What to do When Your Grownup Children Don’t Listen to You...
Sometimes children just do not listen to what their parents want to say. This issue is faced by most of the parents sometimes or all the time.
It is Frustrating!
What are parent’s expectations from children? Parents believe that what they do is for the good of their children. With this thought, another thought of protecting their child from hurt and pain from the bad outcomes of their children’s choices gets added in their minds. In a nutshell, parents want their children to listen to what they are saying for their good.
Your role as a parent in the life of a grown-up child:
The role of parents should be to respond and guide the children in understanding the seriousness of their own decisions. They should explain the reason why they are trying to stop them from certain activities or decisions. If physical harm is there for the child, then stopping them becomes a necessity for a parent. But if, there is no physical harm or any permanent consequences, and if the child isn’t listening, then the matter should be handled calmly by giving an ultimatum, may be like - “you will not get the weekend Pizza” or “You won't get the weekend with friends if you do this now”.
What do parents need to understand? Parents need to accept that children are also individuals with their unique personalities, perception, and having an understanding of the world. They need to understand that they should not bombard the children with accusations, warnings or spend energy on shouting spells. Rather, they should make their children learn the concept of, “Facing the consequences of or learning from their own decisions�.
Note to parents: You cannot save your children from all their pains. Your parents have not been able to protect you from your share of pains. So, concentrate on helping the children learn their lessons and not protect them from consequences but being there if there is some real threat.
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