MOTHER-IN-LAW GET HER HOUSE AND FOOD READY FOR SHABBOS.

– T.G.

WE HOST THEM FOR SHABBOS AS OFTEN AS POSSIBLE SO THEY CAN ENJOY THEIR NACHAS.

– C.A.

I try to stock my house with things my parents enjoy. From specific ice creams to homemade baked goods and soups, I try to prepare things exactly the way they enjoy it most so they could partake from whatever it is when they visit.

– E. Weiss

I DAVEN EVERY DAY FOR THE HEALTH AND WEALTH OF MY PARENTS.

– Kohn

I call my mother every morning while I make my bed. Also, even though I have a speed dial set to my mother’s number, I don’t use it for that morning phone call, but rather dial every digit separately l’shem mitzvas kibbud eim.

– Rachel Goldman

I try not to contradict them in any way.

– Nessi Friedman

I heat my mother’s towel before she comes out of the shower. She loves it.

– Evelyn Frisch

Whenever my mother comes to us for Yom Tov, I make sure to buy her favorite magazines. Sometimes my kids even search the local groceries for back issues so she can have even more reading material.

– Shany Levy

When sitting together at the table, I wouldn’t ask one of my parents to pass something. Rather, I would try to ask someone else or get it myself.

– Faigy Feldbrand

I always found that visiting my parents’ parents gives my own parents much pleasure. Even visiting the kever of a grandparent shows our parents that our family is something we value.

– Frayde M. Spector

WHEN AT MY PARENTS’ HOUSE AND THEY ARE ON THE PHONE, WE WILL NEVER INTERRUPT THE CONVERSATION WITH A COMMENT OR QUESTION, BUT RATHER WAIT FOR THEM TO FINISH EVEN THOUGH IT MAY TAKE A LONG TIME.

– Rachel Friedman

I learn hilchos kibbud av from a sefer every night.

– F. Wercberger

In our family there is an unspoken rule: During a meal, nobody starts eating their portion before my father begins eating his.

– Frayde M. Spector

As a girl, I used to take care of the kids every Shabbos morning until the men came home from shul so that my mother was able to sleep late and daven.

– A. Friedman

I STAND UP FOR MY FATHER WHEN HE COMES HOME FROM WORK OR SHUL.

– E. Weiss

We have a monthly conference with my parents and siblings so that we get to catch up on the latest news. I come from a large family, ka”h, and many siblings do not live locally. We also sing songs together, which my parents really enjoy!

– Family Roth

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When you speak to adult children who care for their elderly parents, two things stand out: how privileged they feel to be charged with such holy work, and how unbelievably challenging the task is Along with the technical difficulties of managing the emotional, medical and financial care of another person or household comes the emotional pain of slowly losing a parent who is still present, of watching a beloved shining lodestar fade away.

A child turned caregiver for an elderly parent not only faces these personal challenges, but also needs to carefully balance the needs of everyone else in their orbit — all while a delicate family structure morphs in complex, challenging and sometimes painful ways.

How do caregivers make it work?

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Stay Where You Are

THE WACHS FAMILY

After their mother was nifteres, the Wachs family recognized that the best thing for their elderly father would be for him to remain in his own home. He has six adult children, some of them already grandparents or even great-grandparents themselves. Determined to do whatever was in their father’s best interests, the Wachs children take turns moving into their childhood home for about a month each time to care for their father.

“Think of it like ‘going to the country’ a few times a year,” Avrumi Wachs says matter-of-factly. “We’re great-grandparents already — we have busy lives, and baruch Hashem, many simchas to make and participate in. And we are doing this even when we still have kids living at home and are holding down jobs.”

He and his siblings try to be flexible, adjusting the time spent living in their father’s home based on simchas each family and the needs of the various families around Yo mim Tovim.

When they move into their father’s home, they run his home the way he always ran it. They cook his favorite foods and fol low his minhagim. They host their married children there, and make Yom Tov there. They wake up at night to care for him, and arrange Shabbos minyanim and shalosh seudos in the house for him. They fix whatever needs to be repaired and manage all the general homeowner responsibilities like banking, utilities and maintenance — while doing the same for their own homes from a distance. “Not only am I managing two complete households, but when we leave, I practically need a U-haul to transport everything that we brought with us. And that’s in addition to making sure I leave everything fresh and spotless, so the next family arrives to fresh linen and a clean fridge.”

Sounds difficult?

Sounds difficult? The Wachs siblings admit that it is — but the upside is significant.

“Through this arrangement, our father maintains his schedule, his dignity, and his status as the esteemed patriarch of our extended family. The children, grandchildren and greatgrandchildren love to be around his table and hear his stories. He knows all of his many descendants by name, and they revere him and revel in his company. If our father had moved in with one family, he would never have had the chance to be such an intimate and treasured part of all of our families’ lives. We still ask him for eitzos and hadracha, and it’s our greatest joy to care for him in this way.”

The Wachs siblings admit that it is — but the upside is significant

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Sandwich Generation

“My kids need me, my parents need me. I feel like I’m spread too thin.”

The term “sandwich generation” refers to people who are simultaneously caring for their children as well as their parents. In the “sandwich,” the caregiver is between both generations. This term was coined by two social workers in 1981 and is typified by an adult caregiver who feels like they can never do enough for anyone.

Giving it a name is helpful because it identifies the root of the issue and gives you a sense of validation and the relief of knowing that the strain is real. For Yidden, raising children and caring for parents are both cherished privileges that include both inherent difficulties and joys.

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One to Ten

“One mother can take care of ten children, but ten children cannot take care of one mother.”

It’s a testament to the beautiful chinuch and middos of Klal Yisroel that we unanimously view it as a sacred privilege to care for our parents in their twilight years and beyond — but this adage hits a chord by alluding to the sheer difficulty of the task at hand.

My House, Your House

THE FISHER FAMILY

The loss of privacy and personal space is a common issue when another generation is incorporated into the existing family unit. Sometimes the caregiving children are past middle age and ready to enjoy the quiet after their brood has begun emptying out; sometimes it’s a younger family trying to juggle the schedule and needs of their own household. But everyone admits that the loss of privacy is a challenge that affects everyone in different ways.

“When we brought my parents to live with us, we gave them

The Question of an Aide

As her parents’ health declined, Mrs. Fisher was forced to hire a live-in aide. This is not an uncommon scenario. To maintain both their own privacy and their parents’ independence and dignity, many families choose not to have an aide, or to have one only for the most essential tasks that they physically can’t perform on their own. Other families require more help.

The Wachs family hires someone just for the mornings, but during the rest of the time that they live with their father, they are personally immersed in caring for him, for the most part leaving their own lives muted in the background. The Gold family (below) chooses not to have their father’s aide join them for Shabbos, since a non-Jewish aide posed too many complications for their young children.

She was never truly “off” during the years that her parents lived in the apartment attached to her home

our guest suite,” Mrs. Fisher recounts. “It’s like a small apartment, with a kitchenette, living area, bedroom and bath. It’s connected to the hallway by a beautiful French glass door.

“When they first moved in, they were in better health and kept busy with their own activities. But as time went on and they needed more care, they started spending most of the day in the main house. I never knew when they might come looking for me — even sitting down in my home office while I was working or joining me when I had a visitor or client over. They had trouble sleeping, and would want to sit with me when I really needed to be wrapping up my day and going to sleep.”

Eventually, the glass door was replaced with a solid door, which was kept closed. When Mrs. Fisher or her parents wanted to visit each other, they would knock.

“I still feel guilty about it,” Mrs. Fisher says, “but I had to do it.” Even so, Mrs. Fisher says she was never truly “off” during the years that her parents lived in the apartment attached to her home.

Mrs. Fisher remembers how difficult it was when a full time aide became an unavoidable necessity. The loving but loud Jamaican woman considered herself a member of the family.

“She joined us for meals, and it felt like our home was taken over by her presence. While she filled an essential need and kept my parents safe and cared for, having her around was probably the most difficult aspect of living with my parents.”

Now, Mrs. Fisher’s parents have passed on, and she remembers the time with an exquisite mixture of tenderness and loss.

“There is something special in the opportunity to care for your parents. But when I see others doing it, I remember the difficulties, too, and I try to give them whatever support and encouragement I can.”

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THE GOLD FAMILY

Caring and hosting an elderly parent is not the simplest of undertakings, but throw in a few more factors to rock the boat, and the situation can become even more difficult.

Sometimes people just rub each other the wrong way. This was the situation the Golds faced when they initially invited Rabbi Gold’s elderly father to move in with them every Shabbos and Yom Tov.

The Golds still have a house full of young children.

IN A WORD

While some of the children welcome the weekly company and get along well with their grandfather, others find it harder and act out, which in turn upsets Zeidy Gold greatly. It’s come to the point where the Golds could not have their father and their children under one roof — so they gave him his own roof by setting aside their

Caregiver Syndrome

“Sometimes I just want a break. But there is no break.”

Caregiver syndrome is defined as a state of physical, emotional and mental exhaustion that is experienced by many individuals who care for a loved one who is aging (or chronically ill). If you feel stressed, irritable, depleted or depressed, know that caregiver burnout is real.

It takes planning and problem-solving to avoid caregiver syndrome. Set up a support system for yourself, like a friend, therapist or support group that you can share with. Access help from family members, community resources, or paid and professional help. Maintain activities and relationships that bring you joy, and of course, make sure to eat well, sleep enough and exercise. And as always, daven for Divine assistance.

It’s complex, complicated and frustrating, but Mrs. Gold is very clear on one thing: “This opportunity is an honor

attached rental apartment for him. This way, they maintain a peaceful atmosphere at home, and don’t have to constantly mediate between their father and their children. But it comes at great financial expense to the Gold family; they lose the income from the rental apartment.

There are other challenges as well. Since the Golds are so involved with Rabbi Gold’s father’s care, they aren’t as free to spend time with Mrs. Gold’s parents, which is distressing for all of them and creates tension in their relationship. And while Zeidy Gold is loving and generous with his grandchildren, he is also forthcoming with his sharp opinions, leading to more than a few unpleasant moments. Additionally, Zeidy Gold’s doctors have stressed that it’s important for him to do as much as possible for himself in order not to lose his physical abilities, but that clashes with Zeidy Gold’s personal desire to be cared for, leading to even more friction.

Rabbi and Mrs. Gold feel like they’re always on high alert when Zeidy is there; they need to proactively manage the situation at all times. And it’s not just “Shabbos,” either; it’s Friday and Sunday as well, which are days spent with Zeidy by taking him out and providing him with family time and a social life.

