Home Sweet Home - October 2010

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A Cup of Cozy

Create a Cozy Home

Home Sweet Home The Cozy Edition

Susan Horne, Essential • Enlightening • Entertaining www.womenslifestylekazoo.com

American Cancer Society Discovery Shop

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The People Who Make It Happen...

Publisher: Darlene Clifford dclifford@womenslifestylekazoo.com

Contributing Writers: Sandy Derby Kelly Duggan Mary Beth Esquibel Lauren Fitzmaurice Chloe Herakovic Emily Magyar Heidi McCrary Ann Mohr Jeff Murphy Judy Pearson Patricia Emanuele Juli Wiseman The Kalamazoo Network

Sales: Sales Manager Ruth Ann Dibert radibert@womenslifestylekazoo.com

Sales Representatives: Brenda Murphy Pamela Nunley Maria Pavletic

Layout & Design: jr4 designs JR Harper

Photography: Christopher McGuire Photography www.chrismcguirephoto.com

Office Manager: Patty Clifford

Contact Us

By Phone: 269-569-1647 Sales Info: 269-271-1032

By Mail: Greater Kalamazoo Women’s LifeStyle, P. O. Box 2284, Portage, MI 49081-2284

By Email: wlskazoo@provide.net

website: www.womenslifestylekazoo.com

Coming In Nov. Celebrate in Style

HOME SWEET HOME How to Create a Cozy Home ............................................................10 Conquer Your Clutter ........................................................................16 Just Married? How to reconcile your decorating differences ...................18 3 Simple Touches .............................................................................25 A Room to Grown In .......................................................................26 LOOKING & FEELING GOOD Fit in Fashion ......................................................................................6 WOMEN’S HEALTH American Cancer Society .......................................................................................................................9 Komen ...............................................................................................................................................28 Breast Self Awareness ..........................................................................................................................29 Girls Night Out...................................................................................................................................29 BROADEN YOUR HORIZONS Halloween Trivia......................................................................................12 IMHO:..................................................................................................12 Cookie & Cake Decorating .......................................................................36 Reader’s Lounge .....................................................................................42 LOOK WHO’S TALKING Susan Horne ............................................................................................8 BUSINESS & FINANCE Networking with the Kalamazoo Network ....................................................14 Financial Sauvé - Economies of Happiness ..................................................32 RECIPES A Cup of Cozy Baileys Latte ..................................................................................22 Baileys Hot Chocolate....................................................................22 Baileys Chai ..................................................................................22 Fall Flavors Rustic Vegetable-Beet Soup .............................................................24 Sweet & Sour Red Cabbage & Apples..............................................24 Gluten Free Butternut Squash Soup ...................................................................30 Apple Pies Made Easy!

Perfect Apple Pie ...................... 34 Festive Apple-Berry Pie................34 Caramel-Apple Streusel Pie .........35 COMMUNITY NEWS & HAPPENINGS Buy Local ........................................................................................14 Gift Guide......................................................................................20 Anonymous 4.................................................................................38 Calendar ........................................................................................39

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From the Publisher Fall is upon us, one of my favorite times of the year. I love everything about it especially the colors and the excitement of the children at Halloween.

It’s the only time of year I truly appreciate the color orange.

This season I’m ready and waiting to tackle some of the home projects I’ve been meaning to get done.

Traditionally, fall calls us to home improvements, perhaps because of the upcoming holidays or thoughts of the impending winter months with us tucked safely inside and looking at the same four walls (again). Whatever motivates you, you’ll find articles that can encourage you to try new things or tackle old projects.

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Breast cancer is the most commonly diagnosed cancer and the second leading cause of cancer-related deaths among U.S. women. Another tradition we need to start or fulfill as women, is enquiring if our family and friends have had their annual mammograms. Pink Saturdays is a brilliant idea, inspired and promoted by caring regional health care leaders. For women with financial issues complicating health care, ask them to call this toll free number (1-800-873-0649) to discuss their eligibility and to schedule a free screening mammogram. Every woman, over the age of 40 needs an annual mammogram and monthly self-exams. Please get one.

And so, whatever your fall traditions are, I hope you find joy as you fulfill them.

I also hope you make time to try something new and challenging. We all need that to keep us going as the days get cooler and the nights get shorter.

Happy Halloween!

Darlene

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Fit in Fashion

By Sara Cosgrove

Comfort is critical when it comes to exercise – it’s a matter of personal health and confidence. High-impact activities like volleyball or mountain climbing require different apparel than yoga or pilates. Fit is especially important, which is why this month we’re showcasing an array of options for petite, tall and plus-size women. Rest assured that local sporting goods stores, boutiques and department stores are fully stocked to meet personalized needs, including sports bras for the well-endowed, customizable leggings, and shorts with UV protection.

Athleta Customizable Legging, $44 The customizable legging was made to fit every woman. This fitted style has six different inseam options, bar tacked, so choosing an ideal length is simple with one scissor snip. Legging is available in Black, Falcon and Asphalt. Offered in sizes XXS-XL, 1X-2X. www.athleta.com

Women's Chung Shi All Weather Balance Step, $269 An innovative rocker bottom, VIbram Sole and Sympatex membrane for breathability and absolute water resistance. A great combination for long distance trekking. AuBioMo ergonomically shaped rocker sole structure automatically corrects your posture, stabilizes gait, and increases circulation. Available at Foot Solutions

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The North Face DYN-O-MITE Sport Bra in Fissure Green and EAT MY DUST Shorts in Graphite Grey, $38 each These playfully named pieces are sold separately, but make a perfect pairing. Both offer UPF 30 protection and mesh panels for increased breathability and temperature regulation. This high-tech duo is lightweight and durable for all-season wear. The shorts have a wide elastic waistband and drawstring for comfort, as well as an internal pocket large enough to hold a set of keys. Available in sizes XS-XL. Sold at Fitness Apparel Stores, including Gander Mountain, Dick’s Sporting Goods, Gazelle Sports, Striders, Inc. and GLIK’S.

ENELL Sports Bra in White, $64 to $66 This amazing sports bra is designed exclusively for well-endowed women who enjoy high-impact sports.

The cross-strap design provides posture-enhancing back support. The wide elastic band offers a secure fit and prevents chafing. The wrap knit compression fabric draws moisture away from the body, even during the most intense workouts.

Also available in Black, Ecru and Hope (Pink). Offered in 10 sizes. Sold at Gazelle Sports and local boutiques

Women’s REI OXT Active Stretch Half Zip and REI OXT Active Stretch Pants, $69.50 each For cool and cold weather workouts, this is the go-to outfit. The jacket has added stretch and thumb loops to extend the sleeves for warmth. The boot cut, four-way stretch pants make a great layering piece. Also available in Tall, Petite and Plus sizes.

Sold at REI stores.

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Susan Horne American Cancer Society Discovery Shop Store Manager & Volunteer

manager. The Kalamazoo Discovery Store is the only store managed by a totally volunteer staff. That was 17 years ago, and we have over 100 volunteers and I’m still having a good time and managing the store as a volunteer.”

TO YOU, WHAT’S THE MOST MEMORABLE JOB RELATED EVENT? “The day a beautiful young lady came into the store looking for a wedding dress. She was so pleased when she found a beautiful gown with a train long enough to cover the back of the horse she would be riding to her ceremony. “ TO WHAT DO YOU ATTRIBUTE YOUR SUCCESS? “If you love your work, you will be successful. I love every aspect of what I do. I love bringing people together: volunteers, customers, donors and people who have been touched by cancer. It’s fun to make friends and raise money for a great cause at the same time. I also love arranging the merchandise and doing displays. I refer to it as playing house with other people’s things.

I also treasure wonderful advice from my parents when I was growing up. Little tidbits from those years remain with me always. My dad often said to seek advice: “Woe is the person who has no council.” and “This is how I see it. How do you see it?” There is always another side to an issue. Seek out the other person’s thoughts.

I almost forgot - I took the Dale Carnegie Class 40 years ago and to this day, apply the concepts of enthusiasm to most things I do.”

From the Publisher: Knowing that our October magazine would be all about Home, Sweet, Home and Breast Cancer Awareness, Susan Horne seemed like the perfect focus for our LWT. As the manager of the ACS’s Discovery Shop, she is a natural borne advocate for cancer awareness and for home decorating the upscale resale way. I found her to be inspiring in many other ways as well. She is a huge promoter of other women as well as motivational when it comes to aging: “You just never stop doing what you love to do!” She is the kind of woman we all inspire to be and a dedicated friend. Thank you Susan, for sharing with us!

WHAT IS THE BIGGEST MISCONCEPTION ABOUT YOUR JOB? “The biggest misconception about my job is that we just sell clothes. Our volunteers go through extensive training, continuously advocate for the American Cancer Society, help with fashion shows, mentor students in fashion marketing from Western Michigan University and speak at service organizations.”

HOMETOWN: Susan was born in Grand Rapids, Michigan. Her parents purchased a farm in Delton, while she was growing up.

DESCRIBE YOUR “PERFECT” DAY OFF: For Susan the perfect day of would include shopping, going for a long walk and enjoying lunch or dinner with her friends.

EDUCATION: She attended Western Michigan University, Michigan State University and University of Michigan graduating with a BA in Business Education.

MOST RECENTLY READ BOOKS: Sarah Palin’s Going Rouge: An American Life and Pillars of the Earth by Ken Follet

PERSONAL: Susan is the proud mother of three children and grandmother of four grandchildren. Her son resides in Kalamazoo, while both of her daughters live out of state. Her oldest daughter has her Ph.D. in Education and is the Principal of a Lutheran Elementary School in St. Louis. Her second daughter lives in New York and is the manager of a medical clinic. Her youngest grandson, Andrew, is currently attending the University of Michigan. When her first marriage ended in divorce after 11 years, Susan found her role as a single mom both challenging and fulfilling. Later, with her family grown, Susan married Irving Horne. He was the co-owner of the Pella Window Distributorship for West Michigan. Irv passed away in 1996.

FAVORITE BOOK: No special one in particular. I love most biographies. They, of course, are usually about successful people. One of her professional favorites from a long time ago: Think Like A Man, Work Like A Dog, by Derek A. Newton

RESIDES: Susan’s condo is in Kalamazoo.

PROFESSION: Although her education was teaching at the secondary level, she took a position with the Michigan Department of Social Services. For sixteen years, Susan’s positions were at the regional and state level. After she married Irv, Susan was able to retire.

Finally she had the time to learn to play golf and to renew her love of tennis, bridge and volunteering.

WHAT STEERED YOU TOWARDS WORKING WITH THE AMERICAN CANCER SOCIETY? “My association with the American Cancer Society Discovery Shop, started when I saw an article in the newspaper featuring a new resale shop in Kalamazoo, The Discovery Shop.

