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W
e hope that our May edition finds you and your family well. As we slowly move through COVID-19, life looks very different, but life is still beautiful. May has finally arrived and there are so many reasons to smile. Slowly, but surely, businesses are starting to reopen, the sun is starting to make regular appearances, the bulbs we planted at the end of last year are blooming, the migrating birds are showing up at our feeders, the temperatures are starting to climb and May is the month that we celebrate mom.
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This edition is full of tips, recipes and information to help make May the best month we’ve had this year. Enjoy our recipes for an authentic Mexican feast on Cinco de Mayo. Learn about the need for foster families in Southwest Michigan and what you can do to fill this need. Join us as we explore celebrating Mother’s Day in another way. There is something for everyone to enjoy in this month’s magazine. Make sure to take time to enjoy all of the beautiful things that May brings. Get outside and soak up the sun, work in your yard, enjoy your family and find your own special way to celebrate the moms in your life. Hopefully, with each passing month, we take another step back toward normal, but until we are there let’s try to enjoy the small blessings found in the slower pace of life.
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6 Well, We’re Here Now 10 Raise Hope & Foster Dreams 12 Look Who’s Talking: Melissa McDonald 14 Finding Inspiration in Difficult Times 16 Mother’s Day: A Different Way 24 College Hunks: Helping Victims of Domestic Abuse 28 Effective Professional Body Language 30 Girl Scouts is Never Cancelled 32 Feed the Fight Kalamazoo 34 American Cancer Society ResearcHERS: Women Fighting Cancer
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Well, We’re Here Now A NOTE ABOUT WHAT’S HAPPENING. AND I’M SORRY.
I WANT TO SAY I’M SORRY. I’m sorry we’re here. I’m sorry that our lives are so enveloped in this COVID-19 pandemic that I’m writing a column about it. It has been our lives. Our worries. Our pain. It’s been scary. And the scare is an invisible enemy. We’re told to fight by keeping distances from individuals. Don’t shake hands. Don’t hug. Keep your space in line. Don’t gather. Wash your hands. Use hand sanitizer. Sanitize everything.
For a species that depends on socializing, it’s painful. Our hands are raw from washing. And let’s not forget that many of us--of you and others are feeling the financial pain and burden tightening as well. And we’re so conditioned to this New World Order, that socializing on television and film is beginning to weird us out.
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Typically, when sick, it’s visible. Pale skin. Glassy eyes. Hacking cough. The non stop runny nose. You see it. You avoid it. You send it home. But we can’t now. I could have had it. You could have had it. And if you didn’t have the severe symptoms, you didn’t know. Otherwise, symptom-free, you go to the grocery store. You stop because you have a flat tire and need to
make it to your next shift at the hospital. You didn’t know. And now that virus has spread. I’ve found myself recollecting moments from shows and movies (typically some form of horror, unfortunately), and one particular scene from the first season of The Walking Dead always stands out. It is early in the zombie pandemic. Rick leads his group into Atlanta to the CDC, which is in quite the lockdown (steel
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doors and a heavy duty bunker enclosure...it’s impressive). They bang on the entrance and wave frantically to the cameras in hope they are still operating and someone will let them in. And surprisingly, there is one individual trapped inside. He lets them in. The group begins asking questions. Does this scientist know what this virus is? How does it work? Is there a cure?
world. Who knows, most of us may be infected by the time this reaches the stands and you finally read it.
But it’s all unknown. Again, we just take it dayby-day, planning ahead has been of little use at this rate. It’s a plan-as-you-go era for now.
In a sense, I almost wish this were a zombie pandemic. At least you’d be able to see the enemy. Your goal: Avoid the zombies. They are infected. Don’t get bit. Cool. Done.
And for that, there is maybe only one good thing of all of this. It’s to be here in the now. We have to think about what we can do now. What to appreciate now. What can we do now with our time to help others or maybe just ease our anxieties so we can make it through one day and to the next. And be thankful we have this day. And maybe this day is another day locked in your house, trying to find something else to distract you on Netflix. But at least you have this day.
The scientist (after much resistance) enlightens the group on the situation. The big takeaway: Everyone is infected with the virus. Just, not everyone immediately “turns” (turn into a zombie). But upon their death without being bitten, they will turn. It’s inevitable.
And I promise I’m really not trying to belittle the situation. I can’t imagine what it’s like at the front lines of this thing. I’m in awe of the individuals not even able to be near their families because of what they are working around. I feel for the families that can’t even bury their dead or say goodbye, because of the risk associated with being near the infected patient.
The news is devastating to the group. And I won’t give up the rest because you might have time to binge some of it in the meantime. However the scenes, the explanation and that feeling of lost hope when it was revealed, felt really on par with what is going on in our
I do hope by the time this is printed, we have more answers. I hope that there are more supplies and support for our health care system (which appears to be growing this week), and we’ve reached the peak point and are seeing a slow down of infections.
