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Fashion Group International’s St. Louis chapter hosted its annual scholarship awards, underwritten by Caleres, at Caleres headquarters in Clayton. Three local design students explained their creative process and received $1,000 each.

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The third annual Garden Glow features millions of beautiful light displays in a festive holiday atmosphere complete with activities for the kids, including making s’mores at one of the many bonfires!

7 Cover story – Kirk Day School 8 The Insider 10 Talk of the Towns 12 Charity Wish List 14 Velvet Hammer

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Teaching students to engage their world

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Kirk Day School is an independent Christian elementary school for students in preschool through sixth grade located at 12928 Ladue Road. Pictured on the cover: Head of school Taylor Clement. For more information, call 314.434.4349 or visit kirkdayschool.org.

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from the editor's desk In today’s issue, Dr. Jordan gives several tips for having peaceful and positive family celebrations over the holidays.

He says no topics should be off the table (politics and religion included!), and that family members should bring a healthy dose of tolerance to the festivities. There is no arguing with all that. In theory.

But not behaving badly is easier said than done. That’s because if anyone knows how to push our buttons, it’s family (nevermind that sometimes we do a little button pushing of our own). We all know what we should do; doing it is another story.

The column emphasizes what brings us together at this holiday season: love for each other—more good advice. Perhaps the most resonant part of the column, however, is when Dr. Jordan recounts fond memories from his own family’s get-togethers.

Now that’s an incentive, because all you have to ask yourself is: What do I want my children—and the other children in the family—to remember about our family holidays? I know the answer is not squabbling, hurt feelings, tears and anger. Memories are forever, and if we want to leave a positive legacy—and to ensure that our children have happy associations with the holidays throughout their lifetimes—that will take some effort. But your annoying brother-in-law notwithstanding, won’t the benefits far outweigh the costs?

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Perfect ACT scores, national merit scholars, valedictorians and class presidents are not

uncommon among the ranks of Kirk Day School alumni, says new head of school Taylor Clement.

“It’s exciting to know that what we do here works,” he says of the West County elementary school.

“We’re seeing kids have a desire and striving for something greater, and they’re experiencing those successes.” The independent Christian elementary school for students in preschool through sixth grade ranks in the top 10 percent of Christian educational institutions in America, according to Christian Schools International. Many of its students go on to prestigious college preparatory high schools.

Clement began his role as head of school this spring after ascending to school leadership roles in Nashville. He has taught high school history and served as dean of students and as assistant head of an elementary school that he describes as similar in values and mission to Kirk. It’s been a good fit, he says. “Kirk Day School has a phenomenal foundation in its curriculum and teachers. The traditions here are absolutely solid, and it’s poised well to grow in the future. I’m excited to be able to be a part of that.”

To keep curriculum standards high, the school thoroughly reviews one subject each year. Under special consideration this year is the language arts curriculum. “Everything we do here is purposeful and intentional to get children the best education possible,” Clement says. “For a whole school year, we take time to study and examine our current method of presenting a subject. We examine new methods, too, and determine what’s best. We continue with something only if we know it’s the best approach out there. If it’s not, we’re going to find something new and implement it.”

One current goal is to teach kids to be tech savvy but not tech dependent. Teachers have access to iPads and laptops, and most classrooms are outfitted with smartboards and interactive projectors.

“We’re teaching kids how to be good digital citizens,” Clement says. “Our No. 1 goal is to make sure our kids are getting a solid education, but now we can hybrid that with allowing them to use technology as a tool and resource, but not as a crutch.”

It’s not just high-level academics that set the school apart. The bedrock of its curriculum is its Christian values, Clement says. “Our hope is not only to inspire graduates to excel academically, but also to engage the world for Christ, and we teach through a Christian worldview. Everything we’re doing with them is pointing them to God and having a greater desire to know God. We want each child to feel known and loved and safe. When they’re emotionally safe and sound, we can begin to expand their minds.”

The school is serious about academics and imparting its Christian values, but it’s also a fun place, Clement says. “We’re doing a great job of providing the rigorous academics parents expect from a private institution, but we’re also balancing that with a lot of fun. When children step into the school, they get the complete experience.”

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A glimpse at what’s going on around St. Louis and beyond.

Dr. Gary A. Silverman has been named to head the

W.U. School of Medicine’s department of pediatrics.

The highly regarded neonatologist comes from the University of Pittsburgh, where he serves as vice chair for basic research. Effective in April, Silverman succeeds Dr. Alan L. Schwartz, who led the department of pediatrics since 1995.

I have been surrounded by dreaded

f-words this month: fifty, fashion, flab and forgetfulness. None of them brings a smile to my face. Not even a smirk. So I’ve decided to share my angst with you.

At the heart of the problem is this: I turn 56 next month. I’d like to tell you that when I look in the mirror, I don’t see a 55-year-old woman, but I do. I am officially closer to 60 than 50. How did this happen?

I clearly remember thinking my mom was ancient at 55. (Yes, I was an idiot.)

I read fashion magazines, do my fair share of shopping and always volunteer to be the person to pick out the group gift for my friends’ birthdays. My very first real job was working as a manager for The Limited. As I have aged, I realize there are certain things I should not wear anymore and stores I should not shop in. (Helpful tip: If you are over 30, please don’t wear pants with printing on the backside, especially if that printing says ‘Juicy.’) I love boots— cowboy, motorcycle, rain—you name it, I’ve got it. But I am confounded by how to wear over-the-knee boots without looking like Julia Roberts from Pretty Woman.

And then there are the short booties. Are your socks supposed to show? Is your skin? Where do your pants end? Is my next stop the ‘sensible’ shoe store?

This year has not been kind to me; a lot of little things have made it hard for me to workout and keep in shape. Thus my final f-word: flab. It sneaks up on you.

Just as you think you are looking pretty darn good in your jeans, the next thing you know you can’t sit down in or button those same jeans. So you are forced to reflect on what you have been doing, then realize it is the stuff you haven’t been doing that’s the problem.

Oh wait, there is another f-word! Forgetfulness.

I used to be one of those people who could sit in a meeting, not take notes and still remember everything that was said. Now, I sometimes mistakenly call my dog by my daughter’s name. What has happened to my mind? You’re supposed to improve your memory through physical activity and mental stimulation.

Clearly, I have let the physical activity go, but I have been attempting to use my brain. To that end, now available on the Town&Style website are crossword puzzles, word searches and sudoku, created by yours truly. They will help stimulate your mind, but more important, they’re meant to keep mine functioning.

Go to townandstyle.com, click on the Leisure Tab and then Mind Games, where you also will find our monthly coloring page.

So, dear readers, I am looking for suggestions for the new year. Tell me if you are suffering from any of the f-word maladies. If you are, what are you going to do about them in 2016? I am open to suggestions and would love to try some new and interesting activities.

Who knows, maybe I will even write about them.

Assuming I remember to turn in my column. Email me at phannum@townandstyle.com. Before you forget.

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Local author Carol Swartout Klein was recently honored with the

Jerry Paul Youth Advocacy Award

by Neighborhood Houses for helping children through her book, Painting for Peace in Ferguson.

Previously, the book won the Independent Publishers’ 2015 Outstanding Book of the Year Award Gold Medal, one of only nine selected from 6,000 applicants.

Congratulations to Dave Peacock, civic leader and former Anheuser-Busch pres, who was named the Clayton Chamber of Commerce 2015 Pillar of the Community. Peacock, chair of the St. Louis Sports Commission, also serves as a member of the advisory board of Lewis & Clark Ventures, which supports the local start-up community.

A big round of applause to all the fine teachers recognized by the Emerson Excellence in Teaching Awards, held recently at The Ritz-Carlton. The local program honors outstanding teachers, selected by their school administration.

Among those honored in our readership area are: Melika Panneri of The Wilson School, Tamara Lay of Conway Elementary and Craig Sucher of Clayton High School.

Hometowner Nancy Friedman has been named to the list of Favorite Speakers for 2015 by Meetings & Convention magazine.

Known as The Telephone Doctor, Friedman is widely recognized as an authority on customer service, sales and communication skills.

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Bart Simpson and a heck of a lot of cops say you can never have enough doughnuts.

Maplewood is home to ‘Donuts 2.0,’ what with its Strange Donuts and most recently with Tim Horton’s. Forty of the breakfast and coffee cafés are due to open in the metro in the next few years, and, shoot … on its menu Tim Horton’s doesn’t emphasize doughnuts. But Dunkin’ Donuts does, and more than a dozen new locations are slated to open in and around the StL, with former NFL players as franchisees. Then we have quirky firms like the traveling Vincent Van Donut, whose donuts are square and, in some cases, topped with bacon.

Bacon. Did I say bacon? Pretty soon, anyhow, we’ll be overrun with doughnut shops; well, not really. They’re not as pervasive as Starbucks. Coffee. Coffee, anyone?

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Whither goest Grant’s Farm? Will it become the south county branch of the Saint Louis Zoo—as it were—or stay in the Busch family, for good or ill? In either case, it looks as though the beautiful Bauernhof and mansion will stay, touches that always have lent a Bavarian air to the property’s nearly 200 acres.

Four of the six Busch sibs support the $30 million Zoo deal, while brother Adolphus backs Billy’s competing offer, with plans to move Billy’s Kräftig brewery business to the property. We’ll have until late March, at least, for the other riding boot to drop in this mostly civil family squabble. The Zoo eventually would need voters to approve an $8 million measure to fund the animal park’s annual operations, it appears at this point through a sales tax in St. Louis city and county and surrounding

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‘collar’ counties, including St. Charles, Franklin and Jefferson. With the A-B business continuing to transmogrify at the hands of international conglomerate InBev (is it Miller time?), where would future generations discover the Busch family legacy? Well, the main brewery looks much the same from the highway as it always has.

