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Tasty Holiday Treats
Hosting a holiday gathering this year? We have some delicious dessert ideas that will add a touch of sweetness to your Christmas, Hanukkah, or Kwanzaa celebration.
Mini Strawberry Santas
You can easily make these little strawberry Santas for a Christmas party or a last-minute holiday dessert. All you need are a pint of fresh, hulled strawberries, some whipped cream, and chocolate sprinkles! Cut the hulled-side strawberries so they can stand on a plate and slice the tip off each strawberry to make Santa’s hat. Whipped cream is used to create Santa’s face, a pom-pom for his hat, and buttons on his coat. Sprinkles are used on the face for eyes. Barbara at Allrecipes gives us the full directions at allrecipes.com/recipe/235722/mini-strawberry-santas/
Reindeer Pops
This sweet and savory treat comes from Erin at The Pioneer Woman. These adorable treats will get all the kids in your family excited! The pops are made from peanut butter stuffed crackers that are covered in melted chocolate, then decorated to look like your favorite red-nosed character. Let the kids help you out by making the reindeer faces with candy eyeballs, red M&Ms for the nose, and broken up mini pretzel sticks for the antlers. Check out the directions at thepioneerwoman.com/food-cooking/ recipes/a38389339/reindeer-pops-recipe/
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Nickelodeon and VStar Entertainment Group proudly present PAW Patrol Live! “A Mighty Adventure” for three performances at Shea’s Buffalo Theatre on Saturday, May 10, 2025. This all-new live stage show picks up where Paramount Pictures’ #1 box office hit PAW Patrol: The Mighty Movie left off, promising a high-stakes super-powered adventure for fans of all ages. Audiences will join the “PAW-some” pack in Adventure City and witness the pups charged up like never before, as they work together to super-save the day. With heroic action, catchy tunes, and “bark-loads” of interactive fun, this electrifying new experience is sure to leave tails wagging and audiences cheering!
Rugelach are filled, miniature crescent-rolled pastries that originated in the Jewish communities of Poland and they are a popular treat for Hanukkah. A homemade cream cheese dough is often the basis for this confection, but Steve Jackson at the Food Network has the easiest method to make Rugelach using just refrigerated pie crust, your favorite fruit flavored jam, and white and blue coarse sugar. Get the full recipe at foodnetwork.com/recipes/food-network-kitchen/ rugelach-11959203
Chocolate Fruit Cake for Kwanzaa
PAW Patrol Live! “A Mighty Adventure” follows Chase, Marshall, Skye and the rest of the pack after they save Adventure City with their Mighty Pup Powers. Now it’s time for the “PAW-some-est” street party ever. But when supervillain scientist Victoria Vance feels left out of the festivities, she unleashes her latest invention to crash the party and steal the spotlight for herself! Can the Mighty Pups, armed with their super-charged powers, outsmart Victoria to ensure Adventure City’s biggest bash goes off without a hitch? It’ll take the power of paw-sitivity and mighty teamwork to foil her plans and keep the party pumping!
Fruit is an important part of Kwanzaa celebrations because the holiday honors African harvest festivals and the giving of thanks for the first fruits of the season. This Chocolate Fruit Cake recipe, perfect for Kwanzaa, is a stunning, delectable dessert that brings together rich layers of chocolate cake, a bright citrus filling, and thin slices of fresh fruit. For full step-by-step instructions, visit hersheyland.com/recipes/chocolate-fruitcake-for-kwanzaa.html
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Manage Holiday Stress: 7 Practical Tips for Parents
— by Rebecca Hastings
The holiday season is magical—twinkling lights, excited kids, family traditions, and the joy of giving and receiving gifts. But for many parents, this time of year also brings a side dish of stress. The pressure to make everything perfect, ensure everyone is happy, and handle the demands of work, family, and holiday events can overwhelm even the most organized parents.
If you’ve ever found yourself frantically wrapping gifts at midnight, hopping from website to website in search of that one hard-to-find toy, or mentally running through a list of forgotten to-dos while trying to enjoy a holiday dinner, you’re not alone. Managing holiday stress as a parent can feel like an uphill battle, but it doesn’t have to steal your joy. By focusing on what truly matters and letting go of perfectionism, you can embrace the holiday season with less stress and more meaning.
Here’s how you can manage holiday stress and actually enjoy the magic this season brings:
LET GO OF PERFECTION
One of the biggest holiday stressors is the unrealistic expectation of perfection. Whether it’s the perfect decorations, the ideal family photos, or flawlessly executed meals, it’s easy to feel like you have to meet an impossible standard. But the truth is, perfection isn’t what makes the holidays special. It’s the memories, the laughter, and the shared experiences that will stand out to your kids. Instead of stressing over getting every detail right, embrace imperfection. The cookies might burn, the lights might not hang evenly, and your kids might refuse to wear their matching Christmas pajamas, but it’s all part of the charm. Let your kids see you relax and enjoy the process. Trust me, they won’t remember the little things that went wrong, but they’ll remember how much fun they had with you.
Tip: When things don’t go as planned, take a deep breath and laugh it off. Show your kids that it’s okay when things aren’t perfect—it’s part of what makes life fun and interesting!
CREATE MEANINGFUL, LOW-STRESS TRADITIONS
Traditions are a wonderful part of the holiday season, but they don’t have to be extravagant or stressful to be meaningful. Think about the simple things your family enjoys and turn them into cherished traditions. This could be anything from decorating the tree together, making homemade ornaments, or watching a favorite holiday movie as a family.
The key is to keep it simple and fun. You don’t need to be in matching outfits while sipping hot cocoa to enjoy a movie together. Focus on a few meaningful traditions that bring joy to your family without overwhelming you. Your kids will cherish these moments far more than an overloaded schedule of events.
Tip: Ask your family what their favorite holiday activities are and let them guide which traditions you keep and which ones you might let go. You’ll be surprised how often the simplest traditions are the most treasured.
SET REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS (FOR YOURSELF AND OTHERS)
It’s easy to get caught up in the pressure to make everyone happy—your kids, your spouse, your extended family, and even yourself. But setting unrealistic expectations is a recipe for stress. This holiday season, give yourself the gift of setting realistic expectations.
Remember, it’s okay if not everything gets done. You don’t have to attend every party, host every dinner, or buy every
single person in your life a thoughtful, Pinterest-worthy gift. Prioritize what matters most to you and your family, and let the rest go. By setting boundaries and focusing on a few key priorities, you’ll feel more in control and less overwhelmed.
Tip: Before the holiday season kicks into full swing, sit down with your partner and discuss what’s truly important to your family. Make a list of your top priorities and set boundaries for how much time, money, and energy you’re willing to spend on different activities.
DELEGATE AND ACCEPT HELP
As parents, we often feel like we have to do everything ourselves, but this can quickly lead to burnout. Don’t be afraid to delegate tasks to your spouse, older kids, or even other family members. Whether it’s asking your partner to handle the gift wrapping, getting your kids involved in decorating, or assigning dishes for family potlucks, sharing the workload can help reduce stress.
One of the best things my family did was start a secret stocking exchange. Each person in my house picks a name out of a hat and they are responsible for filling that person’s stocking. I give each person $20 to shop. On Christmas morning, everyone has fun trying to guess who filled their stocking.
Tip: Create a family to-do list and assign tasks to each person. Make it fun by turning certain chores into a game or rewarding the kids with holiday-themed treats for their help.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
It’s easy to get so caught up in taking care of everyone else that you forget to take care of yourself. But the truth is, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking care of your own physical and mental well-being is essential to keeping holiday stress in check.
Make sure you’re getting enough sleep, staying hydrated, and eating well during the holiday season. And don’t be afraid to carve out a little “me time.” Whether it’s a quiet cup of coffee in the morning, a walk around the block, or a few minutes of meditation, taking time to recharge will help you feel more balanced and less frazzled.
Tip: If you’re feeling overwhelmed, step outside for some fresh air. Even just a few minutes of alone time can help you reset and approach the rest of your day with a clearer mind.
REMEMBER WHAT MATTERS MOST
Amid all the busyness, it’s easy to lose sight of what really matters during the holidays—spending time with the people you love. The presents, parties, and decorations are all secondary to the joy of being together. When you start to feel the stress building, take a step back and remind yourself what’s truly important.
Kids don’t need a perfect holiday; they need a present, joyful parent who’s engaged and excited to share the season with them. So, let go of the pressure to make everything “just right” and focus on creating memories with your family.
Tip: If you start to feel overwhelmed, stop and ask yourself: “Will this matter a year from now? Or will my kids remember how we laughed together, even when things didn’t go as planned?” Shifting your perspective can help reduce stress and refocus on what’s truly important.
PRACTICE GRATITUDE
Gratitude is a powerful tool for reducing stress, and it’s especially meaningful during the holiday season. Take time each day to reflect on the things you’re thankful for, whether it’s a quiet moment with your kids, a warm home, or the chance to celebrate with loved ones. Practicing gratitude can help shift your focus away from the things that cause stress and toward the blessings in your life.
Tip: At the dinner table, ask each family member to share one thing they’re thankful for that day. It’s a quick and easy way to bring gratitude into your holiday routine.
KEEP THE JOY IN THE HOLIDAYS
Managing holiday stress as a parent is all about balance. It’s about letting go of perfection, setting realistic expectations, and focusing on what matters most—spending time with your loved ones. By embracing the beauty of imperfection, simplifying your traditions, and taking care of yourself, you can reduce stress and enjoy the magic of the season.
This holiday, give yourself permission to relax, savor the little moments, and create memories that will last a lifetime. Your kids won’t remember the perfectly wrapped gifts or the gourmet meals, but they will remember the love, laughter, and joy you shared as a family. That’s the real magic of the holidays.
Rebecca Hastings is a former elementary teacher who traded the classroom for writing when she stayed home with her three children. Passionate about authenticity, faith, and family, you can find her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Amazon. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate.
— by Terri Lilga
The Heart of the Holidays:
3 Tips for Teaching Kids the Joy of Giving to Others
The holidays are a festive, almost magical time of year where your senses come alive to the sights, scents, sounds, tasteful treats, and hands-on activities that vie for your attention. Families step up from busy to busier with decorating their homes both inside and out, shopping, wrapping, baking, planning, and attending special events.
It is a time for reconnecting and bonding on a more personal level with family and friends, sharing faith, traditions, and good cheer. However, with all of the hustle and bustle of striving to get your Holidays “just right,” the true meaning of why we are celebrating in the first place can get lost amidst the sparkling lights and joyful music.
The “Heart of the Holidays” isn’t found in a colorfully wrapped gift-box or tissue paper accented gift-bag. It isn’t delivered by an Amazon truck driver. And, it certainly isn’t a gift that one can exchange or return for a refund. It is, however, something unique in that the more you share it with others, the more it enriches you. And it’s free — neither
‘Membership or Annual Renewal’ fees are required for you and your family to join this “club.”
The Heart of the Holidays is found in the Spirit of Generosity.
Qualities of generosity include kindness, thoughtfulness, selfless ness, and being mindful of others. It most often involves a simple act that can be almost effortless for you, but can make a significant im pact on another person’s day.
Generos ity is given freely without any expectation of reciprocation. At its best, it is shared in a relational rather than transaction al spirit. It isn’t stamped with an expiration date; but it does seem to hold an unspoken invitation to “Pay It Forward.” And it can be as spontane
ous as paying for the stranger’s cup of coffee who is behind you in line at your favorite coffee shop.
As a former elementary school educator, it was always heartwarming for me to observe how eagerly my young students wanted to step in to help one another and even “help” me do whatever they could.
Kids have an innate sense of wanting to help and please. What a wonderful opportunity then, to show them by your everyday actions what generosity looks like and sounds like; to guide them to build their “spirit of generosity muscles” at an early age. You could very likely be planting the seeds for generosity to become a multi-generational way of life in your family.
Further, kids can participate with you in practically all of the ways you choose to be generous. Donating to a food bank? Children can add your donations to the bins. Sending a card to cheer up a neighbor? Include a picture your child has drawn specifically for them. Assembling holiday care packages with other Church members to help struggling families or community members who are alone? Invite your kids along to help while they learn some organizational and sorting skills in the process.
Generosity facilitates active and interactive participation between community members which leads to a stronger community. It generates the power of connection while modeling for others how to give and receive graciously.
The greatest gift we can give to others is ourselves and our time. Be encouraged to think beyond traditional gifts and consider some of these practical, impactful ways to give back to others during this holiday season…and beyond.
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Iam Jewish. My husband was raised Presbyterian, considers himself atheist, and until he met me, had never known a Jewish person. So, it was with some trepidation and a few drinks that I told him if he was serious about me, he would have to let me raise our possible children Jewish. Never mind that I wasn’t positive I wanted kids and we’d known each other all of two weeks. I was sure of two things: Dan was awesome and I had no time to date a guy I’d never marry.
He asked me what having Jewish children would look like. I wasn’t sure. Seven years and two children later, I’m still winging it. But I had to answer the question, so I started with the one thing I was sure of.
We would not have a Christmas tree.
It’s hard for me to articulate what it means to be a Jew. It’s much easier to say what being a Jew is not. For me, being Jewish is not celebrating Christmas. As a kid, being Jewish at Christmas time meant feeling the pain of being different.
In the second grade, my well-meaning teacher handed my homework back with a sticker, a symbol of a job well done. I don’t remember what the sticker was, only that it was different than the red and green Christmas stickers that adorned my friends’ papers. I wanted a candy cane, an elf, or a Santa hat, too. My sticker was no doubt cute, but to me, it was an ugly stamp of my otherness.
