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WITH THEIR LIVES AND TO LIVE LIFE IN SUCH A WAY THAT WHEN THEIR TIME IS UP, THEY WILL HAVE NO

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WORK THAT INCORPORATES MULTIPLE POINTS OF VIEW. I AM A PROBLEM-SOLVER THAT WORKS TO EMPOWER AND MOTIVATE THOSE AROUND ME TO LEAD AND POSSESS THE DESIRE TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE. WHETHER I AM TEACHING STUDENTS ABOUT

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ALL, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AND RUN YOUR RACE.

ASSISTING A CANDIDATE RUNNING FOR OFFICE, ALL OF MY ACTIONS ALIGN WITH MY LIFE’S PURPOSE WHICH IS TO DO AS MUCH GOOD WITH THE TIME THAT GOD HAS AFFORDED ME, AND TO BE AUTHENTICALLY ME WHILE DOING JUST THAT.

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DR. TORRI LOVE GRIFFIN

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GINA EDWARADS

DR. MALAIKA TURNER

TYNETTA BROWN

P'ALEX DILLON

DR. SHERYL HICKMAN

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INSPIRING, CELEBRATING, WORKING, AND BRINGING WOMEN TOGETHER WILL BE PART OF MY LEGACY. MICHELLE WASHINGTON FOUNDER AND EDITOR-IN-CHIEF WOMEN OF MORE MAGAZINE

There should never be a moment you don't experience the power of unity among women.

Pslams 133:1 (Women of MORE Translation) Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for Women of MORE to dwell together in unity! (harmony) har·mo·ny agreement of ideas, feelings, or actions, or a pleasing combination of different parts: peaceable or friendly relations. Agreement.

The only thing that can stop us from becoming unified is our lack of understanding of unity and trust.

My challenge to you is for you to see beyond the poor experiences you may have encountered over your life with other women and lean into the power of the present moment, the power you were created with to change the impossibilities, and the impact you are destined to make in the world. Yes, there's MORE to you!

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I would encourage women to be purposeful and intentional with their lives and to live life in such a way that when their time is up, they will have no regrets at all. Make every day count!

Die empty - leave it all on the field.

AS A LEADER, HOW DO YOU FOSTER THE PHRASE, "COMMON-UNITY"?

I try to live out that phrase by partnering with other nonprofits which share the passions and goals that I have.

That can be shown by my partnership with non-profits such as Child, Inc. and Mercy Multiplied. Another thing that my husband and I do is bring folks from the community together for discussions around food. It sounds funny but we have found that people loosen up and become more relaxed as we eat and fellowship together. We have fostered many new relationships just by eating together.

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WHEN DID YOU DISCOVER THERE WAS MORE TO YOU AND WHAT WAS THE REVELATION YOU RECEIVED? My husband and I co-founded Seeds of Greatness Bible Church/Seeds Church in 2000. I was happy to work with him but I preferred a "backseat" role. He didn't want that. He wanted me to work directly alongside of him. That was a real stretch for me because I'm an introvert who did not want to be in front of crowds. However, since it was very important to him, I conceded and for the past 21 years I've done exactly that. I stand and speak to literally hundreds of people each week and I'm told by many that I inspire them. I attribute it all to God's grace!! I never thought I would or could do that - let alone enjoy it because I am such an introvert! There was MORE to me!

YOU INSPIRE SO MANY PEOPLE. WHO OR WHAT INSPIRES YOU? My grandchildren inspire me. They watch everything I do and listen to everything I say. I want to be a great example to them and leave them an awesome legacy. I try to model the behavior that I want to see in them. I love when they say "My BiBi taught me that" or 'I did this with my BiBI".

TELL US ABOUT YOUR PASSION FOR WHAT YOU'RE DOING TODAY IN YOUR BUSINESS, ORGANIZATION OR CAUSE. The ministry/cause that I founded almost 20 years ago is Girlfriends! Girlfriends! is the women's ministry at Seeds. My vision/goal for Girlfriends! is simply to EMPOWER and INSPIRE women to do and be all they can be.

My goal is also to create a culture when women fellowship together that is welcoming and engaging. Our theme at our gatherings is "There are no strangers here, just Girlfriends you haven't met yet". My work through Girlfriends! has directly affected the women of Seeds as well as women throughout the State of Delaware and surrounding states. I have a passion for women and children who are victims of domestic violence. To date, Girlfriends! and Seeds has donated tens of thousands of dollars to local shelters which house women and children who are fleeing homes where domestic violence occurs.

Women who lead with their husbands with dignity and grace inspire me, especially older women. I love to sit in the presence of these women and just listen to them talk about life and their experiences. I try to glean as much as I can from them.

WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR GREATEST PERSONAL LESSON AND HOW HAS IT ENHANCED YOUR LIFE? In 2009, I was diagnosed with Stage Two Breast Cancer. I went through two surgeries, chemotherapy and radiation treatment. That experience gave me a greater appreciation for life, family and the blessings that I have been given. After going through all of that I purposed to be more intentional about quality time with my loved ones and I purposed to live my life in such a way that I would have no regrets when I loose loved ones or when my time on this earth is winding down. I purpose not to get older and say things like "I wish I had done this" or "I'm sorry I didn't spend more time with my grandchildren, husband, mom or others that I care about". I'm seizing every opportunity now!

Several years ago, I was asked by the Founder of Child, Inc. to serve as a board member.

Among other things, Child Inc. operates two homes for abused women and children and is doing amazing work for children and families in the State of Delaware. I also have a passion supporting young women who need freedom from life-altering issues such as depression, anxiety, self-harm, addictions, sexual abuse, etc.

For the past six years I've served on the Board of Directors of Mercy Multiplied, a non-profit that does that and so much more. I love the work of both of these non-profits.

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WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE KNOWN FOR? I want to be known as a woman who is an answer to someone's prayer. I want to be someone who makes a difference in the lives of others and doesn't just talk about making a difference.

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TROUBLE HALVED Eighteen years ago, I delivered a nine-pound, ten-ounce baby and a softball sized fibroid. I really thought that was the end of my relationship with fibroids. Years later at my GYN exam, I questioned the size of my belly. The culprit was not overeating, these suckers had the nerve to come back, a cluster of fibroids. “We will monitor them, let me know if they cause you any pain,” she says as she rolls around in her chair and exits the room.

For years I met each month with seven plus days of a heavy flow with caution. Leaving the bathroom was like a cramped murder scene. White pants? NEVER! A restful sleep during that time of the month? I would wake up checking to make sure I didn’t ruin our sheets. I only discussed it with my doctor. This was my “normal.” I rarely talked about the extent of my trouble with other women. No one knew the strength it took to press through for 7-9 days out of the month.

I had to grab this bull by the horns so to the internet I went. I learned everything I could about fibroids. I adjusted my diet and started exercising. I was determined to get ahead of this, believing for a miracle. I prayed He would take them away.

At another checkup, I was met with “they haven’t got any bigger but they are still there.” I could feel these bad boys bullying my bladder and zapping my energy. Another doctor did what they coined “consultation.” I can paraphrase her words, “Are you planning on having more kids? Why are you holding on? Your decision, let me know what you decide.”

This left me unsettled and concerned about who I was trusting my health with. I reluctantly continued going to this practice.

For years I toggled between waiting it out until menopause or having a hysterectomy. Each appointment the doctor would confirm they were still there leaving the rest up to me. It felt like I was alone. I made one of the best decisions in this journey when I found another GYN. I shared my perspective, my faith, and the past 15 years. With the kindest disposition, she said “let’s start over.” She was patient and partnered with me on my health decisions and gave me information and space. I prayed and waited. Out of my ordinary routine, I watched a healing service at my church. A woman that I respect and admire shared about having a hysterectomy. I listened and wept because I knew she was talking to me... it was a transparent conversation that women are not having.