The Clydesdales still thunder and whinny down on the farm.

And it would still be mostly about beer, were Kräftig to relocate to the tract off Gravois Road.

CLAYTON But the Busch legacy shouldn’t be Billy’s legacy alone, the sibs argue. The Zoo deal would yet provide a home for the buffalo to roam, plus a zipline and some other nifty millennial attractions for those who can’t drink and who may get bored with critters real easily. Bridges in the trees? An after-hours ‘safari’ to spy tapir and other nocturnal animals? (Yeah, but isn’t there an app for that?!) We think we’d have to throw our Tyrolean cap in with the Zoo. For, were things to ‘go south’ for Billy et al. in a future economic downturn, who’s to say another possibility—carving up most of the property for a residential subdivision—wouldn’t be back on the table? Shucks. We need another subdivision like a Chernobyl farm’s chicken needs a third head. Lush and rolling, the land along the north side of Gravois looks like the African savannah, where animals have more room to wander than they do most anywhere at the Zoo. ‘Animals Always,’ like they say in Forest Park. Plus, seeing the Clydesdales up close and personal from Grant’s Trail is a joy divine. Go biking, running or walking there some day and you’ll see what we mean.

Willkommen! One of The Lou’s 15 sister cities is Stuttgart, Germany, a relationship established in 1960. The vibrant sisterly partnership features an Oktoberfest (I know, right?) and the Winterball Karneval, which is coming up Jan. 30 at the Clayton Plaza Hotel.

A major fundraiser for the organization, monies raised support scholarships and stipends for German programs and exchanges with Stuttgart at Burroughs, Lindbergh and Parkway South high schools, the German School Association, SLU, Webster University, and the German Culture Center at UMSL. ‘The Roaring ’20s’ is this year’s theme, featuring live painting by renowned artist Jennifer Hayes (think vibrant, like Leroy Neiman), a silent auction, a three-course dinner, dancing and special surprises. In the spirit of the Mardi Gras season, the evening promises to be festive, with cash prizes awarded for the best ’20s costumes. Mistresses of ceremonies are SLSSC President Susanne Evens and StL media personality Sherry Farmer from 106.5 The Arch and onstl.com. It’s the SSLSC’s 56th anniversary and 29th for the Winterball Karneval … kinda makes the OCD in me want to subtract a one from the former and add it to the latter.

So, say you’re not a Christian and are looking for something to do on Dec. 25 besides eat at a Chinese restaurant. Well, on Christmas Day, during the fifth annual St. Louis area-wide Jewish and Muslim Day of Community Service, you could help spread joy throughout the metro.

Twenty-three agencies, the largest number so far, will

[ TT Trivia ] Name at least four of the cities worldwide that are ‘sisters’ of St. Louis … excluding Stuttgart, Germany—and why not St. Louis, Senegal, to boot.

Last issue’s answer | The 1960 DiDia 150 is a custom-designed, handmade aluminum ‘dream car’ that belonged to 1950s and ’60s crooner Bobby Darin. He forked over more than $93,000 for the futuristic vehicle, whose original paint job included diamond dust. It has been restored, twice, and can be seen at the Museum of Transportation in southwest Kirkwood.

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TOWN TALK host needed volunteers on Christmas. Any of you who profess different faiths, and Christians too, are invited to “participate in social justice work side by side as sisters and brothers,” organizers say. Jewish and Muslim volunteers will be working together throughout the day at the various agencies. The event will kick off at 9 a.m. with a community breakfast at the Jewish Community Center’s Staenberg Arts & Education Building, 2 Millstone Campus Drive in Creve Coeur. The breakfast will include a social action blessing and celebration of the purpose and meaning of the event. Participants will then head to their community service sites. One of the new sites this year is Magdalene St. Louis, which provides housing and support for victims of sexual trafficking, prostitution and life on the streets. Volunteers will be making and sharing a meal with residents of the house, which opened here this year. Other opportunities include: volunteering to play board games, do arts and crafts and play pick-up basketball with the teens held at St. Louis Juvenile Detention Center; playing and doing projects with the children at St. Louis Crisis Nursery in St. Charles; a variety of hands-on projects for families with kids 8 and under at the JCC’s Staenberg Arts & Education Center, like making dog collars for the ‘paws’ project of St. Louis Effort for AIDS and get-well cards for cancer patients served by the group whose name we love: Girls Love Mail. Co-sponsors are the Islamic Foundation of Greater Saint Louis and the Jewish Community Relations Council of St. Louis and its Milford and Lee Bohm Social Justice Center.

The patient sat perfectly still while high-school students stitched him back up—as you would expect from a mannequin. The wounds may have been fake, but the event, EXP3, was anything but as 200 Cor Jesu Academy students spent the day sampling professions with the help of 26 participating businesses.

The real-world, hands-on career exploration program, now in its third year, is meant to help the girls as they map their career paths.

One group of 30 girls from the Catholic high school in Affton immersed themselves in a variety of health and medical professions with the help of eight women physicians at SLU medical school, led by Dr. Catherine Wittgen, a SLUCare vascular surgeon and Cor Jesu alum.

Along with rudimentary suturing, these high schoolers learned to start IVs, assess heart and lung sounds, and discover the career paths of women doctors and nurses.

Meanwhile, other young AFFTON women fanned out across the metro to engage for eight hours or so in career options ranging from stockbroker to attorney in a more comprehensive experience than the traditional career day in which upperclassmen ‘shadow’ a professional for a day. The young ladies wrote closing legal arguments and designed commercial landscapes.

EXP3 (Exposure, Experience, Exploration) began in 2013 with eight engineering firms and 35 students. Hosts, many of them women, helped the high-schoolers get a feel for what they went through before achieving their current status. The young women of Cor Jesu Academy hail from 61 metro-area ZIP codes and 106 public, private and home-schooling educational environments. About a third of the student body was involved, visiting employers from Boeing to Edward Jones, from Express Scripts to Lewis, Rice & Fingersh.

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Wish List Assistance League of St. Louis

Mission: To develop, implement and fund ongoing

philanthropy programs that serve the specific needs of children and adults in the St. Louis community

Items Needed: Children’s clothing,

Toys and books Household items

*All can be new or gently used

Drop Off Location: During business hours at Fantastic Finds Resale Shop, 12778 Olive Blvd.

Habitat for Humanity Saint Louis Mission: To put God’s love into action by bringing people together to build homes, communities and hope

Items Needed: New, unwrapped holiday toys for all ages

Grocery store gift cards New coats and shoes in various sizes Drop Off Location: 3763 Forest Park Ave.,

9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Monday through Friday. Pick up also available.

Contact: Avis McHugh or LaRita Fields, 314.371.0400

Saint Louis Crisis Nursery Mission: To prevent child abuse and neglect by providing

emergency intervention, respite care and support to families

Items Needed: Mega Blocks or Legos

Size 4, 5 and 6 diapers and pull-ups New children’s underwear and socks Drop Off Location: 11710 Administration Drive, Ste. 18, 8:30 a.m. to 5 p.m. Monday through Friday

Contact: Kathy, 314.292.5770

Contact: 636.227.6200 or 314.579.9500

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but they seem to grow even more around the holidays.

Town&Style is doing its part to help by asking local charities to name the top three items on their wish list.

During a season that’s all about giving, it’s nice to be reminded of ways we all can lend a helping hand.

Adding a few of these items to one of your holiday shopping days can be a small way to make a big impact.

H.E.R.O.E.S. Care Mission: To support military families by providing

Southside Early Childhood Center Mission: To nurture, educate and inspire children and

Mission: To support families and women who have received

emergency financial aid, employment opportunities and mental health care services through a network of trained caregivers before, during and after deployment

Items Needed: New, unwrapped toys for children

Items Needed: $25 gift cards to restaurants

Items Needed: Size 4, 5 and 6 diapers and pull-ups

Unscented baby wipes Children’s clothing in sizes 12 months

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a devastating prenatal diagnosis by helping with basic everyday needs like food and gas

$10 gift cards to gas stations

Drop Off Location: Mail to PO Box 220503, St. Louis, 63122 Contact: Lauren Turley, 314.277.8332,

Drop Off Location: St. Louis-area Dollar Generals Stores Contact: Jon Jerome or Dave Woolley, 636.600.0096

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Doorways Mission: To provide housing and related supportive

services to improve quality of life and health outcomes for people affected by HIV/AIDS

Items Needed: Bedroom, kitchen and living room furniture

Gift cards to movies, restaurants, theaters and department stores Two new under-the-counter microwaves

Drop Off Location: 4385 Maryland Ave., 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. Monday through Friday

Lift for Life Academy

Mission: To help youth and families find strength, break through obstacles and build brighter futures

Items Needed: MetroLink passes

Diapers and wipes (all sizes) Grocery store gift cards

Drop Off Location: 110 N. Elm Ave. Contact: Kim VanBuren, 314.918.3382

Drop Off Location: 2101 S. Jefferson Ave.,

7:15 a.m. to 5:45 p.m. Monday through Friday

Contact: Cleo Fisher, 314.333.7112, cfisher@southside-ecc.org

Mission: To provide a challenging learning community

where all students are empowered to maximize their full potential as students and citizens

Voices for Children

Items Needed: Books for the student library

Mission: To advocate for abused and neglected children

Drop Off Location: 1731 S. Broadway. Pick up also available.