I used to dread holiday season small talk. I remember being ten years old, lying on my dentist’s mustard yellow chair for a cleaning, sometime between Thanksgiving and Christmas. Inevitably, my friendly dentist asked the dreaded question, “What are you asking Santa for this year?” When he removed his instruments from my mouth, I replied, “Nothing.” I did not care to elaborate, and my tone conveyed that. Above his mask, his eyes betrayed shock. After an awkward pause, my mom looked up from her magazine and explained with an apologetic smile, “We’re Jewish.”
In high school I attended an all-girls Quaker prep school. Although none of the students were Quaker, practically none were Jewish, either. Aside from being the only one in my class to miss
— by Pam Moore
Why We Don’t Have a Christmas Tree
school on Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, my Jewishness was a non-issue. Until the school replaced the time-honored Christmas Vespers pageant with the politically correct Lumina celebration. I was thrilled. I wouldn’t have to sing about the birth of our lord Jesus Christ anymore. No longer would I feign excitement over the tradition I secretly loathed. I never told my classmates I was invited to be one of few student representatives on the Lumina advisory committee. When talk at the lunch table turned to the tragic loss of the beloved ritual, I kept my mouth shut. I don’t blame 17-year-old me for prioritizing fitting in over defending my identity.
As a kid, I wanted a Christmas tree, badly. I was thrilled when a friend’s family invited me to help decorate their tree. I would daydream about what kind of tree I’d get if I were Christian (real, not fake) and how I’d decorate it (with rainbow lights, no tinsel). Even now, when we go to my in-laws for Christmas, I selfishly wish their tree were more festive.
Now that I’m an adult, I can have a tree. I can have any kind of tree I want. I
can dress it up as fancy as a prom queen if I feel like it. But like I tell myself before taking a bite of my daughter’s leftover chicken nuggets, “Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.” Because for me, the presence—or absence—of a Christmas tree in my living room is about much more than home décor. It’s a public declaration of who I am and what matters to me.
I am a Jew. I am the great-granddaughter of Jews who fled Pogroms in Eastern Europe and came to this country with nothing, hoping for a better life.
As a kid, I have fond memories of sneaking out of services with my brother and my friends for epic games of hideand-seek spanning our entire synagogue and its grounds. I remember breaking the Yom Kippur fast at my grandmother’s house, the dining room table covered with food; a heaping bowl of warm, fresh bagels alongside platters of lox and cream cheese, my great-aunt’s noodle kugel with Cornflake cereal topping, and my mother’s chopped liver. I remember three generations of grandparents, greataunts, great uncles, and cousins, taking
AHoliday Travel Hacks:
10 Tips Every Parent Needs
h, holiday travel—the time of year when families pile into cars, board planes, or hop on trains in pursuit of creating magical memories. But let’s be honest: traveling with kids during the holiday season can feel more like surviving a marathon than strolling through a winter wonderland. Between the crowded airports, unexpected traffic jams, and the endless barrage of “Are we there yet?” it’s easy to feel overwhelmed.
But you can make holiday travel feel easier! With a little planning and some practical tips, you can actually enjoy the trip, and maybe even make it through without too many meltdowns (from the kids or from you!)
Here’s how to make your holiday travel experience a little less stressful and a lot more joyful:
1. START EARLY WITH PLANNING
Give yourself plenty of time to prepare. Book flights or accommodations well in advance, and plan out routes if you’re driving. Traveling during off-peak times, like early morning, can help avoid crowds and delays. Also consider places to stop and stretch little legs, playgrounds to get some energy out, and bathroom breaks!
2. PACK SMART, BUT LIGHT
Pack only the essentials and avoid overpacking. Bring versatile clothing, a few key toys or activities, and plenty of snacks. Having a lighter load makes it easier to move around, especially in busy airports or rest stops.
3. CREATE A “GO BAG”
Keep a small bag with must-have items like wipes, snacks, hand sanitizer, a change of clothes, and small toys. This will help you handle quick needs without digging through all your luggage. Make sure this bag is easily accessible under the airplane seat or near the front of the car.
4. USE TECHNOLOGY WISELY
Yes, we all want to limit screen time, but let’s be real— sometimes, that tablet is a lifesaver. Especially on long trips. Download kid-friendly movies, games, or audiobooks to keep children entertained during long stretches. Bring headphones and chargers to avoid low battery stress, and balance screen time with other activities.
5. BRING COMFORT ITEMS
Pack a familiar blanket, stuffed animal, or pillow to help your kids feel more at ease in new environments. These comfort items can also be useful for naps on the go. Just be sure to keep it with you and always have an extra at home in case one gets left behind.
6. PREPARE FOR MESSES
Expect spills and accidents. Pack extra wipes, zip-lock bags for dirty clothes, and easily washable clothing to make quick cleanups easier. Even an extra shirt for mom and dad can be a lifesaver for long travel days when unexpected messes happen.
7. TIME TRAVEL AROUND SLEEP
Whenever possible, plan trips around nap or bedtime to make traveling easier. A travel pillow, a small blanket, and even a portable white noise machine can help recreate some of the comforts of their usual sleep environment. Kids may fall asleep on planes or in the car, reducing restlessness and making the trip a bit easier for everyone.
8. KEEP SNACKS HANDY
Kids get cranky when they’re hungry. Bring a variety of snacks like fruit, crackers, and granola bars. Healthy, familiar options can help keep energy up and avoid sugar crashes. Just be sure to follow all TSA food guidelines for air travel.
— by Rebecca Hastings
9. MAKE IT FUN
Incorporate games like “I Spy” or travel bingo into your journey to keep kids entertained. An activity book or dry-erase board can be an easy travel companion that keeps kids happy. Offering small surprises or new toys at intervals can also break up long trips and keep spirits high.
10. STAY CALM AND FLEXIBLE
Expect delays and changes. Stay patient and positive, as your mood can influence how your kids react to disruptions. Focus on making the experience fun, even if it’s not perfect. Calm parents make for calmer kids.
IT WON’T BE PERFECT — AND THAT’S OKAY!
Holiday travel with kids doesn’t have to be a nightmare. With a little planning, some flexibility, and a few handy tricks up your sleeve, you can turn what might feel like a chaotic adventure into a meaningful, fun experience for everyone.
So go ahead, parents—embrace the journey, make new traditions, and savor the moments, messy as they may be. After all, the holidays are all about spending time together, wherever you may be. Safe travels!
THE HEART OF THE HOLIDAYS
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Give Time and Acts of Service: Children can volunteer at a local shelter, food bank, library, or participate in a community clean up or donation drive. In addition to developing a sense of social responsibility, volunteering teaches children the joy of sharing their time with others.
Sharing Moments of Gratitude: Encourage kids to share something they are grateful for each day of the holiday season and to find ways to express their gratitude to the people around them — whether through a conversation at dinner, a handwritten note, or perhaps keeping a daily “grateful” calendar.
Spreading Kindness Within the Community: Create “holiday kindness challenges” where kids are encouraged to complete acts of generosity like donating toys, giving compliments, or baking treats for local workers.
Children learn by example. Given consistent opportunities to practice generosity is an invaluable asset for kids to practice now and as they grow into adulthood. Why is nurturing generosity in our children important? Simply stated, every act of generosity helps to shape our world in a positive way.
Terri Lilga, a retired elementary school teacher from Western New York, lives in the Village of Hamburg with her husband Pete and their mini-golden doodle, Sushi. Following her teaching career, she rekindled her passion for writing children’s literature, including “Santa’s Simon” and her upcoming book “There’s a Hubbard in My Cupboard” (2025), both sharing messages of courage and kindness.
turns reading the Haggadah at the Passover Seder, while my brother and I joked in whispers at the kids’ table. I remember getting together with Jewish family friends who were as much family as blood relatives, every Christmas Eve for Chinese food and ice cream sundaes. I remember going on a teen tour to Israel and feeling totally at home with 40 teenagers I’d never met before, an ocean away from my parents.
I also remember the deep longing I felt for a Christmas tree and a stocking full of Lip Smackers and scrunchies every December.
But if I had the chance, I wouldn’t trade that longing for the fulfillment of my childhood wishes, because the sum of all these experiences have shaped my values. I believe it’s more important to be who I am than to be like everyone else, even when it’s uncomfortable. If I can pass that belief on to my daughters, I will have given them a greater gift than anything I could put under a Christmas tree.
This article was originally published on Motherly.
Pam Moore is an award-winning freelance writer, intuitive eating coach, and host of the Real Fit podcast. Get her free guide to improving your body image at pam-moore.com
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A Holiday Gift Guide
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Music Together is the world-renowned early childhood music and movement program for children birth through age 8 and the grownups who love them. This incredible curriculum has been offered for over 35 years and is loved by families around the world. Ongoing research guarantees a high quality, educational and fun experience in our classroom at Harlem Road Community Center. Join our musical community and make musical memories with us! Tuition includes weekly classes, CD and digital downloads, illustrated songbook, and online access to videos, activity pages and more! Gift certificates available.
This holiday season, give a gift that speaks from the heart with Embrace the Difference®. Created by Robyn Zimmer, inspired by her journey as a mother to a child with special needs, Embrace the Difference® promotes kindness, acceptance, and connection. Each piece, featuring the iconic interconnected circles and square, symbolizes that we are all connected. Shop Embrace the Difference® at REEDS JENSS this December, where a percentage of sales will benefit People Inc., or shop online to support the 501(c)(3) of your choice through Shopping Gives. Make a meaningful impact, one purchase at a time.
Federal Meats
With 9 WNY Locations to serve you. Call 716-633-1390 for the nearest location. www.federalmeats.com
WNY’s one-stop toy shopping experience! An independently-owned toy store celebrating over 100 years. Stop by one of Clayton’s two locations where you’ll find gifts, toys, games, novelties, and nostalgia for children of all ages! We have a vast selection of baby items, books, dolls, stuffed animals and puppets, science kits, art supplies, crafts, puzzles, building toys, trucks, and more! The incredible staff is here to help you find that perfect holiday gift and offers complimentary gift wrapping and shipping. There is something for everyone at Clayton’s Toys, so come on in and experience it for yourself!
Designing Dish
138 Grey Street, East Aurora • 716-655-4456 www.designingdish.com
Everyone is an artist at Designing Dish – a paint your own pottery store featuring Glass Fusing. Create make and take gifts from christmas trees to ornaments. We have those special projects that everyone will always remember. Open for walk-ins, ladies nights, and accepting reservations for private parties. Celebrate the Holiday Season by visiting us in the historic village of East Aurora. Follow us on Facebook and Instagram.
Give The Gift of Good Taste! Enjoy this real old-time butcher shop, where meat professionals assist customers one-on-one in selecting their meats, poultry, deli and seafood. Here is where you can have your favorite items cut and wrapped to your specification. Their large deli section includes a full signature line of freshly prepared dinner entrées and appetizers to choose from. Federal Meats specializes in friendly knowledgeable service where phone orders are always welcome. Federal Meats accepts Cash, Master Card, Visa, Discover and EBT. Holiday Gift Certificates, Steak & Meat Packages are also available for year-round gift giving. Follow us on Facebook & Instagram - @federal_meats.
Gymnastics Unlimited
70 Weiss Ave., W. Seneca/Orchard Park • 716-677-0338
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GYMNASTICS will keep your child moving all winter! No need to be a member for these programs that are open to the public, to burn off that winter energy: FUN & GAME NIGHTS!!! Dec. 7, Mar. 1, Apr. 5. Call for more info. Toddler time on Wednesday from 12:15-1pm for 5 yrs & under, $7 per walking child and Open Tumbling on Monday & Wednesday from 8:50-9:45pm, $10, Jr. High (11 yrs old) & older. HOLIDAY GIFTS!!! For those gymnasts in your life, we have gymnastics apparel, accessories, and gymnastics inspired gifts.
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A Holiday Gift Guide
Hyatt’s All Things Creative
1941 Elmwood Avenue, Buffalo • 716-884-8900
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Discover special gifts for everyone on your list and shop local this year with Hyatt’s All Things Creative. As a family owned business in Western New York for over 60 years, Hyatt’s knows how to inspire creativity in people of all ages with their more than 55,000 products. Beyond art supplies, visit their newly expanded kids creative play area with more toys, building blocks, and STEAM sets! You’ll also find experienced and knowledgeable staff that are happy to take the time to help you find the perfect gift. Gift cards also available in any amount.
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Monaco’s Violin Shop is a family owned and operated business serving this area since 1973. Monaco’s is the only store in WNY that specializes in the retail, rental, & repair of violins, violas, cellos, and basses. Monaco’s carries instruments made in Romania, the Czech Republic, Germany and others. Monaco’s is the exclusive dealer of the Samuel Shen line of instruments in WNY. We have years of experience repairing many different stringed instruments including guitars, banjos, ouds, mandolins, and more. Our annual sale on instruments, accessories, and musically inspired gifts, runs from November 29th thru December 23rd.
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Past & Present is a unique science & nature store offering unusual treasures from around the world. Fossils, rocks, minerals & crystals are some of the geologic wonders you might find for that one of a kind gift. Beautiful amethyst cathedrals, geodes & other natural pieces of art, along with handcrafted jewelry, are always available. Browsing our shop is a great experience for kids of all ages. Books, posters, science discovery kits & geology tools are just some of the great gift ideas available. Be sure to visit our free Fossil Gallery featuring dinosaurs, sharks, local & internationally found fossils.
