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Easter and Passover Crafts
The month of April brings us two major holidays. Easter will be celebrated on Sunday, April 20th and Passover will begin at sundown on Saturday, April 12th. Here are some fun craft ideas to get the kids in the spirit of these holidays!
BUNNY SLIME
These days, what kid doesn’t love slime? We happen to think these jars of “bunny slime” are adorable. Just make sure your slime comes out the right pastel shade for Easter! The slime recipe includes 6oz. of White Elmer’s Glue, 1/2 teaspoon of baking soda, 2 Tablespoons water (or 1/4 cup for a stretchier slime), 1 Tablespoon Contact Lens Solution (brand doesn’t matter as long as it contains boric acid), and liquid food coloring. Googly eyes, pipe cleaners, large pom poms, stiff felt or foam in white and other colors for ears help you create the bunny face, held in place by glue dots or hot glue. Check out all the instructions at https://www.thebestideasforkids.com/bunny-slime/.
FAIRY EASTER EGGS
If the price of eggs is giving you sticker shock and has you thinking twice about dying them for Easter, Kim at Crafting Cheerfully has a great alternative. Create these cute Fairy Easter Eggs using wooden or plastic eggs. That way, they will last forever! With just a few supplies including glittery paper, tiny paper flowers, and art deco paint (if you are using wooden eggs that need to be colored), your kids will have a blast making this kid-friendly craft. Don’t forget to print Kim’s template for the fairy wings which will help you complete the project. Step-by-step directions can be found at https://www.craftingcheerfully.com/ diy-fairy-easter-eggs/.
KEEPSAKE SEDER PLATE
The Seder dinner is a Jewish ritual feast that is celebrated during the first two nights of Passover and the seder plate—holding items used to represent the Passover story—is one of the most important elements on the table. So why not have kids create handcrafted ones that can be passed down from one generation to the next? The website With Love, Ima has easy to follow instructions that involve beautifully painting a wooden circle and using coloring pages from Jewish Together to decorate the plate with the ritual foods. For the full instructions, visit https://withloveima.com/diy-wooden-seder-plates-3/.
DEVELOPMENTAL DISABILITIES
AWARENESS DAY
Registration is open for the 37th Annual Developmental Disabilities Awareness Day (DDDAY), a staple of the area developmental disability community held this year on Tuesday, May 20, 2025 at the Niagara Falls Convention Center (NFCC), 101 Old Falls Street, Niagara Falls, NY.
DDDAY is a marquis event of the Developmental Disabilities Alliance of WNY, which is a collaborative group of member voluntary agencies who provide services to people with disabilities in the Western New York and Finger Lakes regions.
This conference brings together advocates, industry connected vendors and suppliers, local and regional agencies, and leading experts to present on a wide variety of topics during the event. The event, run by volunteers, is the largest one of its kind in the United States.
People with disabilities, families, and professionals from across the region work together to present a comprehensive, informative conference. Professionals from many different area agencies that specialize in services for people with developmental disabilities and similar health-related industries will be on hand to provide workshops, guidance, literature, and general information about services and emerging trends.
The keynote speaker is Keah Brown, an award-winning journalist, author, and screenwriter. She is the recipient of Ulta Beauty’s Muse 100 award, a celebration of 100 inspirational voices around beauty. She is one of The Root’s 100 most influential African Americans of 2018. Keah is also the creator of the viral hashtag, DisabledAndCute. Her work on disability, identity, and pop culture has appeared in Town & Country Magazine, Teen Vogue, Elle, The LA Times, Marie Claire UK, and The New York Times, among other publications. Her essay collection The Pretty One, picture book Sam’s Super Seats and a young adult novel titled The Secret Summer Promise are out now.
The NFCC is fully accessible. Ample parking options surround the center and parking will be discounted for city lots.
The conference runs from 8:00am to 3:00pm with a reception following from 3:00 to 5:00pm and includes main workshops occurring in the morning and a feature presentation offered after lunch. Tickets are $30 in advance to attend, $50 including lunch, and $35 at the door (no lunch).
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How to Create a Routine with a Newborn Without Stressing Out
Iflipped through the book, turning page after page. I was looking for the secret that would finally help me find a routine that worked for my newborn and for me. One that had sleep times and feeding times neatly laid out. One that would offer a few times that I could get some of the laundry that was piling up washed, dried, and folded. As I searched the book that promised answers, the only thing I felt was defeated.
Life with a newborn is anything but by the book. You hear the jokes about how all babies do is eat, sleep, and poop, and long to follow the advice to sleep when the baby sleeps, but how do you actually make it all happen? How do you survive the early weeks of life with a baby without feeling like the routine that is meant to help is only causing stress?
IS A ROUTINE EVEN POSSIBLE?
After having three kids in three and a half years, I learned a few things about what worked and what didn’t work in
those early days. The good news? Finding a routine is possible. The bad news? It may look different than you expect.
People often think of creating a routine as a checklist with a schedule. And in a world before babies, that works. But babies have needs that stretch beyond checkboxes and rigid schedules. This doesn’t mean a routine is impossible.
Instead of looking at a routine as rigidly connected to times, the best thing you can do is think about routine as a series of events that you work toward.
10 TIPS
TO HELP YOU CREATE A LOW-STRESS ROUTINE FOR YOU AND YOUR NEWBORN
1. Set Realistic Expectations:
Understand that routines with newborns need to be flexible and may take time to establish. Be realistic about what you can and should get done each day.
The most important thing is getting you and your baby fed, rested, and cared for each day.
2. Follow Baby’s Cues:
Newborns have their own rhythms for feeding, sleeping, and being awake. And every baby is different. Pay attention to these cues to help establish a natural routine.
3. Establish a Bedtime Routine:
Even from a young age, a consistent bedtime routine can help signal your baby that it’s time to wind down. This might include a bath, a gentle massage, and a bedtime story.
4. Create a Feeding Schedule:
While newborn feeding schedules can vary, establishing a routine around feeding times can help create predictability for both baby and parents. In the early days, feeding on-demand is typically recommended. You can create a mini-routine that you follow whenever you feed. For example:
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• Create a Calm Environment
• Wake up and Diaper Check
• Feed the Baby
• Take a Burp Break
• Finish Feeding
• Final Burping
• Transition to the Next Activity (Nap, Play, or Snuggles)
5. Share Responsibilities:
If possible, share caregiving responsibilities with your partner or other family members to prevent burnout and allow for breaks. Offer tips for them to follow the routine, but don’t get stuck on keeping it rigid. Sometimes the help is more important than the specifics of the routine.
6. Prioritize Sleep for Everyone:
Sleep is crucial for baby and parents. Try to nap when your baby naps and don’t hesitate to ask for help with household chores. This can feel hard, but it is helpful.
7. Stay Flexible:
Be open to adjusting routines as your baby grows and their needs change. Give a routine a little time to see if it is helpful. If it is making things harder for you or the baby, be flexible. Flexibility can reduce stress for everyone involved.
8. Take Care of Yourself:
Remember to prioritize self-care. A well-rested and emotionally supported parent is better able to handle the demands of a newborn. Try to make times when you can’t sleep as restful as possible. This could look like taking a shower or playing calming music to help you relax.
9. Seek Support:
Joining parent groups or talking with other parents can provide valuable tips and emotional support during this transition. If that feels like a lot of work, try talking to one or two friends about how you are doing.
10. Enjoy the Moments:
Amidst the routine-building, cherish the precious moments with your newborn. They grow quickly, and these early days are special, even if they feel hard.
ROUTINES YOU CAN TRY
Structured Routine (For Parents Who Thrive on Predictability)
This routine follows a consistent schedule with regular feeding, sleeping, and playtime to establish a sense of order.
Example:
7:00 AM: Wake up, diaper change, morning feed
8:00 AM: Tummy time & gentle play
8:30 AM: Nap
10:00 AM: Diaper change, feeding
10:30 AM: Walk outside or babywearing around the house
11:30 AM: Nap
1:00 PM: Feeding, diaper change
1:30 PM: Storytime, music, or sensory play
2:30 PM: Nap
4:00 PM: Feeding, diaper change
4:30 PM: Bonding time with siblings or partner
5:30 PM: Catnap
6:30 PM: Evening feeding, bath, baby massage
7:00 PM: Bedtime routine (dim lights, lullabies, last feed)
2-3 Nighttime Feeds as Needed
Best for: Parents who prefer structure and predictability but remain flexible for baby’s needs.
Baby-Led Routine (For Parents Who Prefer Flexibility)
This routine follows the baby’s natural cues rather than a strict clock-based schedule.
Example:
Morning: Baby wakes up naturally → diaper change → feeding → cuddle time
Mid-Morning: Nap when baby shows sleepy cues (yawning, rubbing eyes) → short tummy time/play when awake
Afternoon: Feeding on demand → babywearing or stroller walk if baby is alert → nap whenever baby is tired
Evening: Gentle bath if baby enjoys it → quiet bonding time → final feed before sleep
Overnight: Feed as needed → diaper change if necessary → back to sleep
Best for: Parents who prefer to follow their baby’s needs rather than sticking to a set schedule.
Night-Focused Routine (For Parents Wanting Better Night Sleep)
This routine prioritizes nighttime sleep by ensuring daytime naps aren’t too long and reinforcing bedtime cues.
Example:
7:00 AM: Wake up, diaper change, feeding
8:00 AM: Short playtime, fresh air exposure
9:00 AM: Nap (limit to 1.5-2 hours)
11:00 AM: Feeding, diaper change, floor time
12:30 PM: Nap (again, limit to 1.5-2 hours)
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7 Baby Shower Ideas Trending in 2025
Many baby shower invitations request unwrapped gifts or diapers so the mom-to-be can mingle with her guests. This more interactive party setting requires some entertainment for the guests including crafts, games and hands-on entertainment. Check out these baby shower trends that will take your baby shower from mediocre to memorable.
THEMES
Everyone loves a themed party and baby showers are no different. You can choose one based on Mom’s interests or bring the nursery décor theme to the party. This year, popular themes include elements of minimalism, eco-friendliness and sustainability. While there are dozens of ideas, these caught our eye for 2025:
CRAFT STATION
Some groups prefer crafts over games. If that is your Mom-to-be, there are several ideas you can create at your craft station. You can ask the guests to decorate bibs, onesies and wooden hangers. If you are looking for something unique, ask guests to create felt book and nursery rhyme characters. Pat-
gently used books to pass down. You can also look for used children’s books at the library and ask the guests to sign those instead.
FILL THE MEDICINE CABINET
An English Tea Garden complete with flowers, serving high tea and finger sandwiches.
The Minimalist with all white décor and a simple brunch buffet. Use real plates, glassware and silverware instead of disposable.
Locally Grown is a cute farmers market theme that includes fruits, vegetables and flowers. Serve salads and other locally sourced foods and drinks.
terns are available on Etsy for guests to trace, cut out and glue together.
GROW BABY’S LIBRARY
We love the idea of bringing a book instead of a card to fill up the baby’s library. Instead of buying new, used books are the more eco-friendly choice. This is the perfect opportunity for the partygoers to go through their libraries and find
Babies need a bunch of different items that firsttime moms don’t think of. Make a small card for each item and place them in invitations asking the guests to include that item with their gift. You can set up a basket at the gift table and Mom can take home all the items she will need. Check out the sidebar for a list of items.
READ A BEDTIME STORY WITH LOVE
A busy mom can always use a break, so why not get everyone to read a story to her baby? Ask all the guests to make a video of themselves reading a book to the baby. Upload the videos to a private YouTube channel and have access to the stories wherever you have internet. Not only will it be a chance for the baby to hear and see the special people in their
lives, but it is also a wonderful keepsake to look back on down the road.
FOOD AND DRINK: GET THE GUESTS INVOLVED
Get the guests out of their seats. Bring in a bartender to teach everyone how to make Signature Mocktails and serve them in flights. You can also bring someone in to teach the guests how to make salami roses for charcuterie boards or, if your guest list includes a lot of new moms, how to make homemade pureed baby foods.
PLAY SOME FUN GAMES
Two Truths and a Lie
Print out sheets for mom guests to write down three sentences about their baby’s birth which will be read aloud when complete. Let the Mom-to-be guess what is true and what is a lie. For example: My labor was less than an hour. My daughter was born with a full head of hair. My husband got a speeding ticket on the way to the hospital. After the Mom-to-be guesses, the lie is revealed. Consider a prize for the craziest truth.
Baby Dice
This is a great way to get the mom-to-be to stop at every table and chat for a few minutes. Purchase some small gifts for prizes and an alphabet die. The players work in teams to spell out BABY SMITH by rolling the dice and marking them off on a sheet. The team to do so is the winner and moves up to the next table. Similar to Bunco, players switch partners and play again for a set amount of time. The player with the most wins and losses wins a prize.
Baby Telestrations
Much like the old game of telephone where you whisper in someone’s ear, Baby Telestrations adds a twist. The first person picks a card with a baby related term like “diaper change” and draws it on a piece of paper. The next person looks at that draw-
ing and writes their guess as to what the drawing is supposed to be and hands that to the next person. They then create a drawing based on that term and so on until the end when all drawings and guesses are revealed.