It’s complex, complicated and frustrating, but Mrs. Gold is very clear on one thing: “This opportunity is an honor, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. This is chinuch in its purest form. What my children gain from seeing the way we care for their grandfather is priceless, and I am 100% certain that they will never be harmed from any outcome of this situation, no matter how uncomfortable or difficult it may be at the moment.”

How does she deal with some of the more tensioninducing aspects of this relationship, while also juggling the needs of her husband and children?

“A moreh derech is an absolute necessity,” she asserts. “Decisions and questions about balancing kibbud horim and the needs of my family come up constantly, and someone who knows the situation and can give clear guidance is an absolute must. Everyone in this situation must find that perfect someone who can guide them with objectivity, wisdom and sensitivity.”

On a personal level, the difficulties of the situation have motivated Mrs. Gold to work on herself in a foundational way. “I’ve learned to bite my tongue and always put my father-in-law first. And I’ve learned that each challenge is a way for me to work on myself and develop my own relationship with Hashem. I’ve grown tremendously over the years through this mitzvah. It’s a tough mitzvah, not a convenient one, but like you, I say Eilu Devarim every day, and I believe it — and cherish this priceless opportunity.”

So Many Heroes

One of the things the Fisher, Wachs and Gold families have in common is their appreciation for their spouses for dealing actively and gracefully with the loss of privacy, the burdens of financial and physical care, and the huge amounts of time carved out of an already packed schedule.

“The spouses are tzaddikim. The parent in question is not theirs, and they give up everything for them and do everything for them,” states Mr. Wachs.

Adult children who care for their aging parents face a complex set of physical, emotional and technical challenges. They may be aging themselves (a 70-year-old “child” caring for a 90-year-old parent), or caring for young children simultaneously (a 40-year-old “child” getting up at night for her newborn and her parent).

Some have hosted their parents for Shabbos every single week for 20 years, and others can never go away for Yom Tov, even to their own married children. But families lovingly shift and expand their homes and hearts to make room for the physical and emotional needs of their elderly matriarch or patriarch, and they do it with optimism, joy, and a deep sense of faith and purpose.

Speaking to these families moved me deeply. Their faith and belief that their families will rise to the occasion and grow from the challenge, and the ayin tova and love with which this painful, difficult, holy mission is performed — these rendered me speechless.

Names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of the families interviewed. Some stories may be composites.

LIKE MY OWN

When girls get married, it often takes some time for them to remember that their parents’ home no longer contains their clothes, their books, their knick-knacks. And when these young women treat their mother’s pantry or closet as their own, their parents’ belongings sometimes mysteriously make their way to their daughters’ possession… whether they like it or not. Here are six accounts.

ESTHER KING

SOMETHING IN MY HOUSE THAT BELONGS TO MY MOTHER: A KITCHENAID MIXER

IT’S

BEEN IN MY HOUSE FOR… TEN YEARS

When I got married, I got a Bosch mixer. All of my classmates did. In fact, it was the standard “class gift” that we gave to each engaged classmate. It was expensive (still is), and I was glad to receive it.

Sort of. The truth is that I felt like I should be glad, but my actual feeling was more like “dutiful.” My mother had a KitchenAid mixer, and that’s what I was comfortable with. Also, my mother didn’t bake much. She certainly wasn’t the type who religiously made homemade challah every week. She went through phases where she baked challah, and phases where she bought challah from the store, and I assumed I would be the same. So even though everyone raved about the Bosch mixer and how you could make five pounds of challah in it, that didn’t feel like such a big deal to me. But I just nodded and checked it off my list, and didn’t tell anyone that I was a little wary (if not downright antagonistic) toward it. It didn’t feel like my friend.

I TOOK HER MIXER HOME WITH ME — JUST UNTIL SHE WAS DONE WITH MY MACHINE

As a newlywed, I wasn’t a major challah baker, but I did frequently bake cakes and cookies. Somehow, the Bosch model felt more like a handicap than a tool. I would lug it out of the cabinet, heave it onto the counter, and wish it wasn’t so annoying to assemble. It didn’t seem to mix as well as my mother’s KitchenAid mixer did, I hated the “bump” in the middle of the bowl, and I hated the splash guards that the KitchenAid mixer didn’t have or need. I knew the Bosch mixer was a highend machine and people swore by it, but I was starting to feel like I didn’t have a mixer.

Meanwhile, my mother was in a yes-challah-baking phase and asked if she could try my Bosch mixer. I took it over to her house, and not wanting to be left without any mixer, I took her mixer home with me. Just until she was done with my machine.

Then I kind of forgot about it for a while. I wasn’t in a challah-baking phase myself. I didn’t need the Bosch mixer. My mother’s fifteen-year-old KitchenAid mixer was a comfortable old friend.

My mother’s experiment with the Bosch mixer was a success, and my sister asked if she could try it next. She picked it up straight from my mother. Eventually she returned it to me directly. I put it in a random closet; the KitchenAid was still in the mixer cabinet.

It stayed there for years.

One day I stopped by at my mother’s house on a Sunday morning. She was doing some cooking and baking for the week ahead. On her counter was a shiny KitchenAid mixer in a sleek stainless steel finish. I’d never seen it before.

“You could have asked for your mixer back,” I said sheepishly.

My mother just shrugged and smiled.

Now I have a Bosch mixer and a KitchenAid mixer, and an ever-present reminder of my mother’s love.

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SOMETHING IN MY HOUSE THAT BELONGS TO MY MOTHER: TOWELS

THEY’VE BEEN IN MY HOUSE FOR… FIVE YEARS

NEWLYWED THAT I WAS, RUNNING OVER TO MOMMY’S HOUSE WHEN I HAD A PROBLEM STILL FELT LIKE THE MOST NATURAL AND NORMAL THING TO DO

“Do we have any more towels to wrap these in?” my husband of six weeks asked.

I surveyed our small kitchen table, which was piled high with our silver leichter and becher, some milchig pots, a fleishig Corelle set, and a crystal decanter.

We’d already packed up the other half of our kitchenware and dishes, wrapping each breakable item carefully in our brand-new plush towels so that they would survive their journey to our new home in Eretz Yisroel. But by now, unfortunately for all the items sprawled across the table, my linen closet was already empty.

“Maybe I should run over to my mother and get some more towels,” I proposed. Newlywed that I was, running over to Mommy’s house when I had a problem still felt like the most natural and normal thing to do.

I ran around the corner to my mother’s house, where I headed straight for the linen closet.

“Mommy, I’m taking some towels to pack my stuff in, okay?” I called.

I was half-buried in my mother’s cavernous linen closet, and I was pretty sure I got a yes, so I chose a stack of old, faded towels that were perfect for the role of cushioning my delicate kitchenware.

When I landed in my new Israeli apartment, I was introduced to the concept of sponga. After pouring buckets of water across my floor just the way I was taught, and when my floor was finally clean and the rivers of water had been directed to the sponga hole, I needed a way to dry my freshly washed floor. That’s when I thought of those old, faded towels. Voila! Perfect sponga drying shmattes, I discovered.

The next time I flew back for Pesach, I bought my mother a set of towels to replace my sponja-drying shmattes. Nice new fluffy towels for her linen closet, in a lot better condition than that first batch I’d “stolen.” Pretty good trade, I think! It’s a bunch of years later, and those faded old towels still come off the shelf after a hearty Thursday night sponga on my Israeli stone floors. Thus, they remain faithful reminders of my childhood home.

NAOMI LEVENSPIL

SOMETHING IN MY HOUSE THAT BELONGS TO MY MOTHER: ESKY PLACEMATS

THEY’VE BEEN IN MY HOUSE FOR… SEVERAL WEEKS

WHILE MY KIDS CERTAINLY DELIGHT IN THEM — BOTH THE DESIGN AND THE KNOWLEDGE THAT THEY’RE FROM SAVTA’S HOUSE — FOR ME IT’S DEEPER THAN THAT

You know how there are some things — a food, a smell, a particular clothing style — that transport you back in time to your childhood? It could be anything, really, but certain objects just have the sudden effect of bringing you to a time when your world was smaller and your cocoon safer; where somebody else was in charge of your everything.

Last time I visited my mother, I uncharacteristically blurted out that one day in the future, I really, really wanted her Esky brachos placements. Perhaps with that dramatic intro, she was expecting a grander request, and it was relief that prompted her to tell me to take them now. Whatever her motivation, I took her up on it, despite feeling a little guilty about it.

There are only four placemats in the set, but I had shopped around a bit in the past in search of something similar and couldn’t find anything. Each of the thick vinyl mats depicts one of the brachos on food, with pen-and-ink-filled animated smiling fruits, vegetables, or cookies in primary colors doing happy things like marching in a parade or frolicking in the park. Even without the signature in the bottom right corner, the placemats scream Esky and the 80s.

Although we’ve only had them a couple of weeks now, more than one of my kids has helpfully pointed out that Savta had them in likenew condition for almost 50 years, yet they’ve aged considerably in the few weeks we’ve had them (welcome to my life). I think my kids eat more hot sauce than we did growing up, and I’m scared to run them through the dishwasher, so they’re waiting patiently for a bit more elbow grease.

While my kids certainly delight in them — both the design and the knowledge that they’re from Savta’s house — for me it’s deeper than that. I feel like I have a piece of my mother in my kitchen every time my six-year-old makes sure to take the placemat that matches the bracha of his food, each time my two-year-old exclaims over one of the animations, each time one of my kids takes extra care to wipe down one of “Savta’s” placemats. When we pull them out, which is quite often, I see my mother’s clean, clean kitchen, smell her Friday cooking, and envision her precise and deliberate way of doing things. I am back to the simplicity and security of my childhood. Simply put, having the placemats gives me a surprising amount of continued joy. Just don’t tell my siblings that I have them.

CHANA GLUCK

SOMETHING IN MY HOUSE THAT BELONGS TO MY MOTHER: A THERMOS

IT’S BEEN IN MY HOUSE FOR… TWELVE YEARS

Of course, my rite of passage to adulthood involved coffee. Or so I thought.

I was working my first job as a salesgirl and felt that, in addition to a cell phone and classy handbag, a vessel for my hot drink to boost those long working hours was much warranted. Spinning itself senseless in my mother’s lazy Susan in the corner cabinet was a thermos from the Thermos brand, and let me tell you, that thing kept liquids hot like no one’s business.

