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Well, hello again! October isn’t all about orange and black – it’s about orange and blue, too! Football season is in full swing, so let’s cheer our Gators to victory. Gather the kids and head to The Swamp for a day of family fun; the skies are clear and the weather’s just right. Looking for a great way to spend time with the kids away from the roaring crowds? Head over to Hodge Farms’ Cornfield Maze for an adventure kids will love or take a tour of historic Gainesville – there’s lots to learn! No matter where this October takes you, we wish you a happy one!
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What’s Inside… 6 Family Fun at the Tioga Town Fair 7 Labor Daze Fest 8 The Family Balancing Act 10 Making Strides Against Breast Cancer 12 Art for All Seasons 14 The Art of Joy 16 Laugh by Day, Scream by Night! 18 Making Momma Proud 20 W hat’s Happening in Local Sports 22 Gator All-Sports Notebook 4
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24 W hat’s Happening in Gator Sports 26 High Time in High Springs 28 Email Etiquette 29 Make a Great Impression that Lasts! 30 W hat’s Happening in Local Business 32 Local History: Glen Springs Pool 34 Elaine Williams 36 Toasted Pumpkin Seeds 37 The Floating Ghost
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“Everything you can imagine is real.” Pablo Picasso
Family Fun Photos by Mike Capshaw
Heavy thunderstorms stayed away just long enough for the 6th Annual Tioga Town Fair to go off without a hitch on August 24th. Songs like “Brown-Eyed Girl” and “Sweet Caroline” filled the air as families enjoyed face painting, a rock climbing wall, bounce houses, a water park, a playground, an animal petting zoo, a dunking booth and countless other games and activities. Proceeds from the four-hour, carnival-like event benefitted the Sebastian Ferrero Foundation.
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“There’s nowhere you can be that isn’t where you’re meant to be…” John Lennon
Labor Daze Fest This year, the Bo Diddly Plaza was host to the 3rd annual Labor Daze Fest. Hundreds gathered to enjoy live local music, food and merchandise, face painting, activities for kids, a rockwall, chair massages and more.
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By Robert Nickell
balancing
Undivided Attention
First and foremost, remember that your kids crave attention. Fifteen minutes of undivided attention, with cellphones put away and other distracting conversations gone, is better than two hours of “watching” your child. Once a child knows they have your attention, it equates to trust, love and respect, and it allows the family unit to balance.
The Latin word for balance is trutina, and I believe that this is the crucial fulcrum on which the family unit needs to exist. It is very easy to get out of balance and very hard to correct it. Here are a few tips on how to bring a little trutina back into your life!
Work as a Family Unit
Remember to be a parent, not an activity director. Work together as a family unit, starting with mom and dad being on-board and in unison with the priorities of the family unit. For example, family dinners, coming home from school routines, play time versus homework time and choice of activities that are acceptable and desired by the child.
Be Flexible Balance is also about being flexible. In a modern family, things can change quickly, so everyone must be adaptable. Children will learn from their parents, so parents must be flexible and able to manage any situations that arise. Who knows when you’ll get a flat tire, when your cellphone will die, when you’ll leave the wrong day for soccer practice, and so on. All of these issues could unbalance a family, but if the family is flexible and works together as a team, then the family can stay balanced.
Manage Your Expectations In order to teach this to kids, it has to start with the parents. Everyone in the family has their own expectation of the outcome of each day, but many times these expectations are conflicting. Everyone needs to learn to communicate their expectations to each other, think about others’ point of views and try to find some common pathways. 8
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Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help Utilize carpools, drop the kids at Grandma’s house or take up a friend’s offer to bring you dinner. Admit that sometimes you just can’t do it all and allow people to help you. It is a great thing to teach your children, and will help you keep your sanity at the same time.
Make Time for Each Child Individually Whether it’s a Sunday morning donut, an evening walk or a bedtime snuggle, every kid needs one-on-one time with mommy and daddy. They will feel better connected and more important if you take the time to show them they are.
Prioritize This is personal to each family, so figure out what your priorities are and then stick with them. Does school trump church? Is the basketball game more important than swim practice? If you prioritize, figuring out conflicting schedules is much easier.
Encourage Kids to Support Each Other Even if your kids are old enough to stay home alone, encourage them to come to their sibling’s soccer games and band concerts. We all know little siblings emulate and admire their older ones, so create a relationship that is positive and supportive. A close sibling relationship will last throughout their lifetime.
Display a Family Calendar Make it colorful and fancy or black and white printed on a computer; it really doesn’t matter. But displaying the week’s activities for all to see will help the entire family. Kids will know what their week looks like as well as what activities their siblings have. They may even begin to understand why mom and dad are a bit overwhelmed. Bottom line, keeping the family in perfect trutina is difficult and must be worked on each and every day. Nothing can be taken for granted, and everyone needs to listen and communicate as the balance changes throughout the day. It starts with mom and dad, and the kids will learn from there. Robert Nickell, aka Daddy Nickell, father of 7, offers his “5 cents” worth of advice to expectant and new parents. Daddy Nickell is the founder of Daddyscrubs.com, delivery room duds and daddy gifts and apparel, and the DaddyScrubs blog where he covers topics about parenting all from a Dad’s perspective.
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Making
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The American Cancer Society is known for their tireless work, and this October is no exception. In honor of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, the American Cancer Society and the Gainesville community combine their efforts to host Making Strides Against Breast Cancer, a 5k walk in downtown Gainesville dedicated to raising both awareness and money.
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“It’s always a wonderful morning,” says Lacey Jones, the American Cancer Society Florida Division Community Representative. “Gainesville will turn extremely pink the day of the event, October 26th. We have a course marked off through the downtown area where the teams come to participate. The Making Strides walk is a really powerful opportunity for people to unite around breast cancer to increase awareness, honor our survivors and help spread information on how people can reduce their chances of getting this disease.”
It’s personal connections like these that remind us how meaningful this event really is. The combined effort of these women and the other volunteers is an inspiration for many to join the cause. “Our goal is that every single year this event will get bigger and bigger, not just in the fundraising dollars but also in participation.” says Jones. “We have a goal of 165 teams signed up, and right now we’re at 59 teams. We have a little bit of legwork to do, but our
“Every team has their own individual fundraising goals,” says Jones. “Some teams raise a ton of money, while others can only raise 500 or 700 dollars. Really, though, every single dollar contributes to the same cause so we can finish this fight against breast cancer.”
“The American Cancer Society has a goal of enrolling 300,000 participants in this study,” says Jones. “It’s a large number, but I’m very confident we’ll reach that goal. We want so many people to sign up and participate; it’s not time consuming and the results would be historic.”
Of course, none of this would be possible without some amazing volunteers. Event Co-Chairs Irene Alexaitis and Tina Johnson are two key lead volunteers whose passion and dedication make this 5k possible.
“I’ve been involved with the Making Strides walk for the past six years,” says Johnson. “Last year I had my mammogram and it came back abnormal. It made it even more personal, just waiting to find out if my life circumstances were going to change.”
Making Strides Against Breast Cancer October 26, Downtown Gainesville makingstridesagainstbreastcancer.org
“I love working with all of the people who are involved,” says Alexaitis. “There’s so much dedication; everyone who I’ve met this year has been phenomenal.” In the words of Jones, cancer doesn’t discriminate. So many people are touched by cancer, but the American Cancer Society is working to change that. This year marks the start of the Cancer Prevention Study Number 3 (CPS3), a national study aimed at determining another link to cancer. It’s a momentous, once in a lifetime opportunity to help in the fight.
For the nearly 400 registered participants, October 26th marks the end of a long and hard fundraising effort for breast cancer research and the American Cancer Society.
“I’m very excited to be involved in Making Strides Against Breast Cancer,” says Alexaitis. “My sister was diagnosed with breast cancer a few years ago, so it’s very timely for me. Breast cancer is something that you always hear about, but it really hits home when you’re close to someone who has been diagnosed; you feel it firsthand because you live through it with them.”
“I’m looking forward to seeing all of the teams come out,” says Jones. “I can’t wait to see every participant in their crazy pink attire and to feel their excitement and enthusiasm because that’s what makes all the hard work worth it.”
If you are between the ages 30 and 65 and have never had cancer, Jones urges you to sign up for a brief, one-time visit on either the morning of October 22nd or the evening of October 24th.
mission is to always be improving; ultimately, that’s what’s going to make the most difference and allow us to truly impact the fight against this disease.” As the big day draws closer, the excitement builds. Soon, all of the late nights, early mornings, sweat and tears will pay off.
Get Involved!
“If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.” Woody Allen
“The very first study is what linked tobacco to cancer,” says Jones. “The second study is what linked obesity to cancer. The study has been very successful in the past, and it’s exciting because this is a once in a generation opportunity.” We thank the American Cancer Society, the volunteers, Gainesville locals and all others for their hard work; let’s unite as a community to see a world where there is no cancer, finally finishing the fight against this disease.
Cancer Prevention Study Number 3 Enrollment: October 16 to 24 cancer.org/cps3florida
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Patricia Veatch “Ry Boogie Blues,” Oil on canvas
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“Fate loves the fearless.” James Russell Lowell
Art Seasons By Sarah G. Mason
for All
This year the Gainesville Fine Arts Association celebrated its 90th anniversary. In honor of nearly a century of work, the GFAA hosted its first annual Art for All Seasons exhibition at the Doris Bardon Community Cultural Center. The show featured over 170 paintings and united artists across the state. “The GFAA provides artists an opportunity to network with other artists and to showcase their work in different venues,” says GFAA President Chuck Sapp. “We’ve been around for 90 years, and throughout that period we’ve provided benefits to the arts community. We’ve given people an opportunity to get together and share their work.
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Diane Sterling “In Harmony” Wood Sculpture
If you missed the Arts for All Seasons exhibitions, don’t fret. The GFAA hosts their ArtWalk exhibition on the last Friday of every month, a collection of exhibits that is always free to the public.
“The Arts for All Seasons exhibition was a judged but not juried show. We had over 170 pieces that were entered into the show; that’s a huge amount of work. Actually, it’s the second most number of paintings that have been brought in the door at one time.” Sapp and the rest of the GFAA members were not only impressed by the number of submissions, but also by their quality. Overall, the exhibition featured many truly memorable pieces. “Artists have entered some really phenomenal pieces,” says Sapp. “This was the inaugural show. Next year, we’ll have a similar show, which we expect will grow in popularity and in quality. It makes me excited because we already have a really superb group of artists. It will only get better from here.”
many aspects of art that benefit our lives. It can be exciting, calming. We’ve found that it stimulates education, and that having art in classrooms is very beneficial. It just brings communities together.”
Overall, the event was a huge success. The money earned from entry fees and artwork purchases went straight to fund the GFAA, but the event was about more than the money, says Sapp. “It’s more than an opportunity for people come out and view the work. There are so
“Well, I like to eat, sleep, drink, and be in love. I like to work, read, learn, and understand life.” Langston Hughes
“There are nearly 20 businesses that participate in ArtWalk each month,” says Sapp. “ArtWalk is fun because the exhibits change monthly, so it’s always new. Plus, there are refreshments and food specials going on for the patrons to frequent. It kind of creates a party atmosphere with people out walking around and meeting one another. It’s a really great venue.”
If you’d like to learn more about the GFAA or are interested in becoming a member, Sapp invites you to come to a meeting at the Doris Barden Community Cultural Center on the second Thursday of every month. All meetings are open to the public.
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Art of Joy The
Interview by Lauren Douglass
Mackenzie Thorpe is more than an artist – he’s an inspiration. This global superstar is known not only for his extraordinary artwork, but also for his “No One to Catch Me” foundation dedicated to fostering the creative life of underprivileged inner-city kids. Thorpe talks with me about his life as an artist, his upcoming exhibition in Jacksonville and his mission to change children’s lives. Is this what you expected when you set out to be an artist? Tell me a little bit about what we can expect from your exhibit. The most special thing that’s happening is that there will be a sculpture that no one’s ever seen before. It’s being produced just for the show. I wanted to make the exhibit a theater set, in a sense. The stage opens with a boy in a moonlit forest, and the drawings progress from there.
Where do you draw your inspiration from? Life. I try to draw deeper and deeper, richer and richer, and to tackle subjects that are meaningful to me. This show in Florida will be sentimental, joyful and uplifting. I want people to walk in and go, “Ahhh.”
Can you tell me a little about your travels? When I go to the states, I’m there for only three nights. I arrive Thursday night, do a show Friday, stay Saturday and leave Sunday. That’s how it will be next week when I go to Japan, too. I used to do a lot of traveling because I have five exhibitions that are spread all over, four of which are in America. I’ve stopped traveling as much, though. I actually opened a show that was going on in Sydney, Australia via Skype because I just can’t be in two places at once. 14 Flourish Magazine | October/2013
No! After the show in Sydney, they asked me, “Will you promise us that you’ll come back?” There were 200 people there in the crowd, and I just got goosebumps down my arms. I said, “I don’t think you understand that everybody needs something to live for. I draw pictures that get shipped across the world to Sydney, you hang them in your gallery and then 200 people come to see. They spend thousands of dollars of hardearned money on my work. They take it home and they show their friends and family and are so proud of it, and you want some more? It means I’ve sold that work today, and you give me a reason to carry on.
You sound like you’re still very appreciative of it. Oh, yes. I keep going deeper and deeper because the demand for my work keeps getting stronger. People want to see more, so I must challenge myself mentally, physically, artistically and skillfully.