Our shop is an upscale resale store run by volunteers with all proceeds going to American Cancer Society, for patient services, education, advocacy and research. I thought this would be fun to try. That was 18 years ago. What a joy it is to be a part of this growing endeavor. We have expanded our store and location three times.”

“The Discovery Shops are a National organization of resale shops owned by the American Cancer Society. In general, these stores are operated by a paid manager. When the current manager resigned I volunteered to help out until a new one was hired. The volunteers all pitched in and helped me and did such a wonderful job. We never did get a new salaried

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TELL US ABOUT YOUR PROFESSIONAL AFFILIATIONS. I belonged to the Rotary for 10 years.

WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO DO OUTSIDE OF WORK? I visit with friends and catch up with my children and grandchildren. I love to work, read and play bridge.

FAVORITE MOVIE(S): “The all time classic Gone With the Wind; great story, great cast, even in today’s world. I saw it the first time when I was 10 years old.”

WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO WATCH ON TV? Susan likes the History Channel, Jeopardy and Turner Classic Movies.

WHAT’S IN YOUR REFRIDGERATOR? “Not much, always salad, veggies and ice cream.”

WHAT DO YOU COLLECT? Susan has never been much of a “collector.” She prefers one of a kind decorating.

WHAT INSPIRES YOU? “Busy active people and their achievements inspire me. No matter what they are doing: running a business or knitting, it just makes me want to try it too. I love to see people accomplish things.”

WHICH CHARITY OR FOUNDATION IS CLOSEST TO YOUR HEART? I don’t need to think about it: The American Cancer Society and its mission.

WHERE WOULD WE FIND YOU ON A TYPICAL SUNDAY AFTERNOON? Susan loves being at home, doing simply things - laundry, reading, or catching up with friends.

WHAT WOULD BUSINESS ASSOCIATES BE SURPRISED TO LEARN ABOUT YOU? That Susan was a teacher and a social worker and she has never had any retail experience before the Discovery Store.

WHAT QUESTION WERE YOU HOPING I WOULDN’T ASK? “Do you e-mail?”

Estimated 40,000 Women will Die from Breast Cancer in 2010, Survival Rate is High when Detected Early American Cancer Society urges women over the age of 40 to schedule their annual mammogram

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ational Breast Cancer Awareness Month is observed each October as a way to increase awareness of breast cancer and emphasize the importance of early detection. The American Cancer Society works to provide resources to educate and support individuals across Michigan.

There’s no better time to schedule your annual mammogram if you’re a woman over the age of 40 than during Breast Cancer Awareness Month in October. In 2010, an estimated 192,000 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer and more than 40,000 will die from the disease. However, if detected in its earliest stages, breast cancer is 98 percent survivable.

Mammograms are the most accessible and effective means of early detection for breast cancer. However, recent research contends that mammography compliance is down nearly four percent for women 40 and older. Because of the extremely high survival rate for breast cancer patients who are diagnosed early, the American Cancer Society stresses the importance of women, beginning at age 40, to get annual mammograms. The American Cancer Society also encourages women 40 and over to get an annual clinical breast examination and perform monthly breast self-examinations.

There are several breast cancer-specific programs and services offered in your local community to

support breast cancer patients and survivors, such as Reach to Recovery, which is a program for men and women facing breast cancer or facing the possible diagnosis of breast cancer.

Additionally, the American Cancer Society provides 24-hour access to information and support for any cancer-related issue through the National Cancer Information Center (NCIC) by calling 1-800-227-2345 or visiting cancer.org.

This October, thousands of women and men across southwest Michigan will unite in their fight against breast cancer during the American Cancer Society’s Making Strides Against Breast Cancer walks. The walks will take place in Kalamazoo, Battle Creek and Plainwell.

Making Strides is a noncompetitive walk supporting the American Cancer Society’s unique mission to save lives and create a world with more birthdays by helping people stay well, helping people get well, finding cures and fighting back against cancer. Since 1993, nearly six million walkers across the United States have raised more than $400 million to help fight breast cancer through Making Strides.

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Ashley Cole is a professional interior designer based in Grand Rapids. Her work has been featured on HGTV as well as in numerous publications, including Kitchen Trends and Home Magazine. Ashley’s passion is “creating environments that enliven the spirit.”

your throw blankets and pillows to tie the look together. Regular carpeting can be cut into custom sizes and the edges bound – an inexpensive option to traditional area rugs. Ask your local flooring retailer about remnants they may have for sale.

Hang curtains. There’s no better way to add a layer of insulation to your windows than heavy fabric panels, especially when lined. Curtains help keep your heating costs down and the coziness factor up. The addition of window treatments in any room adds an instant “wow” factor.

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Those who know me know that fall is my favorite time of year. Crisp, cool air, changing leaves, chunky sweaters and a reason to redecorate. A home’s interior often reflects inspiration from the outside world, so it’s only natural to want to bring in the warm colors reflective of autumn. Here are the top ten ways you can transition your space into autumn:

Pull up a throw. Place throw blankets on chairs, sofas and beds. For a clean look, fold the throw in thirds lengthwise and tuck into cushions. Texture makes a difference; faux fur, wool, felt, heavy cotton and cable knit cotton all work nicely.

Pillows talk. Changing accent pillows with the seasons is simple and inexpensive. Having inserts that allow you to change covers is particularly savvy. Velvets and knits can replace summer fabrics such as linen and canvas. Use hues a few shades deeper than what you use in summer. For instance, lilac and pale blue get replaced with jewel

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Paint. Nothing changes the look of a room faster than a fresh coat of paint. Experiment with bold, deep colors for fall. Even one accent wall can transform a space. Consider a rich chocolate brown or a warm rust hue.

By Ashley Cole

tones such as plum, and light yellows with deep mustard tones.

Bring in nature. Where you may have displayed found shells and sea glass during summer, you can now create arrangements with acorns, pinecones and sculptural tree branches. An assortment of squash, pumpkins and other harvested goodies make great centerpieces on a table or kitchen counter.

Art swap. Replace selected pieces of art with warm, fall-inspired scenes or colors. Consider collecting art prints you can change out with the seasons. Store prints in acid-free archive safe folders until next spring. Rotating art throughout the year keeps your walls exciting and prevents clutter from hanging too many pieces at once.

Cover your floors. The coolness of tile and bare hardwood floors is refreshing in the summer months, but quickly becomes uninviting as the temperatures begin to drop. Add area rugs for warmth and texture. Pick up colors also used in

Make a headboard. If you’ve shopped for a headboard recently you’ve most likely learned this seemingly small panel can become quite a large expense. However, the addition of a headboard, particularly in fabric, adds warmth and comfort to your bedroom in a big way. Embark on a weekend project by following simple instructions from a DIY website such as www.doityourself.com to create your very own padded headboard using a wood panel, foam, batting and fabric.

Hearth is where the heart is. If your home doesn’t include a built-in fireplace, consider other ways to bring fire elements into your home.

Ventless fireplaces are an option without the expense of extensive reconstruction. Groupings of candles make more of an impression than lonely single candles scattered about a room. Place candles of various heights together on a tray for a glowing centerpiece or coffee table focal point.

Let there be light. Add ambiance and warmth to your home by bringing in additional light during the darker months. Invest in new lamps to integrate into furniture arrangements. Swap out cool light bulbs with those that give warmer light. Compact fluorescents are great for energy savings, but have had a bad rap because of color distortion. Be sure to give them a chance as they have recently improved and will continue to do so. The best ones are equal to incandescent bulbs in the quality of light they produce.

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Halloween Trivia & Fun Trick or Treating The custom of trick or treating evolved in Ireland, centuries ago. In preparation for All Hollow's Eve, the poor would call upon the rich folks and request money, gifts and food.

The food was gathered for a huge feast and celebration.

Halloween Fun: Start a New Tradition with Ghosting/Boo-ing Many neighborhoods have added a new tradition to their Halloween calendar of events. This new custom is catching on all across the globe. Some call it “Boo-ing” and some call it “Ghosting,” but whatever it’s called, it’s great fun and an excellent way to bring neighborhood’s closer together and add some mystery to the season.

Depending on the size of your neighborhood, you’ll want to start the fun early in the month of October, so there will be enough time to include everyone. Each participant should “Ghost” two families or homes every time a ghosting takes place...

To get started you’ll need: 2 - Colorful Bags, tins, plastic pumpkins, etc. filled with Halloween treats.

2 - Notes indicating that the home has been “booed or ghosted” with poetic instructions on how to carry on the new neighborhood tradition.

2 - Paper, cut-out, or picture of ghosts

The Last of the Ballerinas It’s a fact: besides Christmas, the holiday we spend the most on is Halloween. What a hoot, since what I remember about my childhood Halloweens is not the beauty of a Halloween tree or the splendor of the lights, but the trauma of choosing the costume.

Yesteryear’s costumes were rarely store bought, and like many little girls, I was bitten by the ballerina bug. That’s all I ever wanted to be for Halloween. My mother discouraged this. She did not sew, and an entire ballerina costume was beyond the level of her patience and skills. She was, however, very good at making ghost costumes: all you needed was an old sheet with eye holes. Being the oldest, I got a new sheet every year; my brother got my hand-medown sheet.

After dark, surprise a family by delivering a treat container, note and ghost on their doorstep. Ring the bell or knock on the door, then disappear as fast as you can. Remaining anonymous adds to the fun. Repeat with your next “victim.”

A ghost costume was well suited to Michigan Halloween weather, too. Decades ago, it became winter every year on October 30th, regardless of what the 29th had been like. And we could rest assured there would always be some form of precipitation as well.

This was my mother’s final justification for nixing the ballerina costume: you couldn’t fit a coat under a tutu like you could with a ghost sheet.

Once a family has been “booed” they should quickly place the ghost picture on their door or in a prominent window, so everyone knows who’s been “ghosted.” They should immediately plan their event and who they will “Ghost,” completing their task within two days. You can create your own instructions or make copies of the fun poem we’ve included below. Make sure the instructions are simple, but complete.

When I became a mother, I endured my own children’s costume traumas. As with everyday wear, it was easy to dress my sons up in costumes when they were little. But when peer pressure set in, being a bunny for Halloween was not an option.

Happy Halloween to you – my friend! We hope this season will ever end.

One year, I bought a devil costume for my youngest (which suited his personality well that year). His father decided his face should be red too, and used an entire tube of lipstick. The kid had a red face right up to the Christmas pagent, which landed him a part as Rudolph the red-faced reindeer.

Witches, ghosts, and spooks so scary. Be on your guard…be very wary.

The ghosts of the night all cry “BOO!” Then run & hide after “treating” you!

It’s too late….you’ve just been “ghosted!” “We’re so sneaky” your neighbor boasted!

It’s a Halloween secret – that much is true No one knows –who did you BOO? Just t wo short days to work your spell, Keep it secret, hide it well.

Please join the fun, the season’s here.

So spread these "BOO's" and some Halloween cheer.

