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By Juda Engelmayer Did it matter to Floridian voters that Republican candidate Mitt Romney, former Massachusetts governor, may have cut funding for kosher meals in nursing homes?

Whether or not it made a difference is less important than the fact that former House Speaker Newt Gingrich felt the Jewish vote was so important that he needed to find some polarizing issue to throw at his opponent.

This begs the question, is the Jewish community so petty that wider domestic issues and looming foreign matters are less important than whether kosher meals for seniors are funded by the public?

Putting the facts into perspective, the Juda Engelmayer bulk of the Jewish seniors whom Mr. Gingrich was targeting with his robo-call this week are registered Democrats and had little say in the Republican primary. He knew that though, as does any candidate who does the right research and homework before allocating precious time and limited resources in a presidential race. So why do it at all?

Clearly the impression the media — and many Jewish pundits and advocates — have made on the public and the candidates, including the President himself, is that the Jewish vote and Jewish opinion will matter enough to impact election results. What’s ignored is the historic fact that the “Jewish community” largely votes Democrat and that when Jews lean to the right, it is generally over issues such as tougher policies in the Middle East and not kosher meals in senior centers.

The point that Mr. Gingrich was evidentContinued on page 2

By Karen C. Green Most would call it a daunting burden — a spate of anti-Semitic bias crimes, potential police precinct closings, problems with the handling of crime lab evidence, the quest to bring down overall crime and rampant abuse of prescription drugs, all juxtaposed against budExclusive get woes. to the Many would shy Jewish Star away, but Thomas Dale, Nassau County’s new police commissioner — a seasoned veteran of more than forty years with the NYPD — insisted, in an exclusive interview with The Jewish Star, that these are issues that he’s ready and determined to address.

He spoke with fondness about alliances and friendships formed Continued on page 3

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NCPD Commissioner Thomas Dale stressed the importance of community relations in his interview with the Jewish Star.

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Kosher meal tactic leaves a bad taste Continued from page 1 ly trying to make was that those who want to focus on Mitt Romney should know that Romney’s agenda is more in tune to what Jewish Democrats pay attention to and not what right-leaning Conservatives want to talk about. Betting that the media would give that cheap shot the attention it should not have deserved, Mr. Gingrich was painting his primary opponent as less of a Republican than he was. That’s the argument that Mr. Gingrich is hoping to win on — that he is the true Conservative. The former Speaker knew well when that robo-call went out that Florida would fall to Mr. Romney, but he used it to garner national attention.

He used Jews as a tool. He used the hype that the Jewish vote is so critical that the mere mention of kosher food would stir his coverage. He was right, but it does Jewish citizens no good to be targeted this way.

The national Jewish community stands for so many great things, from major philanthropic works to caring human services to, yes, financial success. Jews are on the right and left — George Soros supports President Obama and Sheldon Adelson supports Mr. Gingrich. Both are philanthropic and both express support for Israel – yet with different views on Israel policy.

When the Jewish label is used for a campaign pitch, as it was in Florida this week, it not only cheapens the value of the true Jewish contribution to the country, but borders on leveling an old anti-Semitic charge: Jews are cheap.

Notwithstanding that Jews have been, and remain, some of the biggest charitable donors around the world and that political candidates often seek campaign funds through Jewish channels and supporters, the ancient cheapskate joke is still told over and over again. There are still places in this country where the stereotype resonates, and when Mr. Gingrich makes what became a national issue out of whether Jewish senior citizens want their kosher meals subsidized, it only furthers the belief in this myth.

Mr. Gingrich’s campaign robo-call also invoked the unthinkable, the Holocaust. The recording intoned, â€œâ€ŚHolocaust survivors, who for the first time were forced to eat nonkosher, because Romney thought five dollars was too much to pay for our grandparents to eat kosher.â€?

Not only did the candidate invoke the image of miserly Jews, he made a blatant attempt to tug at Jewish heart strings on the eve of United Nation’s International Holocaust Remembrance Day on January 27. The memory of the worst human catastrophe to befall Jews was used as a cheap campaign plug, aimed at a group who were not likely voters in this primary, and for a race he knew he was not going to win.

Is that the way the Jewish community wants to be called on for public service? Are the social, human, legal, governmental and financial contributions made by Jews to the country as a whole and to individual political parties so marginal that the community can easily be trivialized and its population be taken in vain, as it was?

Jewish Americans have helped make the issues that matter to them very important to all Americans. On matters that come before legislators and judges — foreign policies, fiscal issues, social issues — Jewish opinions and activism have impacted what the United States stands for to the world and to our fellow Americans. Shameful stunts that make Jews seem almost clownish should bring the community together in disapproval, across both sides of the political aisle.

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Continued from page 1 with members of the Satmar community during his Williamsburg posting with the NYPD. A wide

smile emerged as he reminisced about becoming acclimated to the many nuances of the Chasidic enclave.

But his demeanor changed when he was asked about alarming and disturbing reports of fire bombings at a New Jersey synagogue and a wave of various hate crimes reported in Brooklyn. And he has mobilized his department to thwart any recurrence of recent bias crime events — like swastika graffiti and menorah desecration that have occurred on the North Shore in such areas as Great Neck, Sea Cliff and Plainview.

“I have asked for a briefing of all hate and bias crimes that have occurred last year, not only to get the information on each case but to check the entire system. I met with the Chief of Patrol and the Chief of Detectives and the Commanding Officer of Bias to go over what steps are taken... there are a lot of investigative steps… we indeed have a system in place to deal with bias crimes.”

Internally, the effort involves educating Nassau’s police force in cultural matters. At the helm is Detective Lt. Gary Shapiro, Commanding Officer of Community Affairs and the NCPD’s hate crimes coordinator, who has facilitated participation in the Holocaust Tolerance Center of Glen Cove’s “Law Enforcement and Society” program.

This program, provided to the

Nassau County Police Department, is required of all cadets. It was developed by the US Holocaust Memorial Museum and the Anti-Defamation League.

It first examines the role of the police under Nazism, and then contrasts it to current law enforcement in America. The experience is touted as eye-opening and instrumental in enhancing sensitivity training, leading to a more fulfilling experience as a law enforcement professional. Additional efforts include presentations by representatives from various communities.

A foot in both worlds A resident of Nassau County for four decades, Dale spent his formative years in Park Slope, Brooklyn.