I understand that you do a lot of philanthropic work, on behalf of children. What draws you to that? I’m dyslexic. When I was eight, a nun told me that I’d never get a job, I’d never get married, I’d never have children, and if I was to die tonight, God wouldn’t even let me go to Heaven. She told me that I was useless because all I could do was draw.
People ask me all the time why I help children. It’s because of that time when I was eight years old.
What kind of message do you hope to send with your work? There are themes of love, life, death and hope in every single drawing. For 24 months, my artwork of children was put on a Japanese magazine. They’ve sold millions of them. I did a lecture in Tokyo and they all brought their magazines with them, so I asked the audience, “Why do you like these children’s faces?” They said, “Because they’re innocent, they’re beautiful, and they’re gentle and happy.” So I said, “So why do we kill them? Why do we rape them? Why are we so cruel to children? They are so beautiful, so happy and so innocent. They give us all this love and kindness, yet we hurt them. Do we hit them when they come home from school because we’re angry? This is the 21st century. Onehundred years ago, a North American Indian would never hit their child – it was against their culture – so why do we do it now? There’s a reverse to every single thing I do. Mackenzie Thorpe’s exhibition preview begins October 1st, 2013 and continues through October 31st at Avondale Artworks Art Gallery in Jacksonville, Fla.
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Newberry Cornfield Maze
Laugh by day, scream by night! By Sarah G. Mason
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This year’s Newberry Cornfield Maze is bigger and better than ever! Starting September 27, come experience all the family fun Hodge Farms has to offer. “During the day, we’ll have lots of exciting things for kids, like a bounce house and a mechanical bull,” said owner and farmer Brad Hodge. “There will be hayrides and lots of animals like goats and sheep the kids can pet.” The event is family friendly from midafternoon until dusk. After the hayride, head over to the kid corner to play in the corn box, compete in a friendly game of bean bag toss, play carnival games and win prizes! If the kids are feeling adventurous, they can hop on board the “Cow Train” for an fun ride or venture through Hodge Farms’ enormous corn maze with siblings and parents. After sunset, get ready to scream! Hop on the nighttime hayride for a spooky adventure down the haunted trail, but watch out for ghouls – they love to haunt the riders! If you’ve still got some courage after you emerge, head on over to the haunted house – it’s sure to be a thrill. This year, Hodge has a few new tricks up his sleeve that he wants to surprise you with. Of course, the event isn’t all about hayrides and corn mazes. There’s a deeper story behind the costumes and games. “The maze is actually something that we’ve done to help people understand about agriculture,” said Hodge. “I put it on
because I want kids, teenagers and parents to understand where their food comes from. Getting to do this is a blessing. One of my favorite parts about farming is working with my family. To be able to get up in the morning and go see my parents and my brother and to enjoy working with my family – I love it. I get to play in the dirt every day. Literally!” But farming isn’t all fun and games. When it comes to challenges, Hodge has two words: Mother Nature. “There’s nothing you can do about Mother Nature,” said Hodge. “You can build the land, but it’s never a guarantee.” This year has been a testament to that. Alachua County faced a torrent of rain this season, leaving many wondering whether the cornfield maze would drown – a devastating setback for both Hodge and the locals who look forward to the maze each year. “I planted the cornfield maze on July 8, and in 30 days it rained 18 ½ inches. It looked really bad,” said Hodge. Luckily, Mother Nature gave in, the maze grew successfully and the Newberry Cornfield Maze is still coming in full swing. So come out and experience the maze, meet Hodge and his family and enjoy a fun-filled day and a frightful night!
Where:
20015 West Newberry Road Newberry, Florida 32669
When:
Fridays, 5 p.m. – 11 p.m. Saturdays, 3 p.m. – 11 p.m. Sundays, 2 p.m. – 5 p.m.
Admission:
Adults $9, Children 10 & Under $7 Hay Rides $5 A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination. Nelson Mandela
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Making Momma
Proud
DESHAWN ROLAND Class: Senior Ht/Wt: 5-8, 145 School: Chiefland High Positions: Running back/cornerback/returner
By Mike Capshaw
Senior turns in performance of his life in the wake of mother’s death From death comes life. In an everything-happens-for-a-reason way, that oft-used saying sums up Deshawn Roland’s life. Sure, Deshawn played the game of his life only five days after his mother lost hers after a long battle with cancer. The senior made countless key plays and piled up nearly 200 total yards to lead Chiefland’s 26-14 against Hamilton County on September 13th. But the fact he was on the field at all is what really made his momma proud. Let’s rewind the game clock. When Tammy Jenkins was first diagnosed with cancer in 2010, Deshawn was in a bit of denial. Like a lot of kids, Deshawn thought his “momma” was invincible. “At first, I didn’t think anything about it,” Deshawn said. “I just figured she’s got this, but they can cure it. I just didn’t think anything would happen to my momma like that. But then when she got more into it and started going through the stages, I realized it wasn’t good.” It wasn’t. Cancer is like kryptonite to even the most super of humans. It turns the vibrant and strong into listless and weak. Watching a loved one, especially a parent, going through 18 Flourish Magazine | October/2013
have struggled without a degree. But now, in the wake of his mother’s passing, Deshawn is as focused as ever with a new lease on life. Even though his momma was getting worse, The 5-foot-8, 145-pounder who runs the 40 in he didn’t accept that she actually was dying until being confronted by family members with a blazing 4.38 seconds plans to continue playing football in college, ideally in the state of the devastating news. Florida so his family can watch his games. He hopes to pursue a career in either sports “They didn’t want to tell me,” Deshawn said. “I medicine or coaching. was around her everyday, so they didn’t want to tell me that she was going to die in a couple “That’s what she always wanted,” Deshawn of months or that she didn’t have long to live. said. “That would make They finally told me a couple of weeks before her proud.” she died. I was like … I didn’t really want to do anything.” On the field, Deshawn played his heart out in By “anything” Deshawn meant he was going to hopes of making momma proud. He rushed for a season-high 120 yards on 17 carries to go quit school and sports. Without his momma along with a touchdown reception and an there to support him, Deshawn didn’t care acrobatic, one-handed diving catch that was about those things anymore. nominated for play of the week on the recruiting website hudl.com. “I didn’t want to come back to school. I didn’t want to play football or nothing,” said “He was definitely the player of the game,” said Deshawn, who also stars in basketball and CHS coach Aaron Richardson. “And when you track. “I just wanted to stay at home, but my add in all the adversity he’s facing, his spirit and auntie told me that my momma would be his heart is pretty amazing. Going from his watching over me and that she wanted me to stay in school and to stay in sports and to try to mom passing on Monday to (Friday night), putting the whole community on his shoulders go to college. and taking care of business. I’m real impressed with that young man.” “She was always big on me finishing what I started.” The community did rally around Deshawn. Had he given up, his life may have taken a turn Even teachers from other schools that had him down a much different path as he likely would growing up showed their support because it is disheartening.
Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune. Jim Rohn
“everyone likes Deshawn,” his coach said. One of Deshawn’s biggest plays came moments after Felicity Langford announced over the loud speakers that the cheerleaders were using pink pom poms — the color used to promote Breast Cancer Awareness month in October — in honor of Deshawn and his mother. No one would have blamed Deshawn if he had punched out mentally from the game after hearing that. The crowd seemed to as it grew silent after the announcement as thoughts shifted from football to a young man who had just lost his mother. However, Deshawn alertly recovered a fumble on the next play from scrimmage, using his speed to jet in front of a wall of Hamilton County players that were closing in on the loose ball as it spun around near the sidelines. “I heard it over the intercom,” Deshawn said. “It was going through my mind anyway, but then when I heard my name and my mom’s name, I was like … alright. It was tough.” The Indians led 20-14 at the time, making the third-quarter recovery even more crucial as it kept momentum in the home team’s favor. CHS held on for the victory to remain unbeaten at 3-0. “It was huge,” Richardson said. “I told him right there that effort like that is what saves football games, and maybe the football season.” Perhaps even more huge was Deshawn’s demeanor in the wake of his mother’s death. Richardson told him to take as long as he needed before returning to practice, but he only missed Monday and Tuesday to mourn. When he returned, he was not quite the same. “I know he’s hurting inside,” said Wisdom begins in wonder. Socrates
teammate Alphonso Timmons, a junior who rushed for 138 yards and a pair of touchdowns in the win. “His momma passed and we can all tell he’s hurting. We grew up together and we can tell it’s changed him, but he’s stayed strong.” No kidding. Richardson witnessed it firsthand after Roland returned. “The way he’s handled it has been amazing,” Richardson said. “He sees everybody feeling sorry for him around practice and stuff, and he’s been the one cheering the other kids up. For him to be going through what he’s going through right now and to still be worried about his teammates’ feelings, it’s just remarkable. He doesn’t want to show sadness and all that because it brings them down. He’s shouldering the brunt of it. “He’s just a great kid with a big ol’ heart and a competitive spirit. A great, great kid.” Deshawn misses momma always “messing with him” when he got home, joking about where he had been or what he had been doing. If he could talk to her one more time in person, Deshawn says he would tell her that he loves her, misses her and “would see her soon.” Before each half of the game, Roland could be seen on bended knee, telling those things and much more in spirit instead of in person. “I was just thinking about my momma and how she would’ve wanted me to finish what I had started,” Deshawn said. “There was a lot of stuff just going all through my head. I was just praying to her because I know she was watching over me — and I want to make her proud.” Asked if he believes he did and Deshawn replied, “Yes sir,” flashing a small, yet satisfied smile. Flourish Magazine | October/2013 19
What’s Happening
in Local Sports Story and photos Mike Capshaw
Oak Hall’s Cummings among local stars shining in college A few football players from the area are making impacts at the college level. Leon Cummings, who graduated from Oak Hall in 2012, had a 88-yard kickoff return in Marist’s season opener. The true freshman was wrestled down at the seven-yard line, but the big return led to a touchdown four plays later. He returned five kickoffs to lead his team with 145 all-purpose yards in the Red Foxes’ 37-21 loss against Sacred Heart. The following week, Cummings had four kickoff returns for 75 yards in a 27-14 loss against Bucknell. Cummings, a 5-foot-9, 205-pounder, accounted for nearly 1,600 yards and 19 touchdowns both receiving and rushing during his senior season at Oak Hall. Marist has nine players from the Sunshine State on its roster, including starting quarterback Chuckie Looney of Ocala’s North Marion High. Looney set the school’s career record for touchdown passes in the Sacred Heart loss. Louisville true freshman Keith Kelsey, a 6-1, 217-pound linebacker from Gainesville High, is off to a solid start in his college debut. He recorded three tackles and a pass break-up in the then-No. 9 Cardinals’ 49-7 win against Ohio in the season opener on September 7th. He had five tackles, including three solo stops, in a 44-7 win against Eastern Kentucky and three tackles, all solo, in a 20 Flourish Magazine | October/2013
27-13 win against Kentucky in Week 3. Kelsey’s 11 total tackles through three games is tied for fifth on the team. Gainesville High’s Raph Webb has not appeared in any of Vanderbilt’s first three games, according to participation reports. With several players ahead of him on the depth chart at running back, Webb may be fitted for a redshirt this season.
Battle of Gainesville Buchholz beat Eastside 13-6 in the first leg of the Battle of Gainesville on August 30th. Sophomore quarterback Jackson White threw a touchdown pass to junior Quinlan Washington and cornerback Laron James returned an interception 35-yards for a touchdown to high the Bobcats’ scoring. The following week, GHS shutout Eastside for the third straight year. Hurricanes running backs James Faulkner and Tony James combined for 192 yards and a pair of touchdowns in the 31-0 win while sophomore quarterback Caelen Christian added two touchdowns through the air against Eastside. That leaves GHS and Buchholz to battle it out for bragging rights in the Battle of Gainesville when the teams meet October 11th at Citizens Field.
Friday NIght Highlights • Bronson senior fullback Brad Cates
Leon Cummings is showing the same explosiveness as he did at Oak Hall as a kick returner for Marist College this season. Photo courtesy of Marist Athletics bulldozed his way to 181 yards and three touchdowns in the Eagles’ season-opening win. He then rushed for more than 100 yards and a touchdown in the Eagles’ Week 2 win, a 35-0 victory at St. Joseph. In that game, fellow senior Brock Brower also rushed for more than 100 yards and added three touchdowns. The duo combined for 513 yards and nine TDs in the first two games. • Buchholz’ Na’Quan Howard had a 96-yard punt return touchdown and a 80-yard touchdown reception in the Tigers’ 33-21 win against Clay. • Santa Fe had a pair of standouts in Week 2 win with Tray Presley rushing for 195 yards and tow touchdowns and Jamari Ford rising for 100 yards on just five carries. Ford also had a pair of interceptions in the Raiders’ first shutout in two seasons. • Chiefland junior Alphonso Timmons has the Indians off to a 3-0 start for the second
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straight season. The third-year starter has rushed for 374 yards in the first three games. He’s averaged 124.6 yards per game and a whopping 11.3 yards per carry. • Bell started the season 2-0 on the legs of senior Austin Richey, who gained 578 yards and eight touchdowns.
