True Love IS WORTH FIGHTING FOR
friend. Or if you’re like me, you have a list of people you feel this way for. Friends that have literally been with me through thick and thin, friends that have hurt me and yet, we reconcile and come back stronger. Friends that literally do life with me and go through difficult situations together. Friends that I have not let go of for years and I don’t plan on doing so. You see, when you find relationships like these, when you find true love like this. Hold on to it. Tightly. Clear up misunderstandings, open up your heart, be vulnerable, let them in, fight for your relationship, I promise you, it is worth it.
I was having a conversation with someone a while ago and the person said: ‘Some friendships are worth fighting for.’ And I responded like this: ‘I know, and I’ve decided that this one is not one of them.’ I probably sounded harsh as I made the statement, but the reality of those words really dawned on me. I’m no stranger to friendship break ups. I have learnt that as we get older, sometimes we make new friends and sometimes we let go of old ones. Sometimes friendships end, not out of spite, but just because ‘life happened.’ One or both parties involved stopped prioritizing the relationship as much and as a result, the friendship died a natural death. No hard feelings, no anger, just 2 people deciding to take different ships and drift away. (See what I did there?) You can look back on the relationR ship and smile, you wish them love D and happiness while also realising that this person no longer has the S same role in your life as they once had and vice versa. F | 38 |
Sometimes, it’s an ugly ending, a falling out, a misunderstanding. These kinds of break ups are painful, emotionally and sometimes even physically. Mourning the loss of what was and the future plans and possibilities that you planned with them in it. It sucks. But it’s life. It happens. However, there are sometimes, where you find yourself so connected to someone, so deeply in love with someone that it almost seems like in your eyes they can do no wrong.
Stop being afraid to love and be committed to people because you’re afraid of ‘chopping breakfast’, breakfast na national cake, e go reach everybody. Lol But even if after all this, if things don’t work out and the friendship sails away, you’d know in your heart that you recognised that this was special and you did all you could to keep the ship sailing on the right course.
Some very rare friendships feel like this, they’re a bit intense, a bit more intentional. The scales seem balanced for once. They’re putting in as much effort as you. Misunderstandings have to be cleared up, you’re holding on to them so tightly, that even if they want to leave you’d ask them to stay. Something like what David and Jonathan had. You find that friend that sticks closer than a sibling. That person that’s holding on to you as much as you’re holding on to them. As you’re reading this, I’m sure you can think of at least one A QUARTERLY MAGAZINE