He speaks fondly of those years and of riding the subway to downtown Brooklyn and to Manhattan to shop and visit relatives.

Having had a foot in both worlds, Dale isn’t at all concerned about transitioning from City to Nassau Cop. “I’ve worked everywhere in the City, except Staten Island. It’s all the same. It doesn’t matter whether you’re in a radio car answering an accident in the Brooklyn, or Queens or in Nassau, same type of family disputes, missing kids, the same.”

Dale honed his skills in Brooklyn where he commanded precincts in Coney Island, Bushwick and Williamsburg. It was there that he developed the sense of “cultural awareness” he hopes to bring to the table in upcoming community group meetings in the Five Towns and across the county.

County is hoping to do more with less With public safety as the number one priority of government, Commissioner Dale stood alongside County Executive Ed Mangano at a press conference on Monday January 30, as the County Executive outlined his police reorganization plan.

At a further meeting with The Jewish Star, the County Executive and Police Commissioner outlined their proposed plan to streamline the department’s precincts.

They highlighted the plan’s dual purpose, “to increase efficiencies while addressing fiscal issues, such as soaring overtime.” If the plan is approved, eight existing precincts will be consolidated into four. The Second, Third, Fourth and Seventh Precincts will subsume the Eight, Sixth, Fifth and First, respectively, each two on the same radio frequency. The Seventh will be renamed the First. Precincts that will be phased out will remain open as Community Policing Centers, each staffed with two police officers around the clock.

Dale and top police brass assert that the redistribution lends itself to a more evenly distributed workload, with the same 177 police cars remaining in their current neighborhoods. Of the 156 total precinct administrative desk jobs (39 police officers in each of

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From left, Det. Lt. Gary Shapiro, Dep. Insp. Kenneth Lack and Commissioner Dale meet with Karen C. Green. the four precincts), 48 will be reassigned POP (Problem Oriented Police) Cops.

Brian Nevin, aide to the County Executive, is quick to make the point that reassigning these officers will “have no effect on public safety as they are restricted by contractual agreement from

leaving their desk jobs to assist the public.”

While this plan can only move forward with the approval of the Nassau County Legislature at an end of month meeting, Commissioner Dale is steadfast in his claim that “there will be no change in service.”

A long suffering fan has a chance to bask in Big Blue glory

By Benjy Schreier

Eli Manning could join the ranks of alltime elite quarterbacks with a second Superbowl win on Sunday.

Savor these moments, for they are precious.

As a long suffering Mets fan, I always wondered what it would be like to be a Yankees fan. Does winning championships ever get old? Is it possible to actually take it for granted? When you lose, do you say, “it’s okay, we’ll get them next year.”

My teams have never experienced that type of sports dominance. I went through my entire childhood as a Giants fan without ever smelling the playoffs.

Then from the jubilation of Scott Norwood’s “wide right,” until the “18-1” Patriots championship, were sixteen years of frustration. Can you imagine how Jets’ fans feel?

Therefore, every opportunity I get to take advantage of a playoff run, I treat it like it will be my last one.

This five week stretch has been nothing short of incredible. However, on Sunday evening, reality will set in. If we don’t beat the Patriots, this season, in spite of all the highlights, will quickly be forgotten.

The 2001 loss to the Ravens in Super Bowl XXXV is a stark reminder of how a great playoff run can disappear over the course of a sixty minute debacle. Therefore, it has fallen on me to make sure that doesn’t happen. It’s up to me to lay out for the Giants how to make sure they take full advantage of this precious opportunity.

The Giants must accept the fact that even if they bring their best defensive effort, the Patriots will score points. The Patriots offense has arguably the best quarterback in the league, who will use all weapons at his disposal to beat us.

Tom Brady certainly earned my eternal respect with that gutsy 4th down, 1 yard dive to score that huge touchdown against the Ravens. I still can’t believe he walked away after Ray Lewis’ flying helmet to his back. It is the task of the Giants defense to stop Brady a few times. Shutting him down is impossible.

Entering their last two victorious Super Bowls, the Giants were a prohibitive underdog, working with an offense that relied on a strong running attack, but facing teams that were offensive juggernauts. Naturally, the game plan for those two games was to dominate time of possession, thus keeping the powerful offenses off the field. Bill Belichek would be thrilled if the Giants came in with that game plan.

I implore the Giants not to fall into that trap. At this year’s Super Bowl, we are the better team! Play like it. In order to win this game, the Giants must come out aggressively, as often as possible, and throw the ball down the field. The Patriots are weak in the secondary, have a weak pass rush, and are about five steps slower than the dominant 49er defense we just faced. If we have the ball five times in the first half, we need to score four touchdowns.

The matchup that favors the Giants most is when the Giants go with their three wide receivers, Nicks, Cruz, and Manningham, their tight end, Ballard or Beckham, and halfback, Bradshaw or Ware. The Patriots cannot stop that offense. If we don’t beat ourselves with fumbles, interceptions, or conservative play calling, we will win this game.

The Patriots will try to run the ball to slow the Giant pass rush. Brady will continue in the no huddle, but certainly will be in no hurry to give the ball back to the powerful Giant offense.

Finally, the moment you’ve all been waiting for. New York Giants 35 New England Patriots 28. See you at the parade!!

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Benjy Schreier, manager of Seasons of Lawrence, lives in Woodmere, with his wife, Penina, who is a co-founder of Gan Ami, a popular nursery program in Cedarhurst. Their children, Menashe, 21, Batya, 16, Dalia 15, and Hillel, 14 have kept up the Big Blue tradition. His video, “The Giants 2007 Playoff Run— The Plays that No One Talks About” is in many Giant fans’ video libraries. He was a semi-finalist in the WFAN “Fantasy Phenom” contest this past year.

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Opinion Obama trashes Israel for settlements, silent when Palestinian Authority praises Fogel family murderers

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ometime around 10:30 on a Friday evening on March 11, 2011, terrorists entered the house in the Israeli community of Itamar. It was the house of the Fogel family. They entered through the living room picture window but did not notice 6-year-old child Roi sleeping on the couch. They went right into the bedroom, where they slashed the throats of Udi Fogel and baby Hadas, who were asleep.

Wife and mother Ruth came out of the bathroom and was stabbed on its threshold.