This & That • The 13th Annual Buchholz Bobcat Classic cross country meet will be at Santa Fe College on October 5th. Oak Hall’s girls are the defending champion after Eagles’ runner Grace Blair was the top individual finisher. PK Yonge’s Garrett Westlake won the boys individual title. • Saint Francis’ senior setter Farah Rajee was named MVP of the Gator Town Classic. • Bradford forward Deon Aldridge enrolled at Florida National University after signing a scholarship as part of the budding program’s inaugural class. • Former Buchholz standout Gabrielle Rubeis has started the first nine games of
Brad Cates, far right, has been bruising opponents with his bruising running behind Bronson offensive linemen, from left, Justus Durden, Cole Crain, Austin Hill, Zach Chemin and Michael Coughlin. Photo by Mike Capshaw the season as a true freshman setter/ defensive specialist for South Carolina’s volleyball team.
Jersey Retired Keystone Heights is predominately showing the No. 4 jersey worn by Army Sgt. Dick Alson Lee, who graduated from the school in 2000. The school retired the jersey last year after Lee was killed in Afghanistan in April of 2012.
Information for this notebook was compiled from our own resources as well as various news outlets, including The Gainesville Sun, Alachua County Today, Chiefland Citizen, WRUF and WCJB TV-20. If you have a tip about a local athlete deserving recognition, please email mike.capshaw@whpinc. com for consideration.
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Gators All-Sports
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As usual, Florida’s fall sports teams are nationally ranked and off to solid starts through the early part of the season. Meanwhile, the Gators’ football team began 1-1 after a loss at Miami and the baseball team is set to begin fall practices in October. Women’s tennis opened its season at the Duke Invitational on September 13th–15th. Men’s tennis was scheduled to head to Nashville, Tenn., for the SEC Fall Classic on September 20th–22nd. Both the women’s and men’s swimming & diving teams are opening the season by hosting the Pinch A Penny All Florida Invitational September 27th–29th.
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CROSS COUNTRY Senior Agata Strausa and freshman Carlos Miranda earned SEC honors after leading the Gators to season-opening victories at the Western Carolina Invitational on August 30th. Strausa was named the SEC Women’s Runner of the Week after winning the two-mile race. She led a pack of Gators that took the top five spots. Miranda, who is from Naples, shined in his UF debut by finishing 14th overall to earn the SEC Men’s Freshman Runner of the Week award. It was the third consecutive season Florida swept both the women’s and men’s team victories at the invitational. The Gators returned to action September 14th when they hosted the 25th Annual Mountain Dew Invitational at Mark Bostic Golf Course in Gainesville.
WOMEN’S GOLF The Gators opened the season with a come-from-behind victory at the 24-team Cougar Classic in Charleston, S.C. on September 8th-10th. UF rallied for a six-stroke improvement on the final day to win the event for the second consecutive season. 22 Flourish Magazine | October/2013
Taylor Burke did not allow a goal in three consecutive matches after the Gators’ 3-0 loss against Florida State on August 30th. The 6-foot-1 junior, who also is the school’s record holder in the indoor high jump, posted four straight shutouts during the 2012 postseason. Photo courtesy of UF Communications
Junior Anna Young entered the final day tied for 16th, but finished with a flurry to take the top spot in the individual rankings. A five-under (211) for the tournament gave Young her first collegiate title. Freshmen Karolina Vickova and Maria Torres finished two-under and one-over par, respectively. Vickova’s 214 total tied for sixth in the individual standings. “I’m so happy for the team,” said UF coach Emily Glaser. “We knew we were knocking on the door of great play all week and we finally got some putts to fall.”
SOCCER The No. 8 Gators are off to a solid 3–1 start after posting a 4–0 victory at Florida International on Sept. 1. Junior goalkeeper Taylor Burke faced the first penalty kick of the season and made the stop to preserve the team’s first shutout of the season. “I remember staring at the girl (taking the PK) and Havana (Solaun) telling me ‘you’ve got the Taylor!’ After that, I had a lot of confidence. I got a good touch on the ball and pushed it wide, so I was happy about that,” Burke said. Four different players
recorded goals in that match including freshman Savannah Jordan, who has been on a record-setting pace. Her six goals through the first four matches of the season were the most in school history.
VOLLEYBALL No. 9 Florida (3–0) swept Duke in three sets (25–16, 25–17, 25–18) to win the 13th Campus USA Credit Union Invitational Title on August 31st. UF’s four errors in the match tied for the lowest in the program’s history. Senior Chloe Mann was named MVP for the second straight season after the middle blocker registered a .630 hitting percentage during the weekend, including an errorless (15–0–23) against the Blue Devils. Alex Holston hit .436 (20–3–39) to set a freshman record in her UF debut, including an errorless (6–0–11) against Duke. Mann, Holston and sophomore Ziva Recek were named to the All-Tournament Team. Florida improved to 26–0 all-time in their home invitational.
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10/14 Men’s golf @ IU Fall Invitational
10/01 Women’s tennis @ Riviera/ITA All-American Qualifying (Day 1 of 2) 10/02 Women’s tennis @ Riviera/ITA All-American Qualifying (Day 2 of 2) 10/03 Women’s tennis @ Riviera/ ITA All-American (Day 1 of 4) 10/04 Women’s tennis @ Riviera/ ITA All-American (Day 2 of 4); Soccer vs. South Carolina, 7 p.m.; Volleyball vs. Texas A&M, 7 p.m. 10/05 Women’s tennis @ Riviera/ ITA All-American (Day 3 of 4); Football vs. Arkansas 10/06 Women’s tennis @ Riviera/ ITA All-American (Day 4 of 4); Soccer vs. Auburn, 2 p.m.; Volleyball @ Alabama, 2:30 p.m.
10/10 Women’s tennis in Bedford Cup (Day 1 of 4)
10/15 Men’s golf @ IU Fall Invitational
10/11 Women’s tennis in Bedford Cup (Day 2 of 4); Women’s golf @ Tar Heel Invitational; Women’s cross country @ Florida State Invitational, 6:20 p.m.; Volleyball vs. Kentucky, 6:30 p.m.; Soccer @ Mississippi State, 8 p.m.
10/17 Women’s and men’s swimming & diving @ Missouri, 2 p.m.
10/12 Women’s tennis in Bedford Cup (Day 3 of 4); Women’s golf @ Tar Heel Invitational; Football @ LSU; Men’s swimming & diving @ Minnesota, 10 a.m. 10/13 Women’s tennis in Bedford Cup (Day 4 of 4); Women’s golf @ Tar Heel Invitational; Volleyball vs. Georgia, 2 p.m.
10/18 Women’s tennis @ USTA/ITA Regional Championships (Day 1 of 4); Soccer vs. Kentucky, 6:30 p.m.; Volleyball @ Arkansas, 8 p.m. 10/19 Women’s tennis @ USTA/ ITA Regional Championships (Day 2 of 4); Football @ Missouri; Women’s swimming & diving @ California; Women’s and men’s cross country @ Wisconsin Adidas Invitational 10/20 Women’s tennis @ USTA/ITA Regional Championships (Day 3 of 4);
Women’s swimming & diving @ California; Soccer vs. LSU, 1 p.m.; Volleyball @ Missouri, 2:30 p.m. 10/21 Women’s tennis @ USTA/ITA Regional Championships (Day 4 of 4) 10/25 Soccer @ Tennessee, 7 p.m.; Volleyball vs. Auburn, 7 p.m. 10/27 Women’s golf @ Alamo Invitational; Men’s golf @ Kiawah Invitational; Volleyball vs. Tennessee, 1:30 p.m.; Soccer vs. Texas A&M, 3 p.m. 10/28 Women’s golf @ Alamo Invitational; Men’s golf @ Kiawah Invitational; 10/29 Women’s golf @ Alamo Invitational; Men’s golf @ Kiawah Invitational; 10/31 Soccer @ Georgia, 6:30 p.m. Information courtesy of GatorZone.com
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2014 SEC Football Schedule Pits Muschamp vs. Saban By Mike Capshaw Photos courtesy UF Communications
The release of the 2014 SEC football schedule set up a meeting between former coaching colleagues in Florida’s Will Muschamp and Alabama’s Nick Saban. Alabama won three of the past four national championships and drilled Florida by a combined score of 101–26 in their past three meetings. It will be the second time Muschamp and Saban have squared off as head coaches after the Tide rolled the Gators 38–10 in Gainesville in 2011. Florida will host LSU on October 11th in its SEC-West crossover game, meaning Arkansas is off of the 2014 schedule. Florida opens the season September 13th against Kentucky at home. The other games worth noting on the 2014 slate are at Tennessee on October 4th, vs. Georgia in Jacksonville on November 1st and South Carolina at home on November 15th.
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Here’s a look at Florida’s complete 2014 schedule now that the SEC slate has been released:
“It brought tears to my eyes,” Herndon was quoted as telling Phil Heilman of The Independent Florida Alligator. “The first thing I did was call my mom and tell her. She was ecstatic about it.”
2014 Gators football schedule Aug. 30 – Idaho Sept. 6 – Eastern Michigan Sept. 13 – Kentucky Sept. 20 – at Alabama Oct. 4 – at Tennessee Oct. 11 – LSU Oct. 18 – Missouri Nov. 1 – Georgia (at Jacksonville) Nov. 8 – at Vanderbilt Nov. 15 – South Carolina Nov. 22 – Eastern Kentucky Nov. 29 – at Florida State
Sophomore running back Mark Herndon received great news the day after the fall semester began. The Ocala native was awarded a scholarship following the team’s Aug. 20 workouts. Herndon told reporters he comes from a family that struggles financially while adding how he lived on Pop Tarts and ramen noodles last season.
In addition, safety Tim Clark was informed by the coaching staff that his scholarship would be renewed for a third season. He’s entering his fifth year at UF.
Wambach Pads Record Former Gators soccer player Abby Wambach added to her record with her 161st international goal during the U.S. team’s 7-0 win against Mexico on Sept. 3. The No. 1 Americans extended their unabated streak to 35 games. The 33-year-old Wambach snapped Mia Hamm’s international record of 158 with four goals in the previous game. Also worth noting, former UF midfielder Erika Tymrak earned her first U.S. cap in the game.
Israel-Bound Boynton Despite not getting selected in the 2013 NBA 24 Flourish Magazine | October/2013
Draft, former Florida guard Kenny Boynton wanted to continue his career. He signed with the Israeli professional basketball team Barak Netanya, which is a member of the Israeli Basketball Super League. Boynton, who earned his bachelor’s degree in sociology this summer, finished second on UF’s list of all-time scoring leaders while helping the Gators reach the Elite Eight three straight years. Former Gators forward Alex Tyus, who Boynton teamed with at UF, signed a three-year, $1.1 million deal with Maccabi Tel Aviv, which also plays in the IBSL.
For Starters The Gators were without five starters for the opener, including Matt Jones, Chaz Green, Jon Halapio, Loucheiz Purifoy and Antonio Morrison. Jones missed nearly a month of workouts with a viral infection, Green is out of the season with a torn labrum and Halapio missed the first two games with a partially torn pectoral muscle, while Purifoy and Morrison were serving suspensions. Purifoy was one of four players suspended for violating team rules. Morrison’s suspension was reduced to one game from two after Muschamp reviewed details and saw how Morrison was responding.
Miami Sellout The Hurricanes usually draw less than 50,000 fans for a home game at Sun Life Stadium, but Miami’s game against Florida on September 8 sold out the 76,854-seat stadium. UF was allotted 12,500 tickets and the Gators’ strong following in south Florida boosted sales for the non-conference game. Despite the obvious interest, scheduling conflicts mean the in-state series may not be played again for some time.
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New owners Kim and Jerry Wakefield hosted a grand re-opening of The Diner in High Springs on August 30th. The 1950’s style restaurant was formerly Floyd’s Diner until it closed around 2006. It traded hands a few times in the years since it was Floyd’s. “The new owners wanted to bring back some of the charm and the glory days of Floyd’s,” said general manager Beth Citta, who was born and raised in the area, graduating from Santa Fe High in 2003. Citta said the new owners simply “fixed things and brought things back to the way they should have been,” as part of the interior and exterior renovations while bringing in new staff and revamping the menu to offer a mix of English and traditional American diner food such as patty melts and root beer floats. Antique cars lined Santa Fe Blvd. in front of The Diner while live music, face painting and a bounce house helped amp up the festivities.
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Find a place inside where there’s joy, and the joy will burn out the pain. Joseph Campbell
Kegs
at Walmart? By Truman Carter
World’s No. 1 Retailer Is One-Stop Shop For Tailgating Parties Now Walmart truly has everything. Kegs. That’s right. The world’s largest retailer is now the one-stop shop for all of your game day needs. Walmart on Archer Road has always sold cases of beer at the lowest prices in Gainesville, but tailgaters can now order kegs filled with their favorite beer. “Awareness has been pretty low,” said Walmart-Archer store manager Mark Kircher. “People don’t know that we have (kegs).” The available varieties are endless, but Kircher said they’re focusing on selling mostly Miller, Budweiser and Natural Light for the kegs. Customers should call at least 24 hours in advance (352-371-3171) to ensure
BOGO, Price Matching For families on a budget, Walmart already was the place to go for the best bargains in town. Now, a new addition to Walmart’s price-matching guarantee will make the world’s No. 1 retailer even tougher to beat. Not only will Walmart match any competitors advertised price, it also will match all Buy One Get One Free deals. The best part? Walmart is offering BOGO at their low prices, not the competitor’s. That said, when consumers add up the BOGO deals from other stores — and at the already lowest prices in town — Walmart is the place to go for getting the most bang out of your grocery buck.
their kegs are filled and ready to go in time for their game day party or other event. The kegs and metal-based taps can be picked up and returned to Walmart-Archer. But what makes Walmart an even better choice for kegs is they’re price-matching guarantee. “If anyone happens to have a lower price, we’ll match it,” Kircher said. “The ad has to be current, but just bring it in and we’ll match the price.”
tubs, ice, trash cans and even Gator trash cans,” Kircher said. “We’ve also got all of the sports equipment like footballs and we’ve even got a wide variety of all of the tailgating games.
