BC the Mag Fall 2019

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hile I sit here and write this, it’s about 84 degrees. I’m sitting by the pool, yet my editor is telling me, “You have to get in the fall swing of things.”

Although my editor will point out that the Fall Equinox is only a couple of weeks away, I’m a summer holdout, grasping the last bits of summer before I have to put on a sweater. Call it global warming or call it mere coincidence, but I feel like summer goes straight into winter these days. For that reason and many others, I plan on drinking margaritas and eating watermelon until the day I walk outside and can see my breath, which – as some of you who know me realize – is the last time you’ll see me until spring.

For us, every September is bittersweet. Our idea to begin Bergen County The Magazine took shape in September of 2001. As we all know, other events at that time turned us – our community, our nation and much of the world – completely upside down.

Now here we are, 18 years later, and BC The Mag continues to shine a bright light on all things that make Bergen County unlike anywhere else in this beautiful country.

While our fashion trends might be dictated on the runways across the river during New York Fashion Week, there’s no shortage of great local boutiques ready to show off their autumn wares. In this issue, Hartly Fashions and our Candace

give us a preview of what we can expect our beautiful stylist, Kristin, Bergen County women to be wearing as the crisp cool air makes the summer’s humidity a distant memory.

As we rotate through our seasonal wardrobes, it’s time to kick start our beauty routine, too. Kristin Favaloro of Beauty and the ‘Burbs gets our skincare regiment back on track with her steps to creating your fall beauty routines.

Now that we have you looking the part, it’s time to get you out and about and what see Bergen County has to offer. We speak with Bel Canto Productions, who is bringing world-class opera to intimate dining destination through out the area.

If you’d rather stay home, no problem: Al Dente Diva brings us her favorite fall flavors, and our bellies couldn’t be more excited!

Eighteen years after this journey began, we must continue to thank the many people in this wonderful stories us to tell their

county that have allowed and share in their philanthropic endeavors. Without you, BC The Mag wouldn’t matter.

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BERGEN COUNTY A Royal Honor Englewood teen honored by charity in Princess Diana’s name

NONPROFIT SPOTLIGHT An Outdoor Escape Josephine’s Garden provides respite to pediatric cancer patients

BERGEN COUNTY When Performing and Culinary Arts Meet Local performing arts organization combines the joy of food and music for a truly fulfilling experience ART Haworth Songstress Capitalizes On Endless Potential

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BERGEN COUNTY Elmwood Park Honors First Responders Following Iconic Marcal Fire FASHION Fall Fashion Forecast

BERGEN COUNTY Send A Message To The Future TimeSpring redesigns how memories are shared

BERGEN COUNTY Advances In Breast Cancer Treatment BERGEN COUNTY Talking The Stigma Out Of Infertility BERGEN COUNTY A Beginner’s Guide To Meal Prep

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COLUMNS 90 92 104 110 114

STYLE WITH SONECA

What To Wear When Working From Home

BEAUTY AND THE ‘BURBS

Falling Into A New Beauty Routine

THE SPORTS DOCTOR

Don’t Get Sidelined This Fall

AUTO

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AL DENTE DIVA

Al Dente Diva’s Favorite Fall Flavors

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EATS

Comfort in Kurth Café

RESTAURANT GUIDE

A Resource for Your Dining Pleasure

EVENTS

Happenings Throughout The County

LAST LAUGH

The Vanishing Art of Compromise

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Danielle Rutnik, Manny Billones

Christina Curriero, Mary Flynn

Jeanine D’Anna, Candace Kristin, Sarah Hansson

Bryan Luterman, Jackie DiSalvatore

Lisa Cucci, Soneca Guarada, Ilona Shmaruk

Samira Tabar, Cara Lenas, Amanda Karkowiak, Emily Batelli

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Alexis Canonico, Lindsay Christian

Maryann Contreras, Cheryl Dispoto

Caroline Guarino, Lisa Herrmann

Fiorella Landeo, Father John Job, Dr. Thomas Altonjy, Katie Parian

Dana Leoce, ilona Shmaruk, Vera Stern, Sally McQuade, Lisa Washor

Vicky Kranidiotis, Jill Porto

Candace Kristin, Lisa Herrmann

Nicole and Diana Ross

Nickole Bello, Victoria Jachts, Mona Rai

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Carl Inserra Leukemia Fund Golf Outing The Carl Inserra Leukemia Fund Golf Outing was held at five different golf courses throughout Bergen County with the reception held at The Venetian in Garfield.

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Lauren and Lawrence Inserra

Karen McClatchey, Pat Sullivan

Richard and Patti Chamberlain, Herman Dodson

Trae and Mike Minucucci, Jerry Iannone, Steve Goldstein

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Sally Ramroop, Lindsey Inserra, Christina Kelty Late Spring 2017

Chris and Dawn Rotio

Doug Lanzo Jr., Doug Lanzo, Chris Albanese

Matt Langer, Joe Coccaro

Ron Onorato Jr., Mike Onorato, Jeff Sobotta, Ron Onorato

Maritza Soto, Troy Leighton, Maddie Ceraul, Tyler Leighton, George Gimbar

Chip Von Heill, Bill Oliver, Larry Inserra, Jeff Johnson

Marty and Marty Kafafian

Brandon Goldstein, Nick Gagliano

Laurie and Garcelle Clement, Carl and Kate Inserra

Sal Monteleone, Dave Wolf

Larry, Laura and Marie Inserra

Marie Inserra, Frank Siclari, Nicole Larsen

Natalie Gillett, Rich Chamberlain Jr., Hannah Sullivan

Coccia Foundation The Coccia Foundation held their annual golf outing with cocktails and dinner at The Estate at Florentine Gardens in River Vale. For more information, visit www.cocciafoundation.org.

Tom and Annie Daidone

Ciro and Tom Daidone

Joe Masello, Sal Benvenuti

Nick Gagliano, Brandon Goldstein

Claudine Siero, Cathy Konnor

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Joe Oliva, Dan Colon

Michael Ippolito, Mariana Bomfim, Nisha Nelluri, Matt Coccia

Rich Chamberlain Jr., Dave Wolf, Jeff Riggitano, Paul Napolitano Late Spring 2017

Gen Nicastro, Ellisa Coccia, Marisa Kettelhet

Frank Bimonte, Tom Liquori, Joe Agresti

John, Nello, David and Joseph David Direzze

Jamie Milkman, Kyle Cooper

Jay Koziol, Ciro Daidone, Joe Mabille

Cathy Shea, Dyan Muller

Bob Montalbano, Jim Baress, Chris DiMattio

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EMS Excellence Awards Dinner Hackensack University Medical Center held their annual EMS Excellence Awards Dinner at the Stony Hill Inn in Hackensack. For more information, visit www.hackensackumc.org.

Christine and Pete Udis

John Labrosse, Kathy Canestrino

John Riordan, Tim Moots, Robert Knobloch

Meliam Gonzales, Sheri Hensley, Lisa Iachetti

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Late Spring 2017

Chuck Parodi, Jack Mayo

Dr. Shaun Patterson, Dr. Dave Walker

Kathy and Tony Dario

Adam Petruzzelli, Tiffany Rutledge, Michelle Kobayashi, Patrick DiCanio

Dr. David Walker, Dr. Shaun Patterson, Dr. Joseph Underwood, Dr. Kevin Hewitt

Michelle Kobayashi, Lisa Iachetti, Clare Hartwick

Adam Petruzzelli, Shannon Piccini

Matthew and Jessica Bremy

Diane Aroh, Linda Stanton

Dr. Lisa Tank, Mark Sparta

Jacob Holtan, Christopher Hogan, Dennis Lunde, James Defina

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Family Promise Golf Outing The Family Promise Annual Golf Outing was held at the Edgewood Country Club in River Vale. For more information, visit www.familypromise.org.

Charles Matar, Jerry Growney Jr.

Rich LeBlancq, Mitch Librot

John Masterson, Joe Coccaro, Steve Goldberg

Mike Bieri, Wayne Harper

Bran Dellatorre, Tom and Jack Kirby

Mike Indiveri, Greg Fusilli, Frank Skuthan, Art Dardia

Bill Barrows, Joe Coccaro

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Jim Wangsness, Rick Mueller

Anthony Verley, Donnett Verley, Patrick Barnett

Peter Emr, Harry Ferguson, Remy Rembecky, Paul Shackford, Earl Thuet

Joshua Lipsey, Len Carlucci

Mark and Ludmila Golad

Bill Hagerty, Steve Pinto

Michael Duggan, Amy Szurly

Kelly Karcich, Dave Barthold

Jane He, Renee Harper, Sheila Verna

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Foundation for Free Enterprise Foundation for Free Enterprise held their annual luncheon at the Stony Hill Inn in Hackensack.

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Michael Linder, James King

Winnie Peng, Joseph DiFiglia

Nina, Andrew and Kim Rapella

Aimee Carroll, Jennifer Cerusso, Melissa Dawson, Liz Smerdon

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Joseph Pomante, Mike Kelly

Jonathan Kristofich, Michael Smith

John Cassetta, Teri Duda, Jonathan Kristofich

Rose Alvarado, Leonia Hardial

Dave Hollenbeck, Rick Thigpen, Paul Boudreau, Tony Russo

Richard McLaughlin, Glenn Rocca, John Cassetta, Jim Valenti

Tracy Straka, John Valeri, Marilyn Lennon

Joe Sanzari, Ralph Serpi, Paul Sarlo

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Tom Critelli, Justin Allessio

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Hackensack University Medical Center Auxiliary The Auxiliary of Hackensack University Medical Center honored Robert C. Garrett at the Edgecroft Gardens. For more information, visit www.hackensackumc.org.

Avo Derbalian, Anita DaSilva

Laura and Robert C. Garrett

Mike and Cathy Camuso, Dr. Ihor Sawczuk

Mark and Colleen Sparta

Carol Henning, Dr. Florian Thomas, Rich Henning

Alice Jurist, Sam Jurist, Maureen Keating, David Jurist

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Hormoz and Patty Ashtyani

Dr. Gary Munk, Bill Coughlin, Helen Cunning, Dr. Florian Thomas

Erica Florentine, Claire Ward, Amy Massimo, Amy Glazer, Jean Bedrosian

Larry Inserra, Ro Sorce

Danielle and Dan McManus

Balpreet Grewal-Virk, Yogi Virk

Doris Weber, Audrey Maihack

Larry Inserra, Robert C. Garrett

Sharon Goldstein, Bonnie Inserra

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Englewood teen honored by charity in Princess Diana’s name

By Kimberly Redmond

C

ory Nieves is getting the royal treatment.

The 14-year-old Englewood boy has been named as one of the recipients of the Diana Award, a recognition inspired by the late Princess of Wales given annually to youth involved humanitarian work in their communities.

To mark the 20th anniversary of the award, the organization is working to show that young people can and do give back to others by launching the Change Makers campaign.

Altogether 12 kids were given awards, as well as named Change Makers, for their work to challenge negative stereotypes that young people are often labeled with.

Cory is one of six kids from the United States honored and the only one who hails from New Jersey.

After launching his own gourmet cookie company at the age of six, Cory became a celebrity, amassing 80,000-plus followers on social media, modeling in fashion campaigns and appearing on television shows such as “The Profit” and “MasterChef Junior.”

In response to his success, the mini mogul decided it was only right he find a way to give back. And so, he founded Mr. Cory Cares, a non-profit that supports charities locally and nationally.

Cory said the honor was unexpected but nonetheless “incredible” to receive such an accolade. He hopes the Change Makers campaign will inspire “other young people to make a change in this word.”

“I want other kids to stand up and fight for what they believe in,” the teen said.

Helping charities, particularly ones that serve single moms and at-risk youth, remains just as important to Cory as whipping up new recipes and BC The Mag FALL 2019 29

promoting his tasty treats. Among the groups he’s helped: Bergen’s Promise in Rochelle Park and Children’s Aid Society in New York.

“We want to help the community a lot because the community helped us when we started out. We wouldn’t be here without the community’s backing,” he said.

Cory was nominated for the award by Alicia Maxey Green, a public relations specialist and brand strategist for Mr. Cory’s Cookies.

Green said the teen creates positive change by “being a shining example of how hard work can turn a boy into a successful entrepreneur.”

“Despite his humble beginnings – being born to a single, teenaged mom while she was in foster care – Cory is a smart, driven and empathetic youngster. He exhibits positivity in his personality, style and mannerisms,” she said.

“Everyday, he looks the part of a CEO while wearing a dress shirt, tie, smart trousers and signature glasses. With thousands of followers across his social media platforms, Cory demonstrates how he turned his desire to buy his mother a car into a full-fledged cookie business that is also socially conscious.”

Cory, as well as the other 11 honorees, “demonstrate that

young people are a driving force for good and have incredible power to create change,” said Tessy Ojo, CEO of The Diana Award.

She added:“Despite negative perception, the vast majority of young people want to make a positive impact on society.”

Last fall, Cory and his mom traveled to London to collect the award and spent a week there, seeing sights such as Buckingham Palace and Kensington Palace. And, of course, trying some British cuisine.

Lisa said the experience has been “crazy and amazing.”

“We’re sitting here in Englewood, selling cookies and doing our thing, and then it

The Diana Award Holders are young campaigners, activists, fundraisers and humanitarians, awarded in memory of Princess Diana for demonstrating the strength and power of young people to change the world.

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went international,” she said.“I’m so thankful at how blessed we’ve been.”

It is “an honor” to be given an award created to mark the legacy Princess Diana, who Lisa said was “an amazing woman who inspired people from all walks of life.”

“I always tell Cory that the sky is the limit and anything is possible.And, to do the best you can, rock it and don’t worry about the noise behind it,” Lisa said, adding,“I also tell him he’s amazing no matter what.”

Even before the royal recognition, life for Cory and Lisa, has been very much like a fairy tale.

The family’s story began back in 2009 on a sidewalk near

their Englewood home. Six-year-old Cory was determined to help his mom, a single parent, buy a car, so he started selling hot cocoa, cookies and lemonade to raise money.

Cory, the company’s CEO, worked alongside his mom, who serves as the business’s CFO, worked hard – and struggled at points – to make Mr. Cory’s Cookies a successful venture.

In 2014, the duo’s story caught the attention of Ellen DeGeneres who surprised the family with $10,000 and a brand new car. Marcus Lemonis, host of CNBC’s “The Profit,” also took notice of the pair and wound up investing

money into the company.

Now a privately held company, Mr. Cory’s Cookies are sold at pop-up shops in New Jersey and New York, as well as online at MrCorysCookies.com.The cookies are baked at a commercial kitchen in Harlem and ship nationwide.

Stacy Cook, an Englewood police detective involved in the department’s youth services division, was also involved in nominating Cory for the Diana Award.

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“I can’t think of a more deserving person to receive it,” said Cook, who added, that Cory “at a very young age knew he wanted to give back to his community.”

“I have known Cory and Lisa for several years and their story is an amazing testament as to hard work really does pay off. The odds were against Cory and Lisa from day one. Lisa was born and raised in the rough streets of Harlem, her father wasn’t present in her life and her mother was addicted to drugs. Lisa had to grow up fast once she became a teen mom,” Cook said. “Once she had Cory, she soon moved to New Jersey to provide a better life for him.”

The pair has “made many personal sacrifices in order to build their company, build professional relationships and give back to the community. I am proud of both of them to see them come such a long way, from walking all around town and selling cookies out of local businesses to seeing them on national television on such shows as ‘Chef Junior’ and ‘The Profit,’” Cook said.