The evidence shows that she tried to fight the terrorists. The terPOLITICO rorists then slashed the TO GO throat of the 11-yearold Yoav who was reading in bed, missed 2-year old Yishai who was asleep but totally covered by his comforter, and brutally murdered 3-year old Elad with two stabs to his heart. With that, they locked the door and escaped.

The Fogel’s 12-yearJeff Dunetz old daughter Tamar returned home from spending Shabbos dinner with friends at about 12:30AM and found the door locked. She asked a neighbor, Rabbi Yaakov Cohen, of the Itamar Yeshiva, to help her. He brought a weapon with him once he noticed tracks and mud near the house. The two woke up the 6-year old sleeping in the living room by calling through the window, and when he opened the door, the Rabbi returned to his home. When she entered the

bedrooms, the young daughter saw the horrific blood-soaked scene and ran out of the house screaming.

This wasn’t just a terrorist attack; it was the butchering of a young family, including little children. By any measure of humanity, this attack was simply disgusting.

Immediately after the massacre of the young family, Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas telephoned Prime Minister Netanyahu to condemn the attack. In an interview with Israel Radio, he called it a despicable, immoral, and inhuman act, saying, “A human being is not capable of something like that.” “Scenes like these – the murder of infants and children and a woman slaughtered – cause any person endowed with humanity to hurt and to cry.

But as we have learned much too often, the “moderate” terrorists who run the Palestinian Authority, say one thing to the west and something quite different to the Palestinian people. As reported by Palestinian Media Watch, twice in the past week, the PA government-run TV station broadcast greetings to the murderers of the Fogel family (who are in an Israeli jail) from the relatives of the killers and from the PA TV host.

PA TV host: “We have a call from the family of prisoner Hakim Awad.”

Mother of Hakim Awad: “I thank you for connecting me with my son, because I and all of the family are prevented for security reasons [from visiting him].

Host: “Go ahead, sister, we can convey your voice.”

Mother of Hakim Awad: “My greetings to dear Hakim, the apple of my eye, from the village of Awarta, 17 years old, who carried out the operation in Itamar (i.e., killing of 5 Fogel family members), sentenced to 5 life

sentences and another 5 years, in prison.”

Aunt of Hakim Awad: “I’m the sister of prisoner Hassan Awad and of Salah Awad; [I am] Um Habib, from the village of Awarta.

My warm greetings to all the great heroic prisoners, to my brother Hassan Awad, head of the village council; to my brother Salah Awad, the heroic prisoner journalist; to the heroic, resolute prisoner, the lion, Yazid Awad, my nephew; and to my nephew Hakim Awad, the hero, the legend.”

Host: “We [PA TV], for our part, also convey our greetings to them.”

Aunt of Hakim Awad: “I dedicate this song to Hassan Awad, Yazid Awad, Hakim Awad, and Salah Awad, in prison: ‘My brother, in solitary confinement, your voice calls to me.

You dare not throw down the rifle.

That is what the homeland asked of me In your eyes, we are all self-sacrificing fighters.

I convey greetings to the sound of the bullets of Ahmad Sa’adat and Hakim Awad.’”

Host: “Thank you for being with us, the family of prisoners Hassan and Salah Awad of Awarta.”

[PA TV (Fatah), Jan. 19 and 21, 2012] Note she calls the brutal murderer” The hero, the legend.” The PA is teaching its population that brutal murderers are heroes and legends. And their friend in America, President Obama, does not speak out.

Where is Mr. Friend of Israel, President Barack Obama? Why isn’t he condemning this glorification of a brutal act by the Government run by his buddy President Abbas?

Palestinian State TV runs segments praising terrorists on a regular basis—but the US President and his Administration insists on criticizing Israel’s building of new housing

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units, saying, “this kind of activity is never helpful when it comes to peace negotiations.”

Tell me, how many children had their throats slashed because of a new Israeli apartment in Jerusalem?

In striking contrast, the President has never issued a statement about the murder of the Fogel family. The only statement was from Press Secretary Jay Carney.

“We condemn in the strongest possible terms the murder of five Israelis in a terrorist attack in the northern West Bank, and we offer our condolences to their loved ones and to the Israeli people,” White House press secretary Jay Carney said in a statement. “There is no possible justification for the killing of parents and children in their home. We call on the Palestinian Authority to unequivocally condemn this terrorist attack and for the perpetrators of this heinous crime to be held accountable Obama’s condemnations of settlement building often come from his own mouth, but the brutal murder of five innocent Israelis and their continued glorification by the supposed peace partners in the Palestinian Authority bring nothing but silence from the leader of the free world. Jewish voters who still believe that this President is a friend of the Jewish State should remember where his priorities lie when condemning actions that are not “helpful when it comes to peace negotiations.

Jeff Dunetz is the Editor/Publisher of the political blog “The Lid” (www.jeffdunetz.com).

Jeff contributes to some of the largest political sites on the internet including American Thinker, Big Government, Big Journalism, NewsReal and Pajama’s Media, and has been a guest on national. Jeff lives in Long Island.

LIVE from EMUNAH, It’s Saturday Night!!!

This coming Saturday night, February 4, Emunah is hosting “Live From Emunah it’s Saturday night!” at the Backstage Night Club/Woodmere Lanes. Featuring the comedic talents of Modi, the evening promises to be a hysterical evening of laughter, delicious food, and decadent desserts to benefit and support the life changing work of Emunah.

Emunah embraces every segment of Israeli society, operating a network of 135 daycare centers and multi-purpose centers servicing over 12,000 children. With the establishment of 5 children’s residential homes serving children at risk, Emunah has become their surrogate mother; with the creation of 5 high schools for girls, including an award winning Torah and Arts High School, as well as the Emunah Appleman Collge of Art, which houses the Charlotte Dachs Mechina Program, Emunah has ensured promising futures. In addition Emunah maintains crisis centers and an infant 24 hour emergency shelter.

Emunah supports 13 family counseling centers and provides services for the elderly and homebound, enrichment for new immigrants and emergency services throughout Israel.

From infants to senior citizens—EMUNAH is building a stronger Israel- one child, one family at a time.

Your participation in Saturday night’s comedy show will not only bring a smile to your face, but also a smile to the face of someone’s life that YOU are changing in Israel.

Dairy Buffet and Desserts at 8 pm, Showtime 9 pm HOPE TO SEE YOU THERE!! Please contact Shari Shapiro at 516 413-6927 .

