2020 SELF-LOVE CALENDAR BY THE IDENTITY OF SHE
ABOUT THE IDENTITY OF SHE:
The Identity Of She is a self-love organization dedicated to empowering women and men to be free in their identity. Our organization includes an open forum blog, magazines, workbooks, calendars and clothing made to make you feel good. We fight to make sure that every race, ethnicity, culture, shape, size, gender and sexuality feels free in who they are. Learn more about us at TheIdentityofShe.com. See What Self-Love Means To Our Friends! Check Out Their Quotes And Instagram Handles On Pages 2, 15 And 16.
- EBONI
@THEIDENTITYOFSHE
“Self-love means that you and yourself are forever on the same team, no matter what. It is the refusal to let others validate who you are, what size you should be, what you should do or how you should act. It means being unapologetically free in your identity and boldly showing others to do the same.”
“If you’re searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror.”
- CHLOE
@RUTHIE_PEARL
“Breath in positivity and exhale bullshit.”
- KENIATTA
@YATTA_GRL08
“Self-love means forgiving yourself. Learning to understand you have flaws that make you imperfectly perfect and embracing the woman you become along the way.”
- MALIK
- ASHLEY SOPHIA
@MALIKEYSBEAT
@ASHLEYSOPHIA.MODEL
“Self-love means being authentically and unapologetically you. Self-love is about being tough and loving yourself at the same time.”
“Self-love is loving KIMBERLEE yourself- enough to strive for constant improvement & independence.”
- CANNAKITY
@CANNAKITTY_PAINTSHOP
“I don’t think I fully understand self-love yet. I practice though. It took me a long time to realize that even though I’ve poured my cup dry to countless souls, no one could refill mine but me. It hurt, but now I see how strong I was to do what others couldn’t, now I can begin doing for me.
- RACHEL
@RXR_SELFCARE
“I’ve connected deeply with myself. I’ve put up boundaries and through that I’ve found self-love. I love myself the most.”
“Being my worst critic is exhausting; I’d rather eat a taco.”
- JACKIE B
@DA_GORDITA_CHRONICLES
“This body has gotten me through every phase of my life...why not love it.”
- ANGELINA
@ANGELINALUCIANAART
- MORGAN
@CURVYBARBIEDOLL
@KIMMYKAKES04
- KIMBERLEE
“Self-love is the greatest middle finger of all time.”
- BELLA
@MISSREDJ03
@BELLABBOLD
“Self-love, to me, is the continuous practice of appreciating oneself, forgiving oneself, and pushing oneself to be a better version of themself each day.”
- JULES
“One day she discovered that she was so FIERCE, and STRONG, and full of FIRE, that not even she could hold herself back because her PASSION burned brighter than her FEARS.”
“I have created a safe place for anyone to come and feel comfortable in not only their bodies, but their sexuality. I have been a photographer for 8 years, and each client helps me along my own body and sexuality journey. I used to let my weight determine my worth, it ruled my world for many years. I missed so many opportunities because I let my weight tell me I wasn’t worthy of success. It was like my eyes opened one day, and I was like F** that, and that fire was lit, and there is no stopping me now. I want my clients to feel their fire, embrace it and let it burn.” AngelinaLuciana.com
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I Must Remember That My Most Important New Years Resolution Is To Love Myself! WED 1
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- KATIE
@KATIELEULEU
“To me, self-love is celebrating yourself. It’s practicing choosing yourself everyday, and it takes a long time. Do what makes you feel like the truest form of yourself. You have so much magic in you. Do what makes you feel like a queen. So wear the bikini. Eat the cake. Dance to the beat of your own drum. Laugh with and hold loved ones tight. Be in the moment with yourself. Above all, blind them with your light babe.” - Love, a curvy queen
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This Month I Commit To:
What Were My Acts Of Self-Care This Month?
I BELIEVE IT AND I RECEIVE IT
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What I Think I Believe. What I Feel I Attract. What I Imagine I Create. WED
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CANNAKITTY What Positive Things Do I Vision And Believe Will Happen In These Areas Of My Life?
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Shot By Lacey Jackson @Lacey_J_Photography
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I AM IN CONTROL OF MY ANXIETY
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I Will Not Allow Others To Control The Direction Of My Life. I Am In Control.
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WRITE DOWN HOW YOU MANAGED YOUR ANXIETY Do I constantly worry? If so, what about and why?
Do I constantly overthink things? If so, what about and why?
What brings me the most anxiety?
What am I avoiding in my life?
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Do I have trouble controlling my emotions. If so, why?
Am I having trouble sleeping?
Do I have fits of range? If so, what triggers it?
Am I overcommitting? If so, to what?
What is causing me the most stress and why?
Am I always running late which is causing me internal stress?
Do I have trouble relaxing your mind? If so, why?
Am I constantly seeking validation from others? If so, why?
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WHAT DO I NEED TO LET GO OF?
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Forget What Hurt You But Never Forget What It Taught You.
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What Are Five Things That I Need To Let Go Of?