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Things That Will Fill the Baby’s Medicine Cabinet
• Digital thermometer
• Petroleum jelly
• Rubbing alcohol
• Tweezers
• Cotton balls
• Non-aspirin pain reliever/fever reducer
• Medicine syringe
• Bulb syringe or nasal aspirator
• Saline nasal drops
• Antiseptic wipes
• Topical calamine lotion or hydrocortisone cream
• Antibacterial ointment
• Adhesive bandage strips in various sizes and shapes
• Gauze rolls and pads
• Adhesive tape for making bandages
• A pair of sharp scissors for cutting gauze and tape
• Electrolyte solution for hydration
• Boo boo bunny
• Baby/children’s sunscreen
• Baby/children’s insect repellent
• Baby shampoo or baby wash
• Baby moisturizing lotion
• Diaper rash cream
• A pair of baby nail clippers or a small nail file
• A soft-bristled baby brush (especially helpful for handling cradle cap)
• Anti-gas drops
Six Tips for a Brand New Mom
As I held my newborn baby, a hurricane of emotions swirled inside of me. Extreme joy, happiness, excitement, love, and then, of course, fears and anxieties too. Everyone dreams and strives to be the fictional “perfect parent.”
NUMBER ONE PIECE OF ADVICE THAT I RECEIVED:
A seasoned Mom gave me this tip when I was pregnant: No body is perfect. You won’t make all the right decisions or go about things in all the right ways. You won’t always remember things you are supposed to. You won’t always be patient when you should be. Just remember—love your baby. That is your number one priority. If you make a mistake, apologize and hug him/her. Continue that forever. Teach him or her that nobody is per fect by admitting your mistakes and asking for forgiveness.
advice to a new mom who is just trying to get enough hours of sleep in a row to stay alive. However, when everything is peaceful and quiet, and Baby is all snuggled in your arms and happy, try to purposely appreciate the wonder of the situation. Here is your beautiful baby.
ENJOY EVERY MOMENT:
Older Moms will always say things like, “Enjoy every moment—it goes so fast!” This is the least helpful piece of
BE CREATIVE AND TRY SOMETHING NEW:
Baby is crying, and you have tried everything you can think of. You don’t really know what the situation is. Why
not try something creative and different? I would step outside holding Baby Ben (even if it was chilly) and he would instantly stop crying and look around. A nature lover from the very beginning! For Baby Sarah, I would crank up some music and she would calm down and look around, as if she was trying to find where the singing was coming from. My babies and I were even known to be dancing around the living room to Elton John. Whatever works!
A WAY TO REMEMBER:
We keep a calendar on the wall in our bathroom, so each night while I’m brushing my teeth, I can think about what great achievements or events took place that day and jot them down. When the kids got a little older, I wrote down funny phrases or questions they asked. The calendars can be kept as mementos themselves, or the information can be occasionally transferred to baby books.
TRACKING GROWTH:
Every month when they are little, and then every year when they get older, my husband has the kids stand (or sit)
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next to the same wall, not only to be measured, but also to take a short video. The plan is to make a baby-to-adult video someday. We will see… But it’s fun to see the huge change between measuring sessions.
TRUST YOUR HEART:
Use your “Mommy Sense.” Listen to your own inner thoughts. If your heart is telling you that something isn’t right, or you should be doing something different, follow your intuition. You will often just have a feeling one way or another. Go with it. I’m not saying it will always be right. But Moms just have that extra sense when something is awry.
These tips (or any tips) will not make you the “Perfect Parent.” But, realizing that it’s all a work in progress will keep you plugging along to being a Perfectly Filled with Love Parent, which is better anyway.
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When Expecting Parents Face the Unexpected:
Valuable Tips for NICU Parents
Parents dream of that unforgettable moment when they hold their newborn baby in their arms for the first time. When Vicki Moore gave birth to a full term, 8 pounds 12 ounces baby boy, she had no idea he would end up spending a week in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU). “When you pack your hospital bag, you take for granted that you will give birth and be released the following day. We did not expect to be in the NICU seven days,” says Moore. Each year, 10-15% of babies born in the U.S. are admitted to the NICU due to premature birth, heart defects, infection, or breathing irregularities. Soon after the birth of Vicki Moore’s son, they discovered he had a congenital heart defect and that he had been having neonatal seizures. He would need to be admitted to the NICU until he was stable.
While parents do a lot to prepare for the birth of a child, learning about the NICU is typically not on the to-do list. In the U.S. alone, roughly half a million babies are admitted to the NICU each year; therefore, to be best prepared, it is wise to educate yourself. The true experts are parents who have been through the experience. The information they share gives you a glimpse into what you can really expect during a NICU stay. Here are some of the most valuable tips.
GET INVOLVED
Visiting your child in the NICU for the first time will be emotional, shocking even. Your baby will typically be surrounded by equipment that is beeping and flashing, they might be covered in wires, and may look tiny and fragile. Feelings of intimidation about caring for them are normal. Ask the nurses how you can get involved in your child’s care. They are usually more than willing to teach you how to work around their medical equipment. “I tried to do as much as I could to be involved. A lovely nurse really pushed this and let us take temperatures, bathe his eyes and mouth, and change his diaper,” Moore says. The more parents get involved, the more they bond with the child and begin to feel comfortable as a parent of a NICU baby.
DON’T GIVE UP HOPE
The rule of thumb is that babies born prematurely will typically go home around their due date; however, this is not always the case. NICU babies have to learn to breathe, eat, suck, swallow, and maintain their own body temperature before they are released. “Don’t put a timeframe on how long you expect them to be there,” says Nikki Rhyme, mother of two-year-old triplets. “They will come home when they are ready.” Katie Bain, whose daughter was born at 23 weeks gestation says “Never give up hope. When given statistics of survival rate or chances of your baby having one of many major health concerns or developmental delays, it can be hard to stay positive.” She recommends seeking out online support groups and blogs that are filled with positive outcomes. “Read the success stories and hold tight to the hope that one day your baby will have one of their own.”
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Filled with concern for the baby’s health, it is easy to forget that mom has just given birth, often by emergency c-section and possibly after weeks of bed rest. Eating healthy and regular meals, staying hydrated, and getting adequate rest are key to recovering and handling the stress that the NICU experience often creates. “Accept how you are feeling and do not feel guilty for feelings of resentment, anger, or blame,” says Vicki Moore. It is normal to feel overwhelmed, sad, and helpless in this situation and parents need to ask for help when needed. “Tell your friends and family you’re struggling and you need support,” says Rachel Watts of Belton, MO. Many times, they want to help but they won’t know what to do unless you ask. Give them specific tasks that will make your life easier, like preparing a meal for your family, helping with childcare for older children, or doing a load of laundry. Talk through your feelings with others and seek professional advice if needed. Many hospitals have social workers on staff that can help work through the emotions that go along with the NICU experience. “Ask for help and support as you need it. This can be an emotional roller coaster that nothing can prepare you for,” says Jessica Craine, mother of twins.
DOCUMENT THIS SPECIAL TIME
When your child is in the NICU, it can be easy to get caught up in your surroundings. Many parents regret not documenting the time. Keep a journal in the room to take note of the baby’s first bath, first time they wore clothes, and when they moved from an incubator to a crib. “Ask the nurses to update the journal with weight and stats each shift,” suggests Hilary Thompson of Clay Center, KS. Although it is hard to see your tiny baby fighting in the NICU, many parents cherish photos of their NICU time because they are proof of how far their amazing and strong child has come.
WORK AS A TEAM
“Remember you are part of your child’s medical team and that you all have the same goal,” says Jenifer Wilson of Kansas City, MO. The NICU staff’s main goal is the health and wellbeing of your child, but the parent plays a big part in their care, as well. “Remember they are your babies, and you have a voice in how things go. Don’t be afraid to ask questions,” says triplet mom, Michelle Glasser.
NICU DOCTORS SAVE LIVES
“I wasn’t prepared for some of the things we saw and neither was my husband. We could see the doctors working on babies to save their lives. Incredibly heartbreaking,” says Jenna Mrnak of Bowman, ND. NICU doctors are truly saving the lives of babies on a daily basis. Currently the survival rate for NICU babies in the U.S. is 98%. Thirty years ago, that number was closer to 25%. While heartbreaking to witness, the statis-
tics are encouraging and there’s comfort in the knowledge that miracles happen there.
IT WILL END
“Our son came home as normal as any other baby his age, he was feeding well, putting on weight, and keeping us up all night. Minus the sleep deprivation of any new parent, we loved it,” says Vicki Moore, after their time in the NICU. Her son went on to have life-saving open heart surgery six months later, but there is no denying his time in the NICU was key to his survival, as well. Each day in the NICU seems like an eternity, but when your child comes home and the years go by, it fades into a distant memory. “It seems like it is a never-ending experience regardless of if it’s 5 days or 5 months but it will be a thing of the past before you know it,” says Jennifer Pena of Atlanta, GA. Two years ago, when I found out I was expecting triplets, I was told it was highly likely they would spend time in the NICU due to premature birth. I was so grateful to other parents for sharing their knowledge and encouragement with me as our family faced that challenging time. Our NICU experiences were one of the most difficult seasons my family has walked through. Even so, I find myself looking back on it fondly because I am more aware of how miraculous life is. It is a stressful place to be, but the NICU staff is there to do everything possible to get your baby well and home with their family.
Sarah Lyons is a proud mother of six who writes from her home in a suburb of Kansas City. The inspiration for this article comes from her experiences in the NICU after the birth of her six-year-old triplets.
WHAT IS BONDING?
Bonding is the intense attachment that develops between parents and their baby. It makes parents want to shower their baby with love and affection and to protect and care for their little one. Bonding gets parents up in the middle of the night to feed their hungry baby and makes them attentive to the baby’s wide range of cries.
Scientists are still learning a lot about bonding. They know that the strong ties between parents and their child provide the baby’s first model for intimate relationships and foster a sense of security and positive self-esteem. And parents’ responsiveness to an infant’s signals can affect the child’s social and cognitive development.
WHY IS BONDING IMPORTANT?
Bonding is essential for a baby. Studies of newborn monkeys who were given mannequin mothers at birth showed that, even when the mannequins were made of soft material and provided formula to the baby monkeys, the babies were better socialized when they had live mothers to interact with. The baby monkeys with mannequin mothers also were more likely to suffer from despair. Scientists suspect that lack of bonding in human babies can cause similar problems.
that can only happen within a certain time period after birth. For many parents, bonding builds out of everyday caregiving. You may not even know it’s happening until you see your baby’s first smile and suddenly realize that you’re filled with love and joy.
HOW DO BABIES BOND?
When you’re a new parent, it can take a while to understand your newborn and all the ways you can interact:
joy vocalizing in their first efforts at communication. Babies often enjoy just listening to your conversations, as well as your descriptions of their activities and environments.
WHAT CAN HELP MAKE AN ATTACHMENT?
Bonding with your baby is probably one of the most pleasurable aspects of infant care. You can begin by cradling and gently rocking or stroking your baby. If you and your partner both hold and touch your infant often, your little one will soon come to know the difference between your touches. Both parents can have “skin-to-skin” contact with their newborn by holding the baby against their own skin when feeding or cradling.
Bonding With Your Baby
• Touch becomes an early language as babies respond to skin-to-skin contact. It’s soothing for both you and your baby while promoting your baby’s healthy growth and development.
Babies, especially premature babies and those with medical problems, may respond to infant massage. Because babies aren’t as strong as adults, massage your baby very gently. Before trying infant massage, learn about proper techniques by checking out the many books, videos, and websites on the subject. You can also contact your local hospital to find out if there are classes in infant massage in your area.
Most infants are ready to bond right away. Parents, on the other hand, may have mixed feelings. Some feel an intense attachment within the first minutes or days after their baby’s birth. For others, it may take a bit longer.
But bonding is a process, not something that takes place within minutes or
• Eye-to-eye contact provides meaningful communication at close range.
• Babies can follow moving objects with their eyes.
• Your baby tries — early on — to imitate your facial expressions and gestures.
• Babies prefer human voices and en-
Breastfeeding and bottle-feeding are both natural times for bonding. Infants respond to the smell and touch of their mothers, as well as the responsiveness of the parents to their needs. In an uncomplicated birth, caregivers can take advantage of the infant’s alert period right after birth by feeding and holding the baby. This isn’t always possible, though, and immediate contact isn’t necessary for the future bonding of babies and their parents.
Adoptive parents may be concerned about bonding with their baby. It might
happen sooner for some than others, but adopted babies and their parents can bond just as well as biological parents and their children.
BONDING WITH THE OTHER PARENT
Dads and other partners often yearn for closer contact with their babies, but bonding can happen on a different timetable. But they should realize, early on, that bonding with their child isn’t a matter of being another mom. In many cases, dads share special activities with their infants. And both parents benefit greatly when they can support and encourage one another.
Early bonding activities include:
• participating in labor and delivery
• feeding (breast or bottle); sometimes dad forms a special bond with baby when handling a middle-of-the-night feeding and diaper change
• reading or singing to baby
• bathing the baby
• mirroring baby’s movements
• mimicking baby’s cooing and other vocalizations
• using a front baby carrier during routine activities
whelming, or stressful, you might want to ask people to drop off meals, walk the dog, or run an errand for you.
WHAT CAN AFFECT BONDING?
