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Socially-Minded Resolutions

National Soup Month

The Social Side of Gardening April Hensley

Jan-Carol Publishing New Book Releases

Tips to Maintain Your Fitness Commitment

Get to Know Author Dan Perkins

Resolutions: Who Needs ’Em?

Self-Care Strategies

Pam Blair

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How to Begin the Day in a Positive Frame of Mind

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VOICE Speaks Hello, 2024! As we move into the New Year of 2024, are we happy to see 2023 slip away? It seems that the last three years have been filled with loss, death, and political confusion. We are still navigating through COVID-19, its variants, and now the flu and more. The year of 2020 carried its dread, death, and anxiety into the last three years. Do we dare to look for hope in 2024? Yes—it’s a new year with a new attitude. The hope is that 2024 will allow prosperity to soar! Attitude. It is a simple word with a big impact, and usually, there is an adjective attached to it—positive/good or negative/bad. It’s not easy keeping a positive attitude, but if you look around, you will see those less fortunate. Give yourself permission to let go of the ‘what should have been’ or the ‘why did it happen’ of the past year. Each new year brings new hope and opportunities. Find a reason to smile, to laugh, and to help others; you will be helping yourself renew hope in your life. Recapping 2023, JCP’s year included events at our bookstore and starting our new blog and podcast duo, both by the name of Bookmarked. Voice Magazine for Women shared new spotlights of women and their businesses. In addition, new improvements were made to JCP’s website to make purchasing JCP books online easier than ever! So, there was plenty of renewed hope for Jan-Carol Publishing and Voice Magazine for Women in 2023. This year, Voice Magazine for Women will embrace the digital print age and become stronger with its digital presence online with more content and easier access. Would you like to be a contributing writer? Email: communications@ jancarolpublishing.com for submission guidelines and details. Working alongside our magazine, JCP will review new distribution venues for our books and publish more audiobooks. One goal last year that will transfer into 2024 is the goal to start a JCP book review club. Interested? Email: communications@jancarolpublishing.com. In addition, for our writers, JCP will once again be publishing another book in our These Haunted Hills anthology series. Get your stories written and enter early! Sign up for our book blog and listen to our podcast, Bookmarked, to have access to the latest information about our books, author interviews, publishing tips, giveaways, writing opportunities, and more! We are excited about the new projects and hosting events planned for 2024. We have many projects in the planning stages. We are counting on all of you—our readers, supporters, advertisers, business owners, and fans to join us and be a supportive part of them. Thank you for being there! From all of us to all of you — have a safe, healthy, and happy New Year! Verse of the month: “Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD thy God, He that doth go with thee; He will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.” — Deuteronomy 31:6 (KJV) Thought of the month: “Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all the darkness.” — Author Unknown

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Bristol Celebrates MLK Day with Volunteer Service Project, March, and Celebration YWCA NETN and SWVA, APEC, and The Bristol Train Station extend a warm invitation to the community for the 6th Annual MLK March and Program on Monday, January 15, in celebration of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day. The afternoon event kicks off at the YWCA gymnasium with a dedicated youth program aimed at inspiring and empowering the leaders of tomorrow. Scheduled for January 15, 2024, from 12:30 p.m. to 1:30 p.m., this special gathering pays homage to Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.'s enduring legacy. It aims to engage today's youth in meaningful conversations about justice, equality, and community service, offering interactive crafts and activities for children. The march will assemble at the YWCA, with the procession commencing at 1:30 p.m. Participants will journey to Bristol's historic "A Good Place to Live'' sign on State Street for commemorative photos before concluding the march at First Baptist Church, honoring King’s lasting legacy. At 2 p.m., the program within First Baptist Church will commence, featuring inspiring videos and readings. The one-hour program includes civil rights activist Tybre Faw and musical performances by the King University Choir and the MLK Community Choir. The program will conclude at approximately 3 p.m. Information regarding events at King University and Lee Street later that evening will be provided. Special gratitude is extended to YWCA NETN and SWVA, the Bristol Train Station Board and Staff, APEC, YMCA, First Baptist Church, MLK Community Choir,

King University, Girls, Inc. of the Mountain Empire, Bristol Area Ministerial Alliance, the City of Bristol Tennessee and Bristol Virginia, the Bristol MLK Planning Committee members, community leaders, and all participants. Reserved handicap and senior parking will be available in the YWCA and First Baptist Church parking lot. Refreshments will be served. For additional information, please contact the YWCA at 423-968-9444 or email bristolmlk@gmail.com.

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Socially-Minded Resolutions N

ew Year’s resolutions tend to focus heavily on healthy aspirations. Each January, people from all walks of life express a desire to lose weight, exercise more, quit smoking, or get more sleep. However, that doesn’t mean that resolutions cannot involve fun with friends. Resolutions that focus on improving social connections might be something to consider this year. Expanding your social life can prove beneficial, as strong social connections are important to maintaining cognitive health and emotional well-being. The following are some socially-minded resolutions. • Volunteer. One of the best ways to meet new people is to engage in activities that attract likeminded individuals. Volunteer activities are one avenue to explore. Volunteerism can start in schools, community centers, houses of worship, and elsewhere through the community. • Change your internal narrative. Sometimes people have a hard time making friends simply because they have preconceived notions or place judgments on those around them. Judging

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others can be detrimental to establishing relationships. Changing how you view others can help. • Join a social app. Whether it is to meet new friends or potential romantic partners, now may be the time to put yourself out there. Apps that promote personal relationships help people vet individuals so they’re not walking into situations completely unaware. Pew Research says 53 percent of people under the age of 30 report having used a dating site or app, and the popular app Meetup boasts 60 million members. • Try new activities. If you’ve been meaning to learn how to brew your own beer or create acrylic art craft projects, now is the time to dive in. Engaging in new hobbies and activities puts you in touch with other people, which can help foster new friendships. • Practice active listening. Resolving to make established relationships more secure may come down to listening better. Too often people are harried and rushed and may miss key signals a partner or friend is giving them. By slowing down and listening, while also trying to see the situation through another’s eyes, you can strengthen connections. • Host a gathering. Make time on the calendar to hang out with others. If you don’t make an effort to get together, you can’t expect others to want to do the same. Sometimes you have to take the lead to create social situations and gatherings. Resolutions to revitalize your social life can make for a great start to a new year.