Her words were my peace.

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On August 30, 2021, I underwent a total hysterectomy. I say that unapologetically unashamed. The incomplete woman that I feared I would become was a lie. Before surgery, I praised God for the healthy body on the other side, I wrote out my petition, I prayed for my husband, family, and hospital employees, I prayed for God to show me who is for me and who is not and I declared and decreed some things. Sis, everything, EVERYTHING, I prayed for manifested. My fibroids and my uterus weighed 10 pounds. I suffered in silence with 10 pounds of imposter weight unnecessarily for 15 years! I asked God to remove them and He did just that, but not the way my natural brain could comprehend!

Ladies, this is the take back. Take back being transparent with another sister. A trouble shared is a trouble halved. There is another woman worrying about what you have conquered. When we worry, we think on the wrong side of life. Why are we keeping secrets that can help another woman get to her other side?

Share on, sis.

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"It's 2021," they say. "That doesn't happen anymore." Who are they? It's safe to assume they are not black or brown and have a skewed view of the black and brown experience. Yes, even in 2021 we are still dismissed, underrated, and misjudged. My firsthand experience came from working in a healthcare setting for over 16 years where a woman who eventually became my director repeatedly said, "I don't know you."

This came up in many exchanges as she used that as an excuse not to show up for me, my professionalism, and my stellar work history.

The repeated experiences of black and brown people being unheard are astounding. From unanswered concerns from medical professionals, from missing persons with little to no search effort, to bullying. It runs the gamut. Our cries, contributions, and lives matter. However, we cannot wait to be heard, respected, and cared for. It is our call to action to stand up for one another. We don't have the privilege to look the other way. No sisters, we cannot just turn the other cheek.

Now more than ever we must advocate for ourselves, those who will come after us, and those standing in the trenches with us. This goes for all black and brown people, not just the ones we know and have built relationships with, but for the culture, for the safety of the BIPOC community to demand change, equality, and respect for our humanity.

After many instances, I detailed our frequent encounters where she witnessed my character, work ethic, and accomplishments within the company. Had she been present she could acknowledge my interdisciplinary collaborations, scholarly activities, and countless times I displayed poise, professionalism, and endless proficiencies. It was only after that conversation she exclaimed; "Oh I look at you differently, now!" It makes one wonder when we speak what do they hear? Is it the famous “wah wah wah wah” from the Charlie Brown movies or is it worse and do we sound like nails on a chalkboard?

You may not be the political, confrontational, or the protesting type. Not all of us are. You still have a voice, and you can still make an impact. Begin to ask curious questions and challenge the status quo. We can do this with an even tone and curious approach. Try the proverbial "Hmmm, why do you ask?" "I am not clear why you said that. Can you elaborate?" or "Ouch, that stings! What did you mean by that?” This letter comes on the heels of a black lawyer friend sharing that she was told, "Oh, you have a normal name!" and "Oh, you started your own firm, how brazen is that!" If it's accessible and acceptable to/for them why not us?

Black queens, brown women, and beautiful ladies don't let them "put baby in the corner." Shine sister! Your light shines bright. Blind them if you must.

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I am always inspired by the great work that women are doing to make this world a better place, and stories of brilliant women doing amazing things encourages me to keep going. I find strength, support, comfort and a refuge in my relationship with other women. A sisterly bond is magical, and I encourage everyone to explore the significance of sisterhood and become a sister to women that are making a difference in the lives of others.

We need to operate as a global sorority that provides wisdom and love through collective action and the way we do this is by supporting women-owned businesses, helping female candidates run for office, encouraging our young women to go for their dreams, and providing a shoulder to cry on or a judgement-free space to share.

Become a believer in the power of a sisterly collective and hopefully you will inspire other women to not see each other as competition but instead to trust in the beauty of sisterhood.

MARLA BLUNT CARTER

WHEN DID YOU DISCOVER THERE WAS MORE TO YOU AND WHAT WAS THE REVELATION YOU RECEIVED?

YOU INSPIRE SO MANY PEOPLE. WHO OR WHAT INSPIRES YOU?

I was 26 years old when a chance encounter changed my life. My senior year in college was extremely stressful and the pressure led me to run away and not finish my studies. I learned of a job opportunity to become a flight attendant and at the information session I was hired. I travelled the world and met amazing people, but I could not escape my feelings of failure. Then one morning, poet and author Maya Angelou boarded my flight, and everything changed. She shared her wisdom, read her poetry, and touched my soul with her words. As I got up to return to my duties, she grabbed my hand and said, “I want to ask you something. Why are you here? Your light is too bright to be here. God has called you to do great things, stop running.” Her words touched my heart and helped me to believe in myself again. Had it not been for that fateful conversation with Dr. Angelou, I would not have found the courage to face my past and the ability step into my future.

My children inspire and motivate me. They both possess a fighter’s spirit that was evident before they were born and still exists today. After months of bedrest and medical complications, I gave birth to my son, 8 weeks early, then 5 years later gave birth to my daughter who was also premature. Because they were conceived after suffering multiple miscarriages, they were what some refer to as rainbow babies and since their arrivals 23 and 17 years ago, they have brought nothing but joy to my life. They work hard on their academic pursuits, always show up and support their friends and family, and are passionate about global issues of racial, economic and environmental justice. They were warriors in the womb and have continued to embody that same indomitable nature even as they have faced challenges in their own lives. I am inspired by their determination, resilience and strength.

TELL US ABOUT YOUR PASSION FOR WHAT YOU’RE DOING TODAY IN YOUR BUSINESS, ORGANIZATION, OR CAUSE?

AS A LEADER, HOW DO YOU FOSTER THE PHRASE, “COMMON-UNITY”?

Fighting for social justice is my passion and I have done so in multiple ways. As an Assistant Professor of Professional Practice for the past seven years at Rutgers University School of Social Work, I have focused primarily on macro-social work practice. My areas of interest are program planning, community organizing, and policy development. Prior to teaching, I worked in the nonprofit sector and served on staff for elected officials as well as helping candidates run for office. I love teaching future leaders and social work practitioners, and I also love being engaged in the political process. The social work profession has a responsibility to not only work directly with clients, but to also engage in work that helps to influence public policy and contribute to institutional and systemic restructuring to address the needs of all communities. I am committed to preparing individuals to become leaders that desire to make a difference.

WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR GREATEST PERSONAL LESSON AND HOW HAS IT ENHANCED YOUR LIFE? Jazz great Miles Davis once said that “Time isn’t the main thing. It’s the only thing”. This quote is a reflection of my greatest personal lesson. In 2019, I had a stroke. I had no prior medical history or any pre-existing conditions and I felt no warning signs that would have prepared me for this life-altering event. But one night as I rested in bed, my body began to feel strange. I went to the bathroom and noticed that I was slowly losing function and mobility in my arm. I immediately went to the hospital where they diagnosed me with an ischemic stroke. Fortunately, I arrived in time to receive medication to minimize the damage to my brain, but I suffered impairment to the left side of my body which required physical and occupational therapy. During my recovery, I was overwhelmed with gratitude because I realized that I still had time to show those that I love exactly how much they matter to me. The saying tomorrow is not promisedbecame my daily mantra, and as I reflected on my life, I became more cognizant of time. Every relationship is important, every conversation has meaning, and every minute counts. Do not waste it!

My understanding of Common-Unity is a coming together of all people, bridging our differences and helping to show that we are all connected and should have a shared vision.

