The Purist June Issue 2022- CELEBRATING 5 YEARS by The Purist

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E D I TO R ’S L E T T E R scientists and wellness purveyors in these pages. PURIST is a community empowered by knowledge and healthy practices to create the ultimate meaningful lifestyle. We have proudly created communities in the Hamptons, New York City, Aspen, Los Angeles, Malibu, Miami, Palm Beach and beyond. Thank you to our cover subjects—like Oprah Winfrey, Scarlett Johansson, Robert Downey Jr. and Gwyneth Paltrow—who share what wellness means to them in our five-year lookback feature in this, our 30th issue of PURIST. I am grateful to them for expanding this booming industry and giving us thought-provoking content. And to my talented teammates who have been here from the start—Helen Cleland, Ray Rogers, Andrea Greeven Douzet, Celebrating five years Ben Margherita, Jim Servin, Shawn of PURIST Lowe, Caryn Whitman, Michèle Filon, Mikio Sakai, Dr. Frank Lipman, Tapp Francke Ingolia, Eden Williams, Cheryl Foerster, Fernanda Niven, Amely Greeven and my family, soul survivors and thrivers—thank you. Also, in this issue, the great Hearst editor Pamela Fiori memorializes her late husband and love of her life, Colt, in a Joan Didion-style intimate portrait on becoming a widow—a reminder that empathy, dedication, grace, and finding love and joy in life are the things to value most. One final tenet: humility. When we are witnessing something magnificent, something inspirational, we are connecting to the world around us in a meaningful way. In this issue, we offer up a humbling reminder of this in a piece on the late, awe-inspiring GOAT fighter Muhammad Ali, on the anniversary of his passing, penned by film director Michael Mailer. As it turns out, Dr. Samantha Boardman writes in her newsletter, awe-inspired people are less selfabsorbed, more patient and most importantly, kinder. To kindness,

“A man who has no imagination has no wings.” —Muhammad Ali Five years ago, PURIST took flight. I set out on a mission: to share what I was learning in the health and wellness space with a larger audience other than the one occupying my home. As wellness is defined as the act of practicing healthy habits daily to find balance physically and mentally, its primary pillars are social connectedness, mindfulness, nutrition, sleep and exercise. Forgive me, but don’t we all want to employ those principles with greater ease? The only way to do that is through gaining knowledge and, again, repetitive practice of good habits. This is the premise of PURIST. As science would have it, all those pillars conspire to reduce accelerated aging. Yes, that’s a thing—aging faster than nature because of lack of attention to maintenance of the body, brain, gut, skin, teeth. It’s as simple as that. I’ve discovered some valuable pillars along the way that have slowed down time (after all, don’t we all want more of it?). Moderation—simplifying life can be fulfilling and rewarding. One more is to pause. As my sixth grader, Carolina, learned at school in a pamphlet on how to meditate that quoted Sai Baba of Shirdi, an Indian spiritual master: “Before you speak, ask yourself: Is it kind, is it necessary, is it true, does it improve on the silence?” My favorite tenet is freedom. Viktor Frankl, the father of logotherapy (which stresses the importance of meaning in one’s life) writes in Man’s Search for Meaning, life is a quest for meaning, through three possible sources: in work doing something significant, in love caring for another person, and in courage during difficult times. He writes that we have freedom to choose how we respond to a situation. One cannot control what happens in life, but one can always control what one will feel and do about what happens. Your liberation lies in your choices. Gratitude is a tall pillar—gratitude for this opportunity to learn and share the wisdom of great journalists, doctors,

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WOMAN OF TODAY Camila Alves McConaughey instills nutritional education

and independence into the next generation with her new book, Just Try One Bite. 90

REGENERATION NATION White Oak Pastures leads the charge in an agriculture movement that’s sweeping the nation.

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GOOD GRIEF Pamela Fiori, former editor in chief of Town & Country, gives a candid look at grief and healing after the loss of her beloved husband. CLEAN START Silke Tsitiridis welcomes Purist into her

Southampton oasis. 102 WELLNESS WISDOM In honor of Purist’s fifth anniversary, cover stars Oprah Winfrey, Olivia Wilde, Jessica Chastain, Naomi Watts, Scarlett Johansson and more share their secrets to healthy living.

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Cover star Robert Downey Jr. shares insight on sustainable home design in honor of Purist’s fifth anniversary.

INTERCONNECTEDNESS OF ALL Donna D’Cruz offers a guided meditation on the sacred elements of life that bind humanity.

GUIDED BY BIET Meditation coach Biet Simkin gives advice for navigating heartbreak, building motivation and staying sober.

PURE GOOD Fitness expert Adam Rosante highlights the important work of Maureen’s Haven, an organization fighting to end homelessness on the East End.

MANIFESTATION JOURNALING How to conjure your ideal future through a dedicated journaling practice

LEAD WITH LOVE Keenan Scott II, director of Thoughts of a Colored Man, speaks on the importance of diversity.

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ASK THE DR. Key strategies to preserve the brain’s levels of BDNF, a crucial protein that supports cognition and memory

BABY STEPS A psychiatrist explores the psychological, social and economic factors associated with egg freezing.

Wellness-focused real estate maven Silke Tsitiridis breathes new life into her East End home.

WELLNESS LIBRARY These coffee-table titles offer fresh perspectives for wellness-focused home design.

PURE PROPERTY Real estate news in the Hamptons and NYC

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WELLNESS CENTRAL Inside the revamped spa at Gurney’s Montauk ORAL CARE Ten ways that poor oral health can spur the onset of chronic disease

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MEET THE NEW RAMS HEAD INN The Shelter Island landmark is rejuvenated with farm-to-table eats, waterfront views and elegant interiors. FIND YOUR ME TIME Explore the dynamic wellness activations hosted at The Rams Head Inn this season. SUSPENSE, INK Teresa Sorkin and Tullan Holmqvist present a new psychological thriller that’s perfect for oceanside reading. EDITOR’S PICKS Beach season must-haves

THE GIFT OF GIVING Cristina Cuomo chats with Dr. Stacie J. Stephenson about the spectrum of health benefits reaped from generosity and empathy.

WHAT HAPPENED TO THE HEAVYWEIGHTS? Michael Mailer recounts a childhood meeting with his hero, Muhammad Ali.

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ARTIST FILE Lindsay Bardwil’s kaleidoscopic surfboard art

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REPLENISHING ENERGY Give to yourself, so that you can give to others. Plus, a soothing recipe for chicken and power greens.

CAKE COUTURE Charlotte Neuville showcases her sweet creations. A NEW CLASSIC Armin & Judy serves up gourmet cuisine inspired by traditional Mediterranean culinary excellence. ANOTHER SLICE OF HEAVEN Celebrating the unveiling of Dopo Il Ponte, the newest eatery by restaurateurs Maria and Larry Baum. SUMMER LUXURIES Get inspiration for your next gathering with the new coffeetable tome, Entertaining in Style. MUSHROOM BOOM Delectable snacks loaded with adaptogens from Earth & Star PRIMARY EATING Unpacking the scientific evidence that suggests regular

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TOP TIER Elevated French fare, stateof-the-art facials and fitness experiences await at Topping Rose House.

PLAY 120 AT A GLANCE A lineup of can’t-miss events in the Hamptons this month 121

READY TO SHRED Catch a wave at The Surf Thing, an action-packed festival that celebrates surfing, art, wellness and philanthropy.

122 CINEMA UNDER THE STARS HamptonsFilm presents a free outdoor screening series featuring classic family movies through the decades. 124 COACHES How Krystal Lamiroult of Dancehampton helps students find their rhythm 126 SUMMER SUDS Bring the bar to your front lawn with Top Hops’ The Half Pint vintage tap truck. 128 NUMEROLOGY A by-the-numbers look at director and producer Steven Spielberg.

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who wrote about losing a beloved husband

who photographed cover star Camila Alves McConaughey

who wrote about meeting his hero, Muhammad Ali

who photographed Teresa Sorkin and our Play opener

WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO EXPECTANT FIRST-TIME MOTHERS? “Catch kids being good, focus on the positive behavior and ignore the negative behavior.”

HOW CAN MINDFUL AGRICULTURE PRESERVE THE HEALTH OF THE PLANET? “Regenerative farming preserves the homeostasis of soil, water and minerals so our ecosystems can rebalance.”

WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE FOR THOSE EXPERIENCING GRIEF? “Don’t rush grief. Let sorrow sink in and run its course.”

WHAT INSPIRES YOU MOST AS A PHOTOGRAPHER? “I’m inspired by the beauty and moments that most people can’t or don’t see in themselves or the world.”

WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT LESSON YOU’VE LEARNED FROM MUHAMMAD ALI? “That the great art of pugilism is as much about wit and intelligence as it is about physical skill.”

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE PHOTOGRAPHIC STYLE? “Anything that tells a story and depicts real people moving through life.”

Dr. Lea Lis is the “Shameless Psychiatrist.” She is a double boardcertified adult and child psychiatrist, and assistant clinical professor at New York Medical College. The author of No Shame: Real Talk With Your Kids About Sex, Self-Confidence, and Healthy Relationships, Dr. Lis has a practice in the Hamptons where she sees patients from all family arrangements.

Amely Greeven, a writer devoted to creating a more conscious world, has co-authored the detox bible Clean; the mother’s postpartum companion The First Forty Days; How to Be Well with Frank Lipman, M.D.; and Grit & Grace: Train the Mind, Train the Body, Own Your Life with Tim McGraw.

Pamela Fiori is the former editor in chief of Town & Country and Travel + Leisure. She has written several books, mostly on travel and luxury. The latest was Holiday: The Best Travel Magazine That Ever Was (Rizzoli), a celebration of the magazine responsible for her first job in publishing.

Matt Sayles is a portrait and commercial photographer and director based in Los Angeles. Sayles focuses on creating works that reflect a more inclusive image of beauty and highlighting stories of underrepresented people and communities. He is a graduate of Stanford University and the UCLA Anderson School of Management.

Michael Mailer has been working in independent film as a writer, producer and director since graduating from Harvard in 1987. His current project, a neo-noir thriller that he co-wrote and directed titled The Minute You Wake Up Dead, starring Morgan Freeman, Cole Hauser and Jaimie Alexander is scheduled for release later this year.

Mikey DeTemple is a filmmaker, photographer and professional surfer. His photography has been used by Apple, GQ, Gap, Urban Outfitters, J.Crew and more. He is the director and producer of the environmental short film Into the Sea for the Surfrider Foundation, which has helped raise $250,000 for shark conservation.

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INTERCONNECTEDNESS OF ALL Donna D’Cruz offers a guided meditation on global unity.

Global food systems sit at the heart of the climate crisis. Responsible for an estimated one-third of human-caused emissions, industrial agriculture is destroying our soil and water, our biodiversity, and the ecosystems that keep the planet in balance. Consumers and farmers are left dependent on multinational corporations whose business model places profit above protecting the environment and feeding the world. The story of author and environmental activist Vandana Shiva is one of empowerment and hope. Her message to support and advocate for local, regenerative and fair-traded food systems lights a path forward that can mitigate climate change, restore biodiversity, and build food security and democracy in our communities. I’m excited to share more with you about Vandana Shiva, her mission and her foundation, Navdanya, navdanya.org. “Being a planetary citizen does not need space travel. It means being conscious that we are part of the universe and of the Earth. The most fundamental law is to recognise that we share the planet with other beings, and that we have a duty to care for our common home.” —Vandana Shiva, Oneness vs The 1%: Shattering Illusions, Seeding Freedom Perhaps our greatest teaching from the global pandemic is that we are indeed interconnected, interdependent beings. We live on the same planet, we breathe the same air, walk the same lands, swim in the same oceans and rivers, we are recycled dust and atoms. When a butterfly flaps its wings in the Amazon, its resonance is noted on the beaches of Bali. We can breathe as one, love as one, connect as one—we are intimately, divinely and empathetically connected. Let’s try this “Interconnected Dip Into Bliss” meditation together now. Find a quiet, comfortable sitting position, gently close your eyes, relax, let go. As you read each quote that follows, regardless of your faith, allow yourself to ruminate on the words and the deeper power of their meaning. Get ready to embrace your sacred breath, your

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Divine, unbounded connection to all beings. Let’s begin: Breathe in…exhale. CHRISTIANITY “In Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others.” — The New Testament (Romans, 12:5) Breathe in…exhale. ISLAM “People, We created you all from a single man and a single woman, and made you into races and tribes so that you should recognize one another.” — The Qur’an (49:13) Breathe in…exhale. JUDAISM “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” — The Old Testament (Proverbs, 27:17) Breathe in…exhale. BAHA’I “The Earth is but one country, and mankind its citizens.” — Baha’u’llah, Baha’i prophet Breathe in…exhale. HINDUISM “Those who possess this wisdom have equal regard for all. They see the same Self in a spiritual aspirant and an outcaste, in an elephant, a cow and a dog. Such people have mastered life. With even mind they rest in Brahman, who is perfect and is everywhere the same.” — The Bhagavad Gita (5:18–19) Breathe in…exhale. BUDDHISM “The hand and other limbs are many and distinct, But all are one—the body to be kept and guarded. Likewise, different beings, in their joys and sorrows, Are, like me, all one in wanting happiness.” — Shantideva Breathe in…exhale. MODERN SCIENCE “When I look up in the universe, I know I’m small, but I’m also big. I’m big because I’m connected to the universe, and the universe is connected to me.” — Neil deGrasse Tyson, astrophysicist

“Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect.” —screenwriter Ted Perry, inspired by the words of Chief Seattle

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Meditation teacher Biet Simkin answers Purist readers’ questions. will ever happen to you, once you admit it. Even if you’re not a “real alcoholic” I promise you, to stop drinking when you can’t, you will need to pick up new practices to supplement the lack of alcohol. Tools like meditation, prayer, spiritual texts, movement and much more. No drunk ever gives up drinking unless they have a good swap-out. Sending you magic love as you find your way. Love, Biet

Dear Biet, My husband of 18 years just came out of the closet as gay. I am heartbroken. He is leaving me. How do I carry on? Thanks, Jenny, California Dear Jenny, This is heartbreaking and also very good news. You don’t want to go on living a lie together! The truth is being set free and so are you. There is nothing more bright and alive than truth. While it is a shock, the “law of shocks,” as mentioned in my book, Don’t Just Sit There!, is a vehicle for a calling. You are being called. Called to your future. Called to a greater joy and pleasure in your life. You gotta pick up the call, girl! This isn’t the end as your head is trying to scare you into believing. It’s the beginning! Let him fly and get your wings. Love, Biet

Dear Biet, I have nothing to complain about. I have everyone a boy could want. I am super-materialistic, and I have all my boxes checked in life. I can’t seem to drag myself to meditate. Something in me says it will help me but how, why? How do you drag yourself to spiritual sh-t when you have all of the “stuff” life has to offer? Thanks, Royce, NYC Dear Royce, You’re hilarious. I love you already! Meditation isn’t just for people who are struggling. Do you really have it all? I know as someone who has it all.... I have nothing unless I have the satisfied conscious state! I have nothing unless I am without anxiety and stress! I have nothing unless I have a willingness to go to any lengths to feel alive and amazing. Anyone can sip a cosmo by a pool. I surely don’t think that’s the accomplishment you want described in your eulogy. The question I would ask myself if I were you would be: How full of sh-t am I? And am I willing to get really raw and honest with my true desires in life. ’Cause I assure you, your true desires—they are grander than you can imagine. Go go go Royce! I am cheering you on! Love, Biet bietsimkin.com

Dear Biet, I can’t stop drinking. I want to but I keep doing it. How did you stop? What should I do? Thanks! Anonymous, San Francisco

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laundry and food costs. AR: Can you share a success story? DO: We have many, but the one that stands out recently is helping a family with a small child. While we don’t normally work with children, this case was unique, and we had no other option but to help them. The mother is a victim of domestic abuse, the grandmother had come from Ecuador to help her daughter, and an adorable 6-year-old son was now caught in the terrible situation. They told him that they were camping, but in reality, they were living in a parking lot in Amagansett. The biggest challenge was that the mom is undocumented and ineligible for many social services. They truly had nowhere to go, but we didn’t give up hope. Eventually, we were able to get them placed in a domestic abuse shelter that accepted all three, which is very unusual. We helped them obtain legal services, we made sure they had food, and we even bought new clothes and a few toys for the child. Today, mom is working, the son is in school and they are working on putting the pieces back together. Most of all, they are safe, warm and moving toward a better life. AR: Why is it important to use your life to be of service? DO: I can’t think of a better way to serve those most in need in our community than Maureen’s Haven. It truly is a gift to everyone involved. For me, it is making a difference in a person’s life and knowing that the efforts I took helped someone who was struggling through life. Maureen’s Haven also plays a role in community engagement and volunteerism. Not only do we provide critical lifesaving services, but we are also very involved in the local communities we serve, which is deeply important to so many. We see volunteers from throughout the East End coming together to support our mission, and it is an incredible thing to witness. AR: How can people get involved with Maureen’s Haven? DO: The best way to support our mission is through financial support. Your contributions put gas in our vans, pay for programs and help us pay our staff. The COVID-19 pandemic has forced us to adapt our services, but that comes at a cost. For example, we have worked tirelessly to get our guests vaccinated and so far, we have taken guests to over 25 vaccination sites across Suffolk County. And of course, we are always looking for volunteers. maureenshaven.org; 631.727.6831