Include a sheet of paper that says: You have been BOOED! Please keep it going by following these directions: 1. Enjoy your treat and please pass the Boo-ing on!

2. Place the Ghost sign on your front door and in a front window.

3. Within two days, make two copies of this note, make two treats & two Ghost signs 4. Secretly deliver the treats to two neighbors who haven’t been “Booed.”

5. Keep an eye on nearby front doors to see how far and fast it spreads by Halloween.

To help you get started, we’ve included our poem of instructions and a ghostly form for you to download and print.

Just go to our website www.womenslifestylekazoo.com and look for our ghost!

Another year, mother-guilt got the best of me. Rather than buying a costume, I decided to create a sea-serpent getup for my then eight-year-old. The directions looked simple: “Easy to make in just a few hours.” Hah! If I’d begun that costume at Easter, I may have finished in time and been in a good humor. Instead, I was up until 2 a.m. the night before, desperately zig-zagging seams.

After just three houses on the big night, the serpent’s head cracked in half and booth eyes fell out. A half hour later, in a rush for candy, my son fell, tearing out both of his green velour knees. The final insult came when I heard another kid ask him, “What are you supposed to be, some kind of green hobo?”

I suppose the memories I have of my Halloweens are not founded in reality. I remember more plentiful houses and fresher candy. I’m certain I would have collected more if I had been a beautiful ballerina rather than a non-descript ghost with her little brother ghost in tow. And who knows what direction my career might have gone!

Judy Pearson is the founder of Courage Concepts, an organization which fosters courage in women through seminars and Courage Conventions. Judy is also the author of magazine and newspaper articles, as well as two books about ordinary people who exhibited extraordinary courage. Her latest, Wolves at the Door, has been optioned for a movie.

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PO Box 50374 • Kalamazoo MI 49005 • voicemail: 269-343-7865 • www.kalamazoonetwork.org More than ever before, women are becoming entrepreneurs and setting up home offices. What was once a unique situation is now commonplace. With the home office comes the challenge of where to meet when setting up appointments with clients and prospects. So we asked the women of Kalamazoo Network…

“With home offices all the rage, how are you adapting to meeting with clients?”

Working from a home office is great. I did it for nine years, and to do it successfully, you really shouldn’t do anything differently.

You still need to maintain a reliable schedule, stick to a routine, answer your phone professionally and so on. Client meetings are one of the few things that require a different approach. Here are three options:

When I need to meet a client to get a contract signed or review an inspection, I like to try and meet first at the our company’s office.

It has all the tools (computer, printer, fax, phone) I need and a professional atmosphere. If that is not convenient for my client, I will make accommodations to meet them at a quiet coffee shop or restaurant. My home office is not my main office so I am flexible in meeting clients – to save everyone time and energy.

- Maureen Kelly Krause / Prudential Preferred Realtors Having a home office, I am adapting by scheduling meetings with clients at local coffee shops. This works well because many professionals use coffee shops as “satellite offices.” Meeting at a café also allows you to signal the client when you feel the meeting is finished and you have a "talker" on your hands. You can grab your keys as a clue that you are ready to leave. This also allows the other person to leave when they wish to – eliminating the feeling of being “trapped.”

- Diane Holmes / Muscle Mechanics

• Ask the client to meet at their place of business. Done correctly they will rarely decline.

Fortunately, there are many places that can work for meeting • Identify local restaurants and coffee shops that have individual clients in the Kalamazoo area – most for only the cost of a couple rooms or quiet spaces. Avoid first thing in the morning and of coffees. There are also professional meeting rooms that can be lunch periods for quiet and confidentiality. Don’t forget the used for the occasional client meeting for minimal cost. In sumKalamazoo and Portage library meeting rooms which are free mary, consider the following places for your next or low-cost. meeting…

• Explore renting virtual meeting rooms. One source is Creekside Business Center, but others are also available.

• Library meeting rooms -Rochelle E Petts, • Coffee Shops PMP / Kalamazoo Regional Educational Service Agency • Restaurants • Professional Office Spaces • Hotel Conference Rooms "I find a meeting location that is most convenient for my clients".

Maria Pavletic, Independent Marketing and Web Consultant with Pavletic - Maria Pavletic / Pavletic Consulting & Design Consulting and Design, LLC. She is currently serving as the President for

Kalamazoo Network.

The Ample Pantry Phyllis Farrell’s career in food sales and marketing was exhausting. Then when she arrived home, there was dinner to be made for her family. Sensing a need, Phyllis began a business that deliveries wholesome evening meals to busy families living in the Kalamazoo/Portage area. In 1982 The Ample Pantry was born.

PJ’s Frame-Up Twenty-seven years ago, Janet Baas and her daughter, Cindy Callahan, partnered to create PJ’s Frame-Up, a framing service located in Portage. When her mother retired, Cindy became the sole owner. PJ’s Frame-Up is committed to quality and customer satisfaction. They view each project as a unique opportunity to create something beautiful. Cindy and her staff are highly skilled and imaginative framing specialists.

PJ’s Frame-Up serves private individuals, commercial businesses, offices and schools. They enjoy repeat business due to their customer service and attention to details.

Their skilled team will create a custom fit including glass, matting and custom cut frames. Cindy’s comment: “What makes us different is that we have a knack for design and for framing artwork.”

Framing is available for special occasions such as anniversaries, birthdays, and graduations. Cindy will also come to your home or business in order to give custom advice about framing to accent the décor of any given room. Cindy gives presentations to groups, guilds and teaches special classes on frame mounting.

Additional services available include: free pick-up and delivery, design ideas to match business environments, framing and mounting certificates and diplomas.

PJ’s Frame-Up is conveniently located at 218 Gladys Street in Portage. You may also contact them by telephone at 269-323-2170 or visit their website at www.PJsFrameUp.com.

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The Ample Pantry produces quality food which is delivered precooked and ready to be heated to the customer’s door. Dinner delivery and lunch delivery service are available for homes and businesses in the area. Two customer favorites are the hot chicken salad and the lemon bars. Food is also available for pick-up.

They are located at 4325 W. Michigan Ave., in Kalamazoo. Limited restaurant seating is available which is beautifully decorated, complete with a fireplace, and where dessert selections are showcased.

Anne Farrell-Bridenstine and her brother Bill Farrell run the catering service and restaurant. At the heart of the business are the seven cooks who have been employed with the Ample Pantry for 20 years. Food is delivered by car with retired gentlemen at the wheel.

“We’re not gourmet chefs, just really good cooks,” Anne said. The aromas make it is easy to understand why the Ample Pantry has grown by word of mouth through the years.

Food orders or gift certificates may be purchased by phone, 269-375-8300, or online on the Ample Pantry website, www.theamplepantry.com. For those in need of a special gift, The Ample Pantry offers gift certificates.

Patti Emanuele is a freelance writer and author of six books who has contributed to newspapers, magazines and other publications. Her writing experience includes teaching English and writing skills to adults, writing fundraising and corporate materials, copy for commercials and other aspects of advertising.

Independent businesses provide meaningful services with a personal touch. It matters to them that you are satisfied and will come back again.

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conquer your clutter Manuals, Guarantees and Warranties…Oh, My! How to keep it where you can find it

By Alexandra Fix

ired of searching for the food processor instruction manual? Wish you knew which paint brand you used in the master bath? Wonder if the “thunking” washer is still under warranty? A simple ring binder is all you need to begin organizing a Home Record Book that holds information about household products and home improvements. Having lived in the same home for almost 40 years, I personally use a full file drawer instead of multiple binders. We call it the “warranties and instructions” drawer. Either system works. For the ring binder system, purchase a “fat” one for the whole household or use a 2-inch binder for each main room in the house and one for the outdoors. A 3-hole punch, tabbed dividers and clear sheet protectors or pockets are useful.

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Your Home “Warranties & Manual” Kit How to Gather: Gather together manuals, warranties and receipts for household items. Staple the receipt to the inside cover of the appropriate manual. On the front of the instruction manual, note date of purchase, purchase price and date the warranty expires. Punch holes in the manual or slip it into a clear sheet protector and insert it into the binder. When any repairs are done on household items, slip the work order and receipts into the protector page, again listing any warranty date on the work.

How to Organize: Divider tabs will be labeled with each major room in the house. Group together items which are most associated with that room. For example: “Basement” includes water heater, washing machine, dehumidifier; “Outdoors” includes snow blower, lawn mower and bicycles; “Bedroom” includes mattress and box springs, electric blanket; “Family Room” includes DVD player, television, furniture tags.

Your “Home Improvement” File Indoor Info: Create another tabbed section in each binder to record the particulars of any home improvements in those rooms or areas. Here you’ll list the date the room was painted, paint brand, color formula and a paint chip. (When you’re painting the room, paint a 3x5 index card for an adequate sized paint sample.) Note how much paint was needed and where any leftover paint is stored. Once a room has been painted, a handy idea is to pour the remaining paint into a labeled glass jar. The paint stores better, remains visible and is easily available for touching up nicks and dings in the walls. The label from the paint can could be removed and included in this home record binder.

Outdoor Info: In the outdoor binder, again list the year the house was painted and by whom, as well as all the specifics of paint color, type, amount, purchase price, job price and warranty. In like manner, list the year of roofing or siding repair or replacement and any information about the company that did the repair work. Note the warranty time on labor and materials. Include receipts for work and a running record of material costs and repair expenses.

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Just married?

How to reconcile your decorating differences.

wallcolor: Moonlit Sky by Dutch Boy

Courtesy of ARAcontent

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fter the “I dos” are exchanged and the reception is over, couples find out that the realities of cohabitation do not always make for smooth sailing, especially when it comes to blending different tastes and styles. While newlyweds find themselves saying “I do” at the altar, that phrase frequently turns into “I don’t” when the couple begins combining two unique decorating styles into a single household.

“It’s never easy to incorporate two divergent ideas of design and comfort into one home,” says Christopher Prebel, senior product manager at Pratt & Lambert Paints. “The man likes modern. His new wife likes flea-market chic. If you pick only one style, it’s not going to feel like a ‘married’ home. The question, then, is, ‘How can you blend both and be satisfied?’”

This might take some time, but no one says you have to decorate an entire house overnight.

First, de-clutter. Both of you have baggage you could stand to dump, donate or list on eBay. Sit down together and negotiate what stays and what goes, and then stick to your plan.

Next, spend time looking at decorating publications and websites and watching decorating shows on TV to decide what sort of style you both like. Talk about what you see, what you love and what you don’t. The husband might hate feminine, floral prints. The wife might cringe at preppy plaid. But maybe they both prefer slip-covered sofas and daring wall colors. Once

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you find that common ground, you can start formulating your decorating strategy.

Paint is one of the easiest and most cost-effective ways to start personalizing any living space, and it all comes down to color. Color possibilities are endless, so chances are you’ll be able to find something you both like.