Through compassionate leadership guided by empathy, I strive to model behavior that creates safe spaces for people to share their thoughts and ideas and engage in collaborative work that incorporates multiple points of view. I am a problem-solver that works to empower and motivate those around me to lead and possess the desire to make a difference. Whether I am teaching students about diversity & oppression, managing campaign volunteers, advocating for public policy changes or assisting a candidate running for office, all of my actions align with my life’s purpose which is to do as much good with the time that God has afforded me, and to be authentically me while doing just that.

WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE KNOWN FOR? I would like others to know that optimism is my superpower. In my life, I have experienced career setbacks, health challenges, and personal disappointments but I have always held on to hope. My optimism is inspired by a scripture I read every day for months when I was pregnant and on bedrest.

Lamentations 3:21-24 states “This is recall to my mind therefore I have hope. It is because of your mercy that we are not consumed. Because thy compassion never fails, it is new every morning, great is they faithfulness.”

This scripture provided me with comfort more than two decades ago; and most recently when I faced a major health crisis. My determination to overcome hardships and the knowledge of past challenges that did not break me is what gives me hope. I know that I can withstand anything with my family by my side and my faith as my strength. When others think of me, I want them to see me as a person who never gave up, never lost her faith, and maintained a positive attitude even in the midst of a storm.

MOVING FORWARD INTO DISCOVERY: IT’S MY NEW SEASON WRITTEN BY DR. SHERYL HICKMAN

As I move into another phase of life, I am declaring that I am in a ‘Season of Discovery’. I’m taking time to discover what my next steps in life look like and what assignment God has planned for ME. It’s exciting to have the freedom of no boundaries. And by the way, I’m not making a plan to ‘fall back’ on this time. Why would I? God’s plan never fails. No need for a plan B! No need to worry about what other people think. No need to people-please. No need to do what somebody else thinks I should do.

No need to do what everybody else is doing. I’m discovering me!

Since enduring a pre-pandemic illness and the remaining after affects, I’ve discovered I no longer feel guilty when deciding to take a nap at odd times during the day; or getting in bed early to watch a mindless movie or scan through a magazine. It’s ok! Take the time. Who knows... that movie or magazine might spark my discovery.

You might think I’m looking for something new, but I prefer to say that I’m taking something back.

Me! As mothers, wives, sisters, colleagues, friends, we tend to give up some of ourselves to be what those roles demand us to be. My discovery may be what I’m taking back.

As women, throughout our lives, we have made others our focus. Pleasing our parents; living up to the expectations of others; jumping to career demands; planning for our future family and then pouring everything into them…on and on... Often losing ourselves in the process; never knowing if we’ll succeed or fail. For security, usually having a fallback plan in case we fail.

Think success. Planning to fail can be like accepting defeat that may never happen. So, the encouragement to myself, and you, is to enjoy the freedom of discovery in moving forward. Don’t feel that making a fallback plan is a must. Wherever you land is going to be ok. Remember, it’s for you and nobody else; so, who can say that you didn’t hit the mark?

Things are in a good place. Marriage is awesome; children are grown and independent; I’m enjoying grandparenting; so, it’s time to focus on my next assignment. I’m embracing the time, stillness and silence while focusing on me. Self-indulging?

Unapologetically, yes; it’s about me. Now, this doesn’t mean my new discovery won’t include others, but the main focus will be on me—what I aspire to and how that will bring joy and happiness to me in this next phase.

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Trust God and let him guide you. If you fall, choose falling forward so you can see what you’re going to hit. Maybe you’ll be able to avoid the strike. Embrace the future. The take-back can become your new discovery. Go after it free and unafraid with the guidance of God. Make God your cushion; don’t settle on plan B! |

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GLORIA THOMAS ANDERSON Never compare yourself to other women, nor compete against them, nor criticize them. Rather, discover your own purpose and focus in on that, keeping it in the forefront of your heart, soul and mind. Be consciously aware of who you are and embrace all of yourself in totality with acceptance, grace, and love.

Know that you are created for purpose, and you have a mission in this world that is uniquely yours. Lastly, focus on being the best version of yourself and never give up on your passion and purpose.

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TELL US ABOUT YOUR ORGANIZATION? Heart Tones™ began as a literary arts company in 1986 to create personalized gifts and resources for all seasons of life common to humanity—dealing with love, loss, and life itself. I began writing original, personalized messages and creating custom gifts for memorials, weddings, and graduations. I first published a line of inspirational greeting cards which I sold in stores across the country.

Over the past 15 years, I’ve expanded my mission to include healthcare advance care planning and end-of-life education for people of color, because of the high disparity and equity gaps in healthcare, particularly in cases of serious illness. In 2006, while completing my Social Work Masters’ thesis, I wrote my book, The AfricanAmerican Spiritual and Ethical Guide to End-of-Life Care: What Y’all Gon’ Do With Me? (eolcareguide.org) as a culturally-responsive educational resource for people of color to help in healthcare decision-making related to advance care planning and end-of-life. I’m honored to have my book listed on two of the CDC’s recommended ACP resource reading lists.

I see my work as a catalyst to contribute culturallyrelevant educational resources that can help patients, families, and caregivers make informed healthcare decisions, hopefully before there is a medical emergency that may not allow them to make their wishes known to their loved ones or their doctors.

WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR GREATEST LESSON AS A WOMAN IN BUSINESS? AND WHY? The greatest lesson I’ve learned as a woman in business is that I am not limited by traditional methods of business models put in place by others in society.

Although one of my greatest challenges was finding the financial capital and the needed business training as a Black woman entrepreneur, I learned that my faith in God’s Divine purpose for my life could and would transcend all that was seemingly impossible and make things possible. God brought supernatural friendships into my life where people connected me with resources and opportunities to grow my Heart Tones™ ministry.

Additionally, my God-given creativity served me too with avenues of assistance that I needed and my ministry growth came through divine friendships and oldfashioned word of mouth advertising. I used creativity to pave my own path by offering non-conventional sales approaches that served other people’s needs, such as hosting relationship workshops in homes, book signings for churches and groups, and starting an online inspirational newsletter—and I first grew a list of over 5,000 subscribers back in 2003—way before these approaches became popular. Although I encountered countless disappointments and setbacks that discouraged me at times, I didn’t give up. The greatest lesson for me as a woman in business and ministry is to hold to my faith in God, trust in Divine Guidance, and move forward in faith to follow my passion and purpose.

THIS EDITION OF WOM MAGAZINE IS CALLED, “COMMON-UNITY”. AS A LEADER IN YOUR INDUSTRY, HOW DO YOU FOSTER COMMON-UNITY AMONG WOMEN? I foster Common-Unity among women by helping other women discover their passion and purpose. Helping women as individuals, to see themselves as God has authentically designed them to be is a personal mission in my life. It’s important to be aware of how society and the world can get us off track from what our own desires and purpose are in life. As the CEO of my own business, a social work professor, advance care planning expert, author, mother, and grandmother, I believe that who I am and who I am becoming is directly connected to the women who have paved the way for me to get to this point on my personal and professional journey. Many women have made grave sacrifices to help their fellow sisters’ lives be better from the times of enslavement, through the Civil Rights movement, and even to the current times of Black Lives Matter. I believe that women have been catalysts for critical change in this country and in the world.

I also foster Common-Unity among women by being consciously intentional about disrupting the spirit of competition and criticism that happens too often in this STAR-driven society. I believe that by redirecting our collective energies to affirm and support others in their life journeys helps to foster Common-Unity.

The commonality of womanhood connects us at the spiritual and emotional level—and more specifically, at the heart level. My life work is all about building up and edifying other women in their unique passions and purpose.