ADAM ROSANTE: For anyone who’s not familiar, what is Maureen’s Haven? DANIEL O’SHEA: Maureen’s Haven provides homeless support services and programs for the homeless in our community. We also operate an Emergency Winter Shelter Program, which offers overnight shelter to 35 individuals each night from Nov. 1 to April 30. The Kay Kidde Achievement Center, which is in Riverhead and is open year-round, gives our guests access to critical support services. They can meet with case management and our social worker, they have access to programs and support services, they can obtain essential items such food, clothing and toiletries, and they have a safe, welcoming place to seek respite and compassionate care. AR: What would people be surprised to learn? DO: Most people who are familiar with Maureen’s Haven know about our Emergency Winter Shelter Program. However, it is the day-to-day activities that happen at our Day Center that truly makes a difference in the lives of those we help. Our staff works tirelessly to help our guests find housing and/or complete housing applications, we connect them to treatment providers, we help them find jobs, and we coordinate medical care, mental health care and substance abuse counseling. We also assist with many of the basic things we take for granted such as obtaining ID, transportation to required appointments or simply charging a cellphone. What people are also unaware of is the actual number of homeless we help each year. Typically, volunteers only see the 30 to 35 guests we send to the shelter each night. In reality, we assisted over 300 individuals in 2021, most of them from communities here on the East End. AR: What’s your biggest challenge right now? DO: Our biggest challenge is always funding. We are a private nonprofit, and less than 14 percent of our annual budget comes from Suffolk County and the four East End towns. The rest of our operating budget comes from private donations, grant writing, foundations and fundraising events. COVID-19 also placed tremendous challenges on the agency, especially from a staffing standpoint. Since the start of the pandemic, we’ve had to adapt our services to meet these challenges, which required us to increase our staffing levels, increase cleaning and safety protocols, and fill in any of the gaps that volunteers did in the past, such as

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self-defeating fears out allows space for positivity and innovation to flow. 2. Gratitude/Brag Book Jot down three things you are proud of/grateful for. Focusing on the good helps build neural pathways in your brain to create more good thoughts and feelings, and puts you into the flow. 3. Your Goal “(S)he who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” —Friedrich Nietzsche Recite your goal aloud and be sure to feel the feelings of solving that pain. To ensure these shifts are sustainable, it is essential to stay connected to your why in the day-to-day tasks of working, parenting,etc. It is too easy to get caught up in the how. Set yourself up for lasting success by reconnecting to the outcomes you are

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Forgetting your car keys or not remembering where you parked the car. Blanking on a name when making introductions. We all experience these forgetful moments. They unnerve us, and maybe they even strike fear in our hearts as we wonder if something sinister could be responsible. For most people, these blips are just that. For others, the news may be less reassuring. But the positive message for all of us is that there are things we can do right now to help lower the risk of neurological problems down the road. One of the most important may be to increase our brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF) to help improve brain function and lower the risk of neurodegenerative disease. How to boost yours? Start here: What is BDNF? A relatively new discovery, BDNF is a naturally occurring protein in the brain that helps keep your billions of brain cells thriving and healthy. It helps grow new cells and cell pathways while strengthening the brain and nerve

cells you already have, protecting them from damage caused by stress. Why does BDNF matter? If you care about your health span, the amount of healthy life you pack into your years, BDNF matters—a lot! Maintaining high levels helps your brain age more slowly, improves learning and memory, protects you from Alzheimer’s disease, and works as a natural antidepressant, with the ability to reverse chronic anxiety and depression. By keeping your BDNF levels high, you’ll help your brain stave off age-related shrinkage, fight off neurological problems—Alzheimer’s sufferers tend to have extremely low levels—and even improve your sleep. So, what robs your body of BDNF? On the food front, BDNF robbers include the classic dietary demons of sugar and processed foods, just in case you needed one more reason to strenuously avoid both. Sugar has long been linked with cognitive decline in humans, and animal studies have shown a direct connection with sugar consumption and reduced BDNF 30

production—not a lot of good news there. My advice? Ditch the stuff, no exceptions. If you must sweeten, use a very light hand and opt for healthier alternatives like raw stevia or monk fruit sweeteners. When it comes to lifestyle habits, you can thank your BDNF levels simply by not watching out for the classic, alltoo-common health eroders: chronic stress, exhaustion and social isolation will all take bites out of your BDNF. Unwinding with cannabis or cocktails? You might want to dial those two down a good bit, too. Although THC can boost BDNF levels in occasional cannabis users, low BDNF levels are common in both habitual cannabis smokers and heavy drinkers. What can I do to increase BDNF? BDNF is stimulated by any number of the positive habits and lifestyle tweaks I recommend to my patients every day, including: Frequent movement: Move throughout the day, even just a few minutes at a time if that’s all you can spare, but shoot for at least 30 minutes

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in polyphenols, which are great for BDNF levels. 2 Avocados: They’re loaded with antioxidants and polyphenols. 3 Berries: Opt for organic red raspberries, strawberries and blackberries. 4 Blueberries: Choose wild blueberries in particular, and always buy organic. 5 Coffee: To increase BDNF, be sure to choose your brew wisely. Look for certified organic, non-GMO, sustainably farmed and/or shade-

herring, salmon and sardines, all of which are loaded with omega-3s, which helps boost BDNF. 10 Green tea: Choose one that’s certified organic and non-GMO. 11 Olives: A close-to-perfect food rich in polyphenols, which is good news for your BDNF levels. 12 Turmeric: It’s packed with BDNFboosting polyphenols, and even more powerful when teamed with a bit of fat and black pepper. In short, whole, unprocessed foods that are rich in polyphenols will help keep your BDNF levels high. If you’re paying attention to eating right, you’re already getting a fair number of them. My advice: Keep up the good work, but expand your repertoire and don’t get stuck eating the same five things all the time. Can supplements boost BDNF? You can also stimulate BDNF with coffee fruit extract, which is made from the berry of the coffee plant. It delivers not only polyphenols (antioxidant-rich A turmeric-infused micronutrients) but also a latte is an excellent brain-supporting chemical brain-healthy called procyanidin. Other beverage. supplements, such as curcumin, omega-3 fatty grown, Fair Trade Certified beans, and acids (which you can get by taking fish oil), resveratrol and magnesium will check that they’re free of toxins, also help augment BDNF levels. pesticides and heavy metals. 6 Eggs: Look for pasture-raised eggs Boost BDNF right now—with your feet. Make your brain bigger and stronger from healthy animals for the biggest simply by walking more. Turns out, BDNF boost. 7 Extra-virgin olive oil (EVOO): Ideally, when we walk, our brains actually release BDNF, often referred to as opt for cold-pressed oil stored in dark Miracle-Gro for the brain. So, lace glass bottles. 8 Extra-dark chocolate: While 70% up your walking shoes and reap the benefits! When you’re ready to cocoa or above is great, going even take things a step further, add some higher to 90% or 100% is even better resistance training and high-intensity when it comes to boosting benefits. 9 Fish: The best choices are wildinterval training for an extra BDNF boost. drfranklipman.com caught “fatty fish”—anchovies, 32

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a day, and check out my website’s 10 move-more tips for easy ways to weave more movement into your day. A regular meditation practice: While stress decreases BDNF, meditation helps increase it, while helping you center and calm your mind. A simple yoga practice: Making time to de-stress regularly is essential to keeping BDNF levels high, and yoga is an excellent stress-busting way to top up your BDNF tank. Plenty of quality rest: Better sleep, particularly deep sleep, equals more BDNF release, so work on getting your sleep habits into a seven-to-eighthours nightly groove. Intermittent fasting: Shortening your daily eating window—as in, eating breakfast late and dinner early, versus all-day grazing— helps give your body time to rest and repair, as well as tame inflammation, which, left untamed, can decrease BDNF levels. Social connections: Social isolation is a surefire route to loneliness, depression and anxiety, all of which suppress BDNF. Responsible sun exposure: That means a little regular time in the sun, exposing your skin but stopping before you turn pink, and absolutely no burning. Another no-brainer, super-easy-to-incorporate way to boost your BDNF? Drink a daily cup or two of green tea. Are there foods that can help increase BDNF? You can also help stimulate BDNF with a number of tasty foods, beverages and spices. Among my favorite, always-in-the-pantry BDNF-boosting big guns that everyone should stock the larder with are: 1 Almonds: Raw, unroasted, unblanched organic almonds are rich

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BABY STEPS Confronting the shame of not having children with the rest of your friends, and when to think about egg freezing. BY DR. LEA LIS It’s hard to pick the “right” time to start a family. As women age, they’re less fertile, so freezing eggs as early as possible gives them the best chance to conceive when they are ready. Women are beginning to have children at much later ages, according to a recent study published on the news and research website The Conversation: “By age 25, two-thirds of high school-educated women had a first birth, but it takes until age 35 before two-thirds of collegeeducated women have had a birth.” Not all women delay having children. The national average age at which women give birth to their first child is 26 years old. As the baby shower invites start pouring in during a woman’s late 20s, many women who have not yet started families of their own begin to feel shame and worry about keeping up with their peers. So does egg freezing work, and is it safe? Dr. Fahimeh Sasan, OB/GYN, states that egg freezing has been well studied, as it is similar to IVF. There is no-to-minimal risk to a woman’s body, in terms of increased risk of breast cancer or other medical issues. Prior to 2012, the process of egg freezing was considered experimental. Eggs are much more fragile than embryos. However, the process of vitrification, a flash-freeze process, allows doctors to freeze and thaw eggs as safely and effectively as they are able to freeze and thaw embryos. Today, egg freezing and embryo freezing are equally effective. The major factors that contribute to the success of both egg and embryo freezing are the age of the woman, the number of eggs available and the time frame in which the eggs are used. Rebecca Silver, vice president of brand marketing at Kindbody, a fertility, gynecology, and wellness company with boutique clinics across the country, told me the average cost of egg freezing is $6,500. This price does not include the hormone medications that are necessary for stimulating ovaries to produce enough eggs for the retrieval. The hormone medications can cost an additional $3,000 to $6,000, depending on how much is needed. The medication often ends up costing more for older women, as a greater supply of hormones may be required to achieve desired retrieval results. On average, egg storage is $600 per year (low end). You may be able to use money in Health Savings Accounts or Flexible Spending Accounts

to pay for egg storage, which makes it tax free. Doctors typically point to 35 as the age at which fertility seriously declines, but Silver told me that 10 percent of people under the age of 35 have primary ovarian insufficiency. She encourages everyone to proactively get a fertility assessment to understand their own fertility health, and to learn how their egg reserve compares to what is standard for their age. A fertility assessment includes an ultrasound of ovaries and a simple blood test for the anti-Müllerian hormone (AMH), which is one of most reliable measures of ovarian reserve. The results of 34

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freezing benefits, then it’s not your money wasted if you don’t use the oocytes. So if your company gives you the benefit, it may change the cost/benefit analysis of egg freezing at a younger age. Another consideration is the family size. It might make sense to freeze eggs if you want a second or third child, and are putting it off until after 35. Ellen Hukkelhoven, managing director at Perceptive Advisors, is one of those women who took the plunge to freeze her eggs. “I did two egg freezing cycles,” she told me. “One when I was 26 years old. I got 31 eggs that time. I did it again when I was 34, and got 16 eggs. I did it not because I was certain I wanted to have children, but because I wanted to preserve optionality. Freezing my eggs empowered me to make every decision, both professional and personal, just like a man. I felt no pressure to find a partner quickly in order to have children. It really levels the playing field for women, and gives you this amazing confidence that is very hard to describe. I know I have the option to have children for many more years than I would have, otherwise.” For another perspective, I talked to Megan McGill, M.D., Ph.D., and VP at BridgeBio. She had a child in her 20s, but now, with a new partner, she is trying again and was disappointed by the egg freezing process. She froze her eggs at

the assessment will help you understand how your fertility compares to others your age, and if and when you should consider egg freezing. The assessment also includes a consultation with a physician, who will ask you about your own family-building goals and take that information into account when making a recommendation. Silver generally encourages women to freeze their eggs when they’re younger, but this cost—typically $10K minimum—can be a major barrier to many women in their 20s and early 30s. Such a steep financial undertaking should bring years of peace of mind, but how many years does egg freezing really buy? This answer differs on a case-by-case basis. Freezing eggs earlier than age 35 depends upon a number of factors, such as ovarian reserve indicators that can signal premature ovarian insufficiency (which can be tested), family history of early menopause (under age 45), genetic testing for Fragile X syndrome, endometriosis and polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS). Additionally, any type of cancer diagnosis (because chemo and radiation harm fertility) and autoimmune disorders (such as lupus) are also considerations for early egg freezing. According to a journal article titled “Optimal Time for Elective Egg Freezing,” if you decide to freeze your eggs at 25 years old but end up conceiving naturally a few years

“What is the optimal time for actually using the eggs you froze? According to some experts, the answer is 37 years old. The earlier you freeze the eggs, the less likely you will use them, as you may get pregnant naturally.” NYU at age 34. She had 22 eggs, 16 of which survived the freezing. Six years later, six eggs survived thawing, four were fertilized, and none grew into embryos. Now, at 40, she has to undergo IVF to start the process again. “If you are sure you want kids,” she says, “then have them before 35; otherwise, it’s always a high-stakes calculation.” Men aren’t off the hook on this one, either. The earlier men freeze their sperm, the better chances of conception and having a healthy baby. This procedure is relatively inexpensive and low maintenance (although you’ll have to pay yearly fees for storage). Conceiving with a man over 50 years old (advanced paternal age) may result in children with a higher risk of genetic disorder or conditions like autism spectrum disorder, due to very small mutations called single point mutations. So, all men should freeze sperm if they want to delay having children. For women considering egg freezing, getting a professional consultation might help you think through all the factors I outlined above—age, amount of children, risk factors to fertility—so when the baby calls, you can be ready.

later, freezing your eggs is a waste of time, money and effort. So what is the optimal time for actually using the eggs you froze? According to some experts, the answer is 37 years old. You still have enough genetic coins in the bank to spit out some robust eggs. The Conversation reports that only 17 percent of those who freeze eggs for social reasons actually use the eggs to give birth. The earlier you freeze the eggs, the less likely you will use them, as you may get pregnant naturally. The older you get, the more likely you will use them as your fertility rate goes down. Looking deeper, you could get the best eggs and the best preservation of your genetic material, which would be the most likely to fertilize later, at 25. But for those who’ve recently joined the workforce, average income may be around $40K per year—hardly enough available disposable income to consider egg freezing if your insurance or employer doesn’t foot the bill. But let’s say at age 30 you are making $49K, and at 35 you are making $70K. Then, 35 might be an optimal year for egg freezing. In this scenario, you make enough money to afford it. If your company provides egg 36

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It feels like just yesterday we were masking up and locking down. And while caution is still key, this season carries an air of excitement that we haven’t felt in years. Some incredibly special houses in the Hamptons are just waiting to become homes, along with one exceptional beauty in the Big Apple. Plan ahead with this new-to-market 7-bedroom, 6.5-bath dream home in Southampton. A brand-new construction, the house will sit on a 1.29-acre flag lot and will offer 6,500 square feet of living space. Outdoor features include a heated gunite pool, spa and outdoor shower as well as a tennis court, and an outdoor barbecue, all in a very private landscaped setting. A finished lower level offers two bedrooms and one bath, as well as a home gym and a room to finally install that home theater you’ve talked about. Keeping things eco-friendly, the home will be outfitted with 5kW solar roofing. Think of what you’ll save on heat as you enjoy Hamptons living at its best. Asking $5,495,000, listed with Raphael Avigdor, licensed associate real estate broker, of Douglas Elliman. Christopher Stewart and Jessica Vertullo at Compass have a dream home for sale in Amagansett on a 3-acre hilltop on picturesque Town Lane. Asking $14,495,000, the

house features almost 10,000 square feet of living space complete with seven en suite bedrooms and a design that brings together charming country living with modern aesthetics. A state-of-the-art custom Boffi kitchen with best-in-class appliances complements the open concept design of the spacious living and dining areas with curtain glass walls that let the light flow in. There is also an office, 42

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a glass-enclosed pool house with a wet bar complements an expansive heated gunite pool and spa, and an outdoor kitchen and dining area with fireplace, all surrounded by a limestone patio and impeccable landscaping. In nearby East Hampton, a stunner comes to market, listed with Lori Schiaffino of Compass. On Georgica Pond, this Jeffrey Colle custom-built home features ocean vistas and over 200 feet of waterfront, while the expanse of glass doors and oversize windows allows you to enjoy the scene from indoors or out. Featuring six bedrooms, the primary faces the pond and ocean, and boasts a steam shower and fireplace. The great room overlooks the pool, outdoor patio and a covered lounge area, while natural water vistas provide a dramatic backdrop, with the outdoor kitchen making entertaining a delight. The pool house is equipped with a lounge area, kitchenette and bathroom, and there’s a 4-car garage with hydraulic lift and EV charger. Asking $32,500,000. If a city summer is what you seek, look no further than the crowning jewel of the Stuart Duncan House on Manhattan’s Upper East Side. Listed with Richard Steinberg of Compass at $23,500,000, the triplex penthouse has a private elevator, six separate outdoor spaces and a dramatic open living plan with large picture windows. The primary bedroom is a deluxe en suite, with a huge dressing area and private balcony. Add to that four thoughtfully appointed lowerlevel bedrooms and a home office. The tree-lined street, steps away from Central Park, is surrounded by an array of fine restaurants, a wine bar and galleries.

mudroom, powder room and heated 3-car garage. Upstairs, a sumptuous primary suite overlooks American beechwood trees. With eco-conscious, top-of-the-line modern conveniences such as radiant-heated floors, Crestron home automation, a geothermal heating and cooling system, and reverse osmosis water filtration, the lower level features a glass-walled gym, an infrared sauna, a temperature-controlled wine cellar, a powder room and ample open recreational space with a fireplace. Outdoors,

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Curtain glass walls allow light to flow in this Amagansett 7-bedroom home.