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Part Two: Shabbat Shirah and the Jewish Spring According to Dr. Rachel Kolander of the Department of Music of Bar Ilan University,”The Hebrew word shirah has three meanings: poetic writing,often incorporating rhyme and having a specific, known meter; musical vocal production, combining acoustic parameters and textual meaning; instrumental musical production.

“When the Red Sea was parted it appears that all three meanings of the word – words, voice, and instruments – came together as one, to express the inner joy, spiritual elation, and divine revelation experienced by each and every person who came out of Egypt.”

Thus from the very beginning of our people’s existence, music played a decisive and defining role. To this day, that very song, Az Yashir is recited in the daily morning service of our people.

Alan Jay Gerber This coming Shabbat we recite the Torah reading for the conclusion of the Exodus experience, the parting of the Red [or Reed] Sea. According to tradition, this Shabbat also is the harbinger of spring, a season that is most welcome by all for its spirit of optimism, liberation and….. song.

Recently, one of our community’s most gifted and respected educators, Rabbi Elysha Sandler of Mesivta Ateret Yaakov penned a

most unusual and informative work entitled, “Through Music and Song: Music from a Torah Perspective” [Israel Bookshop Publications, 2011] wherein are described in clear language the power of music in the Jewish religious tradition that includes the songs of Shabbat and the tunes of tefillah, prayer. It is to this later part of this work which will serve as the focus for this week’s review.

Setting the tone for this book we read from Rabbi Naftali Jaeger’s gracious michtav brachah the following teaching from Rav Yitzchak Hutner of blessed memory. “….although people are lazy by nature, we nevertheless see that through music they begin to move and even dance. This is because music is vested with the power to ‘liven’ a person.”

Such is the regard that our religious tradition invests music, that being the all powerful motivator for the enhancement of our liturgy and of our understanding of its meaning and purpose.

According to Rabbi Sandler, “Song occupies a prominent place in traditional teffilah.

In some communities, there are select sections of the prayers that are sung or chanted in unison by the entire congregation, while others prefer to listen to them intoned by the leader, chazzan, or choir. This is in addition to the customary sing-song to which virtually all the teffilos are recited by the individual members of the congregation themselves….

Where does this stem from ? What is its role?”

It is to these last two questions that Rabbi Sandler so eloquently answers by teaching us a precious chapter of our religious tradi-

tion; the art of proper prayer, and the real meaning and practice of responsible singing during the sacred service in shul.

The tunes utilized at the various points during the services are detailed in terms of their significance in their roles at enhancing our understanding and thus concentration of the meaning of the text and the basic definition of the purpose of the worship service.

No theatrics are tolerated here, music is designed for the prayer text, not for lyrics in some theatre production or musical show.

This is the bottom line theme and core teaching of this valuable sefer.

Rabbi Sandler focuses his attention in this moving part of his work on what truly constitutes legitimate music and song within the essence of teffilah, and the joyous reception that should envelop the worship experience.

Lastly, the role of the leader or shliach tzibbur is detailed in terms of both voice quality as well as spiritual competence of the leader of the service.

All of the above are detailed with relevant citations, quotes and numerous anecdotals that serve to further buttress the rabbi’s teachings. Further,all Hebrew citations are translated into a clear English throughout this work.

Rabbi Jonathan Sacks, the British Chief Rabbi, and a gifted translator and interpreter of our liturgy in his own right once said, “Prayer is not magic. It does not bend the world to our will; if anything it does the opposite. It helps us notice the things we otherwise take for granted. It redeems our solitude. It gives us a language of aspi-

ration, a vocabulary of ideals. And seeing things differently, we begin to act differently.

The world we build tomorrow is born in the prayers we say today…..Starve a body of food, and it dies. Starve a soul of prayer and it atrophies and withers . And sometimes prayer is all the more powerful for being said in words not our own, words that come to us from our people’s past, hallowed by time, resonant with the tears and hopes of earlier generation, words that gave them strength and which they handed on to us to use and cherish.”

Hopefully, these wise and perceptive words

by Rabbi Sacks will serve to help effectively frame the teachings of Rabbi Elysha Sandler as contained in his new book and thus encourage you to consider his work for a presence in both you homes and shul libraries.

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Getting angry, speaking calmly After the splitting of the sea, the people begin to settle into their wilderness existence, and become the recipients of a daily dose of manna from heaven.

The instructions as to what this food is, how it is to be rationed, and how it is to be cooked and eaten are given piecemeal. In 16:19, Moshe tells the people not to leave any leftovers until the next day. Perhaps this was the precursor to every successful Passover program: no need to take leftovers to your room because there will always be a new helping of food the following morning.

For the second and last time, we find the people not listening to Moshe (the first was in 6:9, during the heart of slavery, before the plagues began). People leave food for the next day – and it spoils. Moshe’s reaction is to get angry at them.

It is quite understandable why they did not listen to him in Egypt. His efforts to that point had only yielded more work and more suffering. The people, exhausted from their exertions, had not the wherewithal to listen to Moshe’s promises of redemption.

In our story, however, why Rabbi Avi Billet wouldn’t they listen? After all, if the manna from heaven is so clearly a miraculous gift, and if since the last “not listening experience� you have witnessed this man bring about ten plagues, split the sea and drown your oppressors, why wouldn’t you think there’s something to what he’s doing and saying? How could you come to ignore him completely?

Perhaps they ignored him because they were still living in a slave mentality reality. Perhaps a slave counts every morsel of food that comes his way, not believing he’ll see something good again for a long time. So even though they were told not to leave anything over, either they couldn’t help it because they were used to hoarding or they couldn’t believe that such fresh food would literally spoil in the morning.

So why did Moshe get angry? Shouldn’t he understand the mind games the people play with themselves?

A closer look at other times when Moshe gets angry with the word “Vayiktzof� may help us understand Moshe’s impetus for bringing out his anger card. The

commentary of the Baalei Hatosafot summarizes the three times this word is used to describe Moshe’s getting angry. The other two incidents are: when Moshe’s nephews do not partake of the goat sacrifice at the dedication of the Mishkan, shortly after their older brothers die; and when the soldiers return from the all-out Midianite war having spared the women of the nation they had been ordered to wipe out completely. [He also got angry at the Golden Calf incident, and when dealing with the Korach group – except that there the Torah uses the word “Vayee-char�]

In each case, the Baalei Hatosafot explain, Moshe forgot a law as a result of his anger: in the manna story - he forgot to tell the people not to collect manna on the seventh day; with his nephews - he forgot that after losing a close relative a mourner does not eat meat ; after the Midianite war - he forgot the laws concerning how to kosherize vessels they had seized in battle.

