Trim Magazine Fall/Winter 2014 by Trim Magazine

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From the Editors FA L L / WI N T E R 2 0 1 4

M AG A Z I N E

KATIE BELLOFF

EMILY BECKMAN

CO-EDITOR-IN-CHIEF & DESIGN DIRECTOR

CO-EDITOR-IN-CHIEF & FASHION DIRECTOR

ANKITA SANKLA

VICTORIA TRIPSAS

MANAGING DIRECTOR

CO-PR DIRECTOR

PHILIP WYTHE

KAITLIN ROGERS

EDITORIAL DIRECTOR

CO-PR DIRECTOR

HANNAH GERBER

TAYLOR CARVIN

WEB DIRECTOR

CO-DESIGN DIRECTOR

SHIRLEY YU PHOTO DIRECTOR

KATIE BELLOFF @KTHEBELLZ

AKE A SEAT TRIMSTERS, you

have a lot to explore in the sixth edition of TRIM Magazine! And our first order of business as the new Co-Editors-in-Chief ? Serving up some fresh energy for the TRIM you know and love. With intentions of expanding our horizons, we are delighted to bring you some killer photos, features, and fantasies covering everything from cosplay to social challenges. We even went as far as introducing two new sections: Love & Lust and Life! We are confident that this edition has something special for every reader! Starting with the cover, our featured model, the renowned Rain Dove, a self-described “androgynous super model, actor, humanitarian, and director breaking the binary gender laws and being simply… a person.” A true professional and amazing personality, Rain Dove made it clear during her photoshoot with TRIM that it doesn’t matter how you are labeled; it all boils down to the person you are inside. TRIM traced this heartfelt message back to an inspiring figure within our own Rutgers’ community, this issue’s model citizen, Vanessa González. As one of the first transgender students to be accepted into Douglass College,

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EMILY BECKMAN @EMILYFAYB

González shared with us the challenges and triumphs that were involved in her acceptance. With self-expression being such a critical aspect of this issue, our style section highlights some of the newest trends to inspire you with the classiest and most contemporary looks from this season. From comfort chic to luxurious leather, our style section has you covered from head to toe. While this magazine is the culmination of months of hard work, our team has certainly shared plenty of fun times in its creation. From taste testing every PSL in New Brunswick to spending a crisp fall day at Giamarese Farm, we have had the great pleasure of meeting new people and experiencing unique places. Ultimately, we are so thankful for your support. Be sure to check out all we have to offer, including our fantastic blog, www.trimmagazine.net! For now, cozy up with your favorite PSL and enjoy the rest of Issue #6!

WEB

PHOTO

NIKKI MOGAR

MARIA ALBA

GINA MOGAR

AARON LASERNA

JUSTIN SWANSON

RAYMOND CROFT

DANIELLE AMATO

LOUIS KANG

EMILY TANTUCCIO

MICHELLE CHEN

NICOLE KLOCK

DELFINA PICCHIO

ISOBEL MANCINI

ANNIE POLLOCK

KELSEY WEIDMANN

RACHEL FUCHECK

TRACY SUN KELLY McCARTHY

FASHION

EDEN CAPRIO

MICHELLE KIM

SHERYL WAN

JASMINE CHEUNG

AARON LASERNA

CARINA ICHIA WANG PATRICIA HWANG

EDITORIAL

AMANDA CODY

ISOBEL MANCINI

SUNAINA KAUR RAWAL

ABRAHAM A. LINARES

KWABENA BOACHIE

EDEN CAPRIO

AYUSHI CHAUHAN

ELISABETH PAREDES

SHERYL WAN

ADAUGO ANUSIONWU

KRISTINA LISA

ALLISON WEDWALT

GE YANG

HEATHER MOORE

EUNICE LEE

DESIGN

DEANNA GUBNER

TAYLOR CARVIN

MICHELLE MULÉ

NATASHA GOHIL

ALYSSA LOONAM

TRACY LIU DELFINA PICCHIO

MODELS

CARLY PERLOW

YULIE LEPAR

PETER YOON

SAMANTHA LEAVY

SARAH BALOGH

KRISTINA LISA

MICHAEL PEREZ

KRISTEN CONNOLLY TORI LADAROLA

CONTRIBUTORS

RAIN (MAJOR MODELS)

BOSS MODELS

FRANNY (BOSS MODELS)

MAJOR MODELS

LIDIA DE LOS SANTOS

DEBIE KIM

MICHELLE THOMAS

YULIE LEPAR

SIENA GESMONDI

CHRISTINA NICOLE ERRANTE

PETE LOBOSCO

ANIKE RABIU

MINA COSENTINO

JALA ASMA

NATALIE MORRIS

GIAMARESE FARM

CONTENTS FALL / WINTER 2014

PA G E

PRE-REQS

FARM FRESH

The basic things to read before diving headfirst into this issue.

High fashion comes across a simpler way of life.

PA G E

ON THE COVER PA G E

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PILLOW TALK

MODEL CITIZEN

APERIO

So after all the lovin’, what happens next?

We were honored to talk with Vanessa Gonzalez.

A transforming photoshoot with the amazing Rain Dove.

PA G E

SEXILED!

LIFE IS SWEET

The sock on the door is getting old. We’re here to help!

Trade in those cookies and milk for a slice of pineapple.

PA G E

Kick up your accessory game with these stylish watches.

Seeking the perfect workout for two? Look no further!

WATCH OUT

PUSH IT!

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SUSHI, COSPLAY, RUTGERS’ MASCOT AND THE BEST PUMPKIN SPICE LATTE EVER!

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Want to read more about people accepting and loving their bodies (and themselves) the way they are? TRIM has got it covered! Check out more testimonials and advice some women AND men had to give on our blog, www.trimmagazine.net

In Her Own Image why should size matter?

BY ALLISON WEDWALDT

very December, men

and women alike ogle over the bodies of the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show models. Others note how modeling has changed over the years. In one case, a photograph of the 1945 Miss America contest made it to the front page of Reddit last June, and many commenters 7

noted that 1945’s ideal models would not be considered thin by today’s standards.Yet, these fashion shows, and other forms of mass media, seem to be cornerstones on how we view women’s bodies. However, these cultural depictions of women can be misleading. Indeed, the

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change in beauty standards between 1945 and 2014 shows that social and cultural notions of beauty are constructed by individuals within our society.This means our culture’s views on body size can be modified and transformed to better reflect and incorporate the bodies of all women.

Lena Dunham and Mindy Kaling are two influential women in understanding our bodies, and defy the norm as celebrities. In fact, celebrity images in the media significantly shapes how women view their own bodies. And, while neither Dunham nor Kaling are thin by today’s standards, both are comfortable with their body shape. Dunham appears completely indifferent to the beauty conventions that permeate our society and media, whereas Kaling refuses to determine her self-worth based on them. Dunham and Kaling are not only extremely relatable figures, but they define themselves beyond social and cultural views on body sizes. Body positivity is difficult for many women. Even if our culture surrounding women’s bodies changes, someone will always be there to criticize and demean them. So, it seems that the real solution to achieving body confidence is to eliminate vanity and self-consciousness and focus on positive representation in media which, while an enormous task to complete, paves a road towards a more accepting future.