Bonding may be delayed for various reasons. Parents-to-be may form a picture of their baby having certain physical and emotional traits. When, at birth or after an adoption, you meet your baby, reality might make you adjust your mental picture. Because a baby’s face is the primary tool of communication, it plays a critical role in bonding and attachment.
Nurses will help you learn to bathe and feed your baby. If you’re using breast milk you’ve pumped, the staff, including a lactation consultant, can help you make the transition to breastfeeding before your baby goes home. Some intensive care units also offer rooming-in before you take your baby home to ease the transition.
WHAT IF THERE’S A PROBLEM?
If you don’t feel that you’re bonding by the time you take your baby to the first office visit with your little one’s doctor, discuss your concerns then. It may be a sign of postpartum depression. Bonding also can be delayed if your baby has had significant, unexpected health issues, or if you feel exhausted and overwhelmed by your newborn’s arrival.
• letting baby feel the different textures of dad’s face
BUILDING A SUPPORT SYSTEM
At first, caring for a newborn can take nearly all your attention and energy — especially for a breastfeeding mom. Bonding will be much easier if you aren’t exhausted by other things going on at home, such as housework, meals, and laundry. It’s helpful if dads or other partners can give an extra boost with these everyday chores, as well as offer plenty of general emotional support.
And it’s OK to ask family members and friends for help in the days — even weeks — after you bring your baby home. But because having others around during such a transitional period can sometimes be uncomfortable, over-
Hormones can also significantly affect bonding. While nursing or feeding a baby in the first hours of life can help with bonding, it also causes the outpouring of many different hormones in moms. Sometimes mothers have trouble bonding with their babies if their hormones are raging or they have postpartum depression. Bonding can also be delayed if a mom’s exhausted and in pain after a long, difficult delivery.
If your baby spends some time in intensive care, you may initially be put off by the amount and complexity of equipment. But bonding with your baby is still important. The hospital staff can help you handle your baby through openings in the isolette (a special nursery bassinet). When your baby is ready, the staff will help you hold your little one. In the meantime, you can spend time watching, touching, and talking with your baby. Soon, your baby will recognize you and respond to your voice and touch.
Whatever the cause, the sooner a problem is identified, the better. Health care providers often deal with these issues and can help you be better prepared to form a bond with your baby.
It also can help to share your feelings about bonding with other new parents. Ask about parenting classes for parents of newborns.
WHAT ELSE SHOULD I KNOW?
Bonding is a complex, personal experience that takes time. There’s no magic formula and it can’t be forced. A baby whose basic needs are being met won’t suffer if the bond isn’t strong at first. As new parents get more comfortable with their baby and routines become more predictable, they’ll feel more confident about all the amazing aspects of raising their little one.
Information provided by Nemours Children’s Health through its awardwinning Nemours KidsHealth website. For more on this topic, visit KidsHealth. org. Reprinted following Guidelines.
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—by Rebecca Hastings
I remember sitting alone on one side of a big wooden table. On the other side were teachers, administrators, and specialists.
Is Your Special Ed Program Meeting YOUR Child’s Needs?
When my child was in early elementary school and needed some extra help, we had a meeting about special education services. I remember sitting alone on one side of a big wooden table. On the other side were teachers, administrators, and specialists. As the meeting began, I heard the team talk about my child’s educational needs but something was missing. It was as if they were talking about a nameless person. They didn’t see the child that I saw at home.
When your child requires special education services, it can be challenging to navigate their needs, the system, and your feelings. You know that ensuring that your child’s special education program is meeting their needs is crucial for their academic and personal development. Yet, knowing how to make that happen can feel impossible.
Here are some steps you can take to make sure your child is receiving the appropriate support:
BE INFORMED
Educators have experience with special education and all that goes with
that. When they talk about your child’s needs it can feel like they speak a different language. Be intentional about learning and understanding the terms and procedures. Familiarize yourself with your child’s Individualized Education Program (IEP) or 504 Plan. Understand the goals, accommodations, and services outlined in the plan.
Also, familiarize yourself with federal and state laws regarding special education. Understand your child’s rights and entitlements.
FOSTER OPEN COMMUNICATION WITH TEACHERS AND SPECIALISTS
The relationship you have with your child’s teachers and specialists makes a big difference in their special education program. Regularly communicate with teachers, therapists, and other specialists who work with your child. Establishing a strong relationship with them can help address any concerns or issues promptly.
It is imperative to attend parentteacher conferences and IEP meetings.
Be prepared to discuss your child’s progress and ask questions about their educational plan. It can also be helpful to bring another trusted person to these meetings so you don’t miss anything important.
MONITOR PROGRESS
Keep track of your child’s academic and behavioral progress. While it is tempting to only focus on their grades, for example, consider all aspects of their learning and behavior. If possible, request regular updates from teachers or therapists on how your child is doing. This will help you and the education team address issues that arise early to keep things on track.
OBSERVE CLASS ROOM ENVIRONMENT
Sometimes a child acts differently in school than they do at home. Other times, it’s hard to gauge what is going on in the classroom through your child’s descriptions. When you make time to observe the classroom environment, you glean more information that helps make sure your child’s program is meeting their needs. Visit your child’s classroom
FOSTER OPEN COMMUNICATION WITH TEACHERS AND SPECIALISTS
to see how they interact with peers, the teacher, and their learning environment. This can provide valuable insights into their daily experiences.
ADVOCATE FOR YOUR CHILD
You are your child’s number one advocate. If you have concerns or feel that their needs aren’t being met, voice them to the school’s special education team. Be assertive, but also open to collaboration. Remember, you are all working together to provide the best education for your child.
REQUEST ADDITIONAL EVALUATIONS IF NECESSARY
You have the right to request evaluations. If you suspect that your child’s needs have changed, or if you feel that the current plan isn’t effective, request additional assessments or evaluations to reevaluate their needs.
STAY INVOLVED IN THE IEP PROCESS
Actively participate in the development, review, and revision of your child’s IEP. This can be a lot of work,
but your input is invaluable in tailoring the plan to meet their specific needs. It is also important to make sure the school is following the IEP or 504 plan. These are legal documents. If they are not followed, you may need to seek outside help.
SEEK OUTSIDE RESOURCES AND SUPPORT
You cannot do all of this alone. Connect with local and online support groups, advocacy organizations, and parent networks. They can provide valuable advice, resources, and emotional support. Some lawyers specialize in special education and can help if your school is not meeting your child’s needs or if they are not following the IEP.
CONSIDER A SECOND OPINION
If you’re concerned about your child’s progress, consider seeking a second opinion from an independent professional, such as a developmental pediatrician, psychologist, or educational consultant. This can offer a helpful perspective. These professionals can also attend meetings with you.
DOCUMENT EVERYTHING
Keep a record of all communication with the school, including emails, letters, and notes from meetings. This documentation can be valuable if you need to escalate any concerns. Designate a filing system or binder for all papers that come in, create a folder for emails, and keep a document or notebook for any conversations you have.
KNOW YOUR RIGHTS
As a parent, it’s essential to understand your rights under the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) to ensure your child receives the support they need in the educational setting. You have the right to participate in all meetings, request assessments, and advocate for an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) that addresses your child’s unique needs. Familiarizing yourself with these rights helps you be an informed advocate for your child’s education and development.
STAY PERSISTENT AND PATIENT
Advocating for your child’s needs can be long and challenging. Stay persistent, but also be patient with the system and the individuals involved. It is helpful to remind everyone that you are all working together to help the child.
Remember, you are your child’s best advocate. By staying informed, involved, and proactive, you can help ensure that your child’s special education program is tailored to meet their unique needs and set them up for success.
Rebecca Hastings is a former elementary teacher who traded the classroom for writing when she stayed home with her three children. Passionate about authenticity, faith, and family, you can find her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Amazon. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate.
—by Carolyn Tomlin
Pets and Children with Special Needs
Before my grandson Peter was born, his father adopted a blue-tick hound that he named Rover. Blue-tick hounds are usually considered a hunting dog, but Rover didn’t know this. He became a couch dog and the protector of this new baby in the family. Peter, now 7 years old, has Down Syndrome and is also autistic. Somehow, Rover realized that Peter was unique and learned in a different way. Rover has been Peter’s best friend since he was born. The two are inseparable. And, even when Rover’s tail is pulled or Peter climbs on his back when napping on the floor, he accepts it as who Peter is.
A gentle and loving pet can make the difference in the life of a child with special needs.
Data from the New York State Education Department shows that there are 8,379 children in NY, ages 4-5, who have autism; in children ages 6-11, the number increases to 32,487 due to additional testing. (www.p12.nysed.gov)
With this number of children with special needs, would a dog or gentle pet make a difference in your child’s life?
Could you discuss this matter with your child’s teacher or the school they attend? A therapy dog could offer support that cannot be found in other sources.
HOW CHILDREN WITH SPECIAL NEEDS CAN BENEFIT FROM THE COMPANIONSHIP OF A LOYAL FRIEND
Interaction with people may be difficult for these children. Research shows that children with special needs may interact more with therapy dogs, which later helps them relate to humans. Speaking, responding, or imitating may prove more difficult when interacting with the human world than with dogs.
Life skills can be developed. Dogs have a schedule of eating, sleeping, and eliminating body waste. Being with a dog helps the child understand time management, improve listening skills, and may improve concentration.
Having a dog, or even a cat, may improve stability for these children who have ADHD or who are autistic.
Patience improves. Calmness develops. And remaining still for a longer period of time may occur.
Dogs help a child with special needs reduce stress. A playful pup helps the child deal with the frustrations of life and everyday stress, which the parents may not be aware is happening.
Being near a dog or stroking his fur is a relaxing activity for people, especially for these children. Sitting near a dog, turning the pages of a book, even a picture book—whether reading or not— is a stress buster. A dog doesn’t correct you if a word is mispronounced. A dog just enjoys being with the person they love. Simply touching or petting a dog lowers blood pressure and the heart rate.
Trained service or therapy dogs are a valuable aid for parents of children with special needs. They are trained to alert parents if the blood sugar dips or if a seizure is likely, especially while the child is sleeping. Trained dogs know how to help if the child falls while playing—either by helping the child or alerting the parents or caretaker. Sleepwalking is another issue that parents can be alerted to by service dogs.
A meltdown is another way a dog can help a child with special needs. They understand mood changes and move near the child immediately. Providing calmness, dogs provide a source of comfort to a child who is on the brink of a meltdown.
Dogs teach a sense of responsibility. Pets need regular feeding, brushing, clean water, and bathing. If a child with special needs is responsible for these duties, these chores carry over to other areas of life.
WHAT LESSONS DO CHILDREN LEARN FROM HAVING A DOG?
In addition to the emotional comfort from a dog or pet, pets can offer immeasurable support in many practical ways, as well.
1. Many ways a dog can offer assistance includes opening and closing doors, and fetching. A dog can serve as a helper throughout the day.
2. Is the child with special needs having trouble sleep ing? Is insomnia a problem? A companion pet nearby can help a child relax and receive a better night’s sleep.
3. Who is your best friend? Many children with special needs will quickly say it’s their cat or dog. A gentle animal is always ready to listen. They love uncondi tionally. They are non-threatening. They do not judge.
4. Children with medical conditions can sleep without fear, knowing that a therapy dog is near if an emer gency should arise. Parents can be alerted and help provided.
5. A trained dog knows the boundaries that are allowed for a child with special needs. When outdoors, the dog will keep the child within these boundaries and keep them from wandering away.
6. Dogs can boost a child’s self-esteem. Often, children with special needs lack confidence. Having a dog increases socialization and improves communications skills with friends.
7. A dog requires exercise and so do children. Having a dog increases mobility. Children enjoy being outside together. Recreation opportunities increase.
8. Children with special needs learn kindness when caring for a pet. This trait carries over to socialization with peers and family members. Kindness is best learned by the example of one person or pet, showing kindness to another.
9. A compassionate dog serves as a protector for your child. A dog is like having a 24/7 security guard for your child with special needs.
Carolyn Tomlin has taught special education kindergarten and Child Growth and Development at Union University in Jackson, TN. She also has a grandchild with special needs.
Embrace the Difference was created by Robyn Zimmer, the mother of a child with special needs. The symbol of circles joined by a square shows that we are all connected; regardless of our differences.
with Special Needs
—by Rebecca Hastings
One of the beautiful things when your child has special needs is the qualities that make them unique. This could be anything from how they smile to the way they overcome a challenge. Sometimes these unique traits also require products that help meet your child’s needs.
The best products for a child with special needs are the ones that help them and make their life better. From adaptive clothing and the right fabrics to learning toys and things that help them have fun, great products are available for each child. Sometimes it just feels tricky to find them.
Here are some products that may be just right for your child with special needs:
Adaptive Clothing
Everyone deserves clothes that feel good and are easy to wear. If your child has special needs, it may be more difficult to find these products. Thankfully, adaptive clothing with softer fabrics, no tags or seams, and easier ways to put on are becoming more mainstream. Even stores like Target have adaptive clothing lines. Here are a few great examples:
• Special Kids Company (https://us.specialkids.company): A wealth of options for kids and adults with varying needs. You can find everything from adaptive shoes and clothing to bedsheets and wheelchair accessories.
• Spoonie Threads (https://spooniethreads.com): Believes everyone deserves great fashion that meets their needs. With designs that make medical access easy for everything from diabetes care to port access.