The Social Side of Gardening By April Hensley

o often gardening is portrayed as a solitary pursuit. Most of the time that is a great thing. I’ve seen many signs and memes that say gardening is therapy. How truer can this be? We get gentle exercise, sunshine combined with Vitamin D, and our minds can just wander and relax. It sounds like the perfect medicine for anything that ails us. Gardening can have a social aspect too and doesn’t have to be a one-man show. We’ve mentioned before about starting a community garden. There are also gardening clubs and seed-swapping groups to be a part of or start your own. You may feel like you have enough people in your life and are not quite sure about giving up your cherished outdoor time in exchange for socializing. Here are a few pluses that may help you with your garden goals in the new year. • These people are your tribe. Have you ever visited places where you don’t feel like you fit in even though you really like the people? Having a group of people who share a common interest is very relaxing and builds confidence for other areas of your life. • You can have regular meetings or have an online group or both. No need to meet in person. Seeds can be sent to each other through the mail. • If you have a garden group with members in your local area, chances are you are probably

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fighting the same pests and diseases they are. Google is handy but what works in sunny and dry California may not necessarily work in the hot and humid eastern United States. Getting to help other gardeners. It’s amazing how much knowledge we store and collect. It feels really good when somebody comes back to you to tell you your advice helped them. The benefits of seed swapping are receiving rare and hard-to-find seeds, and getting seeds that have already been proven to be successful in your area and from far away states. You are saving money by trading with seeds you harvested from your own plants. Sure, that flower is beautiful on the front of the seed pack but if you’re getting the seeds from someone who has actually grown it, they will tell you if it’s invasive or smelly or just hard to grow. The seed company isn’t going to tell you the negatives about growing it.

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Tips to Maintain Your Fitness Commitment

t one point or another, millions of adults across the globe have resolved to be more physically active. The benefits of routine exercise are too numerous to cite, but some of the more notable ones include a lower risk for chronic disease and illness, improved self-esteem and greater overall health. Exercising more requires commitment, and there are some ways to make it a little easier to maintain that commitment over the long haul.

• Schedule exercise time. Busy professionals book work meetings, family obligations and other daily tasks in their schedules, and the T.H. Chan School of Public Health recommends doing the same with exercise. Allotting time to exercise each day may decrease the likelihood that you’ll skip a workout, and once results start to manifest you may be more motivated to stay the course.

• Break it up. The Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public • Identify what progress may look like. Adults Health notes that people don’t need to exercise all at once to reap the rewards of physical activity. If time is tight, break up a workout over the course of your day. Some strength-training exercises in the morning can be followed up with a brisk walk or run over a lunch break. This approach makes it easier to fit a full workout into your daily routine.

• Employ the buddy system. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention suggests that working out with a partner increases exercise motivation and encourages individuals to be more consistent with their exercise routine so they do not let their partners down.

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are urged to speak with their physicians and identify what progress with a workout routine might look like for someone their age. Progress may look different than it did years ago, but if the end result is a healthier you, then that should be all the motivation you need to keep going. It’s no secret that making a commitment to routine exercise can be difficult. But various strategies can increase the likelihood that individuals will stay the course as they seek to exercise more frequently.

Who Needs ’Em? By Pam Blair

ike it or not, the calendar rolls over to January 1st every year, which always begs the question: “What are your New Year’s resolutions?” That question always makes me want to say “Bah! Humbug!” For the record, I have never made a formal list of New Year’s resolutions. Throughout the year, I vow not to serve rubbery chicken, to not get upset about little things, and to floss regularly. I resent the implication that we must resolve to do something simply because the calendar says so. It puzzles me when people say they will start going to the gym/losing weight/spending less money on a certain date, instead of starting today. Where is the magic in waiting? We can thank history for New Year’s resolutions, which originated about 4,000 years ago when the Babylonians promised to pay their debts and return borrowed items. If they kept their promises, the gods would be favorable toward them in the coming year. But it was Julius Caesar who established January 1 as the new year, which he did in 46 B.C., and thus the first day of the new year became the traditional occasion for thinking about one’s past mistakes and resolving to do better in the future. Today, research shows that 45 percent of us make resolutions but only about 8 percent carry them out. Instead of waiting for a specific date (January 1st) to start making changes, we need to ask ourselves why we want to change, or what we want to start

doing, and then begin by setting achievable goals. For example, if you resolve to exercise more by walking three miles a day, start small and don’t set yourself up for failure. Walking just 15–30 minutes a day can make a difference, and you can gradually build your endurance until your goal is reached. This approach can be used for any of the most common resolutions, like losing weight, spending less time on social media, and eating a healthier diet. My New Year’s resolution is to not make any resolutions but to try and do better each day, in everything I do. If I fall off the wagon—and believe me, I do—I resolve to get back on and try harder. Maybe the best resolution I could make is to be good to myself by permitting myself to fail. I am so thankful I don’t have to wait another year for the chance to try again.

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Turn your Bedroom into a Relaxing Retreat

eople who use their bedrooms as a work space may find they’re compromising their well-being by introducing activities into the bedroom. The Sleep Foundation says having an office in the bedroom blurs the lines between work and personal life, which can have serious effects on sleep. Rather, people should be looking to turn their bedrooms into relaxing retreats that offer a respite from the outside world. • Remove blue-light emitting devices. Computers, tablets, smartphones, and other electronic devices emit blue light, which can compromise natural melatonin production in the body that contributes to sleep. Such devices should not be used at night in the bedroom. • Use a neutral color palette. Neutral color palettes evoke a spa feeling. Walls can be painted white, beige or a light shade of gray. This can help the room feel calming and welcoming. • Declutter the room. A sense of calm can be achieved simply by removing excess clutter. There is some evidence that the brain is more calm near an empty dresser, desk, or clothes hamper. Therefore, removing excessive items from the room is a first step to making a nice retreat. • Add soft lighting. Adjust the intensity and the color of the lighting in the bedroom. It should be subtle and warming. Dimmers enable homeowners to adjust lighting as needed.

• Install an electric fireplace. There is something to be said for the relaxing effects of gazing into the flames of a fire. A crackling (faux-wood) fire is an added layer of indulgence in a bedroom. • Add an area rug. Even in rooms with carpeting, an area rug under the bed can further define the perimeter of the bed and add extra plushness underfoot. • Invest in aromatherapy diffusers. Certain smells can create a relaxing mood. These may be sandalwood, lavender, or jasmine. Utilizing their preferred scents, homeowners can employ reed diffusers in their bedrooms to enjoy the aromas of natural oils. • Used closed storage. Open shelves and visible closet interiors may not hide a mess. Exposure to clutter can contribute to feelings of anxiety. Store items that shouldn’t be on display behind closed doors or drawers. • Bring in luxury linens. Homeowners should not skimp on comforters, sheets, duvet covers, and pillows for their beds. A cozy bed to dive right into can serve as the centerRobin Miller piece of a bedroom retreat. Real Estate Professional Turning a bedroom into a Serving the Tri-Cities since 2005 relaxing space can help indi628 E. Market Street • Kingsport, TN viduals sleep better and reduce Call RealtorRobinMiller@gmail.com Today! anxiety. www.premierhomestn.com Direct – 423.647.9476

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How to Begin the Day in a Positive Frame of Mind

ach new day brings the potential for change, even amid the routine of the daily grind. When people start the day with positive thoughts, it can affect how they behave and see themselves throughout the day, and may even benefit their overall health. The following tips can put people on a positive path at the start of each day.