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St. Gregory’s annual Craft Show will be held Friday, Nov. 29, 10am-4pm; and Saturday, Nov. 30, 10am-3pm. More than 140 artisans and crafters will sell their handcrafted, unique, quality items. Avoid the Black Friday frenzy, the crowds, and the chaos at the malls. Come support the local economy by choosing gifts from one of the many artisans and crafters from around WNY. You’ll find purses, gourmet dips and mustards, candles, photographs, soap and spa products, painted glass, garden statues, jewelry, doll clothes, decorative pottery, floral decor and so much more. Admission is $3.00, no charge for children 12 and under.
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The F-Word
RAISING DIGITAL KIDS
— by Mike Daugherty
Are you the parent of a child between the ages of 8 and 25? If so, you’ve probably heard them say the F-word. They say it to their friends, at school, and maybe even at home. But I’m not talking about that F-word. No, this is the other F-word: Fortnite. This popular online game is still a major part of youth culture, sparking a wave of updates and changes that keep it fresh, social, and fun.
While many parents may feel disconnected from the world of Fortnite, understanding it can help build a bridge to connect with young players. As we get closer to the Holidays and potentially new gaming consoles coming into your house, here’s a guide to what Fortnite offers and how you, as a parent, can stay in the loop.
WHAT’S NEW IN FORTNITE?
Since its original release, Fortnite has continued to evolve with fresh content, introducing new chapters and seasons. Currently, Fortnite is in Chapter 4, Season 5, featuring enhanced graphics, interactive environments, and new gameplay elements that add depth to its iconic Battle Royale mode. Players now
have access to diverse landscapes, advanced weaponry, and even new character abilities through gameplay enhancements.
Creative Mode, another popular feature, has grown significantly, allowing players to build custom worlds and games. With more than just combat, players enjoy designing unique maps and interacting with friends in new ways. This mode’s growth has fostered a creative, less competitive environment that can be great for younger players who prefer building and designing over battle.
UPDATED TERMINOLOGY TO KNOW
To help you understand what your child is talking about, here are some updated terms:
• Augments: Power-ups that players can use in Battle Royale to enhance abilities like speed, accuracy, or defense.
• Skins: Outfits that players buy or earn, letting them express personality through their ingame character.
• Battle Pass: With each new season, the Battle Pass offers exclusive rewards, challenges, and customizations. At around $9.50 per pass, it’s often a top purchase for players each season.
• V-Bucks: In-game currency used to buy skins, emotes, and other customizations. With inflation and demand, some packs now cost a bit more than they did in previous years.
WHY IS IT STILL SO POPULAR?
Fortnite’s sustained popularity comes from its free-to-play model and its constant updates. It’s highly accessible, available on nearly every device, and has kept players engaged by adding fresh seasonal content and frequent crossovers with popular franchises like Marvel, Star Wars, and even popular musicians through virtual concerts. This level of social and multimedia integration has expanded Fortnite’s reach far beyond just gaming.
The game also offers a place for friends to connect online, sometimes
across continents. The social component, paired with the action, makes Fortnite a unique blend of fun and interaction that many young players look forward to.
EDUCATIONAL POTENTIAL OF FORTNITE AND SIMILAR GAMES
While often seen as purely recreational, Fortnite can offer surprising educational benefits, especially in fostering strategic thinking and teamwork. In Battle Royale mode, players are required to analyze their surroundings, plan their moves, and adapt quickly to stay ahead, which exercises critical thinking and problem-solving skills. Multiplayer modes also encourage teamwork, requiring clear communication and collaboration, which are valuable in both academic and social settings. Additionally, Fortnite’s Creative Mode allows players to design and build their own virtual worlds, sparking creativity and introducing basic principles of digital design. Through creating game elements like challenges and triggers, kids gain a beginner’s exposure to coding logic, which can be a springboard into more formal digital skills. With parental guidance, Fortnite can be more than just a game; it can be a stepping stone toward practical skills that are increasingly relevant today.
CONCERNS TO CONSIDER
With Fortnite’s persistent updates, parents face both old and new concerns regarding violence, social interaction, and spending. Here are three to keep in mind:
1. Violence: Fortnite remains a combat game, but its animated, cartoonish style sets it apart from more realistic shooters. Still, parents of younger players should ensure that they’re comfortable with the gameplay.
2. Social Interaction: Voice and text chat are still active and largely unmoderated, which can expose kids to inappropriate language or interactions
with strangers. Fortunately, both options can be disabled in settings, and Fortnite now includes parental controls to manage who your child can interact with.
3. Spending: With in-game purchases, such as V-Bucks and Battle Passes, it’s easy for kids to make unauthorized purchases. All major gaming platforms have parental controls to restrict spending, which can prevent accidental or impulsive buys.
OPPORTUNITIES TO CONNECT
Fortnite offers an opportunity to learn about what’s important to your child in a way that feels relevant to them. Here are some conversa tion starters:
• What’s the rarest skin you have?
• What’s your favorite part of Creative Mode?
• Which of the new abilities is the best?
• Can you teach me how to play?
Like it or not, Fortnite has embed ded itself in youth culture in a big way, even several years after its release. Use this guide as a way to connect with your
child, understand their world a little better, and perhaps even join them in a round or two. Who knows? You might just get your own Victory Royale.
Mike Daugherty is a husband, father of three young children, author, speaker, Google Innovator, and possible Starbucks addict. He is a certified educational technology leader who has served in a variety of roles through his twenty-year career in public education. Currently, Mike is the Director of Technology for the Chagrin Falls Exempted Village School district in Northeast Ohio. As an IT director he has developed creative, well thought out solutions that positively impact teaching and learning.
Daddy Daddy The Track
T– by Shannon Carpenter
he idea of a white-bearded, jolly, fat man who gives away presents to good boys and girls during the holidays is not a myth. He does exist, and he does so much more than most realize. Maybe as we grow up, we get rid of those childish thoughts as we go through the drudgery of life. As we work our jobs and pay our bills, we remember Saint Nick more as an imaginary friend. But then we become parents, and without realizing it, we find that magic again.
First off, the real Santa prefers peanut butter cookies. I have this on very good authority because I know Santa personally, and he 100% digs peanut butter cookies that his children make with him a couple of days before Christmas. And if he can control himself, there is usually a cookie or two to be left out Christmas night. Well, sometimes. And Santa would also ask that all of us leave the milk in the fridge until he is ready to drink it because room-temperature milk doesn’t sit well with his digestive system. Especially as he gets older.
We also need to remember that Santa is on a budget. He works hard all year raising his kids and writing as much as he can because inflation has been on his naughty list these past couple of years. But even if his books are ever made into a movie, and the cash comes rolling in, he’s still going to stick to the budget because he needs his kids to understand finances and restraint.
Now that we have that all out of the way, Santa, the real one, doesn’t spend
Yes, There is a Santa Claus.
his summers at the North Pole. He spends it in his yard battling the weeds. He is a taxi service that runs his kids around to adventures like the World’s Largest Pair of Underwear. He cooks dinner at night, takes everyone to the dentist in July, and really would like to find the remote control to the TV. It’s been missing for five years now, but he refuses to buy a new one out of principle.
And a lot of times, Santa isn’t a man at all. These Santas spend the rest of their year carrying a lot of the mental load for all the little elves in their home. Did someone forget to bring a jacket to school? Santa is on it. Need to buy birthday gifts for a mother-in-law? Santa is the expert on gifts. Santa runs at a hundred miles an hour, and if she is lucky, she might find time to get a haircut.
The thing that all Santas have in common is their ability to work themselves past exhaustion and not realize it until their head hits their pillow at night. Their eyes close, but their minds kick into overdrive. Santas typically ask themselves what they forgot to do that day. A curtain rod broke off the wall, and now Santa has to get the tools out. Maybe tomorrow because today’s time ran out. Also, Santa needs to remind themselves to call their friend tomorrow to check in on them. They meant to do that today, but then the turtle tank needed to be cleaned, and they forgot. Someone on their nice list asked for a turtle one year, really worked hard, and so now Rudolph has a turtle roommate. Santa didn’t realize that turtles could be so gross and messy. But the kids are happy, and that’s what matters.
This is what all the real Santas do, but we all tend to forget that until the holidays come back around. Then we decorate the house, get out the stockings, and stay up on Christmas Eve to eat chocolate chip cookies when we would prefer peanut butter cookies. But that’s ok because we know who we are. We are Santa the whole year long.
Santa is not a myth, or a corporate marketing campaign designed to sell soda. Santa is simply the parent that shows up every day and gives the gift of time. Somedays, our effort wanes, but we are there.
That’s the real Santa Claus.
Shannon Carpenter is the father of three and has been a stay-at-home dad since 2008. He’s the author of the book “Stay-at-Home Dad: Your Essential Manual for Being an Awesome FullTime Father.” as well as the co-host of Dadhouse Pod. In addition to his writing on parenting, he is also a humor writer trained through the famous Second City. And we all know that having a sense of humor is essential to surviving parenthood!
— by Rebecca Hastings
Smooth Transitions: Tips for Changing Schools
Changing schools is a big transition for kids. Whether they are making a change in the middle of the year, because of special circumstances, due to a move, or just going from one school to the next as they get older, you can make the process easier for your child.
COMMUNICATE CLEARLY
The entire transition process begins with communication. The more you can communicate with your child, family, schools, and friends, the easier the process will be for all of you.
Things to communicate:
• With your child: Talk about why you are making the change, how it will affect them and their day, how it will impact relationships, and ongoing check-ins throughout the process. It is essential to do this at an age-appropriate level.
• With your family: Explain how the new school will impact the family, what a typical day will look like, and any changes to routines.
• With the schools: Express why you are making a change as succinctly as possible, avoid pointing fingers at problems, and focus on what your child needs to be successful.
• With your friends: Share your thoughts about the change honestly, only giving detailed information in trusted situations. Be mindful of how to maintain relationships that may be affected.
Remember, communication does not mean you need to share everything with everyone. Carefully consider what information is appropriate to share with each party.
For example, it is unnecessary to tell a young child the details of meetings you have with the teacher about academic or social concerns for your child. You can, however, explain that you talked to the new school to ensure they know how your child learns best. Similarly, badmouthing a school that you are leaving is never a good practice, especially with other families who may still attend and like the school. Use wisdom in what you say and to whom.
CREATE A PLAN
The smoothest transitions are well thought out. You may not know every detail, but create a plan that serves your child, your family, and the schools involved. When you have a plan, make sure it is clear and you share the appropriate information with each party involved.
Things to include in your plan:
• Talking to your child about switching schools
• Creating a timeline so everyone knows when things will happen
• Touring the new school both with and without your child
• Let your child sit in on a day at the new school
• Communicate with the current school about why you are making a change
• Ensure all necessary records are transferred to the new school before your child’s start date
• Schedule playdates/get-togethers for your child with their current friends for the coming weeks/ months
• Ask the new school about opportunities to meet new families and connect your child with other kids before the first day at the new school
• Figure out changes in transportation and schedules
• Purchase any new uniforms or supplies needed
• Provide an opportunity for closure
• Clear end and start dates
Julie Neale, mom of 2 in the Bay Area and host of the Mother’s Quest podcast and community, believes closure is an important part of the process. When she switched her child’s school at the end of third grade, she was intentional about what she communicated and how she offered her child closure. “We just explained to people that he was moving to this special program that we thought would be a better fit for him. We did throw an end-of-the-year closing school party and gave him a chance to feel a sense of closure with his friends.”
Things may not follow the plan completely, but the plan will guide your child, your family, and the school in the process. If something unexpected comes up, it can be helpful to reach out for support from the school or outside professionals as you navigate the changes.
CONVEY CONFIDENCE
While change can bring up a variety of feelings, it is helpful to show confidence as your child transitions to a new school. The more positive you are, the more likely your child is to feel confident in the process. Beware of being overly enthusiastic, however. This can make kids feel isolated. Instead, share the things you are looking forward to while giving space for potential feelings of loss or fear.
Simple ways to show confidence in the transition are to talk positively about the new school instead of negatively about the old. Notice things your child might enjoy about the new school. If they like sports, be sure to visit the athletic fields or playground. If your child loves technology, ask the school to show your child the robotics club or great tech they use. The more you make it about your child, the more likely they are to feel good about the new school environment.
IT IS A PROCESS
Not everything happens quickly. Sometimes changes take time to adjust
to. If you give your child space to do that while offering support, you will help them navigate this successfully. Give everyone grace in this process. You may be tempted to celebrate the first day with a fun dinner out, but some kids need something calmer as they are processing a lot with the change. Pay attention to your child, your family, and the specific needs of everyone involved. Offering one another time to adjust and support in the process is the best way to create a smooth transition.
Rebecca Hastings is a former elementary teacher who traded the classroom for writing when she stayed home with her three children. Passionate about authenticity, faith, and family, you can find her at RebeccaHastings. net and on Amazon. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate.
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What to Know if You’re Choosing Between Montessori and Waldorf Schools for Your Child
If you’re considering a Waldorf or Montessori school, there’s a good chance you believe children thrive when they have control over their learning environment. You probably also believe your child’s emotional development is just as important as, if not more important than, their academic progress.
Not sure which model would be best for your child? We talked to experts to help you understand where the two educational philosophies overlap, how they diverge, and what that means for your kids.
PHILOSOPHY
Both Montessori and Waldorf schools share a deep respect for each child as an individual and are committed to fostering both academics and social-emotional learning. Both institutions allow each child to take an active role in determining their curriculum and the pace at which they move through it.