Visit your local paint dealer and collect color chips or actual inexpensive paint samples that you can put on the wall to compare options.

If you’re the kind of couple who likes to remain en vogue with your decor choices, consider researching the latest color trends. A variety of design industry groups develop color forecasts each year, and paint manufacturers prepare palettes to echo these predictions. Hot directions for 2010 include: Nurture - Colors inspired by sustainability, balance and making an impact on the greater world. Try gray on your walls and accent with shades of palm green, nutmeg, browns and yellows.

Sojourn - Inspired by the sights of global travel, the colors in this palette combine an eclectic mix of cultural references, blending camels and honeyed lights with rich, artistic reds, slate blues and plums.

Color is the biggest hurdle in any decorating decision, and once you cross that challenge off your list as something you’ve accomplished together, the rest should fall easily into place. Some other helpful tips to keep in mind while you’re creating the perfect first home include the following: • Mix it up, don’t match it perfectly. It’s fine to be eclectic. A home that’s perfectly matched lacks character. Your home is about you, and it should carry a bit of both of your personalities vs. looking like you copied a picture in a magazine.

• Cleverly blend items from the past with new things in every room. You both had a life before you got married - let your history reflect into your present.

Yes, it might involve compromise, but that’s what relationships are about, isn’t it?

Symbol - Colors in this palette seek inspiration from architectural and historical symbolism - rich, complex and even moody hues, such as tobacco, bay leaf green, maroon and warm reds.

• Buy big items, such as furniture, window treatments, flooring upgrades and appliances, together.

Shopping as a team gives added cohesiveness to the overall look and allows you both to have a say in major purchases.

Sense - Hues in this palette not only please the eye but also stimulate the other senses by echoing tactile wonders with colors like that of an artichoke.

Marriage is “for better or for worse.” A little creativity and compromise will ensure that at least your decor is for “the better.”

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A Cup of

Cozy drink recipes courtesy Baileys® Irish Cream Liqueur

Tips for an effortless get-together These quick and easy tips will help you spend more time with guests and ensure your gathering is an effortless success. is key. Prepare any appetiz• Preparation ers the night before and keep in the fridge. This will allow you to focus on any last minute arrangements on the day of your party. outside the box. If you’re wor• Think ried that you may not have enough serving dishes for your get-together, look for cups and glasses that may double as a dip bowl or unique container for fruits or vegetables.

or set a buffet where everyone can serve themselves. This way, guests can take what they want and eat at their own pace. sure you have music. Loading up • Make your iPod with fun songs, both new and old, will provide a fun atmosphere for your guests. are always a quick and easy • Candles way to add ambiance and class to any space. Keep several on hand to grab when the sun goes down, but the party is still going strong.

Serve an irrestable warm beverage. Try the idea of “family style” din- • these favoritess from Bailey’s Original • Embrace ing. Serve appetizers on large platters Irish Cream.

Baileys Chai

Baileys Hot Chocolate

Ingredients : 2 oz. Baileys Original Irish Cream with a Hint of Caramel 0.5 oz. Smirnoff® Vanilla Flavored Vodka 3 oz. brewed chai tea 3 dashes Regans’ orange bitters Vanilla sugar

Ingredients: 3.5 oz. Baileys Original Irish Cream 11 oz. milk 1 oz. dark chocolate

Preparation : Brew a pot of chai tea. Add Baileys, Smirnoff and bitters to a mug. Top with chai tea. Garnish with vanilla sugar.

Preparation : Boil milk. Pour half the milk into a jug with dark chocolate. Leave to soften and whisk until smooth.

Add 3.5 oz. of Baileys and the rest of the milk. Whisk again. Pour in to two heatproof glasses. Top with whipped cream and chocolate curls

This drink can also be served cold.

Simply chill tea and serve drink in a tall glass over ice.

Contains 0.255 fl. oz. (5.96 g.) of alcohol per serving

Each serving contains 0.595 oz. of alcohol.

Baileys Latte Ingredients: 3.5 oz Bailey Original Irish Cream 3/4 oz espresso Steamed milk Cocoa powder Preparation : Pour 3/4 oz of espresso in coffee mug or glass.

Add 3.5 oz of Baileys. Fill with steamed milk. Top with froth. Dust the top with cocoa powder.

Each serving contains 0.595 fl. oz. of alcohol.

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Here are three delicious vegetable recipes just right for cool weather cooking.

Rustic Vegetable-Beet Soup is unusually easy. It simmers to perfection in under 30 minutes, and needs only crusty bread to make a meal for the family or casual entertaining.

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Thyme-Scented Roasted Vegetables & Beets, ready in about 30 minutes, is a tasty accompaniment for a roast, chops or poultry.

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A quick side of Sweet & Sour Red Cabbage & Apples will dress up any weeknight meal. Add ham and make it a main dish skillet supper.

These tasty recipes team up with prepared products, saving cooking and preparation time, without sacrificing flavor. Ingredients like baby carrots, canned broth, canned beans, jarred pickled beets and prepared sweet and sour cabbage really put you a step ahead.

Rustic Vegetable-Beet Soup Makes 6 servings 2 2 2 1 2 2 2 1 1

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tablespoons olive oil medium onions, coarsely chopped medium carrots, coarsely chopped medium sweet potato, peeled and chopped large garlic cloves, minced zucchini (about 5 ounces each), coarsely chopped cans (14 ounces each) vegetable broth teaspoon seasoned salt can (15-1/2 ounces) chickpeas, drained and rinsed Salt and pepper tablespoons finely chopped fresh parsley tablespoons finely chopped fresh dill jar (16 ounces) whole pickled beets, well drained, coarsely chopped Gremolata (recipe below)

1. Heat oil in large saucepan over medium heat.

Add onions; sauté about 5 minutes or until softened. Add carrots, sweet potato and garlic. Sauté 3 to 5 minutes until vegetables begin to soften; stir occasionally.

2. Add zucchini, broth and seasoned salt. Bring to boil. Reduce heat and simmer, partially covered, about 15 minutes or until vegetables are tender. Add chickpeas; heat through. Season to taste with salt and pepper.

3. Stir in parsley and dill. Stir in beets. Serve immediately topped with gremolata, if desired.

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tablespoon minced fresh parsley tablespoon minced fresh dill garlic cloves, minced teaspoon grated lemon peel

Combine all ingredients in small bowl.

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Sweet & Sour Red Cabbage & Apples Makes 4 servings 2 tablespoons butter 2 medium Granny Smith apples, unpeeled, cut into 1/2-inch thick wedges 3 tablespoons packed light brown sugar 1/4 teaspoon ground allspice or cinnamon 1 jar (16 ounces) sweet and sour red cabbage, drained Melt butter in 10-inch skillet over medium-high heat. Add apples; cook 1 minute, stirring occasionally. Add brown sugar and allspice; cook 2 minutes longer. Add cabbage; cook until hot, about 2 minutes, stirring occasionally.

Variation: For Sweet & Sour Red Cabbage, Ham & Apples, add 1 cup diced cooked ham to skillet along with apples.

Add warmth to your home with

3 Simple Touches Courtesy ARAcontent

Ginny Bean, publisher of Ginny’s catalog, suggests the following simple decorating touches to add seasonal warmth. * Put out the welcome mat. Make visitors feel welcome from the moment they step through your door. Decorate your front door with a seasonal accent and an attractive mat. * Build a fire or light candles. Rearrange your furniture to create a conversation area around your hearth. Choose candlesticks in metallics (gold is popular now) or in warm colors. * Add black. A touch of black can add sophistication to your home decor. Use it sparingly though, perhaps in a few picture frames, a ceramic vase or a throw or pillows, because too much black can make the room look dreary.

You can also find seasonal recipes, including casseroles, stews and soups, and helpful tips on everything from organizing your home to new uses for toothpaste at www.Ginnys.com.

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A Room to Grow In

By Janice Lynne Lundy

he first time I read these words penned by the infamous Virginia Woolf, a chord of recognition struck within me. I knew what she said was true, at least from my experience.

As a writer, I did need a room of my own – physical space – so I could create without interruption. (She also advised having a lock on the door!)

It seemed equally true that a woman writer might need to have a source of additional income, for most writers can’t live on what they earn from the craft (I seem to earn the bulk of my living from teaching rather than writing). Ms. Woolf apparently lived off a stipend, an inheritance from her aunt.

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“A woman must have money and a room of her own if she is to write fiction...” ~Virginia Woolf (1882-1941)

And though Ms. Woolf offered this sage advice to women writers specifically – women in her day were not admitted to universities or libraries, much less accepted as writers – she speaks to women everywhere about the importance of self-worth, self-reliance and freedom.

A Room of Our Own To me, the metaphor of having a room of one’s own means having space to create what our soul wishes to express. As busy women playing multiple roles in the home, workplace and community, we don’t often get time and opportunity to be by ourselves. Never free, it seems, from the tug and pull of families or work, we are tied to the needs and demands of others. We are “on call” all the time. Solitude eludes us.

Thinking back on this now (as I have the luxury of solitude, mid-life years, children mostly gone from the nest), I recall times when the only room of my own was the bathroom. The “necessary room,” as my grandmother called it, was absolutely necessary to me. It provided sanity, a getaway space, as well as inner space to be me. The bathtub served as my privacy zone where I could think without interruption; a watery sanctuary to create and dream, even write in a drip-marked journal. The bathroom was my inspiration – and my salvation as a woman and as a writer.

Creating Space I believe it’s vital for women to have “room” in this way. We can physically create this space for ourselves, beginning with even a section of a room and making it our own: a cozy corner or a creative cupboard we can visit to access the deeper parts of ourselves. Or, if we are fortunate, an entire room (spare bedroom, office) to indulge our need for quiet or study or artistic expression. We need a sense of place

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with our own things – mementos, pictures and books, which comfort and inspire us.

Equally important is emotional space. We may have to carve this out as well. We begin by being open with our loved ones about our growing need for privacy or alone time. We may have to learn to say no to others’ requests. We’ll need to establish the importance of our own values and expect others to respect them. When my children were young and I was often escaping to the “necessary room,” one of them would inevitably knock on the door claiming urgency. I remember saying to the needy child, “I am not to be bothered unless there is blood or fire.” The point was well taken, but it took resolve on my part.

The questions beg to be asked. Do you have a physical space where you can retire to be you? A place where you feel safe? Where you can rest when exhausted from the busyness of life? A place where you can listen to and express your inner voice?

And how are you doing with claiming your inner freedom, your independence from the demands of others? Are you able to speak what you need aloud and expect others to acknowledge it? Are you passionate and determined to stay the course of your own blooming so you can become all you are meant to be, especially if it means saying, “Not right now” to others and “Yes!” to yourself?

My hope is if you haven’t yet affirmed your need for a room of your own you’ll begin today. Take a baby step in that direction. Make a tiny change; do one new thing for yourself.