There are a number of common denominators in the three stories. I will focus on two of them. Firstly, the people deliberately ignored a direct command from God that had been channeled through Moshe. Secondly, Moshe was very aware that a precedent was being set as each circumstance was a first time episode.

It’s a difficult balance. Sometimes anger is warranted, and sometimes anger only serves to bring a person down. In Moshe’s case, the setback he suffered was that he forgot a law – God, Aharon and Elazar taught him the three laws, respectively. But what was at stake?

God’s honor.

The difference between Moshe getting angry “for God’s sake� and those who think “they know what God wants� is that he was the direct line, and knew exactly and explicitly what needed to be done. And, in every case, he was trying to set a precedent that people could one day turn to for guidance..

But not everything works out “the way you want� and his personal outcome was forgetfulness. God did not get upset or punish people for violating the shabbos, for example. He just asked Moshe to give them a little rebuke. And when Moshe delivered the message as he was told, the people changed.

Sometimes even better than anger is saying in a clear and firm tone, “I stand for this exact thing that God said.� If communicated properly and respectfully, there is a much better chance that people will listen.

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his coming Sunday is Super Bowl Sunday.

Although I’m a Dolphin’s fan, I’ll be cheering on the Giants, alongside my husband, Jerry and close friends, who are diehard fans.

At least I’ll have the satisfaction of knowing The 72’ Dolphins remain the only NFL team to complete an entire season undefeated and untied from the opening game through the Super Bowl.

Americans will hold more parties in their homes than on any other day of the year, surpassing even New Year’s Eve. We’ll eat more food than on any single day of the year except Thanksgiving. It’s also the biggest day of the year for snack food consumption.

Consumers spend over $50 million each year to stock up on snacks for Super Bowl weekend.

They’ll typically eat over 8.5 million pounds of tortilla chips, 4000 tons of popcorn, 14,500 tons of potato chips and 8 million Judy Joszef pounds of guacamole to go with them. For millions of us, who couldn’t score tickets to the big game, a big screen TV with a great view of the game is the next best thing. For dedicated football fans, Super Bowl Sunday means watching the ultimate sporting event of the year, surrounded by fellow football fanatics at a great party with non-stop food and drinks.

Although most parties will have many diehard football fans, there are also those, that know nothing about the game of football and really don’t care who wins the game, but they’ll never turn down an invitation to a Super Bowl Party. It’s a great excuse to get together with friends for fun and feasting. Many will tune in just to catch the

commercials and the half time show.

Of the top 10 most watched television programs of all time, 9 of them are Super Bowls.

For those of you who have not yet decided what to prepare, I chose a two easy to make, creative snacks to share with you.

So whether having a Super Bowl party at your house, attending someone else’s party, or just watching the game at home with your family, have fun, enjoy and happy snacking!!!

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Super Bowl Cupcakes ■ 2 cups flour ■ 3/4 cup unsweetened cocoa ■ 2 cups sugar ■ 1 cup milk or on dairy creamer ■ 1 cup boiling water ■ 11/2 tsp baking powder ■ 11/2 tsp baking soda ■ 1/8 sp salt ■ 1 tsp vanilla extract ■ 1/2 cup oil ■ 2 extra large eggs ■ non stick spray

Mix all dry ingredients then add the wet ones, except for the boiling water. Mix till blended and then add the boiling water.

Place paper cupcake holders in a 12-14 section cupcake pan and spray with non stick coating Batter will be very thin. Pour 3/4 way up, to allow room to rise Bake at 350 degrees for about 20 minutes.

Remove and let cool

Decorating Ingredients and materials; ■ 12 ounces rich whip ■ Green food coloring ■ Green sprinkles ■ Pastry bag with #3 tip

for piping the white whipped cream (you can substitute a plastic bag and just snip off the end) ■ Parchment paper ■ Plastic squeeze bottle for yellow melted chocolate coating ■ 10 ounces yellow Wilton’s chocolate melting wafers (Michael’s) ■ Green food coloring Whip the cream and remove one quarter and place in the pastry bag with the # 3 tip Mix the green food coloring into the remaining whipped cream.

Dip the tops of each cupcake into the whipped cream and smooth then dip into the green sprinkles With the white whipped cream, pipe out the lines on the cupcake, refer to the photo.

To make the goal posts, melt the yellow chocolate wafers in the microwave in 35 second intervals until melted. Pour into a plastic squeeze bottle and pipe out the goal posts onto a piece of parchment paper (refer to the cupcake again in the photo).

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recipe a bit less time consuming, you can substitute a cake mix, for the home made cupcakes, and store bought white frosting for the whipped cream. Color the frosting green as you would the whipped cream. Remember to reserve a quarter of the frosting, before you color it green, so that you can pipe out the white lines on top of the cupcake.

Strawberry Footballs ■ 2 lbs of firm strawberries, with stem on ■ 1 lb of chocolate dark coating (or Wilton’s

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■ Pareve chocolate coating can be bought in the local kosher supermarkets (Shufra) ■ 8 ounces non-dairy white chocolate coating ■ Squeeze bottle for the white chocolate ■ Parchment or wax paper Melt the dark chocolate in the microwave at 30 second intervals, making sure no to burn the chocolate. One by one, dip each strawberry in the chocolate and lay them down to harden Melt the white chocolate and pour into the squeeze bottle. sing the photo as a guide, pipe the white stitches on the “football” (strawberry) When chocolate is hardened, gently remove from paper and place on a platter Judy Joszef is a pastry and personal chef as well as a party planner. She spent 18 years as a pastry chef at Abigael’s, The Cedar Club, Centro and T42 in the Five Towns, before launching her current business. She may be contacted via email at kneadthedough@aol.com.

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ne of the greatest gifts we have in this world is the ability to make choices in our lives. Though sometimes, we might wish we didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have to make those choices.

Choices; sometimes obvious, often difficult, we donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t always relish the weight and challenge that come with them, but they are, in the end, part of what make us who we are. The choices we make carry with them FROM THE HEART the ability to grow, to OF JERUSALEM express ourselves, and most of all, to be partners with G-d in creating, every day, the new world we live in. It would perhaps, be simpler, if we didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have to make such choices, and G-d did it all for us.