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POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
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Studies show it is easier to make positive change when you use daily affirmations. Affirmations prime your brain for change. Source: DevelopGoodHabits.com
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- NATACIA
@NATIEBBY
31 “Our bodies hold a lifetime of memories from unforgettable vacations, late night taco/pizza runs, birthday cakes and cocktails. It’s a representation of all our celebrations. Self-love means more than just your body, it’s your way of living life and I choose to live mine fully.”
What Are My Affirmations:
EXPRESS GRATITUDE
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Gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps us feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve our health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships. Gratitude is also an attainment associated with emotional maturity. Source: Health.Harvard.Edu
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Something I love about myself:
that motivates me:
I’m excited about:
beautiful I saw today:
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that I am grateful for:
@__STELLAXMARIE Shot by Leighanne
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@BOWBOWBERGEY
Something I love about my body:
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I struggle with but I am getting better at:
STELLA MARIE
30 DAY GRATITUDE CHALLENGE
I’ve recently overcome:
that I recently learned:
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My biggest improvement:
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decision I’ve ever made:
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Something 4 My best personality I’ve trait: created:
that puts a smile on my face:
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Something 6 My greatest accomplishment: I’m inspired by:
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Something 26 Something I like about I’m an my family: expert in:
What Did I Learn In These 30 Days?
I love about my career:
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A stressful situation that I managed well:
WHAT DO I NEED TO FORGIVE MYSELF FOR?
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I Have To Remember To Be Gentle. I Am Meeting Parts Of Myself That I Have Been At War With.
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What Are Five Things That I Need To Forgive Myself For:
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SET BOUNDARIES
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How Can I Set Better Boundaries In These Areas: My Personal Space: My Emotions: My Energy:
Shot by Chioke @Chokes101
- KRYSTA
@IAMKRYSTAANA
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- DANIELA
@DANII_MASS_
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My Time: My Thoughts: My Values: My Possessions:
SET GOALS
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Goals Give Me Focus, Allow Me To Measure Progress, Keep Me From Being Distracted, Help Me Overcome Procrastination, And Keep Me Motivated.
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GOAL TRACKING QUESTIONS: What do I want to accomplish in the next 30 days?
Why is this goal important?
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What other goals am I trying to accomplish this year?
What steps do I need to take to accomplish this goal?
What will accomplishing this goal do for my life?
What can I do this month to better help myself accomplish my yearly goals? How will I feel when I accomplish this goal?
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@RLFORREAL
What is stopping me from achieving this goal?
SLOW DOWN AND ENJOY LIFE OCTOBER
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I Must Find The Space To Surrender For A Period 1 Of Time And Assess How Things Are Unfolding Before Jumping In To My Next Game Plan.
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How Can I Slow Down In My Life?
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Other Ways That I Can Slow Down, Take My Time And Enjoy Life: 1. Drive Slower And Stop Being In A Rush All The Time. Do Not Have Road Rage. 2. Disconnect From Social Media And Take A Break From My Phone.
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KATIE
“My vision of self-love is very simple: no wars against yourself, being at peace with who you are.”
3. Do Less! Focus on what’s important and what needs to get done, and let go of the rest. Write a daily task list, starting with the most important task first.
Life Tip: We Always Put Off What Is Most Important.
WHAT DO I NEED TO FORGIVE OTHERS FOR?
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Who Do I Need To Forgive And Why?
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DANIELLE What Are Five Things That I Need To Forgive Others For:
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PRACTICE GIVING
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30 DAY GIVING CHALLENGE
Research has shown that giving makes us far happier than receiving. Thus, in a way, we are actually being both selfish and selfless by giving to others. Numerous studies have shown that giving money to others or to charity will put a much bigger smile on your face than spending on yourself. Source: EliteDaily.com
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self-care that I can give to myself:
ARIANA
@ARIANA.GIAMPIETRO
SHARI
@ANNE_SHARI
“Self-love to me is waking up each day fighting a battle I know I can never win. Competing against Type 1 Diabetes and all of the obstacles it throws at me. I’m a warrior, I am beautiful and I am loved. While others see scars and pain, I see beauty. Beauty in the artificial pancreas that keeps me alive and beauty in each and every mark on my body! All of those marks allow me to be alive and keep fighting another day.”
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special I can do for my boss or employees:
I can give to someone in need:
special I can I can do do for my for the pet or a environment: friend’s pet:
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special I can do for my kids or my friend’s kids:
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I can do for someone in need:
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charity or organization I can give an offering to:
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What Did I Learn In These 30 Days?