Besides the challenges that any entrepreneur would encounter, Cory has had another hurdle to clear.

Initially, many people “don’t take you seriously when you’re a kid and you have a business,” he said. “Then once they see you’re serious, they change their mind.”

But, it’s important to show adults that “you’re up to the challenge.”

As for his future, Cory plans to head to college after high school “to learn more about business.”

“I want to keep our business and grow it more,” he said.

The teen already has a wealth of business knowledge, often fielding questions from fellow kids, as well as adults, about the ins and outs of the cookie business.

The number one piece of advice Cory said he gives: “Never do it for the money. Do it for the love of what you do. If you do it for the money, the customers will know.”

Promotional photos provided by The Diana Award.

For more info r mation abo ut Mr. Cor y’s C ookies, visit MrCor y sCookies.co m.

Additional d etails about The Diana A ward and Change Mak ers campaig n can be foun d on https://diana -award.org.u k.

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Yogi Virk, John Salemme, Balpreet Grewal

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Charles and Jennifer Matar, Joe Burt

Frank Alberta, Tim Woods, Eamonn Twomey, Dr. Rick Winters

Robert Schultz, Jason Kreitner, Bill Connolly

Dr. Jeff Boscamp, Dr. Yuki Kimora

Dr. Sharad Sahu, Keith Banks, Rich Henning, Greg McManus

Jim Kourgelis, Mark Sparta

Howard Weinstein, Kyle Tafuri

Jack Murray, Helen Cunning

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Jeff Hanson, Craig Sikora

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Bill Disch, Frank Approvato, Jim Pacifico, Lou Colicchio

Kyle and Jason Rinsky, Bill Theobald, David Degann

Stephen Baker, Mark Slawson, Greg Ficarra

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Matt Langer, Holly Schepisi, Joe Coccaro, Gary Gensheimer, John Masterson, Steve Goldberg

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John Sheridan, Diane Walsh, Catherine Yaxley, Joe Frascino

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Josephine’s Garden Provides Respite To Pediatric Cancer Patients

By Brianna Ruback

or Heidi Hartung-Rispoli and her late daughter Josephine, what began as a conversation about building a rooftop garden at the Joseph M. Sanzari Children’s Hospital at the Hackensack University Medical Center turned into a reality – one that features a frog-themed wishing fountain, a symbolic warrior pole and Josephine’s colorful artwork.

Seeing that there was no easily accessible outdoor area where patients could spend their time, Hartung-Rispoli and Josephine – who was diagnosed with a rare stage IV brain tumor at the age of six, which required weeks-long hospitalizations – sought to change this.

“I wanted a place for the kids to be able to go outside at the drop of a hat and not have to wait an hour until the child life person could come up,” Hartung-Rispoli said.

One day, Hartung-Rispoli spotted a rooftop through the doors of a conference room on the pediatric oncology floor of the hospital that was not being used. She told Josephine about the space and contacted the hospital’s president at the time, Robert Garrett.

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Josephine Rispoli at the age of 4-and-a-half at a fundraiser in 2011 at the Woodcliff Lake Old Mill Pool.

Josephine died less than two months later.

The Warrior Pole.

After pitching the idea, Hartung-Rispoli had her vision approved, and the first fundraiser for the garden – a swimathon at Woodcliff Lake’s Old Mill Pool – was held in September of 2011.

After a 13-month battle that consisted of multiple surgeries, six rounds of high-dose chemotherapy, six weeks of spinal and cranial radiation and two auto-stem cell transplants, 7-year-old Josephine lost her fight to cancer on October 23, 2011.

“That actually made me more determined than ever to get [the garden] built,” Hartung-Rispoli said.

Less than a year after Josephine passed away, the garden was unveiled on July 9, 2012, the day she would have turned 8 years old. As an artist, designer and activist, Hartung-Rispoli paid careful attention to creating the garden’s timeless design, ensuring that each element was meaningful and symbolic.

Surrounded by what Hartung-Rispoli referred to as three “circles of energy” is a 14-foot warrior pole that she carved for children with cancer or life-threatening illnesses to sign their names.

“It’s peeling and raw, and it symbolizes their journey,” Hartung-Rispoli said. “Like going off to war, when any soldier goes out to battle... I’m sure they must carve their name...wherever they may be to say that they fought the fight.”

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The Park Ridge Mayor’s Golf Outing presented a check to Josephine’s Garden.

something Josephine loved. Josephine’s kindergarten artwork is displayed throughout the space, and the garden’s logo is Josephine’s signature.

Hartung-Rispoli said her hope for the garden is to bring joy and light to the hospital patients and that each person who visits can form their own personal relationship with the garden’s symbolism.

“There’s nothing about Josephine dying in the garden or in the room because it’s about hope... and just feeling normal, but also empowered,” she said.

Hartung-Rispoli recalled an instance of the hospital staff telling her about a baby who had not felt wind on her face before visiting Josephine’s Garden.

“The mother heard [the baby] giggle for the first time when the wind tickled her face,” she said.

As the garden continues to provide a source of brightness to the patients and their families, it also serves as a platform for bringing communities together and making a difference in the current state of pediatric cancer research.

In 2015, the Josephine’s Garden fund allowed for the opening of the Josephine Elle Hartung-Rispoli Research Lab, which is the first of its kind in New Jersey, supporting Phase 1 and Phase 2 clinical trials. All funds currently go to research at the lab.

Additionally, Hartung-Rispoli works with schools to raise awareness for pediatric cancer. Within the past five years, she has gone to over 25 schools in Bergen County to organize a “Day of Gold,” gold being the color that represents pediatric cancer. In effort to raise both money and awareness, HartungRispoli designs a pin that the students will receive in exchange for a donation.

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“Seven children die every day from cancer, and less than 4 percent of the National Cancer Institute budget goes to pediatric cancer research,” Heidi Hartung-Rispoli said.

“We need to give a voice to the kids.

We have a battle to win, and we need everybody.”

Heidi Hartung Rispoli with her daughter at Fairfield University.

She said in order to truly make a difference, the following formula must be taken into account: awareness + action + money = change. “Seven children die every day from cancer, and less than 4 percent of the National Cancer Institute budget goes to pediatric cancer research,� Hartung-Rispoli said. “We need to give a voice to the kids. We have a battle to win, and we need everybody.�

Knowing the happiness that Josephine’s Garden has brought patients and their families, Hartung-Rispoli said she would love to bring the garden space to hospitals around the country. “When we go to Josephine’s Garden, I feel her spirit there, and so do my daughters [Stasia, 18, and Violet, 11]. We all do,� HartungRispoli said. “Just to know that we’re bringing joy to other people, it is very, very therapeutic to us, and [we feel] connected to Josephine because she would have loved it.�

To donate or for more information on Josephine’s Garden, visit Josephine’s Garden on Facebook, Instagram (@josephinesgarden) or josephinesgarden.org.

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Local performing arts organization combines the joy of food and music for a truly fulfilling experience

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By Megan Montemarano

lassical music and food are, for many, two of life’s greatest treasures. While exquisite on their own, when brought together they result in pure magic. Finding an opportunity where both are seamlessly combined, however, is rare. Often, the best option involves traveling across the Hudson River to try out a new restaurant before heading over to Broadway or the Met. Although exciting, this can be challenging to coordinate, resulting in a disjointed, and often exhausting, outing.

Such a reality is what sparked the ingenious idea to roll both into one with Bel Canto Productions, a performing arts organization that marries classical singing, particularly that of opera, with an exceptional dining experience. Unlike anything else in northern New Jersey or New York City, for that matter, Bel Canto leaves attendees with a “real hunger” for more.

Artistic Director Soprano Amy Owens performing a duet with mezzo-soprano Sishel Claverie at Caffe Anello.

Photo Credit: Keri Antas

THIS F FALL, ALL , The Bel Canto Productions team with Westwood Mayor John Birkner. Pictured from left to right: CEO Chef John Vitale, Creative Director Chris Ruel, Artistic Director Amy Owens, Mayor John Birkner and Director of Business Development Yash Risbud.

Photo Credit: John Birkner

The initial project was born on an ordinary day in Sogno Coffeehouse in Westwood. Chef John Vitale, culinary and business director of both this beloved Bergen County coffee shop and Caffé Anello, known for its classic Italian dishes and warm setting, was casually chatting with one of his regular patrons, opera journalist Chris Ruel. Ruel writes for OperaWire, an online opera news publication. Throughout the years, he has interviewed several high-profile singers from all over the country and world.

“We kicked around the idea of creating an opera-themed dinner,” explained Vitale, who now serves as the organization’s CEO. “Chris told me he knew a singer who might find the concept appealing, and just like that, he picked up the phone and introduced me to soprano Amy Owens.”

After meeting in person and developing a formal plan, the trio decided to take a chance and go for it. They would create a unique experience that united people around the table for a few magical hours of fine dining and opera all at the same time.

“When Amy sang at our first event, people had to pick their jaws up from the floor. At that moment, Amy, Chris and I knew we had hit on something special,” said Vitale.

Amy Owens presently serves as Bel Canto Production’s headliner and artistic director, responsible for programming. Not only does she grace their audience with her angelic voice, but she also sets the repertoire for each event, brings other singers on board, and is the musical mind behind everything that the group does.

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“Amy is incredibly curious, and her passions within the music world are broad and extend beyond opera,” commented Vitale. “She’s done concert work, opera, new music, alternative pop, and jazz. On top of all that, she is currently studying to be a conductor.”

Owens is a highly accomplished professional, having sung on some of the world’s most premier stages from Wolf Trap to Carnegie Hall. She has also worked with renowned orchestras across the United States, including the National Symphony Orchestra, as well as various professional opera companies.

“Amy is a creative force who brings so much joy, enthusiasm and inspiration to the Bel Canto team,” said Vitale.

By the end of this year, Bel Canto hopes to have hosted at least five successful events throughout Bergen County, with a portion of the proceeds being donated back to the community in support of local performing arts groups. Performances are not limited to restaurants and will be held at various locations, including two holiday events at Paramus Park. Those who attend

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Artistic Director Soprano Amy Owens singing for the crowd at Caffe Anello on Aug. 25.

Photo Credit: Keri Antas

can expect to hear top-notch performances, eat fantastic food, and spend time with the singers.

“Amy recently brought mezzo-soprano Sishel Claverie into Bel Canto’s roster, and to hear the two of them together is out of this world,” stated Vitale. “After Amy and Sishel finish a performance, they don’t disappear – they mingle; they speak with guests one-on-one; they answer questions. That’s something that doesn’t happen at the big venues where there’s an inherent separation between artist and audience.”

With each performance, Bel Canto aims to bridge this gap and bring the arts to the forefront of Bergen County, while also giving back to the community.

“There are a lot of misconceptions about opera – perceived barriers to entry that should be busted down,” explained Vitale. “It’s an art form for everyone, not just a few. Education through direct contact between artist and audience is a critical component of our events.”

Bel Canto Productions is about bringing everyone and everything together in one room, around

one table, in the hopes of making classical music more accessible, and, of course, creating a memorable and enjoyable occasion for all involved. Looking ahead, the group has big plans to continue growing their initiative by partnering with other local arts organizations to help educate and support performing arts in the community whenever possible.

“When people share an experience with the arts, it brings us closer – you feel it in the room,” said Vitale.

“With Bel Canto, we create magical moments.”

Don’t miss out on this chance to feed your soul. If you’re interested in learning more, getting involved or attending a Bel Canto Productions event, visit www.belcantoprod.com. The group’s next event, Fall in Love with Opera, will be held at Stony Hill Inn in Hackensack on Sept. 22 from 6:30-9:30 p.m.

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hen the scope of talent and motivation match, magic undoubtedly occurs. Meet 19-year-old New Jersey-born singer, songwriter and vocalist Frawley, legally Lauren Frawley. Not only does she possess a traffic-stopping voice, mile-wide vocal range, deep insight and identifiable lyricism, but her ambition also goes just as far. Rather than be shy about what she wants, the songstress doesn’t hide her intentions. Instead, she positions herself for the biggest platform possible by way of capitalizing on endless potential.

“I want my music to sound very big,” she exclaims. “I want it to be global. It’s important for guys and girls to both identify with it. I’d love for people to listen to me, because I’m communicating what they’re going through. The feeling is that I can be everybody’s best friend.”

Ever since first singing “Mamma Mia” as a child, she immersed herself in music. She went from diligently studying voice, dance and musical theater at after school programs to posting videos on Facebook and Instagram. She drew inspiration from vocal titans, such as Beyoncé and Christina Aguilera, and electronic visionaries, like Avicii. Additionally, she discovered Irish acts, including The Wolfe Tones, The Dubliners and The Cranberries.

Regular trips to Ireland to visit family opened her mind to incorporating Celtic cadences, energies, and undercurrents into pop music.

“I’m Irish, so those Celtic melodies are definitely present,” she goes on. “It’s a really subtle blend. When I was a little, I spent all my summers in Ireland. It’s another world. The air you breathe in the second you get off the plane is so crisp.

Everyone is friendly. It’s relaxing. It just feels like home.”

In 2015, she began uploading covers of Rihanna, Adele, Demi Lovato and Tori Kelly to SoundCloud. Organically generating millions of streams, her take on Alessia Cara’s “Here” exploded with a staggering 12.8 million plays a year later. As her profile grew, she inked a publishing deal with First Access Entertainment and Warner Chappell. By 2019, she signed to Island Records for her own music.

She introduces a singular sound on the debut single “Easy.”

Originally written by Frawley, who attended school in Haworth, on a piano at home, her voice magnetically attracts the spotlight. Backed by glimmering production from Larzz Principato [Dua Lipa, Halsey] and Kinetics & One Love [Hailee Steinfeld, Melanie Martinez, Fletcher], the musical palette encompasses finger-snaps and an electronic ebb and flow as her expansive vocals take flight. It stretches from emotionally charged verses and a bright bridge into a robust refrain, “You make it so hard to leave when loving you is so easy.”

“I was thinking about somebody I had a crush on,” she smiles. “I was trying to convince myself I didn’t have a crush on this person though. Then, I finally felt like I was over the whole situation, but I wasn’t. I had to go back and face it.The same thing would happen all over again. It’s too easy to keep going back,” she laughs.

Right now, Frawley’s potential ultimately aligns with incredible possibility.

“I hope listeners want to play my songs again and again,” she leaves off. “I want them to feel so good and happy that they’re lifted. I’m just documenting how I’m growing up and living my life. I’m strong and vulnerable, and I love to love. I want to share this happiness in my music.”

To connect with Frawley, visit her Instagram, @iamfrawley; her Twitter, twitter.com/iamfrawley; and her SoundCloud, soundcloud.com/iamfrawley.

“I hope listeners want to play my songs again and again... I want them to feel so good and happy that they're lifted... I'm strong and vulnerable, and I love to love. I want to share this happiness in my music.”

– Lauren Frawley

Copy submitted by Lauren Frawley; photos by Ryan J. Coburn.

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ike Sulick Jr. has lived his entire life in Elmwood Park, serving the community as a volunteer firefighter just as his father did before him. While the borough’s fire chief knows the community values what he and his fellow volunteers do every day to keep them safe, he has never experienced the outpouring of affection and appreciation the way he did following the devastating fire that destroyed the Marcal Paper Plant, located on Market Street in Elmwood Park, in January.