Begin the night before Certain mental health experts suggest clearing the mind in the evening to reduce stressful thinking and create the mental capacity to wind down and relax. Rather, spend time meditating, praying, reading, or Keep a notepad handy and jot down any invasive just being in the moment until you are awake. thoughts or concerns. Removing these thoughts from the mind and putting them on paper can help you rest Recognize the good people are more readily. Being well-rested can improve mood. doing When you open your eyes and focus on the posKnow your weaknesses itives, you’ll see all the good that other people are Recognize where you may need some help as you doing around you. Offering compliments or acknowlstrive to be more optimistic. Map out the behaviors edging others’ actions, whether large or small, puts you want to change, and then be intentional about positivity out there. how you want your day to go and which actions will get you there. The Mayo Clinic suggests figuring out Focus on gratitude what you usually think negatively about (i.e., work, Take a few moments at the start of each day to mencommuting, life changes) and then approach each tally list all the things you are grateful for. This may aspect in a more positive way. be that you have a cozy home or that you are healthy. Even stressful situations or people can be means for Take a technology pause gratitude. Boisterous toddlers may be a handful, but Do not check email or text messages right after you can be grateful for the ability to have had children opening your eyes. Similarly, avoid reading the news when so many are not able. or watching news programs on television too early. Negative or scandalous stories often get the most clicks Starting the day with a positive mindset is easier than or views, and coming across upsetting information at one might think. It may take a little practice, but also can the outset of the day can adversely affect your mood. begin to pay positive dividends sooner than later.

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The Benefits to Hosting a Wedding Ceremony and Reception at the Same Venue

ccording to the wedding resource Here Comes the Guide, all-in-one venues are preferred by the majority of modern engaged couples. Couples contemplating such an approach can consider the following benefits to tying the knot and hosting the reception at the same venue. • Streamlined planning: Rather than having to coordinate with two places, all of couples’ attention can be directed to one location and working with one party coordinator. This can reduce the propensity for mix-ups.

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• Ease of transport: Figuring out how to move between multiple locations and schedule hired vehicles and the like can be a chore. With one venue, guests simply arrive and are done with travel until the festivities end. • Seamless transition: Sometimes there can be an awkward period between the ceremony and the reception. In such situations, a ceremony may end but the cocktail hour is still an hour or two away. A ceremony and reception in one locale can eliminate the gap, as such venues typically begin the cocktail hour a short time after the ceremony has ended. • Better guest attendance: Guests who may find it challenging to get to two different locations, particularly those who don’t drive or must rely on public transportation or a taxi, may find a single-location wedding more convenient. • Outdoor ceremony: Couples who want to exchange vows outdoors often can do so when they have one wedding location because the nuptials are taking place outside of a house of worship, which may not allow for an outdoor wedding due to the sanctity of the location. • Fewer travel worries: With a single location, it makes it much easier if inclement weather dampens the occasion because there is far less traveling involved. Couples can keep in mind that a single-location wedding may come with some challenges. Unless the location is on the grounds of a house of worship, the wedding may lack the religious or spiritual component that some couples aspire to. Also, weather can cause issues if couples had hoped to have the ceremony outdoors and must move it into the same space as the reception as a plan B, necessitating a turnover of the room. Couples also may be limited in their photo backdrops, as there will not be two separate places where photos are taken, particularly if the wedding space is limited. Hosting a ceremony and reception at a single location can benefit couples who want to simplify and streamline their wedding planning.

Tips to Plan a Perfect Honeymoon

locales may seem tailor-made for a honeymoon, but that’s only the case if such destinations are not plagued by civil unrest, conflict, natural disasters, or other events that can affect how safe it is to visit such places. The U.S. Department of State maintains a free, easily accessible list of travel advisories at travel. state.gov. The Government of Canada maintains a similar list at travel.gc.ca. Couples are urged to visit these sites before booking their honeymoon, particularly if they hope to travel internationally. • Consider amenities and all-inclusive packages. All-inclusive packages can be a great deal, particularly for couples who want their honeymoon to be all about relaxing at a single resort destination. All-inclusive packages cover the cost of food and most beverages, making these options both convenient and budget-friendly. When going this route, couples also should decide which amenities they want to access on their trip. Access to a gym and/or spa, activities like parasailing, and other perks are just some of the potential amenities couples can look for as they choose a honeymoon destination. • Collaborate. A honeymoon may be the first trip couples take after tying the knot, and it can lay the foundation for future collaborative efforts. Planning travel is not always so easy, so couples can work together and make any necessary concessions, so each person gets what they want out of the trip. Some simple strategies can help couples plan and enjoy a honeymoon they are likely to remember for a lifetime.

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Better Days Ahead “But February made me shiver With every paper I’d deliver Bad news on the doorstep I couldn’t take one more step”

n 1971, Don Mclean’s iconic “American Pie” hit the charts with these lines. As winter weather sets in, past the excitement of the holidays, the reality of icy breezes, frigid nights, and the occasional snow makes the shortest month of the year also the toughest for many of us. Between the 24-hour news cycle, the weather, and the lengthy darkness and gloom of these grey days, these

January 15, 2024, marks the fifty-seventh anniversary of the first Super Bowl. Though it would be two more years before the name “Super Bowl” was used to characterize the game, what’s now referred to as “Super Bowl I” was a competition between the Kansas City Chiefs of the American Football League (AFL) and the Green Bay Packers of the National Football League (NFL). Back then the game was referred to as the 14 | January 2024 | www.voicemagazineforwomen.com

lyrics are even more timely nowadays. I love the changing seasons here in these mountains. Each one brings their own charm. But winter for me would be much better if it were more like February—brutal, but short. The best part is the anticipation of the coming spring. I’m looking at my mailbox each day for the seed catalogs, planning cleanup projects around the house, knowing that this foreboding landscape will soon turn verdant green, ushering in later sunsets and eventually warmer days ahead. The miracle of the leaves falling to allow what little sunshine we get throughout winter to provide some comfort to the ground that then feeds the trees to provide the leaves that cool us from summer’s heat will never get old. So, for now, I’ll be in my recliner, heated blanket stretched across my legs, my Scottie on my lap and miss Reagan by my side, my angel watching her programs on TV while I nap between lines in a book I’ve started reading a million times, dreaming not of a white Christmas, but of the sunny days—and better news—to come.

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AFL-NFL World Championship Game, which most fans would agree does not have the same ring to it as “Super Bowl.” The game was competitive in the first half, and the score was 14–10 in favor of Green Bay at halftime. But the Packers blanked the Chiefs in the second half, and the final score was 35–10 in favor of Green Bay. In a testament to just how different things were in 1967, two networks, NBC and CBS, were allowed to broadcast the game, each using their own announcers. Also noteworthy is the game was not a sellout, marking the only time that has happened in Super Bowl history.