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WELLNESS CENTRAL Gurney’s Montauk Resort & Seawater Spa gets a refresh. BY BETH LANDMAN

including lighting, are now environmentally friendly, and the gym has moved upstairs and doubled in size, with added state-of-the-art equipment, including Peloton bicycles. In addition to the array of fitness classes, a yoga/ stretch room with a Lululemon Mirror home gym is available for those who like self-guided classes. Over the summer, yoga classes will also be given outdoors. Gurney’s therapies will stay true to the marine theme, with a waiting room and select treatment rooms that have ocean vistas, seaweed wraps, hydrotherapy and a new salt room offering halotherapy, said to be beneficial to the lungs. The Skin Clinic will feature products from Biologique Recherche, Dr. Dennis Gross Skincare and One Ocean Beauty, as well as LED light therapy treatment and HydraFacials. The wellness concept carries through to dining, with juices and light bites, as well as healthy dishes added to the menu at Tillie’s and available to be served at the spa itself. Gurney’s has also opened The Spa Deck with unobstructed ocean views. Now, when you make your commitment to each other, you can make it to wellness, too. gurneysresorts.com

Since 1980, Gurney’s Resort’s Seawater Spa has been an oasis of calm and healing, beginning when its Montauk surroundings were sleepy, and remaining tranquil while the town exploded into a center of surfer-style hipster activity. Now it’s about to enter into a new era, unveiling an expanded and updated 30,000-square-foot wellness haven, first to hotel guests, but by early summer to the public, with memberships available. “We have been planning this since 2017,” says Michael Nenner, Gurney’s Resorts executive VP, of the project, which was reimagined through the vision of Ignacio Alonso, who was also behind Aire Ancient Baths. “He helped give it an identity and create a calm and beautiful design.” Patrons will recognize some aspects of the original spa, like the ocean-fed saltwater pool, which has been retiled. One level up, a new unisex bathhouse containing a sauna can be found, along with a steam room, detoxifying therapy plunge pools and a thermae pool with jets. The Seawater Spa has expanded east toward the water, and public spaces have been added along with new treatment facilities, including couples rooms featuring indoor and outdoor baths and showers. Mechanicals, 48

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In tune with the marine theme, ocean vistas abound at Gurney’s.

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ORAL CARE inflammation in the body, gum disease remains an epidemic health care problem, affecting more than 80 percent of the American population. Extensive clinical research has linked gum disease to a long list of systemic diseases. There are now many new nonsurgical treatments for gum disease, such as laser periodontal therapy, which can help disinfect and regenerate healthy gum tissue. 2. JAW CAVITATIONS/JAW OSTEONECROSIS: These hidden areas of necrotic bone are commonly found in the areas of extracted wisdom teeth via 3D cone beam radiographic examination. Jaw cavitations have been found to be a source of chronic inflammation and chronic infection. Microbial cultures of these areas have shown that multiple pathogens harbor in these bony defects, including many coinfections from Lyme disease. Proper surgical training is essential in the treatment of jaw cavitations, as well as the use of biologic materials to enable these areas of necrotic bone to regenerate and heal. 3. AMALGAM (MERCURY) FILLINGS: Amalgam (mercury) fillings are silver-colored fillings that contain approximately 50 percent mercury, a heavy metal, which has been shown to off-gas throughout its duration in the mouth. Chronic

A key element in overall wellness that often gets overlooked is oral health. Your mouth serves as the most important gateway for both health and disease in the body, and dental diseases have been linked to heart disease, diabetes, pregnancy complications, Alzheimer’s disease and more than five types of cancer. In his book, The MouthBody Connection, Dr. Curatola also describes the mouth as a mirror of conditions in the body that also manifest in the mouth, including gut problems, vitamin deficiencies, autoimmune problems and cancers like leukemia and lymphoma. The good news is, with proper oral care and regular screening, these issues can be diagnosed and addressed. “Over the past 40 years,” he says, “I have seen the elimination of toxicity and the control of inflammation in the mouth as vital in helping patients achieve systemic wellness.” Most people are unaware that the greatest causes of inflammation and toxicity to the body may be found in the mouth. Here, according to Dr. Curatola, are the top 10 sources: 1. PERIODONTAL DISEASE/GUM DISEASE: Recognized as one of the leading perpetrators of chronic low-grade 50

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causal link to hyperactivity disorders in children. Recently, BPA-free composite restorative materials have been introduced to dentists. 8. OBSTRUCTIVE SLEEP APNEA/AIRWAY DISEASE: With over 1 billion people on the planet suffering from obstructive sleep apnea (OSA), airway disease often results from improper palate and jaw development, as well as tonguetie (a restriction on proper tongue movement and posture). The lack of proper breathing, especially during sleep, is linked to a multitude of systemic diseases including stroke, heart attack, hypertension, diabetes and dementia. Airway disease can now be corrected nonsurgically with the use of orthopedic appliances by a trained dental airway specialist, which can improve airway space and

exposure to mercury is a source of neurotoxicity linked to dysregulation and disease and the symptoms of mercury toxicity are exactly the same as those of Alzheimer’s disease. Dr. Curatola recommends that patients seek dentists who are trained in a safe mercury removal protocol that protects both the patients and dental staff, as the highest levels of mercury exposure have been demonstrated from their removal. Many new advanced ceramic restorative materials, which have superior physical properties, can be used to restore teeth. 4. NON-PRECIOUS METALS IN PORCELAIN-FUSED-TO-METAL (PFM) CROWNS & METAL APPLIANCES: Metal crowns that are coated in porcelain may contain nickel, cadmium and even lead, depending on the alloy used in the metallic

“The elimination of toxicity and the control of inflammation in the mouth is vital in helping patients achieve systemic wellness.” proper tongue position. Dr. Curatola recommends that everyone have a home sleep study to screen for this, followed by a 3D CBCT scan for a proper diagnosis. 9. TMJ DYSFUNCTION & OCCLUSAL DISEASE (JAW & BITE PROBLEMS): The temporomandibular joint (TMJ) is the most stimulated joint in the human body, but can be a source of debilitating inflammatory disease when misaligned from dental malocclusion. Common symptoms include pain in front of the ear, headaches, neck aches and pain when biting or chewing. While there may be multiple causes of TMJ, the most common cause is dental malocclusion (bad bite) that can be corrected with proper restorative dentistry including orthodontic treatment. 10. HARMFUL ORAL CARE PRODUCTS: Most oral care products have their origins as flavored detergents over 100 years ago, with sodium fluoride (fluorine) added 75 years ago, and antimicrobial ingredients added 50 years ago. Most toothpaste formulas contain a host of other harmful ingredients including artificial sweeteners, dyes and preservatives linked to numerous systemic illnesses. Even so-called “natural toothpastes” contain harmful essential oils and other natural ingredients that can be highly destructive to the delicate oral ecology known as the oral microbiome. These detergents, oils and chemicals can be toxic. In 1998 the FDA mandated a poison warning on toothpaste containing fluoride, as ingesting fluoride toothpaste can be fatal to children. This prompted Dr. Curatola to develop Revitin toothpaste (revitin.com), the first prebiotic oral care toothpaste designed to promote a healthy balance of your oral microbiome, the beneficial oral ecology that is essential to oral health. Containing vitamins, minerals and prebiotics in a gentle, natural base, Revitin is safe for children and adults to swallow. rejuvdentist.com; 212.355.4777

base. Other metal appliances such as retainers, partial dentures with metal bases and fixed metal orthodontic retainers are made with multiple alloys such as chromium cobalt which have been found to react with saliva, a mild electrolyte, and can be a source of heavy metal toxicity. Healthier alternatives are the newer all-ceramic (zirconia) crowns and bridges. 5. TITANIUM METAL IMPLANTS: New research has shown these metal implants to be inflammatory to the human body. In addition to causing peri-implantitis in gum tissue, studies have shown most titanium implants are a source of endotoxin production, bacteria and bacterial byproducts. The latest research showed titanium particles from implants can be deposited throughout the body, including the kidneys, liver and lungs. A better biologic alternative is zirconia (ceramic) implants. They take longer to integrate and are more difficult to restore, but do not demonstrate the effects of titanium metal. 6. ROOT CANALS: A highly controversial dental treatment, root canals have been shown to be a source of endotoxin production in multiple clinical studies. Endotoxins are linked to systemic illness and the production of surrounding jaw cavitations. Clinical studies have also demonstrated that many root canal teeth trigger an overactive immune response in the body, causing negative health impacts. Existing root canals in teeth should be monitored for signs of cavitations and failure. 7. BPA-CONTAINING COMPOSITE FILLINGS: These traditional tooth-colored composite resins contain a BPA-containing chemical compound known as bisphenol A-glycidyl methacrylate (Bis-GMA resin). BPAs are powerful endocrine disruptors and have been linked to thyroid, breast, cervical and prostate cancers. A study in children who had BPAcontaining composite sealants demonstrated a strong xxx 52

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A Shelter Island favorite gets refreshed, recharged and reimagined BY KATHLEEN BOYES a suggestion for every meal, while the mixologists keep it fresh with daily offerings at the newly installed vintage maple wood carved bar. The drinks’ flavors and garnishes often come straight from the organic gardens. Paramount to Carter is The Rams Head Inn’s wellness program, for which she has hired Troy Mills as wellness director. Carter has a broad view of what wellness means: “Wellness is everything from yoga to centering and managing your stress level to enjoying sunset artisan cocktails and dancing till midnight. We’re all part sinners and saints. Life wouldn’t be fun if we didn’t mix it up.” Carter ensures that no two weeknights are the same: Sunday is live jazz. Monday, competitive trivia. Thursday is Oyster Flight night, where three local oyster farmers offer their freshest, and Friday wraps it up with live music and dancing. “We have a unique opportunity to educate here as well,” Carter continues. “Since we grow so much of our own produce, our agriculture director Arielle Gardner is happy to give Q&A tours of her work and we invite you to join our free weekly Aquaculture Educational Tasting Club, as part of our partnership with the Cornell Cooperative Extension Marine Program.” There’s even more to enjoy here: fireside chats—indoor or outdoor—featuring authors, directors, newsmakers and other interesting personalities, as well as regular disco nights and family holiday-themed festivities. The Inn’s Instagram account is updated daily with up-and-coming events. “The Rams Head Inn is part of so many families’ histories and stories, with the hundreds of weddings and celebrations having been held here. My vision is to continue that heritage. To have people come in groups— couples, families of every generation, workmates—maybe stay for an overnight or two, and let everyone find their own way. People have different needs. You have the person who has to have her daily yoga fix, and another who wants to stare out into the water and do absolutely nothing. Then you have the nature buffs and those who want to pick up a weighted Hoopla Hoop and find their inner child. Your time here can be as spontaneous or planned as you want. This is a place where everyone is invited to create their own story.” theramsheadinn.com

Most people would be intimidated taking over a beloved 100-year-old Shelter Island establishment. Not Aandrea Carter. “I love that The Rams Head Inn came with character, history and a soul,” she says. “The challenge was how to respect and embrace that, but freshen it for modern times. I spent this past year putting some lipstick and rouge on the lady, and now she’s ready to dance.” Carter didn’t focus on one thing in restoring the place; she refreshed everything, addressing every mood, need, want and desire. First, there’s the new brighter, lighter look of The Rams Head Inn’s main rooms, with their glossy white walls and bleached floors, filled with blue and white upholstered wingback chairs and sofas. Crystal sconces and oversize vintage mirrors grace most walls. All 17 guest rooms have also been updated and individualized with an airy touch. Yet for Carter, refreshing The Rams Head Inn was more about the many experiences offered than the chic new decor. “For me, The Rams Head Inn is about creating your own experience. I want you to star in your own movie, whether you choose a Dirty Dancing summer vibe, or a more elegant, Great Gatsby approach,” says Carter, the sole owner of The Rams Head Inn. “Every moment is a scene, and the idea is you can go from one to the other, be it chilling out or revving up. It’s all here.” For most East Enders, Shelter Island is more of a destination than just a place to enjoy a meal. Rams Head Inn invites you to spend some time here. Whether you arrive by boat or on the ferry with your car, day or evening, something, somewhere on The Rams Head Inn’s 4.5 acres is calling your name. It could be an invigorating water sport—paddleboarding or kayaking—taking a curated picnic basket on a nearby nature trail, lounging on one of the roomy beachside beds or sharing a glass of wine while sitting on one of The Rams Head Inn’s signature white Adirondack chairs that dot the expansive lawn. If you do come just for a meal, however, you won’t be disappointed. The menu features healthy farm/seato-table eating. Lunch is served waterside every day, while the weekends bring leisurely brunches on the Inn’s veranda. At night, Executive Chef Joe Smith creates dishes using ingredients grown on the property or caught in the waters by it as much as possible. The new sommelier has 57

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FIND YOUR ME TIME their daily lives. “Think of Wellness was once narrowly it as a daily diagnostic viewed as diet and fitness. systems check,” he adds. While a great start, that “It is vital to separate our fails to address anything doing (occupation) from beyond the physical, says our being (authentic Troy Mills, the new wellness self). There’s no better director at The Rams Head way to reduce stress than Inn. Having experienced unplugging. Turn off your the gamut from world-class phone. Be in the present. private clubs and idealistic Turn on some music and destination spas to spartan enjoy whatever helps you vegan yoga retreats, Mills relax, while moving your feels if a person does not body. Consistency is key. enjoy what they are doing, The Great Lawn at The Balance is everything.” they are not going to keep Rams Head Inn offers When Mills met Aandrea it up. a tranquil setting for wellness experiences. Carter, the owner of The “I call it ‘me time’—it is Rams Head Inn, it was my vision for everyone to apparent they shared similar visions of turn off their phone and engage wellness. “The Rams Head Inn is the ideal in a series of breath-rhythmic place to launch my practice. When movements that heal the body I share that my Hamptons summers while calming the mind,” he are similar to my time in India, people explains. “The No. 1 thing I hear is give me the most puzzled looks! No people ‘shoulding’ themselves. television, no computer, I am completely People love to say they know they unplugged, spending my time with should eat better…they should do nature and eating farm-to-table. Being their practice, they just don’t have Outdoor yoga led by Troy Mills at The Rams Head Inn is the epitome of the time. The me-time practice clean and simple living, while spending finds the time by piggybacking genuine quality time with loved ones and enjoying nature. healthful movements onto things you are already doing.” If that isn’t health and wellness, I don’t know what is!” Mills says it was years of downtime rehabilitating from a car accident that inspired the exploratory movements that CLASS SCHEDULE shaped his philosophy and practice. A native Floridian who RAMS HEAD SIGNATURE FLOW, Saturday + Sunday 10AM has traveled the world in pursuit of traditional and esoteric yogic practices, Mills worked for 20 years at Mar-a-Lago and Revitalizing flow; all levels welcome. founded the program at the International Polo Club, working ME TIME, Sunday 5PM Building blocks to create your daily sustainable practice. with countless celebrities, musicians, and professional and MONDAY MORNING RESET, 10AM Olympic athletes. “My healing practice is about centering Refresh and recenter for the week ahead. and reconnecting. I refer to it as ‘non-aptitude based,’ RETREATS meaning it is not about perfecting a pose or touching your The Rams Head Inn now offers personalized retreats toes, but rather, unraveling physical and mental tensions, designed to align your physical, mental and spiritual health while reflecting on your day.” to help build a sustainable lifestyle practice. Guided threeMills’ yogic teachings draw from the strengthening and night wellness journeys are especially curated to leave fluidity of Ashtanga, the balance and focus of Bikram, guests feeling rested and ready to honor their practice. and the flexibility and spiritual elements of Sivananda. Summer Upper, Aug. 8–10: A reminder on how to keep the Seeking not to reinvent the wheel, Mills is passionate about “health” in healthy fun, with a reboot to get back on track. reaching those who do not have a practice, and giving wellness@theramsheadinn.com; theramsheadinn.com them something sustainable that will benefit and enrich 58