PHOTOGRAPHY BY DELFINA PICCHIO

THINK

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PLAY

A Knight in Shining Armor who’s that dapper fellow? it’s rutgers’ brand new scarlet knight! BY KAITLIN ROGERS

PHOTOGRAPHY BY RACHEL SHIRLEYFUCHECK YU

Rutgers officially entering the Big Ten, the Scarlet Knight has stepped up his game as well! During the off-season, the Knight hit the gym, got his teeth whitened, and swapped out his old armor for a bright and shiny new look! Rumor has it, he may have undergone some cosmetic surgery as he now boasts a chiseled jawline, smoother cheekbones, squarer chin, wider smile, defined nose, and extremely intense eyebrows. We must admit that the Big Ten has transformed our good old Scarlet Knight into a rather dapper fellow. Our brand new Knight not only sports an updated wardrobe, but also acquired a selection of flashy weaponry. Rutgers has bestowed the Scarlet Knight with a shield and sword, equipping him to chop any team in his path! Rutgers fans might be rather surprised by the Scarlet Knight’s new makeover, but high cheekbones or not, the Scarlet Knight will always have the same confident gait as he marches up and down the sidelines, leading Rutgers fans in the charge against our rivals. We would never expect anything less from such a high-spirited hero. Want to check out what the Scarlet Knight has been up to? Follow him on Social Media @RUScarletKnight! ITH

90s-2008

2008-2014

After the original “mascot-on-foot” was released in the early 80s, an updated look was later developed in the late 90s, featuring the Knight in an athletic sweat–suit and a drastically different face structure than what we know him to have today.

On January 5, 2008, the Scarlet Knight began to display a more muscular build when he was unveiled at the International Bowl in Toronto. He participated in the Capital One Mascot Challenge in 2012 and was featured in ESPN commercials.

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DRINK

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The PSL Report the verdict is in! the best pumpkin spice latte in new brunswick has been found BY KATIE BELLOFF

kin Spice Latté (or PSL) has returned for yet another Fall, and you better believe I was the very first in line at Starbucks this September to reunite my taste buds with its sweet decadence. Yet, over the past couple years, the popular latté has inspired many other shops and cafés to create their own version of the Starbucks original. With all the options, it can be hard to decide where your loyalties should lie. But never fear, TRIM is here! We’ve searched far and wide through the streets of New Brunswick to bring you the top choices for your PSL needs!

7-Eleven Technically, they don’t actually do a PSL. Their fall offering is really just a pumpkin spice flavored black coffee. So, instead of espresso and steamed milk, their version is simply milk and sugar. However, the serious price cut (a large size for $1.49) definitely makes it a good low budget alternative to its pricier competitors.

Dunkin Donuts Do you enjoy a strong spice flavor for your latté or a sweeter cinnamon taste? Dunkin Donuts’ Pumpkin Spice leans more towards the latter with a little bit of an artificial aftertaste on the side. All the same, as our runner-up, DD’s PSL leaves little tobe desired, and is perfect for an afternoon or evening treat.

Au Bon Pain Au Bon Pain’s PSL is not for latté drinkers who prefer more of a coffee flavor. Absolutely the sweetest one I’ve ever tried, there’s barely a taste of coffee in ABP’s latté. However, they’re also open until 1 or 2 most nights, so if you’re craving something warm and sweet in the middle of that late night study sesh, ABP is a good option for a midnight pickme-up.

Starbucks Did you really expect anything less? The Starbucks PSL still reigns supreme 11 years after its original unveiling, offering a perfect balance between sweet and spice. The hot milk doesn’t overpower the rich flavor of the espresso, nor is it suppressed by the coffee itself. All in all, if you’re looking for a quality latté and not worried about the price, Starbucks is your best bet.

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How to Make Your Own PSL cheap, easy, and do it yourself!

You Need: 1 cup of milk 1 tablespoon demerara (raw cane) sugar 1 cinnamon stick 5 allspice berries 3 whole cloves ¼ teaspoon nutmeg 1 pinch ground cinnamon 2 shots espresso Saucepan Wooden spoon Whisk Espresso maker or coffee maker

In a small saucepan over medium heat, combine the milk, sugar, cinnamon stick, allspice berries, whole cloves and ⅛ teaspoon of the nutmeg. Bring to a simmer then turn off the heat, cover and let stand 10 minutes. With a slotted spoon, remove the whole spices and discard. Heat the spice-infused milk over medium-low heat until hot, then use a milk frother to foam the milk (alternatively, you can transfer the milk to a blender and blend until foamy). Pour the hot espresso into a mug and top with the hot milk, pouring the milk over the back of a spoon into the mug to hold back the foam. Then, spoon the foam on top and garnish with the remaining nutmeg and the ground cinnamon.

PHOTOGRAPHY BY MICHELLE ANNIE POLLACK CHEN

h yes, it’s that time of year again. The Pump-

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This is How We Roll

A. Wherever is most popular.

BY KAITLIN ROGERS

C. No vacay for

USHI PSYCHOLOGY? Did you

me! Can’t leave my pets!

know that the sushi you like can say a lot about your personality? We outlined some surprising correlations in this deliciously fun quiz. So, take a study break with TRIM, and find out how you roll!

What’s sushi?

trendy new vegan market.

C. Tree-hugger for life.

first one to try something, play it safe with this “beginner” roll.

D. Somewhere

tropical with gorgeous sunsets.

MOSTLY B’S

Spicy Salmon, a roll made up of rice, avocado, cucumber, and, wrapped up in seaweed, after a

C. One of my

D. It’s ok.

few drops of sriracha to give it the spice that you love.Your personality is free-spirited, and you love a good surprise. This roll will give you an adventure in each bite.

Raw completely disgusts me.

C. Organic and

B. Never a dull

absolutely no animal products.

moment here!

MOSTLY C’S

Tofu Tempura includes tofu, which

WHAT WOULD YOU SAY YOUR DIET IS LIKE?

WHAT KIND OF LIFE DO YOU LEAD? Basically, it’s totally “Basic.”

rice. Since you usually aren’t the

with adventure!

B. Yum!

A. Picky Eater. A.

cucumber, crabmeat, avocado, and

B. Somewhere

A. Ew, no! favorite things!

ered to my parties! dine at a sushi/ seafood restaurant.

mostly generic ingredients, like

SO HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT AVOCADO?

B. I get it deliv-

C. I get it at that D. I wine and

when it comes to sushi. It contains

of course, salmon. This mix is

WHEN I EAT SUSHI...

MOSTLY A’S,

California Roll, a popular choice

WHERE WOULD YOU GO ON YOUR IDEAL VACATION?

you and that raw fish have more in common than you think

EAT

you’d think would make it healthy, but it’s also deep fried. Generally,

B. Hot Sauce–I put that shit on everything!

D. Whatever

it comes with limited ingredients and soy sauce. Although it may not be the healthiest, it’s delicious! Oh, and it’s vegan.

looks good.