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At the time I am writing this, we are currently in the midst of the COVID-19 stay home orders. Going out to eat is not an option at this point. Many restaurants made that difficult decision to close temporarily, but others decided to forge ahead, shifting the way they do their business. Me and my husband decided we wanted to help support the local restaurants that are open as much as we could by ordering take-out or delivery from them. One of the first places I knew I wanted to try was SHAWARMA KING ON DRAKE . I was able to find a delivery option for them via Uber Eats. The restaurant is open for pick up and is also available through GrubHub. If you are not familiar with Uber Eats, GrubHub or even Door Dash, they are some of the delivery companies that have made it easy for us to get food delivered right to the door from many restaurants that don’t normally deliver. A driver simply picks it up from the restaurant and delivers it straight to your home. You can even see where the driver is on a map on most of the delivery apps! So, from Shawarma King on Drake I decided to go with the classic CHICKEN SHAWARMA
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with white rice and their LEBANESE SALAD. My husband ordered the same thing and we also got a small order of their HOMMOUS with a baggie of pita. I also made sure to order the GARLIC SAUCE on the side as well because I was told it was a MUST. The Uber Eats Driver brought it to us safely and promptly, leaving it at the door so we didn’t have any contact. We only waited about 30 minutes after placing our order before it was at our doorsteps. We opened up the packaging to see a beautiful display! The chicken looked so good, shaved with delicious herbs. The white rice was fluffy and yummy, served the traditional way with a little bit of vermicelli pasta mixed in with it. The salad was awesome. It was fairly simple, consisting of lettuce, tomato and cucumbers and topped with their house dressing. I’m not sure what their house dressing was, but it was GOOD. It was light and little tangy. I gobbled it up! The hommous was outstanding! The small portion was pretty large for being just a
small. I’m used to the store-bought kind that is yummy but store bought has nothing on Shawarma King’s. It was creamy and flavorful and was perfect with the pita. I ate the rice and chicken together, but also decided to take a piece of pita, put the hommous, rice, chicken and a little garlic sauce and make little mini wraps. The combination of all of them so flavorful! I was only able to eat about half of my meal, but it was just perfect because it went in my fridge and was a lunch for the next day and the hommous was a good snack for the rest of the week. Both me and my husband were very happy with our meals. We will definitely be adding Shawarma King on Drake to our rotation! Hopefully, as you are reading this you are being safe and are healthy! Please continue to support our community’s small businesses as we come out of this, as they will need the most help! Elizabeth Precopio is a hairstylist by day and 24/7 food enthusiast. She visits restaurants in the Kalamazoo area and blogs about her experience at feedmekzoo.com
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YOU can raise hope and foster dreams by becoming a foster parent.
Michigan has approximately 13,000 children in foster care at any given time. As of March 2020, Kalamazoo county alone has 492 kids in care and only 121 licensed homes. We need foster families here and around the state to keep these children safe and to care for them until they can be returned to their family or find a loving adoptive family. When children enter foster care, their lives are turned upside down. They must leave their homes and families and are often sent to live in other communities. This means they lose everything that is familiar and safe. Kids in foster care need caring adults to provide loving homes while their families sort things out. The right family can help a child get through an exceptionally tough time. The main goal of foster care is to reunite the child with his or her parents. This can take time. Without caring adults to help them, children suffer even more. Foster parenting requires a lot of patience, compassion, and skill. Foster parents understand that the children that come to
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them are hurting and that it takes a long time to reduce that pain and change the resulting behaviors. We take the tremendous consideration needed to find the right fit for both the foster parent and child.
THE LICENSING PROCESS:
The process to becoming a foster parent takes on average six months. The first step is to call a foster care navigator. A Foster Care Navigator is an experienced current or former foster parent who can answer any of your questions, help you find an agency and provide you with guidance along your journey to becoming a foster parent. Next, you would participate in comprehensive orientation and complete a licensing application from the agency you choose. You will also be asked to participate in on-site home evaluation visits by the licensing agent and lastly, you will participate in Parent Resource for Information Development and Education training.
good health, have an adequate income, and meet other basic standards. Foster parents are not expected to pay all expenses for foster children. Twice monthly, you will receive a payment, based on the age, and needs of the child in your care. You will also receive a semi-annual clothing allowance. Children in foster care are eligible for Medicaid, which pays for medical, dental, and mental-health care. Many foster families will also qualify for reimbursement for the costs of day care.
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If you are considering becoming a foster parent, call a Foster Care Navigator at 855-MICHKIDS. You can also learn more on our website: www.michigan.gov/hopeforahome
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There are some expectations when becoming a foster parent; you must be 18 years old, of good moral character, be in
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Melissa McDonald
This month we had a conversation with Melissa McDonald who is a registered nurse, global business owner and, most important, mom to an 8-year old and an 8-month old. Melissa is passionate about adoption and foster care (her eight-year old is adopted and her eight-month old is a foster child), health, wellness and faith. We hope you enjoy our interview with Melissa.
WOMEN’S LIFESTYLE: Which causes are most important to you? Melissa: The Kalamazoo Anti-Human Trafficking Coalition and foster care. Unfortunately, the two can often go hand in hand when it comes to the outcome. However, we have been able to bring awareness to the Kalamazoo/Portage communities and help train people about the importance of reporting, safety and education.
I am currently building a ranch ministry to help house children in foster care. This will be able to provide safety, security, life skills, therapy and hope into the lives of our youth and their families.
WLS: What are your tips for everyday wellness?
M: I love simplicity so , my tips focus on the basics. My family and I enjoy organic living, eating an organic diet and taking organic supplements. I also recommend: getting 7-9 hours of sleep daily, drinking plenty of water, reading something inspiring each day, set goals and take action to accomplish them, eat well-balanced and colorful meals, add high bioavailable supplements to your nutrition in order to keep your body fully functioning and LAUGH – it releases the endorphins and T-cells to help your immune system stay healthy.
WLS: What is your favorite indulgence?
M: Friday night is pizza & movie night with my kids. We look forward to it every single week.
WLS: What is your favorite way to unwind after a long day?
M: I enjoy listening to music, praying & watching movies.
WLS: Is there anything you’d like to share with our readers?