The 10-alarm fire that drew first responders and firefighters from across North Jersey was the largest such blaze in recent Bergen County memory. Sub-zero temperatures, bone-chilling winds and the intensity of the fire made for what could have been a deadly situation. Yet, no one died that night, thanks largely in part to the work done by the Elmwood Park Fire and Police Departments as well the borough’s Department of Public Works, ambulance corps and other first responders.

The Elmwood Park schools, as a way of saying thank you, created the Elmwood Park Strong movement in honor of all those who answered the call that evening. The movement, which was spearheaded by the Parent Teacher Organizations of the borough’s grammar schools, hosted several events and did fundraising for the first responders in an effort to say thank you.

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Among the events that the group held was a March 24 brunch for first responders at Elmwood Park High School.

Nearly a dozen local businesses donated their services, providing food, decorations and drinks. The school’s cafeteria was draped in red, white and black and adorned with signs and messages of thanks created by the students.

“This makes us feel very good,” Sulick said. “Nothing has ever happened like this before, this kind of appreciation. Everyone appreciates the volunteer fire department but this outpouring, the guys ate it all up. A lot of people think we are paid firemen, you call 911 and we’re coming, but we don’t get paid to do this.

“Whether you are paid or not, this can be a very dangerous job,” he continued. “Whether you’re in Elmwood Park or Paterson or Clifton or Newark or places they get paid, we all get the same training. And the Marcal job was a lot more than just a fire. We had to deal with below zero temperatures and 40-50 mile-per-hour winds. I’m amazed that nobody got frostbite and nobody got hurt. It’s nothing short of a miracle.”

Nikka Milligan, 16th Avenue PTO president; Cher Pressler, 16th Avenue treasurer; Tanisha Dennis, Gilbert Avenue School PTO president; and Jennifer Solicito, Gantner Avenue School PTO president, joined together to make the brunch happen. The group also organized an #EPSTRONGDAY on Feb. 22, during which all the students were encouraged to wear the borough colors of red, black and white to honor the those who had a hand in fighting the Marcal fire.

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The firefighters traveled to each of the schools in the district, soaking in the cheers and high fives from the students who lined the hallways to say thank you.

“We went to all the district schools and to St. Leo’s and it was great for the guys, just a good feeling in general,” Sulick said. “The kids presented us with letters, the younger grades made colorful cards and the older grades wrote letters thanking us for our service. You don’t hear that too often in this line of work and this time we did.

Everybody appreciates it.”

Pressler, whose husband Mike is a former Elmwood Park fire chief, is also involved with the ladies auxiliary.

She works constantly in support of the fire department but has never seen the anything like the way the residents of Elmwood Park responded to this fire.

“This has been absolutely amazing,” Cher Pressler said.

“I didn’t think it would turn into this. We had so many people reach out to us, we didn’t have to solicit anything.

People wanted to come out and donate and show their support for the Elmwood Park fire and police departments.

It’s a great cause and I’m happy to be part of it.”

The March 24 brunch drew more than 125 first responders and students. Elan Catering, Ben and Jerry’s Crumbs Bakery, Stevie’s Weiners and Spencer Savings Bank, which donated $5,000, each donated time and services.

There was also a “Rescue Mania” wrestling event held on April 7 at the Elmwood Park Recreation Center in conjunction with “Wrestlemania,” which was held that night at MetLife Stadium in East Rutherford. The day featured a series of bouts sponsored by local businesses. All the proceeds from each of the events went to the Elmwood Park Fire Department, according to Milligan.

The money raised will go to buy the department a new gas meter calibration machine. The department previously used the calibration machine located in the Marcal plant.

“I think this is all really cool that they put on these events for the firefighters,” said Ava Dennis, 11, who attends the Gilbert Avenue School. “They do all this stuff for us every day and don’t get recognized.”

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Light Up the Night Light Up the Night: An Evening of Passion and Hope was held at the Venetian in Garfield to benefit the Caryl and Jim Kourgelis Fund for Hackensack Meridian Healthâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Center for Integrative Behavioral Health and Substance Abuse.

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Joe Sanzari, Caryl, TJ and Jim Kourgelis Late Spring 2017

Yogi Virk, Balpreet Grewal, Amy and Ryan Peene

Robert Garrett, Caryl and Jim Kourgelis

Patti and Ralph Lauretta, Frank Barbagallo

Wendy Lupo, Leigh Vaccaro, Sydney and Dana Spett

Steven and John Amoratis

Nick Gagliano, Carmine and Carmine Bufi

Jim Kourgelis, Lidia Adach, Carl Carfello Jr.

Joe Sanzari, Lori Rubino, Jim Murray, Joanne Sanzari

Domenic Cascio, Tim Rizvani, Aldo Cascio

Caryl, TJ and Jim Kourgelis

Bryana and Steve Paino

Larry Inserra, Pat Sullivan, Caryl and Jim Kourgelis

Peter, Pete and Joe Zisa

Jim and Nancy Bush

Marie Spinelli, Rob and Clarice Totaro

Calli, Carl and Maria Carfello

Ryan and Alexandra Held, Nicole and Mark Spinelli

Joe Sanzari, Lori Rubino, Kirk and Lisa Chagnon, Joanne and Hubie Clarke

Claudine Siero, Kevin and Tina Smith

Maureen Marshall, Gail Brauer, Ed and Joanie Brower

Nancy and Frank Sorrentino

Ed Salzano, Jim Kourgelis

Chris Eilert, Paul Sarlo, Kevin DeSimone

Greg, Lori and Gregory Iannone

Nancy Ocampo, Norm Forsyth

Andrew and Diane Lehman

Alexis, George and Katarina Kourgelis

Jerry Iannone, David Potack, Trae Minicucci

Luke Stelmack, Mike, John, Regina and Steven Salemme, Ralph Corrado

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Location: Private Residence, Upper Saddle River

Photographer: Nick Gagliano, Studio Uno Photography, Ridgefield Park

Stylist: Candace Kristin, Westfield Garden State Plaza, Paramus

Style Assistant: Sarah Hansson

Models: Aleksandra and Liane

Makeup: Gabrielle D’Amato, Alt Beauty by Alexa Rae, Ho-Ho-Kus

Hair: Alexis LaGrotteria-Bellifemine and Kendra Phillips, Salon Salon

Fall

FASHION Forecast

By Candace Kristin

Fall is in the air, and with my help, it will be in your closet, too.

After spending hours reviewing the designers’ runway collections from across the globe, it’s time to share my ten must-have trends for autumn. From palatable color palettes to an array of textures and exciting dramatic pieces, this season’s trends are very wearable. Here’s what you should add to your fall wardrobe.

Animal Print Redux.

A season is not complete without the â&#x20AC;&#x153;must-have animal print.â&#x20AC;? Unlike seasons past where only one print reigned supreme, this season select leopard, python or zebra. For extra bonus points, cover yourself head-totoe in your favorite print. You can try mixing a feline print with a reptile, but just make sure your scale and tones are on point.

The Power Cape.

One of the strongest outerwear pieces to come off the runway for this season is the cape. Designers created this chic outer layer in classic wools, tweeds and mixed blends. Many are adorned with decorative closures or are featured in a variety of colors from bright to leopard to traditional camel. If you want to feel like a superhero this fall season, try a cape. It is the perfect piece and can be worn dressed up or down, with jeans or a dress.

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Suit Up.

Sharp shoulders and Savile Row-style tailoring create the new suiting for this season. Power suiting is not just relegated to office meetings or in the 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. hours. Try the uniform dressing with a three-piece suit set in silk, velvet or tweed for an evening out. Unlike seasons past with boxy-oversized silhouettes, become one with your tailor this season and make sure your suiting fits like a glove and is hemmed to perfection.

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Florals.

This season has declared our floral will be dark and moodier. Retire for now the pieces in your wardrobe in light wispy colors. Rich floral hues where the botanical print is alive and bold are in. Look for dark backgrounds – like black or navy – with a large scale that’s three-dimensional, such as a bouquet floral.

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Metallic.

The future is here and retail floors are buzzing with foil-like metallic fabrics.

Materials are reminiscent of iridescent materials, shiny and a bit â&#x20AC;&#x153;out-there fabrications.â&#x20AC;? In years passed, we only wore these futuristic fabrics to sparkle our evenings. Now, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s time to wear these glistening looks in the daytime hours, too. Jump on the trend and find an overcoat, skinny pant, a pair of pumps or a clutch in this lustrous shiny fabric.

Blanket Dressing.

Styles that walked down the runway might as well double as a comforter â&#x20AC;&#x201C; think patchwork quilting, padded pieces and puffer coats. Once fall weather rolls around, look for a puffy down coat, a thick silk shall or quilted pants. Designers featured layering these rich fuzzy textures in tonal colors to create a chic athleisure ensemble.

Cashmere provided by The Cashmere Sale Pop Up. Visit thecashmeresale.com

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Bird Like Feathers.

This plumed trend makes a dramatic and very extravagant entrance this season. However, this wispy feather will not replace the dominant seasonal fur (lux or faux). Designers opted for feathers to be more of an embellishment or layering piece.You will see feathers on the retail floors, sweaters, accenting coats and dresses. Are you bold and feeling like not being the wallflowers for the evening? Search out a dress covered in feathers.

Mad for Plaid.

The Queenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s tartan made its way through multiple global fashion weeks. Presenting in various ways from oversized multicolored check, exaggerated glen plaids and buffalo check.This traditional print gets modern take and featured in everything from pleated feminine skirts, belted skirts, handbags and capes. Plaid is perhaps one of the most versatile patterns and mixes well with other prints.

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Color Hue:

Millennial Purple.

The range of this imperial color is endless. Pick your purple poison from lavender to orchid and everything in between. Surprisingly, this color can be elegant and chic when worn from head-to-toe.

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The Taste of Ho-Ho-Kus The Ho-Ho-Kus Chamber of Commerce held The Taste of Ho-Ho-Kus to highlight the dining and shopping opportunities throughout the town.

For more information, visit www.hohokuschamberofcommerce.com.

Lori Mercado, Edwin Jimenez

Ed and Denise Iannelli

Thomas and Karen Randall

Nina Crossley, Tom Brusca

Gwen Stuart, Jayme Wolf, Paul Meakem

Diane Baviello, Laurie Faig, Margaret Hanna

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Jerry and Julie Pignatelli

Late Spring 2017

Susan and Andy Varady

Patricia Wolyniec, Alexa Rae, Morgan Lupo

Donna and Kevin Harris

Aja and Keith Rosazza

Kelly VelasquezCarcich, Kim Hayes

Cristina Mirkovich, Terrie Unger

Bill Jones, Dawn Davis, Steve and Angela Strollo

Mayor, Council and Friends of Ho-Ho-Kus

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Valley Hospital Auxiliary Golf Outing The Valley Hospital Auxiliary Golf Outing was held at the Ridgewood Country Club in Paramus.

For more information, visit www.valleyhospitalfoundation.org.

John Alfano, Charles Vannoy, Don Strangfeld, Derrick Leib

Todd Poland, Peter Marron, Alex Peru, Dr. Frank Manginello

Chris Bormann, Mark Kury, Al McKinney

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Mary Lynn Kerns, Jean Flanagan

Brandon Morrison, Paul Hannah, Joe Lorino

Rob Carbognin, Dave Rellinger

Michael Bevilacqua, Russ Pucci, Bob Wagner, Anthony Degennaro

The Valley Hospital Auxiliary Golf Committee

Late Spring 2017

Denise Downey, Jean Meloro, Joe Lorino, Margaret Scancarello

Steve and Al Reynolds

Diana Frankel, Mary Boucher, Carol Gillespie, Margaret Scancarello

Jim Wolfson, Patrick Beesley

Vincent LoPiccolo, Rob Sheehan

Sandie Pardey, Paul Tanis

Peter Diestel, Joe Welter

Henry Wesson, Rob Ohnikian, Michael Wesson, AJ Guarente

Joe and Jill Welter, Erica and Peter Diestel

Wilderman Center for Maternal Mental Health The Wilderman Center for Maternal Mental Health at Hackensack University Medical Center held their inaugural benefit at the Alpine Country Club in Demarest.

For more information, visit www.hackensackumc.org.

Allison Hechler, Alyssa Bressman

Cynthia Weil, Meagan Hollander

Allison Breitstein, Randi Morris, Erika Jacob, Melissa Low

Dr. Paul Andrews, Aurielle Wilderman, Cory Andrews, Dr. Michael Wilderman

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Dr. Rick and Nancy Winters, Dr. Massimo Napolitano, Dr. Andrew Rubenstein, Dr. Julia Pywoz Late Spring 2017

Bill and Courtney Villafranco

Terry Freguletti, Lisa Iachetti

Elaine Wilderman, Jack Melnikoff

Elizabeth DeGregorio, William Carter, Bridget Kerr

Dr. Mark Schlesinger, Aurielle and Dr. Michael Wilderman, Dr. Ihor Sawzcuk, Dr. Thomas Salazer

Jason and Blair Schwartz

Kim Reid, Liz Labruna

Dr. Tracy Scheller, Aurielle Wilderman, Dr. Alexa Gottdiener

Crista Carr Shatz, Vanessa Procter

Michael Isolda, Meg Donley

Ramin Hastings, Adam Arnofsky, Bryan and Jennifer Murphy

Dr. Massimo Napolitano, Dr. Mark Schlesinger, Susan Napolitano

TimeSpring redesigns how memories are shared

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By Tara DeLorenzo

fter spending years teaching the American dream to high school literature classes, 31-yearold Felice Bernard decided to follow the dream herself with the development of TimeSpring, an app looking to redesign how memories are shared.

Available in app stores for the last two years for both IOS and Android,TimeSpring allows you to send time-delayed messages, images and videos to loved ones so the recipients receive them whenever the sender decides.

The idea was inspired when Bernard had her children.

Bernard is a mother of three children, ranging between the ages 2 to 6. When she and her husband became parents, they started writing letters to their children, imagining they would be giving them to their children at special milestones and ages.

“We did that for a little bit, and although it was very special, I just thought there has to be a better way to do this and I was like, ‘When are we even going to give these letters to them – do we wait until they’re 18? Should this be one for their wedding day?’ And then I thought,‘Well, what about pictures?’ I was home with my maternity leave, and I was taking all these pictures and I just thought how are they even going to see them,” she said. “I was taking hundreds of pictures by the month, and I wasn’t printing them; they were all on my phone.”

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“There’s really something special about thinking about the future. When you use TimeSpring, you think about where your child is going to be and what’s my best advice.

It really is just a great exercise...”

TimeSpring, Bernard explained, is designed to look like a Ferris wheel of the most special people in an individual’s life.

So, after installation, the wheel on the app is blank until the user begins to fill it.While young kids may not have an email address, the app allows a user to add the child and a profile picture to still be able to send messages to them and set the time you would like the message delivered to them.

Times for messages vary, but most people, Bernard has found, send 10- to 20-year messages.

In addition to parents, grandparents are also using the app, and user feedback has made it so users are able to send messages to themselves as well. Bernard hopes more people use the app too as feedback turns into change and the app updates more.

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“Technology is pretty cool, and there’s really nothing like this out there,” she said. “There’s a ton of sharing what’s going on today, but it’s not at a future time. Everything is all in the present.