And may you do so knowing you’re worth the time and energy it takes to be free, truly free; to be the unique expression of you the world needs right now – now more than ever.

The bathroom was my inspiration – and my salvation as a woman and as a writer.

Janice Lynne Lundy is an inspirational speaker and retreat leader, spiritual director and author. To learn more about Jan, her writing and her events, visit www.awakenedliving.com.

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'Pink Saturdays 2010' Women 40 and older in Southwest Michigan are NOT getting screened for breast cancer as they should and it’s time to help them overcome hurdles to do so. This is the 4th annual Pink Saturdays event. To date, more than 3,000 women have been screened with seven of those diagnosed with cancer.

Breast cancer is the most commonly diagnosed cancer and the second leading cause of cancer-related deaths among U.S. women. The importance of early detection is essential for the successful treatment of breast cancer and this early detection is best accomplished with an annual mammogram. The region’s key providers in women’s breast health are well aware of the importance of annual mammograms and are “Teaming Together for a Healthier Community.”

A disturbing statistic brought these providers together to create the Pink Saturdays program. The statistic is this: Only 30% of women 40 and older in Southwest Michigan are getting a mammogram every year—according to area mammogram facilities that track numbers. That compares to a Michigan average of nearly 62% and a national average of 65-70%! And if you look at a county-by-county comparison, some of the numbers are even lower… for example, only 11% in Cass County and 18% in Allegan County. “We cannot be satisfied until ALL eligible women— 100%--receive an annual mammogram,” said Terry McKay, President/CEO of West Michigan Cancer Center.

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Women 40-64 who are uninsured can get a FREE mammogram on any one of five Saturdays in October, and some selected weekdays throughout October. These free screening mammograms will be offered at facilities in Allegan, Berrien, Calhoun, Cass, Kalamazoo, St. Joseph and Van Buren counties. Uninsured women are asked to call a toll free number (1-800-873-0649) to discuss their eligibility and to schedule a free screening mammogram.

Partners in the Pink Saturdays initiative include: Borgess Medical Center Borgess-Pipp Hospital Borgess-Lee Memorial Hospital Borgess Westside Borgess At Woodbridge Hills Premier Radiology; Bronson Center for Women; Bronson Diagnostics at Woodbridge Bronson Lakeview Hospital Bronson Vicksburg Hospital Advanced Radiology Services PC—Kalamazoo Division Community Hospital Oaklawn Hospital Sturgis Hospital Summit Radiology Allegan General Hospital Southwest Michigan Radiology Radiology Consultants PLC The Cancer Care Center/Battle Creek Health System Battle Creek Health System South Haven Community Hospital Michigan State University-Kalamazoo Center for Medical Studies West Michigan Cancer Center The S.W. Michigan Breast/Cervical Cancer Control Program.

Funding for the program is provided by: Kalamazoo Community Foundation, Southwest Michigan Affiliate of Susan G. Komen for the Cure, Pfizer, Borgess Foundation, Bronson Foundation, Allegan General Hospital Foundation, and the American Cancer Society.

Breast Self Awareness courtesy MetroCreative Services

arly detection of breast cancer is the single-most effective way to beat the disease. That is why it’s essential for women to conduct their own breast exams to discover any potential anomalies early on.

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While doctors stress the importance of self-examination, many women still show up for routine wellness visits admitting they don’t do examinations because they simply don’t know how. Perhaps because the practice was given the formal name “breast selfexam.” Today, however, doctors tell women to have “breast self-awareness.” That means women don’t have to follow a set protocol regarding checking for breast changes, and simply being aware of how the breasts look and feel is key.

Why the change in the formalities? Doctors have determined that most women notice a lump in their breasts while doing routine activities, such as bathing or dressing. They also figured out that a formal method of examining the breasts was not necessary.

Lumps can be found simply by touching the breasts in any pattern, as long as the entire breast is checked.

To demystify the process even further, follow these guidelines:

● Breasts are best checked for changes directly after a menstrual period. At this time the breast tissue will be softer and less tender due to diminishing hormone levels.

● Look at the breasts every day and notice their appearance and shape. Recognizing subtle differences can help alert a doctor if something is amiss.

● Be conscious of these changes; changes in breast size, shape, skin texture or color; dimpling or puckering of the breast; discharge from the nipples; scaliness of the skin; nipple pulling to one side; lump or mass in the breast; enlarged lymph node under the arm.

● Any changes or questions about breast condition should be promptly brought up with a doctor.

● Women should know their risk for breast cancer.

While there isn’t a definitive genetic correlation, the high rate of breast cancer in one family may mean a particular woman is more at risk.

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The Economics of Happiness What Does Wealth Mean to You?

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eorge Giguere, who teaches a course on entrepreneurship at Brown University, recently asked this question to a group of students. Not surprisingly, wealth meant different things to everyone. However, all wanted to be philanthropic at some point in their life and did not believe money would buy them happiness.

How much money would it take to make you wealthy?

While responses ranged from $1 to $10 million, the students were challenged to think further.

Giguere, a successful entrepreneur, has seen more people make it and then lose it, than make it and keep it. He teaches students the importance of keeping their word in business and treating people right. “In creating wealth, you develop relationships along the way. If you don't treat these relationships well, there is a probability that there is going to be a time to cash in on those relationships again and it is not going to be there for you when you need it,” says Giguere.

Serious factors in determining whether someone is wealthy or not include how much he or she wants to spend, how the money will be used, and what needs are not being met. Giguere notes the origin of wealth is important to mindset. People who win the lottery but have no concept of money tend to lose it right away. People who inherit money through a trust or earn it themselves but feel they were lucky tend to be more cautious in spending it. People who deal best with wealth are those who gain it with confidence, did it themselves and know they can recreate themselves if things turn sour.

Notes Mark Eisenson, author of” Invest in Yourself: Six Secrets to a Rich Life”,"Once we become adults, we often lose track of life's simple pleasures and of our own personal goals. We take a wrong turn or two, and spend a good part of our lives doing things we'd rather not – while not doing many things we'd enjoy”.

Society and the media lead us to believe that having lots of money and material things is the ticket

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to happiness. Recent research suggests otherwise.

Let’s look at money as an example.

new standard of living and our happiness level flat lines.

Since Elvis made his first appearance on the Ed Sullivan show in 1956, the average American’s disposable income has tripled from $9,431 to $27,792, according to data from the Bureau of Economic Analysis. However, as reported in the book “Happiness” by Richard Layard, our level of happiness hasn’t increased at all during that time.

Okay, so if becoming a millionaire is not the passport to happiness, what is? According to various studies, here are seven keys that can make us happier.

Money does factor into the happiness equation but only to a certain degree. Studies have shown that if we go from making $20,000 per year to $50,000

First, build strong family relationships. We need the closeness and love of a family. By contrast, (not surprisingly) divorce and separation are two situations that can cause the largest drop in personal happiness.

Second, secure an adequate financial situation. As described above, a certain level of income is necessary for a base level of happiness.

Third, find rewarding and meaningful work.

A job pays the bills but finding work that makes us feel like we are contributing to society and helping others is also very important.

Fourth, cultivate friends and a local community. Research from the University of Chicago's National Opinion Research Center indicates that people with five or more close friends are 50 percent more likely to describe themselves as "very happy" compared to people with fewer friends.

Fifth, focus on health. We tend to ignore our health—until we don’t have it. By proactively trying to stay in shape, we can feel better, live longer and be happier.

per year, our happiness will just about double, according to Harvard professor Dan Gilbert. However, going from $50,000 to $90,000 will only yield a slight increase.

Quiz time. Which would you prefer; getting paid $50,000 per year while other people get paid $25,000 or getting paid $100,000 per year while others get paid $250,000? According to one survey, more people preferred the first option. Happiness from money is relative. As long as we make more than our “comparison” group, money makes us happy.

It’s a similar story with material goods. Just as a shiny new coin dulls with use, so does our happiness with the goods and services increased wealth can buy. Over time, we become used to our

Sixth, find the “zone.” Whether it’s work or leisure, happiness ensues from being “in the zone;” that state where we are totally engaged in an activity and absorbed in the moment.

Seventh, be grateful. It’s easy to lament what we don’t have but it’s better to focus on appreciating what we do have.

Yes, life can be difficult and unfair; however, by consciously focusing on the seven items above, we can improve our odds of living the good life and experiencing happiness.

Sandy K. Derby, CFP®, ChFC™ has been in the financial services industry since 1989. She is President of Derby Financial & Associates LLC, where our goal is to help women become financially secure and independent, through comprehensive financial planning. Sandy can be reached at sandykderby@derbyfinancial.net or 269-321-5047.

Securities and investment advisory services offered through Woodbury Financial Services, Inc. PO Box 64284, St Paul, MN 55164-0284, 800-800-2638, Member FINRA/SIPC and Registered Investment Advisor, Woodbury Financial Services, Inc. is not affiliated with Derby Financial & Associates, LLC. Neither Woodbury Financial Services, Inc. nor its registered representative or employees provide tax or legal advice. As with all matters of a tax or legal nature, you should consult with your tax or legal counsel for advice.

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courtesy of Pillsbury and Famlly Features

Festive Apple-Berry Pie Prep Time: 30 minutes Start to Finish: 1 hour 20 minutes 8 servings 2 1 1/2 4 2 1 Sav e tim e in t h e kit c h en by st art in g with Pills bury Refrigerated Pie Crusts .

cups fresh or frozen cranberries cups sugar, divided tablespoons cornstarch, divided tablespoons water box (14.1 ounces) Pillsbury refrigerated pie crusts, softened as directed on box 5 to 6 cups sliced peeled apples (5 to 6 medium) 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon 1/4 teaspoon ground nutmeg

In 1-quart saucepan, mix cranberries, 1 cup sugar, 1 tablespoon cornstarch and water. Heat to boiling. Boil 5 minutes. Cool 15 minutes.

Heat oven to 425°F. Make pie crusts as directed on box for Two-Crust Pie using 9-inch glass pie pan.

In large bowl, mix apples, remaining 1/2 cup sugar, remaining 3 tablespoons cornstarch, cinnamon and nutmeg until apples are coated. Stir in cooled cranberry mixture. Spoon into crustlined pan. Top with second crust; seal edge and flute. Cut slits in several places in top crust.

Bake 40 to 50 minutes or until golden brown.

After 15 to 20 minutes of baking, cover crust edge with strips of foil to prevent excessive browning.

Perfect Apple Pie Prep Time: 30 minutes • Ready in: 3 hours 8 servings Filling 6 cups thinly sliced, peeled apples (6 medium) 3/4 cup sugar 2 tablespoons all-purpose flour 3/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon 1/4 teaspoon salt

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1/8 teaspoon ground nutmeg 1 tablespoon lemon juice 1 box (14.1 ounces) Pillsbury refrigerated pie crusts, softened as directed on box

Wrap excess top crust under bottom crust edge, pressing edges together to seal; flute. Cut slits or shapes in several places in top crust.