Dear Don, “For the male perspective” By Don Grimm

DEAR DON: It’s the holiday season, and while most people look forward to spending time with family, I’m over here dreading it. Every time my family gathers, I am hounded with questions about my personal life. They act like they think I’m defective or something because I haven’t gotten married and had children yet. I’m 34, living on my own, and just going with the flow right now. I do want to settle down and start a family, but I haven’t met the right guy to share all that with yet. And no matter how many times I explain that, my family just won’t back off. All I want to do is enjoy the time I have with them, without the constant pressure, scrutiny, and judgment. What’s a girl to do? — SINCERELY, GILDA HEY GILDA: Let me start by telling you plainly and bluntly, that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with what you’re doing. There are some people who never find an ideal partner at all, and for those who do, it’s not guaranteed that it’ll happen at an ideal stage in life. The most important thing you said in your letter is that you’re just going with the flow right now. To some people who adamantly adhere to the irrational expectations established by a harshly judgmental society, that may sound like some hippy-dippy BS, but to anyone who has a more open mind and a deeper under-

standing of how chaotic life can be, it’s plain to see you’re just doing what’s right for you right now. If that’s the way you’ve chosen to live your life, and it’s not having an effect on anyone else, they should have nothing to say about it unless it’s done solely because they genuinely care about what you want out of your own life. But even then, when that conversation is over, it shouldn’t be brought up again. Nobody should be badgering you about this. Here’s the part where I give some actual advice. Stand up for yourself. I know it’s easier said than done, but for the sake of your own sanity, you need to draw a line in the sand. The second the topic is brought up, stop it in its tracks. Tell them very clearly that you already know what they think, and as long as their sentiments are coming from a place of caring, you appreciate it. But, you also need to let them know that if they really care that much about you, they would also stop treating you like there’s something wrong with you or the way you’re living your life. You’re an adult, completely capable of making your own life choices. And even if you do happen to make some choices that end up not working out the way you want, you’re strong enough to deal with that too. If any of this upsets them, oh well. If they really care, they’ll see your point, understand it, and get over it. Remember, they aren’t living your life. They’re not walking in your shoes. They’re not dealing with the results of your life choices. Therefore, they have no say in the choices you make for yourself. They need to understand this. They also need to have enough faith in you and your judgment to know you’ve got your life under control and you’ll continue to make the choices best suited for what you want. I hope that helps. Good luck and God bless. – DON GRIMM

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Don Grimm is an author, poet, lyricist, screenwriter, and illustrator, as well as a former radio co-host, music producer, and video content creator. Some of Don Grimm’s current books can be found on Amazon. Send your questions to Don at office@jancarolpublishing.com.

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love with young French girl Lise Bouvier, but there is a catch: Lise is already engaged to a cabaret singer. This romantic film stars Gene Kelly and Leslie Caron in main roles and features classic Gershwin songs, as well as Vincente Minnelli’s colorful and sympathetic direction. If you enjoy music and dancing, you will love this critically acclaimed movie that won 6 Oscars, including one for Best Picture in 1952.

Classic! Short and sweet film reviews of old, classic movies perfect for a girls’ night in! By Allison Chudina Happy New Year! As we enter into 2024, I want to recommend a film that will help you ring in the new year with a sense of determination and awe: An American in Paris (1951), directed by Vincente Minnelli. This classic musical follows Jerry Mulligan, a struggling American painter in Paris, being “discovered” by an influential heiress with an interest in more than Jerry’s art. Meanwhile, Jerry falls in

Wine Pairing: In honor of New Year’s celebrations, pair this movie with a nice Blanc de Blanc champagne. This beautiful, dry wine is French, and it will make you feel like you’re in Paris along with the characters of Minnelli’s film.

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Is Soup the Ultimate Cold Medicine? likely that sharp or tough ingredients will scrape an inflamed throat. • Nutrient-dense: Most soups are loaded with vegetables, beans and other healthy ingredients. They provide many of the vitamins and minerals the body needs, and may even help replenish nutrients that have been depleted due to illness. • Sodium content: Sodium is an essential mineral the body needs. Proactive Health Labs says soup ccording to data collected by the Consumer regulates body fluids and transmits electrical Healthcare Products Association, the average impulses in the body. Sodium in moderation may consumer shops for over-the counter medicine 26 times be good when a person is feeling ill. In addition, a year, with peak visits occurring in the wintertime, when sodium and other seasonings in soup can awaken colds and flu infections are more prominent. To make taste buds that are dulled when sick with a cold. cold-related matters worse, a U.S. Food and Drug AdminSalt also helps alleviate sore throat pain and can istration panel concluded in September 2023 that the help clear nasal congestion. popular decongestant phenylephrine, which is found in • Garlic infusion: Soups that contain garlic or many over-the-counter cold remedies, is ineffective when garlic extract may reduce the severity of cold and taken orally. flu symptoms, according to a University of Florida Rather than accepting their cold symptoms this study published in the journal Clinical Nutrition. season, individuals may want to turn to something much Soup may be the best medicine when a person has a more natural that also has great promise: soup. It is no old cold. Its many properties may help make soup as effective, wive’s tale that soup can be helpful for colds and other or even more so, than some products at the pharmacy. illnesses. In fact, Egyptian Jewish physician Moshe ben Maimonides prescribed chicken soup as a treatment for Hearty Tuscan Soup respiratory tract illnesses as early as the 12th century. Penn Serves 8 Medicine advises that soup can be a go-to food to combat 2 15-ounce cans illness because it is light, easy-to-digest, nourishing, and reduced-sodium pinto beans 1 tablespoon olive oil even restorative. 8 ounces Italian turkey sausage Here’s a look at some of the ways soup can help when (about 2 links), casings removed people are feeling under the weather. 1 large onion

• Hydrating broth: Staying hydrated is one of the ways the body can more effectively fight off illness. Broth-based soups are hydrating and tasty. They may be tolerated more readily than sports drinks or water for a person who needs fluids. • Soothing: The warmth of soup can soothe an irritated throat. Furthermore, soups usually have softened ingredients in them, making it much less 16 | January 2024 | www.voicemagazineforwomen.com

1 medium sweet potato, peeled 4 garlic cloves 4 cups unsalted chicken stock or chicken broth 1 14.5-ounce can fire-roasted diced tomatoes, undrained 1 tablespoon rosemary herb seasoning mix 1⁄2 teaspoon black pepper 1 package fresh baby spinach leaves, washed and dried 16 melba toast rounds 3 tablespoons shredded Italian cheese blend

Drain and rinse pinto beans in a small colander. Transfer half of the beans to a food processor; process until almost smooth. Set aside both whole and mashed beans. 1. Heat oil in a Dutch oven over medium heat 3 to 5 minutes or until shimmering. Cook sausage 4 to 6 minutes or until no longer pink, breaking into crumbles. Wedge onion, then chop. Cut sweet potato into chunks, then coarsely chop. Add onion, sweet potato and garlic to Dutch oven; cook and stir 5 to 6 minutes or until onion is softened. 2. Stir all beans, chicken stock, tomatoes, seasoning mix, and pepper into Dutch oven. Cover; bring to a boil over high heat. Reduce heat to medium; simmer, covered, 10 minutes. Preheat broiler. Remove Dutch oven from heat; add spinach. Cover; let stand 2 to 3 minutes or until spinach is wilted. Top soup with melba rounds; sprinkle with cheese. 3. Place Dutch oven 2 to 4 inches from heating element. Broil 2 to 4 minutes or until croutons and cheese are lightly browned. Ladle soup and croutons into bowls. Source: “Season’s Best: Fast, Fun & Fabulous” by The Pampered Chef™ Test Kitchens