Reading Fun
Whether your child can read independently or not, every child should enjoy a great story. Resources that pair the act of reading with audio and listening comprehension help make the
joy of books available to kids with special needs. Try these reading resources:
• Storypod (www.storypod.com): This audio speaker brings stories to life for kids by bringing books to life. The durable speaker allows kids to tap age-appropriate yarn figures, audiobooks, or trivia cards on top of the Storypod to engage with fascinating stories, songs, and lessons (in English and Spanish).
• Audible (https://amzn.to/3yoKkQW): Discover popular and bestselling kids’ audiobooks in one easy-to-navigate spot. Kids keep all books purchased in their library to listen to again and again.
• Bookshare (www.bookshare.org): A database of over 1.2 million books available with assistive read-aloud, followalong with karaoke-style highlighting, enlarged text, or braille.
Meeting Needs
Everyone has unique needs that require special resources. When your child has special needs, those needs may be a little different than their peers. One child may need something to help with eating while another needs something to help them regulate and calm down. A few things that parents love are:
• EazyHold Silicone Silicone Aide (https://amzn. to/3V8UrlN): This silicone universal cuff offers an adaptive utensil tool perfect for feeding. It is easy to clean and comes in sizes from newborn to adult.
• Sense Buddies (https://www.mindfulandcokids.com/ collections/shop-all/products/ollie-the-weighted-octopus-new): These therapeutic stuffed animals are perfect for all children including our sensory and anxious friends. Infused with French lavender to encourage relaxation, their soft texture and weighted body are perfect for reducing anxiety and improving sleep quality.
• Fidget Toys (https://amzn.to/3K7wYer): Whether you need something to calm anxiety or work on motor skills, fidget toys are a great way for kids with special needs to get what they need while having fun. Plus, they’re popular with everyone, making them a great toy to use with peers.
Special Products for Special Kids
Finding products for your child’s unique abilities and needs is possible. This highlights a few of the many products available. With these and other great resources, you can discover things to make their life easier and more fun. If you’re having trouble finding things, it can be helpful to talk to their teachers or medical professionals. Hospitals, schools, and libraries may even have access to items like this that will help your child thrive.
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If you’re worried about your child’s development and think they might have autism spectrum disorder (ASD), it’s important to have a doctor do an evaluation. Kids with ASD need extra help, and new screening tools have made early identification of the condition easier. The earlier treatment for kids with ASD starts, the better.
Here are some steps to take:
Talk to your child’s doctor: Share your concerns clearly and, if you have them, it can help to show videos of any unusual behavior you’ve noticed at home. If you feel your doctor isn’t taking your concerns seriously, keep asking. If you’re not happy with your current doctor, look for a new one.
Find a specialist: If your child’s doctor finds a concern, they probably will refer you to a specialist for further help. Look for one who knows about developmental delays and autism, like a child psychologist or a developmental pediatrician. If there’s a waiting list, be sure to get on it right away.
Get an autism evaluation: This evaluation will check your child for signs of autism. The results can help you get special therapies, like speech therapy or occupational therapy. It also might include special tests and observations. Check with the specialist ahead of time to understand what kind of tests they use. Some evaluations are free.
If your child is very young, all states offer free evaluations for developmental delays through programs like “early intervention” or Part C of the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA). Contact your local county office for more details.
If your child is 3 years or older, you can get a free developmental evaluation from your local school system. Contact your county school board to connect with their evaluation team.
Therapy options: Many kids with developmental delays or autism benefit from speech therapy, occupational therapy, and physical therapy. Most insurance plans cover these services. Ask your doctor for a referral, and check with your insurance company to find innetwork providers.
Check your insurance coverage: Even if your child doesn’t have an autism diagnosis, your insurance provider might still cover parent counseling or training. Ask your insurance company what’s covered. Many plans pay for 1 hour of behavioral therapy each week.
Activities at home: You can do many fun activities at home to help your child with language and social skills, such as:
• Play on the floor together: Let your child choose and lead play activities in 20-minute sessions.
I Think My Child Might Have Autism. What Should I Do?
• Teach your child a specific skill by breaking training into simple steps. You show and teach a step, and after your child learns how to do it, offer praise and move to the next step.
State support: Many states have agencies that help families with autism.
What Else Should I Know?
You’ll see a lot of information online about autism. Not all of it is reliable, so turn to trusted sources like:
• The Interagency Autism Coordinating Committee (IACC) (https://iacc.hhs.gov/)
• The Association for Autism and Neurodiversity (AANE) (https://aane.org/)
• The Autism Society (https://autismsociety.org)
• Autism Speaks (https://www. autismspeaks.org/)
Information provided by Nemours Children’s Health through its awardwinning Nemours KidsHealth website. For more on this topic, visit KidsHealth. org. Reprinted following Guidelines.
Could Your Child’s Reading Difficulty be
Children learn to read at their own pace, but if your child is struggling to make significant progress compared to their peers, it may be possible they have a reading disability called dyslexia. According to Mayo Clinic, “Dyslexia is a learning disorder that involves difficulty reading due to problems identifying speech sounds and learning how to relate to letters and words. Dyslexia affects areas of the brain that process language.”
Symptoms of dyslexia may include:
• Speech delay, trouble learning words, problems forming words correctly, or reversing sounds or words that sound alike
• Reading well below the expected level for age, difficulty with spelling, difficulty reading aloud
• Trouble remembering sequences or identifying rhyming words, reversing letters or numbers
• Spending an unusually long time completing tasks that involve reading and writing or avoiding these activities
People who struggle with dyslexia have normal intelligence and can succeed in school and careers with proper tutoring and support. So how do you go about helping your child succeed?
At school:
• Ask for an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) or 504 plan. In most states, schools are required to provide specialized support for kids diagnosed with dyslexia. Talk to your child’s teachers about setting up a meeting with educators to help your child be successful at school.
• Keep in contact with your child’s teacher. If parents and teachers work together, it is easier to support your child through the challenges they may be facing when it comes to homework and school. Check in with your child’s teacher regularly and encourage them to reach out if the interventions put in place don’t seem to be helping your child make adequate growth.
At home:
• Consider tutoring. Individual help from a tutor can really give your child a boost in their reading skills because it can be tailored to your child’s needs and learning style.
• Early intervention has been proven to help kids struggling with dyslexia. As soon as you notice a problem, talk to your child’s doctor.
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—by Kimberly Blaker
Women and ADD:
The Hidden Disability—
What You Need to Know About Attention Deficit Disorder
According to Sari Solden, in her book Women with Attention Deficit Disorder, “Almost all women find that life today is complex, upsetting or frustrating, but they are still able to meet most of [life’s] demands reasonably well…. For women with untreated Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), however, the demands of daily life can be crippling. It cripples their self-esteem, their families, their lives, their work and their relationships.”
ADD, also known as Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (AD/HD), affects between three and five percent of the population. However, adult ADD, especially as it appears in women, often goes unrecognized.
CHARACTERISTICS OF ADD IN WOMEN
The symptoms of ADD are many. Some are more commonly seen in wom-
en and opposite the more recognized symptoms seen in men. This makes detection unlikely and diagnosis difficult. Each person’s experience with ADD is unique. While there is a multitude of characteristics, most women with the disorder don’t have every symptom. Instead, each woman has a mixture severe enough to impair some areas of life.
Mental vs. physical disorganization
Disorganization is typical and often a severe problem for women struggling with ADD. They may be unable to organize their homes, offices, or lives. To outsiders, the disorganization isn’t always visible. That’s because women who lead professional lives may have assistants, secretaries, and cleaning services to assist them. Some ADD women have a partner who compensates for their organizational dysfunction, as well.
Other women with ADD find clutter and disorganization an incredible
distraction. These distractions, coupled with the responsibilities of everyday life, lead to mental disorganization. The disorganized brain struggles to store, weed out, and organize logically. For these women, being tidy and organized equals survival.
Hyperactivity vs. hypoactivity
Women with ADD can be at either end of the spectrum, either hyperactive or hypoactive (underactive). Hyperactive women may go at full speed until they crash from the overload.
Family life can also suffer from a hyperactive mother. She may be unable to sit and play games or read to her children unless she finds the activities stimulating.
Many women with ADD are at the other extreme. They’re hypoactive, unable to muster the energy to do much of anything. These women are often unable to keep up with life’s many demands. Maintaining a home, participating in family activities, staying in touch with friends, even holding down a job can be a significant challenge.
Inattention vs. hyperfocusing
The problem is women with ADD struggle with the inability to regulate attention. So, it doesn’t mean they can never maintain attention. Instead, their ability to focus is based on interest and whether the activity is stimulating. Many women daydreamed through school when they were younger. Yet the subjects or activities they found fun, interesting, or exciting didn’t pose such a problem. Adult life with ADD is often the same.
Hyperfocusing, which is the opposite of inattention, also poses problems and can coexist with symptoms of inattention. While it may be challenging to focus on some things, a woman may hyperfocus on that which interests her and be unable to shift her attention. Hyperfocusing can last for hours, days, and longer and makes it difficult to break for important matters. Meals may be forgotten, and family members can carry on conversations without being heard. So, hyperfocusing puts a strain on the family. If a hyperfocused woman does manage to break away from what she’s
engrossed in, she may wander aimlessly and forget what she’s doing.
Impatience and impulsivity
Standing in lines, sitting in waiting rooms, and being placed on hold for lengthy waits drives some women with ADD to the brink. So, they may avoid these situations altogether. Women with ADD may be impatient either visibly or internally or act impulsively. Minor nuisances can cause significant agitation. Other women with this disorder can maintain their composure yet still feel anxious and annoyed.
Women with ADD may also be impatient about life and events. A woman may plan her whole education or entire life in one day and need for it to happen immediately. She goes into things full swing rather than step-by-step. As a result, women with ADD may have a change of heart after much investment of time or money or feeling spread too thin, with too many goals to achieve.
Impulsiveness is seen when women with this disorder act or speak without thinking. This often leads to trouble by spending impulsively or jumping into relationships and even marriage. Some struggle socially and interrupt conversations or blurt things out they later regret.
Mood
Mood swings, being overemotional, or easily frustrated is another problem. For some women, having ADD is like being on an emotional roller coaster. Extreme mood shifts sometimes lead to a misdiagnosis of bipolar disorder, though the two can coexist.
Women with ADD are frustrated by the slightest aggravations. A simple mistake seems a major ordeal and may result in anger, storming off, and dropping a task altogether. If interrupted in the midst of something, a woman may become irritable and annoyed.
Depression, although not a symptom of ADD, often coexists or is a result of the debilitating disorder. Depression in the ADD woman may stem from a lack of self-worth because she’s unable to hold down a job or adequately care for her family. It can also result from not
achieving up to potential because of attention problems or the inability to stick with things. It also sometimes comes from feeling overwhelmed. This feeling can dominate the life of a woman with this disorder.
THE CAUSE OF ADD
Research indicates ADD is a neurobiological disorder with a strong genetic link. According to the nonprofit organization Children and Adults with Attention Deficit-Hyperactivity Disorder (CHADD), complications during pregnancy, labor, and delivery, exposure to nicotine or alcohol during fetal development, or several other environmental factors may also play a role in the development of ADD.
MISDIAGNOSIS
Studies show the incidence of ADD in men and women is nearly identical, says Kathleen Nadeau, Ph.D., co-author of Understanding Women with AD/HD. There are several common reasons women with ADD often go undiagnosed.
Doctors often diagnose the depression that accompanies ADD, but miss the ADD itself. Women, more often than men, have coexisting anxiety and depression, which must be treated as well.
Also, women who are more hyperactive, hyper talkative, and impulsive are sometimes misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder.
Many doctors still look for signs of ADD more typical of boys. Many doctors fail to understand that ADD symptoms in females often don’t appear until puberty or later because of hormonal fluctuations. When girls enter adolescence, during PMS, and as estrogen levels drop in perimenopause and menopause, the symptoms of ADD often worsen.
Also, girls tend to try harder in school, so their ADD patterns are often masked or overlooked by teachers continued on page 32
Symptoms of ADD
Some of the symptoms commonly seen in women, partially taken from Attention Deficit Disorder in Adults by Dr. Lynn Weiss, are as follows:
• Difficulty completing tasks or following through on plans
• Difficulty shifting attention
• Excessively shifting from one activity to another
• Trouble concentrating on reading
• Impatience
• Frequent preoccupation in thoughts and not hearing when spoken to
• Difficulty sitting still or excessive fidgeting
• Sudden and unexpected mood swings
• Interrupting in conversations, speaking without considering consequences
• Hot-tempered
• Need for high stimulus
• Forgetfulness
• Low tolerance for frustration
• A tendency toward substance abuse
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WOMEN AND ADD
TREATMENT OPTIONS
Several treatments are available for ADD. The most effective is prescription medication. There’s a multitude of stimulant and non-stimulant drugs available for treatment.
Behavioral therapy is also beneficial for both coming to terms with the lifelong disorder and to relieve negative coping behaviors. Coaching is also useful for learning new skills and strategies for structuring life. Because ADD is neurobiological, therapy and coaching work best in conjunction with medication.