Heat oven to 425°F. Place 1 pie crust in ungreased 9-inch glass pie plate. Press firmly against side and bottom.

Bake 40 to 45 minutes or until apples are tender and crust is golden brown. Cover edge of crust with 2- to 3-inch-wide strips of foil after first 15 to 20 minutes of baking to prevent excessive browning. Cool on cooling rack at least 2 hours before serving.

In large bowl, gently mix filling ingredients; spoon into crust-lined pie plate. Top with second crust.

Tip: Two cans (21 ounces each) apple pie filling can be substituted for the filling.

Caramel-Apple Streusel Pie Prep Time: 30 minutes • Start to Finish: 3 hours • 8 servings 6 1 1/2 2 3/4 1/4 1/4 1 3/4 1 3 1/4 18 5 1/4

cups sliced peeled ripe apples tablespoon lemon juice cup sugar tablespoons quick-cooking tapioca teaspoon ground cinnamon teaspoon salt teaspoon ground nutmeg box (14.1 ounces) Pillsbury refrigerated pie crusts, softened as directed on box cup old-fashioned oats tablespoon all-purpose flour tablespoons sugar cup cold butter or margarine caramels, unwrapped tablespoons milk cup chopped pecans

Heat oven to 400°F. In large bowl, mix apples and lemon juice. In small bowl, mix 1/2 cup sugar, tapioca, cinnamon, salt and nutmeg. Add to apples; stir gently. Let stand 15 minutes. Place 1 pie crust in ungreased 9-inch glass pie plate. Pour apple mixture into pastry-lined pie plate.

In small bowl, mix oats, flour and 3 tablespoons sugar. Cut in butter until crumbly. Sprinkle over apples. Cut second crust into wedges; arrange wedges in an alternate pattern across the mixture.

Bake 45 minutes. Meanwhile, in 1-quart saucepan, heat caramels and milk over low heat until caramels are melted. Stir until smooth; add pecans. Drizzle over pie. Bake 8 to 10 minutes longer or until crust is golden brown and filling is bubbly. Cool completely on cooling rack, about 2 hours.

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DIY

Cookie & Cake

Decorating courtesy Wilton Enterprises

Technique

Using the Star Tip Use the versatile Star Tip to add fun texture and captivating designs to cookies and cakes, make festive borders or to create beautiful drop flowers.

Step 3. A line of stars used to edge a cake is a Star Border.

Step 1. Hold bag straight up; squeeze to form star.

Step 2. Stop pressure and pull tip straight up and away.

Fresh Idea: Blooming Cupcakes A colorful Ribbon Rose adds the finishing touch to these party cupcakes. The Ribbon Rose offers a contemporary twist to the classic piped rose.

Both amateur and professional cake decorators have relied on Wilton, the cake experts, and their long history of offering classes and products. The Wilton School of Cake Decorating and Confectionery Art held its very first class in 1929, more than 80 years ago. In 1975, a curriculum was created for local craft and specialty stores nationwide.

These classes have attracted more than 4 million students.

Visit www.wilton.com for more decorating tips and ideas and to find classes near you.

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Step 4. Covering a section or the entire cake surface with stars is a Star Fill-In.

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Secret Voices: The Sisters of Las Huelgas Music of Thirteenth-Century Spain Renowned for their unearthly vocal blend and virtuosic ensemble singing, the four women of Anonymous 4 combine historical scholarship with contemporary performance intuition to create their magical sound. Enchanted both by their live performances and by their eighteen recordings of medieval, contemporary, and American music, Anonymous 4's listeners have bought nearly two million copies of the group's albums on the harmonia mundi label. Anonymous 4's newest program is a return to the heart of their favorite century and to a repertoire that proves that medieval women could, and did, sing the most complex polyphony written in the Gothic era.

Anonymous 4's newest program, which they will perform for Fontana Chamber Arts on Saturday, November 13, is a return to the heart of their favorite century, and to a repertoire that proved to one and all that medieval women could, and did, sing the most complex polyphony in the Gothic era.

(l-r) Susan Hellauer, Ruth Cunningham, Jacqueline Horner-Kwiatek, Marsha Genensky

This varied repertoire of 13th-century polyphony and sacred Latin song was collected for a convent of noble and aristocratic women, who were clearly used to having their own way. In spite of a rule forbidding the singing of polyphony by the women of their order, these sophisticated ladies sang the most beautiful, advanced and demanding music from all over Europe in the 13th century.

There are elegant French love motets here, like Claustrum pudicicie/Virgo viget/[FLOS FILIUS], which were retrofitted with holy words for the sisters to sing. There are conductus, like Mater patris et filia, Ave maris stella and Parens patris natique, with unpredictable rhythms and lively hockets.

There are also heartfelt laments, like O monialis conscio, written on the death of a beloved member of the sisterhood. The sisters had written or collected for them, virtuoso polyphony for the daily Mass as well, and we include several of these: the troped Kyrie Rex virginum and Gloria Spiritus et alme. We also get a glimpse into the musical dedication of the convent in a unique "solfeggio" exercise, Fa Fa Mi / Ut Re Mi, for the sister's music lessons, where they practiced singing their hexachords under the watchful ear of the music mistress.

The repertoire of the Las Huelgas manuscript provides the proof that Anonymous 4, far from singing "men's music," are following in the footsteps of their mucholder sisters who had no difficulty (except from their male monastic superiors) in finding and performing the most virtuosic, avant-garde polyphonic music of their time. It's time now for Anonymous 4 to bring them to life again.

Anonymous 4 has performed in major venues and festivals throughout North America, Europe and the Far East. The ensemble has appeared on numerous radio and television programs, including Garrison Keillor's "A Prairie Home Companion," "CBS Sunday Morning," A&E's "Breakfast With the Arts," and NPR’s “Weekend Edition.�

Anonymous 4's award-winning recordings have attained unprecedented popularity, rising to the top of Billboard's classical chart, and selling almost 1.5 million copies worldwide.

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It’s easy to get listed in our Events Calendar.

Our deadline is the 10th of the month prior to publication.

Email us at: calendar@womenslifestylekazoo.com Please type Calendar in the subject line.

Or you may mail your info to P. O. Box 2284, Portage MI 49081-2284 October 1 Banned Books Week Celebration – Reception and Readout Kalamazoo Public Library – Central Library. 5 – 8 pm. Harry Potter, Huckleberry Finn, The Catcher in the Rye, and To Kill a Mockingbird - these are just a few of the thousands of books that have been challenged or banned in the United States.

View Banned Books Art Contest entries during an art reception from 5-8 pm and then, from 6 7:30 pm, listen to local personalities "readout" from the following five frequently challenged or banned books - Uncle Bobby's Wedding, The Perks of Being a Wallflower, To Kill a Mockingbird, Twilight and TTYL.269-553-7880. www.kpl.gov/events/banned-books.aspx October 1 Art Hop Various Locations throughout Downtown Kalamazoo. 5 – 8 pm. Art Hop is a free event that features new art exhibits in a fun, casual atmosphere. Numerous galleries and businesses in the downtown area host a variety of artwork which makes it easy to hop around from one exhibit to the next. You also have the opportunity to meet the artists! Free. 269-342-5059. www.kalamazooarts.com October 1 Anagama Pot Luck and Poetry Slam Anagama Site (1/4 mile North of Westnedge and D Avenue). 5 – 8 pm. Come and celebrate the tenth anniversary of the firing of our Anagama kiln with The Kirk Newman Art School. A potluck meal will be followed by a poetry slam. With a cooling kiln as a backdrop, a spontaneous evening should be expected. All are welcome!

Free. 269-349-7775. www.kiarts.org October 1 – 2 21st Annual Main Street Revue Vicksburg High School. 8 pm. Variety show set in a 1950’s beauty shop with uproarious characters, employees and townspeople! $8 & $10.

269-649-2901. sewjo64@aol.com October 1 – 3 Living From Within 2010-11 Circle of Trust Transformations Spirituality Center. 7 am – 3 pm.

This series, led in the spirit of the work of Parker Palmer, is open to those interested in participating in the four seasonal retreats and forming a “courage community”. This approach has proven transformational for numerous participants in circles throughout the world. Registration deadline Sept. 17. Save by registering and paying non-refundable deposit of $240 by Sept. 1; $360 after. www.transformationscenter.org or program@transformationscenter.org October 1 – 31 White Lightnin’ & Rollin’ Thunder Gilmore Car Museum. 9am – 5pm; Sat & Sun til 6 pm. The History of Stock Car Racing. Featuring 24 Stock Cars from all eras on display. Adults $10, Seniors $9, Students 7 – 15 $8, 6 and under free. 269-671-5089. www.gilmorecarmuseum.org

October 1 – 31 Fly Girls of World War II Air Zoo. 9 am – 5 pm Monday – Saturday; 12 – 5 pm Sunday. An inspirational traveling exhibit showcasing the history of the Women Airforce Service Pilots (WASPs). Free. 269-382-6555. www.airzoo.org October 1 – 31 Strong Women, Beautiful Mean; Japanese Portrait Prints from the Toledo Museum of Art Kalamazoo Institute of Arts. Two recurring themes-beauty and celebrity-are traced through three centuries of Japanese printmaking in this exhibition at the Kalamazoo Institute of Arts. Images of celebrities are spotlighted, including renowned courtesans and beautiful women and famous kabuki actors. Artists, carvers, printers and publishers inventively used caricature, parody, stylization and physiognomy to create compelling images that appealed to an increasingly competitive market. 269-349-7775. www.kiarts.org October 2 – 3 Olde Tyme Harvest Festival Scotts Mill County Park. Featuring hayrides to the pumpkin patch, corn shocks for sale, pumpkins for sale, husker shredder, antique tractors, blacksmithing, flour demonstrations, kids activities and much more. $5, kids 12 and under free. 269626-8503. www.sotpea.org October 3 Free Public Tour Kalamazoo Institute of Arts. 2 pm. Free Public Tour of the exhibit The Figure in Beauty amid Thunder: The Past Two Centuries of Chinese Art. Free. 269-349-7775. www.kiarts.org October 5 Senior Expo Kalamazoo County Expo Center & Fairground. 9 am – 3 pm. 14th annual event presented by the Kalamazoo County Area Agency on Aging. This expo features information and displays from many community resources. Free health screenings will be available. Free. 269-373-1547. jgboni@kalcounty.com October 6 Mid-Week Sabbath Transformations Spirituality Center, 3427 Gull Road. Harvesting the Fruit of Prayer. $20.

269-381-6290 ext. 327, www.transformationscenter.org info@transformationscenter.org October 7 2010 PCI Expo Holiday Inn West, 2747 South 11th Street.

3 – 6:30 pm. PCI Expo is the PREMIER event for qualified buyers of recognition items, premiums and promotional products. See over 30 exhibitors representing over 200 companies showing thousands of powerful ideas!