So I named it mine.

I heated milk in a tiny pot (feeling uber domestic and ready for marriage — very important since I was already engaged) and added some coffee, cocoa, brown sugar, vanilla, cinnamon and rum. Into the thermos the concoction went, where it stayed hot and sated me and inflated me with a heady sense of being all grown up. Was I ever pleased to carry that hardy thing to work! I’ll never forget the horror on my Russian coworker’s face when I referred to the contents of my prized thermos as coffee.

“Dees eez not coffee; dees eez cocktail,” she’d pronounced with a delicate sneer.

My wedding date drew closer, and when it was time to leave my parents’ abode, I took the thermos along with me. After my marriage, I washed it lovingly each night, caring for it and its dent through picnics and parks and the arrivals of some of my kids. And though I’ve long upped the caffeine content in my drink and done away with all the rest of the mix (replaced with sweetener and a pinch of salt. Try it!) that dented hunk of stainless steel has warmed my heart more than the sum of its parts, many, many times over.

INTO THE THERMOS THE CONCOCTION WENT, WHERE IT STAYED HOT AND SATED ME AND INFLATED ME WITH A HEADY SENSE OF BEING ALL GROWN UP

MALKA NEWMAN

SOMETHING IN MY HOUSE THAT BELONGS TO MY MOTHER: A PAIR OF SHOES

IT’S BEEN IN MY HOUSE FOR… NEARLY TWO YEARS

PEOPLE IN THE AUDIENCE

REMARKED ON HOW WELL I WAS FILLING MY MOTHER’S SHOES. AND INDEED I WAS, ONLY IN WAYS THEY DIDN’T KNOW

I whizzed through the airport check-in area smugly, with only a small carryon in tow. I was visiting my parents for just two short days, and I had packed accordingly. My kids were annoyed that I wouldn’t have room to carry home all of Bubby’s presents, but that was nothing Amazon couldn’t solve. No way was I lugging anything more than I absolutely had to carry.

Day one of my visit was pure delight. I spent the day in leisure, talking with my mother and shopping and enjoying her company. We went out for dinner together, where my mother told me about the upcoming class she was due to give. Finally, we called it an early night and headed to bed.

Day two was an entirely different and rather surreal experience. Soon after my mother woke up in the morning, we realized something wasn’t right. Hatzolah rushed her to the nearest hospital, where we discovered she was experiencing a heart attack. The implication of the situation didn’t take long to hit; the hashgacha was incredible. All of my parent’s children live a plane ride away, and Hashem had orchestrated that I be there, just when my parents needed me most.

I extended my ticket and stayed an additional week, during which I spent hours with my parents, helping them in whatever way I could, including, believe it or not, giving the class my mother had been scheduled to deliver. Thankfully, my mother had prepared meticulous notes, and with her encouragement, I left her side to deliver the speech.

Hashem was kind to me, and the speech was a success. In fact, people in the audience remarked on how well I was filling my mother’s shoes. And indeed I was, only in ways they didn’t know.

I had packed only practical sneakers for the visit and had nothing suitable on hand for delivering a class. Before I’d left the house, I had scrambled through my mother’s shoe closet until I found the perfect pair of pumps. They fit perfectly.

Somehow, at the end of my visit, those pumps found their way into my little carry-on bag. And when I unpacked my things only a short while later, those precious shoes found a spot in my home. Thankfully, my mother has since fully recovered, and I learned to pack just a wee bit more for ensuing trips…

Each time I open my bedroom closet and come face to face with my (mother’s) shoes, I find myself giving thanks to the One who gives us all our health, and guides the steps of our life with precision.

HINDY KLEIN

SOMETHING IN MY HOUSE THAT BELONGS TO MY MOTHER: A RECLINER

IT’S

BEEN IN MY HOUSE FOR… THREE YEARS

I know what you’re thinking. A recliner?!

But it’s true. There’s a recliner sitting in my house that made its way there by mistake.

When I moved back to the good ol’ U.S. of A., my family and I moved into a very temporary place. But we were so excited to be near family once again that we invited my parents to come for Shabbos, even though their accommodations would be less than stellar.

“WHAT’S SHABBOS WITHOUT A COUCH?” MY MOTHER KEPT ASKING. “WHERE WILL WE RELAX AFTER LICHT TZINDEN?”

My parents were sports; they weren’t worried about the lack of decent dining room furniture, or the makeshift seforim room. But my mother did have one concern.

“What’s Shabbos without a couch?” she kept asking. “Where will we relax after licht tzinden, on a folding chair?”

Apparently, her concern was large enough for my parents to bother dismantling a recliner, maneuvering it into their car, and driving it over an hour to my new home. When they arrived, that’s the first thing we saw.

“A recliner ?” We crowded around the car, wide-eyed. “Whoa.”

“Well,” said my mother, “we need somewhere to sit.”

Sit we did. And when Shabbos was over, I found that I was having a hard time parting from the recliner.

“Keep it until you no longer need it,” my mother said kindly.

Well, soon we got a couch of our own, but my mother’s recliner found a new home in our playroom. And then my mother moved, and some how, the return of the recliner kept getting delayed.

The recliner served our family with all its heart, and in the meantime, it grew more frayed, more stained, more creaky… and ever more worn. By now it’s looking so bad that my mother doesn’t even want it back anymore.

Soon we’ll be moving to our own new house.

Sadly, the recliner won’t be coming along, but I now know the im portance of having a comfy place to sit.

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ESTHER ADLER

Nothing provides an opportunity for a family to bond the way spending an entire Shabbos together does. The banter and laughter (okay, and mild-to-not-so-mild bickering) over plates of overnight kugel; the children who rarely get to see each other exploring the premises and discovering great hiding places and even greater relationships; the teens staying up through the night to dissect the meaning and mysteries of life — the entire experience creates the warmest and fuzziest of memories.

Over the past decade, the trend of holding such Shabbatons has become increasingly popular, with families figuring out creative ways to pull it off. Whether it’s a proud Bubby and Zeidy meeting all their married children and grandchildren in some ramshackle upstate location, or a larger, extended family gathering in a hotel, it’s always bound to be an unforgettable Shabbos experience.

However your family goes about it, the key to (and half the fun of) a successful family Shabbos is in the planning.

Shabbos Good Have a

HAVE A GOOD SHABBOS

When To, Where To, How To

Deciding on a Shabbos is always the first — and sometimes, disappointingly, the last — step. You want every last family member, including Meir’s shy new couple, to join, and the larger the crowd, the more challenging it will be to settle on an ideal Shabbos.

Once the date is penciled in on your calendar, it’s time to choose the venue. Do a little back-of-the-napkin math to figure out how many rooms you absolutely must have, taking into account how many couples and children will be attending. For smaller gatherings, there are many large houses available for rent in the Catskills, Monsey and other upstate locations. Those houses usually have a generous number of bedrooms, with adequate seating space in the dining room.

For larger gatherings, you’ll need to explore hotel options. At this point, there are several hotels in New Jersey and Connecticut that regularly accommodate frum families and their Shabbos needs (Armon Hotel in Stamford, Connecticut, and DoubleTree by Hilton in Princeton, New Jersey, among others.) For an extra fee, you can even get private pool hours on Motzei Shabbos. That’s like dessert on top of dessert.

And speaking of the dessert, let’s back up for a minute, and discuss, in bold, caps and italics… FOOD.

When it comes to food, there are two ideals:

HEIMISH

Chicken soup with lokshen, yapchik, a really hearty cholent. Waiters optional.

CATERED

Unique dishes, elegant plating; sit back and relax while the meal is served.

Of course, there’s the happy medium of “heimish catering.” Get your kugel and eat it, too. (Although of course, nobody’s kugel could hold a pickle to Tante Yocheved’s.)

With large-scale Shabbatons, catering is almost always the answer. It’s way too complicated to divide the menu between so many people, and probably doesn’t come out much cheaper either.

But even with catering, there are so many levels, and choosing the right one could bring its own share of stress. Family members have different preferences — and more important, which we’ll address in detail soon — different budgets.

For this reason, it’s usually best to appoint one person to be “in charge.” Since nobody wants to be the one in charge, everyone must agree to go along with the decisions that the in-charge person (Feter Feivel, obviously) makes.

HAVE A GOOD SHABBOS

Entertainment

Really, who needs entertainment when you have a chance to sit and yak with the people you love and hardly get to spend time with? You always describe your cousin Chaya Malky Friedman as the most entertaining human being. And yet… and yet.

Sometimes, it is nice (maybe even necessary?), to add an extra element of specialness to a family Shabbos. Some of these ideas require preparation, some cost money, but whatever you choose to do, it will add a personal touch to your Shabbos.

FAMILY MAGAZINE

You’ll need to rope in the writers in the family, or convince the non-writers that it doesn’t have to be well written, just make it simple, personal, and funny. If this Shabbos is in honor of parents or grandparents, you could craft the magazine around this central theme. Otherwise, pack it with family memories, family jokes, and of course, age-old family recipes.

GRAMMEN

ROSES

This one’s for Bubby. After licht bentchen, line up all the grandchildren before her, and have each child walk up, say Gut Shabbos, and give her a rose. Bubby will be left with a beautiful bouquet of roses — and the sweetest nachas in the world.

The writing’s on the men, but the women should pause the schmoozing long enough to listen. It’s usually worth it. Of course, this is also an opportunity to thank Feter Feivel.

CHOIR

Inviting a professional choir to join your family Shabbos is definitely a luxury, and almost nobody does that.

But…

If your family doesn’t know how to get the singing going and won’t do more than some random mumble-humming, and you have the funds for it (Hi, Feter Feivel), it’s really nice.

Hearty singing uplifts the entire Shabbos atmosphere, and not all families are capable of pulling that off without a choir to lead them.

KIDS PROGRAM

Keeping the kids entertained in a more structured format is always a great idea. It could be an Erev Shabbos carnival, a magic show on Motzei Shabbos (on Feter Feivel’s dime again?), or a cute trivia game — anything that brings all the kids together in one place to have a good time.

HAVE A GOOD SHABBOS

Crunching the Numbers

Okay, the money. I guess we can’t push it off any longer.

So, well, money isn’t everything.

Except that it is.

Shabbatons are beautiful, but they aren’t free. As much as families wish to avoid friction around those numbers, it’s inevitable. With so many people involved, you’re dealing with varied financial realities and spending mindsets, and it’s important to take everyone’s situations into consideration.