Waldorf education sees imaginative play as the primary means through which children learn. According to Lori Ann Kran, PhD, Pedagogical Director of Shining Mountain Waldorf School in Boulder, Colo., “We argue that early childhood students learn best through imitation in a welcoming, natural environment that focuses on free, imaginative play.”
Waldorf schools are known for their focus on using natural materials. Kran says, “In early childhood classrooms, all materials are made out of natural materials such as wood, silk, cotton. Toys tend to be open-ended and able to adapt to the child’s imagination. Hence, a log can become a seat or table, a ship, or a part of a fort.”
Montessori schools, on the other hand, focus on giving children the chance to learn through practical experiences in mixed-age classrooms. Says Gavin Green, Director of Admissions at Jarrow Montessori School in Boulder, “Each classroom
is filled with developmentally appropriate activities that encourage children to interact with specific learning materials.”
As Harry Donahue, the Head of School at Boulder’s Mountain Shadows Montessori School explains, the hallmarks of Montessori education include the development of “respect for the environment, self, and others, as well as a moral responsibility to society.”
CURRICULUM
According to Kran, Waldorf holds that children in grades one through eight learn best “when all subjects—academic, artistic, athletic, and social—are brought ‘artistically,’ so that students’ imaginative, emotional lives are activated and engaged.” This is why math concepts are paired with rhythmic movement for students in grades one through four; Kran explains, “Research acknowledges that younger students learn math best through movement.”
Similarly, Waldorf reading and writing curricula are rooted in what Kran calls a holistic and artistic approach. “Beginning in first grade we tell rich stories and later histories so that students actively develop the capacity to think sequentially,” she says. “Waldorf students begin to see themselves as authors early on because they are, with the guidance of their teachers, creating their own writings and ‘textbooks’, which we call main lesson books.”
By focusing on “will forces” or imitation in the early years, Kran says Waldorf helps lay the foundation for critical thinking when children reach high school, “so that they graduate ready to ask new questions and to enter their futures feeling empowered and competent.”
Montessori academics, on the other hand, give children “three-dimensional manipulative materials designed specifically for Montessori. These allow all lessons to be concrete and
Waldorf Classroom
for children to be able to work with the materials,” says Green.
Montessori introduces academic concepts early, says Green. “The early years (birth through age six) are a critical time to set a strong foundation, so Montessori starts early with the academic curriculum, although presented in developmentally appropriate ways with concrete materials.”
Green describes a pre-literacy learning tool called a sandpaper letter, a flat square featuring a letter made of sandpaper. Kids learn the phonetic sound of the letter as they trace it with their finger, later progressing to tracing the letter with their finger in a sand table.
Other Montessori-specific materials include miniature brooms, mops, and dishrags. Green says using child-size materials to clean up their own spills helps preschoolers develop
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their capacity to take care of themselves and their environment. It also sets the stage for them to take on a role such as plant waterer or door holder in their classroom once they turn six.
Whether you choose Montessori or Waldorf, you can be sure your child will be challenged in a way that meets them where they are and engages both their minds and their hearts.
This article was originally published by Prairie Mountain Media.
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Fun Educational Websites You Won’t Want Your Kids to Miss: Websites That Take
Limiting the time kids spend on the computer can be a daunting task. But there are plenty of fun educational sites kids will love that make learning a blast and make their time spent plugged in healthier.
Animals Abound
Travel to faraway states and countries at National Geographic for Kids to discover all kinds of critters and cool places. In addition to freaky creatures, there are fun things you can make as well as photo tips with Hilary. You’ll also discover lots of other weird stuff. (http://kids.nationalgeographic.com/)
Space is a Blast
At NASA’s Star Child, there’s plenty to discover. Do fun activities, learn the orbit each planet belongs to, and match planets to their descriptions. You can even calculate your own weight and age on each planet. For teens, click on a link to NASA’s teen site and explore web pages to solve problems. (http:// starchild.gsfc.nasa. gov/docs/StarChild/ StarChild.html)
Pop, Dong, Kerplunk
This site will keep you busy for hours. Brain Pop is a fun site dedicated to health, science, and technology. Thrill at the awesome background sounds, and find experiments, activities, cartoons, quizzes, and animated movies. (http:// www.brainpop.com/)
Basics & Beyond
FunBrain.com offers all levels of educational games in every subject. Play
the
Work out of Learning
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Grammar Gorillas, connect the dots by ones, fives, and even backward, or take the Brain Bowl quiz. There are even parent-kid challenges and parent quizzes. Click ‘search for games,’ and discover many more awesome activities. (http:// funbrain.com/)
Make me a Genius
Exercise the left side of your brain with this fun science and math site loaded with fun games, quizzes, jokes, and videos. (http://www.starfall.com/)
Forest Fire Facts
Visit Smokey Bear and get the Bear Facts, learn fire safety, and help Smokey in one of several interactive games. (http://www.smokeybear.com/)
Coding Fun
At Code.org, kids can learn computer science by creating online projects. These free courses are really more like free fun. Prereaders can watch videos and listen to audio recordings as they move through interactive learning segments. The courses progress according to age, all the way through the teen years. (https://code.org/ hourofcode2022#explore)
Keepin’ It Green
ClimateKids is another NASA site for kids. It answers kids’ questions about weather and climate, the atmosphere, water, energy, plants, and animals. After clicking to read lots of fascinating facts, kids can scroll to the bottom of the page for fun activities, videos, games, and more. (http://www.kidsplanet.org/)
Medicine Madness
At PBS’s A Science Odyssey, take an interactive visit to the doctor, play a game show called “That’s My Theory,” read comic stories about scientists, and learn about the discovery of penicillin. (http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/aso/)
Math, Money, & More
Math has never been so cool as at Coolmath4Kids.com. Do brain benders, jigsaw puzzles, and play the lemon-aid stand game to improve your math and money skills. (http://www.coolmath4kids.com/)
Online Adventures
Take a journey to The Greatest Places, and visit the Amazon, Tibet, Greenland, and other fascinating countries. Learn neat facts, watch videos, send postcards, play games, and find great activities to do at home. (http:// www.greatestplaces.org/)
Presidential Probe
There’s plenty to learn at The American Presidency—even for parents. Do activities and read fun facts about the campaign trail, life in the White House, and assassinations. Then, take a poll and share your thoughts. (http://americanhistory.si.edu/presidency/home.html)
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Middle School Teaches Valuable Life Lessons
— by Katy M. Clark
“She’s nervous,” I told my coworker about my daughter, 11, as we sat outside on a summer day eating lunch. “Who can blame her? She’s going to middle school.”
“Middle school was awesome,” my coworker said, her voice laden with sarcasm. “I had braces and wore glasses and a back brace.”
“I wore braces, too,” I commented. “And I was the tallest kid in 7th grade. Boys called me the Jolly Green Giant.”
She nodded, chewing thoughtfully on her sandwich. I think I saw her shudder.
But that’s when it hit me. I looked at the two of us, all these years later, both successful at work and fulfilled with families and activities that we loved.
What if middle school didn’t crush us after all? What if the physical awkwardness and social mishaps of middle school taught us invaluable life lessons that prepared us for our lives today?
I think the answer is that it did. And I can’t wait to tell my daughter why.
Middle school teaches resilience. You will fail in middle school. Maybe it’s a bad grade in algebra or being cut from the volleyball team. But you go back to middle school every day. You study harder and get help. You shake off the tryout and try something else. You fall down and get back up. You become resilient.
Middle school helps you embrace change. Middle school is all about change. You will not be the same height or weight from one year to the next in middle school. You may or may not have the same friends. You will change classes like you change the toilet
paper roll—constantly. Middle school is a daily affirmation that change is part of life, that it can be good or bad, but that you will survive it.
Middle school teaches conflict resolution. Conflicts, like someone using your pen without permission or cutting in front of you in the cafeteria line, happen daily in middle school. Do you avoid or accommodate the situation? Mediate or challenge it? Each day provides an opportunity to work on communicating your side of the story and empathizing with the other side. The conflict may not resolve itself every time, but the chances to learn and grow are there.
Note: bullying is a form of conflict that is never okay. You should always talk to a teacher or trusted adult about bullying and be involved with your school to create and promote a safe environment for everyone.
Middle school teaches self-acceptance. I still remember when a boy made fun of my butt in 8th grade, taunting me that it was flat compared to the other girls. But the truth? My less than curvaceous derriere didn’t bother me. It still doesn’t, even in a Kim Kardashian world. Middle school
is when you get to decide what you like or accept about yourself, regardless of what others think.
Middle school shows you what a true friend looks like. Middle school friendships can be sources of comfort and support, but they also can be sources of pain and confusion. Did your supposed best friend reject you this week? Learn from it and choose someone kinder to be in your life. Middle school teaches you that you deserve friends that treat you well, friends that encourage you rather than tear you down.
So, as my daughter heads towards a new adventure in middle school, I will be there to remind her that the lessons and experiences of middle school, although they may be hard or uncomfortable, will mold her, not crush her. That middle school will teach her to become resilient, embrace change, deal with conflict, accept herself, and discover what makes a true friend.
This piece originally appeared on Your Teen.
Katy M. Clark is a writer and mom of two who embraces her imperfections on her blog Experienced Bad Mom.
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Maker-Minded: Raising DIY Kids
When your electronic gadgets break, does your tween fix them? Do you have a child that builds elaborate housing for pets and dolls out of scraps of craft materials and cardboard boxes? Maybe you’re raising entrepreneurial teens with ideas that could make them the next Facebook or Snapchat inventor, app creator, or “Shark Tank” winner.
If any of this sounds familiar, you may have a Maker on your hands. But what exactly does that mean?
WHAT IS THE MAKER MOVEMENT?
The Maker Movement is a quickly growing culture that embraces the idea that learning is done best through doing. It includes do-it-yourself individuals and groups that create things, and its members are producers more than consumers, says Irm Diorio, executive director of a maker space. While some makers work in maker spaces, others tinker in their homes and garages. Some maker interests include robotics, electronics, metalworking, woodworking and traditional arts and crafts.
With affordable access to 3-D printers and computers, technology is often a part of the Maker Movement, but it doesn’t have to be, says Diorio.
“Everyone is a maker,” Diorio says, and she encourages others to discover the maker in them. “It’s about finding what really inspires you — gardening, baking, sewing, anything that you would build with your hands. It’s fun and can be functional, but it doesn’t have to be. It’s all about letting your creativity take you for a ride.”
WHY DO MAKERS USE MAKER SPACES?
Some makers discover their tribe at maker spaces, where adults and children find the community and supplies they need, including equipment and tools that are hard to store at home. Maker spaces often house equipment like 3-D printers, laser cutters, wood lathes, saws, welding equipment and sewing machines. Maker
spaces offer community, encouragement, and expertise for those working on projects. Maker spaces are also becoming popular in schools because parents, teachers and administrators want to include this creative outlet in the learning process.
HOW CAN PARENTS SUPPORT A MAKERMINDED LIFE?
How you help your child flourish at being a DIY kid depends on his or her age. Here are some suggestions that will help guide kids as they grow.
Preschool:
• Encourage natural curiosities, inclinations or interests.
• Start coding with and without technology (there are lots of ideas at code.org).
• Give them the tools of their trade even if they’re in junior size — think miniature tool box with tools, junior sewing machine or real gardening tools small enough to fit their hands.
• Don’t be afraid to introduce sophisticated vocabulary — don’t dumb it down.
Elementary:
• Give them a maker space and fill it with the best tools that you can afford.
• Volunteer to start a maker space at your child’s school.
• Create an invention station where your kids can do STEM challenges. Check out a cool design spinner at PBS Kids Design Squad Global Build.
• Participate in a science fair.
• Encourage participation in a maker faire.
• Have a STEAM closet or basket at home that allows kids to pull out supplies and invent, build, or create.
• Provide a coding robot they can program with a tablet.
• Join a Lego Robotics club.
Middle and High School:
• Encourage an apprenticeship in a trade or with a family member or friend who is an expert (such as a computer science expert, car or airplane mechanic, fashion designer, seamstress).
• Attend a certified STEM High School.
• Join a robotics club.
• Give them low-cost technology like Raspberry Pi or Arduino to experiment and create their own technology products.
• Introduce them to conductive thread so they can make clothes that light up, or Makey Makey, an invention kit that can turn items as simple as bananas or staircases into computer touchpads.
Online Resources for the Maker-Minded Family
Makezine.com — a site for the print magazine, Make, it offers ideas for projects, Maker news, links to Maker Faires and support for all things Maker.
Makerfaire.com — shares information about Makerfaires all over the world.
Makered.org — provides support for those interested in integrating maker education into learning environments.
KiwiCo.com — purchase a monthly service that delivers art and science projects for kids of all ages to your door.
CardboardChallenge.com — Learn about how to host or find a Cardboard Challenge in your area. A Cardboard Challenge allows kids to make creations using cardboard, recycled materials and their imaginations.
Thingiverse.com — this website shares user-created design project files to make using technology such as 3D printers and laser cutters.
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What Type Of High School Is Best For Your Teen?
ext year my twins will be entering the ninth grade, their first year of high school. Their grades will soon “count” if they apply to colleges. The type of high school they attend will also be a considered factor by the college admission boards.
I attended a typical public high school but my husband attended a public magnet high school and he went to a
private school for elementary through middle school. We both feel as if we received a good high school education that prepared us for college, but since we attended different types of high schools, we wanted to explore all of the options for our twins.