I do think that it’s going to just keep growing. It’s not just for parents; parents are obviously the ones that started and got the message out. Every age can use TimeSpring though, and that’s important. I see it continuing to become this all-encompassing, inclusive sharing method, which I really like. What’s cool is people are making it theirs. I’ve seen people use it for weight loss and tracking their benchmarks even.

Plus, I have people using it in healthcare, and I partner with a lot of non-profits that focus on terminal illness, and people are using it that way. It may have started as a

nice idea between parent and child, but it’s grown into this more universal tool.”

In looking at her own messages, Bernard is excited to see her children open their first messages. They will receive them when they turn 13, right before starting high school. She also has sent messages to them to be delivered when they are the same age as she is now so they can see how she was at their own ages.

With TimeSpring, Bernard has partnered with non-profit organizations, including the ALS Association, as well as schools and preschools to further the development and

help people share their treasured memories with the next generation.

“Under the surface, on a macro level, there’s a problem with how we’re capturing photos today and how we’re going to share stories about your family. I don’t have the same photo albums my mom made me, and part of the purpose of taking a photo is that it’s passed on, and so we’re taking all these photos but where are they really going? That makes me uncomfortable,” Bernard said. “This next generation is just totally different in terms of what photos really mean, and sharing those family stories is so important. The photos become the inside jokes, and all those memories become part of the family identity. So, TimeSpring is also about that.

It’s about making sure this next generation can enjoy some of these photos.”

Bernard has been excitedly working on the app and pushing it along. After spending years as a teacher, she wanted to push herself to follow the lessons she was shar-

ing with her students. In developing TimeSpring, which was nominated for Best Overall App of 2018, she was able to pursue her passion and share an experience with her children as well.

“I taught the American dream all day long, and after a while, it’s like you can almost become envious of the characters you talk about, and I felt like I should go out and do something,” she said. “My life has changed a lot, but in the same respect, it’s not so much that I’m talking about dreams and entrepreneurships, I’m going after it and I’m more in action-mode rather than just inspiring others to do it. I would say my life has changed for the better. It’s the next phase of my life. It’s funny how there are kernels of my other careers that help this process even though they’re so different.”

With her transition from teacher to app developer, Bernard is making sure to keep her focus on what started this venture: her children. As she works to ad-

vance TimeSpring, she is looking to continue to grow with the needs of the users and is honing in on the future and what that will mean for the company and her own family. She hopes users will see the importance of reflecting on the future in the present as well.

“There’s really something special about thinking about the future,” she said.“When you use TimeSpring, you think about where your child is going to be and what’s my best advice. It really is just a great exercise, and it just makes you more present to think about the future, which sounds strange since you’re thinking on but that’s what makes it most special. Especially as parents, we don’t always have the perfect thing to say, so it’s nice to freeze time for a little bit and reflect on what’s going on and what’s going to happen.”

TimeSpring is available for free on Apple App Store and Google Play, and more information can be found at https://timespring.com.

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STYLE WITH SONECA

What To Wear When Working From Home

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By Soneca Guadara

s a personal fashion stylist, I often get approached and asked,“What should I wear when working from home?’ It may seem obvious – no suit or jacket is required. But, how casual should you actually dress?

More and more companies are seeing the benefits of having their employees work at home. According to Forbes, 20- 30 million Americans work at least one day a week. Americans are dressing way more casually than they did fifty years ago.

So, with this said, what do you wear when working from home? I’m sure many of you have worked in your pajamas before. In theory, it sounds like a dream come true; however, in reality, you probably agree that the days you worked in your pajamas weren’t the most productive. Productivity probably soars on days you were actually dressed. After all, studies show that you will feel more authoritative, trustworthy and competent when wearing some type of attire that requires some effort.

The following are some tips on how to get you in the mode for dressing when working at home.

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HAVE A CLEAR START. Prepare for the day as if you were heading into the office. Enjoy your coffee, a work out and a shower, and then get ready. It will help with your mindset.

DRESS FOR SUCCESS.

Dressing up puts you in a mental state of mind that will make you feel more present and will emit a higher level of commitment, even if you are home alone. If others are home, it sends the signal that you are working and not to disturb.

CASUAL BUSINESS.

Comfort is key when working at home.You don’t have to wear a full suit but maybe you’d like to add a knit blazer to your jeans and shirt. Men, a collared shirt with jeans still looks polished without compromising comfort.

If you are video conferencing, you want to look polished from your head to your waist.

GO SHOPPING (OR GET A PERSONAL STYLIST).

It’s so easy to stay in loungewear all day. Maybe you’d get excited to get dressed in the morning if you went shopping. Get your basics or hire a stylist – like me – to help you do your shopping for you.

STYLE MUST-HAVES.

Speaking of the basics, here are my style must-haves: leggings; jeans; khakis; slip on shoes, such as loafers or ballet flats; casual blouses; collared shirts; sweaters; simple delicate jewelry; and light makeup.

I hope I have given you some reasons why it’s important to dress up when working at home. Hey, if you don’t want to waste a good outfit, head out to your local Panera Bread or Starbucks to get your work done.Whether you are an independent contractor or own a homebased business, if you look good, you will feel fabulous and have a more productive day.

Soneca Guadara is a personal fashion stylist who makes her clients feel beautiful and confident.When Soneca is not working her magic assisting her clients, she can be found working backstage at New York Fashion Week, working on location shoots and contributing as an onair fashion/style expert and style writer. You can follow Soneca on her Instagram (@stylebysoneca) for weekly style tips.

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By Kristin Favaloro

ummer flew by, as it always does. But, now that it is

autumn, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s time to fall into a new beauty (and fash-

ion) routine. Bring on the sweaters, boots and lattes

as well as new finds from skincare to fragrances. Here are some

great products to add to your arsenal just in time for fall.

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Glowbiotics MD Probiotic Brightening and Refining Layering Solution

This is one of my latest and favorite medical grade skincare products.This toner contains probiotics and Vitamin C to really resurface your uneven skin and improve the tone and texture of it. I have seen a difference after just a few weeks of using it. Available at premierlook.com.

Muah Makeup Gel Waterline Liner (In Nude)

I love how this really opens up and brightens my whole eye by just applying it to my lower waterline of my eyes.

It even lasts all day. Available at Muah Makeup, Westwood.

Vow Beauty Wedded Bliss Glycolic Acid & Aloe Facial Cleanser

Hourglass Scattered Light Glitter Eyeshadow

A local Bergen County woman owns the company that created this cleanser. The line is a clean beauty line, which I love, and this cleanser really leaves my skin fresh, clean and so soft. Available at vow-beauty.com.

This eyeshadow is great to finish off an eye for a night out. They are weightless and have zero fallout. Available at Bluemercury, Closter.

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Bath and Body Works Rose Water & Ivy Body Spray

Anything rose is a favorite of mine. This was actually one of my favorite scented candles, and now they have a body and fragrance line. The musky rose scent is so feminine and sexy and it lasts. Available at Bath and Body Works, Ticeâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Corner Marketplace, Woodcliff Lake

Fenty Beauty Sun Stalkâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;r Bronzer in the shade Island Ting

This matte bronzer gives a natural glow. It blends so easily and looks so natural Available at Sephora, Paramus Park Mall, Paramus.

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KKW Beauty Skin Perfecting Body Foundation

Chanel Baume Essential Multi-Use Glow Stick

I am a highlight junkie, so when one of my favorite high-end brands came out with a new glow stick that is multi-use I was all over it. I love how this gives your eyes, cheeks and lips that gorgeous natural dewy glow.

Available at Nordstrom, Garden State Plaza, Paramus.

This product keeps selling out in minutes, and now I know why! It blurs out any imperfections, is water-resistant and contains silky powders that leave you flawless.

Trust me, you will want to be covered in this product head to toe everyday. Available at KKWbeauty.com.

Kristin Favaloro is a Jersey girl with a serious makeup and skincare obsession. Follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/pg/ beautyandtheburbsnj or visit her blog at www.beautyandtheburbsnj.com to discover all that Bergen County has to make a beautiful you. Have a product youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d like Kristin to check out? Email her directly at beautyandtheburbs201@ gmail.com.

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Talk of the Town Scotch and Cigar Dinner The Talk of the Town Scotch and Cigar Dinner, sponsored by The Timepiece Collection and Brequet Timepieces, was held at The Brick House in Wyckoff. The dinner also benefitted The Carl Inserra Leukemia Fund. For more information, visit www.bcthemag.com.

Brandon and Steven Goldstein

Michael Chananie, Lance Vicente

Lou Lignelli, Samantha Slater, Jeffrey Khalaf

Zach Glattman, Justin Rattner, Evan Smith, Brandon Bach

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Jason Sperber, John Gretkowski, David Findel

Late Spring 2017

Michael Cerullo, Kevin Roenbeck, Mark Pizzurro

Sharon Goldstein, Michele Conte

John Gramcko, Matt and Bob Carpenter

Aldo Cascio, Ray and Matt Maimone

Lawrence Inserra III, Dan Zotollo, Nicholas Allegretta, James Cuomo

Nikki Pecoraro, Brandon Goldstein

Josh Thomson, Jessica Judge, Chris Rotio

Steve Leles, Errick Paragioudakis, Jimmy Kourgelis

Alan Russo, Nick Said, Chuck Evans, Joe Gratkowski

Ahmad Shahriar, Danielle Wolson, Scott Richardson

Jerry Iannone, RJ Konner, Sandy Cerami, Deshone Drummond

Joseph and Michele Conte

Josh Thomson, Jessica Judge, Chris Rotio

Joe, Tom and Lou Coviello

Andrew Maliscewski, Tim Spalt, Vinny Cannariato, Thomas Shine

Michael DeGiglio, James and John Bahri

Nicole and Ed Pecoraro

Michael Rosenberg, Ahmad Shahriar, Jeffrey Khalaf

Lauren and Simone Craig

Rich LaBarbiera, Paul Leale, Jason Ronchi

Zack and Michael Levison, Brian Weinstein, Scott Gurtman

Mike Camacho, Marylou Dunn, Dr. Ralph Naploi, Alex Bua

Carlye, Steven, Sharon and Brandon Goldstein

Michael Chananie, Lance Vicente

Sharon Goldstein, Allan Roth

Keyanee Carpio, Juliette Rudish, Olivia Giannella

Gianluca Ragone, Robert Vicari, Charles Granatell

Shadi Sankar, Joseph Aziz, Moe Sankar

Mark Curcio, Jerry Iannone, Nick Cangialosi, RJ Konner

Sharon and Steven Goldstein

Jimmy Kourgelis, Edward DiTroia, John Ebanietti

Advances in Breast Cancer Treatment Modern breast cancer therapies are highly tailored to each patient’s needs, with doctors aiming to maximize the effectiveness of treatment while minimizing its impact on her quality of life and future health. BC The Mag spoke with Leslie Montgomery, MD, who leads the Division of Breast Surgery at Hackensack University Medical Center, to talk about the options available to women diagnosed with breast cancer today.

Q: What can a woman do to ensure that she has the best chance of beating breast cancer, if it is diagnosed?

A: . Breast cancer is most treatable when it is found early, so it's important to keep up with breast screening through regular mammography. Our team advises a woman to have her first screening mammogram at age 40 and to continue having a mammogram each year afterward. If she has a higher risk of cancer due to her personal or family medical history, she may be advised to begin screening sooner.

At our center, we use 3D mammography (Tomosynthesis) for all patients who come to us for breast screening. It is better than regular 2D mammography for detecting breast cancer, especially for women with dense breasts, and it produces fewer false positives (breast findings that turn out to be benign). After a screening mammogram, some women may also have breast ultrasound or MRI. Women should speak with their doctors to learn what screening is best for them.

Q: If breast cancer is found, what are the options for surgery?

A: Your breast surgeon will discuss which procedures are best for you, taking the stage, size, location, and biology of your tumor, as well as your personal preferences, breast size, and other factors into account. Most early-stage breast tumors can be removed through lumpectomy, where we remove the tumor but leave the remainder of the breast. We take an “oncoplastic” approach, taking out the tumor while preserving the look of the breast as much as possible.

Q: What if I need a mastectomy?

A: Mastectomy involves removal of all of the breast tissue, not just the tumor. Women who need a mastectomy and who want breast reconstruction can have both procedures done at the same time or have the reconstruction later. With skin-sparing mastectomy, the inner breast tissue is removed, but the skin is left intact before breast reconstruction. Some women having skin-sparing mastectomy are also candidates for nipple-sparing mastectomy depending on the location of the cancer, the size and shape of the breast, and the location of the

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nipple. Reconstruction can be done using tissue from another part of the body or implants. If you are considering breast reconstruction, your plastic surgeon will discuss the best options with you.

Q: When is radiation therapy needed?

A: Most women who have a lumpectomy have radiation therapy to the breast afterward. There are many types. The most common is external beam radiation, in which beams of radiation are directed to the breast from a machine outside the woman’s body. With a technique called “intensity-modulated radiation therapy,” radiation of various intensities, shaped to the contours of the lumpectomy cavity, is directed from different angles to target possible cancerous tissue while sparing normal tissue as much as possible. Most women are candidates for “hypofractionated” radiation therapy, where higher doses of radiation are given over fewer weeks. Patients appreciate the convenience of this approach.

At our center, we give external beam radiation therapy in the prone position – where the woman lies face down on a table with the treated breast falling through an opening – whenever we can. This allows us to direct radiation to that breast while sparing the lungs and heart, reducing the risk of side effects later in her life.

Q: Can I receive radiation therapy on the same day as my breast surgery and be done with treatment?

A: Intraoperative radiation therapy (IORT) for breast cancer involves the delivery of a single low dose of radiation to the cavity remaining in the breast after lumpectomy, while the patient is still in the operating room. This treatment has been publicized for its convenience and lower cost, compared with standard breast cancer radiation therapy. However, doctors have many concerns regarding the design of the study that supports the use of IORT, the interpretation of its results, the way the radiation is delivered into the lumpectomy cavity, and the effectiveness of the treatment – among other issues. For example, current IORT methods use a round applicator and assume that the cavity remaining after lumpectomy is also evenly round. But in reality, most lumpectomy cavities are not perfect spheres.

My team does not believe there is sufficient evidence to use IORT, and we do not offer it at Hackensack University Medical Center. However, we are conducting a clinical trial assessing a new approach to same-day treatment for women ages 45 and older with early-stage breast cancer. The therapy is given using a balloon applicator and is tailored to the contours of the lumpectomy cavity. Doctors use CT imaging to “sculpt” the radiation dose away from the heart, skin, and ribs. Patients have a lumpectomy in an operating room, and the radiation therapy applicator is placed in the lumpectomy cavity. After the anesthesia has worn off, patients then go to a special room in the Department of Radiation Oncology to receive a single dose of radiation therapy. We hope that this new approach can overcome the deficiencies of existing IORT systems while still offering same-day benefits to patients.

Q: What if I need chemotherapy or hormonal therapy for breast cancer?

A: A discussion with a medical oncologist can help you understand if you need chemotherapy, hormonal therapy, and/or a targeted anticancer drug as part of your breast cancer care. This decision is based on a number of factors, including your tumor’s size, stage, biology, and likelihood of coming back. State-of-the-art technology is now available to better define how and when to use chemotherapy appropriately. This helps to ensure patients get the treatment they need while avoiding therapies (and their side effects) that are not likely to be effective. For patients with advanced cancers, we are also exploring the use of “next generation gene sequencing,” a novel tool which can help us identify new molecules driving cancer growth. This technique could yield new treatment possibilities that are more targeted and effective than existing therapies.