Contact: Kevin Kickham, 314.231.2337 ext. 575,

Items Needed: New books, coloring books, sketch pads and

journals for children up to age 21 New school supplies, especially

notebooks, paper, pencils and binders New backpacks and duffel bags

1 0 tables and 20 chairs Speakers and art drying rack (Wish list at bitly.com/LFLABookWish)

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and youth in St. Louis by representing their best interests in court and in the community

Drop Off Location: Drop off by appointment to

Contact: Justine Craig-Meyer, 314.328.2704

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families in a diverse and inclusive environment, promoting healthy development and a strong foundation for success

Rainbow Village Mission: To enhance the lives of individuals with

developmental disabilities by providing safe, affordable and well-maintained neighborhood homes

Items Needed: Lawn and garden equipment like rakes,

shovels and pruners Paint equipment like brushes, rollers, scrapers and drop cloths

Drop Off Location: 1240 Dautel Lane,

8:30 a.m. to 5 p.m. Monday through Friday

Contact: JoAnn Goldstein, 314.567.1522 ext. 201, jgoldstein@rbvstl.org

920 N. Vandeventer Ave., 8:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m.

Monday through Friday

Contact: Stacy Harris, 314.552.2352

YWCA Metro St. Louis Mission: To provide crisis intervention, counseling and prevention education to victims of sexual assault.

Items Needed: Sofa Loveseat

Two-seat bench, extra wide Drop Off Location: Pick up available.

Contact: Phyllis Miller, 314.726.6665

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1 | Dance St. Louis

To celebrate our 50th season, Dance St. Louis is offering our three-show premium seat package for only $99! It includes MOMIX in Alchemia, New Dance Horizons, and Ensemble Español. Call for tickets.

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2 | Magdalene St. Louis

Magdalene St. Louis recently partnered with award-winning artist Joan Lipkin for expressive arts therapy. Lipkin and Magdalene residents wrote a performance piece that was featured at the nonprofit’s recent fundraiser.

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3 | Provident

Provident is celebrating 155 years at its annual gala Feb. 26 at the Four Seasons when it will honor the inaugural Spirit of Provident awardees, Risa Zwerling and Mark Wrighton.

Register online.

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4 | Circle of Concern

Donations to Circle of Concern earn Missouri Food Pantry Tax Credits, up to $2,500 annually for an individual, $5,000 for a couple.

Call or visit our website for more information.

5 | Dimensions Dance Center

Don’t miss Dimensions Dance Center’s production of The Nutcracker, featuring Christine Kraus as The Sugar Plum Fairy at Wydown Junior High auditorium 7 p.m.

Dec.11; 7 p.m. and 2 p.m. Dec.12 and 13. Tickets available online or at the dance center.

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6 | Jewish Federation of St. Louis

An $18 donation to the Spread the Light campaign purchases one virtual candle for a menorah, each menorah representing a different need in our community. Children will receive a certificate with a login code so they can designate which menorah to ‘light’ with their donation.

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Hammer ] by joan berkman Q: I’m a group leader at a small architectural

firm and one of my team members—who is very talented—is consistently late getting to the office for morning staff meetings. He recently arrived 20 minutes late to a major client appointment. Frankly, his tardiness is getting out of hand and has resulted in some negative consequences for our business. Any advice on how to deal with this situation?

—Don’t want to lose talent but can’t afford to lose business

A: People who are chronically late can be frustrating and baffling

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to anyone stuck waiting for them; and in business, it can have grave consequences resulting in overall workplace inefficiency or even loss of business. There are several possible explanations for your team member’s tardiness. One reason may be that he simply underestimates how long a task will take. Other possibilities include a lack of organizational skills, low job satisfaction, and in extreme cases, it could be due to serious health issues such as depression or an obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Barring any health issues, there are a few strategies you can implement to kick-start his time-management skills. First, meet with him to discuss the situation one-on-one. I would start by outlining how his tardiness (with documentation citing dates/times that he has been late for staff/client meetings) has impacted the work group and, if appropriate, the bottom line. Before reading him the riot act, let him know that you value his work contributions and would like to help, but need to understand the reason(s) for his chronic tardiness. For instance, if it is a child care issue, perhaps you could schedule staff meetings later in the day to accommodate his schedule. If your company provides flex time, he might be a candidate. Or, depending on his responsibilities and requirements to be on-site—maybe he should telecommute.

Otherwise, here are some tips to help keep him on time and on the payroll: have him create a weekly calendar broken down into 30-minute increments to help him figure out how long a task really takes; suggest that he not book meetings too closely together; encourage him to get to meetings early and reward himself with coffee or time to relax; suggest that when preparing to leave for an appointment, he let his phone go to voice mail; suggest he set a warning phone alarm for when he needs to get ready to leave and another for when he needs to get out the door. There is no panacea for any one individual, but hopefully, in time and with your help, he will improve. If not, he might work out better as a contractor than a full-time employee.

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New Year’s Resolution: Pay attention to your competitors,

“Never forget that the most powerful force on earth is love.”

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If you have a question for Joan, send it to business@townandstyle.com.

Joan Lee Berkman is a marketing and public relations consultant.

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Gatesworth resident Patricia Allen’s family enjoys holiday festivities.

The Gatesworth is a home away from home for the extended family of its residents. Patricia Allen, 95, knows this well since five generations of her

family have had the pleasure of taking part in myriad family events hosted by the senior living community for children and grandchildren. The Gatesworth community, she says, comes as close as it possibly can to fulfilling the concept of ‘home’ while also offering superior later-life care for its residents.

To be closer to one of her daughters, Allen moved to The Gatesworth from her home in Kansas City in 2008. Her husband had died five years prior, and Allen was alone. She is wistful about her old life, but says moving here changed everything.

“They couldn’t have been kinder,” she says. “Just like family.”

Holidays, in particular, are celebrated in style. “You can invite your whole family if you want,” she says, noting that she has 10 great-grandchildren. (Her great-greatgranddaughter is 7 months old). “Santa comes at Christmas, the bunny at Easter. He gives out baskets and hides eggs. My great-grandchildren love to pull his tail.”

Residents also may book private rooms for special gatherings. The rooms are in high demand. “I’ve held a party for my out-of-town children. It was beautifully done,” Allen says of the delicious meals that can be created. Those can be credited to The Gatesworth’s award-winning executive chef Brian Hardy, who will even prepare their favorite family recipes if residents ask.

“I’m not a cook, and have almost never made anything,” Allen says with a laugh.

“But if you can provide the recipe, the chef will make it for you. We have the best chef in all the city.” In addition, a holiday dining take-out service offered by The Gatesworth, ‘From Our House to Yours,’ will prepare turkey, ham and all the trimmings for a holiday feast should a resident want to bring the dinner elsewhere.

Allen says she is excited about the Christmas season because Santa comes for the children. The festivities begin shortly after Thanksgiving with a Santa breakfast and a Hanukkah dinner and menorah lighting. A winter carnival, Christmas Eve and Day dinners, and New Year’s celebrations follow.

The carnival, which resident program director Kathy Davis calls a “cavalcade of merriment,” is a new tradition, now in its third year. “It’s a completely familyfocused event with musicians, circus acrobats, carolers, hot chocolate and cookies,” she says. Davis’ own mother has lived at The Gatesworth for the past nine years so she knows firsthand the importance of such events in the lives of the residents.

“There’s nothing like going to grandmother’s house for the holidays,” she says. “And we do our best to keep that magic alive. When our residents see their families come in, it really fills them with joy.”

Allen’s grandchildren range in age from 6 to 21, though only one lives in St. Louis.

When she arrived at The Gatesworth, she says she didn’t know a soul. Now she has a host of wonderful friends. “I can’t tell you how much I love it here,” Allen says. “The truth is, I’ve come home.”

The Gatesworth offers a wealth of opportunities for residents to host friends and family on its campus. Pictured on the cover is the Gatesworth resident Patricia Allen with family. For more information, call 314.993.0111 or visit thegatesworth.com.

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“Not a day goes by that there’s not something wonderful happening, whether it’s showing a film, playing cards, going to a lecture or a music program.” ~ Resident John Lesser

SENIOR LIVING YOUR WAY Senior living is what you make of it, so make it the best it can be! At The Gatesworth, lifestyle choices are mine to make. I can brush up on my art skills, sit in on an informative lecture or attend exercise classes in the Fitness Center.

Bottom line, I do the things that matter most to me. With a passion for collecting posters and displaying them at The Gatesworth, I have the chance to share my interests with other Residents.

The Gatesworth’s ever-changing calendar, special events and personal attention to the things that I enjoy, allow me to experience senior living, my way.

For more information call (314) 993-0111 or stop by for a personal visit.

The Gatesworth is committed to equal housing opportunity and does not discriminate in housing and services because of race,color, religion, sex, handicap, familial status or national origin.

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Staying at home, instead of going to a home. 87% of seniors prefer to stay in their own homes… 85% of accidents, happen in the home. … Happy at Home enables our loved ones to remain in thier homes safer and longer.

Call Happy at Home and ask for our FREE 15 POINT SAFETY INSPECTION. We can quickly show you how to make your home, or your loved ones home, safer.

Some of the ways which can MAKE YOU SAFER AND MORE COMFORTABLE AT HOME. ENTRYWAYS, HALLWAYS, AND LIVING AREAS Brighter pathway and safety lighting • senior-friendly lever door handles • threshold ramps • modern handrails which combine safety and style • motorized window treatments • smart door locks • thermostats • whole house audio video security and more.