Seafood Chowder Serves 4

1 slice sandwich bread, torn into pieces 3 tablespoons olive oil 2 leeks (light green and white parts only), thinly sliced 1⁄2 cup dry white wine 1 8-ounce bottle clam juice 1 1⁄2 pounds skinless cod, halibut, or

sea bass fillet, cut into 2-inch pieces 12 littleneck clams and/or 1⁄2 pound cockles 1 cup half-and-half Kosher salt and black pepper 2 tablespoons chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley 1. Heat oven to 400 F. In a food processor, pulse the bread and 2 tablespoons of the oil to form coarse crumbs. Spread on a rimmed baking sheet and toast, tossing once, until golden, 6 to 8 minutes. 2. Meanwhile, heat the remaining tablespoon of oil in a large saucepan or Dutch oven over medium-high heat. Add the leeks and cook, stirring occasionally, until tender, 4 to 5 minutes. 3. Add the wine to the saucepan and cook until reduced by half, about 2 minutes more. Add the clam juice and 11⁄2 cups water and bring to a boil. 4. Add the cod and clams to the saucepan, reduce heat and simmer gently, covered, until the cod is opaque throughout and the clams have opened, 4 to 6 minutes. (Discard clams that remain closed). 5. Stir the half-and-half, 1⁄2 teaspoon salt and 1⁄4 teaspoon pepper into the chowder, and cook until heated through, 1 to 2 minutes. Serve sprinkled with the parsley and breadcrumbs. Source: “Real Simple Easy, Delicious Home Cooking” from the Real Simple Kitchens

2 yellow or white potatoes, peeled and diced (about 2 cups) 1 sprig fresh or 1⁄2 teaspoon dried thyme 2 cups chopped escarole (about 8 ounces) (Escarole is a leafy green vegetable) 1 cup diced country ham 1⁄4 teaspoon salt, or to taste 1⁄4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper, or to taste 1. Heat the butter in a soup pot over low heat. Add the onion, leek, celery, and garlic; stir until they are evenly coated. Cover the pot and cook until the vegetables are tender and translucent, 6 to 8 minutes. 2. Add the broth, potatoes and thyme. Simmer the soup until the potatoes are tender enough to mash easily, about 20 minutes. Remove the thyme and discard. Puree the soup. Return the soup to the pot and bring to a simmer. 3. Add the escarole and diced ham and simmer, 12 to 15 minutes, or until all the ingredients are tender. Season with salt and pepper. Serve the soup in heated bowls. Tip: Country hams have an altogether different taste and texture from that of boiled hams. They have been cured for lengthy periods and have a unique salty, smoky taste. Ask your deli manager or butcher to help you find country ham or a suitable substitute. Source: The Culinary Institute of America Book of Soups (Lebhar-Friedman Books)

Potato, Escarole, and Country Ham Soup Makes 8 servings

1 tablespoon unsalted butter 1 onion, diced (about 1 1⁄4 cups) 1 leek, white and light green parts minced (about 1 1⁄4 cups) 1 celery stalk, diced (about 1⁄2 cup) 1 garlic clove, minced (about 1⁄2 teaspoon) 1 quart chicken broth www.voicemagazineforwomen.com | January 2024 | 17

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Meet Victoria, a curious little girl who wonders why she gets to see her mom’s family but not her dad’s. In Boundaries., Justin Shepherd skillfully tackles the delicate topic of family dynamics and the importance of setting boundaries in a way that children can understand. Victoria’s dad has made a tough decision—no contact with certain family members. Why? Because sometimes, for the sake of our well-being and mental health, we need to keep a safe distance from people who aren’t good for us. Join Victoria on her journey of understanding as her parents help her navigate this complex world of family relationships. Through their guidance, she learns that in every family, mutual respect and healthy boundaries are the keys to nurturing a loving environment. With charming illustrations and a gentle tone, Boundaries. is a must-read for children and families alike. It encourages open conversations about family relationships, respect, and the importance of safeguarding our emotional well-being. Help your child navigate the complexities of family and boundaries with Boundaries. It's a story of love, understanding, and the power of setting healthy limits.

The Life and Writings of Joseph George Ray

Written by Marie Ray Fraley Follow the life and works of the son of Azorean immigrants, Joseph George Ray, during the Great Depression, World War II, the lacemaking industry, and his struggle with Parkinson’s Disease. Be inspired by his humor, resilience, and grit as one of the many stalwarts of The Greatest Generation viewed through his memoirs, poetry, sketches, and the eyes of his loving daughter. Online readers: click here to order. SUGGESTED AGE: 4–8 COPYRIGHT 2023 JAN-CAROL PUBLISHING, INC. JANCAROLPUBLISHING.COM

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his book is a collection of 32 true-to-life anecdotal short stories about intriguing people author Charles H. Norman has known, special places he's traveled, and providential experiences that has come his way. Charlie writes as he talks, so as to connect with the reader quickly and easily. The goal of Remembrances II is to give the reader a respite from the hectic world in which we live … all the while entertaining, inspiring, and challenging readers to count each day as a gift from the One who made us.

Charlie Norman has been writing stories since his days as editor of his high school newspaper in the late 1960s. That interest lay dormant for years until he was invited to be a regular guest columnist for The Glen Rose Reporter, his local paper. His articles were so well received, readers suggested he compile them (and other stories he’d written) into book form. This book, Remembrances II, is the follow-up to that request. Charlie and wife Carolyn have two adult children and six grandchildren and make their home in the country outside of Glen Rose, Texas.

Written by Charles H. Norman III This book is a collection of 32 true-to-life anecdotal short stories about intriguing people author Charles H. Norman has known, special places he’s traveled, and providential experiences that has come his way. Charlie writes as he talks, so as to connect with the reader quickly and easily. The goal of Remembrances II is to give the reader a respite from the hectic world in which we live … all the while entertaining, inspiring, and challenging readers to count each day as a gift from the One who made us.

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Written by Donna Snow King The roads Donna has traveled throughout her life – some boring and some not so boring – have formed T had a side trail that the person she is today. Each road led her to many adventures, resulting in life-changing experiences. Growing up a house mover’s daughter had its challenges. The hardest one to overcome was being a female in a male-dominated industry. Donna’s Daddy always said she could do anything she put her mind to, and she believed him. She wears her badge of being a third-generation house mover with great pride. Online readers: click here to order.