M: I believe that every woman has a beautiful soul. Some may still be finding their way and belief, while others have worked hard to achieve where they are today. Every sould matters and everyone was created to have an extraordinary purpose.
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IN D IF F I C U LT T I M E S During the current pandemic, many are looking to our country’s leadership to find encouragement and strength as we all face a frightening and unprecedented time. Let’s not forget there were other times in the history of this country when we faced difficult circumstances, and although the details are different, we are all being called to dig deep, answer the call, and rise to the
challenge. American First Ladies have been beacons of strength and comfort during these times. Their words encouraging and uplifting to the people who need them most. This article will share some quotes I find especially inspirational. Even though many of the quotes are taken from another time and place, the words highlight the strong American spirit embodied in our First Ladies and the belief, that together, we can overcome any adversity.
Some Words of Wisdom from American First Ladies cheerful
I am determined to be and in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition.
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You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror.
I can take the next thing that comes along.’
ELEANOR ROOSEVELT
MARTHA WASHINGTON
These are the times in which a genius would wish to live. It is not in the still calm of life, or the repose of a pacific station, that great characters are formed. The habits of a vigorous mind are formed in contending with difficulties. . When a mind is raised, and animated by scenes that engage the heart, then those qualities which would otherwise lay dormant, wake into life and form the character of the hero and the statesman.
Great necessities call out great virtues
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You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through. - ROSALYNN CARTER
triumphs and tragedies, laughter and tears, All lives have
and mine has been no different. What really matters is whether, after all of that, you remain strong and a comfort to your loved ones. PAT NIXON
When you come to a roadblock, take a detour.
BARBARA BUSH
You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve all of the world’s problems at once but
don’t ever underestimate the importance you can have
because history has shown us that courage can be contagious and hope can take on a life of its own. MICHELLE OBAMA
As citizens of this great nation, it is
kindness, love, and compassion for each other that will bring us
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Mother’s Day A DIFFERENT WAY
Mother’s Day is always celebrated the second Sunday in May. Mother’s Day recognizes mothers, grandmothers, step-mothers, all mother figures and mothers to-be! Usually Mother’s Day Celebrations include going to church, brunch, dinner, and buying flowers and cards.
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Make Mom her favorite breakfast and surprise her with breakfast in bed. Grab a large baking sheet and cover it with a towel or placemat. Or you can set the dining room table and grab some champagne and OJ for Mimosas!
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GRAB A JAR AND HAVE EVERYONE IN THE FAMILY WRITE DOWN A FUN MEMORIES TOGETHER FOR HER TO READ LATER
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Bake Mom a cake or cupcakes. Or try a new recipe together. Women’s LifeStyle always
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With the uncertainty of the world these days, there is one thing that will always remain: the love that we all have for our Mother’s! Moms always take care of everyone else, so a Mother’s Day Gift should take care of her! Here are some fun ideas to celebrate Mother’s Day at home.
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Support your local bakery and order her favorite dessert
THROW HER A TEA PARTY
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Buy chocolates from a local shop. Try Cherri’s Chocolart (cherrischocolart. com) or Confections with Conviction (confectionswithconvictions.com)
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Have a picnic in your backyard, if the weather permits. Or set it up in the living room if the weather doesn’t cooperate.
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MAKE A PANCAKE OR WAFFLE BAR. COOK YOUR PANCAKES OR WAFFLES AND SETUP MULTIPLE TOPPINGS SUCH AS CHOCOLATE CHIPS, WHIPPED CREAM, FRESH FRUIT, JAMS, SYRUP, OR SPRINKLES
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GIVE MOM A SPA DAY AT HOME. PUT TOGETHER A SPA BASKET WITH BATH BOMBS, BUBBLE BATH, WINE, FACE MASK, NAIL POLISH AND A NEW BOOK
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A Starved B rain M
any of us are familiar with how our bodies may change physically when we diet, but often we aren’t as aware of how it impacts us psychologically. Our brains don’t know the difference between a diet and starvation. When food intake and calories are drastically reduced over a prolonged period of time, there are serious side effects we can experience in our mood, thoughts, behaviors, and other psychological complications. Many symptoms once thought to be attributed to anorexia are actually symptoms specific to starvation. One of the most powerful research studies conducted around starvation, restrictive dieting, and weight loss was in 1950 at the University of Minnesota by Ancel Keys. The Minnesota Starvation Experiment selected 36 men in good physical and mental health to participate. The first 3 months the men ate normally, the following 6 months their calories were reduced by half to induced semi-starvation, and the final 3 months consisted of refeeding and termination from the program. While you might be able to guess what happened to them physical, it was even more fascinating what they experienced psychologically.
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INCREASE IN FOOD PREOCCUPATION
Constantly thinking about food and the next time you are able to eat. Focusing on anything other than food becomes challenging. Eating faster when food is available, or drastically slowing down your food intake in an attempt to savor it. Spending more time reading about food, recipes, menus, etc.
BINGE EATING
Breaking the rules and binging on any food they could find. Feelings of disgust after binging. After the experiment was over, the men experienced challenges around having unlimited amounts of food to eat which often led to binge eating or eating constantly throughout the day.
EMOTIONAL AND SOCIAL CHANGES
Depressed, emotional deterioration, irritability, outbursts of anger, anxiety, and apathy. Withdrawn and isolated, no desire to be around other people. Little interest in intimacy or romantic relationships.
COGNITIVE CHANGES
Decreased ability to concentrate, stay alert, & comprehend tasks. Stomach issues.