MOSTLY D’S

Rainbow Roll is colorful and topped with ingredients such as

D. Love life, but

salmon, tuna, sea bass, and avo-

not a risk taker.

cado. Appearance is important to you, and you’ll be thankful for a roll that you can fall in love with at first sight.

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GEEK

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Check it out! It’s Monomi from the anime Dangan Ronpa!

Cosplay high fashion meets some geeky fun BY PHILIP WYTHE

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comfortable, it’s like hiding behind a mask.” For cosplayers like Flamm, cosplay is not just about the look, it’s also about the intimate connection between the cosplayer and their character. “If I can pretend not to be myself? It helps a lot!” Flamm says. Indeed, at TRIM Magazine, we don’t see any harm with a little pretend now and then.

“For me, it’s getting to be the character and share that with friends and other fans.”

PHOTOGRAPHY BY SHIRLEY YU

list of skills. This includes everything from sewing and drawing all the way up to microcontroller programming, 3D printing, and circuitry, among others. Whether sewing or printing, programming or drawing, a wide skill set is necessary for a strong cosplay. “For me, it’s getting to be the character and share that with friends and other fans,” Flamm says. “When I decide to make a costume, it’s never just because I like the way it looks, it’s because I LOVE that character.” Indeed, cosplay is not just about fashion and style. Cosplay is also empowering for the cosplayer. As Flamm notes, cosplay helps her overcome social anxiety and depression. “People can’t tell, but I am a horribly shy person,” she says. “A cosplay, or a computer screen makes me a lot more

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or “kosupure” in Japanese, is a form of costume play in which performers portray a popular anime, video game, or comic persona through vibrant and highly detailed costumes. This often includes showing off for fans, modeling for photographers, and even role-playing in costume. As a hobby, cosplay demands versatile skills from the performer. In order to truly replicate the “feel” of a persona, cosplayers need to capture their character’s every detail – down to their clothing and mannerisms. TRIM Magazine sat down with cosplayer and video game designer Michelle Flamm in order to get a firsthand perspective on cosplay and the culture surrounding the field. As a veteran cosplayer, Flamm notes how her cosplays require an enormous OSPLAY,

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Awkwafina

LISTEN

no, not the water bottle. we chatted with this rising star rapper to talk about music, feminism, and, of course, her name BY EDEN CAPRIO

To start off: how did you come up with “Awkwafina”?

Hmm, this is a question that I’m always asked, but then I feel bad because my answer is pretty underwhelming. I was kind of a ratchet high school kid, and when I first started rapping, I wanted to avoid the corny hip hop names like “Destiny DX” or “Mystery Redux.” I was also always tickled by the way large corporations feminize products like “Neutrogena,” “Evian,” or “Dasani.” Awkwafina was one of those names that had elements of product feminization, and also just felt right.

According to your interview with The Daily Beast, you were trained in classical and jazz music. When did you decide to start creating your own music?

I always wonder what my life would’ve been like had I been born 10 years later. If programs like Logic or Ableton were around when I was in junior high school, I would’ve had a lot more experience with it. Unfortunately, I had to wait until I was 16 or 17 to get my hands on DAWs. Back then, I started off with Garageband after getting my first MacBook as a junior in high school. Even when I played trumpet in school, I would compose music pieces on blank staff paper and attempt to get my friends to play them. But I didn’t actually start creating music until much later.

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What are some of your inspirations for your current work?

I always come off as some pompous idiot when I give the following answer, but I think what makes Awkwafina so WTF and random is that I try not to draw direct influence or inspiration from anyone or anything. Awkwafina may be a product of the culture I was brought up in, but half the people I truly idolize aren’t even alive. I think, if anything, I try to be inspired by an attitude or a point of view. Some of my inspirations are Charles Bukowski, Tom Waits, Anïas Nin and Joan Didion. As for contemporary artists: FKA twigs, Cakes Da Killa and Poliça.

Many of your songs are satirical in nature. Do you focus on specific topics and flesh

out your songs from there, or do you create the beat first and then focus on the message? Or perhaps something else?

My process is a little bit of both. The concept first and the beat last, or the beat first and the concept last. In rap, there are pretty much two ways to make a song lyrically: high concept or a compilation of one-liners. I think high concept songs are what have the most comedic appeal, where as most non-comedic rappers will just string a verse together based on little puns or what not. I try to avoid that, as I find it a challenge (in a good way) to build an entire song off one little brain fart of an idea.

Previously, you’ve mentioned that “My Vag” wasn’t written as a feminist track. How did you feel about the feminist response to “My Vag”?

I didn’t mean to say that “My Vag” isn’t a feminist track, but rather something that I wrote because I am a woman. If the world sees all female-related music as being “feminist,” I think it takes away from the overall cause of having women advance by being comfortable with their own identity. However, I do feel that hip hop specifically can use a healthy dose of the feminist message. Traditionally, women in hip hop are the video vixens, the booty-shaking props that line the flashy club scenes and/or are slow motion gyrating onto a car. Then we have the female musicians who, very often, are hyper-sexualized, and therefore catering to men’s objectification of women. Hip hop needs women who keep it real, and take the genre for themselves.

The contemporary rap industry is noted for being primarily male dominated. Have you experienced any obstacles as a female rapper? How do you feel about other women artists in the rap industry?

Within the industry, I am proud to say that I have not faced any obvious obstacles or difficulties as an (Asian) female rapper. The obstacles and difficulties are generally faced by various racist, misogynist listeners who’s only real “weapon” is using their computer keyboard to call me a “man-hating chink” on YouTube. But in the hip

hop industry of 2014, I am grateful that the females in the game are literally killing it right now. Women like Angel Haze, Azealia Banks and Jean Grae are really making an imprint in the genre.

Lastly, you’re starring in a crowdfunded documentary about Asian American rappers, called “Bad Rap.” Can you tell us a little bit about the documentary? What were some of your experiences with the project?

I started filming Bad Rap more than a year ago, and when I was introduced to the project, I really wanted to be a part of it. Bad Rap tells a story that really has never been told and probably couldn’t have been told until now. I was able to work with Salima Koroma, a shark of a filmmaker with an incredible vision, and also become really good friends with the other rappers in it. As an Asian-American artist, just being around Dumbfoundead is incredibly inspiring as well.

Want more more more about the fabulous rap senstation Awkwafina? Well TRIM’s got you covered. Go online to check out the full interview with the rising star at www. trimmagazine.net

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When you’re ready, come and get it!

LOVE LUST & EVERYTHING IN BETWEEN

PHOTOGRAPHY BY RAYMOND CROFT

PILLOW TALK by taylor carvin Okay so you’ve done the deed, but hopefully the intimacy doesn’t stop there. Pillow talk is an essential way to ensure that the relationship doesn’t fade. A few tips: Keep it sexy. Don’t talk about your day at work or your nasty commute home, talk about how you can’t stop thinking about them. Confess something cute, like how you love his cologne or won’t be able to get the sight of her in that lingerie out of your head. And remember, sex makes you vulnerable, so please no impromptu “I love you” without some serious consideration. Keep it simple stupid, and spoon the night away. TRIM FALL / WINTER 2014

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No Glove, No Love just because you’re playing it safe, doesn’t mean it has to be boring BY HEATHER MOORE

TRIM wants to help you make the most of your Friday night! With that said, we encourage you to play it safe, so here are some condom suggestions guaranteed to not leave you hanging... Through Thick n’ Thin (Thickness) Feel his thick in thin. Modern condom technology has made for such thin condoms that it arguably feels like nothing’s there! Whether it be Ultra Thin, Thintensity, or BareSkin, these condoms will bring you and your partner closer than any latex has ever brought you before.