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Sad Eyes

1912 to 1939

Written by Dan Perkins Sad Eyes: 1912 to 1939 is the story of a woman, Mary Ellen Murphy, from Waterloo, Iowa, and her contribution to the United States and beyond as an Army nurse in World War II, helping save tens of thousands of soldiers’ lives. Her assistance to military leadership throughout her journey proves crucial in the outcome of the war. Mary Ellen combines great physical presence, incredible talent, and intelligence and remains committed to her values. She is constantly being challenged with more opportunities to serve her country and prove to others what women can do when given the chance. Join this red-haired and greeneyed Irish lass who is as smart as she is beautiful on her adventure during World War II and its aftermath. Online readers: click here to order. The Mitchellgoshes are back.

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Written by Retta West Illustrated by Grayson Campbell The Mitchellgoshes are back. They are getting ready for their biggest adventure yet, and yes, our sweet friend the pink pig is back with new friends of her own. Can’t wait. See ya soon.

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Author of The Lindsay Harris Murder Mystery Series, The Best Darn Secret; and anthologies Easter Lilies; Broken Petals; Wild Daisies; Scattered Flowers; Daffodil Dreams; and These Haunted Hills Friday, January 5, 10 a.m. – 3 p.m. Book Signing at Food City, Coeburn, VA Saturday, January 6, 10 a.m. – 3 p.m. Book Signing at Food City, St. Paul, VA

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This self-help guide to reducing stress covers 12 major areas of life. Easy-to-implement strategies help the reader take charge of time, money, relationships, self-care, and more. This commonsense guide to lifestyle changes is enhanced by scenarios of how others cooled their stress with simple, positive steps.

This is a daily devotional to encourage those who are going through tough times. Their story is not over, God is still writing their story. This will encourage readers not to lose focus, not lose hope when circumstances seem impossible, and know that He still controls the pen to your story.

Journey to Your Self — How to Heal from Trauma begins with the author’s own experience of child molestation, sexual assault, bullying and rape, the moment she hit rock bottom and from there on out successfully healed her trauma and transformed her life. She points out key factors in trauma and trigger release, the importance of self-reflection and the self-healing abilities of your body.

Women Ready to Rise is empowering, thoughtful, and inspiring as twenty-two women share their secrets, stories, and survival voices. All women share their experiences, with each being so different but at the same time, there is a common thread that ties them all together. Their voices will resonate with all women.

Rick Toomey, Ed.D. Emotional intelligence influences our ability to build strong relationships and achieve our goals. We can enhance emotional intelligence by learning to better understand ourselves and others. This book demonstrates how powerful the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is in helping us better understand how personality influences our behavior and the results we produce.

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For Children

Pete’s world is sad and lonely. Not only does he not like anything about himself, but he doesn’t fit in with the other kids. It isn’t until Pete’s misfit guardian angel, T. J., teaches him the art of loving himself that Pete becomes happy and fulfilled. The book is beautifully illustrated with vibrant colors and wonderful facial expressions. Easy to read and the message is heartwarming. With a love-based message, adults will enjoy reading the book too!

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Heart of Hearing is an animated and entertaining story for children to encourage them to wear their aids. It provides and highlights aspects of the world around us that would be missed if they chose not to wear them. A portion of the proceeds will go directly to the non-profit, The Heart of Hearing, Inc. created by the author, Meaghan Thomas.

Pierre the Peacock is delightfully illustrated with a valuable message. It is about acceptance, friendship and a valuable lesson in how we should treat people. Come with us as we meet Pierre, a peacock who thinks that he will get friends just from his pretty looks. When he meets Jerry, a colorblind little boy, he teaches Pierre that what matters is how you treat people, not what you look like. A lesson for all of us!

This daily healthy living and exercise activity book engages your child by bringing each day as a new adventure with a new exercise. Beautiful illustrations help the child stay engaged and motivated. It is action driven with beautiful illustrations and the reader looks forward to seeing himself or herself become a warrior of healthy living. This book presents healthy living habits and daily exercises encourages the readers in staying active.

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GET TO KNOW AUTHOR OF

DAN PERKINS

SAD EYES

DAN PERKINS is an author of both children’s and adult books. He is a nationally syndicated radio and TV talk show host, current events commentator, and philanthropist. Dan and his wife Gerri live in Florida and are the proud parents of four wonderful sons and the grandparents of four delightful grandchildren. Visit him at www.danperkins.guru.

Sad Eyes: 1912 to 1939 (Book One) is the story of a woman, Mary Ellen Murphy, from Waterloo, Iowa, and her contribution to the United States and beyond as an Army nurse in World War II, helping save tens of thousands of soldiers’ lives. Her assistance to military leadership throughout her journey proves crucial in the outcome of the war. She is constantly being challenged with more opportunities to serve her country and prove to others what women can do when given the chance. Book Two of Sad Eyes will be released in spring 2024.

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How old were you when you got into writing as a hobby? What inspired your love for writing to start and flourish? I am, among other things, an Investment Advisor and have been writing a quarterly newsletter for almost 50 years. During all that time, I never had a course on creative writing. In February 2011, I took a beginner’s course on writing mysteries and thrillers at The Big Arts Center on Sanibel Island, FL. I wanted to tell stories and sell books. As a money manager, I always researched an investment before recommending it to a client. My research skills helped me write more realistic stories when I started writing. Has it always been your goal to publish your work? How does it feel to see your books available for all the world’s readers? I have always wanted to publish, especially after hearing readers tell me they like my stories as they develop. I’m excited to work with Jan-Carol Publishing. They can take me to places I have never been exposed to. What are your favorite genres to read? What about your preferred genres to write? That is an easy one; I have the same answer for both — mysteries and thrillers! What is one thing a reader has shared about your work that will stay with you forever? A reader sent me an e-mail that said, “I love your work because you paint detailed pictures with words.” I’m very focused on painting the right pictures. Do you have a favorite work of yours — published or unpublished? Why is it your favorite? I am passionate about American history, specifically the Civil War. I have a book called Abraham Lincoln and the Second Assassin that has yet to be published, mainly because it is more than 238,000 words. It took me over four years to write and six months to edit. It would have to be published in three books. It is my favorite because it is a different approach to the Lincoln assassination. I knew from the day of my first book that I had to write this book. I wrote seven other books before I could tackle Lincoln.

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What do you want readers to know about you as an author and your writing? My readers and I must grow with every new book I write. I must bring something different to each story. I do not want to be typecast of only writing about one thing. 7. What surprised you about writing or publishing once you got into the process? You have to kiss many frogs before you find a great publisher. A great many publishers are glorified printers. Some are crooks who take your money and are never heard from again. 8. If you could change one thing about the publishing world or the stereotypes and expectations around being an author, what would it be? It has been my experience that, unfortunately, some publishers take your money, over-promise, and under-deliver. I always recommend authors shop around, ask for referrals, and follow up on those referrals. 9. What are you most excited about right now in your writing career? I have two books finished; one just came out, and the other I hope will be out in the spring of 2024. I want to bring out one book per year. Two of my books are being pitched as movies and episodic TV shows. 10. What is one thing you hope readers remember or take away from your most recent published work? I hope my writing style and storytelling ability makes you want to read more. When readers finish one book, I hope they are excited for the next. When I wrote the Brotherhood series, it was intended to be three books. About six months after book three came out, I started getting emails asking when the next book was releasing. I responded to the requests and told people it was a three-book trilogy. I would send the response off to the reader, and a few days later, I would get an email back asking when the next book was coming out. I was forced to write a fourth installment. People read, get attached to the characters, and want to see what happens in their lives. I’m now working on book five in the series.