Plus, Walmart already has the lowest prices in town on all of the other game-day essentials.
“We have everything at the lowest price as well as kegs.”
“We have all kinds of snacks, chairs, tents,
Yes, now Walmart truly has everything.
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Florida’s remaining home schedule Oct. 5 Arkansas Nov. 9 Vanderbilt Nov. 23 Georgia Southern Nov. 30 Florida State
Frightfully Low Prices Walmart has launched its “More Halloween For Your Money” campaign, featuring costumes, candy and other Halloween essentials at “Frightfully Low Prices.” Walmart also is stocking its shelves with stocking stuffers and other items for those looking to get a jump on the rest of the holiday shopping season. “We’ve got everything ready for Halloween,” Kircher said. “And if you are getting ready for Christmas early, we’re already setting up everything up for that, too. “If you want it, we have it at the best price.”
Try to be like the turtle - at ease in your own shell. Bill Copeland
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Before you hit “send” on your next email to your boss, coworker or business partner, pause. Did you remember to include a greeting? Are there spelling and grammar mistakes? Check out these email etiquette dos and don’ts to see which ones you’ve been missing! Don’t “reply to all” unless you truly mean to. Not everyone needs to see a one-on-one conversation. Do include a subject line. How else can the recipient tell your work email from spam?
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Everyone knows the importance of a first impression. But what about your last impression? That sticks with people for a very long time. Why? Because your friendliness when you part subliminally signals how you feel about THEM. Think about it. If someone gives you a big hearty “Hello,” you feel great. But, later, if they lethargically mumble “goodbye,” you can’t help but subconsciously think they like you less now. Natural paranoia takes over and we feel we disappointed them in the encounter. Don’t do that to people! When introduced to someone, END your conversation even more enthusiastically than you started it. Some suggestions: At the END of your conversation, tell a new acquaintance,
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What’s Happening
in Local Business Story and photos Mike Capshaw
• 4 Rivers Smokehouse completed its renovations in time for an August 28th opening in the site that previously was a McCalister’s Deli in Butler Plaza. It’s the fourth location of the restaurant for owner John Rivers since opening the first in Winter Park in 2009. • Cox Communications plans to open a Cox Solutions Store in Butler Plaza which will allow customers a centralized location to pay bills, sign up for services and exchange equipment.
Gainesville’s Archer Road, Butler Plaza Become Boomtown
Archer Road is booming. It continues tightening its grip on serving as the area’s top shopping destination. Just take a drive around Butler Plaza to see for yourself. Construction crews are becoming a mainstay as commercial space continues to be gobbled up for development by retail and restaurant investors. Sure, businesses are breaking ground elsewhere like near the Oaks Mall or even the Jonesville/Tioga area, but none are experiencing the rapid growth that is going on along Archer Road. Lately, it seems like a new business is announced almost weekly. One restaurant chain on Archer will have a big announcement later this fall, but details were still being finalized at press time.
• Musicians across the area showed excitement across all forms of social media when Guitar Center announced its plans to open in the Esplanade at Butler Plaza. Its 252nd store nationwide hosted a grand opening on September 5th. • Yogurtology and Pink Narcissus are the first two clients to open up in a recently constructed Butler Plaza outparcel. • Which Wich Superior Sandwiches and BurgerFi will be two of the tenants in a new building in a Butler Plaza outparcel that is under construction. Which Wich has been around for nearly a decade after opening in Dallas. BurgerFi, which is expected to hire about 50 employees according to the Independent Florida Alligator, launched at Lauderdale-by-the-Sea in 2011 and has been expanding aggressively after success at that first location.
In the meantime, here’s a rundown of the latest activity: • Jo-Ann Fabric and Craft has a sign and a fence up to mark its territory in the Esplanade at Butler Plaza. The 36,000-SF space has been vacant for more than a year since Publix moved out of the space and into a new location nearby. Renovations are underway and a report by the Gainesville Sun said Jo-Ann hopes to open by the end of second quarter of 2014. Jo-Ann closed two other locations in Gainesville and has plans to shut down another at 1220 NW 76th Blvd. to focus on the new superstore. The Ohio-based company has 790 stores nationwide. 30 Flourish Magazine | October/2013
GatorTec is close to completing renovations for its second Gainesville location at 3600 SW Archer Road. • GatorTec is expected to open its second Gainesville location this fall after renovating a space in Butler Plaza at 3600 SW Archer Road. The Apple specialist’s other location is in the Tioga Town Center.
Mixed-Use Projects Celebration Point is a mixed-used subdivision that is being developed between Lake Kanapaha and Interstate 75. It is constructing a new four-lane road, which will be SW 45th St., to connect Archer Road to the town center of about 1,000 town homes, condos and apartments as well as a hotel and about 300,000-SF of retail space. Another mixed-used project called West 38 is in the early stages of development on 75 acres west of the Hilton University of Florida Conference Center. Plans include extending Hull Road and building apartments and a parking garage. The developer, NP International out of Minnesota, also hopes to build a hotel, convention center, and retail and office space, according to The Gainesville Sun. The property formerly was approved for Creekside at Beville Run before developers pulled out of the project.
Mr. Flying Roboto Jo-Ann Fabric and Craft plans to close its other Gainesville locations to open a 36,000-SF store in the Esplanade at Butler Plaza.
Prioria Robotics has announced three new contracts, including two with universities and larger order from the U.S. Government. The Gainesville developer of unmanned aircrafts will hire 10 new employees by the end of the year as a result of the contracts.
Experience is not what happens to you; it’s what you do with what happens to you. Aldous Huxley
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Saint Louis Universityâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Parks College of Engineering, Aviation and Technology will receive four machines. Prioria, which makes the tactical Small Unmanned Aircraft Systems called Maverick and Tetra, believes the partnership is just the beginning of expanding its portfolio into more contracts with universities. â&#x20AC;&#x153;(SLU is) an educational thought-leader whose research, we believe, will be key to the transition happening in the marketplace of airspace opening for commercial use,â&#x20AC;? Prioria CEO Brian de Frota said in a release.
Jiffy Deal Heartland Automotive Services of Irving,
Texas, purchased all five Jiffy Lube locations in Gainesville as part of a 33-store acquisition from South Lube Inc. The 41 Gainesville employees were invited to remain with Jiffy Lube, according to a press release. Heartland is the largest Jiffy Lube franchisee with 576 locations nationwide. One Jiffy Lube manager who requested anonymity said he believes all of the Gainesville employees remained in place after being invited to stay on with the new company. He added that there hasnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t been any major changes, but was happy to have increased benefits, including a 401K retirement plan.
Going Downtown Pop-A-Top Corner Store and Downtown Bodega opened August 19th at 2 E. University, which last was a clothing store called Soul Train. The 101 Management Group, which owns 101 Downtown, opening Samba Cantina Brazilian Tapas Bar by October. Five Bar, a chain that began in Tuscaloosa, Ala., is opening in October at 104 S. Main St.,
which previously was Lassoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Steakhouse. One of the menu items is duck tacos.
Extra Points â&#x20AC;˘ The website nerdwallet.com appears to have a sweet spot for Gainesville. After recently ranking Gainesville as the second fastest growing city in the country, it put out another ranking with Gainesville coming in at No. 1 on its list of â&#x20AC;&#x153;Cities on the Rise.â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;˘ Farahâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s on the Avenue closed on September 14th after 33 years at 1120 W. University Ave. The Sun reported that the restaurant Small House China is doing a $120,000 remodel before opening in the same location. â&#x20AC;˘ Waffle House plans to open this fall in an outparcel in front of The Home Depot on NW 13th Street. It will be the third Waffle House location in Gainesville. â&#x20AC;˘Â The recently closed Stein Mart on Newberry Road already has a new tenant as Hobby Lobby is expected to open there early next year, according to the Sun.
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Local History:
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By Mike Capshaw
Glen Springs Pool Now hidden pool once was a popular hangout for Gainesville’s youth. Tangles of spiderwebs, vines and an eight-foot-tall, razor-wire-topped, chain-link fence now encircle what once was Gainesville’s summer hot spot. Back in the roaring 20s, Glen Springs pool was the place to be. The spring-fed oasis remained a popular hang out — it even 32 Flourish Magazine | October/2013
served as the University of Florida swim team’s practice facility — for nearly half a century. Weathering since its closure in 1970 turned the crystalline waters into a swamp of sorts, but several clean-up efforts have revived it to past scenic glory. There’s even a Facebook
page titled “Friends of Glen Springs.” Even though it may be nothing more than a fish pond these days, the history of Glen Springs is as deep as the water beneath the high dive on the pool’s south side. Rock legend Tom Petty’s song “Dreamville”
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. Winston Churchill
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“Ridin’ with my my momma To Glen Springs pool Water was cold My lips were blue.” —- Lines from Tom Petty’s “Dreamville,” a song he wrote about his hometown of Gainesville.
is a trip down memory lane for the Gainesville native that features lyrics about Glen Springs pool.
Gainesville = Dreamville For many years, it was the only public swimming pool in the area. The shallow end near the springs was for youngsters while seasoned swimmers could do cannonballs off of the diving boards on the opposite end. Archived photos were shot mostly around the pool, but there also was a pool house with a covered wood deck outside for dances and gatherings like birthday parties and auto dealer promotions. There are even reports a traveling “mermaid” show once dazzled crowds at Glen Springs. Gainesvillians frequented the spring well before the first concrete was poured to pool the outflow in 1924. Local businessman Cicero Addison Pound Sr. had purchased the property and hired architect Guy Chandler Fulton to design the pool. Before UF built its own pool in 1930, the Gators swim team practiced there. In 1940, Fulton
built a three-pool design, which included a three-foot deep pool in the middle that joined two eight-foot deep pools. The first deep end was for the outflow while the far pool featured one- and three-meter high diving boards. Water released from a drain in the middle pool was the start of Glen Springs run, which is joined by five other springs around Alfred Ring Park and flows for about 500 feet into Hogtown Creek. The water then discharges into the Floridan aquifer via the Haile Sink, which provides Gainesville with its drinking water and water supply. The unique design by Fulton, a renkown architect who designed structures at the University of Florida and Florida State, among others, created a valve system that ran underneath the pool. That allowed it to be drained and cleaned weekly, usually by lifeguards each Sunday. It offered the only public swimming spot in the Gainesville area until Westside Park opened in 1966. Four years and another city-owned public pool later was when the
A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him. David Brinkley
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city began enforcing codes prohibiting the flow of chlorinated water into the creek system.
That forced the owners of the property, The Elks Lodge, to shut down the pool. While a few outdoor activities such as fishing derbies have been at Glen Springs over the past few decades, many Gainesvillians did not know it even existed behind all of the underbrush and spiderwebs until the clean-up efforts made headlines over the past few years. Flourish Magazine | October/2013 33
Elaine
Williams Interview by Lauren Douglass
Comedic motivational speaker Elaine Williams has a message to share: The way to your heart is not through your stomach, and happiness is not found in a bottle. Williams is here to discuss eating disorders and addiction from her own perspective, and to talk about the emotional journey that inspired her to help heal the world. What inspired you to take your past and turn it into something helpful and meaningful? I kept getting little “nudges” from the universe. Although I’d worked as an actress, singer and dancer my whole life, people kept telling me, “Elaine, you’re funny. You should try stand up.” When I did my very first show and I saw people bent over with tears in their eyes, I had a light bulb moment. I thought maybe this happened to me so I could heal myself and go out and help others.
What causes people to develop eating disorders or addictions? I think that there are many factors that lead to eating disorders and addiction. Some of us are genetically predisposed towards addictive behavior. Also, many parents and teachers use “shame” to manage their kids and students, and “shame” is directly linked to addiction.
Can anything be done to prevent them? It’s important for parents, teachers and mentors to be present with our kids and students. When we can give someone our undivided attention and love, we can make it safe for them to say anything to us. I also think that education is essential.
For parents, if you suspect your child has an eating disorder, what should you do? First, look at the kind of example you are setting. Do you sit down and eat slowly at the table? Or do you eat on the run, in the car or at your computer? Definitely don’t make comments on what your child is eating or not eating, or about their body. 34 Flourish Magazine | October/2013
Behind every great man is a woman rolling her eyes.. Jim Carrey
Also, don’t put them on any kind of diet. The more accepting and peaceful you can be, the safer they will feel and the more likely they will be to ask for help.
Do you think there’s a stigma that goes along with seeking help? Yes, and I am out to change that stigma. The good news is that it’s changing a bit. In the ‘60s, people didn’t say the word “pregnant” because it implied that someone had sex. Now, we show birth right on TV. It’s become almost cool to go to rehab, and most people know about AA. We have to make it safe for people to talk about what’s really going on so that they can get help.
For parents, what’s the most important thing for them to know about their child who has one of these problems? Parents need to understand that they didn’t cause it, they can’t control it and they can’t cure it. Go to Al-Anon meetings and don’t make it about you. The more grounded and safe you can be as a parent, the safer you can make the situation for your child.