With over 200 dedicated professionals, Hackensack University Medical Center has built the largest program in New Jersey focused on breast cancer – offering comprehensive services from screening and diagnosis through treatment, support, and survivorship. For more information, visit jtcancercenter.org. To make an appointment, call 1-844-HMH-WELL.

Talking

THE STIGMA OUT

of Infertility

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By Tara DeLorenzo

fter 8 years of trying to conceive, Raquel Bruno and Chris Caira welcomed their baby boy into the world with the help of an egg donor. Through their joy, they are working to share their story to help eradicate the stigma surrounding infertility.

The couple first got together in 2009 after reconnecting through Facebook. They married at 39 and even before their big day, they were trying to make their dream of being parents a reality. In fact, the two believed Bruno had been pregnant on their wedding day – but that was just the first of her three miscarriages over the next 8 years.

“The first one was really tough because it was my own egg, and basically it was like an empty nest,” Bruno said.“It was a sack with nothing in it, and it was really hard, but we thought, ‘Let’s keep trying.’ ” And so they did.

Infertility, according to Dr. Maria Constantini, a reproductive endocrinologist at Reproductive Medicine Associates of New Jersey (RMANJ) of Englewood, affects a range of people. Constantini stated that around 12 percent of women 15-40 reported to have infertility problems, with that percentage increasing sharply as women reach their thirties. Part of the problem too, she believes, is celebrity pregnancies, where older celebrities seemingly get pregnant with no assistance.Therefore, women don’t think, or simply don’t know, to get help earlier.

The Caira family began with an infertility clinic in New York City.

First, they tried intrauterine insemination (IUI), a procedure less invasive than in-vitro fertilization (IVF), Bruno said.When that was unsuccessful, they tried other clinics and procedures, including IVF. “The difference between natural and in-vitro is [the whole process] happens in the lab,” said Dr. Constantini. “[This means] we go and take

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the eggs before they’re in the tube and the body and brain is programed to have one or two eggs grow at one time in a woman’s ovary. So, what we do in IVF, we do what the brain does, meaning we give medications that the body is used to receiving and we program the body to, instead of growing one egg, to grow as many as possible in a certain cycle. It’s trying to recruit all the eggs that are available in a particular cycle and getting those eggs out before they’re expelled into the tube or ovulating.

We take them and fertilize them in the lab. We provide in the lab then what the fallopian tube provides naturally.”

Bruno tried 15 rounds of IVF, and after her third miscarriage, she, heartbroken and beaten down by losses, felt she needed to take a break from it all.

“It was just heartbreak every month,” Bruno said. “You get pregnant or you think you’re pregnant, there’s just so many highs and lows. It takes a toll, physically, financially, mentally, spiritually, you just become bankrupt. It’s just too hard to keep going.”

Bruno and Caira knew they weren’t looking to adopt; Bruno had always wanted to carry a child. So, one night, as they watched a show Bruno had helped produce, the couple decided to try again, this time with the help of an egg donor – a decision that took a lot of soulsearching for Bruno to come to terms with.

Their doctors at RMA were nothing but supportive, helping the couple come to terms with their options.

“Going through it together, I think the biggest part is that Raquel wasn’t going to be able to use her own egg, so with not being able to use her own egg, it was a hurdle because it wasn’t going to be hers, so to speak, and there was a stigma to not using her own eggs, like it not being her baby,” Caira said. “All these things popped in our heads. But the people at RMA, especially Dr. [Eli] Rybak, really talked us through all of these things because they’ve done it for so many folks and they allowed us a voice; they allowed us to cry; they allowed us to talk and verbalize a lot of things we’d been thinking of together that we were unsure of moving passed that big hurdle of using a donor egg, and once we had that talk with Dr. Rybak, he really put to rest a lot of fears and concerns we had.”

When they went to Dr. Rybak about their decision, the team at RMA was encouraging, but cautioned finding the right donor might take some time.

It took them 3 days to find their perfect match.

“This is obviously how our child was meant to come to us,” Bruno said.“It took me a long time for me to come around with it cause I come from a musical family; I come from a strong Italian/Jewish background; there were traits I have that I wanted my child to have. But then, once BC The Mag FALL 2019 101

we realized we found a donor and had hope it would work, we went and met with her and had a meeting with the team in Basking Ridge, and they walked us through and they basically said look, we can do this and it can happen, so I felt a little better about the decision. So we went in 2017, the end of July, and the pregnancy took.”

Baby J, while born 3 weeks early, was born perfectly healthy – as Bruno said, he “was healthy as an ox and born like a beast.”

Bruno’s pregnancy was in no means an easy one, as she had suffered from preeclampsia, but as she saw her baby boy for the first time, it was all worth it.

In the wake of their success, they began their quest together to help remove the stigma from infertility. Emphasizing that no woman or partner should feel alone in their struggles. For RMA, they put together a PSA video to encourage women to share their stories. RMA regularly sponsors webinars to help women come to terms with their infertility.

“Infertility has often been compared to the diagnosis of cancer, with the pain and stress people go through,” Dr. Constantini said. ”The problem with cancer is people understand cancer; people understand the fear of death and people are certainly right there to support people with that diagnosis, and rightfully so. With infertility, it’s more of a silent diagnosis. People don’t talk about it – they feel embarrassed or ashamed because there’s a certain feeling of accomplishment that you feel as a mother that you don’t feel if you can’t be a mother. You feel as if you’re failing as a woman in some ways, in front of friends, peers or even your family sometimes. So, we teach women how to communicate with friends and family, how to protect yourself. We talk a lot about taking care of you and what are the steps for that, with family, with friends or anyone you come into contact with.”

RMA also helps women and couples through encouragement and education. With options available for all stages of life, Dr. Constantini, while saddened that women are not more informed, is excited to help them and is in awe of their tenacity and bravery in the face of this silent diagnosis.

“I care about my patients,” she said. “These are a lot of real stories of fear, of loss, of sadness, but more than anything these women humble me because their endurance is beyond anything I’ve seen. The desire to have a child is probably one of the most fervent inner desires that a human can ever harbor and feel.”

Even in the face of all the options, Dr. Constantini, and both Bruno and Caira recommend, if a woman is delaying having a baby to consider freezing their eggs.

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“Infertility has often been compared to the diagnosis of cancer, with the pain and stress people go through... The problem with cancer is people understand cancer; people understand the fear of death and people are certainly right there to support people with that diagnosis, and rightfully so. With infertility, it’s more of a silent diagnosis.”

– Dr. Maria Constantini

other things before having a family, and doing those other things may influence whether or not they can use their eggs,” Caira said.

Bruno concurred, but also emphasized no woman is alone in her struggle.

“It’s like training for a marathon,” she said.“You have to prepare your body, your mind and your spirit to take on whatever’s in front of you. I thought for sure I was going to have a baby with my own eggs, and it wasn’t going to be a problem and then we couldn’t get pregnant.Then it was an egg donor and then it was preeclampsia.There’s nothing you can control. You have to be very flexible and open in your mindset and the biggest part is having the right support around you and that you have a partner who loves you no matter what and vice versa. And, you cannot blame yourself. It’s an easy thing to fall into, thinking why me, and you become hopeless.You really just have to find strength so you can go on the journey cause you don’t know where the journey will take you.”

With seminars and webinars, as well as programs like Big Sister at RMA, which pairs patients with other women who have experienced similar things, RMA and couples like the Caira family and their Baby J are hoping to eradicate any stigma following infertility, shifting the focus back to the power of parenthood and also to the donors.

“I do have to give a shout-out to those who donate, sperm or egg, because they are helping families,” she said.“They’re the unsung heroes in this. What I loved in the description of our egg donor was that, from what I remember, is she had family members who went through this and she felt she wanted to give back. That in itself was one of the reasons we chose her, her open heart.”

Not only do they hope their story will help couples that have faced a similar struggle, they also hope their story shows their son how much he is loved.

“I’m hoping to eradicate the stigma and that’s really important to me because I don’t want anyone to feel ashamed about his or her bodies,” she said. “Because when you go through that, you think, ‘Well, what did I do wrong? Some people just pump out kids, and why isn’t that us?’ You really start to get mad and upset.There are thousands of adjectives that go with it. But the most amazing thing is we live in a society that this is an option. [Infertility] brings you to dark places, but at the same time, with the darkness comes the light, and when you shed light on something, it no longer has to be dark; it means people do have hope and you’re not alone in the process. This is my narrative, and this is a narrative I gave myself; I don’t need someone else’s words, I want him to hear from mommy and daddy how much hard work we did to get him, how much he’s loved. It was worth every minute of everything we went through. I just wish it happened sooner and that we could’ve had this option earlier in life. I’m perfectly happy with our one happy baby.”

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THE SPORTS DOCTOR

By Dr. Michael Gross

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he kids are back in school and fall sports are in full swing. Every year, millions of teenagers participate in high school sports. Of course, occasional bumps and bruises are expected. In fact, for more than 1.35 million children last year, a sports-related injury was severe enough to send them to a hospital emergency department.

Sprains and strains, fractures, contusions, abrasions and concussions top the list of sports-related ER diagnoses for children ages 6-19 – at a cost of nearly one billion dollars each year. Even more than the monetary cost, an injury to a high school athlete can be a significant disappointment for the teen, the family and the coaches. Even more ominous, high school sports injuries can be the cause of long-term problems, such as arthritis, that can become permanent problems for an adult.The pressure to play may even lead to additional injuries with long-term effects.

While injuries from recreational activities, such as biking, have fallen over the last decade, team sports, including football and soccer, saw injuries rise by 22.8 percent and 10.8 percent, respectively. Football caused the most emergency room visits among U.S. athletes 19 and under (394,350 ER visits in 2012), followed – in order – by basketball, soccer and baseball.

The body parts most injured are the ankle, head, finger, knee and face. Strains and sprains are the most commonly diagnosed in kids – 451,480 annually. Next are broken bones, bruises, scrapes and concussions.

When a sports injury occurs, it is important to quickly seek proper treatment. To ensure the best possible recovery, athletes, coaches and parents must follow safe guidelines for returning to the game.

The Adolescent Athlete

Teenage athletes are injured at about the same rate as professional athletes, but injuries that affect high school athletes are often different from those that affect adult athletes.This is largely because high school athletes are often still growing. Remember, children are not small adults.

Growth is generally uneven. Bones grow first, which pulls at tight muscles and tendons. This uneven growth pattern makes younger athletes more susceptible to muscle, tendon and growth plate injuries.

Types of High School Sports Injuries

Injuries among young athletes fall into two basic categories: overuse injuries and acute injuries. Both types include injuries to the soft tissues (muscles and ligaments) and bones.

Acute injuries are caused by a sudden trauma. Examples of trauma include collisions with obstacles on the field or between players. Common acute injuries among young athletes include contusions (bruises), sprains (a partial or complete tear

of a ligament), strains (a partial or complete tear of a muscle or tendon) and fractures.

Not all injuries are caused by a single, sudden twist, fall or collision. Overuse injuries occur gradually over time when an athletic activity is repeated often and parts of the body do not have enough time to heal between practice sessions or games.

Young athletes who play a single sport for more hours a week than years old they are, such as a 10-year-old who played 11 or more hours of soccer, are 70 percent more likely to experience serious overuse injuries. Doctors are seeing more overuse injuries. There has been a fivefold increase since 2000 in the number of shoulder and elbow injuries among youth baseball and softball players. In fact, 50 percent of all sports injuries to middle school and high school students are attributed to overuse.

Letting the body rest, adding preventive and strengthening exercises and following proper technique are among injury prevention strategies recommended to prevent over use injuries. In addition, athletes should be encouraged to speak up about injuries; coaches should be supported in in-

jury-prevention decisions; and parents and young athletes should become better educated about sports safety.

Overuse injuries can affect muscles, ligaments, tendons, bones and growth plates.

For example, overhand pitching in baseball can be associated with injuries to the elbow.

Swimming is often associated with injuries to the shoulder. Gymnastics and cheerleading are two common activities associated with injuries to the wrist and elbow.

Stress fractures are another common overuse injury in young athletes. Bone is in a constant state of turnover â&#x20AC;&#x201C; a process called remodeling. New bone develops and replaces older bone. If an athlete's activity is too great, or increased too quickly, the breakdown of older bone occurs rapidly and the body cannot make new bone fast enough to replace it. As a result, the bone is weakened and stress fractures can occur â&#x20AC;&#x201C; most often in the shinbone and bones of the feet. In gymnasts, however, the upper extremities are particularly at risk. Golfers, on the other hand, can develop stress fractures of the ribs and stress fractures of the spine (known as spondylolysis).

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Catastrophic Sports Injuries

Many sports, especially contact sports, have inherent dangers that put young athletes at special risk for severe injuries. Even with rigorous training and proper safety equipment, children are at risk for severe injuries to the head and neck with damage to the brain or spinal cord.

Catastrophic injuries have been reported in a wide range of sports, including ice hockey, wrestling, football, swimming, soccer, pole vaulting, cheerleading and gymnastics. It is important for coaches, parents and athletes to be aware of the guidelines and regulations developed for each sport to prevent head and neck injury.

Concussions are mild traumatic brain injuries.They are caused by a blow to the head or body that results in the brain moving rapidly back and forth inside the skull. Concerns over head injuries and concussions have grown in recent years as we have begun to understand that repeated concussions can have serious, long-term, permanent effects.

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Although some sports have higher instances of concussion, such as football, ice hockey and soccer, concussions can happen in any sport or recreational activity.

In 2012, 12 percent of all ER visits (163,670) involved a concussion, the equivalent of one every three minutes. Nearly half (47 percent) were in kids ages 12-15.

Thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s particularly troubling, given research showing that younger athletes take a longer time to heal than older athletes after a concussion because their bodies are still growing. We also know that a second concussion later can cause even more issues.

Reports show that in sports in which both girls and boys participate, girls report a higher percentage of concussions. Among youth basketball players, for example, 11.5 percent of girls seen in the ER are diagnosed with concussions, compared with 7.2 percent of boys. Among soccer players, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s 17.1 percent of girls compared with 12.4 percent of boys.

In 2010, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommended that young athletes

with concussions be evaluated and cleared by a doctor before returning to sports.The American Academy of Neurology issued a similar statement, and stressed that doctors who clear athletes for return to sports should be trained in managing and assessing sports concussions.

Basically, any young athlete with a suspected concussion should be removed from play and evaluated by a trained physician. Parents and coaches should be familiar with the signs and symptoms of concussion, and should maintain a low threshold for suspicion. No athlete should be allowed to return to play until their symptoms have completely resolved and an experienced physician has cleared them.

Growth plates are areas of developing cartilage tissue near the ends of long bones. When a child becomes full-grown, the growth plates harden into solid bone.

Because growth plates are the last portions of bones to harden (ossify), they are vulnerable to fracture. Growth plates regulate and help determine the length and

shape of adult bone; therefore, injuries to the growth plate can result in disturbances to bone growth and bone deformity.

Growth plate injuries occur most often in contact sports like football or basketball and in high impact sports like gymnastics.

Growth plate injuries are considered fractures and should be treated appropriately. If proper treatment is not obtained, serious complications can result is growth arrest and permanent deformity.

Prompt Medical Attention

Whether an injury is acute or due to overuse, a doctor should examine a high school athlete who develops a symptom that persists or that affects his or her athletic performance. Untreated injuries could lead to permanent damage or disability.