Why is all of this important? If you are dieting, there is a very good chance that your psychological functioning is going to be altered. This can be helpful when we feel like we just don’t have the “willpower” to finish a 30 day challenge or continue to cut gluten out of our meals. It’s not a lack or willpower, determination, or focus. It’s your body trying to keep you alive. This makes complete
evolutionary sense. Our bodies don’t allow us to pay attention to other things (ie relationships or jobs) when we are starving ourselves. We won’t survive if we don’t eat, so our body and mind make this a priority. Another important part of this research is that all of the participants regained their normal weight back after the study. This shows that our bodies aren’t just simply reprogrammed to a new weight after weight loss has occurred. Our bodies will defend our individual weight set-point because this is where we will function our best, both physically and psychologically. Understanding how calorie restriction over a long period of time impacts our mental health can help give us perspective. If you’ve been on the diet roller coaster for a while, you’ve likely experienced some of these psychological side effects. The majority of us are not biologically programmed to look like the person on the cover of the magazine, and we may suffer psychological consequences trying to achieve it. When you free yourself from dieting, you not only free yourself from limited food options, counting calories, or tasteless diet food. You also free yourself from anxiety, depression, isolation, impaired concentration, and preoccupation with food. Starvation hijacks the brain and your ability to do much of anything else. Give your body and brain the food it needs so you can get back to enjoying the rest of your life. Emily Betros is a licensed clinical social worker, certified health coach, and owner of Reclaiming Health, LLC. She specializes in body image support, eating disorders, anxiety, life transitions, mindfulness, and women’s issues. More info: www.reclaiminghealth.net.
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It has been both my professional and personal experience that mindfulness is the single mostpowerful tool that helps support someone’s personal growth and resilience. As I describe in a blog titled “An Introduction to Mindfulness,” mindfulness is the non-judgmental observation of the present moment. It allows us to sit and be present with what is (e.g. emotions, physical sensations, thoughts) and also what isn’t (e.g. confidence, peace, noise). The thing that I believe to be most powerful about this skill is that it allows us to look at what is there. We are required to simply just be and observe—although we may not always feel like we are “good” at it, it requires patience. It requires observation. It requires acceptance. In the age of the Coronavirus (COVID-19) and the reality of quarantines, there seems to be no better skill! How, in fact, are we going to survive this time, whether in quarantined or not, if we cannot simply be with ourselves? If we cannot hug our loved ones? If we cannot go outside?
THE CONFLICT WITH TECHNOLOGY
Sure, we may still have the internet. We may have nothing but time to stay up to date on the latest numbers of those that have tested positive for COVID-19. But, is that spending our time most-wisely? Is that contributing to our peace or merely serving as a distraction and fanning the flames of anxiety?
Instead, can we shut our screens off and practice just being? Just observing. The pain. The anxiety. The hope. The change. The unknown.
Great resilience is created by great change. And, “change” being the current state of things is likely the understatement of the century… or the last several centuries for that matter!
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So, sit. Be still. Practice observing your body, mind, and emotions. Practice simply viewing your thoughts about yourself, your home, your body, and the world. Recognize peace and accept when it is not present. Observe it when it is not. Feel your body. Notice your breath. Throughout this all, both of these things will always be there. To ground you. To support you.
What sensations are present in your body? Where do you feel them? If your emotions had a color or texture, what would they be? Notice how things shift. Allow yourself to feel the expansiveness of your inner-world (including even fear, happiness, doubt, and confusion) and just breathe. Just be present with that moment.
Mindfulness is the nonjudgmental observation of the present moment. It allows us to sit and be present with what is and also what isn’t.
You may be hesitant to do something that seems so simple. But, in your quarantine, what else do you have to do? What better time than now to practice being present with yourself in this moment; amidst the chaos? So often we have been using technology to distract us. To inform us of things that we don’t really even need to know (Do you REALLY need to know the name of that actor in that one movie that you cannot remember for the life of you?). But, what if we used this time to remind ourselves of what really matters: our inner world and how that affects the world around us?
What would happen if we used the current pandemic as a catalyst to help us interact differently with our fellow humans around this globe? What if, before we shared that post, we took a breath and asked ourselves what purpose the sharing would serve? What if we practiced sending out love to others and creating a culture of generosity even if we want to be the person who runs to the shelf and grabs that last package of toilet paper? I, like Ghandi, believe that we must be the change we wish to see in the world. But first, we must be able to sit with ourselves. We must be willing to see distraction for what it is. We must be able to connect with ourselves and create space to act out of love and awareness, as opposed to habit and fear.
AN EXPERIMENT
COVID-19 has given us the opportunity to learn an important lesson. Let’s use the essential skill of mindfulness and take it!
Just sit down and bring attention to your breathing. What does your breathing sound like? Where do you feel it in your body?
Ashley Carter Youngblood, owner and psychotherapist at Inner Peace Counseling, PLC, is passionate about supporting her community during this difficult time. To respond to this need, she is offering telehealth services and pro bono therapy for those affected by the COVID-19 pandemic. Find more information at www.kalamazoo-counseling.com.
The next time you find yourself thinking catastrophic and anxious thoughts about the state of the world (e.g. how you most certainly will die from COVID-19), I challenge you to do the following experiment: just sit.
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WHEN LIFE GETS TURNED UPSIDE DOWN,
Find Your Balance
If April showers bring May flowers, then with the hurricane of change that our world has experienced this spring, I believe that we have an unprecedented flood of growth and blossoming coming!