Can you tell us a little about your own struggles? How long do you have? Kidding! I am still learning about addiction and my journey; it’s such a process. My earliest childhood memory is that my dad was leaving for work and something was wrong. I feel like I grew up with a huge, empty hole that I wasn’t able to understand, but I began trying to fill it from a very early age. I was put on a diet in first grade, even though I was never fat, which is why I think my first addiction was food. When my parents got divorced, I thought it was my fault. My father remarried my stepmother, who was a raging,
undiagnosed bipolar addict and alcoholic. She hated me. My mother felt threatened by me. Naturally, I turned to applause, then food, then sex, drugs and alcohol to try and heal myself.
You’re now a comedic motivational speaker. What affect does comedy have on people?
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Comedy is a natural high. It brings people together, it’s healing and it raises the serotonin levels in your brain. It makes it easier to get the listeners involved. Laughter breaks down the walls and reminds us that we are all pretty alike inside.
What’s the best part about what you do? My favorite part is when I’m talking to someone and another student will just walk right up to me and hug me. It’s so sweet and loving.
What are your goals for the future? I want to continue speaking about addiction and healing all over the world. I want to have an international comedy career, on TV and in film. I’d also love to start a foundation for the arts, addiction awareness and kids at risk. I believe that if we give “at risk or under-served” kids a place that is safe, with positive role models and a chance to be creative, they would create amazing art and be too inspired to even think about drugs. We need to come together and support what is going on in this country. We have single parents with little or no support raising kids. We have more and more mental illnesses that are “leaking out.” We have sexual assault daily in the military, churches and schools. The more we can educate, raise awareness and heal, the more we can all reach our greatest potential.
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Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive. Elbert Hubbard
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Now that pumpkins are finally back in season, spice up your kitchen with some tasty, salty roasted pumpkin seeds. This classic snack features fresh pumpkin seeds and a dash of salt for a simple yet scrumptious fall kick-off. What You’ll Need: • One medium sized pumpkin • Salt • Olive Oil
Directions:
Toasted Pumpkin Seeds
1) Cut open the top of the pumpkin by removing the stem. Use a strong metal spoon to scrape out the seeds and strings. Place the mass of pumpkin seeds into a colander and run under water to rise and separate the seeds. 2) Measure the pumpkin seeds in a measuring cup. Put the seeds into a medium saucepan. Add 2 cups of water and 1 tablespoon salt to the pan for every half cup of pumpkin seeds. (Add more salt if you like it salty!) Bring the salted water and seeds to a boil. Let simmer for 10 minutes.
Remove from the heat and drain. 3) Preheat the oven to 400 degrees Fahrenheit. Coat the bottom of a roasting pan with a tablespoon of olive oil. Spread the seeds evenly over the pan. Bake on the top rack for 5 to 20 minutes, until the seeds begin to brown. (Keep an eye on them so they don’t over-toast!) 4) When browned, remove from the pan from the oven and let cool before eating.
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Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible. Dalai Lama
The
Floating Ghost Yard Decoration by Kelly Herman
One-of-a-kind yard decorations are hard to come by during Halloween, and what’s better than throwing a scary mask on your favorite garden gnome? Your own floating ghost, with no strings attached! They’re so easy to make, you can do a new one every year!
What you need: • 1 liter soda bottle • 1 styrofoam ball (preferably white) • 1 old towel • 1 spray bottle (empty) • Starch • Cheese cloth • Scissors • Wire Start by covering your workspace with the old towel. Make the ghost form by setting the styrofoam ball on top of the lid-off soda bottle, and use the wire to make arms. Next, lay the cheese cloth over the form, and rearrange the wire so that the arms sit where you like them. Cut away any excess at the bottom, but remember that the cheese cloth will stand by itself when you’re finished.
Pour the starch into the spray bottle, and spray the cheese cloth with the starch. The more starch you use, the stiffer the cloth will get. You can use a hair dryer afterward to help your ghost dry faster, but it’s not necessary. Then, take the ball and soda bottle out from under the ghost. It should be able to stand by itself now, and spook all your neighbors! Add eyes and a mouth, or try using the spray bottle again to spray the ghost with glow-in-the-dark paint. If you really want to put on a show, make several and hide them around your lawn or in the house. You can also use chicken wire to form a life-sized ball gown, and make a dancing scene around your yard. Play creepy, old-time music as guests approach to really set the scene. Happy haunting!
It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light. Aristotle Onassis
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Credits: Jackie and Ashleyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s clothing provided by Chocolate Shoe Boutique; available at ChocolateShoeBoutiqueFL.com or visit their facebook page at Chocolate Shoe Boutique. Photos by Stefanie Crockett of PROST Photography. Shoot Location at Newberry Cornfield Maze in Gainesville, FL.
Credits: Ashley’s clothing provided by Chocolate Shoe Boutique; available at ChocolateShoeBoutiqueFL.com or visit their facebook page at Chocolate Shoe Boutique. Laurali’s clothing provided by Gymboree; available at Gymboree.com. Photos by Stefanie Crockett of PROST Photography. Shoot Location at Newberry Cornfield Maze in Gainesville, FL. If you’re going through hell, keep going. Winston Churchill
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You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. C. S. Lewis
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A creative man is motivated by the desire to achieve, not by the desire to beat others. Ayn Rand
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Happy
Holidays
By Kat Freestone
Halloween may be the most famous holiday in October, but it certainly isn’t the only one. Here are a few of our favorite October holidays and some fun ways to enjoy them! October 1, World Vegetarian Day. Embrace the world of fruits and veggies by going meatless on the first day of the month. It’s a great change of pace that will benefit both your health and the environment.
October 14, National Dessert Day. Cake, cookies, pie and ice cream can all be
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when your grocery bag breaks, when the dog won’t stop barking or when you accidently burn dinner, take these frustrations in stride – if only for the day!
world, we don’t always take the time to help others. But not today! On October 5th, let the most generous you come to life. Hold the door for the person behind you, stop your car to let pedestrians cross or offer to help a stranger load their groceries into their cart.
October 7, World Smile Day. Let’s see those pearly whites! Studies show that smiling reduces stress and anxiety, releases endorphins, strengthens your immune system and makes you friendlier. Best of all, smiles are contagious, meaning you can share the joy all day.
October 11, Take Your Teddy Bear to Work Day. Who wouldn’t love Teddy to cheer up the office? Get all of your coworkers in on the celebration and bring your teddy bears to work for a fun Friday.
October 12, Moment of Frustration Day. We all encounter irksome moments, but today’s the day to celebrate them. Instead of feeling annoyed when you’re stuck in traffic,
up something tasty on your way home from work. Go ahead, have a second helping.
October 19, Evaluate Your Life Day. Do you have unmet goals? Growing aspirations? Forgotten dreams? Today is the day to evaluate your life. Think about all the plans you have for the future and create a roadmap to get you there.
October 27, Mother-InLaw Day. The fourth Sunday of every October is a day to celebrate that lovely lady who gave you your significant other! Today, pick up the phone, give her a call and thank her for raising such a wonderful son or daughter.
October 30, Carve a Pumpkin Day. There’s no surprise here. It’s the day before Halloween and time to get carving! Whether you carve out a simple face or an elaborate work of art, gather the kids and get ready for some gooey pumpkin fun.
We hope you enjoy all the (other) holidays October has to offer!
Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. Winston Churchill
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Spooky decorations and costume accessories are all the rage around Halloween. We thought it would be the perfect time to pull out our crafts book and show you a few fun – and surprisingly easy – activities to do with your kids this October.
by Kelly Herman
for Kids Magic Wand Pick out a stick, and sandpaper lightly any parts that might be pokey or splintered. If you’re going for the fairy princess look, use some twine, string and wire to wrap beads around the middle and handle. With the wire, you can even mold a heart or a star to sit on top!
If you’re going for a wizarding world look, use hot glue to make cool designs in the handle, or patterns up the side. While the glue is still warm and tacky, press in tiny beads for texture, or score the glue to make it a little rough. Lastly, paint the whole wand whatever color you like. Just be careful where you point that thing!
Goblin Goo Mix equal parts liquid starch and glue, then add some color with food coloring. Use a plastic sandwich bag and mix well. There may be some liquid left after the blob begins to take form, so remove the firm part from the bag. Ta-da! You’ve got Goblin Goo … or snot! Be creative and try out different colors to see how gross it can get.
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A part of kindness consists in loving people more than they deserve. Joseph Joubert
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Pumpkin Tricks With little ones, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s hard to get pumpkin carving just right. To make things smoother, use dry-erase markers instead of permanent markers to test out face shapes and designs. You can also print out any image youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d like to carve and lay it over the surface, then take a nail or tack to trace the outline by making tiny holes that you can see when you pull the stencil away. For simpler designs, get some cookie cutters and lay them flat on the surface of the pumpkin, then use a mallet to gently push the cutter through. You can bang them all the way through, or just enough to make an outline and then carve away the rest yourself. This will add a different light effect when you put candles (or glow sticks) inside! If carving seems too scary to try for a first Halloween, use glow paint instead! Kids can lay designs with tape, paint over the whole pumpkin, then peel away the taped areas. You donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t even have to clean it out â&#x20AC;&#x201C; just clean up the paint!
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Making Monsters Older children may not have as much fun with glue guns and glow paint, so hit the thrift store and garage sales instead. Pick up a few old landscape paintings, and let the kids add in characters to make their own unique Halloween scene! Witches and zombies, or never-before-seen monsters can be depicted romping through snowy scenes, leaving footprints in the distance. No matter what age, children will always enjoy getting a bit messy to help decorate the house and celebrate their favorite candy-coated holiday. Try out a few of ours, and let us know how they went! Share with us snapshots of your favorite Halloween crafts on our Facebook page, or email them to flourish@whpinc.com. Your creations may be featured in next monthâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s issue!
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2 OCTOBER UF Women’s tennis @ Riviera/ITA All-American Qualifying (Day 2 of 2)
3 OCTOBER UF Women’s tennis @ Riviera/ITA All-American (Day 1 of 4) Community Conferencing @ Cymplify Cafe on Newberry Road
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UF Women’s tennis @ Riviera/ITA All-American (Day 2 of 4) 7pm. UF Soccer vs. South Carolina 7pm. UF Volleyball vs. Texas A&M 20th Annual Chicken Lunch benefitting Girls Place
5 OCTOBER UF Women’s tennis @ Riviera/ITA All-American (Day 3 of 4) UF Football vs. Arkansas 9:30am. Quilt Day @ Dudley Farm Historic State Park 10am. Dudley Farm Historic State Park Volunteering Opportunities @ Dudley Farm Historic State Park
6 OCTOBER UF Women’s tennis @ Riviera/ITA All-American (Day 4 of 4) 2pm. UF Soccer vs. Auburn 2:30pm. UF Volleyball @ Alabama
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10 OCTOBER Women’s tennis in Bedford Cup (Day 1 of 4)
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12 OCTOBER UF Women’s tennis in Bedford Cup (Day 3 of 4). UF Women’s golf @ Tar Heel Invitational. UF Football @ LSU 10am. Men’s swimming & diving @ Minnesota
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10am. GFAA Art Festival @ Thornebrook. UF Women’s tennis in Bedford Cup (Day 4 of 4). UF Women’s golf @ Tar Heel Invitational 2pm. UF Volleyball vs. Georgia
14 OCTOBER
Conflict Resolution @ Cymplify Cafe on Newberry Road UF Men’s golf @ IU Fall Invitational
15 OCTOBER UF Men’s golf @ IU Fall Invitational
17 OCTOBER 2pm. UF Women’s and men’s swimming & diving @ Missouri
18 OCTOBER UF Women’s tennis @ USTA/ITA Regional Championships (Day 1 of 4) 6:30pm. UF Soccer vs. Kentucky 7pm. Tioga Concert Series @ Tioga Town Center 8pm. UF Volleyball @ Arkansas
19 OCTOBER UF Women’s tennis @ USTA/ITA Regional Championships (Day 2 of 4) Diversity Matters @ Cymplify Cafe on Newberry Road. UF Football @ Missouri. UF Women’s swimming & diving @ California. UF Women’s and men’s cross country @ Wisconsin Adidas Invitational
20 OCTOBER UF Women’s tennis @ USTA/ITA Regional Championships (Day 3 of 4) 1pm. UF Women’s swimming & diving @ California; Soccer vs. LSU 2:30pm. UF Volleyball @ Missouri
21 OCTOBER UF Women’s tennis @ USTA/ITA Regional Championships (Day 4 of 4)
25 OCTOBER 7pm. UF Soccer @ Tennessee 7pm. UF Volleyball vs. Auburn
26 OCTOBER 9am. Monster Dash & Creepy Crawl @ St. Augustine Beach 10am. 9th Annual Florida Bat Festival @ UF Bat Conservancy
27 OCTOBER 1:30pm. UF Volleyball vs. Tennessee 3pm. UF Soccer vs. Texas A&M UF Women’s golf @ Alamo Invitational. UF Men’s golf @ Kiawah Invitational
28 OCTOBER UF Women’s golf @ Alamo Invitational. UF Men’s golf @ Kiawah Invitational
29 OCTOBER UF Women’s golf @ Alamo Invitational. UF Men’s golf @ Kiawah Invitational
30 OCTOBER 6:30pm. UF Soccer @ Georgia
To change what you get you must change who you are. Vernon Howard
You do it every night, but how much do you really know about sleep?