Some athletes may downplay their symptoms in order to continue playing. Coaches and parents should be aware of the more common signs of injury, such as pain with activity, changes in form or technique, pain at night and decreased interest in practice. If your child receives a soft tissue injury, commonly known as a sprain or a strain, or a bone injury, the best immediate treatment, until the athlete can be evaluated by a sports medicine physician, is easy to remember: R-I-C-E (Rest, Ice, Compression and Elevation).

• Rest: Reduce or stop using the injured area for 48 hours. If you have a leg injury, you may need to stay off of it completely.

• Ice: Put an ice pack on the injured area for 20 minutes at a time, 4 to 8 times per day. Use a cold pack, ice bag, or a plastic bag filled with crushed ice that has been wrapped in a towel.

• Compression: Compression of an injured ankle, knee, or wrist may help reduce the swelling.These include bandages such as elastic wraps, special boots, air casts and splints. Ask your health practitioner which one is best.

• Elevation: Keep the injured area elevated above the level of the heart. Use a pillow to help elevate an injured limb. Get professional treatment if any injury is severe. A severe injury means having an obvious fracture or dislocation of a joint, prolonged swelling, or prolonged or severe pain.

Doctor Examination

When necessary, the student-athlete should be evaluated by a qualified sports medicine physician. During the examination, the doctor will ask about how the injury occurred, the symptoms and will discuss the athlete’s medical history. During the physician examination, the doctor will look for points of tenderness, as well as range of motion.

If necessary, the doctor may recommend imaging tests, such as X-rays or other tests, to evaluate the bones and soft tissues.

Treatment will depend upon the severity of the injury and may include a combination of physical therapy, strengthening exercises and bracing. More serious injuries may require surgery.

Return to Play

A player’s injury must be completely healed before he or she returns to sports activity.

In case of a joint problem, the player must have no pain, no swelling, full range of motion, and normal strength.

In case of concussion, the player must have no symptoms at rest or with exercise, and should be cleared by the appropriate medical provider.

Media stories about the early return to competition by professional athletes following injury create the impression that any athlete with proper treatment can return to play at the same ability level or even better.

The goal of post-injury rehab should not only be return to pre-injury levels of performance, but should include education and conditioning to prevent re-injury.

It is important for players, parents and coaches to understand that depending on the type of injury and treatment required, the young athlete may not be able to return to the game at the same level of play—no matter how much effort is put into injury rehabilitation.

Prevention

Many high school sports injuries can be prevented through proper conditioning, training and equipment. The best way to avoid an ER visit is to start preparing before the first snap, tipoff, face-off or pitch of the season.

High school athletes require sport specific training to prevent injury. Many injuries can be prevented with regular conditioning that begins prior to the formal sports season. Injuries often occur when athletes suddenly increase the duration, intensity or frequency of their activity. Young athletes who are out of shape at the start of the season should gradually increase activity levels and slowly build back up to a higher fitness level.

Using proper technique for the position being played is also key to preventing injury.

Proper equipment – from the right shoes to safety gear – is essential. In addition, injuries can be prevented when athletes understand

and follow the rules of the game, and display good sportsmanship.

Because many young athletes are focusing on just one sport and are training yearround, doctors are seeing an increase in overuse injuries.

Parents should limit the number of teams in which your child is playing in one season.

Athletes who play on more than one team are especially at risk for overuse injuries. Do not allow your child to play one sport yearround – taking regular breaks and playing other sports is essential to skill development and injury prevention.

Preventing Re-injury

When you’ve recovered, you might need new protective gear to protect an injured body part. This can include modified shoes, tape to provide extra support or additional padding to protect against a direct blow.

To help prevent re-injury be sure to warm up before practice and games. Take it

slow when you first get back to your sport and gradually build back up to your pre-injury level.

Most importantly, know your limits.

Check in with your body: if a previously injured area (or any body part) begins to hurt, stop right away and rest. Get help from a doctor if the pain continues. Pain is your body’s way of saying something isn't right. Pre-participation physicals should identify areas of weakness, or previous injury, and should suggest strategies for rehabilitation to prevent further problems.

Youth sports can be an important part of growing up for many student-athletes. However, safe participation is essential to provide the full enjoyment and benefits. Safe participation can only be achieved through injury prevention combined with early recognition of injuries when they do occur. Finally efficient and proper treatment will insure a safe return to play.

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All-New Lexus ES350 F Sport Has Lexus Truly Reinvented Itself?

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By Richard Posluszny

bout 10 years ago, if you were to describe the Lexus brand one would probably keep it short and say something like it produced “nice luxury cars that are very reliable.” It’s noble that the marque has that in its corner, but it became apparent that its approach wouldn’t continue to age well.

Why? Well, buyers’ preferences started to shift.

You see, having conservative interior and exterior designs simply wasn’t cutting it anymore. In addition, Lexus’ competitors improved their customer service departments to meet Lexus’ legendary efforts.

Buyers made it loud and clear: They wanted sportier offerings in both car and sport-utility vehicle form factors. Toyota’s luxury division responded. That led to the launch of the 2008 IS F, which was a 400plus horsepower sport sedan. This marked a schism for the L brand.

I remember attending the New York Auto Show where I noticed one side of the floor boasted all hybrid vehicles that were painted a certain color. The other half? All vehicles equipped with Lexus’ F Sport packages and they were all painted another shade. It was like yin and yang.

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Since then, this ethos has permeated the Lexus brand. And, it’s a good thing. Across the board, Lexus’ vehicles have adapted more aggressive styling and the company’s once staid vehicles now have some panache that was sorely needed.

There’s no better example than the all-new Lexus ES. Years ago, the ES was the very definition of “beige.” It lacked personality; its design was akin to a bar of soap and it wasn’t an especially great product. But, it sold brilliantly. If buyer’s preferences didn’t change, Lexus probably would have stuck to its trusty formula.

When I saw the all-new ES350 F Sport for the first time, I knew I had to drive one. It didn’t look like a rebodied Toyota Camry any more. It looked more upscale and in line with Lexus’ flagship sedan, the LS. Boasting a large front spindle grille, it commands your attention – even if it is polarizing. Equipped with a more aggressive look, a larger wheel and tire package, a trunk lid lip spoiler and bolder paint options, this ES certainly isn’t your aunt’s or grandmother’s.

Getting more acquainted behind the three-spoke sport steering wheel, I found the ES350’s cockpit refreshing. The sport seats hug you in all the right places without being too aggressive, the touch points (e.g., steering wheel, shifter, door panels, etc.) are all trimmed with materials that feel great and its massive, 12inch infotainment screen is a welcome addition. There’s room in all directions and the rear seat has acres of leg room. This is

a nice change of pace from the cramped confines of its sibling, the IS. But with the good, comes the bad. Although the infotainment screen is properly sized, its software really needs to be revised from a user experience perspective – using the touch pad and mouse is extremely annoying more than 50 percent of the time.

And the instrument panel that shifts at the touch of a button, which is inspired by the company’s LFA supercar, is getting a bit tired. There are so many ways to visualize this information; it’s time to move away from the 2012 LFA that’s now about 8 years old.

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Powering up the ES350 F Sport, you’re how comfortable the ride Fuel economy is OK in F Sport trim. Durnot greeted with an exhaust note that creates ing my time meandering mostly sweeping is for its relatively low a ruckus. Instead, it’s just like any other ES. country roads I achieved 22-24 mpg. If $52,000 price point (as That’s because Lexus hasn’t changed essenyou’re seeking something more respectable, tested). From my experi- you should check out the ES300h, which is tially anything in the F Sport from a powertrain point of view. This means you get the ence, it exceeds the likes of the alternative ES hybrid. While you will same 3.5-liter V6 that produces 302-horsethe BMW 5-Series and Mer- sacrifice the sporting intentions of the F power and 267 lb.-ft. of torque as in other, trimmed ES, you will be very happy at the cedes-Benz E-Class.

That’s non-hybrid ES variants. pump. That’s because you won’t be there as Power is adequate but it won’t blow your high praise given those ve- often. During my time with the ES300h I doors off. Zero to 60 happens in a sedate 6.6 chalked up 48 mpg, which is a staggering hicles typically sell for seconds. Coupled with this motor is an eightfigure for a luxury sedan. north of $65,000 dependspeed automatic transmission that’s clearly Back to the F Sport. Flicking the driving engineered for comfort over speed – this isn’t ing on the engine and op- mode dial into Sport and Sport+ dials up the a bad thing. Shifts aren’t particularly noticemotoring experience a bit. By adjusting the tions selected. To me, able as the ES swaps cogs around town. weight of the steering, engine’s responsivethat’s the beauty of the One thing I hope Lexus does spend some ness, shift patterns and firmness of the ride, ES350 F Sport." time adjusting in its next-gen six-cylinder is I was surprised at just how adaptable the its sound. This is an area Lexus has always let fall by the way- ES350 F Sport was. On country roads, it feels more at home in side with exception of its magnificent V10-equipped LFA and Sport or Sport+ at speed; however, don’t get it twisted. The V8-powered F models. The V6 in the ES reminds me of a sewing ES350 F Sport is not a sports car. When pushed to its limits, the machine and when you throttle it, there’s no symphony. If you’re front-wheel drive ES pushes wide and loses confidence. in a six-cylinder Audi, BMW or Mercedes, there’s a certain qualAround town and left in Normal mode though, the ES handles ity to the aural experience. This is going to become more impor- pockmarked roads with ease and grace. It’s actually astounding tant as eight-cylinder motors sunset and six-cylinders become how comfortable the ride is for its relatively low $52,000 price the luxury alternative to four-cylinder powerplants. point (as tested). From my experience, it exceeds the likes of the 112 BC The Mag FALL 2019

BMW 5-Series and Mercedes-Benz E-Class. That’s high praise given those vehicles typically sell for north of $65,000 depending on the engine and options selected.

To me, that’s the beauty of the ES350 F Sport.

It single-handedly outclasses other vehicles from luxury automakers at a more affordable price. Sure, its styling is polarizing and it’s a front-wheel drive vehicle, but if you’re not pretending you’re at the racetrack, the latter won’t be particularly noticed. Having just driven the allnew BMW 330i and walking away disappointed due to its rough ride and lack of refinement in regards to interior trimming, there’s no question in my mind the ES350 F Sport is deserving of consideration. And that extends to proper executive sedans like the BMW 5-Series and Mercedes E-Class.

As the ES is quite spacious, it now is an alternative to larger luxury options. It really boils down to several things. First, you aren’t bothered by the styling of Lexus’ controversial front grille. Second, you can deal with the operation of its infotainment. And lastly, you’re open to a front-wheel drive vehicle.

Although I am mighty impressed by the ES350 F Sport, I’d hold out for an all-wheel drive variant to show up.

Then this would be a rather easy decision.

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Favorite Fall Flavors

Fall is here. Between the beautiful foliage and all the fall flavors, New Jersey is a great place to be.

Head to your local farm, grab some apples and pumpkins and enjoy all the delicious seasonal food that fall brings along with it.

Here are some great ideas to help you with your menu.

Apple Cider Mimosas

What better way to celebrate the fall than with these delicious mimosas? Simply combine your favorite champagne with apple cider from your local farm. If you want to get extra fancy, dip your glass in a cinnamon and sugar blend for a decorative rim. Garnish with a little slice of apple, and youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re ready to enjoy.

Donut French Toast

Sometimes our eyes are bigger than our stomachs, especially when it comes to seasonal food. It’s easy to get excited and grab more then you many need. If you find yourself with some leftover fall flavored donuts, you can bring them back to life by turning them into French toast. Just slice the donut into half-inch pieces.

Dip them in a bowl mixed with two eggs, 1/2 a cup of milk and a little vanilla. Melt some butter in a skillet and cook the French toast donut slices until they’re golden brown on both sides. Serve with syrup.

Apple Pie Crescent Rolls

You don’t have to be a great baker to make a killer apple pie. Using Pillsbury crescent rolls cuts your time and effort in half – not to mention, they are baked in perfect little individual servings. Roll out the crescent rolls into triangles. In a small bowl, combine a little brown sugar with 1 tablespoon of pumpkin pie spice. Spread a small spoon full over the triangles. Slice your apples and toss them in melted butter. Add an apple slice to the large part of the triangle and roll closed. Top with remaining butter and crushed pecans. Bake at 375 degrees Fahrenheit for 15-20 minutes. Let them cool before serving. Don’t forget the whipped cream and ice cream.

Pumpkin Fettuccine Alfredo

Most pumpkin flavored food focuses on dessert. I love this recipe because it allows me to enjoy my favorite seasonal flavor for dinner, too. This is a great dinner for the pumpkin lover in your life. Melt better in a large pan and add freshly chopped garlic.When the garlic is fragrant, add 1 can of pumpkin purée and 1/2 a cup of heavy cream. Season with a little nutmeg and stir well. Add some pasta water until the sauce is the consistency you like. Stir in fettuccine and serve hot.

Please don’t forget to shop locally.

We are so fortunate to be within reach of these amazing New Jersey farms.

Farmers work hard to provide us with the freshest produce. Say “thank you” by stopping in and buying some seasonal items.

Tara Ippolito-Lafontant is a long-time Bergen County resident and local foodie.

This stay-at-home mom is the creator of Al Dente Diva, a page where she shares recipes, entertaining tips and cooking hacks with her followers. Visit her on Instagram (@AlDenteDiva) for a peek into her everyday culinary adventures.

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By Audrey Zona

ummer is in our rearview mirrors. Does that cause you to sigh heavily or cheer like a lunatic? Either way, it is time to get organized by meal prepping.

As a busy mom, I know that preparation is essential in everything. I’d have to say, one of the most important components of being successful in terms of weight loss and keeping a clean diet is preparation and planning.

The more prepared you are, the less decision making you’ll have, and I promise this will help you to stay on plan.

Our brains are only capable of handling so much data. That’s why by the end of the day, after making thousands of decisions, we tend to fall apart. Enter late night snacking. Late night snacking tends to be an issue for so many people. As the old saying goes, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail, and I couldn’t agree more.

The good news is that I have plenty of ideas to help.

Consider this your back-to-school meal prep 101.

I make Sunday prep a priority, spending a few hours that day preparing for my week ahead. I don’t necessarily make all of my meals each Sunday, but I do make a number of things that I can use to assemble the meals for the week ahead. I typically do my shopping on Friday or Saturday and then any small job that can be checked off the list should be accomplished on Sunday when I can grab a few hours in relative peace to knock out my list.

Here are some examples of my tried-and-true goto items to make in advance: egg muffins with veggies (recipe follows); oatmeal muffin cups; hard-boiled eggs; chopping raw veggies (Ziploc of raw veggies that are 116 BC The Mag FALL 2019

ready to grab); roasting veggies; salads; and crockpot chicken (recipe follows).

“When I have my food either with me, or prepared ahead of time, I stay on track and eat really clean.When I have to ‘grab on the run,’ I tend to choose the wrong things, and they tend to be way too high in calories, fat and carbs.”

I hear this consistently from my private clients, so avoid this by prepping. Everything on this list above is not only healthy, but it’s easy to make and serve. Hardboiled eggs, oatmeal muffin cups and egg muffins are perfect for breakfast.Veggies in a Ziploc bag make great snacks and salads with fresh greens, veggies and lean protein are perfect for lunch.