BATHROOMS Attractive grab bars and handrails slip-resistant flooring • lighting which is brighter and easier to use • barrier free showers

SECURITY & MONITORING One touch medical alerts, watches and bracelets can safely summon help • video door bells let you know who is at the door before you get up from your chair • peace of mind video cameras to watch the outside of your home, from anywhere.

Call today to speak with one of our Certified Aging in Place Specialists.

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The Gatesworth Fitness Center offers a wide range of complimentary group classes specifically designed for seniors.

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Happy at Home specialists provide free home evaluations on how to make seniors’ homes safer so they can remain independent.

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PHC embraces, celebrates and improves the aging experience by providing a long-term solution for individuals who want to remain at home through our one client-one caregiver concept. Call for details.

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McKnight Place Assisted Living continues The Gatesworth tradition of excellence in senior living. We provide complete assisted living services for seniors who want to remain independent but need extra attention and care.

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AccuCare is an in-home care company committed to providing patience, compassion and peace of mind. We would like to celebrate Delores Merritt and thank her for more than 16 years of service.

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“It’s never too late to date.” That’s the hopeful message of a 2015 documentary, The Age of Love, which looks at speed dating for a group of seniors in their 70’s, 80’s and 90’s. The film has inspired conversations worldwide about emotional need and growth in later life. The director, Steven Loring—a screen writer who recently returned to film school— said he was inspired to make the movie after his 78-year-old uncle embarked on a first relationship.

“He met an 80-year-old woman and they became like teenagers again,” Loring says. The love affair was everything it would have been had they been young people.

At the same time, Loring’s father had recently died and his mother was alone for the first time. “With both these things swirling in my head, I wanted to find a way into the topic that would open eyes,” he says. “Speed-dating seemed like an engaging hook.” The film, set in Rochester, New York, is really Loring’s meditation on what our hearts desire when we are older. But he says those wants and needs are just what they would be at any age.

People go back out into the world stronger, and with a feeling of confidence.”

“It’s like you’re walking into a high school prom,” he beyond the immediate region and plan another speedsays of a speed-dating event. “There is an atmosphere of dating event for people aged 65 to 90 in the coming year.

Loring says his No. 1 goal in making the documentary excitement and hopefulness.”

The events themselves are organized in a way that gives was to find out what’s in people’s hearts. Although we an equal number of men and women the chance to meet tend to imagine that love is different for older adults than a potential date through lightening-speed, one-on-one it is for younger people, it is actually the same, he says. conversations. However, the success of the events, Loring “No matter what age, finding true love is finding someone says, hasn’t been measured by the dates that follow, but to see you and understand you. That way, you aren’t alone by the empowerment that comes from interaction. Men, in in the world. It’s the defeat of isolation that is so vital.”

Among other places, the documentary has been shown particular, he says, tend to be less socialized than women, less versed in supportive, emotional conversations. “But in Israel, Denmark, Sweden and Australia. Loring says people go back out into the world stronger, and with a he is hoping to show the film on PBS at some point down the road. feeling of confidence,” he says.”

The St. Louis Jewish Community Center (JCC) held a screening of Loring’s film in September and planned to host a speed-dating event shortly afterward. But, says the JCC’s Zelda Sparks, director of Cultural Arts, there was a disproportionate number of women to men (30 to 2), so the event was canceled.

“We contacted local senior living communities and hoped for an equal number,” Sparks says. “But not only do women tend to live longer than men, but they might also tend to take more chances.” Sparks says the JCC hopes to expand its reach scene from THE age of love

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Two Friendship Village Sunset Hills residents earned a second-place prize of $500 at the 2015 Fountain View Autumn Quilt Show.

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Kurt and Brenda Warner visited St. Patrick Center during the annual Warner’s Warmup event, which provides winter clothing to local veterans in need.

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Each $18 donation purchases one virtual candle and each menorah represents a different need in our community. Children will receive a certificate with a custom login code that will allow them to place their candles on the menorah(s) of their choice.

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Sugarfire Smoke House donated more than $3,500 to The BackStoppers in support of the Guns ‘N Hoses boxing event. Proceeds from themed sandwiches offered during October and November benefitted the nonprofit, which helps families of first responders who have died in the line of duty.

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Glenn Betz Jewelers $ Guardian Angel pendant from our Mariana Collection, available in many colors, $55 $$ Quartz Chronograph from Reactor Watch’s WARP Collection, $650 $$$ 14kt. white gold spessartite (2.41 carats) and tsavorite (.49 carat)

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Clockwise spiral, from top: 18kt. white gold checkerboard black and white diamond ring, $11,760 from Albarré Jewelry | 18kt. tri-gold pave crossover ring, $6,900 from Genovese Jewelers | white gold and pave eternity ring, $2,400, shown with two black diamond eternity bands, $1,450 each; all from Glenn Betz Jewelers | 14kt. white gold pave diamond band, $10,500 from Glenn Betz Jewelers | 14kt. tri-gold and diamond scroll ring, $3,729 from Blust’s Jewelers | 14kt. yellow gold diamond and black onyx band, $4,448 from Albarré Jewelry | 18kt. white gold and enamel ring with pink marquis opal, $5,200 from Albarré Jewelry

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Jordan Alexander baroque pearl necklace wrapped in rose, white and yellow 18kt. gold chain, $14,000 from Neiman Marcus | Sterling and mother-of-pearl drop earrings, $60 from Glenn Betz Jewelers | Alwand Vahan 14kt. yellow gold and sterling bracelets with pearls, mother-of-pearl and diamonds, $1,200 and up; all from Novak Jewelers

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Octium 18kt. gold sautoir chain, $42,000, with 18kt. gold and green agate tassel, $3,550; both from Neiman Marcus | 18kt. gold tubogas estate necklace, $14,400 from Elleard Heffern Fine Jewelers | 14kt. gold and diamond stick pin, $4,595; Jean Mahie 22kt. handmade earrings, $7,800; 14kt. lion brooch, $2,895; 18kt. enamel amethyst earrings, $4,595; all from Summit Jewelers

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Clockwise from top: Emily Armenta 18kt. gold and midnight silver bangles with champagne diamonds, from $1,300; Vendorafa 18kt. cuff bracelet, $7,450; Lika Behar 24kt. gold and diamond snake head ring, $2,250; Lika Behar 18kt. ebony necklace, $10,450; Marlene Stowe 18kt. gold estate earrings, $1,775; Peter Schmid for Atelier Zobel pendant/brooch in onyx, 24kt. gold, oxidized silver and champagne diamonds, $14,000; all from Elleard Heffern Fine Jewelers

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“It’s hard to be a diamond in a rhinestone world.”

- Dolly Parton

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[ THE SYMPHONY ] Going to hear a performance by the St. Louis Symphony? Well,

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you’re in for a treat. But to dress up or down—that is the question. Symphony attire was once among the most formal attire worn anywhere; however, it has relaxed over the years, especially with the increase in young people attending.

Is this a special occasion or one of many concerts you’ll attend as a season ticket holder? An evening performance on the weekend or a Sunday matinee?

I had the pleasure of attending a concert one recent Friday night to observe who comes and how they are dressed. Fans of all ages were there—at least three generations were represented. And I saw all kinds of fashion, from very casual to cocktail attire. I asked Symphony president and CEO Marie-Hélène Bernard for her opinion on how concert-goers should dress, and here’s what she had to say: “It’s important that people dress to reflect their personality and their moods when they come to a concert. There isn’t a dress code. You’ll see people wearing everything from jeans to formal wear. Concertgoers should not limit their creativity and come with a playful and open spirit, and be receptive to the music. Never let your wardrobe keep you from a concert.”

With those words in mind, here’s what I would suggest. For evening concerts, women might consider dressier pants or skirts with a silk, taffeta or organza blouse and a jacket or cardigan. Wear a great scarf or pin to complete the outfit. Dresses are a good choice and don’t have to be too ornate unless it’s opening night or a gala. If sleeveless is your choice, remember to bring a wrap in case it’s cold inside. A nice-heeled shoe can be open or closed-toe.

For men, a suit or sport coat and nice dress slacks are wise selections. Ties are not mandatory, but welcomed. If you choose to wear denim, select a dark color and pair with a jacket or blazer and button-down shirt. Leave the torn and faded jeans at home.

For afternoon concerts, the general attire for both men and women can be casual. You can still dress appropriately by wearing ‘nice casual,’ not something you’d wear to the beach or the pool. Tie is not necessary, but still no grungy jeans and stick with a button-down shirt. When in doubt, err on the side of dressing business casual.

For special events and galas, ramp-up your attire with cocktail and after-five looks. For women, long or short lengths are fine, and add some great evening accessories in the form of jewelry, shoes and a clutch or small handbag. For men, tuxedos or dark suits work, paired with a dressy lace-up shoe or a loafer in leather or velvet.

Overall, be comfortable and appropriate in whatever you choose to wear.

If in doubt, dress up a notch. You are coming to hear inspiring music in a beautiful, historic building, and remember that what you wear is an expression of you!

[ tricks of the trade ] Q| I have many evenings out planned in the coming winter months and will be wearing shorter cocktail dresses. Will it look silly to have bare legs, or should I wear tights? And if so, what shoes look best with them?

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A| Two answers, depending on age and/or mindset: Bare legs do not look silly and are most likely to be the choice of many women.

If your legs look good, it’s OK to forego hose, especially if you wear a great strappy evening sandal. If you prefer to keep your legs warm during the winter months (although you’ll be inside for your event), choose patterned hosiery with closed-toe dressy shoes. Tights are thick and tend to look too heavy when worn with a lighter, delicate cocktail dress.