But then we would be animals, and life would lose its meaning.

All of which makes the opening of this Rabbi Binny weekâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s portion, BeshalFreedman ach, so challenging.

G-d tells Moshe, that the people should make camp opposite the sea, because: â&#x20AC;&#x153;I will strengthen Pharaohâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s heart that he will pursue them (Israel), and I will harden Pharaoh and all his armies, that Egypt will know that I am G-dâ&#x20AC;Śâ&#x20AC;? (Shemot 14:4) Essentially, Hashem will harden Pharaohâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s heart so that he will pursue the Jewish people, resulting in the miracle of the splitting of the sea. And this has been one of the major themes of the entire story of the exodus from Egypt. All the way back at the burning bush,

when Moshe is first sent to Egypt to confront Pharaoh, G-d tells him (3: 19-20) that Pharaoh will not let the people go, and G-d will strike at Egypt with all manner of miracles, and only then will Pharaoh let the Jewish people go.

Indeed, throughout the entire Exodus story, even at the last plague of the first born, (11:20) G-d consistently hardens Pharaohâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s heart, so that he will not let the people go. But if Pharaoh did not actually choose to keep the Jews in bondage, why was he (along with all of Egypt) responsible for the consequences? If G-d hardened his heart, how could Hashem then â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;punishâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; him for his refusal by visiting the next plague upon him?

The key to this question may lie in a fascinating insight the Ramban (Moshe Ben Nachman, a 13th century commentator in Spain, and later in Jerusalem,) makes.

It is interesting to note, that in the first five plagues, despite Hashemâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s promise to harden Pharaohâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s heart, it never says that he does so.

In fact, consistently in the first five plagues, the Torah actually describes how Pharaoh hardens his own heart. (See 7:23, 8:11, 8:15, 8:28, and 9:7) It is only with the advent of the sixth plague, that we begin to see (9:12) that G-d actually hardens Pharaohâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s heart.

The Ramban suggests that although Pharaoh can only be responsible for the choices he himself makes, a person can make choices, which ultimately remove his ability to choose.

A person can actually sink to such a level of evil, as a result of the choices he has made, that he actually no longer has the ability to choose. This is how far down into the abyss of human behavior Pharaoh had sunken. He was so invested in evil, so absorbed in the

path he had chosen, he no was no longer on that path out of choice, he was simply on a roller coaster ride he could no longer control.

This may explain why the decisions Pharaoh was making, from our perspective, made absolutely no sense. How could he have been so blind? Clearly, every time Pharaoh refuses to let the Jews go, things only get worse. And clearly, Hashem has the ability to deliver on His promises, and Egypt is no match for the hand of G-d. Eventually, the Jews will be going home, so why not just let go?

Indeed, one might suggest that Adolph Hitler found himself in exactly the same place 3000 years later. In fact, the parallels to ancient Egypt are quite fascinating. The choices Hitler was making by the end of the war make absolutely no sense. In 1944, when most of the problems the German armies were facing were the holes in their supply lines, Hitler was dedicating most of his rail lines to transport the 400,000 Jews of Hungary to Auschwitz.

Imagine a drug addict. It is hard for many of us to understand what motivates a person to pick up heroin for the first time. The implications of such a decision are so clear, and can only end in disaster. Nonetheless, this decision is a choice that someone makes.

And this choice may lead to another choice, to use heroin again, and again, and again.

But eventually, when a person reaches a certain stage in their addiction, they are no longer able to choose. The only way for an addict to really break his addiction is for others, perhaps in a rehab center, to step in and return to him, gradually, his ability to choose.

This does not, however mean, that he is not responsible for his actions. His own actions were what led him to the state of addiction

he now struggles with.

Maybe this is why this issue is so much a part of our Exodus from Egypt. We all have our own little Egypt we are always trying to get out of. And part of making that exodus, is the awareness of the choices we make, and the understanding of the implications they have.

This is a concept the western world, and Israel in particular would do well to consider when debating the appropriate responses to Iranâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s bid for nuclear power. A close look at the rhetoric coming from Iran, from Ahmadinejad in particular and from Iranâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Hezbollah and Hamas proxies suggests they have long since lost the ability to see the world in a different light. They have become so committed to evil, genocide, destruction and war as the best response that one wonders if they lost the ability to choose to do the right thing.

Can a society, and certainly a societyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s leadership reach a point where they have gone so far down the path of evil they can no longer even choose to do good? The Exodus story would seem to suggest they can indeed.

And the ramifications for what Israel and the westâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s response might then ultimately need to be are a sobering thought indeedâ&#x20AC;Ś.

Shabbat Shalom, Binny Freedman Rav Binny Freedman, Rosh Yeshivat Orayta in Jerusalemâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Old City is a Company Commander in the IDF reserves, and lives in Efrat with his wife Doreet and their four children.

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However, such tax liens shall have priority over the County’s Differential Interest Lien, representing the excess, if any, of the interest and penalty borne at the maximum rate over the interest and penalty borne at the rate at which the lien is pur-

ting involved in, rather than keep him calm and ignorant. This is a very good point. Family can serve as a very good, almost-objective opinion to warn you when you are stepping into something sketchy.

The question is: Is your son embarking on an emotionally damaging journey? Or is this just par for the course?

I don’t know enough details to tell you either way, however, I will tell you that this is probably your machatanim at their worst. Transitioning a child off into marriage, along with having to coordinate with strangers to plan an extensive affair can bring out all sides of a person. There are covert power games, there is financial pressure, there are deadlines, there is the fear of losing a child to a spouse. There’s a ton of heavy stuff going on here. Making a wedding is not a fair sample of how a person operates on a daily basis.

So, the side of these people that you are seeing is most likely not the side that your son will usually be dealing with.

Granted, life will probably bring out these quirks every few years. Are they such insane quirks that your son won’t be able to handle them peeking out every now and then?

Of course, there is the darker chance that they may be showing you that they are extremely emotionally unhealthy, and this is not the sort of family that would be good for your son. That doesn’t mean that your son should do anything drastic. It just may mean that he should try not to be too dependent on them, emotionally or otherwise.