Sinfully Delicious (Flavored) Try this low-cal midnight snack that’ll turn up the heat without having to turn on the oven. Treat your tastebuds to fun flavors like grape, cola, chocolate, or even bacon! Strawberries n’ cream anyone? Feel free to garnish your sweet n’ sexy indulgence with some whipped cream!

Trojan Ecstasy Lubricated

Trojan Naturalamb Skin to Skin Condom

Lifestyle Ultra Thin

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Wet n’ Wild (Lubricated) Want to show your lady how much she means to you? Cater the pleasure to what turns her on. Condom brands make this even easier by designing condoms to pleasure her specifically. A popular choice is Trojan’s Her Pleasure, featuring specially crafted ribbing and contouring as well as silky lubricant to guarantee her that extra comfort and sensitivity.

PHOTOGRAPHY BY RACHEL FUCHECK

Feel Appeal (Textured) Obtaining and sustaining the right amount of friction is crucial to achieving climax for both parties. Bump and grind with the wide variety of textures offered today to find out what creates the greatest satisfaction. Whether it be ribbed, dotted, studded, or a combination of the three, you’ll be amazed at the different sensations created from the slightest surface changes.

L O V E & L U ST Seriously, I’m just trying to get my stupid calculator.

the lounge or the library. If it’s for a night, try staying at a friend’s place. In fact, he/she probably won’t mind the request and take it as an opportunity to catch up and have some fun!

Living in Sexile PHOTOGRAPHY BY MICHELLE CHEN

it’s a symptom of all college living, but it doesn’t have to ruin the roomate to roomate relationship. BY ADAUGO ANUSIONWU

Sexiled again? It’s okay, we all have to take one for the team a few times in our college career. Just don’t resent your roommate for momentarily kicking you out. After all, you might be the sexiler the next time, and you’re going to need your roommate’s cooperation. So, what to do when you’re being

sexiled? First things first, take anything you may need for the night; including homework, laptop, toothbrush, keys, and your wallet. Once you’re sexiled, there’s no coming back. So find a place to go while you give your roommate some time alone. If it’s just for a couple hours, go to

The key to a successful sexile is open communication. If your roommate has a partner coming over, ask to be notified ahead of time. For spur of the moment occasions, make a system to leave markers on the door. A sock on the knob is usually a good sign to take a walk for awhile. With that said, if you’re constantly being sexiled each night, it may be time to put your foot down and make some negotiations with your roommate. You have a right to be treated fairly, as you do own half the room. Be sure to communicate with your roommate and come down to an agreement that both of you are cool with. Sexiling does not have to possess a negative connotation, as long as everyone is on the same page. TRIM TRS IM P R FI N A LGL / / SW U IMNM TER 2014

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Get Tied Up [In Kink] uh oh! let’s get naughty! BY PHILIP WYTHE

“Kink” is a form of sexual fetishism which deviates from standard, or “vanilla,” sex. Kink is rooted in alternative forms of sexual expression, including fetishes, fantasies, and paraphilias between partner(s). This can include anything from casual play to master-submissive relationships between partners. So, what exactly can you and your partner do to engage with kink in the bedroom? Here are a few ideas: Explore Your Fetishes: Whether parts of the body, or sexual fantasies, everyone has “a thing” that “clicks” with them. If your girlfriend likes toes, for instance, try experimenting with feet play. Roleplay Fantasies Together: The bedroom is a great place to let your fantasies run wild, and many partners love to take on “roles” during sex. Try brainstorming a few scenarios that you and your partner could act out. Bondage: Rope tying and handcuffing are some of the most popular forms of kink play. Ropes can be tied in a variety of ways – from tying your partner’s legs and arms to the bed, to binding your partner’s torso and leaving the rest to your discretion.

But wait! Before you start pulling out the ropes and hand-cuffs, make sure you’ve read up on proper techniques and blood circulation safety. Tying rope is a serious form of play, and bad technique can cause serious damage if blood circulation is cut off. Always make sure you know what you’re doing before you start playing, and never lose the key!

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PHOTOGRAPHY BY SHERMAN ANNIE POLLACK LU

Bringing kink into the bedroom is an exciting way to add extra spice into your sex life. Figure out what you and your partner are comfortable with, and have fun!

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PHOTOGRAPHY BY MARIA ALBA

GOING THE

DISTANCE The Hard Facts About Making a Long Distance Relationship Work BY ISOBEL MANCINI

Long-distance relationships traditionally suffer a bad rap. From Andy and April on NBC’s Parks and Recreation, to Ennis and Jack from Brokeback Mountain, television and film seem to believe that long-distance relationships are unsustainable. However, today’s online social media networks are closing the gap between displaced lovers. Compared to just ten years ago, the Internet has normalized the “LDR”. In an effort to find the truth, TRIM talked to Nikko Espina, Raynee Morris, Paul Rando, and Amanda Richardson, a group of undergraduate students who have been in longdistance relationships in the past and present. With their help, we set out to find out what it really takes to go the distance. TRIM FALL / WINTER 2014

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THE HARD FACTS

According to long-distance relationship expert Dr. Gregory Guldner, a long-distance relationship is defined when contact on a day-to-day basis is not possible due to enormous distance gaps. When compared to couples that visit reguDr. Guldner notes that anywhere from 14 larly and frequently, long-distance couples to 15 million people are in a long-distance are able to use distance to help maintain a relationship with 4 to 4.5 million of these stronger sense of boundaries and self. individuals unmarried and nearly one-third “You can both be in a relationship, and still in college relationships. retain a good amount of independence,” Despite the widely conceived notion that Richardson told TRIM. “Which is, in my long-distance relationships are likely to fail, opinion, something that couples who are there is no substantial statistical evidence together all the time struggle with—they supporting that idea. literally don’t know how to be apart.” “I got to know him on a personal level. Rutgers Junior, Raynee Morris was When he asked me to be his boyfriend, formerly in a long-distance relationship there was no way I was going to during the summer. She found that the say no,” said Rutgers student Nikko Espina. added distance allowed her to feel “If I met someone in person and we comfortable chatting with her partner fell in love, I wouldn’t rule out being toon a rough day. gether long distance.” “I think the good part might have been Indeed, we found that with distance often that he only saw the me I wanted him to,” comes dilemma. Rutgers senior Amanda Morris said. “If I was having a lazy day and Richardson explained, “I had known since I didn’t put on any makeup or do the start that I was going to have to be my hair, he’d never know.” in a long-distance relationship if we were Ultimately, it appears that the less often still together by the time he graduated and you spend time with your significant other, began active duty. I truly had no idea how the more precious your time together hard it would be.” becomes. 19

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TAKING THE GOOD...

