I WANT TO READ YOU

WORDS BY KEVIN PEACE

Every human being has its different world and lives a separate life. Let’s not assume that people are just what we see on the outside. People gain a firmer gait in life by experiencing deep pains that they call experience. Mevlana said, “Do not think that human beings consist of what you see, it is just a perception that estranges you from the truth, seek what you cannot see. “ We should neither judge people by their external appearances, nor their attitudes towards us.

I am currently watching “The Red Room”, which is a Turkish TV series. The Red Room is effective in drawing out a new, healthier life path model for people. It is about a psychologist who reads aloud the lives of people that come to her. Initially she is trying to realize the deep pain they experienced and then offers them guidance and shifts their perspective on life.

Everyone may get a sense of deep sorrow in their life. It is obvious that the biggest reason for this is the traumas they experienced in their childhood. People realize in the first instance the reality they lived since their childhood.

Life is made up of black and white colors. Adding different colors to life is connected to the nature of human character and their attitude to life. It is not easy to make friendships, and build friendship bridges with someone. “You can trust me” sounds nice, doesn’t it? A lawyer told me: “ I have been a lawyer for 60 years. Keep this in mind. All the cases are among people who once trusted each other”. How accurate an observation, isn’t it? When I could not do my homework in primary school, I made up an excuse for my teacher. I wasn’t even aware of how bad the lie was; But what a courageous act (!); and about the lack of character I had to make a fool of the other person. My teacher said “You’re only deceiving yourself”. These words hurt me a lot. At that moment I realized how wrong I was for doing that. I was very embarrassed. I realized I had to do better, because I loved my teacher so much. I did not want to hurt a person who I loved and valued

Going back to our subject, do not base your assumptions on people’s smiles or anger. Get to know their inner world and even their heart. Every conscious individual would hope to touch people’s lives in an angelic manner. In fact, this is a condition of human existence, that we should embody or aspire to.

Every person who comes into our lives has a separate life story. The storms, floods, winds and thunders that everyone experiences in their inner world differ. Getting to know people and our intention to understand them starts with empathy. Also, we must not forget that people’s attitude to life events is a reflection of their inner world but also of our reasoning filters. Thus, we must at first try to understand people and their actions without judging. Being human presupposes taking into consideration and knowing every aspect of a person’s life and only then adopting an attitude. If you think you will be hurt by someone’s attitude and behaviour, you need to keep them at distance; analyze and evaluate the people you put at the center of your life thoroughly. We are all humans, with our rights and wrongs...

Most of the time, we value people based on their approach to us. The most important thing is the attitude they take and the behaviour they have, whatever the case may be. These attitudes and behaviours are instrumental in revealing the beauty or chaos of people’s characters and habits. When people are born: they are neither good, nor bad. Their attitudes and behaviours towards life events prove how bad or good a person they are.

Their true nature is exposed day by day and is reflected by their choices. That is why there are two types of people in the world. Good and bad…

Friendships are not something that can be easily obtained- trust is essential! If you lose trust, the bond will break. Then the distance sets in and all is forgotten. One more experience is added to our life. Some friendships will end, others will continue for a lifetime. Our lives are composed of friends and companions that we can trust and exchange ideas with because life is more valuable with such people.

Finally, you should evaluate with great caution the people you keep in your life and the friendships you establish. In the end, even if you are disappointed, you have to keep going your way. Life is worth living, in spite of everything. We need to read people and evaluate them, much like with do with the story and characters of a book. The book of life. We must understand the difference between looking and seeing. Our minds should be alert at all times. Do not look at people with judging eyes, but act cautiously.