RESOURCES ON ADD
Books
• Women with ADHD: The Indispensable Guide to Overcome the Struggles of Living with ADHD and Embrace Neurodiversity (2022) by Grace Monroe
Several ineffective treatments are on the market, as well. Suspect therapies, according to CHADD, include dietary plans such as the Feingold Diet and vitamin and mineral supplements. Other treatments that lack evidence include anti-motion-sickness medication, Candida yeast, EEG Biofeedback, Applied Kinesiology, also known as Neural Organization Technique, and Optometric Vision Training, to name a few. Often, excessive claims are made about these treatments, citing a few favorable responses or studies that don’t hold up to scrutiny.
WHERE TO FIND HELP
An accurate diagnosis and appropriate treatment are essential. Finding a qualified provider isn’t always easy because adult ADD, particularly as it affects women, isn’t always recognized. Before seeking a diagnosis, read some recommended books for a better understanding of the disorder and the diagnosis and treatment process. Also, compile a list of questions to ask your provider to ensure he or she has a clear understanding of the disorder and appropriate treatments. If you don’t feel comfortable with a physician’s responses, seek help elsewhere.
Kimberly Blaker is a freelance writer. She also owns an online bookshop, Sage Rare & Collectible Books, specializing in out-of-print, scarce, signed, and first editions; fine bindings; ephemera and more at sagerarebooks.com.
• Women with Attention Deficit Disorder: Embrace Your Differences and Transform Your Life (2012) by Sari Solden, MS, MFCC
• Help for Women with ADHD: My Simple Strategies for Conquering Chaos (2017) by Joan Wilder
• Adult Woman With ADHD: The Unconventional Guide To Coping With Neurodiversity With Tips for Avoiding Distractions, Managing Emotions and No Longer Feeling Like a Failure, Turning Into a Superwoman (2023) by Pansy Bradley
• Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder (2011) by Edward M. Hallowell, M.D. and John J. Ratey, M.D.
• Delivered from Distraction: Getting the Most out of Life with Attention Deficit Disorder (2009) by Edward M. Hallowell, M.D. and John J. Ratey, M.D.
• The New Attention Deficit Disorder in Adults Workbook (2012) by Lynn Weiss, Ph. D.
• The Hidden Flower: A LifeChanging Guide for Today’s Women With ADHD (2022) L. William RossChild
• The Queen of Distraction: How Women with ADHD Can Conquer Chaos, Find Focus, and Get More Done (2014) by Terry Matlen M.S.W.
Preventing Caregiver
Caregiver burnout is a real thing — it’s when you feel exhausted, both physically and mentally. This can happen when you try to do it all without getting the help or rest you need.
Taking care of young kids or a child with special health care needs can be intense. That’s why it’s so important for caregivers to take their own “time-outs” with a little “me time.”
Taking a much-needed break will help you recharge, refresh, and be able to better care for your child.
What Are the Signs & Symptoms of Caregiver Burnout?
Burnout happens over time. Because caregivers might not recognize it in themselves, others might see the signs first. These can include:
• changes in appetite and sleep patterns
• being less social than usual
• increased anxiety
• higher emotions (like crying a lot or being very irritable) or a lower emotional state (feeling empty or not concerned)
If you or someone else notices any of these signs or symptoms, take it seriously.
How Can I Avoid Caregiver Burnout?
Here are 7 ways to help prevent caregiver burnout:
1. Schedule breaks. A few times each week, have a family member, friend, or health aide stay with your child for an hour or two so you can step away. Add it to your calendar just
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• Encourage reading. Take turns reading aloud to your child, model good reading habits, and add reading to everyday activities (cooking, games, or instructions). Turn off electronics and add reading time to your day.
Be supportive:
• Encourage your child’s efforts and be supportive of them as they work through challenges.
• Talk to them about what they are struggling with and discuss ideas that will help solve problems they may be facing.
• Join a support group or see a counselor. Having people around you that understand what you are going through and offer support can be a big help as you learn how to be a support for your child.
• Support learning at home. Provide a clean, organized, and quiet place to study and offer help as needed.
If you believe your child may have dyslexia, talk to your doctor about testing, resources, and support. There is no single test that can determine if your child has dyslexia. Your doctor may use a combination of questionnaires, medical history, psychological evaluations, and academic testing to determine if your child has dyslexia. Early intervention and a good partnership between parents and teachers are key to helping kids feel confident and successful in school and in future careers.
Sarah Lyons is a mom of six children including triplets. She enjoys reading, writing, cooking, and spending time outdoors with her family.
Do You Have Concerns About How Your Child is Developing and Learning?
PREVENTING CAREGIVER BURNOUT
as you would with care visits for your child. That time is yours, so don’t feel guilty about how you spend it. Nap, read, see a friend, go shopping, or do whatever else helps you relax. Your child will probably enjoy having someone else to talk with, and you’ll feel refreshed when you get back.
2. Exercise. Most people find that exercise helps clear the mind, boost energy levels, and improve sleep. Even 20 minutes of brisk walking or bike riding a day can do the trick. If you can’t get outside, follow along with a yoga or other exercise video. You can try to fit it in when your child’s resting.
3. Try to relax. Each day (or whenever you can), find a quiet spot where you can spend 2 minutes. Even the bathroom will work. To feel calmer, give exercises like belly breathing a try: Breathe in through your nose, letting your belly puff out like a small balloon filling with air. As you breathe out through your nose, let your belly flatten. Take a few slow breaths this way.
Another exercise to try: Close your eyes and relax all your muscles, one by one. You can go from the tips of your toes to the top of your head. Don’t forget to relax the muscles in your face, neck, and jaw. You may be storing a lot of tension there.
4. Stay organized. Medicine schedules, doctor’s phone numbers, and bills can be a lot to keep track of. But if you stay organized, things can seem less stressful. Put all the information about your child’s illness in one place. Consider using an app to keep everything together. You can check with your hospital system to see if it offers one for patients.
If you prefer to have hard copies, use a notebook, folder, or binder to gather all your notes and paperwork. When you think of questions for your doctor, jot them down right away so you won’t forget.
Dealing with insurance companies can take a lot of time and effort. If you can, have your spouse, another trusted family member, or friend help keep it all straight.
5. Ask for help. Friends and family often want to help but might not be sure about what you need. If someone says, “If there’s
anything I can do…” and there is, say so. Running an errand, doing some laundry, or just sitting and listening to you talk about your day can benefit you and make a loved one feel useful.
6. Find a support group. Connecting with others who’ve been through similar situations can give you a chance to vent, feel less isolated, and learn helpful tips. Ask your child’s doctor or nurse about local support groups related to your child’s condition or caregiving in general. You also can find resources online, often by searching for your child’s specific condition.
7. Admit your feelings. Accept your emotions — even if they’re negative. For example, “I’m angry and frustrated, but that’s normal because my child is sick.” Try setting a 5-minute timer and simply notice your feelings. After the timer goes off, do something to switch gears and take control, like washing your face, playing your favorite song, or even walking into a different room.
No matter how much time and energy you spend on your child’s care, you can’t fully control their health and happiness. Admitting that some things are hard or beyond your control can help you feel less pressure.
Where Else Can Caregivers Get Help?
If you feel like you may be going through caregiver burnout, depression, or anxiety, explain your feelings and symptoms to your doctor. It might help to see a counselor or therapist, especially one who specializes in caregiver needs. Medicines for anxiety or depression could be an option too.
Your doctor also may encourage you to take a break from your duties with respite care. This could include things like having another caregiver come to your home or enrolling your child in a drop-off day program. See what your insurance plan covers. If your child’s care team includes a social worker, you can ask them for advice.
If you think you’ll need time away from your job to help your child, ask the care team about the Family and Medical Leave Act. It lets many people in the U.S. take up to 12 weeks off work, either in a row or with “intermittent leave” (time off every once in a while).
Finally, know that you’re doing your best. As you give your child time, attention, and love, give these to yourself as well.
Information provided by Nemours Children’s Health through its award-winning Nemours KidsHealth website. For more on this topic, visit KidsHealth.org. Reprinted following Guidelines.
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5:30 PM: Feeding, dimming lights to start winding down
6:30 PM: Bath, massage, bedtime story
7:00 PM: Last feeding in a dark room before bed
Overnight: Try to differentiate night feedings by keeping lights dim and avoiding extra stimulation
Best for: Parents trying to encourage longer stretches of nighttime sleep as early as possible.
IMPORTANT FINAL TIP ABOUT ROUTINES WITH A NEWBORN
Each baby is different, so you may need to experiment with different routines or combine elements from each. It is always advised to consult with your baby’s doctor to create the best plan for you and your baby. Remember, you don’t need to do this alone. Use the support around you to create the routine that works best for you and your baby.
Rebecca Hastings is a former elementary teacher who traded the classroom for writing when she stayed home with her three children. Passionate about authenticity, faith, and family, you can find her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Amazon. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate.
PICK OF THE LITERATURE
— by Dr. Donna Phillips
Hippity Hoppity, Hippity Hoppity, Spring is on its way! And with it we get some of our favorite and most hopeful holidays! Easter, Passover, and Earth Day all remind us of new beginnings and to be grateful for all the season brings. Books to amuse, inform, and celebrate abound! Here are just a few that have popped up in local bookstores, libraries, and online for you to pick up as holiday treats.
What would the season be without bunnies? Some Bunnies (Gibbs Smith, Kaysville, 2025, $17.99) by Lydia Nichols is an adorable board book that celebrates all kinds of bunnies. From the tiny ones that can fit in your basket to large ones that are almost too big to carry, there are all kinds of colors and characteristics. Some bunnies prefer to be outdoors while others can live in your house. Some have floppy ears and others have big fluffy tails. Long hair or short hair, all have cute wiggly noses and big back feet just perfect for
hopping. With easy-to-turn pages and lots of colorful pictures full of all kinds of bunnies, this will be an Easter favorite for the little ones to get ready for spring.
Eggs are another symbol of this season and represent new life and rebirth. We often hear of being an “good egg” — a kind person or someone you can count on and trust. Little Egg Book of Kindness (Duopress/Sourcebooks, Naperville, 2025, $9.99) by Kat Uno is a board book that shares ways that we can be Good Eggs and show kindness to others. The perfect size for little hands and gift baskets, it is a lovely reminder of how we can support those around us with sharing, politeness, gentleness, patience, respect, and honesty. All of these characteristics are just what we need to plant seeds and cultivate them so they blossom into the garden of kindness. A little wheel at the end of the book can be turned to remind us of the things we can do to make this planet a better place for everything to grow.
enjoy silly humor, puns, and wordplay, this is wonderful find. In How to Catch the Easter Bunny (Sourcebooks, Naperville, 2025, $12.99), a beginner graphic novel by Alice Walstead and Scott Soeder, we go on a chase with Pup and Dragon as they scheme ways to catch the rabbit—and he always manages to outsmart them. It seems that Pup and Dragon will never learn that they are no match for the magical creatures they try to catch but, in the end, they always learn a best friend’s lesson.
Nothing says Easter and Spring like an Easter Bunny adventure and Pup and Dragon have another one of their escapades trying to catch the magical creature. For those that
Zayde Babysits Before Passover (Kar-Ben Publishing, Minneapolis, 2025, $18.99), written by Jane Sutton and illustrated by Kate Chapell, is an adorable story that celebrates the Passover holiday and the importance of family at this important time of year. Simple, yet engaging and humorous, Zayde will be watching Ruthie while the others prepare for the Passover event. Left with directions of things to do, he tries his best to keep her engaged while they attempt to accomplish the items on the to-do list. As they check off the things to do, Zayde has a way of making everything more fun. He gets so enthusiastically involved that it sometimes seems that Ruthie is the babysitter. This story of care and connection between a grandfather and a granddaughter is a breath of fresh spring air as they accontinued on page 40
DEAR TEACHER
– by Peggy Gisler and Marge Eberts
Helping all parents make their children’s educational experience as successful as possible
How Can I Tell if
my
Child Is Ready for Kindergarten?
Question: Soon I will need to decide whether or not to send my young son to kindergarten in the fall. I am hesitating because he just makes the age cut-off date. What will the kindergarten teacher expect of my child? – Uncertain
Answer: The final decision is yours. However, your child’s preschool teacher, if your son is attending preschool, should be able to give you valuable insight on his readiness level. There are two other considerations. One is your child’s age. Generally speaking, older children in a class typically do better in the primary grades; however, this advantage does usually disappear as children move onto higher grades. The second consideration is the opposite. Young children can change rapidly. The child who is not ready in April may well be more than ready for kindergarten in August.
The Department of Education’s Office of Communication and Outreach has the following list of expectations of what your child’s kindergarten teacher will expect of your child. However, this list should not be the sole determinate of when you enroll your child in kindergarten. Your state’s Department of Education will also have information describing the kindergarten curriculum. And states do vary in how academic their kindergartens are. This should play into your decision as well as the fact that boys are not always as ready for school as girls.
Although teachers’ expectations vary, here are some social skills and behaviors generally expected of children entering kindergarten.
1. Children should be able to follow school and classroom rules.
2. Children should be able to listen attentively to and follow instructions.
3. Children should be able to concentrate and finish a task.
4. Children should show selfcontrol.
5. Children should respect the property of others, share, and take turns.
6. Children should do as much for themselves as possible, such as taking care of their personal belongings, going to the toilet, washing their hands, and taking care of and putting away materials.