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Brene̕ Brown says, “Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we’ll ever do.” We are still writing our story–the chapters of our past that have shaped us, the chapters of the present within which we live, and the chapters of our future which reflect our hopes and our dreams. You are the main character in your story. I dare you to live out loud and with love, unapologetically and with authenticity. Then find your purpose, the beautiful intersection of your gifts, your passion, and vision.

DR. LEESHA, the woman and the brand,

represents all things modern motherhood–juggling parenting, relationships, and work/career while fighting not to lose herself along the way. The products and services I offer are uniquely designed to meet this mama’s needs to be seen, affirmed, and emboldened to choose herself. In choosing herself, she dares to tell the world that she matters – her needs, her dreams, her fears … all of it matters. As a psychiatrist, I treat children and adults with depression, anxiety, ADHD, and more.

As a wellness strategist, I provide coaching and consulting services for individuals as well as organizations (churches, schools, colleges and universities, civic groups) who see that optimizing our mental health is vital to our overall health and wellbeing. I offer educational talks and workshops about mental health and the treatment of mental disorders. I have also written a book about mommy guilt for all moms struggling with this very real phenomenon and have more products coming.

WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR GREATEST LESSON AS A WOMAN IN BUSINESS? AND WHY? What I painfully thought but quickly learned was that the oft-quoted adage, if you build it, they will come, was ALL THE WAY WRONG! What I learned, instead, was that if you build it AND it meets a need AND you market it well and consistently, THEN they will come. I now recognize that I will not achieve the kind of success and influence I desire as the world’s best kept secret; so, I am constantly creating and revising my strategies to boost my visibility so that I can get in front of my intended audience.

WHEN DID YOU DISCOVER THERE WAS MORE TO YOU? AND WHAT WAS THE REVELATION THAT YOU RECEIVED? Upon my completion of medical school, residency, and fellowship training, I honestly thought my fulfillment would come simply from caring for patients and their families with enthusiasm, compassion, and thoughtfulness. Yet what I found was a nagging tug at my heart and a question that grew louder and louder over the years which was, “But what else?” I knew that I had more to give because, as a woman of incredible faith, I knew that God had called me to more. I knew that I had been given so many tremendous gifts and that He had beautifully orchestrated a divine plan for my life that moved well beyond the traditional doctorpatient S P E relationship.

C I A L F The E A heart T U Rtugs E continued and seemingly chance encounters led to connections and partnerships that have ushered me into the place I am today, unapologetically transforming the lives of women.

DR. LEESHA ELLIS COX

AS A LEADER IN YOUR INDUSTRY, HOW DO YOU FOSTER COMMON-UNITY AMONG WOMEN? Common-Unity is a theme that powerfully captures the bond that we share as women. Women are the glue that connects and strengthens families, organizations, and communities. As women, we juggle all the things and all the roles placed upon us with intention, determination, and grit. As a board-certified physician and wellness strategist, I use common-unity to connect women around the singular goal of celebrating our identity that exists beyond the role of “mom.” Whether individually through mental health services and coaching or corporately through workshops and consulting, I encourage and challenge women to disrupt the status quo by daring to redefine the narrative of motherhood. Together, we choose to unsubscribe from the unrealistic societal expectations of motherhood. We choose to disavow problematic beliefs that would erroneously suggest that we must sacrifice our very identity in the name of motherhood. We choose to practice radical self-care so we can give others the best of us instead of what’s left of us. It is in this space that we as women can truly shine.

WHAT CAN WE EXPECT FROM YOU NEXT? I am super excited to share my latest product, self-care cards for women called A Whole Mood. Let’s face it, women are a whole mood in the broadest sense, because we set the tone, elevate the conversation, and break glass ceilings. These gorgeous cards remind women of their beauty, their strength, and their worth. From affirmations to introspective content, these cards interrupt the cycle of negative self-care and catalyze wholeness and wellness in a carefully curated manner. You are definitely going to want these cards.

TAKIYAH WALLACE

i live to do.

Like most multi-potentialites, my work is defined through curiosity while my drive is impassioned through growth.

TaKiyah Wallace (Founder/Executive Director) began shooting the Brown Girls Do Ballet photo project in 2012 after searching for diverse classical ballet programs in Dallas, Texas through photos online.

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Our girls inspire us. They work incredibly hard towards their

goals and dreams at such young ages. Seeing the look on their faces, receiving thank you letters, hearing their stories brings such an overwhelming feeling and sense of accomplishment that we could make a difference in a young dancer's life. This is why we work so hard to secure funding and opportunities to continue our mission and impact the next generation of dancers.

TELL US ABOUT BROWN GIRLS Brown Girls Do Ballet's mission is to promote diversity in the arts by sharing the voices of ballerinas of color, providing a mentor network through our digital media and community programs to empower young girls. We are a nonprofit organization that thrives on being able to provide resources to underrepresented and underprivileged communities in dance in the form of mentorship, dance supplies, scholarships, and

Determined. Mighty. Beautiful.

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grants. We aim to do whatever it takes to keep young dancers dancing.

AS A LEADER, HOW DOES YOUR BUSINESS/ORGANIZATION FOSTER THE PHRASE "COMMON-UNITY" AMONG WOMEN? Our organization IS probably the very definition of a

WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO INSPIRE WOMEN AROUND THE WORLD?

"Common-Unity". Our young dancers may be in different parts of the country but face similar challenges and situations and are able to lean on

Think outside of the box that you may have

each other and learn from each other. The dancers

been forced into by others or even yourself.

then take the lessons and experiences and actively try to help younger dancers on their journeys. We

As women, we often have multiple titles:

often use the phrase "Community over Competition."

mother, partner, sister, etc., but don't allow

Our girls must know that they are building a dance

those titles and responsibilities to stop you

sisterhood from a very young age, and that requires

from thinking outside of the box when

that they understand that their sister is not their

attempting to follow or execute a dream.

competition.

Think outside of the box, and don't be afraid to lean on the people you trust to help achieve your vision.

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COMMO N UNITY I have had the privilege to travel to Africa, Asia, and Europe for vacations and missions; what I have learned is that people desire to be loved, respected, and walk out purpose here on earth.

So, what I would say to them is to build a daily affirmation that reaffirms who they have been designed to be and to get together with a small group of people who they can do life with.

What do you want to be known for?

I want to be known for exercising the life-giving power of Jesus Christ through the way I love and empower others; raising up God’s blueprint for marriage by honoring and loving my husband, through transferring my faith to the next generation at colleges and universities through teaching and training, and finally equipping my children to boldly live their lives in prosperity as a result of their faith in Christ.

BERNADETTE

MILLS

WHEN DID YOU DISCOVER THERE WAS MORE TO YOU AND WHAT WAS THE REVELATION YOU RECEIVED? I was a little girl when I discovered there was MORE. My imagination was off the charts and every week, my mother and my aunt (because my mother couldn’t drive, and we never had a car growing up) took us to Booth Corners Farmers Market. We had to buy a book to read and then we could buy something for fun. I would always purchase paper dolls for fun and dress them up as if they were from different countries. Then on Sunday nights, I would watch the black and white movies with my mother and Cary Grant was a character we loved. He would fly women to Bermuda just for lunch. While we had never even been on a plane, I would think to myself, “Hmmm, I am going to do that one day; visit different countries and go to Bermuda just for lunch.” (smile) Since that time I have had the privilege to enjoy them both for missions as well as for pleasure.

Exposure, even when on television is a powerful tool.

TELL US ABOUT YOUR PASSION FOR WHAT YOU’RE DOING TODAY IN YOUR BUSINESS, ORGANIZATION, OR CAUSE? My passion is derived from watching my mother, who was a single parent, each day make breakfast, walk us to the bus stop, pick us up from the bus, give us a snack and then sit us down to see what the homework for the evening was. Next, we would have to pack our lunch from the dinner we had the night before, get a bath and go to bed. With no alarm clock we had better not miss the bus. On the weekends, she would wake us up to hang the clothes on the line so the sun could shine on them.