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SUSPENSE, INK Teresa Sorkin and Tullan Holmqvist join forces on a cinematically spellbinding page-turner. BY JULIA SZABO • PHOTOGRAPHY BY MIKEY DeTEMPLE

“When I put together a story, I’m always thinking: how can it be turned into a series or film?” Praised for their cinematic writing style (“As dawn slowly broke through the darkness, a scream tore through the house”) both authors have film backgrounds: Sorkin as a producer, founder of Roman Way Productions and former Weinstein exec, and Holmqvist as an actress who’s also a private investigator, “which helps with all the procedural details,” explains Sorkin, “while I bring more of the atmospheric feel.” Alfred Hitchcock, the Master of Suspense, is a hero to Sorkin and Holmqvist, who prioritize plot twists with a relentless momentum to do Hitch proud: a room locked for years is unlocked…the person who opens it (Kate and Lacie’s mother) is found dead, by long-standing caretakers who may or may not stay on… Kate vows to sell the house after one last summer stay with her family and friends…among those friends is one whom Kate once rescued from a drunken night in jail, proving her therapist’s theory that Kate “was still desperately trying to save her sister, and any friend needing her triggered that.” Not since Boileau-Narcejac—the French writing duo behind the novel D’Entre les Morts, which became Hitchcock’s Vertigo—have authors collaborated to psych out readers with such film-friendly results. Here’s how Publishers Weekly rates Lacie’s Secrets: “The authors keep the suspense high as they slowly dole out the mansion’s sinister secrets.” And indeed they do, savoring each plot twist until the reader can’t fathom finding one more wrinkle in the yarn. “When I’m reading and I can easily figure out what’s going to happen, I get bored,” Sorkin says. “So we make sure to work with twists that our readers won’t see coming.”

At the height of the pandemic, home was everyone’s safe haven in the viral storm. But what if home were actually more menace than comfort? That’s the premise of Lacie’s Secrets, the new psychological thriller from acclaimed gothic novelists Teresa Sorkin and Tullan Holmqvist (who also co-wrote Teresa Sorkin cites the 2019’s The Woman in works of Stephen King the Park). Ostensibly, and Shirley Jackson as influences for her new the story’s heroine is psychological thriller. Kate Williams, who undertakes a trip from Connecticut to her family’s vacation home in Maine— the site of the mysterious disappearance, two decades earlier, of Kate’s sister Lacie. The force to be reckoned with in these 320 fast-turning pages isn’t the protagonist, or her secretive sibling, or even an eerily ubiquitous lady shrink (who also features in The Woman in the Park); it’s the house itself, called Villa Magda (named for Kate’s great-grandmother). “The house is a big character—probably the biggest in the book,” says Sorkin. Its remote fictional location, in the very real Pine Tree State, is a nod to Stephen King, who pioneered the ready-forits-close-up novel; together, Sorkin and Holmqvist have left their mark on the genre, with spooky shades of Shirley Jackson’s The Haunting of Hill House, plus a feminist spin that slays their loyal readership (in a good way). Hosting Kate, her husband and son, plus a close-knit group of their friends for one highly eventful week, Villa Magda can hardly contain her malevolent intent. As the days progress, inexplicable incidents and unsettling visitors begin to unravel Kate’s peace of mind, as the gorgeous oceanfront property proves far more petrifying than picturesque. The tone is set with the opening paragraph, which reveals a dead body floating in the pool. Sorkin doesn’t so much write books as visualize them: 60

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ARTIST FILE The next wave: sustainable surf art from Lindsay Bardwil.

Name: Lindsay Bardwil Age: 36 Current Residence: Montauk, New York Driving Force: To create a positive effect not only on the physical world around me, but in the psyche of everyone who experiences my work. I strive to have my creations emulate the emotional and physical sensations that we experience when we go into nature, such as serenity, awe, relief and inspiration. Perhaps if we are reminded of those feelings, and are inspired to participate in spending more time physically in the environment, we will remember the importance of the natural world we live in, and strive to protect and heal it. The Work: My solo exhibition at the Montauk Beach House comprises all works that were created on repurposed objects, surfboards and canvases. The majority of the materials used are natural and from the Earth, more specifically stones, sand, and shells that I gather from the seashore near my home. I am endlessly inspired by the beauty and purity of the environment I live in, and the colors and textures I’m surrounded by. How do your surroundings affect your creative process? My surroundings are vital to my creative process. I do the majority of my creating outside, no matter what time of year it is. It is the most important and meaningful part of the creation process for me to be connected with nature and the

elements. Living in a place where I have access and space to be able to do that has allowed me to connect to the work I’m doing in a deeper and more gratifying way. Art as a form of wellness: Art is an extremely effective and positive avenue for our overall wellness, especially in the space of mental health. Creativity can allow us an outlet for introspection, healing and energetic release that doesn’t necessarily require verbal articulation, which is often the most difficult part of the process for some. Human beings are innately creators by nature, so utilizing this part of ourselves can provide a simple and fun form of wellness. Art absolutely has the power to heal and effect change. What’s next? I’m excited to continue my journey toward creating artwork in a more sustainable and forwardthinking process. With each series I create, I am getting closer to using completely organic and repurposed materials, while also moving toward a process that creates zero waste. Bardwil’s solo show, Paradise, at The Montauk Beach House is on view through Memorial Day weekend. The viewing party is Friday, May 27, from 6-9PM. 62

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“Sea Royalty,” 2021 sand, stones, shells, mica, quartz crystal, acrylic paint, lacquer on repurposed surfboard 72 x 21 inches

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“Everything you put in your body is critical. How you move is critical. Sleep is an elixir, and water is an elixir. Your health is a process, and it shifts throughout your lifetime.” –Dr. Stacie J. Stephenson, integrative medicine specialist and author of Vibrant

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THE GIFT OF GIVING Dr. Stacie J. Stephenson on how the philanthropic drive can lead to more vibrant living. things that people say have no science behind them. Talk a little bit about this research that you’ve done as a longtime doctor, and what you’ve discovered. SS: It’s a miscommunication that took root decades ago. So for example, let’s say you were seeing a holistic nutritionist for a medi“Animals’ presence is cal concern or just weight calming, balancing loss. Then you later saw a and healing,” says typical Western doctor, and Dr. Stephenson. you told them the nutritionist had given you a detoxifying drink and some essential oils. Western medicine will typically say that we can try all that, but it’s not researched. Here’s the thing: A) It is. B) You have to look under the covers a little bit more, and see that holistic practitioners are utilizing research from the foundations of science. Also remember that there were human beings through the centuries who didn’t have laboratory science, who still made decisions for their health and helped others.

CRISTINA CUOMO: So good to see you. I’ve been adhering to much of your wisdom from your book, as well as your new Vibrant section in Purist, which debuted in our spring 2022 issue. Let’s talk about vibrant giving. Giving has such an incredible impact on not just our community, but on oneself. Let’s go back to the beginning with you. Tell me what “vibrant” means to you? STACIE J. STEPHENSON: Vibrant encompasses so much for me, but it’s truly a lifestyle and a state of being. I’m so proud of the entire integrative wellness movement in this country. Living authentically is vibrance, from what you do, to what you eat, to how you move. The giving aspect is important, because we’re at our best when we’re helping others. CC: Human connection is so important to nurturing that vibrancy and feeding our soul. You’re a big giver. A doctor is the most noble profession. You’re engaged 24/7. But you also have created a vibrant community where you’re celebrating different organizations and finding pathways to help others in deeper and more meaningful ways. One of the things you’ve created with your husband is the Gateway Celebrity Fight Night. I know that took place in March. SS: There’s a rich history of giving in Celebrity Fight Night. It all began with Muhammad Ali and his friends who came together to raise money for Parkinson’s disease 28 years ago. It was like a goofy thing, honestly, where they were goofing around with their friends to raise money. They had no knowledge of philanthropy or organizing; it’s funny to see the old pictures. Fast-forward to now, after Muhammad’s passing six years ago. Fight Night needed a new home. We decided to do some work with the group, and we’d transition it to becoming a part of Gateway for Cancer Research, which currently has 71 clinical cancer trials ongoing. We raised $5 million—not too bad for something fresh out the gate.

CC: The foundation of one’s personal well-being is this idea of relationships, community, connection and giving to others, because it does fortify you on every level. The personalized nutrition program that you create for people has to be individualized because everyone’s immunity, gut, allergies, are all different. That’s key to what you’ve created with your VibrantDoc program. You probably have a ton of patients asking you “What’s the one thing I should do?” and there’s no one thing. Probably besides drinking tons of

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CC: Let’s talk about your book, Vibrant: A Groundbreaking Program to Get Energized, Own Your Health, and Glow. What do you believe are the root causes of things and what are the effects on mental health, and the physical body? SS: Everything you put in your body is critical. How you move your body is critical. We’re exposed to a lot of fads right now, and it’s hard for people to filter through those. People ask me to tell them about a specific diet or exercise that works best. You have to figure it out on an individual basis. My hope in Vibrant was to give people an easy-to-read bible for taking care of their body, so they can then branch out.

SS: It would be so interesting to do a study on the microbiome of physicians. We are exposed to so much! Obviously, we get sick. But I want to say this too: I fell down too, no doubt about it. There are times in my life where I’ve been burning the candle at both ends and paying the price. I haven’t had a severe chronic illness in my adult life, but I know what it’s like to be gaining more weight than I should, falling off my fitness program, all that. Probably the worst health effects for me have been because of bad relationships. That’s when I crashed in my life, from a complete crash in hormones during my divorce over a decade-and-a-half ago. When I tested my hormones during that time, I had nothing. No cortisol, progesterone, my thyroid was down. I looked like an 85-year-old woman! You can’t survive like that. I was still seeing people all day and doing my radio program. People are resilient. But there’s a price. We aren’t designed to be adapting and resilient for long periods of time. We’re exquisitely designed for short-run adaptations.

water and getting tons of sleep. SS: Sleep is an elixir, and water is an elixir. It’s human nature to want to get the “right” answer. So I also encourage people to keep working at it, because your health is a process and it shifts throughout your lifetime. It can depend on your exposure, the places you live geographically, things you’ve eaten, how your food is grown. But at the end of the day, people know what the key item is. My personal program has changed—I would call it editing and adjusting. CC: May is Mental Health Awareness Month. A big part of being vibrant is tapping into your inner energy to boost mental acuity, foster mental health and eradicate depression. How can we align our energy so we can begin that? SS: We think of energy as the capability to get things done and experience aliveness in the body. Each morning, I check in with my energy and I know within moments where I’m modulated, and where I’ve awakened from an

“If you’re healthy, you can see it in your skin. It’s a constantly regenerative organ. When your energetics are functioning, and you’re on the right diet, and when you’re hydrated and sleeping well, that’s your glow.” CC: How do you double down on your wellness when you’re going through something like that? SS: You do a little bit. Whatever you can. You ask people to help you instead of lifting everything yourself. That was a very hard lesson for me to learn. I’m a doer.

energetic perspective. We have these tiny organs within every cell of our body that form an energy called ATP, and that is our gasoline. Then there is the component of energy most studied by neurologists, chiropractic physicians and neurosurgeons. They see energy as the force that moves your muscles, your biological functions, your brain and spinal cord. The third piece is the ethereal, from the Eastern realm of acupuncture, energy medicine, lymphatic medicine. The other part of energetics is the spiritual part of your life. You have to decide where you want to engage spiritually.

CC: Human connection is more important than ever. Even if you don’t want to hear from people, friends and family and loved ones can be very helpful. SS: Very helpful. We’re talking about giving, and one of the most beautiful things about giving is when someone gives you a gift without asking you. Let’s say you’re struggling with an illness, and they give you some lovely food for a few days to support your nutrition, and they didn’t ask you what you wanted, they just did it.

CC: You say that “vibrant = energy + glow.” Talk about what glow is. SS: There were times where I would never wear makeup in the clinic, and it was a really good trick, because I’d want to show people I worked with that you don’t need all of that if you’re healthy. If you’re healthy, you can see it in your skin. It’s a constantly regenerative organ that we all reveal to each other. When your energetics are functioning, and you’re on the right diet, and when you’re hydrated and sleeping well, that’s your glow.

CC: What is your formula for success, what’s your physical and nutritional protocol? What’s your triad? SS: I’m very fruits-and-greens based. I’m gluten and dairy free. I’ve been doing that for about 15 years. A lowinflammatory diet. My fitness go-to is yoga, meditation and light weight-training. I’ve naturally always been a faster. Acupuncture is a huge part of my personal arsenal. I use it for energetic maintenance, boosting chi and clearing energetic channels. I also love far-infrared right now, and massage. vibrantdoc.com

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REPLENISHING ENERGY The greater your inner resources, the more you have to give. BY DR. STACIE J. STEPHENSON

VIBRANT CHICKEN AND RADISH SKILLET WITH SAUTEED POWER GREENS

Chicken paired with radishes offers a wholesome dose of protein and antioxidants.

your energy, you can compromise your quality of life, not to mention your health. The more energy and inner resources you have, the more you have to give. Remember that! Focus on bringing enough of the things you need into your life: enough love, support, friendship, nature, romance, family, fulfilling work, “you time” and the foundations for building energy and health, like eating to nourish yourself and exercising to generate more energy and physical resources like strength and a positive mindset. How will you give to yourself? There are many ways, and it depends on what you personally feel you need. Maybe it’s peace of mind and clarity of thought, which you can cultivate through a meditation or prayer practice. Maybe it’s setting some time aside to do something just for you, like read a book or cook yourself a delicious meal. (I’m including a recipe for Vibrant Chicken that’s a great way to say goodbye to the cooler spring weather

SERVES 4 INGREDIENTS For chicken: 1 pound chicken breast tenderloins or regular chicken breast 1 teaspoon dried oregano 1 teaspoon dried basil ¼ teaspoon dried marjoram ½ teaspoon garlic powder ¼ teaspoon smoked paprika 1 teaspoon lemon juice 1 tablespoon organic olive or avocado oil For radishes: 2 bunches fresh radishes (about 20), halved 1 tablespoon high-quality organic balsamic vinegar ¼ cup bone broth For power greens: 1 pound fresh power greens (can substitute spinach, kale or a mixture) 1 garlic clove, chopped

before we move to fresh fish summer.) Whatever it is that will keep your energy reserves topped up, make sure that you don’t forget, or put it off, or assume that there’ll be another, less stressful, calmer day (as we all know, those days can be few and far between). Giving “until it hurts” is a guaranteed way to ensure that you won’t be giving for long. If your bucket is empty, those who might have benefited from your gifts will do without. Doing good for others connects you to others, strengthens relationships (which are a disgracefully overlooked aspect of overall health), and creates the sort of pride, confidence and well-being that can otherwise feel elusive. There’s an old saying: “There is no better satisfaction than a job well done.” I’d argue that there is one greater satisfaction, and that’s a job well done in service of others. Do what you can, because you can and because you want to. That’s vibrant giving.

INSTRUCTIONS 1. Place chicken in a nonreactive (glass or stainless steel) mixing bowl; stir in remaining chicken ingredients and let marinate for 15 minutes. 2. In another bowl, stir together the radishes, vinegar and bone broth. 3. Warm a large cast-iron skillet on the stove over medium-high heat, then drizzle with a bit of oil or coat with cooking spray. 4. Add the chicken to the skillet; saute for 6 minutes on each side or until cooked through. Remove chicken from the skillet; set aside. 5. Add the radishes to the skillet; stir to deglaze the pan. Once radishes are slightly browned, stir in the greens and garlic. 6. Return chicken to skillet; cook for an additional 2 to 3 minutes. 7. Season with sea salt and fresh ground pepper to taste. Remove chicken to a cutting board and slice. Divide radishes and greens between serving plates; top with chicken to serve.