According to Rutgers senior Paul Rando, distance makes physical intimacy sacred. “When you’re in a long-distance relationship,” he said, “you appreciate and cherish the everyday, simple moments—holding your significant other’s hand, sitting together on the couch, eating junk food...you don’t take them for granted quite as quickly.”

...WITH THE BAD When TRIM interviewed each longdistance partner, the biggest drawback was unanimously the loss of physical contact. Physical presence within relationships do strange, technicolor things to your brain, neurochemically speaking, and increase the feelings of bonding and intimacy in ways that other interactions simply can’t equal.“The hardest part was obviously not being able to physically be with him and touch him, hold him, do anything with him,” Espina told TRIM. “It’s what broke us up.” The small, minor forms of physical

L O V E & L U ST contact that short-distance couples take for granted are often some of the biggest struggles of long-distance relationships. Richard notes how this includes “being held when you’re sick or stressed, holding hands when you’re walking somewhere together, even just kissing hello or goodbye.” “To not have that is a bit like having half of a relationship,” Morris agrees. Without physical intimacy, it’s easy for partners to feel isolated from one another. “The hardest part is pretty straightforward—it involves being lonely a lot of the time,” Rando said.

MAKING IT WORK

Ask yourself: do you have the time? Are you willing to put in the work? What’s most important to you in a relationship? Be honest with yourself before you dive in. Morris encourages every partner to consider settling into college before engaging in a long-distance relationship. All in all, if things don’t work out, don’t blame yourself. Allow yourself time to grieve and use the support of your friends and family. Ultimately, know that you did everything within your control.

REMEMBER THE IMPORTANT THINGS

Yet, a successful long-distance relationship is less complicated than most assume. If The work you put into a high maintenance you’re willing to put the work in, your rela- relationship can sap your energy; you might tionship will be just as rewarding ask yourself, “Are the costs starting to outas any other. weigh the benefits?” “Back when I lived in New York, we only If you feel that your long-distance relavisited one another four times out of the tionship is too costly, take a step back and year, because it was much more expensive regain your perspective. The trick to staying to make the trip, “Rando explained. centered is taking stock of how your signifRando advises others to make the most icant other changes your life for the better. out of their time together, celebrating each “The best part about being with him was moment no matter how simplistic. the way he knew me,” Espina said. “He was “Use your time apart to plan something special for your time together,” he said. “It doesn’t have to be extreme or expensive. Plan a date or a meal to make that gets you both excited.”Richardson also encourages others to plan accordingly, and be willing to accept a bit of change. “Try to be as understanding and flexible as possible,” she says. “Everyone is busy at different times, but do what you can to set aside a block of time for your partner every day, or every week for you guys to spend together and be understanding of conflict.”

“THE HARDEST PART IS PRETTY STRAIGHTFORWARD— IT INVOLVES BEING LONELY A LOT OF THE TIME.” the first person to ever realize how beautiful I was and believe in me in the way I needed to believe in myself. When we spoke on the phone for the first time, the first thing he said was ‘Your voice is perfect!’ It was the best surprise.” Raynee Morris agreed that a long-distance relationship is certainly possible in our digital age. “Technology plays a huge role in how everything ends up working out. Aside from texting, FaceTime, and Skype, we also played games online together and watched movies by starting them on Netflix at the same time while Skyping.” Indeed, long-distance relationships can be rewarding over time. When both partners make the relationship work, the intimacy is fulfilling for the couple. After all, a relationship that clicks will survive – regardless of whether it’s offline or online.

BE REALISTIC The most important question for long-distance relationships is a simple one: is this for you? Whether the relationship is going well or not, a long-distance relationship is a challenge regardless. TRIM FALL / WINTER 2014

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Party of One

one doesn’t have to be the loneliest number BY HEATHER MOORE

College is the ideal time to figure out what sexually appeals to you. But, what if you have no one to help you along the way? Sometimes it doesn’t hurt to have a few toys to play with when you’re out of luck. Take “me time” to a whole new level. A night alone will have never felt so good!

Vibrator Looking for something to tickle your fancy? When manual labor gets tiring, many women rely on the Energizer Bunny to bring it home. Experts often recommend a vibrator as a perfect introductory sex toy, as it does most of the work for you while providing a rush of powerful pleasure. A lot of vibrators also come in different sizes and speeds. So, just sit back and enjoy the good vibes because soon you’ll be on cloud nine.

Fleshlight Are you ready to give JILL the “it’s not you, it’s me” talk? Gentleman, it may be time to spice up your pleasure routine with a modern twist. Merge a flashlight with an artificial lady part and you get a fleshlight! Let your member explore this new realm and trust us, you’ll be seeing fireworks. Certain models, such as the Fleshlight Vibro, even allow for extra stimulation with the inclusion of multiple vibrating bullets in the sleeve!

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“There’s more that goes along with sex than just pleasure.”

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Rutgers students enjoy a little extra benefits in their friendships. Don’t fret; not only is it acceptable for students to explore their sexuality, but it’s important for young adults to learn about themselves, their wants and desires, and what turns them on. College is all about self-discovery, and hooking-up can be a great way to figure things out. Yet, while self-discovery might be fun, there’s more that goes along with sex than just pleasure. There’s a emotional vulnerability that cannot be separated all the time. When you and your friend continuously hit the sheets, your relationship

might become complicated.You might become comfortable being naked around each other, you might have good sex, but something more might appear in your relationship than “just friends.” These are dangerous waters, and you should tread lightly. Maybe you want a little romance in your sex life. That’s okay. Getting to that point, however, requires communication about what you and your partner want. Maybe you and your partner only click as hook-ups, not lovers. That’s fine, but that needs to be understood between both of you. Don’t lie to yourself or your partner -

be open to communication, and don’t be afraid to set up strict boundaries. Don’t tell your partner that you’re okay coming over at 11pm to bang one out quick after American Horror Story, when clearly you want something more intimate and romantic. Be honest with yourself, your partner, and where you draw the line. There’s nothing wrong with having casual sex, and there’s nothing wrong with hooking up with anyone you want. But you should do it because you want to. So don’t be afraid to hit the sheets - just make sure you’re feeling comfortable and having fun! TRIM FALL / WINTER 2014

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What time is it? Time for you to get a watch! Perhaps one of these? From the office, to the classroom, to that insane house party down the street, watches are a simple and flexible accessory that can be the finishing touch for any look. And the options? Endless. Check out some of TRIM’s top picks to help you up your watch game!

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BY KRISTINA LISA “Do you wanna build a snowman?” Not with that hair! In the cold weather can be extra difficult for us ladies to find a quick hairstyle that will stay in place through rain, wind, or snow. Our answer? Braids, braids, braids! TRIM set out to score these quick, killer braids that will last you all day long.

Prep: Dry Shampoo is your friend. Not only does it absorb oil from two-days-ago hair, but it plumps up your cuticles and gives volume to your limp locks.

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For a modern take on an old classic, section your hair from the side. Continue braiding all the way to the end or leave out a bit of your hair for a trendy side ponytail. Use a clear elastic to tie the ends off where you stopped braiding.