THE CIRCLE OF LIFE EXERCISE
One of hidden gifts that lies in times of adversity is the idea that we are never more clear about what is desired, than when we are facing what is “unwanted.” It’s human nature to focus on what feels threatening; it’s a survival instinct, but it can be paralyzing. Our bodies have highly developed “safety” mechanisms that allow us to process & integrate large amounts of data & make quick decisions. Unfortunately, these systems can fatigue when we find ourselves under chronic stress. Our brains are like computers. When the processor is on overdrive for too long, the whole system can crash. This can manifest as crippling anxiety, depression, panic attacks, insomnia, or physical illness. When stress hormones like adrenaline & cortisol flood the body, they affect perception and this distorts reality. The affected individual can be left feeling isolated and overwhelmed. Even while on lockdown, support is available both in-person with trained professionals and via telehealth virtual visits. Please reach out if you need help.
What does YOUR life look like? 1. Place a dot on the line in each
category to indicate your level of satisfaction (closer to the edge of the circle) or dissatisfaction (towards the center of the circle) within each area of your life. Most people fall somewhere in between (see example).
2. Connect the dots to see your Circle of Life. 3. Identify imbalances. Determine where to spend more
time and energy to create balance in your life.
It is recommended to perform this exercise every 3-6 months to identify any changes and set personal wellness goals. Adopted from Business Mastery by Sohnen-Moe Associates Inc.,
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One method that can be very helpful is called THE CIRCLE OF LIFE exercise. (Refer to the graphic on this page to try it now.)This is a coaching tool that builds awareness and can help restore balance to a life turned upside down. By assessing 12 areas of wellness (Health, Education, Career, Finances, Creativity, Spirituality, Joy, Social Life, Relationships, Home Environment, Home Cooking and Physical Activity) we can identify which areas are thriving and which areas could use support. Each person is unique. This approach not only identifies specific needs, it can
grow and change with the person as they move through life.
NEUROEMOTIONAL TECHNIQUE (NET)
is another tool that can be used to help people gain clarity around where a person may be getting stuck in their growth and healing process. NET uses muscle testing to identify conscious/ subconscious patterns of unresolved emotional wounding/trauma. It incorporates acupressure, mindful awareness with self-compassion, and diaphragmatic breathing to help the person process and release emotions. It also can be used to deepen the person’s spiritual practice, intuitive awareness and flesh out aspects of spiritual identity that are specific to their belief system. The person often feels immediate relief and a greater sense of safety, stability and resilience. Spiritual identity practices help people create space around the body’s fight or flight “danger” response; this helps them respond to themselves and others with compassion and love. The more we understand our minds, emotions and bodies, the easier it becomes to be our best selves, no matter what we encounter in life.
THIS IS A JOURNEY, NOT A DESTINATION. ISN’T IT NICE TO KNOW THAT IT’S NOT A RACE, AND THAT WE DON’T HAVE TO TRAVEL ALONE? Jenny Opdycke, PA-C has been practicing medicine for more than 16 years. Her specialties include holistic wellness, anxiety/ depression, trauma recovery and intuitive, low carb eating strategies that promote self-awareness and healing. She loves spending time with her twin girls, friends, and fur babies. More info at www.integratedhealthmatters.com.
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omestic violence rates skyrocket during the pandemic, and shelters remain open to help, COLLEGE HUNKS HAULING JUNK & MOVING (CHHJM) has committed to provide essential, no-cost moves to victims of abusive living situations through certified shelters. CHHJM wants to do what it can to support anyone in a helpless or unsafe situation, and domestic violence shelters can assist in identifying victims in need of these moves. When the COVID-19 crisis hit, CHHJM discussed how it can help people in difficult situations as a result. Concern and compassion immediately went to the unintended negative consequences that the stay-at-home orders could be creating for people. This could cause individuals to be trapped in very dangerous situations, such as childhood hunger, by not getting access to school lunches, and also domestic violence, as people are now trapped with their abusers with no outlet.
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CHHJM already has a program that benefits disadvantaged youth by donating 2 healthy meals for every completed job, and also now offers a program to help those vulnerable individuals who feel trapped in domestic violence situations.
COLLEGE HUNKS HAULING JUNK & MOVING would like to offer essential, no-cost moves to victims of abusive living situations, locally and nationwide, through our 130 franchises. A certified domestic violence shelter will need to approve any victims requesting a free move (to ensure that the victim is supported throughout the entire transition, and for the safety of our team and the victim to ensure local law enforcement is involved if need
be). Anyone in a domestic violence situation should first contact the police and/or the local domestic violence-prevention shelter immediately. The shelter can contact CHHJM directly at NationalAccounts@CHHJ.com, and CHHJM will make trucks and labor available to help as many people it can who may be unable to get out of an unsafe domestic situation during these unique times. Interesting to note that CHHJM may need to try and utilize some of the PPP Cares Act funds to help support the internal labor costs for this initiative. For interview, quotes and details, contact: Chad Jacob, Kalamazoo Franchise Owner, chad.jacob@CHHJ.com 269-998-9898 Nick Friedman, Co-Founder and President, nick.friedman@CHHJ.com 813-523-9003 NationalAccounts@CHHJ.com www.CollegeHunksHaulingJunk.com
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CINCO de MAYO Taco Tuesday AND Cinco de Mayo on the same day! That sounds like a recipe for a fiesta. Here are a few of our favorite recipes for the perfect Cinco de Mayo+Taco Tuesday party! (Don’t forget the margaritas!)
Carnitas
Once the meat is browned and removed from the pot, add 2 cups of water and scrape the bottom of the pot to release all the brown bits. add the bay leaves, garlic, chile powders and cumin. Mix so it’s well combined and then add the meat back to the pot. Add more water until the meat is about 2/3 covered.