Sunday it was church... period. After watching all that my mother was able to pour into our lives without the resources that I have today; I realized that her discipline, strong work ethic and sacrifice came from her love for us. She was more than 50% blind but had more vision than most. She had already envisioned that we would have a better life than she had experienced and was determined to put in the effort to bring it to pass. Oh, I almost forgot the fact that she only had an eighth-grade education.

What has been your greatest personal lesson and how has it enhanced your life?

The African proverb that reads, if you want to go fast, go alone; but if you want to go far, go together. Before I knew the proverb, I had learned the lesson of doing life as a family, as a team and with those who are committed to your vision and goals. I approach every project whether working with new people or implementing new ideas with the understanding that I must first build trust before I can build capacity.

My first and foremost greatest personal lesson is that without Christ, I am nothing nor can I do anything.

However, the converse is also true, that WITH Christ, nothing is impossible. Therefore, that same principal has enhanced each area of my life… nothing is impossible with Christ!

You inspire so many people. Who or what inspires you?

My strongest inspiration comes from my mother; who as I explained earlier endured much but conveyed the heart of God. She had such a welcoming spirit and always had a smile and a meal for someone. Her faith was more of what she did, not so much by what she said. The reason I am so inspired by her is because of her faith and diligence, and because I watched her joyfully do so much with so little, producing incredible results. In what had to be a struggle at times, I very rarely heard her say a bad word about anyone.

While this may sound cliché, Christ is my inspiration.

His word has revolutionized my life, building a faith and sensitivity to how I engage and navigate relationships, and has produced a sense of peace, joy and a firm foundation that I can leave as a legacy for generations to come. On stage from a distance, the personalities I admire are Dr. Cindy Trimm, Viola Davis, and Bishop T.D. Jakes because each of their journeys reminds me that the only limits that I have are the ones I put on myself.

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As a result of my experience growing up, it propelled me to design a program that would aide in equipping individuals and families to be sustained no matter what their circumstances. This is what I watched from my mother. Her confidence came from within, based on her belief system. She demonstrated that she BELIEVED hard work, education and parenting were the difference. Out of her belief was born High Impact 2B which is a 501c3 non-profit designed to educate, equip, and empower student and parent success in and out of the classroom. This is accomplished by developing partnerships with area schools, districts and community agencies. Once a school or entity locates the gaps in student and family outcomes, then they partner with me to design a customized program to shift the culture and increase outcomes while raising state grades. In our urban areas, many of our student outcomes convey that in order to change the trajectory for our black and brown students we must first engage the parents.

According to Harvard University’s. Dr. Karen Mapp, who designed a 12-week program, Dual Capacity Framework – Building Family School Partnerships, which I completed during the pandemic; when schools cultivate positive parent/teacher relationships, the student outcomes increase substantially. I have had the privilege to work with all three counties in the state of Delaware, along with the colleges and universities and have seen significant positive outcomes.

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By being open to change, which is an inevitable occurrence in all of life, we can experience growth in the constant evolution process of being and becoming. I believe that changing the world begins with accepting and embracing one’s self in totality—all of who you are. I received this revelation through the Spirit of God who has MORE for me to do. And I realize that I am not defined by society’s expectations or people’s estimations of me. My life is purposeful. As I am given opportunities to build upon it, I also have a responsibility to honor and help others, especially other women, in their discovery process to live out their passion and purpose.

WHEN DID YOU DISCOVER THERE WAS MORE TO YOU? AND WHAT WAS THE REVELATION YOU RECEIVED? There have been so many life stages that could be the starting point for me when I discovered there was MORE to me, but what stands out in my mind is when I walked away from a successful beauty salon business after a divorce and went to San Diego with my two little girls—stepping out on faith to follow my own heart and passion. That was more than 35 years ago! While living in California, I started my Heart Tones™ ministry to inspire hearts and encourage the souls of other women who were going through the same pain and hurt I experienced from a failed marriage. I learned that having a failed marriage did not mean I was a failure. I discovered there was MORE to me than what I had been doing and what I had gone through. The revelation I received during that challenging time in my life was that I was a unique, authentic, one-of-a-kind woman who was created for Divine purpose. All things were going to work for my good and I regrouped. I began to rebuild my life and my two daughters’ lives from a positive and optimistic mindset. My daughters and I bonded at the heart level, and even to this very day in their adulthood, they are women of victory.

FINAL WORDS Life is more than living in the here and now. We need to P.L.A.N.™ —that’s an acronym I coined that stands for Prepare for Life After Now. I speak from experience. I had a sudden life-threatening illness that was misdiagnosed shortly after I wrote my book and nearly died in 2007. I was not prepared for life after now, but quickly realized that life is not promised and, at some point, regardless of our purpose and passion, there will be an end to life.

THE GREATEST GIFT OF ALL WRITTEN BY SHARON WILSON

Thinking back over your childhood, what was the best Christmas gift you ever received?

That’s something surely only an individual can perceive. Whether it was a truck, a doll, a game, a kitchen set for a girl or a gaming system for boy, when you opened it up, for a short time it would bring you so much excitement and joy.

Please understand, there's nothing wrong with giving gifts during this season. I just want you to remember why we celebrate Christmas... Jesus is the real reason. Every day you can unlock new dimensions of this gift and it will fill you with unimaginable expectation. It can be rejuvenating and provide you with mind blowing revelation.

From personal experience, that is something I know this gift will bestow. You can take it with you and have it for the rest of your life no matter where you go. Of all the things that we could get, there is no greater gift than the gift of Christ; on that I'd be willing to bet. There may be many memorable gifts of which you can recall. But the matchless, immeasurable, irreplaceable, invaluable gift of eternal life through Jesus Christ is by far the greatest gift of all.

Of those things you received, you could outgrow it, break it, lose it, or at some point you would simply tire of it. But there is a life changing gift that can grow with you, one you can hold on to and that’s the gift of eternal life; it will not get old and it will not expire.

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UFF H OW B N RAI

I believe that God is ushering each of us into a transitional season, a season of shift if you will.

In this season, we’ll have to shift some things to make room for the new that’s waiting for us.

We must be mindful of the way we think about ourselves and the narratives we entertain. Our hearts must be clear, not heavy, and we must remain committed to trusting God’s plans for our lives. As you prepare to enter a new season and contemplate what shifting means to you, please consider the following:

Shed what no longer serves you. Pay attention to your thoughts and the narratives you tell yourself. Be intentional about casting down any negativity that tries to fill your mind. Notice the unhealthy behaviors and patterns that seem to produce the same, undesirable results. Make the decision to move differently in this season to achieve different results. Take inventory of your existing relationships. Do you find yourself showing up for people who never seem to make space for you? Are you holding onto relationships that are clearly out of alignment with your goals and values? Don’t compromise your growth by staying connected to people or things that no longer produce good fruit in your life.

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Honor your journey. Be intentional about taking time to pause and celebrate all that you’ve accomplished as you prepare to welcome what’s next. Look back on what led you to this moment in time and do so without judgment.

Show yourself compassion as you reflect on what did and didn’t work well and remain committed to learning from any mistakes you made along the way. Inquire about your next steps. Go directly to the source and ask God what His will is for you in the upcoming season. As you know, God’s plans for us are much greater and grander than our own.

What God has for you may seem impossible. Remember to walk by faith, not by sight. His plans may be new and ultimately terrifying. Acknowledge the fear and press forward anyway. If God is calling you to it, He will most certainly lead you through it!