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To me, being vibrant is all about energy. To be vibrant is to have all the energy you need to do everything you want to do and dream of doing with your life. People who are vibrant give off a sense of being full of lightness and the vibration of positive energy, because they are carried along by a fountain of energy. But an essential part of living vibrantly is sharing that energy, because you live in a way that allows you to have so much energy to give, whether that’s through philanthropy, volunteering or even just delivering kindness to others. But remember that you also need to give to yourself, or you can become depleted and unable to give fruitfully. As the saying goes, “Put on your own oxygen mask first, before helping others.” Women so often give and give until they are drained of both energy and resources. For some of us, it’s all too easy to put all our energy into other people, but when you forget to allot time to focus on yourself and replenish

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WHAT HAPPENED TO THE HEAVYWEIGHTS? When Norman Mailer took his son to meet Muhammad Ali, Ali was the heavyweight champ of the world. Michael Mailer reflects on when giants danced, and championship titles were real. Ali was a champion of Celebrity Fight Night, the charitable organization that has raised funds for a variety of causes for over 25 years. The organization is now helmed by Dr. Stacie J. Stephenson and her husband, Richard J Stephenson, both of whom sit on Gateway Celebrity Fight Night’s board of directors. On March 12, Celebrity Fight Night raised over $4 million for cancer research. BY MICHAEL MAILER

Who is the heavyweight champion of the world? Who is the greatest? Who floats like a butterfly and stings like a bee? Can you embrace him? Can you even name him? I can’t, and I grew up a fan and a practitioner of the sport. Growing up in Brooklyn, we used to compare ourselves to the greats: Muhammad Ali, Joe Frazier, Rocky Marciano, Joe Louis, Jack Dempsey. The list went on. Never did a main event, a heavyweight title fight, escape our attention that we wouldn’t hang out on the stoops till late afternoon arguing who was going to take whom, in what round, and with what kind of punch or combination thereof. Occasionally a lighter-weight division champ would enter the dialogue, but it was the heavyweights by whom you’d measure yourself. If your man was the man, then you were, too; if he got knocked out or dethroned, you were toast. That is, till the next main event gave you a chance to realign your identity. Indeed, the heavyweight champs were gods, and in the case of Muhammad Ali, perhaps God himself. He was not only the self-declared greatest, he was the greatest! A deity is perhaps second only to J.C. in name popularity—maybe even greater, as the Chinese knew Ali before they knew Jesus. But that was before the invention of what’s commonly referred to as “alphabet soup”: a smorgasbord of sanctioning bodies (organizations empowered to declare champions) that sprang from the void like the mythic Gilgamesh. After all, if you could imagine a “champ,” even on paper, then a “title” was on the line and more money was to be made. It worked for a while. Initially when the boxing world splintered into three groups—WBA, WBC and IBF—it was a

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to drum up hype for the fight but I didn’t quite challenge to see who could unify the title. Mike believe it. There was a melancholic look in Ali’s Tyson succeeded and had the greater glory for eyes that spelled a quiet defeat. it, but as soon as he accomplished that feat, it When Ali disappeared into the dressing seemed like several more boxing organizations room, we were plucked from our seats and sprung up in his wake to offer their own title ushered into his inner sanctum with a few holders. Before long the sport—at least in the trusted confidants. My dad and Ali heavyweight division—diluted itself exchanged warm but quiet hellos. into near nonexistence. And the They had shared some meaningful heavyweight gods disappeared. moments over the years, the AliBut that’s now. Back in the Foreman fight being one of them, day, it was a very different story. I but mirth was not the tenor of the remember as a boy my father took moment. As Ali disrobed he suddenly me to Ali’s training camp in Deer took notice of my presence—I was Lake, Pennsylvania. Ali was training the only kid in the room and he must for the first Leon Spinks fight, and have been amused by the wide-eyed it was a chance to meet my hero stare of this youngster beholding his face-to-face. As we passed through wonderful nakedness. “He’s my son,” the gates of his estate, we drove my dad proudly proclaimed, pushing up a long driveway lined with white me forward to meet the Great One. rocks emblazoned with the names Before I knew it, I was propelled onto of former heavyweight champions. the couch next to Ali, and his dark It was like traveling up the road to mood evaporated. He couldn’t help Mount Olympus, and the anticipation himself. He genuinely liked kids and in meeting Zeus himself was palpable started hamboning me. I was petrified enough to spread with a knife. but went along with it. At least by now We pulled into the compound and he’d put on a pair of pants. It was hard were escorted into the gym facility enough sitting next to a god, but a and placed in seats beside the ring. naked one? It was too mind-bending The room was filled with press, trainees for my preadolescent brain. and fans. A large, brooding sparring A month later, Ali lost to Leon Spinks. partner climbed into the ring and The Fight by Norman It was a split decision, but he’d clearly lost. Spinks started stretching. Ali showed up without much Mailer; Michael with Ali; was the new heavyweight champion of the world fanfare—but he didn’t need any introduction. two heavyweights and no one quite believed it—least of all Spinks Everyone leaned forward and whispered as the himself. I remember weeping in disbelief. And it seemed that champ weaved gingerly between the ropes and entered everyone in attendance as the camera panned the arena the ring. He was fully adorned in headgear. He threw a full obligatory warmup punch and showed off a sluggish version was weeping as well. It was the end of an era, the end of boxing on a rarefied level—boxing as we all knew it. of his famous footwork. Then the bell rang. The sparring Ali, of course, came back and won the rematch. But he partner pursued Ali with the languor of a gorged lion, was a mere shadow of his former self, forced to box well throwing a few lazy jabs, which Ali blocked easily enough. It beyond his prime in order to support his sultanlike retinue. was almost as if they were following some choreographed For a number of years the sweet science continued in ballroom dance. So long as the sparring partner respected Ali’s absence, and a few great heavyweights followed (Mike his rhythms, the great Ali would float slowly and carefully. Tyson notably among them), but greed ultimately consumed Then the unthinkable happened. Someone forgot his the sport; everyone and their mother became an instant dance move, and Ali caught a short left hook to the chin champ, and the heavyweight division began to wither like a and went down. With stunned gasps the crowd watched Ali stillborn tree sterilized of fruit. slowly get up. The sparring partner went to his aid with near My father used to say to me, “If I could punch the way I dread on his face. Ali brushed him off and called an end write, I would be the heavyweight champion of the world.” to the sparring session. I turned to my dad with disbelieving Given the world of boxing today, I believe he would rethink eyes. Had this actually happened? Did my god just suffer the equation. the indignity of a knockdown? My father said it was a stunt 71

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When Armin & Judy sought a new home for their next Riviera-inspired rendezvous away from Manhattan, they were lured to the Hamptons. As pioneers in the New York City restaurant scene in the ’90s, with whimsical ideas of how a ’60s style Parisian bistro and a Balkan coastline taverna would coexist, they ushered in a new wave of clean Mediterranean lifestyle-inspired dining. They continue that legacy today in Bridgehampton. Armin and Judy restaurant and in-house retail bakery in Bridgehampton focus on the purity of the ingredients and cooking process, and are influenced by seasonal abundance and imaginative alternatives. Handmade pasta, in-house cured fish, charcuterie and homemade butter are intuitively embedded in a menu of local farm-fresh vegetables and cheese, the freshest sourced seafood, sustainably sourced meats, poultry, and our own eggs and honey. The bakers arrive before midnight to bake, and produce artisanal fermented sourdough bread, handmade croissant, pain au lait, brioche, almond croissant, ham and cheese croissant, ciabatta, challah and other specials, warm and steamy, to sell by 8AM. Over 120 hours of fermentation eliminates the harmful lectins and glutens found in flour, and is especially effective in the triple-fermented pizza dough. You’ll want to arrive early to enjoy the patisserie’s delights, including rugelach, tarte Tatin, Sablé Breton, Basque burnt cheesecake, French chocolate pudding, chocolate chip cookies, flourless Valrhona cake, lemon meringue Torch cake…and of course, her majesty, the baguette. 75

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ANOTHER SLICE OF HEAVEN Bridgehampton’s Dopo Il Ponte joins a trio of beloved Italian eateries on the East End. not exaggerating when The Dopo family of The bright new she says, “The olive oil is restaurants—Dopo La exterior of insanely good!” Close your Spiaggia in Sag Harbor Dopo Il Ponte eyes, taste its bouquet of and East Hampton, blended Leccino, Moand Dopo Argento in raiolo, Correggiolo and Southampton—are Frantoio olives, and feel all immersive cultural transported to the Umbrian experiences that take countryside. foodies on an edible Diverse regions of tour of various regions in Italy influence the bills of La Repubblica Italiana. fare, notably Milan and This seaside Little Italy is its environs, Marfoglia’s the passion project of first home. Guests nibble group managing partner at carasau flat bread Maurizio Marfoglia and glistening with olive oil, serial entrepreneurs and coarse salt and rosemary, choosing Hamptonites Larry and Maria Baum, among Ponte chef Fabio’s antipasti who look forward to Memorial Day, whose highlights include pesto when they throw open the doors to the Genovese (made with basil from Water newest nation-state joining the Dopo Mill’s Green Thumb Farms) and tritato, republic: Bridgehampton’s Dopo il an inspired veggie blend (arugula, Ponte, aka “Ponte” (Italian for bridge). endive, asparagus, hearts of palm, Guests will recognize the familiar faces Head bartender Kriss Anchia, Dopo Group managing partner Maurizio lima beans and olives)—popular with of Vlad, the house managing partner at Marfoglia, head chef Fabio Gutierrez vegetarians and carnivores alike, who Argento and chef Fabio from Argento. and managing partner Vlad Rozsypal. may consider following up with risotto The Italian eateries are vital pieces Giallo alla Milanese (saffron risotto), of Hamptons history, with firm roots in Maria and Carciofi alla Romana (stuffed artichokes East End lore. Dopo Argento’s name is a Larry Baum Roman style), branzino poached with respectful nod to the space’s previous tomato, spinach and white wine, local occupant, Silver’s restaurant in Southsea scallops with Umbrian lentil salad, ampton (argento is Italian for silver). or wood-fired local black sea bass with Dopo La Spiaggia translates to “After lemon and wild Sicilian oregano. the Beach,” and all four Dopos promise At the soon-to-open Ponte, post-sand-and-surf refreshment with a decorated with blue and orange that health-conscious twist. As a two-time Maria brought home from Deruta, an cancer survivor and former Wall Street existing pizza oven will be the hot heart executive, Maria Baum values customof the place, turning out authentic Neapolitan sourdough ers’ well-being: “Health and wellness are so important to pies.“We’re really excited about this,” Baum says. “We’ve me,” she says. “Everything we do, we try to make a little even got a Neapolitan pizzaiolo coming to make the better for you.” pizza we love so much.” In the future, a bocce court out Star players on the menu at all four locations are staback will replicate the one at the Baums’ Umbrian spread, ples of the Mediterranean diet: organic olive oil and black allowing patrons to enjoy the sport beloved by Italians summer truffles, both imported from the Baum family’s farm since ancient times. “We’ve all been stuck inside for so in Umbria (the couple acquired the property in 2017). “We long,” Baum says. “Now it’s time to get outside, laugh and are so lucky and so blessed to have these amazing ingrehave fun moments with family and friends.” dients right from our farm, which has been operating for over 250 years and has never used pesticides, ever.” Maria’s 2402 Montauk Hwy., Bridgehampton 76

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A new coffee-table book offers elegant interiors and seasonal recipes from a gilded age. Harbor interiors, textiles and antiques shop, Leede said she felt a kinship to Jane and Emily, who “inspired us with stunning images of tabletops and delicious food in gorgeous settings and great storytelling that made us laugh,” Leede says. “They deepen my closely held belief that beautifully imagined and thoughtfully run homes have the power to help us thrive in the bigger world.” Similar to their summering at Mirador, Leede learned how to live with largesse from having summered in Maine for about 20 years at Skylands, a house her family bought from the Ford family then sold to Martha Stewart. A source of ongoing inspiration, Skylands was decorated in a relaxed English A tablescape from country style with chintz and Entertaining in Style warm English antiques. “My store reflects a similar aesthetic to a good English country house,” Leede says. “From lighting to upholstery, everything feels comfortable, collected, soulful—and worthy of a story.” And that, too, is a point of connection with Jane Churchill and Nancy Astor, appreciated in Bob Colacello’s introduction to Entertaining in Style. Marvelous anecdotes reveal charm and classic wit, where some quips serve as chapter heads. For “Bread, Biscuits, & Cakes,” Nancy Astor: “Winston, If I were your wife, I’d put poison in your tea.” Winston Churchill: “Nancy, If I were your husband, I’d drink it.” For all that, the book’s food is humble—egg mousse, parsley soup, chicken gumbo, fishcakes—empowering recipes that say, speaking of batter, never mind if it’s lumpy. The photographs in Entertaining in Style may show glamour and grandeur worthy of royal families, or our own, but Nancy Astor’s thoughts on maintaining health and wellbeing keep it grounded: “We were very sensibly fed, with good plain food and plenty of it.”

Interior designer Jane Churchill won’t speak about her former “flatmate” Camilla Parker Bowles. Fortunately, and owing to the time afforded during COVID lockdown, Churchill and Emily Astor are more forthcoming on the subject of their own storied, historic families going back to Nancy Astor and Nancy Lancaster, residents of fine Gilded Agestyle houses on both shores. The two Nancys, both American born, married men of title (think Downton Abbey’s Lord Grantham and his American wife, Cora), and hosted lavishlooking dinners with beautifully appointed tables, fine china, in grandly furnished, be-gardened homes while working major careers. Nancy Astor was the first woman to take a seat in the House of Commons, while Nancy Lancaster became an interior designer of note. A recipe book, hand-typed, hand-bound and initialed W. A. (Waldorf Astor) on the front was the basis of Entertaining in Style: Nancy Astor and Nancy Lancaster: Table Settings, Recipes, Flower Arrangements, and Decorating, a coffee-table book published by Rizzoli. Having both spent childhoods summering at Mirador, near Charlottesville, Virginia, Jane Churchill and Emily Astor enliven keen memories, bringing the fineries of their youths close to home, and with copious research, honoring their forebears, accomplished women and renowned hostesses of “luxurious simplicity.” Luxurious simplicity! Now there’s an oxymoron East Enders can embrace. A one-day stop on their American book tour took the authors to Southampton and Sag Harbor. At the Southampton Club, friends and fans viewed archival photos of Winston Churchill, Cecil Beaton, Charlie Chaplin and Hermione Lee at tea on glorious lawns. At a book signing hosted by Katie Leede at her Sag 78

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Earth & Star founders Erica Huss and Zoë Sakoutis discuss the power of functional mushrooms and the brand’s new line of adaptogen-packed treats with Cristina Cuomo. CRISTINA CUOMO: Earth & Star is a functional mushroom company that brings the immune-supporting benefits of adaptogenic mushrooms into the daily routines of consumers through a full range of products like ground coffee (and delicious, ready-to-drink lattes), gummies and tinctures. Can you describe the process, so people understand why adaptogens are so important to our energy levels, and the other benefits? ERICA HUSS: Essentially, they help you adapt. We put them into everyday products, so it’s as easy as possible to have them in your system every day. Your body works in tandem with these ingredients to understand where you’re in need of support. CC: Can you break down the key benefits of these specific functional mushrooms that you incorporated as ingredients into your products? ZOË SAKOUTIS: There are 15 or so functional mushrooms that have been identified to have specific properties, which all have their own unique superpowers. Across the board, all of these functional mushrooms have one thing in common: They are immunomodulators. A lot of people have an overactive immune system, and they need to calm it down, and a lot of people have an underactive immune system, which can be dangerous with COVID still around. Lion’s mane, which got its name because it looks like a bushy white lion’s mane, helps cognitive function, focus and memory. Research shows that it may be able to help protect against dementia. Chaga, which typically grows on a birch tree, is insanely powerful when it comes to immune support. It’s said to have a thousand times more antioxidants

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than pomegranates and blueberries combined, so it really is a superfood. Reishi has very calming effects, which makes it ideal for when you’re struggling to chill or sleep; it’s also a great liver detoxifier, and it’s wonderful to take in the evening, because that’s when your liver detoxifies. Cordyceps are these long, stringy, orange, caterpillar-shaped mushrooms. They are associated with performance—a lot of athletes take it—and libido. Tremella looks like a loofah sponge. It’s this white, kind-of-squiggly mushroom 79

that’s incredible for your skin, hair and nails. It’s great for hydration. Shiitake is pretty much in the same camp; that’s why we combined them in the beauty tincture. CC: What makes Earth & Star different from other brands using adaptogens? ZS: The one thing a consumer really needs to be aware of and always look for on packaging is whether or not the mushroom extracts they are consuming are actual mushrooms. That’s also known as the fruiting body: the part of the mushroom that you see as the mushroom, as opposed to the mycelium, the root structure. Mycelium is great for many other things that usually have to do with environmental factors and textiles, like replacing leather and plastic. But when it comes to functional mushrooms and actually getting the polysaccharides, the beta-glucans—which is what gives you this great functionality that we’re talking about—that’s all concentrated from the actual mushroom. CC: The ingredients are really refined in your product line. The chocolate doesn’t have any added sugar. You have coconut sugar, coffee beans, cacao, and then the adaptogens. And everything’s organic. What was the process of selecting ingredients? ZS: First and foremost, you have to have a clean label. Everything took a very long time to develop and get the formulation down. We use plantbased oat milk, formulated from scratch. We don’t use any seed oils, gums or fillers. Everything is vegan. Across the board, our standards for everything we put into our products is super high. Use the code PURIST15 now through June 30 for 15% off sitewide at earthandstar.com.