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Braise in the oven, uncovered, at 350 degrees for 3 1/2 hrs. Turn the pork a few times during braising. Remove the pot from the oven & transfer the meat to a platter. Strain the liquid into a bowl. reserve any meaty bits and discard any other solids. the fat will rise to the top. Skim off as much as possible. 5 lbs. pork shoulder 2 Tbps vegetable or other neutral cooking oil 2 bay leaves 1 tsp chile powder 1 tsp chile de arbol (or ancho chile powder) 1/4 tsp cumin 5 cloves garlic, minced sea salt (to taste) water
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Cut the meat into 5-inch chunks, removing any excess fat. Season all sides of the chunks well with sea salt. In a large Dutch oven, heat the oil and cook the meat until very well browned on all sides. You will probably have to do this in batches. (Don’t overcrowd the pot.) Once they are brown, remove them from the pot & drain on paper towel. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.
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When the meat is cool enough to handle, shred it up and put it back in the pot. Add the liquid and return the pot back to the oven. Cook until much of the liquid evaporates and the outer edges of the pork becomes caramelized and crispy. The time will depend on how much liquid you have left and how crispy you want it. Serve with tortillas (or sopes) , onions, cilantro, salsa, limes, guacamole....the possibilities are endless!
4 avocados, ripe 1/2 med. red onion, finely diced 3 Roma tomatoes, diced 3 Tbsp, fresh cilantro, chopped (optional) 1 jalapeno pepper, seeds removed and finely diced (optional) 1 tsp ground cumin 1 tsp chili powder 2 limes, juiced 1/2 tsp sea salt Slice the avocados in half, remove the pit and skin. Place in a mixing bowl. Mash the avocado with a fork. Make it as chunky or smooth as you’d like. Add the remaining ingredients and stir together.
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Sopes
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4 cups yellow corn masa flour 2½ cups water ½ tsp salt
What are sopes?
Sopes are thick shells made from masa. The edges are pinched to create a wall that helps to encase the topping of your choice. We recommend topping with carnitas and guacamole!
Combine yellow corn masa flour, water, & salt and knead for five minutes or until masa is no longer sticky.
Repeat with remaining masa balls.
Divide into 20 small balls. Flatten into thick tortillas approximately three inches in diameter.
Be careful as sopes will be hot. Cover with a cloth to keep sopes warm and moist.
On a hot skillet or griddle, cook each sope for one minute and then turn; cook until golden.
Fry sopes in a skillet with a bit of oil until lightly golden; remove from skillet and drain.
Hold each sope with side first cooked facing up; pinch edges to make a border.
Tres Leches Cake FOR CAKE
5 eggs, divided 1/2 c up (1 stick) butter, softened 1 cup granulated sugar 1½ tsp pure vanilla extract 1½ cups flour 1/2 tsp kosher salt 1 tsp baking powder 1/4 tsp baking soda
FOR MILK
1 (13.6 oz) can full-fat coconut milk 2 cups Coco Crema* (about 1 15-oz can) 1 (14 oz) can sweetened condensed milk 1 (12 oz) can evaporated milk
FOR WHIPPED CREAM
2 cups heavy cream 1/2 cup powdered sugar 1/2 tsp vanilla extract strawberries, to garnish
When the cake is baked, remove from the oven and let cool for 5 Scrape the batter into the prepared minutes. When the timer goes off, use a chopstick or straw to poke Place the egg yolks in a small bowl pan and spread out with a spatula. holes in the cake. You want a lot of and set aside. Beat the egg whites Bake the cake at 350 degrees for 25- holes in the cake – this helps the about 2-4 mins, until stiff peaks 30 mins, until the edges are pulling milk mixture absorb. form. Scrape the egg whites into a away from the sides, & a toothpick bowl and store in the fridge. inserted in the center comes out with SLOWLY pour the milk mixture over the cake (pour a portion and then In the same bowl that you beat the no batter on it. let it absorb – should egg whites, add 1/2 cup butter and While the cake is take about 3 minutes beat until smooth, scraping edges. baking, make in a to add all of the milk Add 1 cup sugar and beat until light very large glass mixture.) If you pour too measuring cup or and fluffy, about 2 mins, scraping quickly, the top of your bowl, add 1 can sides halfway through. cake will not absorb the coconut milk & liquid. Yes, pour all of Add 1½ tsp vanilla and beat well. microwave for 30the liquid on the cake. Add the egg yolks one at a time, 60 secs. Stir until It seems like too much. beating well after each addition. all the lumps have It’s not! In a medium bowl, whisk together 1½ disappeared. Once all the milk has been added, cups flour, 1/2 tsp salt, 1 tsp baking Add 2 cups Coco Crema, 1 can put the cake back in the oven that powder, and 1/4 tsp baking soda. sweetened condensed milk, and 1 has been turned OFF and set a timer for 10 mins. When the timer Add the flour and egg white mixtures can evaporated milk. Stir together until combined. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. Grease a 9x13 inch cake pan. In a large bowl, add 5 egg whites.
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in alternating batches. Do not over mix. Once it is combined, stop.
goes off, remove the cake from the counter and let cool for a few minutes on the counter. Cover well and transfer to the fridge to cool completely, and to let the liquid absorb into the cake. This will take at least 4-6 hrs. Once the cake is completely chilled and you are ready to serve, make the whipped cream. In a large bowl or stand mixer, beat 2 cups cream on high for 2-4 mins until soft peaks form. Add 1/2 cup powdered sugar and 1/2 tsp almond extract. Beat well, scraping sides and bottom. Spread the whipped cream over the cake. Garnish with strawberries and enjoy! Store in refrigerator. Make sure cake stays covered in refrigerator as it has a tendency to absorb smells from the fridge.