How do you pay for a family Shabbos? Do you set a flat fee for all families? That hardly makes sense when some families consist of just a couple, and some come along with ten or more children. But then, if you add an additional fee per child, parents may protest, “But I don’t need portions for all of my kids! Most of them won’t touch this food!”

One way to determine the cost would be to break it down per room. Let’s say a family takes out three rooms, they’re paying for the actual cost of each room, with an additional amount per room to cover the cost of the food and other expenses. It may require calculus-level math, but the numbers will probably work themselves out fairly.

In some families, parents will offer to fork out some or all of the dough for their married children. If they choose to do so, it’s best to keep it quiet, so the cousins whose parents aren’t helping out don’t feel resentful.

Will there be a family who opts out of joining because they can’t or don’t feel like spending this kind of money on a Shabbos? Sadly, that could happen. If there’s any way to prudently cover for

HINDY SHARES

TENTH MAN

Sometimes, the best-laid plans go awry.

One year, we planned a Shabbaton for our immediate family in a rented house in the Catskills. We had all the food and accommodations figured out. Since we happen to have mostly girls in our family, we didn’t have enough men for a minyan, so we made plans for the men to daven with another family who would be having a Shabbaton in a nearby house.

We’d just about arrived and started settling everyone into rooms when the neighboring family informed us that an emergency had come up and they wouldn’t be coming for Shabbos after all. That left us three men short of minyan

When we finished panicking, we started brainstorming. I don’t remember whose idea it was to invite one of our cousins from Monsey with her family, including two bochurim, to join us. Great sport that she is, my cousin packed up her family and showed up at the house an hour before Shabbos.

Our minyan was rescued, but more than that, we had a blast with my cousin and her family. My cousin is well-versed in the study of energies, and she entertained us with her analyses of our psyches all through Shabbos.

this family without causing any embarrassment, that’s wonderful. Otherwise, please preserve their dignity and don’t ask questions.

With all the money collected, a gap will often remain. This will call for some flexibility. Either the amount per room will be raised slightly, or, in some families, the heads of each family will divide the remaining amount between themselves and pay up.

Of course, families who are lucky to have a Feter Feivel will rely on him to step in and pull out his credit card. If that happens, please, every sweet cousin out there, walk over to him and say thank you. He doesn’t have to do this, and the least you owe him after such an incredible Shabbos is a display of appreciation.

DIY Shabbatons

Not always is a hotel or even renting a house necessary. Some families figure out ways to spend Shabbos together within the hometown of one of their siblings. They’ll either make the seudos in one of the family member’s houses, or if there isn’t enough space, they’ll hold the seudos in

MASKED GUESTS

Our family will never forget our COVID Shabbos.

Thing was, it wasn’t actually a COVID Shabbos. The Shabbos did not take place in 2020, but in February of 2021, when we’d nearly forgotten what COVID was. According to almost all poskim, the pandemic was long over, and hilchos social distancing no longer applied. But the hotel we landed in went lifnim meshuras hadin, adhering to the belief that if you didn’t wear a mask, people around you would simply drop dead.

So, masks. At least in the lobby and all public areas of the building.

Not wanting to make a chillul Hashem, we tried very hard to comply. Still, it was a real pain to keep reminding the children to mask up while racing around and having the time of their lives. In case anyone forgot, an appointed hotel guard was quick to accost us with livid rebuke.

In the pictures we took on Motzei Shabbos, there are masks on all of the chins.

And exuberant smiles right above.

SHABBOS BRIS

We weren’t going to call off the Shabbos because one cousin had a baby. But we also weren’t going to hold the family Shabbos without her!

The solution was simple: Let the kimpeturin and her family join us in the hotel, and let us all celebrate a beautiful Shabbos bris together.

The little prince became bar mitzvah several months ago. When the invitation came in on the family chat, it hit all of us: “It’s thirteen years since “that Shabbos!”

BRACHA SHARES

JOB FAIR

HAVE A GOOD SHABBOS

a shul hall. This avoids the cost of accommodations while still enabling the extended family to spend a beautiful Shabbos together.

Such arrangements often require more work, but there’s something heartwarming about this homegrown version.

Miriam’s family recently held a Shabbaton in honor of their mother’s 70th birthday. They chose to do it in a city where several family members lived, and the rest of the family either moved in with them or stayed in neighbors’ guest rooms. They ate the seudos together in a shul hall.

“None of us are people of means,” Miriam explained, “so we needed to spend as little as possible.”

They were a group of nearly 70 people, and the Shabbos worked out really nicely. What Miriam found most special was how a Shabbaton differs from a Shabbos simcha. There’s no new couple or new baby in the picture, no bar mitzvah boy. No host! When there are no emotions running high, there’s no typical simcha stress. It’s only about Shabbos and family, and about spending quality time together. “That’s what we all enjoyed so much,” she says.

When you’re doing it all yourself, there’s a lot of work

involved. With Miriam’s family, the siblings who hosted all the guests mainly took charge of all the details. The challenges involved in a DIY Shabbos are similar, but not the same, as a hotel Shabbos.

“Everyone’s style of functioning is different. I’m the super organized type, I like to plan everything ahead of time. But one of my sisters-in-law found it impossible to discuss dessert six weeks in advance.” Without the option of hiring service providers, the family fell back on teamwork and good middos — not necessarily a disadvantage!

There was no formal entertainment, only speeches by the men in the family. “Some of the bochurim also spoke,” Miriam adds, “and that was one of the highlights of the Shabbos. Everyone — the parents, grandparents, and the boys themselves — was so proud!”

Being a real “boy family,” they also conducted a heartwarming kumzitz after Havdalah, with the arms of the bochurim arms draped over each other’s shoulders as they sang and swayed. Their grandmother beamed straight through, drinking in the nachas.

“Giving her this pleasure gave everyone the greatest pleasure,” Miriam concludes. “I don’t think we lost anything by not having it in a hotel.”

JOIN THE FAMILY

Tolstoy famously remarked that all happy families are alike. Who do you recognize?

YIDEL

He’s Feter Feivel’s second son, and he won’t stop pestering the oilam about making an eirev chatzeiros He’s studied the halachos in kollel, and he’s so eager to get it done, he can barely wait for the guests to find their rooms and deposit their luggage.

TANTE CHANA

You’ll find her with a roll of duct tape in her hand, going from room to room covering the electronic key slots. She also remembered to bring along her own decaf coffee, in case, despite her twenty-five reminders, Feter Feivel forgot.

YANKY AND GITTY

They just celebrated their six-month wedding anniversary and rented a car for the occasion. Now that they’re there, it only makes sense to stay for Sunday and turn this into a minivacation, doesn’t it? Why can’t nine other men see the light?

SHABBOS CHECKLIST

Sometimes, a minor oversight can lead to unnecessary stress. Here’s your handy list of don’t-forget-to-pack-along stuff before you head out.

Candles

Matches

Kiddush cups — disposable

Challah knife — not disposable

Challah covers

Paper goods — plenty and more

Tablecloths

Garbage bags

Havdalah licht and besamim

Breakfast foods

Cases of seltzer, soda, water — double the amount of water that you think you need

First-aid kit, including Tylenol, Motrin and Benadryl

Siddurim — if the hotel or other venue won’t supply any

FETER MENACHEM

He grunted his approval when it came to the budget, but seriously, isn’t it an aveirah to pay for an extra night just because we’re staying until Motzei Shabbos? Listen, we certainly don’t have to pay for two nights for the kids. He reminds all parents to pre-check them out before the zman, and vacate the rooms by 11:00 Shabbos morning.

TZIPPY

Her family caaaaan’t digest regular challah, it does horrors to their systems. You’ll find her locking horns with the caterer fifteen minutes before the zman to make room in the oven for all of her sourdoughs — and to hike up the temperature to 500°.

MIMME YITTY

It’s not like she needs much, but seriously, the dining room is an ice box! Can someone ask the manager to turn off the air conditioner? Forget it, I’ll go tell him myself. And if I’m talking to him already, may as well find out if they have high chairs for the babies.

HURRY, MATHIAS, OR WE’LL MISS THE “KIDDUSHUS”!

I WISH FATHER WOULD DO “KIDDUSHUS.” THE LAST FEW MONTHS HE’S BEEN COMING HOME SO TIRED.

YOM HASHISHI, VAYECHULU HASHAMAYIM V’HA’ARETZ…

MAYBE WE SHOULD ASK TO JOIN THEM.

THIS “KIDDUSHUS” OF THEIRS IS SO BEAUTIFUL.

I THOUGHT IT WAS IMPOSSIBLE TO WORK HARDER THAN FATHER WORKS, BUT RECENTLY, HE’S REALLY BEEN PUSHING HIMSELF.

SEVERAL MONTHS LATER:

YOU HAVE TO STOP WORKING SO HARD, ASAI. WHAT EXACTLY ARE YOU TRYING TO ACHIEVE?

I DON’T THINK SO. IT’S SOMETHING ONLY FOR JEWS.

PADRE, WHAT DID YOU DO? YOU SAID YOU’D HELP ME EVICT THE RUBINOVS.

RECAP: YEHUDA RUBINOV DISCOVERS THAT THE POLICE CHIEF IS BEING BRIBED BY PEDRO. YEHUDA DECIDES NOT TO GIVE UP AND BEGINS TO RESTORE THE FARM. JOSE TRIES TO SABOTAGE THEIR EFFORTS.

FIRST OF ALL, WHAT ABOUT “BUENOS DIAS”? WHERE ARE YOUR MANNERS? AND SECONDLY, YES, THAT’S WHAT I SAID. AND THAT’S WHAT I’VE DONE.

REALLY? SO MAYBE YOU CAN EXPLAIN TO ME WHAT I SEE OUTSIDE.

DO YOU SEE? AND THAT’S NOT ALL. I HEARD THAT THEIR CATTLE WON THE COMPETITION IN SANTA FE FOR THE FATTEST COWS.

WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?

ABOUT THE FIELDS OF FAMILY RUBINOV.

BUENAS NOCHES, DON MORENO.

BUENAS NOCHES, MISHA. YOUR FIELDS ARE DOING GREAT. DID YOU USE THE COMPOUNDS I GAVE YOU? HOW

BITS OF WITS

SHEVY HOLLANDER

SPELL

IT OUT

When someone vanishes without notice or leaving a clue as to his whereabouts, we might say he’s gone AWOL.