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The Fur Boutique is a nook, but what a nook it is. Occupying a portion of GiddyUp

Jane (9670 Clayton Road) for the past two years, it is owned by Ann Hurth, a 23-year veteran of the fur business. She moved into GiddyUp Jane after the success of a seasonal pop-up shop she had there in 2014. And she hasn’t looked back.

“It is a great fit, a nice complement,” Hurth says, surrounded by her sumptuous wares. The choice of styles is broad: coats and capes, hooded parkas, vests, bomber and down-filled jackets.

There are tassled suede jackets, gorgeously floppy sheared mink coats, fur-trimmed shearlings, and the swingy, “very fashionable,” fox and cashmere cape. The mink and leather vests are reversible, as are the mink-trimmed raincoats. The coats of Spanish lambskin leather are the softest you can find, Hurth says, running her hand down the buttery, three-quarter length car coat, or stroller.

One look around tells you these aren’t your grandmother’s furs. For one thing, they are tinted all shades. An infinity (circular) scarf of Rex rabbit comes in smokey blue, gray and a bright, blood-red crimson. A sheared beaver vest or parka can be navy as well as the more traditional chocolate, white or black. One hooded sheared beaver parka is—naturally—a beautiful rosy cream.

Hurth says in her opinion, every woman should have a vest or fur-trimmed cape. “Capes make you feel so pretty,” she says. “A vest is versatile: wear it to a party, wear it to the gym.”

She notes that fur is hot at the moment, although it has been ever since she can remember.

Its popularity is driven by the runway, and by the fact that “it just feels good.” At the moment, the catwalks are full of everything fur imaginable, Hurth says, including adornments on shoes, boots, stoles, coats, capes and hats. “The fur trade has really evolved over recent years,” Hurth says, referring to improvements in technology and breeding. Most of the fur items she carries are made in North America.

Her customers are not only women and men buying for women (particularly during the holidays), but teens and college students, too. Mostly, the younger crowd comes for the fur-ball pom-pom key chains (lemon yellow, wine, sky blue, pink, green and white), scarves and foxy pom-pom hats. Hurth also receives special orders for men themselves, though less frequently.

As for her own tastes, she says the sheared mink coat is her favorite. “Everybody loves it. It’s lightweight, soft and luxurious.”

Fur Boutique prices range from $25 for key chains to $10,000 for a full-length mink. Blankets, particularly popular these days, come in sheared beaver, coyote, mink, lynx and fox. Overall, Hurth attributes the success of her business to the traditional tastes of St. Louisans. “Our business is strong,” she says. “Fur never really goes out of style.” Neither do the relationships built over 23 years.

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[ amuse bouche ] The Scene

Fun, creative fried chicken diner and drive-thru

The Chef

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The Prices

$6-$8 starters $1.50-$3.25 chicken by the piece

The Favorites

Chicken Liver Bahn Mi, Beignets, Cole Slaw, Fried Chicken

Take a love of fried chicken (and other fried foods), combine it with a lot of inventiveness and you get this funky new spot near the Cherokee business district. The combinations are highly unconventional— garlic butter-chive beignets, chicken livers with pickled carrots, smoked chicken and cheese curds—but that adds to the fun.

So does the hubbub of standing around for a spot at the counter, or if you’re really lucky, at one of the four dining tables. If not, there are picnic tables out front and a drive-thru window for carryout. Oh, and once you do get seated, be prepared to have waiting people standing all around, sometimes uncomfortably close.

It’s all part of the ambience.

Much has been made of the South Side Poutine starter ($8). It’s a jambalaya of excellent, bready tater tots, pulled pieces of smoked chicken, cubes of cheese curd and chicken gravy served on a tray (like all dishes

are here). While many of the elements were good—the tater tots and the smoked chicken, in particular—the gravy could have used more flavor and the cheese felt like a mismatch.

The Cauliflower ($6) starter was an appealing dish, with florets of the roasted vegetable served with toasted cashews and covered with grated grana Padano cheese, salsa verde and aioli. The flavors were good.

The big reason for enduring the wait for a spot here, though, is the fried chicken, which comes piping hot and heavily crusted with possibly the thickest, juiciest coating—fried very dark. It’s tasty, oily and kind of addictive. You can and should order sides. Don’t miss the slaw ($4), mixed with house-made mayo, or the beignets ($4), doughy and beautifully crusty on the outside. The Pickles ($2) are, well, weird. They’re called ‘Kool-Aid’ pickles because they are, literally, marinated in the ’50s fad food.

The big reason for enduring the wait for a spot here, though, is the fried chicken, which comes piping hot and heavily crusted with possibly the thickest, juiciest coating—fried very dark. It’s tasty, oily and kind of addictive. You can and should order sides. Don’t miss the slaw ($4), mixed with house-made mayo, or the beignets ($4), doughy and beautifully crusty on the outside. The Pickles ($2) are, well, weird. They’re called ‘Kool-Aid’ pickles because they are, literally, marinated in the ’50s fad food.

The don’t-miss dish is the Bahn Mi ($8), an Asian-inspired sandwich with shredded pickled carrots, slivered jalapeño, fresh cukes and aioli complementing fried chicken livers. It’s all served on a crusty French bread bun, and the combination is inspired: mouth-puckering from the vinegar, crunchy from the fried livers and creamy from the aioli. Party on.

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Bahn Mi A long Vietnamese sandwich filled with pickled veggies, meat and some kind of chili peppers.

Pedigree

Beignets These are fritters, i.e., deep-fried dough and can be sweet or savory—or both at the same time.

Favorite ingredient

Poutine A French Canadian dish typically made with French fries covered in gravy with cheese on top.

» bob brazell L’Ecole Culinaire Pork

[ aftertaste ] » This place is sheer fun. Just bring a good attitude and come prepared to sit at a picnic table with

Favorite Cookbook

» Love the chicken here—crusty and juicy. And where else can you get a couple of breasts and a

Niche

strangers. The chicken is worth it! side for $10?

— abby s. of south city

— roger t. of maplewood

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Ideas in Food

by H. Alexander Talbot and Aki Kamozawa

Favorite St. Louis restaurant Most memorable meal

The first time my grandma made me a BLT

Guilty pleasure food Red Hot Riplets

LEISURE

Happy Holidays!

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Garden Glow Now – Jan. 2 | Missouri Botanical Garden | mobot.org Lafayette Square Holiday Parlour Tour Dec. 13 | Lafayette Square Neighborhood | lafayettesquare.org Mitzi MacDonald and Keltic Reign Christmas in the Kitchen Dec. 15 | The Sheldon | thesheldon.org Saint Louis Ballet’s Nutcracker Dec. 17-23 | Touhill Performing Arts Center | scottradecenter.com Elf: The Musical Dec. 26-27 | Peabody Opera House| peabodyoperahouse.com Trans-Siberan Orchestra: The Ghosts of Christmas Eve Dec. 27 | Scottrade Center | scottradecenter.com

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Steinberg Skating Rink Now-Feb. 25 | Forest Park | steinbergskatingrink.com Candlelight Christmas Walk Dec. 11 | Augusta, Missouri | augusta-chamber.org Christmas Candlelight Tour Dec. 11-12 | The Historic Daniel Boone Home & Heritage Center danielboonehome.com Deutschheim Weihnachtsfest Dec. 12-13 | Hermann, Missouri | visithermann.com

HEAR

Christmas at the Cathedral Dec. 12-13 | The Cathedral Basilica of St. Louis cathedralconcerts.org St. Louis Symphony Live: Macy’s Holiday Celebrations Dec. 18-20 | Powell Hall | stlsymphony.org Jazz St. Louis Big Band plays Ellington’s Nutcracker Dec. 21-23 | Ferring Jazz Bistro in Grand Center | jazzstl.org

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Webster Groves Holiday Cookie Walk Dec. 12 | Webster Groves Historic District | visitoldwebster.com Teddy Bear Tea Dec. 12-13; Dec. 19-23 | The Ritz-Carlton ritzcarlton.com/en/properties/stlouis/default Breakfast With Santa Dec. 13 | The Magic House | themagichouse.org

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by ashley heuer

[ art ]

[ movies ]t&s saw it!

Victor Frankenstein

NOW-1/16/2016 the gardens at abbeville by fredrick nelson

» We all know Mary Shelley’s classic tale of a mad

Atrium Gallery | Free | atriumgallery.net This collection by St. Louisan Fredrick Nelson highlights composition in abstract floral gardens.

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12/13 Drawing Down the Moon: Installation and Chamber Opera

The Luminary | 8 p.m. | Free | theluminaryarts.com

NOW-12/27 Hurvin Anderson: Backdrop

Contemporary Art Museum St. Louis | Free | camstl.org

NOW-1/20/2016 The Mysterious Muses of Leatrice Shank

University of Missouri-St. Louis Gallery Visio | Free | umsl.edu/~galvisio

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NOW-1/2/2016 garden glow Missouri Botanical Garden | $6-$18 mobot.org/glow The annual show features unique installations that turn the gardens into an illuminated winter wonderland.

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12/12 Holidays in Old North Festival & Craft Market

ALSO IN THEATERS

The Revenant | Chi-Raq | Krampus

12/12 Navy vs. Army Football Celebration

OPENING FRIDAY

Missouri Athletic Club Downtown | 2 p.m. | Admission donation to Toys for Tots, free parking, cash buffet and bar

NOW-12/27 peter and the starcatcher Repertory Theatre St. Louis | Browning Mainstage in the Loretto-Hilton Center $24.50-$79.50 repstl.org The Tony award-winning prequel to Peter Pan tells the story of an apprentice starcatcher and an orphan boy.