Our different upbringings led to a discussion about what type of high school would be best for our twins. We are also considering if they should attend
the same school since they have different needs and personalities.
Before we could answer those questions, we researched all the different types of high schools. Even though I’m focusing on high schools, most of these options are also available in younger grades.
TYPES OF SCHOOLS Public
Public schools offer a free education to students living within the district. The funding for public schools is from local, state, and federal tax dollars. These schools are supervised by local government authorities. There are different types and options of public schools such as school choice, vouchers, tax-credit scholarships, magnet, and charter schools.
School Choice: Some public schools offer school choice which means you can attend a school outside of your district. The school is still free, but normally you provide transportation. Most schools have a limited number of openings. Students are selected based on a lottery system.
Vocational Schools: Vocational schools are free public high schools that offer specific trade or career training programs. In the past,
these programs focused on mechanics, carpentry, plumbing, and construction, but now some schools offer other trades such as engineering, performing arts, and nursing.
Vouchers: Vouchers are a type of school choice. Currently, twelve states and Washington DC, have a voucher program. A voucher is issued to students who can then use it to pay for private school tuition. The amount of money received through a voucher varies by state and may cover part or all of the private school tuition.
Tax-Credit Scholarships:
This is another type of school choice. Seventeen states offer this program. These programs enable people and businesses to pay some of their state taxes to private nonprofit scholarship-granting organizations that issue scholarships to K-12 students. Similar to vouchers, a student uses a tax-credit scholarship to pay for private school tuition.
Magnet: Magnet schools are free public schools that are highly selective and competitive. Students must submit applications and complete tests to be admitted.
Charter: Charter schools are free public schools that are independently run by teachers, parents, community leaders, and businesspersons. Charter schools do not adhere to the same
rules and regulations as a typical public school. These schools receive funding from the sending public school, state and federal grants, and private fundraising.
Private
A student must pay tuition and submit an application to attend a private school. A private school is funded by
student tuition payments, endowments, grants, and donations. Some private schools are affiliated with a religion.
Home School
A homeschool is when a student is educated at home by either a parent, tutor or an online program. States regulate and have requirements for homeschools.
FACTORS TO CONSIDER WHEN MAKING A DECISION
Cost: If you are unable to afford the private school tuition, which the national average is $10,000 per year, then you would be limited to the free public school options. Depending on the state you live in, you could use vouchers or tax-credit scholarships to help fund the tuition. Another consideration is the cost of transportation to the public school.
School Size: The class size may be an important factor if your teen is easily distracted or requires assistance to learn. Even though public schools can make accommodations for students with special needs, sometimes a smaller class is more helpful to the child. A private school usually offers small class sizes.
How Does Your Teen Learn:
If your teen is more of a hands-on learner, then they may benefit from attending a vocational school, charter school, or other similar less traditional public schools. Whereas if your child thrives from competition, they might benefit from attending a magnet school.
Friendships: Friends are a key component for teens in developing their identity. Through their friend relationships, they can learn about trust, respect, and acceptance. If you are considering other schools, you should have your teen visit for the day to see how they interact with the other students. Also find out about the social clubs, sports and other activities offered.
School Reputation:
There are many different resources for comparing a school’s reputation including the school’s graduation rate, spending per pupil, and college readiness. Some websites that review these factors are US News and World Reports, GreatSchools.org, and The National Assessment of Educational Progress (NAEP).
WHAT WILL WE DECIDE?
After my twins receive their grades this year, we will then determine if their educational needs are best being served at their current school. We will discuss with them the factors such as class size and ways they feel they learn best. Then we will visit other schools in the surrounding area to compare those options to their current public school.
We will also ask our twins which type of school they would prefer to attend since they are the ones who will be going there. Since we are actively involved in their education, hopefully, any school they attend will help prepare them for college or the workforce.
Cheryl Maguire holds a Master of Counseling Psychology degree. She is married and is the mother of twins and a daughter. Her writing has been published in The New York Times, Parents Magazine, AARP, Healthline, Your Teen Magazine, and many other publications. She is a professional member of ASJA and SATW. You can find her on X @ CherylMaguire05
Reasons Community College May
Be the Best Choice
— by Pam Molnar
Many people overlook the opportunity to attend community college, assuming that it is just for those who aren’t accepted to “real colleges.” The truth is, community colleges might be the best fit and deserve a stop on your college tour list. Here’s why:
Affordability
We all know that attending community college will save you money, but how much? According to a College Board report in 2021, the average community college tuition and fees are $3,800. Other factors, including books and room and board, are not included in that number. If we want to compare apples
to apples, the average cost of tuition and fees in a public, instate four-year college averages $10,390. Community college is almost a third of the cost.
Smaller Class Sizes
Not everyone is successful in a large auditorium-like setting. Community colleges have smaller class sizes and allow for more hands-on learning experiences and better relationships with professors. In addition, many night classes are taught by people in their field vs. a professor who has not been in the field for several years. These adjunct professors are also helpful in opening doors for future employment.
The Park School of Buffalo
Founded in 1912, The Park School of Buffalo is WNY’s first and only co-ed, PreK through Grade 12 and Montessori school. Park students are academically and socially prepared problem solvers equipped with confidence, critical thinking skills, and a desire to make the world a better place.
Tucked away on a serene, 34-acre campus, Park boasts 14 buildings, three playing fields, a waterfall, pond and marsh area, and nature trails. This unique campus allows students to engage in experiential learning as it is intended. Designed so that classrooms and the outdoors integrate seamlessly, inspiration is limitless as curriculum knows no boundaries and isn’t confined to four walls.
In just one day, our lively campus offers a busy, exciting schedule from PreK all the way through Upper School. Montessori friends enter the Field Station holding hands with their puddle boots on, ready for a science lesson about fall ecology. Annabella in Grade 3, journal in hand, explains to visitors that she is starting a narrative about scary breathing dragons who are in search of their missing fire breath. Grade 4 students are fully engaged with our Artist in Residence, Mark DiVincenzo, working on paintbrush techniques and “plein air painting.” Passing the 3D lab, Grade 7 students are seen discussing their printing plans in teams. Seniors are busy in their Forensics elective comparing fingerprints for DNA analysis.
“At Park, students get the best of both worlds,” says Mr. Charles Hartney, Head of Upper School. “They establish deep academic foundations through our core requirements and can explore burgeoning interests and passions through our elective offerings and cocurricular programming. Our graduates leave with the skills essential to success beyond Park, including a profound sense of who they are and how they can share their talents with the wider community.”
Opportunity to Explore Options
It’s hard to know what you want to do with the rest of your life at 18. Community college allows a student to try different introductory classes without committing to a semester of classes, room and board, and all the expense of entering a fouryear college. With smaller departments, students at community colleges may have the opportunity to shadow another student to see if that field of study is really what they want to do.
MEET THE HEAD OF SCHOOL
Close to home
By definition, community colleges are closer to home, which means less commuting time and no extra room and board. This is especially important for students who need help with family, either physically or financially. It is also an easier transition for those students who need a little more time to adjust to post-high school life and are not ready to move away from home yet.
Flexibility
The class times at a community college, especially general education classes, are offered during the day or at night, as well as some weekend and online classes. This allows the student the ability to work a full-time job or tend to other responsibilities. Some community colleges offer offsite classes in local libraries or other small campus buildings, so students don’t have to drive to the main campus.
Extra-Curricular Activities
Community colleges have many of the groups you will find at a four-year college — athletics, theatre, honors societies, clubs, leadership opportunities, and travel to study abroad. The average size of a community college is 5,000 students. When compared to the tens of thousands of students in larger four-year colleges, community colleges have less competition to fill these positions.
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The Park School of Buffalo
Meet the Head of School: Lisa Conrad
Lisa Conrad is The Park School of Buffalo’s 20th Head of School and only the third woman to hold this position in the school’s 112 year history. She came to Park in 2012 to teach Middle and Upper School Spanish and took on the role of Interim Head of School at Park in 2020 during the height of the Covid-19 pandemic. In recognition of Park’s success during this period and her leadership, Mrs. Conrad was named permanent Head of School by the Park Board
of Trustees in July 2021, as well as named a recipient of Business First’s 40 Under 40 award and received the Utopian Euphoria’s 2021 Women Who Walk in the Footsteps of Greatness award.
Lisa truly believes that Park exemplifies the best environment on earth for learning. “Criticalthinking and experiential learning - especially tied to the outdoors - allows Park students to learn in their own ways and by collaborating with their peers on projects that tie them directly to this beautiful campus we all share. And because we do this work together as often as possible, students quickly learn, understand, and value the benefits of working in partnership with others. This all leads to learning that is challeng-
ing, engaging, long-lasting, and fun.”
Mrs. Conrad holds a Master’s Degree in Spanish Adolescence Education and a Bachelor of Arts in Spanish, both from the University at Buffalo. She is a New York State Certified Teacher and an active member of the New York State Association of Independent Schools (NYSAIS).
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Gateway to a Four-Year University
Community college is a great solution for students whose GPA falls just under the acceptance requirements of their dream four-year institution. Community colleges near larger universities often have transfer agreements, meaning they work together to provide a sequence of classes that gives the community college student a better chance of transfer acceptance after graduation. Many of these programs are referred to as 2 + 2 programs.
Scholarships
Community college means community involvement. Many local businesses offer scholarships to students at the college in their community with the hopes of recruiting some of these students to work for them in the future. Transfer scholarships are also available to students who choose to go to fouryear colleges after graduation.
It Might Be All You Need
Dozens of careers only require a 2-year community college degree, so attending a four-year university is not the only road to success. Indeed.com shared a list of 25 in-demand careers you can get with a 2-year degree which include a Web Developer ($81,148), a Dental Hygienist ($98,577), a Respiratory Therapist ($103,987), an MRI Technician ($121,473), and an Air Traffic Controller ($130,420).
Pam Molnar is a freelance writer and mother of three who
graduate of a community college.
With the college move-in date behind us, many parents are already worrying for their students’ wellbeing. But don’t fear. Student wellbeing activist David Magee gives some tips on staying in touch with your children and guiding them from afar.
College is widely credited as being a child’s first full step into adulthood. But when they walk out of their parents’ house, they enter a world full of unprecedented challenges and threats to their wellbeing. They may be fully grown, says student wellbeing activist David Magee, but they need their parents even after they leave the nest—especially during the college years.
“College-aged children are not equipped to handle the problems plaguing their generation on their own,” says Magee, author of the book Things Have Changed: What Every Parent (and Educator) Should Know About the Student Mental Health and Substance Misuse Crisis and award-winning book Dear William: A Father’s Memoir of Addiction, Recovery, Love, and Loss. “Between mental health disorders, substance misuse, body image issues, and a plethora of other challenges, they need your guidance more than ever. Staying connected during this time gives them the support they desperately need.”
Magee is no stranger to the dangers awaiting children at college, or in life in general. After losing his son William to an accidental drug overdose, and nearly losing another son, Hudson, to an overdose at a college frat party, he’s dedicated his life to giving students the tools they need to thrive and helping them find the joy they crave more than anything else. It’s also why he founded the William Magee Institute for Student Wellbeing at the University of Mississippi, which seeks to understand how best to prevent or break the cycle of unhealthy habits and addictions that plague so many college students, and the William Magee Center for AOD and Wellness Education.
Below, Magee offers some tips for staying in touch—and in tune—with your children.
Tell the truth about the dangers of using drugs and alcohol. Make sure
Your College Student Still Needs You: Six Ways to Guide Your Child After They Leave the Nest for Higher Learning
— by David Magee
your child hears the truth about substance misuse and the problems it can cause from you, not from their friends, says Magee. Binge drinking, which plagues college campuses, can result in missed classes, depression, health issues, sleep loss, sexual assault, and much more. Drugs are just as harmful and can even be deadly. For example, when students take counterfeit pills, they risk overdosing from fentanyl, a highly addictive drug so deadly that even a “crumb” can kill them instantly. Encourage your children to stay away from these dangerous pills.
Teach them to prioritize their (mental and physical) health. Every college student should develop a “toolbox” of habits, practices, and mindsets to help them maintain physical and mental health and create joy in their lives, says Magee. Remind them to prioritize sleep every night. They should go to bed at a reasonable hour and keep their phone shut off at night. Ensure that they get exercise every day as well. A 30-minute walk outside is easy and meditative, and can improve their mood and increase blood circulation. Finally, urge them to check their social media use. If they find themselves scrolling for hours each day, or experiencing anxiety or depression, it’s time to cut back.
Keep open lines of communication. If your child is far away, call or FaceTime them for frequent catch-ups. Weekly phone calls establish you as one of their confidants, remind them that you are there and willing to listen, and show that they can come to you with problems.
“Ensure that your child feels safe enough to come to you no matter what. Keep the lines of communication open, and always, always assure your child that you love them and are here for them,” says Magee.
Encourage them to choose their friends wisely. One of the most important lessons of college—and life—is that you will take on the traits of those you surround yourself with. For example, if your child joins a fraternity that prioritizes drinking and partying, then their chances of sponging up those characteristics goes up astronomically.