2) Shorter lifespan is associated with: a) Sleeping too little (6 hours or less) b) Sleeping too much (9 hours or more) c) Both sleeping too little and too much
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a) Improve your ability to remember it effectively b) Decrease your ability to remember it effectively c) Either improve or decrease your ability to remember, depending on your age
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Kale
By Sarah G. Mason
Nicknamed â&#x20AC;&#x153;the new beef,â&#x20AC;? kale is certainly a green-queen. This leafy vegetable has been steadily gaining popularity for its low calorie, high fiber, zero fat makeup, and is a great choice for dieters and non-dieters alike.
Calorie for calorie, kale has more bonestrengthening calcium than milk. Furthermore, according to a study done by the American Society for Clinical Nutrition, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Kale, a low-oxalate vegetable, exhibits excellent absorbability for its calcium.â&#x20AC;? Essentially, not only does kale have more calcium than milk, but more of it is absorbed by the body. Of course, calcium is an important nutrient, as it can help maintain a healthy metabolism, prevent osteoporosis, and more. Where vitamins are concerned, kale is certainly not lacking. This superfood is high in vitamin A, which is great for your skin, your vision, and can help prevent lung and oral cavity cancers. Kale is loaded in vitamin C, which is necessary
for a strong immune system, healthy metabolism, and proper hydration. Last, kale has plenty of vitamin K, which is important for healthy bodily functioning and the prevention of blood clotting, Alzheimerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s disease and various cancers. Per calorie, kale has more iron than beef, hence its nickname, â&#x20AC;&#x153;the new beef.â&#x20AC;? Iron is essential for good health because it helps build bones, muscle proteins, and red blood cells. Furthermore, iron assists red blood cells in carrying oxygen throughout your body. Without enough iron, people can develop anemia, which is why kale makes a great meat substitute for vegetarians. When it come to antioxidants, kaleâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s got other greens beat. Researchers can now
identify over 45 flavonoids â&#x20AC;&#x201C; a powerful antioxidant â&#x20AC;&#x201C; in kale, which provide wonderful anti-inflammatory benefits. Inflammation is the number one cause of arthritis, heart disease, and a number of autoimmune diseases. Since these issues are triggered by the consumption of animal products, it gives us one more great reason to add kale to our diets. At the end of the day, kale might just seem like another leafy salad item, but this super-veggie is more than meets the eye. The consumption of kale provides a wide array of health benefits, and is certainly one amazing superfood.
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With autumn in full swing, you may be tempted to do a little seasonal shopping. However, some items will be at their priciest. To avoid spending more than you should, steer clear of these items in fall.
Tools:
Winter Boots:
Winter Coats:
Winter boots have just arrived, and their prices will be highest.
The weather is getting chilly, but you’ll pay a premium if you buy new in October.
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Whether you’re eyeing a new phone, tablet, camera or computer, this is the time of year when companies release their hot new items, meaning price tags are soaring. Wait until the weeks before Christmas. Look for deals starting on Black Friday.
Wait until the holidays when these items go on special sales.
Wait until January, when the items that didn’t sell will be marked way down.
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The price of tools like power drills and hammers will generally stay constant, but there’s a better time to buy.
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Everyone? That’s impossible you rightfully comment. I agree, it does sound like an outlandish exaggeration. But it’s not. Read on. Have you heard of the “6 seconds Kiss” in a marriage or love affair? Quite simply (though seldom practiced), it is giving your partner several kisses every day that last at least 6 seconds. They are most effectively bestowed when greeting or saying goodbye to your partner if you’re going to be away more than a few hours. It can be to/from a trip; to/from work; or anytime just to show your love. But we’re not talking just about partners, kisses and 6 seconds here. We’re talking about almost everybody, warm gazes and 3 seconds.
You can grant this respectful 3-second gaze to, say, a colleague who enters the room; a cashier who takes your money at the pharmacy; the gas station attendant who comes to your car to pump gas. And, yes, your significant other. Put down that newspaper or rip your eyes away from the tube when he or she returns from having spent some time in the other room. Look lovingly at your partner for at least 3 seconds. (Just don’t get this suggestion mixed up and kiss the gas station attendant for 6 seconds.)
A smile is a facelift that’s in everyone’s price range! Tom Wilson
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Bathrooms
Our bathrooms are vital and central to our lives, yet we often let months and years go by before we return the love they give us. Don’t let another season pass without renewing or upgrading your bath.
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This Rustic Iron Commercial Electric three-light vanity is beautifully crafted in a rustic iron tradition and hand painted with artfully weathered rustic iron finish to give it a classic Old-World charm. The hand-painted glass is finished in antique ivory and will provide a warm illumination to your home. This vanity uses three 60-watt, medium-base bulbs.
The Pegasus Estates 8-inch, 2-handle bathroom faucet in heritage bronze offers an attractive appearance and durability with its brass construction. With a maximum flow rate of 1/5 gallons per minute, this faucet is WaterSense certified to help reduce water use. The faucet’s ceramic disk valves offer great functionality. This ADA-compliant faucet needs 3 holes for installation.
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There is no limit to the power of loving. John Morton
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I like marriage. The idea. Toni Morrison
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Fall heralds beautiful foliage, the start of school and the beginning of the holiday season. It also signals a jump in time, when children are thrown from their routine schedules. Thankfully, there are a few tricks to help keep your child from feeling the effects of this seasonal milestone. Go to bed later If everyone starts heading to bed about half an hour later, when the clock changes you won’t feel the effects as much. If half an hour is too much to start, work in ten minute intervals until you reach the hour goal. Doing this will lead to a smoother transition, will help your child adjust better and will reduce crankiness when time falls back.
Set up a routine
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Your child’s sleep and wake rhythm depends heavily on the sun (and alternately, the dark). Therefore, investing in black-out shades can help block the sun both morning and night, leading to happier, more natural sleep.
All parents know that, despite the steps we take to help our children get used to the time change, they’ll be grumpy no matter what. Expect this and be patient. It’s a part of the season and the inevitable time change.
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Young children thrive on routine. By having one in place, you’ll make the end of Daylight Savings Time much easier. Make sure that dinner, bath and bedtime are consistent to help with the transition. If you opt to make the change cold turkey, a set bedtime routine will be especially helpful.
Adjust nap times Just like bedtime, your child’s nap can be affected by the time change. Adjust naptime as you did for bed time by making it about 30 minutes later than normal. It might be difficult at first to keep your cranky toddler awake, but in the long run it will make things much easier.
Purchase a Good Night Lite For toddlers, invest in a Good Night Lite, which shows a sun during daytime hours when your child will be up and playing, and a moon at night when it’s time to wind down. This is a great visual cue for children! At the end of the day, it’s all about following your child’s cues and working with them to make the switch. Good luck! There is not love where there is no will. Indira Gandhi
Love your
Daughterâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Nursery Whether itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s your first baby or your fourth, decorating a nursery is still a fun and exciting experience. There are plenty of creative ways to brighten the nursery for your new bundle of joy. From simple, classic designs to more opulent options, we provide some of our favorite ideas for a little girlâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s nursery. By Kristy Watt Shabby Chic
The Great Outdoors
This style isnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t just for living rooms or dens. Use a shabby chic design to give your little girlâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s nursery a fresh look. Pick up some petite, second-hand lamps from your local antique store, order a few vintage posters, take and print pictures of your favorite flowers (especially roses!) and add white or pale linen curtains to complete the look. You can also include small knickknacks like porcelain vases, pretty jewelry boxes and soft chintz or paisley bedding.
Nature isnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t just for little boys. Bring in elements of the outdoors to make a beautiful girlâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s nursery. Try a dark-colored tree decal for the wall behind the crib and add muted earth tones like green, brown, tan and burgundy throughout the room. A potted indoor plant is another great way to bring the outdoors in. Not too keen on plants inside? Install a flowerbox just outside the babyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s window and plant your favorite flowers for a beautiful view.
Lay It Down
Animal prints like zebra and cheetah are a great design theme for a little girlâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s room. To avoid going too crazy, use animal prints as an accent in a rug, pillow or the boarder of a curtain. This will keep the nursery from looking too cluttered but will add a fun flare to the room!
A rug, that is! A great rug can make a huge difference in a nursery, especially if you use an unusual color, texture or shape. Try shag, chenille or another soft material, or go with a bright color like aqua to really add a pop to the room.
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These days, a lot of people are feeling the stress that comes along with living a full life. With work, family, friends and responsibilities all stacking up, it can be difficult to balance your career and your outside life. Here are some tips to help you get your work-life balance back on track.
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Back on Track By Katie M. Moss Make a Schedule Finding you don’t have enough time to get everything done in a day? Have you tried making a schedule? Often, what we’re most stressed out about is the fact that we don’t have time for all of the things we need to do. While this certainly can be the case, budgeting your time wisely can assure that your most important tasks are completed.
Carve in Some Time for a Workout Exercise is a valuable part of any stress management program. When you break a sweat, you release endorphins into your blood stream. These improve your mood and give you a more positive sense of well-being. Exercise also improves the flow of blood to your brain, which brings additional sugars and oxygen for those times you really need a brain blast. Exercise is also a time when you don’t have to think about work. Instead, simply concentrate on reaching your next mile or doing one more rep. It’s beneficial for your mind and your body. 22 Flourish Magazine | October/2013
Prioritize Taking Time Off
Make a List of What’s Really Important
Have you been saving up your vacation days for years in the hopes that one day you’ll find a suitable time to use them? Often, when employees take vacations, they come back refreshed, and the quality of their work actually improves. In other words, what are you waiting around for? If you feel like you need some time away from work, take it. You deserve it.
In short, prioritize. If you don’t need to get everything done in one day, don’t. Take some free time to relax and reflect, and then start again tomorrow. There’s a large chance that the less stressed you are, the better your work quality will be. If you find yourself listing items that aren’t really important to you or your family’s well-being, consider taking them off of your to-do list all together.
Get Outdoors
Consider the Long-Term
There’s nothing that helps me de-stress better than being outdoors. Whether you decide to take a walk on the beach, hike around your local park or simply walk around the block, take some time to notice the world around you. When you put things in perspective, your problems will seem very small. Need further convincing? Simply look at the stars. There’s a big universe out there.
When people look back on their lives, they often regret the fact that they spent so much of it working. Keep this in mind as you plan your day-to-day. In the long run, you’ll want to remember spending time with your family and friends and participating in activities that you actually enjoy. While it’s true that you have to work to live, you don’t have to live to work.
I may be no better, but at least I am different. Jean-Jacques Rousseau
Institute Stress Management Stress is inevitable, but there are steps you can take to combat it. First, remove all of the people, activities and work from your life that shouldn’t be there. Then, breathe. Remember that you’re only responsible for your own work and your own life. Everyone else’s problems are just that. Finally, take some time for yourself. Whether it’s a few minutes or several hours, revel in it. Treat yourself, and remember just how special and important you are.
Make Technology Serve You, Not the Other Way Around Technology is almost a necessity in this day and age, but don’t let it rule your life. Instead, use it for the things you need to do and spend the rest of your time actually living. Give your friends a call or stop by instead of texting them or writing on their Facebook walls. It’s much more rewarding!
Ah, summer, what power you have to make us suffer and like it. Russell Baker
Take a deep breath, and dive in! Your work-life balance is completely under your own control. Only you can decide how to live your life and keep it from “living” you. There’s no need to work yourself to death, but it’s important to know the value of hard work, as well. Finding a good balance will truly make your life feel worthwhile.
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Home Getting Fit at
Are those extra pounds slowly creeping up on you? For those of us with a jam-packed schedule, squeezing in a workout can quickly fall to the bottom of the list. Luckily, Celsius Director Angeles Burke is here to share her DIY home fitness knowledge, to teach us some dieting dos and don’ts, and to share her number one fitness secret.
Interview by Lauren Douglass
Tell me about working out at home – does it work?
What are the best eating habits to adopt?
Working out at home is a great way to sneak in a workout if you’re short on time. I keep a set of light dumbbells, a long resistance band, ankle resistance bands and a stability ball in my house so that I can train at anytime. The training will only work as hard as you do, so make sure that your intensity and duration mimic the duration and intensity that you would have if you were at a gym.
Eating small portions of food throughout the day will keep you full and satisfied. This will also prevent you from going on an all-out binge and eating everything in sight. Eating a healthy and well balance diet will prevent you from feeling remorse from overeating high calorie foods and it will also help you to not sabotage your own health and fitness efforts.
For outside of the house, what are some of your favorite exercises? Sprints are some of my favorite outdoor workouts. Sprints are a great form of cardio. You can get a great and effective workout in very little time. The explosive nature of each stride is great for toning and shaping your legs. Hiking is also a great activity you can do with friends that will help tighten and sculpt your lower body. At the gym, many people perform exercises on an incline to target their hamstrings and glutes; the hills are Mother Nature’s natural incline. Use the hills to your advantage to sculpt a round backside and target different muscles than you usually do.