Forgive others and don’t forget to forgive yourself! It’s important to show up with a clean heart when stepping into a new season. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you’re condoning the bad behavior or wrongdoing of others. It means that you trust God enough to handle them His way, on His time. This frees up your energy to focus on your healing and continued growth. Trust the process! We tend to associate a delay with a denial or a redirected path with rejection. You must remember that God can see what we can’t, and He knows what we don’t. When things don’t seem to be going as planned, don’t become frustrated or discouraged. Remind yourself that when God is in control, you are in the best hands!

God has amazing things in store for us. Start preparing for your season of shift!

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My heart’s desire is to help women have healthy hair inside and out. I want every woman who sits in my chair to not only have a nice hairstyle but to leave knowing that her hair is in good health. I want to introduce to you my newest product line for the health of your hair:

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It is hard to ignore the negative impact the pandemic has had on us emotionally, mentally, physically, financially, and in so many other ways.

There has been an increase in generalized anxiety, stress, and suicidal ideation (among other mental health challenges) in men and women of all ages and especially in our youth.

Where do we find relief? While there is no magic wand to wave to make it all go away, there is something we can do to build personal resilience and that is to make a commitment to personal SELF-CARE. Personal self-care is more than just grabbing a massage on a Saturday afternoon or burning candles while you soak in Epsom salts. Personal self-care is like making a paradigm shift. It is the deliberate focus on the self, applying attention using the same resources, determination, and drive we often slather on those we love—friends, family, loved ones, jobs, community projects, strangers... need I go on?

SELF-CARE

Personal self-care does not replace the “othercare” that we so easily offer, it simply allows us to focus on doing those same things for ourselves BEFORE we pour out. It replenishes those resources that so easily become depleted without our knowledge.

Let’s look at Swarbrick’s 8 Dimensions of Wellness. If we spend just two minutes each day doing something in each dimension, we will find ourselves rejuvenated and revived, and less stressed. Here are some tips on improving your track record with YOU. SPIRITUAL WELLNESS · Take time to pray, meditate or delve deep within yourself for insight or guidance and connect with a spiritual person, group, or gathering regularly. · Take a moment each day to find something awesome or amazing to be thankful for in your world.

AND YOU THE TIME TO START IS NOW

WRITTEN BY DR. TORRI LOVE GRIFFIN, LPC FINANCIAL WELLNESS · Take a look at how much money you are saving/investing and increase it by 10%. · Cancel those subscriptions that are no longer making you happy.

OCCUPATIONAL WELLNESS · Find purpose in what you do for work or business and post pictures of your proudest moments. · Be sure to balance your work/business life and home life.

MENTAL/EMOTIONAL WELLNESS · Make sure you do something fun and laugh out loud each day. · Test out that theory that therapy is enjoyable and schedule a session just focused on YOU.

ENVIRONMENTAL WELLNESS · Adjust your surroundings if they have become bogged down. · Take a moment to refresh the environment if needed.

PHYSICAL WELLNESS · Get outside to walk or stretch daily. · Find a water drinking buddy to ensure you're staying hydrated.

Making a commitment to personal self-care produces results. It helps you take back what’s been draining you so your tank can fill again. When is a good time to start? Always NOW.

INTELLECTUAL WELLNESS · Challenge yourself to read 5 pages per day of something enjoyable. · Watch a daily video on a skill you’d like to become better at.

SOCIAL WELLNESS · Check your tribe and make sure you’re surrounded by people who love and support you. · Challenge yourself to reach out to someone who may need a helping hand.

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BRITTANY MILLER. Tell your story, tap into what you do well and do that! Live on purpose and make the things that challenge you serve you in better ways!

You hold the power to carry out God’s plan which is always the best plan, but you have to trust him to guide you and DO THE WORK! We (women) are some of the most diligent and versatile creatures to walk this earth.

TELL US ABOUT BOSS LADY BLVD. We are likely the most versatile and fulfilling communications company you'll ever come in contact with. We assist with everything business, from coaching and concept development to marketing, graphic design, public relations and more. We enjoy the process of helping women navigate their passions and experiences to narrow down a tangible game plan for success and dream manifestation. We specialize in patience and strategy, as well as catered research and project execution.

We assist individuals, brands, and corporations with the tools needed for stress-free business management and performance. We help our clients behind the scenes, and on the front lines with minor and major needs. We connect professionals to other professionals and useful resources based on their individual needs.

WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR GREATEST LESSON AS A WOMAN IN BUSINESS? AND WHY? My greatest lesson has been to learn all facets of my brand and its operation before building my team. Fortunately, I didn’t have to learn that lesson through my own experience; I learned that early enough in my journey through watching other business women who were farther along in their business journeys.

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WHEN DID YOU DISCOVER THERE WAS MORE TO YOU? AND WHAT WAS THE REVELATION YOU RECEIVED? I knew there was more to me when odds kept stacking against me based on some things that happened in my life that were emotionally bad experiences... Some that I had no control over. I knew that God didn’t just want bad things to happen to me or for me to keep taking wrong turns; so I had to dig and look deeper and figure out what I was supposed to do with all my pain, worry, and failure.

I knew I had to make a shift and position things to work for me and not against me. And I had to do a much better job at representing God’s work.

JANUARY 8, 2022 The Legacy Center in Atlanta EVENTBRITE.COM/THEFLOWHERSAWARDS @THEFLOWHERSAWARDS

WHAT'S NEXT? The Flowhers Awards are coming up on January 8, 2022 at the Legacy Center in Atlanta, and we want to invite you all to come out and enjoy an elegant Black Tie Affair with a Purpose! We are giving various women in multiple career categories their flowhers while they’re here. It will be a night to remember so we encourage you to come out!

WRITTEN BY DR. CHERITA WEATHERSPOON POSTMODERN

As a business coach, I hear a lot of reasons why people can’t launch or grow their businesses. One of the more popular reasons is around the idea that their work is something they were called to do and because it is a calling, they either feel guilty about charging appropriately for their work or they refuse to charge appropriately for their work.

These scriptures tell us that when you work, you should be PAINTING. Stella

properly compensated for your work so that you canalternately sustain paints in

oil and watercolor yourself; that God has given us what we need to produce wealth (that includes our calling); and it is God’s desire to see us prosper in every area of our lives (that includes our businesses).

Now, let me be clear that there is no obligation to make money from your purpose BUT if you want to launch a business around your purpose and get paid well for serving the world and making an impact with your gifts, you can and there is nothing wrong with doing so.

To a certain extent, I get this. Especially if you grew up in a religious setting that taught that money is evil or that you shouldn’t get paid for doing “the Lord’s work.” It’s easy to fall into thinking that your purpose should be offered freely to the world as a gift but if you are spiritually-led, impact-inspired, and purpose-driven, that thinking is not in alignment with what God wants for you.

If you’re thinking about packaging your purpose for profit but are not sure if that’s the right step for you or you’re not clear on how you are supposed to live out your purpose, I can help you get the clarity you need. For readers of Women of More magazine, we are offering a special discount on our 7 Elements of Purpose & Profit Course. This course will help you get clear on your purpose and how best for you to profit from it. Learn more at https://powerhouseu.com/7ElementsCourse and use code: WOM50 for 50% off.

Reflect on these scriptures: “For the Scripture says, ‘You shall not muzzle an ox while it treads out the grain,” and, “The laborer is worthy of his wages.’” I Timothy 5:18 NKJV “... In all labor there is profit, But idle chatter leads only to poverty.” Proverbs 14:23 NKJV “​​And you shall remember the LORD your God, for it is He who gives you power to get wealth, that He may establish His covenant which He swore to your fathers, as it is this day.”

