The Key to LOVE CAN BE IN A SONG

by David Wyley Long

Of all the songs written about love, two songs have been a mainstay in my mind for long as I can remember. One is a simple song about heartbreak, while the other one was a Billboard success and raised the singer to super stardom. The first, 10,000 times by Blu Cantrell tells a story about a woman who has been in love 10,000 times and how love hurt her 10,000 times. While it is obviously an overestimate of my love affairs, I share the sentiment Blu croons on this hit from her debut album released in January 2001. While this high count seems that many will give up after so many attempts, I am forever in hope for a timeless love. Another torch song that has influenced my love life in ways I had no control, was the sad, yet poignant “Love is a losing game” by the legendary Amy Winehouse. This short and simple love song had lyrics I know all too well.

Though I battle blind Love is a fate resigned Memories mar my mind Love is a fate resigned

Hear me clearly, I am a lover of love. Although I have struggled to understand it, and secure a forever love, I am deeply invested in finding love, although my many struggles and stumbles might cast a weary cloud on my heart.

This issue, I wanted to understand the purpose of love. Covering this issue’s theme, with a purpose driven life, I wanted to tap into what makes love so amazing and rich. Why do most get stuck, while many succeed and have successful relationships? The central argument with people who are single is “I don’t want to settle.”

This common mantra is tough for me to process, as that is the core of love. I believe that within partnerships and love affairs, two people must create a love foundation by adapting your life to someone else and allowing others to enter your life. In some respects and in my own humble opinion, you can’t have a dynamic relationship without compromising something. Settling is not a bad thing, but a powerful push to be open to change and respecting each other, and our differences.

I shudder thinking that Michele wouldn’t give Barack a chance because he was a city organizer from the Southside of Chicago. She saw potential, and found a gem.

We live in a time where apps are the easiest and quickest way to secure a fling, 1- or 2-night stand and potential partner. The irony within these apps is the 3 seconds you have to impress someone enough to swipe to the left or message you via their profile. Even with breaking through, most times people swipe left or message quite a few possible suitors before anything comes to fruition. If we desire a purpose driven life and can find the right person, you should consider all opportunities, including stepping out of your comfort zone to find your “one.” While I believe the apps hold merit in securing love, it is very nuanced and can be overwhelming with all the profiles to view.

I implore all readers who are seeking a love, and a successful relationship to try a new way for the remainder of the summer. Get offline, and go to the museum, a poetry slam, or any sporting event. You will be amazed how many singles are at these events, and the more organic way to meet, greet and learn someone. It is nothing more depressing than meeting someone online, and they request more photos. To me, you are now auditioning, and the person has zero to little desire to meet. I call these people the most warped, as the initial photo(s) that caught your attention was not enough, and they need more to prove who you are. Now, before you start talking about catfish, just ask for a video call. Even with an android, you can do a free zoom call. But, by meeting someone in person at a museum, they will look foolhardy if they request more photos, as your presence should be good enough.

I end this issue’s article with a quote on love. It is from an unknown, but a wise person who showed the power of love within a few lines. As I continue to seek and secure my forever love, I will continue to shine light on love and life. Find me on Facebook at David Wyley Long, and tell me your thoughts, and if you are single, look at my photos first, and let's have a conversation.

Be well, and take care. Until next time.