Obviously, if your future daughter-in-law did grow up in an emotionally unhealthy home, there will likely be some residue left on the girl.

Keep your eyes, ears and spidey-sense open.

In the meantime, do your best to be as considerate and compromising as possible. Most likely, things will settle down by sheva brachos.

By then, these cats should be pretty domesticated…

-Aviva Aviva Rizel is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Lawrence. She can be reached at 347-292-8482 or AvivaRizel.MFT@ gmail.com.

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The County Treasurer reserves the right, without further notice and at any time, to withdraw from sale any of the parcels of land or premises herein listed.

The Nassau County Treasurer reserves the right to intervene in any bankruptcy case/litigation where the property affected by the tax liens sold by the Treasurer is part of the bankruptcy estate. However, it is the sole responsibility of all tax lien purchasers to protect their legal interests in any bankruptcy case affecting their purchased tax lien, including but not limited to the filing of a proof of claim on their behalf, covering their investment in said tax lien. The Nassau County Treasurer and

Nassau County and its agencies, assumes no responsibility for any legal representation of any tax lien purchaser in any legal proceeding including but not limited to a bankruptcy case where the purchased tax lien is at risk.

The rate of interest and penalty at which any person purchases the tax lien shall be established by his bid. Each purchaser, immediately after the sale thereof, shall pay to the County Treasurer ten per cent of the amount for which the tax liens have been sold and the remaining ninety per cent within thirty days after such sale. If the purchaser at the tax sale shall fail to pay the remaining ninety per cent within ten days after he has been notified by the County Treasurer that the certificates of sale are ready for delivery, then all amounts deposited with the County Treasurer including but not limited to the ten per cent theretofore paid by him shall, without further notice or demand, be irrevocably forfeited by the purchaser and shall be retained by the County Treasurer as liquidated damages and the agreement to purchase shall be of no further effect.

Time is of the essence in this sale. This sale is held pursuant to the Nassau County Administrative Code and interested parties are referred to such Code for additional information as to terms of the sale, rights of purchasers, maximum rates of interest and other legal incidents of the sale.

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Dear Aviva, We are making our first wedding for our son in a few months. While we love our future daughter-in-law, we are really uneasy with her parents. It seems like they are better off financially than we are, yet they are penny-pinching this whole affair. They say something against what we prefer, and then when we bend over backwards for them, all of a sudden they change their song. And they do it rudely!

It’s really hard to keep up the smiles around our son, but we are wondering if we should re-examine things. Should we stop shielding him so that he won’t go into things blindly? Shouldn’t he know what he is getting into, with such catty in-laws?

-Scared for Son Dear Scared for Son, Don’t weddings seem so exciting when it’s your neighbor or second-cousin making the simcha? In reality, they are like paintings—from afar, they are so beautiful you could cry, but when you are the one applying the paint, each stroke looks pretty, well, blobby, as you progress.

I like that you started off on the right foot in terms of keeping your son out of this. Many parents should learn from you—the nitpicking that goes on before the wedding can really sour things for a chassan and kallah. Here are two young adults, who have (mostly) aligned themselves with the family that they have grown up with. Then, one day, BOOM! They meet the person that will be part of their new family. Suddenly, they are supposed to just separate from the family that they are rooted in and start making choices that reflect a new unit. How hard is that?

And can you imagine how much harder that is when they have a chorus of reporters buzzing about, telling them how bad their new parentsin-law are? Forget sour—that can make a new union perfectly rancid.

We want a fresh spouse to commit to starting a new family. Old loyalties, tangentially pulling away, are contraindicated here. You have done a very nice job trying to keep the boundaries strong—keep the kid out of the conflict.

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It was a serious and somber Sunday evening at Aish Kodesh in Woodmere, where 30 people sat and listened to a panel discussion called Eating Disorders Among Our Young People.

Rabbi Dovid Goldvasser, a leading author and expert on eating disorders in the Jewish community, led the discussion as part of a joint lecture with the Orthodox Union and the men’s and women’s divisions of Lander College. He said the evening was all about “insight and perspective about eating disorders.”

Rabbi Yale Butler, the director of programming at Lander College, said the event was put together “to inform and assist the community in issues of import” and “to sound the alarm and make people aware” about the prevalence and seriousness of eating disorders in the Jewish world.

Goldvasser, who is also the director of the center for Torah initiatives at Lander’s college for women, is the author of 10 books on eating disorders, including “Starving Souls: A Spiritual Guide To Understanding Eating Disorders.”

He said that the “alarming, alarming rate” of eating disorders in the Jewish community is the same rate as it is throughout the rest of the world, and eating disorders have become a plague of “epidemic proportions.” The rates of anorexia, bulimia and other disorders are equally common “in every sect of Judaism”, Goldvasser said.

Goldvasser discussed a large number of very surprising statistics that shed some insight into how serious these illnesses are. He said more than half of 13-year-old girls are unhappy with their body images, which spikes to 75 percent at age 18. At least 40 percent of girls between the fourth and sixth grades have tried dieting and that “young girls are more afraid with becoming fat than nuclear war or cancer.”

Other members of the evening’s panel included Dr. Alan Perry, the chairman of the psychology department at Lander College for men, Rabbi Jonathan Morgenstern, the rabbi of the Young Israel of Scarsdale, and Dr. Ditza Berger, a psych professor at Lander’s women’s college who also runs a private practice in Lawrence.

The trio spoke about the disorders from both a clinical and a spiritual standpoint and helped answer audience questions after the panel discussion was completed. Several audience members declined to comment for this story citing the very personal and private nature of the reasons they attended this evening panel discussion.

Parents, friends and loved ones are all greatly affected and impacted by someone who has an eating disorder, which is a psychological disease just as much as it is a physical one. “It’s an all consuming nature of illness,” Perry said.

“As a clinician, the topic is a very sobering one.”

Goldvasser went so far as to compare anorexia so cutting, or self mutilation, because of the self harm inflicted on the human body and “both are suffering from a great challenge we don’t understand.” He told numerous stories of patients with eating disorders, including

an 18-year-old who said “she would rather die than do away with anorexia” and a 12-year-old girl who asked Goldvasser to recite viduy (a prayer of confession before one’s death) with her.