The word, pronounced [AY]-wol, is an acronym with its roots in the military and means Absent Without Official Leave. Military protocol is to get permission from a superior officer before leaving for any reason, and when a soldier disappears without doing so, he is considered AWOL. By now it is used more loosely whenever we don’t know where the wind has dragged someone.

A FORGOTTEN POND

The site upon which Maimonides Medical Center now stands once held a tranquil, leisurely area containing Webster’s Pond, Webster’s Pond was located at 49th Street near 10th Avenue. The pond was initially known as Martense Pond, since the Martense family lived on the farm surrounding the pond. In August of 1910, Webster’s pond was filled, and within that year was the groundbreaking for Israel Zion Hospital, which was constructed in 1919 and is today known as Maimonides Medical Center.

OOPS!

SETTING COMMON MISTAKES STRAIGHT AND CLEARING UP MISCONCEPTIONS

It’s easy to excuse the misspelling of “free rein” as the incorrect “free reign,” but it doesn’t make it grammatically correct. With reign being something that rulers do, we might want to think of free reign as unbridled royal authority. However, the expression refers to the unrestricted freedom granted to one to do as he chooses, like a horse who gets free rein, as opposed to a tight rein, and can now move about as he pleases.

PIECE OF HISTORY

Cows cooling off in Webster’s Pond in 1901 (FROM THE COLLECTION OF JACQUES FRIEDMAN, PRESIDENT OF THE BORO PARK HISTORICAL SOCIETY)

FLOWER POWER

Use the following letters to list 5 words, each using 7 letters and up. Only the center letter must be used, and letters can be repeated. Bonus points for pangrams (words that use all seven letters).

V A N I E G R

Name a common English phrase for each item on the list that includes a word associated with this week’s theme.

Theme: Our parents

Example:

Necessity is this — the mother of invention

1. Cares for others in a manner that feels stifling

2. Your secret is safe

3. Still overly dependent

4. The main authors of the U.S. Constitution

5. Her children’s performance is a priority

6. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree

7. Where one is most fluent

8. Shell worn as jewelry

9. Nobody will be harmed while I’m in charge

10. So many people were there!

In Japan, you can buy a square watermelon. They grow in squareshaped containers to attain that shape and sell for over $100 apiece. If you have a hankering for them, just beware that they go for close to $900 abroad, but they do come wrapped with a bow!

TEASE YOUR MIND

I GO ALL AROUND THE WORLD, BUT NEVER LEAVE THE CORNER. WHO AM I?

Answer: A stamp

I MINED IN SIMON’S DIAMOND MINES NINE TIMES. SAY IT WITH A TWIST

ADD TO DICTIONARY

WORDS YOU MAY NOT KNOW THAT SAY THINGS IN A WHOLE NEW WAY

“Four corners” is such a clumsy way of describing an intersection like the one at Maple Avenue and Route 306, and there’s no need to use it. Isn’t quadrivium use? Now used to describe an intersection of four roads, in medieval times, quadrivium consisted of the four subjects: arithmetic, astronomy, geometry and music.

WHAT

DO YOU KNOW?

We welcome town trivia, historical facts and photos, and Torah-themed riddle submissions. We’d also love to hear if you have additional answers to our puzzles! Email comments@thebpview.com to add your very own bits of wits. Please include your name and contact information.

BOGGLE TOURNAMENT

HOW TO PLAY:

1. Gather round the table to play a family game of Boggle, using this Boggle board.

2. Once you have a winner, fill out the form below in its entirety

3. Email the form to comments@ thebpview.com or fax to 718-4088771 by Sunday at midnight.

4. Two winners will be drawn each week, each of whom will receive a $15 gift card at Judaica Corner!

PLAYING RULES:

Find words on the board containing four letters or more. Letters of a word must be connected in a chain (each letter should be adjacent to the next either vertically, horizontally or diagonally), and each letter can only be used once in a given word. The following are not allowed in Boggle: Adding “s” to a word • Proper nouns • Abbreviations • Contractions • Acronyms

POINTS

4-letter words: 2 points | 5-letter words: 3 points | 6-letter words: 5 points | 7-letter words: 7 points | 8-letter words: 9 points | 9+ letters: 12 points

HINT

L B O H S I I F O A E A R L N G N C P R N T E I O

Each Boggle board hides a word of nine letters or more! Family

Full mailing address:

Full name of winner:

Amount of points:

Full names of competing players:

List some words only the winner found:

WINNER 1

FAMILY NAME: Elbaum, 718-xxx-3003

NAME OF WINNER: Mommy

AMOUNT OF POINTS: 51

NAMES OF COMPETING PLAYERS: Rochel

FOUND:

WINNER 2

FAMILY NAME: Pluczenik, 718-xxx-1533

NAME OF WINNER: Ruchie

AMOUNT

Send your colored page to The Boro Park View to enter a drawing for a chance to have your artwork featured in our pages and win $10 at Toys4U! Four lucky winners will be announced each week.

To enter the raffle, email your colored page with your full name to comments@thebpview.com or mail it to 1274

Brooklyn, NY 11219. Submissions will be included in the drawing

Suite

Feel free to photocopy this coloring page for the entire family.

Thank you to the hundreds of readers who sent in beautifully colored pages! Keep coloring!

THE TEN WINNERS OF THE $5 GIFT CARDS AT TOYS4U! A $5 credit was issued at Toys4U on the account of the phone number listed on your submission.

Zeesy Spitzer, 6, Nesivos Bais Yaakov

Toby Grunwald, 7, Skvere

Malky Weber, 5, Belz

Malky Reldman, 10, Bnos Bobov 45

Gavriel Fischer, 5, Tzelim

Sury Berkovits, 8, Satmar

Shaindy Wagschal, 7, Satmar

Frimi Katz, 5, Vitznitz

Chany Lenorovitz, 10, Krula

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Classifieds

FOR SALE

DONATE YOUR VEHICLE

(Car, truck, van, Suv) Get $1,500 tax deduction + $500 Gift card or we pay cash for cars too. 718974-9428

NEOCATE/BABY FORMULA

Neocate $46.99 per can. Kendamil Similac L’Mehadrin in stock!! We buy off any formula for a good price and trade as well. Call for other types of formulas. New! Option of shipping case of 6 Kendamil directly to you from England. Formula Trade 347.369.4886

DOONA STROLLER

Doona Stroller, multiple colors available! cll/txt 1-201614-4045

BEBE ORGANIC SET

Looking to sell a natural color bebe organic set, size 3 mths, with matching bonnet and blanket, beautiful for vachnacht. Please call 347 382 0905

WIG FOR SALE

Looking to sell a dark brown past shoulder length bangs non lace wig. Like new condition. $2100. BP. Call/ text 347-816-8531

CANON CAMERAS

CANON CAMERAS in used condition for sale in BP. ELPH, SX, and G models in stock. Call 347 388 2336 for showroom hours.

WIG FOR SALE

Looking to sell a 14” to 16” Michal dark brown non lace wig. Like new condition. $2100. BP. Call/text 3478168652

FOR SALE

Valco baby duo carriage, great condition grey color. Ikea couch, opens to a full size bed. Great condition. free giveaway: fridge, in used condition. Please call or text for more info: 929-275-5754

REAL ESTATE

AIRMONT GETAWAY

Beautiful furnished house, 5 bedrooms 12 beds, 2 Bath, Deck, Lg. Playground, near shul. Linen, Towels, and all amenities included. Avail for weekend, weekly or monthly. Call: 347-678-6565 or 347485-4149

FURNISHED APT.

55th bet. 12-13 Ave. New 1 Bedroom basement apt. Front entrance-high ceilings and windows - granite kitchencouch and dining area-w/d & central a/c. Call 917-4069283

4 BEDROOM FURNISHED APT

Beautiful furnished 4 bdrm,2 bath apt for rent short/long term. NU & 40th st, 3 flights up. Call/text 718-419-0776 Email: rf11219@gmail.com

MIAMI BEACH

Newly renovated beautiful ocean view 1 bedroom apt. for rent. 347.760.0570

FOR SALE

1 Family Home Deleware NY, Owner retiring can’t afford to keep it. Accepting all offers. 212470-1708 text/lv msg

19 AVE/50 ST.

Basement/walk in Beautiful 1 room office. Reasonably Priced. 347-760-3482

WEST PALM BEACH

No. 1 Real Estate Broker. Aaron Rose 561.308.5766

HOLLYWOOD FLORIDA

Beautiful private villa. 4 Master suites with kosher kitchen, huge living area, pool. Walking distance to Shul/ Kosher shopping. Call/ whatsapp 718-541-0292

LAKEHOUSE VILLA

Luxurious 3 bedroom lake house villa in Case Grande Arizona. Private pool fully stocked kosher kitchen. 520.251.4459

PRIVATE HOUSE SHORT TERM

Fully equipped furnished 7 bedroom house (18+beds) with linen/towels hotel style in Blooming Grove. Rent for days, weeks, or weekends. Breathtaking beautiful grounds. Call/text 845-2385633

LINDEN VACATION

Exlusive beautiful fullyfurnished house, all amenities included, 5 bedrooms sleeps 11+2 cribs 7 min walk to shuls Beautiful In ground Heated pool. Call/Text 601-675-2665/ Crownprincevilla@gmail.com

VACATION RENTAL

Vacation rental in North Miami. 3-bedroom with pool and jacuzzi!! Located next to shuls and kosher groceries! please call 9176354043

FLORIDA RENTAL

Beautiful 3 bedroom 3 bath villa with inground heated pool and hot tub available in North Miami, Price per night $339. special discount for a week+ Pictures available. Call/Text 845327-7153

WEST PALM BEACH

FLORIDA

For the best Real Estate deals call Mrs. Debby Schwartz 203.667.2785

Job ID: 1234

Looking for a BEST FRIEND

To assist A 24 year old boy

Sunday 2:00PM 6:00PM & Evenings

Job ID: 1460

Looking for a BEST FRIEND

To accompany A 17 year old boy

Job ID: 1532

Looking for a KIDS’ BEST FRIEND

To assist & take to shul A 9 year old boy

Friday, Shabbos & Sunday

Job ID: 1650

Looking for a BEST FRIEND

To assist with Geometry studies A 17 year old girl

Job ID: 1691

Looking for a BEST FRIEND

To assist-with car A 12 year old boy

Monday - Thursday 1 hr in the evening

Job ID: 1253

Looking for a BEST FRIEND

To accompany A 12 year old boy

Friday, Shabbos & Sundays

Job ID: 1115

Looking for a KIDS’ BEST FRIEND

To assist A 5 year old girl

Shabbos 12:00PM - 1:30PM

Job ID: 3067

Looking for a BEST FRIEND To assist A 11 year old girl

Friday afternoon & Shabbos morning

Job ID: 1275 Looking for a BEST FRIEND

assist A 12 year old girl

- 5:00pm (wheelchair bound girl)