The Basics: Start with taking a section of hair. Split the sections into three equal parts. (left, center, right). French braid: take the left and cross over to the center. (Please note: original left is now in the center position). Now take the right and cross it over the left (right is now in the center.) Repeat the process by adding hair and crossing it over to the center. Dutch braid: take the left and cross under to the center (left, center, right). Now take the right cross it under the left. (Original right is now in the center position). Repeat the process by adding hair and crossing it over to the center.

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Triple Dutch Pretzel Braid

This look is created by making two dutch braids. Cross one braid behind your head and secure with a bobby pin. Repeat with the second braid. Curls were achieved using a 1inch curling iron. Spraying a little bit of hairspray onto small section of hair, wrap the hair around the outside of curling iron for about 5-10 seconds. Release and repeat.

Divide hair into 3 sections to create low ponytails right above the occipital bones. Loosely braid each section and tie a clear elastic to the ends. Widen the braids a bit by gently tugging on the sides. Take one braid and loop it over the top of the other - creating a sideways 8 (or infinity sign). Secure each section with bobby pin that matches your hair color.

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Those days of looking like you just rolled out of your bed are over! Dressing stylishly does not mean you have to sacrifice comfort. Whether you are taking your significant other out on a date or simply strutting around campus, don’t settle for a mediocre outfit. We have featured eight casual, even athletic items below to show you how to stay fashionable while being warm and comfy this winter.

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utgers third-year student Vanessa González dedicates her life to advocacy, especially for the transgender community. González is a Women and Gender Studies major, and Social Justice minor at Rutgers University. She was recently interviewed in New Brunswick Today for her historic acceptance as one of the first out and visible transgender woman of color to be accepted into the Douglass Residential College, Rutgers University’s official women’s college. At Rutgers, González works at the Center for Social Justice Education and LGBT Communities. She serves as the Senior Office Manager and as the OutSpoken Peer Education Coordinator. González also reaches out to the Rutgers community through such programs as Breathing Room, a 45

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support group for students struggling with Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Queer Intersex Asexual (LGBTQIA) issues and other intersecting identities. As TRIM Magazine’s Fall 2014 Model Citizen, we interviewed Vanessa González about her advocacy work, her historic acceptance into the Douglass Residential College, her future projects, and her experiences as a transgender woman. TRIM: First of all, thank you so much for agreeing to be our Model Citizen! Can you tell us where you’re from, and what you’re currently studying? Vanessa González: I was born in the lower side of Manhattan, and I grew up in Jersey City. I am studying Women and Gender Studies, and minoring in Social Justice. TRIM: I’m glad you did! I know you’re one of the first open and visible transgender women of color within Douglass Residential College. That’s truly an inspiration!

VG: Yeah, it’s something that I’m trying to process, because it’s so new, and it’s a lot! But it really is a privilege to be one of the people in the front of the movement. TRIM: Did you face obstacles applying to the school, and if so, how were you able to overcome them? VG: I think my biggest obstacle in applying to Douglass was the ambiguity of the language. On the DRC website, it says, “for women”. Now, then comes the question, is it self-identified women? Is it “born women”, which is really problematic, and it’s what a lot of colleges say when they turn down trans women? That was the biggest obstacle, as to whether they would accept trans women, if trans women were seen as women, in terms of policy--not necessarily in terms of the folks running Douglass. I had emailed the dean with all my cards on the table, wanting to apply, and she said, “that would be amazing,

let’s talk more.” Then it got a little tricky--continually though my application process, I was hearing from four or five deans. One dean was asking me information about my name relating to my RUID, if my gender marker was changed legally yet--a lot of personal questions, but yet I also understand why they were asking them, so it was an interesting place to be in. Another person emailed the application, and after I submitted it, I didn’t hear back for a while--about a month or so. Then I just kind of got an email that said, “You’re in Douglass!” Normally, when you apply to colleges and universities, you get a little letter. I didn’t necessarily receive that--I just got a, “oh, you’re in Douglass, now meet with this other person”-the fourth or fifth person I’ve talked

to--“so they can let you know your resources.” I was a little confused, and it felt very back-doored. When I met with this person, the meeting actually went very well. What I really appreciate about her is that she’s very transparent. She let me know the student coding issue, but they were able to resolve it, so now I’m officially coded as DRC. TRIM: That’s quite the road to apply. Do you feel like the queer and trans* communities on campus played a big part in that, and in your identity? VG: I think the larger queer and trans* communities have definitely helped me because they’ve been my chosen family. When I transitioned last semester, I was living in the queer and trans* housing on Douglass, so it was an amazing place to be in because it was safe to transition. I wasn’t in a traditional dorm freaking out about everything else, but because I was in that space that was made safer and more comfortable for trans* folks, I was able to transition. The community’s very big and very divided, and most of the community actually isn’t involved on campus at all. Being the only out trans girl that I do know, the community has given me a support system that I don’t have outside. TRIM: I see. So do you agree that having safe spaces in general is a very important issue when it comes to being queer and trans*? VG: Absolutely! I also think when spaces get safe, it can get complicated, because what constitutes a safe space? Spaces are never really safe for everybody, so who’s not safe? That’s why I always say to make spaces safer, because there never is a safe space for every single individual. I think it’s very important to make spaces comfortable and open, and that’s a conversation that’s happening university-wide, not just within Douglass or the QIT (queer, intersex, trans*) community. If an international student is thrown into a traditional dorm, they won’t necessarily feel comfortable, so how do we create spaces that are productive and sustainable for any identity? That’s a TRIM FALL / WINTER 2014

A lot of people think Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m just a trans* advocate, but Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m also an advocate, period. The issues that trans* folks experience are things everyone experiences, and a part of my work is to make that visible.

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big thing with my work – a lot of people think I’m just a trans* advocate, but I’m also an advocate, period. The issues that trans* folks experience are things everyone experiences, and a part of my work is to make that visible--make folks know that we are all assigned something at birth, and we’re all put on roles, whether we adhere to them or not. I think it’s very important to have these conversations, not as an end product, but as a continual process. TRIM: Speaking of identity, how else do you identify aside from being trans? VG: Everyone has a sexual orientation, gender identity, gender expression, ethnicity, nationality, race, and so on. For me, I identify as queer--because my orientation is fluid and I needed a term that matched that fluidity--a transgender woman, femme, because I’m very feminine. In terms of ethnicity and nationality, I’m a documented US citizen. My mother is an immigrant from Cuba and my father is an immigrant from Iran. I’m a person of color who grew up in a working-class poor family, who transcended into middle class. TRIM: That’s an awesome little summary of it all! I know how important identity is. Do you think being trans detracts from those other identities in other people’s eyes? VG: Oh, absolutely! When I say that I am trans, folks can’t get past that. They can’t see me having a sexual orientation. Because of the older medicalized term, “transsexual”, folks assume being trans is about sexual identity, which for most people, it’s not. So, when I say I’m queer, it throws them in for a loop. In my experiences, that’s been the biggest issue--folks not seeing my gender identity and sexual orientation as separate. A lot of folks also think I only see things through a trans lens, which is untrue. I have many other intersectional identities, and I’m able to see things from different perspectives. I try to be as intersectional as possible. The trans view is usually the one left out of major conversations, so it’s important to make it visible, but I also see things through other points, as well.