What should people NOT do in regards to diet and exercise? Do not starve yourself! Many think that restricting food is the way to lose weight. You may see a rapid weight loss at first, but soon you body will realize that you’re starving it. Then your metabolism will slow down and make it even harder for you to lose weight in the long run. You will also become moody, irritable, lethargic and have difficulty concentrating. None of that sounds like fun. 20 Flourish Magazine | October/2013
What about cardio? Is it important, and can it be done at home? Yes cardio is very important because it will help you maintain cardiovascular health and is a great way to torch off some unwanted calories. You don’t need a treadmill or to even be outdoors to get your cardio in. Before all of my cardio sessions, I drink a Celsius. It is backed by 7 clinical studies to reduce body fat and boost your metabolism. The fact that this product is backed up by science was a huge selling point for me when I first tried it. I also try to wear a heart rate monitor. That way I can gauge how hard I am pushing myself and if I am in my aerobic heart rate zone. I found that when I train without my heart rate monitor, I don’t push myself as hard because I do not have an accurate reading of how hard I am pushing my body. I like to see those numbers for my beats per minute climb.
What about those who want to workout at home, but don’t want to give up their downtime? If you watch a lot of TV, get active during the commercial breaks. Rather than just sit around, start doing squats, jumping jacks, pushups or lunges to get your heart rate going. While it may seem like nothing or like you are not really getting in a workout, remember that every little bit counts and all of those moves will add up.
Love unlocks doors and opens windows that weren’t even there before. Mignon McLaughlin
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Peaceful Paths
Domestic violence is a serious epidemic, but one that is often hidden out of sight. In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Theresa Beachy, Executive Director of Peaceful Paths Domestic Abuse Network Inc., is here to share her message. Interview by Sarah G. Mason
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Learning too soon our limitations, we never learn our powers. Mignon McLaughlin
Why do you think it’s important to educate the community about this issue? I think that it’s twofold. Domestic violence really does impact everyone. People may feel that because they don’t think they know anyone who’s going through a domestic violence situation that it only happens to other people, but the reality is that one in three women is impacted by domestic violence during their lifetime in the United States.
Wow – that’s a pretty staggering number. It’s one of the most prevalent health conditions in the U.S. In fact, the Center for Disease Control actually declared domestic violence an epidemic in 1998, so they’ve been working for the better part of 15 years to figure out how to battle the issue in a way that not only helps the survivors being affected now, but also creates primary prevention programing in order to break the cycle and stop initial instances.
the choice of their partner. Let them know that their behavior is not causal, no more than you can cause a tornado to tear down your house. It’s definitely someone else’s actions that are causing the pain. The second thing is to reassure them that they’re not alone. If they’re not ready to talk about what’s going on in their lives, that’s fine, but at the end of the day we want them to know that there are people who are willing to listen and help, and when they’re ready to seek assistance we’re there for them. We’re not going to judge them and we won’t blame them, and more importantly than any of that we’re not going to ask that question, “Why do you stay?” Because we know why people stay.
Is domestic violence something that can be prevented? I think that the biggest issue that surrounds domestic violence is how you stop it. It’s really about choice. Aggressors choose to engage in tactics that utilize power control and make the person in their intimate relationship do the things they want them to do. The biggest way to stop domestic violence is to hold batterers accountable for their bad choices. These behaviors are criminal acts, and when they engage in these behaviors we need to treat it like the crime that it is.
If you know someone who you suspect may be a victim of domestic violence, what approach should you take? One of the most powerful messages that you can give someone is that it’s not their fault. Whatever they’re going through is truly
It’s amazing that you’re able to help and provide programs for children, too. We have to do a wrap around. The reality is that you can’t just treat one side of the issue because there are so many facets to a family, and you have to be able to ensure that you’re protecting all of that family.
If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, call the toll-free health line at 800-500-1119 or visit the Peaceful Path’s website at PeacefulPaths.org.
Tell me a little about peaceful paths. Peaceful Paths is the state-certified domestic violence center for Alachua County. We provide a wide range of free and confidential services to victims of domestic violence and their children – everything from emergency shelter and a 24-hour health clinic, to outreach services, counseling and support groups, children youth programing, victim advocacy, as well as a wide range of community, education and training programs.
and equality, anger management, and really try to help them see what a healthy relationship looks like.
Upcoming Events Theresa Beachy, Executive Director of Peaceful Paths Domestic Abuse Network Inc.
What: Community march and vigil for peace
Why is that? We know that people stay because they’re afraid to leave. They’re partner has told them, “I’ll kill you if you leave. If you leave I’ll make sure that you never see your children again.” Those are the kinds of messages that are the most destructive.
How does domestic violence affect children, and can they recover from it? The state of Florida actually classifies domestic violence witnessed by a child as child abuse. Our job with children is to reinforce the same messages we reinforce with their mothers, which is that it’s not their fault and there’s nothing that they could have done to stop what happened in their house. We talk to them about how to keep themselves safe if they ever observe something like this again. We try to undo some of the messaging they’ve been exposed to about conflict resolution, respect
Of prosperity mortals can never have enough. Aeschylus
When: Wednesday, October 9 at 4:30 p.m.
Where: The intersection of University Avenue and 13th Street
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Leslie Vernick Interview by Lauren Douglass
The heartache, the fear, the tension – women in destructive marriages haven’t always had a voice, but that’s about to change. Author and therapist Leslie Vernick is here to help women put their feelings into words. In her new book “The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope,” Vernick offers practical, biblical advice to help readers break free from emotional abuse.
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Imagination is at the root of much that passes for love. Gilbert Parker
Tell me a little about your book and what inspired you to write it. I’m a Christian counselor, and I see a lot of people with marriage problems. I was just troubled by some of the bad advice people in destructive marriages receive from their pastors and other counselors. I think there’s a difference between a difficult marriage, a disappointing marriage and a destructive marriage, but often the three are lumped together.
Can you tell me a little about some of the differences between the three marriages that you described? A disappointing marriage happens when you’re married to someone who hasn’t lived up to your expectations. Maybe he isn’t as financially successful as you thought, he’s not as romantic as you wanted or you’re just not feeling as emotionally connected as you would like. It’s not abusive or terrible, but it’s also not wonderful. A difficult marriage is when you have a lot of external stressors. You may have some blended family issues, health problems, financial problems or problems with the in-laws. If a couple is committed to working through these things and is respectful and honest, a difficult marriage doesn’t need to be destructive. A destructive marriage is when one’s personhood has been denied, degraded, disrespected or diminished. There’s usually one person in the relationship who is unfaithful or who lies or who is indifferent. It’s a repeated behavior and there’s really no repentance or change. That’s what makes a marriage destructive, when one person is being abused in the marriage.
If you’re in a disappointing marriage, are there steps you can take to improve it? Absolutely! I wrote a book called “How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong.” I think if you learn to respond in a godly, Christ-centered way when someone does something that you don’t like, it can improve a relationship. You can turn a bad marriage into a better marriage all by yourself by not retaliating, by not paying back evil for evil, by not resorting to some of these tactics yourself.
What should someone do if they find themselves in a destructive marriage? The first thing I encourage people to do when they become aware of the problem is to stop pretending that it’s not what it is. I think many women find it difficult to admit that they’re in a destructive marriage. They’re like a frog in boiling water – they haven’t really seen how bad it is. If you’re going to begin to address this, tell yourself the truth, and the truth is that you’re in a destructive marriage.
What can you do to regain your voice? Get support. One of the things that happens in a destructive marriage is that you begin to isolate yourself because you’re embarrassed by your husband’s behavior, you don’t want people to know what’s happening, or maybe he’s being controlling and doesn’t want you to see your friends. Isolation is a very effective tactic in emotional abuse.
Where should a woman go to get help? There are a lot of resources for women, depending on the amount of abuse that she’s receiving. There are online resources, and most communities have support groups for abused women. She can also call Focus on the Family or the American Association of Christian Counselors who specialize in these areas.
If you’re an abused woman who is used to staying quiet, how can you finally speak up? You can’t always stop someone from doing what they’re doing, but you can stop engaging with that person. I liken it to a
Fashions have done more harm than revolutions. Victor Hugo
dance; when you’ve been dancing with someone for so long and they’re always stepping on your toes, you have to ask yourself, “What’s going on with me that I have allowed myself to be a victim?” Until you understand why you’ve stayed quiet, you aren’t going to be empowered to change. Second, if you’re dancing with someone and don’t like the way they’re dancing with you because they’re hurting your feet, you have to tell them, “I know I’ve been passive, but I have to let you know that this is really unacceptable to me. If you can’t dance with me without stepping on my toes, I’m not going to dance with you anymore.” Once you say that, the relationship has to change. If he wants to dance with her, he’s going to have to dance in a different way.
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Quotes By Kat Freestone
dream a n o p u ve “Never gi e time it h t f o e s u just beca lish it. p m o c c a o t will take nyway.” a s s a p l l i w T hat time
To Live By
Quotes are powerful. We jot them in notebooks, write them in letters and whisper them to ourselves. They give us strength, wisdom and courage. A quote can open your eyes to both beauty and sadness in a single sentence. In the words of writer and poet Jorge Luis Borges, “Life itself is a quotation.” Here are a few of our favorites: His words hold true for all of us. No matter whether you dream of becoming an author, musician, father, cook or businessman, never stop working toward your dreams. They are a part of who you are.
“Speak your truth, even if your voice shakes.” - Maggie Kuhn, American activist, founder of the Grey Panthers movement Kuhn encourages us to be authentic. Don’t follow the crowd when your heart tells you otherwise; you have a voice. Use it.
“Time you e njoy wasting is not waste d time.” - M a r t he T r oly-Curtin , f r o m he r b ook Phrynet te Married
the past, “Do not dwell in the f uture, f o m a e r d t o n do mind on concentr ate the ment.” the present mo - B ud d h a A hero is one who knows how to hang on one minute longer. Novalis
Buddha’s words reach beyond his time. As the hectic days pass, take a moment to forget your regrets of the past, let go of your worries for the future and just enjoy the present.
htingale, g i N l r a E vational i t o m n a c i Amer ut h o r a d n a r e speak Too often, we feel guilty when we put aside our growing to-do lists to surf the web, read a book or lounge around with loved ones. Ignore the advice columns that frown upon idleness; it’s a luxury we’re blessed to have, and we should appreciate it.
“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” - Mae West, American ight actress, singer, playwr and screenwriter
West gives her own rendition of the popular quote “you only live once.” Although the end of our lives is eminent, death is not something to be feared or regretted. Live life right and you will find fulfillment. Flourish Magazine | October/2013 15
Taking Charge By Stella Harbilas, APR
Health of Your
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We may brave human laws, but we cannot resist natural ones. Jules Verne
Women have options when it comes to their health, whether getting screened for breast cancer or deciding on a course of action, should problems arise. While the guidelines for breast cancer screening vary, the need for selfawareness and communication with a trusted physician remains. Under the new healthcare legislation, mammograms (a simple breast x-ray) and other women’s preventive health care are covered with no out-of-pocket expense for most women, a great step toward early detection. According to ACOG (American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists), the five-year survival rate is 98 percent for women whose breast cancer tumors are discovered at their earliest stage, before they are palpable and when they are small and confined to the breast.
‘irregular’ you need to go back and follow up. Mine was irregular and I didn’t follow up.”
your appointments to help you remember what the doctor said,” she advises.
Mary’s cancer developed into a grape-sized tumor that she found during a self-exam. Her surgeon removed the tumor, plus several lymph nodes after discovering microscopic cancer cells in her sentinel node.
According to the American Cancer Society, only 2 to 4 mammograms out of every 1,000 will lead to a cancer diagnosis. If you require more tests, don’t panic. Most women will only need another mammogram. Only 8 to 10 out of 100 of them will need a biopsy, and most of those biopsies will not be cancer. The risk of developing breast cancer increases as you get older, however. More than 75 percent of the breast cancers diagnosed each year are in women older than 50.
“It’s an old cliché, but hugely true. We stress out over little things and forget to take care of ourselves. I wish I had listened and didn’t
“It has kind of been confusing for people, because different organizations came out with different recommendations about breast cancer screening,” said Dr. Joseph S. Iobst of All About Women Ob/Gyn in Gainesville. “We follow ACOG’s instructions and advise a yearly mammogram and clinical breast exam [by a physician], starting at age 40. Women 20 to 29 years old should have a clinical breast exam every one to three years, and we encourage breast self-exams for all women ages 20 and older.” A combination of screening techniques increases your chances of early detection, since breast cancers can vary in the way they present themselves. When it comes to self-exams, it is not as important to do the technique exactly right as it is to know your body. When you become familiar with what your breasts look and feel like, changes will more be obvious. If you suspect a problem, or are not sure, contact your doctor right away. Most breast changes are not cancer, but getting checked can give you and your family peace of mind. “Women have to be their own advocate,” said Mary Rock, who was diagnosed with breast cancer in March 2005, 9 months after having an irregular mammogram. “If you hear
Go for someone who is proud to have you. Frank Ocean
Dr. Iobst says that screening and early detection can definitely make a difference, whether or not you have a family history of breast cancer. But, what if you don’t want to get a yearly mammogram? “If your doctor has evaluated you at low risk, it’s probably fine to go every other year,” he said. “If you are at very high risk, you should have things done differently, such as clinical breast exams every six months and enhanced screening techniques such as MRI. The best thing to do is discuss your risk with your physician.” assume I’d be healthy,” said Mary, a full-time teacher, wife and mother of four now-grown children. After the surgery, Mary was successfully treated with chemotherapy (6 months), followed by radiation (4-6 weeks), and an enzyme pill that blocks the hormone estrogen that contributes to breast cancer growth. She is considered cancer free now, and continues yearly check ups to make sure she stays healthy. “You need a strong support system. If you don’t have that, then reach out to the people around you for help. And take someone with you to
Dr. Iobst encourages women to take steps toward prevention – such as maintaining a healthy weight, not smoking and limiting your alcohol consumption to no more than one drink per day – and to realize that a diagnosis of breast cancer is not the end. There are successful treatments available. Although breast cancer is a frightening reality, women have the power to fight back. Living a healthy lifestyle, asking your doctor to determine your level of risk and getting checked as recommended can go along way toward maintaining your good health.