Job ID: 4723

Looking for a BEST FRIEND

To assist & accompany A 12 year old boy

Shabbos

Job ID: 1422

Looking for a BEST FRIEND

To assist with homework A 10 year old girl Daily after school

Job ID: 1510

Looking for a BEST FRIEND To assist A 15 year old boy Friday afternoon & Sunday 3:00 PM - 5:00 PM

Job ID: 1817

Looking for a HOMEWORK PARTNER

To assist with homework A 11 year old girl

Job ID: 1625

Looking for a BEST FRIEND

To assist & accompany A 12 year old boy

Shabbos

Job ID: 1210

Looking for a BEST FRIEND To assist A 12 year old boy Daily 7:00 PM - 8:00 PM

Job ID: 1590

Looking for a EVENING FRIEND

To assist with evening chores A 9 year old girl Sun, Tues, & Thursday 5:00 PM - 7:00 PM

Classifieds Gartlech Sale

SUMMER RENTAL

White Lake Villas- Beautiful furnished unit, 4 BDR 4 Baths, Luxury Master Suite, Huge Living area, laundry room, Stunning Views, friendly crowd. 24k Call 845.397.2116

CAMPGROUNDS AVAILABLE

Beautiful campgrounds available to rent for a Yeshivas Kayitz or summer camp, Please contact campusom180@gmail.com

POCONOS GETAWAY

Large house can accommodate up to 18 guests. Cottage up to 6 guests. Near all the poconos atractions, walking distance to minyan. Please contact campusom180@gmail.com

HOUSE RENTAL SHORT TERM

Brand new luxurious 5 bedroom house in Woodburry Junction nexto

MIAMI BEACH FLORIDA

Carriage Club North, beautiful 2 bedroom, 2 bath, ground floor, for rent. Call: 347.499.0031

NORTH MIAMI FL 2-bedroom, 2-baths with private heated pool and spa. From $325 per night. Call/ Text: 917-382-4810, email: 1752nmb@gmail.com

HOTEL 15

Accepting now bookings for spring and summer,(weekly,part or full). Big villa in serene area outside Monroe with huge heated pool. 8 couple bedrooms, Teen bedroom 8 beds plus 20 kids beds. For Pictures hotelfifteen.com call to book 845 837- 5662

HIGHLAND MILLS RENTAL (NEAR KJ)

Fully furnished beautiful spacious house. 4 bedrooms available daily, weekly and weekends. Linen, towels

WEEKEND RENTAL LAKEWOOD

Beautiful new 3bdrm 2fl bath furnished apartment. Linen towels hotplate & more. Next to Satmer, Oak&Vine. Call text 7185064321

MIAMI RENTAL

Miami spacious & spotless 2 bedroom condo with porch, In the Masada 3 building. Near shul, beach, shopping. Heated pool. Beautiful rooftop. Kosher kitchen. With Parking. 347-2474816

MONSEY RENTAL

Beautiful one bedroom apt avail for rent. Weekends/ midweek. Phyllis Terrace area. Linen and amenities included. Great price! Call or text 845.827.1888.

6 BEDROOM VACATION RENTAL

VILLA IN CASA GRANDE ARIZONA

Gorgeous upgraded villa available for Summer and year round. 14 comfortable beds, 3 baths, kosher kitchen. Beautiful private backyard with heated pool, outdoor furniture with grill. Near Shul & Grocery. Call/ text 929-592-0368 / 929-4415709 Arizonakoshervilla. net. Villa in Tuscon also available.

SWAP APARTMENTS

I have a 4-bedroom apartment in Boro Park. I am looking to swap for a 3-4 bedroom apartment in Eretz Yisroel from July 4 to July 24. Please call 9173425666

WEST PALM BEACH FOR SALE

Wellington M, 2 Bedroom apt. Ground Floor FOR SALE. Call: 347.760.0639

HIGHLAND MILLS

Classifieds

HELP WANTED

F/T OFFICE JOB

A Job That’s Just Right For You! Are you looking for a FT office job? Sync NY has a variety of excellent opportunities. Reach out today to speak to a recruiting expert. 7185879000. Submit resume today www.syncny. com or to info@syncny.com

TEACHER ASSISTANTS

Yeled V`Yalda Head Start Boro Park, Seeking Full Time Teacher Assistants. Must have a High School diploma. Excellent salary and benefits. Salary: $33,000-$38,000 depending on credentials. Send resume to: jobs@yeled. org Call: 718.686.2422

JOB RESUME

Need a great work resume? Resumes are what we do (new grads or experienced)! Call/text 845-554-5778 or email info@resumakerpro. com.

TEACHERS & ASSISTANTS

Chassidish preschool seeking warm and devoted teachers and assistants, with/ without degree for preschool and daycare. Send resume to enhancedchinuch@gmail. com

JOB OPPORTUNITY

Teacher, assistant and babysitter postions available for the summer and September in a wellestablished daycare in Boro Park. Reach out to us at 718-701-6556 x3 or email us at tlcdaycarenyc@gmail.com.

POSITIONS AVAILABLE Nurtury playgroup is looking for staff for summer and the upcoming school year. Amazing benefits and great pay! Call 718-7243523. Send Resume to office@nurturycenter. com

KINDERGARTEN TEACHER

Heimishe Yiddish speaking boys yeshiva looking for a kindergarten teacher. Warm environment, excellent salary. Call: 718.551.5293 email: ycspreschool@gmail. com

POSITIONS AVAILABLE

Girls Elementary school in brooklyn seeks for 24-25 school year, lower elementary and and ELA and math junior high teachers. Warm environment. MondayThursday 12:30 - 4:00 and alternate Fridays 8:45- 12:30. 718-437-6120 email resume to ges@ystschools.net

CO-TEACHERS NEEDED

Tots+Tykes daycare is looking to hire coteachers with high school diploma. Graduates welcome! Training and support given with no at home preparation necessary. Great heimish, positive work environment and benefits for the right candidate. Call 718-215-1625 ext. 2

P3 PROVIDER- BORO PARK

2 five hour cases In child’s home- after school hours. Email: position@tachlises. com

P3 PROVIDER- SEP 24’

Full caseload in Boro Park school. Teaching and reading experience a must. Pls email: position@tachlises.com with references

SEPT OPENINGS

Miniland Daycare seeks: *Teachers for baby/toddler classes (no degree required) *Teacher with BA for 2 year old class 929.292.0504

TEACHERS ASSISTANTS

Chasidishe Girls School in BP is seeking 1st & 2nd grade English assistants. PM hours. ALSO 1st Grade asst. Yiddish Am hours. Please call 718338-5600 x313 or email to lgordonbydg@gmail.com

BORO PARK DAYCARE LOOKING FOR

Second half: Teachers with degrees, Teachers 21 and up, Assistants 16 and up. Upcoming school year: Teachers 21 and up, Teachers with 90 credits or BA, Assistants 21 and up. Part time/ full time floater positions avail. Good pay for the right candidate. Email resume to gbaum@bebabove. org or call/text (848) 3056831

PLAYGROUP TEACHER & ASSISTANT

Playgroup looking for FT/PT experienced teacher and FT/ PT assistant for September. 718-686-1689. lve message

JOB OPPORTUNITY

Daycare in the heart of BP is seeking a teacher with a BA or Masters degree for the months of July and August. Great environment and competitive pay! Please call 347-458-9517.

FT/PT MORAH

FT/ PT morah. Yiddish speaking. For small voucher playgroup, for September 24’. Located 47th between 18/19. Great pay! 718-853-4139 or 929-287-2054

NURSERY ASSISTANT

Chasidishe Cheder In Boro Park looking for a nursery assistant for the upcoming year. 3476749824

JOBS AVAILABLE

Part-time & Full-time jobs available. Email TopPartTimeJobs@ gmail.com

ASSISTANT TEACHER/PARA

Assistant Teacher/Para positions for the 24-25 school year, chassidish sp ed school. Great environment, training provided. Graduates welcome. Email resume to school718438@gmail.com.

HUMAN RESOURCES ONBOARDING SPECIALIST

Full time, Boro Park office, Experience required, excellent phone and computer skills, efficient and detail oriented, able to multitask. Salary range: $45,000.$55,000. Send resume to: jobs@yeled.org Att. HR Or Call 718.686.2422

SECRETARY POSITION

Secretary position for fast paced sp ed school office. F/T, heimish environment, graduates welcome. Send resume to school718438@ gmail.com.

PART TIME JOB

Looking for a warm, experienced, Yiddish speaking teacher for playgroup 2 1/2 times a week in the 19th ave area. For September. Please call 347-598-3952.

OFFICE MANAGER

Office manager position available, need to overlook AP and AR and have some IT knowledge. Please send resume to: david@ landlordssupplies.com

OFFICE STAFF

Heimishe Office in Flatbush seeking office staff. Multiple positions available. Willing to train. Great Pay! Email: Resumes@Lbaps.com or Call/ Text 347-645-5362

COLLECTIONS SPECIALIST Office in Flatbush Seeking a Collections specialist must have a persistent personality. Willing to train. Great Pay! Email: Resumes@Lbaps.com or Call/Text 347-645-5362

HIRING

Hobbyhouse paint studio in Will and BP now has positions waiting to be filled. F/T P/T If you are creative and have a great personality please reach out to us at 845608-0161.

Classifieds

AR BILLER

Do you enjoy working with numbers and problemsolving? Seeking a full time AR biller to do medical billing in an all-female team. Training provided. Grads welcome! Send resume to SReinhold@hamaspikkings. org or call 718.387.8400 Ext. 218

SECRETARY WANTED

BP Insurance office. Email resume perry@totalplantpa. com or call 718-576-1019

RECEPTIONIST

P/T, 12:30-4:30. M ONTh. Full year or Summer. Boro Park, heimish office. Email resume: hr@ itstherapygroup.com.

SPECIALED REBBE

Special Ed Classroom Rebbe position avail for the 24/25 school year. Masters and experience a plus. Great salary. Email Resume: rebbespecialed@gmail.com

SPECIAL ED TEACHER

Special Ed Certified Teacher positions available for the 2425 school year, chassidish sp ed school. Bilingual Yiddish a must. Great training and environment! Email resume to school718438@gmail.com.