The Smile Starter

Your Smile Costs Nothing, But Gives Much By Jim Burns “Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.” — 1 John 4:7–8 (KJV) Interpretation: He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God because God is love. — 1 John 4:7–8

ne of the greatest ways to love someone is to give them your smile. I have long forgotten where I found this profound thought, but I share it with you and challenge you to share your smile with someone else today. A smile costs nothing, but gives much. It enriches those who receive, without making poorer those who give. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None is so rich or mighty that he can get along without it, and none is so poor but that he can be made rich by it. Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away. Some people are too tired to give you a smile. Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give. Source: www.homeword.com

Smiling is infectious, You catch it like the flu. When someone smiled at me today, I started smiling too. I passed around the corner, and someone saw my grin. When he smiled, I realized, I’d passed it on to him. I thought about that smile, then I realized its worth. A single smile just like mine, could travel the earth. So, if you feel a smile begin, don’t leave it undetected. Let’s start an epidemic quick, and get the world infected! — Author Unknown

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A Season Not to Forget By Cindy K. Sproles

he holidays can be difficult when aging parents are involved, especially when our seniors have lost a beloved spouse. Christmas can turn sad quickly. There are some important things to remember with your loved ones during the Christmas season, and they begin with the simple task of love. Unfortunately, there are a lot of families who harbor bitterness and frustration. Even Christmas cheer can’t seem to penetrate that closed door. Perhaps there is frustration or, for lack of better words, bad blood between a family member and your aging parent that just can’t be gotten past. It’s difficult, but an old adage still rings true to this day. Regret is an ugly bedfellow. Though some family conflicts are difficult to bypass, remember this adage and ask, is this years-long conflict worth the effort? An honest answer is no. Though the family dynamic can be tricky, take the time to consider laying it to the side for one season. Regardless of the hardship, most families can remember the times before anger. Moments, days of happiness and joy, and those are the things to ponder. Consider forgiveness. It’s been said that forgiveness is not for the recipient but for the person offering it. Sometimes pride stands in the way, but when it boils down to it, the lives of our aging parents will come to an end. It is far better to say, I am glad I did, rather than I wish I would have. Consider offering forgiveness — if nothing more than for your own peace of mind. Loss is one of the most difficult things for our aging parents to overcome. The holidays dredge up memories of the past, and depression and loneliness can creep in quickly. Rather than trying to “snap” your aging parent out of this time, join them. Sit down, flip through family photos, and remember the moments that made your family laugh. Sharing in the loss helps seniors know

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that their family members share in the pain. They aren’t alone. It brings peace and happiness back into the mix. For example, my father suffered from cancer during the Christmas holiday, which was also his and my mother’s fiftieth wedding anniversary. After Dad passed, we honored the joy of his humor by remembering him with a new family tradition. What started years before as a joke became a new fun and joyous family time — sock giving. Now, each Christmas, rather than a big gift exchange, our family eagerly awaits their “papaw socks” from my mother. There’s no surprise about what’s in the tiny bags. We all know it’s socks, but we open each bag with anticipation, cheer, and clap that we’re still a part of the family. Find something wonderful and make it a joyous Christmas tradition. Finally, help send Christmas cards. As the times change, our younger family members don’t necessarily relate to the Christmas tradition of card giving, but our aging parents do. Take time to help your loved one address those few cards that mean so much to them. You’re giving of your time and love to help continue this tradition. This Christmas season, remember it’s not about the loss or the past. It’s about what is new. It’s about the simple gift of love. Start the holidays with joy and peace. Share those moments with your loved ones. Make Christmas a time not to forget.

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Self-Care Strategies to Protect Long-Term Mental Health

he National Institute of Mental Health notes that self-care can play a vital role in maintaining mental health. With that in mind, individuals can consider these strategies as they look to safeguard their mental health over the long haul. • Exercise regularly. Exercise benefits the body in myriad ways, and those benefits extend to mental health. The NIMH reports that a 30-minute daily walk can boost mood. In addition, the United Kingdom-based Mental Health Foundation reports that regular physical activity positively affects self-esteem and can even lead to a reduction in stress and anxiety. That’s important to note, as the online medical resource Healthline reports that chronic anxiety can adversely affect the body’s nervous, cardiovascular, digestive, immune, and respiratory systems. • Maintain social connections. The NIMH also touts the benefits of maintaining social connections, including relying on friends and family for emotional support and practical help. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention notes that people who are socially connected and maintain stable and supportive relationships are more likely to have better mental health outcomes than those who don’t. • Eat a nutritious, balanced diet. The American Society for Nutrition notes that diet can be an important ally for people looking to improve and preserve their mental health. Numerous studies have examined the relationship between diet and mental health, and the ASN notes a growing body of research suggests a strong connection between a healthy diet and mental health. A 2019 review published in The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition found that increased consumption of fruits and vegetables positively affects psychological health. That same review also indicated daily vegetable consumption provides a therapeutic effect that can help to reduce symptoms among people with clinical depression.

• Resolve to read more. Much like exercise, reading has been linked to a host of positive health outcomes, including mental health benefits. A 2009 study from researchers at the University of Sussex found that reading can reduce stress by as much as 68 percent. Escapism is another potentially potent benefit of reading, as a recent report in Psychology Today noted that researchers believe narrative absorption, which refers to the experience of being immersed or engaged while reading a story, provides an escape or opportunity for mental reflection. Self-care can go a long way toward promoting long-term mental health. Various strategies and activities fall under the umbrella of self-care, and each can have a profound and lasting effect on mental health.

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Taking the Mystery Out of Anxiety Disorders

What is anxiety?

The American Psychiatric Association says anxiety is What are the types of anxiety a normal response to stress. Anxiety disorders differ from disorders? normal nervousness because they involve excessive fear. • Several types of anxiety disorders exist, but some are more common than others. The APA also says anxiety disorders are the most common mental disorders and affect nearly 30 percent of adults • Generalized anxiety disorder: GAD is persistent and excessive anxiety about activities or events, even at some point in their lives. It is time to seek help when routine tasks. anxiety interferes with your ability to function; you often overreact when something triggers your emotions; and you • Panic disorder: This involves sudden feelings of intense fear or terror about certain situations. These can’t control your responses to situations. panic attacks may lead to concerns about recurrence. What contributes to anxiety disorders? • Social anxiety disorder: High levels of anxiety, fear and avoidance occur during social situations, particA combination of environmental factors and personularly fear of being judged or viewed negatively by ality traits can increase the risk for developing anxiety disothers. orders, according to the Cleveland Clinic. These include: • Stressful or traumatic events in early childhood or • Phobias: Major anxiety is tied to a specific object or situation and a desire to avoid it. There are phobias adulthood. concerning heights, insects, leaving the home, and • Certain personality traits like shyness or behavmore. ioral inhibition. Anxiety disorders also can develop in people dealing • Family history of anxiety or another mental health with substance abuse issues or certain medical conditions. condition. • Physical conditions, including thyroid problems Treating anxiety disorders and heart arrhythmias. The APA says that while each anxiety disorder has • Being a woman, as researchers are still studying why women experience anxiety disorders in higher unique characteristics, most respond well to psychotherproportions than men. Some researchers suggest apy (talk therapy) and medications. They can be given hormonal fluctuations in women are a possible alone or in combination. Cognitive behavioral therapy, which is a type of psychotherapy, can help a person react explanation for the higher rates of anxiety. and think differently in certain situations so they feel less anxious. Medications often are prescribed to provide relief from symptoms. The most common medications used are anti-anxiety medications, antidepressants and beta-blockers. Anxiety disorders affect millions of people. There is help to be had and many people can overcome anxiety over time. 26 | January 2024 | www.voicemagazineforwomen.com