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EFFECTIVE PROFESSIONAL BODY LANGUAGE The risk of being seen as an amateur in your profession can easily show in simple things, such as soft skills that suggest a poor work ethic and poor nonverbal communication practices. Avoiding these and other risks is key to creating a positive professional experience. Effective, courteous, respectful behavior will produce
lasting relationships and professional endeavors that run more smoothly and gain quicker results. One valuable skill is understanding body language. This gives you the ability to quickly and effectively “read between the lines,” interpret the silent signals leaked by others, and position and conduct yourself to make a great impression.
THE EYES BREAKING EYE CONTACT IMPACT/PERCEPTION: A broken gaze may signal a lagging conversation or that listening has stopped In intense/intimate conversations we look at one another more often
THE FACE STARING
HEAD NODS
THE SMILE
IMPACT/PERCEPTION: Negative contact that may be considered rude/a threat
IMPACT/PERCEPTION: Indicators of approval, understanding & agreement
A manner in which dominance, superiority or lack of respect is delivered
Head nods are very important to communication and indicate that you are listening and understanding
IMPACT/PERCEPTION: A genuine smile affects not only the corners of the mouth, but changes the entire face The fake smile is easy to produce, but will look strained & stiff
BODY POSTURES Postures can show status; open postures are perceived as more positive & can be more persuasive
“ CLOSED” BODY POSTURES Arms folded, legs crossed, body turned away IMPACT/PERCEPTION: Feelings of vulnerability, discomfort
MIRRORING
“ OPEN” BODY POSTURES Legs uncrossed, arms open with palms exposed or relaxed at the body’s side IMPACT/PERCEPTION: Signs of openness, accessibility, willingness to interact
It’s important to note that people in Western culture judge more from appearance than reality, respond to a firm handshake and need eye contact.
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LEANING
Assists in connecting and creating intimacy in the conversation
FORWARD LEANING
BACKWARD LEANING
IMPACT/PERCEPTION: Aligned with positive attitudes and increased verbal output
IMPACT/PERCEPTION: May signal dislike, negativity or dominance
Set yourself apart as a polished professional by paying attention to these nonverbal details that create success. The benefits will be many.
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Is hardwired in the human brain; we all do it. May occur subconsciously or done with intent to develop relationships
Assuming the same body posture to match the other person IMPACT/PERCEPTION: A nonverbal way of saying you like/agree. Shows connection and engagement
Kelly Duggan is an Image Consultant specializing in executive and personal image development, etiquette & communication skills. She is a certified member of the Association of Image Consultants International. Contact Kelly at: www.kellyduggan.com.
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Girl Scout Daisies created this DIY Piggy Bank during a recent virtual program. Girl Scout Daisies created this DIY Piggy Bank during a recent virtual program.
What girls need is an opportunity to maintain a What girls need is in antheir opportunity maintain a sense of normalcy lives. GirltoScouts Heart sense of normalcy in their lives. Girl Heart of Michigan has been innovating and Scouts pivoting our of Michigan hassobeen innovating our program model that we can helpand girlspivoting now. While program so that we us canwhen help girls While girls will model certainly need thisnow. pandemic girls will certainly when this pandemic passes, they need usneed now us more than ever. We are passes, needtousprovide now more than opportunities ever. We are workingthey tirelessly Girl Scout working tirelessly to provide Girl Scout opportunities online, so that girls don't have to press pause on boldly online, so thatambitions. girls don't have to press pause on boldly chasing their chasing their ambitions.
We want girls to strive for badges, We want girls to strive for badges, flex their independence, support flex their independence, support their community, and emerge their community, and emerge from this pandemic stronger and from this pandemic stronger and more confident than ever before. more confident than ever before.
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Our virtual programming incorporates materials from home so girls can work on projects! Our virtual programming incorporates materials from home so girls can work on projects!
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Right now and into the future, the world needs our girls to be bold and courageous in the face of an unprecedented challenge. Girls have risen to the challenge, donating masks and cookies to frontline workers.
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Girl Scouts is never cancelled. Girl Scouts Heart of Michigan is finding innovative ways to provide programming to all girls. Each day at 3:00 p.m. on our Facebook page (facebook.com/gshom), we offer programming for girls of each grade level. Topics range from cooking to self-confidence to cybersecurity, and are available for girls of all grade levels. In addition to offering these programs, we are working with volunteers wanting to continue their Girl Scout experience for their troops virtually by providing resources and training for them. Cookie booth season was unfortunately cut short, but we are working to ensure that girls still have plenty of opportunities to reach their goals. If you reach out to gshom@gshom.org with your zip code, we will work to connect you with a local Girl Scout and her parents. Additionally, you can purchase cookies to be donated to frontline workers in our communities by visiting girlscouts.org/cookiecares. During a time with so much uncertainty, we want girls to feel a sense of security in the fact that no matter what, Girl Scouts is here for them. And we always will be.
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Supporting Local Restaurants & Frontline Workers Confronting COVID-19 in Our Community Feed the Fight Kalamazoo (FTFK) launched on April 9th, drawing on the amazing experience of Feed the Fight DC, which emerged in mid-March as a neighborhood effort to patronize local restaurants and show support for healthcare workers at the outset of the COVID-19 crisis. Here in Kalamazoo, local activist Sally Hadden, who knows and reached out to some of the people who have launched such efforts in D.C. and North Carolina, jumped at the chance to bring this simple, helpful model to Greater Kalamazoo and brought Jodi Michaels and Adam Morse onboard to co-organize. Through volunteers and individual contributions, FTF Kalamazoo will purchase and deliver takeout meals from local restaurants for healthcare workers and other first responders across our region. Feed the Fight has the double impact of driving business to local restaurants working to stay operational while thanking and supporting healthcare workers and first responders fighting on the front lines of this unprecedented crisis.