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PRIMARY EATING essential thing here is “do” and not just “tell”—meaning, if you tell your child to eat their broccoli but don’t eat it yourself, then you are not acting as a positive model. Children will follow your actions more than your words. These healthy eating habits can dictate a child’s future health. Poor childhood nutrition, according to a 2018 study, is associated with an increased risk for high blood pressure, cardiovascular disease, diabetes, cancer, osteoporosis and hearing loss. According to the CDC, the empty calories from added sugars and saturated and trans fats make up as much as 40 percent of the diets of children between 2 and 18 years. Most young people do not meet the basic Recommended Dietary Allowance recommendations of fruits and vegetables. Joel Fuhrman, M.D., emphasizes in his book Disease-Proof Your Child: Feeding Kids Right that the foundation laid in childhood has implications throughout adulthood in terms of the functioning of the immune system. The habits made early on will be the habits that they will be more likely to have later in life. So how do we manage our busy schedules and find time for this all-important family meal? Here are some suggestions on how to make that happen: 1 Plan for it. Make that family time a priority. 2 Set a goal of at least three family meals per week. The more the better. Researchers have shown that having three to seven family meals per week yields the best results. 3 Involve your children and other family members in the cooking process. 4 Create a routine. For example, every Sunday night is family night. Or Tuesday night is taco night. These routines give all family members something they can both anticipate and depend on. 5 Make mealtime a safe zone. This is the time when you get together and discuss your day. I like to go around the table and do a “highs and lows” of the day. This is not a time for criticism. STANDwellness.com

I have emphasized the family meal since my children were babies. I felt that the family table was the best place for my children to learn manners, patience, the art of conversation and the importance of a shared meal. I see the meal as a time of nourishment, both from the food you eat and from the people who join you at the table. A 2012 research brief published by Cornell University states that children who engage in family mealtime appear to have better psychological and physiological outcomes. Family mealtime has been linked to lower levels of depression in young adults, as well as lower levels of delinquency, greater Savor time with academic achievement, kids during summer positive family interactions, vacation with seasonal dishes like improved psychological lobster bisque. well-being, less obesity and better food choices. Though some of the positive outcomes may be related in part to socioeconomic class, family structure and food security, family mealtime appears to take its place among the important tools parents can use to make their children feel safe and heard. Additionally, a study published in the American Journal of Pediatrics in 2011 found that those who engage in family meals are 35 percent less likely to have disordered eating, 24 percent more likely to eat healthier foods and 12 percent less likely to be overweight. The family meal, as implemented in my house, is one meal. You all eat together and you all eat the same thing. There is no difference between adult food and kid food. As parents, we are acting as food role models. In monkeysee, monkey-do fashion, children who watch their parents eat healthy foods will more likely be willing to eat them themselves. The family meal gives caregivers the unique opportunity to influence their child’s future eating habits by modeling good food behavior and a healthy attitude toward food. Children are like sponges. They soak up the behaviors of the people around them and imitate them. If you model a good attitude toward food and healthy eating habits, the child will pick up on that and imitate you. The 80

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piccata; and green chickpea hummus with local vegetables. The spa, too, is getting a boost. Farmaesthetics will offer massages and facials, while the fitness program, run by Marissa Ivana, the wellness director, has planned a series of appearances by fitness personalities such as Stephen Pasterino, founder of P.volve; Sarah Brooks, founder of Brooks Pilates Studio; and Ebenezer Samuel, fitness director for Men’s Health magazine and head of training innovation for FlexIt. Monthly fitness memberships are now available for the gym, pool and classes such as Sculpt and Swim, a hybrid that can be taken in the water or on land— but either way, participants are asked to dress in athletic wear. “We are keeping it classy; nobody will be in thongs or Speedos,” says Ivana. A former cheerleader, she has also introduced a high-energy sculpting class called Cheer, using pompoms along with mini trampolines and weights. “People feel like they are in college again,” she adds. “It’s the cardio class you never knew you needed. Everyone is smiling!” toppingrosehouse.com

Topping Rose House has long been one of the East End’s chicest hotels and dining spots, with its historic house, lush gardens, spectacular pool and firstrate massage services. Changes this season are taking Topping Rose House to another level. With a fresh coat of paint and sanded floors, “It looks brand-new, as if it were 1843 when it first opened,” says General Manager Joseph Montag. Even the grounds have expanded, with a rosé garden added that will host cocktail hours every Friday from 4:30 to 6:30. Along with libations, there will be complimentary Jean-Georges finger foods such as truffle pizza and crispy salmon sushi, as well as a live guitarist. The restaurant, Jean-Georges at Topping Jean-Georges Vongerichten Rose, has a new chef, Paul Eschbach, who ran Jean-Georges Vongerichten’s restaurants in China and Hong Kong for four years. “I am hitting a lot of the local farms, as well as fisheries, tapping into the community,” says Eschbach, currently planning sashimi and plateaux with local seafood, and specials such as cumin-rubbed lamb chops with cucumber yogurt; marinated and char-grilled Long Island duck; monkfish 81

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“We’re going to have a relationship with food for the rest of our lives, so the earlier we start on the right path, the easier the journey is going to be.” —Camila Alves McConaughey

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Model, mother and author Camila Alves McConaughey is inspiring a new generation of kids—and their parents—to make healthier food choices with her New York Times bestselling children’s book, Just Try One Bite, and her community-based website, Women of Today. Purist founder Cristina Cuomo gathers tips and tricks for motivating picky eaters from the Brazilian-born wife of actor and fellow author Matthew McConaughey.

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“Just Try One Bite was an expression of me trying to inspire people to do better for themselves, their families, their community. It was really important that the book wasn’t preachy. I wanted it to be fun.”

Cristina Cuomo: I’m so happy to be interviewing you about your bestselling children’s book, Just Try One Bite. It’s been very well received in my house. I have three kids, like you, so I know how hard it is to do anything with three kids, let alone start a business. Camila Alves McConaughey: Thank you so much. I think it’s important to start this conversation by saying that the book is a reminder to parents about the conversations to have around food—where it comes from, what’s good, what’s not. We’re going to have a relationship with food for the rest of our lives, so the earlier we start on the right path, the easier the journey is going to be. CC: Exactly. CAM: I come from a family of farmers. My dad is still a farmer today. We have a farm together in Brazil. To make extra money in the summer, we used to work on the farm. The journey from seed to table, the process of growing, and all of that was always clear to me. But we never had the conversation about sugar. That is the one thing that I struggle with. CC: It’s the most addictive thing, and almost impossible to wean yourself off. Do you cook with alternatives like coconut sugar or stevia, things that are lower on the glycemic index? CAM: I do. And then if we’re going to have a dessert, we have a real dessert, a real cake, whether we get it from a bakery that is making it from scratch, or we make it ourselves. When I bake, instead of using processed sugar, I will do monk fruit.

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CC: That’s a great natural sweetener. CAM: Yes, it’s better than overprocessed sugars, but the way your body processes it is very similar. I do use substitutes, but I try to keep those in moderation, too. CC: Just Try One Bite is actually quite hilarious. It’s kind of this role reversal where the parents are the perpetrators of eating too much sugar. It’s so important to educate kids about marketing gimmicks. What is it that’s giving you the energy in energy drinks? Vitamin water has a negligible amount of vitamins in it. Kids have to know that it’s important to read labels. CAM: It’s very important to teach kids how to read labels because a lot of them—even my kids—would say, “Oh, it’s zero sugar and this many calories.” I’d tell them, “No, time out, stop. We don’t look at the calories. As kids you don’t need to be worried about that.” It’s just about looking for real ingredients. The book was really an expression of me trying to inspire people to do better for themselves, their families, their community. My agent brought up [co-author]

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Adam Mansbach’s name, because he wrote Go The F**k to Sleep. It was really important that this book wasn’t preachy, that it wasn’t telling parents what to do. I wanted it to be fun, to have twists and turns. Adam really understood that.

CC: Eat the rainbow. CAM: Yes, exactly. And then the other important thing is to include the kids in the kitchen, but in a way that they can learn how the cooking process works. My first experience I had with my kids in the kitchen was with breakfast, making scrambled eggs and avocado toast. It’s so easy for a child to put together. It gets messy and fun, but all of a sudden they go, “Wow, I can actually cook a meal, and I understand where it came from. And now I’m going to sit down with my family and eat.”

CC: I know you came up with the ideas for the food choices as the mom who’s probably been through it with your own kids, struggling to get them to eat these healthier alternatives. But this writing is just so fun. ‘So, it’s straight off to bed and no stories tonight, or you could both try one tiny bite.’ How many times have we said that to our kids? CAM: Right, exactly. It’s got a little bit of a rap vibe to it, but the fun part is that it’s the kids telling the parents. What I’m hearing a lot from parents, grandparents and friends that are reading to the kids in their lives, is that now the kids are trying new things. They’re also coming to the adults and saying, “I know you can do better.”

CC: What is your favorite Brazilian recipe? Do they love pão de queijo? My 12-year-old daughter is obsessed with it. CAM: They love pão de queijo. My brother has a company in Brazil that makes pão de queijo, so when he comes over to visit, he brings a big cooler to fill up the freezer. CC: It’s gooey and delicious. It’s my favorite. CAM: You know, pão de queijo comes from my state in Brazil.

CC: It’s so important to invert that power dynamic. These kids, if you give them the right tools, will be empowered to educate their parents. Now, tell me a bit about Women of Today and the online community you’ve created. What was the evolution of this lifestyle, foodie, recipe Instagram community? CAM: Women of Today is a website, an online community dedicated to doing better for themselves and their families. The idea of the website was really to create a community where we learn from each other. You see so many recipes on Women of Today because that’s what the community asks for. So, if you want to share something, you can send an email to info@womenoftoday.com. You can participate in our events, and communicate with us through Instagram and messages on Facebook.

CC: Oh, it does? What is your state? CAM: Belo Horizonte, which is in Minas Gerais. CC: What are some guiding principles you’ve used along the way as a mom, words of wisdom that perhaps your mother instilled in you? CAM: Respect yourself, and you’ll respect others. Do to others what you want done to you. Always tell the truth. In Brazil we say, “mentiras tienen patas corta” (“lies have short legs”). And we talk about that a lot—you think you are getting away with something, but eventually it’s going to come out. I’m big on independence with the kids. I think it’s because I left home at an early age and I had to find my independence in a different country and fight for it and work really hard for it.

CC: As the expert mom bringing nutrition to the dining table every day, what are some tips and tricks for the picky eaters you have at home? CAM: My three kids are very different, their tastes are very different. My little one recently went through a stage where he would only eat black beans. That’s it, to the point where I was calling the doctor saying, “I don’t know if this kid is getting all the nutrition he needs.” I started to incorporate different colors on my son’s plate, telling him, “You have to try at least three colors.” I remember the first time that he grabbed red bell peppers and started eating them. I was looking across the table at my husband, going, “Don’t say a word. Don’t look.” Playing the game of eating your colors can really be helpful. If you are introducing new foods, introduce them one at a time, with

CC: You started this month on your Instagram by encouraging people to set a new goal, and your goal is to dance more often this month. Have you danced since you set that intention? CAM: I have danced more. We just had our big charity event that we do in Austin, called Mack, Jack & McConaughey. It benefits kids and our Just Keep Livin Foundation. The second night, we danced and then had a fashion show. Stella McCartney was the designer. CC: I saw that. That looked great. 88

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CAM: Yeah, there was great music there. My goal now is to dance more around the house. Wake up with music. I used to wake up the kids with music and then start dancing throughout the morning and the day, and I kind of stopped it. I don’t know why. I’ve got to go back to it.

lovely to see how it all comes together. CAM: Being on The New York Times bestseller list was a big surprise for me. When I first moved here, I spoke three sentences in English, and that was it. To have a book on a bookshelf in a store is surreal. But to find out that Matthew and I were both on the list in the same week was a big deal. We were together when we found out. Our oldest son was with us, but our two youngest were not, and we got to celebrate, the three of us, and then I told Matthew, “You know what? We’ve got to teach the kids to also give joy for every win that we have, no matter what it is.” And so he called the kids and talked to them, and they decorated the house and did a whole surprise when we came home, so that was really sweet. We got to celebrate properly. womenoftoday.com

CC: My daughter loves an app called Calm—that’s how she gets to herself to sleep every night. Your husband narrates a lot of the books on the Calm app. He’s got a calm voice. I’m thinking he must be very proud of his wife right now. You reached the bestseller list, much like he did with his own insights-on-life book called Greenlights. So, how is that dynamic at home? You’re both bestselling authors now. You’re both parents. A lot of couples aren’t that committed to all the things around them. It’s really 89

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from one paddock to the next—sections of farm are divided up like a checkerboard so the herds briefly impact one section of land at a time, helping the deep-rooted perennial grasses grow—it feels like normal time has dissolved. The river of sleek-coated, majestic animals looks primal and prehistoric as it moves across the emerald pasture with egrets the color of toasted marshmallows darting above it, a sign of ecological health. Hours later, flocks of chickens, pecking at the earth for grubs, catch the golden light with their feathers like movie stars at Cabo before retreating into their movable houses for the night, shaggy guardian dogs patrolling the edges of their terrain. During a torrential rainstorm—I am quite certain it’s a Category 5, but Will Harris III, the farm’s owner, calls

aking up on one of the world’s best-known regenerative farms is a unique sensory experience. First, the sounds: an eerie cacophony of the bellows of thousands of cattle floating on the mist that has transpired on the kneehigh pasture outside my guest cabin. Then, the touch of dew-soaked pants on my skin from a pre-coffee amble, as the carpet of cattle fodder transfers its humidity to my skin. But most of all, the sight of green upon green, so many hues even a professional writer’s words fail to do it justice. This is what a farm that works with nature, not against it, looks like in the coastal plains of southwest Georgia. It’s exciting to get this intimate with farm life. Up close with the herds of cattle that have just moved, en masse, 91

it “a good rain”—a mama goat shelters her baby under hedgerows, just fine with the elements despite my nervous misgivings. Life with its constant turning of growth, death, decay and regrowth is everywhere. It’s a very different picture from neighboring fields, where intensive row-crop farming using tillage and chemicals have left expanses of terra-cotta-colored subsoil exposed and baking in the brutal sun. Harris likes to talk about nature and the cycles that drive its abundance. Humans have tried to tamper with nature, to improve it, manipulate and better it in the quest for cheaper, faster food. But we are nothing, really, compared to its awesome force. Nature always bats last. I came to White Oak Pastures, a sixth-generation operation (not including Harris’ grandkids) that raises 10 species of meat and poultry on pasture and has become a beacon of the independent small-food movement, drawn by a personal epiphany that only the soil will save us. Documentaries and podcasts have awoken me to the fact that healthy grasslands draw carbon out of the atmosphere and lock it in the soil via plants and their roots, and that livestock raised in ways that emulate how our ecosystems evolved over time—with herds of ruminants moving actively across the land, trampling plants and

manure into Earth’s surface as they go—help this carbon cycle to function. I’ve learned that profuse vegetation and trees help the Earth’s water cycle to work—a vital piece of the planet’s temperature regulation that is breaking drastically the more we clear land for vast swathes of monoculture crops and miles of concrete sprawl, thereby contributing to superstorms and wildfires. And that the multiverse of microbes living in vital, intact soils make our food more mineralized, and consequently build our health. Light bulbs have gone off for me in what feels like a foreboding moment of planetary collapse and I want to throw my weight behind a different kind of food production. Besides, my family and I like eating meat, but we can’t endorse misery meat raised cruelly in industrial confinement facilities. So I traveled 2,300 miles to the tiny hamlet of Bluffton, Georgia, to see how a de-industrialized farm does it, one that (very unusual today) oversees each animal through its entire life cycle and whose credo is to let livestock express instinctive behaviors every damn day. The farm’s origin story is, to carnivore-oriented foodies and fans of better farming, quite well known. Its owner, Harris, tells it often these days. Harris is the OG of regenerative agriculture; he began reversing the damage 92

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Chickens (and ducks, turkeys, guinea hens and geese) roam and peck by day, naturally aerating and fertilizing the soil with nitrogen from their droppings. Movable houses keep them safe from predators by night.