Free hors d’ oeuvres, free samples, free parking and more! Register today at promotionconcepts.com/expo.php or email expo@promotionconcepts.com

October 7 Susan G. Komen Foundation for Breast Cancer Awareness Month Wine Loft, Zazios, The Union, Mangia Mangia, Epic Bistro. 7 – 10 pm. Each restaurant will feature 6 Fashion Shows on the half hour giving people time to make it to each location at their leisure. Fashion show participants: Earthly Delights, Lana’s, Memories, Sydney, Gazelle.

October 7 – 17 TAKE ME OUT Williams Theatre at the Gilmore Theatre Complex.

8 pm. TAKE ME OUT delves into a locker room drama about the struggle a gay baseball star faces as he comes out of the closet: exploring homophobia, class, racism, and masculinity with unflinching honesty and compassionate comedy.

Tickets can be purchased at www.wmutheatre.com, by calling (269) 387-6222 or by visiting the Box Office. Admission for the general public is $20, $15 for seniors, and $5 for students.

October 7 National Depression Screening Day Mental Health Screening 10am-6pm at Parkview Hills. Each individual will be given an anonymous assessment, as well as interaction with a mental health professional and informative literature.

More Info @ 269-353-7607 October 9 Art & Prayer of Journaling Transformations Spirituality Center, 3427 Gull Road. Begin or enhance your spiritual journaling. $35. 269-381-6290 ext. 327, www.transformationscenter.org info@transformationscenter.org October 9 CrescendoFest - A Celebration of Locally Grown Music & Food Epic Center, 359 South Kalamazoo Mall. 2-5 pm.

This event will feature a Progressive Performance, Silent Auction, Instrument Petting Zoo and family-friendly food samples from local restaurants and growers. All proceeds to benefit the Crescendo Academy of Music scholarship fund. $10 per person or $25 for a family of 3 or more.

Tickets can be purchased in advance or at the door. 269-345-6664 or information@crescendoacademy.com www.crescendoacademy.com October 10 Fall Color Walk Kalamazoo Nature Center. 2 pm. Outdoor, stroller friendly walk for all ages. Enjoy the colors of fall while walking through the woods. Learn how and why we see these beautiful changes in the leaves this time of year! 269-381-1574. www.naturecenter.org October 12 Spiritual Literacy Transformations Spirituality Center, 3427 Gull Road. A review of “The Naked Now” by Richard Rohr. $30. 269-381-6290 ext. 327, www.transformationscenter.org info@transformationscenter.org October 12 Root Cellar Vegetables: Storing the Harvest Kalamazoo Public Library. 7 pm. Root cellars offer an ancient method of storing autumn’s harvest to enjoy all winter long. Michigan State University Professor John Biernbaum will discuss the basics of root cellar, including what to store and how to store it. Biernbaum teaches classes on greenhouse structures and vegetable production, and has worked with MSU students to develop a year-round organic farm. 269-492-1270. www.eatlocalkalamazoo.org or paul@fairfoodmatters.org

October 12 – 28 Kalamazoo Indoor Flea & Farmers Market Kalamazoo County Expo Center, Room E. Tuesdays & Wednesdays 7 am – 1 pm. Come check out the flea market for great deals on all kinds of new & used items! And while you're here, support your local farmers by picking up some fresh produce, meat, eggs, maple syrup, honey and more! Admission is free. Concessions available. For booth space, call 269-383-8761.

October 13 Strong Women and Beautiful Men Kalamazoo Institute of Arts. 10 am. Carolyn Putney, visual resources curator at the Toledo Museum of Art, will provide her insight into some of the traditions and themes portrayed in the Japanese print making featured in the KIA exhibition, Strong Women and Beautiful Men. Putney will relate how images of celebrities and competitive markets influenced carvers, printers and publishers which result in the beautiful prints shown in the exhibit. $10; $3 for students with ID; Art League members – free. 269-349-7775. www.kiarts.org October 13 Shamanic Study Group: The Star Maidens Circle: a bridge to our higher self 6 – 10 pm. Light Warrior Clan will gather for a teaching, ceremony and potluck. RSVP is required at meglarou@gmail.com or call 269-966-3116.

October 13 Beginning Spinning Parchment Community Library, 401 So. Riverview Dr., Parchment 49004. 6:30 - 7:30 pm. Free workshop. Ages 16 & over. Registration required.

Call 269-343-7747.

October 14 March of Dimes - Signature Chefs Auction Radisson Plaza Hotel & Suites. 5:30 pm. A fund raiser to help give every baby a healthy start, featuring truly amazing chefs, creative auction packages and plenty of ambiance. The mission of the March of Dimes is to improve the health of babies by preventing birth defects, premature birth and infant mortality. Individual tickets are $100. Corporate tables are $1200 with seating for eight. For more information or to purchase tickets call (269) 343-5586. signaturechefsauctionkazoo.com October 14 Stay Balanced – Getting Help with Life’s Day-To-Day Challenges and Time Leaks Portage District Library. 6 – 7:30 pm. Where does all your time go? Need help with cleaning (business or home), household repairs, sprucing up a room or office space, providing nutritious meals, or mediating a dispute? If so, this program is for you. Area specialists available to answer your questions. Free. 269-329-4542.

October 14 Free Talk on Urinary Incontinence in Women Gilmore Center at Bronson Hospital. 6:30 pm. Dr. Roger Beyer M.D., M.A., F.A.C.O.G, will give a FREE informal talk on Urinary Incontinence.

Come ask the doctor your questions. Refreshments will be served. Call (269) 657-6058 to reserve a seat. www.drrogerbeyer.com October 15, 16 Crawlspace Eviction: FAT Bottoms Up Farmers Alley Theatre. 8 pm. Join in the excitement of our Season 8 opener. Same hilarious improv comedy, new air conditioned setting.

Plus, since laughter is the best medicine, and alcohol is the medicine of choice for those selfmedicating, we thought we’d offer both. $7 students, $10 general admission. More info: crawlspacetheatre.com

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October 16 Kalamazoo Indoor Flea & Farmers’ Market/ Community-Wide Garage Sale Kalamazoo County Expo Center, Hazel Gray. 7 am – 3 pm. This special weekend will feature all your favorite flea and farmers market vendors plus a community-wide garage sale! Admission is free. There is space for over 60 vendors. Start cleaning out your basement now and sign-up for a spot. Spaces are $25.00 and include three 8ft. tables. For booth space call 269-383-8761 or aleldr@kalcounty.com October 16 Catholic Women's Conference Hackett Catholic Central High School. Doors open at 7:00 am, Mass begins at 7:45 am.

Day includes two great speakers: Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse (www.ruthinstitute.org) and Judith Stegman, lunch, vendors, book table. Cost is $35 with pre-registration. See www.authenticfeminism.com for more information.

October 16 Making Strides Against Breast Cancer 5K Walk Arcadia Creek Festival Place. Registration begins at 7:30 am, with the walk starting at 8:30 am.

The walk is non-competitive and fun for families.

There is no entry fee, however donations are encouraged. Proceeds from the event benefit breast cancer research and local breast cancer education and support programs. 269-349-8719. www.cancer.org/stridesonline October 16 Step Out Walk to Fight Diabetes Celery Flats. Registration opens at 8 am and Walk begins at 9 am ends at 11:30 am. American Diabetes Association. Walk options are 2 or 3 miles. All funds raised support the mission of the ADA-to prevent and cure diabetes and to improve the lives of all people affected by diabetes. 888342-2383 ext 6715. www.diabetes.org/stepout October 16 Explore Glass Art Day West Michigan Glass Art Center, 326 W. Kalamazoo Ave., Suite 100. 10 am – 4:30 am.

EGAD is an exciting way to experience glass art.

Choose from six glass art projects. EGAD is also a great way to see our class schedule, meet glass artists, find out about membership opportunities and special events, learn about programs for students of all ages, and schedule a party! 269-552-9802. www.wmglass.org October 18 Professional Caregivers Conference Transformations Spirituality Center, 3427 Gull Road. Caregivers & Transition: Navigating the Land of Uncertainty with Dr. James Zullo. $95.

269-381-6290 ext. 327, www.transformationscenter.org info@transformationscenter.org October 18 Women In Networking Meeting Richland Area Community Center. 6 - 8 pm.

You're Invited! Networking, beverages & light buffet. Cost is $7 (cash please). RSVP: win.richland@yahoo.com by Thurs. before. More Info: http://win.richland.tripod.com October 19 The Kalamazoo MI After 5 Women’s Connection The Beacon Club, 5830 Portage Road, Portage.

6:30 – 8 pm. Business Women Welcomed! Reservations due by October 14, by calling Karen at 269-290-2216. $17.

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October 19 Celiac Disease, What is it?

9500 40th Street, Hickory Corners. 6:30 – 8:30 pm. Learn about Celiac Disease, what it is, which people get it and how to live with it. $21. Register by Oct. 16. 269-488-5018.

October 20 Southwest Michigan Inforum An informative kick-off event will be held at the Kalamazoo Institute of Arts (KIA) and give professional women the opportunity to become founding members of Southwest Michigan Inforum 5:00 – 7:00 p.m. Cost: A donation of $10 to benefit Inforum Center for Leadership Register at www.inforummichigan.org October 21 “Symphony in Style – Fashions for the Season” Epic Theatre. 6:30 pm. World-renowned soprano Susan B. Anthony will serve as our Master of Ceremonies. The fashion show serves as a fundraiser for the Kalamazoo Symphony Orchestra League and all proceeds will benefit the Kalamazoo Symphony Orchestra and its artistic programming and educational activities. $55 for VIP seating and $45 for general admission. For tickets contact: Mary Klenow at (269) 327-8451.

October 21 Gluten Free Sweets 9500 40th Street, Hickory Corners. 6:30 – 8:30 pm. Lemons Bars and Brownies! Enjoy two wonderful desserts that are not only easy to make, but taste great! Recipes will be given out as well as samples. $21. Registration due by Oct. 18. 269-488-5018.

October 22 Murder at the Radisson Radisson Plaza & Hotel. 6:30 pm. Guests will join Walter and his wife and many other intriguing characters on the “Orient Express”, become an honorary detective of Scotland Yard, gather clues, question suspects and even take a shot at solving the crime. The evening will begin with a reception followed by dinner and a silent auction. $65 individual, $110 per couple. 616-2412100. www.MurderAtTheRadisson.com October 22 Integrative Breathwork Unwindings, 5464 Holiday Terrace, Kalamazoo. 7 pm - 9 pm. A musical journey for insight, emotional healing & creativity. $30. Some partial scholarships are available. Pre-registration is needed. (269) 388-2988. www.adamczasociates.com October 22 Fall Evening @ Cityscape Cityscape Event Center. 8 – 10 pm. Enjoy chamber music in a coffee house setting. Downtown Kalamazoo’s Cityscape Event Center is the new venue for this popular series. $25.