By Deana Landers www.morningcoffeebeans.com Sympathy looks in and says, “I’m sorry.” Compassion goes in and says, “I’m with you.” Sympathy looks in and says, “I would like to help.” Compassion goes in and says, “I amhere to help.” Sympathy says, “I wish I could carry your burden.” Compassion says, “Cast your burden on me.” Sympathy often irritates many words. Compassion helps and hears in quietness and understanding. — Author Unknown

here is a difference between sympathy and compassion that demonstrates the critical effect of compassion on another person’s life. A young man named Mark was walking home from school one day when he noticed that a boy ahead of him had tripped and dropped all the books he was carrying, along with two sweaters, a baseball bat, a glove, and a small tape recorder. Mark knelt and helped the boy pick up the scattered articles. Since they were going the same way, he helped the boy carry part of the burden. As they walked, he discovered the boy’s name was Bill and he loved video games, baseball, and history. Bill shared that he was having lots of trouble with his other subjects. They arrived at Bill’s home first, and Mark was invited in for a Coke and

to watch some television. The afternoon passed pleasantly with a few laughs and shared small talk; then Mark went home. They continued to see each other around school, had lunch together once in a while, and then both graduated from junior high school. They ended up in the same high school where they had brief contacts over the years. Finally, the longawaited senior year came, and three weeks before graduation, Bill asked Mark if they could talk. Bill reminded Mark of the day years ago when they had first met. “Did you ever wonder why I was carrying so many things home that day?” asked Bill. “You see, I cleaned out my locker because I didn’t want to leave a mess for anyone else. I had stored some of my mother’s sleeping pills and was going home to commit suicide.” Bill told Mark that he realized that he didn’t want to die after spending time together talking and laughing. “I would have missed that time with you and many other good times in my life that followed. Mark, I am trying to say that you did a lot more when you picked up those books that day. You saved my life.” Compassion is a character trait that is present in everyone. However, it is also a trait that sometimes gets forgotten. It is both innate and can be learned and enhanced. It is something you can develop with practice. It involves two things: intention and action. The intention is simply opening your heart to others; action is what you do about it. We never know how our reaction or response affects those we encounter. Mark’s act of compassion saved a life, and we might do that without ever knowing it, but there are ways we can show kindness to our family or the people we meet every day.

Here are some real-world ways we can show compassion every day. •

Regardless of how we feel about the effectiveness of wearing a mask during this pandemic, we must do it wherever we are asked to. Whether it eases another person’s fears or keeps the virus from spreading, it shows compassion.

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Open the door for someone. I find this to be such a kind gesture. • Motivate others. Words give life to ideas. So, use your words to inspire others to participate in the promised future and the change they need. • Practice acts of kindness. Not long after breast cancer surgery, I was at Walmart trying to lift a hefty package to put in my buggy. Suddenly a person said, “Let me help you with that.” After I checked out, I took the cart to my car and opened the trunk. Another person said, “Ma’am, let me lift that for you.” I can’t tell you how much that meant to me. • Allocate time to bond with friends and family. Do more than text. Make a phone call or a visit. • Words are so important. They can break you down or lift you. Always share encouraging words. We never know when someone’s life depends on it. • Share a hug or a handshake. • Incorporate the phrase “thank you” into your daily routine. • Offer to help someone with their to-do list or any other thing you see that they may need. Mark decided to open his heart to another person in need. He could have walked on past without giving a second thought. But he didn’t. He decided to help, and in doing so, he saved a person’s life. It was a small gesture, and only took a few moments for all that to happen, but that is how compassion works. Mother Teresa reminds us, “We cannot always do great things on this earth. We can only do small things with great love.” Imagine what would have happened if Mark had only shaken his head in sympathy and walked on. We never know what a difference we can make in someone’s life when we show compassion.

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Deana Landers, a retired nurse and health educator, is Christian speaker who strives to educate and encourage. She may be contacted at dlanders1511@gmail.com or 276-780-7355.

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HOW TO GET KIDS MORE ENGAGED IN THEIR DENTAL HEALTH P

arents know that getting children — especially young ones — to care for their teeth in the correct manner may require some help and then reinforcement throughout the developmental years. However, there are ways to make dental care a more engaging activity for youngsters.

Flavored toothpastes and mouthwashes

Mint reigns supreme in oral health products as the dominant flavor, but not all children are enamored with that flavor. Most oral care products geared toward the younger set come in different flavors like bubble gum and berry. Kids can take active roles in their oral health by choosing the flavored products they Use plaque-disclosing tablets Show children just where they prefer to use. may need to direct more brushing effort with plaque-disclosing Electronic toothbrushes Children may enjoy using electablets. These tablets use foodgrade coloring in them, which tronic toothbrushes because they are sticks to areas with plaque accumu- easy to maneuver and can even seem lation. After chewing the tablets like a toy. According to the Cleveand the child smiles, he or she will land Clinic, electric toothbrushes see the spots where efforts need to generally are considered more effecbe ramped up. This can be a fun tive at removing plaque and keeping lesson as children will likely enjoy teeth clean. That benefits kids and seeing their teeth covered in the adults because it potentially means fewer painful visits with the dentist. tablet color.

Make it a competition Children love games and healthy competition between peers and siblings. Offer a prize (non-sugary, of course) to children who brush and floss daily for the required times. Extra points can be awarded for every dental wellness check that comes back with a glowing report.

Make smart food choices Engage children in lessons and choices about which foods are good for oral health and which may be poor. Sticky foods or those with a lot of sugary content should only be occasional treats. The entire family can work together to plan meals around foods that are good for the teeth and gums, such as crunchy veggies, leafy greens, high-calcium dairy products, and fatty fish.

Practice on pets Pets need clean teeth, too. Children may enjoy not only brushing their own teeth, but learning how to keep their companion animals’ mouths healthy with brushing and care. Various strategies can increase the chances that kids engage with oral hygiene practices early on. 28 | January 2024 | www.voicemagazineforwomen.com

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