In the Heart of the Sea | Macbeth

Classic of the week

It’s a Wonderful L ife (1946) | The Hi-Pointe Theatre | 10:30 a.m. Dec. 12

Saint Louis Zoo | $7-$10 stlzoo.org/wildlights Take a walk through the Saint Louis Zoo and enjoy holiday lights, storytelling, food and shopping.

St. Louis SymphonyPowell Hall $30-$65 stlsymphony.org The St. Louis Symphony will perform the music of John Williams, composer of tunes from Home Alone, Harry Potter and Star Wars.

NOW-1/3/2016 wild lights »

12/11-12/13 music of john williams »

12/11-12/13 Winter Celebration Weekend

Saint Louis Art Museum Free | slam.org

12/12 & 12/13 Nutcracker on Ice

12/13 The Nutcracker

12/12 & 12/13 Pet-acular Holiday Bazaar | Purina Farms Event Center | 11 a.m.

Stray Dog Theatre | Tower Grove Abbey | 8 p.m.

Thursdays-Saturdays | $20-$25 | straydogtheatre.org

Alexandra Ballet | Logan University Purser Center 4 p.m. | $11.50-$21.50 | alexandraballet.com

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genius doctor attempting to play God. Many other movies have brought the horror story to life, and while I can’t claim to have seen them all, surely they do a better job than Victor Frankenstein.

Although mildly entertaining and with two likeable actors in the lead (James McAvoy as Frankenstein and Daniel Radcliffe as his assistant, Igor), it fails on many counts.

When audiences already know a story, a fresh take is needed for the film to make an impact. Here, any new twist, such as Igor’s origin as an abused, hunchbacked circus clown with a natural penchant for biology (yes, it’s as ridiculous as it sounds), distracts from the original story’s strength as a chilling morality tale that cautions against pushing the bounds of science too far. It also delays the most interesting part, the

actual creation of the monster, until the end of the movie, in a scene that could have been visually facinating but instead feels rushed.

Victor Frankenstein has a few cool stylish flourishes, and the lead actors seem to be giving it their all, but ultimately it’s boring and bogged down by a cliche-laden, wooden script.

Should You See It? Pass. —s.z.

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Metro Edge Figure Skating Club | Webster Groves Ice Arena | $12- $14 | 2 p.m. and 5 p.m. | metroedgefsc.org

Free admission; $5 activities | purinafarms.com

12/12 Children: a Reunion Concert by Mike Safron

Casa Loma Ballroom | 8 p.m. | $25 | casalomaballroom.net

12/12 & 12/13 Tommy Emmanuel

Sheldon Concert Hall | 8 p.m. | $45 | thesheldon.org

12/16 NOW96.3 Let it Snow Show: Adam Lambert Peabody Opera House | 7:30 p.m. | $29.50-$89.50 peabodyoperahouse.com

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by rick stoff “Impaired sexual health can affect quality of life.” That is the important message

Dr. Becky K. Lynn, SLUCare OB/GYN seeks to convey. An assistant professor at Saint Louis University School of Medicine, Lynn specializes in sexual health for women. “As a subspecialty, it is a fairly recent development, but it is getting more attention,” she says.

That’s probably because it is not only a medical issue, but a factor in emotional and psychological well-being, too. Intimacy is part of a healthy relationship, Lynn points out, noting that a woman’s primary sex organ is her brain.

“We focus on sexual health as part of building a healthy relationship,” she says. Yet many women deal with issues around sex at some time in their lives. “Several studies have found that about 40 percent of women have problems with low libido, arousal, orgasm or pain,” she reports. It’s important to seek help when that is the case, she says.

One of Lynn’s patients who did seek help, Belinda, says it has changed her life. “I went through a year of beating cancer, and then experienced painful sex on top of it. I was really upset,” she says.

During treatment by Lynn, Belinda gained a variety of tools to address the problem. “Dr. Lynn helped by recommending natural products to alleviate dryness, and she said I should exercise to increase endorphins. Going to her about this has made such a difference in my life.”

Lynn points out that a number of factors can impair female sexual health. Among them are diseases like diabetes, high blood pressure, coronary artery disease and cancer. Some medications, too, suppress libido, including common anti-depressants. “It can be very distressing to lose sex drive,” she says, “and it can cause rifts in a relationship.” When Belinda, 48, endured a double mastectory, chemotherapy and radiation therapy, she also had to cope with the side effects of Tamoxifen. The drug is prescribed to treat and prevent some types of breast cancer, but it also blocks estrogen and can lead to another cause of sexual dysfunction in women: vaginal dryness.

“Women may think it is all a normal part of aging, but there are things you can do to improve your sex life, some are hormonal, others are not,” says Lynn. “A lot of these issues are inter-related.” She points to newer medications, specifically ‘the little pink pill,’ designed to help with female sex drive.

The message to take away from all this, Lynn says, is that female sexuality is a complicated process of the physical, the emotional and the psychological. “There are many things we can do to bring intimacy back to your relationship. The important thing to remember is that a woman’s sexual and intimate life doesn’t have to end with age or illness.”

Pictured on the cover: Dr. Becky K. Lynn.

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Motherhood

By Doug Kaufman

Every coupleâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s goal during pregnancy is to make sure they bring a healthy child into the world and raise it with love after birth. But there can be lots of hurdles and questions involved, from drinking during pregnancy and unsuspected genetic disorders to postpartum depression. Doctors can help, and when in doubt, they say, just ask.

Passing the test

For parents falling into certain groups, genetic testing might be merited to help identify risk for certain disorders. genetic screening

“What most women do is conceive spontaneously and then elect to have some sort of screening test or diagnostic test done after they’ve conceived to see if the fetus is affected,” says Dr. Diana Gray, professor of obstetrics and gynecology and radiology at Washington University School of Medicine.

The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists recommends offering all pregnant women screening for chromosomal disorders, Gray says. Chorionic villus sampling (CVS) is the definitive test, but it carries some risk because it requires either drawing amniotic fluid or taking small samples of the placenta very early in pregnancies. Those tests have a small risk of miscarriage.

Dr. Stephen Braddock, director of the division of medical genetics and a professor of pediatrics at Saint Louis University School of Medicine, strongly recommends couples speak with a genetic counselor when considering pre-natal testing so they understand what tests will and won’t show. A counselor takes an extensive medical history of the couple and their ancestors and looks for signs of risk potential—disorders like autism and cystic fibrosis, for instance. “If we find tidbits of that in their history, we can educate the family about the risks and what to do next,” Braddock says.

ehtnicity matters

Some ethnic populations are at higher risk for certain disorders and should be proactive about screening, the physicians stress. Ashkenazi Jews and French-Canadians, for example, are more susceptible to Tay-Sachs disease, a fatal genetic disorder that progressively destroys the nervous system, while AfricanAmericans have a higher chance of sickle cell anemia.

Because of the blending of cultures today, most people don’t know all of their ethnic backgrounds, Braddock says. Therefore, expanded, pan-ethnic carrier panels are appropriate. “Reviewing them with a genetic counselor or physician is advisable,” he says.

The newest diagnostic is called the cell-free fetal DNA test, Gray explains. Fetal cells and DNA circulate in maternal blood during pregnancies. “The vast majority of that is going to be maternal, but a small proportion—somewhere in the range of 10 to 20 percent, is going to be fetal. So if the results show an oversupply of chromosome 21, that is highly suggestive of Down syndrome.

be patient

DNA testing shouldn’t be done until after 10 weeks of pregnancy, the physicians explain. “Most of the DNA is coming from the placenta, which, before then, is so small that there aren’t sufficient quantities of cells and DNA in maternal circulation to have it be a reproducible test,” Gray says.

“Some women want the test just for assurance reasons,” she points out. “The vast majority of the time, you’re going to give them reassuring test results, because these conditions are rare.

Even in a 40-year-old woman, which is sort of the end of what we consider normal reproductive life, the risk for a chromosome disorder like Down syndrome is no greater than 2 percent.”

The reality is that even with no family history, every baby has a 3 to 5 percent risk of birth defects. “Many such issues occur sporadically and without known risk factors,” Braddock concludes.

The Baby Blues

Having a baby should be a joyous and carefree time, but postpartum depression can throw a wrench into the wonders of new parenthood.

Hospital. “It tends to be something that does not why now? require treatment—it lifts on its own.”

“There are dramatic changes in hormones when someone gives birth,” says Dr. Sarah Shores of Signature Medical Group’s Allied Associates in OB/GYN. Other issues can exacerbate the hormone swing, including a traumatic delivery, any type of complication or high-risk pregnancy, a pre-term baby, or multiple babies, Shores says.

Additionally, women with pre-delivery issues like high blood pressure or pre-term labor might spend one to three months in the hospital before giving birth.

“That is very depressing,” Shores says. “It’s not easy to lie in bed for months. And then they give birth, and they think, ‘It’s all over.’ But it’s not, because now you have a baby to take care of, you’re exhausted, your hormones are wreaking havoc, and it brings a lot of anxiety.”

depression or decompression?

“Eighty percent of women will have baby blues,” says Shellie Fidell, a psychotherapist affiliated with Missouri Baptist

Postpartum depression, however, is more serious. It can include mood swings, excessive crying, not bonding with the baby, withdrawing from friends and family, insomnia or excessive sleep, and panic attacks. “You are not interested in your baby, you are not interested in things you used to enjoy, your appetite has changed, your sleep pattern is not only disrupted by the baby, but you can’t sleep when the baby is sleeping,” describes Fidell. “That’s a big red flag.”

no judgment

Fidell encourages women to ask for help and says medical professionals will not stigmatize them as ‘bad mothers,’ a common fear with new moms who react this way. “The fear of being judged is the biggest obstacle,” she says. “There is an intense shame and guilt connected with this.”