HOW FTFK WORKS Community members make donations to FTFK FTFK purchases meals from local restaurants Volunteers deliver meals to frontline healthcare workers & first responders
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Organizer Sally Hadden said the idea was born out of a desire to do something when things were becoming more and more uncertain. “Frankly, I’ve been itching to do something as the health situation has spiraled downward and I know many others feel the same. This is it – Feed the Fight Kalamazoo.”
The First Meals Were Delivered April 13
Local donors, restaurants, and frontline workers joined us to deliver our first meals to Bronson Methodist Hospital on Monday, April 13. The meals were picked up from Maggie’s Cafe and Middle Eastern Appetite, and delivered to various units, including OSU, TCU & ED.
Total Meals Delivered at the end of Week 2: 1650 Meals
To learn more and help Feed the Fight Kalamazoo, please visit ftfkalamazoo.org or follow the effort on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram #FTFKalamazoo @FTFKalamazoo
To donate or volunteer, visit Feed the Fight Kalamazoo's webpage
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CANCER HASN’T STOPPED. So neither have we. CANCER HASN’T STOPPED. So neither have we. American Cancer Society Cancer Action Network (ACS CAN) staff and volunteers have worked tirelessly to ensure federal relief packages American Cancer Society Cancer Action Network (ACS CAN) staff and volunteers have worked tirelessly to ensure federal relief packages include provisions to support cancer patients and the health systems and nonprofits that serve them through this pandemic. include provisions to support cancer patients and the health systems and nonprofits that serve them through this pandemic. Here are some of the things we have successfully advocated for so far: Here are some of the things we have successfully advocated for so far:
HEALTH HEALTH SYSTEMS SYSTEMS Funding to support hospital capacity Funding to support hospital capacity and cover health care providers’ and cover health care providers’ COVID-19-related expenses COVID-19-related expenses Funding to support federal, state, Funding to support federal, state, local and tribal public health local and tribal public health agencies as they prepare for and agencies as they prepare for and respond to COVID-19 respond to COVID-19 Extended community health center Extended community health center funding through November 30, 2020 funding through November 30, 2020 with additional funds to purchase with additional funds to purchase medical supplies and drugs for medical supplies and drugs for pandemic response pandemic response
RESEARCHERS RESEARCHERS & & REGUL REGUL ATORS ATORS Funding for the National Institutes of Funding for the National Institutes of Health (NIH) to research and develop Health (NIH) to research and develop COVID-19 diagnostic tools, vaccines COVID-19 diagnostic tools, vaccines and therapies and therapies Funding to help the Food and Drug Funding to help the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) review and Administration (FDA) review and authorize medical devices, vaccines authorize medical devices, vaccines and therapies to combat COVID-19 and therapies to combat COVID-19 Direction to the FDA to identify Direction to the FDA to identify current and potential drug supply current and potential drug supply shortages shortages Funding to support maintaining Funding to support maintaining the Strategic National Stockpile for the Strategic National Stockpile for critical medical supplies, protective critical medical supplies, protective equipment and medication equipment and medication
PATIENTS PATIENTS
Access to care provisions that will benefit patients Access to care provisions that will benefit patients during the COVID-19 crisis, and may specifically benefit during the COVID-19 crisis, and may specifically benefit cancer patients who are at particularly high risk: cancer patients who are at particularly high risk: Access to no-cost COVID-19 testing Access to no-cost COVID-19 testing for insured and uninsured individuals for insured and uninsured individuals Increased funding for state Medicaid Increased funding for state Medicaid programs to ensure access to lowprograms to ensure access to lowincome and recently unemployed income and recently unemployed individuals individuals Increased covered medication Increased covered medication prescriptions from 30-day to 90-day prescriptions from 30-day to 90-day supplies for Medicare beneficiaries supplies for Medicare beneficiaries Expanded access to telehealth Expanded access to telehealth and in-home care for Medicare and in-home care for Medicare beneficiaries and veterans beneficiaries and veterans Increased funding for supportive Increased funding for supportive services like nutrition support for services like nutrition support for seniors seniors Support for Charitable Giving Support for Charitable Giving Individuals who do not itemize on their tax returns can give Individuals who do not itemize on their tax returns can give now and deduct up to $300 on their 2020 taxes, enabling them now and deduct up to $300 on their 2020 taxes, enabling them to support those organizations continuing to serve cancer to support those organizations continuing to serve cancer patients and their families nationwide during the current patients and their families nationwide during the current public health crisis. public health crisis.
AND AND OUR OUR WORK WORK CONTINUES CONTINUES
We continue to survey cancer patients to learn how the We continue to survey cancer patients to learn how the pandemic is affecting them and their treatment and using that pandemic is affecting them and their treatment and using that information to set policy priorities for future aid packages. information to set policy priorities for future aid packages.
Learn more about the relief packages at fightcancer.org/COVIDstimulus. Learn more about the relief packages at fightcancer.org/COVIDstimulus. Join us as we continue to advocate for cancer patients during this crisis at fightcancer.org. Join us as we continue to advocate for cancer patients during this crisis at fightcancer.org. Last updated April 8, 2020 Last updated April 8, 2020
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