“Your teen or young adult child might not realize that they are entering into a pressure cooker of threats when they leave for college,” says Magee. “And most of this pressure is going to come from other students. The wise saying, ‘Students get students on drugs, and students get students off drugs,’ comes
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YOUR COLLEGE STUDENT
into play here. Encourage your child to find people who will not pressure them into harming themselves through substance abuse. It’s worth holding out for genuine friends—even if it means being lonely for a little while.” Skip the lectures and try listening instead. With college pressures pulling your child in a hundred different directions, be a source of support, not another problem, says Magee. For starters, don’t tell them how they should feel and don’t preach “at” them. Avoid comments like, “But you aced your exam; you should be grateful!” or, “You’ve got that big game coming up; you should be having fun!” Instead, listen to your child and validate their feelings. Try to understand things from their point of view. This will open the doors of communication and may even spark some difficult conversations, but it ultimately deepens their trust in you. Finally, ask your child plenty of open-ended questions and listen deeply to their answers. Their responses will surprise and delight you every time.
Read between the lines. (Pay attention to your intuition.) Chances are, you are more in tune with your child than you think, and you may pick up on the little subtleties that tell you when they are struggling or that something’s wrong. Pay attention to these feelings; they may be the lifeline you need to save them. One tip here is to listen for what they’re not saying—it may reveal more than you think. For example, if your child starts using language like, “I don’t like my roommates,” or, “I want to move out and get a fresh start,” they may be subtly crying out for help, and your conversations with them can help guide them to that recognition. Magee also points out that “anxiety” is often used as a catch-all term, especially when the person in question may be unsure of what is plaguing them—so take notice when and if your child uses this word.
Just because your child is in college doesn’t mean they are equipped to take on the full pressure of the world. You are still their parent, and when it comes to maintaining contact, the college years are more precious—and precarious— than any other time.
“If you can engage your children by listening and gently guiding them,
you’ll be setting them up to thrive this semester—and throughout their lives,” concludes Magee. “Stay close, and you will rest easier knowing they are safe, growing into strong young adults, and making good decisions that will serve them well.”
David Magee is the best-selling author of Things Have Changed: What Every Parent (and Educator) Should Know About the Student Mental Health and Substance Misuse Crisis and Dear William: A Father’s Memoir of Addiction, Recovery, Love, and Loss—a Publisher’s Weekly bestseller, named a Best Book of the South, and featured on CBS Mornings—and other nonfiction books. A changemaker in student and family mental health and substance misuse, he’s a creator of the William Magee Institute for Student Wellbeing at the University of Mississippi and a frequent K–12 and university educational and motivational speaker, helping students and parents find and keep their joy. Learn more at www.daviddmagee.com.
West Buffalo Charter School
We Read. We Lead. We Succeed.
Nestled in the heart of Buffalo at 113 Lafayette Avenue, West Buffalo Charter School (WBCS) has been a beacon of quality education since opening its doors in 2012. This K-8 institution is known for its diverse and inclusive learning environment, offering small class sizes that prioritize individual attention. Classrooms are intentionally kept small, with approximately 20 students in grades K-4 and 25 in grades 5-8, ensuring a high teacher-to-student ratio.
WBCS operates as a small, safe learning community, emphasizing differentiated and intensive instruction to meet the needs of every learner. The school is dedicated to fostering language acquisition, literacy, and reading proficiency, essential skills for academic success. An extended school day, along with enrichment opportunities in academics, sports, arts, and STEAM, encourage students to explore their passions and discover new interests.
Committed to educating the whole child, WBCS integrates Art, Music, Physical Education, and STEAM into its curriculum, cultivating creativity and critical thinking. A strong Social Emotional Learning (SEL) program, supported by a full-time School Social Worker and Art Therapist, ensures students’ emotional well-being.
Staff at WBCS engage in ongoing professional development, exploring
innovative teaching methods and leveraging technology to enhance learning. Partnerships with Canisius University and other local organizations enrich the academic experience, building strong ties between the school and the community.
With a focus on positive relationships, excellence in education, and holistic development, West Buffalo Charter School stands as a model of what a nurturing, dynamic educational environment can achieve.
113 Lafayette Ave. Buffalo, NY 14213 716-923-1534 www.westbuffalocharter.org
Higher education has become a major investment, whether prospective students are fresh-faced undergrads or mature adults seeking career change or advancement.
WNY Family readers definitely place a high priority on education.
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harleston, South Carolina’s oldest city, has it all: a rich history, a multitude of attractions, well preserved architecture, cobblestone streets, friendly and welcoming locals, and beautiful beaches just 15 minutes from the Historic District.
It consistently receives top ratings by visitors who quickly fall under the city’s many charms. It is at its best during the springtime when the city has been compared to an old-fashioned Southern Belle decked out in all her finery. It is also most family friendly with many activities that appeal to children.
Despite natural disasters including hurricanes and an earthquake, Charleston is considered the country’s most beautifully preserved architectural and historical treasure. It was by far the wealthiest city in Colonial America and boasts America’s first public college, museum, and playhouse. The first golf club was established here in 1787.
year, to its 2024 World’s Greatest Places list.
The $120 million museum is ideally located on sacred space on the city’s waterfront. It was on Gadsden’s Wharf where 40 percent of all African captives were first brought to America during the era of the city’s brisk slave trade. It was here that the survivors of the horrific Middle Passage crossing of the Atlantic Ocean were bought and sold.
The museum tells the unvarnished stories of the African American experience across generations, the trauma and triumph of overcoming. The museum is home to 12 permanent exhibitions that include nine galleries and one Special Exhibition Gallery.
Land equaled freedom for African Americans living in the aftermath of slavery and the Civil War. For a people once treated as property, land ownership meant self-determination and security.
Year after year, Travel and Leisure readers have rated Charleston the number one city in the country for visitors. Time Magazine named the city’s newest museum, the International African American Museum which opened last
Stop in the African Ancestors Memorial Garden, the outdoor pavilion overlooking the harbor with silhouettes of bodies carved into the pavement, and engraved stones that list the ports of origin of the enslaved people who ended up here.
A special feature of this museum is the Center for Family History which helps black people trace their family roots. Anyone who wants to learn about their family’s history and their lineage can schedule an appointment and use the center’s resources.
From its early times in the 17th century, the city has had a long tradition of religious tolerance. Today, those early houses of worship are among the city’s many historic treasures and led to the nickname of “Holy City.”
Charleston boasts an array of tours including pirate and ghost tours. On our nighttime ghost tour, we did not meet any ghosts, but did learn the history of one of the country’s most haunted com-
International African American Museum
munities. Of course, we spent some of our time in a couple very old cemeteries and we were glad to be part of the group, rather than alone with the spirits of the dead.
Another kind of tour that is fun for all generations is a horse drawn carriage ride. It seems to epitomize the historic character of Charleston. The clip clap of the hoofs is musical. The horses are friendly and welcome a pet or two. Children will probably get a giggle from the diapers on the four-footed creatures pulling the carriage. The tours are usually an hour long and the guides are full of fascinating facts and stories about Charleston history.
What most school children learn about Charleston is that Fort Sumter was the scene of the first shots of the Civil War, or the War Between the States, or the War of Northern Aggression, depending on your point of view. As Mary, our driver and guide on our horse drawn carriage tour said, “There really was nothing civil about the war.” The city suffered much damage and loss of life during the war.
The National Park Service operates Fort Sumter, one of many forts constructed along the Atlantic coast by the federal government. The park service also runs the Fort Sumter Visitor Education Center at Liberty Square along the waterfront.
The fort’s purpose was to defend Charleston from foreign invasion, but ironically it was attacked by Americans. Decades of growing strife between North and South erupted in war on April 12, 1861, when confederate artillery opened fire on this federal fort. Fort Sumter surrendered 34 hours later. Union forces would try for nearly four years to take it back.
Museum exhibits tell the story of the fort’s construction and the events leading up to the April 1861 battle.
The fort itself is accessible by ferryboat, operated by Fort Sumter Tours. If you are lucky, there might be playful dolphins racing alongside your boat. There are daily ranger programs at the fort as well as the popular junior ranger program.
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View of Fort Sumter and flag raising
PICK OF THE LITERATURE
— by Dr. Donna Phillips
December is upon us with something for everyone!
The holiday frenzies are about to start! Lists, shopping, arranging, decorating, planning, cooking, cleaning, wrapping…it never seems to end! Some love it! Some hate it! While we are busily going about our holiday planning and activities, we need to be mindful of others. For many it is a time of celebration with friends and family. For others it might be a time for quiet contemplation and gratitude. It might remind us of old times and memories, or it might be a time to create new ones. It can be a time of warmth or a time of cold. A time of plenty or a time of want. It can be a time of happiness or sorrow. But most important to keep in mind, the December holidays are meant to celebrate hope and renewal, and they may even be sprinkled with a bit of magic.
Story plays an important part in December. Whether it is imaginative holiday magic, stories of faith, family stories told around the festive board, favorite holiday movies, songs, or books, they all play an important part of the rituals we hold dear and connect us to what we love about the holidays.
What would Christmas be without a manger story? The Christmas Blessing (7 Cats Press/Gibbs Smith, Layton, 2024, $8.99), based on a hymn attributed to Pierre de Corbell,
Bishop of Sens (1222 AD) and illustrated by James Newman Gray, is perfect to introduce our youngest ones to one of the most important stories in Christianity. Told from the persepctive of the animals around the manger, this sweet story with gentle rhyme may be a Christmas song you are familiar with. Each animal takes its turn telling what they gave the baby Jesus. Children, young and old, will be magically transported to the manager (or their childhood) through this lovely board book.
If you know Jingle Bells, then celebrating the season with some silliness will be your next stop on the Christmas train. Giraffes Can’t Dance: Jingle Bells (Scholastic, New York, 2424, $8.99), written by Giles Andreae and illustrated by Guy Parker-Rees, is a fun way to get into the holiday spirit. Part of the Giraffes Can’t Dance series, this version will have you up and mov-
ing even if you can’t dance. Filled with all kinds of animals from the African Savannah, this unique and quirky book will appeal to readers on every continent.
Peppa Pig is an all-year favorite, but what could be more fun than celebrating Christmas with her and an elf too? Peppa and the Christmas Elf (Scholastic, New York, 2024, $12.99), created by Neville Astley, is another romp through an adventure with Peppa and her family. Peppa’s Christmas wish this year is for an Elf adventure. As she and the family go about their holiday activities, she is sure she hears or sees one. But in the end, it is just a bird or the wind or a glimpse of someone from the village. That is until her sledding adventure. While she never actually sees the elf in action, the Christmas Elf does give her what she wanted… the magic of an elf adventure and her very own elf toy perched on top of the tree Christmas morning.
Many children wish for a puppy for Christmas, but who would ever expect one to simply show up in their living room on Christmas morning? A Stray Dog for Christmas (Sourcebooks, Naperville, 2024, $14.99), written by Jack Jokinen and illustrated by Wendy Tan, is the true story of Suzy and how she was found and adopted. On Christmas Eve, Suzy was lost. Suzy was cold. Suzy was hungry. Suzy was hopeful when she saw light coming out of an open door. Carefully, she entered it to find a warm and inviting house with a cozy place for her to sleep. How surprised the family was to find her Christmas morning! Somehow the door had blown open and miraculously just in time to save Suzy. Once the shock wore off, she was at the vet be-
ing checked out and, with much love and attention, she became part of the family in the forever home she picked out. This true story has pictures at the end to prove it. Along with the Author’s Note and a QR code to take you to videos, news coverage, and articles, this heartwarming book is sure to become a holiday favorite. Movie anyone?
Beam of Light (Rocky Pond Books, New York, 2024, $18.99), written by Elisa Boxer and illustrated by Sofia Moore, is the true story of the permanent White House Menorah. While menorahs had graced the residence every Hanukkah for years, this one was different. It was made of wood that was salvaged and stored during the renovation of the White House in 1948. Told from the persepctive of the timber, it recounts the years before and after World War II, the treatment of the Jews, and the hardships they faced. Then in 2022, the timber was found and sent to a woodworker who transformed it into the permanent White House Menorah. This historical integration of the events of the time and the hope that the future brought is a true testament to the enduring legacy that honors the part the Jewish Community has played in our history.
Books make wonderful and thoughtful gifts. They are perfect for getting us in the mood to celebrate the season and reflect on times gone by and times to come. Consider a family trip to your local bookstore for some fun holiday shopping. There are so many wonderful options available there for every member of the family and all of your friends. Plus, you will never have to worry what size to get them. Whatever you get them will be the perfect fit!
Happy Holidays!
Dr. Donna Phillips is an associate professor in the College of Education at Niagara University where her specialty is literacy and children’s literature. She lives on Grand Island, NY and is the mother of two adult children and the grandmother of one.
SINGLE PARENTING
— by Meagan Ruffing
When I was a little girl, I remember my parents having this glittery, white, faux snow-covered lamp that looked like an old country church. It used to sit on a coffee table that was snug between the front door of the house and the side of the couch. One of my favorite things about the lamp was how it glowed when the lights were turned off and we were all headed upstairs to bed. The glistening of the light on the snow reminded me of another world within a world where I could escape all the things from my current reality. Even though my family fell apart while I was growing up, that church lamp stayed with me in whatever home I was living in each Christmas. It became one of my most favorite things.
As an adult, I still remember that lamp and found one of my own that I display each holiday season and have since my kids were babies. It’s a reminder for me of how far I’ve come and has become a Christmas tradition for my children even amid mine and their dad’s marriage falling apart. I didn’t want to do much that first December as a single mom, but I knew I needed to keep a sense of normalcy in my home as much as possible. The church lamp was one of those things.