Deuteronomy 8:18 NKJV “Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers.” 3 John 3:18 NKJV

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MORE WITH BERNADETTE MILLS As a leader, how do you foster the phrase, “Common-Unity”?

As a transformational leader, in fostering the phrase “Common-Unity”, I would first want to be a model, template, or paradigm for the team to pattern themselves after. If I am not, then I must make every effort to ensure a model is presented before the team. I think of Acts 2:44, “and all that believed; they had all things in common as they met the needs of each other” or in other words, there was an exchange of resources.

Then, I would make “Common-Unity” a part of the organizations DNA by 1) Casting the vision, explaining the concept of “CommonUnity, its relevance and expected outcomes, as well as the expectations of the team; giving the team the opportunity to provide feedback and exchange ideas.

2) Weekly Accountability Meetings, that keep the concept before the team as we measure progress and include the celebration of the team’s efforts.

3) Develop teams for a campaign around the concept so that it is a daily practice to use, hear and see the language of “Common-Unity” everywhere within the organization.

This will enable the team to more organically capture the concept while perpetuating leadership and building teamwork.

4) Inspect what we expect, frequently; so, if a course correction is required, there is time to do so without much challenge.

5) Make every effort to include the ideas of the team as a way to add value while cultivating a culture of “COMMON-UNITY”.

6) Create a culture of grace so that as ideas are embraced, there will be a safe space for human error.

What do you want to be known for?

I want to be known for exercising the life-giving power of Jesus Christ through the way I love and empower others; raising up God’s blueprint for marriage by honoring and loving my husband, through transferring my faith to the next generation at colleges and universities through teaching and training, and finally equipping my children to boldly live their lives in prosperity as a result of their faith in Christ.

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COMMON UNITY Know your purpose. Know that you are called to be an achiever. Walk into your destiny boldly, secure in the knowledge that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Surround yourself with people who support and inspire you. Create a network of positive mentors who will challenge you, push you and encourage you. Most of all, believe in yourself and run your race.

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WHEN DID YOU DISCOVER THERE WAS MORE TO YOU AND WHAT WAS THE REVELATION YOU RECEIVED? I think it was in my 20s, which for me was a decade of personal growth and self-actualization. I was actively growing in my faith and becoming a woman of God, realizing that I had a greater purpose in life. At one point, I was involved in a year-long leadership program at church and discovered I was born to lead and serve.

During that period, I reflected on what was important to me, and how I wanted to be of service. I was surrounded by people who saw things in me that I didn’t recognize in myself at the time. They pushed me out of my comfort zone and helped me realize my true calling. I also realized that success is spelled “hard work.” I learned commitment, sacrifice and flexibility. And I learned that if plan A doesn’t work, it’s time to move on to plan B.

You inspire so many people. Who or what inspires you?

I’m inspired every day by the passionate, dedicated, creative, and amazing colleagues I work with inside United Way of Delaware and in my community.

Whether it is working weekends to help victims of Hurricane Ida or trailblazing for racial justice, the people I work with never give up. Their passion is contagious and their dedication to helping others is unstoppable.

It’s a culture of “iron shaping iron,” where experienced individuals know they’re standing on the shoulders of others and are still fighting, and still reaching back to bring along the next generation of leaders. There are no age boundaries; so many of both my more seasoned and my younger colleagues have energy and focus that is contagious. I love to be around them. They fuel my passion and keep me grounded and humble.

TELL US ABOUT YOUR PASSION FOR WHAT YOU’RE DOING TODAY IN YOUR BUSINESS, ORGANIZATION, OR CAUSE? You have heard the expression, “If you do something you love, you never have to work a day in your life.” It’s true; but I would add to this, “When you are living on purpose, it isn’t a job but your mission.” As a person with a heart for people, it is an honor to work for the betterment of everyone in Delaware and Salem County, NJ. At United Way of Delaware, I work toward helping each person realize their full potential, regardless of zip code, gender or ethnicity. I am grateful to be in a position where I can help influence policy, programs and people in the direction of a more equitable society. I believe in reaching out to others, helping where I can, serving as an inspirational leader, and developing other leaders with the heart and passion to care for others, or as we say at United Way of Delaware, to “live united.”

As a leader, how do you foster the phrase, “Common-Unity”?

We use a similar phrase at United Way of Delaware.

We often say, “Live United.” It’s a sort of rallying cry for the team, and really for the entire community.

When we say “Live United” we mean moving forward in common purpose. Common doesn’t always mean we have to say or think the same thing. It’s important to respect different ideas and opinions. But when we “Live United” we are all unified in at least one belief: making sure everyone has an equal opportunity and equal access to resources to live a productive, satisfying life, however, they define that and whatever their personal circumstances.

What has been your greatest personal lesson and how has it enhanced your life?

I’ve learned the importance of being a person always in a state of becoming. I believe that if you’re not moving forward, you’re actually moving backwards because the world moves on without you. I have learned that I am in the people business and to keep children, families, individuals and community at the heart of my decision making.

I’ve learned to stay connected to my ”why,” to continually ask myself what I’m called to do, to be centered and live intentionally. I’ve learned to avoid being pulled in too many directions and that the word “no” can be a complete sentence. Distractions and noise are around all the time, personally and professionally. But knowing where the horizon is energizes me to keep going in that direction.

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Every day I fight to make things better for the people of Delaware and Salem County New Jersey.

We’re addressing complex social issues that don’t have easy solutions. The work can seem like it never ends, and that’s what makes it challenging. I want to be known as someone who never stops working to address these problems, as someone who doesn’t give up, as someone whose eyes are always focused on tomorrow. The poet Rumi once said something that speaks to what I’d like to be known for. He said, “Be a lamp, or a lifeboat, or a ladder. Help someone's soul heal. Walk out of your house like a shepherd.” If I can be known for being someone’s ladder up or someone’s light in the dark, I’d be proud of that. |

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18 The tools one can use to help ensure that you respond to adversity in a positive way to defy what the intended negative outcome is to be vary from person to person. One may need to navigate the impact of an illness, a career shift, a personal tragedy, or some other climactic event. I have spent the past three years in particular and continue to, utilizing whatever it has taken to positively defy managing a major health challenge and I offer as an example “The List” of what you may need and what I used in my arsenal of tools for positively defying no matter the many unknowns.

First and foremost, a spiritual grounding or foundation is key. The many times you hear that nothing happens without reason, you do your level best not to question and insist on a solid answer and clarity when you go to visit “Why Me?” Way. You can positively counter that with moving to “Why NOT Me?” Having that spiritual grounding will keep you in the right head space and provide you with unimaginable comfort that this too shall pass. Next up, going deeper with the spiritual grounding is making sure you have consistency in your prayer life with the higher being that you believe in. For me it was God and God alone. Plus, it does not hurt to leverage others who are in alignment with that practice and receive the well-intentioned prayers that are spoken on your behalf.

TOOLS FOR POSITIVELY DEFYING WRITTEN BY TYNETTA BROWN “Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.”– Arnold Schwarzenegger

I do not think there are very many people who did not have a mind shifting experience on at least one or more levels in contending with some impact of COVID-19 on their lives. Not to mention being mindful of the many challenges that life may just toss your way without the presence of a pandemic. Depending on your make up, one’s ability to cope with challenges in a positive way brings about a constant mind shift to deal with what comes before us—even when we know the outcome of what is to be.

Exhibiting and speaking of a faith to believe that everything you will need to navigate and defy the present challenge or future challenges before you so that you come out on the other side certainly serves as an example for others. It is not always easy to continue daily exhibiting to others who are watching that unshakeable faith when trying your absolute best not to go to a mental space that could pull you down. Being mindful that others are watching to see how you cope, keeps you on your toes because you just never know who can learn by your example.