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that intensive modern agriculture has wrought long before “regen ag” had the buzz (or even the name) it has today. And he says that for years, no one cared much about the tale of a former industrial cattle rancher in an overlooked corner of rural America that bet the farm on returning to the simpler, more self-reliant methods of his forefathers. It was a journey that started roughly 25 years ago when he got disgusted by the excesses of modern cattle-raising, Will Harris III with its unnatural diet of grains, on-tap pharmaceutical drugs and crowded feedlots that turned cows into obese, sedentary creatures dying of diseases of civilization. He began striking out on what he calls a “radically traditional” path of raising fully grass-fed beef—a real oddity back then. The path led him, over time, to regenerate acres of depleted land, add multiple species to the mix like his grandfather had, and restore animal welfare to what is arguably a near-utopian existence. And because Harris had the audacity—he just calls it the balls—to build his own meatpacking plant and later, a fulfillment center, each requiring a significant workforce, it’s also revived a forgotten American farm town that the centralized meatpacking system had rendered obsolete. A hundredplus years ago, White Oak Pastures slaughtered and butchered everything on-site; most farms worked that way. But in reclaiming that critical piece of food production, it’s the definite outlier today. Somewhere during my farm-stay sojourn, all the inquiries I arrived with about the problems of glysophate and how soil fungi work dissolve away. In their place is a more holistic feeling of rightness, things working as they should. There’s the land (which an analysis showed stores more carbon in its soil than the grass-fed cattle emit; this means the soil is keeping carbon from the atmosphere), and there are the animals, lots of them, and there are the people involved in producing the food too. Not just the herdsmen and women outdoors, but the guys working the kill floor of 93

the non-mechanized slaughterhouse and separating carcasses in the chilly cutting room, where loud music plays to keep everyone loose and warmed up. (This is a farm with no secrets; visitors can see every part of production because transparency is their sword in the fight to teach what food raised the right way is really like.) And the folks who drive the trucks transporting any remains not used for food, or dried pet chews, or tallow skin care or cowhide home decor (the farm produces and sells all those things) to giant compost piles, where a year of maturation makes what conventional operations would deem waste into a superb nutrient stream for the pastures, feeding the soil so the cycle of life starts again. We so easily forget that other humans work hard to get our food from farm to fork: people just like us with stories and families and dreams of their own. We don’t usually see or meet them, but we should. As news of food shortages, and agricultural droughts, and grocery price-gouging fill the headlines, the world “out there” feels unsettlingly rocky. Here at this hub, which Jenni Harris, Will’s middle daughter, laughingly calls “a shiny little rhinestone in the Bible Belt,” you’d almost forget. White Oak Pastures pioneered the “regenerative” genre but the Harrises barely use the word now. That’s a given. They talk mainly about “resiliency” today. They produce meat (and vegetables, eggs and honey) from the sun, water, microbes, minerals and manure they already have—no fertilizer or expensive industrial inputs required— and they turn everything they raise into food themselves, selling much of it directly online, no outside plants or middlemen involved. They’ve also rebuilt a bustling rural village with uncommonly young farmers living in it, a pleasing side effect Harris never predicted. Even while circling back to the farm’s roots, the Harrises stayed ahead of the curve. And that feels right too. As I dig into a delicious meal at their simple farm-to-table restaurant, I think I just might have to stay awhile. Cabins from $110 per night; whiteoakpastures.com

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GOOD GRIEF After the loss of her beloved husband of 38 years, magazine editor and book writer Pamela Fiori found herself a newly christened member of what she came to know as the Widow’s Club. Here’s how she coped. 95

“I don’t want to belong to any club that will accept me as a member.” –Groucho Marx That’s pretty much how I felt about the Widow’s Club. You may have heard of this mythical association, which dates back to the beginning of time. For one thing, it’s easy to join: All you have to be is the survivor of a deceased spouse. No other qualifications are necessary. No dues. No initiation fee. No sponsor. No restrictions. No annual meetings. None of the usual requirements. My husband Colt died two years ago after a long struggle and multiple afflictions. We were married for 38 years, most of them happier than we ever thought we’d be. I was 38; he was 43. It was a first for both of us. “We were too busy,” he’d like to say. That’s only partly true. I was a magazine editor; he was a creative director at a major ad agency. Both of us were in more than full-time jobs. But we also enjoyed a long period of being single, sowing, as it were, our wild or semiwild oats, until we both came to the same conclusion at about the same time: “Sow what?” Also, neither of us had truly, madly deeply fallen in love. I came close once or twice, but as the saying goes, “Close but no cigar.” Colt and I met by chance and improbably in December 1975 at the former TWA Ambassadors Club lounge at Chicago O’Hare Airport. Both of us were returning from business trips. It was eyes across the crowded room—so intense that I actually thought to myself, “I hope I never see that man again.” Why? Bad timing. I was newly involved with someone. He was an unshackled bachelor. When we returned to New York (on separate flights, thankfully), we crossed paths again, had an affair for a while, until the flame burned out. I didn’t see him for two years. In 1980 he called, ostensibly to ask my advice about a new client. Might he take me to lunch? Yes, of course. We had a polite meal together, gave updates on where we were in our lives and said maybe—big maybe—we’d get together again after I returned from a trip to LA. Another call, this one from me. “What would you like to do?” he asked. “How about dinner?” I replied. Long pause on his end. “Oh…dinner.” That meant no timetable and no going back to the office. Dinner it was. We married in 1982. Our bliss lasted for about 25 years. No man and wife, we believed, were ever happier or more grateful to have refound each other. One song summed up how we felt: “Love Is Here to Stay.” Still, we had our differences: Colt was a loner, most content at home watching the Yankees win or the Giants play (correction: lose). I was more outgoing: an adventurer, ready to get on the next plane

“Our bliss lasted for about 25 years. No man and wife, we believed, were ever happier.” to wherever or up for a night on the town. Somehow we balanced each other out, because despite being opposites in so many ways, we shared the same values. All was copacetic in our household until Colt’s health began to deteriorate. First it was his back: three major surgeries and chronic pain that he learned to live with. Next, he had to have his gallbladder removed and then a stent implanted. 96

have his body picked up to be delivered for His pace slowed, as did his energy and FIORI’S FOLIO cremation. Two polite gentlemen showed up enthusiasm. Travel became a burden, as did The editor and writer bearing a gurney and took my beloved away even simple get-togethers with friends. Colt is an authority forever. never complained, never felt sorry for himself, on luxury, style I was officially a widow. Welcome to the and we muddled through. Even his medical and travel. club. Like my fellow members, I set about to experts told him, “At least it’s not cancer.” take care of the necessary tasks at hand, One day in 2014, the phone rang at some of them painful (contacting family, home. He answered and listened intently for friends and associates); some of them several minutes. When he hung up, he said routine, such as canceling credit cards, quietly, “I have prostate cancer.” Yet another driver’s license, certain accounts; notifying setback. He dealt with it stoically, and we Medicare and Social Security and settling saw it through together. Good news, no more any debts. Most crucial was having my cancer. long-time and trusted financial and legal I’d like to report that all of the above was professionals—all of them women—at the worst of it, but that wouldn’t be true. the ready to assist me with Colt’s will and What eventually brought Colt down, what with probate. This part was the most time was his undoing, began when he was in consuming and, as it turned out, the most high school. A leg injury prevented him expensive part of an often tedious process. from participating in his two favorite sports: In the meantime, the husbands of relatives football and wrestling. and friends had coincidentally passed So what does an angry young man do away around the same time, enlarging the when deprived of his beloved pastimes? members’ circle. Paramount was that we In Colt’s case, he took up smoking, avidly learned that everyone grieves in her own and recklessly. Three packs a day. The way. A few went into dark depressions. Others addiction lasted all of his life, even though found relief through a litany of lunches, he eventually cut down at the urging of his dinners and other distractions, often to an primary care doctor, who happened to be extreme. Some even set about to find a a pulmonologist. By the time I met Colt, the replacement. They would read the obituaries damage was done, irrevocably. and look for notices—not about men; about He was in deep denial. Except for chewing women and set their sights on Mr. Next. Nicorette (a feeble effort at best), he wouldn’t Gruesome, no? Sue, the wife of Colt’s best seek help—not patches, not acupuncture or friend, Gus, couldn’t listen to music for months after he hypnosis or any other possible remedy. died. Too many memories. For me, music was my ultimate There was no talking him out of it. Believe me, I tried to panacea. the point where he threatened to leave me if I persisted. It Because of COVID, I had no funeral or memorial for Colt. was “let him or lose him.” I caved. Colt was doomed and This happened often during the pandemic. Those who so, by association, was I. deserved to be celebrated couldn’t be. When it finally What followed—and I will spare you the details—was seemed like the right time to pay tribute to Colt, I arranged full-fledged emphysema. His doctor could do no more for a get-together last November at one of our favorite him. Next step, several weeks of visiting nurses, who were neighborhood restaurants. One or two of the guests told like angels. When that ended, he had to have at-home me the event would give me closure. Quite the opposite: It hospice, which was according to his doctor’s caution: gave me closeness. I didn’t need or want closure. “Don’t call 911 and don’t take him to the ER or you’ll never As time passed, I’ve met many other widows of all ages, see him again.” Bless you, doctor. backgrounds and for many reasons, we find comfort in Not once did Colt ever broach the subject of dying or each other’s company. We only occasionally talk about talk about what he wanted to do or what he wanted me to the circumstances of our husbands’ deaths. That would do. He knew. We both did. He died on June 15, 2020. be grim. Instead, we know we have something in common Thanks to the advice from hospice, I knew right away and that’s enough. It isn’t deepest sympathy. It’s deepest what to do and to whom to turn. I called the funeral home empathy. Groucho was wrong. I’d been in touch with to give notice of his death, and to 97

CLEAN START From the inside out, realtor and wellness coach Silke Tsitiridis stages a Hamptons home renovation and a total body reboot.

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hat fire does not destroy, it hardens,” wrote Oscar Wilde. But for Silke Tsitiridis, flames served as an impetus to purify. The fire was limited to her boiler room, and put itself out without causing any structural harm. But when the plastic boiler melted, it released soot and smoke. So Tsitiridis turned the fire into an opportunity “to declutter, detoxify” and embark on a “complete mental and physical reset,” she says, the morning sun pouring into her airy Sagaponack home. “We had built our dream home, and we didn’t want to change anything structurally.” Tsitiridis, a licensed realtor with Douglas Elliman, Pilates instructor, former T Beauty marketing executive and married mother of two, wanted her Hamptons house to be a serene departure from her hectic city life in Tribeca. She hired architect Francis D’Heane of D’Apostrophe Design to create a space that was “minimalist but inviting,” with an open view of nature, so there’s harmony between the exterior and interior. She selected sustainable, natural construction materials, from the statuary marble used in her double-height kitchen, to cumaru wood, a Brazilian teak, for the siding. But the fire melted some of the wiring, forcing her to open walls, redo the floors and undertake a major internal redoing: “a cleansing,” she says. Around the same time, Tsitiridis was undertaking her own cleanse. After years of finding only short-term solutions for digestive ills—the result of an eating disorder in her teens—she sought healing at luxury holistic wellness spa Lanserhof Tegernsee, in the Bavarian countryside, about an hour outside Munich and not far from Tutzing, a quaint

village with a view of the Alps on the west bank of Lake Starnberg, where the German native grew up and where her parents and brothers still live. Although she had an idyllic childhood, she wanted a taste of big city life for college. “When I arrived in New York for college [at FIT], I thought, this is my place!” But fast city living didn’t Tsitiridis in her exactly better her health: gleaming white Anorexia turned her kitchen digestive tract sluggish to the point of dysfunction. “I tried high colonics, juicing, any cure to help restore my gut’s microbiome [the intestinal flora needed for good health].” A return to her familial stomping ground, where she could hike, cycle and eat organic and locally sourced food, in a culture where doctors practice and prescribe integrative methods as part of mainstream medicine, proved just the thing. “They teach you a whole different way of approaching food,” she says, adding that clean eating isn’t synonymous with deprivation. “When you sit at the table, you put your phone away and savor every bite. They give you a complete meal with vegetables, a full variety of nutrients and oils,” she says. “You’re still depriving your body enough to allow the bad cells to be replaced by good cells, but you can function. You don’t feel too light-headed to work out or walk.” After her week at Lanserhof, Tsitiridis returned stateside, a new woman. By February 2020, Tsitiridis, her husband, Savas, president/CEO of New York’s United Management Group, and their two children, Sophia, 13, and Alexander, 15, were able to move back into their Sagaponack home— just in time for lockdown. As the world froze under a devastating pandemic, Tsitiridis figured the time was right for her version of the spa detox diet. After a two-year incubation period in which she used her friends as her guinea pigs, she created BySilke, a curated wellness program that’s available by subscription ($1,600/year), centered on a five- or six-day cleanse to be done quarterly. “It’s a great way to kick-start each new season,” she says, adding that she customizes her regimens depending on the needs of each client. (As with any cleanse, consult

away to improve your health. You can reap the benefits of a highly curated spa experience from your home.” Meanwhile, her Sagaponack residence now looks like a modernist spa, complete with an infinity pool. “Waking up to the sea anchors me,” she says. “It can be calm, and sometimes it’s angry. You feel very in touch with nature. I can spend the day inside, but feel like I’ve been outdoors because of our floor-to-ceiling glass panels. Everything is stripped of unnecessary details. That’s the concept behind my cleanse—the simpler, the better.” bysilke.com

your doctor before embarking on it.) She’s launching with only 15 members to allow each one to get plenty of her individual attention, while forming a small, supportive group so they can cheer each other on. Although she doesn’t personally cook, juice or deliver the items on her menu, she provides members with a list of local caterers who do, as well as massage therapists, yoga classes and other services meant to enhance healing. “I’m interested in starting a wellness community right here in the Hamptons,” she says, “so you don’t have to go

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5 WELLNESS WISDOM To celebrate Purist’s fifth anniversary, we collected words of inspiration, motivation and better-living dedication from our cover stars, who’ve shared life lessons, personal practices, health hacks, beauty secrets, sociopolitical insights and mindfulness techniques.

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OPRAH WINFREY “Wellness to me means life in balance. I was raised on a tiny farm in Kosciusko, Mississippi, by my grandmother, and she grew everything. Never went to town for food. Other than baking powder, baking soda and maybe some yeast, we bought nothing. If you needed medical remedies, you’d go out and gather some roots and pine cones. I remember her making me pine cone tea when I had a cold.” 104

ROBERT DOWNEY JR. “We put Source Hydropanels, which extract clean, premium-quality drinking water from the air, dead in the middle of an open field, because we want folks to get used to seeing these kinds of innovative contraptions as they begin to proliferate.”

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“This is the first film that I produced (Disobedience). It’s about someone who escaped, but hadn’t really escaped. Rachel McAdams’ character and mine were two halves of one person. She’s the half that stayed behind, and I’m the half that left. There was no antagonist. (Director) Sebastián Lelio says the antagonist is within—we have our own antagonist inside us.”

“I feel that problems of discrimination, class schisms and racism are challenges for every generation in every country…. The face and vocabulary of discrimination evolves. It is stubborn, tribal, based in ignorance and fear, and must be combated with factual information and direct, open exposure to those who seem, on the surface, to be different from ourselves.”

“Be kind to everyone. It costs you nothing and it’ll take you far.”

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“It’s never too late to start investing in yourself. Taking care of yourself. Not just physically, but mentally and emotionally.”

“Mindfulness is really important. Self-care is probably the most important thing when it comes to being a good partner, a good mom, a good friend, a good sister. I love giving back. Being grateful and being grounded are really important. Because when that day sucks, because it sucks sometimes, it’s just about changing ‘I have to go get the kids’ to ‘I get to go get the kids,’ or ‘I have to work out’ to ‘I get to work out.’ Just kind of changing that, and being mindful of how your thoughts can really have power.”

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“I do my best to eat cleanly. I don’t deny myself anything, but I believe in moderation. Be open, be flexible, try things, experiment—I think that’s really important, and how we learn. Through having a steady yoga practice, I was able to have an appreciation for my body. My most creative ideas happened through that practice.”

“For the most part, I don’t have a strict regimen. It’s just whatever feels good to the body, because I think it tells you, even if that’s a half-pint of ice cream. At BuddhaBerry last night, it was like, ‘Make sure you get me the cookie dough’—as I put down my Modelo Especial after I had three tacos from La Fondita. I don’t want to be too strict on anything, because it’s not realistic.”

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“Best advice anyone has ever given me: Don’t pluck your eyebrows, and drink more water. Follow your dreams and direct your movie. Tell your story!”

“These days, enjoyment is my motivator. Lots of water and laughter go a long way to looking and feeling great.”

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“I meditate once a day, I wish it were twice. Also, those moments when you reach for your phone while in a cab…I try not to do that. I try to stare out the window and just be present as much as possible. I think the world is designed in a way that distracts us constantly. But taking a beat to pause, to notice where you are, to take a real deep breath is essential.”