TRIM: Right, and I agree--intersectionality is incredibly important since we all have different identities and they all intersect. Going back to Rutgers, what other organizations are you involved in on-campus? VG: I work as the Senior Office Manager at the Center for Social Justice Education and LGBT Communities on Livingston Campus. I do a lot of training, cultural competency, workshops around gender, sexuality, and other intersecting identities. I also train the new OA staff on how to answer the phone and work our online system. Outside of that, I am the vice president of Trans*missions, which is the first ever Rutgers-recognized transgender student organization. Its mission is to create a space in student life where there hasn’t been one. It is open to non-transgender people–cisgender and gender-variant people. Also, I am the president of Queer Caucus, which is a collaborative council of all the QIT organizations on campus. With Queer Caucus, I serve on the Vice Chancellor of Student Affairs Leadership Cabinet, which is made up of heads of every student organization in the university, and we talk about issues affecting the university as a whole. TRIM: Regarding the QIT Community, since your involvement, what changes have you seen on campus and what changes have yet to be made? VG: I’m only a junior, so I haven’t been at Rutgers too long. The biggest thing I’ve seen is Rainbow Perspectives within Gibbons, which is the queer, intersex, and trans* housing. That’s been more visible and has grown--now it’s two floors of an entire building instead of half a floor. The preferred name policy that went through this semester, for trans and international students--class rosters, Sakai, grades--that has changed even though it has a long way to go. There needs to be a lot more open conversation about trans* identities, because I feel like folks group the trans folks with the gay and lesbian folks-forget the bi, queer or intersex folks. Separate oppressions and separate situations affect each of us differently.

There needs to be more of this conversation about trans* identities because, in my experience, the preferred name policy was cut down from its original size and original encompassing of services. Originally, it covered student IDs, housing rosters, diplomas, Sakai, grades--everything. Now, it’s just Sakai and grades. And I think a lot of that comes from the thought that, when trans* folks get misgendered, it’s just an issue of mild discomfort, when it’s not. There haven’t been trans* folks talking for us in these meetings--other people have been talking for us, and I think that’s really a problem that all marginalized groups experience. People talk for you because your voice is invalidated. TRIM: So I know that you do other advocacy outside of Rutgers, what does that entail? VG: Most of my work has shifted to inside of Rutgers and other institutions, which is fine, because I feel like there needs to be work done there as well. I’ve also been a recurring guest of the Natasha Sherman show, which is a local Princeton talk show that talks about anything in the public conscience. I’ve been there talking about trans* issues, social justice issues at large, and things like that. I was invited to be the keynote speaker at the Lehigh Valley Trans* Advocacy Summit at Muhlenberg College, which was such an amazing honor! It was terrifying, but also extraordinary and liberating, so I guess now I’m also a public speaker! Speaking on the term--at Muhlenberg, for example, I didn’t speak on an issue, I told my story. I identify more as a storyteller and an educator than a public speaker, but I guess if you had to put a capitalist, imperialist label on it, it would be a public speaker. I’m also involved with the 2015 Trans* Calendar Project, which is a collaborative effort comprised of trans* artists, activists, and models, from all over North America. It features 12 trans* models, and then there are the artists, managers--but we’re all trans*-identified, with different identities on the trans* continuum. The purpose of the calendar is to bring visibility to the diversity to the trans* community specifically. People think Mock, trans TRIM FALL / WINTER 2014

of trans* folks in a binary way – Janet Mock, trans woman, and Chaz Bono, trans man.Very feminine trans women and very masculine trans men--which are identities on the trans* continuum, but that’s not it. It’s very difficult for non-binary folks to get recognition. In my experience, as a trans woman, it’s been “easier for folks to get.” I can only speak about so much since I’m not a non-binary individual, but from my experiences, there is more confusion about identity and pronouns. Invasive questions are asked when they shouldn’t be. So on the Calendar, there are non-binary folks, butch trans women, femme trans men, trans people of color, various abilities. 50% of the proceeds go to folks all over the continent trying to fund their transition. TRIM: In all your activism, advocacy, and storytelling, do you have an overarching goal? VG: I think my goal is to have people understand that there is no end. There isn’t an “if we do this, this is all we have to do and that is it.” We’re never gonna get to that point, ever, because of the systems and societies that we live in, globally. I think these conversations are continual. For example, in terms of queer rights--marriage equality, but then it’ll be done. Marriage equality shouldn’t be where the conversation ends, but it should be where the conversation begins. I think learning happens through stories and conversations--like, you can theorize all you want on the separation of sex and gender, but you’re never gonna really know it unless you have a conversation with somebody. That’s why I feel I am comfortable sharing my story, because I feel like when I do that, people learn so much. From me,

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my goal, if you want to put it that way, is to have those conversations be continual, safe, and productive. TRIM: Where do you see yourself in the future? VG: Academically, my route is to Grad School for Student Affairs and work within the realm of student support services at a university. But I guess my advocacy--to continue, because my advocacy can also take form in those spaces, as well. My plan for myself is to have my master’s in Student Affairs Administration and to continue doing advocacy work in whatever form that will take. TRIM: Vanessa, thank you very much for being our model citizen--you truly are an incredible person! Do you have any closing remarks? VG: I want to thank TRIM for making this happen! I wanna thank Phil--they really made all this happen for me, and their article in New Brunswick Today really gave me my platform now, and I really want to let them know, and TRIM as a whole, that I’m very grateful, humbled, and honored to have this privilege and share this space.

“You’re never gonna really know it unless you have a conversation with somebody. That’s why I feel I am comfortable sharing my story, because I feel like when I do that, people learn so much.” TRIM FALL / WINTER 2014

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HANGOVER FIXES AND THE ULTIMATE COUPLE WORKOUT? NOT EVEN THE HALF OF IT.

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A SWEET SUBSTITUTE by katie belloff Have a sweet tooth? Us too. And sometimes it can be hard to satisfy without the bitter aftertaste of guilt. Perfect solution? Switch out those sugar cookies men and pumpkin pie for some sweet sweet pineapple! Not only is it tasty, but it also has a mother-load of health benefits. Packed with vitamins and calcium, pineapple has shown to improve your skin, heart health, digestion, and blood pressure. The beta-carotene found in it has also shown to play a vital role in combating the cells that form prostate and colon cancer. So the next time you find yourself reaching for something sweet, make sure to grab yourself some pineapple.

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Beating School Blues how to deal with depression and stress

Get Outside UV light from the sun stimulates vitamin D producAt an esteemed research university like Rutgers, studies can be a stressful game. Midterms, exams, debates, presentations… tion, and is strongly linked to helping your body stave you name it, your professors can dream up a way to stress off depression – even when you out with high stakes grading. I’d bet money you know it’s cloudy! how that feels. As students, we feel the pressure to study hard, eat healthily, sleep well, be sociable, and, of course, look great in the process. While quite stressful to manage, you can See Friends help kill your stress while keeping your cool. Here are a few You may not exactly feel things you can (and totally should) do to keep your head like leaving your room above water during the school year. when you’re under pressure, but prolonged isolation can be harmful for your longterm mental health. Give yourself some time to rest your mind with friends. BY ISOBEL MANCINI

Get Your Work Done! Once you’ve plucked yourself up, take care of business. The most common causes of stress-related disorders, such as anxiety and depression, come from a cyclic state of feeling overwhelmed. Break that cycle by hunkering down and checking off your to-do list. Treat Yourself Indulge in a hobby or buy yourself something nice. Maybe even just give yourself permission to take a nap! Breaks are great rewards, and can help make work all the more bearable.