The academic skills and knowledge expected of beginning kindergarten children will depend on the kind of curriculum mandated by your state and the standards that children are expected to meet by the end of the school year. Here are some achievements on the academic side that are commonly expected for beginning kindergarten students. Expect your child to have most of these achieve-
ments, but it is not necessary for him to have all of them. You can always work with him on acquiring missing skills before school starts as you have plenty of time now.
• Children can recognize and name alphabet letters.
• Children can recognize print they often see such as their own name as well as various logos and signs.
• Children understand that words in books convey meaning, are able to recognize the parts of books, and know that words run from left to right across the page, and from top to bottom.
• Children notice and can work with the sounds of spoken language, for example through rhyming, and can recognize when a series of words begin with the same sound.
• Children use spoken language to express their thoughts and ideas, tell a story about an experience, and learn about themselves and their environment.
• Children produce circles, lines, scribbles, and letters as part of their early writing.
• Children are able to recognize numbers and understand that numbers tell us about quantity, order, and measurement.
• Children can recognize, name, and manipulate basic shapes, and understand that shapes can be transformed into other shapes.
• Children know how to hold and look at a book and are beginning to learn to read.
Question: My daughter will be getting ready to go to kindergarten next school year; however, since the pandemic, many of my friends are deciding continued on page 40
complish all the tasks with love and delight. The illustrations perfectly capture the charm and intent of this story, and children and adults will certainly relate to these characters.
Recognizing our earth and the need to care for it is an important awareness celebrated by Earth Day. Why We Celebrate Earth Day (Callisto Publishing/ Sourcebooks, Naperville, 2025, $9.99), part of the Everything to Know About Your Favorite Holiday series, written by Kelly Anne McLellan and illustrated by Javiera Mac-lean, is full of interesting details including historical background, science facts, and activity ideas that we can use to fully participate in this wonderful day.
Simply written, but packed full of information and resources, it is well organized for easy access. It is the perfect book for getting ready for Earth Day and engaging in ways to honor and protect our planet not just for a day but for the whole year.
We all know that April is just the beginning of the growth, expansion, and celebrations to come in the next few months. It eases us into the energy and excitement of spring and summer and books are the perfect way to activate our senses, so we will be ready for what is to come. While we wait for the rest of the snow to melt and for spring buds and flowers to appear, you can find many wonderful books to keep you busy. A trip to your local library or bookstore or some time spent cruising the internet to discover the just-right-book will be as much fun and as rewarding as finding hidden Easter eggs!
Dr. Donna Phillips is an associate professor in the College of Education at Niagara University where her specialty is literacy and children’s literature. She lives on Grand Island, NY and is the mother of two adult children and the grandmother of one.
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to just have their children skip kindergarten. They are going to wait and put their children in school in first grade. My husband and I really don’t know what would be the best for our daughter. Can you help us with this decision that we will need to make soon? - HELP US – Can’t Decide!
Answer: The pandemic changed so many different things! Attending or not attending kindergarten is just one of them. Kindergarten enrollment dropped across the country when learning was virtual, but it continued to drop in 20222023. The trend to skip kindergarten still remains higher than in the pre-COVID years!
Here are some factors to consider in deciding whether or not your child should attend kindergarten:
1. Your state does or does not require children to attend kindergarten.
2. Children are required by your state to be enrolled in school when they are six.
3. Your child is substantially ahead of her peers academically.
4. Your child’s physical size and social and emotional maturity.
5. The age of children with whom your child likes to play.
6. What the child would be doing if not attending kindergarten.
7. The opinion of a preschool teacher if your child is attending preschool.
8. A possible evaluation of the child by an educational professional.
Parents should send questions and comments to dearteacher@dearteacher. com and visit the dearteacher.com website to learn more about helping their children succeed in school.
FAMILY TRAVEL
— by Deborah Williams
Flowers and Family Fun in Rochester
It’s April and Rochester, our close neighbor to the east, offers the perfect place to celebrate the end of our long winter with flowers, fun, and photos.
This is a city with an officially designated Neighborhood of Play highlighted by the Strong National Museum of Play and world class parks and flower gardens. Rochester is also known as Flower City.
May brings the 127th annual Rochester Lilac Festival to Highland Park. The 10-day festival is considered the largest free festival of its kind in North America. The park boasts 1,200 lilac bushes as well as other spring flowers. The festival celebrates the arrival of spring with ten days of lilacs, live music, art, food, a parade, a run, and family friendly fun.
The city has received many accolades as a most child and family friendly city.
There is one man who put Rochester on the world stage and created or greatly influenced many of the city’s top rated cultural attractions. It was George Eastman, founder of the city’s most famous industry, Eastman Kodak.
there until his death in 1932. It was in this garden in 1928 that he and Thomas Edison introduced the world to color motion picture film invented in the nearby Kodak plant.
The house was designed for entertaining and comfort and was filled with gadgets including an elevator, 21 telephones, and a garage with its own car wash. The paintings on the walls are mostly copies and the originals are hanging in the nearby Memorial Art Gallery because the gallery’s air conditions are better for the valuable art works.
Be sure to stop in the second floor Discovery Room and check out the various family friendly craft projects.
Eastman, Rochester’s favorite son, had a passion for flowers and designed the extensive gardens at his East Avenue mansion. He moved into his grand 50-room house (now the George Eastman Museum) in 1905 and lived
After leaving school at age 13 to support his family, Eastman spent hours at his mother’s kitchen table experimenting with glass camera plates to develop an improved photographic system. He was bothered by the cumbersomeness of the early photographic process that required that glass plates be exposed in the camera while wet and development had to be completed before the emulsion dried.
“The bulk of the paraphernalia worried me. It seemed that one ought to be able to carry less than a pack-horse load,” he once said.
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Lilac Festival
George Eastman House
By 1888, he had his first camera on the market—the “No. 1 Kodak.”
Ten years later he was a millionaire. During the next two decades, Eastman consistently reduced the price of cameras; the simplest Brownies sold for $1, so every family could afford a camera. On the 50th anniversary of the company, Kodak gave every 12-year-old child in the country a camera.
The George Eastman Museum is the world’s oldest photography museum with a collection of several million objects and is a longtime leader in film preservation and photographic conservation. This year the museum is celebrating the 75th anniversary with a new exhibition exploring the history of photography.
well as half-price tickets for Friday evenings. It is open daily with late closing at 8pm on Fridays and Saturdays. Spend some time at the museum and then take a short walk to the hotel for a swim in the indoor pool, a meal, or a nap, and then return for more exciting discoveries.
The Strong is very much a museum for all ages and interests from an historic carousel to a high ropes course, to butterflies, to video games galore. It is the place for children and adults alike to come to touch, explore, and play.
The new outdoor 17,000 square foot Hasbro Game Park, a colorful play area, was developed with funding from Vivien and Alan Hassenfeld, whose family founded toy giant Hasbro in 1923.
When Margaret Woodbury Strong died in 1969, she was the largest single Kodak stockholder. She left her amazing collections with more than 300,000 objects and most of her more than $77 million estate to establish a museum. The Margaret Woodbury Strong Museum opened in 1982. It boasts what is considered the world’s most comprehensive doll collection.
From the beginning, it was a museum like none other and over the years the innovative museum, interactive exhibits, and collections have greatly expanded. Now it is the most popular year-round indoor attraction in Upstate New York with more than 700,000 visitors annually.
In the summer of 2023, the new $75 million, 90,000 square foot expansion formally opened. The world’s only museum devoted solely to play, it is the centerpiece of the city’s all new Neighborhood of Play. Across the street is the 100-room Hampton Inn & Suites that opened shortly after the museum expansion. It offers family friendly accommodations including canine members. An overnight at the Hampton Inn allows families to totally immerse themselves in the museum and other nearby museums and attractions.
Though Rochester is an easy day trip from Buffalo, an overnight at the Hampton Inn offers a relaxed fun adventure for the whole family. There are two-day tickets for The Strong, as
“This is an incredible magic kingdom and the greatest repository of play in the world today,” Hassenfeld said at the expansion opening ceremonies.
Back inside, Wegmans Super Kids Market remains one of the museum’s most popular exhibits. Kids run the store. They cruise the aisles and fill their grocery cart with real looking food products. Then they scan barcoded products at working check-out counters. At the expanded toddler area, little ones can pick, count, sort, and weigh organic veggies; crawl through a raised hoop house; and sit under the apple tree.
Climb the dramatic National Toy Hall of Fame exhibit staircase and view a gallery of 21 portraits of classic toys, some that move and interact with guests. Inductees in the Hall of Fame include the Yo-Yo, Erector Set, Etch A Sketch, Frisbee, G.I. Joe, Hula Hoop, Jacks, Monopoly, Raggedy Ann, Silly Putty, Slinky, Teddy Bear, Top, American Girl dolls, alphabet blocks, and View-Master. Every year, new toys are inducted into the Hall of Fame and the public is invited to nominate toys.
Next stop is the Rochester Museum and Science Center, filled with hands-on educational fun for the entire family. Everyone is invited to explore science and technology, the natural environment, and the region’s cultural heritage. There are special shows for children in the adjoining Strasenburgh Planetarium.
Rochester Museum and Science Center
George Eastman House
Strong Museum of Play
Strong Museum of Play
There are more than 1.2 million collection objects, as well as Live Science demonstrations and Planetarium Star Shows.
Any LEGO fans in the family? Be sure to visit Sean Kenney’s Animal Super Powers on temporary exhibit through April 27. Immerse yourself in the world of Sean Kenney’s amazing animal sculptures made of LEGO bricks. Walk through a display of larger-than-life-sized creatures built brick-by-brick while learning about their unique super powers.
Living beside the Great Lakes water has played a critical role in the development of our species, our communities, our ecosystem, and our economies. The Wonders of Water exhibit allows visitors to:
• Dive into a multimedia exploration of Lake Ontario’s shipwrecks. Learn what life was like for sailors aboard the USS Scourge and discover why the 19th century ship sank.
• Pretend you’re an underwater archaeologist and explore a shipwreck or relax in the Quiet Quarters.
• Manipulate a Remotely Operated Vehicle to investigate the HMS Ontario, the oldest shipwreck on the Great Lakes.
• Check out a climbing structure to discover aquatic species living at various depths and emerge with a birds-eye view of the shipwrecks below.
The museum’s newest permanent exhibition tells the stories of the culture of Haudenosaunee Native Americans throughout the region. It is called Continuity Innovation Resilience. You’ll pass through a building which depicts the partial interior of a Longhouse located south of what is now Rochester in the Appalachian Plateau around 1400.
Visitors also view works of contemporary Native American artists and learn their stories. Members of local clans tell their stories of life on reservations or life outside the reservation.
At The Western Door tells the story of the more than 400 years of cooperation and conflict between Native Iroquois residents and the Europeans who came here as explorers, traders, and, eventually, settlers.
Be sure to stop in the Electricity Theater where visitors are mesmerized by zaps of lightning. How Things Work offers fun, hands-on investigations into how mechanisms such as light switches, thermostats and traffic signals work.
Travel Tip of the Month: For information on Rochester call 585-279-8300 or go to visitrochester.com. For the Lilac Festival visit roclilacfest.com. It runs from May 9-18. There are free guided walking tours and more than 120 musical performances. For Hampton Inn & Suites Rochester Downtown call 585450-3801 or visit Hilton.com. A free hot buffet breakfast is included in overnight stays.
Deborah Williams lives in Holland, NY and is a veteran travel writer whose work has appeared in national and international publications. She is the recipient of the Society of American Travel Writers’ Lowell Thomas Gold Travel Writing Award.
Rochester Museum and Science Center
Rochester Museum and Science Center
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TDaddy Daddy The Track
– by Shannon Carpenter
hree versions of myself like to argue in my head. It’s the greatest April Fools prank that fathers play on themselves. We struggle to figure out which one is the real us, the most authentic version of us, and every time we come to a decision, it turns out to just be a joke that we are not in on.
The first iteration of me is how I hope the world sees me. It’s based on cliché images of John Wayne and Ward Cleaver. He is brave from the comfort of his couch in his suburban living room, and stoic when secret anxieties threaten to overwhelm him.
This public Shannon is the father that I want the world to see me as. The man who doesn’t panic when an emergency comes up. He is patriotic and moral and relies on man-isms to fake wisdom. “Take it like a man,” he says when he’s hurt. “Man-up,” he’ll repeat to himself when there is emotional toil that he doesn’t want to acknowledge. He tells himself heroic stories of what he would have done, if only he was there in the first place.
That one is often in conflict with the version of myself that I keep hidden. He is scared and sometimes he doesn’t even know what he is afraid of. He is not brave, but a coward that would run at the first sign of trouble. He is scared that he is not enough for his wife, not enough for his children, not enough for the world. He overthinks to the point that anxiety screams between his ears. He is not wise, but a fool dressed in a wise man’s robe. He is a charlatan.
On any given night, these two versions scream at each other to gain domi-
alone at a party and not speaking a word, my mind is screaming. Which Shannon will show up today?
Version of a Father Are You?
nance, with each winning and losing as if one is trying to scoreboard the other. Those thoughts can be brutal and cruel, they hurl insults and invent shortcomings. The problems of the world become personal because these two versions won’t agree.