269-387-2300. www.kalamazoosymphony.com October 22 – 26 Karen Willenbrink-Johnsen & Jason Johnsen 5-Day Workshop West Michigan Glass Art Center. All day. An intensive course (intermediate/advanced) in hot-glass sculpting techniques taught by world-renown glass artists. Fundamental ways of sculpting blown and solid parts will be taught with a focus on the use of the hot garage to construct with pats and an emphasis on teamwork. A substantial amount of time will be spent on essential thought processes as students develop their own dialogue with glass using a newly introduced vocabulary. Prerequisite: three years of hot-glass experience. 269-552-9802.

October 23 Integrative Breathwork Unwindings, 5464 Holiday Terrace, Kalamazoo.

10 am - 6 pm. A musical journey for insight, emotional healing & creativity. $80. Some partial scholarships are available. Pre-registration is needed. (269) 388-2988. www.adamczasociates.com October 23 Super Science Saturday: Design an Alien Air Zoo. 11 am, 1 & 3 pm. Come join the Air Zoo staff for a look at how different environments determine what creatures can live there. Kids will compare strange Earth creatures with their environments and design their own alien using paper, crayons, cups, pipe cleaners and googly eyes! Free. 269-382-6555. www.airzoo.org October 23 Crane viewing and Full Moon Ceremony 5 pm. Light Warrior Clan will gather for a ceremony and potluck. RSVP is required at meglarou@gmail.com or call 269.966.3116.

October 23 Fontana JAZZ Luciana Souza Trio featuring Cyro Baptista and Romero Lubambo Dalton Recital Hall, WMU. 8 pm. Born in São Paulo, Brazil, into a family of bossa nova innovators, Grammy winner Luciana Souza has transcended boundaries, becoming one of the leading singers and interpreters of jazz. Appearing with her are her compatriots Cyro Baptista, who after his performance in the 08/09 Fontana season needs no introduction, and Romero Lubambo, quite simply the best Brazilian guitarist there is. 269-382-7774. www.fontanachamberarts.org October 23, 29 Halloween Murder Mystery Dinner Henderson Castle. 5 – 9 pm. This event begins with a tour at 5 pm and murder mystery/dinner afterward. Register by October 13th (or until full). $148.40 per couple. www.hendersoncastle.com

Urinary Incontinence. Come ask the doctor your questions. Refreshments will be served. Call (269) 657-6058 to reserve a seat. www.drrogerbeyer.com October 29 Fontana DOWNTOWN - Birth of the Avant-Garde Wellspring Theater in the Epic Center. 7:30 pm.

Pianist Pedja Muzijevic has toured extensively throughout the world and has been widely praised for his interpretations of the standard literature as well as his imaginative programming. Internationally renowned cellist Suren Bagratuni, silver medalist at the 1986 Tchaikovsky Competition, is joined by former student Julia Sengupta in a rarity from the French baroque, and Fontana director Abhijit Sengupta rounds out the program with Milhaud’s charming musical portrait of four women from all over the world. 269-382-7774. www.fontanachamberarts.org October 30 Trunk or Treat Crossroads Mall. 11 am – 3 pm. Crossroads Mall annual Halloween event! Area car dealers will hand out candy, kids can trick-or-treat at stores in costume and more! Costume contest at noon.

Free. 269-327-3500. www.TheCrossroadsMall.com October 30 Dog-O-Ween - SPCA Fundraising Event Oak Ridge Feed. 11 - 3. Come and enjoy Halloween themed events with your dog and family!

This SPCA Fundraising Event will include: dog Halloween costume contests, SPCA Adoption Event, dog agility course, craft/bake sale, face painting, hot-dogs, cider, donuts and more! WIN 98.5 will have a live remote and door prizes will be awarded! 269-353-3332 or 269-344-1474. www.oakridgefeed.com or www.spcaswmich.org

October 31 Southwest Michigan Train Show & Sale Kalamazoo County Expo Center, Hazel Gray. 10 am – 3 pm. Sponsored by the Kalamazoo Model Railroad Historical Society, this event is a model railroading extravaganza, with operating layouts, clinics, demonstrations, a hands-on children's layout, door prizes, food concessions and over 150 vendor tables. $5, children under 10 are free. For more information contact Jake Kuivenhoven at 269-375-1248 p2r_j12kui@hotmail.com or Dave Duchamp at 269-375-1571 djduchamp@mac.com www.kmrhs.org November 4 Spring Awakening Miller Auditorium. 7:30 pm. Spring Awakening explores the journey from adolescence to adulthood with poignancy and passion you will never forget. The landmark musical Spring Awakening is an electrifying fusion of morality, sexuality and rock & roll that is exhilarating audiences across the nation like no other musical in years. $18 - $43. 269-387-2300. www.millerauditorium.com November 5 Art Hop Various Locations throughout Downtown Kalamazoo. 5 – 8 pm. Art Hop is a free event that features new art exhibits in a fun, casual atmosphere. Numerous galleries and businesses in the downtown area host a variety of artwork which makes it easy to hop around from one exhibit to the next. You also have the opportunity to meet the artists! Free. 269-342-5059. www.kalamazooarts.com

October 24 Free Belly Dance Class to Benefit Loaves & Fishes 2-3:30 pm. Learn the art of belly dance in this FREE introductory class to benefit Kalamazoo Loaves & Fishes. Donation of two non-perishable food items at the door. Space is limited! You must preregster for free event. 269.552.9805. www.BellyDanceKalamazoo.com October 27 Home Herbals Parchment Community Library, 401 So. Riverview Dr., Parchment 49004. 5 - 8 pm. Free class. Learn to grow, harvest, prepare and use herbs. Ages 16 & over. Registration required.

Call 269-343-7747.

October 27 Indoor Labyrinth Walk Parish Church of Christ the King, Texas Dr. & 8t St., Kalamazoo. 6 pm - 8 pm. Walking a circular path in prayer & meditation to release emotions, receive inspiration and become strengthened for daily activities. Open to people of all faith traditions. Orientation is offered to first time walkers.

For more info: (269) 388-2988 or www.parishchurch.org.

October 28 Trick or Treat at the Castle Henderson Castle. 5 – 7 pm. Children are invited to wear their costumes and tour the Castle.

Special treat to take home. $10 per person. www.hendersoncastle.com October 28 Free Talk on Urinary Incontinence in Women Borgess Hospital – Lawrence Education Center, Room 122. 6:30 pm. Dr. Roger Beyer M.D., M.A., F.A.C.O.G, will give a FREE informal talk on

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by Alexandra Fix

Alexandra Fix is the author of ten nonfiction children’s books, including the series Reduce, Reuse, Recycle (Heinemann Library). She is a former children’s librarian, registered nurse, freelance writer and avid reader.

When I’m Gone, Practical Notes for Those You Leave Behind

By Kathleen Fraser Boston Mills Press, 2009, $19.95

Conversation Starter: The Test

By Patricia Gussin Oceanview Publishing, 2010, $24.95 By all appearances, Paul Parnell’s life has been a success. A wealthy businessman and generous philanthropist, he knows he’s done well for his community, but realizes that he may have shortchanged his six children in significant ways. As he leaves his fortune behind, Parnell’s last will and testament poses a challenge that he hopes will inspire his sons and daughters to greater heights.

This document provides for the distribution of the bulk of his two billion dollar estate to the heirs who are able to pass “the test” one year after his death. The test centers on Parnell’s personal credo of God, family, community and profession and on the response to a personal letter penned to each child. Over the course of the ensuing year, every family member must examine his or her own life and determine the direction each will choose to take. They must confront their ambitions, lifestyles, professional aspirations, relationships and choices already made. We watch some climb and others descend. The evil influence of greed penetrates the family circle and puts everyone in physical danger. With page-turning suspense, readers will rush to a satisfying conclusion. Conversation about this book will easily revolve around the choices we each make in life, whether rich or poor, young or old.

Author, Patricia Gussin M.D., mother of seven and grandmother of 16, grew up in Grand Rapids, Mich. She is the worldwide vice president for a leading healthcare company and now divides her time between Florida, New York and New Zealand. Fitting writing into her busy personal and professional life, this is Gussin’s third novel.

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When I’m Gone is a great organizing tool for storing the details of one’s personal life.

If extended travel, military obligation, illness, dementia or death renders you unavailable to manage your life for any period of time, this book will be a useful guide for your spouse, children, emergency contact person or the executor of your will. Detailing the day-to-day minutiae of your personal and financial life, this handbook will allow someone to come to your assistance in your absence.

An individual who accesses this book can know everything from what medications you take to where your will and advanced medical directives are located; from what you use as your computer passwords to where the key to the storage shed is kept; from when your pet likes dinnertime to what your favorite charity is.

This hardbound, spiral book has tons of information and blanks for you to fill in with your particulars. There are sections explaining some of the nuances of trusts, wills, probate and inheritances.

Suggestions are included for identifying paperwork of continued importance and that which can be purged.

Of course, no one ever wants to think about it, but in reality, a person can be here one moment and gone the next – without notice of death’s approach, without time to tie up loose ends. Don’t let your loved ones be put in that spot. Take the practical approach. Check out . . . and fill out . . . this handy manual.

Stay Home, Stay Happy, 10 Secrets to Loving At-Home Motherhood

By Rachel Campos-Duffy Celebra Trade Paperback, 2009, $15 This is one of the most refreshing books on mothering I’ve read in years. Beautifully written, I would recommend this read to any mom, no matter how much athome mothering time you get. Down to earth, practical and timely, author Rachel Campos-Duffy validates for all the world a role too often undervalued in our profession-driven culture. Campos-Duffy quite obviously loves her role as the family’s “heartbeat” and shares the secrets of that pleasure with her readers. She offers a few “mom-centered principles” that can dramatically enhance your motherhood experience.

Whether you have chosen to be a mom-at-home or the position has chosen you, Campos-Duffy has ideas to help you activate and celebrate your role in your child’s or children’s lives. I would expand that audience to include mothers who are not able to be in the home full time, also. Among the many topics covered are how to keep mentally and physically fit, how to embrace the chaos and create some order, how to share the work and the joy with your spouse, and how to allow technology to help, not hinder, your home life. I was captivated by a little bonus chapter, featuring “mom must-haves” such as jeans you’ll love, a cool diaper bag, a wall organizer system, a handy kitchen timer and a cozy mom chair, among other goodies.

I thoroughly enjoyed my role as an at-home mom for our five children and would have embraced this book for myself in those years. Campos-Duffy’s comments on choosing the nurturing of family as a primary legacy vividly reminds me that the journey continues today, even as my children have grown and flown from the “nest.” Whether you’re a mom who works in or out of the home, read this and be inspired anew to be the best mom you can be in whatever number of hours you have with your child or children.

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