Sometimes you need to do more for yourself by getting help: If you’re feeling down, tell a family member or a close friend. Or if you’d like a fresh opinion on your situation, don’t hesitate to make an appointment with CAPS or Scarlet Listeners. Their entire purpose is to reinforce your mental health during the school year. To learn more about or make an appointment with CAPS: visit rhscaps. rutgers.edu or call 848932-7884 For Scarlet Listeners call: 1-732-247-5555 53

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ILLUSTRATION BY CARLY PERLOW

Exercise Exercise releases endorphins, which provide pain relief and a euphoric high similar to opiate drugs (or, a “Runner’s High”). Even 20 to 30 minutes help cool your mind off!

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Peanutbutter on whole wheat bread and a mix of almonds, peanuts and cashews? Chock-full of protein for an awesome post-workout!

The Pre-Post Workout

how to rev up and refuel!

A good pre-workout meal consists of fast-digesting carbs and protein to start muscle growth. Starchy carbs, such as whole-wheat foods, are great for fast digestion.

Have you ever felt too tired to finish that last set? You may not have given your body the fuel to recover. It’s important to know how to workout the correct way. One of the easiest places to start is your eating habits. With a few tips, you can work towards creating an effective workout session.

The Post-Workout: Your post-workout is just as crucial as your pre-workout. After, your body will be depleted of all its stored carbs. The most effective way to help repair muscle damage is eating carbs and proteins in a two-hour window after your session. Consuming fast-digesting carbs and proteins will help

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The Pre-Workout: Eat a heavy meal 30-60 minutes before working out. Without the proper nutrients, you get tired faster. And, with an empty stomach, all you’ll end up thinking about is what you want to eat when you get home later. So grab a big dinner beforehand. But what exactly should you eat?

raise your energy, while also building your workedout muscles. Post-workout, you will also need to replenish your lost nutrients. The best way to acquire these is through protein shakes. Whey Protein Isolate provides the essential amino acids that promote lean mass, reduction in body fat, and increased hormone release. Hitting the perfect meal balance can be tough on a college schedule. Remember to do research before jumping in, and don’t be afraid to change your diet if you aren’t maximizing your potential..

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Earning Those Gains: Ticket for Two BY ELISABETH PAREDES Whether you are an experienced bodybuilder or get exhausted just thinking about exercise, having a partner to spot and motivate you is key to success. Before you stress out about your (already busy) schedule, keep in mind that there are quick and easy workouts you can do anywhere and at anytime. An effective workout plan is based on routine. Once you get into the habit, and have a committed training partner at hand, you will be earning gains in no time!

TEAM UP TO SLIM DOWN WITH THESE WORKOUTS 1. Gimme Five:

Lie on your stomach, facing your partner in a plank position. With elbows aligned under your shoulders, legs extended, and palms flat on the floor, elevate your torso and reach out your left hand to meet your partnerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s right hand. While elevated, switch arms to now meet your partnerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s left hand with your right. Lower your body down to complete a single rep. Complete 3 sets of 12 reps. 55

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3. Fun Dips:

Have your partner sit on a bench or chair. Standing in front of your partner, face forward while assuming a squat position with your hands on your partner’s knees or thighs. Lower yourself until your triceps are parallel to the ground. Lift your body up, straightening your arms while still in a squat position, to complete a rep. Continue for 2 sets of 10 reps.

2. London Bridge – Don’t Fall Down:

Facing your partner, press the inside of your right foot to the inside of your partner’s right foot. Slowly extend your opposite leg back and lower your body into a lunge. For proper lunge formation, keep your shoulders up, back straight, and knee bent at 90-degree angle. Hold this position for a couple of seconds, engaging your core for balance, before returning to a standing position.You have completed one rep. Continue for 3 sets of 12.

4. Oh Quad, Look at that Squat:

Stand back-to-back with your partner. Lower yourselves into a leveled squat position, with your knees directly over your ankles. Holding a medicine ball, twist left as your partner twists right, passing off the ball. Once your partner twists back around on the opposite side and the ball is passed back to you that counts as 1 rep. Continue for 3 sets. of 12 reps.

5.Tug of War:

Sitting on the ground, spread your legs apart and press the bottom of your feet against your partners (together you should form a diamond shape with your legs). Next, lean forward and hold hands. Have your partner pull on your arms, gently bringing you toward them until you achieve a nice stretch. Have your partner pull slightly harder as your muscles begin to become more limber. Hold this position for 30 seconds and then switch roles.

7. Couple of Flamingos:

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Facing each other, put your hand on you partners right shoulder and have him/her to the same. Then, grab your opposite [left] foot and pull it toward your buttocks. Pull your foot forward until you feel a firm stretch in your quads. Repeat on the other side.

Nice work! You and your partner succeeded in your first workout together. Now, start planning ahead for your next session! TRIM FALL / WINTER 2014

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The Mourning After your guide to dining hall cuisine after a full night out BY TAYLOR CARVIN

For the “I’m never drinking again” hangover… Putting anything in your mouth seems equivalent to stepping on a Lego at this point so stick to liquids like Gatorade to quench your thirst and to get those crucial electrolytes. Mom was always right about gingerale, which will help settle your stomach and of course, water. Lots of water. For the “I can’t look at real food right now” hangover… Cereals are the best way to

slowly ease yourself into eating. Some good options are Cheerios because if babies can eat them, than so can you. Also some dining halls carry salty chips and pretzels, which are always good for an uneasy stomach. For the “I think this burp could turn into puke” hangover… Starches can save a life because they will sponge up all the contents in your stomach and make it seem like life is worth living again. You can munch on a bagel or a muffin, make a waffle

and poke at some breakfast potatoes. These will all fill you up and should keep the puke at bay. For the “Where is the bacon?!” hangover… Because you are the King of Beer Pong you should eat like a true victor. Pile up on the eggs, bacon, the pancakes, slices of pork roll, and some French toast, and drown it all in syrup. Grease is your friend. Feast your eyes on this! Eggs, bacon, sausage, hashbrowns, and french toast smothered in syrup! Need some freshness? Grab an apple and banana too; both full of energy boosting vitamins. Last, but not least,garnish with ketchup and pepper for flavor. This, my friends, is the true breakfast of champions.

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It happens to the best of us. You go out to enjoy a “few” drinks and before you know it you’re twerking on the dance floor, taking shots, and flirting with a cutie named, Brad (or is his name Brett…) Eventually you wake up, with an undying thirst, slight dizziness, and a storm in your stomach. You my friend are hungover. The best, most economical way to feed your hunger is to go to the nearest dining hall and fill up your plate with food that will hopefully make the pain go away. Here are a few suggestions.

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