So how do new mothers know when to ask for help? “Anytime you or someone around you feels there is a problem, that’s probably a signal that you need to give your doctor a call,” Shores

advises. The doctor will discuss symptoms, sometimes run tests to make sure nothing else is involved, like thyroid issues, and perform a depression screening. Treatment can involve counseling, seeing a psychiatrist or psychologist, and starting medications, typically mood stabilizing drugs like Zoloft, Lexapro or Prozac, she says.

Patients need to be reassured they are not alone and this is not unusual. “There are some things going on here,” says Fidell. “Usually it’s a combination of biological, psychological and social.” Starting in January 2016, Fidell, in conjunction with Missouri Baptist, will offer two classes that address postpartum issues: Preparing for the Fourth Trimester: Postpartum Adjustment and Beyond is a single session for expecting couples to help them determine whether they are at risk and to create a plan so things go more smoothly after birth.

Fourth Trimester: Baby Blues and Beyond is a four-week class for after the baby is born.

For more information about the classes, visit mobapbaby.org or call 313.996.LIFE to register.

Drinking During Pregnancy

A generation ago, it wasn’t uncommon for an OB/GYN to prescribe a nightcap to help their pregnant patients relax. Now, order a drink in a restaurant while pregnant and you’re likely to be refused service. So what’s correct? Is an occasional glass of wine good for mom and baby, or is total abstinence recommended? alcohol forbidden … mostly

“I strictly forbid any alcohol use during pregnancy,” says Dr. Jodie Rai of Women’s Healthcare Consultants. “There is no known safe amount, time or alcohol content. However, there does appear to be increasing risk with increasing amounts of use, and no proven risk for women who drink a small amount once or twice a week.” Rai defines small as 4 ounces of wine, half a pint of beer or 1 ounce of hard liquor.

“Some doctors find it easier to say no alcohol any time, because it’s safe—you can’t make a mistake,” says Dr. Teresa Knight with Women’s Health Specialists of St. Louis. “But in general, a social drink with a meal is certainly not something that would make me panic during pregnancy. The risk is that saying one drink is fine leaves the size and alcohol content up to interpretation.” Patients ask her “every single day” if it’s safe to drink while pregnant. She focuses on why they ask.

“Are (they) people who have some underlying addiction or some reason why they feel they need alcohol? It really becomes

a longer conversation of ‘Why are you asking this question,’ and ‘What are the real risks?’ and then recognizing that culturally, it may not be acceptable,” she says. “I’ve had patients who were very comfortable drinking wine during pregnancy go to restaurants and be refused alcohol.”

to moderate drinking and pregnancy. “When the organs are forming in the fetus, if there is an excessive amount of alcohol at that time, it can cause fetal alcohol syndrome,” she says.

That condition, at its most extreme, can result in impaired brain development and developmental delays.

quantity & timing

moderation is key

This does not mean drinking is without risk, by any means.

With increasing alcohol use, Rai states, babies can develop a spectrum of disorders. And there even is evidence that drinking before and during early pregnancy can increase the risk of miscarriage in the first trimester, she says. “Developing babies have the same blood alcohol concentration as the mother, but they lack the ability to process or metabolize alcohol,” Rai says. “The effects on the baby include learning disabilities, hyperactivity, attention disorders, speech and language delays, low IQ, poor reasoning and poor judgment.”

Knight maintains that timing is everything, when it comes

Both doctors stress moderation. “There has never been any data to show that there would be poor outcomes with having a little glass of wine with friends, or a glass of the wine at the end of the day or on special occasions,” Knight says. “It’s continual alcohol exposure, or high doses of exposure, that we worry about.”

While one small glass of wine shouldn’t cause a problem, prudence is important. That said, no one actually knows where the safety line is. “We just don’t know,” Rai says. “If it’s not been proven to cause harm to drink a small amount once or twice a week, it’s also not been proven to be safe either. There are simply very limited statistics available on drinking during pregnancy.”

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by dr. tim jordan Most dinner scenes from

holiday movies are chaotic and end in fights. Think Christmas Vacation and The Family Stone.

Perhaps the reason for the mayhem and anger is that they didn’t follow my simple rules for holiday meal etiquette. Add these ingredients to your feast to create a peaceful meal.

1. Talk about politics and religion. You heard me; nothing

is off limits for discussion as long as there is more listening than shouting. Please invite kids in on these conversations, because it’s invaluable for them to engage in open debates about serious topics with their elders. Be sure their voices are heard and valued so they feel encouraged to share more.

When I was growing up, I loved standing behind the chairs of my dad, uncles and grandfather as they played poker after family dinners. The conversation sometimes got a little crude, but I learned tons about how men relate and how they stood on issues. I can still see the cigar smoke, hear their laughter as they teased each other, and feel their camaraderie to this day.

2. Leave your judgments at the door. Nothing creates tension and distance faster than feeling judged. Be like Atticus Finch in To Kill A Mockingbird and try to see things from others’ point of view. It doesn’t mean you agree with them; it just means you love and respect them and their opinions.

3. Honor your elders. Holiday get-togethers are a great place for kids to learn about their ancestors. As you sit around the table digesting the heavy meal, have older relatives tell stories of holidays past, of the trials and tribulations of their long lives, and their perspectives on life. Better yet, record these sessions for future gatherings after they have passed.

4. Perform old traditions. All three of my adult children still look forward to our old family traditions, especially the ravioli meal with our family’s secret meat sauce brought over from Italy by my great-grandfather Giuseppe Cortopassi. We also got in the habit of showing old slides of relatives past and present. Kids love to see old pictures of their parents at their ages. Or have your kids help you create new traditions that will enrich each holiday season to come.

5. Express gratitude. We often go around the table and have everyone share what they are grateful for in their lives or from the past year. Nothing takes anger, resentment and tension out of a group better than when people express what they appreciate, especially if it’s about the folks around the table.

6.Unconditionally love each other. Every family has its characters, black sheep and rogues—like the scamming son in Parenthood. Do your best to set a place at the table for everyone, and try to accept and love them as they are versus trying to fix them.

Nothing brings a family closer than sharing stories, honoring each other, expressing gratitude, and unconditional love, so make sure these are on your menu this and every holiday.

Tim Jordan, M.D., is a Behavioral Pediatrician who specializes in counseling girls ages 6 through college.

For more information, visit drtimjordan.com.

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best BRANDS by marylyn simpson

Buying a new beauty product can be fraught with anxiety: how to wear it? Will it stay on? Does it look good on you?

So imagine how much harder it is to buy into an entirely new beauty line. And to complicate things even more, there seem to be new cosmetic lines coming out of the woodwork every season. After much care and consideration, here are the new beauty brands of 2015 I’ve fallen in love with and why investing in them makes sense—and cents.

Birchbox’s Love of Color Beauty industry disrupter BirchBox burst onto the scene in 2010, changing the way we shop for makeup. It was only a matter of time before the successful direct-to-consumer company would innovate again. Now it's launched its own beauty line, LOC (Love of Color), which features three lipsticks, five eye shadow sticks and a sharpener. The company plans to roll out new colors every six months and even launch additional brands in early 2016.

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Context Minimalists, rejoice! Context, a skin care line launched over the summer, is building a name for itself, thanks to simple packaging and no-fuss products. Its Vitamin C All Day Eye Cream helps smooth fine lines, while the Restorative Night Cream gives more established brands a serious run for their money. At $35 and $45, how can you afford not to give them a try?

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H&M Beauty Louboutin Lipstick Christian Louboutin is not one to disappoint. His newly launched lip line has 38 decadent hues, from iconic rouge to soft neutrals. These are encapsulated in Babylonian-inspired tubes, delicate gold vials topped with crown caps. This lipstick is meant to bring out the queen inside of you, and isn’t that the point when it comes to makeup?

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The fashion store brand may be a household name, but H&M Beauty is the new kid on the beauty block. The brand is known for its vast inventory, and H&M Beauty also reflects this strategy of the company. From liquid lipsticks to nail polish, there’s something for every beauty lover. Just try the Intuition Body Scrub: Apricot and green tea aromas lull you into relaxation while gentle exfoliating beads leave your skin supple and soft.

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[HOME]

The holiday season is here; home is where it all begins.

Aromatique Candles

Our season at Moss Mountain would not be complete without aromatic decorative candles from Arkansas’ premier candle maker, Aromatique. My favorites are The Smell of Christmas, Smell of the Tree and Pumpkin Spice—all smell of holiday cheer! Dillard’s and numerous gift shops carry them.

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by p. allen smith photos by jane colclasure & mark fonville

Great Gifts...

from the Natural State Some readers may not know that my Moss Mountain Farm

is in nearby Arkansas. And while December is one of the most anticipated months of the year, it is also among the most hectic, especially since holiday activities are added to an already busy schedule of feeding chickens and chasing daylight. But even with the additional fuss, it still remains one of my favorite times of year. How could one not love the season of giving?

In the spirit of the season, I want to share with you my own special gift favorites, items naturally based and lovingly handmade. There’s something about them that adds a personal touch to the holidays.

Southern Girl Soapery Southern Girl Soapery creates handmade bath and body products inspired by the traditions, stories and scents of the South. You can view the gift packages for both men and women online at southerngirlsoapery.com.

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What are some simple and tasteful ways to bring holiday cheer to your main living space?