For my fellow moms: for yourself and those kiddos, you need to prepare lunches the night before, because the mornings are hectic enough as it is. Choose healthy options and load up your pantry so that assembling lunches is a breeze and not an early morning headache.

For dinner, crockpots and instant pots are your ally.

Some of them allow you to prepare a balanced meal in under 30 minutes, and it’s not just chili or pot roast.

These tools help with easy, quick and healthy family meals.

Finally, I recommend that busy working moms consider taking advantage of meal prep from a local favorite of mine: Chef Craig of Craig’s Kitchen in Waldwick. I’ve partnered with Craig and we’ve designed a fabulous menu of yummy, healthy food that’s pre-portioned, organic, low calorie and ready to grab and go. If interested, contact me for all the details at Audrey@livezohealthy.com.

Egg Muffins Ingredients: • 12 organic eggs • organic egg whites (if needed to top off at end) • splash of almond or coconut milk (optional) • 4 slices of turkey bacon (I prefer Willshire farm) chopped up • ¼ cup chopped onion • ½ cup chopped spinach • any other veggies, such as zucchini, squash, broccoli, butternut squash, etc.

• sprinkle of Daiya cheese or a low fat cheese of choice • salt and pepper Directions: Mix the eggs and milk in a bowl. Pour the mixture into silicone cups in a muffin pan that serves 12. Fill about ¾ full. In a sauté pan, cook up the veggies, or roast them in advance. Add in the mixture of veggies to each muffin, and then top with the cheese, if desired. Season with salt and pepper, and bake for 30 minutes or until browned at 350 degrees Fahrenheit. Store in an airtight container in the fridge or freeze to last longer.

Easy Crock Pot Salsa Chicken

Ingredients: • 1or 2 packages of organic chicken breasts • 1-2 jars of your favorite salsa • 1 large red onion • cumin, chili powder, garlic powder, paprika, sea salt and pepper Directions: In the crockpot turned on low, add the chicken breasts, salsa, onion and spices. Cook for 6 hours until you can shred the chicken. Strain the chicken from the broth and place into a sealed container in the fridge for up to 4 or 5 days.

Audrey Zona is an Integrative Health, Nutrition and Wellness Coach and the founder of Zo Healthy (www.livezohealthy.com).

Her mission is to educate, inspire and empower you to become your most beautiful self from the inside out. She believes that outer beauty is a reflection of inner health and will become your champion on that journey toward health and wellness. She is a mother, wife and personal coach who loves seeing her clients break old diet patterns and enjoy more satisfying, healthier lives.

Follow Audrey on Instagram (@zo_healthy) or Facebook (www.facebook.com/ZoHealthy) for recipes, tips and tricks for leading a healthy lifestyle.

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Kurth Café Comfort in the

By Emily Vsetula

reviously known as Kurth Cottage Tea Room,Valley Hospital’s Kurth Café is more than just a place to grub. This gem is located on the first floor of the Phillips Wing, and whether they are mourning a loved one, celebrating a new life or simply passing through, thousands of people have found comfort within the welcoming atmosphere of the Kurth Café and the smiling faces of those who work and volunteer there.

What distinguishes Kurth from any other trendy café is its history and legacy.

The origin of the Kurth Cottage goes back to 1944, which is 7 years before the hospital even opened. The Valley Hospital Auxiliary was formed first, with planning how to decorate the hospital and selling sterile dressings as their main purpose. A group of empowered women soon decided that if they wanted to see the hospital add a third floor for a maternity wing, then they’d need to start fundraising.

Around 1950, along with that fundraising came the auxiliary’s new ownership of the Steilin House, which was located on the hospital’s property and was previously owned by Mr. and Mrs. Wilfred Kurth.

The hospital was still being built at this time, so in the meantime, the auxiliary decided to transform the old Steilin House into a small snack bar that would be entirely run by volunteers. This was excellent for the public relations department, and the Kurth Cottage turned out to be an easy way for the community to learn about the new hospital and help raise funds for it.

It was comprised of a few tables and chairs with a gift-shop in the corner, and a little snack counter where the most expensive item on the menu was a club sandwich for 65 cents, and the cheapest was a cup of coffee that cost one dime.

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Top picture: Meme Terpstra and Alida Kleinmann at the Annual Volunteer Recognition Dinner.

Left picture: Meme Terpstra was awarded for 50 years of service with the Valley Hospital.

In 1963, the whole system was moved into the hospital proper, and the Kurth Cottage was known as a friendly place where comfort and care would be provided by the staff and volunteers and people could buy flowers and gifts for their loved ones upstairs as well as grab a homemade bite to eat.

The Director of Volunteer Resources Elizabeth Tortella said that back in the day, there were hundreds of volunteers that would willingly come to be of service because it wasn’t as common for women to work during that time and they wanted to use their time to be helpful to the community however they could.To this day, the auxiliary has raised near $19 million for the hospital.

About 5 years ago, the Kurth Café was turned over to be run by the Valley Dining Department, rather than the auxiliary. Due to modern advances in technology and shifts in the economy, now there are just one or two volunteers on a shift at a time with around eight or nine staff workers. Waitresses and waiters have been replaced by a computer system that the customers use to place their own orders, and now the volunteers are responsible for delivering the orders to the tables and then cleaning up afterwards.

But, the original, homey and heartfelt atmosphere has stayed the same.

Tortella said, “You always have to put your mind on the fact that the families that come here sometimes have people that are critically ill upstairs. So for them, they need someone to just be supportive and kind, and talk to them. It’s a comfort roll that the volunteers have more than anything.”

Kurth Café’s youngest junior volunteer, Keerit Geerwal, 15, said that her favorite part of volunteering is talking to all of the people and seeing the doctors, patients and families come in. She also likes that the atmosphere in the café is typically happy, and said, “everyone has a smile on their face.”

On the other hand, two of the oldest volunteers are Meme Terpstra, 86, and Alida Kleinmann, 91. Together, these two women have selflessly put in over 95 years of volunteer work.

Terpstra is a woman so benevolent that she donated blood until her veins collapsed, and says that she will continue to volunteer for Kurth Café for as long as the Lord continues to give her strength. Her mother motivated her to start volunteering back when she would sew sheets, pillow cases and towels for the hospital before it’d even opened.Terpstra’s bloodline is filled with congenial, driven women, as her children also volunteered for the café while they were in high school, and today her grandchildren participate in volunteer work in Michigan. Although Terpstra volunteers now just in Kurth Café, she still enjoys sewing hats for the newborn babies when she can.

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Terpstra remembers a time when the café had lobster salad, apple crisp for dessert and chicken salad that was made fresh every day. Now, her favorite item on the menu is still the chicken salad, but with new sweet potato fries on the side.

She gives praise to the café’s chef, Bob Bachmann, who implements new specials onto the menu weekly. Bachmann said that he likes to switch up the soups that he makes, with the carrot soup being the most popular. He also switches from lobster bisk to lobster rolls in the summer, both of which are also widely desired.

The specials usually come with your choice of a fountain drink or a bottle of water, and after ordering the weekly breakfast special three times, the fourth is free.

At the beginning of each week, updated paper menus are given to one of the junior volunteers, who are still in high school, to then be posted in the hospital elevators for all riders to view.

With 21 years of cooking for Kurth Café under his belt, Bachmann said that many of the nurses and doctors know who he is and ask when their favorite specials will be returning again.

Food served throughout the hospital and in the café, occasionally comes from the hospital’s outside garden and indoor hydroponic station where they produce tomatoes, peppers, parsley and other herbs and spices. Bachmann said that the hydroponic station attracts the attention of many of the café’s customers and makes for a great topic of conversation.

Bachmann enjoys the people and environment there the most and plans to keep cooking for as long as he hospital will have him. He said, “Where else would I go?”

The manager of Kurth Café, Christine Standi, said that the staff, volunteers and cooks will make accommodations for customers when necessary. She said that if they have the ingredients to cook something that somebody wants, they will make it.

“I think everybody is cheerful and helpful. They greet everybody. All the staff is more than willing to help,” said Standi.

Standi believes that the hardworking volunteers are motivated by the hospital auxiliary pledges and their next goal is to raise 3.1 million dollars to go toward the new pediatric emergency room at the new Valley Hospital being built, according to Tortella.

“Over the years, they’ve selected pledges that really support a lot of women and children issues. I think hospitals always have to have a comfort zone. The gift shop and the café are the comfort zone for the people who are coming here,” said Tortella. “They need a place where they can sit down and have a meal and just relax away from the hospital room environment and just refresh themselves.”

The café’s hours are 7 a.m. to 7 p.m. during the week and 11 a.m. to 7 p.m. on Saturdays and Sundays. The hospital is always seeking volunteers, so if you are interested, contact the volunteer office at (201) 447-8135 to get involved.

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Alida Kleinmann at the Annual Volunteer Recognition Dinner, where she accepted an award for 45 years of service.

The New Yorkers take over The River Palm Terrace In Mahwah

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179 Godwin Ave., Wyckoff 201-848-1211

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362 Grande Ave., Englewood 201-871-7444

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84 Broadway, Hillsdale 201-666-8688

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268 Terrace Ave., Hasbrouck Heights 201-393-7699

The Cornerstone

The Barn

51 W. Allendale Ave., Allendale 551-264-9200

Ivy Inn

1350B Queen Anne Rd., Teaneck 201-862-0600

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Nostramana Café

The Shop’s at Riverside, Rt. 4W, Hackensack 201-488-5667

Coffee & Cornbread Co.

Bacari Grill

525 Moonachie Ave, Wood-Ridge 201-728-4891

Houston’s

55 NJ-4, Hackensack 201-488-4999

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Mob Burger

1 East Franklin Turnpike, Ho-Ho-Kus 201-445-4115

Coach House Restaurant

Alt Eats Cafe

228 Main St., Ridgefield Park 201-373-0228

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2023 Hudson St., Fort Lee 201-582-7101

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231 Godwin Ave., Midland Park 201-670-9233

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29 Central Ave., Midland Park 201-445-3335

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Steel Wheel Tavern

Mr. Wok & Sushi (BYOB)

80 Green St., Teterboro 201-288-1170

Plank Pizza Company

704 River Rd., New Milford 201-262-5600

The Plum and The Pear (BYOB)

393 Franklin Ave., Wyckoff 201-485-8793

Reilly’s Rib Cage (BYOB)

49 W. Church St., Bergenfield 201-771-7200

Roots Steakhouse

17 Chestnut St., Ridgewood 201-444-1922

Fountainview Restaurant

200 Main St., Fort Lee 858-999-5555

Garden State Plaza (Rtes. 17 & 4), Paramus 201-843-7693

Rotunda

274 Fairview Ave., Westwood 201-664-7576

383 Market St. Bldg. D, Saddle Brooke, 201-843-2426

Wok Bar

Sheraton Crossroads, 1 International Blvd.

(Rt. 17N.), Mahwah 201-529-1313

Rudy’s

107 Anderson Ave., Hackensack 201-489-4831

144 Main St., Fort Lee 201-592-0450

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231 Polify Rd. (Rt. 80), Hackensack 201-342-4085

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301 Center Ave., Westwood 201-497-6333

W’s Grill

20 Elm St., Oakland 201-651-0005

1 Highwood Ave. 2nd Floor, Tenafly 201-569-3969 Petite Soo Chow

607 Gorge Road, Cliffside Park 201-313-1666

ASIAN/ASIAN FUSION

Latour (BYOB)

6 East Ridgewood Ave., Ridgewood 201-445-5056

Al Di La

114 Country Rd., Tenafly 201-569-1111

Café Panache (BYOB)

130 E. Main St. (Lake St.), Ramsey 201-934-0030

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Le Jardin

Café Matisse (BYOB)

Madeleine’s Petite Paris

The Dog and Cask

Saddle River Inn (BYOB)

Port of Call (POC) (BYOB)

1257 River Rd., Edgewater 201-224-9898 416 Tappan Rd., Northvale 201-767-0063

2 Barnstable Ct., Saddle River 201-825-4016

167 Park Ave., Rutherford 201-935-2995 55 NJ-17 S., Rochelle Park 201-845-5101

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CONTINENTAL /ITALIAN Davia

6-09 Fair Lawn Ave., Fair Lawn 201-797-6767 Sage (BYOB)

17-15 Broadway, Fair Lawn 201-797-0500 Savini

168 West Crescent Ave., Allendale 201-760-3700 Villa Amalfi

793 Palisades Ave., Cliffside Park 201-886-8626

14-26 Plaza Rd., Fair Lawn 201-773-3372 200 Tice

(Inside The Woodcliff Lake Hilton) 200 Tice Blvd., Woodcliff Lake 201-391-3600

FONDUE The Melting Pot

250 Center Ave., Westwood 201-664-8877

FRENCH Latour (BYOB)

CUBAN Azúcar Cuban Cuisine

171 Schraalenburgh Rd., Closter 201-660-7977 Casual Habana Cafe (BYOB)

125 Main St., Hackensack, 201-880-9844

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Rumba Cubana

1807 45th St., North Bergen 201-553-9100

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284 Center Ave., Westwood 201-722-8600

6 E. Ridgewood Ave., Ridgewood 201-445-5056 The Chef’s Table (BYOB) 754 Franklin Ave., Franklin Lakes 201-891-6644

GERMAN Kirker’s Inn

237 Diamond Bridge Ave., Hawthorne 973-427-7700

GREEK A Taste of Greece (BYOB)

935 Kinderkamack Rd., River Edge 201-967-0029

Daily Treat

177 E. Ridgewood Ave., Ridgewood 201-652-9113 Eons

17 NJ-17,Paramus 212-696-1234 Greek Corner Grill (BYOB)

99 Park Ave., Park Ridge

201-476-1400 GRK Grill (BYOB)

39 Union Ave., Cresskill 201-399-7670

The Greek Village

254 Livingston St., Northvale, 201-750-8570

INDIAN Art of Spice (BYOB)

159 Main St., Hackensack 201-342-3444 BHOJ (BYOB)

430 Market St., Elmwood Park 201-797-6800 Kailash (BYOB)

22 Oak St., Ridgewood 201-251-9693

Nirvana Indian Kitchen (BYOB)

29 W. Allendale Ave., Allendale 201-818-2300

IRISH Biddy O’Malley’s Irish Bistro and Bar

36 N. Van Brunt St., Englewood, 201-608-5545 191 Paris Ave., Northvale 201-564-7893 Poitin Still

774 Main St., Hackensack 201-487-0660

ITALIAN Aldo & Gianni Ristorante

108 Chestnut Ridge Rd., Montvale 201-391-6866 Amarone

63 Cedar Ln., Teaneck 201-833-1897 Cassie’s

18 S. Dean St., Englewood, 201-541-6760 Cenzino Ristorante

589 Ramapo Valley Rd., Oakland, 201-337-6693 Maggiano’s Little Italy

The Shops at Riverside, Rt. 4W,Hackensack 201-221-2030 Martini Grill

187 Hackensack St., Wood-Ridge 201-939-2000 Nanni Ristorante

53 W. Passaic St. (behind Garden State Plaza), Rochelle Park 201-843-1250 Rocca (BYOB)

203 Rock Rd., Glen Rock 201-670-4945 Sanzari’s New Bridge Inn

105 Old New Bridge Rd., New Milford 201-692-7700

JAPANESE Mei Sushi Japanese Restaurant

14-20 Plaza Rd., Fair Lawn 201-398-9882 Minado

1 Valley Rd., Little Ferry 201-931-1522 Sakura-Bana (BYOB)

43 Franklin Ave., Ridgewood 201-447-6525

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Sendai Japanese Restaurant & Grill

