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The Boyfriend & The Boy Best Friend
Almost every girl who is in a committed relationship with her boyfriend has a very close association with at least one other guy whom she claims to be her best friend. Equal time is spent with the best friend as it is spent with a boyfriend. Similarly, photos and messages which are shared with a boyfriend, tend to be sent to the guy best friend too. If any issue arises in the relationship, the best friend becomes the confidante.
When a boyfriend shows an objection to her close proximity towards her guy best friend, girls usually get angry.The anger is followed by calling the boyfriend medieval with a narrow mind.
Interestingly, the topics of women’s freedom and equality are raised in such arguments.
When the relationship gets older with a boyfriend or breaks up‌ In many cases, as the relationship with the boyfriend becomes a bit old, there is a feeling of slight detachment with the boyfriend and the source of excitement and feelgood comes more from the guy best friend. Even after the breakup, the best friend becomes the rebound person for a relationship. At times, it is seen that girls even when in a relationship with a boyfriend, get involved intimately with the guy best friend. Such scenarios can be devastating when things happen in marriage.
Today’s scenario about relationships: Today everyone seems to be looking for excitement and thrill in a relationship, while the fluttery feeling that starts a relationship doesn’t seem to be lasting long. The ability to distinguish between love and attraction seems to be getting diminished, which in turn isn’t proving helpful for the relationships.
Male and female gender is created by nature to procreate, and the attraction happens between them because of the same reason, as per the working of the natural system.
What should we understand as an adult? The youth today are free and aren’t bound by many boundaries. If a lot of time is spent with the person of the opposite gender, it is bound to result in attraction, because that is nature's law. Sharing things with a person often or always can result in a closer bonding with that person, which leads to attachment and later attraction becomes easy.
When we get in any relationship, that needs to be cared for and nurtured. This nurturing is possible by knowing about each other in-depth, finding common grounds, sharing hobbies together, having open conversations and growing together in a relationship.
Continuous looking for a thrill in a relationship by adding a third person in it in later stages of the relationship shouldn’t be the way for either a girl or a boy.  Knowing the limits of the relationships and acting reasonably is the only solution to not create a mess for ourselves and others in a relationship.
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