What I’ve learned from keeping familiar items in my home, is that they bring a feeling of safety with them
and who couldn’t use more safe places in their lives? As I watch friends go through hard times such as divorces, I use this lamp as a starting point to tell them how I learned to make my home such an inviting and healing space. Here are my top 5 suggestions for single moms to keep in their space to welcome a feeling of healing and inner peace; especially during the holiday season.
1. Sensory
— I personally like Balsam-fir scented candles and the glow they give off when they burn. I keep one in my kitchen, right next to my bed, and on my office desk. I do this for several reasons. I light the candle in the kitchen every day I get home from work to set the tone for the evening and on the weekends to help me shift from work-mode to relaxationmode. The one on my desk is lit when I’m doing homework and attending class online. It helps relax me and slow down my pace to focus on the professor. The one by my bed is there for self-care nights when I want to snuggle in bed and watch Netflix. I try to create pockets of calm in my busy life. Candles help me do this.
2. Tactile
— I always make sure I have a comfortable blanket or Christmas socks on when I’m home.
December Traditions for the Single Mom
Being able to relax in my home is so important to me. When you’re going through a divorce, self-preservation can look like curling up on the couch and wrapping yourself in a handmade blanket or making sure your feet are warm. It may seem simple, but there’s nothing more comforting than taking care of your current self.
3. Visual
— I take great pride in my home and the aesthetics of it. When I bought my first home about a year after my divorce was final, I knew I wanted it to be a place of comfort and healing. I wanted to get rid of the material things that were no longer bringing me joy, so that I could make room for open spaces to enjoy my life. I was very intentional about how I decorated my home and what I allowed into my space. Taking a moment to reflect on what material items in your life bring you joy will help you minimize clutter while maximizing healing. For me, I love fresh flowers on
The glistening of the light on the snow reminded me of another world...
my kitchen counter and a very clean, neutral toned pallet.
4. Olfactory — People
always tell me that my house has a warm, sweet smell to it. I think that comes from the candles, but I also think it comes from me keeping a clean home. I like things to be neat and in place so that I can notice the sweet smell of my environment. When I’m feeling nostalgic or missing my grandma back east, I will bake zucchini bread which, as you can imagine, makes everything smell amazing. If I’m struggling with mom guilt or getting lost in past thoughts of when we were a family of five, I will bake Christmas cookies to help ground me.
5. Auditory — I’ve recently fallen in love with Audible where I can listen to books from my phone. If I’m in a baking/cooking mood, I’ll usu-
ally pick a book from my library where I pay a monthly fee to get a new book each month. Or, if I’m in a cleaning mood, I’ll turn on my music and blast Chris Stapleton or Teddy Swims.
Using my five senses all year round, but especially in December, helps me keep important traditions alive for myself and my kids. They know what to expect and they look forward to the continuity of Christmas decorations taking up space in their once-ayear spots. It’s something we all enjoy and a vital tool in establishing a safe place for traditions to continue.
Meagan Ruffing is a parenting journalist, mental health therapist, and single mom who tries to do her best each day. She doesn’t always get things right but continually strives to do better.
TWEENS & TEENS
— by Katy M. Clark
A Hug From My Teenage Son Is Worth a Thousand Words
Son, so many words rushed into my head when I hugged you at the top of the stairs the other day. They say a picture is worth a thousand words. But, I would argue, so is a hug.
“How did your shoulders get so broad?” I said aloud as I looked up, not down, at you.
“When did you get so strong?” came next, feeling the firm squeeze you gave me. Of course, then I remembered all the workouts and practices you have dedicated to your favorite sports. How could I forget? Until recently, I had been your chauffeur for them.
I was so glad to be hugging you, my teenage son, and it made me remember all the hugs before.
I hugged you gently as a newborn. You were so little then! I hugged you even though I was so tired, and my body so beaten. Pure love buoyed me through those first few months.
Then you blossomed into a bubbly baby with squishy arms and legs. It seemed I hugged you all day long while I carried you everywhere. And at night I hugged you when you didn’t sleep. I held you close while sitting in a rocking chair for hours.
I hugged you as a toddler, when you would waddle over to me, your chubby hands and arms outstretched. You
brought me treasures, like rocks and sticks. Or just a big smile, unless you were tired. Then you brought me your body to wrap in my arms while you fell asleep, your head on my shoulder.
I hugged you goodbye on the first day of kindergarten and again when you came back to me later that same day. Then came all the following days when I hugged you before and after school.
More hugs came after little league games, the science fair, or holiday concerts. There was the time I hugged you when someone had tried to pick a fight with you. Then there was the time I hugged you when your teacher sent home a note that said you were kind to someone.
When you got to middle school, you didn’t want to hug me in front of your friends. That’s okay. You still hugged me at home. Suddenly it seemed your doughy arms were gone, replaced by long, gangly ones. Each hug reminded me that you were growing up.
High school hugs are different now, but still special. They are quick, but meaningful. They are strong, because you are strong. Remember how I hugged you at the year-end sports banquet when you won an award? And how I hugged you when you passed your driver’s education test?
Now there are hugs before you drive to school every morning, hugs of
well wishes before a big test, or hugs to console you after a bad day.
And there are so many hugs to come, I hope.
The hugs when you graduate and when I drop you off at college.
The hugs when you come home for breaks.
The hugs on the first day of your internship or when you move into an apartment of your own.
The hugs when you get engaged and then more hugs for you and your bride.
The hugs won’t end there, either. I will hug you when you come home for dinner or just a visit. When you join us to celebrate Christmas. When you get a promotion. When it’s a Tuesday.
These hugs, they are worth a thousand words, a thousand memories. They tell the story of a lifetime of loving you.
I’m so lucky to be your mom and get to hug you. And I’m so grateful that you hug me back.
This article was originally published by Your Teen for Parents
Katy M. Clark is a writer and mom of two who embraces her imperfections on her blog Experienced Bad Mom.
Whether at home or in the car on a road trip, Would You Rather? questions can strike up some fun conversations .
Here are some QUESTIONS you can ask your child!
Would you rather eat donuts or candy every day?
DEAR TEACHER
– by Peggy Gisler and Marge Eberts
Helping all parents make their children’s educational experience as successful as possible
SHOULD YOUR CHILDREN MAKE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS?
CWould you rather create a famous piece of art or invent a famous invention?
Would you rather travel by bus or by bicycle?
Would you rather be a superhero or an astronaut?
Would you rather be a doctor for people or a veterinarian?
*Source – familyeducation.com
onsidering only about 10 percent of the 50 percent of us who make resolutions succeed in accomplishing them, it makes one wonder if this is something that children need to do. Resolutions typically imply that there is something that we need to do to improve ourselves because we are not quite good enough as we are right now. This definitely might not be the message that we want to give if we encourage our children to make resolutions.
Rather than making one or more resolutions, instead, encourage your children to focus on a goal or two for the coming year. Working to accomplish a goal and doing so can give children a feeling of accomplishment. Goals should be reasonable and not too broad. While the ultimate goal for a child might be to become a better baseball player, it is far better to have the smaller goal of playing catch every Saturday morning to improve one’s baseball skill. Another trick to accomplishing a goal is to write down on a calendar every time a goal is worked on. This gives a child a visual picture of progress.
The selection of a goal or goals does not necessarily have to be something to improve oneself. Your child could make a bucket list of things that he or she would like to try in the coming year. This could be things like taking a special hike, doing something specific to improve the environment, or taking dance lessons. The bucket list can be posted in a conspicuous spot so things can be crossed off when they are accomplished.
A TIMELY REMINDER
Half the school year will be over shortly. It is time to take stock and review how it has gone so far and to think
about any changes that may need to be made to help your children succeed in school. Consider the following:
• Is a chat with the teacher needed?
• Is the child participating in so many activities that they interfere with his or her schooling?
• For older children, should they be enrolled in a more or less challenging class load?
• Does the family’s daily routine work from homework to bedtime to mealtime?
THE RIGHT BOOKS FOR BEGINNING READERS
Parents: With the holidays rapidly approaching, you may be contemplating giving books to your beginning readers. You may want to think twice about giving them books with a lot of engaging and colorful illustrations even though they may be very attractive.
A project supported by the National Science Foundation and the U.S. Department of Education discovered that by limiting extraneous illustrations and only having relevant illustrations, children can have an easier time focusing on the story as well as better reading comprehension. When there are entertaining illustrations that are not relevant to a story, children’s gaze tends to shift away from the text.
Our Skinny Books stories, available in paper and on apps, have absolutely no illustrations. They are leading the way to the improved design of beginning reading materials. You can find them on our website.
A LOOK AT READING PROBLEMS
Parents: Nothing is more important to success in school than for children to be good readers. Parents usually have a good idea if their children are having problems learning to read. One big indicator that a child could have problems is that a parent had difficulties learning to read.
Don’t sit back and wait for a child to pick up the necessary reading skills for his or her age. While this could happen, it’s far better to be proactive and find out if your child really needs some extra help. It is not too early to seek help for a preschooler who is having trouble naming letters, can’t retell stories, and has a limited vocabulary. Preschoolers can be evaluated for free through the “Child Find” program if a problem is suspected. Your school district will have information on how to get your child evaluated.
When children start elementary school and parents get an inkling from the child’s work, teacher comments or grades that the child might have a reading problem, it is time to talk to the reading teacher. The parent needs to learn two things: 1) is it a serious problem requiring testing and special help or 2) can the problem be resolved with some extra help from the teacher or home.
Serious problems require a diagnosis of a learning disability and all the special services the school must offer. This will not be an overnight solution to improving a child’s reading. For lesser problems, you will find on our website, in the Skill Builders section, “Improving Children’s Reading Skills with Techniques that Work at Home.” These are the techniques that most reading experts consider to be effective, and they can show rapid improvement in reading skills.
Depending on the severity of a reading disability, outside help from a tutor or learning center can be helpful. Another avenue of help, usually free, is a college reading clinic.
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504 Education Plans
What
Is a 504 Plan?
A504 plan is a way for schools to provide support for students with a disability so that they can learn in a regular classroom.
The name 504 plan comes from Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act. This law prohibits discrimination against people with disabilities in programs or activities that receive federal funding (such as public schools or publicly funded private schools). This ensures that students with disabilities can get a free education that works for them.
Who Can Get a 504 Plan?
Students are eligible for 504 plans if they have a disability that limits daily life activities such as self-care, walking, seeing, breathing, hearing, speaking, or learning.
Students who need a 504 plan can include those with:
• attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)
• autism spectrum disorder (ASD)
• diabetes
• epilepsy
• hearing problems or vision impairment
• chronic health conditions, such as asthma or allergies
• mental health conditions, such as anxiety or depression
A student returning to school after a serious illness or injury also might get a 504 plan.
How Is a 504 Plan Made?
First, a parent, teacher or other school staff member, health care provider, or therapist asks the school to evaluate the student for a 504 plan. Every school handles 504 plans a little differently, but most have a 504 team that may include the principal, teachers, school nurse, guidance counselor, and psychologist. The team looks at a child’s grades, test scores, medical records, and what teachers report about the student to decide if the student is eligible for a 504 plan.
If the 504 team decides that a student is eligible, they work with the parents to decide what kind of supports (called accommodations) the student needs to succeed. These are listed in the 504 plan.
What Does a 504 Plan Include?
The 504 plan is based on each student’s needs and strengths. Accommodations can include:
• sitting in a certain place or with a certain desk or chair in the classroom
• extra time on tests and assignments
• use of speech-to-text (dictation) for writing
• modified textbooks (such as one that can be read aloud to the student)
• adjusted class schedules
• verbal (out loud) testing
• allowing visits to the nurse’s office
• occupational therapy or physical therapy
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Many other accommodations are available. If a parent asks for one that the school can’t provide, the school might offer another one that would help. Most accommodations in 504 plans don’t change what the student learns — rather, they remove barriers to learning.
The 504 plan should be reviewed at least yearly to make sure the accommodations are up to date and work for the student’s needs.
How Do 504 Plans and Individualized Education Programs (IEPs) Differ?
The main difference is that:
• A 504 plan provides accommodations so a student can learn in a regular classroom.
• An IEP is a plan for specialized learning (for example, for dyslexia) or special education. 504 plans don’t usually change what the child learns but IEPs can.
There are other differences too, such as who is eligible, who creates the plan, and how changes are made to the plan.
Some students have both a 504 plan and an IEP. For example, a student with autism spectrum disorder may have an IEP for learning supports and a 504 plan for occupational therapy.
What Happens if Parents Don’t Agree With the School About the 504 Plan?
Sometimes parents and the school disagree on whether a child should have a 504 plan and/or what should be in it. If this happens to you, start by setting up a meeting to talk to the school 504 team. Schools want their students to succeed and will work with parents.
If you still have concerns, you can ask for a mediation session with a mediator. A mediator is professionally trained to help with the discussion without taking either side. If the issue is not resolved in the mediation session, you can request a due process hearing. You may need to get a lawyer for the hearing. You can also make a written appeal to the school district or the U.S. Office for Civil Rights saying that the school violated 504 rights.
How Can Parents Help?
You are your child’s most important teacher and advocate. Help your child by building a strong relationship with the 504 team. This way, you show that you value education and that you want to work together respectfully to help your child succeed at school.
It also helps to:
• Understand the 504 plan. Know what the accommodations are and how they will be used.
• Talk to the school about how your child is doing. Let them know if you think the accommodations are working.
If you think you need to add or change accommodations, talk to the 504 team about your concerns.
Information provided by Nemours Children’s Health through its award-winning Nemours KidsHealth website. For more on this topic, visit KidsHealth.org. Reprinted following Guidelines.