Then, the last version of myself, is the realist referee. He knows that everyone makes mistakes and he can admit
Recently, I got the opportunity to talk to Dr. Jett Stone, a clinical psychologist who published a book called Quiet Your Mind. He’s got deep black hair, crisp glasses, and looks every bit like a guy who has the name Dr. Jett Stone. He’s like a video character. He’s also smart and understands that the versions that we see are often not the versions we want to be. Probably better than any of us.
So, I asked him the question, on behalf of all fathers that struggle with who we are, who we want to be, and who we are afraid we are. Which version is really us?
“You’re all of them. They all exist and don’t have to be in conflict.” Of all the professionals I have asked that question, Dr. Stone is the only one that has given me an answer that actually makes sense.
Sometimes I am wise, and that wisdom has been born out of failures. Failures that needed to happen so I could correct future behavior. Other times, I am scared because I live in a world of rising inflation, increasing layoffs, and uncertain tariffs that bring ambiguous threats to my door. And other times, I am the guy that can look at myself and remember that I’m doing the best with what I have. It’s a struggle some days, but I can give myself credit for showing up for it. I give morning hugs and goodnight kisses, and that version of me can live with the other two.
his, while figuring out which ones had nothing to do with him. He knows that I am not wise, nor am I stupid. I am neither brave nor a coward. This version of me is the most kind. He is the one that recognizes I’m doing my best with what I have.
The other two versions don’t like listening to this one. They call him an optimistic idiot most days.
All of these thoughts, these versions of manhood, are common among fathers. I find solace in that, and in knowing that I’m not crazy. My mind is just never, ever quiet. Even when I’m sitting
Dr. Stone is an expert at reframing our thoughts. He gives us a way and has helped me understand that life really can be one gigantic April Fool’s prank. The difference is that I can choose which version of me shows up to deal with it.
Shannon Carpenter is the father of three and has been a stay-at-home dad since 2008. He’s the author of the book “Stay-at-Home Dad: Your Essential Manual for Being an Awesome FullTime Father.” as well as the co-host of Dadhouse Pod. In addition to his writing on parenting, he is also a humor writer trained through the famous Second City. And we all know that having a sense of humor is essential to surviving parenthood!
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When a meteor falls on Culpepper Zoo, it’s eaten by a rabbit, changing him into a zombie that spreads its mutation across the zoo while a small group of animals hide, hoping to survive the night. This is supposed to be a zombie horror movie aimed at kids, but it’s a bit too scary, with some disturbing transformation scenes. Older viewers are likely to be frustrated with a disjointed story and overly-stylized animation
Imagine your child chatting away with a cartoon friend on a tablet who remembers all their favorite jokes and never gets tired of playing. This “friend” isn’t a classmate—it’s an AI companion. These virtual buddies can carry on conversations, tell stories, and even seem empathetic. As they become more common, we as parents are left wondering: are AI companions harmless fun or a risky substitute for real friendships?
THE RISE OF AI COMPANIONS
AI companions are software or robotic systems designed to engage like a friend—chatting, listening, and responding in human-like ways. They range from smartphone chatbot apps to animatronic robots. What was once a niche concept has quickly gone mainstream. Some of today’s most popular AI companions include Snapchat’s My AI, which boasts over 150 million users, and Replika, an app with around 25 million users. These numbers show how many children and
teens are already embracing virtual friends. Even major platforms are joining in—Snapchat now offers “My AI” as a built-in virtual friend for users. Physical devices have joined the trend too. For example, the robot Moxie was marketed as a safe, engaging companion for children designed to promote social, emotional, and cognitive development. It featured activities with themes like empathy and friendship. With tech advances making these companions more lifelike, it’s no surprise kids find them fascinating.
POTENTIAL BENEFITS OF VIRTUAL COMPANIONS
Proponents of AI companions point out several ways these digital friends can help children. First, they can provide emotional support. An AI friend is always available to listen or chat, which can be comforting for a lonely or anxious child. In a recent survey of over 1,000 students using an AI companion app, 63% said their AI buddy helped reduce
feelings of loneliness or anxiety. For a shy or struggling child, a non-judgmental virtual friend offers a safe space to talk. Imaginary friends are nothing new, so an AI playmate in moderation could serve a similar positive role.
RISKS AND CONCERNS
Despite some potential upsides, AI companions come with significant risks that worry many parents and experts. One major concern is blurring reality and fantasy. Young children may blur fantasy and reality when interacting with lifelike chatbots. Because AI companions respond in human-like ways—even mimicking emotions—they can feel very real to a child. This might deepen kids’ confusion between what’s real and make-believe. Emotional attachment can become problematic if a child starts relying on an AI friend at the expense of real-world relationships. An AI companion is programmed to be endlessly patient and agreeable, which real friends and family are not. This “idealized interaction” might make real world relationships feel less satisfying by comparison. Emotional dependency is another concern. An AI that constantly praises or agrees with a child could create a false sense of validation. The child might become dependent on the AI for emotional support and struggle more when facing real-life challenges that the AI cannot solve.
Another risk is exposure to inappropriate content or advice. AI systems do not have human judgment, and even when programmed with filters, they can make troubling mistakes. One highprofile example was Snapchat’s My AI chatbot. It infamously gave a 13-yearold advice on how to engage in a sexual encounter with an adult. Snapchat rushed to add guardrails after this incident, but it highlighted how easily an AI “friend” could offer dangerous guidance. The thought that an AI might give dangerous advice to a child is alarming. Additionally, some companion apps have weak filters, allowing sexually explicit roleplay or other adult content, which can normalize unhealthy attitudes in young users. For example, SpicyChat AI is a free app that allows users to have
roleplay conversations with AI characters which often includes sexually related content.
Lastly, there’s also the question of privacy. Kids might innocently tell their AI friend personal details, not realizing how that data could be stored or misused.
RECOMMENDATIONS FOR PARENTS
Parents don’t need to panic if their child shows interest in an AI friend, but they should take an active role in guiding these interactions. Here are some strategies to consider:
• Try it out yourself: Before letting your child use an AI companion app or device, test it first and see what kind of conversations it produces. This hands-on approach helps you understand the AI’s capabilities and limits.
• Set clear boundaries: Establish rules for when and how your child can chat with their AI friend (for example, only after homework and not after bedtime). Make sure they know not to share private information like their full name, address, or photos with the AI. Also, if the app offers parental control settings or content filters, turn them on for added safety.
• Emphasize the AI’s nature: Make sure your child understands their AI friend is just a simulation—no matter how caring it seems, it doesn’t actually have feelings. Comparing it to a talking toy or imaginary character can help. Encourage your child to tell you if the AI says something that makes them uncomfortable or confused.
• Balance with real-life interaction: Make sure virtual play isn’t replacing real human interaction. Encourage plenty of offline fun (sports, playdates, family activities) so the AI is just one small part of your child’s life. If you notice your child withdrawing from real friends in favor of the AI, scale back its use and refocus on real-world engagement.
In conclusion, AI companions are a double-edged sword. They offer fun and comfort for kids, but also pose new challenges. By staying informed and involved, you can help ensure that virtual friends remain a positive addition to their child’s life—not a detriment to it. With proper guidance, these digital companions can be a useful tool for play and learning, while real friendships and family bonds stay front and center.
Mike Daugherty is a husband, father of three young children, author, speaker, Google Innovator, and possible Starbucks addict. He is a certified educational technology leader who has served in a variety of roles through his twenty-year career in public education. Currently, Mike is the Assistant Superintendent of Innovation, Technology, and Communications for the Chagrin Falls Exempted Village School district in Northeast Ohio. As an IT director he has developed creative, well thought out solutions that positively impact teaching and learning.
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TWEENS & TEENS
— by Kimberly Blaker
If there’s anything synonymous with adolescence, spending hours on end on the phone certainly tops the list. Of course, this behavior isn’t unique to today’s teens. Think back to your teen years. Remember those carefree days of conversing with your friends about such vital matters as what to wear to your brother’s (and his cute teammates’) baseball game; a secret crush; or the oppressive rules your parents have laid down?
In many respects, today’s teens are no different. A couple of decades back, a study by the University of Illinois found the average teen spent 2 to 3 hours a day on the phone (although only half that time was likely spent in conversation). But at the time, that seemed excessive to many parents.
Psychologists say teens need such opportunities to socialize so they can broaden and strengthen their social networks. This need for constant socializing
during the teen years might appear to be a lack of responsibility or a shortage of other interests. But it’s crucial to your teen’s sense of identity and social development.
Still, the amount of time teens spent on the phone and media only 20 years ago dulls in comparison to today. Videos, movies, music, video games, books, and social media are now always at adolescents’ fingertips. A 2019 report by Com-
mon Sense Media reveals kids ages 8 to 12 now spend four hours and 44 minutes per day on their phones. Teens average a whopping 7 hours and 22 minutes daily.
How widespread the problem has become is evident in that 89% of all teens now own cell phones, according to a 2018 study conducted by Common Sense Media. Interestingly, more than half of teen-owned cell phones are purchased by parents to alleviate their worries about their kids’ safety and whereabouts, says the Detroit News The resolution of one problem, however, has created another.
Other problems have also arisen with teen cell phone use. These include high cell phone bills, safety issues when less-experienced drivers talk or text, and cyberbullying.
Another issue has also evolved. According to the Pew Internet & American Life Project, 20% of teens surveyed say online correspondence has become their
primary means of communication with their peers. This means they’re growing more isolated when it comes to realworld socialization.
Rules and Solutions Your Family Can Live With
Parents do, indeed, need to allow their teens to socialize. But teens must earn that privilege by adhering to rules.
To ensure the cell phone doesn’t consume an excessive amount of your teen’s time, set rules regarding its use. Allow your teen’s input though, and try to make some compromises, so your teen is more willing to adhere to the rules established. Here are some suggestions.
• Specify what times the cell phone may not be used, such
as at mealtime, while doing homework, and after a particular hour at night.
• If your family members share cell phones, set specific times that each adolescent can use the phone and ask them to plan their use accordingly.
• Require homework and chores to be completed before using the cell phone. Or allow only a short amount of phone time before chores and homework are complete.
• Require everyone to put their phones on the chargers at night, which should be someplace outside kids’ bedrooms, such as the kitchen.
• Don’t allow teens to take their phones to school. Make them leave their phones on the charging stations where you can see them.
• Require your teen to pay a determined portion of the cell phone bill.
• Buy prepaid minutes to keep teens from racking up high cell phone bills.
• Don’t allow your teen to text or talk on the phone while driving. Parents should also adhere to this to set a good example.
• Set the consequences for not abiding by cell phone rules. Loss of cell phone use for a specified period is appropriate.
Kimberly Blaker is a freelance writer. She also owns an online bookshop, Sage Rare & Collectible Books, specializing in out-of-print, scarce, signed, and first editions; fine bindings; ephemera and more at sagerarebooks.com.
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April is Stress Awareness Month
Stress has a way of sneaking up on us when we’re well past the point of needing to implement self-care. I meet most of my clients when they’re at a breaking point or a crisis that has them seeking professional support to find better coping skills. I like to teach them that going to therapy is a good idea even when things feel okay. Think of it like going to the dentist or the doctor for preventative care. Therapy is the same way. Being self-aware helps reduce stress and increase tolerance of everyday events.
April is a great starting point for implementing healthy lifestyle habits like creating more white space on your calendar or saying no to some things so you can say yes to the things that really matter to you. The following list are the things I have shared with my clients over the years to help them live a more stressfree life.
1. Create a small space in your home and even in your office space at work, where you hang motivational pieces of art, pic-
tures of loved ones, and special artifacts that get you pumped up for the day. Surrounding yourself with positive things will help you
have a positive mindset.
2. Keep a journal for your eyes only. Sometimes my clients feel intimidated when I suggest they journal because they’re worried about not keeping up with it daily and therefore, letting themselves down. I encourage them to find something they want to write in,
that is aesthetically pleasing and use it as a dumping ground to get out whatever they need to.
3. Write a to-do list each morning of what you want to accomplish for the day. Put things on there that you may have already done so you can immediately check things off. Think of something to reward yourself with at the end of the list such as your favorite coffee, a nice walk outside after work, or a special dessert after dinner. It’s important to acknowledge your hard work.
4. Take deep breaths throughout the day. Having some level of anxiety is common for all of us but if you feel yourself having a bit more anxiety towards something and your heart rate picks up, take a few slow, deep breaths. Try box breathing where you use your point finger to inhale, exhale, inhale, and exhale as you draw an imaginary box in the air.
— by Meagan Ruffing
Is there something in your day that can be rescheduled?
5. Try some aromatherapy in your space. I have a small sand tray on my desk at work with a heartshaped rock in the middle of it. I put some lavender oil on the rock and inhale the soothing scent while I answer emails. This helps me stay grounded and calm in the midst of what can sometimes feel overwhelming.
6. Keep things simple. Is there something in your day that can be rescheduled? Can you take a look at the week ahead and move some things around so that you’re not going from one thing to the next? Is it possible to set yourself up for success the following week or weeks?
7. Do something nice for someone else. This always has a way of reducing stress levels because it takes the focus off you and places it on someone else.
8. Being grateful for what is going right in your life helps shift your perspective on things that can feel heavy. Something I try to practice every day is starting my morning by making a mental note of what I’m thankful for. It allows me time and space to get myself in the right mindset.