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Beauty Breast And The
Interview by Lauren Douglass
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I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t need you to remind me of my age. I have a bladder to do that for me. Stephen Fry
Actress and filmmaker Liliana Komorowska has a story to share – one that isn’t her own. In her powerful, award-winning documentary “Beauty and the Breast,” Komorowska shows viewers the reality of breast cancer through the eyes of nine female survivors. Today, Komorowska talks to me about the making of this touching film and the ways it has impacted her life forever. What inspired your documentary? anyone make sense of this I was inspired when I met a woman who had been diagnosed with breast cancer. I looked at her and saw her radiance and beauty; the disease didn’t take it away from her. This woman fought and won. I wanted to find out how she achieved it. I started thinking more and more about the subject because, inside of me, it was a calling. Sometimes you just need to tell a story for the women who don’t have a voice.
How did the making of this documentary affect you personally? This film came at fantastic timing for me. It awoke me to the subject of breast cancer, which is a very hard subject to face. I thought, “This is the challenge that I need at this point in my life, I need to confront this issue. What if it happened to me?” Being a woman makes you very vulnerable to this disease. It creates a real risk, especially in my case because my two grandmothers died of cancer.
How do you feel about the outcome of the film? I am happy with the film. I didn’t know how the world would react to it because it focuses on a very tough subject. When it started to win awards, I was completely surprised. Women and the public embraced it and it had a wonderful reaction, so I’m really looking forward to introducing the film to America and seeing how it does there. What surprised me about it was my own lack of knowledge and ignorance towards the subject prior to filming. I had to do deeper research on the different types of cancer, the forms and stages and grades. The pathology of it is all so complicated! I thought, “How can
when you’re being diagnosed?” For me, I was also really surprised at how the woman all had such an amazing amount of resilience inside. It’s a very uplifting movie [laughs], even though I thought it would be very devastating. It proves that fighters are unwilling to give up hope.
Did you learn anything about human resilience? I learned if there’s a will there’s a way. The paradox of the whole disease is that it touches the deepest layers of your identity, and it allows you to recompose yourself and to transform into a new human being with a new way of living. Just thinking that the end is near, and that you are in fact mortal, can have a huge impact on your life. These women felt like they had changed their life into a better life – a newer life.
What do you think are some of the biggest misconceptions that people can have about breast cancer? That it is a death sentence! It isn’t anymore. People think you shouldn’t talk about it because it’s so depressing and negative. For me, that’s a misconception because these women opened up to me in a beautiful way.
Can you tell me a little about fertility treatments and breast cancer? I touched on that a little bit in the film. A woman named Soraya had in-vitro fertilization, and she feels that it triggered her cancer. More research needs to be done, but I would be very careful with it and say that in-vitro shouldn’t be
Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it. Michelangelo
treated lightly. Talk to your doctor before visiting a fertility clinic, have a full checkup, and then make your decision. Information is power.
Are there things that women can do to prevent breast cancer? The most radical form of prevention is the double mastectomy when you don’t have cancer. Now that Angelina Jolie came out with her story about the BRCA-1 gene, I decided to put that segment into the film to show women that there are preventative measures that can be taken. For some women, this procedure diminishes their risk from 86 percent to five percent chance of being diagnosed.
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The Best Halloween
Costumes for Kids That Won’t Break the Bank By Kristy Wyatt
For kids, Halloween is a clear favorite. Not only do they get tons of free candy, but it’s an entire day dedicated to dress-up and imagination. While there are hundreds of different costume options to choose from, storebought getups can be expensive. To help, we’ve picked a few of our favorite, budget-friendly costumes that your kids (and your wallet) are sure to love! A Ghastly Ghost: This costume is perfect for small children who need something quick and simple. To make a ghost costume, cut two holes in a plain white sheet and throw it on! If you want to make a more elaborate costume, buy tulle or flimsy gauze for a “fancy” ghost. For young children, it’s better to cut out a hole for their entire head – no need to let little feet trip and fall! A Pretty Princess: What little girl doesn’t have a pretty dress-up gown that she wears around the house as she plays? It’s both cheap and easy to turn a dress-up gown into a princess costume. Purchase a sparkling tiara and a wand from your local dollar store, and then add a pair of thick pink ballet tights – especially if it’s chilly! Last, dig in mommy’s makeup drawer for some red lipstick to top it off. A Silly SpongeBob: Does your little boy just love the yellow sponge who lives under the sea? Easy! Take a plain yellow shirt and use a fabric marker to draw SpongeBob’s cartoon face on the front (don’t forget the long nose and two buck teeth!) Then, draw different sized holes all over and color them in. You can even get the little man to help. A Strong Superman: There’s a reason this classic hero is still popular with kids today: he’s handsome, he’s strong and he’s the ultimate good guy! If your son is hoping for a Superman costume this year but you don’t want to spend the money on a full-blown 8
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costume, there’s an alternative: buy a blue sweat suit and a bit of red fabric from your local Walmart. Fill the arms of the sweat suit with rolled up socks, tie the red fabric around his neck for the cape, and you’re set! A Fantastic Fairy: Whether she wants to be Tinkerbell, the tooth fairy or a wood sprite, the solution is simple: pick a color scheme (green for Tinkerbell and the wood sprite, white and blue for the tooth fairy) and use hot glue to attach faux leaves onto a plain shirt. Add pretty spray-on glitter to give her that truly magical feel. A Cool Quiddich Player: Harry Potter fans – both children and parents – love the idea of entering the magical world and becoming a Quiddich player. On Halloween, you can! Dress up in a pair of black pants, a white shirt and a long cape. And of course, don’t forget the broomstick!
This year, enjoy all the magic and wonder of Halloween – without breaking the bank! My dear friend, clear your mind of can’t. Samuel Johnson
For kids, there’s nothing quite like racing from house to house, holding out candy buckets and watching the sweets pile up. And yet, let’s not forget our manners! Here are some simple trick-or-treating rules to go over with your kids: Please and Thank You It can be easy for kids to forget this simple rule, especially if your neighbors aren’t handing out their favorite treats. Remind your kids to be appreciative, no matter what is dropped in their buckets.
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The quickest route between any two points is a straight line, and no one knows this better than kids on Halloween. However, your neighbors might not appreciate little feet trampling their grass. Remind your kids to use the sidewalks.
By Sarah G. Mason Butting in Line Patience is a virtue. When waiting on the doorstep for candy, encourage your child to pick a spot in line – and to stay there.
Introductions When kids are dressed like little monsters, they may not think to introduce themselves – they’re pretending to be someone else, after all! However, it’s still polite for your children to introduce themselves; neighbors will appreciate the courtesy.
Happy Trick-or-Treating!
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Have patience with all things, but first of all with yourself. Saint Francis de Sales
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Treat By Sarah G. Mason
There are reasons kids can’t wait for Halloween: the fun costumes, the spooky surprises and of course, the candy. And yet, as we see a trend towards a more health-conscious America, it’s likely that you’ll want to put a cap on your kids’ sugar binge this October 31st. Non-Candy Treats Instead of handing out sugar-coated sweets, why not opt for some non-edible alternatives? Halloween-themed stickers, coloring books, plastic jewelry, temporary tattoos, glow sticks and vampire teeth are all great, inexpensive alternatives that can help inspire children’s imaginations.
Smart Goodies The school year is still fresh and kids just can’t get enough of cool new school supplies. Stock up on some Halloweenthemed pens, rulers, erasers and pencils. It’s a practical way to replace the sugar!
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Sweet Snacks Looking for a yummy treat that’s a little better for tiny tummies? Try these fun apple “bites.” Cut an apple into fourths and then slice out a wedge from the peel-side to make the mouth. Last, press slivered almonds into the apple flesh to make teeth. It’s a spooky treat your kids will love!
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Sugar-Free Fun Let’s admit it, everyone wants something yummy to chew as we venture from house to house on Halloween. Opt for sugar-free candy or gum as a health-friendly alternative to the sweet stuff. Not only is it just as tasty, but it’s better for children’s chompers!
Everything in Moderation Of course, we don’t recommend that you ban candy completely – it is Halloween,
after all! Besides, when your child returns home with a bucket full of sweeties, not many have the heart to dump it down the drain. Instead, allow your child to choose a few pieces to eat each night, or save the candy as a reward for good behavior.
October 31st isn’t all about candy. If we focus on the traditions, costumes and time with friends and family, we can work toward a healthier Halloween!
Nature is in austere mood, even terrifying, withal majestically beautiful. Frederick Soddy
Well, hello again! With homemade costumes, creepy crafts and trick or treating abound, this Halloween is sure to kick off the holiday season right. Make some mini ghost cupcakes with the kids or check out our ideas for healthy Halloween treats – both are sure to bring a smile to your little goblins’ faces! Of course, October isn’t all about dressing up and collecting candy. In honor of National Breast Cancer Awareness Month, we take a walk to Make Strides Against Breast Cancer and invite Liliana Komorowska to discuss her emotional documentary, “Beauty and the Breast.” Speaking of walks, this beautiful weather gives you no excuse not to get up, get out and enjoy all that October has to offer. We wish you crisp days, warm cups of cider and lots of holiday fun!
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What’s Inside… 5 Fabulous Fall: Easy Ways to Brighten Your Home 6 Trick or Treat 8 Best Halloween Costumes for Kids That Won’t Break the Bank 9 Trick-or-Treating Etiquette 10 Beauty and the Breast 15 5 Quotes to Live By 16 Leslie Vernick
18 Peaceful Paths 20 Getting Fit at Home 21 Gear to Get you Fit 22 How to Get Your Work-Life Balance Back on Track 24 Time Challenge: Prepare Your Baby for the Switch 25 Love Your Daughter’s Nursery 30 What NOT to Buy in October
31 T he 3-Second Trick to Connect with Everyone 32 Kale 33 Love Rekindled: PB & J 34 Events: October 36 Sleep Quiz 37 Creepy Crafts for the Kids 38 Happy Holidays 39 Mini-Ghost Cupcakes
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My life is every moment of my life. It is not a culmination of the past. Hugh Leonard
Fabulous Fall Easy Ways to Brighten Your Home By Katie M. Moss Summer is now a thing of the past, but that doesn’t mean we don’t still feel its presence. As you look around your home, are you surrounded by beach-themed decorations, patio furniture and summer hues? If so, perhaps it’s time for a change. Autumn is here, and your home could use a bit of brightening up! Bring the Outdoors In: Okay, let’s admit it – it’s time to put those seashell decorations away. Luckily, there are plenty of easy ways you can bring nature indoors this fall. Gourds, pumpkins and other natural elements are a great way to spruce up your home. Cluster these fruits on your table with a little ribbon to make an eye-catching centerpiece, or place them just inside your entryway for all your visitors to see. In addition, bring the outdoors in by including seasonally-appropriate plants like sunflowers to your décor. Embrace the Power of Sunlight: Natural sunlight is a great mood-booster, and luckily, it’s free! Instead of shutting yourself off from the world this autumn, why not keep that easy-breezy summer feeling and lift your drapes and blinds? This way, you’ll get to enjoy a few fall colors outside of your window, should nature decide to gift you with them! Clasp Onto Fall Colors: When you think of the fall season, gold, deep red and brown may come to mind. When it’s time to decorate, these kinds of colors can really put you in the autumn mood. Choose an elegant bronze color to accent your dining room for a calm, yet formal atmosphere. For Love is like a faucet, it turns off and on. Billie Holiday
a pop of color, add a bright red centerpiece – your table will really stand out! And don’t stop at the dining room. Choose colorful throw pillows for your couch and add wine-colored accents to your bedroom. Let these colors flow throughout your home, using the neutrals with pops of orange and red for a bold look. Rethink Room Assignments: Instead of simply rearranging and redecorating your rooms, why not switch things up? Open up areas in your home to new purposes in order to breathe life into your space. Turn an empty bedroom into a cozy reading corner or switch your unused dining room into your main eating space. When autumn is over, you can return the rooms to normal, but it will give you a tradition to look forward to in years to come! Reinvent the Fall Wreath: The fall wreath has been a staple in homes for as long as we can remember, but it doesn’t have to be boring or dowdy. Buy a few simple supplies like acorns, pine cones and big, beautiful ribbon, and with a little glue, voilà! You have a handmade wreath that you will cherish for years to come.
Fall for Trendy Fabrics: In addition to grabbing up the hottest fall colors, why not invest a bit in some fall fabrics and patterns? If you’ve got the creative touch, reupholstering your dining chairs with men’s wear fabrics like houndstooth or covering your pillows or couch with the same can really add a fun fall flair. Go Front Door-Crazy: Why keep all your fall fun indoors? Your front door and porch are great places to show your personality this fall. Add some pumpkins, a few hay bales and plants with fall colors to celebrate the season. As an added bonus, these can also double as understated Halloween decorations.
Remember, when decorating, sometimes less is more. You may just need a small “pop” of fall color in your spaces to keep them seasonally-appropriate. As always, decorating is all about the details, and adding even the smallest autumn elements is sure to brighten up your space and your guests’ faces. Have fun decorating and embrace the fall season! Flourish Magazine | October/2013
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