“If you feel in terror, if life just does that to you, it really is hard. But now that I’ve had a glimpse of silver linings, of people caring, and know that I’m so much better off than so many people, I just need to find a way to help a few people. I can’t do a lot. I don’t have a huge amount of energy and I’m one person, but staying connected is key.”

“I fear losing my parents, a child being sick. And I fear things for the world. My biggest fear is the escalating plastic problem. You really feel it when you go to the countries I went to in preparation for this role (A Private War). I went to Lebanon and the plastic waste is everywhere, and I find it very upsetting. I fear the damage to our planet.”

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SCARLETT JOHANSSON “I am stronger and more capable than I was 10 years ago. It’s hard to fit everything in when you try to balance motherhood, training and work. That balance is a myth! I don’t profess to know anything about parenting, anything more than anybody else, but being a working mom is an incredible challenge—and it’s an incredible gift.” 111

GWYNETH PALTROW “The true tenets of wellness are rather simple: good sleep, regular exercise, whole, nutritious food. The complexities of modern life make it a little harder. We’re exposed to chemicals and environmental toxins without realizing it, and quite often, when women voice concerns about how we feel, we’re ignored or told that it’s not something to worry about. But the wonderful thing about wellness is that we have more autonomy over our health than many of us realize. It takes more work and self-education, but it’s worth it to feel good.” 112

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“A quote I read when I was a teenager stuck with me forever: ‘Be who you are, and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.’ It really resonated with me, especially when I was coming out. Anyone who doesn’t support you for who you are, who doesn’t care about you for you, just doesn’t matter. Anyone who does matter will care.”

“Each of us has something unique to bring to the table. We need to embrace our own individuality, and lift each other up. So, whatever it is you’re passionate about, embrace those passions. Follow what makes your heart happy. That’s where you’ll be the best version of yourself.”

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“Advice I’d give to my younger self? Don’t try to please everyone. Don’t compare yourself to others. Trust your instincts. Those three are the strongest. I got caught up in that kind of stuff early on, which cost me. You’re enough. Just be you. Find you and embrace it, warts and all.”

“The majority of Americans are in favor of commonsense gun safety measures. We all want to keep our children safe. We want to keep everyone else’s children, every other community safe. What’s happening right now, which is really exciting, is that all these diverse groups are coming together and saying this is our No. 1 issue. It’s a responsibility that we have as citizens, and as parents, to move forward on this.”

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JESSICA CHASTAIN “I’m vegan and have been for a long time. So much is about what you eat. I know a lot of people who really indulge and then do a ton of working out. I just love fruits and veggies. Watermelon is the most delicious, sugary dessert. I love juicing and doing yoga. Also, I love taking baths. Having a hot bath every night and a good night of sleep is my joy.” 115

SARAH JESSICA PARKER “Books should be thought of as the gateway to wellness. Reading is restorative, it’s restful, it’s private, you can do it anywhere. Ten minutes in a book sometimes feels like a year away.” 116

JENNIFER GARNER “The most effective way to teach your kids is to live. My mom didn’t tell me to grow up and bake bread, but I learned from watching her.” 117

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JUNE 3 Sound Healing Certified yoga instructor and Reiki master Melissa Sheppard Giambrone presents a deeply immersive sound bath experience in partnership with East End Thrive and Hugs Inc. Designed to promote inner reflection and ground the mind, this symphony of singing bowls uses gentle sound waves to nourish body and soul. Free. 110 Mill Rd., Westhampton Beach; learn more at thriveli.org. JUNE 4 Planned Parenthood Hudson Peconic East End Benefit The time is now to stand up for reproductive rights. At this critical turning point in

political history, join Alexis McGill Johnson, president and CEO of Planned Parenthood Federation of America (PPFA), at this waterfront cocktail fundraiser in support of the organization’s mission to make abortion safe and accessible to all. Bridgehampton Tennis & Surf Club, 231 Mid Ocean Dr., Bridgehampton; to learn more, email kathleen.hirdt@pphp.org

and nonprofit organizations kick off peak season with an afternoon of outdoor fun at The ClubHouse in East Hampton. Enjoy live music, food trucks, art exhibitions, a luxury and electric automobile show, a renewable-energy showcase, and athletic competitions for kids and adults. Free. The Clubhouse Herrick Park, 174 Daniels Hole Rd., East Hampton; clubhousehamptons.com

JUNE 6 Climate Change and Its Effect on Our Food System Get educated on how climate change has and will impact a spectrum of industries on the East End. The Long Island Food Council and Dr. Michael P. Hoffman, co-author of Our Changing Menu: Climate Change and the Foods We Love and Need, examine how local producers will be affected by a rapidly shifting climate, and explore community-led grassroots plans to protect the planet. From $25. Hotel Indigo, 1830 W. Main St. Rt. 25, Riverhead; register at eventbrite.com

JUNE 25 North Fork Crush Wine & Artisanal Food Festival Sip over 100 wine varieties from New York’s top sommeliers, and bask in the tranquil 140 acres of greenery at Duck Walk Vineyards. Meet Long Island’s most acclaimed winemakers, get educated on the science of tasting notes, growing practices and flavor profiles, and dine on a selection of craft cuisine from local restaurants. From $49. 44535 Route 25 (Main Rd.), Southold; crushwinexp.com JUNE 25-26 Amagansett Fine Arts Festival A fleet of local, regional and national artists converge at Amagansett’s annual Fine Arts Festival. Vibrant paintings from Joni Sarah

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White, whimsical accessories from Melissa Fego, dynamic photography from Mark MacKinnon and more will be showcased at this outdoor celebration of artistic excellence. Free. 15 Montauk Hwy., Amagansett; amagansettfinearts.com JUNE 25 Palm Tree Music Festival Get ready to rave with a stacked lineup of toptier deejays and dancefloor maestros like Kygo, Disclosure, Claptone, Leah Haywood and more. General admission tickets include soft drinks, water, beer, wine, canned cocktails, access to food trucks and lawn games. From $215. Sheldon Way, Westhampton Beach; palmtreecrew.com JUNE 25 Southampton Arts Center’s Summer Cocktail Party Enjoy refreshing cocktails and explore a sprawling sculpture garden at this laid-back garden soirée benefiting Southampton Arts Center. Celebrate a new season of artistic innovation with gourmet bites from Acquolina and live swing jazz by the Frank Vignola Trio. From $300. 25 Jobs Lane, Southampton; southamptonarts center.com

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MAY 29 Megan K. Euell Art At Revolve Hair Visit the newly revamped Revolve Hair in Southampton for an exclusive unveiling of a triptych commission by internationally showcased painter Megan K. Euell. Learn about the inspiration behind Euell’s ethereal Hamptons-inspired creations, and enjoy complimentary light bites and refreshments. 34 Hill St., Southampton; revolvehair.com

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READY TO SHRED The Surf Thing celebrates wave-riding culture over six awesome days. BY JULIA SZABO

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Meet in Montauk for art, wellness events and ocean fun.

body-conscious beachcombers. At The Surf Market, artists (including James Katsipis and Justin Burkle), makers and photographers invite everyone to “pick up some goods for your wall,” and walk away with a chic tote codesigned by sustainable fashion brand GOT BAG. The cultural action even takes a quick detour to the East Hampton movie theater, where cinephiles may sip Solento organic tequila while enjoying short surf films such as Havana Libre and Weird Waves. The festival’s profound spirit of bridging distance is just what the doctor ordered for this post-pandemic period. “There’s not much that makes you feel more in-the-moment than being in the ocean,” Berrang says. “For The Surf Issue, Whalebone is turning the keys over to The Momentum Generation, which redefined surfing, friendship and community for more than one generation. In honor of the issue, Whalebone wanted to bring to life that sense of community and celebration of the water that the print edition is meant to represent, and turn it into a real-life event that explores all aspects of surf, wellness, music, history and of course, the ocean. Bringing people together: That’s the most important thing.” thesurfthing.com

No surfer can resist the tidal pull of Montauk’s waters. Now, wave warriors, kooks and surf spectators alike all can get stoked about a comprehensive immersion in postmodern surf cool, thanks to The Surf Thing, an inaugural festival taking place June 7 to 12 that hopes to become a new Montauk tradition. It’s the inspired brainchild of Whalebone Media, which has morphed the signature editorial viewpoint of its magazine into a creatively curated live event. Among the festival’s main attractions: The Flower Shop will teleport to Montauk from Manhattan’s Eldridge Street, taking over The Surf Lodge to serve up “Surf Lodge staples with a Flower Shop twist—think light, bright, fresh,” says Whalebone publisher Eddie Berrang. Each day will bring a different surfrelated wellness class offering (yoga, meditation, guided breath work), as participants stay healthily hydrated thanks to ZenWTR, one of the festival’s sponsors. Opportunities abound to do good and look good: The Surfrider Fancy Gala will raise funds for the Surfrider Foundation, dedicated to the protection and enjoyment of the world’s oceans, waves and beaches, while Left on Friday showcases its performance swimwear styles for 121

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CINEMA UNDER THE STARS HamptonsFilm delights family audiences with a free outdoor film series. BY JIM SERVIN

longtime lover of film, it means so much to have the opportunity to share these titles with my children. These films function as time capsules of the periods they originated from, and it is a treat to travel back into these worlds. Films such as Aladdin and E.T. were groundbreaking achievements. It feels only fitting to pay homage to them during their and HIFF’s own milestone anniversary years.” Visit hamptonsfilm.org to reserve an 8-foot square, which can accommodate up to six patrons. Seats in the first two rows near the screen are available for purchase, with proceeds going to support HamptonsFilm’s year-round educational programs. RSVPs are encouraged (patrons who don’t RSVP are accommodated on a first-come, firstserve basis). “We are grateful to East Hampton Village,” says Chaisson, “for continuing to support our year-round programming and initiatives.” Stay tuned for HIFF’s annual SummerDocs programming, dates to be announced, for top-of-the-line documentaries.

“As the East End heats up for the summer season, we are excited to welcome our neighbors and friends back to Herrick Park for our now-annual outdoor screening series,” says HamptonsFilm Executive Director Anne Chaisson. Launching on June 22 at sundown, the festival presents free screenings of a family film favorite every Wednesday. “Our programming team has selected an incredible lineup of timeless classics, some celebrating their anniversaries like us,” says Chaisson, referencing the 40th year of E.T. The ExtraTerrestrial (screening June 29), the 35th anniversary of Dirty Dancing (July 27), and, alongside Hamptons International Film Festival’s own pearl anniversary, three decades of Aladdin (July 6) and A League of Their Own (June 22). Other guaranteed good-time flicks scheduled include Raiders of the Lost Ark (July 13), March of the Penguins (July 20), Open Water (Aug. 10) and Apollo 13 (Aug. 17). “It is such a pleasure to revisit these films,” says HamptonsFilm Artistic Director David Nugent. “As a 122

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COACHES DanceHampton’s Krystal Lamiroult gets East Enders moving.

works up a sea of sweat while dance training, it can never look like a “workout.” It has to look easy, well articulated and purposeful. Dancing is a form of exercise in which the body and mind are connected. It’s having an honest conversation with yourself while becoming incredibly fit. What is your ultimate goal for your clients? It’s that they actually believe they can do it. Many of our most difficult obstacles live in our minds. Movement is medicine. If you just get moving, things start working themselves out. Movement inherently enables confidence. When a client or student walks in prepared, focused, honest with themselves and ready to work, I already consider them successful regardless of how many reps or pirouettes they do that day.

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What makes dance a great workout? After challenges are overcome, steps are learned and rehearsed, it comes down to: Dancing is fun! It’s a very liberating way to move. It keeps the body agile, awake and motivated. It detoxes the body and the soul. What I love most about dancing is how it can be a great platform for intensive training and honing skills, but at the very same time, it also teaches us not to take ourselves too seriously.

Any unexpected results, be it physical or shifts in thinking, from your dance practice? Dance has been the one constant in my life, like an old friend. It amazes me that after 28 years of dancing, choreography and training, I’m still so drawn to it! For this, I’m grateful. Like any relationship that evolves over time, dancing has always allowed me to find my personal balance so I may continue to grow and evolve as human, as a woman, as a mother. Through injuries, through relationships, through the birth of my amazing child and postpartum recovery, and through other various phases in my life, dancing is what has given me solid ground to stand on. I can say that when I’m not engaging my body both physically and mentally, as dancing allows, I’m just not myself. I’m the best version of myself when dancing and training are a part of my everyday schedule. I feel more energetic. My mind feels sharper. I’m just happier overall. dancehampton.com

Beyond the physical benefits, in what ways does dance allow us to access different emotions than, say, a regular workout or Pilates class? I enjoy Pilates and a great deal of other realms of exercise. Each offers its own way of accessing the body. Each has its own language. In its truest form, dancing will tell a story, convey a concept, idea or emotion, or simply just be in the moment. It’s an incredibly inclusive workout, in that it’s both a mentally and spiritually committed one. Although one 124

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PURIST: What is the mission of DanceHampton? KRYSTAL LAMIROULT: At DanceHampton, we want dancers to accomplish a sense of self. We strive to help them achieve a confidence that leaves them standing comfortably in their own skin. We feel successful when our dancers demonstrate strength in character, compassion and naturally, self-discipline. At the core of our studio, our dancers are well-trained athletes with beautiful minds. There is a strong sense of community and support, a family if you will, within those studio walls. It’s a place where we encourage each individual to be the best version of themselves, and a place where they feel safe and free of judgment as they grow throughout their journey.

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Artisanal brews on tap. BY NANCY KANE

Top Hops elevates the typical tap beer experience with rare brews.

then one night over—what else?—beers with friends, came up with the concept to fill a gap in New York. “There was nothing like this in New York City,” he said. “With every kind of boutique shop you could think of, there was no place where you could drink and enjoy beer, and then take some home.” Now, The Half Pint can serve a thirsty Hamptons crowd of any size with a customized menu featuring six different taps (draft wine and ciders are also available), along with curated packages such as Endless Summer (think beach parties and backyard barbecues) and The Globe Trotter, an around-the-world taste of imported favorites. For anyone looking to up their party truck game, consider booking King Andrew’s mobile cheese shop, which offers a delectable selection of fromage to pair with ales and lagers; or Rolling in Dough, for brick-oven pizzas made on-site with fresh local produce for toppings. tophops.com

This year, there’s a new party truck in town. The Top Hops’ Half Pint is the mobile version of entrepreneur Ted Kenny’s Top Hops Beer Shop, the Manhattan tasting bar meets craft and import bottle emporium. This summer, The Half Pint, a shiny, three-wheeled Piaggio Ape Classic vehicle made by the same company that manufactures Vespa scooters, and imported from Italy, takes beer drinking on the road, specifically The Hamptons and the North Fork. The Half Pint will be popping up at private parties and public events serving up artisanal, hard-to-find ales and lagers as well as classic favorites. Positioned for summer private parties, this is not your average kegger. “I can find the beer you loved in college, or something you sipped in Ireland but could never find again,” said self-professed “beer geek” Kenny. His passion for all things foamy is matched by his years of experience— after leaving the floor of the New York Stock Exchange, he started bartending, moved into beverage sales and 126

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NUMEROLOGY A by-the-numbers look at film director and producer Steven Spielberg, who presents Jurassic World Dominion, premiering in theaters June 10.

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E.T. The Extra-Terrestrial was screened in theaters for over 52 weeks, one of the longest theatrical runs in cinematic history.

Spielberg has seven children, including Jessica Capshaw, who is known for her role as Dr. Arizona Robbins in Grey’s Anatomy.

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19 33 10 He has been nominated for 19 Academy Awards, and has two Best Director wins for Saving Private Ryan and Schindler’s List, which also won Best Picture.

Spielberg is one of 10 directors to nab the Golden Globe, Directors Guild, BAFTA and Oscar for the same movie, winning for Schindler’s List.

Spielberg has directed 33 feature films, including critically acclaimed titles like E.T. The Extra-Terrestrial, The Color Purple and Jaws.

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21 In order to build suspense, the shark in Jaws does not appear on screen until one hour and 21 minutes into the two-hour film.

9,000 The T. rex animatronic used in Jurassic Park (1993) weighed over 9,000 pounds.

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Spielberg’s 1977 science fiction thriller Close Encounters of the Third Kind was inducted into the United States Library of Congress and National Film Registry in 2007.

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CINEMA UNDER THE STARS

READY TO SHRED

AT A GLANCE

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PRIMARY EATING

SUMMER LUXURIES

MUSHROOM BOOM

ANOTHER SLICE OF HEAVEN

A NEW CLASSIC

CAKE COUTURE Charlotte Neuville showcases

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THE GIFT OF GIVING

SUSPENSE, INK Teresa Sorkin and Tullan

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