The panel agreed that it’s extremely difficult for parents or a significant other to deal with someone with an eating disorder. “It’s easy for a family to say to an anorexic ‘you look bad’ and that’s music to their ears,” Perry said. “If you look good, then [the anorexic individual says] lose more weight. If you look bad, then that’s great.” The catch-22 in that way is one of the reasons why Perry thinks eating disorders are so very tough on families. “They disrupt and victimize the family,” he said. “It’s torture for them.”

Early identification is extremely important for parents, teachers and counselors, according to Berger, because “the longer the disorder, the harder it is to undo.” Berger has trained numerous staff members at such organizations as NCSY and Camp Sternberg in helping someone with an eating disorder. It’s those “slightly removed peers with more objectivity [that] point it out first.”

Berger’s training deals with what teachers and counselors should do in certain situations and “the psychological issues adolescents face.”

Teachers, counselors and parents shouldn’t try treating anyone with a disorder, but “recognize early signs and then draw back and refer,” Berger said.

It doesn’t take just one doctor or specialist to combat and overcome an eating disorder, but “a nutritionist, psychologist and a therapist working together as a team to help the family,” Perry said. Patients with eating disorders who are admitted to hospitals and facilities around the area are given anti-depressant and antipsychotic drugs because the mindset of someone with anorexia or bulimia “is so distorted,” Perry said. “The obsessive component to the illness is also devastating.”

A quarter of anorexic cases and 40 percent of binge eaters who are at risk for bulimia are males, Goldvasser said. These male cases are more underreported “because of the shame” involved. Perry said that males put more of an emphasis on exercise rather than purging or using laxatives to stay thin in “more of a macho approach.” Perry called males with eating disorders a relatively new phenomenon and the risks and dangers are just as serious in boys as they are girls.

Rabbi Morgenstern of Scarsdale said that the emphasis society puts on external appearance is a major cause for eating disorders and that people should try to build from within.

He called eating disorders “a self destructive addiction” that should be dealt with and controlled before the age of 18, when they could go off to college or Israel. “If we don’t address it, it’ll haunt them for the rest of their lives. As long as you have that ability to address it, do so because it could save a life.”

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fic to the furthest northeastern point in Puerto Rico to a fishing town called Fajardo.

I nervously laughed as I lowered myself down into the front spot of a two person kayak.

After hearing some basic instructions we set out at dusk and began paddling against the tide towards a single lane opening in a mangrove forest.

It didn’t help that my cousin kidded me about crocodiles and made those menacing sounds from Jaws. As we began rowing, I employed my Spanish and asked the guide lots of questions to allay my fears. How deep is the water? From a couple of feet to about ten.

Which wild animals live in the mangroves?

None, since there’s not much to eat in these non fruit bearing trees and extremely salty water. Will there be mosquitos? Probably not, due to the cool breeze that evening. I began to relax slightly and got into the exercise and our group’s excited voices fell quiet. As we entered the dark narrow tunnel formed by the mangrove trees we concentrated on following the tiny blue tail light of the boat in front and not grounding the kayaks onto the mangrove roots.

After a long while we came into Laguna Grande. The twenty kayaks in our group gathered around the guide’s and we held on to it and to each other’s kayaks in order to hear him explain the ecosystem surrounding us. Four types of mangroves form a protective barrier from the sea which is so close we could hear, though not see its waves. The red mangroves are the innermost layer, closest to our kayaks as we glided through the tunnel of trees.

Their roots are tall stalks standing in this water which is saltier than the sea.

There are only about a handful of spots in the world with the unique conditions needed

’m not much for adventure — call me a chicken, wimp, or scaredy cat, I don’t care!

I subscribe to the “better safe than sorry” rule and as a diehard city girl, I find that riding the subway in the city late at night provides enough thrills! But I do mind missing out on family fun, so I sometimes allow myself to be cajoled into venturing out of my comfort zone.

I’m not talking about rappelling, bungee jumping, parasailing or scuba diving. For that class of MIRIAM’S MUSINGS activity I immediately respond with an emphatic NO! Don’t get me wrong... I am not a couch potato and have amazed myself at times.

I’ve seen elephants right up close to our car window in Kruger Park and suffered the obligatory snake path climb up Masada. I once flew in a small plane that landed Miriam Bradman atop a glacier in New Abrahams Zealand and even snorkeled on our Caribbean honeymoon. While accomplishing those feats I envisioned getting mauled, falling off a cliff, dropping into an icy crevice and of course, the dreaded shark attacks.

While in Puerto Rico last week my cousins wanted to show us the unique points of their island and proposed a kayak adventure in a nature preserve. We have paddled locally in Island Park and further east in Sag Harbor; both were refreshing and fun on a hot day but not exotic. This time, my cousin drove about ninety minutes out of San Juan’s late afternoon traf-

Photo by Miriam Abrahams

David and Nina Abrahams kayaking. for Pyrodinium bahamense, a specific dinoflagellate, to live year round, and Puerto Rico has three of them. The bioluminescent dinoflagellate is a one celled plankton which emits a burst of light one hundred times bigger than itself. It lights up from pressure against its cell wall.

There are various possible reasons for this unearthly shade of green. It may enable species recognition for mating, attracts prey and diverts predators, or lights the way for the next predator up in the food chain to come find and eat them.

As my hand swished back and forth through the water leaving a path of light in its wake, I was fascinated by G-d’s creation below. Swimming is forbidden here because sunscreens and other unnatural additives would destroy this pure environment.

I tuned my gaze upward and was startled by the countless pinpoints of light so easily visible in this place. I commented about how rare it is to see much of that in our New York night sky so the guide pointed to a circle of light in the distance, explaining that was the light pol-

lution from San Juan about forty miles away, so imagine the glare above our own giant metropolis.

We glided back through the now pitchblack tunnel, this time effortlessly since we were moving with the tide.

I quickly got to work and we were soon back where we began this adventure. As I waited for my family I watched everyone’s glowing faces as they alighted from their boats, relishing this interesting bit of nature.

I’m no scientist, but I gleaned so much that evening about a miniature creature’s role in this world. I also learned something about human nature that I’m amazed to be absorbing at this stage... that it may be worthwhile to succumb to a little healthy peer pressure and challenge myself to try something different. I left the famliar comfort of sitting at the beach for the more active and possibly scary night time kayaking experience. Despite my trepidation I actually enjoyed it and am grateful and ready for the next gentle adventure.

Miriam Bradman Abrahams is Cuban born, Brooklyn bred and lives in Woodmere.

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