F/T PARAS

Now hiring paras to work full time in a special education school for the 24-25 school year. Supportive and heimish environment. Transportation provided. Resumes@ yadyisroelschool.org

JOIN OUR SALES TEAM!

Be Your Own Boss! Join New York Life Insurance Co. as a seasoned salesperson or our fast track to management program. Experience top training, support, and retirement benefits. Make an impact, secure your future. Connect today! dglick@ newyorklife.com or Call 845639-5216

SECRETARY/BOOKKEEPER

Full Time position in Boro Park Good time management skills. Detail oriented, computer literate. Comfortable with MS word & excel. Great work environment. Opportunity to grow, great benefits. Will train. Email to: jobs@yeled. org or call: 718.686.2422

PAYROLL ASSISTANT

Yeled V`Yalda Boro Park

Seeking Full Time payroll assistant. Detail oriented, Organizational skills, Computer savvy, great environment. Salary: $42,000.-$45,000. Email: jobs@yeled.org Call: 718.686.2422

MENTORS WANTED

Amazing opportunity helping local families during evenings. Seeking mentors to help local children in their homes after school hours a few evenings a week. Must have HS diploma and be punctual. Have a BA? Event better!! to learn more Call/ Text/WA: 917.968.2292

ASSISTANT TEACHERS

Yeled V`Yalda Early Head Start seeking assistant teachers in Boro Park. Excellent salary, lots of benefits. Childcare included. Salary range $32,000-$35,000. Please call: 718.686.2422 Email: jobs@ yeled.org

AMAZING FEMALE POSITION

Seeking female entry level Candidate to work in EDU based healthcare office in the heart of Boro Park. Candidate should be excellent with customer service and detail oriented, Geder filter. Please Call/Text: 917.968.2292

ABA PARAS

Seeking ABA Paras to work with children. Full and part-time positions available. Great Pay! Email: Resumes@ Lbaps.com or Call/Text 347645-5362

ABA BEHAVIOR TECHNICIAN

Yeled V`Yalda is seeking ABA Behavior Technicians to join our team of caring professionals to provide ABA services for children with autism under the guidance of a BCBA. Flexible days and hours! 100% internet free option available! Opportunities available in your area! Salary range $24-$36 commensurate with experience. To apply please call: 718.686.2349 or email resume to: abaposition@ yeled.org

MENTORS WANTED

Do you have a therapeutic personality? We are looking for young adults who are considering the mental health field, to be paired as mentors to with children on the spectrum to help build up their social life/skills. Call/ text/WA: 917.968.2292

F/T OFFICE MANAGER

Local office seeking a full-time office manager to manage the day-to-day tasks of the office. Excellent benefits and long-term potential. $75k annual salary. Please email résumé to jobs@ hamaspikchoice.org

POSITIONS AVAILABLE

Local office seeking full time office staff to fill various open positions. Excellent benefits. Pay range $23-$27 an hour. Please email resume to jobs@ hamaspikchoice.org

STATEN ISLAND LEAD TEACHER

Looking for a great Staten Island local job? Yeled V`Yalda Staten Island is seeing an experienced, warm and enthusiastic teacher. Positive and friendly environment. 12 ECE Credits Required. Salary $41,000$68,000. Great benefits. Please send resume to: HRubinstein@Yeled.org or call 718-514-8865

ADMINISTRATIVE SUPPORT STAFF

26-35 hours weekly in central Boro Park office, requires strong computer and communication skills, growth oriented environment. Salary range $45,000-$60,000. Please send resume to: smarkovic@yeled. org or call: 718.686.2326

OCCUPATIONAL THERAPIST

Seeking experienced Occupational Therapist for Special Ed school in Brooklyn. Excellent salary and collaborative working environment. Resumes@ yadyisroelschool.org

SPECIAL ED TEACHERS

Now hiring a devoted special ed classroom teacher for the 24-25 school year. Small class size, excellent training, supportive environment. Resumes@yadyisroelschool. org

EHS TEACHER CANARSIE LOCATION

Seeking BA with 12 ECE Credits or study plan with almost complete BA and 12 Education credits. Please email resume to: Dbarnett@ yeled.org

“STATEN ISLAND ASSISTANT TEACHER

Yeled V`Yalda Staten Island is seeking a warm, experienced and caring assistant teacher. (No teacher’s prep required!) Positive and friendly environment. Great benefits. Salary $33,000-$38,000. Please send resume to: HRubinstein@Yeled.org or call 718-514-8865

CARE MANAGER SUPERVISOR

Established ABA agency seeking experienced care manager supervisors. Prior care management supervision required. Full time only. $65-75k. Email chana@hiresolutionsny.com or call 845-422-8098 ext 105

Classifieds

JOB OPPORTUNITY

Seeking an energetic girl to work in a heimish school office. Must have excellent organizational skills and strong attention to detail. Great pay! Grads welcome. resumes@yadyisroelschool. org

POSITIONS AVAILABLE

Yaldeinu school is seeking Instructors for ‘23-’24. 9 am -1 pm, 1 pm -4 pm, 9 am to 4 pm, Great team atmosphere, great pay, amazing training! Please email resume to info@ yaldeinu.net

PROVIDER COORDINATOR POSITION

Full-time, provider coordinator position available in Boro Park office. Communication and organization skills required. Great work environment, competitive pay and opportunity for growth. Please send resume to hr@discoveraba.org

ADMINISTRATIVE SECRETARY

Administrative secretary position, special ed school. F/T, P/T, some exp. preferred w/ computers skills, DOE process. Email resume to school718438@gmail.com.

YESHIVA HIRING

Yeshiva in Flatbush with positions available for 2024-2025 School Year. ·Elementary & Junior High Teachers ·Teacher’s Assistants F/T & P/T ·Office Secretary F/T & P/T. Competitive Salary. Please email resume: interviewsatyeshiva@gmail. com

BILLING POSITION

Looking to hire an experienced biller for our office. Great opportunity! Competitive pay! Lots of growth opportunity! Email jobs@fcc-corp.com

HOME VISITOR

Do you enjoy working with children? Do you relate well to others? Yeled V’Yalda Early Head Start Home-Based, Boro Park is looking to hire a home visitor to do weekly visits with children ages birth to three. Basic computer skills required. Salary Range 35,000-$45,000. Email resume: homebased@yeled. org

PRESCHOOL TEACHER WILLIAMSBURG

Join our team starting September 2024! Seeking a passionate teacher for our 4-year-old Head Start class in Williamsburg. Must have a min. of 90 credits. Apply now! Call: 718.514.8925 or 718.514.8926 If no answer, please leave a message or call 718.963.1841 in the evening

F/T EMPLOYEE

BP based P&C Insurance Brokerage is looking for a full time employee, great pay. Please send your resume to shlomie773@gmail.com Serious inquiries only!

CLASSROOM AIDE/ BUS MATRON

Full time position in Boro Park, Classroom assistant, one bus route daily. Exceptional environment and benefits. Salary $36,000. Plus. Call: 718.686.2422 Or email to: jobs@yeled.org

INFANT CAREGIVER

Full time position in Boro Park, Exceptional environment and benefits. Salary $35,000-$41,000. Call: 718.686.2422 Or email to: jobs@yeled.org

F/T MEDICAL

BILLERS

Nursing home management company seeking full time experienced medical billers. Great environment! Email chana@hiresolutionsny.com or call 845-422-8098 ext 105

TITLE 1 DIRECTOR

Do you have experience setting up a title 1 program? An established special ed agency is seeking an experienced secretary with knowledge on how to navigate the legalities involved in getting a title 1 program started. Great environment. Flexible hours. $150-180k. Email chana@hiresolutionsny.com or call 845-422-8098 ext 105

FEMALE AIDE/ COMPANION

Looking for female aide/ companion, Light housekeeping, basic upkeep, part time. please call 718854-5868

SUMMER HOCK

CHILL this summer + have FUN!! Seeking extremely fun-loving girl (11th+) to lead dancing groups in Catskills. very few hrs! call 845.262.0510

ABA PARAPROFESSIONAL

Aba company seeking paraprofessional for the summer and sept 2024. No degree needed. email support@flyingcolorsaba. com to hear more details

EXCELLENT OPPORTUNITY!

Proactively seeking parttime women to engage in networking with professionals, organizations, and schools. The objective is to establish strategic relationships and mutually beneficial partnerships aimed at elevating the reputation and impact of a highly respected therapy program. Responsibilities: *Build and maintain relationships *Participate in networking meetings and events. Qualifications: *Exceptional communication and interpersonal skills *Strategic approach to networking *A genuine interest in building relationships. Please send resume to: apply4job. company@gmail.com

JOB AVAILABLE

Mortgage Company looking for processors. Prior experience pref. Willing to train right candidates (inc graduate). Smart, excellent communication & organization skills. Fantastic environment. Email resume: bpmortgagejob@gmail.com

PARA

Seeking conscientious and devoted paraprofessional for a second-grade girl in a chasssidish school from 9 am-12:40 pm and 12:454:15 pm for summer and upcoming school year. Excellent environment, great pay! Interested candidates should submit a resume and references to leah@ aimfurther.org.

SUMMER PROVIDER

Seeking one-on-one providers with BAs to work with children after hours during the summer. Join a warm supportive environment with an excellent curriculum provided, along with Montessori materials delivered to your door. Cases are available in Boro Park as well as upstate - Fallsburg, Ellenville, and Kiamesha Lake. Call 718-500-3765 ext. 103.