9. Consider taking a warm bath or shower to clear your head. Having just 10 minutes to yourself where you can shut out the rest of the world and take a deep breath will do wonders for your mental health.
Let’s make this April one of the most stress-free months of the year. Make it a goal to try one new thing a week from this list, for the next eight weeks and see if you notice a difference in how you feel.
Meagan Ruffing is a parenting journalist, mental health therapist, and single mom who tries to do her best each day. She doesn’t always get things right but continually strives to do better.
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Choosing Healthy Beverages for Kids and Teens
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Choosing healthy beverages for children and adolescents is just as important as choosing healthy foods, as it impacts everything from oral health to chronic disease risk. That’s why leading health and nutrition organizations developed new healthy beverage recommendations for families with children ages 5-18.
These evidence-based recommendations were created as part of a collaboration by experts at the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics, American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry, American Academy of Pediatrics, and the American Heart Association, who were brought together by Healthy Eating Research (HER) with funding from the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation.
To make choosing healthy beverages easier for families, the organizations created these three categories:
BEVERAGES TO DRINK
These beverages are recommended as part of a healthy diet because they provide essential nutrients, such as vitamins and minerals, and don’t contain added sugars. Plain drinking water is still the best option to keep kids healthy and hydrated.
It’s also often the most accessible and affordable.
Plain, pasteurized milk is another healthy option because it provides important nutrients that growing kids and teens need.
BEVERAGES TO LIMIT
100 percent fruit and vegetable juice can be part of a healthy diet, but daily consumption should be limited. Whole fruits and vegetables are generally better choices because they provide dietary fiber, contributing to a feeling of fullness.
Flavored milks, like chocolate milk and strawberry milk, should be limited because they contain high amounts of added sugars and non-sugar sweeteners. If your child does not like drinking plain milk, it’s best to consider other foods from the dairy group (like unsweetened yogurt) before offering flavored milk.
BEVERAGES TO AVOID
These beverages are not recommended as part of a healthy diet because they offer no nutritional value and have ingredients that can be harmful to kids and teens.
Sugar-sweetened beverages, such as sports drinks, sodas, fruit drinks, fruitades, aguas frescas and sweetened waters are high in added sugars, which can put children at risk for dental cavities, and dietrelated diseases like type 2 diabetes and obesity.
Plant-based milk alternatives like oat milk and almond milk should be limited because they are not nutritionally equivalent to cow’s milk, which provides essential nutrients that kids need to grow up healthy. Many also contain added sugars and non-sugar sweeteners, which are harmful to kids’ health. If your child is allergic to dairy milk or has a dietary restriction, talk to your doctor or registered dietitian about finding the plant-based milk alternative that is best for your child.
Drinks with nonsugar sweeteners, such as aspartame, stevia and monk fruit, should also be avoided. Just because a drink is advertised as sugar-free doesn’t mean it’s healthier. In fact, new research shows non-sugar sweeteners may not help control body weight and may increase the risk of diet-related chronic diseases such as type 2 diabetes and heart disease.
Drinks with caffeine or other stimulants like taurine should be avoided. These include energy drinks, energy shots, coffee, and tea. Evidence suggests that there is no safe amount of caffeine consumption for children under 18 and that even small amounts can lead to poor sleep quality, increased blood pressure, and depressive moods and anxiety.
You can learn more about healthy drinks at healthyeatingresearch.org.
“We all want our kids to grow up healthy, and research shows that what kids and teens drink is an important part of a balanced diet, not just what they eat. But there are so many drink products on the market, it can be hard to figure out what’s healthy and what’s not,” said Megan Elsener Lott, MPH, RDN, deputy director of HER. “These recommendations provide a gold standard based on the latest research and can be goals that families work toward together.”
— Courtesy of the Niagara Frontier Veterinary Society
Easter and Your Pets
Easter arrives on April 20th. Here are some tips to keep your pets safe this season! Avoid plastic Easter grass in baskets and decorations. Pets cannot digest plastic Easter grass, which means that it can become lodged in the gastrointestinal tract and wreak havoc if consumed. Signs for concern include vomiting, decrease in appetite, lethargy and stomach pain. Choose alternative fillers such as shredded paper or tissue paper and remember to keep baskets and decorations out of reach of curious pets.
Small toys, decorations, and Easter eggs can present choking hazards for pets if swallowed. Keep small objects, including plastic eggs, toys, and decorative items, securely stored and out of reach of pets to prevent accidental ingestion or choking incidents.
Many plants commonly used for Easter decorations, such as lilies, tulips, daffodils, and hyacinths, are toxic to pets if ingested. Keep all lilies and other toxic plants out of your home and opt for petsafe alternatives such as artificial plants or non-toxic flowers such as roses or sunflowers. If you suspect your cat ingested any part of a lily, get them to the veterinarian immediately.
Chocolate is a common Easter treat, but it’s highly toxic to dogs, cats and other pets. Theobromine and caffeine, two compounds found in chocolate, can cause vomiting, diarrhea, rapid breathing, elevated heart rate, seizures, and even death in pets. Keep chocolate and other sweets out of reach of pets and educate family members and guests about the dangers of feeding them to animals. If your pet discovers an unattended Easter basket full of candy, they’ll likely try to eat a few pieces. Your pet won’t remove the wrapper first, meaning they’ll consume the plastic or foil it’s wrapped in, which can cause damage to the throat and digestive tract. Dark chocolate is more toxic than milk chocolate, and white chocolate is safest around pets.
Families often enjoy decorating their homes for Easter. While most decorations are harmless, some can put your pet at risk. Common holiday dangers include electric lights, string tinsel, decorations with batteries, and electronic décor that could catch fire or send electrical shocks. When decorating, avoid décor made of potentially toxic materials. You’ll also want to place your décor in locations that are not accessible to your pet, such as high shelves or inside enclosed cabinets. If you suspect your pet may have ingested anything harmful, call your vet right away for guidance on how to proceed. It is a good idea to keep a sealed bottle of hydrogen peroxide on hand in case it is needed to induce vomiting. Always consult a veterinarian before administering any to your pet.
The Niagara Frontier Veterinary Society is a 501(c)3 organization comprised of more than 75 small animal hospitals and more than 225 practitioners in Erie and Niagara Counties. It exists to advance public awareness and understanding of appropriate and compassionate pet health care, veterinary services and the veterinary profession.
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Easter Apps Made Easy
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If you’ll be hosting friends and family for Easter this year, creating the perfect spread doesn’t have to be hard. Make your gathering as simple as it is delicious by serving dishes that can be made ahead of time then easily put together on the big day.
Opting for an array of appetizers can help keep hungry people out of the kitchen until the main course is ready. Featuring easy prep and short cook times, these apps from “Cookin’ Savvy” can let you spend more time creating memories with loved ones.
Whether you’re celebrating with your nearest and dearest or hosting a larger crowd, these Deviled Eggs, Pimento Cheese Bites and Spinach Bites recipes can be halved or doubled to fit your needs. Plus, they feature many ingredients you may already have on-hand, making them easy to prep ahead of time to avoid spending too much time in the kitchen while trying to host.
Find more recipe inspiration to make your Easter celebration extraordinary at Culinary.net.
Deviled Eggs
Recipe courtesy of “Cookin’ Savvy”
Yield: 16 deviled eggs
8 boiled eggs
1/2-3/4 cup mayonnaise
2 tablespoons mustard
2 tablespoons dill pickle juice
1 package (2 1/2 ounces)
real bacon pieces
1 teaspoon garlic powder
2 teaspoons onion powder
salt, to taste
pepper, to taste
smoked paprika, for garnish (optional)
Slice each egg and place whites on plate and yolks in bowl.
In bowl of yolks, add 1/2 cup mayonnaise, mustard, pickle juice, bacon pieces, garlic powder, onion powder and salt and pepper, to taste. With fork or hand mixer, blend until smooth. Add more mayonnaise until mixture reaches desired smoothness. Spoon or pipe mixture into egg whites. Garnish with smoked paprika, if desired.
Note: Deviled eggs can be made day before and kept covered in refrigerator until needed.
Pimento Cheese Bites
Recipe courtesy of “Cookin’ Savvy”
Yield: 12 shells and 12 tops
2 cups shredded cheddar cheese
8 ounces cream cheese, softened 1/2 cup mayonnaise
1 jar (4 ounces) pimentos, drained
1/4 teaspoon garlic powder
1/2 teaspoon onion powder
1 package (2 1/2 ounces) real bacon pieces
salt, to taste
pepper, to taste
2 packages frozen puff pastry shells
With hand mixer, blend cheddar cheese, cream cheese, mayonnaise, pimentos, garlic powder, onion powder, bacon
pieces and salt and pepper, to taste, until smooth; set aside.
Heat oven to 400º F.
Thaw then bake pastry shells 15 minutes.
Remove tops and set aside. Spoon pimento cheese mixture into each shell.
Place dab of pimento cheese mixture on tops for smaller appetizers.
Notes: Pimento cheese mixture can be made in advance and kept in refrigerator up to 5 days before using. Recipe can be halved or doubled depending on needs.
Spinach Bites
Recipe courtesy of “Cookin’ Savvy”
Yield: 24 spinach bites
1 package (8 ounces)
cream cheese, softened
1/2 cup mayonnaise
1/2cup sour cream
1 cup thawed frozen spinach
1/2 cup Parmesan cheese
1/2 cup mozzarella cheese
1 package (2 1/2 ounces)
real bacon pieces
1 teaspoon garlic powder
2 teaspoons onion powder
salt, to taste
pepper, to taste
1 package (2 sheets) frozen puff pastry
With hand mixer, blend cream cheese, mayonnaise, sour cream, spinach, Parmesan cheese, mozzarella, bacon pieces, garlic powder, onion powder and salt and pepper, to taste.
Heat oven to 400º F.
Thaw and roll out puff pastry sheets. Cut each sheet into 12 squares. Place each puff pastry square into hole in muffin pan then spoon spinach mixture into each square and pinch corners together. Bake 15 minutes and serve warm.
Notes: Spinach mixture can be made in advance and kept in refrigerator up to 5 days before using. Recipe can be halved or doubled depending on needs.
THE KIDDIE GOUR ME T
— by Barbara Blackburn
The blue house turned restaurant on Transit Road in Lockport is a mecca for gluten free kiddos and adults. Kith and Kin has won the most awards for their healthy and innovative menu. Our friendly waitress told me that there are no age restrictions for the kiddie menu. For G.F. Kiddos, the menu offers 2 chicken fingers and fries ($7.00), Burger & Fries ($5.50), 1 Pancake or French Toast ($5.00), and Pasta with butter, cheese sauce or marinara ($6.25). Read the code letters: D equals dairy; S equals soy, or ask your compassionate and competent server. When I checked the term “kith and kin” in the dictionary, I found it defined as one’s acquaintances and relatives as well as kinfolk and neighbors. That explains the family tree painted on the wall, with hung pictures of people and pets. An assortment of people were dining on the Wednesday evening we visited, including a family of four, playing “Old Maid” while waiting for their food. Checking the daily specials, I decided on the Lighter Fare Quick Combo, choosing quiche with spinach and bacon, preceded by wholesome lentil soup ($9.00). Accompanying my blackboard special were sliced tomatoes, shredded carrots, and greens. Quite different it was from my taste memories of Quiche Lorraine, but tasty in a new direction.
Kith & Kin Bakeshop and Bistro
5850 S. Transit Road Lockport, NY 14094
716-471-3105
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~ SPOONS ~ FOOD 4.5/5
SERVICE 5/5
FAMILY FRIENDLY 5/5
I did miss the eggplant, though, which I remember a certain cinema rat putting in his ratatouille.
We were there on a Wednesday night which is Pizza Night. Our next table neighbors let us know how good the pizza was and how much they were enjoying it. Check the special nights menus on the table. How clever is the Popeye and Olive Oyl one! Clever extends to menu items you won’t find other places, particularly all the gluten free ones. Brunch & Brinner is a special title for the eggy items. Saturday is the time to check out the brunch specials. Friday Specials tout the Fish Sammy and The Fish Fry, which has been listed as a wise choice for Lent.
For those old enough, wine, beer, seltzer, and cider are available. Otherwise, a pleasant variety of drinks fills the menu.
Upon entering, we had been awed by the pastry counter and later ordered some. Alas, when we arrived home our bag bore only our luscious lingering leftovers. So, on another night or day we’ll have to pick some more pastries to carry home, such as pecan caramel cheesecake, Mexican wedding balls, Hello Dollies, and Italian cookies.
Pondering our experience, Dad said it all—“Good choice!”
FUN DAYS during the month of April 2nd
Dad was in love with his Goatie Bacon and Butternut Soup ($6.75 bowl or $4.50 cup). His enthusiasm stayed high for his Ratatouille Sandwich ($12.75): grilled zucchini, peppers, onion, mushrooms, garlic, herbs, and mozzarella, served open face on his choice of the restaurant homemade multi-grain bread.
Barb has been happily doing the Kiddie Gourmet for over 35 years. She has two aging children and four grandchildren, all living in Florida. She is a home instructor and community education cooking instructor for Williamsville Central Schools. She is the 2023 recipient of the Buffalo State Alumni Association Senior Service Award.