178 Kinderkamack Rd., Emerson 201-225-0995 Sushi Cruise (BYOB)

725 River Road #51, Edgewater 201-313-3611

Sushi Village (BYOB)

700-90 Broadway, Westwood 201-666-8800 Sushi X (BYOB)

23 Chestnut St., Ridgewood, 201-689-7878 Yuki

2 S. Kinderkamack Rd., Montvale 201-391-9877 Yuki Hana (BYOB)

131 Kinderkamack Rd., Park Ridge 201-391-3230

LATIN Mambo Empanadas (BYOB)

313 Union Ave., Rutherford 201-933-3888

MEXICAN A Taco Affair

81 Main St., Little Falls 973-812-8226 Azteca (BYOB)

47 Park Ave., Rutherford 201-438-2111 Jalepenos

930 Prospect St., Glen Rock 201-445-5566 Leon

16 Chestnut St., Ridgewood 201-857-0297 Mariachi Grill (BYOB)

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262 Ridge Rd., Lyndhurst 201-528-7493

Riviera Maya (BYOB)

252 E. Fort Lee Rd., Bogota 201-996-1380 Viva Margarita

364 Lawton Ave., Cliffside Park 551-313-0760

SPANISH El Cid

205 Paramus Rd., Paramus 201-843-0123 Meson Madrid Restaurant

343 Bergen Blvd., Palisades Park 201-947-1038 Sangria

1033 MacArthur Blvd., Mahwah 201-962-3310 Sayola

50 Prospect Ter., Tenafly, 201-871-2182 Tapas De España

7909 Bergenline Ave., North Bergen 201-453-1690 Taste of Spain

493 Tappan Rd., Northvale, 201-767-8904

THAI Bangkok Garden

261 Main St., Hackensack, 201-487-2620 Clifton Thai

239 Parker Ave., Clifton 973-253-1400 Chok Dee Thai Kitchen

561 Livingston St., Norwood 201-750-8880

Gao Thai Kitchen (BYOB)

63 Main St., Ramsey 201-962-2691

Malee Fine Thai Cuisine (BYOB)

2 E. Ridgewood Ave., Ridgewood 201-612-7797

Massaman Thai Cuisine

312 Hackensack St., Carlstadt 201-559-1424

Pimaan Thai Restaurant (BYOB)

79 Kinderkamack Rd., Emerson 201-967-0440

Pardis Persian Grill (BYOB)

47 E. Ridgewood Ave., Ridgewood 201-652-8000 Rose (BYOB)

1150 Teaneck Rd., Teaneck 201-569-3600

Ridge Thai (BYOB)

50 Chestnut St., Ridgewood 201-493-9929

Thai West (BYOB)

22 Jefferson Ave., Westwood 201-497-6981 Wyckoff Thai Cuisine

314 Franklin Ave., Wyckoff 201-485-8855

PERSIAN Kabab on the Cliff

23 Godwin Ave., Ridgewood 201-444-5100

Istanbul Café & Grill (BYOB)

14-25 Plaza Rd., Fair Lawn 201-791-2222 Kebab Istanbul

5819 John F. Kennedy Blvd., North Bergen 201-861-4400 Marmaris Cafe (BYOB)

TURKISH Cinar

214 Kinderkamack Rd., Emerson, 201-523-9284 Hakki Babba (BYOB)

555 Anderson Ave., Cliffside Park 201-840-8444 Hunkar (BYOB)

319 Hackensack St., Carlstadt 201-507-0606 Istanblue Restaurant (BYOB)

VIETNAMESE Bistro Du Saigon

168 Main St., Fort Lee 201-592-0100 Ma Mí Eatery

546 Durie Ave., Closter 201-660-7826

820 River Rd., Edgewater, 201-943-9090

Mekong Grill (BYOB)

Samdan

Pho Miu Vietnamese Restaurant

178 Piermont Rd., Cresskill 201-816-7343 Turkish Kitchen

297 Palisade Ave., Cliffside Park 201-943-7733 Turkuaz (BYOB)

1550 Lemoine Ave., Fort Lee 201-944-1115

645 Kinderkamack Rd., River Edge 201-262-4400

24 Chestnut St., Ridgewood 201-445-0011

255 Pascack Rd., Township of Washington 201-497-3915 Saigon Kitchen (BYOB)

2024 Center Ave., Fort Lee 201-592-8890

Simply Vietnamese (BYOB)

1 Highwood Ave, Tenafly 201-568-7770

TC’s Little Taste of Saigon (BYOB)

419 Goffle Rd., Ridgewood, 201-445-5509

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EVENTS

WEEKLY MEDITATIONS

Tenafly, on Sept. 23 from 10:30 a.m. to 7 p.m. Golf

outing tickets are $550 each or $240 for dinner only

per person. Foursomes are available for $2,200, which

• Join for partially guided meditations on Mon-

includes brunch/lunch, dinner/open bar, prizes, use

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All proceeds benefit the AIR Express mobile asthma

experience the benefits of meditation and practice

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of driving range and locker room and 18 holes of golf.

to meditate or expand your current practice. Come

bus, now in its 15th year of operation. For registration

in community. Beginners welcome, no experience

Barbara.Mcgoey@hackensackmeridian.org.

necessary. Krame Center for Mindful Living, Anisfield School of Business, Room 420, Ramapo College of

New Jersey, Mahwah. For more information or reg-

istration, please visit tinyurl.com/KrameMeditation.

BERGEN COUNTY PLAYERS, INC. • Enjoy one (or more) of Bergen County Players,

Inc.’s upcoming performances. Performances include: “Pippin,” Sept. 14 to Oct. 12; “A Comedy of

Tenors,” Oct. 26 to Nov. 16; “Beat Bugs,” Dec. 7-22; “33 Variations,” Jan. 11, 2020 to Feb. 1, 2020; “The

Lion In Winter,” Feb. 15, 2020 to March 7, 2020;

“Vanya and Sonia, Masha and Spike,” March 21, 2020 to April 18, 2020; and “It Shoulda Been You,” May 2-31, 2020. These performances mark their 87th season. For more information or to obtain tick-

ets, visit www.bcplayers.org or call (201) 261-4200.

STREET FEST • The 3rd Annual Bergen Street Fest will be held on

Sept. 21 and 22. Sponsored by St. Anthony Orthodox

Church, the hours are Saturday from 12-10 p.m. and

THE POWER OF MINDFUL SELF-COMPASSION • Learn “The Power of Mindful Self-Compassion

For Emotional Well-Being” with Chris Germer Ph.D on

OKTOBERFEST

• Woodcliff Lake Parks and Recreation will host

their annual Oktoberfest on Sept. 21 (rain date of

Sept. 28) from 5:30-9:30 p.m. at Rinzler Field, located at 1 Old Mill Road.

PLAY GOLF • The 8th Annual AIR Express Golf Outing honor-

ing Dr. Lauren Koniaris, M.D. for her service to Hack-

ensack University Medical Center will take place on at

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date will be Sept. 29. The event includes: a monarch butterfly release; entertainment; tricky tray; silent auction; over 20 interactive and educational tables; fun ac-

tivities for children; and a join hands and stand together for child safety and protection ceremony. For more information, visit joansjoy.org or call (201) 664-9140.

FARMERS MARKET • The Westwood Farmers Market will be held every

more information, visit pascackmedicalcenter.com/be-

wellbeing; reduced stress, anxiety and depression; maintenance of healthy habits such as diet and exer-

cise; and satisfying personal relationships. Christopher Germer, PhD is a clinical psychologist and

ley Medical Center, 250 Old Hook Road, Westwood. For well or call (877) 848-9355.

THE TASTE OF PARK RIDGE

• You are invited to The Taste of Park Ridge. Cele-

lecturer on psychiatry (part-time) at Harvard Medical

brating the 125th anniversary of Park Ridge, the town’s

Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) program, author of

nature dishes on Oct. 13 from 5-7:30 p.m. at the Park

School. He is a co-developer (with Kristin Neff) of the

“The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion.” Krame Center

for Mindful Living at Ramapo College of NJ, Mahwah,

Berrie Center. For more information and registration, visit https://tinyurl.com/chrisgermer. Price: $20.

LUNCH & FASHION SHOW

• Join Komen North Jersey for an afternoon of

against breast cancer on Sept. 26 from 11:30 a.m.

dren 2-3; and free for those under 2 years of age.

cated at the Hillsdale Train Station on Broadway. The rain

compassion is strongly associated with emotional

– for a book signing. Research demonstrates that self-

marketplace, desserts and much more will be present and Liberty roads. Admission: $5 for adults; $3 for chil-

D’Alessandro White Butterfly Sculpture and Garden, lo-

Saturday in October from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. at Pascack Val-

celebrating survivors and networking with passion-

at the Teaneck Armory, located at the corner of Teaneck

be held on Sept. 28 from 1-5 p.m. at the Joan Angela

Sept. 23 from 7-8:30 p.m. Arrive early – at 6:30 p.m.

Sunday from 12-8 p.m. Food trucks, live music, games, bouncy houses, mini car racing, a beer garden, a vendor

CHILD SAFETY FESTIVAL • The 5th Annual Joan’s Joy Child Safety Festival will

ate business leaders and advocates in the fight

to 2:30 p.m. at Mayfair Farms, 481 Eagle Rock Ave.,

favorite restaurants will present at tasting of their sig-

Ridge Elks Lodge, located at 13 Sulak Lane. Tickets: $25

each from Sept. 5 to Oct. 4; $30 from Oct. 5-10; and

$40 each at the door. A cash bar will be offered. Tickets may be purchased at Park Ridge Borough Hall before the event or by sending a check payable to The Bor-

ough of Park Ridge (125th Anniversary), 53 Park Ave., Park Ridge, NJ 07656. For more information, call (201) 573-1800, ext. 521 or (201) 294-9679.

MUSIC AT THE BARN

• Enjoy the Annual Bluegrass Concert at Wor-

West Orange. The afternoon includes lunch with

tendyke Barn Museum, 13 Pascack Road, Park Ridge,

HeART in Motion, and a fashion show featuring

(201) 336-7292 or email glucente@co.bergen.nj.us.

pink champagne, silent auction, performance by breast cancer survivors modeling fashions by Worth

New York. The Pink Champagne Lunch & Fashion Show supports the fight against breast cancer by

on Oct. 27 from 1-3:30 p.m. For more information, call

GOOD FOR A LAUGH

• In this acclaimed one-man performance, writer

heightening awareness, creating a passionate call-

and comedian Eli Castro draws inspiration from both

diagnostic services, breast health/breast cancer ed-

plores what it means to be Puerto Rican and live in the

to-action and generating funds for screening and ucation, treatment support, patient navigation and survivorship programs in North Jersey, as well as

breakthrough national research. For information or to register, visit www.KomenNorthJersey.org/lunch or call (908) 277-2904.

his Hispanic heritage and American culture as he ex-

United States. Castro will perform at NJPAC’s Victoria

Theater, 1 Center St., Newark, on Nov. 8 and 9. The NICO Kitchen + Bar will be open for this performance;

reservations are required. Price: $39.50 - $49.50. Buy tickets online at www.tinyurl.com/y2dmus9h.

The Valley Hospital Auxiliary Annual Luncheon The Valley Hospital Auxiliary held their annual luncheon at the Indian Trail Club in Franklin Lakes.

For more information, visit www.valleyhealth.com.

Charlotte Byrne, Rose Marie Ranuro

Victor Wortmann, Grace Galvin

Paula Stark, Irene Becker, Patricia Judge

Elaine Heimberger, Jean Meloro, Carol Gillespie

Sandy Carapezza, Audrey Meyers, Megan Fraser

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Paula Stark, Irene Becker, Patricia Judge Late Spring 2017

Linda Berlinger, Linda Cennerazzo

Diana Frankel, Theresa Salameno

Barbara Mills, Gloria Howerton

Joan Bohan, Peggy Hughes, Margaret Wellman, Gean Guarino

Lisa Beslity, Denise Downey

Dana Van Voorhis, Cathy Teitel

Audrey Meyers, Pat Battle, Sandy Carapezza

The Valley Hospital Auxiliary Board

Lauren Kafka, Janet Paul

Victor Wortmann, David Bohan

Kathy Nardella, Bettina Daly

Mary Boucher, Andrea Delmont, Georgette Payne

Janet Klein, Pat Bernius, Marilyn Saias, Tina Pellicciari

LAST LAUGH

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By Ronald S. Bergamini

don’t know what you think – and I would not blame you if you no longer give it much thought – but I am astonished that seemingly normal people (i.e. members of Congress) are no longer capable of the art of compromise.

Both major political parties constantly remind us that we are all Americans and each party wants what is best for all Americans. But, neither party is willing to compromise. While I respect that the compromise of certain values may be a betrayal of one’s personal principles, the larger question is whether a diverse and complicated society can be governed without the art of compromise. Perhaps, like me, you recall stories about our forefathers and what it took to draft The Declaration of Independence and the United States Constitution, two nearly perfect documents that have survived for over 200 years. The Constitution, the very document that all elected officials swear to defend, was itself a product of great compromise by highly principled men.

If these honorable men always stood on unwavering principles and refused to listen to debates of those assembled, the effort would have surely failed. Benjamin Franklin believed that compromise was not only a practical approach, but also a moral one. He held that “tolerance, humility and a respect for others required it.” Of

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course, another of Franklin’s favorite lines was “if you ladies have any questions, the answer is ‘yes.’” From what I gather, he was often in the company of young, attractive women thus suggesting that his words bear some serious consideration. Not only did he have a way with the ladies, he effectively brokered the convention that declared the United State’s independence from Great Britain and later the adoption of the Constitution. Sounds as if Mr. Franklin was onto something.

This by no means suggests that every issue lends itself easily to compromise. But there is something troubling about the notion that any compromise with someone of an opposing viewpoint is a sell-out. Frankly, I think politicians should be required to spend leisure time with colleagues from across the aisle. Ronald Reagan and Tip O’Neal did just that, sharing a drink while discussing politics to better understand one another. Perhaps a present-day Friday afternoon cocktail hour would go a long way toward moving legislation. Can you picture Nancy Pelosi and Mitch McConnell after that fourth martini trying to save social security? Nothing else has worked; so, I say, let’s give it a try. To quote Ben Franklin yet again, “Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy.”

Perhaps the cocktail hour is unortho-

dox, but something has to give. People once were able to articulate clearly the points of disagreement, prioritize beliefs and then explore an area of common ground. It was and remains a challenge, but the ability to argue and disagree allows us to live together with people who do not necessarily share our vision, but seek a common ground.Why is this no longer the case? Are our political parties so haunted by the possibility of offending their so-called core constituencies that paralysis has set in?

When the very thought of compromising is abhorrent to someone charged with governing, how can we hope to succeed?

There are perhaps a few issues that could divide us as a nation, but by and large, most policy and governing issues are far more practical, even mundane... take budgets, for instance. I think we have forgotten how to disagree well, how to listen as well as how to speak, how to understand what other people are saying and why they are saying it. Compromise is not the answer to all of our political problems, but it is a step in the right direction to working together toward an answer.

I will close with yet another Franklin observation coupled with one of my own.

Franklin said, “Wise men don’t need advice. Fools won’t take it.” I would add that the truly wise never stop seeking advice.