Know that if you do succumb for a moment and your faith is shaken, do not stay there. Process what is happening and determine how long you genuinely want to stay in that bad head space or under the covers and exhibit doubt that no solution exists, but DO NOT stay there. Having that mental fluidity to not sink too far and exhibiting faith with a positively defying mindset will bring you through most anything.

The importance of a village, large or small, can not be stressed enough either. Having someone or several solid people in your village of support certainly is of value when trying to problem solve and get to a palatable solution or coping mechanism to get on the other side of a challenge.

A fifth and final tool that continues to work for me is a having a sense of humor for the moments when you need to manage stress and see the comfort in laughing at your own current circumstance. Telling yourself sometimes that the universe has got jokes helps when looking back at where you were and landing in a good place brings quite the smile to your face. Shifting your inner thoughts, especially when positively defying is the best way to get through the rough patches and bumps along the road of life.

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Hey sis, can we talk? I want to know why you are still doing the same ol’ thing you’ve always done and expecting different results? You know, that thing you dread on Monday morning that has you wasting precious moments all week longing for the weekend? Today should be the day you say, “That’s it I’ve had enough. I will no longer live a life that somebody else has dictated for me.”

Today you are going to take back your dreams.

I have good news for you. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE THERE! Here are 5 tips for snatching your dreams back from the hands of the adversary.

1. Decide. Make the decision that you will no longer accept things as they are.

2. Cut. Get rid of or say no to everything that does not align with your dreams.

3. Take Action. Write the vision and its actionable steps.

Maybe you are working in a job that you strongly dislike and you’ve had thoughts of starting your own business. Or maybe you’re a business owner that is burnt out in the field and desire something new. Perhaps life has handed you one distraction, detour, or derailment after another so that when your dreams are calling… you keep hanging up. You know, that dream that’s like a gnawing headache at the nape of your neck when stress takes hold?

4. Don’t Quit. When the challenges come, and they will, persevere through to the end 5. Celebrate. Even the smallest victories snowball into huge avalanche wins.

This will challenge you in unbelievable ways but guess what, you are built for it. Remember why you started the business in the first place.

Remember why you were given that dream and what it means to be a good steward of it.

Because you were created by the greatest Creator, remember there is always MORE to you!

Maya Angelou said, “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you.” Now go out here and take back your dreams!

As women entrepreneurs, we often wear so many hats that the lines between purpose and dreams becomes blurred with everyone else’s expectations. Burn out begins and lives in the space where purpose once occupied. All of a sudden, the conversation with yourself says “this no longer serves me or who it was intended for,” thus the enemy has snatched your dreams.

Operating outside of your zone of genius and running a business that is no longer fulfilling is a recipe for disaster.

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Are you stuck in your career? Do you feel like you continually get passed over for better roles? If so, you are in the right place. To determine the next move in your career will depend on your goals, your flexibility, and your persistence. Let’s first establish that growing your career doesn’t mean you want to take over the company or even your manager’s job. What it does mean is that you are a continual learner. To get unstuck you have to make time for self-development.

Whether you’re new in your career or a seasoned professional, you can benefit from updated leadership, communication or project management skills.

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You can grow vertically or horizontally in your career. A vertical promotion is most common. However, when I conduct career counseling with employees, I encourage them to consider a lateral or horizontal move. This move could be in your department or outside your department. You see, a horizontal move broadens your skill sets or your KSA’s (knowledge, skills, and abilities). And in doing so, you become more valuable to your company.

You could also consider obtaining a certification.

Everyone does not have the time or the financial support to earn a 4-year or advanced degree. A certification confirms that you are knowledgeable in a specific area. I earned my Human Resources certification (SHRM-CP) from the world renowned Society for Human Resources. And in order to maintain it, I must take educational courses throughout the year. In fact, many companies are requiring certifications along with a degree or in lieu of one.

Certifications expand your knowledge in a shorter time frame.

Another way to grow your career is by gaining a mentor or a coach. A mentor is someone that will provide career and life advice and assist you with new opportunities. A coach is usually a paid training session that will offer specific learning tools. When you seek a mentor, look for someone that you can trust. I further recommend that the mentor is not in your department so you can freely share with them.

Mentors are your ears and eyes in the organization.

They are the ones in the executive meetings where assignments are determined and promotions are planned. Mentors can also suggest voluntary or board roles which can also enhance your career. Serving on a non-profit board is an excellent way to develop new skills or sharpen unused skills. You can even use this experience on your resume. I have been on a variety of Human Resource boards for several years and have served as the President of Delaware SHRM for two years. This voluntary experience assisted me in obtaining my current role.

Most importantly, I encourage you to stay focused and determined. Growing your career should be exciting and enriching! Continue to build your network and remember, one connection could open the door to several more.

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Writing to Heal means that you are giving God access to the secret places and allowing Him complete control to guide you on the journey to obtain true wholeness: restoration back to your kingdom identity and authority in Christ. You and God are partners. The pen is a tool that allows subconscious communication between you and God. The number one difference between journaling and writing to heal is intent. Journaling is generally sporadic in thought and topic, while writing to heal is intentional. You give your words a destination, either writing to God, self, or someone who hurt you.

It is also transactional in that God speaks back to you. Writing to heal is also a guided study in that the Holy Spirit will lead you to obtain truth and revelation on a specific topic.

In Writing to Heal, there are 5 things you must be willing to do:

WRITTEN BY INDIANA TUGGLE

You must be willing to acknowledge you need help. You must acknowledge you need to heal, and that God is the solution and has the answer. You must also be able to identify your destructive behavior patterns, as God can not heal what you refuse to reveal.

You must be willing to be transparent. You must be ready to get naked before Him and reveal your deepest, darkest hurt and secrets AND be unashamed and unapologetic about it, meaning you don't sugarcoat your truth in an attempt to be respectful to God or others. To truly heal you must truly release.

You must be willing to be alone. The healing process is snatching the band-aid off the wounds, and you are bleeding out. The incubator, as I call it, is protecting you, as blood attracts leeches and predators. However, accept the aloneness knowing that it is only temporary, and God will send divine connections at the appropriate time.

You must be willing to be consistent in His presence. This means you must communicate with Him and study His word daily. This may also require you to set the atmosphere by doing what you need to do to go to your happy place of peace: worship music, candles, etc. And do so with no excuses regardless of what is going on or even when you don't hear anything or feel like things are getting better.

You must be willing to commit to the process. Writing is only the beginning; additional action will be required on your part. Thus, you must be obedient to God's voice and move swiftly.

Healing is a state of mind, wholeness is a destination. True healing is about uncovering the truth about self, God and others. Walking in wholeness is about obtaining the abundant life the pain tried to rob you of. If you are ready to begin the process and take the journey towards wholeness. We want to help you do it. First, obtain your Embrace Your Healing Journal, then join our Pen Warriors Community! See you on the battlefield! Coach Indy!

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Up here in the sky it looks like I'm living in the foam of a glass of champagne.

For the past two weeks, I have been looking for a new place to settle while hotel hopping.

Each view is a different dream. Transient living has become an obsession where choosing one place to live seems like letting go of adventure. As things keep getting shifted from different angles, I find focus. The girls I spend my time with are looking at me wondering, does she know what she's doing?

It always sounds better in my head.

Unless, It sounds better for real.

That's rare.

That's precious.

Looking at my funds seems like a downward spiral.

I imagine I am on a trampoline having a great My silent reply? Yes, I do know what I am doing. time.

After I do it. I also find out if that is what I wanted Falling downward before propelling higher, I to be doing in the first place. Like a new song say thank you as I celebrate the new heights to unfolding in my mind. I hear it, then I hum it. come.

It doesn't sound like what was in my head So I keep humming until it's good.