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Create a Merry Medley with inspiration found in a rustic and glamorous noel, like this living room. A fireplace mantel becomes the focal point incorporating an embroidered burlap scarf, wood and seasonal accents, pinecones, berries and other natural elements, adorned with touches of beads and sparkle.

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This client’s condo was a grey box when she purchased it. Her goal was to have it completely finished by her return date of December 15. The project was turn-key down to the dishes. The unit is narrow so she didn’t want a tree.

We opted instead for the festive window garlands.

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Lambrecht Chocolates

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YOUR FAVORITE PART CONCEPTU OF THE COMPLETE ALLY D PROJECT >> I have created a modern but welcoming space

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homework] Dear Homework,

We just purchased this early ’60s ranch on a nicely treed lot in Frontenac. It sits on a quiet cul-de-sac across from the neighborhood’s first tear-down/French country extravagance. What can you suggest to give our fairly simple house a big dose of curb appeal and a fighting chance against the other tear-downs to come?

Sincerely, —Get Me Into Fighting Shape

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Your plight is a common one in the great school district areas that feature once up-market ranch homes on huge lots with mature trees. Your design problem is a difficult, but not hopeless one.

My basic advice would be to make your ranch house ‘the best it can be.’

Frankly, yours starts off with many pluses. Its handsome brick façade has a nice composition and is well-framed by mature trees. I would like to play up its ‘ranchness’ by accentuating the horizontality.

You will observe that I show planting several beds of low-growing hedges to extend the lines of the house into the landscape. These are lightly accented with ornamental grasses and clump birch trees for vertical counter-points. A low brick garden wall and new bluestone walkway work together with the new parking area to create a more impactful entry sequence. I also show painting the existing brick a more fashionable green/gray with black accents, and I would like to turn the roof gable into a louvered vent to give it more detail.

These changes give the property a new Mad Men vibe that is way (way) cooler than what is usually re-built in neighborhoods like yours. Let the fighting commence.

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HOLIDAY TOURS Friends and family stopping by, the holiday tree and blackberry jam cake are just a few things that say it’s the holidays! Come share the joy of the holiday at the Garden Home Retreat at Moss Mountain Farm this year. Visit the popular Gingerbread House for the perfect holiday card photo op. Tour Allen’s home and enjoy a seasonal lunchselected from his best-selling recipe book.

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Indoor Camp-Out Party by stephanie zeilenga and ashley heuer Kiddos with winter birthdays might have to be cooped up inside for their parties, but that doesn’t mean you can’t take inspiration from the great outdoors. Throw a fun, memorable indoor campout party this winter—fun guaranteed no matter the weather.

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The Scene Transform your living room or basement into a campground.

Pitch a real tent indoors for the guests to sleep in, and make sure they know to bring a sleeping bag and pillow!

• Purchase greenery (real or fake) from a hardware or craft store to make the party space feel woodsy. Cover a table with a checkered cloth and light up the space with mini camping lanterns.

• Scatter outdoor-inspired props and decor, such as flowers or pine cones and stuffed bears or wolves.

Consider purchasing a fake ‘fire’ — Etsy has tons of adorable options— or putting up a bare, fake pine tree.

The Fun Set out cards and board games. Rent a spooky (kid-friendly) book from the library and read it out loud, then have guests take turns telling their own scary stories by the glow of flashlight.

• Watch a favorite winter-themed movie, like Ice Age or Frozen (singing along highly encouraged, of course).

• Send kids home with gift bags that includes trail mix and ingredients to make s’mores.

The Eats Fire up the indoor grill and cook up some hot dogs. Serve with macaroni and cheese, chili or beans. Another classic camping kid-friendly favorite: sloppy Joes.

• When the kiddos wake up the next morning, serve pancakes, bacon, eggs and orange juice.

Provide mix-ins for pancakes: chocolate chips, banana slices, blueberries and nuts.

• To extend the camping theme, serve food on gingham paper plates and drinks in classic blue enamelware mugs.

The Treats After dinner, set up a hot chocolate bar with a variety of toppings: crushed peppermint, marshmallows, pretzel sticks, churros and whipped cream.

• While hot chocolate is heating up, pop bags of popcorn (or make it on the stovetop!) and let kids add M&Ms, Parmesan cheese or cinnamon sugar.

• No camping trip would be complete without ooey gooey s’mores. Make them in the oven (for instructions, visit hersheys.com) or put together a s’more pie ahead of time.

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WHen The first Saturday of each month from March to November and on full moon nights WHere Compton Hill Reservoir Park on Grand Avenue WHY To see 360-degree views of the city and admire the tower’s Victorian architecture

Where can you find the best views of the city? The Arch? Not even close, say the

volunteers of the Compton Heights Water Tower Park and Preservation Society, who claim the 360-degree views from the Compton Heights Reservoir Park’s 170-foot Victorian water tower surpass any other.

“It’s the best view of the city that exists,” says John Maxwell, society president. “The sunrises, sunsets and moonrises are incredible from up there.” It was the stunning views, as well as the tower’s unique history and architecture, that spurred a group of volunteers, largely from the surrounding neighborhoods, to form the society in 1999 that would revive the once-great structure. At the tower’s grand opening the following year, thousands showed up to see the Victorian gem that had been closed for decades, Maxwell says.

The tower was built on the city’s highest point in 1899 and is an example of the medieval Romanesque style, which is characterized by the use of semi-circular arches. Designed as a surge tower, it relieved the pressure on pipes coming off the river that were pumped with a piston pump steam engine, Maxwell explains. In the 1920s, the tower became obsolete when the old steam engine pumps were replaced by electric ones.

Although similar towers were used all over the country, not many survived the following decades.

The ornamental nature of the Compton Heights tower saved it from destruction; in 1972 it was listed on the National Registry of Historic Places. Today, it’s one of only a handful of such towers in the U.S.; two others also are in St. Louis. “St. Louis was prospering when the tower was built, so the city spent the money on fancy stonework,” Maxwell says, adding that the tower is solid masonry. “There’s no commercial steel in it besides the stairs. The roof is terracotta wired onto an iron framework with copper wire, so it’s really durable.”

The tower is open to the public from noon to 4 p.m. the first Saturday of every month, March to November, and on full moon nights (check online to make sure it’s open, as weather or park construction can cause cancellations). General admission is $5; kids younger than 5 are free.

Memberships also are available for $25 and come with free admission all year. Besides the beautiful views, visitors to nighttime openings can enjoy live music and goodies from food trucks.

The surrounding park also has plenty to offer visitors, including a large reservoir wall with ornate fountains designed to mimic the gardens of an Italian villa. From the 1930s until World War II, the reservoir was covered with tennis courts. The park also includes ‘The Naked Truth,’ a bronze statue gifted to the city in 1914 by the German-American Alliance. Plans are in the works for renovations to the park, including expanding it to its original size and recreating its Victorian landscape.

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KIRKWOOD/DES PERES 4 TOPPING LANE | $1,485,000 Newer Luxury home convenient to best shopping, restaurants, theaters & highways. Steps to Edward Jones World headquarters and major hospitals. $500,000 in improvments. Impeccable 1.5 story property. Over 7,600 SF total living areas.

CHESTERFIELD/BALLWIN 494 BRIGHTSPUR | $239,000 Open Sun. 1-3.

3BR/2BA spacious ranch with beautiful backyard with two private patios. Located on quiet cul-de-sac.

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RARE 1st EDITIONS/ 1st PRINTINGS/1st STATES: Twain, Mark titles: Pudd’nhead Wilson [1894] $1800; A Horses Tale [1907] $1000; American Claimant [1892] $600; How To Tell A Story [1897] $780; Christian Science [1907] $700 Steinbeck, John titles: Nobel Prize Acceptance Speech, 1962 $490; A Russian Journal [1948] $400; Grapes of Wrath (has custom, archival box) $3500 Capote, Truman: Breakfast At Tiffany’s [1958] $1700 Coetzee, J.M.: Slow Man [2005 in original brown paper/NOT marked” out of series”] limited edition UNREAD/SIGNED $900 FOR A CHILD'S LIBRARY 1st EDITIONS/1st PRINTING: Pullman, Philip: Once Upon A Time In the North $65 Rowling, J.K.: [U.K. Bloomsbury 1st edition] Quidditch Through the Ages and Fantastic Beasts (2 books) $100

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16356 Valley Oaks Estates Court | $545,000 | Pr/SqFt: $156.88 RedKey Realty Leaders St. Louis | Agent: Anne Duffy Dunajcik 1460 Pacland Place | $600,000 | Pr/SqFt: $140.88 Gladys Manion | Agent: Suzie Wells

[ 63105 ] 7707 Shirley Drive, No. 202 | $600,000 | Pr/SqFt: $298.51 Dielmann Sotheby's International Realty | Agent: Elaine Medve 622 Forest Court, No. 2D | $700,000 | Pr/SqFt: $371.55 Laura McCarthy-Clayton | Agent: Keith Manzer 8105 Kingsbury Blvd. | $740,000 Janet McAfee | Agent: Joyce Pass 55 Aberdeen Place | $803,000 | Pr/SqFt: $270.19 RedKey Realty Leaders St. Louis | Agent: Bruce Butler

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[ 63131 ] 7 Westwood Country Club | $657,500 | Pr/SqFt: $162.43 Laura McCarthy-Clayton | Agent: Frances Berger 3051 Thornbury Drive | $744,900 | Pr/SqFt: $177.70 Dielmann Sotheby's International Realty | Agent: Ted Wight december 9, 2015 | townandstyle.com

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