The South Carolina Aquarium is next door to the fort visitor center. The number one attraction in Charleston, it is designed to take visitors into the underwater world in South Carolina and beyond. The Touch Tank allows visitors not only to see, but also to touch a variety of animals without backbones such as hermit crabs, whelks, sea urchins, horseshoe crabs, as well as Atlantic stingrays. Aquarium staff and volunteers are on hand to help everyone understand life in the Atlantic Ocean.
The Zucker Family Sea Turtle Recovery is both a hospital and guest experience. It makes the rehabilitation of sick and injured sea turtles visible for everyone and shows the journey from rescue to rehabilitation to release.
One of the more popular attractions for all ages is Patriots Point Naval & Maritime Museum in Charleston Harbor, home to the USS Yorktown, a massive aircraft carrier with a deck full of planes used during wars and conflicts spanning World War II to Desert Storm. Patriots Point is also home to the Congressional Medal of Honor Society and their official Medal of Honor Museum with many interactive exhibits.
Don’t miss the City Market. It is filled with shops and crafts—the most celebrated is the sweetgrass basket that is the official South Carolina craft. Now quite expensive because of shore devel-
opment and the shortage of materials, the crafters who create the unique baskets are carrying on centuries old traditions imported from Africa. Watch the baskets being created with artists’ skilled hands. The baskets are part of the unique culture developed by plantation slaves known as Gullah.
If you have a sweet tooth, be sure to sample some pralines (a delicious pecan and sugar confection). After one taste you will be likely to take home a box.
Plantations helped Charleston grow into a wealthy city in earlier times and today there are a number that are open to visitors.
The Drayton family founded Magnolia Plantation & Gardens in 1676. It has survived the centuries and witnesses the history of our nation unfold. It is the oldest public tourist site in the Lowcountry and the oldest public gardens in America, opening its doors to visitors in 1870.
Charleston has a wealth of wide safe expanses of sand. Folly Beach, also known as “The Edge of America,” is a beautiful barrier island only 15 minutes from downtown historic Charleston. Isle of Palms County Park, just 12 miles from the historic district, offers beautiful ocean frontage, with lifeguards on duty seasonally, along a beachfront designated swimming area.
There is a wide variety of accommodations in the Charleston area. During my latest visit, it was a special treat to stay at the award-winning 19-room John Rutledge House Inn in the heart of the Historic District. The inn dates to 1763 when John Rutledge, a well-known judge and politician, built the home for his wife Elizabeth. Rutledge was a signer of the U.S. Constitution and first governor of the state. The house bears a scar left by a Union cannonball during the Civil War. George Washington was an early visitor and drafts of the Constitution were written here.
In the 1980s, the house was restored and converted to an inn with guest rooms in the main house and two carriage houses. Breakfast is included and can be served in your room, the ballroom or, best of all, in the garden. Dogs are welcome and the inn is within walking distance of many attractions.
Travel Tip of the Month: For more information, visit charlestoncvb.com. For the John Rutledge House Inn, visit johnrutledgehouseinn.com or call 843723-7999.
Deborah Williams lives in Holland, NY and is a veteran travel writer whose work has appeared in national and international publications. She is the recipient of the Society of American Travel Writers’ Lowell Thomas Gold Travel Writing Award.
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THE FAMILY PET
— Courtesy of the Niagara Frontier Veterinary Society
Winter Weather Safety Tips for Pets
Has your pet had his/her preventive care exam (wellness exam) yet? Cold weather may worsen some medical conditions such as arthritis. Your pet should be examined by a veterinarian at least once a year, and it’s as good a time as any to get him/her checked out to make sure (s)he is ready and as healthy as possible for cold weather.
It’s a common belief that dogs and cats are more resistant than people to cold weather because of their fur, but it’s untrue. Temperatures below freezing along with wind chill can be dangerous, even deadly, for our domesticated pets. Pets can freeze, become disoriented, lost, injured or even killed from being left outdoors in the cold. Keep your pets inside where they can stay cozy and safe. Also, don’t leave pets in the car alone as it can act like a refrigerator and hold in the cold air, which can result in your pet freezing and could lead to serious health concerns, including death.
If possible, bring your pets inside during cold winter weather. Move other animals or livestock to sheltered areas and make sure they have access to nonfrozen drinking water. When animals are outside, make sure their access to food and water is not blocked by snow drifts, ice or other obstacles. More dogs are lost during the winter than during any other
season, so make sure your dog always wears an ID tag.
You will probably need to shorten your dog’s walks in very cold weather to protect you both from weather-associated health risks. Arthritic and elderly pets may have more difficulty walking on snow and ice and may be more prone to slipping and falling. Short-haired pets feel the cold faster because they have less protection, and short-legged pets may become cold faster because their bellies and bodies are more likely to come into contact with snow-covered ground. The same goes for very young and very old pets.
A warm vehicle engine can be an appealing heat source for outdoor and feral cats, but it can be deadly. Check underneath your car, bang on the hood, and honk the horn before starting the engine to encourage feline hitchhikers to abandon their roost under the hood.
Salt and other chemicals used to melt snow and ice can irritate a pet’s paws. Wipe their paws with a damp towel before your pet licks them and irritates their mouth. Booties can be even more effective in covering and protecting paws when out on walks. Paying close attention to their feet and in-between their toes will help prevent and treat skin irritation in the winter.
Exposure to winter’s dry, cold air and chilly rain, sleet and snow can cause chapped paws and itchy, flaking skin, but these aren’t the only discomforts pets can suffer. To help prevent cold weather dangers from affecting your pet’s health, please heed this advice from our experts. If your fur baby is short-haired, try getting them a coat or sweater with a high collar or turtleneck with coverage from tail to belly. Your pet will not only be warm, but stylish too!
Antifreeze is a deadly poison. Wipe up spills and store antifreeze out of reach. Consider using products that contain propylene glycol rather than ethylene glycol.
Use space heaters with caution around pets, because they can cause burns or they can be knocked over, potentially starting a fire. Check your furnace before the cold weather sets in to make sure it’s working efficiently, and install carbon monoxide detectors to
keep your entire family safe from harm. If you have a pet bird, make sure its cage is away from drafts.
Cold weather also brings the risks of severe winter weather, blizzards and power outages. Prepare a disaster/ emergency kit, and include your pet in your plans. Have enough food, water and medicine (including any prescription medications, as well as heartworm and flea/tick preventives) on hand to get through at least 5 days.
November and December abounds with holiday celebrations, and nothing can spoil good cheer like an emergency trip to the veterinary clinic. These tips can help keep your winter holiday season from becoming not-so-happy—for your pet and for you.
The Niagara Frontier Veterinary Society is a 501(c)3 organization comprised of more than 75 small animal hospitals and more than 225 practitioners in Erie and Niagara Counties. It exists to advance public awareness and understanding of appropriate and compassionate pet health care, veterinary services and the veterinary profession.
Tasty Twists on a Traditional Holiday Treat: 3 red velvet variations of seasonal sweets
(Family Features) Embrace the color and flavor of tradition this holiday season with new twists on red velvet desserts. These variations on the classic cake can take your celebrations to new heights by throwing it back to childhood with a little bite of the past.
Take a trip down memory lane with “Cookin’ Savvy” and her delicious takes on tradition: Red Velvet Bundt Cake, Red Velvet Cake Balls and Red Velvet Cookie Cutouts, all of which make it easy for the entire family to join together for some fun (and rich homemade flavor) in the kitchen.
Find more “Cookin’ Savvy” recipes at Culinary.net.
Red Velvet Bundt Cake
Recipe courtesy of “Cookin’ Savvy”
1 red velvet cake mix
1 cup all-purpose flour
1 heaping tablespoon cocoa powder
1 cup sugar
1 cup milk
3 eggs
1 stick melted butter
Frosting:
1 stick softened butter
1 package (8 ounces) softened cream cheese
1/4 cup heavy whipping cream
5 cups powdered sugar white sanding sugar (optional)
In mixing bowl, mix cake mix, flour, cocoa powder and sugar. Blend in milk, eggs and butter.
Grease bundt pan with butter and pour in batter. Bake according to package instructions for bundt cakes then add 10-15 minutes. Let cool before icing.
To make frosting: In bowl, mix butter, cream cheese and whipping cream. Slowly blend in powdered sugar.
Ice entire bundt cake or place frosting in piping bag and pipe with back and forth “drip” motion. Sprinkle sanding sugar for sparkly snow appearance, if desired.
Red Velvet Cake Balls
Recipe courtesy of “Cookin’ Savvy”
1 red velvet cake mix
1 cup all-purpose flour
1 heaping tablespoon cocoa powder
1 cup sugar
1 cup milk
3 eggs
1 stick melted butter
Frosting:
1/2 stick softened butter
4 ounces softened cream cheese
1/8 cup heavy whipping cream
2 1/2 cups powdered sugar, plus additional for rolling, divided
Heat oven to 350º F.
In mixing bowl, mix cake mix, flour, cocoa powder and sugar. Blend in milk, eggs and butter.
Grease 9-by-13-inch pan and pour in batter. Bake 45 minutes.
Remove from oven and use fork to crumble cake then place in large bowl.
To make frosting: In bowl, mix butter, cream cheese and whipping cream. Slowly blend in powdered sugar. Mix frosting into bowl with cake.
Form cake mixture into balls then roll in powdered sugar.
Red Velvet Cookie Cutouts
Recipe courtesy of “Cookin’ Savvy”
1 red velvet cake mix
1 cup all-purpose flour
1 heaping tablespoon cocoa powder
1 cup sugar
1 cup milk
3 eggs
1 stick melted butter
Frosting:
1 stick softened butter
1 package (8 ounces) softened cream cheese
1/4 cup heavy whipping cream white sanding sugar (optional)
Heat oven to 350º F.
In mixing bowl, mix cake mix, flour, cocoa powder and sugar. Blend in milk, eggs and butter.
Cover two cookie sheets with parchment paper. Pour half the mixture onto each sheet. Bake 25-30 minutes.
Let cookies cool then freeze 1 hour. Use cookie cutters to make desired shapes.
To make frosting: In bowl, mix butter, cream cheese and whipping cream. Slowly blend in powdered sugar.
Using knife or piping bag, frost cookies. Sprinkle with sanding sugar for sparkly snow appearance, if desired.
THE KIDDIE GOUR ME T
Thanks to Restaurant Week, we discovered this restaurant, with a kids’ menu and flavorful food coming from the kitchen, not to mention brews worthy of a special taphouse.
Quite a few kids were enjoying the food, and those 10 and under had a good deal: a choice of Cheeseburger Sliders, Pulled Pork Sliders, Chicken Nuggets, and Cheese Quesadilla, served with a fountain drink and a choice of fries or apple sauce ($12.00).
— by Barbara Blackburn
District 37 Kitchen & Taphouse
110 Sweeney Street N. Tonawanda, NY 14120
716-327-1877
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We were seated next to a well-behaved baby in a high chair. The noise level was enough to mask any misbehaved kids.
We “grown kids” immersed ourselves in the Boom Boom Shrimp ($15.00 appetizer)—crispy honey butter-battered shrimp tossed in boomboom sauce, topped with scallions and sesame seeds. So, you wonder, what is boom boom sauce? Answer: mayo, ketchup, sweet chili, garlic powder, onion powder, and mustard.
As an entree I chose the Pulled Pork Sandwich ($16.00), sweet seasoned pork drizzled with Hogg Sauce, topped with sweet and spicy pickles, and honey poppy seed Coleslaw as a side. The slaw can be upgraded to fries ($3.00 side, $1.00 upgrade). This is coleslaw at its best.
Dad chose the Mushroom Medley, a mix of sauteed mushrooms with Melted Gruyere, garlic aioli, and arugula ($20.00). Mine was good; his was better. He could have upgraded a trade for fries with pimento mac & cheese, sweet corn pudding, or bacon chipotle baked beans.
District 37 specializes in smoked meat combos, such as the 2 Meat Platter and the Texas Platter. The House Specialty is Smoked Wings 6 for $12.00, 12
for $22.00, or l8 for $33.00. The sauces partnering with the wings can be sampled from the help yourself tray on the table: blackberry chipotle BBQ, bourbon peach, Buffalo, Carolina gold, D37 BBQ, and siracha honey BBQ.
The pizza here is Detroit Style—light, airy dough baked crisp with cheese, fresh toppings, and sprinkled with Parmigiano Reggiano. One choice is The 37: cheese blend, jalapeno peppers, Texas smoked sausage, and caramelized onions ($21.00). If you look online for the signature items, you’re likely to be impressed. One item that invites me to return is the Pimento Chicken, with the special cheese pickles and Alabama white sauce ($20.00).
Desserts rotate, depending on the neighborhood bakery. Our choice over several others was Banana Fosters Cheesecake. Caramelized nuts over a creamy middle and a base of graham crackers only lacked the original flambe presentation.
District 37 draws its name from North Tonawanda’s lumberjack history in the 1830s, when the lumber industry was at its peak. This legendary place, not found on a map, was in other words a haven for lumberjacks or “Heaven on Earth.” Today, not just for lumberjacks, this is a special place where you can eat, drink, and be merry in a culinary haven.
Barb has been happily doing the Kiddie Gourmet for over 35 years. She has two aging children and four grandchildren, all living in Florida. She is a home instructor and community education cooking instructor for Williamsville Central Schools. She is the 2023 recipient of the Buffalo State Alumni Association Senior Service Award.
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