Stop Blaming your Partner & Making Him/ Her the Reason for your Unhappiness?
Most couples blame each other in a relationship, when they are unhappy! It has become a norm in relationships somehow.
Reasons for being unhappy in a relationship?
There can be many reasons you are not happy, but those on which you should reflect areIgnorance of self and self needs Not giving each other space they desire for Revolving your life and needs around your partner’s life Believing love as giving up yourself for the relationship with your partner
Do you understand the love needed in a relationship? Before understanding the reasons for the unhappiness in the relationship, let’s understand what love is The concept of love can be ‘Binding’ to a few, but for others it can be ‘Liberating’. Mostly, we believe that after finding love, everything will be happy and jolly in a relationship.
But we fail to realize that we are ignoring the self in all these ideas and the feeling of love.
What happens when we start ignoring ourselves? It so happens that when we are so much in love with the other person, we start ignoring ourselves completely. We start feeling empty within, gradually.Emotionally and mentally we start changing in various ways. We tend to blame our partner for not being the same and attentive anymore, as the rosy goggles of love are replaced by the daily chores as we get busy. We start to spend less time with each other as we get busy in the daily routine.
…… And that’s how the relationship starts to deteriorate.
How can a relationship be nurtured between two individuals? A relationship is nurtured between two people by giving each other space equally and giving importance to oneself too. It helps in the mental, emotional and spiritual growth of both individuals.
Rather than revolving just around your partner, take up your favourite activities that can be anything like 1. Reading 2. Baking 3. Going on a walk with your dog 4. Exercising 5. Playing a sport 6. Meeting friends and colleagues often
How can we have a healthy relationship? The most important realization to have a healthy relationship with your partner, is that both need to be in a great relationship with themselves first. Individually, both should value themselves. Then only they can value each other. Social, emotional, mental and spiritual needs are to be satisfied in a timely manner for both the partners in the relationship. When self-satisfaction is realized individually, only then it can lead to a healthy relationship.
A healthy relationship is a happy relationship! As we start working towards the fulfilment of our own needs, we tend to realize that we stop blaming our partner for not giving us all their time and not ensuring our happiness. Only two happy and stable individuals can make a wonderful satisfying relationship because it is for us to realize that each is solely responsible for their own happiness first.
Thank You Presented by Dr. Sapna Sharma The Spiritual Counselor
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