- ABY
@CURVYCHICCHICK
“In an age of constant change, and radical ideas, let’s make 2020 the year of self-love. Instead of making resolutions like “I’ll stop drinking coffee,” how about we commit to ourselves the act of self-love? That each day you’ll wake up with the goal to love yourself and your body a little more.That you’ll do something for you, your body, your peace.” “I am unique and beautiful. I don’t want to be - COCO like @ MISSCOCOSBOWS anyone else. Just me. I’m truly learning to love every bit of myself just as I am flaws and all...I refuse to let this light inside of me stop shining. The practice of being present in each moment and being grateful helps a lot.“
“When you’re at peace with yourself and love yourself, it is virtually impossible to do things to yourself that are destructive.” - Wayne Dyer - THERESA
@ TALLDARKANLOVELYRN
- SHANE
@ PLUSSIZETRANSGUY
“Self-love is a revolutionary act. Trusting and believing in my body, my mind, and myself has changed the world for the better. Self-love means embracing your truth and letting yourself live just as you are, no expectations or pressures to abide by other than your own. There is power and resiliency in choosing to love yourself, even when society tells you not to. The world would be a more beautiful place if people were able to lean into their power.”
“Put yourself at the top of your to do list.” - ASHLEE
@ARTSYASHLEE
“I’m a full time artist and tattoo artist. I love spreading love through all of my art. Self-love to me is acceptance; Accepting your flaws and your uniqueness. It is celebrating your body and feelings, mind, body and spirit. It took me a long time to love myself and my body but now that I do, I sometimes want to shout it from roof tops. It’s also an ongoing battle but I’ve come such a long way.” www.etsy.com/ shop/artsyashleeshop
- BECCA - JENNIFER
@JKONGG
‘Life is too short to be at war with yourself.’ I know from experience how hard it is so accept yourself for the way you look and the way people see you and to be so torn up inside it’s like almost like fighting your inner demons. It took me forever to accept myself and to see how truly beautiful I am as a human being inside and out.”
@BECCAMINARDI
“Learning to appreciate my body for what it can do instead of tearing it down for what it can’t do has been the most powerful and meditative thing I’ve ever done.”
“Your body should be loved, not - EMILY perfect.” @EM.I.NEM24
- CHESYTI
@_CHEMAMA
“Self-love is accepting all my flaws while still being fully aware of what I need to change in order to grow.”
- AJ
@TYPICALLYAJR
“Listen to some Lizzo and move on.”
- SWEET DEE
- QUEEN
@SHESTHESWEETONE
@QUEENCURANCERA
“Identify who you are and your purpose. Embrace it with grace, perfect it with diligence and power and make no apologies!”
- MERCEDES
@LIGHTSKINN710
“Remember to love the parts of you that no one claps for!”
“Self-love is having sex with the lights on in front of the mirror. That way, whoever your with doesn’t miss all the deliciousness you are and you can admire your handy work.”
- JENNIFER
@ITSJENNMARKUS
“Self-love isn’t selfish, it’s necessary.”
“Self-love means truly worshipping your uniqueness. I am the owner of Love Happens to Me the business that empowers you to TRULY accept all that you are, right now.” - LANNA
@LOVEHAPPENSTOME
- ASHLEE
@ASHLEE_B_SLAYING
“Self-love starts with self compassion and self acceptance. It’s realizing that everybody has a good body, regardless of size, shape, color, or sexual orientation. It’s throwing shame to the wayside and owning that fact that you look fucking awesome naked.”
Facebook.com/ LoveHappensToMe
“Body acceptance and self-love do not mean I always feel good about my body. Quite the contrary, it means regardless of how I feel about my body right now, I always know that I am worthy. As a yoga teacher, I empower women of all shapes and sizes to know they are always enough.” Visit Danielle at Vagabondzen.com.
“No one is you and that is your super power.”
- SHIMON
@TEKNIQS01
“Be unique, be rare, be memorable but most of all be you! Self-love exhibits everything you are and have inside of you. It is manifested to yourself, for yourself, by yourself. Self-love needs no one to justify who I am or why I am... because I am! OnlyAzHairDoc.com
- ALICIA
@JOURNEY.TREE
“You are LOVED. You are SUPPORTED. You are ENOUGH. I am the owner of @journey.tree, a physical piece to an emotional journey inspired by our journey through infertility and IVF to parenthood. Handmade genuine gemstone and keepsake jewelry.” JourneyTree.ca
Photos Shot By: Lindley Ashline,
- DANIELLE Body Liberation Photography (photo
@VAGABONDZENYOGA on left & Danielle December photo)
- HAILEY
@LIPSTICKANDRAGE
- CHELSEY K
- KIMBERLEY
@KIMBERLEY_DIXON_
“Self-confidence is a super power.”
- TEEK
@DIZZYHERUP
@THEBEATBX
“Our past does not define us. Opinions do not define us. Unconditional self-love is the only reality that matters.”
“Self-love means loving you relentlessly, without limits, without doubts, without shame, without fears.” TheBeatBx.com
“Self-love to me is loving yourself and having confidence no matter the space you’re in, what you’re doing or who you’re with. It means recognizing that you are not defined by what others think and that the only opinions about you that matter are your own.” LipstickandRage.com
- ERICKA
@EJBEAUTY_TWERKINSTYLE
“Self-love is feeling good in your body. I have the most self-love when I’m teaching my TwerkInStyle Fitness class. It strengthens muscles in just about every part of your body and it boosts your confidence!” TwerkInStyle.com
YOU DESERVE SELF-LOVE