MULTIPLE OPPORTUNITIES

Do you enjoy working with numbers? Are you detail oriented? Reach out today, we have a great opportunity for you! Full time only. Great training provided. Email chana@hiresolutionsny.com or call 845-422-8098 ext 105

CASE COORDINATOR

Join Us as a Case Coordinator in ABA! Exciting opportunity with competitive pay and a supportive environment. Seeking exceptional phone and communication skills and organizational efficiency. Coordinate seamlessly between parents, schools, BCBAs, and BTs. Apply: Positions@ kindlersupport.com

GENERAL STUDIES TEACHER

Heimishe School in Boro Park is seeking upper elementary general studies teachers, experience preferred. Warm environment. Send resume to: teachingposition613@ gmail.com

ENTRY LEVEL POSITIONS

Entry level positions available in our Medicaid billing department. Full training provided. Apply now at jobs@ fcc-corp.com

CHILDCARE

WOOD REPAIR

PROFESSIONAL REVAMPING, REPAIRS & TRANSFORMATION TO UR KITCHEN

SUMMER PLAYGROUP

Summer playgroup slot available. 15 & 40’s, 718-8541092

BABYSITTER AVAILABLE

Experienced heimishe babysitter is reopening for the summer. Located on 10 and mid 40’s, limited slots, references available 347-7497774

PLAYGROUP

Kindershpeil playgroup located 51/12 Has slots available for summer and september for ages 22 months and up 3479326524

13TH & 49ST VOUCHER DAYCARE

Some slots still available for kids turning 2 Sept, Oct, Nov, - please call 3474604255

SERVICES

WIRELESS WIFI RENTAL

Short or Long Term, for just $25 per week! 718-435-1923

HANDYMAN & PAINTING

Experienced & Reliable handyman. Small jobs our specialty! Plumbing, Electric, construction, Locksmith, painting, plastering. Shabbos clocks, outlets/switches, call: 347.275.5408

YESTERYEAR, DESIGN OF TODAY! TXT FOR DECORATORS

CONSULT, BEST PRICING & SVC. 212-9918548.

HEIMISHE FOOD

Fresh Heimishe food delivered to your door. Had a baby? Making a Simcha? Going away for Shabbos? Call 347-4612875

LIGHT ALTERATIONS

Please Call: 718.450.4700

MAKEUP ARTIST

Certified makeup artist for all your special occasions. Call: Yides Neuwirth 917.309.6000 or 718.858.0815

MUSIC LESSONS

Professional music lessons by Mr. Wertzberger now for just $10 per week. Limited time special! 718-435-1923

GARTLECH

We fix knitted & crochet Gartlech & make beautiful professional fringes. We also teach how to knit & crochet. call: 917-414-3281

WRITING SERVICE

We put a pen to your voice! For all your writing needs. 1-929-549-2700

Classroom Teachers

Classifieds

IGT COMMUNITY TALENT CENTER

IGT Community Talent Center Offering: Music, Dance, Fitness, Computing, Art, Home Economics, and Applied Science Classes. $160 Per class (45 minutes) Hours: Sunday 10-5PM, Monday - Thurs 3-7PM, and Fridays 12 - 2PM. For more info: Kaila 718-223-7457, Info@IGTcommunity.org

ROOM DIVIDER

We make WALL to split existing room and make second bedroom. It’s including regular or sliding door. We install also plastic ACCORDION partitions that fully fold to one or both sides. LIGHT-fixture+switch+outlet in new room . We work Sunday too. Call/ Text:929-430-7551 /646-288-0185. E-mail:roomdividers11219@gmail.com

AITCH JEWELRY and Watch Repairs 929-651-1658

HAIR STRAIGHTENING

Can’t manage and Dealing with frizzy hear? You can still get your hair straightened and restored in time for summer Text 347-784-4965.

ROWENTA REPAIR

Expert repairs on Rowenta steam stations. Reasonable prices. Fast service. Located in boro park. Call 646-261-3809

PHOTOGRAPHY

Portraits, Family, Upsherin, Lifestyle. Special service for newborn, we come to you with all the props. Photo Dreams 347.563.5153

DRIVER AVAILABLE

Driver with many years exp. available to do long distance trips with brand new minivan. Reasonable rates. 917.405.8469

SPRINTER & MINI VAN SERVICE

Heimishe driver available to do deliveries. Local & long distance, we shlep with a smile! Call: 718.951.0090

MONSEY POOL

Teachers, rebbeim, or families- treat your group to a unique trip to Monsey! Big private pool, hot tub, 130 ft Zipline, trampoline, fire pit, and more! 30 people max. Call or Text 845 664 5521

HANDYMAN & ELECTRICIAN

Electrician, plumber, sewer service, Carpentry, sheetrock, locks, etc. 718.9510090

HANDYMAN/PROF CARPENTER

Repair all cabinets, Table & chairs, doors, locks, hinges, tracks, drawers, blinds, shelves, bookcases & furniture assembling and cutting, hang pic frames & more, free est, warranty on service, 917-704-3514 YEHUDA

CONSTRUCTION

Bathrooms, kitchens, closets, decks, extensions, additions, Basements, all electrical, plumbing, Carpentry. Lowest prices, fastest service. 718.951-0090

ELECTRICIAN

All Electrical work, outlets, switches, fixtures, new lines for washer/dryer or a/c, shabbos clocks, circut breakers. 718.9510090

PHOTO EDITING

Professional photo editing, many years of experience. Special rate for photographers. Also specializing in Custom photo albums, Chosson, wedding, etc. Photo Dreams 347.563.5153

AYIN HORAH

The renowned Rebetzin Aidel Miller from Yerushalayim Is now available to remove “Ayin Horah” over the phone. Call: 718.689.1902 or 516.300.1490

BEAUTIFUL HANDMADE GARTLECH

Hand crochet, Hand knit, Silks & more with beautiful Gartel bag. Text or call: 718.283.4589 Wholesale orders available.

FURNITURE REPAIRS

Furniture, Cabinet & General Repairs, specializing in Chosson-Kallah Apartments. Call: 718.633.6231

NEW WEBSITE?

Get your Beautiful, Fast, SEOFriendly Website done in 14 days, guaranteed. Email efraim@ rapidquill.com

MESOS DODIM

Shidduchim for young adults facing genetic and medical challenges. Strictlyconfidential, please contact Mrs. Klein at 845.729.3001.

GARTEL FRINGES

We make professional gartel fringes and mend gartelach. Same day service. In the heart of BP. (347) 693-4920 or (718)4357644

ELECTROLYSIS

16 & 54, Day and evening appointments. Call 917.474.2398

HANDYMAN BY THE HOUR

We are ready for the summer, are you? Handyman by the hour book now and get 15% OFF. GET HANDI 1866-4263421 Licensed & insured

ITEMIZED KALLAH SHOPPING LIST

To make your kallah shopping a calm experience call 3475346184

SUMMER JOBS

ABA COUNSELOR

Join Us in unlocking Futures this Summer by being an ABA Counselor for younger students! Locations in Boro Park (38th and 13th Ave) Full time hours, great pay! Call for more info! : 917.968.2292 (Upstate locations available as well)

PLAYGROUP ASSISTANT

Playgroup looking for an assistant for summer and september call 3479326524

Classifieds GOODBYE,

ABA COUNSELOR

Unlock Your Potential This Summer! Join us in being an ABA counselor at local day camps throughout Brooklyn, Five Towns, Deal and Upstate NY. Great Pay & Training. Call or text to learn more: 917.968.2292

DAYCAMP POSITIONS

Preschool Boys Day camp in Brooklyn seeks female teachers, lifeguard, counselors & JC’s Full & Part time positions available. A rewarding & Enjoyable experience. Call 718-871-6391

DAYCAMP POSITIONS

Counselors, Lifeguard, EMT, JC’s for professionally run boys daycamp in brooklyn text: 347-251-5915. Also looking for a responsible office manager (male)Eligible for Youth corp. Call 347-672-9646

DAYCAMP POSITIONS

Day camp looking to hire experienced preschool teachers and assistants. Great, heimishe environment. Call: 917-676-7003

DAYCAMP ASSISTANT

Seeking upper elementary/ Lower Highschool girl in BP to assist with preschool daycamp activities. Please call 646-721-6784

HC’S AND TC HEADS

Woodridge DC is seeking head counselors and TC heads. You need to be full of fun and ready to rock! Call 3473203490.

COUNSELOR POSITION

Shemesh- looking for a devoted and enthusiastic individual to be a counselor in our 7 week summer program. Training and transportation provided. Call 917.594.2074

SUMMER JOBS

Chassidishe day camp seeking counselors for exciting summer program. For preschool - 718-490-6312 For elementary718-916-9359

DESIGNER WHITE GOWN

Beautiful sister of the bride designer white gown for sale. Size 2. Please text 646-9571101 (Williamsburg)

MATERNITY GOWN

Current season Dimensions maternity gown for rent call 347-668-9024

DRESS FOR SALE

Zimmerman Adult size 2, call 646.484.0354

CHILDRENS GOWNS

2 white gowns to rent or sell childrens size 4 & 6 call 7189388597

WHITE MATERNITY GOWN

White maternity gown size large to sell for great price call 7183098716

WHITE GOWN

Looking to sell a size 2-4 white gown for sister of the bride, Please call 347 628 9586

Worldwide phone line for Women 929470-4400

baby blanket - beige and cream, on14th ave (347) 622-1363.

Childs denim skirt sz 12-14 on 48th & New Utrecht in the Cleaners 917-613-5238

diamond tennis bracelet april 10 Call929-675-1306

Black SX620 at Space farm on Chol Hamoed 718-384-1828

yellow gold bracelet with diamonds 8.31.22 in BP. Call/text 718-3509790

Diamond earring on last day of pesach b/w 19th and 54th until 14th ave and 45th 917-539-3134

Accidentally swapped heels in Grande Terrace on Sunday May 12, Karl Lagerfeld Nude color Heel size 8 call 347-304-0827

exchanged men’s scarf at Jacobowitz/ Nojowitz vort in Spinka Hall on May 13. 718-541-6936

LATE ADS

NEW VOUCHERS GROUP

55/13 ages 6m - 18m 3x week. 10am-2pm call/text 347-674-2230

TEACHER WANTED

Seeking warm devoted responsible teacher for small babysitting group with enough help. Well paid, 10am-2pm 3x week. Central location. Call/ text 347-674-2230

This summer at Chamidim upstate, your child will be making waves and reaching splashing new goals in essential skills within a fun, results-driven, and supportive environment.

BORO PARK CENTER LAG BAOMER EVENT

By: Idy Perl

Lag Baomer at the Boro Park Center is already a well-known special event. Every year the BPC residents and their family members get a full day of festivities in honor of Lag Baomer, and this year was no exception.

The Berko brothers entertained the

crowd of close to 200 residents and family members with lively singing and dancing. Fire jugglers, Tantzers volunteers and other entertainers delighted the crowd with their energy and tricks.

Rabbi Waijsfeld shared words of chizuk and said that in R’ Shimon’s

zchus, everyone at BPC will iy’H get a refuah and see yeshuos, which was answered with hearty ameins from the crowd.

The beautiful weather was the cherry on top, and gave all BPC residents and their families a chance to bond and spend an enjoyable day together.

ךורב אבה םשב םשה

ראופמ

Fax: 347.479.1188 Email: contest@mefoarjudaica.com